INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce8235c2-6bd1-46fc-9d78-d08636389ace','f778af21-9f76-44c1-b763-d3405b00f891','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>今天讲双赢的協议，双赢体係以及双赢过程，之前是讲双赢品德及双赢关系。協议是让双方都有个方向目标期待，然后自我管理，体係是保证各方都赢，不能有输，过程侧是在双方的讨论过程当中应该互相尊重理解对方原則的前提下达成双赢目标。</p>','2024-10-25 10:00:00.123','2024-10-25 10:00:00.123',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-25 10:00:00.122',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3ff49833-97a3-4c86-b5f6-30d73ec58b0e','f778af21-9f76-44c1-b763-d3405b00f891','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>这种双赢效协是管理的核心内容。</p>
<p>双赢并非性格魅力的技巧，而是人类交往的一种模式。</p>','2024-10-25 15:04:38.506','2024-10-25 15:04:38.506',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-25 15:04:38.505',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8bfae57f-51ba-4bb5-b98d-0ac5ff9c3620','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>扮演知音，可以让对方开出心怀。</p>
<p>需要耐心聆听，尊重对方。</p>
<p>品德，感情，理性为顺序。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-29 12:47:38.721','2024-10-29 12:47:38.721',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 12:47:38.72',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('521fa663-3478-453a-aa34-7f322e952d65','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>非暴力沟通讲求的是同理心和慈悲；我们要意识到言语的力量，它不止有能力对我们的人生带来影响，也有能力对其他人带来影响。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>要早日掌握非暴力沟通的技巧：</p>
<p>撰写日记</p>
<p>寻找搭档</p>
<p>组织团体</p>','2024-10-30 22:21:45.145','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01c59e13-860b-4fb6-af6e-199a528187a0','f778af21-9f76-44c1-b763-d3405b00f891','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 40&nbsp; 10月25日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第七章 241页 &ndash; 245页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">双赢绩效协议的前提是模式转换，注意力要放在结果，而不是方法上。要释放个人潜力，将协作效应最大化，产出产能并重。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-25 10:03:49.982','2024-10-25 10:03:50.965',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-25 10:03:50.965',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f83a5ef4-e89b-4474-a321-cec8298a66b8','f778af21-9f76-44c1-b763-d3405b00f891','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>越多方参与的项目，就越难双赢。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>因为人的期望总是不同，甚至有时他们都无法准确说出或知道自己的期望是什么。如何双赢？双赢不了就只好妥协(后果就是心生不满），再不然就是拉倒。结果都一样，事情事倍功半。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所以，&ldquo;人事&rdquo;永远都是最难的。一个管理者的本事是在保持效率的情况下，把公司做小而不是做大。这样就可以避免了很多人事问题。</p>','2024-10-25 10:06:22.858','2024-10-25 10:07:01.145',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-25 10:07:01.143',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52a6ce4b-b7af-44b5-afc9-a3e802be8ed6','f778af21-9f76-44c1-b763-d3405b00f891','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>赢/输的方法不可能带来双赢的结果。</p>
<p>双赢赋予个人明确的任务，说明预期结果、指导原则和可用资源，个人要对结果负责，并完成自我评估。</p>','2024-10-25 10:12:41.406','2024-10-25 10:12:41.406',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-25 10:12:41.405',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff960f14-ec09-41ab-b762-e5b67a77d30c','f778af21-9f76-44c1-b763-d3405b00f891','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 40&nbsp; 10月25日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第七章 241页 &ndash; 245页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">❤️双䇔绩效协议是管理的核心内容。提高员工自我管理。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔥奖惩方法：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">金钱、精神、机会和责任。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">❤️双赢体系很重要。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">❤️双赢过程💃</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣从对方的角度看问题。了解对方的想法、需要和顾虑。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣认清主要问题和顾虑。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣确定大家都能接受的结果。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4️⃣找到实现这种结果的各种可能路径。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">双赢来自诚信、成熟和知足的人格，是高度互相的结果。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2"><br></span><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-25 12:09:09.343','2024-10-25 12:09:11.89',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-25 12:09:11.888',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('86189f65-6737-465a-9459-6d551730e0fc','f778af21-9f76-44c1-b763-d3405b00f891','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 40&nbsp; 10月25日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第七章 241页 &ndash; 245页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">透明化协议，加依时评估，能有效达到双方要的目标。</p>
<p dir="ltr">体系，在于环境鼓励什么，就会得到什么。需要认清问题。竞争体系，达到的效果，不会比双赢体系多。</p>','2024-10-25 15:42:01.839','2024-10-25 15:42:01.839',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-25 15:42:01.837',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f297f70d-c545-4940-9a92-53c1f97a8a99','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 41&nbsp; 10月26日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第七章 246页 &ndash; 250页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">宵恩的双赢合作，找出第三方案思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">富足心态</span></p>','2024-10-25 10:19:15.228','2024-10-26 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2024-10-26 00:00:00.005','2024-10-26 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a9968cf-f87a-43bc-bdcf-15057906d610','f778af21-9f76-44c1-b763-d3405b00f891','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 39 &nbsp;10月24日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第七章 235页 &ndash; 240页</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Day 40 &nbsp;10月25日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第七章 241页q &ndash; 245页<br>&nbsp;</p>
