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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 13:03:05.502','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
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<ul data-start="211" data-end="255">
<li data-start="211" data-end="233">目标不只是打败对手，而是改变观众的观点。</li>
<li data-start="234" data-end="255">在辩论中，幽默、共鸣和数据支持是关键。</li>
</ul>
<p data-start="257" data-end="270">✅ <strong data-start="259" data-end="270">有效辩论的策略</strong></p>
<ul data-start="271" data-end="376">
<li data-start="271" data-end="305"><strong data-start="273" data-end="284">结合逻辑与情感</strong>：不只是提出数据，而是通过故事增强说服力。</li>
<li data-start="306" data-end="342"><strong data-start="308" data-end="317">调整优先级</strong>：不同的立场有不同的优先顺序，需站在不同角度思考。</li>
<li data-start="343" data-end="376"><strong data-start="345" data-end="353">运用反驳</strong>：提前预测对手可能的攻击点，并准备好有效回应。</li>
</ul>','2025-03-12 14:50:42.319','2025-03-12 14:50:42.319',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 14:50:42.318',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9c9db9c9-7ea3-4468-b0be-718dd4ef1aa1','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>辩论时根据论点激发思考的模式，而不是围绕在情绪。是另一种讨论的呈现方式。</p>','2025-03-12 15:55:16.533','2025-03-12 15:55:16.533',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 15:55:16.532',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('671c3a6f-f3dc-4fef-bc18-2415c5ed1be9','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>影響他人贏的辨論，與對方共舞</p>','2025-03-12 14:51:11.017','2025-03-12 14:51:33.548',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 14:51:33.547',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8223d9e-7652-4ba3-9be8-1fa466079c1e','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>与其争辩，不如引导彼此重新思考</p>','2025-03-12 14:51:43.325','2025-03-12 14:51:43.325',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 14:51:43.324',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8fbde5aa-d8fc-477d-be4e-f3eb24c22fb7','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>理由的数量不代表理由的质量，而是应该&ldquo;视情况而定&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&ldquo;最可能说服你改变心意的人是你自己。你能挑选你觉得最令人信服的理由，然后带着立定在那些理由上的真实感受离开。&rdquo;</p>
<p>&ldquo;当我们提出真诚的问题，我们让对方激起了想得知更多的好奇心。我们不必说服对方我们是对的，我们只需要开启他们的思维，让他们看到自己或许想法有误的可能性，他们的天生好奇心会完成剩下的一切。&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这里说的很有意思，只有自己能够说服自己，而真心是能换来真心的，只要你愿意聆听。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>之前的提问（10/3 pg137-141）：</p>
<p>如何在寻找意见时，获得对方的批评时，做出有亲和力的辩论？</p>
<p>答：有亲和力的人不代表讨论时不凶，应视情况而定，提出真诚的问题，同时避免言词太过激烈。</p>','2025-03-12 17:32:53.776','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('861c3406-7a45-48cd-8d42-0729bb1a6d58','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>随时敞开心胸参考、听取他人的意见、观点，才能获取更好的资讯并做出最好的判断与抉择。</p>','2025-03-12 14:58:17.481','2025-03-12 14:58:17.481',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 14:58:17.48',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9f9925a-966b-4e6b-8cce-780c5c89b4e2','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','74239164-b3cf-430a-b19b-1641712ac0a7','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''MS Mincho''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">與敵人</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">共舞：</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">如何贏得辯論並影響他人？</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">事实论事， 用<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''MS Mincho''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">數據</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">論證！</span></span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">平时有意注意和关注；</span></span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">吸收無數的文章以累積知識<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">︐</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''MS Mincho''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">密切研究講稿撰寫</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">︐</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">鍛鍊</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⾃⼰</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">的思路清晰</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">︐</span>甚<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⾄</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">練習演說風格</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">︐</span>以便傳達幽默感<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">︒</span></span></span></strong></p>','2025-03-10 16:15:54.81','2025-03-12 15:02:51.217',NULL,'f','2025-03-12 00:00:00.027','2025-03-12 15:02:51.216',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('10694d98-2b0a-4112-9aaf-90f13d0302d0','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p data-start="0" data-end="85">无论个人立场如何，<strong data-start="9" data-end="21">辩论赛的微妙之处</strong>在于，它迫使你站在与你&ldquo;真实&rdquo;想法对立的角度，去寻找支持这一立场的关键论点，并试图<strong data-start="62" data-end="82">说服别人接受原本你自己反对的观点</strong>。</p>
<p data-start="0" data-end="85">我觉得这很有趣，因为你被迫抽离了原本那个角色与眼光。</p>
<p data-start="260" data-end="319" data-is-last-node="" data-is-only-node="">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-12 15:22:10.763','2025-03-12 15:22:10.763',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 15:22:10.762',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('18f7ddef-a3a7-4533-a9d8-76f8389bb69f','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>加强合作的方法，就是让我们能展现更多谦逊及好奇心，邀请对方能像科学家的方式去思考。</p>
<p>在辩论会会后，观众的投票虽然不一定会得到胜利，可是却能够提升支持率的巴仙率。在辩论时，需要赢得观众的支持，让他们再去重新思考自己的立场。</p>','2025-02-18 06:00:10.818','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f1ca1d6c-2d6f-4075-a830-2f6f94d86422','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 26 ：3月12日《逆思維Think Again》Part 2： 人際的重新思考， 開啓他人的思維</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">05 與敵人共舞：如何贏得辯論並影響他人（Page 149-153）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">与敌人共舞：如何赢得辩论并影响他人 </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">强大辩论者的特质-在辩论中，强者不只是坚持自己的立场，而是懂得如何拆解对手的论点并给予更有说服力的回应。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2.赢得辩论的关键技巧</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 共鸣与说服：优秀的辩论者会让对方觉得自己的观点被理解，而不是直接反驳。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 数据与事实支持：建立论点时，使用具体数据来支撑自己的观点，让观众更容易接受。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 掌握对方的弱点：透过研究对手的观点，找到其逻辑漏洞或矛盾点，让自己的论述更具说服力。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 3. 影响他人的方法</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 提出更有建设性的观点：不仅要批评对方的论点，还要提供可行的替代方案，这样更能赢得信任与支持。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 善用问题引导：透过提问来挑战对手的立场，让对方自己发现其观点的盲点，而不是直接攻击。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 4. 辩论的最终目标</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 成功的辩论不是「击败」对手，而是让更多人认同自己的观点，并影响决策方向。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;&bull; 良好的辩论建立在相互尊重的基础上，强势的论点加上谦逊的态度，能够带来最大的影响力。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">结论</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">真正的辩论高手不只是会说服，更懂得换位思考，找到双赢的机会，从而影响更多人！</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-12 15:14:02.162','2025-03-12 15:14:06.429',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 15:14:06.418',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">05 与敌人共舞：如何赢得辩论并影响他人（Page 149-153）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">论证并非总是根据事实。</span></p>','2025-03-12 15:17:02.883','2025-03-12 15:17:04.743',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 15:17:04.742',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d88ddfaf-fd88-4830-acac-5847ba6b78a2','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>先聆听别人在说什么，并且给予肯定，让自己像个理性的人，把所有的事都考虑进去。</p>
<p>先让两人有一致的看法，才乐于根据逻辑和数据来改进观点。</p>','2025-03-12 23:03:13.983','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('20947148-01c3-4172-be9a-7427e89e4485','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>要成功的说服对手，除了成功让他们能重新思考个人的看法，也要尝试打动他们的内心想法，让他们对我们认知的看法产生共鸣，才能事半工倍。&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-12 00:38:50.128','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a0495182-1465-4b74-b2e2-30841df5b9bc','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我们平时要说服对方，通常都以敌对策略，激怒对方，而且用心关上对方的心门。</p>
<p>作者更提倡加强合作心態，保有谦遜及好奇心，就像科学家的心態的方式去思考。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-10 07:12:52.288','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c355a47d-a6d5-4eea-a90f-9ce4ae664899','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「即使只有一位談判者抱持科學家程度的謙遜及好奇心，都能為雙方帶來更好的結果。因為她會尋找更多資訊，找出方法讓雙方都能更好。他不會告訴對手該思考些什麼，他會邀請對方共舞。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-10 22:34:48.03','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16a54052-0f3e-4024-b7c5-1c86e223403a','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>当我们试图去说服别人时，经常都会采取敌对的策略，为什么需要敌对呢？难道说服就等于说服了对方就多了个敌人吗？若是如此，我们并未使对方敞开心扉，反而是使对方用力关上他们的心门，或是激怒他们。这是我们要达到的让对方重新思考的目的吗？</p>','2025-03-11 14:44:03.317','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce38b9ba-0cbb-4e0e-a8d2-ed888cd98aa0','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>价值，在于不断超越自我。</p>
<p>伙伴的存在的竞争对手，也许有利于自我研究。</p>','2025-03-24 14:28:43.995','2025-03-24 14:31:38.618',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:31:38.617',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('461631d5-f16d-4d4a-a75e-bb52e637120b','31293fbf-7102-43e5-88b7-31f003238717','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>重新思考除了分享还以好奇心和兴趣，探索新的领域拥抱困惑重新工作。</p>','2025-04-09 13:30:34.656','2025-04-09 13:30:34.656',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-09 13:30:34.635',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1556426f-6973-43c0-b9a2-7aba95ca229c','d863dbd7-3b15-4160-b06f-645ec8040201','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>好的老师引进新的思想，伟大的老师引进新的思考方式，</p>','2025-04-09 13:44:21.896','2025-04-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-04-10 00:00:00.004','2025-04-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa585701-4faa-4936-b262-f33a73e3932b','9b9b9b4e-ee99-4010-b288-7fd0df351d87','4cfe29dd-714c-41a2-bc6d-306205099ae9','<p>在組織裡，從新思考不是個人的責任，更應該是一種文化。</p>','2025-04-11 14:40:20.658','2025-04-11 14:40:20.658',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-11 14:40:20.657',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('debcce02-5d7d-4fa2-9e61-c99350bf4116','fe0b6b6e-138a-4225-b967-c6e644743994','818bb03e-4271-4e7a-a918-07cdd48a8614','<p>当事情发生在自己身上时，不要问"why me", 问 "try me"。</p>','2025-04-17 13:46:22.275','2025-04-17 13:46:22.275',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-17 13:46:22.274',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5f61bdd-b164-4587-92d0-601f0018ebb3','e888c46f-bac6-4db5-9c3f-81db3a875251','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>我常说不要怕犯错，最重要是不要重复犯同样的错。</p>','2025-04-12 15:16:33.326','2025-04-12 15:16:33.326',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-12 15:16:33.325',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db8f2455-ad18-4763-b54f-773d695f2da0','e888c46f-bac6-4db5-9c3f-81db3a875251','74239164-b3cf-430a-b19b-1641712ac0a7','<h4>我犯错故我学习</h4>
<p>真正高效的团队不是不会犯错, 而是敢于面对错误, 并从中学习。</p>
<p>心里安全感是让团队变得勇敢、真实和进步的关键基础。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-04-12 15:29:38.152','2025-04-12 15:29:38.152',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-12 15:29:38.151',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cba8256b-c14c-4598-a182-1190cdb9da53','e888c46f-bac6-4db5-9c3f-81db3a875251','20d428c2-480c-4843-8f38-f65759afc153','<p>允許犯錯，並了解錯誤，才能促進團隊成長</p>','2025-04-12 15:30:24.828','2025-04-12 15:30:24.828',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-12 15:30:24.827',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6746efa0-f960-4702-8e04-08444f03c20a','4498ba6e-68a4-4efd-bd7d-bc700846179c','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>每一段成功的关系需要定期重新思考。</p>','2025-04-18 14:00:23.56','2025-04-18 14:00:23.56',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-18 14:00:23.559',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fab33f7a-29b7-401f-a9d9-24ff327524a9','d1e54520-9cd1-423a-b2a8-45bb7fd8a64a','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>谦逊才能重新思考</p>
<p>好奇心才能驱使质疑的产生</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-04-20 12:47:15.191','2025-04-20 12:47:15.191',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-20 12:47:15.19',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0e2322a2-40a2-4d9f-87ec-8ab294e635a0','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>不是击败对手，而是让更多的人信服自己。</p>','2025-03-12 15:34:43.127','2025-03-12 15:34:53.304',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 15:34:53.301',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9614ed84-7e57-4a36-aae7-aad44445b4f9','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>辩论是说服对手，不是击败对手</p>','2025-03-12 15:42:46.315','2025-03-12 15:42:46.315',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 15:42:46.314',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f4c8cb16-695d-43f8-abb5-20ded7beb9dc','ab65ce75-b409-4a0d-9993-402c02360344','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 26&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">12</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">05&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">与敌人共舞：如何赢得辩论并影响他人（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 149-153</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">与敌人共舞，赢得辩论并影响他人</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">政府是否该补助幼儿园，黛博拉以一个笑话开场，让观众哄堂大笑。针对幼儿园计划学术、社会专业效益，概述惊人的研究，引述首相认同的论点。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">哈里许知道事实，为自己辩护，补助幼儿园并非对纳税金所做的最佳运用。</span></p>','2025-03-12 15:52:47.707','2025-03-12 15:53:20.297',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 15:53:20.295',NULL,NULL);
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<p>辩论的目标不只是胜利，赢得辩论不等于真正说服对方而是让对方真正认同你的观点。</p>','2025-03-12 15:58:06.693','2025-03-12 15:58:08.096',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-12 15:58:08.093',NULL,NULL);
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<p data-start="162" data-end="253">此外，承认对方的观点是有其依据的，不仅能减少防御心理，还能建立一种连接感，使我们与对手或观众产生共鸣。真正有影响力的说服，不是推翻，而是引导对方主动思考，从而愿意接受新的可能性。</p>','2025-03-12 16:34:18.422','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p data-start="115" data-end="258">这是一场硬仗，正如我们用权力去逼迫一个更弱小的群体（比如当孩子情绪激动时）服从我们的观点，即使我们确实有理有据，也很&ldquo;讲道理&rdquo;。但问题是，与人协商并不是拔河，不是只要足够的力气让对方无力反抗就能&ldquo;赢&rdquo;。如果情感被忽略，即便逻辑再完美，依然难以改变人的立场，甚至可能引发更激烈的对抗。</p>','2025-03-12 16:04:30.43','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&ldquo;一个较弱的论点通常会削弱一个较强的论点。&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这让我想起刚开始读这本书的故事：拿着所有工具到大火燃烧的森林里，只会消耗消防员的体力，在当下的情况没有任何作用。</p>','2025-03-12 17:15:46.448','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('39500b6b-cb6a-47d3-8a1a-8fcbca61f7f3','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>能引导他人逆思考真是功德无量。人都会有盲点，能看清，不只给自己提升，同时也让社会变得更完美。</p>','2025-03-24 14:56:14.246','2025-03-24 14:56:14.246',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:56:14.244',NULL,NULL);
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<p>但能說服更多人重新思考自己的觀點或立場，讓大家敞開心房，更是更上一層樓。</p>
<p>這就是功夫，時刻邀請他人能以更科學家的方式去思考。</p>','2025-03-12 12:48:47.38','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<p>当我们试图说服对方，只是宣扬自己的立场和道出我们想听的想法，往往未能使他人敞开心房和成功改变对方的想法。</p>
<p>什么才有效的影响他人呢？</p>','2025-03-12 14:41:50.877','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<p>本書的這一部分，是關於說服他人去重新思考他們的看法，當我們試圖說服別人，經常會採取敵對的策略，我們並未使對方澈開心房，而是用力關上他們的心門，或是激怒他們。</p>
<p>他們心生防衛、豎立盔甲、採取攻擊姿態、宣揚自己的觀點並且檢討我們的觀點，或是採取政治行動，對我們說出我們想聽的話，但是絲毫不改他們內心的想法。</p>
<p>我想探索一種加強合作的方法，讓我們能展現更多謙遜及好奇心，邀請對方能以更像科學家的方式去思考。</p>','2025-03-12 14:23:02.869','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<ul data-start="401" data-end="540">
<li data-start="401" data-end="469"><strong data-start="403" data-end="411">正方观点</strong>：
<ul data-start="415" data-end="469">
<li data-start="415" data-end="440">提供资助能提升儿童教育质量，减少贫困代际传递。</li>
<li data-start="443" data-end="469">研究显示，高质量幼儿园能提高毕业率、降低犯罪率。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="470" data-end="540"><strong data-start="472" data-end="480">反方观点</strong>：
<ul data-start="484" data-end="540">
<li data-start="484" data-end="509">政府资金有限，优先级应放在更紧迫的社会问题上。</li>
<li data-start="512" data-end="540">经济增长与教育资金的分配应权衡，而非只聚焦一项政策。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<p data-start="542" data-end="555">✅ <strong data-start="544" data-end="555">观众心理的变化</strong></p>
<ul data-start="556" data-end="639">
<li data-start="556" data-end="582">初始投票中，大多数观众已形成坚定观点（92%）。</li>
<li data-start="583" data-end="613">通过辩论，支持政府资助幼儿园的比例从6.2%升至30%。</li>
<li data-start="614" data-end="639">关键转变：观众更能理解双方立场，而非简单站队。</li>
</ul>','2025-03-12 14:57:44.595','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">05 与敌人共舞：如何赢得辩论并影响他人 con&rsquo;t（Page 154-157）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变心意不会让你成为善变者或伪君子，这表示你愿意学习。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当我们试图说服别人，经常会采取敌对的策略，我们并未时对方敞开心扉，而是用力关上他们的心门，或是激怒他们。他们心生防卫、豎立盔甲丶采取攻击姿态、宣扬自己的观点，并且讨检我们的观点，或是采取政治行动，对我们说出我们想听的话，但是丝毫不会改变他们内心的想法。</span></p>','2025-03-12 15:29:04.171','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2409a52a-dbb9-4747-a944-386c7961a047','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p data-start="0" data-end="60">数据固然重要，但真正能说服人的，往往不是单纯的事实与数字，而是引导他们进行自我思考，从而主动调整自己的判断。</p>
<p data-start="62" data-end="193">📊 数据 vs. 自我认知<br data-start="80" data-end="83">数据显示事实，而人的决策往往受认知偏差、情绪和既有观念的影响。如果数据直接与他们的信念相悖，他们可能会抗拒甚至忽视这些信息。而真正有效的说服，不是强行灌输，而是让对方自己去思考、发现，并得出新的结论。</p>
<p data-start="195" data-end="217">💡 引导思考，比直接说服更有效</p>
<ul data-start="218" data-end="352">
<li data-start="218" data-end="257">提问而非直接反驳：「如果这是真的，那会对你的观点意味着什么？」</li>
<li data-start="258" data-end="304">给出新角度，而非强行推翻：「有没有可能，从另一个视角来看，会有不同的解释？」</li>
<li data-start="305" data-end="352">让他们自己找到答案：「你觉得如果继续按照现在的想法行动，可能会出现什么结果？」</li>
</ul>
<p data-start="354" data-end="459" data-is-last-node="" data-is-only-node="">🔄 从&ldquo;告诉别人答案&rdquo;到&ldquo;让别人自己找到答案&rdquo;<br data-start="382" data-end="385">当一个人自发地调整观点，比起单方面接受别人的说服，他们会更加坚定自己的新认知。说服的本质，不是让别人听懂你，而是让他们愿意重新思考。</p>','2025-03-12 15:30:39.086','2025-03-13 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('66400c1a-36a8-489f-b33c-4120f956ee38','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','f041d204-f304-44f7-9bc1-aa76094ff793','<p>没有永远的敌人！可以邀请对方打开心房，引导对方像个科学家重新思考！加强合作！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>但这首先需要智慧和Eq 才能获得更好的谈判！</p>','2025-03-13 01:11:36.903','2025-03-13 01:11:36.903',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 01:11:36.902',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我一直认为因果就是今天所发生的一切都是源自于一切的&ldquo;因&rdquo;，是一点一滴累计下来才变成今天的果。作者颠覆的我的想法，他讲的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;论是因为想达到某些目的而设法把自己变成这样。</p>
<p>由于不想这样，所以才这样。。。太不可思议了！</p>','2025-03-13 04:28:57.875','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bce97208-038e-4e7c-88d7-eeccb1582903','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li data-start="698" data-end="729"><strong data-start="700" data-end="728">说服并不是战胜对方，而是让他们对此事有新的想法</strong></li>
</ul>','2025-03-13 13:48:54.226','2025-03-13 13:48:54.226',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 13:48:54.225',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b764e2ad-d3ec-464e-b430-6f94fb6de966','8db884ad-97c1-4d37-9842-a3efb87bf631','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>当有人出现敌意，应对策略可以是反映击或是撤。</p>
<p>如果当成是是一支午，不只是可以退，也可以前进，更可以向左转，也可以向右走。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-13 06:23:08.698','2025-03-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f53e1d32-fc43-4db8-82e6-787f1748a032','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','e5b8e15b-13cb-4dc2-940f-cfb308bda145','<p>154-157页 ： 辩论最美的地方就是没到最后一刻，大家都不会知道到底谁才会是真正的赢家，哈哈哈。。。原本大家看好的辩手，结果因为中间对方给了很好的论据，票数马上更改，去了对面。可是，没到最后一分钟，都不会知道赢家到底是谁。</p>
<p>我们人生不也是这样吗？原本跟着轨道走，生活应该是这样过的，可是走着走着，突然间，来了一个急转弯，下一个路口可能需要转换跑道了。没人知。</p>
<p>所以，还是好好的把自己该做的做好，才是最正确的。就如这几页说到，贫穷家庭出生的孩子是有风险的，这句话可能只对了一半哦。眼看四方，世界上多少个名人富豪都是来自贫穷的家庭的，不是吗？</p>
