INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('66194dba-a4d3-41c7-88a0-1eeaaec886d1','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>帮助其自立 -&gt; 要从尊重做起，尊重就是信赖</p>','2025-09-22 13:52:54.42','2025-09-22 13:52:54.42',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 13:52:54.419',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7492f8ad-4fe6-41cc-876d-652752245bed','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>&ldquo;想要别人信赖你，你就必须先信赖人&rdquo;</p>
<p>（好像很有道理，可是感觉不适合每个时候😓防人之心不可无，还是需要学会保护自己）</p>','2025-09-23 15:04:38.933','2025-09-23 15:04:38.933',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-23 15:04:38.93',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d4f79b9-4676-4675-8b3b-2910f55a33e1','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>因为爱需要在意志力的作用下从无到有慢慢培养起来，所以爱的课题才非常困难</p>
<p>所以，要不主动去爱</p>','2025-09-22 14:03:05.667','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1555ec9-b722-43b5-a799-6f46cf53fa5f','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">说到底， 小孩们是希望被尊重的. 不然他们就会以多种方式来引起关注，他们需要被感受到与众不同以及特别的我，所以有些小孩会通过恶作剧博取关注. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">其实我们只要通过尊重的方式告诉他们，其本身就很有价值，并不需要非常特别. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">小孩们是希望被尊重+关注. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">他们需要被感受到&ldquo;与众不同&rdquo;以及&ldquo;特别的我.&rdquo;小孩也会通过恶作剧博取关注. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们只要通过尊重的方式告诉他们，其本身就很有价值，并不需要非常特别. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 15:56:59.352','2025-09-08 15:56:59.352',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 15:56:59.351',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6b2315f5-c4c4-4c52-a77a-26ee40960fc3','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>问题行为第三个阶段&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>权力斗争</strong></p>
<p>反抗，行为粗鲁，脾气暴躁 破坏规则</p>
<p>消极的孩子会 <strong>不顺从</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>触犯法律，依法处理</p>
<p>请记得，斥责或表现生气的表情就是在进行权力争斗的情况上。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>问题行为第四个阶段&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>复仇</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>向没有认可无可代替的我的人复仇，向不爱我的人复仇，进行爱的复仇。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>称赞的要求，引起关注和权力斗争，这些都是&ldquo;希望更加尊重我&rdquo;渴望爱的心情。</p>
<p>但是发现这种爱的欲望无法实现时候，人转而寻求hatred</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>知道不爱我，那么久hatred我，去得到关注</p>
<p>复仇阶段 - 被大家孤立</p>
<p>想透过被hatred来与大家建立联系</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>复仇阶段孩子 - 不是正面攻击</p>
<p>而是反复做对方讨厌的事情</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>跟踪狂 - 典型复仇&nbsp;</p>
<p>十分清楚对方不喜欢自己 - 却跟踪对方 企图用hatred或嫌弃来想办法建立某种联系</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>自残和自闭症在阿德勒心理学看来也是复仇</strong></p>
<p><strong>透过伤害自己或贬损自己的价值来无声控诉 &ldquo;我变成这样都是你的错&rdquo;</strong></p>
<p><strong>父母担心或万分痛心 对孩子来说，复仇已经成功</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>复仇 - 暴力孩子参与不良团伙或反社会势力犯罪。</p>
<p>消极孩子会异常肮脏或 沉溺于令周围人极其反感的怪异癖好，复仇手段多种多样</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>越插手越是不能做好 - 复仇阶段只能求助于完全没有利害关系的第三方-其他教师或学校外的专业人员</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>问题行为第五阶段</p>
<p><strong>证明无能 - 抑郁</strong></p>
<p><strong>期待是个麻烦，请不要再对我有所期待 - 证明无能</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>对人生绝望，打从心底里厌恶自己，认为自己一无是处，为了不再受伤，没有解决的能力</strong></p>
<p><strong>一开始就认定不可能办到，而放弃还比较轻松</strong></p>
<p><strong>想办法证明自己有多么无能</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>第五阶段 - 不作任何思考，放弃一切，不去从事任何课题。</strong></p>
<p><strong>不要再对我有任何期待，事态至此。专业人员介入也是对他们来说相当困难，而老师做的只能在第一至第三阶段。</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>防止问题行为进一步恶化这方面，教育者的作用非常大。</strong></p>','2025-09-03 05:41:48.266','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1）获得赞赏或表扬 - 在共同体里获得特权地位，这会导致有表扬才有动力去做。最好的方法是通过尊重的方式让对方明白，即使他们的行为不特别也有价值。</p>
<p>2）获得关注 - 在共同体中获得关注和明确的&ldquo;位置&rdquo;。即便受到关注是一种批评，这总比被无视来的好。</p>
<p><strong>3）权力斗争 -&nbsp; 不服从任何人，反复挑衅，发起挑战，企图通过挑战胜利来炫耀自己的&ldquo;力量&rdquo;，并以此获得特权地位。应该做的事情，还是要做。</strong></p>
<p><strong>4）复仇&nbsp; - 在权力斗争失败之后会引起复仇。</strong></p>
<p><strong>（1）到（3） 都是渴望爱的体现。但是无法获得爱，就可能转成（4），憎恶的体现。这是另一种通过憎恶建立连结的方法。这是一种通过贬损自己的价值来控诉父母。来到这阶段，只能求助第三者来调解。</strong></p>
<p><strong>5）证明无能 - 不要再对我有所期待。一开始就认为自己不可能办到而先放弃，进入躺平状态。所以，重点是尽量不要让人进入权力斗争。</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 09:01:00.88','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6bd5c5e4-1fa0-4a33-9d5d-1b6dd55ef918','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>这样把问题分为阶段式的升级，有让我回想起以前同学的一些情况。其实人很简单。只是我们对人性太不了解了</p>','2025-09-09 09:24:07.69','2025-09-09 09:24:07.69',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 09:24:07.689',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dff7ca82-9650-48fb-aa17-b71afae6978e','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>目的：</p>
<p>3. 权力</p>
<p>4. 复仇</p>
<p>5. 证明无能</p>','2025-09-09 15:36:16.627','2025-09-09 15:36:16.627',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:36:16.626',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b93cf0d8-8646-40fd-9540-db1dbedecc5a','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人类因为自身脆弱，所以才会组成同体并在协作关系中生存。人类很脆弱，不可以单独生存。</p>
<p>所以人的内心都有共同体感觉，它与人的认同需求紧密相连。</p>
<p>共同体感觉，不需要去掌握，而需要从自己内心挖掘。</p>','2025-09-09 02:00:35.717','2025-09-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b3809f8-849a-4f0c-bbf8-e9daaebcdfdf','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>现金社会现实压力大，很难交到知心朋友，很难找到倾诉对象，所以往往会面对忧郁症、自残和患上精神病的问题。人如果被家人、朋友和社会放弃将无法拯救&hellip;傻傻活了一生一世。如有机遇遇到愿意相信她和能改变它命运的人，这些人的命运就可能获得重新改变。这样的人在哪里找呢？</p>','2025-09-09 00:28:00.311','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('33d264aa-70eb-4bde-bf3b-64f1b6e7e1b4','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>信赖不是盲信，真正的信赖是彻彻底底的能动性为</p>','2025-09-22 13:56:12.246','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85609df0-9d4f-4814-af0f-85dc05d92bac','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>如果不能爱自己也就无法爱他人，如果不能信赖自己也就无法信赖他人</p>
<p>正因为我们人类是无法互相理解的存在，所以才只能选择信赖</p>','2025-09-22 13:57:55.703','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('799510ba-ec41-4b10-bac1-be62adc4b301','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>问题行为的第三个阶段：权力争斗</p>
<p>不服从任何人，反复挑衅，发起挑战，企图通过挑战胜利来炫耀自己的力量，并获得特权地位。简单来说就是反抗、不顺从。</p>
<p>处理方式：退出战场</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>问题行为的第四个阶段：复仇</p>
<p>向不认可、不爱&ldquo;我&rdquo;的人复仇。已知对方不爱，那么就让对方在憎恨的感情中关注我。所以反复做对方讨厌的事。</p>
<p>自残或者自闭症在阿德勒心理学看来也是复仇。控诉&ldquo;我变成这样都是你的错&rdquo;。</p>
<p>处理方式：求助没有利害关系的第三方。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>问题行为的第五个阶段：证明无能</p>
<p>&ldquo;不要再对我有所期待&rdquo;，因为我无能。</p>
<p>想办法证明自己有多么无能。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>大部分问题行为仅仅处于第三个阶段：权力争斗。在防止问题行为进一步恶化，教育者的作用很大。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-09 13:29:35.85','2025-09-09 13:29:58.6',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 13:29:58.598',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d888779-24be-48b1-84ef-a2a22d7d5db6','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 9 9月9日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">憎恶我吧！抛弃我吧！（Page 049-054）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;每一个问题行为的背后，都藏着一个没有被满足的心理需要。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不批评、不表扬，是为了看到更深的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;，帮助孩子找回真正的价值感。</span></p>','2025-09-09 15:08:50.977','2025-09-09 15:08:50.977',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:08:50.976',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0087918a-1379-415b-8b94-6d7d01985be5','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>人有这些判逆行为，不外乎是缺乏自信，有自卑心。于是想用不良行为、态度来获得关注并正与明自己的优秀。</p>
<p>关于怎么处理最佳，相信作者下文会有很好的分享</p>','2025-09-09 15:13:41.898','2025-09-09 15:13:41.898',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:13:41.897',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('577fea73-0b24-4c60-bf03-e2c63e8190f7','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>进入&lsquo;复仇阶段&rsquo;的孩子，其实并不会选择真正正面硬碰硬。他们的目的也不是单纯要做坏事，而是会反复去做那些让大人或同伴讨厌的事。这样做，是他们在用&lsquo;让你讨厌我&rsquo;的方式，试图跟你建立某种联系。&rdquo;</p>','2025-09-09 15:14:09.476','2025-09-09 15:14:09.476',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:14:09.475',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ee18155-79c8-45fe-9ad5-d77f30f5248b','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 9 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期二</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">憎恶我吧！抛弃我吧！（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 049-054</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">问题行为</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">3.权利争斗（ 可能会有支持者把他当英雄）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">4. 复仇 （没有支持者）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">5.无能的我 （摆烂）</span></p>','2025-09-09 15:18:54.083','2025-09-09 15:18:54.083',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:18:54.082',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0dc54765-d652-4c24-a846-06c8e489c693','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<ul>
<li>有了惩罚、批评就可以解决问题了吗？不！如果批评有用的话，老师就不需要<strong>总是</strong>批评学生、<strong>总是</strong>发火了。</li>
<li>根据问题行为后的目的➡️被斥责往往正是他们希望的事情，从这个角度来看，批评好像就没什么用了吧</li>
<li>在决绝争执的时候，别忘了 三棱柱。不要关注<strong>原因&ldquo;</strong>可恶的他人 &amp; 可怜的自己&rdquo;，而是应该关注他们的<strong>目的</strong>与他们一起思考&ldquo;以后该怎么做&rdquo;</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-10 14:13:24.799','2025-09-10 14:13:24.799',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 14:13:24.798',NULL,NULL);
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<p>通過批评直截了當, 令人屈服是很不成熟法.是很难獲得尊重的. 因為發怒只是使人與人之间变得疏遠.&nbsp;</p>
<p>拥有面对自我的勇氣, 並能真正思考&ldquo; 以后怎么做&rdquo; 的話, 就能夠有进步.</p>','2025-09-09 13:48:36.42','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('001f3247-2686-4585-bee5-921d2d4c3746','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>表扬是&ldquo;有能力的人对没有能力的人所做出的评价&ldquo;。其目的是&ldquo;操纵&rdquo;。这也是一种自上而下的评价。</p>
<p>表扬其实就是告诉对方，你原本不行，现在行。</p>
<p>如果想要分享自己的对另一个的成就、努力，应该是具体的叙述自己的观察和让对方分享他努力过程中所获得的快乐。</p>','2025-09-12 01:14:55.021','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0361895d-281b-4194-b839-497dac6ba81b','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>13/9 补</p>
<p>不讃同阿德勒的看法，他人都是敌人，人人都在机会陷害我。</p>
<p>没人敌人，没有竞争对手，这世界都站在原地。</p>
<p>表扬孩子是让孩子们学会自我接纳，天天的一点点进步，让孩子们感受到自己的成长历程。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学提倡横向关系，不与任何人竞争，不存在胜负。一律平等并尽力与他人協作，建立民主心里学。</p>
<p>我很期待青年是否会提出如何＂豬隊友＂合作的內容，因为往往这些豬隊友是不合作也不合群，如何与他人協作。</p>','2025-09-14 08:28:21.592','2025-09-14 08:28:21.592',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 08:28:21.591',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a210d5b5-e809-4fac-b479-1efcf3d9e4d0','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>教育者的工作是&ldquo;帮助其自立&rdquo;。</p>
<p>从尊重做起，就是实事求是看待一个人，认识其独特个性，并无条件地接纳那个人，即信赖那个人。基于信赖的关系就是交友关系。</p>
<p>重要的不是被给予什么，而是如何去利用被给予的东西。无论对象，都尊重、信赖。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 13:38:18.137','2025-09-22 13:38:18.137',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 13:38:18.129',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6dffbcda-71cb-4981-8fde-6b31767cb1e3','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>憎恶我吧！&rdquo;的背后，其实是&ldquo;请看见我&rdquo;。</p>
<p>不要被表象激怒，用持续的尊重与接纳回应，才是破解之道。</p>','2025-09-09 15:28:42.89','2025-09-09 15:29:06.758',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:29:06.757',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2a7b312-d82f-4949-9b03-d82b19a3c0b7','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>问题行为的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;</p>
<p>目的3 ：权力争斗</p>
<ul>
<li>企图通过挑战胜利来炫耀自己的&ldquo;力量&rdquo;，并以此获得特权地位</li>
<li>消极的孩子会通过&ldquo;不顺从&rdquo;爱发起权力争斗</li>
<li>这时候我们要做的第一步不是拿起&ldquo;愤怒球拍&rdquo;把&ldquo;斥责之球&rdquo;打过去，而是立即退出他们的&ldquo;球场&rdquo;。哪怕只是生气也等于站在了权力争斗的球场之上</li>
</ul>
<p>目的4 ：复仇</p>
<ul>
<li>向没有认可这个无可替代的&ldquo;我&rdquo;的人复仇，向不爱&ldquo;我&rdquo;的人复仇，进行爱的复仇</li>
<li>当人们发现渴望爱的欲望无法实现的时候，就会转而寻求&ldquo;憎恨&rdquo;企图通过&ldquo;被憎恨&rdquo;来与他人建立联系</li>
<li>反复做对方讨厌的事，比如：跟踪狂、自残行为、自闭症</li>
<li>对于这样的人，能做的只有求助于完全没有利害关系的第三方。</li>
</ul>
<p>目的5 ：证明无能</p>
<ul>
<li>绞尽脑子都得不到人家的尊重或憎恨，找不到自己的位置，但身边的人还是一直在介入自己的生活。到最后产生了&ldquo;我很无能，不要对我有所期待&rdquo;的想法</li>
<li>与其认为&ldquo;也许能办到&rdquo;而致力其中结果却失败，倒不如一开始就认定&ldquo;我不可能办到&rdquo;而放弃更加轻松。</li>
</ul>','2025-09-09 15:22:02.188','2025-09-09 15:30:06.326',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:30:06.324',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Power Struggles &mdash; challenging others to gain dominance.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Revenge &mdash; turning to anger or rejection after losing a struggle.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Proving inadequacy &mdash; showing helplessness or self-pity to avoid responsibility.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>All these are purposeful behaviors with hidden goals, but they are mistaken attempts to gain belonging or significance.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy teaches us to look past the surface, understand the purpose behind actions, and respond with respect and empathy.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>We should break thru this negative cycles and create true freedom in relationships.</p>','2025-09-09 15:31:43.711','2025-09-09 15:35:42.841',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:35:42.84',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6d5467d8-a121-4441-80a2-b56296d608fe','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>问题行为</p>
<p>第三阶段 ～权利斗争</p>
<p>第四阶段 ~ 复仇</p>
<p>第五阶段 ~ 证明无能</p>
<p>从期待赞美，欣赏肯定&nbsp; &nbsp;到&nbsp; &nbsp;证明无能， 内在应该是感受到很大的无力感吧！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-09 15:51:07.633','2025-09-09 15:54:58.549',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 15:54:58.548',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0e401650-30c2-44b5-939a-dd1a8e4559c9','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 9 9月9日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">憎恶我吧！抛弃我吧！</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">孩子们的第一阶段是被&ldquo;称赞的要求&rdquo;及第二阶段是&ldquo;引起关注&rdquo;，当这两个阶段不被满足时，就会进入第三阶段发展为&ldquo;权力斗争&rdquo;，如果再继续不被满足的话，就会形成第四阶段的&ldquo;报复&rdquo; 以及来到第五阶段的&ldquo;证明无能&rdquo;.&nbsp;</span></p>','2025-09-09 15:59:00.613','2025-09-09 16:01:23.049',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 16:01:23.037',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff22a515-e30d-462a-bf91-eabd358b5c01','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>第三阶段： 权力斗争：-不服从，反复挑衅，发起挑战。 反抗。脾气暴躁，行为粗鲁， 抽烟，偷盗，满不在乎的破环规则。原来教育者的作用很重要当"权力斗争&ldquo;，进入第三阶段的恶化</p>
<p>第四阶段：复仇 。孩子不选择正面作战。而是反复的做对方讨厌的事。</p>
<p>第五阶段：证明无能或装傻</p>
<p>专家会感到很棘手，当要帮助问题人少年已开始用极端方式证明自己无能的时候。</p>
<p>比如：不要对我有任何期待，不要管我，请放弃我。</p>','2025-09-09 15:56:36.109','2025-09-09 16:25:36.21',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 16:25:36.209',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1640c487-d85d-48fb-9d54-b19cff82cadc','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>教育的目标是帮助孩子自立，而非让孩子依赖教育者。</p>
<p>教育者需克服自身恐惧，放下控制欲，真正尊重孩子的选择权，并在守护中让他们学会承担后果。</p>
<p>教育者的幸福来自奉献，默默支持孩子走向独立，而不是寻求感谢或维护权威。</p>
<p>&ldquo;自己的人生可以由自己选择&rdquo; 教育者应传递的核心信念。</p>','2025-09-09 18:22:41.267','2025-09-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6c88537d-0265-49f2-8673-b287e02eea0d','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>阿德勒提倡不批评教育</p>','2025-09-10 15:53:50.472','2025-09-10 15:57:32.915',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 15:57:32.914',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6dddfd09-f002-4350-a2ba-ed283df1e3d2','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>发怒和训斥是低成本的暴力性交流, 哲人认为批评学生，实质上是想用权威和情感暴力来控制学生，这是一种无效的教育行为。教育者应扮演守护者和心理咨询师来帮助孩子成长，而非维护秩序。不再纠结于为什么犯错，而是关注以后怎么做</p>','2025-09-09 18:12:11.763','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6100659b-cc0d-4042-bbad-c6b24348624a','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>多么有趣的观念啊， 人出生以来就是抱着自卑感生活的，因为身体发育一直都是比心理成长慢，但也因为这样而催化了成长，让孩子们努力弥补自己的不完美，成为大人。</p>
<p>就是因为人类的脆弱，才会组成共同体并在协作关系中生存。所以才会说，共同体感觉是从自己内心挖掘，而同伴间竞争的话是多么违背自然规律了</p>','2025-09-14 08:50:36.841','2025-09-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50c8fc37-9584-40d1-b0d4-89bee0f91c61','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>于做朋友来面对学生。教育不是工作，而是交友。</p>','2025-09-18 15:24:28.869','2025-09-18 15:24:28.869',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 15:24:28.868',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2126bace-c0ed-422b-a69b-d6fbb542b363','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">55-57 有些學生覺得被訓斥之後能夠證明自己是特別的存在，所以批評在家的情況下沒有用的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">58-60 溝通的目的是為了達到一定協議交流才有意義。疑問問是溝通，難道不能？只是為了發掘自己的盲點嗎？或者說這也是因為達成協議的結果？</span></p>','2025-09-03 14:45:50.735','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('447da9f4-2fdd-4e70-8d67-ba6ca1f4d5f6','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>目的 - 这一切问题行为是源自渴望归属感，确保自己在共同体当中的特别存在</p>
<p>为什么总是发火，总是批评呢？批评真的有效吗？</p>
<p>证明了批评在教育上没有任何效果。</p>
<p>问题行为甚至包括了被批评，被骂。</p>
<p>因为从当中得到 做坏事而有的成就感，让老师没有办法的成就感</p>
<p>关注问题学生内心的 目的，为什么吵架？为什么不能好好读书？为什么不能练习？</p>
<p>为什么老师的要求做不到？为什么总是不回答老师的问题？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>暴力始终是成本低，廉价的交流手段。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>关注学生的目的，与他们一起思考，以后怎么做？</strong></p>','2025-09-04 14:20:00.413','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6b7f066-12ca-49e5-84d5-ea3e48dd2c69','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>批判 责罚了之后又怎样呢？我们不该执着着不能改变的过去，而应该关注以后该怎么做</p>
<p>与其听可恶的他和可怜的我的控诉，作为教育者要解决的是他们吵架的目的，还有需要达到的共识，&rdquo;以后该怎么做&rdquo;的共识</p>','2025-09-08 16:43:34.995','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ebe5f624-d14e-492a-b457-894e48c33639','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>假如不对犯錯者进行惩罚, 社會就会崩塌, 可如惩罚並不能澈底解决问题, 而以关注他們犯错的目的, 聆聽他們''内心真正的需求, 和他們思考&ldquo;以后怎么做&rdquo;</p>','2025-09-09 01:40:08.97','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e26ed639-5941-409a-9865-af84c075acfd','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>不管是小孩或大人，我们生存在这个世界上，都会想要自己在共同体中的特别地位，也是所谓的归属感 。</p>
<p>孩子们被批评后会有种＂英雄感＂，因为我被他人看见了，我是存在的。</p>
<p>如果老师们或家长们了解背后的真相，与孩子们一起关注他们背后的目的和动机，並与他们一起思考以后如何做。</p>
<p>交流的最终目的是达成协议。</p>
<p>所以个案咨询是非常耗时耗力的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-10 01:44:09.196','2025-09-10 01:44:12.815',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 01:44:12.814',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9cf6f5be-5d6b-4c77-84ed-a4c471272b39','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>批评这一手段在教育上没有任何效果。这一段话，在最近教学生的情况，真的有很深切的体悟，或许就像作者说的，通过被训斥，他们能够证明自己是特别的存在。我应该做的是关注他们的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;，与他们一起思考&ldquo;以后怎么做&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-10 04:18:01.689','2025-09-10 04:18:01.689',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 04:18:01.688',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27b68374-0c29-4b7a-9984-b581f7f7b6d7','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>青年： "<strong>不批评怎么维持秩序</strong>？<strong>惩罚是必要的抑制力</strong>！"</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">哲人：</span></p>
<p>1. <strong>批评无效?</strong>：如果批评有效，就不需要"总是"批评了</p>
<p>2. <strong>暴力最幼稚</strong>：<strong>暴力</strong>是<span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);">说不赢就动手</span>的幼稚选择</p>
<p>3. <span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>关注目的</strong></span>：<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>不问</strong>"<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong>为什么吵架</strong></span></span>"，<strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">要问</span></strong>"<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);"><strong>以后怎么和好</strong></span>"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>本章节关注：</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">&middot; 被批评可能是学生求之不得的"特别关注"</span></p>
<p>&middot; 暴力是最廉价但最不成熟的交流方式</p>
<p>&middot; <strong>成熟</strong>的人用<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">语言达成协议</span></strong>，<strong>不成熟</strong>的人用<span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);">暴力逼人屈服</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>实体活用：</p>
<p>&middot; 对老师：少当裁判判对错，多当<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>教练教方法</strong></span></p>
<p>&middot; 对学生：教会<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>用语言</strong></span>而非拳头解决问题</p>
<p>&middot; 对每个人：在冲突中先想"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>目的</strong></span>"再想"<strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">办法</span></strong>"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">批评</span></strong>是<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">教育的失败</span></strong>，<strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">暴力</span></strong>是<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">交流的破产</span></strong>；<strong><span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);">成熟</span></strong>的人用<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">语言建设</span></strong>，<strong><span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);">幼稚</span></strong>的人用<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">暴力破坏</span></strong>。</p>','2025-09-07 06:15:23.144','2025-09-10 14:55:11.585',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 16:00:00','2025-09-10 14:55:11.579',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a59f2d0b-20e3-49ef-9d57-ac075c0276f2','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>批评其实在教育里完全无效，我们要的是解决问题。例如哲人问: "如果班级发生暴力事件，从动嘴到动脚，青年应该要如何处置这两个学生？&rdquo; 。我们必须先了解整个事情的来龙去脉，不批评和扁担任何一方。花点时间和两位学生私下沟通之后，邀请两位学生一起探讨之后该怎么做，让他们知道暴力和争执解决不了问题。唯有行动才能解决，而且也是最公平的方法告诉他们惩罚会双伤，解决方案才是最好的。</p>','2025-09-10 13:48:29.631','2025-09-10 13:48:29.631',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 13:48:29.63',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4977ae1f-9ac8-41f4-ba7d-12f808949fa6','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 10 9月10日 (星期三)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">有&ldquo;罚&ldquo;便无&rdquo;罪&ldquo;吗？<br></span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一切的问题行为都是为了要&ldquo;引起关注&rdquo;，目的就是要找到&ldquo;归属感"，与别人与众不同.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;批评&rdquo;用在教育上没有任何效果.</span></p>
<p class="p1">学生应该被关注的是他们的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;， 与他们一起思考&ldquo;以后怎么做&rdquo;.&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-10 15:59:14.055','2025-09-10 16:06:00.61',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 16:06:00.609',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('329beb8d-772f-4b5c-a598-542925fa9c33','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>当她决定那样做的时候，她就要附上不做功课的后果。事后，父母可以再和她探讨这个情况，如何改善，如何帮助她。</p>','2025-09-12 05:14:06.983','2025-09-12 05:14:06.983',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 05:14:06.982','f710490e-9ea6-454a-9dcc-e8a994fe9bb4',NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('828f90cd-4cf0-44f4-bfc1-992416992b19','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>对人尊重，给予信赖者，往往与人相处和谐，并且也获得他人爱待与尊重。所谓爱人者，人恒爱之；敬人者，人恒敬之。因此在办事与教育上如鱼得水，事半功倍。</p>','2025-09-22 15:11:13.874','2025-09-22 15:11:13.874',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 15:11:13.873',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8629c58-7920-4261-964a-e4c5a7c72ee1','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>问题行为第三阶段 - 权利斗争<br>孩子不服从，发起挑战，来证明自己的力量，哲人建议一定要立即退出他们的球场</p>
<p>问题行为第四阶段 - 复仇<br>一旦孩子的权利斗争计划没能得到对方的回应，会进入复仇阶段来得到关注，进而通过＂被讨厌&rdquo;来建立与人之间的联系。此时唯有求助没有厉害关系的第三方来帮忙。</p>
<p>问题行为第5阶段-证明无能<br>孩子开始对人生绝望，打心里讨厌自己并努力证明自己无能</p>
<p>10/9/2025&nbsp;</p>
<p>问题行为的五个阶段根源于一个目的-归属感</p>
<p>阿德勒思想本质揭示了批评手段在教育上没有任何效果也或许会引发更严重的后果。而青年认为如果不对犯错进行责罚，社会次序就会崩塌。</p>
<p>一旦发生了暴力事件，首先更应该做的是关注他们吵架的目的并一起思考以后该怎么做。</p>','2025-09-10 05:27:00.195','2025-09-10 05:27:00.195',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 05:27:00.194',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b5c4e1d-18c5-48a7-9954-6d917fe83064','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>我们可以给经验，资讯，材料，但还是要尊重被教育者能自立选择这回事。我很 buy 这个理念。但身为教育者，要做到完全不干涉，那我们也必须学习与适应</p>','2025-09-12 07:07:49.006','2025-09-12 07:07:49.006',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 07:07:49.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3f542433-5352-4c0c-9d68-1a68996ed55c','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>阿德勒一直都说自己的人生可以自己选择</p>