<p>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>&nbsp;"敢作敢为"和"善解人意"是双赢的必备条件和基础。其间的平衡点是成熟的重要标志。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>匮乏心态 vs 富足心态<br>心态对了,双赢就可深植我们的生活。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>双赢关系 要靠品德 + 信用 建立和维护&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>双赢协议 说明双赢的定义。注要结果，要释放个人潜力将协作效应最大化，产出与产能并重。双赢协议意味着自由但需要诚信作为支撑，要对结果负责。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-10-25 15:49:21.579','2024-10-25 15:50:20.511',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-25 15:50:20.51',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('69fc9d18-9a14-4da5-92b9-a4b3f42d7adc','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>移情聆听，就是把对方说话的目的，听出来听清楚。到底对方说这番话背后的动机和意识是什么，想要表达什么讯息。话中有话。</p>','2024-10-25 14:37:00.597','2024-10-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b198b69-d81c-4297-bdf4-762f0b055e61','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p><strong>代际传承</strong></p>
<p>如果能明智地利用<strong>刺激与回应之间的距离</strong>和人<strong>类的四种独特天赋 ==&gt; </strong>我们就能获得由内而外的力量。</p>
<p>有些不良的行为模式是上一代遗传下来的，但我们可以努力改变。</p>
<p>仔细审视自己的行为模式时，可能会发现它们很不错，但那是祖辈遗传的，却被我们盲目地视为理所当然。真正的自我意识有助于识别这些行为模式，并对那些以原则为中心的前人心存感激。他们不仅让我们了解了自己现在是什么样的人，而且让我们知道自己通过努力可以成为什么样的人。</p>','2024-10-20 07:11:25.062','2024-10-26 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2024-10-26 00:00:00.005','2024-10-26 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eb44b9db-0b23-4545-b26a-59b52a302653','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>利用双赢思维</p>
<p>了解对方，把自己的理念给予对方，让双方了解彼此。</p>
<p>然后可以都了解对方后进行沟通，协商，找出共赢。</p>
<p>让自己接近高能量的情绪。</p>','2024-10-26 00:18:43.904','2024-10-26 00:18:43.904',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-26 00:18:43.903',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9b20e813-86ec-48df-86cf-1d40d50b6d31','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>双赢是建立在很重要的基础上：实力、和知彼解己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>没实力，没得讲。有实力，不同讲。你要和上司双赢吗？他给你加责任加薪，你给他加营业额？可以。但是凭什么你上司相信只有你可以给他加营业额？他难道不能在不加你薪水的前提下，自己增加营业额？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>但是有实力还不够，你和你上司都必须知彼解己。常言道：千里马常有，而伯乐不常有。如果你是千里马，但是你上司不是伯乐，双赢照样不可能。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所以，这也是现代科技工商社会比过去社会优越的地方。东家不打打西家。千里马认为自己的老板不是伯乐，可以另外找老板去。哪像以前的君主时代，知识分子只能提皇帝打工。皇帝不赏识只能郁郁寡欢了。</p>','2024-10-26 06:52:12.297','2024-10-26 06:52:12.297',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-26 06:52:12.296',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6d3b8c5-ea71-4534-b51e-76aa398cd939','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>富足心态<br>当一个人内心富足，他是不会在意于失去或得到，反而会更注重于双赢心态。<br>拥有双赢心态，在你所想要的东西和别人想要的东西之间取得平衡。</p>','2024-10-26 11:27:19.781','2024-10-26 11:27:19.781',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-26 11:27:19.78',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c84f223b-8f17-48a2-9e48-f0c3c4e02aec','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>一对一沟通，是一个非常有效的方法。我们需要去了解身边人的想法，建立稳定的情感帐号。当我们可以站在对方的立场想的时候，就开启了建立双赢的思维。</p>','2024-10-26 11:54:10.155','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a0c13a5-ba2a-4f8a-a319-39e8fd5fc192','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 41&nbsp; 10月26日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第七章 246页 &ndash; 250页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔥双赢是唯一的选择。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">双嬴思维-你想要的和别人想要的东西之间找到平衡。考虑周全-跟家人、配偶、伙伴、朋友、上司、同事、客户都使用双赢思维。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">One step at the time </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣先从习惯一、二、三开始</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣明确自己的动机</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣个人领域要成功</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4️⃣赋于双赢思维的力量。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-26 14:00:34.46','2024-10-26 14:00:34.46',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-26 14:00:34.459',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('799ed40b-d805-490c-a4b2-67a523ccd8f7','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>四种容易影响同理性的不好心态<br>1.价值判断：对旁人的意见只有接受或不接受<br>2.追根究底：依自己的价值观察别人的隐私<br>3.好人为师：以自己的经验提供忠告<br>4.自以为是：根据自己的行为与动机衡量别人的行为与动机</p>','2024-10-26 11:44:02.505','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0953a8da-8143-4e6a-985d-16e8b805e148','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>双赢模式就是有福同享，在自己和别人想要的东西之间找到平衡点。</p>','2024-10-26 14:45:52.216','2024-10-26 14:45:52.216',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-26 14:45:52.214',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('576b36b4-c800-460a-b3c7-7e522d3f9824','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>
<p>你赢我输/你输我赢都是会两败俱伤，因为看似赢了，但输了一段关系，而双赢是两者都得到所想要</p>
</li>
<li>
<p>在与人谈判时，要是只想到自己立场，那没办法达成共识/双赢，因为一开始就站在不平等的位子上思考，又怎么能够理解对方的期待而达成共识</p>
</li>
<li>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu); font-size: 14px;">骄傲本身并不以拥有什么东西为乐，而是以拥有的东西比旁边那个人的更多为乐&mdash;&mdash;C. S, 刘易斯</span></p>
</li>
</ul>','2024-10-26 15:03:50.081','2024-10-26 15:03:50.081',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-26 15:03:50.079',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ebde765b-6125-43b0-9d38-997d2760071f','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 41 &nbsp;10月26日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第七章 246页 &ndash; 250页<br>&nbsp;</p>
<p>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>富足心态<br>要相信周围有完全充足的成功机会，你的成功不会夺走我的。寻找各种方法从积极的角度看待人和环境，用富足心态对待"偏狭。</p>
<p><br>在你所想要的东西和别人想要的东西之间找到平衡。勇敢面对，考虑周全，迎来双赢的成功人生。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-10-26 15:04:24.677','2024-10-26 15:04:24.677',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-26 15:04:24.676',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cdb51a8e-f2cb-4c9f-9d64-1980ad74ca4c','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>话语反映想法，想法反映信念，信念主宰世界。</p>