<p>所以，不要被命运绑死，边做边改，边走边变，才是最智慧的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-13 07:05:50.397','2025-03-13 07:05:50.397',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 07:05:50.395',NULL,NULL);
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<p>是关于说服他人去从新思考他们的看法，经常以敌对的策略，并未使对方敞开心房，而是用力关上他们的心门，或者激怒他们，一旦心生防卫，竖立盔甲，采取攻击姿态，宣扬自己的观点，或是采取政治行动。</p>
<p>对别人说出别人想听的话，但是丝毫不改他们内心的想法。</p>
<p>探索一种加强合作的方法，展现更多谦逊及好奇心，邀请对方难以更像科学家对方式去思考。</p>','2025-03-13 13:50:46.074','2025-03-13 13:50:58.244',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 13:50:58.243',NULL,NULL);
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<p>其实就是尊重每个人观点，然后当作Brain stone 看看有什么可能性。我们公司也会吵架,但是都是要解决问题，所以我个人认为吵架有时候是有效的沟通。</p>','2025-03-13 14:03:12.477','2025-03-13 14:03:12.477',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 14:03:12.473',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f2256f5-cd5d-4a9c-9d8d-a396903451b4','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 27 ：3月13日《逆思维Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">05 与敌人共舞：如何赢得辩论并影响他人 con&rsquo;t（Page 154-157）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何說服他人重新思考，而不是激怒他們或讓他們更防備。與其強硬對抗，不如用</span><span class="s2">謙遜和好奇心</span><span class="s1">來引導對方，以</span><span class="s2">開放的心態</span><span class="s1">討論，讓他們像科學家一樣思考和探索新觀點。</span></p>','2025-03-13 14:04:42.672','2025-03-13 14:04:42.672',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 14:04:42.671',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c9cf596-b74d-4380-a972-85bc48d2424d','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>最可能说服你改变心意的人是你自己。</p>
<p>人们只听自己想要听到的，给予太多的理由反而让人怀疑。</p>
<p>就像书中要一毛不拔的人捐钱。</p>
<p>理由不用太多，只要能说到人家的心里去就可以了。</p>','2025-03-13 04:27:19.308','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca30549a-8e02-45b7-976e-0810d0085ab8','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>那些无法动摇我们的说法，只会使我们的信念更坚定，就像疫苗接种到我们身体的免疫系统以对抗病毒，抵抗的行为增强我们身体的心理免疫系统。反论述不再令我们感到惊讶与困惑，因为我们已准备好反驳。</p>','2025-03-13 06:12:42.203','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36ddb035-bfe0-45b4-bd06-81c38415d8fb','aa1acb63-d523-4bf9-9eef-92f1fe95018f','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>-假如那名女子负起责任，重新评价她的理念及行为，对于那些从她的反应看见自己的影子的人来说，她可能会成为典范。</p>
<p>-虽然她无法改变自己做过的事，並意识到权利动能的复杂性，而导致持久不坠的种族主义，但她或许能在走向正义的可能步骤上，激发更深入的讨论。</p>','2025-03-13 07:20:48.107','2025-04-04 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-04-04 00:00:00.027','2025-04-04 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c85b4bd-21d6-4b71-8162-05bec230cf55','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>说服别人时，与其采用敌对策略， 更应该学习如何敞开他人心房</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-13 08:48:39.492','2025-03-13 08:48:39.492',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 08:48:39.492',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('22536d94-e0ce-4ed7-b9bd-003135bdb416','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>作者指出戴伯拉在辩论赢得了观众的支持然而他的对手哈利许说服我们再去（重新思考自己的立场）<br>我们有学到他是怎么做到的吗？我们从中学到了什么？</p>
<p>对于说服他人去重新思考他们的看法这过程？<br>如果我们采取敌对的策略,我们没有让对方（开心），反而是使他们防卫！因为我们习惯用（传教士，检察官，政治人士的策略/方式/来辩论，来说服他人。</p>
<p>而不是用科学家的方式/策略去影响。。让听者/对方重新思考。</p>
<p>正面的辩论在生活中可以让双方探索一种合作的方法，让我们能展现更多自信的谦逊和好奇心，以科学家的思考找出最好的方案/答案。</p>
<p>我们能做到吗？</p>','2025-03-13 09:32:20.734','2025-03-13 09:32:20.734',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 09:32:20.732',NULL,NULL);
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<p>在辩论与说服过程中我们应摒弃,"战斗"思维而采用"共舞"策略,通过提问、引导和利用认知偏差,让对方在理解你的观点的同时,自然地调整他们的立场。书中提到, 提出恰当的问题比直接辩驳更有效。这样可以让对方陷入思考并可能动摇其原有的立场。所以真正的高手不是通过攻击或取胜, 而是以影响力促使对方思考 逐步让对方接受你的观点。</p>
<p>个人思考：如果我在这场辩论中, 我可能会多次重新思考自己的立场, 而不是固守最初的观点。无论是哪一方的立场都有其合理性, 而理解对方的理由, 才能做出更前面的判断。</p>
<p>这也启发我们, 在日常生活中, 爭论的目的不应该是&ldquo;赢得胜利&rdquo;而是促进理解。这不僅适用于辩论, 政策讨论、也适用于日常人际沟通, 职场谈判等各个领域。</p>','2025-03-13 09:16:38.55','2025-03-13 09:35:42.394',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 09:35:42.392',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e678788d-8ddc-4616-8835-f57455faf976','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>邀请对方和自己以scientist mindset来讨论问题.先打开对方的心房,不要有敌对的想法.</p>','2025-03-13 10:26:26.714','2025-03-13 10:26:26.714',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 10:26:26.713',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4d22a846-c356-4b8a-9f5e-e79a72d9c36d','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>最好的谈判就是互惠互力！</p>
<p>双赢/三赢都可以让对方打开心扉，重新思考！</p>','2025-03-13 11:30:54.795','2025-03-13 11:30:54.795',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 11:30:54.794',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d1b42bb-d01d-4023-9c03-c32b690f0315','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 27&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>3<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>13<span lang="ZH-CN">日《逆思维</span>&nbsp;Think Again<span lang="ZH-CN">》</span>Part 2<span lang="ZH-CN">： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">05&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">与敌人共舞：如何赢得辩论并影响他人</span>&nbsp;con&rsquo;t<span lang="ZH-CN">（</span>Page 154-157<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">如何让自己也重新思考已经是不容易，更何况要说服他人重新思考？</span></p>','2025-03-13 12:03:50.873','2025-03-13 12:03:50.873',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 12:03:50.872',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('399b83f8-1ba5-4bd1-a8ae-9ce0056a0d60','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','e833f525-7fb5-477e-bfbb-f19dd1483c26','<p>达成共识是共情对方且引领到更好的方向.</p>','2025-03-13 12:42:37.329','2025-03-13 12:42:47.763',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 12:42:47.762',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bbd20c56-896d-4f5c-8082-c760d1f62050','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>不管您有多麼充分的理由，也不管理由的質量與數量，最重要的是能與對方最貼近的那個論點最為有效。</p>
<p>因為最能說服自己改變心意的就是自己。</p>
<p>要做的事是，找到對方信服的理由讓他自己改變自己的心意來認同你。</p>
<p>這裏的技巧是：</p>
<p>1️⃣讓對方在贊同及了解的有效觀點上，示範自信的謙遜 並鼓勵對方效法。</p>
<p>2️⃣以少許具有凝聚力和令人信服的理由來獲得支持的論述，鼓勵對方開始懷疑他們自己的看法。</p>
<p>3️⃣提出真誠的問題，激起對方想得知更多的好奇心。</p>
<p>4️⃣不必費力說服對方 而是開啟對方的固有思維，想法存在有誤的可能性，並讓好奇心的作祟下 讓對方自我說服。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-13 10:44:50.626','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal">05&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">与敌人共舞：如何赢得辩论并影响他人</span>&nbsp;con&rsquo;t<span lang="ZH-CN">（</span>Page 154-157<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">引导对方从新思考，比赢了争论，更为关键</span></p>','2025-03-12 14:42:37.993','2025-03-13 14:22:16.172',NULL,'f','2025-03-13 00:00:00.013','2025-03-13 14:22:16.171',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">當我們試圖說服別</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">經常會採取敵對的策略。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們並未使對</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽅</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">敞開</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼼</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">房，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">是而是力</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">關上他們的</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">心门，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">或是激怒他們。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">他們心生</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">防衛，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">豎立盔甲，採取攻擊姿態，</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">宣揚自己</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的觀點並且檢討我們的觀點，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">或是採取政治</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⾏</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">動，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">對我們說出我們想聽的話，但是絲毫不改他們內</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼼</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的想法。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''MS Mincho''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我想探索</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">種加強合作的</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽅</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">法，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">讓我們能展現更多謙</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''MS Mincho''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">遜心</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的想法。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我想探索</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">種加強合作的</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽅</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">法。</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">讓我們能展現更多謙遜及好奇心，邀請對</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽅</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">能以更像科學家的方式去思考</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">︒</span></p>','2025-03-13 15:15:22.664','2025-03-13 15:15:22.664',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 15:15:22.662',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70d85617-6c15-45a4-8a5e-326c42dd0c19','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>带着谦卑和好奇，尊重他人，邀请对方像科学家的方式重新思考。</p>','2025-03-13 15:26:46.462','2025-03-13 15:26:46.462',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 15:26:46.461',NULL,NULL);
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<p>应该先自己展现出更多谦逊及好奇心，邀请对方以科学家的方式去思考，才是比较好的说服他人重新思考他们的看法。</p>','2025-03-13 15:46:22.783','2025-03-13 15:46:22.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 15:46:22.782',NULL,NULL);
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<p>尤其是政治人物想要推出任何有关社会政策的时候需要多方面思考，因为他们的任何决定能够影响许多老百姓往后的生活。</p>','2025-03-13 15:46:41.746','2025-03-13 15:46:41.746',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 15:46:41.745',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4524cccc-d964-438d-8651-9c50988a182b','51992031-3c15-4398-a041-ff216bf79262','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 27&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">13</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">05&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">与敌人共舞：如何赢得辩论并影响他人</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;con<span lang="ZH-CN">&rsquo;</span>t</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 154-157</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">哈里许说服我们去重新思考自己的立场。改变心意，表示愿意学习。自我提醒，下一趟前往愚蠢山的山顶时，记得来一张自拍照。</span></p>','2025-03-13 15:56:39.941','2025-03-13 15:56:39.941',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 15:56:39.939',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-13 21:57:46.45','2025-03-13 21:57:46.45',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 21:57:46.449',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2"><span class="s1"> 1. </span><span class="s2">改变说服方式，不做&ldquo;逻辑恶霸&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 在销售、谈判或说服他人时，不要只是提供一堆数据和逻辑，而要理解对方的想法，寻找共同点。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 在家族企业、团队合作中，与亲人或同事沟通时，不能只靠&ldquo;对错&rdquo;来判断，而是要用对方能接受的方式交流，避免引起对抗情绪。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1"> 2. </span><span class="s2">谈判要找共同点，而不是把对方压服</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 与人谈判时，不是要&ldquo;赢&rdquo;他们，而是要找到双方都能接受的方案。可以提前规划好共识点，而不是急于证明自己是对的。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 在和其他合伙人讨论业务发展时，不要急于用自己的观点推翻对方，而是要多提问，引导他们思考，共同设计最优解。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1"> 3. </span><span class="s2">少即是多，选对关键论点</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 过去在做销售时，往往习惯一次性提供很多数据和理由，希望以量取胜，但这个方法可能适得其反。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 在商业谈判或推销产品时，要聚焦于最关键、最具说服力的几个点，避免提供过多可能被驳倒的理由，影响整体的可信度。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1"> 4. </span><span class="s2">培养好奇心，学会&ldquo;共舞&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 处理员工事务时，不能只是站在公司的角度，给出强硬的立场，而是可以通过提问，引导对方自己思考更好的方案。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 未来在建立个人品牌时，和观众沟通时也要避免过于武断的表达方式，而是通过提问的方式，引导他们参与讨论，增加互动性。</span></p>
<p class="p4">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">结论</span></p>
<p class="p5">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这篇文章给我的最大启发是：</span><span class="s2">沟通不是战斗，而是舞蹈</span><span class="s1">。在工作和生活中，说服不是赢得争论，而是寻找共同点，让对话更有建设性。接下来，我要有意识地运用&ldquo;减少论点、增强共鸣、多提问、培养好奇心&rdquo;这些技巧，来提升自己在生意、职场和生活中的影响力。</span></p>','2025-03-13 22:51:39.106','2025-03-13 22:51:39.106',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-13 22:51:39.104',NULL,NULL);
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<p>任何談判的交易，都是一道科學。</p>','2025-03-13 02:47:16.947','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p>这个例子说明了如果只是坚持己见,最后无法说服别人,落得被疏远的下场</p>','2025-03-13 02:53:44.028','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p>有技巧的谈判专家的做法：</p>
<p>1）找出共同点</p>
<p>2）多提出问题</p>
<p>3）理由的数目越多，就越容易暴露论点的弱点</p>
<p>4）防御进入恶性的攻击循环，反而需要做的是在谈判桌上同意他人的论点来解除武装。通过不时的后退来达到和谐。就如跳舞，要有进退。</p>','2025-03-13 14:05:48.767','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9593d11c-470d-4ae4-875b-22ab659ff795','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>有技巧的谈判专家很少采取攻击或防御，他们反而以提问表达好奇。</p>','2025-03-14 13:32:34.792','2025-03-14 13:32:34.792',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 13:32:34.791',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d77e290d-de0c-4688-921c-daed24f71a38','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>多，不代表好。</p>
<p>质量和数量或许很重要，最令人信服的来源是和你的观众最贴近的那一个。</p>','2025-03-13 23:09:38.865','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('44fc4384-f233-4bef-acfa-bb28d07e9e0b','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','e5b8e15b-13cb-4dc2-940f-cfb308bda145','<p>157-162頁 ： 喜歡洁咪说的一句话 ： 你只是用理性论点压垮我，我虽然不赞同，但是无法反驳。这句话很有意思，为什么这么说。因为我也曾经有过类似的经历。当我们把烦恼说给别人知道的时候，如果遇上这种硬邦邦的理性人的时候，是最令人讨厌的。</p>
<p>因为正彷徨无助的我们，多么期望别人会给我们一些实质性的支持与意见，而不是这样的一句话，让自己更不好受。</p>
<p>理性的人做事凡事都是没感情的，只是针对事情去分析和考虑，从来都顾不上别人的感受和心情。很多时候，我们去问别人意见，其实自己心里面大概大概都已经有一定的答案了，只是想从别人的嘴里拿到认可和认同而已。</p>
<p>可是如果遇上这种理性人，就很扫兴了，他说的话不只是让人听了很懊恼，而且还会让人觉得很没趣。</p>
<p>所以，还是要学会理性和感性并重的去处理事情。多用心，少用头脑。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-13 07:59:28.153','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dd039d49-d084-414b-8825-b8fcb4a0451f','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>一个较弱的论点通常会削弱一个较强的论点</p>
<p>普通谈判者 vs 有技巧的谈判者：</p>
<p>1）有技巧的较多的找出双方的共同点</p>
<p>2）大部分人把争论想成天平，以为堆叠的理由越多就越有可能倾向自己</p>
<p>3）普通的谈判者比较可能进入防御---攻击的恶性循环</p>
<p>4）有技巧的谈判者反而以提问表达好奇：比如，所以你们看不到这项提议的任何优点？</p>','2025-03-13 09:07:40.243','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b7ee8fb3-6702-49b4-93b3-44a094ec3bcc','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>谈判不是拔河，不是谁的点多谁就会胜利， 而是应该像跳舞一样，把彼此的节奏调节在一起，然后让对方跟上自己的步伐。</p>','2025-03-13 12:42:10.649','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1e7ed048-0837-4efa-9f68-e8d16de95ade','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 28 ：3月14日《逆思维Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">交易的科学（Page 157-162）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">辩论永远不要挑起战端。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一场好的辩论不是战争，甚至不是拔河，他比较像是一只尚未编排的舞蹈，要和心中有一套不同舞步的伙伴协商。在谈判时，同意他人的论点是解除武装。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">专家知道在共舞时，他们不能站着不动，期待对方去做所有的动作。为了取得和谐，他们需要不时后退。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">大部分的人把争论想成天平：我们在自己这边堆累越多理由，天平就越有可能倾向我们这一番。专家们实际上提出较少的理由来支持他们的论点，他们不想淡化他们的最佳观点。一个较弱的论点通常会削弱一个较强的论点。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">即使只有一位谈判者抱持科学家程度的谦shun遜及好奇心，都能为双方带来更好的结果。因为他会寻找更多资讯，找出方法让双方都能更好。他不会告诉对手该思考些什么，他会邀请对方共舞。</span></p>','2025-03-13 14:42:17.891','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('67f08534-1d39-45c7-8d89-b57b34ae36da','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>虽然「逻辑恶霸」提出的理性观点，可能一针见血，都是不折不扣的正确，但却无法让人信服。这站在一场谈判的角度上来说，并不成功。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>辩论，是一门艺术，目的在于改变听众的心意，而不是让你听起来无法反驳。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>好的谈判：规划如何找到共同点、不提出无力的理由来支持自己的观点（并非多则好）、不以攻击为手段，选用提问来表达好奇、不以断定的方式来陈述，反而以问号结尾。</p>','2025-03-13 15:21:23.913','2025-03-14 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022','2025-03-14 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d98bcc5-46bc-4085-a377-896ec29980bf','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一场精彩的辩论不是一场战争，甚至不是一场拔河，并非只要用力拉扯，就能让对方站到自己这一边。辩论更像是一支尚未编排的舞蹈，你的对手心中自有一套步伐，而你的任务是与之协商、调整，适应对方的节奏，同时引导对方回应你的舞步。唯有如此，你们才能在碰撞与配合中逐渐跟上同一支旋律。</span></p>','2025-03-14 00:06:40.727','2025-03-14 00:06:40.727',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 00:06:40.726',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e26b3f4b-12ed-45d7-8f4f-6eda9a110c44','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>搬出一大堆的数据、资料、理由，其实并没有让你变得更有说服力。人们会因为对议题的关注度、对我们特定论点的接受度、听者本身对自己意见的坚持度，而影响了他们接纳我们提出的理由，并进行重新思考。</p>','2025-03-14 01:27:54.821','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('80fb7f7b-d9b7-47e6-b045-f3377c84bb36','93108994-c806-4d48-9928-a057ce288c4e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人们通常对敌对的族群或任何团体心存偏见，形成刻板的印象，并且尽一切所能去破坏对手，就越不能去从新思考。</p>','2025-03-14 01:58:06.156','2025-03-19 00:00:00.037',NULL,'f','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('84c4462e-4814-44ae-a2a8-45ebb908d01e','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','e833f525-7fb5-477e-bfbb-f19dd1483c26','<p>提高自我认知,才能适应环境.</p>','2025-03-25 04:29:53.892','2025-03-25 04:29:56.109',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 04:29:56.108',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4794e3b-8d6b-4249-bf96-a4e1e81a5f06','d1e54520-9cd1-423a-b2a8-45bb7fd8a64a','e833f525-7fb5-477e-bfbb-f19dd1483c26','<p>&ldquo;利他&rdquo;不要求回报的付出,会无形中改变思维.</p>','2025-04-20 12:04:37.032','2025-04-20 12:04:52.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-20 12:04:52.619',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0d66bec-be20-417f-816e-f94cdb4c7ce9','ccf69c51-a906-48ed-b441-f83de1ffef44','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>傾聽</p>
<p>思考</p>
<p>意願</p>
<p>行動</p>
<p>持之以恆</p>','2025-04-30 03:34:09.632','2025-05-02 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-05-02 00:00:00.032','2025-05-02 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ebf91beb-dd6d-4ca3-a9c4-c0bf9ac505d0','de409a30-909c-4da1-ac71-4a4d4526b82c','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>那每個人極端的表現都有一個背景故事。</p>
<p>所以從另外一個切入點去了解是關鍵。</p>','2025-04-30 03:36:45.005','2025-05-03 00:00:00.051',NULL,'f','2025-05-03 00:00:00.05','2025-05-03 00:00:00.05',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fe8002f1-2f2e-4dbd-a338-cb6aa3f1767a','f71e6ec0-f7e5-412e-b682-b449a312b84c','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>杏仁核劫持</p>
<p>鏡像神經元</p>
<p>兩個非常有趣的腦部運作方式</p>','2025-04-30 03:43:15.353','2025-05-04 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-05-04 00:00:00.01','2025-05-04 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff4949ba-7ee8-408c-8a1a-f6523d1e44ca','c7c88358-2e44-406e-b3c5-5d5ab24b6168','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>习惯性说&ldquo;可以&rdquo;, 方法过后机会有了</p>','2025-05-25 08:24:36.468','2025-05-25 08:24:36.468',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-05-25 08:24:36.467',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('908925f3-3e8b-4cee-8b40-86b833e3f84e','fbe92595-ac65-415d-a3b0-af1cd445168c','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>坦承自己有弱点，再把弱点转化为有利的条件</p>','2025-06-03 15:21:54.783','2025-06-03 15:21:54.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-03 15:21:54.782',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9e7366b7-1586-4306-a418-0d84a484d9b4','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<p>一场好的辩论不是战争，也不要成为那位&ldquo;逻辑恶霸&rdquo;。而是从问题中如何创造出共同点，一起共舞。</p>','2025-03-14 04:27:08.472','2025-03-14 04:27:08.472',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 04:27:08.471',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb206988-ca2d-4b75-ae0b-1d39fe990f5d','8db884ad-97c1-4d37-9842-a3efb87bf631','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>在一场激烈的争执中，必定拿不到你要的结果。</p>