<p>其实人经常把自己处于未成年状态，因为还缺乏勇气运用自己的理智，因为这样按照教导或者更轻松；反之家长和教育者其实也因为要保全自身而在防止着孩子自立却不自知。其实教育者要让学生们自立，感到他们是靠自己的力量把事办好的，而不应该追求被感激，被依赖的虚荣。</p>
<p>幸福感只能在奉献精神中找得到</p>
<p>教育者要把决定权守护在学生手中而不是帮他们去做决定，我们要做的是把知识和经验提供给他们，让他们去为自己的选择负责，尊重他们的决断</p>','2025-09-10 10:58:48.958','2025-09-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c29db18-9d99-47dc-93d4-7d9041c56428','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>问题行为的五个阶段 ~ 确保自己在共同体中的特别地位。 &gt; 目的就是归属感。</p>
<p>可恶的他人&nbsp; 可怜的自己&nbsp; &nbsp;&gt;&nbsp; 以后怎么做。&nbsp;</p>
<p>沟通，交流的目的 最终目的是达成协议。 但如果没达成共识， 暴力(不成熟行为)是低成本，廉价的交流手段。 暴力应该考虑的是 ''以后怎么做''。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-10 11:38:39.755','2025-09-10 11:40:15.068',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 11:40:15.067',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee2f5f30-3396-4e05-8b2a-fd0e7dc6bb88','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>惩罚不是最好的教育，除非在惩罚中能让对方感受到爱，否则多半会让对方苦恼进而变本加厉，而自己也气得不好受。</p>','2025-09-10 12:47:45.348','2025-09-10 12:47:45.348',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 12:47:45.348',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('40f1efa8-d069-480b-b70e-4e8e5e0d49c6','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>我们按照他人的''教导''活着很轻松。 不用承担责任。&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们要孩子''自立''， 又害怕孩子''自立''。 害怕权威的丧失，害怕失去支配的地位。&nbsp;</p>
<p>教育者的角色是尊重孩子们自己的决断，并帮助其做出决断，提供帮助的守护者。。</p>
<p>告诉孩子 ''自己的人生可以由自己选择''。&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-10 12:14:21.499','2025-09-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6e276ca-8300-4cf5-ae20-569077faeb6e','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">补：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">9/13 (pg 69-75)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">确实，表扬可以是孩子们继续保持或进步的好方式； 青年也的确如此的去对待他的学生们，并得到了好的成果。这种做法的确让他看到了学生们的成长</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">9/14</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒不主张表扬的原因是这样会导致竞争的心态；相反我们要的是基于协作原理运营的应共同体。这样同学会觉得人人都是我的伙伴，而不是人人都是我的敌人的竞争心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学是基于横向关系的&rdquo;民主心理学&rdquo;</span></p>','2025-09-14 08:51:17.227','2025-09-14 08:58:36.071',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 08:58:36.07',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('92a8cb37-0a41-4614-b292-72bf5056aa36','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>付出然后才有收获到！</p>
<p>一切快乐也都是人际关系的快乐。</p>
<p>一个人在社会上生存时面对的课题称为人生课题：工作课题，交友课题，爱的课题。</p>
<p>人的快乐和烦恼也言于人际关系，孩子们最初学习交友，挖掘共同体感觉的场所就是学校。</p>','2025-09-11 01:31:56.051','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f66c8cfc-8519-499a-9301-d4913ecc04a4','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy of the five stages of problematic behaviour provides a clear and accurate reflection of human psychology.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When faced with interpersonal difficulties, criticism, reprimand, or punishment may appear to be solutions, but Adler firmly rejects their effectiveness.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Such approaches are not only ineffective but also harmful. They damage relationships and deepen feelings of isolation.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Neither criticism nor punishment brings about genuine change; they merely create fear and superficial obedience. Those who are punished often respond with rebellion or sink into passivity.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Similarly, we should never rely on &ldquo;violent&rdquo; forms of communication, such as verbal attacks, emotional pressure, or cold indifference. At their core, these methods attempt to control others through fear, yet they inevitably destroy trust and further erode relationships.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>True communication must rest on equality, cooperation, empathy, mutual respect, and social interest. It requires us to reflect carefully on our actions and to consider how we can act in ways that nurture understanding and responsibility.</p>','2025-09-10 14:28:09.867','2025-09-10 14:28:09.867',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 14:28:09.866',NULL,NULL);
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<p>3. 权利斗争</p>
<p>4. 复仇</p>
<p>5. 证明无能</p>
<p>批评没有用，对教育人改邪归正没有效。</p>
<p>暴力没有用。交流的真正目的是达成协议，才有助于改变现状。</p>','2025-09-10 14:34:23.83','2025-09-10 14:34:23.83',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 14:34:23.829',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('56885895-c2c0-4ce9-8d49-dffb3095381d','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 10 9月10日 (星期三)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">有&ldquo;罚&ldquo;便无&rdquo;罪&ldquo;吗？（Page 055-060）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">所有问题行为都源于内在动机，不该靠惩罚压制。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学主张：赏罚会掩盖真实动机，阻碍孩子建立内在价值感。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教育应以&ldquo;尊重与理解&rdquo;为核心，而非&ldquo;控制与制服&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">暴力不是沟通的捷径，而是放弃沟通的逃避。</span></p>','2025-09-10 15:22:43.576','2025-09-10 15:22:43.576',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 15:22:43.575',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4b793601-826a-44d2-8012-260b423b249e','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>在教育里，&lsquo;批评&rsquo;其实一点效果也没有。斥责正是他们希望的事情。因为<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">通过被训斥，他们能够证明自己是特别的存在。</span></p>','2025-09-10 15:22:47.312','2025-09-10 15:22:47.312',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 15:22:47.311',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db1a6256-7896-450f-84af-4d3eda325f92','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>问题行为的根源是归属感，也就是确保自己在共同体中的特别地位。</p>
<p>批评这手段在教育上没有任何效果。被斥责正是他们希望的事情。</p>
<p>若发生暴力事件，应用三棱柱工具：可恶的他人、可怜的自己、以后怎么做。</p>
<p>关注他们的目的，与他们一起思考以后怎么做。</p>
<p>通过语言进行交流，以达成协议。</p>
<p>但是通过语言交流要达成一致意见需要花费时间和精力，所以最后选择暴力交流。暴力是低成本、廉价的交流手段。</p>','2025-09-10 15:22:53.841','2025-09-10 15:22:53.841',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 15:22:53.84',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 10 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">10</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期三</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">有&ldquo;罚&ldquo;便无&rdquo;罪&ldquo;吗？（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 055-060</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：传达是交流入口。最终目标是达成协议。否则交流只是传达信息没有任何意义.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">i打架的原因在于双方在争吵中不能达成共识而进阶。寻求原因只会让双方各执一词推卸责任，寻求目的才是解决问题</p>
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</td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>','2025-09-10 15:53:58.507','2025-09-10 15:53:58.507',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-10 15:53:58.505',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">58-60 溝通的目的是為了達到一定協議交流才有意義。疑問問是溝通，難道不能？只是為了發掘自己的盲點嗎？或者說這也是因為達成協議的結果？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">61-63言語暴力，就好像拿著一隻空堂槍，在小孩的眼裡，你就是一個不成熟的人。身為一個心理咨詢者走上去拿這一隻槍聽起來真的非常可笑。要多多用三棱柱的方式去換位思考。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">64- 68如果我讓我女兒自己決定看電視關掉的時間，我可以百分之百確定他會看三個小時，然後之後功課可能也不做了就去睡覺覺。那我要怎麼樣才可以讓他做對的決定呢？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">71-73從小我就是屬於中斷班成績排名不會受到懲罰，也絕對不會被表揚。其實被表揚的心理感受是很不錯的，但被表揚之後心裡就有一種失落感，因為如果下次沒有被表的話怎麼辦呢？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">74-75讀到這裡，我有一個非常特別的感悟。那就是為什麼越來越多的公司因為美好的願景而吸引頂尖人才我想其中一個原因是那些為例世足的公司其實就是獨裁者掌控的組織。美國就是很好的例子，為了得到人民的選票就把中國塑造成一個敵人的競爭形象。這樣的話反對中國就會得到選票。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">76-78 我投資的公司都是以願景為激勵燃料。協作原理非常容易明白想像公司裡面為了提升效率，讓各個不能互相競爭，最後一定不可能創造出一個互信互助的共同體。同樣的賞罰制度應用在學校裡造成的後果也是一樣的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">79-83 在遠古時代人類沒有科技的協助下，只能利用團結合作的方式去戰勝過去巨型哺乳動物來為生。會明白就是為什麼共同體的感覺是深深地根治與我們內心根本存在原理。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">114 在這裡我就不認同阿德勒的所謂正義的干涉。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">身為一個投資者，我的目標是支持為社會貢獻的企業。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">專門賣煙酒，提供聲色場所，或者買賣零食的生意對這個社會一點工作都沒有。最好他們全部都破產了。</span></p>','2025-09-18 23:43:28.601','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de572484-da06-47f5-9b67-9a775e740446','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>如果不能爱自己就无法爱他人，如果不能信赖自己就无法信赖他人。</p>
<p>- 要获得真正的归宿感唯有信赖他人，建立交友关系；如果只是投身于工作的话，根本无法获得幸福</p>','2025-09-23 15:08:24.779','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7dcef59e-6115-484d-8cf4-f6208c1403bd','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>以平静心态接受无法改变的事情，拥有勇气去改变我能改变的事情。智慧是让我分辨这点。我们要做一个有智慧的人。</p>','2025-09-06 04:23:18.873','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb7832e8-f3eb-4249-8154-a842d5b2e5a5','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>低成本操控 - 厌烦用语言与学生们交流，继而想通过批评直截了当令他们屈服。</p>
<p>发怒武器，又用责骂，拿出权威，其实是不成熟又愚蠢的行为。</p>
<p>批评 - 暴力，性质恶劣。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>放弃法官的立场</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>教育者就是心理咨询师，心理咨询就是 &ldquo;再教育&rdquo;， 心理咨询师拿着枪也太奇怪。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>遭到斥责的时候，除了对暴力的恐惧，孩子们还会无意识中洞察到 &ldquo;这个人很不成熟&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>你能够尊重不成熟的人吗？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>发怒是是人和人之间变得疏远的情感。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>批评学生会得不到学生的尊重，还会被藐视。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>一味关注无法改变的事情，感叹所以不可能。</p>
<p>不去执着与 &ldquo;无法改变的事情，而是正视眼前可以改变的事情。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>上帝，请赐予我平静，去接受我无法改变的的。</p>
<p>给予我勇气，去改变我能改变的；赐我智慧，分辨这两者的区别。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-05 15:15:26.238','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('593170e8-9fce-430e-9631-9a31a720a247','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>青年觉得自己在训斥学生是是谨慎冷静的，而不是在以成本低的暴力手段来达到目的。其实这样以发怒为武器责骂学生的行为是很不成熟的。教育者应该放弃法官的立场，要记得要守护的不是法律和秩序而是学生本身，要作为心理咨询者，再教育学生。</p>
<p>要不然的话，学生会觉得这个容易发怒的暴力老师很不成熟，也自然不会去尊重不成熟的人。</p>
<p>&rdquo;发怒是使人与人之间变得疏远的感情&rdquo;</p>
<p>不要去执着无法改变的事，而该正视眼前可以改变的事。希望我能有勇气去改变我能改变的，有智慧去分辨两者</p>','2025-09-10 10:54:31.88','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
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<p><em>身为父母或教育者(权威)，阿德勒说''要放弃法官的立场''， 你并未赋予裁判的特权。&nbsp;</em></p>
<p><em>面对孩子的问题，教育者是心理咨询师(再教育)。</em></p>
<p><em>不执着''无法改变的事'' &nbsp; 只正视''可以改变的事''</em></p>
<p><em>上帝， 请赐予我平静， 去接受我无法改变的; 给予我勇气，去改变我能改变的; 赐我智慧，分辨这两者的区别。</em></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-10 11:52:18.188','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">发怒和训诉同义（Page 061-063）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">你不是无法改变人生，而是选择停留在无法改变的借口里。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">真正的勇气，是开始做自己能做的事。</span></p>','2025-09-10 15:54:06.803','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
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<p>心理咨询师又是教育者的阿德勒。 作为一个朋友来面访者，这样的话，应该作为一个朋友来面对学生。建立由工作，交友和爱这三大项构成的人生课题。不是向朋友的对待，而是建立真正意义上的交友关系，这样的话才能够明摆，人生最大的选择。 这句话的意思，进而能够理解面对的获得幸福的勇气。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-11 01:24:17.46','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e90d4853-0c72-40aa-872a-5d99792d2ee0','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>教育不是剥夺权利，而是帮助孩子自立。我们需要给孩子知道自己的人生自己选择，这也让我回忆起自己当过托育老师，第一次身为老师的时候，我的想法是过度保护，所以每次学生问能不能的时候，我避免被责骂都会先询问，但问题出现的时候，都会被责骂。我在想说其实我们即使帮忙孩子做了决定，他们也有权力去选择。我们也要尊重他们的决定，也让他们知道自己选择的必须自己来承担。</p>','2025-09-12 07:45:43.159','2025-09-12 07:45:43.159',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 07:45:43.158',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01c90855-c817-4531-b995-62d8bd9e050a','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>为什么人会想成为救世主？</p>
<p>首先是不可以批评孩子。 因为批评是一种破坏相互尊重的行为，发怒 或谴责是一种低层本，不成熟，暴力性的交流手段。并且也不可以表扬表扬会令共同体中滋生竞争，让孩子们形成他人是敌人的生活方式。</p>
<p>批评或表扬，也就是赏罚，会妨碍孩子自立，因为赏罚是企图将孩子质疑自己的支配之下。 依靠这种方式的大人内心害怕孩子自立。</p>
<p>自立是用自己的手决定自己的价值。 如果希望由他人来决定自己价值的态度，也就是认同需求，只是一种依存。</p>','2025-09-11 01:11:49.426','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee24373b-6048-49bb-adc1-a6ee4ebe287f','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>教育孩子不能发怒和训斥，一直大吼大叫只会让孩子感到恐惧而不再和这样的大人沟通。这让我想起了《正面管教》里所告诉我的，教育孩子不是惩罚和挨骂，我们应该要站在中立和孩子沟通，让孩子勇于说出原因，了解孩子的心里想法后，再和孩子讨论解决。</p>','2025-09-11 03:49:25.802','2025-09-11 03:49:25.802',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 03:49:25.801',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa20bd38-94c8-4b38-8a0c-5e9f38fd2a5b','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>教育者就是心理咨询师，心理咨询就是再教育。</p>
<p>教育者並不一定是老师，也是可以我和你。</p>
<p>正视眼前可以改变的事情。</p>','2025-09-11 04:27:44.654','2025-09-11 04:27:44.654',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 04:27:44.653',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9626b858-daf0-4d7f-b6e5-fc6b5c03ff58','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>冷静的批评是一种不好的方式去对待他人。让孩子勇敢的发言才能解决问题。</p>','2025-09-11 07:29:53.599','2025-09-11 07:30:03.298',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 07:30:03.297',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('23fe9bf1-de59-4964-ba1f-f1e9eb083579','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>孩子做出问题行为的时候，父母和教育者必须避免成为法官（在判断），而是成为心理咨询师，采取&ldquo;再教育&rdquo;的方式尊重孩子。</p>
<p>主动放弃关注区，而是采取影响圈的力量，看看接下来可以怎么做。</p>','2025-09-11 12:53:42.332','2025-09-11 12:53:42.332',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 12:53:42.331',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5a771c3c-78ee-4592-86f1-2a7c531b03ee','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>厌烦用言语与学生交流，继而想通过批评直截了当地令他们屈服。作为教育者，这是不成熟又非常愚蠢的行为。</p>
<p>面对孩子的问题行为，阿德勒说&ldquo;要放弃法官的立场&rdquo;。眼前的孩子出现了问题行为，教育者就是心理咨询师，心理咨询师就是&ldquo;再教育&rdquo;。</p>
<p>阿德勒说&ldquo;发怒是使人和人之间变得疏远的感情&rdquo;。</p>
<p>要有面对自我的勇气并真正去思考&ldquo;以后怎么做&rdquo;，那就能够进步。</p>
<p>不去执着于&ldquo;无法改变的事情&rdquo;，而是正视眼前&ldquo;可以改变的事情&rdquo;。</p>
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<p>&ldquo; 横向关係&rdquo; 的是協作原理, 不與人競爭, 不存在勝負, 所有人一律平等, 並且尽力與他人協作, 這样的共同体才有意義.</p>','2025-09-11 12:56:21.892','2025-09-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a73e9c38-e0d1-4fb6-8b50-3e20e67557cf','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>自立是精神问题。有些人到五六十岁依然无法自立，而即使十岁的孩子都能够自立。</p>','2025-09-11 02:08:26.021','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ecd49216-1e07-40b7-8c72-0701e21d8290','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>是信任，还是信赖我？</p>
<p>信任就是有条件地相信对方。</p>
<p>信赖是在相信他人的时候不负家任何条件，即使没有值得信任的依据，也相信不考虑什么担保，无条件地相信这就是信赖。</p>
<p>相信信任这个人的自己是因为如果对自己的判断没有自信，那就一定会要求担保，所以说只有信赖自己才能信赖他们。</p>
<p>工作关系是信任关系，而交友关系则是信赖关系。工作关系是伴随某些利益或外在要素附带条件的关系，虽然人格方面并不喜欢，但因为是客户要保持关系，所以要互相协作互相提供帮助，但是离开工作之后不想继续保持关系，这就是由工作厉害结成的信任关系。 不管个人是否愿意都必须保持关系。</p>
<p>交友根本不存在。 必须和这个人交友的理由就是不存在利益也不受外界节约的关系，显然就是信赖的关系。</p>','2025-09-11 02:03:31.307','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">发怒和训诉同义（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 061-063</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：发怒是使人和人疏远的感情</span></p>','2025-09-11 15:11:34.499','2025-09-11 15:11:34.499',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 15:11:34.498',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">发怒和训诉同义</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">只会用&ldquo;发怒&rdquo;和&ldquo;训诉&rdquo;或&ldquo;批评&rdquo;来解决事情，这是没有办法解决和改变问题的，这将令到人与人之间的感情变得更疏离.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">可以解决的方法是需要带着勇气，並带着尊重和站在对方的立场，正视眼前可以改变的事情. </span></p>','2025-09-11 15:26:08.553','2025-09-11 15:26:08.553',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 15:26:08.552',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>According to Adler&rsquo;s philosophy, when we face a problem, we should not rely on anger or authority. Instead, we must first have the courage to face ourselves. By understanding the process and reflecting on our own choices, we can decide on future actions that bring real improvement.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>I personally believe that every problem we encounter in daily life can be solved more effectively if we stop dwelling on what cannot be changed, and instead focus on the things we can change.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In short, it reminds us that true problem-solving requires calmness, responsibility, and constructive action &mdash; not emotional outbursts.</p>','2025-09-11 15:38:45.895','2025-09-11 15:38:45.895',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 15:38:45.894',NULL,NULL);
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<li>即使不使用暴力，高声怒吼、拍打桌子、泪流满面等这些都属于低成本的&ldquo;暴力性&rdquo;交流手段，就好像拿着没装子弹的枪对着他人</li>
<li>发怒是是人与人之间变得疏远的感情</li>
</ul>','2025-09-11 15:38:49.614','2025-09-11 15:38:49.614',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 15:38:49.613',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16008b5a-c803-4b69-9d74-c3db9457626e','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>不要强求一些反省的话，即使是写检讨书，道歉信，没有任何作用，目的只是获得原谅而已。</p>
<p>人处于未成年状态，不在于缺乏理智，而在于没有他人的教导就缺乏运用自己理智的决心和勇气。</p>
<p>父母过于干涉和保护，是妨碍他们自立，自己什么也决定不了。</p>
<p>不要把他们置于依存和无责任的地位。</p>
<p>&ldquo;多亏了老师我才能毕业&rdquo;，&ldquo;多亏了我才有这样的成绩&rdquo;，这类的话再教育上是失败的，必须让学生感到他们是靠自己的力量做到了一切。</p>
<p>告诉孩子，自己的人生，自己决定，如果决定需要材料，如知识或经验，就要提供给他们。</p>
<p>如果孩子的选择失败了，孩子自己要承担责任。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-04 02:06:36.324','2025-09-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人处于未成年状态是自己的责任。</p>
<p>我们按照他人的教导活着很轻松。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>普遍心态是让孩子置于未成年状态，让他们知道自立危险，而让其处于自己的支配下。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>父母或教育者对孩子太过干涉，过于保护，结果培养了什么都要他人指示，自己什么也决定不了的孩子。</p>
<p>最终身体年龄成为大人，内心依然小孩，没有指示什么也做不了，谈不上什么自立。</p>
<p>老师普遍有着怕学生自立，会威胁到老师的身份，也不让学生冒险尝试只为了容易应付家长，支配孩子。</p>
<p><br>教育者回避责任就会支配孩子，为的就是保全自身。</p>
<p>不想因为孩子的失败而承担责任。</p>
<p>处于教育者立场上的人以及负责组织运营的领导必须时时树立起 &ldquo;自立&rdquo;的目标</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>心理咨询时一样，不把来访者置于依存和无责任的地位当中。</p>
<p>多亏了老师才能做到，之类的话在教育意义上是失败的，必须让学生们感到是靠他们自己的努力和力量做到的。</p>
<p>教育者是孤独的存在。无人赞美，没有慰劳，全靠自己，甚至没有感谢。</p>
<p>不期待学生的感谢，为着自立而贡献，教育者要有这种奉献精神。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>在奉献精神中找到幸福</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>幸福的本质上奉献</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>孩子们问，可以去朋友家玩吗？</p>
<p>当然可以，附上做完功课的条件。</p>
<p>直接禁止等。</p>
<p>都是置于孩子于依存或无责任的地位的行为。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>父母应该告诉孩子，这事情你可以决定。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>告诉他自己的人生，日常的行为一切都得由自己决定。并且，假如有作出决定时需要的材料-比如知识或经验，就要提供给他们。</strong></p>
<p><strong>这才是教育者应有的态度。</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>存在就是对孩子还不够尊重，如果可以做到真正的尊重，那就放手</p>
<p>孩子失败的时候，确实会被问责。但是这不关自己的人生课题。最终承担责任的只有孩子自己。</p>
<p><strong>课题分离就是要 最终要承担某种选择导致后果的人是谁？</strong></p>
<p>不是我承担最终责任的我不可以介入他人的课题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>尊重孩子们自己的决断，并帮助其作出决断。</p>
<p>并且，告诉孩子自己随时可以为其提供帮助，并在不太近但又可以随时提供帮助的距离上守护他们。</p>
<p>即使孩子选择失败，孩子自己还是可以学到了 &ldquo;自己的人生可以由自己选择&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>自己的人生可以由自己选择</strong></p>','2025-09-08 14:58:57.737','2025-09-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p>父母、老师可以帮助孩子自己做出决断，可以在适当的范围内为孩子提供协助。最终的决定权是让孩子决定并且为自己的决定负起责任。这才是培养孩子自立。</p>','2025-09-09 13:09:33.627','2025-09-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我还不是十分勇敢的人，所以小时候孩子都是会管一下，现在他长大了，让他自己去决定，那怕知道他会幢墙，越早吃亏越好，这些都是变强大的氧分。</p>
<p>曾经孩子在中一的时候，独自和陌生人去北京哈尔冰2个星期，在整理行李的时候，我对他说：你真勇敢。</p>
<p>他回：我的妈妈才勇敢！</p>
<p>嗯．．是真的，我很勇敢。</p>','2025-09-12 09:20:39.459','2025-09-12 09:21:29.739',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 09:21:29.738',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人都戴着社交面具、隐藏真心地活着，以避免不必要的冲突、防止关系破裂。</p>
<p>真正的信赖是能动行为。主动信赖你，哪怕你并不信赖我。</p>
<p>我们只相信&ldquo;信赖自己的人&rdquo;的话。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-23 13:24:40.158','2025-09-23 13:45:29.487',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-23 13:45:29.486',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">自己的人生，可以由自己选择（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 064-068</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：希望他人听话照做是不想承担因为他人犯错带来的责任及容易控制他人支配他人。但同时也抹杀他人做决定和成长的机会。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">这本书蛮适合父母及老师们去读或许能更改下一代的命运。</p>','2025-09-12 13:39:12.461','2025-09-12 13:39:12.461',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 13:39:12.46',NULL,NULL);
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<p>在一个共同体内，为了胜利而竞争与为了帮组团队一起完成任务，两者会带来截然不同的结果，变成了上下（胜负）关系。</p>
<p>横向关系，指的是彼此没有竞争，只有协作，是所谓的&ldquo;民主心理学&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-14 10:39:11.532','2025-09-14 10:39:11.532',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 10:39:11.531',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人与人的关系是一种共同体感觉，是自己打从心底里感受到彼此是共同体感觉。这就需要学会用他人的眼光去看他，用他人的耳朵去听他，用他人的心去感受他。</p>','2025-09-18 08:50:14.726','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
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<p>体育比赛的队员之间就是典型的分工关系。 为了赢得比赛，必须超越个人好恶全力协作。 比赛一旦开始， 每个队员都把队友看成功能的一部分，而不是看成朋友。 并且自己也要努力当好功能的一部分&nbsp; 。</p>
<p>分工合作的根源就在于利已心，各自负责自己擅长的领域。追求利已心的结果就是他者贡献。一切工作都是共同体中必须有人去做的事情。 只是分工不同而已。</p>
<p>决定人价值的不是从事什么样的工作，而是以什么样的态度智力与自己的工作。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-12 12:25:50.953','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5da70185-feca-4d91-b5f0-5181e7b47069','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>要获得他人的爱，得先爱对方；欲获得别人信赖，同样也要先主动。这是不二法门。</p>','2025-09-23 13:44:39.434','2025-09-23 13:44:39.434',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-23 13:44:39.433',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50627b16-1826-493e-8663-5146d813c72f','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>如果不能爱自己，也等于自己无法爱别人。年轻的时候听后不明白为什么。</p>
<p>经过学习和实践后，这是真的。</p>
<p>我们讨厌别人也是因为自己无法接受自己的缺点，喜欢自己的脆弱和无助，是件勇敢的事。</p>','2025-09-22 11:25:18.715','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>We must also have the courage to face everything rationally because our lives are ultimately chosen by ourselves. The same applies to educating children: we should allow them to grow independently, support them in developing autonomy, and provide only the necessary guidance. Whenever possible, we should respect children&rsquo;s own judgment and offer relevant information and advice to help them make their own decisions.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In reminds us that real encouragement means trusting people, respecting their dignity, and cooperating as equals, whether with adults or with children.</p>','2025-09-12 14:24:32.083','2025-09-12 14:24:32.083',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 14:24:32.082',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们按照&ldquo;他人的教导&rdquo;活着很轻松。</p>
<p>大人把孩子们置于&ldquo;未成年状态&rdquo;之中，想方设法灌输自立如何危险，为了让其处于自己的支配之下。</p>
<p>教育者害怕学生们自立，因为学生自立后与你站在平等的立场，你的权威会丧失。</p>
<p>支配孩子是为了保全自身。处于教育者立场上的人以及负责组织运营的领导必须时时树立起&ldquo;自立&rdquo;目标。</p>
<p>教育者必须令学生感到他们是靠自己的力量做到一切。</p>
<p>教育者是孤独的存在。唯有在奉献精神中找到幸福。</p>
<p>父母应该告诉孩子，他自己的人生、日常的行为，一切都得由自己决定。假如有做决定时需要的材料，比如知识或经验，那就要提供给他们。这才是教育者应有的态度。</p>
<p>尊重孩子们自己的决断，并帮他们做出决断。</p>
<p>自己的人生可以由自己选择</p>','2025-09-12 14:31:43.755','2025-09-12 14:31:43.755',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 14:31:43.754',NULL,NULL);
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<p>把命运归因于 过去、环境、父母、他人，其实真正决定人生的，不是外在条件，而是当下的选择。自己的人生，由自己选择；每一个当下，都是命运的起点。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-12 15:23:49.553','2025-09-12 15:23:49.553',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 15:23:49.551',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自己的人生，可以由自己选择</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">对于孩子，父母应保有 &ldquo;爱他就让他做自己&rdquo;的思维. 不要害怕孩子遇到挫折或麻烦. 这样可以让他们学习&ldquo;自立&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">告诉孩子&ldquo;这事你可以自己决定. 日常的行为一切由自己做主. 如有需要协助在知识或经验方面，父母是随时可以提供给他们的. 这才是教育者应有的态度.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;幸福的本质是奉献精神&rdquo;， 老师们不期待学生的感谢，目标是做出贡献，这样能够协助学生们真正的自立和保有老师内心的强大. </span></p>','2025-09-12 15:17:08.274','2025-09-12 15:19:32.443',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 15:19:32.442',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自己的人生，可以由自己选择（Page 064-068）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人生本来就可由自己选择。然后许多我们从小到大，都是父母在按排一切，所以不知道原来自已是有选择权，出来社会后，就发现许多妈宝孩子，所以他们不会为自己的生命负责。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">当父母能够告诉孩子为自己人生负责任，他才能真正活出属于自己的生命。父母扮演的角色是陪伴者，如分享知识或经验给他们。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">勇于活出自已。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-12 15:41:01.2','2025-09-12 15:41:01.2',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 15:41:01.198',NULL,NULL);