<p>我们的表达方式不只会影响他人看待自己，也会影响身边人的情绪。先与自己连接，关照自己内心的感受与需要，说出来的话才不会偏离本意。</p>','2024-11-01 02:06:42.161','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7c2f901-7980-488f-81d6-bc3d5768724f','a7861fc7-0838-4e36-913f-2c85da67e95e','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>和自己连接，明白自己与对方的需要 ，练习再练习。。。</p>','2024-12-06 13:57:05.639','2024-12-06 13:57:05.639',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-06 13:57:05.638',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3ea32758-75a4-435b-a7f4-536e3cbfffa4','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「請記住，需要無所不在且無關他人，它們皆源自於個人的內心。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 03:07:26.927','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6209fa2e-299d-473c-864e-11f017d4315e','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 44&nbsp; 10月29日 (星期二）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第八章 266页 &ndash; 270页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅适时扮演知音（理解和感知）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人的思路不同，首先要先要知彼解己。真心诚意为对方着想，不存私心。这就增加情感账户。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅表达也要讲技巧</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-双赢之道</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣品德2️⃣感情3️⃣理性</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">本身的品德，然后是你同他人的关系，最后是你表达自己的能力。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅一对一沟通</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">抛弃自己的经验，尽力真正了解对方。要有耐心与尊重对方。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">⏰真正做到深入了解彼此的时候，就打开了创造性解决方案和第三条道路的大门。</span><span class="s2"><br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-26 15:28:37.235','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f2c972d-f01d-4b4b-a320-94d7cc24d7ff','8f19b5bd-1c4f-4562-8222-8aadb7c32faa','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 41&nbsp; 10月26日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第七章 246页 &ndash; 250页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">所有事情都有着双赢的局面，在于我们是否能心平气和去了解双方的需要，需要花点时间好好相谈，了解，并找到双赢的可能，除非一方不愿意。</p>
<p dir="ltr">输赢心态会人类不快乐，骄傲也会不快乐，只有超越别人才快乐。这种思维是不好的。</p>
<p dir="ltr">富足心态，是从心里的好，对世界的好。</p>','2024-10-26 15:40:50.813','2024-10-26 15:40:50.813',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-26 15:40:50.812',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97c25702-06a6-463c-9fd7-18ae820cdea4','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>除了生存，人類最大的生存需求源自心理，即被人理解，肯定，認可和欣賞。</p>
<p>而同理心聆聽等於給了對方 &rdquo;心理空氣" 滿足了對方這個基本需求後，就可以著重於施加影響力和解決問題。</p>','2024-09-28 12:04:15.346','2024-10-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('32acf9c4-a600-46d7-95f6-b21a3dfcdb91','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p><strong>成为转型者</strong></p>
<p>我们能赠予子孙的永存遗产只有两种&mdash;&mdash;<strong>根</strong>和<strong>翅膀</strong>。</p>
<p>特里&middot;沃纳博士（Dr. Terry Warner）所谓的&ldquo;<strong><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">转型者&rdquo;</span></strong>。我们应该对这种行为模式加以改进，而不是直接传给下一代，而改进的方式一定是要有利于建立人际关系的。</p>
<p>如果一个人无法改变自己的思想构造，就永远无法改变现实，也永远不可能取得进步。</p>
<p>真正的变革是由内向外实现的，只是利用性格魅力的技巧，在态度和行为方面做些表面功夫根本不行，一定要从根本上改变那些决定了我们的人格和世界观的思想构造和行为模式才行。</p>
<p>爱默生（Emerson）的名言：&ldquo;在我们的不懈努力下，事情变得可以迎刃而解，这并不是因为任务的性质发生了变化，而是因为我们的能力增强了。&rdquo;</p>
<p>只要我们在生活中坚持正确的原则，在实践和增强实践能力之间找到平衡点，就能够创造有效能、有意义而且充满祥和的人生&mdash;&mdash;为自己，也为后世子孙。</p>','2024-10-20 07:37:37.455','2024-10-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7578c517-8b33-42b1-b196-19dcd1e675fc','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>人类最大的生存需求源自心理，被人理解，肯定，认可和欣赏。<br>我们的同理心倾听给与对方&ldquo;心理空气&rdquo;，满足对方这基本需求，就可以着重于施加影响力和解决问题。</p>','2024-10-26 11:17:17.03','2024-10-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fbdf86e4-5049-4e0b-bd6e-7d7498863ae8','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 42&nbsp; 10月27日 (星期日） 📚 《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第八章 255页 &ndash; 260页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通是生活中最重要的技能。如果你让我有安全感，自然也会对你敞开心扉。。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">成为真正有效的人际沟通习惯，要让他人信任和开怀的人格，也要培养移情聆听Empathic listening技巧， ,建立情感账户来实现心与心的交流。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">⏰不要把自己戴的眼镜硬要他人穿上。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">⏰多应用移情聆听-站在对方的角度去理解他们的思维方式和感受，</span><span class="s2"><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-26 15:25:16.93','2024-10-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014','2024-10-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bbd0e2a1-6284-47b4-88ec-e0d457cb46b3','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 42 &nbsp;10月27日 (星期日） 📚 《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第八章 255页 &ndash; 260页<br>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>不问青红皂白匆匆下结纶，以善意的建议快刀斩乱麻地解决问题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>知彼解己是人际沟通最重要的原则和有效的关键。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>同理心倾听Emphatic Listening是真正有效的人际沟通的技巧，有助建立情感账户心与心的交流。<br>要做到先理解别人。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！<br>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-27 14:02:39.641','2024-10-27 14:03:15.632',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-27 14:03:15.631',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3cda639c-ad5c-4a58-abe1-b8de5d9d9184','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>花时间投资感情账户绝对的值得，先了解了对方的需求，之后才表达自己的感受。</p>','2024-10-29 13:33:33.344','2024-10-29 13:33:33.344',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 13:33:33.343',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b2bbcc54-c9df-48f0-81c4-73115663c2ba','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>把说话当作是一种灵修，把心中所想的、所学的注入意念，並与心连结，反映出心中的真正面貌。</p>
<p>唯有刻意练习、再练习，是提升非暴力沟通技巧的唯一途径。</p>
<p>持续学习，让自己带来正面影响，也能明磪表達心中所想，也能让听者满足心中所需．</p>','2024-10-27 07:11:50.238','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cd006509-0999-4ada-abd1-657f7a0176fe','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 47&nbsp; 11月1日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第九章 283页 &ndash; 288页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">统合综效的精髓就是判断和尊重差异，取长补短。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">❌少一些防御意识、针锋相对和自私自利，自我封闭，占有欲望。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅多一些坦诚相待、相互信赖和慷慨大方，仁慈爱心。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">运用统合综效的方法完成的使命宣言。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴沟通三层次</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">信任度vs沟通层次</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣互相提防</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">（赢/输或输/赢模式）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣互相尊重（妥协）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣统合综效（双赢）</span><span class="s2"><br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-27 07:32:31.534','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee5f83d6-4328-4cb7-86fd-fdaef31e8100','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>作者在传达「溝通」的重要性，而非暴力溝通是需要練習的。</p>