<p>硬碰硬的结果不是两败俱伤就是不欢而散。</p>
<p>要懂得变通，所谓&ldquo;四两拨千斤&rdquo;就是这个道理。</p>
<p>水可以很柔，但一旦水反击，那个力量就非同凡响，以柔克刚才是上策。</p>','2025-03-14 10:31:11.651','2025-03-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d1c94cd-d38c-4901-a7e0-438f9251a77c','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>154-162</p>
<p>学会如何说服他人从心思考，让他人打开心房。</p>
<p>谈判或颧骨的时候，理由少一点、提问对一点、不要有敌对、注重产生共鸣。</p>','2025-03-14 06:10:25.607','2025-03-14 06:10:25.607',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 06:10:25.606',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a38c62a-81ff-44b1-a806-6774ed6acfc7','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>"谈判者保持着科学家的谦逊和好奇心，都能够为双方带来更好的结果，因为寻找出更多的资讯，找出让双方都能更好。"</p>
<p>There is an issue is happening where how can I facilitate each company in order achieve "Win Win" situation.&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 06:17:57.557','2025-03-14 06:18:11.361',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 06:18:11.36',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83a3c421-3e2e-437e-b860-f99378700fb7','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;普通谈判者惯用立场对立，易触发防御性反应或攻击性回应，导致谈判僵局。 &nbsp;<br>&nbsp;（ 一方坚持己见，另一方反击，没有结果）。<br>有技巧的谈判者通过自信的谦逊、灵活性和引导合作，将谈判转化为&ldquo;共舞&rdquo;的过程,&nbsp;<br>通过倾听、提问引导对话，而非强制说服， 以科学家开放心态探索信息，自信而谦逊，注重事实而非立场, 打破对立实现双赢。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 10:49:22.228','2025-03-14 10:49:22.228',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 10:49:22.227',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('41cefaac-e4ee-4550-bca8-3c0dc586fd9d','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>「一个较弱的论点会削弱一个较强的论点」，当我们提出越多理由，人们就越容易抛弃最不可靠的那个</p>','2025-03-14 11:06:53.064','2025-03-14 11:06:53.064',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 11:06:53.063',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15b3665a-cd62-4699-a605-c166168dc1f8','e5de1805-f4f4-4b0c-9cec-4bc2860a18d4','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>坦然坦白说出自己的弱点，我想这个也是每个人可以做到的事。</p>
<p>把爭论像编舞步一般，大家共同进退，跳出律动。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 08:43:30.037','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3720e9aa-fb0a-4973-907c-0921346d5dc1','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">好的辩论不该战争或拔河，而是一起调和去编排一套舞蹈，以相同节奏跳舞</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">是一个比较弱的论点通常会削弱一个比较强的论点</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有技巧的谈判专家很少采取攻击或防御，他们反而会以提问表达好奇</span></p>','2025-03-14 11:50:11.263','2025-03-14 11:50:11.263',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 11:50:11.262',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a779e09d-2085-47f9-9607-b705bf342535','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>我非常同意一场好的辩论不应该是出现像战争这样的情况发生，更不是拔河，以牛一样的力量把对方拉倒。<br>更应该是像两个人在跳舞的伙伴，互相协调，配合，合作，这样才能跟得上旋律，完美的结果。</p>','2025-03-14 12:44:14.423','2025-03-14 12:44:14.423',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 12:44:14.421',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e34590e3-8887-4957-bb81-e4f254543a01','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>用科学家的humble 和好奇和别人交流.不要有胜负,对错的想法.共同找出更好的交流意见.Win Win</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 12:55:19.69','2025-03-14 12:55:19.69',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 12:55:19.689',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0388f1fd-c6ab-41d1-8b53-ac17330ad6be','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>在一个辩论、谈判、争执中，太多的论述会淡化每一论述的力量。</p>
<p>宣扬和指控更具说服力，取决于三个关键：人们的对议题在乎性、对特定论点有多少接受度、意志有多坚定。</p>
<p>能说服你改变心意的人是你自己。</p>
<p>在意见分歧时，要示范自信的谦逊，如何让对方开始怀疑自己的论点、激起对方的好奇心、</p>
<p>开启对方的思维，让对方感受自己或许想法有误的可能性，剩下的就水到渠成。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 04:58:13.718','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec119bba-fd03-4988-8482-78a6a910f2ef','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「我們不必說服對方我們是對的，我們只需要開啟他們的思維，讓他們看到自己或許想法有誤的可能性，他們的天生好奇心會完成剩下的一切。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 08:51:58.849','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1e47e306-ef58-4db0-9111-4438cb3852b7','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「阿德勒認為，決定自我的不是「經驗本身」，而是「賦予經驗的意義」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 09:05:37.134','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c35e34f3-8841-45d9-ac07-53c867cb1968','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>当我们忽视建议，并非因为不赞同，有时是抗拒那种压力感，以及别人在控制我们决定的感受。</p>
<p>为了保护自由，［动机式唔谈］不会给于命令或提出建议，而是引导他人自我发现。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">要帮助别人开启思维，最有效的方法是经常倾听。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 13:30:33.993','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2e96a9d9-49b7-4952-b4d4-9ff6c590168a','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>有技巧的谈判专家通过提问及寻找共同点达到谈判的目的。</p>','2025-03-14 13:39:13.488','2025-03-14 13:39:13.488',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 13:39:13.487',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8a237fd-2c91-430c-8eb0-fc3a2d510f20','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','20d428c2-480c-4843-8f38-f65759afc153','<p>好的辯論必須知己知彼，跟上旋律。</p>','2025-03-14 15:16:18.044','2025-03-14 15:16:18.044',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 15:16:18.043',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f27debae-3abc-4c7f-9afa-4de3c457f759','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>不用各种理由去说服别人认同自己，因为一旦有一个理由被否定，对方就只着重在这个理由上跟自己争论不休</li>
<li>不强迫他人接受自己的论点，而是用开放性问题提问来引导对方</li>
<li>与对方一起思考，比战胜对方更重要</li>
</ul>','2025-03-14 15:07:58.263','2025-03-14 15:07:58.263',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 15:07:58.262',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('faf3ed3a-ba27-4a94-82c6-9166eaca7520','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','3b67c9ce-62eb-4cd1-90ba-c5feee36a59d','<p>找到共同点</p>
<p>一场好的辩论不是战争</p>','2025-03-14 15:24:48.768','2025-03-14 15:24:48.768',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 15:24:48.767',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d457e39e-7955-47c1-ac8f-308de451235c','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','d2d67aec-0c53-4fae-9b7f-a3a323865357','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">交易的科学（</span>Page 157-162<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">跳舞的伙伴，互相协调，配合，合作，这样才能跟得上旋律，完美的结果。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 13:52:58.971','2025-03-14 13:53:53.866',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 13:53:53.865',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0661607-30e8-410e-8fc3-833e16475c7b','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>寻找共同点，和第三选择很类似</p>','2025-03-14 13:58:11.816','2025-03-14 13:58:11.816',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 13:58:11.813',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e74b593-6140-4a7e-afcd-3d1eb9819601','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>找到双方的核心价值和共同点</p>
<p>用彼此舒服的方式沟通</p>
<p>影响彼此而不是说服</p>','2025-03-14 14:25:44.037','2025-03-14 14:25:55.057',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 14:25:55.056',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f1d148a-7c6a-4d4a-83ef-ff3e9fad2dcb','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>很多时候，我们总以为胜利的关键是带着无懈可击的逻辑和精确的数据，全副上战场，就能凭借猛烈的攻击赢得胜利，殊不知这样遭到的反击反而更热烈，最终并未真正获胜。</p>
<p>有时候，节节败退的真正原因并不是出在我们认为最令人信服的观点的强度，反而是出在最不令人信服的观点的弱度。</p>','2025-03-14 14:40:41.207','2025-03-14 14:40:41.207',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 14:40:41.206',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ad9f6cb2-cf08-4525-ac10-8bc6b4de699a','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>只有保持双赢的心态去谈判，才会有好的结果。</p>','2025-03-14 14:52:24.562','2025-03-14 14:52:24.562',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 14:52:24.561',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6dffe95b-a167-4565-b80a-0e6ad1c73d96','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>有技巧的谈判就如舞蹈一样，在相互配合进退的脚步下，取得良好的协商。</p>
<p>谈判技巧：</p>
<ul>
<li>&nbsp;找出共同点/双赢思维</li>
<li>降低理据/咄咄逼人</li>
<li>提出问题，引导对方重新思考</li>
</ul>','2025-03-14 14:54:02.89','2025-03-14 14:54:02.89',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 14:54:02.889',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bafbaf84-61f9-4289-812c-28c601c93a00','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">因为自己的不足才要谈判，所以需要技巧性的谈到不败不胜，就可以和对方共舞，而不是成为对立。</span></p>','2025-03-14 14:58:46.638','2025-03-14 14:58:46.638',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 14:58:46.636',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('81da3fb5-34ca-4d42-9818-36ef1e9713e0','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>争论当中，我觉得找到彼此共同点非常重要在。与对方一起思考方案重要过如何战胜对方</p>','2025-03-14 15:16:59.1','2025-03-14 15:16:59.1',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 15:16:59.099',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea7744e8-fa89-46ea-a8e4-42ea0c5e4c3f','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>要有技巧的谈判</p>
<p>每次都会要做主准备但是却为的到理想的结果</p>','2025-03-14 15:17:31.432','2025-03-14 15:17:31.432',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 15:17:31.431',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a120af74-2ec4-4ce5-9486-aff4da42ab71','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>你不要他人抗拒自己、防御自己，首先也就不应该这样对待他人。只要你对别人失去一丝善意，别人也会感觉到的。</p>','2025-03-14 15:19:57.657','2025-03-14 15:20:22.809',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 15:20:22.808',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e2cfcb94-78c2-4cd3-b6c9-0c1382f2de54','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','74239164-b3cf-430a-b19b-1641712ac0a7','<p>在职场上，在生活冲， 在家里，我们常会有以下的 *赢了理，输了世界的经验， 尤其是对家有 *小青年*的为人父母。</p>
<p><strong>&ldquo;<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我以為勝利的關鍵是帶著無懈可擊的邏輯和精確的數據，全副武裝上戰場。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">然而</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我攻擊得越猛烈，對手</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的反擊便更激烈。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我精準聚焦在說服他們接受我的觀點，重新思考他們的觀點，但是自己</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">卻表現得像傳教士和檢察官。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">雖然那些心</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''MS Mincho''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">態有時會刺激我堅持提出自己</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的看法，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我經常落得讓對方</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">疏遠我的下場。</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我並未獲勝。&rdquo;</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">場好的辯論不是戰爭，亦非</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">拔河！</span></span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">它比較像是</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀⽀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">尚未編排的舞蹈，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">要和心</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">中有</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">套不同舞步的夥伴協商。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">假如你太努</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼒</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">嘗試帶舞，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">你</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''MS Mincho''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的夥伴會抗拒。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">假如你調整配合對</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽅</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的舞步，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">讓她也能同樣這麼做，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">最後你們就比較可能跟上旋律。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">可以借鉴几种谈判<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">技巧 ：</span></span></p>
<ol>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">找出共同點</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal;">专注<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">較強的論點，减少或不提较弱的论点</span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">有技巧的談判專家很少採取攻擊或防禦，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">他們反</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⽽</span>以提問表達好奇</span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">專家每提出五項意见</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span style="font-family: Yu Gothic, sans-serif;">，至</span></span><span style="font-family: KaiTi;">少有</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⼀</span><span style="font-family: KaiTi;">項是以問號結尾</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span style="font-family: KaiTi;">抱持科學家程度的謙遜及好奇心，及以人为本的尊重。</span></span></li>
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<p>1）逻辑恶霸效应：过度依赖理性论点压制对方 反而容易引起抵抗, 影响沟通效果</p>
<p>2）正式 vs. 非正式辩论：正式辩论旨在影响观众, 而非正式交流更像是协商, 目表是达成共识.</p>
<p>3) 辩论如舞蹈: 强硬说服无效, 需配合对方节奏, 引导共鸣, 而非强拉对方立场。</p>
<p>4）谈判策略： 高手不攻击或防御, 而是通过提问的表达好奇引导对方思考。例如 [所以你们看不到这项提议的任何有点.？]</p>','2025-03-14 15:28:13.212','2025-03-14 15:51:18.223',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 15:51:18.221',NULL,NULL);
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<p>在谈判中，既要灵活应对；又要保持开放的学习心态。倾听对方需求，才能达成共赢。</p>','2025-03-14 15:59:41.56','2025-03-14 15:59:41.56',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 15:59:41.56',NULL,NULL);
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<p>交易的科学（Page 157-162）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>只要有一个人保有科学家程度的谦虚，就可以激发其他人重新思考。</p>','2025-03-14 16:01:00.711','2025-03-14 16:01:00.711',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 16:01:00.71',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b88490f-51f6-4925-beed-6befed1ae4e5','b23885fb-b81e-48f0-acf2-09d1c1ecbbd4','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 28&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">14</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">交易的科学（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 157-162</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">调整配合对方的舞步，让他能同样这麽做，就比较可能跟上旋律。不能站着不动，期待对方去做所有的动作。</span></p>','2025-03-14 15:59:45.39','2025-03-14 16:01:22.748',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 16:01:22.746',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3f390cb9-2938-4ccd-a93e-23c4cbd46636','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<p>辩论时需要有共情的能力，而不是一直往对方的弱点去攻击。先肯定对方提出好的论点是在传达自己并非传教士，而是向对方表达我们是科学家，一起理性地去获取真相。</p>','2025-03-14 21:10:54.82','2025-03-14 21:10:54.82',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 21:10:54.819',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc548f9c-684c-4ae4-9d46-966881f642ac','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>第一次接触到心理学类似的书。</p>
<p>我们常人多半认为就像&ldquo;原因论&rdquo;，现在的结果是由过去的事情而决定。但从阿德勒心里学的立场，这是&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;所制造出的不安或恐惧之类的情绪。</p>','2025-03-14 22:29:57.095','2025-03-14 22:29:57.095',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-14 22:29:57.094',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2bede094-e7c1-4009-b733-d3f60c52c009','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>虽然电脑是人类发明的，电脑和人类比赛辩论谁会赢还是个未知数。</p>','2025-03-09 12:50:43.744','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p>阿德勒根据自己的理论创立了&ldquo;个体心理学&rdquo;。阿德勒的心理学是一种富含哲学的思想。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>若说&ldquo;一切结果之前都先有原因&rdquo;，阿德勒心理学考虑的不是过去的&ldquo;原因&rdquo;而是现在的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;。--目的论</p>','2025-03-10 15:32:45.015','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2026bec7-1956-4ba3-a98d-1ae64e2e43fc','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>非常有趣的机器人和人类辯论。</p>
<p>电脑虽有大量数据，但少了情绪，它还未学会赞同另一方论述，哈里以谈判专家的方式，专注在共同点，和避免防禦，和攻击的惡性循环。</p>
<p>他也专注2个反驳点，免得失焦，淡化每个论述的力量。</p>
<p>少就是多的意思。</p>','2025-03-11 08:54:29.328','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们在谈判时，不只要把注意力吸引到共同点上，以及避免防御-攻击的恶性循环，也要谨慎用词。</p>','2025-03-11 01:24:57.649','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&ldquo;理性意味着可以和我们讲道理，我们乐于根据逻辑和数据来改进观点。&rdquo;</p>
<p>我赞同哈里许说的这句话，想要让对方听你说，就必须先聆听他人的话。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>作者很妙地将黛博拉比喻为一直输出逻辑的论述与数据的电脑，哈里许为人类。</p>
<p>为什么电脑这么厉害，却还是输给人类？</p>
<p>答：因为它不会共情、赞同双方都有好处，而是很固执地、自顾自输出自己的知识武器，这很难让对方接受它的论点。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>原来我以前也是个电脑，只会输出，不愿意听对方的意见，结果容易把自己逼急，这反而成了我的缺点啊！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>哈里许成功说服人们的方法：</p>
<ol>
<li>把注意力吸引到共同点上</li>
<li>避免防卫-攻击的恶性循环</li>
<li>谨慎地避免言词太过激烈</li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>P. S. 以前觉得辩论赛很残酷，要一直吵架、大喊大叫，看得很不舒服，现在才发现，原来辩论赛这么好玩，之后要上Youtube观看辩论赛了 XD</p>','2025-03-12 17:25:12.852','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8e03ba9c-9e6f-4026-8b95-1789a1b8cb9c','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>当我们承认对手提出的好观点，我们传达出自己并非传教士、检察官或政治人物。这反而证明我们是科学家，理性及设法获取真相。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>攻击别人最薄弱的部分，容易刺激对手掉入「防御--攻击」的恶性循环。应该把注意力放在寻找共同点。</p>','2025-03-13 16:12:21.984','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('26dbc480-128d-4c91-babe-2acb4bb2e5d6','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>每一个人都可以改变自己的命运，也可以拥有幸福。</p>
<p>过去的只是曾经，现在才是重要日子，也别因为过去成为藉口。</p>','2025-03-15 04:01:16.345','2025-03-15 04:01:29.573',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 04:01:29.572',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5fba6234-7a30-4571-99e9-edf969b16f03','e959ae7c-4953-4940-8876-306a4e15df7d','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>-像科学家一样，质疑他们学习的内容。</p>
<p>-知识是可以进化的，它总是在进化中。</p>
<p>-教育家藉由逐渐灌输知识的谦逊、散播怀疑，以及培养好奇心来促进重新思考的循环。</p>
<p>-把教室变成某种生活实验室，测试自己的一些想法。</p>','2025-03-15 03:34:03.397','2025-04-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-04-05 00:00:00.017','2025-04-05 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('23a82bf9-6d99-45a2-9d59-0332fb87a44e','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 1：3月15日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第一夜 我们的不幸是谁的错？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不为人知的心理学&ldquo;第三巨头&rdquo; （Page 001-007）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span class="s2">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">改变他人是不能的，所以再怎么&rdquo;找原因&rdquo;，也没法改变一个人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学考虑不是过去的&rdquo;原因&rdquo;，而是现在的&rdquo;目的&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&rdquo;原因论&rdquo;和&rdquo;目的论&rdquo;，如果一直依赖原因论，就永远会停留原步。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">案主不想到外面去，他的目的是&rdquo;不出去&rdquo;，所以才会制造不安的情绪。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一个人要改变是看自己的意愿和目的。有自愿，一切的挑战都愿意接受。</span></p>','2025-03-14 00:39:20.971','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p>阿德勒心理学考虑的不是过去的原因，而是现在的目的。</p>
<p>由于不想到外面去，所以才制造出不安的情绪。这叫着目的论。</p>','2025-03-14 02:15:59.573','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2aa20b13-0d8c-4730-a7f8-04378707ce5d','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>与不同观点的一方议论时，需要认同共同点，提出让双方拥有的一致看法，才提出来反驳异议点。</p>
<p>说服他人重新思考，不单单是提出好的论点，而是证实自己有正确的动机去做。</p>
<p>拒接成为传教士、检察官或政治人物的思考模式附带议程，理应成为科学家思考模式般获取真相。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 03:49:24.362','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 08:19:04.909','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-14 09:04:34.915','2025-03-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('362435da-6dfa-4027-b511-d04166bbe4c2','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p><span lang="ZH-CN">(补）交易的科学（</span>Page 157-162<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">辩论或谈判时永远不要挑起战端，除非准备好。目标是要改变观众或交谈对方的想法，是一种协商。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">当提出越多的理由，当对方否定我们其中一个辩护理由，他们越容易排除整个论点。过度强调自己的立场会阻碍双方开放的思维。</span></p>