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<p><strong><span class="s3">当共同体被褒奖驱动时，孩子学到的是竞争；当共同体被鼓励滋养时，孩子学到的是合作与归属。</span></strong></p>','2025-09-12 14:37:33.39','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">未成年状态 = 没有真正自立的状态</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>交易者和父母经常会在不知不觉中为了让孩子处于自己的支配之下，而妨碍了孩子们学会&ldquo;自立&rdquo;（灌输自立如何危险以及其中的种种风险及可怕）</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所以教育者应该以&ldquo;自立&rdquo;为目标去教育孩子们，尊重孩子们自己的决断，并帮助其作出决断。并且让他们知道自己随时可以为其提供帮助，并在不太近又可以随时提供帮助的距离上守护他们</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-12 15:47:06.931','2025-09-12 15:47:19.613',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 15:47:19.612',NULL,NULL);
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<p><span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);"><strong>告别</strong>「表扬依赖症」</span>，<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);"><strong>打造</strong>「自信永动机」</span>；冠军会过时，<strong><span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);">队友值千金</span></strong>。</p>','2025-09-12 22:03:03.686','2025-09-12 22:03:12.134',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-12 22:03:12.133',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">74-75讀到這裡，我有一個非常特別的感悟。那就是為什麼越來越多的公司因為美好的願景而吸引頂尖人才我想其中一個原因是那些為例世足的公司其實就是獨裁者掌控的組織。美國就是很好的例子，為了得到人民的選票就把中國塑造成一個敵人的競爭形象。這樣的話反對中國就會得到選票。</span></p>','2025-09-03 14:47:09.641','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f6df9733-2340-4751-be1e-72cc175e2b85','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>否定通过表扬促进成长。</p>
<p>最初以获得表扬的目的，在努力的过程中，本人渐渐认识到学习的喜悦，体会到坚持的快乐，并逐步用自己的脚立起来。 这也是自立。 通过表扬会令孩子非常的开心并且进步。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>贬奖带来的竞争</p>
<p>赏罚分明是破坏规则就会受到严厉的惩罚。 遵守规则就会被大家称赞。 并且后者还会被认可。 我们不支持领导的人格或思想信条。 顺从的目的只是为了获得表扬或者是不被批评。 这样共同体就会被以扁奖为目标的竞争原理所支配。 比方说他人都是敌人或者人人都在找机会陷害我，绝不可大意之类的生活方式。 其实根本没有必要有这样竞争对手进行竞争，也不可以进行竞争。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-06 05:36:37.697','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('63941d29-46a0-42a0-a7a3-722b85861406','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>表扬是有能力对没能力的人做出的评价，目的是操控。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>为什么教育上不可以表扬？</p>
<p>为什么透过表扬会令有些孩子开心并且进步，但又不可以表扬？</p>
<p>透过表扬，你要承担什么风险？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Group class 原则的话</p>
<p>一个国家或次序。</p>
<p>赏罚分明带来顺从的目的只是获得表扬或不被批评。</p>
<p>共同体就会为了得到表扬为目的而开始竞争。</p>
<p>把孩子们置于竞争原理之下，迫使和他人竞争。就会形成别人都是敌人或者人人都在找机会陷害我，不可以大意之类的生活方式或世界观。</p>
<p>根本没有必要和他人进行竞争，也不可以进行竞争。</p>','2025-09-09 01:49:25.197','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1ff7ddb-68ae-4de7-9b64-dc6784f15b30','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>别拿无相关的人当解药！<span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">老师自己亮了</span>，<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">才能照亮别人的自由路</span></strong></p>','2025-09-12 23:04:36.759','2025-09-17 13:17:19.943',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 13:17:19.942',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34c0a1f6-a74a-4f07-a09b-728313d6810e','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>阿德勒心理学反对表扬，因为它是一种自上而下的操纵手段，会滋生竞争，依赖和敌对，阻碍孩子真正的自立与共同体的健康发展；</p>
<p>青年则从教育实践出发，认为表扬能激发积极性，是通向自立的有效起点。</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">哲人认为教</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">育应建立在</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">平等，尊重，信任</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">的基础上，而非赏罚分明。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">真正的教育是引导孩子自我发现，自我驱动，而不是通过表扬或批评来控制其行为。</span></p>','2025-09-10 23:36:20.546','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('96410b20-24a6-48f1-8702-912e49ea5495','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;因為''表揚會產生比較和競爭, 把对方當成競爭对手, 而形成敌意的想法, 他人都是敌人或者人人都在找機會陷害我, 绝对不可以大意的生活方式..</p>','2025-09-11 01:46:51.539','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db267390-1d64-4b00-9786-88c6dc706335','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>如果站在心理角度，我也认同朝着被表扬的目的来产生动力是有问题的。但如果站在管理，或更加存粹的目标管理，那我认为表扬还是有它的用处。如果以原子习惯来说，就是 rewards 的一种。看站在什么角度去设计它。</p>','2025-09-13 02:02:12.495','2025-09-13 02:02:12.495',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 02:02:12.494',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a0e3a45-121f-4335-bc62-12ee327c5c1c','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>过度表扬会导致孩子依赖性行动。我们在互联网发达时代，不难发现大家都在讨论&ldquo;做善事应不应该放上网&rdquo;。善事本应是发自内心的感受而完成的，而不是为了得到光荣和赞扬才去做。尤其是比较知名的人很容易被情绪勒索，因为他们做了又被说虚荣心，不做又被说没有心。我们要教育孩子的是今天你做了好事但没被赞扬，不代表说没人看见。你的努力和付出不需要完全透明化，因为社会就是如此残酷。即使你背后付出了多少努力，不好的领导终究还是会以结果来批评。而我们要坚守自己的信念就是我们要保持自己的感性和理性，不要被别人操控。</p>','2025-09-13 05:26:54.583','2025-09-13 05:26:54.583',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 05:26:54.582',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fca3d4e-845c-4873-8d5d-af10222d2f32','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>表扬是有能力的人对没能力的人所做出的评价，其目的是操纵。共同体就会被以褒奖为目标的竞争原理所支配。</p>','2025-09-13 09:46:16.106','2025-09-13 09:46:16.106',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 09:46:16.105',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1e64275-3a33-4972-b4b6-e525d04d89f7','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>教育者是孤独的存在！</p>
<p>唯有在奉献精神中找到幸福。</p>
<p>幸福的本质是&ldquo;奉献精神&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>教育 / 带领 的过程里，让对方知道：</p>
<p>自己的人声，得由自己决定。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>真正的尊重，就是放手让其自己做决定。</p>
<p>真正要承担责任的是做了决定的他自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>尊重他自己的决定， 并帮助其作出决断</p>
<p>随时提供帮助，&ldquo;自己的人生可自由选择。</p>','2025-09-13 11:38:00.608','2025-09-13 11:38:00.608',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 11:38:00.607',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a663c33a-8bf3-4b58-a8a0-920f8a321490','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 13 9月13日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">否定&ldquo;通过表扬促进成长&rdquo;（Page 069-075）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">竞争中没有真正的盟友，只有潜在的敌人。追求表扬的竞争，会毁掉共同体感。真正值得学习的是：&ldquo;合作中的互相激励&rdquo;，而不是&ldquo;你死我活的比较心理&rdquo;</span></p>','2025-09-13 11:53:02.911','2025-09-13 11:53:02.911',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 11:53:02.91',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eedbf6b5-95b7-4b22-9413-4ea9fe4c10be','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p><span class="s2">健康的共同体并不是依靠竞争原理来运作，而是基于&ldquo;协作原理&rdquo;得以维系。唯有在协作中，每个人才能既感受到自己属于整体，又能体会到贡献的价值。</span></p>','2025-09-13 01:15:28.903','2025-09-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45984c36-fdcf-45f5-83dc-2af4eb685d1b','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;為了&ldquo; 心理上想做的事&rdquo; 和&ldquo;肉体上&rdquo;能做的事 之間的差距而烦惱的無力感, 进一步說是經历了&ldquo; 自己不完美&rdquo; 原則上肯定會感到自卑.</p>','2025-09-12 01:17:54.246','2025-09-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f25166be-4b57-4116-bc49-0f587f3ac484','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">青年批评哲人理论过于理想化，忽视现实个体的情感与认同需求。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">哲人则认为阿德勒心理学并非否定个人，而是从更根本的&ldquo;人类共性&rdquo;，脆弱性与共同体需求出发，引导人走向自由与协作而非依赖他人认可。</span></p>
<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">自</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">卑感是普遍且有益的</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">，可转化为成长动力。</span></p>','2025-09-13 04:26:30.148','2025-09-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('86ff8e42-56e0-405b-b9ed-f335fd4f1612','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;追求外在的表揚, 來認同自己的價是短暫, 永远會活在一直在索求不能滿足的生活,</p>
<p>唯有不去尋找別人的認同, 按照自己的意思認同自己, 自己的人生價值是自己給自己, 不是別人.</p>','2025-09-13 01:41:45.209','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac16d646-1339-4688-af1b-f2e32c584d33','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 13 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">13</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期六</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">否定&ldquo;通过表扬促进成长&rdquo;（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 069-075</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：阿德勒提出一個否定大部份人的思想，多數現代人都鼓勵稱讚多過批評。但阿德勒連稱讚也不鼓勵。現有教育和職場都鼓勵競爭，能者多得也讓世界發展更快公司盈利提升更多。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">通過競爭也會培養出人類更親向於有利益而做沒利益就不做的心態。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">雖說是有道理，可是我覺得阿德勒其實也有些悲觀。</p>','2025-09-13 12:39:04.844','2025-09-13 12:39:04.844',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 12:39:04.842',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f0bf166-7751-4c69-8f77-02de0de1981a','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>表扬是&ldquo;有能力的人对没能力的人所做出的评价&rdquo;，其目的是&ldquo;操纵&rdquo;。</p>
<p>通过表扬会令有些孩子非常开心并取得进步，但却不可以进行表扬。通过表扬，你要承担什么样的风险呢？</p>
<p>顺从的目的是为了&ldquo;获得表扬&rdquo;或者&ldquo;不被批评&rdquo;。</p>
<p>共同体以褒奖为目标竞争原理所支配。jiang</p>
<p>将孩子置于竞争原理之下，孩子会形成&ldquo;他人都是敌人&rdquo;或者&ldquo;人人都在找机会陷害我，绝不可大意&rdquo;之类的生活方式。</p>
<p>根本没有必要与这样的竞争对手进行竞争，也不可以进行竞争。</p>','2025-09-13 13:56:28.13','2025-09-13 13:56:28.13',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 13:56:28.129',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7214b74f-97ee-4f31-93cd-dc08185a80b5','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Why Adler&rsquo;s philosophy strongly oppose the idea that praise is necessary for growth?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>At first glance, praise may seem positive, even an act of kindness.</p>
<p>But when given excessively, it creates dependency, reinforces hierarchy, and weakens autonomy.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Once tied to comparison, praise easily breeds competition, turning peers into rivals rather than partners.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Even so-called &ldquo;friendly competition&rdquo; is unnecessary because real happiness and courage are found not in surpassing others but in cooperation, contribution, and equality.</p>','2025-09-13 14:48:59.538','2025-09-13 14:48:59.538',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 14:48:59.537',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('80e1da93-8491-4aec-893d-8269c8cb3d98','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 13 9月13日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">否定&ldquo;通过表扬促进成长&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教育的目标是&ldquo;自立&rdquo;. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教育者就是&ldquo;心理咨询师&rdquo;. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒主张&ldquo;不表扬&rdquo;和 &ldquo;不批评&rdquo; 而是&ldquo;鼓励&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">如果孩子依赖习惯被表扬，那么他就会把行为和做事的动机放在&ldquo;别人怎么看我&ldquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">如果孩子常常只受到批评，那么他就会觉得&ldquo;压力&rdquo;及&ldquo;我不被接纳&rdquo;的感觉.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">真正的是我们应该用&ldquo;鼓励&rdquo;和一种&ldquo;平等的关系对待&rdquo;， 保有我和你可以共同一起面对问题，你可以有能力成长. 这种平等对待才能让孩子学会对自己的人生负责. </span></p>','2025-09-13 15:57:09.263','2025-09-13 15:59:07.205',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 15:59:07.203',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3cf8a14b-f6da-4404-b45d-851083881d92','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>12.9.25</p>
<p>爱孩子就该帮孩子自立，否则长大后仍然心智未成熟，对其生活、生命极为不利，命运任由他人与环境摆布。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>13.9.25</p>
<p>&ldquo;教育者不能充当法官,必须做亲近孩子们的心理咨询师。 并且,斥责只能是暴露自身不成熟进而招致轻视的行为。教育的最终目标是&ldquo;自立&rdquo;,任何人都不应该成为这条道路上的障碍。&rdquo;</p>
<p>以上的话个人觉得太棒了，真值得反省和学习！</p>','2025-09-13 15:19:39.178','2025-09-13 15:45:33.974',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 15:45:33.973',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('60ab002e-f3a9-4711-8ccc-dd85aa81f0f9','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>顺从的目的只是为了获得表扬或者不被批评。</p>
<p>没有必要与竞争对手进行竞争，也不可以进行竞争</p>','2025-09-13 15:56:43.968','2025-09-13 15:56:43.968',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-13 15:56:43.967',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ac4a4fe-44d4-484c-9412-0e5a2d168e21','522fb1a5-a085-49d0-b429-cd0ad4b3249e','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>现实生活中太复杂，把复杂性简单化，单纯心态面对人生，可以活的开心点。</p>','2025-09-15 02:56:02.69','2025-10-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('17e9405b-e789-4bbd-89f9-dbe2339e0c5f','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>人往往會救世主的做法, 來肯定自己的價值.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-15 00:14:21.309','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4653a833-2eb5-40da-b917-a814d3785c70','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>阿德勒把一个人在社会上生存时必须面对的课题称为''人生课题''。这人生课题包括&nbsp;工作，交友和爱的课题~ 都是人际关系课题。</p>
<p>人一切烦恼都源自人际关系的烦恼。人的快乐也源于人际关系。所以我们必须勇敢面对''人生课题''。</p>
<p>共同体存在于所有人内心的一种''感觉''，不是努力掌握，而是从内心(交友)挖掘出来。只有在''交友''关系中尝试为他人贡献，从''交友''中在共同体中找到自己的位置。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-15 15:35:59.016','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们把人生看成1场马拉松比赛， 竞争对手就在自己的身旁奔跑。 这是一种激励和鼓舞，完全没有任何问题。 但是如果产生战胜竞争对手的想法，事情就完全改变了。 从最初跑完或者跑快的目的转而变成战胜这个人的目的。 原本是盟友的竞争对手变成了应该打倒的敌人，围绕着胜利的策略应运而生。 这样的话是不正当行为。 即使比赛结束后也无法心平气和地给予祝福。 会因为嫉妒或自卑而苦。</p>
<p>不要靠竞争原理，而是以协作原理运营的。 共同体就是以他人合作放在第一位。</p>
<p>争夺胜利或名次的竞争原理自然而然会发展成为纵向关系。 因旦，产生胜利和失败者就产生相应的上下</p>
<p>我们所提倡的纵向关系是协作的原理。 不与任何人竞争也不存在胜负。 要与他人存在知识经验与能力的差异，也没有关系，建立共同体，才有意义，尽力地与他人合作一律平等。&nbsp; 。</p>','2025-09-06 06:23:35.887','2025-09-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
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<p>竞争是否带来比较多的好处，还是带来更多的伤害？可以确定的是凡是企图操纵他人的教育或体制都是背离民主的态度。当竞争的问题出现，问题都不是来自个人而是组织。竞争带来&ldquo;纵向关系&rdquo;。阿德勒是提倡民主导向的&ldquo;横向关系&rdquo;。最容易看见的例子是在学校里。一个班级里，孩子会面对竞争也是通过有赞美，有比较的开始。所以，赞美不但带来&ldquo;纵向关系&rdquo;，带来竞争， 也同时引来暴力。</p>','2025-09-12 02:57:03.774','2025-09-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b494162-e8b4-48c1-89c5-5d0968c31f99','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>为了防止这种事态发生，组织必须贯彻既无赏罚又无竞争的真正的民主。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不是靠竞争原理而是基于协作原理运营的共同体才是能够长久相处的长期策略。</p>
<p>把他人合作放在第一位。</p>
<p>按照协作原理运行的话，学生们都会形成人人都是我的同伴的生活方式。</p>
<p>把学生单独叫到办公室是错误的想法</p>
<p>因为不是因为坏才陷入问题行为问题在于蔓延在整个班级的竞争原理。</p>
<p>一个学生问题行为不是因为这个学生有问题。</p>
<p>而是整个班级都陷入竞争原理错误的思想行为当中。</p>
<p>一定要去治疗前提是整个群体本身而不是去治疗个人。</p>
<p>争夺胜利后每次都产生竞争原理。</p>
<p>自然而会发展为纵向关系。</p>
<p>一但产生胜利和失败者就会产生相应的上下关系</p>
<p>横向关系就是合作原理。</p>
<p>不与人竞争也没有胜负，与他人有存在知识经验或能力的差别也没关系，和成绩和工作成果没有关系。</p>
<p>所有人平等并尽力与他人合作这样建立起来的群体才有意义。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学是基于横向关系的民主心理学。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-10 04:37:22.24','2025-09-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8577e968-1210-4890-b0be-f25319c77532','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">竞争容易将他人视为敌人，而非盟友，导致策略性行为甚至不正当手段。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">竞争同时会滋生嫉妒，自卑和纵向关系并破坏平等与合作。</span></p>
<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">协</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">作原理强调合作而非竞争，追求&ldquo;人人都是同伴&rdquo;的生活方式。</span></p>
<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-13 03:23:06.019','2025-09-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff39f53d-0b45-43a2-9ccb-50ab945ccc7a','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>共同体的本质就是会传染，尤其是在班级里面。因为他们还在思想不成熟的阶段，他们只想到说为了迎合还有不想被孤立，所以一旦有一群人坏的时候，就会参合他们。所以当是群体的时候不能有内部的竞争，我们要的是一起前进。内部竞争只会让大家的关系破裂。</p>','2025-09-14 05:57:49.932','2025-09-14 05:57:49.932',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 05:57:49.931',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab9043b1-dfa7-4065-82be-f3cb57357774','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>不是靠竞争原理，而是基于协作原理运营的共同体。不与他人竞争，而是与他人合作放在第一位。</p>','2025-09-14 10:49:45.24','2025-09-14 10:49:45.24',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 10:49:45.239',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9cd7f9a-210a-4bda-837c-8a6bc4354fb9','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 14 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">14</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">共同体的病（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 076-078</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：民主不是靠競爭原理，應該靠協作原理形成才是健康的。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">沒有經驗知識階級之分，一切以幫助他人成功為主要目的，才能形成好的共同體。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">人性的弱點之一就是自私和懶惰，團隊競爭中人總想著自己要贏而失去了共贏帶來的好處。當越來越多人開始有利他的動作之後團隊裡就就會形成一個習慣一個風氣甚至一個團隊文化，自私懶惰的人可能會被影響被薰陶被教育而被環境推送成喜歡幫助人。或者這些有自私懶惰標籤的人會覺得自己是異類然後自己遠離原本的團隊因為格格不入。</p>','2025-09-14 11:20:12.488','2025-09-14 11:31:16.302',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 11:31:16.301',NULL,NULL);
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<p>阿德勒心理学是基于横向关系的民主心理学。</p>','2025-09-14 13:31:12.534','2025-09-14 13:35:55.68',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 13:35:55.679',NULL,NULL);
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<p>''赏罚分明''会让人顺从，并期待''表扬''和''不被批评''. 促进竞争关系。</p>
<p>today ~</p>
<p>停止赏罚，消除竞争原理(纵向关系)，而是基于''协作原理''，把合作(横向关系)放在第一位 ~ 那人人都是我同伴。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-14 14:24:22.123','2025-09-14 14:29:41.226',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 14:29:41.225',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When we focus only on ourselves, we become isolated. When we chase hierarchy and personal gain, the bonds of cooperation collapse, and conflict emerges.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler discourages systems of reward and punishment since they create hierarchy instead of equality. Instead, we should build communities where everyone is treated as an equal partner.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Restoring community feelings means working alongside others with mutual respect, supporting one another, and growing together on the journey of life.</p>','2025-09-14 14:36:34.102','2025-09-14 14:36:34.102',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 14:36:34.102',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('113440ea-5598-4f8c-81ea-22d94e527573','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 14 9月14日 (星期日)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">共同体的病（Page 076-078）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">真正的教育不是纠正个人，而是营造协作文化；真正的民主，是人人在横向关系中自由成长。</span></p>','2025-09-14 14:50:07.734','2025-09-14 14:50:07.734',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 14:50:07.733',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ada6ffab-78ec-44f1-a3e9-cc0745fbac45','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>人类在孩童时代毫无例外都抱着自卑感生活。</p>
<p>期待认同不知不觉会过上他人期望的人生。 但人活着并不是满足别人的期望。</p>
<p>人类因为脆弱所以组成共同体并在协作关系中生存。~人类害怕被孤立。</p>
<p>人类身体方面脆弱，但心理强大。。。 感觉这句跟之前有些矛盾</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-14 14:56:19.052','2025-09-14 23:38:45.907',NULL,'f','2025-09-14 16:00:00','2025-09-14 23:38:45.906',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a96d1b3-fe64-4b1f-b663-1ac83439f69d','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>人类的身体是脆弱的，但心里是比任何动物都要强大。</p>
<p>人类也是群体动物，需要一起生活，不可以单独生存。</p>','2025-09-14 13:15:45.989','2025-09-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ae957f1-d7a1-4a93-bca2-afca78455f70','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>协助原理，运营的共同体。人人都是我的同伴。</p>
<p>停止赏罚，消除竞争。横向关系了，不与人竞争，不存在胜负。</p>','2025-09-14 15:23:56.55','2025-09-14 15:23:56.55',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 15:23:56.549',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5fa82a7d-46f5-4fa3-a7ac-f56780f110fa','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>13/9（<span lang="EN-GB">69 - 75</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<ul>
<li><span lang="ZH-CN">赞扬 = 有<strong>能力</strong>的人对<strong>没能力</strong>的人所作出的评价</span></li>
<li>赞扬确实是可以让人重新认识新事物的好方法，但哲人认为这在共同体关系中是不健康的，会让共同体被<strong>以褒奖为目标</strong>的竞争原理所支配</li>
<li>久而久之会有&ldquo;他人都是敌人&rdquo;或者&ldquo;人人都在找机会陷害我，绝不可大意&rdquo;之类的世界观</li>
</ul>
<p>14/9（76 - 78）</p>
<ul>
<li>人生就像马拉松，我们的目的始终都是<strong>&ldquo;跑完&rdquo;和&ldquo;跑快&rdquo;，而不是&ldquo;战胜这个人&rdquo;</strong>。</li>
<li>组织或班级这种共同体不应该以&ldquo;<strong>竞争原理</strong>&rdquo;运营，而是以&ldquo;<strong>协作原理</strong>&rdquo;运营。</li>
<li>一旦产生竞争，就会滋生出很多策略，甚至是不正当的行为，如果要避免这种事情发生，组织就必须贯彻<strong>即无赏罚又无竞争的真正的民主</strong>。</li>
<li>同样的，一旦有问题行为出现在学生身上，身为教育者，应该做的是去治疗<strong>共同体本身</strong>，而不是去治疗<strong>个人</strong></li>
</ul>','2025-09-14 14:51:58.366','2025-09-14 15:04:49.834',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 15:04:49.833',NULL,NULL);
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<p>教育者不关注问题行为的个人，而是去关注出现问题行为的&ldquo;共同体&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-14 15:07:29.571','2025-09-14 15:07:29.571',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 15:07:29.565',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('53d6ed9f-dc10-49e4-8e47-120452b7b45c','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>当竞争成为共同体的核心，信任与合作就会衰败。</p>
<p>真正健康的关系，来自协作，而不是敌对。</p>','2025-09-14 16:00:14.54','2025-09-14 16:00:14.54',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 16:00:14.539',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('72bd82cd-6cd5-442c-a676-ce8a64c49dc3','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 14 9月14日 (星期日)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">共同体的病</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">没有二元对立思维</span></p>','2025-09-14 15:59:22.333','2025-09-14 16:01:10.691',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 16:01:10.69',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fac4eeb1-87be-4298-a394-4887e89a3575','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>自立~自己决定自己的价值</p>
<p>依存~由他人决定自己价值的态度。</p>
<p>十岁孩子也能自立， 五六十岁依然无法自立~这是精神问题。&nbsp;</p>
<p>拯救者(救世主)心态~拯救他人最终使自己获救。~ 弥塞尔情结。</p>
<p>愤怒~也是自卑感的表现。</p>
<p>看到这里产生很多矛盾，理想与现实是否能共存。&nbsp;</p>
<p>阿德勒是虚无主义吗？</p>','2025-09-14 15:41:38.04','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1aaeaa6-966d-482a-835e-f5169732ea6a','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>人类身心发展不同步，这也让人产生自卑，体验到自己的不完美。这样的体验并不是坏事，自卑感常常是努力和成长的催化剂。</p>
<p>反而，人类因为身体的脆弱才需要创立共同体，并且会创造协作关系，让彼此不再脆弱中生存。人因此常常渴望与他人之间建立的&ldquo;联系&rdquo;，人人的心中都存在着共同体感觉。</p>
<p>不完美和脆弱都是创造的源头。</p>','2025-09-12 07:34:04.267','2025-09-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f015e86-e851-4d6b-9428-be2c663fc588','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>阿德勒心理学否定认同需求。<br>不可以选择满足那个人希望的生活方式<br>哲学在追求理想的同时也必须进行脚踏实地的思考</p>
<p>从自卑感开始谈论的话。<br>首先，我们人类在孩童时代毫无例外的都抱着自卑感生活这是阿德勒心理学的大前提。<br>人类的心里先成长身体后才成长<br>所以人类的孩子们就会为心理上想做的事，和肉体上想做的事之间的差距而苦恼。</p>
<p>经历了这种无力感，进一步说就是尽力了自己的不完美之后的孩子们，原则上来说肯定会感到自卑。</p>
<p>自卑感并非不利条件，他常常会成为努力和成长的催化剂。<br>文明就是用来填补人类生物性弱点的产物。<br>人类史就是一部克服生物劣等性的历史。<br>人类因为自身脆弱所以才会组成共同体并在协作关系中生存。<br>人类很脆弱，不可以单独生存。<br>反过来说人类最害怕的是孤立。<br>所有人的内心都有共同体感觉，他与人的认同需求紧密相连。</p>
<p>共同体感觉不需要去掌握,而需要从内心挖掘.<br>正因为如此他才可以作为感觉共有。</p>
<p>人类因为脆弱而觉得需要与他人连接，需有共同体的感觉，需有群体的中的存在感。</p>
<p>可是同时又因为自卑而常常举步不前。</p>','2025-09-11 14:58:47.529','2025-09-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cc190cd1-80b8-4f29-9e23-e718e3e4c22f','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Life begins with imperfection.</p>
<p>Adler&rsquo;s message is indeed true and clear.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Imperfection is not a flaw &mdash; it is the starting point of growth. In our daily life,</p>
<p>we must have the courage to embrace imperfection: to accept ourselves with weakness, humanity, incompleteness, and limitation.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Life truly begins not when we become perfect, but when we accept imperfection and continue walking forward with courage.</p>','2025-09-15 15:47:38.298','2025-09-15 15:47:38.298',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 15:47:38.297',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74c4edc2-c795-4005-a283-59e3ee7b3296','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>我们一开始就不完美，长大了到老也是一样。每个人都有自己的短处和长处，所以有时候不管是在职场上做新任务的时候会错误很正常，我们不必因为这样而感到自责。这也让我想起自己刚踏入这份职业的时候，原本我只是一名平平无奇的Office Boy - Admin，之后因为老板一直说很看重我年轻，想要升职为行政+主理人。我是基督徒，我知道每个人有软弱，我也承认自己的软弱不能胜任，但老板还是把这职份交给我。过程中真的非常痛苦，因为每次犯错的时候都会遭到挨骂，挨骂的不是老板而是他妹妹，这4个月的时间都活在被挨骂的日子，甚至也怀疑过自己到有离职的念头，因为被挨骂到心里被锁着，即使没有被挨骂都会希望不想见到老板的妹妹。但很感恩我的老板和老板娘都一直的在扶持着我，也在我觉得软弱的时候安慰开导我。我一直都把老板娘的这句话放在心上：&ldquo;今天一个人犯错是很正常不过的事，因为这代表说你有在做事情。正因为自己不会，就更加要边做边学，从错误中学习。&rdquo; 从几次之后，我也不害怕被挨骂，也因为开始渐渐地上手了，所以挨骂的次数也少了。从不完美中学习完美，没有人一开始就会，我们也不需要因此而感到自卑，一步一步地跟着自己的步伐去学习。我也从中学会了不明白就敢问的态度，不必怕被别人嫌弃，我对身边人也一样，不明白可以直接问，我很喜欢回答和分享，并不因此而觉得麻烦。</p>','2025-09-15 11:10:30.468','2025-09-15 11:10:30.468',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 11:10:30.466',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('78b37c98-7535-4732-8adb-9072410f7010','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>人类本来就是脆弱不能独自生存所以才会组织共同体。</p>