<p>語言的力量對身邊人，甚至對這個世界會造成影響。口語溝通可以团結我們，也可以分裂我們。</p>
<p>非暴力溝通的對話練習幫助我們提升修為，把話語當作一種靈修，要发自內心改變自己的思考模式，才能說出適切得體的話語。</p>','2024-11-01 03:26:38.567','2024-11-01 03:56:04.645',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 03:56:04.644',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf2e4e70-484a-420f-bd23-43d21be6901d','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>学习非暴力沟通，是学习一种新的语言～一种可以充分表达同理心和慈悲心的语言。</p>
<p>唯有刻意练习才能提升非暴力沟通技巧。</p>
<p>这本书的主题- <em>我们说的话很重要&nbsp;</em><em>&mdash; 会影响世界。</em></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 10:06:06.201','2024-11-01 10:06:06.201',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 10:06:06.2',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90b6c8ff-7c0a-4490-acba-e438b7f54359','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>要统合综效，就得放弃赢输、分个谁是最佳的念头。说起来容易做起来难。为什么公司会替人打分数? 就是要淘汰不作为者。现在可好，你说大家一起赢。。。 如果有人没啥贡献呢？在摸鱼呢？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 10:06:12.979','2024-11-01 10:06:12.979',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 10:06:12.978',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('39b18cc0-d267-46e1-9f85-772d0b0eb201','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>瑜伽经和佛教的八正道有都很重视不说谎/不妄语</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>八正道 - </strong></p>
<p>智慧： 正见和正思维</p>
<p>德行：正语，正业，正命</p>
<p>正精进，正念，正定</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我就是我的想法</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>要先关心自己的想法，了解自我的感受的需要，说的话才能反映本意；先关心好自己，再关心身边人，最后才搞好手头上要处理的事情</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-30 22:31:39.996','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b657ae3-0e16-484e-88d8-4bb25c5c36b3','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 49&nbsp; 10月3日 (星期日）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第九章 294页 &ndash; 298页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴尊重人与人之间的差异，当别人不同意你的看法时，我可以说：&rdquo;你跟我的看法有不一样，这很好。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴我不一定要赞同他们，但是可以表示肯定，并尽量给予理解。也可以用第三条道路，坚持双赢模式，努力理解对方，找到每一个人都受益益更多的解方案。</span><span class="s2"><br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-27 07:40:19.597','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dcb8c619-038e-4289-aa4f-5683c11a3856','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>知彼解己</p>
<p>同理心沟通原则</p>
<p>首先是去寻求了解对方，然后再争取让对方了解自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>沟通是生活中最重要的技巧</p>
<p>同理心倾听的过程，耳，眼，心要到</p>
<p>还要用眼睛去观察，用心灵去体会。</p>
<p>不必以己度人，不必费心猜测，是要去了解对方的心灵世界。</p>
<p>倾听是为了了解，是心和心的深刻交流。</p>
<p>但同理心倾听是有风险的，只有做好被对方影响的准备，才能深入到同理心倾听的阶段。这是需要足够的安全感。否则在影响对方之前，会先被影响。</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">习惯1，2，3是基础，所以必须做好前面的原则基础才能应对坚实内心之外的脆弱。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-27 12:37:08.13','2024-10-27 12:37:08.13',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-27 12:37:08.129',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1a45959d-4d9e-41c3-8f4c-97c24b8176cc','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>我们往往会觉得跟别人沟通，有挑战。但是如果先了解对方的观点，然后以同理心沟通，可能会有更有效的沟通。</p>
<p>不急于施加自己的观点，了解他人，很重要。</p>
<p>当然，要有积极主动，以终为始，要是第一为基础，让自己不让对方情绪动摇。</p>','2024-10-27 13:20:55.919','2024-10-27 13:25:11.113',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-27 13:25:11.112',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('40f50a71-3fd5-4398-9baf-a423d62c4298','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>知彼解已需要同理心傾聽，除了物質人類最大的生存需求源自心理即被人理解肯定認可和欣賞。要理解對方必需被對方影響即真正的理解對方。以習慣一、二、三為基礎。幫助保持核心不變，以原則為中心。從而平和而有力的應對堅實內心之外的脆弱。</p>','2024-10-27 13:46:44.984','2024-10-27 13:46:54.334',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-27 13:46:54.333',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('32d90c7d-8c16-45f8-b596-4f79e874f4ba','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>先诊断，后开方。</p>
<p>四种自传式回应。</p>
<p>价值判断</p>
<p>追跟究底</p>
<p>好为人师</p>
<p>自以为是</p>
<p>- 有效的沟通</p>','2024-10-27 23:21:47.21','2024-10-27 23:21:56.983',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-27 23:21:56.982',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4b0f3fbd-bb39-412b-8533-6922e8a9b024','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>双赢的第一步也是要知彼解己，才可以更好的谈话，是想双赢</p>','2024-10-29 15:48:29.467','2024-10-29 15:48:29.467',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 15:48:29.466',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa8e64a0-164d-45e0-944a-845ae3c00ad0','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>时时刻刻内观自己的想法、也要时时刻刻《我不是我的想法》，养成时时关注自我，从檢视自己的內心做起，然后检视自己的言谈，看看自已有没有做到表里如一。</p>
<p>先关心关注自己的感受和需求，再与他人连结，最后才与要处理的事情联结。</p>
<p>说话是一种灵修，並运用这份修习与他人建立良好连结</p>','2024-10-27 09:54:43.822','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a304af0-538d-4f72-a7b9-4916323231fe','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>练习与自己建立连结，是一种直视内心深处的修习，当自己可以与自己的需求搭上线，才有可能与别人搭上線。</p>
<p>非暴力溝通的核心不是技能与实践，而且从经验中，跳脱过习惯的模式。找到新的选择可能性，更加看清了自己的需要．</p>','2024-10-27 12:37:43.576','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f2e84de-4d59-45b4-99f5-383a2ebafab2','b73daeac-38a3-4192-bfd7-cdb0005779a1','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 42&nbsp; 10月27日 (星期日） 📚 《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第八章 255页 &ndash; 260页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">匆忙下定论，凭自己的想法下定论，是大部分人会做的。人们都对事情有着自己的看法和理解，也因此有着自己的判断，这使得我们从未真正理解对方所需。</p>
<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">同理心倾听是以理解为目的的聆听。要做到耳到，眼到，还有心到。同理心是一个感情投资。除了物质，心理也是让人类继续生存的重要元素。</p>','2024-10-27 14:44:07.798','2024-10-27 14:44:07.798',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-27 14:44:07.797',NULL,NULL);
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<li>不要把自己经验套在对方的身上，这是让对方戴上你的眼镜的概念</li>
<li>需要站在对方角度去倾听，不是站在自己的角度去理解对方</li>
<li>先把对方排在第一，理解了对方，再尝试让对方理解自己</li>
<li>没有完全理解对方就妄下定论，这是没办法取得对方信任，对方不会跟你敞开心扉</li>