<p><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">----</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">以相同的节奏跳舞（Page 162-167）&nbsp;</span></strong></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">科学的辩论是考虑对方最有力的论点，来学习甚至赞同而不是马上否定。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">先和对手的观点产生连结，把大家引到共同点上，避免防御 - 攻击的恶性循环。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 01:50:52.742','2025-03-15 01:50:52.742',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 01:50:52.739',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7549a154-98a0-4730-8679-dfaa8099e0b9','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','43c1f419-5000-4ba8-95fb-648a98eeca2e','<p>好喜欢这句&rdquo;如果我们一直依赖原因论，就会永远止步不前&rdquo; 。突然就醒悟了我为什么一直像卡bug一样，非常在乎过去带给我的伤害</p>','2025-03-15 02:21:57.347','2025-03-15 02:21:57.347',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 02:21:57.346',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6c9421c2-f3ec-4eef-b763-709aeccffd82','e673c3d8-13ba-4961-9f5b-c15ff9433e51','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>刻板印象让我们很难去改变思维。我们的信念就像一副现实护目镜，用它来看清这世界和环境。当我们企图辩护内心深处明知是错误的想法时，我们会变得分外具有敌意。</p>
<p>我们并未尝试用不同的护目镜 ，不断扭曲转动，直到找出一个视角，让我们的视线保持完整。</p>','2025-03-15 02:01:16.741','2025-03-20 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2d5535d3-f934-4320-a9fa-a6382d39bbab','d90fdf8d-b277-4a5f-ba40-79fdf684ae73','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>神奇的買帳技巧</p>','2025-04-30 03:31:00.311','2025-05-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-05-01 00:00:00.013','2025-05-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1b6c63cb-3337-45e1-bed9-dd69b50fd1e7','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','19aefae2-1527-4b6b-92a2-f0b6e8205b43','<p>好喜欢这句话，<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong>&ldquo;人可以改变，而且人人都可以获得幸福，无一例外&rdquo;.</strong></span></p>
<p><strong>改变</strong>是一个期待和行动。我为何无法改变主要是因为我让过去掌握我。</p>
<p>今天我选择改变或前进，那我的目地就是要<strong>做活在当下的主人，放下过去，勇往直前</strong>。</p>','2025-03-14 12:58:40.028','2025-03-15 06:25:05.323',NULL,'f','2025-03-15 00:00:00.026','2025-03-15 06:25:05.321',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('75ed02ca-32e2-4ca7-9672-280975380dcb','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>谈判的交易<br>比如在一场战争中，我们想与对方谈和，停止战争，但是却是带着武装配备出席谈判，像是要是谈不妥就要即刻开战这样，这会让对方反弹，发怒，也会随时备战，这样肯定不会有好的结果。</p>','2025-03-15 06:42:38.324','2025-03-15 06:42:38.324',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 06:42:38.323',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('020c020f-326f-473e-aac8-d02b757ce8a5','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>找出共同点，和对方还有观众链接上，避免攻击的恶性循环，这种专家谈判方式，会带来优势。</p>','2025-03-15 07:20:06.222','2025-03-15 07:20:06.222',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 07:20:06.218',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('acf4c0df-8535-4f75-bccb-0f3e04628eeb','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>我们可以认可并理解批评者的观点，甚至从他们的意见中学习，从而展现自己的开放心态。学会强调共同点，不仅能缩小分歧，还能促进更深入的交流与共识。</p>','2025-03-15 07:37:50.326','2025-03-15 07:38:00.636',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 07:38:00.635',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('35ed2780-10e9-4cbd-98e3-e3c9c79fcd83','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>要在坦判中取得胜利，先要学会聆听对手的议论点，找出共同点及思考出用精简却有力的共鸣点打动或说服对方，远比利用恶意批评攻击更有效果。&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 07:43:34.065','2025-03-15 07:43:34.065',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 07:43:34.064',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc24c850-6aa6-4f0e-9b50-aff6c52bfee6','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>找到共同点，共识创造新观点</p>','2025-03-15 09:14:46.807','2025-03-15 09:14:46.807',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 09:14:46.806',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>就如同我们在学习7习惯的时候所学到的&ldquo;积极主动&rdquo;。我们无法决定自己的身处在什么样的环境，但我们可以选择如何反应周遭给予的刺激。</p>','2025-03-15 07:18:45.998','2025-03-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9dab590-0fbf-4839-8f7e-9f1ffb5361e3','46adb4d7-a6ff-452e-bfa4-903d3bd3345d','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>觉得自己不幸福，就会希望自己变成别人，既往通过这样的转变可以变得幸福。</p>
<p>但是我们需要的不是更换些什么，而是更新！如果善等于有好处，恶等于无好处，那有谁会选择无好处的恶？&nbsp;</p>
<p>就好比我们选择不幸，似乎是因为&ldquo;不幸&rdquo;对于我们们来说&ldquo;有好处&rdquo;。</p>','2025-03-15 07:46:11.845','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b847aab1-a7bd-41f9-add6-c070e07d2eda','27d2d994-c087-4162-be02-3d3d8d0f1914','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>&ldquo;世界观和人生观&rdquo;</p>
<p>我们如何看世界和自己变成了一种生活方式，我们对人事物一种反映和折射。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>是我们选择自己要过的生活方式，也因此我们有能力重新选择。我们可以重新调理对世界观和人生观的概念，更新和输入新的质询。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;不改变决心&rdquo;</p>
<p>我们不改变的原因是因为保持现状可以更加安心和轻松，活在自己的舒适圈。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;改变需要勇气&rdquo;</p>
<p>我们有足够的勇气改变现状吗？人往往缺乏获的幸福的勇气。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;人生取决当下&rdquo;</p>
<p>抛弃现状需要很大的决心。可是我们时刻都在找借口逃避现状，如果怎样的。。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;无论之前发生什么，对今后人生如何度过没有影响&rdquo;</p>
<p>你就是你，做好本来的自己。不要渴望变成不是自己的自己。当下决定自己的选择</p>','2025-03-15 07:46:38.972','2025-03-19 00:00:00.037',NULL,'f','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036',NULL,NULL);
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margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">Day 10</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">：&nbsp;</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">3</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">月</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">24</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">日</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">星期一</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">人生不是与他人的比赛（</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">Page 051-057</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">）</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">健全的自卑感不是和别人比较，而是和理想的自己比较。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">&ldquo;在意你的脸的只有你自己。&rdquo;不要把其他人设为假想敌，</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; text-align: left;">不与其他人竞争，只要自己不断超越自我。</span></p>
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-webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">：&nbsp;</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">3</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">月</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">25</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">日</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">星期二</span></strong><strong style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: var(--font-poppins); -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">人际关系中的&ldquo;权力斗争&rdquo;与复仇（</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">Page 058-062</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="EN-GB" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0cm; padding: 0px; font-family: __Poppins_1fa6f9, __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'', sans-serif; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 16.8667px;">当有人故意挑衅时，应冷静思考那个人的目的，不要掉入权力之争的圈套。发怒便输了。</span></p>','2025-03-25 08:31:27.084','2025-03-25 08:31:27.084',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 08:31:27.08',NULL,NULL);
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<p>这会让对方感觉到被重视，被理解，被感知，而打开心扉。</p>','2025-04-26 23:19:39.785','2025-05-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-05-01 00:00:00.013','2025-05-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<p>哲人提到我们的烦恼源自于人与人之间的关系，我们会生活在别人眼里。阿德勒说如果这个世界没有人际关系，如果宇宙没有别人只有自己，那一切烦恼都会消失。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;自卑感&rdquo;</p>
<p>自卑感被理解为劣等性感觉，就是价值判断和定义。当我们感觉自卑，那是源自于我们诠释它的价值。很多时候还是很主观性的，所以我们有选择的权力去定义它。将自卑感转化为积极的动力，不要被自己的主观约束。</p>','2025-03-15 09:08:42.14','2025-03-21 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2777d3d-0bd6-46ab-bcb4-d89cd688fb69','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','95959ea7-8fcc-4004-8564-5a6ec84f4fee','<p>决定/原因论 - 因为过去的原因，影响今日的决定。</p>
<p>目的论 - 有目的制造不安。不想出去，制造不适。</p>
<p>不太明白区别。</p>','2025-03-15 09:07:33.535','2025-03-15 09:07:33.535',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 09:07:33.534',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2ae2a05-8506-46ad-afc6-bfd4c59a8123','e49aebe7-aed7-44e7-8975-3b2453bef8a7','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>从两篇故事都可以学习到所谓的目的论，我们之所以选择抗拒，避免或逃避的背后一定有它的&ldquo;目的地&rdquo;。说到底这还是我们选择的结果，我们对世界观人生观的决定。这个选择很显然的告诉自己那是有&ldquo;利己&rdquo;的&ldquo;善&rdquo;，这个决定对自己有帮助有用。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>青年人的故事传达了一个讯息，就是不想在人际关系中受到伤害。做一个不想被拒绝的人，最简单的就是讨厌自己。我们必须学习喜欢自己，看自己长处做好自己。把自己先天条件发挥和不断&ldquo;更新&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;鼓励&rdquo;</p>
<p>面对目前的挑战，需要树立一个向前迈进的勇气。这就是所谓的鼓励自己，慢慢一步一脚影往前迈进。</p>','2025-03-15 08:34:22.675','2025-03-20 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('681131dc-e344-4c74-af2b-f4c1c31ae5c1','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>聆听.想为什么他们有这样的观点.同理心</p>','2025-03-15 09:43:56.161','2025-03-15 09:43:56.161',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 09:43:56.16',NULL,NULL);
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<p>本来是没想要读这本书的，在今天的《逆思维》读书会上听到这本书的介绍，提到一切烦恼来自于人际关系，就被吸引了，我是一个很在意别人怎么看自己的人，很容易感到自卑，有时小心翼翼的生活会让我觉得活得很累。看来我缺乏的是被讨厌的勇气。</p>
<p>1-7:</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学是一种哲学，是让我们理解人性真理和目标的一种哲学。</p>
<p>青年对于哲人所说&rdquo;人可以改变&rdquo;，而且无一例外，立刻可以改变这点很是反对。青年给的例子中，他以原因论去解释他朋友一直无法改变他不敢出门的状况，并表示这一切一定和他之前经历有关系。这可能是对的，但哲人关注的不是过去的&rdquo;原因&rdquo;，而是现在的&rdquo;目的&rdquo;。</p>
<p>他提出了青年朋友是先有了&rdquo;不出门&rdquo;的目的，才会制造出不安和恐惧之类的情绪。</p>
<p>如果我们一直依赖原因论，就会止步不前</p>','2025-03-15 09:49:47.302','2025-03-15 09:53:42.396',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 09:53:42.395',NULL,NULL);
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<p>所以，我经常因为别人所做所为难过，其实并不是她的行为真的伤害到了我，而是我自己对她行为的解读伤害到了我</p>','2025-03-15 10:41:11.071','2025-03-15 10:41:11.071',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 10:41:11.07',NULL,NULL);
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<p>目的论是因为目的而制造问题</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 11:00:26.772','2025-03-15 11:00:56.78',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 11:00:56.779',NULL,NULL);
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<li>跟人辩论，除了有自己的看法，也要找到对方的步调或观点的共同点来辩论，要不然只有自己说的话，这场辩论可能就没办法进行下去</li>
</ul>','2025-03-15 11:00:35.738','2025-03-15 11:00:35.738',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 11:00:35.732',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc39f768-062d-48f5-806c-07e74b096559','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','fd00afa6-39f6-4b3c-95b4-4d413e535fb9','<p>没有研究心理学或哲学，但原来&lsquo;决定/原因论&rsquo;一直根深底固在心中。很多时候事情发生时，总会刨根剥丝追究过去。&lsquo;目的论&rsquo;对我来说是全新的概念，不曾想过，原来事情还可以从这一个层面去看。迫不及待地继续读下去，好好了解这第三巨头的学说。</p>','2025-03-15 12:49:49.405','2025-03-15 12:52:35.381',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:52:35.38',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0bbd515a-6d2e-420f-bca8-2e29fd3c21f5','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>AHA: 了解到&ldquo;原因论&rdquo; 和&ldquo;目的论&rdquo; 的区别。&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;原因论&rdquo; 是因为过去的一些伤害，而影响到现在</p>
<p>&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;是因为要达到某一些的目的而有的</p>
<p>Impact: 我了解到&ldquo;原因论&rdquo;或者&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;都没有对与错（350），也没有讲那里一个比较好，重要的是自己要敞开心去了解不同的观念。</p>
<p>Growth/ Action: 我会把这本书念完。</p>','2025-03-15 12:51:08.627','2025-03-15 12:52:56.2',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:52:56.199','939d7588-3c3a-41c1-869c-f091f17d84de',NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a823907e-39d9-45be-a68d-9bcee3537ea4','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>我觉得原因论和目的论都有关联的，因为过去的原因，导致现在的果，而当事人因为这个果而不想改变，所以目的论就出现了。</p>','2025-03-15 11:49:35.951','2025-03-15 11:49:35.951',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 11:49:35.95',NULL,NULL);
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<p>思维逻辑是极其复杂的构造 &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 想要迎刃有余的驾驭,需要训练.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 11:56:12.801','2025-03-15 11:56:14.874',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 11:56:14.873',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 12:55:14.575','2025-03-15 12:55:14.575',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:55:14.574','1b6c63cb-3337-45e1-bed9-dd69b50fd1e7',NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1a844fb-8282-458d-93f2-49b2809d68b1','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>很有趣的論點，關於原因論和目的論的區別所在。</p>
<p>暫且我也不想給任何自己的評論。的確非常深奧</p>','2025-03-15 12:56:50.161','2025-03-15 12:56:50.984',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:56:50.983',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('592e497d-ab97-42e3-8075-f579b6ceca96','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>先被接受，才有发言权。想要对方接受或给机会考虑自己的想法（让对方感觉自己理解并尊重他的看法），必须专注在彼此的共同点，得到一定程度的共鸣之后，被聆听的机会就会更多，才有机会发表意见和博取认同。</p>','2025-03-15 14:11:40.966','2025-03-15 14:11:40.966',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:11:40.965',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a3b03ad-5184-447a-8d75-975648719849','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','20d428c2-480c-4843-8f38-f65759afc153','<p>懂得欣賞他人優點，才有資格批評他人。</p>
<p>溝通是雙向透過用心聆聽，換位思考，更容易產生連結。</p>','2025-03-15 13:27:22.341','2025-03-15 13:27:22.341',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 13:27:22.34',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1a897381-1631-4bf3-980b-c923ff2a9b03','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>没想到Debra是个机器人啊！</p>
<p>哈利许利用寻找共同点的策略，不惧倾听和赞同对方的观点，给予肯定，这样才是理性的做法。这样的他会愿意倾听，把逻辑根据和数据都考量在内，来改进自己的观点。</p>
<p>要以钢铁人方式，考虑最有力的论点，而不是去专注对方最薄弱的论点</p>','2025-03-15 14:05:44.405','2025-03-15 14:05:44.405',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:05:44.402',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8d4187a3-5331-4d4a-9907-39492717f72a','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>假如我们拒绝改变自己心意，也不会有多少机会去改变他人的心意。想要改变他人的观点，就必须找到彼此论点的共同点，并与之共舞。</p>','2025-03-15 14:33:24.203','2025-03-15 14:33:24.203',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:33:24.202',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c19517f9-86a3-4648-93ca-2b02cfbdd312','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 1</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">15</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期六</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">《被讨厌的勇气》第一夜 我们的不幸是谁的错？</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">不为人知的心理学&ldquo;第三巨头&rdquo; （</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 001-007</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">一份厚重的伤，加上想改变想幸福的决心。</span></p>','2025-03-15 14:42:02.638','2025-03-15 14:42:02.638',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:42:02.637',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fd14d238-459b-4ac0-bfd8-2392f7d7be06','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','003de8fa-8b71-4ea4-8164-04a64fd30e75','<p>对于我而言，原因论与目的论都有不同的出发点，来自不同的思想途径，没有对与错，只有当下适合与不适合自己。就好像曾经的儒家思想，道家思想与法家思想，不存在哪一个比较优越，只有适合不适合那个君王和那个朝代。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 14:46:20.179','2025-03-15 14:46:20.179',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:46:20.178',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3dce9ef8-c4ea-485d-8393-8ad895421d57','8db884ad-97c1-4d37-9842-a3efb87bf631','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>这世上最有可能说服我们改变主意的就是我们自己！因为我们都乐于自主挑选让自己信服的理由，然后带着这些理由的真实感受离开。</p>
<p>故此，我们无需说服任何人我们是对的，我们只需要开启他们的思维，让他们看到自己的想法或许有误的可能性就够了。人们天生的好奇心就会完成剩下的一切。</p>','2025-03-15 12:50:05.037','2025-03-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('530ee6b8-f1d1-4eb2-a050-670b0c89455b','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p>以相同的节奏跳舞 （Page162-167）</p>
<p>哈里许之所以能在说服上胜过黛博拉，并不是因为他的数据或论点更有力,而是因他能共情、倾听、并建立连结。黛博拉像一台电脑, 不断输出事实和逻辑, 虽然信息准确但却缺乏温度和互动, 导致观众难以接受。而哈利许则像一个真正与人对话的人, 他愿意认可对方的观点, 并在此基础上引导对方思考。</p>
<p>这也反映出一个重要的沟通原则：人们并不总是被最强的逻辑说服, 而是被最理解他们的人影响。如果我们想要让别人接受我们的观点，就必须先让他们感到被理解而这需要倾听、认同、共情，而不仅仅是提供论据。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>哈里许的成功方法概括为三个关键点：</p>
<p>1）建立共同点：先让对方知道你们其实在某些地方是站在同一阵线的, 降低防备心里。</p>
<p>2）避免防御与攻击：如果对方感受到攻击,他们会下意识地反击,而不是认真考虑你的观点。</p>
<p>3）言辞温和, 避免激烈冲突: 太过强硬或极端的表达方式容易让对方拒绝沟通而不是接受性观点。</p>','2025-03-15 11:46:34.173','2025-03-15 11:55:29.155',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 11:55:29.154',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3277d964-74cf-415f-a676-f62cde5630c6','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<p>决定论：过去的经历决定了现在的行为</p>
<p>目的论：因为现在的目的而产生了现在的行为</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>过去的经历或许会影响我们，但它并不能决定我们现在的行为，所以，要去思考自己现在真正的目的是什么，而不是被过去束缚着。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 11:57:17.085','2025-03-15 11:57:17.085',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 11:57:17.084',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 12:23:52.288','2025-03-15 12:23:52.288',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:23:52.288',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以相同的节奏跳舞（Page 162-167）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学习聆听别人在说什么，换位思考，将心比心，就会有更好的沟通方式。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在沟通时，避免防禦和攻击性循环，也不要用太过激烈的语言来沟通。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人与人之间相处就是要舒服。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 12:29:40.992','2025-03-15 12:29:42.947',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:29:42.946',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb4ab651-677c-4013-88b7-d9ba62096c2e','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>在2011年就想用機器人跟人類辯論，實在太天真了。</p>','2025-03-15 12:45:29.201','2025-03-15 12:45:29.201',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:45:29.2',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ccd677b-78da-408e-8785-a9383ad6486f','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>阿德勒心理学：不是过去的原因，而是现在的目的</p>
<p>- 不要依赖、执着于过去所发生的事情，而是应该向前看，找到自己想做的事</p>','2025-03-15 12:24:00.611','2025-03-15 12:35:14.35',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:35:14.343',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b671d86e-d899-4f4d-9c2c-38c57a174541','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>假如我们拒绝改变自己的心意，也不会有多少机会去改变他人的心意的，那只会创造对立。</p>
<p>要说服他人重新思考不只关乎提出好的论点，更重要的是在于证实我们拥有正确的动机去那么做。这会让他人感觉我们是个理性的人，乐于根据逻辑和数据来改进观点，那么才开可能打开彼此开放讨论的门。</p>','2025-03-15 12:39:22.363','2025-03-15 12:39:22.363',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:39:22.361',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('676e7cc5-a02e-4fb4-8704-ebd9d7e68c27','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<div class="flex flex-row gap-4">
<div class="flex flex-col w-full mb-2">
<div class="text-xs sm:text-sm ml-[38px]">
<p>有人说: 看不到别人的优点者，就没资格批评別人的缺点。</p>
<p>这话实在太重要。能看到对方的优点或彼此共同点，更能客观和理性的看到问题，并让大家从中受惠。</p>
</div>
</div>
</div>','2025-03-15 12:43:41.083','2025-03-15 12:43:41.083',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:43:41.082',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('858d52ec-2907-4d4b-8903-789a80899a8d','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>以相同的节奏跳舞</p>
<p>-找出共同点，一致的看法</p>
<p>-愿意聆听他人说什么</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 12:46:14.377','2025-03-15 12:46:14.377',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:46:14.376',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36be3b7e-05ef-456c-a8c9-19bd99584a9d','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>AHA: 了解到&ldquo;原因论&rdquo; 和&ldquo;目的论&rdquo; 的区别。&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;原因论&rdquo; 是因为过去的一些伤害，而影响到现在</p>
<p>&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;是因为要达到某一些的目的而有的</p>
<p>Impact: 我了解到&ldquo;原因论&rdquo;或者&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;都没有对与错（350），也没有讲那里一个比较好，重要的是自己要敞开心去了解不同的观念。</p>