<p>共同感是被挖掘出来的。</p>','2025-09-15 12:02:07.163','2025-09-15 12:02:08.808',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 12:02:08.807',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee2ca722-678c-4578-929f-8617aa440733','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>我们生来不完美，在社会的关系里面想要找到一个共同点去安慰自己的不安。共同感就是本身的脆弱才去组织共同体的。共同体不需要去掌握和经营的，是从内心挖掘的。</p>','2025-09-15 12:48:53.143','2025-09-15 12:48:53.143',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 12:48:53.142',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('047d8c9d-10da-4709-a182-d77bdb987c18','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 15 9月15日 (星期一)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人生始于&ldquo;不完美&rdquo;（Page 079-083）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人类不可能独自活着。共同体感觉，是你渴望连结与被爱的本能回应。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">共同体感觉因为脆弱，我们需要彼此协作。因为渴望活下去，我们建立社会与群体所以，&ldquo;竞争&rdquo;是一种扭曲自然本能的生存方式。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人类不可能独自活着。共同体感觉，是你渴望连结与被爱的本能回应。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-15 13:22:59.156','2025-09-15 13:22:59.156',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 13:22:59.155',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7ae7168b-c166-4bce-8a0e-d169b1241fd5','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<ul>
<li>人类是心理成长快于身体发育的生物，所以在孩童时期毫无例外地都抱着自卑感生活。但正是因为这个自卑感，人类才创造出了许多的发明、文明。</li>
<li>人类也因为自身脆弱，所以才会组成共同体并在协作关系中生存，准确来说，因为人类很脆弱，所以没办法单独生存。</li>
<li>共同体感觉不需要去&ldquo;掌握&rdquo;，而需要从自己内心&ldquo;挖掘&rdquo;，正因为如此，它才可以作为&ldquo;感觉&rdquo;共有</li>
</ul>','2025-09-15 14:06:37.754','2025-09-15 14:06:37.754',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 14:06:37.752',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2b25fec-d407-4502-8662-31afb2439a97','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>人类在孩童时代都抱着自卑感。</p>
<p>人类是一种身体发育比心理成长慢一步的生物。心灵自由但身体不由自主。所以经历了&ldquo;自己不完美&rdquo;之后的孩子们肯定有自卑感。</p>
<p>然而自卑感也会成为努力和成长的催化剂。</p>
<p>文明就是人类生物性弱点的产物。</p>
<p>人类因自身脆弱，所以组成共同体，并在协作关系中生存。</p>
<p>人类害怕孤立，希望与他人建立坚固的联系。</p>
<p>所有人的内心都有共同体感觉，它与人的认同需求紧密相连。</p>
<p>虽然人类身体脆弱，心理却比任何动物都强大。</p>','2025-09-15 14:09:27.315','2025-09-15 14:09:27.315',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 14:09:27.313',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f1a1cd0-3897-49a8-bb3e-3c7a29fbf7f3','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 15 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">15</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期一</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人生始于&ldquo;不完美&rdquo;（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 079-083</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">心裡上的渴望會因為身體上的不給力而產生自卑感。人類才會協作成為共同體互相支援。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">一體兩面，人類身體上的不足也造就了世界的文明。</span></p>','2025-09-15 14:42:16.336','2025-09-15 14:42:16.336',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 14:42:16.335',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人生始于&ldquo;不完美&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们不可以选择满足别人期望我们的生活方式，这样我们无法过自己的人生，我们必须保持内心自由.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">曾经经历了自己的不完美之后的孩子们，原则上来说肯定会感到自卑.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人类因为自身脆弱，所以不可以单独生存. 如果能够学习成为自立自强内心强大的人， 这才是规律.&nbsp;</span></p>','2025-09-15 15:59:21.075','2025-09-15 16:02:23.332',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 16:02:23.331',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('11bdf8a0-ebcb-4a36-9d25-e78dceffbda2','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p><span class="s2">我的价值由我自己来决定，这就是自立。幸福的答案也因此变得清晰&mdash;&mdash;决定你价值的从来不是别人。真正的个性，不在于刻意追求与他人的不同，而在于忠于自我。</span></p>','2025-09-15 01:31:17.55','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人类最具根源性的需求是归属感，也就是说不想孤立。</p>
<p>在共同体中取得特别的地位。 不要明然种人做个无可取代的这个舞，不要做芸芸大众任何时候都要保持独一无二的位置。</p>
<p>只有被表扬才能够体会到幸福的人知道生命最后瞬间也在追求更多的表扬。 这样子的人被质疑一一存的地位。</p>
<p>不去寻求他人的认同，按照自己的意思自我认同。我的价值由自己来做决定。 这叫自立决定自身价值的不是别人。</p>
<p>不要从与他人不同方面寻求价值，而是从自保持自我方面寻求价值。 盲目的突出不同这是一种日期七人的方式</p>
<p>问题行为是在针对。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学姜伦的一些言行东方在人际关系中进行思考。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 14:22:12.28','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ed68e4d-565a-4136-b032-be4af89544f8','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人类最具根源性的需求是归属感。就是不想孤立。不要泯然众人。</p>
<p>这个我不要芸芸大众，任何时候都必须确保自己是独一无二的。</p>
<p>不去寻求他人的认同，按照自己的意思自我认同，这叫做自立。</p>
<p>不要从与他人不同方面寻求价值，而是从保持自我方面寻求价值，这才是真正的个性。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-10 02:47:33.755','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6326793-1250-44c2-a955-1595e38c53ae','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>这段有两个重要的观点：1） 归属感 和价值感的区别， 2）与众不同和我在平凡中保有我的自我</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学认为人类最具根源性的需要是&ldquo;归属感&rdquo;。归属感是不想被孤立，不是鹤立鸡群，而真实感受到可以在这里。</p>
<p>如果自己是通过获得他人的认同来获得价值感，那是一条没有尽头，价值感来自外在的给以。这是一种将关系建立在让别人决定自己的价值，那是一种依存的关系，更多是索求。一旦失去对方的给以，这样的依存就不复存在。所以，自我价值感一定需要来自自己的选择，这才叫自立。这样的幸福感是自发的。</p>
<p>如果当自己希望自己与众不同，那么自己就算拿着自己与他人做比较，标准在哪里？如果自己活出自己本来的样子，在平凡中保持自我，那么这是自我接纳，这里没有比较。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-12 08:17:38.665','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1cbf6ba3-b0ff-42d2-abe4-1b95e917c707','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>阿德勒的心理学认为，人类最具根源性的需求是归属感。<br>认同根本没有尽头。<br>获得他人的表扬或认同借此也许可以体会到瞬间的价值<br>，但是仅仅依赖于外部作用。自己内心也需要给予自己认同。</p>
<p>一直被表扬的人被放在了依存的地位，过着永远所求永不满足的生活</p>
<p><br>我的价值有自己来决定这叫自立</p>
<p>做普通人的勇气保持自己即可</p>
<p>如果不能接受自己的普通。<br>那说明想要成为特别的我，依然追求来自他人的认同追求称赞，期待关注仍然生活在问题行为之中。</p>
<p>不要从与他人不同方面寻求价值，而是从保持自我方面寻求价值，自己认可自己</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不认可自己的本性，一昧的与他人比较，盲目的突出不同。<br>这是一种自欺欺人的生活方式</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>阿德勒的心理学，将人的一切言行都放在人际关系中进行思考。</p>
<p>透过尊重来回应学生的问题行为，找出问题行为背后原因。</p>','2025-09-12 13:19:59.228','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
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<p>哲人还认为青年只不过是由弥赛亚情结，想成为人家的救世主，其实是一种自卑的表现</p>','2025-09-15 16:25:25.445','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('345beb23-308c-447d-8da4-d7f3c9ca213a','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>阿德勒心理学认为，人类最具根源性的需求是归属感。唯一的办法，不去寻求他人的认同，按照自己的意思自我认同。我的价值由自己来决定，这叫自立。</p>
<p>不要从与他人不同寻求价值，而是从保持自我方面寻求价值。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学将人的一切言行都放在人际关系中进行思考。</p>','2025-09-16 08:13:39.165','2025-09-16 08:27:10.371',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 08:27:10.366',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0edd7c82-5724-4fda-b0a6-9a1982876990','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>人类最具根源性的需求是''归属感''。&nbsp;</p>
<p>认同根本没有尽头。~不然呢就置于''依存''的地位，过着永远索求，永不满足的生活。</p>
<p>自立是~我的价值由自己决定</p>
<p>不要从''与他人不同''方面寻求价值，而是从''保持自我''方面寻求价值。 盲目突出，是种''自欺欺人''。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学将人的一切言行都放在人际关系中进行思考。</p>
<p>人会在不同地方展现不同''面孔''来寻求自己的位置。</p>','2025-09-14 15:04:59.391','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e8d28c80-b8a5-401b-ab20-5afc6a3b6257','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>阿德勒认为人类最根源的需求是&rdquo;归属感&rdquo;，要真实感受到&ldquo;可以在这里&rdquo;， 但不是说需要其他人的认同，而是自我认同。</p>
<p>依赖他人的认同根本没有尽头，会把自己置于&ldquo;依赖他人才能存在&rdquo;的依存地位，那么永远都不会满足； 所以我们不需要去寻求他人的认同，按照自己的意思自我认同； 我的价值有我来决定，这才叫自立；</p>
<p>而大部分人就是缺乏了做普通人的勇气，一直想要成为特别的存在所以才会觉得生活很苦不幸福</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>学生的问题行为，即使和家庭环境有关，但你所看到的问题行为，正正是学生们针对你才反复做出的问题行为，必须由你来解决，透过尊重来给他提供帮助</p>','2025-09-14 16:18:42.534','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5ecfce26-aa9d-4d2a-8915-64092f67c32a','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">自我认同比他人认同更重要，真正的价值感来自内心，而非外部评价。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">平凡不是缺陷，而是个性的一种形式。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">问题行为是人际关系的信号，</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">学生在学校的行为是针对教师和同伴的，教育者必须直接面对并解决。教</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">师不能将问题归咎于家庭，而应在教室中通过尊重和引导帮助学生找到归属感。</span></p>','2025-09-15 14:06:01.146','2025-09-16 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034','2025-09-16 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('13365348-0dc1-4ea0-9c06-4517fb47cec0','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>比较引起我思考的是 &ldquo;我们都是普通人&rdquo; 和 &ldquo;我们都是独特的个体&rdquo; 这个范围的思考。看似矛盾，却又合理链接。或许独特本身就是普通的</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-16 02:48:36.201','2025-09-16 02:48:36.201',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 02:48:36.2',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Day 17 9月17日 (星期三) &nbsp;补<br>📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理<br>为什么人会想成为&ldquo;救世主&rdquo;（Page 090-093）<br>&nbsp;<br>🎯读后感悟：<br>通过拯救来获得自我价值感，这还是从别人的身上获得价值感。工作教育者需要处理掉自己的这种情结，才能真正看到孩子。</p>
<p>的心去奉献，因才施教。</p>','2025-09-18 08:30:24.811','2025-09-18 08:30:24.811',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 08:30:24.81',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一切快乐也都是人际关系的快乐（Page 099-104）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">真正的幸福，来自在关系中&ldquo;被理解&rdquo;与&ldquo;被需要&rdquo;的感觉；而这一切，始于你敢不敢交朋友。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-19 15:52:24.677','2025-09-19 15:52:24.677',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 15:52:24.676',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a77e7d6-94cd-4a14-8e31-02c92919f899','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 19 9月19日 (星期五)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一切快乐也都是人际关系的快乐</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;一切烦恼都是人际关系的烦恼&rdquo;， 这句话背后也隐藏着&ldquo;一切快乐也都是人际关系的快乐&rdquo; 这一幸福定义.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们在交友的时候, 会学着用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受.</span></p>','2025-09-19 15:55:59.838','2025-09-19 15:55:59.838',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 15:55:59.837',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45195502-be3e-4c98-bd48-9549fb5a5d25','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>弥赛亚情节，我看过许多教育界的人，无论是教成人，教老板，教孩子，甚至包括也是教育者的我自己也有。存粹是我越来越向往追寻的课题。继续读吧～</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-16 02:54:47.527','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5483b926-d66a-4df5-8e16-3bf06d88aa30','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>自立是由自己的手决定自己的价值。即使十岁的孩子也能够自立，也有人即使到了五六十岁依然无法自立。自立是精神问题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-16 09:00:47.368','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9ba644af-39a2-4ae9-a5d5-e3a062dabd41','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>交友这件事，有时我会不小心做对。但定义如何诠释，期待继续看下去～</p>','2025-09-16 03:00:07.329','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e3cfa7ca-46e2-4651-b797-d374b2582c84','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>教育的目的是自立<br>教育者应该做的工作是帮助学生自立。<br>要从尊重开始做起为什么要尊重呢，尊重是什么？<br>尊重其实就是实事求是的看待一个人认识到其独特的个性。</p>
<p>尊重真实的那个人，不必追求特别你就是你自己。<br>帮助学生认识到这个道理,孩子们就会找回受挫的勇气,开始进入智力阶段</p>
<p>无条件的接纳信任那个人。<br>也就是说因为信赖，尊重和信赖是同一个意思</p>
<p>我们无法信赖一个自己并不尊重的对象。<br>能否信赖他人与能否尊重他人紧密相关。</p>
<p>教育的入口是尊重；尊重就是信赖；然后基于信赖的关系就是交朋友关系。</p>
<p>阿德勒说过重要的不是被给予了什么，而是如何去利用被给予的东西这句话。</p>
<p>无论什么样的对象都可以去尊重去信赖，因为这并非由环境和对象所左右，而是取决于你自己的决心。</p>
<p>信赖的勇气还是要回到来勇气这个点上</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-17 07:42:35.778','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('68bb3649-42f4-4328-8258-72508176c890','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我们都是普通但又是独一无二的个体。</p>
<p>我们人类都会想被他人看见、想要得到关注，也向外寻求归属感。</p>
<p>我只是个普通人，也会从他人不同寻求价值。</p>
<p>很想要听听生意人的思维是不是应该要与他人不同吗？</p>
<p>我巳经是那个青年了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-16 08:09:23.271','2025-09-16 08:09:34.261',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 08:09:34.261',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dd128e2a-e1dd-4e4b-ad1d-e68e629fede1','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s psychology teaches that the most fundamental human need is the sense of belonging. Each of us has a unique place in the world. By seeking self-identity, we preserve our self-worth and develop true self-reliance.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>True courage begins with self-awareness &mdash; the ability to accept our authentic selves without relying on others&rsquo; approval. When we affirm our own worth, we free ourselves from comparison and dependence.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>At the same time, Adler reminds us that many problematic behaviours are not about the situation itself but directed toward us in the relationship.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Since all human behaviour exists within the context of interpersonal connections, understanding this helps us avoid defensive reactions and instead respond with calmness, cooperation, and mutual respect.</p>','2025-09-16 08:48:05.141','2025-09-16 08:48:05.141',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 08:48:05.14',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b77b5853-b508-4fe0-ae33-f0e5db708f5a','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>不要从与他人不同方面寻求价值，而是从保持自我方面寻求价值</p>','2025-09-16 10:17:59.715','2025-09-16 10:17:59.715',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 10:17:59.715',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b2363754-87f9-4424-abd7-9c0084d0cc7e','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>我们要接受自己是一个普通人类，被孤立也是很正常。我从小学到中学都一直被孤立，因为有自己的想法还有自己想做的事情，所以对于&ldquo;群体&rdquo;来说还好。尤其是到了中学家长日的时候，老师很常问我妈妈是不是没有朋友。我承认没有而且也觉得无所谓。因为&ldquo;归属感&rdquo;不是自己强硬去改变就会有，而是我们透过每次认识的新朋友和参与的活动才会出现的。我们要知道自己是独一无二的个体，每个人的性格都会不同，澳客&amp;好的顾客就是一个很好的举例，因为在服务的都会遇到这些人，久而久之我们就理解到不是我们做的不好，而是我们没有必要去完全满足所有人，做好自己的本分和职责。&ldquo;你在世上有一群人不喜欢你，就会有另一群人喜欢你&rdquo;，真的要勇敢的做自己，不断地自我提升，让自己的思想和视野更开阔。</p>','2025-09-16 11:49:11.985','2025-09-16 11:49:11.985',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 11:49:11.984',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('93bbc597-b0b1-431d-85e0-4cb2bf82ee4f','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>如果找到歸屬感就漸漸有自己的安全感。不再是靠著別人給的安全感，而是自己認同自己，這點很重要。有人不喜歡你，也有人喜歡你。我們做不到事事為了別人的認同而委屈自己。</p>','2025-09-16 12:27:56.768','2025-09-16 12:27:56.768',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 12:27:56.767',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2eb4963e-064a-4c43-961a-b4d56f2cab6e','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>哲人青年想通过教育拯救他人来拯救自己，实则是&ldquo;弥赛亚情结&rdquo;作祟，真正的改变始于面对自身不幸，追求自我幸福，而非外求于拯救他人。</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">幸</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">福的自立者才能真正帮助他人自立。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">真正的帮助不是自我满足，而是尊重对方自立的能力。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">它要求人彻底反思自我价值来源，而非仅套用方法</span></p>','2025-09-16 12:38:11.567','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们只有在交友关系中，学会用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受。也在这交友关系中尝试着为他人贡献，不进行交友的人根本无法在共同体找到自己的位置。</p>','2025-09-16 13:06:50.802','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce179a20-e575-482f-8ca5-366dbc825b59','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<table>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 16 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">16</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期二</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">&ldquo;自我认同&rdquo;的勇气（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 084-089</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：不要从与他人不同方面寻求价值。而是从保持自我方面寻求价值</span></p>
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</table>','2025-09-16 13:23:50.524','2025-09-16 13:23:50.524',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 13:23:50.523',NULL,NULL);
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<p>被表扬才能体会幸福的人，被置于了&ldquo;依存&rdquo;的地位，过着索求、不满足的生活。</p>
<p>解决方式:按照自己的意思自我认同。&ldquo;我&rdquo;的价值由我自己来决定，这叫&ldquo;自立&rdquo;。不要从&ldquo;与他人不同&rdquo;方面寻求价值，而是从&ldquo;保持自我&rdquo;方面寻求价值。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人的一切言行都放在人际关系中进行思考。一切言行都有其针对的&ldquo;对象&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-16 13:45:05.855','2025-09-16 13:46:20.434',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 13:46:20.432',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9182cc49-4eb4-4760-ba24-74d1cdd3a8a4','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>培养孩子自立非常重要，这样他们才能为自己而活，而非活在他人的语言和眼光中。</p>','2025-09-16 14:07:36.028','2025-09-16 14:07:36.028',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 14:07:36.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('adef1485-cd2c-4b3e-9d67-0ef09eb91a00','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>不要成他人眼下的人，而是勇敢做自己，也就是自立，不需要外界的认可才感到有价值。</p>
<p>身为教育者、父母、长辈，我们都必须承担起对孩子&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;的责任，不可逃避他们对我们的感觉而作出的&ldquo;问题行为&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-16 14:18:08.535','2025-09-16 14:18:08.535',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 14:18:08.534',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50c0aaf8-3cd0-4cb6-bdd7-66f48ed0076a','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 16 9月16日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;自我认同&rdquo;的勇气（Page 084-089）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">价值感不是靠别人给，而是自己赋予的</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">表扬=价值？错！</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">只有被表扬才能感到幸福的人，终其一生都在索求认同。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">活出</span><span class="s1">自己认定的价值目标</span><span class="s2">，而不是活在别人的评价中。</span><span class="s1">忠于内在初心，坦然展现真实自我。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-16 14:24:18.661','2025-09-16 14:24:18.661',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 14:24:18.659',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cc91aa48-dcbc-4c23-87f3-0770d988cc31','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<ul>
<li>认同根本<strong>没有尽头</strong>，获得他人的表扬和认同虽然可以获得<strong>一瞬间的价值</strong>，但他就像<strong>带发条装置的玩偶</strong>，没人给上发条自己根本动不了。这样的人就被置于&ldquo;<strong>依存</strong>&rdquo;的地位，过着永远索求，永不满足的生活。</li>
<li>阿德勒心理学认为，人类最具根源性的需求是&ldquo;<strong>归宿感</strong>&rdquo;。但不应该是去寻求他人的认同，而是<strong>按照自己的意思自我认同</strong>。&ldquo;我&rdquo;的价值由自己来决定。这叫&ldquo;<strong>自立</strong>&rdquo;</li>
<li>我们需要接受<strong>平凡</strong>的自己，接受自己只是芸芸<strong>大众</strong>。不要从&ldquo;与他人不同&rdquo;方面寻求价值，而是从&ldquo;<strong>保持自我</strong>&rdquo;方面寻求价值。</li>
</ul>','2025-09-16 14:55:33.889','2025-09-16 14:59:30.405',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 14:59:30.404',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99aee41a-8200-4ffe-94e0-2553c2bfe11a','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>在人與人的人際關係之中，不對別人仰慕也不貶低他人，以這樣的觀念就不會覺得自己非得成為不可被替代的人。</p>
<p>每個人都是普通人，來得快去得也快。在短短的這幾十年裡面我是不可能做出一些在未來幾億年的人類歷史裡面會被人記得的任何事情。</p>','2025-09-16 15:07:19.318','2025-09-16 15:07:19.318',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 15:07:19.317',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c22ed5e-483e-476c-b2d2-f15d87dc373c','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>自我认同，而不是他人不同。更不可以从他人不同方面寻求价值。只有被表扬才体会幸福的人，直到最后一瞬间也在追求更多的表扬。这样&ldquo;依存的地位，过着永不满足的生活。</p>
<p>我的价值是由自己决定，这叫自立。</p>
<p>就是做个普通人的勇气。</p>','2025-09-16 15:21:44.416','2025-09-16 15:30:58.125',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 15:30:58.124',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff61a4fe-1397-4c73-b155-8493abadb03c','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>勇于承认不完美，也能肯定自己；不靠比较，而是靠贡献价值，才能真正自由并赢得尊严。</p>','2025-09-16 15:32:55.541','2025-09-16 15:32:55.541',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 15:32:55.54',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('338e9c04-2e1a-4661-83a3-f3ded59826b2','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>弥赛亚情结，是一种源于自卑的优越情结&mdash;&mdash;人试图靠拯救他人来证明自身的价值。</p>','2025-09-16 13:26:14.436','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af2b2987-ce39-43b0-a401-675837ab0423','fe768156-2d75-472d-9186-cb84c6c2149a','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 16 9月16日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;自我认同&rdquo;的勇气</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不去寻求他人的认同，按照自己的意思自我认同. 也要有做普通人的勇气.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">决定自身价值的不是别人，&ldquo;我&rdquo;的价值由自己来决定. 这个叫&ldquo;自立&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;广义的教育&rdquo;是家庭的责任. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;狭义的教育&rdquo;是教师可以教授的.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很多孩子不能真正的在父母面前做自己. 但如果通过家庭以外的世界，老师们可扮演了重要的角色. 如果能看见与尊重的方式来教育学生，这可以让学生找到自己的位置. </span></p>','2025-09-16 15:59:15.317','2025-09-16 16:13:32.297',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 16:13:32.295',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d9951235-5155-42c3-8e4d-07387c5d0c97','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>首先不可以批评孩子，因为批评是一种破坏互相尊重的行为。<br>发怒和斥责是一种低成本暴力性的交流手段。<br>也不可以表扬，表扬会令共同体中有竞争。<br>表扬或批评是一种赏罚对方爱孩子自立赏罚就是把孩子至于自己的支配下。<br>靠这种方式大人内心害怕孩子自立。<br>这种态度不存在尊重也无法建立良好关系。</p>
<p>有些人到五六十岁仍然无法自立。<br>自立是精神上的问题，即使是10岁的孩子也能够自立。</p>
<p>透过拯救他人使自己获救，或扮演救世主的角色来体会到自己的价值。<br>无法消除自卑感的人常常会陷入的优越情结，弥赛亚情结。</p>
<p>如果自己不幸福那么，被帮助的人也不能幸福。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-14 00:33:19.268','2025-09-17 00:00:00.046',NULL,'f','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011','2025-09-17 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a91c7e44-06f0-4e3d-abdd-cc9114271adf','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我曾经上过一个香港的辅导课，心理师问：你们知道为什么你们要上这个心理辅导课吗？</p>
<p>很多同学都说，帮助别人。</p>
<p>当时老师这么回答让我记憶优新：</p>
<p>其实你们不是要帮助别人，而是要治疗自己，拯救自己。</p>
<p>如果我们可以不要去批判孩子，先学会不要自我批判，学会接纳自己的缺点吧。</p>
<p>你不是看别人不顺眼，而是自己的眼无法容纳一个沙子吧了。</p>','2025-09-17 06:08:17.335','2025-09-17 06:09:36.189',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 06:09:36.187',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c6a2538f-f393-4a85-8ed6-f4735e782a58','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>True help is not about rescuing others with a &ldquo;saviour&rdquo; mindset but about walking alongside them as equals and offering genuine encouragement.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Only then can they build independence, confidence, and the courage to face their own lives.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>And when we support others in this way, we, too, find a deeper sense of fulfilment and joy &mdash; this is the true meaning of helping others as the foundation of happiness.</p>','2025-09-17 06:31:38.779','2025-09-17 06:31:38.779',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 06:31:38.778',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bcd7e808-f63e-4643-81a2-583b39587413','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>真希望全世界的老師都可以讀這本書。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-17 09:14:49.469','2025-09-17 09:14:49.469',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 09:14:49.468',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb1a1f75-9118-4943-885f-68e862df87a1','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>基于信任就会遵守法规，但不是无条件的信赖。</p>
<p>教育的目标是自立，教育者的工作是帮助自立。自立应从尊重做起。</p>
<p>重要的不是要给于什么，而是如何去利用被给于的东西。</p>
<p>这一切都要有信赖的勇气。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-17 02:53:15.914','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('692f7bd0-edbb-40d2-87ab-5b07b4962bb9','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>挚友是不需要戴着社交面具，而可以坦然相对的人，即使对方有做出不合理的事，也不会因此断绝关系。</p>
<p>真正的信赖是彻彻底底的能动行为。而且要主动信赖。</p>','2025-09-17 03:06:42.267','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('923ea479-b8c4-4617-b3cb-47dc8efe6190','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>一生人有一两个挚友已经是很幸福的事。，</p>
<p>年轻的时候，朋友很多，但不是挚友。</p>
<p>我现在觉得自己应该有2个吧，那怕她做了不合常理的事，也不会断绝的关系。</p>