</ul>','2024-10-27 15:10:47.874','2024-10-27 15:10:47.874',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-27 15:10:47.873',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3f8f8c79-5d90-471d-a025-b93403a0b1fb','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>只有相信医生的诊疗才会相信他的配方。我们必须先了解整件事的才会做出理智的方案。而这个过程需要不断的沟通和理解。</p>','2024-10-26 11:49:16.425','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('231211c9-c1bd-425d-8de9-320d2d3ee3ae','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 43&nbsp; 10月28日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第八章 261页 &ndash; 265页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴先诊断，后开方</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">杰出的业务员销售解决问题、滿足需求之道。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以下是自以为是的人往往会有四种自传式回应</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣价值判断</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣追根究底</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣好为人师</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4️⃣自以为是</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">正确的沟通方式是移情聆听。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣复述语句，这至少能使人专心聆听。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣加入解释，完全用自己的词句表达，左脑逻辑思维去理解。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣掺入个人的感觉，（用右脑）也体会对方的心情。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4️⃣加以解释，也带有感情。(左右脑并用）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔥四个阶段的沟通方式-了解对方也了解自己。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2"><br></span><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-26 15:26:39.896','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011','2024-10-28 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e27e89a-977d-489d-b8ad-f690751e6007','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>昨天我就犯了不能&ldquo;有效沟通&rdquo;这个毛病。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>事缘我的太太从日本回来，看到家里乱七八糟，就对我抱怨，说为什么我在家里也不帮忙收拾一下。我觉得自己被冒犯--谁说没有，有啊！只是个人的清洁标准不同而已。然后就&ldquo;解释我的立场&rdquo;。在我的太太看来这就是没有用心聆听的表现，而是在&ldquo;价值判断&rdquo;，&ldquo;自以为是&rdquo;。。。她就听不下去了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所以，如果心里有气，或者有偏见了，最好就是不发言。控制舌头重要过重要一切。</p>','2024-10-28 10:37:27.821','2024-10-28 10:37:27.821',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 10:37:27.82',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b5189853-832b-44bd-bff6-5f8f8b88aad9','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 43&nbsp; 10月28日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第八章 261页 &ndash; 265页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">做任何事，都需要先诊断，再开方。如果对诊断没信心，那开的处方自然没信心。</p>
<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">人们往往会有的不好的四种自传式回应：</p>
<ol>
<li dir="ltr">价值判断</li>
<li dir="ltr">追根究底</li>
<li dir="ltr">好为人师</li>
<li dir="ltr">自以为是</li>
</ol>
<p>真正有效的沟通，包括四个阶段：</p>
<ol>
<li>复述语句</li>
<li>加入解释 （左脑逻辑）</li>
<li>掺入个人感觉 （右脑）</li>
<li>加以解释，加感情 （左右脑并用）</li>
</ol>
<p>效果会比预期好。</p>','2024-10-28 11:38:55.278','2024-10-28 11:38:55.278',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 11:38:55.277',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e33992f6-b8ac-4b01-930f-694973f05dbf','02cd305b-65dc-47ab-a840-38ac9778297a','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>寻求第三种选择</p>
<p>全新模式看待人之间的差异</p>
<p>相信互惠互利的第三种选择</p>
<p>运用同理心倾听的技巧、充分理解对方重视和顾虑的事情</p>
<p>余额充足的情感账户、双赢模式、先了解别人的原则，实现创造性统合综效的理想环境</p>','2024-11-01 15:40:49.844','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>就好像我和我太太之间的 me time。我需要很多时间的 me time，因为我就是这样的人。我太太也需要但是没有需要那么多。可是有了孩子之后这个就变成了奢侈，因为她们需要大人的注意力。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所以我的太太就建议每个星期六下午我出去，由她照顾孩子。这个是一个可以尝试的方法。</p>','2024-11-02 06:02:57.329','2024-11-02 06:02:57.329',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 06:02:57.328',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('20a3204d-f624-4385-bdbc-9a675bad2b71','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>不管做什么事，都是要不断的练习，再练习。</p>
<p>以自我表达为重，也同时给予对方同理心。</p>','2024-10-30 06:41:18.468','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('084eb922-94f7-43c1-88d0-7144987571de','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 43&nbsp; 10月28日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第八章 261页 &ndash; 265页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">先诊断，后开方</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">平庸的业务员推销产品，杰出的业务员销售解决问题，满足需求之道。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">四种自传式回应</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们在听别人讲话时，总是会联系我们自己的经历，因此自以为是的人往往会有四种自传式回应的倾向；</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">价值判断-对旁人的意见只有接受或不接受</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">追根究底-一自己的价值观，探查别人的隐私</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">好为人师-以自己的经验提供忠告</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自以为是-根据自己的行为以动机衡量别人的行为与动机。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">价值判断令能不能畅所欲言，追根究底折令人无法开成布公，这些都是经常影响亲子关系的大障碍。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">有效的沟通</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">同理心倾听</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">四个阶段</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一、复述语句使人专心</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">二、加入解释，完全用自己的词句表达，但仍用左脑的逻辑思维去理解。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">三、 <span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>渗入个人的感觉，右脑发挥作用。听者所注意已不止于言语，也开始体会对方的心情。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">四、家里解释，又带有感情，左右脑并用</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">运用第四阶段的方式沟通，不仅能了解对方，更能帮助对方认清自己，勇于表达。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">若是合理的反应不妨顺其自然，但情绪性反应出现时，必须仔细聆听</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己</span></p>','2024-10-28 12:40:12.541','2024-10-28 12:40:14.322',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 12:40:14.321',NULL,NULL);
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<p>知彼解己。</p>
<p>沟通的基础原则是读写听说，听和说极其重要。</p>
<p>我们要会分辨出何为同理心，何为同情心。前者是站在对方的立场思考，了解事情如何发生，后者是个人的情感舒发。</p>
<p>在回应对方时，我们往往不知觉的会把自己的观点强加于对方，而忘了首先我们应该同理于对方。书中很好稣理了当中分别。</p>','2024-10-28 12:56:07.714','2024-10-28 12:56:07.714',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 12:56:07.713',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0cacac6-90ae-47f9-8325-75d3dd999ddf','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>看了今天的段，我有反思自己平时沟通出了问题。</p>
<p>没有完全聆听就直接下结论了。</p>