<p>Growth: 我会把这本书念完。</p>','2025-03-15 12:47:12.272','2025-03-15 12:47:12.272',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:47:12.271',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5084be6e-ae3b-4e0e-bafb-1921c4096ca6','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','e5b8e15b-13cb-4dc2-940f-cfb308bda145','<p>《逆思维》162-167页心得：放下固执，先学会「听」&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>读到这几页时，我突然被一句话戳中：「若拒绝改变自己的心意，又如何改变他人？」作者用「战争」和「跳舞」两个看似无关的比喻，道出逆思维的核心&mdash;&mdash;**对抗不如共舞**。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这段内容像在说职场沟通：我们常急着证明自己是对的（像在策划战略），却忽略「穿舒适鞋」的提醒&mdash;&mdash;先倾听对方的逻辑，找到「共同点」再推进。书中提到「肯定他人观点」不是妥协，而是打开僵局的钥匙。比如最近和同事争论方案时，我试着先说「你的数据确实有道理」，再补充自己的观察，对方反而更愿意讨论。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>最有趣的是「跳舞」的隐喻：思维协调需要练习，就像学舞会踩到脚。作者不避讳说「体不协调会很困难」，但坚持「没人死掉」。这让我想到，生活里许多冲突其实没想象中严重，与其熬夜纠结「必胜策略」，不如先迈出一步，接受过程中的笨拙。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这几页像一杯醒脑茶，提醒我：真正的「逆」不是叛逆，而是柔软地转身，看见另一面的光。</p>','2025-03-15 12:47:22.683','2025-03-15 12:47:22.683',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 12:47:22.682',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('077db6b7-a76c-4054-9c80-7444ab6a046a','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','c7eb2cb9-cba3-42f6-aa5c-e360a209555e','<p>对话的方式 很生动 很有趣&nbsp;<br>原本对于书的主题没有什么兴趣</p>
<p>阅读了目录后产生了很有兴趣</p>
<p>尤其是最后一夜里有一个chapter是</p>
<p>【由这一瞬间开始变得幸福】</p>
<p>让我感觉很有动力 哈哈哈</p>
<p>---</p>
<p>**无论任何经验，它本身并不是成功也不是失败的原因。我们不要因自身经验所产生的冲击（也就是心理创伤）而痛苦，而要由经验中找出能够达成目的的东西。</p>
<p>**不要由经验来决定自我，而是由我们赋予经验的意义来决定</p>
<p>当看着对话到这里时，我瞬间领悟到点点</p>
<p>很期待继续读下去~~</p>','2025-03-15 14:37:02.068','2025-03-15 14:37:02.068',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:37:02.067',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">以相同的节奏跳舞（</span>Page 162-167<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">强调两者之间的共同点，相同的动机，推动辩论的结果是为了解决问题。</span></p>','2025-03-15 14:37:47.977','2025-03-15 14:37:47.977',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:37:47.976',NULL,NULL);
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<p>2) 愿意聆听别人在说什么，并且为此给予肯定。这个让你听起来像个理性的人，把所有的事都考虑进去。</p>','2025-03-15 14:54:19.969','2025-03-15 14:54:19.969',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:54:19.968',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们可以透过聆听找到共同点，以达到共鸣&hellip;&hellip;</p>
<p>我们是否也可以透过学习听懂不同属性的人的说话方式来理解对方，同时以对方＂听话＂的方式，与他沟通而达到共赢？</p>','2025-03-15 15:23:01.608','2025-03-15 15:23:01.608',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:23:01.607',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b018075-69a6-4113-970d-1539ab920ea6','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>共同点</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">讓哈里許表現得像談判專家的方式，不光是把注意力吸引到共同點上，以</span></p>
<p>及避免防禦&mdash;攻擊的惡性循環，他也謹慎地避免言詞太過激烈。</p>','2025-03-15 15:40:40.516','2025-03-15 15:40:40.516',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:40:40.516',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d400b742-b7aa-4591-a23c-ff8b4eece92b','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>对于事情的发生，阿德勒心理学考虑的是现在的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;，而不是仅仅依靠过去的原因去解释现在这个事物。这样会陷入&ldquo;原因论&rdquo;，让过去的某个原因来决定现在发生的原因。</p>','2025-03-15 14:47:04.564','2025-03-15 14:47:04.564',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:47:04.563',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3d78720-241b-4701-b541-a53a62d85c59','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','d2d67aec-0c53-4fae-9b7f-a3a323865357','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">以相同的节奏跳舞（</span>Page 162-167<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">第一步，建立信任感 ＝ 聆听＋同理心</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">唯有先两者之间之共同点，有了相同的动机，那么辩论是为了解决问题，而不是单纯的对抗</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p>建立共同点：先让对方知道你们其实在某些地方是站在同一阵线的, 降低防备心里。</p>
<p>第二步：</p>
<p>尽可能避免防御与攻击性的反馈：</p>
<p>一旦对方感受到攻击，会下意识很自然地反击，而不再是认真考虑你的观点。</p>
<p>第三步：&nbsp;</p>
<p>反馈时，尽可能言辞温和，以避免激烈冲突:</p>
<p>&nbsp;太过强硬或极端的表达方式容易让对方拒绝沟通而不是接受性观点。</p>','2025-03-15 14:51:38.188','2025-03-15 14:56:23.619',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:56:23.617',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f2824a5-3561-4a66-94dd-1c0c5e4bc9b9','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>刚接触这本书看了作者岸见一郎的学术背景，原来他是Alfred Adler 阿德勒精神分析学派的传人，大概猜测出他与弗洛伊的关系，再加上荣格就是精神分析学的三大宗师。古贺史健以对话创作对我而言是个新的阅读体验。从青年与哲人的对话道出阿德勒心理学考虑的不是过去的&ldquo;原因&rdquo;造成个人不安情绪而是现在的&ldquo;目的&rdquo; 单单这一点就是个吸引我想继续看这本书的&ldquo;hook&rdquo;</p>','2025-03-15 14:49:55.191','2025-03-15 14:49:55.191',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:49:55.19',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9f01fc7-d3e4-4177-9b62-e60ddaff816d','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<ul>
<li class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学不是死板的学问，而是要理解人性的真理和目标。</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">为什么人家都&ldquo;期待改变&rdquo;呢？答案只有一个，那就是因为大家都无法改变。假若轻易就可以改变，那么人们就不会特意&ldquo;期待改变&rdquo;了。</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">如果一味地关注过去的原因，企图仅仅靠原因去解释事物，那就会陷入&ldquo;决定论&rdquo;。也就是说，最终会得出这样的结论：我们的现在甚至未来全部都由过去的事情所决定，而且根本无法改变。</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">阿德勒心理学考虑的不是过去的&ldquo;原因&rdquo;，而是现在的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;。因为有了不出去&rdquo;这个目的，之后才会为了达到这个目的而制造出不安或恐惧之类的情绪。阿德勒心理学把这叫作&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;。</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">如果我们一直依赖原因论，就会永远止步不前</span></li>
</ul>','2025-03-15 15:02:15.315','2025-03-15 15:02:18.025',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:02:18.023',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c6758e43-671e-4d2c-aaed-382992fdb033','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>理直但不气壮。先让他们看到我们同站在一阵线，愿意随时接受他们，共同前进。</p>','2025-03-15 15:26:45.91','2025-03-15 15:26:45.91',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:26:45.909',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d55cd3a9-2cd9-478d-8a80-080810f67dac','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>在怎么找原因，也无法改变一个人，心理学的第三个巨头，阿德勒心里学考虑的不是过去的因，而是现在的目的。如果一直依赖原因论，就会永远止步不前。</p>','2025-03-15 15:54:57.878','2025-03-15 15:55:10.928',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:55:10.927',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3b3f372c-bc8c-4fe4-8346-1350e2210b05','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p>如何运用这些策略提升沟通与谈判能力</p>
<p>1. 改变辩论方式，避免&ldquo;逻辑霸凌&rdquo;</p>
<p>&bull; 过去，我在与客户、家人或合作伙伴讨论时，可能会过于强调逻辑和数据，试图&ldquo;说服&rdquo;对方，而忽略了他们的情感和立场。</p>
<p>&bull; 未来，我要更注意倾听，找到共同点，而不是急于反驳或证明自己是对的。</p>
<p>2. 在商务谈判中运用&ldquo;共舞&rdquo;策略</p>
<p>&bull; 作为一名商贸从业者，我常需要与客户、供应商和合作伙伴谈判。这让我意识到，不应该只是单方面&ldquo;推销&rdquo;自己的方案，而是先了解对方的需求，并通过提问引导他们得出共识。</p>
<p>&bull; 例如，在推广Happy Time Kitchen的海苔饼时，与客户沟通的方式可以调整为：&ldquo;你们认为什么样的零食更受消费者欢迎？&rdquo;而不是&ldquo;我们的产品最好，你应该进货。&rdquo;</p>
<p>3. 减少不必要的论据，避免削弱核心观点</p>
<p>&bull; 以往，我在说服别人时，可能会提供大量数据和理由，希望增强说服力。但现在我明白，重点不在于信息量，而在于选取最有力的论据，让对方更容易接受。</p>
<p>4. 用提问引导，而非直接反驳</p>
<p>&bull; 未来在面对不同意见时，我可以尝试用提问的方式，例如：&ldquo;如果我们这样做，你觉得会有什么潜在问题？&rdquo;而不是&ldquo;你的想法不对，应该这样做。&rdquo;这样可以降低对方的防备心理，更容易达成共识。</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);"><br>我重新思考沟通和辩论的方式。与其想着&ldquo;赢得&rdquo;辩论，不如关注如何与对方建立共识、共同寻找最佳方案。无论是在商务谈判、管理沟通，还是日常交流中，这种思维方式都能帮助我提升影响力，建立更好的合作关系。</span></p>','2025-03-15 15:58:18.808','2025-03-15 15:58:18.808',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:58:18.806',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f19c5d29-6938-4a54-807e-80464bbb8dd0','46adb4d7-a6ff-452e-bfa4-903d3bd3345d','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>你想变成别人，目的是什么？目的真的变成别人就幸福吗？如果不变成别人，难道就一直这样下去？这其实是给自己铺路找借口。</p>
<p>阿德勒说：重要的不是被给与什么，而是自己如何利用被给予的东西。</p>','2025-03-15 15:02:53.749','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('565899a8-7d0a-49b0-9d45-479a7f3f5e01','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>感觉上，现在的AI已经有更强的能力，可以跟着我们的节奏走，然后让我们接受他们的论点了。原本可能是人类的能力，现在是否已经能被模仿了呢？</p>','2025-03-15 14:55:43.149','2025-03-15 14:55:43.149',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 14:55:43.149',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fc037c1c-fbba-46f3-87b6-42f54f08e12b','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>重要的不是过去的原因，而是现在的目的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>往往烦躁焦虑是因为当下的目的或起心动念造成的。</p>','2025-03-15 15:17:28.993','2025-03-15 15:17:28.993',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:17:28.992',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('49bb4133-d5d8-4457-acc4-78e659e7d9f6','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','74239164-b3cf-430a-b19b-1641712ac0a7','<p><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">以相同的節奏跳舞</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">假如我們拒絕改變自己</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的心意，</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">也不會有多少機會去改變他人</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的心意。</span></strong></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們可以承認贊同自己</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的批評者。甚至是從對方身上學到什麼，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">藉此展現開放的心</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">胸。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">然後，當我們詢問他們可能願意修改那些觀點，我們就不是偽君</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼦</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">了。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">說服他</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">重新思考不只關乎提出好的論點，而是在於證實我們擁有正確的動機去這麼做。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">當我們承認某</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">提出</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">個好的觀點，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們傳達的是自己</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">並非傳教士，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">檢察官或政治</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">物，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">想要推進某項議程。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們是科學家，設法獲取真相。</span></p>
<p><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">知易行难</span></strong></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">在人</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">類撰寫的四億篇文章中，學會贊同另<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⼀⽅</span>論述的元素和</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span style="font-family: KaiTi;">行为十分罕见！</span></span></strong></span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 15:21:35.176','2025-03-15 15:26:54.092',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:26:54.09',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6aefd930-ec41-41ae-aad8-5b587d9a2b29','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>曾经纠结着过去的「因」导致现在的果</p>
<p>＂如果我们一直依赖原因论，就会永远止步不前＂</p>
<p>这一句简直是棒头喝</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 15:31:01.438','2025-03-15 15:31:01.438',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:31:01.435',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('869606e4-a9ac-4fd2-9b94-aec513704f80','892eb459-7c63-4aaa-966f-5825827a4e5e','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>假如我們拒絕改變自己的心意也不會有多少機會去改變他人的心意。</p>
<p>說服他人重新考慮不只關乎提出好的論點，而是在於證實我們擁有正確的動機去這麼做。</p>','2025-03-15 15:31:24.706','2025-03-15 15:31:28.684',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:31:28.683',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e09a13a7-6f81-4368-b62d-eab5921b82d3','dda77b3b-2943-406d-a412-a24e7ccd4a05','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>首先感恩Rina 选了此书，让我们有机会阅读，我买此书已经有一年了，但就是没有机会翻阅，时机来的刚好呀。。</p>
<p>认识此书在小红书知道，此书是关于心灵层面。</p>
<p>刚好自己在进入观己往内看的阶段，我想是一本让我可以升华的一本好书。</p>
<p>过去的我就是没有被讨厌的勇气才会一直讨好，在乎别人对自己的评价，活在别人的嘴里，过着没有灵魂的生活。</p>
<p>如今转眼自己也踏入40，是时候为自己而活，快乐的活，愉悦自己，在乎自己。</p>
<p>2025 赶上第一季节 重新翻书。</p>
<p>为了让读者更容易了解，此书以对话方式来讲述。</p>
<p>青年与哲人的对话</p>
<p>他们在辩论着&rdquo;人可以改变&rdquo;一事。</p>
<p>青年固执的认为人无法改变，而哲人认为人可以改变而且人人都可以获得很幸福。</p>
<p>他们在论述着为什么青年的一位友人多年来都躲在房间不出门，青年很有信心的认定只要朋友是位非常认真对社会有用的人。</p>
<p>但他的朋友却会在离开房间一步就会心慌，手脚发抖。</p>
<p>他们在假设过去被父母虐待所以心灵创伤导致闭门不出。</p>
<p>青年一直认定一切结果之前都先有原因。</p>
<p>而哲人并不是这样看待，哲人反问回，那是不是每个被虐待过的人都会和他友人闭门不出呢？</p>
<p>哲人讲述阿德勒心理学考虑的不是过去&ldquo;原因&rdquo; 而是现在的目的。</p>
<p>他朋友的例子不是过去的创伤导致闭门不出</p>
<p>而是他不想出去，为了达到不出去的目的，制造了很多不安或恐惧的情绪出现。也就是阿得勒心理学所说的&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;</p>
<p>青年无法接受哲人所说觉得不可思议。</p>
<p>哲人说，如果我们一直依赖原因论，就会永远止步不前。</p>
<p>我的感受是自己也是活在原因论</p>
<p>每每发生一件事，就很容易联想到因为过去怎么样，所以现在我才怎麽样。。。</p>
<p>其实自己都被自己给欺骗了。</p>
<p>我也一直认定过去童年的创伤，早就了自己</p>
<p>很多的缺点。</p>
<p>今天看了这编，稍微有点悟到的是，不要拿过去当借口，现在是现在</p>
<p>现在要怎么做怎麽活，一切看自己的目的是什麽。</p>
<p>今天停笔在此，明天继续。</p>','2025-03-15 15:41:38.6','2025-03-15 15:41:38.6',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:41:38.599',NULL,NULL);
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<p>另外先表现两方的不同有共鸣也是一种想法轮转的开始。</p>','2025-03-15 15:40:05.308','2025-03-15 15:40:05.308',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:40:05.293',NULL,NULL);
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<p>在谈判中，找到共同点至关重要；同时需巧妙运用策略，公平表达对方的顾虑。真正的谈判高手不会陷入防御或攻击的循环，而是掌握节奏；避免过度对抗，以达成最佳结果。</p>','2025-03-15 15:46:08.876','2025-03-15 15:46:08.876',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:46:08.875',NULL,NULL);
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<p>放下过去，往前走吧</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 15:32:34.338','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">07 疫苗沟通者及温和的质问者：正确的聆听方式如何带给人们动机去改变（Page 215-218）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">沟通方式很重要</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要改变别人的想法，不是靠批评或恐吓，而是用理解和尊重来沟通。</span></p>','2025-03-25 14:44:00.542','2025-03-25 14:44:00.542',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:44:00.541',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很多人认为现在的结果是由过去的原因所决定。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果我们一直依赖原因论，就会永远止步不前。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学考虑的不是过去的原因，而是现在的目的。由于他不想到外面去，所以才制造不安情绪。</span></p>','2025-03-15 15:47:34.408','2025-03-15 15:47:34.408',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:47:34.406',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们可以承认赞同自己的批评者，甚至是从对方身上学到什么，展现开放的心胸。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>然后，当我们询问他们可能愿意修改那些观点时，我们就不是伪君子了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-15 15:53:40.639','2025-03-15 15:53:40.639',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:53:40.638',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：&nbsp; &nbsp; </span><span lang="ZH-CN">原因论和目的论</span></p>
<p>&ldquo;原因论&rdquo; 是因为过去的一些伤害，而影响到现在</p>
<p>&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;是因为要达到某一些的目的而有的</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<div class="text-xs sm:text-sm ml-[38px]">
<p>心理学三巨头：</p>
<p>1）弗洛伊德、</p>
<p>2）荣格、</p>
<p>3）阿德勒。</p>
</div>','2025-03-15 14:57:40.376','2025-03-15 15:59:17.012',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 15:59:17.01',NULL,NULL);
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<li data-start="13" data-end="95">
<p data-start="16" data-end="27"><strong data-start="16" data-end="26">哈里许的策略</strong>：</p>
<ul data-start="31" data-end="95">
<li data-start="31" data-end="58">采用间接方式引导人们思考，而不是直接告诉他们结论。</li>
<li data-start="62" data-end="95">通过巧妙的提问和策略，让人们自发得出结论，从而更容易接受信息。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="97" data-end="203">
<p data-start="100" data-end="113"><strong data-start="100" data-end="112">研究和心理学支持</strong>：</p>
<ul data-start="117" data-end="203">
<li data-start="117" data-end="149">研究显示，人们在面对复杂问题时，容易受到自身固有观点的影响。</li>
<li data-start="153" data-end="203">通过适当的策略（如巧妙提问、设置对照实验等），可以影响人们的思考方式，提高他们接受新观点的概率。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="205" data-end="304">
<p data-start="208" data-end="217"><strong data-start="208" data-end="216">实验案例</strong>：</p>
<ul data-start="221" data-end="304">
<li data-start="221" data-end="264">在实验中，单独提供一种理由（如慈善捐款）比提供多种理由（如慈善+社会责任）更有效。</li>
<li data-start="268" data-end="304">篮球比赛实验显示，当人们觉得自己做出的决定更具自主性时，参与度更高。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="306" data-end="388">
<p data-start="309" data-end="323"><strong data-start="309" data-end="322">信息接受方式的影响</strong>：</p>
<ul data-start="327" data-end="388">
<li data-start="327" data-end="349">直接说服往往无效，反而容易引起抵触情绪。</li>
<li data-start="353" data-end="388">通过设问和引导，让对方自己得出结论，比直接灌输观点更容易让人接受。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2025-03-15 22:05:55.659','2025-03-15 22:05:55.659',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 22:05:55.658',NULL,NULL);
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<ul data-start="42" data-end="179">
<li data-start="42" data-end="89"><strong data-start="44" data-end="58">刻板印象往往根深蒂固</strong>，人们基于过去的经验或社会环境，容易形成对某个群体的固定看法。</li>
<li data-start="93" data-end="136">例如，文章提及美国职棒大联盟的种族隔离历史，黑人球员长期被排除在主流棒球运动之外。</li>
<li data-start="140" data-end="179">个人经验和文化背景影响着人们的偏见，即使在现代社会，许多刻板印象依然存在。</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="181" data-end="206"><strong data-start="186" data-end="206">2. 通过动摇刻板印象来改变偏见</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="210" data-end="346">
<li data-start="210" data-end="266">文章描述了**戴维斯（Daryl Davis）**的经历，他通过与三K党成员对话，逐渐让他们质疑自己的偏见。</li>
<li data-start="270" data-end="346">作者也用棒球赛的例子，说明人们在情绪化的环境下，可能会对对立球队产生不理性的厌恶情绪，但这种敌意通常基于文化、历史等长期累积的印象，而非真正的事实。</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="348" data-end="372"><strong data-start="353" data-end="372">3. 认知偏见如何影响社会认同</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="376" data-end="487">
<li data-start="376" data-end="434">文章指出，政治和社会对立往往加剧偏见。例如，共和党和民主党之间的对立不仅是政策问题，更涉及对对方群体的负面印象。</li>
<li data-start="438" data-end="487">这种二元对立思维模式，让人们在缺乏理性分析的情况下，更容易固守自己的立场，而不愿意接受新观点。</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="489" data-end="512"><strong data-start="494" data-end="512">4. 重新思考和挑战刻板印象</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="516" data-end="700">
<li data-start="516" data-end="700"><strong data-start="518" data-end="531">如何改变刻板印象？</strong>
<ul data-start="537" data-end="700">
<li data-start="537" data-end="592"><strong data-start="539" data-end="551">接触不同背景的人</strong>：戴维斯通过直接与三K党成员交流，让他们看到真实的黑人个体，而不是抽象的刻板印象。</li>
<li data-start="598" data-end="654"><strong data-start="600" data-end="612">经历个人化的冲击</strong>：文章中的棒球迷，在发现自己的球队与对立球队有相似的经历后，开始重新思考自己的敌意。</li>
<li data-start="660" data-end="700"><strong data-start="662" data-end="673">主动质疑和反思</strong>：意识到偏见是如何形成的，并主动去寻找新的信息和事实。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2025-03-15 22:14:58.896','2025-03-19 00:00:00.037',NULL,'f','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036',NULL,NULL);
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<ul data-start="42" data-end="322">
<li data-start="42" data-end="141"><strong data-start="44" data-end="61">从太空看地球的&ldquo;概观效应&rdquo;</strong>：
<ul data-start="68" data-end="141">
<li data-start="68" data-end="103">研究显示，宇航员在外太空俯瞰地球后，往往会重新思考人类的社会问题。</li>
<li data-start="109" data-end="141">他们不再把国家或民族视为分裂的个体，而是看到人类整体的连结。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="145" data-end="232"><strong data-start="147" data-end="158">全球视角的转变</strong>：
<ul data-start="165" data-end="232">
<li data-start="165" data-end="232">宇航员艾德&middot;米切尔（Edgar Mitchell）提到，在太空中看到地球让他深刻体会到，人类的分裂是人为制造的，而非自然界的规则。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="236" data-end="322"><strong data-start="238" data-end="250">地球视角的局限性</strong>：
<ul data-start="257" data-end="322">
<li data-start="257" data-end="288">当我们只从地面看世界时，我们容易陷入狭隘的群体认同和偏见。</li>
<li data-start="294" data-end="322">但是从太空的高度看，地球上的冲突和对立显得微不足道。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="324" data-end="347"><strong data-start="329" data-end="347">2. 假设二：同情我们的敌人</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="351" data-end="597">
<li data-start="351" data-end="478"><strong data-start="353" data-end="366">打破刻板印象的实验</strong>：
<ul data-start="373" data-end="478">
<li data-start="373" data-end="411">研究显示，当人们与&ldquo;敌对群体&rdquo;进行深度互动时，他们往往会改变原有的偏见。</li>
<li data-start="417" data-end="478">赫伯&middot;凯尔曼（Herb Kelman）设计了互动对话模型，让对立群体的人坐在一起，分享个人经验，从而减少对彼此的敌意。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="482" data-end="597"><strong data-start="484" data-end="499">体育运动中的对立与共鸣</strong>：