<p>我是幸福的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-17 07:20:28.709','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d1ddf448-91dd-4f69-9c3d-17dd533b4eaa','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 17 9月17日 (星期三)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">为什么人会想成为&ldquo;救世主&rdquo;（Page 090-093）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">哲人的真正用意：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我不是要你不努力，而是要你停止为别人而活的努力。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">接受平凡不是堕落，而是停止把价值交给他人决定的勇气。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-17 12:46:45.982','2025-09-17 12:46:45.982',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 12:46:45.974',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fd5ca9c-082d-4a40-8e74-7f77eced4fd6','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>选择教育者之路，是想通过拯救孩子们最终使自己获救。</p>
<p>通过扮演救世主的角色来体会自己的价值。</p>
<p>这关系到你自己人生的主题。</p>','2025-09-17 13:00:24.385','2025-09-17 13:00:24.385',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 13:00:24.38',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b9337e9-be08-48b8-8c62-5aad462cf2fc','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>许多人自愿做善事，但真正是想通过做善事让自己身心灵获救，不一定是纯粹为了帮助受益人而已，主要是要通过善举自我感觉到有价值。</p>
<p>教育真正是要尊重孩子，让他自立，自我承担责任。</p>','2025-09-17 14:30:42.331','2025-09-17 14:31:54.197',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 14:31:54.196',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99cad1cc-4da7-4514-8934-bb3d8a46f72d','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 17 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">17</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期三</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">为什么人会想成为&ldquo;救世主&rdquo;（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 090-093</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：教學或者幫助他人既然是一種自卑的表現. &nbsp;希望是我理解錯誤。</span></p>','2025-09-17 14:47:00.996','2025-09-17 14:47:00.996',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 14:47:00.994',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c9a83d5-2502-4c87-b7b7-289d226b408b','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>弥赛亚情结：一种想要成为弥赛亚也就是他人的救世主的心理性反常。</p>','2025-09-17 15:12:53.456','2025-09-17 15:12:53.456',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 15:12:53.455',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b4ceccc4-69ae-487f-8c8c-4e1c2bcfeaaf','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>想要通过拯救他人使自己获救来体会到自己的价值，这是无法消除自卑感的人常常会陷入的优越情节的一种形态。</p>','2025-09-17 15:39:16.018','2025-09-17 15:39:16.018',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 15:39:16.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d440ca82-9c0d-48d4-b6a7-5a957c305bcc','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>社会上对赏罚向来都用来教育与处事待人，但阿德勒有其独到的见解，这是值得思考一的话题。</p>','2025-09-17 15:56:10.943','2025-09-17 15:56:10.943',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 15:56:10.942',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e87f3ad-a4c9-443c-8c7d-17e655573d1f','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>很多人想要成为救世主，觉得有&lsquo;我&rsquo;的价值。有所求，有目的性的，心里会陷入有优越情结。因此而产生烦恼。如果教育工作者以&rsquo;无我&lsquo;</p>
<p>的心去奉献，因才施教。</p>','2025-09-17 15:57:03.443','2025-09-17 15:57:03.443',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 15:57:03.442',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2db66aa6-0409-4c88-a785-a9b92995d136','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>▪️关系原则：平等、互助，而非施舍或拯救。</p>
<p>▪️真正的帮助：不给予依赖，不剥夺责任，而是让对方有力量自己站起来。</p>
<p>▪️救世主式领导 &rarr; 员工依赖、不成长</p>
<p>▪️真正的领导 &rarr; 赋能，让员工负责并成长</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-17 15:57:07.224','2025-09-17 15:57:07.224',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 15:57:07.223',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1f034c2-d771-4c5f-afbd-9ce9e41c871b','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 17 9月17日 (星期三)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">为什么人会想成为&ldquo;救世主&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">拯救者会通过扮演一种救世主的角色来体会到自己的价值，也使自已获救. &nbsp;这是无法消除自卑感的人，常常会陷入的情节里的一种形态，一般被称为&ldquo;弥赛亚情节&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">用高声怒吼的感情进行解决事情的人， 也是一种自卑感的表现.</span></p>','2025-09-17 15:58:04.957','2025-09-17 15:59:29.754',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 15:59:29.753',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('968af46c-2629-47bf-b3f6-11f5e6d58dfc','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p style="text-align: left;">信任非选项，是生存必选项；工作真谛：<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">人类组队对抗自然的终极策略</span></strong>。</p>','2025-09-17 21:09:15.386','2025-09-19 23:05:30.332',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 16:00:00','2025-09-19 23:05:30.331',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1143998f-17fb-4f97-9335-964ff24ea473','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;敎育並只不拿薪的工作罢了,&nbsp; 而是以交友的方式, 获得对方信任, 面向再自立再教育也誏自己学习获得幸福的勇氣.</p>','2025-09-15 00:19:03.252','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('308ea68e-375e-4886-aaa5-c18bcdf8e72b','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>一切烦恼取决于人际关系，但一切快乐也取决于人际关系；人是无法一个人存活在这世上的</p>','2025-09-17 15:57:45.139','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3612c92-c48c-41de-b925-d4960a189263','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>只有信赖自己才能信赖他人。</p>
<p>工作的关系是信任关系，而交友关系则是信赖关系。我们应该劳动，协作，贡献。</p>
<p>人类不可以单独生存，为了与他人分工，就必须相信他人。</p>','2025-09-17 13:42:32.11','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aafa7823-190a-4dcb-95cf-69b26b0d2803','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>人的快乐来自人际关系的快乐。第一所就是在学校。</p>','2025-09-19 15:47:37.065','2025-09-19 15:48:36.151',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 15:48:36.15',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('56a883a9-9479-4f0c-b5ee-cd05db4731b7','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>愛真的非常困難，我活到40歲才學會。</p>','2025-09-20 01:13:23.886','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aeff1235-cbc5-4b04-a7c0-84789a945bdb','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>在与精神病的少女治疗能当中阿德勒感到我是他的朋友，并且不是为这工作不是为这职业来面对这少女，而是作为一个朋友来相处。</p>
<p>这个真的是非常高的同理心值得我学习</p>
<p>心理咨询就是面向自立的再教育。<br>心理咨询师就是教育者，教育者就是心理咨询师。</p>
<p>作为一个朋友来面对学生因为你也是教育者，心理咨询师。</p>
<p>青年正在逃避由工作交友和爱这三大项目构成了人生课题</p>
<p>阿德勒强调与学生<br>真正建立，真正意义上的交友关系</p>
<p>老师和学生之间应该要建立的是交友关系而不是专业与学生的关系。<br>而不是高大高尚与低等的这个纵向关系，应该要是横向关系。</p>','2025-09-14 14:39:09.165','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a82a9766-d51f-4386-a736-b495896f9c8f','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>与女孩当朋友的相处方式跟她谈话，阿德勒治愈了女孩的重度精神障碍。</p>
<p>心理咨询就是面相自立的再教育， 心理咨询师就是教育者， 教育者就是心理咨询师。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-15 15:07:56.756','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a514b4f-73f0-4240-bde7-5294a8952ba0','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>不要把和学生的教育当作是工作，而是以尊重为基础的交友形式去给予帮助，那么或许青年就可以像阿德勒那样真正进入学生的内心去解救到他们了</p>','2025-09-16 08:28:33.217','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('afbe9330-5761-490a-9718-a8c284a1c554','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>心理咨询师就是教育者，教育者就是心理咨询师，我们应该以一个朋友来面对学生。</p>
<p>教育上的失败，以及感受不到幸福的原因是我们一直在逃避由工作，交友和爱这三大项构成的人生课体。</p>','2025-09-16 13:00:32.602','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6039cd7-bc8c-477b-ac81-0fd4f9c4e682','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>教育者需要不只是爰心，也要足够的耐心，你看阿德勒花了一个月的时间，才让少女开口说话。</p>
<p>我估计阿德勒真的是有足够的爱心，（也收到足夠的报酬吧？吗？）</p>
<p>曾经也是孩子学校的PIBG的一员，也是真的有把孩子们当朋友看待的老师，当然也有不少的当工作的老师们。</p>','2025-09-17 07:21:41.787','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c7b9acc-8820-4d06-b44b-213a8512d5e4','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>平等对待任何人，是最易受人爱待的师长、上司、同学等等。也因此易与人沟通、相处以及教育。</p>','2025-09-17 15:56:44.386','2025-09-18 01:02:36.596',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 01:02:36.596',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('32cdaf22-09cf-42fa-954d-93dc7cd3fd76','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>我们在教育学生的时候，要以朋友一样面对他们。让他们知道大人一点都不可怕，有什么事情都可以告诉大人。所以我们也不能嫌弃孩子们会分享欲，当他们愿意分享的时候也代表着他们愿意把心里的想法告诉我们。对的事情就称赞，不对也不必挨骂。不对的事情，首先尊重他的想法之后再告诉他为何不对，也可以分享故事给他们。因为教育的本质不是为了交好学生科目，而是要他们懂得思考和自立。</p>','2025-09-18 04:39:57.91','2025-09-18 04:49:57.474',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 04:49:57.473',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4faa349-0830-4208-a2d6-08c81032c26d','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>教育并不是一种&ldquo;工作&rdquo;，而更像是一种&ldquo;交友&rdquo;。教育者与孩子并非处于权威与服从的对立位置，而是彼此平等、相互尊重的伙伴关系。正如朋友之间的相处，不是命令与控制，而是理解与支持。</p>','2025-09-18 05:14:58.246','2025-09-18 05:15:05.292',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 05:15:05.29',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3c24855-e7a4-41bd-981e-b1f6aff61f66','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>像爱自己一样去爱邻人。</p>
<p>以自我为中心的人并不是因为喜欢自己才关注自己。而是无法接纳真实的自己，内心充满不安，所以才关心自己。</p>
<p>如果还没做到真正喜欢自己，就无法信赖他人，也无法信赖学生并与他们建立交友关系。</p>','2025-09-18 02:48:31.905','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa45c651-c540-47ce-aaa1-bf3d979ae205','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>特雷莎修女说为了世界和平，回家之后，请善待家人。信赖眼前人，与眼前人交朋友。</p>
<p>平凡的日常生活也是一种考验，需要做出许许多多的决断。逃避这些考验的人根本无法获得真正的幸福。</p>
<p>付出才能有收获。保持心灵富裕，将积蓄给于他人，不是坐等他人的尊重，而是自己主动去尊重，信赖他人，绝不能成为心灵贫困的人。</p>','2025-09-18 02:59:05.289','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ac2b16a-c331-4bbd-9b09-c9737b756b0f','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>教育是一份耐心的職業，好像交朋友的方式跟學生溝通。</p>','2025-09-18 11:43:42.5','2025-09-18 11:43:42.5',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 11:43:42.499',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed5850a4-17cf-4e9a-a6a4-7a582e8d654d','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>信任与信赖的分别：</p>
<p>工作关系是信任关系</p>
<p>交友关系关系是信赖关系。</p>
<p>人类总是要生存与吃饭的，要吃饭，就要劳动，所以劳动、協作和贡献是我们人类需要做的。</p>
<p>而因此就产生了关系，而建立关系是人生的课题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-18 06:45:25.215','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d67682f2-4db5-40d5-922c-0b71f620299c','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>教育就是把孩子当朋友对待，让他们得到尊重，以真正的自己（不是伪装）学习、发表。让他们这样学会自立，和有勇气面对与表达自我，因而感到有价值。</p>','2025-09-18 13:19:08.426','2025-09-18 13:19:08.426',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 13:19:08.425',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d023fc1d-0d82-47cb-880b-ce385f508c84','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>像爱你自己一样爱你的邻人</p>
<p>如果不能爱自己也就无法爱他人，如果不能信赖自己也就无法信赖他人。</p>
<p>以自我为中心的人并不是因为喜欢自己才只关注自己。<br>事实恰恰相反，正因为无法接纳真实的自己，内心充满不安，所以才只关心自己<br>你还没有做到真正喜欢自己，所以你才无法信赖他人，也无法信赖学生并与之建立交友关系。</p>
<p>信赖他人，建立交友关系，只有这一个办法。<br>我们如果仅仅是投身于工作的话，根本无法获得幸福。<br>这里需要课题分离，他人怎么想你，对你什么态度，这是自己根本无法控制的他人的课题。</p>
<p>正因为我们人类是无法互相理解的存在，所以才只能选择信赖。</p>','2025-09-18 12:28:08.553','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('53de5e2f-6c78-44bd-9a52-3b098a4af5d1','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>阿德勒把访客当平等的人，与其谈话，用&ldquo;友好的眼神&rdquo;注视她。当她开始讲话，就感觉到&ldquo;我是她的朋友&rdquo;。阿德勒以一个朋友与之相处。</p>
<p>作为教育者，应以&ldquo;一个朋友&rdquo;来面对学生。</p>
<p>无法感受到幸福，因为逃避由工作、交友和爱构成的&ldquo;人生课题&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-18 13:32:14.492','2025-09-18 13:32:14.492',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 13:32:14.491',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f69d3aac-4600-4214-8292-02ce457e1c98','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 18 9月18日 (星期四)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教育不是&ldquo;工作&rdquo;而是&ldquo;交友&rdquo;（Page 094-097）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">真正的教育不是传授知识，而是建立信任；不是角色权威，而是真诚的连结。</span></p>','2025-09-18 14:40:41.985','2025-09-18 14:40:41.985',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 14:40:41.984',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bfb85a0d-4a5c-4640-b17f-6b30af058392','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>教育者在教育孩子们的时候必须当作在与他们&ldquo;交朋友&rdquo;，让他们感受到被尊重。</p>','2025-09-18 14:02:52.394','2025-09-18 14:02:52.394',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 14:02:52.393',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9b26fdc-a215-4676-a5b4-ef84324aed85','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>哲人指出, 青年教育失败的根源是将教育视为&ldquo;工作&rdquo;而非&ldquo;交友&rdquo;, 真正的教育需以朋友身份与学生建立平等信任的关系，否则无法触及人心。</p>','2025-09-18 14:07:05.906','2025-09-18 14:08:40.066',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 14:08:40.065',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7cc0ccd4-b910-45ca-bb3f-94a105b84944','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>人类是不可能單獨生存的, 與朋友交是無条件互相信賴, 而信任是有附帶条件的, 為了生存工作我們需要與他人进行分工, 完成工作的条件就必须互相信任.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-18 13:21:01.354','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d5a6082f-d127-4dc8-956c-22d1ef6585f9','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>亚当.斯密分工的根源就在于人类的利己心。追求利己心的结果就是他者贡献。</p>
<p>决定人的价值不是从事什么样的工作，而是以什么样的态度致力于自己的工作。</p>
<p>醉心于正义的人无法认同异于自己的价值观，最终往往会发展为正义的干涉。</p>','2025-09-18 12:55:22.807','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('923b6c57-fe2c-4477-b958-d37ba73b2bd4','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>阿德勒论点教育的目标是自立，教育者应该做的工作是帮助其自立，而应该从尊重做起，实事求是地看待一个人其独特个性。</p>
<p>尊重与信赖同义，我们无法信赖一个自己不尊重的人。最重要的不是被给于了什么，而是如何去利用被给于的东西。</p>','2025-09-18 13:16:40.892','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d029cdd7-be6d-4cbb-a7ce-9c9c18a13e3e','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>教育的目标是自立， 教育者应该做的是''帮助其自立''， 帮助自立从''尊重''做起。</p>
<p>尊重就是~实事求是地看待一个人， 认识其独特性。</p>
<p>无条件相信(信赖) 就是不把自己价值观强加于人，尊重其真实本色。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-18 15:13:06.475','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('75829538-69f8-4e98-9578-523e549cb9ee','fe2a0ec9-f7c5-4597-bec0-4d7b768f9a51','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>覺得自卑或是害怕受傷害，只是一種藉口。</p>
<p>命中注定能夠見到的那個人，只有在科幻片裡面才會出現。</p>','2025-09-20 01:56:14.535','2025-10-01 00:00:00.114',NULL,'f','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3bb3ebdc-10d1-4279-ab90-14ce6a569d12','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy emphasizes that education is not a &ldquo;task&rdquo; to be completed, nor is it a &ldquo;job&rdquo; to control others.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When we view it as friendship&mdash;through communication, understanding, and insight&mdash;it becomes a process of equality, respect, and mutual growth, ultimately building genuine relationships.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>I strongly believe that educators&mdash;whether parents, teachers, or mentors&mdash;are partners who encourage independence and growth. Just like in friendship, both sides influence, cooperate, and learn from each other.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In my view, education should never be a burden of oppression or responsibility, but rather a practice of shared life. When we guide others with a friendly and equal attitude, trust is built, and learning naturally occurs.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>From a broader perspective, human relationships can also become more harmonious and lasting when they are less authoritarian and controlling and more equal and respectful.</p>','2025-09-18 15:32:29.755','2025-09-18 15:32:29.755',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 15:32:29.753',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('761d1213-0afa-4f5e-8672-4de4687cde99','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>教育不是权威性的工作，而是平等的交友。</p>
<p>真正的教育与管理，都是彼此尊重、共同成长的过程。</p>','2025-09-18 15:53:20.201','2025-09-18 15:53:20.201',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 15:53:20.2',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3df7e363-a168-441c-9d65-280cc33954ff','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">Day 18 9月18日 (星期四)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第三章 由竞争原理到协作原理</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教育不是&ldquo;工作&rdquo;而是&ldquo;交友&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">化敌为友， 慈悲无敌人， 智慧解千愁.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">用耐心，爱和善良的对待. 可以感化和软化一个把心门锁上的人. 这可是见极大挑战的事啊！ 如果能做到就是智者. </span></p>','2025-09-18 15:59:54.284','2025-09-18 16:00:15.738',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-18 16:00:15.736',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f16bc73-eed8-43fd-ae24-60d3c91d561b','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>這裡講得很有道理。</p>
<p>信賴的朋友我才願意花時間去溝通，我說相信的道理。因為就算他們不同意，我也知道他們的心裡是信賴我的。</p>','2025-09-18 23:57:20.93','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f51a59ce-ee7d-4506-961f-8d0e7f5214d2','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>永远无法相互了解</p>
<p>如果不能爱自己，也就无法爱他人。 如果不能信赖自己，也就无法信赖他人。 无法信赖他人， 其实是因为你不能彻底信赖自己。</p>
<p>以自我为中心的人并不是因为喜欢自己才只关注自己，相反的正因为无法接纳真实的知己， 内心充满不安， 所以才只关心自己。</p>
<p>因为我们人类是无法相互理解的存在, 所以才只能选择信赖.</p>','2025-09-19 06:09:58.673','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('86ea3806-a8c2-475b-b96e-621ccc252bd3','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp; ー切快樂都與人际关係有关連,&nbsp; 既人生課題： 工作、 交友、 和愛 , 在這些关係中 以第三者去听、 看、 感受.就是共同体的前題.</p>','2025-09-15 00:27:26.498','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6e2b473a-984e-46c1-8b88-0a724a668535','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>阿德勒把一个人在社会上生存时必须面对的课题成为人生课题。</p>
<p>不是关注行为而是关注关系因为一切烦恼幸福都是从人际关系而来。</p>
<p>真的人的快乐也是源自于人际关系</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们在交友的时候，会学着用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受</p>
<p>孩子们最初学习交友发掘共同体感觉的场所就是学校。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>因为在学校孩子学习共同体感觉，所以老师有必要去和学生做朋友，让孩子习得共同体感觉</p>','2025-09-15 02:49:42.874','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5eb3ee96-0f1c-47f5-a78e-c186bc8440bf','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>一却的快乐与悲伤都来自人。</p>
<p>我们本是群体动物，无法独自生活。</p>
<p>交友的时侯，会学着用他人眼晴去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受。</p>
<p>看不懂作者想要表达啥意思。</p>
<p>明天再继续看下去。</p>','2025-09-17 08:51:53.864','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08b44e05-0b8f-4f35-a077-727a0bf03e18','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>不敢交往=不敢生活。教育精髓：在交友中学会&ldquo;<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">穿上别人的鞋</span></strong>&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-17 21:11:03.419','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54caa821-cd6c-4f30-a580-924e9fc8612b','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>被动坠入的爱，就是拥有欲和征服欲。</p>
<p>阿德勒主张的是能动的爱的方法，也就是爱他人的方法。获得他人的爱很难，但是爱他人更是难上加难。</p>','2025-09-20 11:25:00.169','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ada1003-c5a4-4eca-b5fb-6e9ae212d02c','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>信任就是有條件的去相信對方。</p>
<p>交友應該以信賴為基礎.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-18 23:30:16.608','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d1814c28-c678-4f0a-8873-c18e02fdb9ee','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>职业不分高低貧賤,而是什么样的態度致力予自己的工作,在分工关係申完成自己的份内事,以達到利己利他的合作關係, 因為無論什么样的工作的價值都是相等的.</p>','2025-09-19 05:51:09.613','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a7b429d7-bd8d-492d-884a-3fe57ee16ec0','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>以信賴的方式和交友的方式去和學生互相分工是非常有趣的概念。</p>
<p>和學生分工去維持整個學校的清潔，尊重他們能夠勝任，能夠信賴他們會將被公公的工作做好，是交友的基本概念。</p>
<p>同樣的概念可以應用在家裡的教育。讓小孩可以獨立自主</p>','2025-09-18 23:46:42.487','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ed8596f-eeaa-41ed-b897-7f34cb07a23e','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>爱是需要慢慢培养，而不是被动坠入。它需要在意志力的作用下从无到有慢慢培养起来。</p>
<p>爱是两人结合后的关系。不是只想要获得，拥有，征服它而已。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-19 08:52:33.816','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97580050-856a-48de-a81c-bbae15fb7205','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>学校是我们学习打开人际关系的地方，透过每一次的交流也能找出自己的共同体。孩子们的单纯没有目的性的交朋友，从小学会用眼看，用耳听和用心感受。长大之后，我们也会察言观色并且用不同方式与不同的人交际。</p>','2025-09-19 07:21:31.055','2025-09-19 07:21:31.055',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 07:21:31.054',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a558f63-457d-48ad-b849-70c2d318b857','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>一个人在社会上生存时，必须面对的课题称为&ldquo;人生课题&rdquo;。而这人生课题，即工作、交友、爱，关键都是人际关系课题。</p>
<p>一切烦恼都是人际关系的烦恼。所以社会的诞生就是苦恼的诞生。</p>
<p>人的快乐也源于人际关系。独自生存没有烦恼，但也没快乐。</p>
<p>通过交友关系学习人格知识，挖掘共同体感觉。</p>
<p>孩子们最初学习&ldquo;交友&rdquo;、挖掘共同体感觉的场所就是学校。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-19 10:27:08.414','2025-09-19 10:27:08.414',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 10:27:08.413',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('903ea643-1b67-4afd-8c7d-b1eabbc48653','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>一切烦恼有来源于人际关系；反之，一切快乐也都来源于人际关系。</p>
<p>独自生存在宇宙中的人没有烦恼但也没有快乐，且将会极其乏味的度过一生</p>','2025-09-19 12:11:05.506','2025-09-19 12:11:05.506',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 12:11:05.503',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('56c21645-bfdc-486b-a4ba-29e12bd43dd1','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>人生的快乐来自于人际关系的快乐，这就是幸福的定义。</p>
<p>交友的心态，听他所听、看他所看、感觉他所感觉，这就是人际关系的基本。</p>
<p>交友让我们由内而外挖掘共同体的感觉，为他人付出/贡献。</p>','2025-09-19 12:52:04.114','2025-09-19 12:52:04.114',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 12:52:04.11',NULL,NULL);
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<p>阿德勒就是一位质疑社会常识，挖掘其他角度，提倡反常识的哲学家</p>
<p>爱并非像一部分心理学家所认为的那样他不是纯粹或者自然的功能</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>正因为他需要在意志力的作用下从无道到有慢慢培养起来，所以爱的课题才非常困难</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>只是想要获得，拥有，征服他而已</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>本质上和物欲一样</p>
<p>阿德的关注的是两个人结合以后的关系</p>
<p>他已改主张的是能动的爱的方法</p>
<p>也就是爱他人的方法</p>
<p>爱他人是难上好几倍的课题</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-19 10:27:51.387','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7816de6f-30b0-4823-912f-ef7104e33e7c','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 19 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">19</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期五</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">一切快乐也都是人际关系的快乐（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 099-104</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：人际关系处理得好，万事都能被解决</span></p>','2025-09-19 14:04:31.672','2025-09-19 14:04:31.672',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 14:04:31.671',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8820211-21eb-47f5-98a4-7ddeffd393dc','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>一切烦恼都是人际关系的烦恼 = 一切快乐也都是人际关系的快乐</p>
<p>交友时学会用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受</p>','2025-09-19 15:08:18.479','2025-09-19 15:08:18.479',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 15:08:18.478',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb353f34-1f3a-4e8e-82a6-6934989c0d74','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>共同体能建立友情、和谐、关爱，是种很捧的思想。致于如何实践，只有期待下文了！</p>','2025-09-19 15:17:50.287','2025-09-19 15:17:50.287',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-19 15:17:50.286',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ed855af-0023-44c7-8919-7e96d3bcd97a','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>教育从尊重开始，成长靠善用既有；关系深度，看你敢不敢。</p>','2025-09-19 23:32:31.632','2025-09-21 22:41:14.589',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 16:00:00','2025-09-21 22:41:14.588',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8fd86d7-0443-494a-9c77-a748b63caa7d','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>信賴別人真的是個超能力。</p>
<p>對別人越放心的時候，自己心裡就更輕鬆。同時也就更喜歡自己自在的那一面。可以完全專注於自己想要做的事情。</p>
<p>但有個重點就是讓你信賴的人沒有達成他該做的事情，自己千萬不要因此而失望。</p>','2025-09-19 13:31:54.17','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f1b8dac-3b9e-4990-acdb-7366c8a1c7da','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>非常實用。為了世界和平，每個人只要跟眼前的人交朋友，開始讓自己從鬥爭中解放出來，這就是第一步。</p>
<p>付出然後才有收穫，這是宇宙間的定律。</p>','2025-09-19 13:38:16.845','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5390396c-9905-48ca-98ef-10bec2a7890c','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>工作关系是信任关系， 而交友关系是信赖关系</p>
<p>工作关系是不可避免一定要有的关系，所以是信任的课题</p>
<p>但交友不存在非交这个朋友不可，所以是一种出自于对某人的喜欢，是偏向无条件的信赖</p>
<p>工作是因为人为了生存就必须互相协作，依赖，分工；所以就必须要相信他人</p>