<p>接下来的练习是要聆听，然后和对方共鸣，在例行穿插</p>','2024-10-28 13:21:06.059','2024-10-28 13:21:06.059',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 13:21:06.058',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0cd2634-73be-4c4b-be34-6812d9f45a95','e7bf3b26-40b9-4c41-a81b-c14d593b45be','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>有效的溝通有4個階段：</p>
<p>1）復述語句</p>
<p>2）加入解釋</p>
<p>3）摻入個人的感覺</p>
<p>4）既加以解釋</p>
<p>運用這四個階段的方式溝通，不僅能了解對方，更能幫助對方認清自己，勇於表達。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-28 14:42:41.258','2024-10-28 14:42:41.258',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 14:42:41.257',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>正确的沟通方式，即同理心倾听，包括四个阶段：</p>
<ol>
<li>复述语句</li>
<li>加入解释</li>
<li>参入个人的感觉</li>
<li>带有感情的加以解释</li>
</ol>','2024-10-28 14:46:13.633','2024-10-28 14:46:13.633',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 14:46:13.632',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们在听别人讲话时总是会联系我们自己经历，因此自以为是的人往往会有四种</p>
<p>&ldquo;价值判断&rdquo;</p>
<p>追根究低，</p>
<p>好为人师</p>
<p>自以为是。</p>','2024-10-28 14:48:05.013','2024-10-28 14:48:05.013',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 14:48:05.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9e3b319-e091-4854-b1d3-08194f7361e5','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>适时扮演知音（理解和感知）</p>
<p>人人都渴望知音，所以这方面的投资绝对值得，它能使你掌控真正的症结，大大增加情感账户的储存。</p>
<p>首先要了解别人才能获得理解，这也是双赢之道所不可缺的。</p>','2024-10-28 22:23:43.052','2024-10-28 22:23:43.052',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-28 22:23:43.05',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4d7b3df8-c426-4711-b729-55b09cb7ab61','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>先理解別人。在問題出現之前，在評估和判斷之前，在你表達個人觀點之前，先理解別人，這是有效的相互依賴關係中最有用的習慣。</p>','2024-09-28 12:18:20.663','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e3874e40-a47d-434c-990d-5f51c51e6a4a','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p><strong>内心恢复更新的五个步骤</strong></p>
<ol>
<li><strong><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">◆ 回忆。</span></strong>置身于过去的年代和经历，是对于已经忘却的渴望、朴素的奇思怪想和过去的梦想的记忆。捕获这些记忆并设法让它们变成现实。</li>
<li><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>◆ 创造。</strong></span>有时我们害怕表达自己的意思，害怕泄漏一些让自己的想法和情感被人感知的证据。来一点创造，哪怕只是一些蜡笔画。</li>
<li><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>◆ 着迷。</strong></span>我们拥有的往往是我们有意拥有的。我们身边必然有一些现在也仍然乐于看到、享受的事物。也许是落日、花园或者是一段喜爱的乐曲。不妨让自己着迷于这些目前仍拥有的礼物。</li>
<li><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>◆ 需求。</strong></span>如果你从未感到过口渴的不适，你的身体会彻底干枯。应当像对待口渴一样尊重你的内心需求。内心需求是什么？你想要什么？感到口渴就喝水吧。设法寻找某个办法来满足这种需求。然后倾听内心的下一个需求。满足内心需求是给你的灵魂增加营养。</li>
<li><strong><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">◆ 渴望。</span></strong>就像忽略内心需求一样，我们也经常忽略内心的渴望。渴望比需求更加迫切。如果你渴望休息，那就休息。如果你渴望大笑，那就无故大笑一番。如果你渴望关爱，那就培育内心的关爱。</li>
</ol>','2024-10-21 12:44:32.042','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03','2024-10-29 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee4b2cba-32c4-4b29-9d6f-e4e7364d8794','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>人类的九大类需要，也从这里去察觉他们的存在。</p>
<p>✅情感</p>
<p>✅创造</p>
<p>✅自由</p>
<p>✅认同</p>
<p>✅参与</p>
<p>✅保护</p>
<p>✅娱乐</p>
<p>✅生存和理解</p>','2024-10-29 05:49:07.617','2024-11-06 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6a29fbda-b689-4d9d-929b-6364beed5ce0','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>把人和人之间连接，从而满足各自的需求。</p>','2024-11-08 12:02:45.282','2024-11-08 12:02:45.282',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 12:02:45.282',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3906bef6-b736-4435-9410-3703793099d1','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>Pg 274 - 276</p>
<p>打开情绪的窗户。</p>
<p>不是让情绪在屋子里弹跳。</p>','2024-10-31 11:04:54.783','2024-10-31 11:05:05.4',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 11:05:05.399',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5fe9220b-2d5b-4025-9453-2cc4c4d602e2','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>非暴力沟通须有四要素(观察、感受、需要、请求)，同时不得忽略意图，否则易落入纸上谈兵。</p>
<p>非暴力沟通的核心原则是：把注意力放在彼此的连结，并依此满足自己和他人的需要。</p>','2024-11-08 12:07:35.388','2024-11-08 12:07:35.388',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 12:07:35.388',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa347746-2f55-4300-88bf-bf7727975c05','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>古希腊人的经典哲学观点：品德第一、感情第二、理性第三。</p>
<p>当你在理解别人思路和担扰的前提下清晰、具体地表达想法，可信度会大大增加。</p>
<p>练习习惯五：<br>1. 抛开自己的经验，尽力真正了解对方。</p>
<p>2. 聆听他们的心声，感受他们的感受，并做出回应。</p>
<p>3. 关注他们的行为，并表示理解。</p>','2024-10-29 09:16:41.481','2024-10-29 09:16:41.481',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 09:16:41.48',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fafc0a14-599b-4525-884c-18405fcc9af8','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>我不知道其他人有没有和我同样的经历，当你的配偶要和你深入交谈，要你同理她，但是总是谈不成，因为你觉得她在攻击你。表面上是说只是分享，但是你听啊听，你觉得你的配偶根本不了解你，也没有兴趣了解你为她做得东西，她只是要发泄情绪不满，你就是她的出气筒。虽然你认为自己已经做得最好了。问心无愧了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果谈心和抒发情绪变成了发泄、攻击他人的机会，这样恐怕也无法提升关系吧？对于深入交谈，我觉得一定要有&ldquo;模式&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<ol>
<li>不要攻击对方，无论对方有多错。不要数落对方的不好。</li>
<li>如果真的要说对方的不好，必须以爱心说诚实话，不造就的话不用讲。大幅度形容对方如何差劲之类的话能免则免。只要说对方听的进去的话。不要说&ldquo;<strong>我</strong>如何如何惨，是<strong>你</strong>的错，你没有。。&rdquo;，多说说&ldquo;<strong>我们</strong>如何如何，<strong>我们</strong>可以做这些东西改善吗&rdquo;。</li>
<li>如果还是要讲对方多么差劲的话，那就以肯定对方的优点开始和结束。把丑话放在中间。这样可以避免对方反弹。如果可以在开始前抢先向对方认错，则可以增加情感账户。帮助对方更容易同理你。</li>
</ol>
<p>不知道大家认为这样的建议如何？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-29 09:16:40.459','2024-10-29 09:30:43.714',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 09:30:43.713',NULL,NULL);
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<p>意思是要了解及耐心听对方的讲话之余，也要让对方了解自己，这个双方的互解是建立于双方的品德、感情及理智 （顺续很重要）。</p>','2024-10-29 13:33:26.56','2024-10-29 13:33:26.56',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 13:33:26.559',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be55b2fc-c02d-456a-be0d-33bdb9577861','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 45 &nbsp;10月30日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第八章 271页 &ndash; 273页<br>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>使用同理心倾听是要选择时间和场合。<br>超合非常重要的话题 / 敏感或者涉及隐私 / 情绪高涨。<br>领导爬到越高的权力，持有的同理心就越少。</p>