<ul data-start="506" data-end="597">
<li data-start="506" data-end="545">在篮球比赛中，对手之间的竞争激烈，但在某些情况下，他们也会建立相互的尊重。</li>
<li data-start="551" data-end="597">例如，某些球员在离开赛场后，逐渐意识到对手其实和自己有许多共同点，从而改变了原本的偏见。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="599" data-end="621"><strong data-start="604" data-end="621">3. 刻板印象的影响与改变</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="625" data-end="874">
<li data-start="625" data-end="713"><strong data-start="627" data-end="639">刻板印象容易固化</strong>：
<ul data-start="646" data-end="713">
<li data-start="646" data-end="681">研究发现，人们习惯于将敌对群体视为单一的刻板形象，而忽视个体差异。</li>
<li data-start="687" data-end="713">这种现象在政治、宗教、种族对立等问题中尤为明显。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="717" data-end="874"><strong data-start="719" data-end="732">改变刻板印象的方式</strong>：
<ul data-start="739" data-end="874">
<li data-start="739" data-end="773"><strong data-start="741" data-end="752">增加跨群体互动</strong>：面对面的接触比间接信息更能改变人的看法。</li>
<li data-start="779" data-end="822"><strong data-start="781" data-end="789">换位思考</strong>：尝试站在对方角度理解其行为和观点，而不是简单地贴上&ldquo;敌人&rdquo;标签。</li>
<li data-start="828" data-end="874"><strong data-start="830" data-end="839">强调共同点</strong>：研究表明，当人们发现彼此有相似的经历或价值观时，他们更容易减少偏见。</li>
</ul>
</li>
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很多人在愤怒过后，把它归咎于让他发怒的那个人或哪件事，有时它无法控制。但事实是憤怒其实只是一种手段，为了达到目的而已。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">原因论和目的论是蛮有意思的，因为这发生在生活的每一天，大部分人应该比较认同原因论因为把责任推到别人身上还是比较简单的。</span></p>','2025-03-15 23:49:16.951','2025-03-15 23:49:16.951',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-15 23:49:16.949',NULL,NULL);
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<ul data-start="41" data-end="183">
<li data-start="41" data-end="85"><strong data-start="43" data-end="52">群体归属感</strong>：人类天生倾向于寻找归属感，认同特定群体（如球队、政党、宗教等）。</li>
<li data-start="89" data-end="133"><strong data-start="91" data-end="99">对外敌视</strong>：当群体认同增强时，人们往往会强化对外部群体的偏见，甚至表现出敌意。</li>
<li data-start="137" data-end="183"><strong data-start="139" data-end="150">社会心理学研究</strong>表明，即使两个群体之间的区别微乎其微，他们仍可能发展出竞争和对抗。</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="185" data-end="208"><strong data-start="190" data-end="208">2. 热狗与三明治的社会实验</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="212" data-end="298">
<li data-start="212" data-end="255">实验显示，人们更愿意给&ldquo;与自己观点相同&rdquo;的人更多钱，而对&ldquo;持不同意见&rdquo;的人更吝啬。</li>
<li data-start="259" data-end="298">这一现象表明<strong data-start="267" data-end="284">群体偏见影响人们的经济行为</strong>，即使这种偏见没有客观基础。</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="300" data-end="322"><strong data-start="305" data-end="322">3. 刻板印象的形成与固化</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="326" data-end="547">
<li data-start="326" data-end="454"><strong data-start="328" data-end="341">刻板印象的社会影响</strong>：
<ul data-start="348" data-end="454">
<li data-start="348" data-end="405">由心理学家 <strong data-start="356" data-end="376">凯利（George Kelly）</strong> 提出的理论认为，人们用&ldquo;信念&rdquo;去构建世界，而非事实本身。</li>
<li data-start="411" data-end="454">一旦人们形成了某种刻板印象，他们的思维模式就会倾向于强化这种认知，而忽视矛盾信息。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="458" data-end="547"><strong data-start="460" data-end="471">情绪激化的作用</strong>：
<ul data-start="478" data-end="547">
<li data-start="478" data-end="503">比赛、政治、社会冲突往往让刻板印象更加极端化。</li>
<li data-start="509" data-end="547">例如，球迷在对抗中不仅会夸大己方球队的优点，还会刻意放大对方球队的缺点。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="549" data-end="569"><strong data-start="554" data-end="569">4. 如何打破刻板印象</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="573" data-end="687">
<li data-start="573" data-end="610"><strong data-start="575" data-end="584">接触与交流</strong>：直接与不同群体的人互动，能够让人重新评估刻板印象。</li>
<li data-start="614" data-end="648"><strong data-start="616" data-end="629">刻意质疑自己的信念</strong>：主动查找反面案例，避免陷入确认偏误。</li>
<li data-start="652" data-end="687"><strong data-start="654" data-end="665">减少情绪化反应</strong>：理性分析对方观点，而非单纯基于情绪做判断。</li>
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<ul data-start="41" data-end="273">
<li data-start="41" data-end="156"><strong data-start="43" data-end="58">习惯如何塑造我们的偏见</strong>
<ul data-start="64" data-end="156">
<li data-start="64" data-end="107">文章提到<strong data-start="70" data-end="83">支持某个球队的习惯</strong>，并非源自理性分析，而是受到成长环境和文化影响。</li>
<li data-start="113" data-end="156">例如，一个人从小看某支球队比赛，自然而然就对其产生认同，同时也对竞争对手产生敌意。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="160" data-end="273"><strong data-start="162" data-end="173">刻板印象与对立</strong>
<ul data-start="179" data-end="273">
<li data-start="179" data-end="210">当某些习惯根深蒂固后，人们很难接受新的观点或挑战原有信念。</li>
<li data-start="216" data-end="273">文章以&ldquo;木船换掉每个部分后，它还是原来的船吗？&rdquo;的比喻，说明<strong data-start="248" data-end="272">即使客观条件改变，人们仍可能坚持原有认知</strong>。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="275" data-end="296"><strong data-start="280" data-end="296">2. 认知偏误与刻板印象</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="300" data-end="463">
<li data-start="300" data-end="463"><strong data-start="302" data-end="314">武断判断的仪式化</strong>
<ul data-start="320" data-end="463">
<li data-start="320" data-end="415">人们在群体中往往遵循**&ldquo;我们 vs. 他们&rdquo;**的思维模式，例如：
<ul data-start="364" data-end="415">
<li data-start="364" data-end="384">球迷支持自己队伍，同时厌恶对手球队。</li>
<li data-start="392" data-end="415">政治立场、宗教信仰也常出现类似的群体对抗。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="421" data-end="463"><strong data-start="423" data-end="449">习惯让我们在面对竞争时产生非理性的情绪化反应</strong>，即使这些偏见缺乏客观依据。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="465" data-end="484"><strong data-start="470" data-end="484">3. 反思偏见的实验</strong></h4>
<ul data-start="488" data-end="634">
<li data-start="488" data-end="571"><strong data-start="490" data-end="498">研究方法</strong>
<ul data-start="504" data-end="571">
<li data-start="504" data-end="533">研究人员让球迷在比赛后，反思自己对对手球队的刻板印象。</li>
<li data-start="539" data-end="571">他们观察球迷如何评价对手，并分析他们是否愿意改变自己的偏见。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li data-start="575" data-end="634"><strong data-start="577" data-end="583">发现</strong>
<ul data-start="589" data-end="634">
<li data-start="589" data-end="634">偏见并非不可改变，只要人们有机会接触不同的视角，并主动思考其根源，就可能修正刻板印象。</li>
</ul>
</li>
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<p>经历本身不会决定什么，是我们给过去的经历赋予什么样的意义，人生不是由别人赋予的，而是自己选择要如何生活。</p>','2025-03-15 01:48:48.308','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p>过多的理由可能会反作用，让对方怀疑我们得用心。</p>
<p>心理学家认为最有说服我们改变心意得是自己，抛出问题让对方可以重新思考，或许更能能让对方接受我们的论点。</p>','2025-03-15 02:12:24.567','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p>不想出门，伪原因：曾经受过伤。真目的：得到关注</p>
<p>这也是一个重要原因：我们急于达成自己的目的。而且错误地认为愤怒，批评，呐喊可以使对方迅速屈服。当理智脑上线时，才知道这根本做不到。（也可以辩证的看，愤怒是达成目的的手段之一&mdash;&mdash;可以适当的主动的有意的去假装可控的愤怒，但是不要真的情绪失控）</p>
<p>愤怒时要将情绪脑快速转换为理智脑，时刻觉察自己的情绪，并问自己这个情绪（愤怒）能解决问题吗？</p>','2025-03-15 10:23:54.248','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p>但是同样的，我们不在对方的角度，我们并不能和他感同身受。他可能会有自己的苦衷。比如为了半夜照顾孩子而失去良好睡眠，以防累垮身体所以需要放缓工作角度。也比如孩子的童年就是那么短暂，失去了就没机会弥补，所以一个注重家庭观的人会为了孩子而牺牲工作表现。</p>
<p>关于过去的心理创伤而造成现在的种种行为（因果论），我觉得我们不是亲身经历，所以不能否定因果论而一味的支持目的论。</p>','2025-03-15 14:57:32.517','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76b1d6a5-2633-42e7-9eb1-1dab3d7abfdd','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>当别人很投入某个议题时，越多的论点只会给他人更多弹药去打击我们的观点。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>「最有可能说服你改变心意的人就是你自己」，所以当有意见分歧的时候，我们只需要适当地向对方提出问题，开启他们的思维，并让天生的好奇心引领他们重新思考</p>','2025-03-15 15:08:27.631','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<li>经历本身不会决定什么，而是我们给过去的经历&ldquo;赋予了什么样的意义&rdquo;这直接决定了我们的生活，是我们自己选择自己如何生活</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>愤怒是为了震慑对方而捏造出来的感情。这个以后确实可以留意一下，如果真是这样的话，感觉发脾气的次数会减少很多😂</li>
</ul>','2025-03-15 15:33:57.093','2025-03-16 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('78483951-0945-4bfa-9264-f265f2cfd38e','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>决定自身不是過去的經歷, 而是自己賦予经歴的意義, 路是自己走的, 不能被他人左右 .</p>
<p>愤恕是可收可放的, 而愤怒的背后 只是想要获得别人的認可而已.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 01:43:36.749','2025-03-16 01:43:36.749',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 01:43:36.748',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">微软让Office又飞起来（Page 042-045 ）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Copilot 的功能这么多，可以写成新产品推介礼的新闻稿。又可以通过power point 的copilot 的功能，自动生成20个页面的PPT..</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">员工会使用AI提高竞争力和效率。要加快步伐。</span></p>','2025-05-12 15:20:03.595','2025-05-12 15:20:03.595',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-05-12 15:20:03.588',NULL,NULL);
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<p>特别认同这2句：作为相应手段便捏造了愤怒这种感情。所谓愤怒其实只是可收可放的一种手段而已。</p>
<p>暴力者总说控制不了自己只是借口</p>','2025-03-16 03:19:30.162','2025-03-16 03:19:30.162',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 03:19:30.161',NULL,NULL);
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<p>似乎否定了所有的感情，所谓过去的经历导致的心理创伤，或者因为某个事故导致的愤怒情绪都被哲人说成&ldquo;虚无&rdquo;， 它们的存在只是为了某种现在的目的，而我们没有一刻不是为了某种&ldquo;目的&rdquo;而活着。</p>
<p>&rdquo;决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经历的意义&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 03:35:06.5','2025-03-16 03:35:06.5',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 03:35:06.477',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 01:54:44.03','2025-03-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009','2025-03-17 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4057dfce-fea2-4f59-9acf-94437e22beed','e5de1805-f4f4-4b0c-9cec-4bc2860a18d4','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>承认自己的缺点，并真诚的为这些缺点改进、学习，往往比以为的吹捧自己的强项要为来得让人青睐。在处于弱势时，人更应该自我反省，给自己的不足加以修正，方能继续前进。</p>','2025-03-16 01:57:43.294','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('970caa8b-8c68-4586-a420-f9b573fa9176','46adb4d7-a6ff-452e-bfa4-903d3bd3345d','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>重要的不是被给于什么，而是如何去利用被给于的东西。</p>
<p>所有的不幸都是自己选择的。犯罪的人都有他们相应的理由，都是为了利己。</p>','2025-03-16 02:33:48.633','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 02:50:21.757','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 01:15:30.67','2025-03-19 00:00:00.037',NULL,'f','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 02:55:43.281','2025-03-19 00:00:00.037',NULL,'f','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036',NULL,NULL);
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<p>这共识认同能在竞争者之间建立桥梁。</p>','2025-03-16 02:00:58.857','2025-03-21 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3d12bea3-3ffa-46fc-a593-ca0b04a4b8aa','3a265a7b-2f34-4780-be70-86c639b59fc0','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>希望被理解的情绪，比如沮丧，生气，担心，不安，恐惧，害怕</p>','2025-05-12 15:18:01.46','2025-05-12 15:18:36.647',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-05-12 15:18:36.646',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29acc3ca-ae23-4a8f-9c63-ac3d0476504c','1236dd7e-db1d-4715-b75e-ca418f36818a','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>AI 在现在和未来，是必需品，而且是神不知鬼不觉的融入生活中。</p>','2025-05-23 15:48:54.686','2025-05-23 15:48:54.686',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-05-23 15:48:54.685',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce0a03f1-16e7-463e-8386-b162bfeff177','7bbd2665-6806-4bcc-9f5e-b15e3a3b1682','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>什么问题会让你抬头思考最难沟通的那个人=自己</p>
<p>抬头思考=打开内心</p>','2025-06-05 08:47:18.241','2025-06-05 08:48:29.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-05 08:48:29.619',NULL,NULL);
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<p>蘇格拉底提問模式。</p>','2025-06-05 23:08:02.779','2025-06-05 23:08:02.779',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-05 23:08:02.779',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1）对方在某些我们赞同及了解的领域拥有效观点时,我们示范.了自信的谦逊,並鼓励对方效法.</p>
<p>2）当我们以少许具有凝聚力及令人信服的理由来支持我们的论述,我们鼓励对方开始怀疑他们自己的看法.</p>
<p>3）当我们提出真诚的问题,我们让对方激起了好奇心.</p>
<p>我们不必说服对方我们是对的,只需要开启他们的思维,让他们看到自己想法有误的可能性</p>','2025-03-16 04:56:58.506','2025-03-16 04:57:36.962',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 04:57:36.961',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cdcd6d8d-fb1a-417f-9f3c-ec53a23575e8','e5de1805-f4f4-4b0c-9cec-4bc2860a18d4','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>对自己诚实和对自己的弱点坦白的人是我们要聘请的人选。同时他们也要有能力迎接挑战和任务。</p>','2025-03-16 05:39:23.514','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7ee91cd1-1fdd-473d-aaaf-0492da0dda29','8a635bf5-b1d7-4e31-898f-6bf90cdff024','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「在一個理想的世界中，認識個別團體成員會賦予團體人性，不過進一步了解一個人經常會使得這個人有別於她的團體。當我們遇見違抗某種刻板印象的團體成員時，我們的第一直覺不是把他們看成範例，重新思考刻板印象，而是把他們看成例外，堅守我們既有的信念，因此這種嘗試也失敗了，現在又要重新來過。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 04:13:06.635','2025-03-21 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9820918f-8b4f-4dc5-8a42-5f7483cc9864','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','818bb03e-4271-4e7a-a918-07cdd48a8614','<p>经历本身不会决定什么, 而是我们给过去的经历赋予了什么样的意义, 全都取决于自己。</p>
<p>同样为90后的我，发现很多人都为了让自己的情绪有个发泄口而不停地找理由找借口，似乎可以为自己所做的事&ldquo;买单&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 12:11:26.917','2025-03-16 12:11:26.917',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:11:26.916',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1dd03dbf-9d3f-40bd-b827-c21bf95c21ae','e673c3d8-13ba-4961-9f5b-c15ff9433e51','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「當我們企圖辯護我們在內心深處明知是錯誤的想法時，我們會變得分外具有敵意。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 04:11:26.149','2025-03-20 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5bcd4dff-88fb-4137-a338-1dcf40940c21','2ffb72f5-b779-48ff-9e1e-7c981052af68','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>自卑感和自卑情节是不同的。自卑感是我们承认自己的缺陷然后寻求改进和进步。自卑情节是利用自己的不幸来掩饰或变成借口，好让自己可以继续利用这个借口停留在自己舒适或对自己有利的范围。</p>','2025-03-16 03:50:01.199','2025-03-22 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-22 00:00:00.007','2025-03-22 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2d0fc35-497a-426b-ae23-36b57102fe50','3dd5aeeb-8ca7-4c32-bf40-794bc1b911e3','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「當他們反省那種敵對態度有多愚蠢時，他們便展現較少的敵意。他們知道為了荒謬的理由而不被喜歡的感覺如何，有助於他們看清那種衝突具有真正的暗示性，痛恨敵隊球迷不是隨便鬧著玩的事。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 04:15:26.069','2025-03-22 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-22 00:00:00.007','2025-03-22 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e3fae5d2-ab13-42d0-85d0-adfefecad15d','3e4955c2-ec09-4e3b-8fc8-60b8f76ccf55','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>&ldquo;自卑感和优越情节&rdquo;</p>
<p>从自卑感产生出来的一种优越，是要告诉或显示出自己有多好。一个人的骄傲自大，也源自于他的自卑感。自身缺乏或少了些什么，而需要为自己的&ldquo;不幸&rdquo;作为武器。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>一个自卑感强的人喜欢沉浸在优越情节，他选择以不幸为武器来掩饰自己的不足。</p>','2025-03-16 03:50:39.321','2025-03-23 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-03-23 00:00:00.019','2025-03-23 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d35ec2f6-0002-4361-98f3-0ad5489f235b','1934a2aa-1e85-418f-b29e-ec1691e11e97','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「刻板印象沒有像精心打造的船隻一般，擁有結構完整性，它們比較像是疊疊樂遊戲的一座高塔，在幾塊積木上搖晃，少了某些重要的支撐，有時我們只要戳一下就能推倒它。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 04:18:22.187','2025-03-23 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-03-23 00:00:00.019','2025-03-23 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d887456b-ef9e-4d8d-8145-650819ee23c7','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「達洛隨即指出，他並未直接規勸這些人改變他們的想法。「我沒有改變任何人的信念，」他說。「我給了他們理由去思考人生方向，他們思考這件事，然後心想：我需要一條更好的道路，這麼做就對了。」」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 04:21:42.793','2025-03-24 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-03-24 00:00:00.032','2025-03-24 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65c1fda2-487c-420d-864a-8482e177693f','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「那些無法動搖我們的說法，只會使得我們的信念更堅定。就像疫苗接種到我們身體的免疫系統以抵抗病毒，抵抗的行為增強我們的心理免疫系統。駁斥某個觀點的論述產生抗體，對抗未來影響我們的企圖。我們變得更加確信自己的看法，對替代觀點的好奇心變低。反論述不再令我們感到驚訝或困惑，因為我們已經準備好反駁了。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 04:23:35.015','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f15f5232-771f-425f-947e-fcb08ce27d17','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「動機式晤談是以一種謙遜又好奇的態度展開，我們不知道有什麼可能帶給他人動機去做出改變，但是我們迫切想找出來。我們的目的不是告訴別人要做什麼，而是去協助他們打破過度自信的循環，並且看見新的可能性。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 04:25:47.935','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('53991470-1f1c-44ec-82ce-942072e2aa03','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「當我們嘗試說服他人重新思考，我們的第一直覺通常是開始說話。然而要幫助他人開啟思維，最有效的方式經常是傾聽。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 04:26:55.814','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('24aad5b9-4f5c-4544-9240-fd72b4480885','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>第一次接触阿德勒的书籍，认同了几个观点，过去的经历已经过去了，我们要向前走，决定我们的自生不是过去的经历，而是给予经历的意义。</p>
<p>活着原本没意义，而是你自已给予这个生命的意义。</p>
<p>阿德勒否定心理创伤，这个让我现在不太习惯，也不太认同。我也不太接受，就像和年青人一样，我们大家都是为了某种＂目的＂而活着的目的论。</p>
<p>在我的认认，愤怒不是揑造的，而是身体的本能反应，但我们是有选择权收起或釋放。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 05:44:18.9','2025-03-16 05:44:31.183',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 05:44:31.182',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('96756487-1054-4879-883e-e2813f291a40','e673c3d8-13ba-4961-9f5b-c15ff9433e51','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>与同样想法人同在会让讨论结果变成极端。这会让我们会有逆思维的出现妈？我们大家都同样的频道其实都不需讨论了，因为大家都知道应该获取的答案。&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 06:29:50.913','2025-03-20 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1136dec7-e588-4963-8887-0655871f3801','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>&ldquo;可控制的怒气&rdquo;--这其实是一项多么有价值的资本。当你可以用你的情绪去达成目标--而不是被它控制时候，你就已经成功了一半。发怒不可耻，发怒是身体本能，让你注意到不公平、需要纠正的地方。知道自己发怒，就要理性去处理这个怒气。可以是按下怒火：学习心平气和，也可以&ldquo;怒发冲冠为红颜&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>重点是，你要可以控制怒气，根据身体给你的回馈去做正确的事情。</p>','2025-03-16 06:27:11.746','2025-03-16 06:27:11.746',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 06:27:11.745',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('24eb4bb4-7fdb-4888-b94a-7b33d812894f','3dd5aeeb-8ca7-4c32-bf40-794bc1b911e3','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>我个人没有特别的喜欢任何一支球队。我发现某些朋友对某些欧联盟足球队特别的喜欢，但他们听见另外身边的人支持另外一支球队时，他们会感觉到不悦。我觉得没有这个必要，为了这些无关的小事不悦。老实讲，老外球员根本连你的存在都不知道。</p>','2025-03-16 06:59:56.576','2025-03-22 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-22 00:00:00.007','2025-03-22 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27a56a8c-3ea4-4d94-9097-a6d87427cb69','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','95959ea7-8fcc-4004-8564-5a6ec84f4fee','<p>决定自身痛苦的不是过去的经历，而是自己赋予经历的意义。</p>
<p>目的论 - 愤怒是捏造出来的，原因是为了大发雷霆，并不是因为所发生的事故。</p>
<p>暂时不赞同此理论。</p>','2025-03-16 07:05:55.312','2025-03-16 07:05:55.312',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 07:05:55.311',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b75fc8d6-5e5d-4d58-8ec8-2e69a93f3ec8','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>我以为因为某些自己意料之外突发的事件生气就是&ldquo;原因论&rdquo;，但阿德勒却说是&ldquo;目的论&rdquo;，好像颠覆了自己过往的想法。虽然现在还是会像青年一样有点难以接受这论点。</p>