<p>所以是人生课题，因为为了生存，我们需要分工，所以需要建立关系，需要有信任</p>','2025-09-18 16:15:41.08','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('10d587e2-2350-4bfc-8c1a-9b335cf39e58','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>信任就是有条件的相信对方</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>信赖是在相信他人的时候不附加任何条件</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>只有信赖自己才能信赖他人</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>工作和交友就是信任还是信赖的区别。</p>
<p>交友根本不存在必须和这个人交友的理由。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>阿德勒关注的是使工作成立的人际关系。人类在此掌握了分工这一划时代的劳动方式。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人形成社会是为了劳动，为了分工，生存以建立社会。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>阿德勒总结符合逻辑和常识的答案，就是我们应该劳动协作贡献</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人类不可以单独生存，为了与他人进行分工就必须相信别人。</p>
<p>与不信任的对象根本无法协作。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人类无法选择不信任，根本不可能不协作，不分工并不是因为喜欢那个人所以才协作而是不得不协作的关系。</p>','2025-09-16 06:00:18.813','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8aa64916-9084-4fb2-8331-04a0776d2320','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>信任h就是有条件相信对方。</p>
<p>信赖是无条件相信</p>
<p>只有信赖自己才能信赖他人。</p>
<p>阿德勒提出 工作&nbsp; 交友&nbsp; 和&nbsp; 爱， 这人生三大课题都与人际关系的距离和深度密切相关。</p>
<p>工作就是在地球这一严酷自然环境中生存下去的生产手段。 工作与生存 紧密相关的课题。</p>
<p>分工是人类补偿身体劣势而发明地生存战略。人类不可以单独生存， 为了与他人进行''分工''就必须相信他人。</p>','2025-09-18 14:48:00.407','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a8974ee5-a5c5-4174-9be7-6676b3ee6b85','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>把一個人從在嬰兒的時候用脆弱支配著他人，提拔到長大之後自己也能找到「我們的幸福」，這就是教育的目地.</p>','2025-09-20 01:10:23.686','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('940be13d-69b9-4239-8db5-57807ae239e4','22d94086-e8e8-463d-97f0-ee38a723d516','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>第一次讀到有人能夠分析第一個之女到第三個子女的心理層面上不同。</p>','2025-09-20 01:19:15.234','2025-09-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3fa4287b-9d2f-404f-8233-d8caa9e6eb75','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>信任是条件的存在，而信赖是条件并不存在。尤其是在职场上的我们可能可以自己独自完成工作任务，但如果不能单独完成的时候就需要信任他人协助自己完成。我们在这世上就是要学会群体，即使你是个自闭的人也会有属于自己的朋友，所以我们绝不会一辈子的孤独。信赖身边最亲和很好的人，信赖工作伙伴。</p>','2025-09-20 01:34:36.44','2025-09-20 01:34:36.44',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 01:34:36.439',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('671a6b55-0ec0-44dc-a48f-29817746d172','63a45693-6ec0-4c36-a0a1-1e18982b845c','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>主動去愛，自力起來，選擇人生。</p>','2025-09-20 02:09:49.559','2025-10-03 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08773a7e-6c7c-4870-bdd4-923a0ce121a0','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>在现实生活中，我们习惯先观察对方&ldquo;值得不值得信任&rdquo;，才决定要不要付出。但阿德勒告诉我们，真正的幸福来自无条件的信赖，这是先付出后收获的过程。</p>','2025-09-20 04:09:35.495','2025-09-20 04:13:12.009',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 04:13:12.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15c6b3cf-878a-44de-89c4-4f79d9fa56b2','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>人要靠建立人际关系生存</p>','2025-09-20 14:00:02.173','2025-09-20 14:00:02.173',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 14:00:02.172',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2da55eb1-d228-497b-b5e8-6b873ba17c75','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 20 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">20</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期六</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">是&ldquo;信任&rdquo;还是&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;？（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 105-110</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟： </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">信任=有條件的相信（工作）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">信賴：無條件的相信（交友）</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-20 14:03:56.397','2025-09-20 14:03:56.397',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 14:03:56.396',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6e0565a6-d6a0-45b3-b275-bc08d2b9b126','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>到年輕荷爾蒙作祟的時候，所謂的一見鍾情其實只是想要獲得，擁有，征服他。</p>
<p>那種愛情的漩渦不叫做愛。</p>','2025-09-20 00:55:23.198','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed51a84f-bf16-4180-a1b4-acd4019c3aa5','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>我們都是在感到「我對別人有用」的時候才能抵不到自己的價值。</p>
<p>所以要先付出，然後才有收穫。接著才會有「我們的幸福」的感覺。那感覺就叫做愛。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-20 01:04:48.893','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee7b8763-aac4-4dcf-a046-f752928acb88','640f1918-aea3-490d-8a42-39e2a7c8a48d','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>結婚不是找對象，我是選擇生活方。</p>
<p>牽起身邊人的手，盡情盡力的去跳舞，命運由此開始。</p>
<p>這句話實在太經典了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-20 02:05:29.601','2025-10-02 00:00:00.049',NULL,'f','2025-10-02 00:00:00.015','2025-10-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d48cb3d8-2e9f-4bdc-afac-ddfee92e7934','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Chapter 27:&nbsp; 一切快乐也都是人际关系的快乐</p>
<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy argues that in order to survive in society, everyone must face life&rsquo;s challenges, including the complexities of interpersonal relationships. Likewise, all happiness also stems from interpersonal connections.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>The idea that &ldquo;all human happiness is the happiness of interpersonal relationships&rdquo; is profoundly true. Whether it is with family, friends, partners, teachers, students, or even strangers, happiness is always rooted in human connections.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In my view, the courage to be happy means not fearing rejection in relationships but instead having the willingness to build bonds, share, and care for others. Happiness is not about seeking a &ldquo;problem-free life,&rdquo; but about having the courage to engage in relationships even when there is friction or loneliness.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>True happiness is not achieved alone, but realized through relationships.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Chapter 28: 是&lsquo;信任&rsquo;，还是&lsquo;信賴&rsquo; ？</p>
<p>Entrustment requires courage. It means giving unconditionally&mdash;no strings attached, no hidden control&mdash;only a recognition of human dignity and values.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In such relationships, whether in friendship or work, we stand as equals, learning and supporting each other.&nbsp; When relationships rely solely on &ldquo;trust,&rdquo; they are fragile and prone to suspicion.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>But when founded on &ldquo;entrustment,&rdquo; they offer genuine encouragement, allow room for mistakes and imperfection, and create space for growth and improvement.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Chapter 29: 为什么&lsquo;工作&rsquo;会成为人生的课题</p>
<p>Work is not merely a means of survival but a vital life task.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When we reduce work to competition or work towards money-making or status, we inevitably fall into comparison, anxiety, and even a loss of self-worth.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>However, if we see work as a stage for &ldquo;contribution, connection, and belonging,&rdquo; it becomes a source of happiness.</p>','2025-09-20 05:04:54.205','2025-09-20 05:17:42.946',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 05:17:42.942',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5ae3583-3430-4fdb-b4a0-4f7047dcf434','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>信任，是基于条件的相信；信赖，是无条件地相信。信任看重的是&ldquo;条件&rdquo;，而信赖看重的则是&ldquo;人本身&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-20 07:40:38.298','2025-09-20 07:40:38.298',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 07:40:38.297',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a38277e-77b9-4d5f-ac1a-c7bfb7ec03b9','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>信任&rarr;有条件的地相信对方</p>
<p>信赖&rarr;无任何条件的相信他人</p>
<p>&ldquo;只有信赖自己才能信赖他人&rdquo;</p>
<p>人类无法独自生存，也无法选择不信任，必须建立关系。为了与他人进行分工，就必须相信别人。</p>','2025-09-20 09:00:05.237','2025-09-20 09:00:05.237',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 09:00:05.229',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9bea129b-3099-47ae-be94-a1844fa45388','2f3947f7-0bf0-4c7e-b3d4-6912e3773f77','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>阿德勒的思想關於自立和教育，愛和幸福都是淺顯易懂的不普通的普通知識。</p>
<p>從今開始要努力實踐。</p>','2025-09-20 12:45:15.45','2025-10-05 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-10-05 00:00:00.027','2025-10-05 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4b658546-f272-4e35-9315-ae6a02f5340b','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>如果想要让世界远离战争，首先必须自己从争斗中解放出来。</p>
<p>我们必须保持心灵富裕，并将其中的积蓄给于他人。不是坐等他人的尊重，而是自己主动去尊重，信赖他人。绝不能成为心灵贫困的人。</p>
<p>付出，然后才有收获。</p>','2025-09-20 11:05:45.256','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('beae3773-1fe3-445d-9f8a-41311f32d7b8','66e56cb2-675b-4049-83c4-5254df659b0d','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>阿德勒的思想關於自立和教育，愛和幸福都是淺顯易懂的不普通的普通知識。</p>
<p>從今開始要努力實踐。</p>','2025-09-20 12:45:33.845','2025-10-06 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-10-06 00:00:00.03','2025-10-06 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08c5275c-2e2d-4c39-aa6f-dd2f18c0dbcf','522fb1a5-a085-49d0-b429-cd0ad4b3249e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>沒錯，當有緣分跟一個人花時間相處，就應該珍惜當下。當該分別的時候，也可以感覺無所遺憾。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>迎接最佳的分別吧。</p>','2025-09-20 12:38:54.577','2025-10-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5463d9bd-c8cf-410b-bb28-575b437a261f','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>在擊友面前可以摘下面具，即使伤害到对方，关系也不会破裂。真真正正的信赖是彻彻底底的能动行为。不信赖他人的人就连正面辩论也做不到。</p>','2025-09-20 10:42:12.255','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f66b7091-964f-4c46-b3a6-eef83e85bfd0','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>&ldquo;信任&rdquo;是有条件地相信对方。&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;则不附加条件地相信他人。只有信赖自己才能信赖他人。</p>
<p>工作关系是信任的关系，而交友关系是信赖。交友不存在&ldquo;必须和这个人交友的理由&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>工作是生存的生产手段。</p>
<p>阿德勒关注的是使工作成立的人际关系。</p>
<p>人类身体方面处于劣势，所以选择集体生活、共同抵御外敌。</p>
<p>&ldquo;分工&rdquo;是人类补偿身体劣势而发明的生产战略。</p>
<p>生存、劳动与建立社会，三者密不可分。所以我们应该劳动、协作、贡献。</p>
<p>人类无法单独生存，必须与他人进行分工，所以必须相信他人，必须建立关系。</p>','2025-09-20 15:23:02.758','2025-09-20 15:23:02.758',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 15:23:02.757',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0b2ce691-fbf8-4bec-b8be-d8e690ce5137','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>人没办法独自生存，必须靠建立人际关系。信任是以对方的背景、能力为基础条件而相信与对方建立人际关系而达到相互的利益交换而换来的想要的成果。</p>
<p>而信赖，只因为喜欢，并没有任何条件去相信。</p>','2025-09-20 13:50:55.801','2025-09-20 13:50:55.801',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 13:50:55.8',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c06a7f6-d504-4ef5-85f0-798a445ba314','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>人类要生存，得懂得互相信任、协作与分工，这是必要之事。</p>
<p>我们须认清自己是群体动物，唯有这才能自保与护他。</p>','2025-09-20 13:56:49.604','2025-09-20 13:56:49.604',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 13:56:49.603',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e2beee8b-651c-428c-9fde-459fe8491f50','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>如果不能爱自己也就无法爱他人，如果不能信赖自己也就无法信赖他人。</p>
<p>信赖他人，建立交友关系，只有这一个办法才能获得真正的归属感。我们如果仅仅是投身于工作的话，根本无法获得幸福。</p>
<p>正因为我们人类是无法互相理解的存在，所以才只能选择信赖。</p>','2025-09-20 10:53:25.303','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('abda5271-5267-48d7-bd94-f64b0afaac07','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 20 9月20日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">是&ldquo;信任&rdquo;还是&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;信任&rdquo;是有条件的相信对方</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;是不附加任何条件的相信对方</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">工作关系是&ldquo;信任关系&rdquo;， 而交友关系则是&ldquo;信赖关系&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">工作是与生存紧密相关的课题.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们应该劳动，协作，贡献. 人与人的互助合作.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人类不可能单独生存.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们必须劳动， 必须分工，必须与他人建立关系. 为了与他人进行分工，就必须相信别人，与不信任的对象根本无法协作. </span></p>','2025-09-20 15:37:59.357','2025-09-20 15:37:59.357',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 15:37:59.356',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('876099eb-4927-42ec-8130-12630bac9cd8','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 20 9月20日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">是&ldquo;信任&rdquo;还是&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;？（Page 105-110）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">工作关系是&rdquo;信任&rdquo;关系。交友关系则是&rdquo;信赖&rdquo;关系。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">信任你，是因为你能做事；信赖你，是因为你是你。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">真正有力量的教育，是在专业中融入信赖。</span></p>','2025-09-20 15:48:56.89','2025-09-20 15:48:56.89',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 15:48:56.888',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d5d190f-b287-4e33-bc8c-450fd63a591b','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>尊重所有工作岗位，他们的存在都有价值所在。很不欣赏那些老板对于员工的不尊重了。没有这些员工怎能让公司运作顺利。决定人价值的不是从事什么样工作，而是以什么样的态度致力于自己工作。</p>','2025-09-10 13:24:37.482','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('39d78c71-d851-4f50-b4df-d9f5715b4843','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>分工的根源就是人类的''利己心''。</p>
<p>分工社会中， ''利己''发展到极致就会导致''利他''结果。</p>
<p>从共同整体来考虑，每份工作都必须有人去做， 不分优劣/贵贱， 而是工作态度~诚实而真挚地致力于工作的态度。 批判善恶~正义的干涉。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-18 15:02:44.259','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77fce50a-8000-4ab7-9a41-43435661e1a9','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>追求利己心的结果是他者贡献。</p>
<p>一切工作都是共同体中必须有人去做的事情，只是分工不同而已。</p>
<p>决定人的价值不是从事什么样的工作，而是以什么样的态度致力于自己的工作。</p>','2025-09-16 01:10:36.355','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('33e94808-1f1f-4c44-a7f1-e0f18511da7c','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>工作不分贵贱。</p>
<p>人类以利己为基础来分工。</p>
<p>利己最终结果是他者贡献。</p>
<p>人的价值不是从事什么工作，而是以什么样的态度对待自己的工作。</p>
<p>我把自己照顾好，专心做自己本分的事，已经是他者贡献者了。</p>','2025-09-18 09:14:45.524','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e950339-3a66-4e72-be4e-dbbe0bb1bb85','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p><span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);"><strong>没有小角色</strong></span>，只有差态度；<strong><span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);">分工越多样</span></strong>，<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">团队越强大</span></strong>。</p>','2025-09-19 23:13:28.38','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50dae26c-2149-456e-a5ed-fe40636de51b','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>阿德勒对爱的注解：&ldquo;爱并非像一部分心理学家所认为的那样，它不是纯粹或者自然的功能&rdquo;。也就是说，爱既不是由命运决定的事情，又不是自发的事情。我们并不是&ldquo;被动坠入&rdquo;爱。</p>
<p>阿德勒认为爱需要培养起来。如果仅仅是&ldquo;被动坠入&rdquo;的爱，人类的爱既不是神性或动物性的&rdquo;人类之爱&ldquo;。爱是人生课题，正因为它需要在意志力的作用下从无到有慢慢培养起来。</p>
<p>对阿德勒，爱是两个人共同完成的课题。</p>','2025-09-22 12:25:38.505','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a072ff4-a53d-4728-966b-735bb7176b1f','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 27 9月27日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第五章 选择爱的人生</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">爱是&ldquo;有两个人共同完成的课题&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;爱&rdquo;是由两个人共同完成的课题.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">幸福及贡献感，我们都只有在感到对某人有用的时候才能够体会到自己的价值. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">为了获得幸福的生活，就应该让&ldquo;自我&rdquo;消失. </span></p>','2025-09-20 15:58:25.32','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b83a76b4-f7e9-400b-abaa-dde04e614847','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>亚当斯密断言分工的根源就在于人类的利己心。</p>
<p>在分工社会中利己发展到极致就会导致利他的结果</p>
<p>追求利己心的结果就是他者贡献</p>
<p>一切工作都是共同体中必须有人去做的事情，只是我们分工不同而已。</p>
<p>阿德勒说人的价值由如何完成共同体中自己被分配的分工任务来决定。<br>决定人价值的不是从事什么样的工作而是以什么样的态度致力于自己的工作。<br>并没有工作是比较重要的，大家工作都一样。只有致力于工作的态度不一样</p>
<p>最危险的就是提出和为善和为恶之类的不明朗的正义。</p>
<p>醉心于正义的人无法认同异于自己的价值观。<br>最终往往会发展为正义的干涉，而这种干涉的结果就是自由被剥夺整齐划一的乏味社会。</p>
<p>你从事什么工作都可以和别人从事什么工作也都没有关系。</p>','2025-09-17 07:34:05.751','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
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<p data-start="756" data-end="836"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">态度比职位更重要，</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">一个人的价值，不是由&ldquo;他做什么&rdquo;决定，而是由&ldquo;他如何去做&rdquo;决定。认真负责，诚实合作的人，比职位更能赢得尊重。</span></p>','2025-09-20 04:12:52.446','2025-09-21 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025','2025-09-21 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ddaf704d-e0b9-430f-9dce-bdb4a5392f64','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>职业不分贵贱，每个行业都有它存在的价值和意义。其实这也是身为疗养院工作的自己感同身受，因为要管理几位外籍员工也是一种挑战。我正在学习如何以尊重的心来对待他们，虽然他们会把它当作理所当然。一段时间后就会被长期欺压，所以导致自己已经在看贬每一位外籍员工 (不是职业) 。我们每个人都在贡献并且得到利益 (钱)，有时候是物质上的东西。但我们也不能贬低任何一份在世上所存在的职业，即使是不归大众知道的也一样。</p>','2025-09-21 01:39:45.025','2025-09-21 01:39:45.025',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 01:39:45.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e595bb7c-b9fb-466a-b561-bad3f061614b','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>20/9（105-110）</p>
<ul>
<li>工作关系是&ldquo;信任关系&rdquo;，工作关系伴随着某些利害或外在要素的附带条件的关系</li>
<li>交友关系是&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;关关系，交友根本不存在&ldquo;必须和这个人交友的理由&rdquo;</li>
<li>为了生存需要分工，为了分工需要相互信任，并且无可选择。我们不能单独生存，也无法选择不信任，必须建立关系</li>
</ul>
<p>21/9（111-114）</p>
<ul>
<li>决定人价值的不是&ldquo;从事什么样的工作&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;以什么样的态度致力&rdquo;于自己的工作。</li>
<li>追求利己心的结果就是&ldquo;他者贡献&rdquo;，一切工作都是&ldquo;共同体必须有人去做的事情&rdquo;，不分贵贱，只是分工不同而已</li>
<li>如果是没有价值的工作，就不需要任何人去做，很快就会被淘汰</li>
<li>醉心于正义的人无法认同异于自己的价值观，最终往往会发展成&ldquo;正义的干涉&rdquo;</li>
</ul>','2025-09-21 03:06:43.167','2025-09-21 03:22:08.93',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 03:22:08.929',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2fe2d3be-1c11-4c93-a1f6-34a9789dba70','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler emphasizes: &ldquo;What matters is not what we are given, but how we use what is given.&rdquo; This is profoundly true.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Whatever the conditions&mdash;talent, environment, family, or appearance&mdash;the essential point is whether we approach them with respect and trust, and use them to build cooperative relationships.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Thus, the course of life is not determined by what we have, but by how we understand and make use of what we are given.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In short: The essence of life does not lie in what we receive, but in what we create from it.</p>','2025-09-22 13:35:53.347','2025-09-22 13:35:53.347',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 13:35:53.346',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('37a629c5-3ed9-45a4-a9d6-a542ca20bacd','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>尊重=信赖，交友的心态。</p>
<p>无条件的信任，信赖并尊重一位陌生人，不管他的性格是如何，取决于自己&ldquo;愿不愿意&rdquo;的心态。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 12:00:04.331','2025-09-22 12:00:04.331',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 12:00:04.323',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('483624c6-fde3-42ff-8ecf-364deb8d348e','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>爱是由两个人共同完成的课题，过上幸福的生活。幸福，也就是贡献感。这既不是利己或利他，而是放下自我，对双方都有利的贡献。所以，爱是一场为彼此贡献的共修。</p>','2025-09-22 12:38:33.023','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d96e1a2-28b0-410e-8425-8b462eaa0f8a','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>爱是由2个人共同完成的课题，不是我的、也不是你的幸福，而是我们的幸福，唯有这样，我们才可以脱离自我，从自我中心性中解脱。</p>','2025-09-22 13:39:04.394','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db8c128c-1d9e-4b90-9aa1-fe52a8e0a21b','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>爱就是从自我中释放出来，孩童时代的我们通过脆弱支配大人们。脆弱是人际关系中极具杀伤力的武器。</p>
<p>我们不能总是君临世界中心，必须与世界和解，明白自己是世界的一部分。自立就是脱离自我中心性。</p>','2025-09-21 10:13:17.324','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a9e9e4d-ccd2-46b3-9cb9-c6a7de6087be','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>各行各业的存在有其意义与价值，没有高低之分。这真是平等观，对社会的和谐极为重要。</p>','2025-09-21 10:46:04.143','2025-09-21 10:46:04.143',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 10:46:04.142',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88fa9b49-8635-4688-8010-df9c5b88a6aa','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>分工关系中很重视每个人的能力。在分工社会中，&ldquo;利己&rdquo;发展到极致就会导致&ldquo;利他的结果&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-21 11:20:17.79','2025-09-21 11:20:17.79',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 11:20:17.789',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b377b191-e562-4099-a759-831685c0c2b5','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>职业不分高低，最重要是发挥自己的专长，以百分百愿意的心态与需要自己的付出的人合作。这种致力于工作的态度才是最重要。</p>','2025-09-21 12:59:55.988','2025-09-21 12:59:55.988',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 12:59:55.987',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3f74c5d0-c04e-42fc-8606-8f1cad06d171','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>在日常生活中, 唯有付出, 然后才有收获, 必须保持心灵的富足, 不是等坐等他人的尊重, 而是主動去尊重信賴他人, 不要成為心灵貧困的人.</p>','2025-09-21 11:41:08.687','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('60e1f9f5-dae0-4904-b413-ea9a4c0433ed','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>被動墜入的爱是短暫的, 因為一时着迷而想获得拥有、征服它而己, 而真正的爱, 是要忡得爱人的方法.</p>','2025-09-21 11:44:20.816','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b38b4fd6-bc0e-4413-a66d-afbdca45c8db','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>爱是两个人共同完成的课题，幸福即是贡献感。如果我们拥有我对别人有用之类的主观感觉就是贡献感。</p>
<p>爱是不利己地追求我的幸福，也不利他期望你的幸福，而是建立不可分割的我们的幸福。为了获得幸福生活，就应该让自我消失。</p>','2025-09-21 09:57:57.766','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3ed78754-eb4f-4b7d-b00d-14bbb2d39dfa','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>爱是两個人一起完成的課題, 只有我对某人有用的时候, 才能夠体会到自己的價值, 从貢獻中感受到幸福, 也需要無条件的信賴, 唯有&ldquo; 我&rdquo;人生中的主语变成我們, 為了获得幸福 , 就是讓自我消失.</p>','2025-09-21 11:49:21.885','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b8561645-eb74-450f-a205-48abc1ee8920','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>被爱的生活方式完全是自我中心式的生活方式，它一直在摸索如何集中他人的关注，如何站在世界中心。</p>
<p>自立不是经纪方面的问题也不是就业方面的问题，而是对待人生的态度，生活方式的问题。我们通过爱他人能渐渐成熟起来。</p>','2025-09-21 10:25:21.419','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d232959-d073-4668-8015-6df4379cefe5','22d94086-e8e8-463d-97f0-ee38a723d516','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>第一个孩子通常形成保守派，对未来十分悲观的生活方式。</p>
<p>第二个孩子希望革命。</p>
<p>要想摆脱被给于的爱的支配，只能拥有自己的爱，主动去爱，即不是等待被爱也不是等待命运安排，而是按照自己的意志去爱某个人。</p>','2025-09-21 10:33:01.292','2025-09-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3713a5eb-7c62-4b8a-8edc-536b1ef99143','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>人的价值由如何完成共同体中自己被分配分工任务来决定，分配是依能力来分配。</p>
<p>职业是不分高低，只是在共同体有需要的分配。重点是致力工作的态度。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Day 20 9月20日 (星期六) &nbsp;补<br>📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获<br>是&ldquo;信任&rdquo;还是&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;？（Page 105-110）<br>🎯读后感悟：<br>&ldquo;信任&rdquo;是有条件的相信对方。&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;是不附加任何条件的相信对方，相信的是那个人本身而不是他身上所具有的条件。<br>工作关系是&ldquo;信任关系&rdquo;， 工作是与厉害结合的信任关系。而交友关系则是&ldquo;信赖关系&rdquo;，交友并不存在&ldquo;必须和这个人交友的理由&rdquo;，反而是因为&ldquo;喜欢这个人&rdquo;的动机结合而成的关系。<br>人类不是仅仅结成群体生活在一起，人类还会分工合作，会互相协作、互补而为生存策略而建立得关系。因此，这种有条件得相信对方的信任关系是非常重要的生存法则。<br>把信任和信赖，这两者弄清，关系就不是那么难得去经营。</p>','2025-09-21 13:04:50.939','2025-09-21 13:04:50.939',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 13:04:50.938',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">职业不分贵贱（Page 111-114）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人的价值，不取决于&ldquo;职业本身&rdquo;，而是你投入的&ldquo;态度&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">没有&ldquo;高贵&rdquo;或&ldquo;卑贱&rdquo;的工作</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一切工作，都是共同体中必须有人去做的事。只要那份工作对社会有需求，它就有价值。不要用职业去评判人，而是用他&ldquo;如何做这份工作&rdquo;来判断他的人格价值。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-21 13:41:22.311','2025-09-21 13:41:22.311',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 13:41:22.31',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d595e21-0ce0-448c-b24d-6101fbe27071','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>每一个贡献与协作都从利己开始。经济与社会微妙的一种关联吧~</p>','2025-09-21 14:11:15.117','2025-09-21 14:11:15.117',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 14:11:15.116',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bbd80539-46b0-44f4-ab75-6f418490f8f2','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>亚当斯密：分工的根源在于人类的&ldquo;利己心&rdquo;。</p>