<p><br>习惯5通常是大数人做得最差的习惯。<br>当你觉得自己是对的，就很难听进去别人的话。<br>只是按照自己的角度在倾听，不真正的理解。没有按照对方的想站在听，没有尽可能走进对方的心。</p>
<p><br>需要时刻提醒自己要从的的立场走出来，要走进对方的头脑。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-10-30 14:09:16.882','2024-10-30 14:09:16.882',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-30 14:09:16.881',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dfbcbd9a-a639-4225-8235-b52ddb31713a','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>學習認真傾聽,跳出個人感知局限的範圍，以便順利溝通合作溝通、共同合作、適應供贏。雙贏思維是第一步。</p>
<p>表達技巧：即品德第一 感情第二 理性第三</p>
<p>一對一嘅溝通習慣五非常重要，因為它位於個人影響力的中心。時刻想着先理解別人，試著拋開自己的經驗，盡力真正了解對方，建立自己的情感賬戶。做個睿智、敏感而又頭腦清楚便能夠拋開個人經歷。</p>','2024-10-29 14:09:28.533','2024-10-29 14:09:58.754',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 14:09:58.753',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d1273f4b-4da8-4184-8147-cbfbc22ef0a9','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>倾听也是需要在正确的时间和场合，特别是敏感的话题。这样可以了解对方真正想表达的讯息。而脾气也是一种表达的方式，没个脾气背后都带着一个讯息。重点是我们有没有用心倾听。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-29 12:59:16.982','2024-10-30 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-10-30 00:00:00.009','2024-10-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fd9a0ec0-8ee6-41ac-a274-a6bac2c7297b','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 45&nbsp; 10月30日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第八章 271页 &ndash; 273页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">带着同理心倾听，在处理与对方的关系时，效率会提升10倍以上。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">当你觉得自己是对的，就很难听进去别人的话。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">从自己的立场走出来，走进对方的头脑。<br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-30 14:29:42.753','2024-10-30 14:29:43.842',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-30 14:29:43.841',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec26d26a-f9b0-46ff-a2fa-7c5125b64398','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>统合综效～是对所有其它习惯的真实考验和集中体现。</p>
<p>统合综效～人类最了不起的能耐，前5个习惯的整体表现与真正考验。</p>
<p>统合综效～唯有兼具人类的四种特有天赋、辅以双赢的动机及同理心沟通，才能达到统合综效的最高境界。</p>
<p>它不但可以创造奇迹，开辟前所未有的新天地，也能激发人类最大的潜能，即使面对人生再大的挑战都不足为惧。</p>
<p>自然界到处可寻 统合综效。</p>
<p>如何从自然界中学习到创造性合作原则应用到社会交往中的统合综效。</p>
<p>真正实现自我、自尊自强、有机会完成依赖到独立，再到互相依存的成熟过程。</p>
<p>下一代人的服务和奉献精神吗？</p>
<p>少一些防御意识、针锋相对、和自私自利、多一些坦诚相待、相互信赖和慷慨大方，少一些自我封闭、自我防御、玩弄权术、多一些仁慈爱心和关爱同情，少一些占有欲望和主观臆断。</p>
<p>接纳一切奇怪的想法，同时贡献自己的见地。</p>
<p>安全感和信心使我相信：一切会变得更好，这正是你心中的目标。</p>
<p>封闭和多疑～空有无尽的潜力，却无用武之地。</p>
<p>众志成城～</p>
<p>课堂上的统合综效</p>
<p>商业领域的统合综效：在美丽的景色环绕中，讨论未来的选择、前景、机会。。表达自己的想法。制定宣言的过程变成了自由发言、各抒己见的讨论会。 人们都能运用同理心、充满勇气，在互相尊重和理解的基础上进行统合综效的沟通。</p>
<p>振奋人心，共识逐渐成形，最后付诸文字，成为一则使命宣言。</p>
<p>本公司旨在大幅度提升个人与企业的能力，并且认知与实践以原则为中心的领导方式，达成直到追求的目标。</p>','2024-10-31 11:42:17.626','2024-10-31 22:14:10.154',NULL,'f','2024-10-31 16:00:00','2024-10-31 22:14:10.153',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('879d4152-78a2-4685-8af6-400412c5e356','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>要想找到第三种选择，首先要相信它是存在的。</p>
<p>关键步骤：</p>
<ul>
<li>抛开自我意识，承认需要所有人共同的智慧参与，才能找到最佳方案。</li>
<li>谈话；经过头脑风暴谈论事情，让彼此迸发灵感。</li>
</ul>','2024-11-01 08:21:13.295','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d95b8e34-d87b-4a34-a41b-cb3f421106e5','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>按照以下五步计划达到统合综效：</p>
<ol>
<li>定义问题或机会</li>
<li>他们的方式（首先试着理解别人的想法）</li>
<li>我的方式（试着通过分享获得理解）</li>
<li>头脑风暴（创造新的机遇和想法）</li>
<li>快速通道（找到最佳解决方案）</li>
</ol>
<p>统合综效是最终的习惯，也是之前所有习惯的总结。</p>','2024-11-01 08:24:05.826','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c041c46c-f901-4555-acf5-abd51f90fa8a','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>同理心是以对方作为对话中心，关心对方的感受和需要。</p>
<p>同情心是以倾听对方的话，然后以自己为中心。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-30 09:04:18.383','2024-11-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c8e50b5-380a-4926-81b4-83f03fdcbc4c','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p dir="ltr">Day 44&nbsp; 10月29日 (星期二）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第八章 266页 &ndash; 270</p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">适时扮演知音（理解和感知）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当你学习认真倾听时，你会发现自己对别人的感知有了天壤之别。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">表达也要技巧</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">首先你要了解别人才能获得理解，这也是谋求双赢之道说不可缺少的。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">生命需要熟练地掌握勇气和关心，因此合作的环境下更需要让人了解自己。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">古希腊人哲学观，品德第一、感情第二、理性第三。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">品德指的是你个人的可信度，是人们对你的诚信和能力的认可，是人们对你的信任，是你的情感账户。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">感情指的是你的移情能力，是感性的，说明你能通过交流迅速理解他人的情感。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">理性是你的逻辑能力，合理表达自己的能力。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">具体地表达想法，在理解别人思路和担忧的前提下表达，那么可信度会大大增加。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一对一沟通</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">先理解别人，把精力放在自己的影响圈内，真正地、深入地了解对方。抛开自己的经验，经历真正了解对方，感同身受，聆听他们的心声，感受他们受到的伤害，并做出回应。我们之间的分支不再是交流和进步的障碍，而是通往协同效应的阶梯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">如果你真正寻求理解，就要丢掉诡计和伪善。<br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-29 14:51:48.54','2024-10-29 14:51:50.68',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 14:51:50.679',NULL,NULL);
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<li>没有任何私心，完全站在对方角度替他着想</li>
<li>表达技巧：品德，要有诚信，这样对方才能信任你；感情，能够与人共情；理性，合理表达自己</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-29 15:22:08.114','2024-10-29 15:22:08.114',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 15:22:08.113',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f28ec6fd-ef64-439f-9962-a6127120eff5','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 44&nbsp; 10月29日 (星期二）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第八章 266页 &ndash; 270页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">当我们耐心聆听，我们将发现不一样的感知。</p>
<p dir="ltr">人都需要善解人意的听众，真心的，不存私心。这可以增加情感账户的储蓄。</p>
<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">品德--感情--理性。这个次序很重要。</p>