<p>弗洛伊德心理创伤学认为心灵过去所受的伤害，是引起目前不幸的罪祸着。阿德勒心理学却明确否定心里创伤。</p>','2025-03-16 07:27:44.974','2025-03-16 07:27:44.974',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 07:27:44.973',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('79903bc4-7fc2-4030-a87d-a1378c414b31','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「在思考做出改變時，許多人會感到矛盾。他們有某些理由要考慮這麼做，但是也有部分理由要保持現狀。心理學家米勒和護士羅爾尼克的建議是：詢問及留神傾聽提及改變的話，然後提出一些關於他們為何及可能如何改變的問題。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 08:07:44.767','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1cbc735a-a27c-4c1d-9495-bd3aabdee078','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 29 ：3月15日《逆思维Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以相同的节奏跳舞（Page 162-167）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">太多论述会淡化论述的力量。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要踩到对方的脚趾。</span></p>','2025-03-16 12:19:13.978','2025-03-16 12:19:13.978',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:19:13.977',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1f22dd32-229c-4616-bda6-5025c63038fc','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','e5b8e15b-13cb-4dc2-940f-cfb308bda145','<p>167-172页 ：这里提到一个很有趣的实验，就是看看是否能从让那些从来不曾掏出一毛钱来捐款给母校的校友，哈哈，我觉得这个实验很有趣，很好玩，然后实验的结果显示有6.5%的小气校友捐款了。我就好奇，为什么会用 &ldquo;小气&rdquo; 来形容他们呢？小气是因为他们不捐款，所以被称为小气？还是因为啥其他的原因呢？不捐款就等于小气吗？对于这一点，我感到很奇怪，也觉得用这词好像有点不适合哦。</p>','2025-03-16 13:34:00.873','2025-03-16 13:34:00.873',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:34:00.868',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4342fc46-be51-4e93-aefc-31fe75c027d0','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>无可否认，目的论确实无时无刻都伴随着我们。情绪确实也可以随时放下，只在于我们自己【要不要而已】。</p>','2025-03-16 13:38:41.804','2025-03-16 13:38:41.804',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:38:41.803',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c8988ef-de2c-43d9-869a-2cf8b1bf4410','93108994-c806-4d48-9928-a057ce288c4e','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>大马族群之间都存有怀疑和蛮多刻板印象。多谢了政治人物和极端主义者。以肌肤颜色来标签是不合理的刻薄做法。华人都是有钱人，最近经济发展状况不佳，通货膨胀，很多华人打工一族经济危机，无法拥有房子。还有我们也会标签马来同胞比较懒，但在还有很多优秀勤劳的马来同胞。心胸怀宽广，思维开放别让旧刻板旧印象误导。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 06:18:30.616','2025-03-19 00:00:00.037',NULL,'f','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d57b56c2-4925-4fea-aa78-8dca341e279a','8a635bf5-b1d7-4e31-898f-6bf90cdff024','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>球迷们之争难免，因为他们深爱各自球队只能独赢结果而造成。</p>
<p>这也让我想起刘德华歌迷和黎明歌迷之争。他们都相互敌意对方的歌手，让刘德华和黎明处于尴尬局面。最终两大天王出面和解，双方歌迷的敌对态度。</p>','2025-03-16 06:47:28.088','2025-03-21 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cdd11554-4d94-4633-813f-b7587695040f','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','74239164-b3cf-430a-b19b-1641712ac0a7','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">对<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">人际的重新思考，开启他人的思维时，如何避免&ldquo;</span></span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">踩到對</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽅</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的腳趾&rdquo;</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">讓宣揚及指控的方式更具說服<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⼒ ：</span></span></span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">取決於三個關鍵因素：</span></span></span></span></strong></p>
<ol>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">人<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">們有多在乎這項議題；</span></span></span></span></strong></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">他們對我們的特定論點有多少接受度；</span></span></span></span></strong></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">以及他們的意志通常有多堅定。</span></span></span></span></strong></li>
</ol>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">假如他們抗拒重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">更多的理由只會給他們更多彈藥去打擊我們的觀點。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">所提出的理由的質量與數量</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="font-family: Microsoft YaHei, sans-serif;">及</span></span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">資料來源，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">最令</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">信服的來源經常是<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong>和觀眾最貼近的那</strong></span></span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'', sans-serif;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi;">個。</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">心理學家</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">發現，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">最可能說服你改變</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼼</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">意的</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">是</span><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">你自己。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">你能挑選你覺得最令</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">信服的理由，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">然後你帶著立足</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">在那些理由的真實感受離開。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">當我們提出真誠的問題，</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們讓對</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽅</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">激起了想得知更多的好奇</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼼。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們不必說服對</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽅</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們是對的，</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們只需要開啟他們的思維，</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">看到他們或許想法有誤的可能性。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">他們的天</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽣</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">好奇</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼼</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">會完成剩下的</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">切。</span></strong></p>','2025-03-16 08:22:31.612','2025-03-16 08:29:04.845',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 08:29:04.842',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5f52fdeb-83f6-4657-a3a8-51cc4112131a','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>弗洛伊德的了论点是原因论，现在的痛苦是由于过去的心灵创伤还未处理。阿德勒心理学确否定心理创伤。</p>
<p>任何经历本身并不是成功或失败的原因，也不是经历中的刺激而痛苦。事实是从经历中发现符合自己目的的因素。</p>
<p>决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，而是我们自己斌于经历的意义。也就是我们给过去的经历斌与什么意义会决定我们的生活。</p>
<p>人生不是由别人给你的，而是由自己选择如何过如何的生活。</p>
<p>我的认知告诉我过去原生家庭给我简单的欢乐经历，如每天吃粗茶淡饭是快乐，只要一家人相处和谐是幸福，反之就是粗茶淡饭是贫困象征。</p>','2025-03-16 08:40:21.292','2025-03-16 08:40:21.292',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 08:40:21.291',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0aa5688c-29e1-4643-864c-24013fb61744','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','19aefae2-1527-4b6b-92a2-f0b6e8205b43','<p>决定我们自己的不是&ldquo;经验本身&rdquo;而是&ldquo;赋予经验的意义&rdquo;。</p>
<p>这句话说得很好，<strong>人生不是由别人赋予的，而是由自己选择的，是自己选择自己如何生活。大家都为了某种&ldquo;目的&rdquo;而活。</strong></p>
<p>所以，我们可以选择自己的生活，释放是一个解脱。因为我们心中越有不满，我们越不幸福或不满足。因此，我们要学习感恩，学习可放可收到的手段。</p>','2025-03-14 12:58:58.097','2025-03-16 08:49:52.688',NULL,'f','2025-03-16 00:00:00.008','2025-03-16 08:49:52.687',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f96de674-2273-46c4-b436-b888ba8eab85','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>如果我是观众，我觉得，只有不断的抛出有力，具有重新让人思考的问题，是非常有效和说服力的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果只是一味的列出很多的论点，太多反而难以消化也会失去耐性。</p>
<p>对， 在质疑的状况下，如果给越多的理由来说服对方，就变相成为一种推销的形式，让人起疑心，然后开始防备。</p>','2025-03-16 08:50:23.298','2025-03-16 08:51:04.713',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 08:51:04.711',NULL,NULL);
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<p>當说服的动作太多，对方的警觉心越高，口服可能心不服。</p>
<p>提出议题是，以对方感兴趣並在乎，接受度高的方式来讨论！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 08:54:18.126','2025-03-16 08:54:18.126',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 08:54:18.125',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f161dfed-fea4-470f-b0b6-3cb861599a51','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>1）单一论述感觉像是对话，多重论述会变成猛烈攻击</p>
<p>2）最可能说服你改变心意的人是你自己</p>
<p>3）当我们提出真诚的问题，我们让对方激起了想要得知更多的好奇心。我们不必说服对方我们是对的，我们只需要开启他们的思维，让他们看到自己或许想法有误的可能性，他们的天生好奇心会完成剩下的一切。</p>','2025-03-16 12:04:08.501','2025-03-16 12:15:39.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:15:39.326',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e0fdde45-478f-4fc8-a9a9-71124804ee9b','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>理由再多也未必可以说服对方，</p>
<p>更何况要让对方心服口服？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>凡事点到为止，让对方有喘气的空间。</p>
<p>人是有感情的动物，别赢了道理，输了感情。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>理直要气和，得理要饶人</strong></p>','2025-03-16 08:56:46.907','2025-03-16 09:01:50.371',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 09:01:50.37',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第一夜 我们的不幸是谁的错？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">心理创伤并不存在（Page 008-013）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">心理创伤</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，而是我们给予经历的意义。我们肯定有某种&rdquo;目的&rdquo;而活着。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">理清&rdquo;受怒气支配而大发雷霆&rdquo;，而完全是&rdquo;为了大发雷霆而制造努气&rdquo;。要明白愤怒其实只是可放可收的一种&rdquo;手段&rdquo;。告诉自己和对12秒让自己或对方冷静后才发表。往往我们有选择权去反应，正面或负面情绪去处理关系。处理好人才处理事。</span></p>','2025-03-16 13:22:45.843','2025-03-16 13:22:45.843',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:22:45.842',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('84e51696-6862-488e-8b86-c6413c5f8f3c','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>宣扬及指控的方法：人们有多在乎这项课题，他们对我们的特地论点有多少接受度，他们的意志通常有多坚定。</p>','2025-03-16 09:50:22.62','2025-03-16 09:50:22.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 09:50:22.619',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bac8923b-b293-4792-85f6-3c35b3b2432d','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','d2d67aec-0c53-4fae-9b7f-a3a323865357','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">不要踩到对方的脚趾（</span>Page 167-172<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p>最能让自己改变心意的人，不是别人，而是自己</p>
<p>当面对意见分歧时，千万别让自己成了「逻辑恶霸」，不知不觉的以反驳性的方式，否决对方的观点，<br>而是透过适当的提问，引导对方进入思考环境，从新的检验自己的观点。</p>
<p>从同理心出发的协商，比一面压的数据攻击更能让对方放下戒心，</p>
<p>吵架或对抗对于改善没什么帮忙！<br>不需要进入抗争的模式，</p>
<p>比如，辅导下属时，<br>让他自己定义职务责任范围，远远比我们把先写下的 JD （ Job Description ）让他盲目的更从，更能让下属主动起来。<br>让他自己定义职务的意义，远远比他盲目的跟着SOP （ Standard Operating Procedure ) 更能唤起下属的投入感，<br>让他自己定义准时完成任务，远远比我们为对方定 DD （ Due Date ） 更能让下属唤起使命感，与责任感。</p>','2025-03-16 10:18:08.441','2025-03-16 10:18:35.734',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 10:18:35.733',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('79652e64-c2cf-441a-98ea-0d90a267f4e7','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','d2d67aec-0c53-4fae-9b7f-a3a323865357','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">心理创伤并不存在（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 008-013</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p>一群人一起走过一段路，经历了某些情况，照理说：大家的经历相同。</p>
<p>为何，每个人对该经历所获得的启发却大不相同呢？</p>
<p>答：「经验本身」无法带来价值或启发，真正有意义的是，经历者自己如何「赋予该经验其意义」？</p>
<p>故，</p>
<p>如何赋予是个人的选择题。<br>是有完完全全自主权的哦。<br>就看自己如何选择了！</p>
<p>与其</p>
<p>1）纠结于过去的原因？不如<br>2）专注于现在的目的。</p>
<p>人生路如何选？<br>还需自己选呢。。。。</p>','2025-03-16 10:22:53.158','2025-03-16 10:23:53.947',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 10:23:53.946',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f6e75a8-feab-462c-88c7-cd2bb8cf1348','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>过去的经历只是导火线，关键是我们为此经历下了什么定义，因而导致我们当下的状态。钻牛角尖的话，就会很难走出来，需要他人的帮助。</p>
<p>曾今参观Kechara Resort 聆听 创办人Tsem Rinpoche的贴身助理分享，他说师父有时面对做错事的徒弟，会Manifest 变得很凶，目的是为了让徒弟知道事情的严重性和重要性，转脸又能恢复若无其事的状态。验证了此章所说，愤怒是捏造出来的。</p>','2025-03-16 11:29:30.388','2025-03-16 11:31:02.996',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 11:31:02.994',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed9f99a1-e8e5-442b-ae0a-976fccd8283b','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>12/3</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>辩论是我中学和大学时特别喜欢活动之一， 学长们带的微笑，柔和地把对方的论点论证为自己论点的技巧和智慧真的佩服的很。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>13/3</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>重点是说服他人重新思考自己的立场和想法。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>14/3</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>有技巧的谈判很少采取攻击， 而是对对立立场感好奇，态度谦虚。</p>
<p>邀请对方在同一个节奏共舞</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>15/3</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>必须先聆听，给于肯定，再以科学方式更理性去论证。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>机器人无法做到</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>16/3</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>以真诚激起对方重新思考和好奇。。。</p>','2025-03-16 11:46:07.606','2025-03-16 11:46:07.606',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 11:46:07.605',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0e18f2d5-2cc0-43ae-bccf-2f2e35f0bd2a','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','e833f525-7fb5-477e-bfbb-f19dd1483c26','<p>提出建议以后,选择权交回给对方.</p>','2025-03-16 12:15:18.792','2025-03-16 12:15:20.904',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:15:20.903',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89c45478-3146-40ad-ae29-42e45319f9d9','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>原来论点和理由不需要多，最好是让对方自己脑补想要的理由。。。</p>','2025-03-16 12:20:21.824','2025-03-16 12:20:21.824',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:20:21.822',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d153d34-7d11-487a-92c3-0c82653620af','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p>不要踩到对方的脚趾 （Page167-172）</p>
<p>真正的说服不是强行灌输而是引导对方自己得出结论关键在于：</p>
<p>1）议题的重要性一 一对方是否关心这个问题？</p>
<p>2）接受度一一他们对你的观点接受度如何？</p>
<p>3）意志力一一他们的立场是否容易改变？</p>
<p>有效的策略：</p>
<p>* 以谦遜但自信的方式展示观点, 让对方愿意效仿。</p>
<p>* 提供少量但有吸引力的理由，让对方开始质疑自己的立场。</p>
<p>* 用真诚的问题, 激发对方的好奇心,而不是直接灌输观点。</p>
<p>*通过设问和引导,让对方自主思考而非硬性说服。</p>
<p>心理学演研究表明：</p>
<p>*人们更容易接受自己得出的结论, 而非别人强家的观点。</p>
<p>*单一、有力的理由比多个复杂的理由更有说服力。</p>
<p>*让对方觉得自感到決策自主，能提高他们的参与度和接受度。</p>
<p>核心原则：不是说服, 而是引导对方打开思维, 主动思考并激发他们自我调整立场的动力。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 12:12:31.026','2025-03-16 12:25:49.64',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:25:49.639',NULL,NULL);
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<p>In other words, we have the right to choose. Your future depend on what is your present moment decision.&nbsp;</p>
<p>As share by Dr Joe Dispenza: "Your Present Personality create Your Personal Reality", which really trigger me always focus who I want to be.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 12:29:26.367','2025-03-16 12:29:26.367',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:29:26.366',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('439d0b99-634c-49cd-b1c4-bd7f0b96262b','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','b258f4e5-a200-40d4-89c6-4f21619efc7c','<p>我喜欢这一句 &rdquo; 阿德勒派本身被遗忘就意味着他的思想已经由一门学问蜕变成了人们的共同感觉&rdquo;。&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 13:02:07.901','2025-03-16 13:02:17.848',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:02:17.847',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('755ed4af-61d1-4738-828f-088a38a2a568','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>提出建议后， 别人要不要接受这是别人的事情，要分清界限，不然自己会很辛苦内耗。</p>
<p>时间或者事情会证明一切。</p>
<p>错了没什么大不了，啪啪屁股再站起来。（人真的要潇洒一下）。</p>
<p>对了，给自己一个"celebration gesture".&nbsp;</p>
<p>^^ Cheer...</p>','2025-03-16 12:34:29.105','2025-03-16 12:47:38.839',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:47:38.838','0e18f2d5-2cc0-43ae-bccf-2f2e35f0bd2a',NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c80d764a-51f0-4283-bf88-bef3b450bb9e','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>&nbsp;在辯論時不要提出太多論點。聚焦幾個重點。太多論點會淡化每一個論點的力量。提出一太多理由會造成反效果，可能讓對方有更多論述（更防衛）來打擊我們的觀點。</p>
<p>&ldquo;心理學家發現最能說服你改變心意的人是你自己&rdquo;.所以討論時學會問問題：著重點在（對方為什麼要）而不是（我為什麼要）這才會有效果。成功的銷售就是如此。</p>
<p>在辯論/討論時學會<br>-先贊同對方的觀點.讓對方對我們有聯繫（讓對方接受我們）<br>-才提出令人信服的理由來支持我們的觀點。<br>-而不是以&ldquo;不斷說服&rdquo;的技巧讓對方厭煩<br>-製造讓對方有好奇心去再去思考問題。讓他們自己去消化問題，對方自然的接受不一樣的觀點。</p>','2025-03-16 12:48:19.302','2025-03-16 12:48:19.302',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:48:19.3',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('725388cb-2005-4af7-bfa6-bf269c1a3619','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>接触不一样的观点和理论，希望可以让自己在面对和处理问题，有更清晰的思绪，而对症下药！</p>','2025-03-16 12:48:56.232','2025-03-16 12:48:56.232',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 12:48:56.231',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('754030c4-018e-4506-91a3-4b85538a28de','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>我們不必說服對方我們是對的，我們只需要開啟他們的思維，讓他們看到自己或許想法有誤的可能性，他們的天生好奇心會完成剩下的一切。</p>
<p>也就是說，這些步驟並非總是足夠，無論我們有多客氣地提問，對方並不會總是想共舞。有時他們執著依附自己的信念，就算只是提議保持同步，感覺也像偷愛，這時我們又該如何是好？</p>','2025-03-16 13:05:23.197','2025-03-16 13:05:23.197',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:05:23.196',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82eb60ae-7e6d-4466-88a4-0164742bece2','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>说服他人并无需大量的理论依据，而是用少量但最有力的理由让对方去思考</li>
<li>当有意见分歧时，要如何做？
<ul>
<li>邀请对方跟自己一起去探讨</li>
<li>不反驳对方，而是提出问题，让对方去思考</li>
<li>让对方主动改变想法，而不是被我们说服</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2025-03-16 13:11:13.49','2025-03-16 13:11:13.49',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:11:13.489',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('61b3d6b3-82d1-4b1a-8642-8a3e4743998b','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>當我們指出對方在某些我們贊同及了解的領域擁有有效觀點時，我們示範了自信的謙遜並鼓勵對方起而效法。</p>','2025-03-16 13:20:50.377','2025-03-16 13:20:50.377',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:20:50.376',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fe668db5-1e71-4f1c-8563-329628023e89','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>把辩论的技巧用在工作场合上，以问题激发他人重新思考会更有益于达成共识。</p>','2025-03-16 13:23:02.372','2025-03-16 13:23:02.372',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:23:02.371',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c767a85-3f85-4a5b-9fe4-c073b800f3c5','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>过去的痛苦不能成为现在不幸的原因。</p>
<p>我们生活的每个当下都有选择的权利。无论遭遇什么事情，决定以后的不是事情本身而是我们看待我们经历的心态。</p>','2025-03-16 13:35:17.617','2025-03-16 13:35:17.617',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:35:17.616',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d1528b35-efb9-43a8-b0a9-4dd1016a7cc5','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>想说服他人做一件事，在给出有力的理由之外，还需要给予足够的空间和自由给对方重新思考，自我说服。太多相互冲突或不太相关的其他理由可能会造成反效果，让对方起了防备心。</p>','2025-03-16 13:30:19.074','2025-03-16 13:30:45.905',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:30:45.904',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2fbc1431-0844-4eb6-9ffb-730adb16db8f','e5de1805-f4f4-4b0c-9cec-4bc2860a18d4','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>聚焦在了解及学习上，而不是争执与说服</p>
<p>知道自己不知道什么，并且有自信去承认这一点，才能传达出清晰的信号，说明肯学习需要知道的事</p>','2025-03-16 12:49:03.29','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ae78dae9-87c4-49c5-b784-4eeb3983b62d','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 29&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">15</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">以相同的节奏跳舞（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 162-167</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">以相同的节奏跳舞</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">有了更多的空间去改变方向、不过也有了更艰难的任务。哈里许首先强调共同点。提出拥有一致看法，才反对对方的解决方法。说服他人重新思考不只关乎提出好的论点，而是在以证实我们拥有正确的动机去这么做。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">论述通常需要更具战斗力及敌对性，你应该愿意聆听别人在说什么，并且给予肯定。理性的把所有的事情都考虑进去。理性意味著可以讲道理，乐于根据逻辑和数据来改进观点。强调共同点。找到共同点的诀窍，是考虑对方最有力的论点，与其产生连接，在完全公平及平衡的情况下，表达自己担心的立场。谈判专家不光是把注意力吸引到共同点上，避免防御&mdash;&mdash;攻击的恶性循环，也谨慎地避免言词太过激烈。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 30&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">16</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">不要踩到对方的脚趾（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 167-172</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">不要踩到对方的脚趾</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">有技巧的谈判者，只聚焦两个反驳点。提出太多可能要付出开展、阐述、强化观点的代价。顶尖辩论者不会引用一大堆资料。三个关键要素：人们有多在乎、接受度、以及有多坚定。假如他们抗拒重新思考，更多的理由只会给他们更多弹药去打击我们的观点。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">测试两种信息都同样有效，而单一理由的成效却是两种结合的两倍以上。最令人幸福的来源是与观众最贴近的那一个。说服球迷出席的是一个简单的</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"> </span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">你打算出席吗？&rdquo;。这个问题给了球迷自由。最困难说服改变心意的自己。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">哈里许在每一个回合，提出更多需要思考的问题，供观众思考。提高他人重新思考的机率。（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">1<span lang="ZH-CN">）当我们指出对方在某些我们赞同及了解的领域拥有有效观点时</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&mdash;&mdash;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">我们示范了自信的谦逊。（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">2<span lang="ZH-CN">）当我们以少许具有凝聚力及令人信服的理由来支持我们的论述</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&mdash;&mdash;我们鼓励对方开始怀疑他们自己的看法。（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3<span lang="ZH-CN">）当我们提出真诚的问题&mdash;&mdash;让对方激起想得知更多的好奇心，开启他们的思维，让他们看到自己想法有误的可能性。</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''__Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 13:32:05.415','2025-03-16 13:32:44.047',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:32:44.043',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('380ce252-c6d8-46b7-b3f6-e1b636147666','46adb4d7-a6ff-452e-bfa4-903d3bd3345d','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>如果不能感觉到幸福的话 就不可以一直这样。重要的不是被给于了什么，而是如何利用被给于的东西。</p>