<p>分工应该各自负责自己擅长的领域。重点是&ldquo;谁都不牺牲自己&rdquo;。</p>
<p>追求利己的结果就是&ldquo;他者贡献&rdquo;。</p>
<p>在分工这观点上，职业不分贵贱。一切工作都是&ldquo;共同体中必须有人去做的事情&rdquo;，只是我们分工不同而已。</p>
<p>决定人价值的不是&ldquo;从事什么样的工作&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;以什么样的态度致力&rdquo;于自己的工作。</p>
<p>一份工作没有被淘汰，说明其具一定的价值。</p>','2025-09-21 14:23:40.452','2025-09-21 14:23:40.452',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 14:23:40.451',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a16d336-fd74-43d1-817b-995a4c0e4ddb','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>There is no hierarchy of occupations. Every job is an essential part of the community, requiring division of labour and cooperation, since each role sustains the functioning of society.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>What determines a person&rsquo;s value is not the type of work they do but the attitude and dedication with which they approach it.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>What truly matters is whether the work enables us to realize our potential, contribute to others, and discover a sense of belonging and meaning within the community.</p>','2025-09-21 14:59:42.18','2025-09-21 14:59:42.18',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 14:59:42.179',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2cf67774-4ca3-40d0-8960-75398fc6b2ff','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>决定人价值的不是从事什么工作，而是以什么样的态度致力于自己的工作。</p>','2025-09-21 15:51:16.312','2025-09-21 15:53:07.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 15:53:07.326',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b91b9d1d-a496-4852-b774-05f934089e94','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 21 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">21</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">职业不分贵贱（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 111-114</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：一切工作都是共同体的一部分。靠的是大家用什么态度去执行那一份工作</span></p>','2025-09-21 15:55:20.043','2025-09-21 15:55:37.965',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 15:55:37.964',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1cd68f8-c92e-499d-9dc2-266117ba3f33','ffb86976-0dd0-425c-93f9-1a499d6a8bec','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 21 9月21日 (星期日)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">职业不分贵贱</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">追求利己性的结果就是&ldquo;他着贡献&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一切工作都是&ldquo;共同体中必须有人去做的事情，只是我们分工不同而已.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">决定人价值的不是从事什么样的工作，而是以什么样的态度致力于自己的工作. </span></p>','2025-09-21 15:58:41.525','2025-09-21 15:58:43.44',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 15:58:43.439',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('debf39da-9e98-4f16-943f-a04dfe5bf13b','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>阿德勒提醒我们，决定人生质量的，从来不是&ldquo;被给予了什么&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;如何去运用这些被给予的东西&rdquo;。</p>
<p>无论遇到什么样的人或处在怎样的环境中，你都可以选择去尊重、去信赖。因为这并非由外在的条件所决定，而是取决于你自己的决心与态度。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-21 23:06:53.864','2025-09-21 23:06:53.864',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-21 23:06:53.863',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c539c30-b482-4210-a196-e14a8fe8f843','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>重要的是&lsquo;&rsquo;如&lsquo;何利用被给予的东西&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>分工开始于超越好恶地去信任他人。如果我们不分工，就无法生存。 如果不与他人协作，就无法生存， 也就是如果不信任他人就无法生存。</p>
<p>教育的目标是自立，教育者应该做的工作是帮助其自立，自力是要从尊重做起。尊重真实的那个人，你做你自己就可以不必要追求 特别，你是你自己，仅仅如此，就很有价值。 通过尊重孩子们传达这个道理，让孩子找回受挫的勇气，开始进入自立的阶段。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>信赖就是无条件地接纳信任那个人。能否信赖他人和能否尊重他人紧密相关。</p>','2025-09-18 06:41:26.707','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('51adc637-99eb-4fb0-bcd0-120d99439f8d','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>对于交友取决于我們的决 心, 重要不是被給予什么,而是如何利用被给予的東西, 無論什么样的对象都给予尊重和信賴,並不是由環境或对象所左右.</p>','2025-09-19 13:58:48.964','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('02708d4d-b0d5-4359-a14a-9d7c9e9ee443','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>很多时候我们专注于&ldquo;别人没有给我什么&rdquo;，却忘了问自己&ldquo;我能用手里的东西做什么&rdquo;。阿德勒提醒我们，幸福不在于索取，而在于创造性地利用已有条件。</p>
<p>被给予的东西是礼物，不是权利。唯有将它们转化为行动与贡献，才能让生命有意义，否则只会陷入&ldquo;为什么我没有更多&rdquo;的消耗中。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-20 08:16:08.597','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1db3a797-bc32-4152-9e8c-ccf3a5bdc6e6','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>老师和学生的关系不该是工作关系，因为老师的目的是要教导学生自立，需要以尊重为前提，但你不会尊重你不信赖的人，所以师生间是存有必须要信赖的关系的，那么信赖就是属于交友关系了</p>
<p>要不要尊重，信赖你的学生，是取决于你的，而不是过去情况还是条件所影响的</p>','2025-09-20 13:31:33.533','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6d42ef1-fd43-49f0-8edf-3696eb1b96bd','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>分工始于超越好恶地去&ldquo;信任他人&rdquo;。我们如果不分工就无法生存，如果不与他人协作就无法生存，这也就是&ldquo;如果不信任他人就无法生存&rdquo;。</p>
<p>信赖与尊重他人紧密相关。无论什么样的对象，都可以去&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;去&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-21 11:33:37.027','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b4ed53ce-0260-4f1d-ba6a-8e1193c98c1c','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我们人类是渺小也脆弱的，需要分工合作才能继续生存下來。</p>
<p>我们活着的意义是没意义的，除非自己给予意义，我们不论对谁，都可以尊重与信赖。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-21 12:58:59.365','2025-09-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033','2025-09-22 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8069520a-ae5d-4f50-8248-3d6edc6303dc','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>教育的目标是自立，教育者的工作则是使其自立，而这需要从尊重做起。尊重真实的那个人，你做&ldquo;你&rdquo;自己就可以，没必要追求特别。而这个不把自己价值观强加于他人，尊重其真实本色的做法就是信赖，所以也可以说信赖与尊重同义。能否尊重他人与能否信赖其他人紧密相关。</p>','2025-09-22 00:46:42.058','2025-09-22 00:46:42.058',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 00:46:42.055',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('78d33928-8c68-422f-b30b-572763db14e4','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>教育 &gt; 尊重 &gt; 信赖 &gt;交友</p>','2025-09-22 03:45:10.448','2025-09-22 03:47:51.069',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 03:47:51.068',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3fb3169e-f45b-4b8e-9c65-f3cd8c92fd42','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>爱是从自我中解放出来。自立就是脱离自我中心。真正的爱不是通过展现脆弱来操纵他人。这样的行为不是爱，而是以自我为中心的榨取他人。</p>
<p>真正的爱是摆脱自我中心，从&rdquo;我们&ldquo;为出发点。慢慢拓展到共同体的爱。</p>','2025-09-22 12:57:32.958','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c350e6f-2142-4043-88ef-2d8c00270e07','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>爱是自立，是成熟的，正因为如此，爱非常困难。</p>
<p>我同意。</p>
<p>爰人是件不容易的事。</p>','2025-09-22 13:42:18.039','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('460138f8-72c0-4a89-8eb9-3ef2f518db87','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>爱要从自我中解放出来。</p>
<p>自立就是脱离自我中心。</p>
<p>自我必须摆脱被娇惯的孩子时代生活方式。</p>','2025-09-22 03:01:37.122','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('00055430-aa57-47af-987c-b5548ed29824','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>&ldquo;我&rdquo;正因为被父母爱着，所以才能活下去。</p>
<p>对待人生的态度是靠自己的意志选择。</p>
<p>被爱的生活方式，完全是自我中心方式的生活方式，它一直在摸索如何集中他人的关注，如何站在世界中心。</p>
<p>爱是自立，是成熟。</p>','2025-09-22 08:46:27.506','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('04be0e0d-0d1d-4396-99ec-258f8b46811f','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>教育的目的自立，我们要以朋友的心态去对待小朋友是因为彼此要学习尊重。孩子们都在看我们的一举一动，他们有时也会效仿出来。当孩子们学会尊重的时候，人缘就会开始变得广阔。人缘广阔了之后就是存在着人际关系，人与人之前完全是可以是友情的，我们会有负面的心态只因锁着了心房的门。谁都可以成为我的朋友，只是大家需要学会彼此尊重，友情才可以长久。</p>','2025-09-22 02:57:58.749','2025-09-22 02:57:58.749',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 02:57:58.748',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('decaf788-b2a4-4fec-9e4e-9231b60ba692','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>人类的分工是建立在一定的规条上的协作，这就是信任。</p>
<p>尊重就是实事求是的看待一个人，认识其独特性。尊重就是&ldquo;你做你自己就可以了，不必要追求特别，你是你自己就很有价值&rdquo;。这是无条件的。</p>
<p>当一个人能够获得这样的尊重， 那么他才能找到&ldquo;受挫的勇气&rdquo;，开始步入&ldquo;自立&rdquo;阶段。</p>
<p>教育工作者是让人&ldquo;自立&rdquo;。因此，教育工作者与学生的关系是源自于&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;而不是&ldquo;信任&rdquo;。</p>
<p>但是成年人经过社会化变成被很多规条、信念所绑架，会把那些规条放在学生或孩子身上，看不见孩子本来的本性。那么，彼此之间就只有信任，少了信赖。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 08:04:37.775','2025-09-22 08:06:36.723',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 08:06:36.722',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de1cb9a3-5409-46f6-ab7d-39f05619e075','22d94086-e8e8-463d-97f0-ee38a723d516','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>我们是在不断强化&ldquo;被爱的生活方式&rdquo;中渐渐长大。按照自己的意志去爱。</p>','2025-09-22 08:53:40.643','2025-09-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ef00f062-2633-4d6a-9c06-87e1c4b2d45f','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>这一章有点 BNI&nbsp; 哈哈</p>
<p>但我認同</p>
<p>比較令我思考的是</p>
<p>如何付出得純粹</p>','2025-09-22 04:11:03.152','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ba0f715-a2fd-4a21-961a-1b07971e67ab','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>人类应该不断的成长，也不能因为眼前的不幸而放弃理想。</p>
<p>一却由我开始，信赖眼前的人，与眼前的人交朋友。</p>
<p>如果要停止战争，我们自己从争斗中解放出来，自己向迈出第一步。</p>
<p>日常生活中很多考验，在此时此刻的日常里面对各种决定，就直接面对吧，才能让幸福靠得更近一点。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>别当乞丐，心灵贫困的乞丐，只想要得到而又不想有任何付出。（想想自己有时侯也是这样的状态，太丢人了，该要好好检讨。）</p>','2025-09-22 11:31:11.538','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9724d2d1-3b8d-49f8-a843-94f05fdd9404','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>爱是两个人共同完成的课题，然后共同过上幸福的生活。</p>
<p>我们都是只有感到&ldquo;我对某人有用&rdquo;的时候，才体会到自己的价值。这时才能获得&ldquo;可以在这里&rdquo;之类的归属感。</p>
<p>从对别人有用，的感觉就是贡献感。从贡献感中寻找幸福，寻得喜悦。</p>','2025-09-22 02:53:39.44','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bc565194-74a4-446f-9615-9e160d3c978f','522fb1a5-a085-49d0-b429-cd0ad4b3249e','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>世界很简单，人生也一样，保持单纯很难。真正考验的是继续走下去的勇气。</p>
<p>在所有的相遇与人际关系中，不断朝着最佳分别努力。认真活在当下。正因为我们看不清未来，所以才能成为命运的主人。</p>','2025-09-22 14:32:49.062','2025-10-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2dce0ad0-ed51-49b5-ae7c-c2f2e9b075f8','2f3947f7-0bf0-4c7e-b3d4-6912e3773f77','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>阿德勒认为的教育，并不在于提高学习成绩或者娇正问题儿童，而是促进人类进步，改变未来。</p>','2025-09-22 14:44:14.433','2025-10-05 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-10-05 00:00:00.027','2025-10-05 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('355c1e6e-56ba-4f2a-b950-d484685bd98b','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>接受<strong>无法完全理解</strong>的事实，不再苛求完美沟通，而是专注于建立连接, 付出信赖。这反而让关系轻松，减少不必要的消耗。</p>','2025-09-22 14:33:20.789','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd5d72a7-19b9-4ec2-8498-a3dad77c65ac','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>首先信赖眼前的人，与眼前的人交朋友</p>
<p>付出后才有收获</p>','2025-09-22 14:00:54.356','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7aa0d76b-4ae8-4000-8f44-240366c003b7','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>哲人用&ldquo;买相机&rdquo;的比喻说明：我们所谓&ldquo;坠入爱情&rdquo;的瞬间，其实常常只是强烈的占有欲和征服欲，就像被某样商品吸引，想拥有它、占有它，而不是想真正与之共同生活</p>
<p>爱不仅是情感，也是自我成长的契机。通过爱，我们学习责任, 包容, 共同创造未来，这正是阿德勒所说的&ldquo;人类之爱&rdquo;的意义。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 14:39:54.114','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('248f2de2-270a-4416-ad9c-72d95274b242','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>朋友圈可以有很多人，但真正值得我信赖的只有少数。与其追求更多&ldquo;熟人&rdquo;，不如用心经营那几段能让我卸下面具的深度关系。</p>','2025-09-22 14:29:17.527','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d3dff3a-733c-45a7-b943-79c4e19f71b9','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>正因为人类彼此之间永远无法完全理解，所以我们才需要、也只能选择信赖。理解或许有限，但信赖却能让关系得以延续。</p>','2025-09-22 14:56:41.205','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8296ef53-8fdd-469a-bb75-71f5d8c4de35','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>看书，听道理，参加课程只是起点，真正的难处是把这些理念落地到每天的生活中。勇气不是一瞬间的豪情，而是每天重复选择的行动。</p>','2025-09-22 14:36:51.358','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82745d2f-e2b0-4700-b396-97375be9400a','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>过去我以为爱是一种&ldquo;情感&rdquo;，是自然而然发生的感觉。现在明白，爱更像一个&ldquo;课题&rdquo;，需要两个人共同努力去经营, 解决问题，共同成长。</p>
<p>爱不是等来的，而是主动承担的课题。它需要勇气，因为必须卸下防备，放下部分自我，去共同创造新的&ldquo;我们&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-22 14:43:21.631','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf279579-6c61-4ceb-9e19-16bab1b15a9b','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>哲人强调，自立不是与世界切断联系，而是积极接纳世界，以&ldquo;我选择这样活&rdquo;为出发点，承担选择的后果，创造属于自己的人生</p>','2025-09-22 14:53:11.677','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8bb6b031-a277-45c1-b7d8-1ae0cd58868a','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>爱是从自我中解放出来。自立就是脱离自我中心。真正的爱不是通过展现脆弱来操纵他人。这样的行为不是爱，而是以自我为中心的榨取他人。<br>真正的爱是摆脱自我中心，从自我解放，实现自立。既不是最求我的幸福或你的幸福，而是以&rdquo;我们&ldquo;为出发点，慢慢拓展到接纳世界，拥有共同体的感觉。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 13:58:16.527','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9125cee8-66e3-47fb-a36a-91e88203bf24','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>我们通过爱他人能渐渐成熟起来</p>
<p>爱是自立，是成熟，正因为如此，爱非常困难</p>','2025-09-22 14:08:49.768','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d16ac11d-e752-4b91-8b9b-f72428426c5a','63a45693-6ec0-4c36-a0a1-1e18982b845c','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>弗洛姆说，爱是一种信念行为，只有一点点信念的人就只能爱一点点。</p>
<p>我们只有通过爱他人才能从自我中心性中解放出来，只有通过爱他人才能实现自立。并且，只有通过爱他人才能找到共同体感觉。主动去爱，自立起来，选择人生。</p>','2025-09-22 14:24:45.894','2025-10-03 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2059fec-3e28-4b3d-9df4-73fe7fb6e328','66e56cb2-675b-4049-83c4-5254df659b0d','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>幸福是握在自己的手里，在混浊的世界里，我们不要忘记单纯的自己。幸福的勇气就是共同体爱他人继而爱自己。</p>
<p>只有尊重，信赖他人，我们才可以学会爱他人爱已。</p>','2025-09-22 14:51:29.33','2025-10-06 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-10-06 00:00:00.03','2025-10-06 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f7208b5c-a95d-4bd2-9579-b1f49e3807f0','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 22 9月22日 (星期一)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">重要的是&ldquo;如何利用被给予的东西&rdquo;（Page 115-118）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不是因为他值得我尊重，我才尊重他；是我先选择尊重，才能激发他变得值得尊重。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">教育的入口是尊重，尊重的本质是信赖，而信赖需要勇气。信赖不是风险，而是创造连结的唯一方式。</span></p>','2025-09-22 15:19:26.339','2025-09-22 15:19:26.339',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 15:19:26.338',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5039adaf-b0de-405f-94c5-f55b9c61173d','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 22 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">22</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期一</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">重要的是&ldquo;如何利用被给予的东西&rdquo;（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 115-118</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：以自身為榜樣的去引導及幫助他人學習自己的優點</span></p>','2025-09-22 15:22:04.028','2025-09-22 15:22:04.028',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 15:22:04.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f7a196a-d632-4f76-82c4-c02989c8ec21','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p><span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp;</span><strong><span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);">改变世界从善待眼前人开始</span></strong>；<span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>真正的富裕</strong></span>不是拥有多少，而是<strong><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">能付出多少</span></strong></p>','2025-09-22 15:21:06.47','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ed9281c-4560-433d-9e1d-d93b4f9ee9d8','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 24 9月24日 (星期三)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人与人永远无法互相理解（Page 125-127）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不是我信赖你之后你才值得，而是我先信赖你，你才可能成为值得被信赖的人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不必特意讨厌对方，只需确认你是否喜欢现在的自己。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">幸福不是赢得别人的认可，而是拥有信赖他人、走进关系的勇气。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 15:41:33.978','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e556222c-ba60-4d0d-9fce-90537be43c4d','22d94086-e8e8-463d-97f0-ee38a723d516','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>孩子求&ldquo;被爱&rdquo;以存活，成人因&ldquo;去爱&rdquo;而成熟；真自立，不在独立养活，而在敢于爱人。</p>','2025-09-22 15:57:26.634','2025-09-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fb0492da-24c2-4f43-89cb-73567138dc85','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 22 9月22日 (星期一)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">重要的是&ldquo;如何利用被给予的东西&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教育工作者要和学生们建立朋友关系，如果要协助他们及管理好班级，就要向共同厉害结成的工作关系.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一切还是要从&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;开始帮助其&ldquo;自立&rdquo;，尊重就是&ldquo;实事求是地看待一个人&rdquo;认识到其独特个性.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">尊重也就是无条件的接纳，信任那个人，也就是说因为信赖. 我们无法信赖一个自己不尊重的对象.</span></p>','2025-09-22 15:59:08.345','2025-09-22 16:02:42.747',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 16:02:42.745',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('62668bb0-57f4-46a2-a4b2-a7dcb0deed70','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>爱</strong></span>不是坠入，而是<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">选择</span></strong>。不是等待，而是<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">行动</span></strong>。不是幻想，而是<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">修行</span></strong>。</p>','2025-09-22 15:28:30.614','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03952f23-5f03-40d7-8d1f-c0916c82f4ae','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>自立不是独行，而是从&ldquo;我&rdquo;走向&ldquo;我们&rdquo;；爱让人摆脱自我中心，迈向真正的共同体幸福。</p>','2025-09-22 15:51:21.327','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c13c464-ac24-4bf5-a5b5-50d4e10ef6a6','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p><strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">自立不是独行</span></strong>，而是从&ldquo;我&rdquo;走向&ldquo;我们&rdquo;；<strong><span style="color: rgb(185, 106, 217);">爱</span></strong>让人摆脱自我中心，<span style="color: rgb(185, 106, 217);">迈向真正的共同体幸福</span>。</p>','2025-09-22 15:46:20.728','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9b0096df-b022-4905-9b0d-818d3ff010ac','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 26 9月26日 (星期五)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第五章 选择爱的人生</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">爱并非&ldquo;被动坠入&rdquo;（Page 133-140）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">你在&ldquo;爱&rdquo;上的进度，是你人生成熟度的真实反映。愿我们都不只是等着被爱，而是真正踏上&ldquo;去爱&rdquo;&ldquo;学会爱&rdquo;的人生旅程。</span></p>','2025-09-22 16:58:30.876','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70f5d836-5751-42d9-b37d-5ea4d4eb882d','fe2a0ec9-f7c5-4597-bec0-4d7b768f9a51','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>人们害怕&lsquo;&rsquo;去爱&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>人在意识上害怕不悲哀。 但事实上是无意事中举怕爱，并且爱是明明没有任何保证，却依然会发起行动。 抱着自己如果爱的话，对方心中也一定会产生爱这样的希望全新全力的自我奉献</p>
<p>主动去爱，根本不需要这样的担保。 不管对方如何看自己只是去爱投身爱中。</p>
<p>你无法爱自己，做不到尊重自己信赖自己。 因此，在爱的关系中肯定会受伤或一定会受伤。 认为不可能有人爱这样的自己。</p>
<p>爱是我们的课题，对方如何回应我们的爱。 那是他人的课题，我们无法掌控。 我们只能够做分离课题，自己先去爱。</p>
<p>不存在&lsquo;&rsquo;命中注定的人&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>所谓命中注定的人被认为是为了排除一些候选人。我们几乎每天都遇到一些人，要将这种简单的相遇发展成某种关系的话。 那需要一定的勇气。 比如主动搭控或者写信，所以没有足够的勇气。 涉足关系的人就 沉迷一定中注定的人幻想之中。</p>','2025-09-23 03:13:57.509','2025-10-01 00:00:00.114',NULL,'f','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2239f7fb-f775-4338-8cb3-d654c9c22b1d','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>True Friends vs. Trust</p>
<p>True friendships are inseparable from initiative and trust.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>They are not built by sheer numbers, but by mutual sincerity, understanding, and trust.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>If we keep waiting for others to prove their trustworthiness, it becomes difficult for the relationship to grow deeper.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>On the contrary, when we take the courage to trust first, we open the door to true friendships.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>One true friend is worth more than many shallow ones.</p>','2025-09-23 15:26:47.771','2025-09-23 15:26:47.771',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-23 15:26:47.77',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e88f5fa6-ec9f-48fe-9dfc-84cf92887040','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 27 9月27日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第五章 选择爱的人生</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">爱是&ldquo;有两个人共同完成的课题&rdquo;（Page 141-146）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">爱不是&ldquo;我的幸福&rdquo;或&ldquo;你的幸福&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;我们的幸福&rdquo;。这是爱的核心一个彼此不再分你我、而是共同体的状态。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">真正的爱：解散自我，创造共同体</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">因为爱不是交易、回报、交换，而是&ldquo;互为主体，共建命运&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">这不是消失的自我，而是提升后的&lsquo;我们意识&rsquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 17:12:08.226','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03269a20-408f-4aab-a3ad-4e069735ef0d','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>哲人把青年当挚友、就算他犯了什么不合理的事，也不会因此断裂关系，也还可以无条件信赖他，花时间去和他交流。他是主动去信赖青年的，因为只有这样青年才会有可能信赖他</p>','2025-09-22 13:27:03.072','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b60db37d-4cfe-427b-8924-7614f091e9bb','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>你有几个摯友情？</p>
<p>人都是带着社交面具隐藏真心地活着。 即使见了面可以谈笑风生的朋友，也不会展露真正的面目。会选择话题，选择态度选择，语言，都是这样带着社交面具与朋友接触。</p>
<p>戴着面具也因为担心关系会破裂，也避免受伤，而不是只为了自保。</p>
<p>主动&lsquo;&rsquo;信赖&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>真正的信赖是彻彻底底的能动行为。因为要获得别人的信赖所以主动信赖别人，继续信赖。</p>
<p>我们只相信信赖自己的人的话，而不是靠意见的对错来判断对方。</p>','2025-09-18 06:51:36.349','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ba4049d-92bb-4ed5-b063-068c08485b5a','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>冷静点，青年。<br>老人家日子不多，你就成为他老人家的好朋友吧～ xD<br><br></p>
<p>人与人交往还是会带着社交面具也为了就是避免受伤</p>
<p>我不能强迫别人相信我，相不相信是那个人的自由。<br>我能够做的唯有相信自己倾诉的对象。</p>
<p>希望获得信赖，想要你信赖我因此我要主动信赖，你哪怕你并不信赖我。</p>
<p>说教的父母孩子不喜欢，因为父母根本不关注自己，也不信任自己，只是一昧的说教。</p>
<p>不管你是否信赖我，我都信赖你，继续信赖。<br>这就是无条件的意思</p>','2025-09-17 07:58:37.426','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac5ee00f-3a7a-42cd-9090-83f2399b7b30','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>人一般会把需要经历过某个阶段才能将朋友升格成了&ldquo;挚友&rdquo;，那种可以推心置腹、无所不谈&rdquo;的朋友。人，一般对他人都会戴着&ldquo;社交面具&rdquo;、隐藏真心地活着。这是不仅仅是为了自保，更多的是对人和善，补伤害他人。</p>
<p>但是哲人并不这么认为。朋友是可以赤诚相见的，也可以做了几次不合理的事情。</p>
<p>如果，我们认为可以当朋友的人一定都要合情合理的和自己相处，这要求也其实提醒他人带上面具。只有当彼此拥有互相的信赖，彼此才能坦诚相待。而且想获得他人的信赖，自己需要先信赖他人。而且尊重对方有自由的选择，不是被批判的。</p>','2025-09-22 11:32:13.029','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c96e7f39-035e-4deb-894d-4ce4147ceeec','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p><span class="s2">在挚友面前，我们可以卸下伪装，做真实的自己。即使偶尔因坦率而伤害到对方，这段关系也不会轻易破裂。因为彼此的情谊，建立在对对方优点与缺点都能完全接纳的基础之上。</span></p>','2025-09-22 14:48:37.268','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2655b453-ce3f-46c2-a5ac-f175059993e7','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 23 9月23日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">你有几个挚友？（Page 119-124）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">做人要真诚，对朋友、对身边的人、不带面具，真心换真心。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 15:25:20.5','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbb8f0d6-2b95-4b8d-82bb-4db0e8399532','fe2a0ec9-f7c5-4597-bec0-4d7b768f9a51','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人在意识上害怕不被爱，但事实是无意识中惧怕爱。</p>
<p>主动去爱根本不需要担保，不管对方如何看自己，只是去爱，去投身爱中。</p>
<p>因为自己的自卑感而不解决课题的借口。</p>
<p>爱和尊重是不能强求的。</p>
<p>没有所谓命中注定的人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-23 07:59:26.025','2025-10-01 00:00:00.114',NULL,'f','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2cf85382-bc8d-4a1f-a297-ad8440701438','63a45693-6ec0-4c36-a0a1-1e18982b845c','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>如果有获得幸福的勇气，也许会爱上某人，重新选择人生，也许会真正自立。</p>
<p>主动去爱，自立起来，选择人生，这是一条艰难的道路。</p>','2025-09-23 08:16:37.766','2025-10-03 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('edc91a3e-0660-4b25-9863-ba2b0cdaa475','22d94086-e8e8-463d-97f0-ee38a723d516','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>怎样才能夺得父母的爱？</p>
<p>第一个孩子往往被成为过去的崇拜者，形成保守的对未来十分悲观的方式。理解力量和权威的重要性， 喜欢行使权力，重视规矩约束，正是保守的生活方式。</p>
<p>第2个孩子希望革，命他们并不像第一个孩子那样努力维护既有权利，而是企图颠覆既有权利。</p>
<p>想要摆脱被给予的爱的支配， 只能拥有自己的爱。主动去爱既不是等待被爱也不是等待命运安排，而是按照自己的意志去爱某个人。</p>','2025-09-23 02:59:05.538','2025-09-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dcfeeefe-d8b7-454c-a00f-0a629d5477a3','640f1918-aea3-490d-8a42-39e2a7c8a48d','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>结婚不是选择对象，而是选择自己的生活方式。</p>
<p>爱情和婚姻是牵起身边人的手，尽情尽力地去跳舞，命运由此开始。</p>','2025-09-23 08:08:56.629','2025-10-02 00:00:00.049',NULL,'f','2025-10-02 00:00:00.015','2025-10-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc5240e6-bd9b-4707-a333-a68f1953df56','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>如果不能爱自己也就无法爱他人，如果不能信赖自己也就无法信赖他人。所以一直说&ldquo;无法信赖他人&rdquo;其实是因为自己不能彻底信赖自己。</p>
<p>自我为中心的人并不是因为&ldquo;喜欢自己&rdquo;才只关注自己。恰恰相反，正因为无法接纳真实的自己，内心充满不安，所以才只关心自己。</p>
<p>你还没有做到真正喜欢自己，所以你才无法信赖他人。</p>
<p>一个人若要获得真正的归属感，需要&ldquo;信赖&rdquo;他人，建立交友关系。那么别人对自己的认同感不是建立在&ldquo;功能上&rdquo;，才不至于跌入竞争里。</p>
<p>我们无法完全理解一个人，别人如何待你也不是自己能控制得课题。但是我们可以做&ldquo;课题分离&rdquo;。那么，人更需要信赖来建立与人得关系。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 11:54:19.525','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('81017a28-9459-4f93-b0c6-6ff7292290c6','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>如果不能爱自己也就无法爱他人。如果不能信赖自己也就无法信赖他人。</p>
<p>以自我为中心的人，无法接纳真实的自己，内心不安，所以只关心自己。</p>
<p>通过工作获得认同的是你的&ldquo;功能&rdquo;，而不是&ldquo;你&rdquo;。</p>
<p>真正的归属感是信赖他人，建立交友关系。</p>
<p>只是投身于工作，根本无法获得幸福。</p>
<p>人类无法互相理解的存在，所以只能选择信赖。</p>','2025-09-23 13:51:30.195','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5eb59f9c-e12b-470d-86d8-099b835fbe26','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy teaches that the idea &ldquo;people can never fully understand each other&rdquo; comes from the reality that no one can completely, 100% understand you &mdash; sometimes, not even yourself.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Therefore, the healthier approach is to let go of the obsession with &ldquo;being fully understood.&rdquo; Instead, we should learn to trust and respect one another despite our differences.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Genuine relationships are not built on perfect understanding but on the courage to trust in the face of incompleteness.</p>','2025-09-24 14:47:30.62','2025-09-24 14:47:30.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-24 14:47:30.619',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9574531-1b75-482f-8ab6-248445ae00b8','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>不能信赖他人者，其实是不能信赖自己。这说法应该没错，只是需要看作者如何进一步解说，以便能真正的理解与实践、。</p>','2025-09-24 15:51:41.416','2025-09-24 15:51:41.416',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-24 15:51:41.415',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a804bf45-23d5-4850-8491-54fbd1358d3c','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>▪️人与人相处时，常以为能&ldquo;完全懂彼此&rdquo;。</p>
<p>▪️但每个人的经历、价值观、感受都不同，再多沟通也无法百分之百相同。</p>
<p>▪️真正重要的不是完全理解，而是即使不能理解，也依然选择信赖。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-24 16:00:01.264','2025-09-24 16:00:01.264',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-24 16:00:01.263',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b3570a8c-432a-4de1-9457-8260d3efe8b1','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>作为在第一次世界大战中的军人医生<br>。阿德勒探索如何能够阻止战争。<br>阿德勒相信人类</p>
<p>阿德勒的主张并不是非科学的思想，而是建设性的思想。</p>
<p>员林中的原则是重要的不是被给予了什么，而是如何去利用被给予的东西<br>。</p>
<p>作为个体的人可以不断成长一样，人类也应该可以不断成长。</p>
<p>阿德勒相信首先信赖眼前的人，与眼前的人交朋友</p>
<p><br>不管怎样只能从这一点开始，如果想要让世界远离战争，首先必须自己从争斗中解放出来。</p>
<p>想要学生们的信赖，首先自己必须信赖学生。<br>不是高高在上的对大家指手画脚，而是作为整体一部分的自己先迈出第一步。</p>
<p>对于我们来说，平凡的日常生活也是一种考验，在此时此刻的日常中也需要做出许许多多的重大决断。</p>
<p>青年现在心灵贫困，也就是没有能够给予他人尊重信赖，心灵容量。</p>
<p>阿德勒是说付出，然后才有收获</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-18 12:34:37.833','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
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<li>&ldquo;爱&rdquo;是需要在意志力的作用下从无到有慢慢培养起来的</li>
<li>获得他人的爱确实很难，但&ldquo;爱他人&rdquo;更是难上好几倍的课题</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-24 15:30:34.764','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d775e304-d251-4b0c-98a1-b0dcc1c61fc2','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>自立就是要擺脱自我中心性, 不能停留''在幼兒时代, 以自己的脆弱或不幸、 伤痛不得志及精神創伤為武''來控制他人, 做個被惯坏的小孩, 爱是兩個人完成的課題, 追求不只是自已的幸福, 而是我們的幸福。</p>','2025-09-24 13:02:35.84','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97b52ce7-9f6a-422f-9e98-9dedd73916d2','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>孩提時代我們都是君临天下, 向周遭的人祈求被爱, 一直选擇被爱的生活方式, 而不能自立, 所以實現真正自立, 是要通過爱他人变得更成熟.</p>','2025-09-24 13:06:46.177','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03fab54c-e789-4a06-9883-1a90c45cb9ea','22d94086-e8e8-463d-97f0-ee38a723d516','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp; 选擇不同的道路,去获得父母的关注、 認可為目的, 成為父母希望的自己, 來夺得父母的愛.</p>','2025-09-24 13:09:52.424','2025-09-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88c90c63-3475-460d-8d0f-4b7997e201f9','522fb1a5-a085-49d0-b429-cd0ad4b3249e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>世界很简单，人也是一样，但是保持单纯很难。</p>
<p>人最初的一步很重要，真正的考验是继续走下去的勇气。</p>
<p>人是不断朝着最佳分别而努力。意思是，一旦分别，也可以无遗憾地说&ldquo;与这个人相遇，一起度过的日子很值得&ldquo;。</p>','2025-09-24 08:43:48.842','2025-10-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('25ff3ad3-6666-47a7-bbc7-2d3d9eb9bc1f','66e56cb2-675b-4049-83c4-5254df659b0d','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人与人之间要建立良好的人际关系，不管对方是谁，是你的长辈还是学生，都要尊重。</p>
<p>教育工作者要培养学生自立，不批判，不奖赏。让他们自己去争取，去努力达到自己的目标，而不是为了得到奖赏而去努力。</p>','2025-09-24 08:58:57.461','2025-10-06 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-10-06 00:00:00.03','2025-10-06 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('278657e2-238d-421f-b68c-7bd83d32274c','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>人生要经历&lsquo;&rsquo;平凡日常&lsquo;&rsquo;的考验</p>
<p>人类应该也可以不断成长。 因为我们不能因为眼前的不幸而放弃理想。</p>
<p>阿德勒的原理中的原则是重要的不是被给予了什么，而是如何去利用被给予的东西。 他的主张并不是非科学的思想，而是建设性的思想。</p>
<p>首先，信赖眼前的人与眼前的人交朋友只能从这一点开始，让自己从争斗中解放出来。 这是作为整体一部分的自己，先迈出第一步。</p>
<p>对于我们来说，平凡的日常生活也是一种考验。 在此时此刻的日常中，也需要做出栩栩多多的重大决断。</p>
<p>付出，然后才有收获。</p>
<p>我们必须保持心灵富裕，并将其中的积蓄给于他人。 不是坐着等他人的尊重，而是自己主动去尊重信赖。 他人绝不能成为心灵贫困的人。</p>','2025-09-19 06:18:48.126','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e69d1f00-14ed-4a8e-956f-5bc5105e2385','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>阿德勒因为经历过两次世界大战而提出&ldquo;共同体感觉&ldquo;，来防止战争。而这个&rdquo;共同体感觉&ldquo;得前提是信赖。</p>
<p>在&rdquo;共同体感觉&ldquo;的焦点放在不是被给予了什么，而是如何利用被给予得东西。</p>
<p>从自己开始去信赖自己，信赖他人，建立共同体感觉，世界会和平许多。自己先付出，才会有收获。</p>','2025-09-22 12:14:39.408','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29bcf2d5-89b9-4019-9bcd-925df33538a4','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>阿德勒是彻底的实践主义者，他相信人类，如果把共同体感觉培养出来的话可以避免战争，虽然还没实现到理想世界，但要相信只要不放弃理想，这一天还是有机会的</p>
<p>我们能做的是先爱自己，爱家人，爱身边的人开始，自己先迈出第一步非常重要。要先付出才有收获,而不能expect人家自然而然一定要尊重你</p>
<p>重要的不是被给予什么，而是怎样去利用被给予的东西</p>','2025-09-22 14:12:45.24','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5bcaf97-6f7e-4227-9b04-2437e3ee5907','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>事实上，平凡的日常同样是一种考验。在每一个&ldquo;此时此刻&rdquo;，我们都要不断做出各种看似细微却意义重大的决定。而那些逃避日常考验的人，终究无法获得真正的幸福。</p>
<p><strong>幸福不是在大事中决定的，而是在日常里选择的。</strong></p>','2025-09-22 15:03:44.611','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1f4684ff-a5fb-4c75-9d8f-cb0f55bd4c82','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 25 9月25日 (星期四)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人生要经历&ldquo;平凡日常&rdquo;的考验（Page 128-132）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒的共同体感觉也是不是去追求远大的理想，而是信赖眼前的人，关心日常关系。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">你不需要一开始就影响世界、组织运动、改革教育。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">哲人用金钱类比做了一个比喻：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;愿意给予金钱的，是有钱的人；</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">愿意给予信赖的，是内心富足的人。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">所以，真正强大的人不是能力最强的人，而是那个愿意&ldquo;先信赖&rdquo;的人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 16:26:15.254','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
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<li>阻止战争、纷争，唯有先信赖眼前的人，与眼前的人交朋友（作为整体的一部分自己先迈出第一步）</li>
<li>好吧 好像真的需要学会怎么信赖他人、爱他人&hellip;否则做什么都是无用的</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>无条件地信赖他人、尊重他人，是&ldquo;给予&rdquo;行为。换成金钱的话，自己手上要有钱才能给予别人。所以相对来说，我们必须保持心灵富裕，并将其中的积蓄给予他人。</li>
<li>祷告，然后才有收获 = 付出，然后才有收获</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-23 15:36:14.736','2025-09-25 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019','2025-09-25 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ed06d6d-1549-4658-9ff1-89ed7ce4dfe1','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>The true test of life lies in whether we can live our ordinary days with sincerity, respect, trust, and responsibility.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>At the same time, whether in relationships or personal goals, we must take the first step and dare to give before we can gain.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Happiness and growth do not begin by waiting for others but are achieved through consistent action and genuine contribution.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Ordinary daily life is the greatest stage of existence. Only by facing each present moment with dedication, enduring its small tests with persistence, can we accumulate true value.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Giving is the foundation of both happiness and achievement&mdash;only by giving first can we encounter real growth and fulfilment.</p>','2025-09-25 03:44:25.934','2025-09-25 03:44:25.934',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-25 03:44:25.932',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('943e42fc-ca97-4410-957f-9bc22d2e4a3a','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>阿德勒探索如何阻止战争。他相信人类具有视他人为同伴的意识，即共同体感受。</p>
<p>人类应该不断成长，不能因眼前的不幸而放弃理想。</p>
<p>为了世界和平，我们应该做些什么？特蕾莎修女说，&ldquo;回家后请善待家人。&rdquo;与阿德勒的共同体感受一样，先信赖眼前人，与眼前人交朋友。</p>
<p>想让世界远离战争，自己必须先从争斗中解放出来。所以想获得学生的信赖，就要先信赖学生。</p>
<p>作为整体的一部分的自己，先迈出第一步。</p>
<p>平凡的日常生活也是一种考验。在此时此刻的日常中，也需要做出许多重大决断。逃避考验的人，无法获得真正的幸福。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>保持心灵富裕，将其中的积蓄给予他人。不能坐等收获，成为心灵的乞丐。</p>
<p>付出，然后才有收获。</p>
<p>爱是一个最严肃、最困难、最考验人勇气的课题。</p>','2025-09-25 06:14:50.945','2025-09-25 06:14:50.945',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-25 06:14:50.944',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fcc2b808-b7c2-4001-9c5c-575a845a19a5','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>爱、付出、贡献，是人际关系不可或缺的条件，也是任何国家、种族、家庭、社会等之谐和必备的因素。</p>','2025-09-25 13:46:50.535','2025-09-25 13:46:50.535',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-25 13:46:50.534',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cbe53f42-1c1d-447e-9faf-1fb9bc51604e','bee34fed-6789-4d08-822b-20ee453eb5cd','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<ul>
<li>&ldquo;被爱的生活方式&rdquo;完全是自我中心式的生活方式，它一直在摸索如何集中他人的关注、如何站在&ldquo;世界中心&rdquo;</li>
<li>自立不是经济或就业方面的问题，而是对待人生的态度、生活方式的问题</li>
<li>我们通过爱他人能渐渐成熟起来</li>
</ul>','2025-09-25 16:17:24.164','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4adeafce-39bf-42e6-8400-bdddf49847d9','640f1918-aea3-490d-8a42-39e2a7c8a48d','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>爱即&lsquo;&rsquo;绝断&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>命运是靠自己的手创造出来。 我们绝不可以成为命运的仆人， 必须做命运的主人。不是去追求命中注定的人，而是建立起可以称得上命运的关系。</p>
<p>爱情的婚姻正如两个人一起跳的舞蹈不去想将会走向何处，牵着对方的手关注今天的幸福与此。此时此刻的感动不停旋转不停律动，你们跳动过来的长长的舞蹈轨迹，人们称之为命运。</p>
<p>牵起身边人的手，尽情尽力地去跳舞，命运由此开始。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-25 14:47:56.723','2025-10-02 00:00:00.049',NULL,'f','2025-10-02 00:00:00.015','2025-10-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e59f9435-34b2-4828-895b-8cca717ce7d4','63a45693-6ec0-4c36-a0a1-1e18982b845c','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>重新选择生活方式</p>
<p>爱是一种信念行为，只有一点点信念的人就只能爱一点点。 也许把这里的信念换成勇气， 那也只有一点点的勇气。</p>
<p>爱的勇气也就是获得幸福的勇气。</p>
<p>我们只有通过爱他人，才能自我中心中解放出来。 只有通过爱他人才能实现自立，并且只有通过爱他人才能找到共同体感觉。</p>
<p>如果懂得爱并以我们为主活着， 事情就会发生变化。 你就会感受到仅仅活着就可以互相贡献， 包括全门类在内的我们。</p>
<p>主动去爱，自立起来，选择人生！</p>','2025-09-25 15:03:41.221','2025-10-03 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec45fb85-2379-4aa3-9b2f-2ff67f2af5f4','07b88ee6-3292-4028-8baa-55026e3c8f8f','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 25 9月25日 (星期四)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第四章 付出，然后才有收获</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人生要经历&ldquo;平凡日常&rdquo;的考验（Page 128-132）</span></p>','2025-09-25 15:57:14.261','2025-09-25 15:57:15.657',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-25 15:57:15.656',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('32e7748d-4631-4cff-9cad-91e82d83c003','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>谈恋爱的时候，脑子被燒坏了。</p>
<p>结婚后，真正的考验才开始。</p>
<p>爱是需要时间、意志力从无到有。</p>
<p>难道说－见钟情不靠谱吗？</p>','2025-09-22 13:17:56.562','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6b59866e-b6f3-468a-acdb-5dbfd99dafef','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>爱是需要用心去培养的。如果只是&ldquo;被动坠入&rdquo;的爱，那谁都能做到，这样的经历并不足以称为人生的课题。真正的爱之所以困难，正是因为它需要依靠意志，从无到有，一点一滴地被培育出来。</p>','2025-09-22 15:08:46.556','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('84a47412-aa91-45d1-ba5c-d7869babad70','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>爱并非&lsquo;&rsquo;被动坠入&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>爱并非像一部分心理学家所认为的那样。 他不是纯粹或者自然的功能。爱需要培养起来，如果只是被坠入的爱，那谁都可以做到这样的事，不值得称为人生可题，正因为它需要在意志力的作用下从无到有慢慢培养起来，所以爱的课题才非常困难。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>从&lsquo;&rsquo;被爱的方法&lsquo;&rsquo;到&lsquo;&rsquo;爱的方法&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>被动坠入的爱，其实就是这种拥有欲和征服欲，只是想要获得，拥有，征服他而已， 一旦实际到手就会厌倦了。</p>
<p>被动坠入的爱就好比是被物欲迷住。两个人结合以后的关系，其实是现实的人真从此拉开了序幕。阿德勒一贯主张的是能动的方法，爱的方法也就是爱他人的方法。通过育儿活动实践了其思想，懂得了更博大的爱的存在之后完全相反的意见。</p>','2025-09-21 08:28:57.918','2025-09-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02','2025-09-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82af204b-1a6d-40dc-944d-f605c1fc2ba2','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Love isn&rsquo;t a passive fall, nor an accidental occurrence. It may not be perfect, but it is a conscious choice that requires courage, understanding, respect, and consistent nurturing.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler reminds us that the key is not to ask &ldquo;how can I be loved?&rdquo; But rather &ldquo;how can I love?&rdquo; When we focus on giving instead of craving love, we discover that the essence of love lies in contribution, trust, and tolerance&mdash;not possession.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>True happiness in a relationship begins the moment we shift from waiting to be loved to learning and practising how to love.</p>','2025-09-26 03:09:21.092','2025-09-26 03:09:21.092',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-26 03:09:21.092',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d096228-4e61-42bc-8804-3328745c59ab','522fb1a5-a085-49d0-b429-cd0ad4b3249e','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>保持单纯</p>
<p>世界很简单， 人生也是一样。但是保持单纯很难。因为这需要不断经受平凡日常的考验。</p>
<p>人最初的一步很重要，只要跨越了 第一步，就没有问题。 当然最大的转折点也是最初的一步。真正的考验是继续走下去的勇气，就像哲学一样。</p>
<p>阿德勒把自己的心理学定位为所有人的心理学，并希望其作为人们的尝试并流传下去。时代在不断前进新的技术新的关系。 新的烦恼也会随之而生， 人们的尝试也会随着时代慢慢变化。 正因为如此，要珍惜阿德勒思想也必须不断地更新它。 这是生活在新时代的人被赋予的使命。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-27 09:53:32.495','2025-10-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028','2025-10-04 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54d57312-8524-434f-996f-30d88c970f8d','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>爱需要培养起来。它需要在意志力的作用下，从无到有，慢慢培养起来。所以爱的课题才非常困难。</p>
<p>阿德勒关注的是两个人结合以后&ldquo;关系&rdquo;。结婚是考验两个人爱的开始。。他主张的是&ldquo;能动的爱&rdquo;的方法，也就是&ldquo;爱他人的方法&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-26 15:06:48.465','2025-09-26 15:06:48.465',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-26 15:06:48.464',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('365461c8-cbf8-4503-9f44-98a93ae75fa0','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>▪️爱不是浪漫的坠入，而是责任与选择。</p>
<p>▪️真正的爱，是持续的决定，而不是偶然的情感。</p>
<p>▪️它意味着：</p>
<ul>
<li style="list-style-type: none;">
<ul>
<li>接纳对方的优点与缺点</li>
<li>一起面对未来的不确定</li>
<li>在关系中不断学习与磨合</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>✨ 金句版：</p>
<p>爱，是一场选择，更是一份长期的承担。</p>','2025-09-26 15:55:34.031','2025-09-26 15:55:34.031',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-26 15:55:34.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82ad5df7-8330-4c1a-ace6-dd74ecfcea77','4ece02ef-17b4-4b87-84b4-cbe215f0d9fa','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>爱，用在不同的地方，意思就有可能不一样。因此在谈论爱时得弄清楚其定义。而阿德勒的定义如何，就得看下章节了。</p>','2025-09-26 15:55:40.023','2025-09-26 15:55:40.023',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-26 15:55:40.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec40c511-58eb-48cd-bbad-f71bf6290af2','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>爱就是《我们》的幸福。</p>
<p>不是利己的追求，也不是利他地期望你的幸福。</p>
<p>幸福是需要付出的，是彼此並非其中一人。</p>
<p>为了獲得幸福生活，就得把＂自我＂消失。</p>','2025-09-22 13:24:39.508','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6a702782-2316-4cbb-b484-d4dd73c09704','22d94086-e8e8-463d-97f0-ee38a723d516','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>1）第一个孩子</p>
<ul>
<li>曾独占父母的爱，一旦有弟弟妹妹出生后，就会被置于竞争关系中。</li>
<li><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">无法平衡这种挫折的他们会认为有一天他们会恢复原来的权力。他们往往会成为&ldquo;过去的崇拜者&rdquo;，形成保守的、对未来十分悲观的生活方式。</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">已经接受了协作或援助方面的教育的第一个孩子，也许会成为优秀的领导者想，理解贡献的意义。</span></li>
</ul>
<p>2）第二个孩子</p>
<ul>
<li>内心深处存在&ldquo;想要追上&rdquo;的想法，为了追赶甚至激励自己，他们希望革命、希望能够颠覆出生顺序这一自然法则。</li>
</ul>
<p>3）独生子女</p>
<ul>
<li>希望独占母亲的爱，父亲成为竞争者，容易滋生恋母情结。</li>
<li>心里不安，担心自己地位受到威胁（害怕新王子或新公主的诞生）。</li>
<li>父母的怯懦，父母认为自己在经济或精力方面都不能再养更多孩子。家庭氛围充满不安、胆怯与悲观。</li>
</ul>
<p>4）自立不能通过就职来完成，想要摆脱被给予的爱的支配，只能拥有自己的爱，主动去爱，按照自己的意志去爱某人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-26 14:02:30.57','2025-09-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('849db51c-425b-4a35-91f0-de1c6f7b6134','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>两个人共同完成的课题就是爱，也就是幸福。<br>两个人过上幸福的生活。<br>幸福就是贡献感。<br>阿德勒说过：&ldquo;我们都是只有在感到我对某人有用的时候，才能够体会到自己的价值。&rdquo;</p>
<p>如果我们用有我对别人有用之类的主观感觉也就是贡献感，这就足够了。<br>分工的根本原理是我的幸福，也就是利自己心态&nbsp;</p>
<p>彻底追求我的幸福的结果就是给别人带来幸福，分工关系成立，可以说是健全的利益交换发挥作用。</p>
<p>交友关系并不存在利益交换的想法，透过一昧信赖，一昧给予的利他态度，交友关系才会产生</p>
<p>不是利益自己的追求我的幸福<br>也不是利他的期望你的幸福<br>而是建立不可分割的我们的幸福，这就是爱</p>
<p>阿德勒提出了比我和你更高一级的我们。</p>
<p>都不考虑我的幸福也不只是满足你的幸福，只有我们两个人都幸福才有意义&nbsp;<br>有两个人共同完成的课题就是这样。</p>
<p>人生的主语发生了变化</p>
<p>懂得真正的爱的时候我这一人生主已就变成了我们既不是利益自己心也不是利益他人心而是在全新的准则下生活</p>
<p><br>那么自我会消失，为了获得幸福的生活，就应该让自我消失。</p>
<p>非常震撼非常震撼原来是我们，而不是我，也不只是你。<br>而是我们这才是爱这样的话自我就会消失就，变成了我们</p>','2025-09-21 12:18:33.461','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d02642d-d8b1-4345-96f7-ba3689e21112','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>爱是&lsquo;&rsquo;由两个人共同完成的课题&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>连翻身都做不到的婴儿慢慢学会双脚站立，到处走动，这是谁都无法替代的一个人完成的课题。站立，走路，掌握语言并会交流，学习哲学，数学，物理之类的学问， 这一切都是属于个人完成的课题。</p>
<p>相对的工作是与同伴共同完成的课题，即使看似由一个人完成的工作，比如绘画之类的工作， 但是一定有协作者存在，比方说制造画架的人，画商，生画布的人，根本没有任何工作，可以脱离与他人之间联系或协作。</p>
<p>交换人生的&lsquo;&rsquo;主语&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>幸福即贡献感，由两个人共同完成的课题，两个人共同完成的就是幸福，过上幸福的生活。</p>
<p>我们都是只有在感到我对某人有用的时候才能够体会到自己的价值。 体会到自己的价值之后才能获得可以在这里之类的归属感。如果我们拥有我对别人有用之类的主观感觉也就是贡献感，这就足够了。</p>
<p>彻底追求我的幸福的结果就是给别人带来幸福。交友关系成立的是你的幸福，通过一味的信赖，一味给予的利他态度，交友关系才会产生。</p>
<p>要建立的是不分割的 我们的幸福，这就是爱。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 01:46:25.908','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('38a21f0a-1800-44b5-881c-6c27e6c78223','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>分工关系：彻底追求&ldquo;<strong>我的幸福</strong>&rdquo;的结果就是给别人带来幸福</p>
<p>交友关系：不存在利益交换的想法，一味信赖、一味给予的利他态度。</p>
<p>爱的关系：建立不可分割的&ldquo;我们的幸福&rdquo;，由两个人共同完成的课题</p>','2025-09-24 15:59:20.147','2025-09-27 01:07:54.139',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 01:07:54.138',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>I realize that many times, I unconsciously hand over my happiness to others. But if I always depend on others to give me happiness, I will remain passive.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy emphasizes the importance of shifting the subject of life back to &ldquo;I&rdquo;. This reminds me that I can take the initiative to love, to create, and to take responsibility&mdash;rather than waiting for others to change me.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Happiness can not be decided by others. Only when I become the subject of my own life can I actively create, take responsibility, and live with greater strength.</p>','2025-09-27 04:22:11.631','2025-09-27 04:22:11.631',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-27 04:22:11.63',NULL,NULL);
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<p>这能让人获得幸福，获得归属。</p>','2025-09-27 14:07:24.452','2025-09-27 14:07:24.452',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-27 14:07:24.451',NULL,NULL);
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<p>为了获得幸福生活，就应该让自我消失</p>','2025-09-22 14:07:51.191','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
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<p>有两个人共同完成了课题。 通过爱让两个人过上幸福的生活。 因为爱就是从自我中解放出来。</p>
<p>脆弱在人际关系中，是极具杀伤力的武器。 孩童时代的我们通过脆弱支配大人们，就像有求必应的生活，只聚集于自己的个人利益。</p>
<p>自立就是脱离自我中心性。摆脱自我，摆脱被浇灌的孩子时代的生活方式。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-22 02:04:59.293','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 28 9月28日 (星期日)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第五章 选择爱的人生</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自立就是摆脱&ldquo;自我&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">爱是&ldquo;由两个人共同完成的课题&rdquo;，通过爱让两个人过上幸福生活，因为爱就是从&ldquo;自我&rdquo;中解放出来.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">孩童时代的我们通过&ldquo;脆弱&rdquo;支配大人们. 很多大人也企图以自己的脆弱或不幸、伤痛、不得志以及精神创伤为&ldquo;武器&rdquo;来控制他了.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们必须脱离顽固的自我中心，放弃做世界重心必须摆脱自我，必须摆脱被浇灌的孩子时代的生活方式.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">懂得爱之后，人生的主语就会变成&ldquo;我们&rdquo;这就是人生的新开始，仅仅开始于两个人的&ldquo;我们&rdquo;很快就会扩展到整个共同体，乃至整个人类.</span></p>','2025-09-21 16:24:27.445','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第五章 选择爱的人生</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自立就是摆脱&ldquo;自我&rdquo;（Page 147-150）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">恋爱 &rarr; 爱 &rarr; 两人共同完成的课题 &rarr; &ldquo;我们&rdquo;的主语</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&rarr; 脱离&ldquo;自我&rdquo; &rarr; 实现&ldquo;自立&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&rarr; 扩展爱的能力 &rarr; 拥有共同体感觉</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&rarr; 得到真正的幸福感</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">所以，阿德勒所说的爱，不是童话故事里的粉红泡泡，也不是激情冲动的浪漫，而是一种深刻的共同承担与成长的&ldquo;实践&rdquo;。</span></p>','2025-09-22 17:18:17.468','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
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<p>自立不是经济方面的问题，也不是就业方面的问题，而是对待人生的态度， 生活方式的问题。我们下定决心去爱一个人， 那时候就告别孩童时代的生活方式，实现真正的自立。 我们通过爱他人能渐渐地成熟起来。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>爱是自立，是成熟。正因为如此爱非常困难。</p>
<p>被爱的生活方式完全是自我中心式的生活方式。 她一直在摸索如何记中他人的关注如何站在世界中心。</p>
<p>一些通过哭闹，发怒，喊叫进行反抗的孩子并非 不能控制感情。 他们是在充分控制感情之后选择的这些行为。 因为他们感觉如果不这么做就无法获得父母的爱和关注，进而自己的生命会有危险。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>对待人生的态度靠自己的意志选择</p>','2025-09-23 02:48:47.323','2025-09-29 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008','2025-09-29 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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