<p>我们需要的不是更换，而是更新。 我们感觉不幸是因为我们自己亲手选择了不幸，而不是因为生来就不幸。</p>
<p>善意味着有好处，恶也有无好处的意义。</p>','2025-03-16 13:39:36.568','2025-03-18 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021','2025-03-18 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('141ffac6-3933-4149-9ef9-d2705812c572','27d2d994-c087-4162-be02-3d3d8d0f1914','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>阿德勒心理学用生活方式来说明性格。是我们自己主动选择自己的生活方式，也是勇气心理学。假若生活方式不是先天给于，而是自己选择的结果，那就可以重新选择。</p>','2025-03-16 13:54:25.067','2025-03-19 00:00:00.037',NULL,'f','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036','2025-03-19 00:00:00.036',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa523966-1501-4751-8aa3-f3f335ddc82c','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>没有一个人是住在客观的世界里，我们都居住在一个各自给予其意义的主观世界。所以问题不在于世界是什么样子，而是你是什么样子。</p>','2025-03-16 13:49:29.823','2025-03-16 13:49:29.823',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:49:29.822',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c2110cf8-2fc9-41ea-941f-0b4dffa0aebf','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>不要踩到对方的脚趾<br>最近我发觉到我的客户的经理特别针对我们公司，总是提出种种的刁难。<br>直到今天才觉悟，原因是或许之前在某个工程有冒犯了她，让她添麻烦，又或许在跟她老板提出了某些请求，还是在言语中冒犯了她。<br>经过与导师聊了后，我决定明天自己应该亲自见她道歉，希望她可以帮个忙，不要为难我们。<br>做生意，是应该以和为贵，和气生财，有事好好说。<br>只有她的气顺，凡事都好商量。<br>只要能达到我们想要的目的，凡事都要容忍，包容。<br>不要给客户起烦恼心。</p>','2025-03-16 13:52:36.404','2025-03-16 13:52:36.404',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:52:36.403',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('df6027e4-e15d-46c1-b728-47d1ca1fc2e1','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>太多的论点会过于复杂。最好的谈判辩论就是令对方怀疑自己的论点，并启发重新思考自己的不足。</p>','2025-03-16 13:57:00.678','2025-03-16 13:57:00.678',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:57:00.677',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a4ca65b-3649-4685-9067-8e93e09af7ab','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<ul>
<li class="p1"><span class="s1">决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经历的意义。决定我们自己的不是&ldquo;经验本身&rdquo;而是&ldquo;赋予经验的意义&rdquo;。</span></li>
<li><span class="s1">人生不是由别人赋予的，而是由自己选择的，是自己选择自己如何生活。<br></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">所谓愤怒其实只是可放可收的一种&ldquo;手段&rdquo;而已</span></li>
</ul>','2025-03-16 13:57:31.675','2025-03-16 13:57:34.391',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 13:57:34.39',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a5c39ca-849a-40a7-8436-6c4e118dfb31','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','c7eb2cb9-cba3-42f6-aa5c-e360a209555e','<p>愤怒都是捏造出来的</p>
<p>这我很有感 生活时常都会经历这样的事情&nbsp;</p>
<p>时常会想我身边的人：为什么你要为这样的发这么大的脾气？ 因为要我怕你？ 还是你连好好和我说都不能，只是要我听命于你？&nbsp;</p>
<p>我也有在发脾气后，问自己为什么要这样解决事情？ 我当时是想到我找不到方法</p>
<p>现在我遇到了这本书</p>
<p>感觉会有一定的领悟希望我可以从这样的困境走出</p>
<p>很感恩RINA，也谢谢自己开始了~~</p>','2025-03-16 14:30:13.054','2025-03-16 14:30:13.054',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 14:30:13.053',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aac1308d-f698-44ad-8d46-e6040c482daf','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>＂为了大发雷霆而制造怒气＂</p>
<p>压抑很久的怨气，无空不入！</p>
<p>无处不在！没完没了！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>计时炸弹总会找借口＂被引爆＂而已！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 14:20:41.595','2025-03-16 14:22:44.395',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 14:22:44.394',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人去做一件事情，或不做一件事情都是为了&ldquo;自我保护&rdquo;的利益。可惜，人是不能避免和他人建立关系。人，无法独自生存。</p>','2025-03-16 14:35:45.204','2025-03-20 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021','2025-03-20 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a8bb3765-cbcb-41da-96a2-90728d07391f','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>说服他人的方法是否有效，需要先了解对方与该课题的关系：对方对该课题有多在乎、接受度和对课题的立场有多坚定。</p>
<p>理解彼此想法的差距，那么才能从意见分歧的点上，去突破那个&ldquo;过度自信循环&rdquo;，让好奇心带听众进入&ldquo;从新思考循环&rdquo;。</p>
<p>记得，要以共舞的方式和对方周旋观点，让对方开启好奇心，保持与你共舞。</p>','2025-03-16 14:27:25.951','2025-03-16 14:27:25.951',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 14:27:25.95',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('060700a2-2bc4-4d35-906c-8180e5c0c94c','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>15/3</p>
<p>不为过去的原因而活，为当下的目的前进</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>16/3</p>
<p>决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，</p>
<p>而是我们自己赋予经历的意义。</p>
<p>我们自己选择如何生活</p>','2025-03-16 14:27:28.214','2025-03-16 14:27:28.214',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 14:27:28.213',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbd37c4e-fe84-418e-81c7-c4820f4bc870','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>不必說服對方我們是對的。只需要開啟对方的思維,讓他們看到自己或許想法有誤的可能性,他們的天生好奇心會完成剩下的一切。</p>
<p>好棒的技巧！</p>','2025-03-16 14:31:50.226','2025-03-16 14:31:50.226',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 14:31:50.225',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c4893ba-d460-4713-92e6-b7f22c4f2960','e61d4cc3-07ca-404c-a120-cf5fecb9f512','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>人的烦恼皆源于人际关系。一些人甚至是通过自我厌弃来逃避人际关系。</p>
<p>人需要体会孤独，也同时需要与他人、社会和共同体并存。</p>','2025-03-16 14:40:12.843','2025-03-21 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008','2025-03-21 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45244714-4b29-4fc0-bf85-0ba87b25b9fd','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>从前心灵受过的创伤并不能决定为我们不能成功的原因。</p>
<p>&ldquo;决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经历的意义。&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我认同这点，有些人虽然有过不好的经历，但他们还能从中出来，取得成功，所以我觉得青年的朋友是可以选择踏出房间重新开始，而不是躲在房间，与世隔绝。</p>','2025-03-16 14:48:26.801','2025-03-16 14:48:26.801',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 14:48:26.8',NULL,NULL);
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<p>最有可能能說服你改變心意的人是自己。</p>','2025-03-16 14:56:25.721','2025-03-16 14:56:25.721',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 14:56:25.72',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a513e320-93c0-4cfa-b3aa-2d6fbc5631c3','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>经历不会决定我们，而我们如何看待自己的经历就能决定我们会选择如何面对</li>
<li>人生要如何过，选择权就在我们手里</li>
</ul>','2025-03-16 15:01:00.915','2025-03-16 15:01:00.915',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:01:00.914',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d961ebb-2e3c-47cd-9282-18b350d0b100','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','3b67c9ce-62eb-4cd1-90ba-c5feee36a59d','<p>不用说服自己是对的，给对方空间重新思考</p>','2025-03-16 15:02:56.34','2025-03-16 15:02:56.34',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:02:56.339',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc4d3dcf-c3ec-4670-b6f5-7163a363e6ae','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>阿德勒講的有道理，有時我辱罵一個其實沒有心造成的過錯的服務生，我只是當下的瞬間想要讓他感到羞辱或害怕，而使用暴躁的情緒發洩在他身上。讓這個服務生感到羞辱或是感到歉意是我的目的。</p>','2025-03-16 15:07:10.755','2025-03-16 15:07:10.755',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:07:10.754',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('63a2ed09-93a9-45a6-b97d-a2f17a4c11f2','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>作者所提出的三个建议，都需要机智的辩才。哈哈。</p>
<p>但终归一句：待人以诚。</p>','2025-03-16 15:12:05.287','2025-03-16 15:12:05.287',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:12:05.286',NULL,NULL);
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<tbody>
<tr class="ant-descriptions-row">
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 2</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">：&nbsp;</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">16</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">《被讨厌的勇气》第一夜 我们的不幸是谁的错？</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">心理创伤并不存在（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 008-013</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">阿德勒心理学明确否定心理创上。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">任何的经历本身并不是成功者活者失败的原因。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经历的意义。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人生不是由别人赋予的，而是由自己选折的，是自己选择自己如何生活。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">愤怒读是捏造出来的</span><span lang="ZH-CN">。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">所谓得愤怒其实只是可放可收的一种手段而已。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
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</td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>','2025-03-16 15:10:03.243','2025-03-16 15:10:03.243',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:10:03.238',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2"><span class="s2">Day 2： 3月16日 (星期日)</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第一夜 我们的不幸是谁的错？</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">心理创伤并不存在（Page 008-013）</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">心灵过去所受的伤害是引起目前不幸的罪魁祸首。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">决定我们自身的不是我们过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经的意义。经历本身不会决定做什么。我们给过去的经历&ldquo;赋予了什么样的意义，这直接决定了我们的生活。人生不是由别人赋予的，而是由自己的选择，是自己选择如何生活。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">生气不一定要大发雷霆，可以选择讲道理。愤怒是可收可放的一种手段。</span></p>','2025-03-16 15:09:47.058','2025-03-16 15:10:06.82',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:10:06.814',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('445bdee4-cf42-4106-9371-4cf964682994','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>沒錯，要改變一個人的心意，只有他自己能夠做到。</p>
<p>這就是為什麼朋友口耳相傳是最有利的行銷器具。</p>','2025-03-16 15:13:05.92','2025-03-16 15:13:05.92',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:13:05.919',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aaf630e7-d926-404b-85a3-99b5d9e0e2f2','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>不要拿過去的經歷懲罰自己，經歷只是一個堆疊成山的其中一塊積木。</p>','2025-03-16 15:14:11.322','2025-03-16 15:14:11.322',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:14:11.321',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59031ff8-aff2-4b07-80da-9ed9844476e0','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>辩论中论点不在于多，而在于有力。让观众留有思考的空间，反复去思考消化。能不能激起人们的好奇心想知道更多，我们就只管真诚地提出我们的问题与想法，不必只试着说服对方。</p>','2025-03-16 15:17:53.468','2025-03-16 15:17:53.468',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:17:53.467',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be539050-7b1c-43ff-a5ea-0b2c9935fdd2','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>,太多论点就变成hard sales, 提供问题给他说服自己</p>','2025-03-16 15:20:44.63','2025-03-16 15:20:44.63',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:20:44.629',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c861419e-8335-4fd5-ac62-c254797a0bbf','6a213a7f-baae-4993-97cf-b1aa9a0a427f','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「一點複雜性能瓦解過度自信的循環，並且激發重新思考的循環。這讓我們能更謙遜地看待自己的知識，也更懷疑自己的看法。它能帶給我們足夠的好奇心去發現我們缺乏的資訊。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 23:42:24.731','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa421bcd-aa70-4b3e-8ad3-8d119f222d8c','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 30 ：3月16日《逆思维 Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要踩到对方的脚趾（Page 167-172）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何让他人愿意重新思考</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 1. 展现自信的谦逊</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 先认同对方部分观点，展现理解与尊重，能让对方更愿意敞开心扉。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 2. 减少论点，但保持有力与连贯</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 提供少数但最具说服力的理由，避免过多论点让对方容易驳回。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 3. 用提问激发对方的好奇心</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 提出开放性问题，让对方主动思考而非被迫接受观点。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 4. 不需直接说服，而是开启对方的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 让对方看到自己可能有错的可能性，他们的求知欲会推动他们进一步思考。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">说服的关键不在于证明自己是对的，而是帮助对方进入重新思考的循环，让他们自己发现更好的答案。</span></p>','2025-03-16 15:19:31.959','2025-03-16 15:19:34.42',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:19:34.419',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3754a78d-4078-4189-b26b-bff3b7641aae','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 30 ：3月16日《逆思维 Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</p>
<p>不要踩到对方的脚趾（Page 167-172）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>在辩论的过程中，反而创造出&ldquo;让对方主导/决定&rdquo;的情况，更容易说服/引导对方往自己要的方向去。</p>','2025-03-16 15:29:58.29','2025-03-16 15:29:58.29',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:29:58.289',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-17 00:05:42.044','2025-04-08 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-04-08 00:00:00.008','2025-04-08 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>并不是每一次都会得到1+1=2 或大于二 "synergism" 而已，有时也会有反效果，1+1&lt; 3&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 15:38:42.55','2025-03-16 15:40:20.292',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:40:20.291',NULL,NULL);
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<li>最有可能说服你改变心意的人是你自己。</li>
<li>说出太多理由往往会让对方意识到你想去改变他们而造成他们心存怀疑，甚至会起抗拒心态。</li>
<li>先赞同他们的想法，然后提出真诚的问题来引发对方的重新思考：让他们在思考当中意识到自己的错误来被说服。</li>
<li>一个有力的论点是强过一堆薄弱的论点。</li>
</ul>','2025-03-16 15:47:32.239','2025-03-16 15:47:32.239',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:47:32.238',NULL,NULL);
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<p>当我们少许具有凝聚力及令人信服的理由来支持我们的论述，我们鼓励对方开始怀疑他们自己的看法。</p>
<p>当我们提出真诚的问题，我们让对方开启他们的思维，让他们看到想法有误的可能性，他们天生的好奇心会完成剩下的一切。</p>','2025-03-16 15:47:38.703','2025-03-16 15:47:53.377',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:47:53.376',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa4f56f9-3bc2-44db-84ae-f7678c95ad33','4d7ba5d1-afa9-45de-ac88-e2aed42476c2','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p>当对方与我们持有不同意见或看法时，提出的反驳的理由越多，对方反而更会找出更多反弹我们的观点。</p>','2025-03-16 15:48:42.23','2025-03-16 15:48:42.23',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:48:42.229',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f1df7405-922a-4f6d-8766-f298d5ef912a','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 2： 3月16日 (星期日)</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第一夜 我们的不幸是谁的错？</p>
<p>心理创伤并不存在（Page 008-013）</p>
<p>读后感悟：</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学：追究的，是现在的<strong>目的</strong>，而不是过去的<strong>原因</strong>。这取决于我们为过去的经验<strong>赋予</strong>什么意义。</p>
<p>因为&ldquo;不想&rdquo;,而创造了&ldquo;不安&rdquo;的情绪。</p>','2025-03-16 15:49:31.712','2025-03-16 15:54:03.341',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:54:03.34',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-16 15:55:49.506','2025-03-16 15:56:48.514',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:56:48.513',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1. 退一步，拉近心理距离</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>当我们试图说服对方时，直接挑战他们的信念往往会让他们更加防备。相反，我们可以减少直接冲突，拉近心理距离，例如：</p>
<p>&bull; 转换讨论角度：「假设我们站在一个旁观者的角度，你觉得这个问题的核心是什么？」</p>
<p>&bull; 使用假设性问题：「如果有一种方式可以兼顾你的担忧和我的观点，你觉得会是什么？」</p>
<p>&bull; 减少对立感：「我们都希望找到最好的方案，只是角度不同，不如看看有没有交集？」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这样做的目的是让对方从&ldquo;防御模式&rdquo;转向&ldquo;探索模式&rdquo;，更容易接受新的信息。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2. 让对方成为主角</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人们最容易被自己说服，而不是被别人说服。因此，与其直接告诉他们&ldquo;你错了&rdquo;，不如引导他们自己得出结论。</p>
<p>&bull; 提问而不是反驳：「你觉得最好的解决方案是什么？有什么潜在的风险？」</p>
<p>&bull; 让他们表达观点：「你认为我的观点里有没有任何值得考虑的部分？」</p>
<p>&bull; 激发对方的好奇心：「有没有什么证据可能会让你重新考虑你的立场？」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这些问题让对方主动思考，而不是一味抵触，讨论会更加开放和理性。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>3. 给予对方面子和台阶</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>很多时候，人们坚持己见并不是因为他们真的无法接受新观点，而是不想在社交场合&ldquo;认输&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&bull; 给予认可：「你的观点很有道理，特别是在___方面，我确实没有想到。」</p>
<p>&bull; 提供可接受的调整方式：「或许我们并不是完全对立，而是关注点不同？」</p>
<p>&bull; 创造台阶：「如果有新数据或案例出现，你愿意再评估这个问题吗？」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这样可以让对方有&ldquo;转向&rdquo;的余地，而不会感觉自己输了面子。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>4. 选择策略性退出</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果对方仍然固执己见，不愿意共舞，甚至变得情绪化，最好的选择可能是暂时停止讨论，等待更合适的时机。</p>
<p>&bull; 表达尊重：「我理解你的立场，我们可以找个合适的时间再聊。」</p>
<p>&bull; 转移焦点：「我们也许可以先讨论我们都同意的部分？」</p>
<p>&bull; 换个轻松话题：「不管怎么说，这个话题真的挺有意思的，你平常还关注哪些类似的议题？」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这样既能避免关系破裂，又能保持沟通的可能性。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不必争输赢，而是打开思维</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>说服不是一场&ldquo;你输我赢&rdquo;的较量，而是一种让双方都能有所成长的交流。即使对方不愿共舞，我们也可以调整节奏，以更温和、更聪明的方式，引导他们走向更开放的思维模式。毕竟，真正的改变不是来自外部压力，而是来自内心的觉醒。</p>','2025-03-16 15:57:02.703','2025-03-16 15:57:02.703',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:57:02.699',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b49e4756-df90-4583-8a8a-da8b45bb48a0','fa0c37d0-4cba-401e-8ff5-36001eefd104','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>其实在中学时期已粗浅地知晓《论语》、《孟子》等经典，是认同孟子提倡的&ldquo;人性本善&rdquo;。现在能透过樊登老师的导读更深入地了解孟子思维，心底非常期待。希望其思想能帮助我们更从容地面对生活。</p>','2025-06-15 14:52:06.01','2025-06-15 14:52:06.01',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-15 14:52:06.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1003c395-0eaa-4999-9d31-665c7a627aa4','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>想要用情绪去打到自己的目的，但是这个是对的吗？</p>','2025-03-16 15:56:45.443','2025-03-16 15:56:45.443',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-16 15:56:45.441',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('938c2a96-b5c3-4b9d-8460-f3f0a3d599a2','49bdc3f3-31c2-4960-bca7-1d52738cd993','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;<strong>Day 2</strong></span><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span></strong><strong><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">16</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">星期日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">《被讨厌的勇气》第一夜 我们的不幸是谁的错？</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">心理创伤并不存在（</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Page 008-013</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">原因论</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&rdquo; <span lang="ZH-CN">和 </span>&ldquo;<span lang="ZH-CN">目的论</span>&rdquo;<span lang="ZH-CN">的区别</span></span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">原因论</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&rdquo; <span lang="ZH-CN">&mdash;&mdash; 立足于原因论的人们，仅仅会指出&ldquo;你之所以痛苦是因为过去的事情&rdquo;续而简单地安慰&ldquo;所以错不在你&rdquo;。心理创伤学说就是原因论的典型。</span><br><br><span lang="ZH-CN">阿德勒心理学明确否定心理创伤。我们并非因为自身经历中的刺激&mdash;&mdash;心理创伤&mdash;&mdash;而痛苦，决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经历的意义。经历本身不会决定什么，人生是由自己选择的，是自己选择自己的生活。</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&ldquo;目的论&rdquo; <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">&nbsp;</span>&mdash;&mdash; 问题在于，内心本来就有促使他那样认为的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;。不出门会得到父母小心的照顾，哪怕一出门，没人会重视自己，这都是闲居者常有的心理。他心有不满，也并不幸福，只是按照&ldquo;目的&rdquo; 而采取行动。我们大家都是在为了某种&ldquo;目的&rdquo; 而活着。这就是目的论。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">愤怒都是捏造出来的</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">你是先产生了要大发雷霆这个&ldquo;目的&rdquo;。你大声呵斥服务员，感觉讲道理太麻烦了，所以想用更快捷的方式使并不抵抗的对方屈服，认真听自己的话。作为相应的手段，你采用了</span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">&ldquo;愤怒&rdquo;这种感情。<br><br></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">所谓愤怒其实只是开放可收的一种&ldquo;手段&rdquo;</span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">而已。</span></p>
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