<p dir="ltr">要说服人，成为一个好的推销员，必须花时间推销。</p>','2024-10-29 15:27:25.904','2024-10-29 15:27:25.904',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 15:27:25.903',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d95cbc2-4a19-476e-a556-875857c7893b','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>同理心傾聽有時間和場合需要的。使用同理心一個好的時機就是情緒高漲的時候。</p>','2024-10-30 14:12:59.919','2024-10-30 14:12:59.919',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-30 14:12:59.919',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c2eded4-4e2e-49fd-bce6-db7d31fa9b6b','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>我们都需要用同理心来倾听，而倾听是有时间及场合需要滴。<br>如果话题非常重要，敏感或者隐私，我们就需要同理心去倾听。</p>','2024-10-30 14:59:24.089','2024-10-30 14:59:24.089',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-30 14:59:24.088',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ab328d6-30b3-4fb2-9240-5bb275bc40cd','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>这篇我读到一个重要的讯息，就是倾听必须真诚，而不是假情假意。对方是可以感受到我们有没有真诚的听。</p>','2024-10-30 11:54:48.101','2024-10-31 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2024-10-31 00:00:00.021','2024-10-31 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29570b87-d045-4250-bef5-e2b13f25b3b3','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>先理解别人在问题出现时，在表达自己观点时理解别人<br>才可以更好的解决</p>','2024-10-31 15:33:30.078','2024-10-31 15:33:30.078',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 15:33:30.077',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c81effae-5696-4041-b272-41f9ab211780','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>感受到作者的初心和使命</p>
<p>文字敘述和表达方式也很舒服</p>
<p>感觉到非暴力沟通的力量</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 12:05:19.147','2024-11-01 12:05:19.147',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 12:05:19.146',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a388a633-3a5d-4526-aa0c-50c3e1681cd7','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 47&nbsp; 11月1日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第九章 283页 &ndash; 288页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">习惯六是对之前所有习惯的考验和集中体现。</p>
<p dir="ltr">唯有拥有人类四大天赋，双赢动机，同理心沟通，才能达到统合综效。</p>
<p dir="ltr">敞开胸怀，接受别人想法，也发表自己的想法。这需要勇气，真诚。我们要学会创造。</p>','2024-11-01 14:48:44.582','2024-11-01 14:48:44.582',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 14:48:44.581',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0dc42656-848e-4277-aab4-83fead013a2d','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 47 &nbsp;11月1日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第九章 283页 &ndash; 288页<br>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>与人合作最重要是心态 : 要有分歧才有收获。</p>
<p>重视不同个体的不同心理,情绪与智能，发掘不同世界。</p>
<p>真正的统合综效可带来看到未来更多的视野与创造的机会。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-01 15:51:04.725','2024-11-01 15:51:29.53',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 15:51:29.529',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fe1d3197-908f-4b46-82e0-455f35fa98d2','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>刚刚才处理了一个孩子玩耍打架事件。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">全部人都指向说是小男孩的错，动手打人就是错。</span></p>
<p>还有一位父亲指着小男孩大语气大声的说话。</p>
<p>小孩子要面对那么多人的指责，是多么的委屈。</p>
<p>每个动机背后都有原因，原因的背后还有原因。</p>
<p>人性如此，每当发生事，大家都只会看着事件来指指点点。。。</p>
<p>一个有智慧的父母需要站在局外去看去分析而不是逼着要人给交代给道歉。</p>
<p>男孩从小就要被教育要有绅士，要有风度，要让女孩。</p>
<p>不好意思因为刚刚发生了一些小插曲。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 15:54:45.645','2024-11-01 15:54:45.645',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 15:54:45.643',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99b25e98-173a-4923-a20f-3cb8c8c3f7b4','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">同意书里第14 页 提到言语可以团结我们， 也可以分裂我们。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">口说好话如吐莲花，口说坏话，如吐毒蛇。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">先自我内在沟通， 注入深厚意念。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">简单的说词：说话要经过大脑。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">掌握非暴力沟通的技巧：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。撰写日记：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2。寻找搭档：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3。组织团队：</span></p>','2024-11-01 15:56:33.56','2024-11-01 15:56:33.56',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 15:56:33.559',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dad0d856-6728-44b4-9d5a-ca2c44179f7b','8347e1d3-4b42-4234-9e2e-afc8efed45c7','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 43 &nbsp;10月28日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第八章 261页 &ndash; 265页</p>
<p><br>Day 44 &nbsp;10月29日 (星期二）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第八章 266页 &ndash; 270页</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>先诊断，后开方。<br>首先理解别人，可以为人际关系带来最大的作用。</p>
<p>四种自传式回应，也是大数人的通病 :&nbsp;<br>1。价值判断 - 对旁人的意见只有接受或不接受<br>2。追根究底 - &nbsp;依自己的价值观探查别人的隐私<br>3。好为人师 - 以自己的经验提供忠告<br>4。自以为是 - 根据自己的行为与动机衡量别人的行为与动机</p>
<p>真正的沟通方式是同理心倾听。包括四个阶段 :<br>1。 专心倾听<br>2。加入解释。用左脑的逻辑思维去理解<br>3。掺入个人感觉。用右脑注意对方的言语与心情<br>4。加以解释，带有感情。左右脑并用。</p>
<p><br>人人都需要善解人意的好听众 / 知音。</p>
<p>品德 -&gt; 感情 -&gt; 理性<br>的 表达次序很重要。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>表达个人观点前先了解别人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-10-29 15:40:49.539','2024-10-29 15:41:20.453',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 15:41:20.452',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27ae0da5-5cc2-4f22-8c4b-97f7b69a3428','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>一直使用习惯5（知彼解己）吗？？</p>
<p>不是的，使用同理心倾听是有时间和场合的，当话题非常重要，敏感或涉及隐私的时候</p>
<p>比如同事需要职业建议，或者与另一伴沟通上出现问题</p>
<p>这些对话需要时间，不能一蹉而成</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这个习惯很多人很难养成！！</p>
<p>当我们觉得自己是对的时候，就很难听进别人的话。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>很多人以为自己执行得很好，很多人以为自己是很好的倾听者，实际上他们只是按照自己的角色去倾听，而不是按照对方的想法在听。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">然后总是要回应，不是真正的理解。没有去理解核心问题，没有真正的尽可能走进对方内心。</span></p>
<p>如果你身为领导的角色，可以测试下自己，在下个会议：今天的会议由我讲的内容要占多大比重？？</p>
<p>如果屋里有6个人，但是80％发言是由你进行，这个就是问题了。</p>','2024-10-29 22:06:38.224','2024-10-29 22:06:38.224',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-29 22:06:38.222',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2957dcb5-b3e9-4cfe-a9d7-467587d81a67','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 45&nbsp; 10月30日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第八章 271页 &ndash; 273页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">同理心倾听，是有时间和场合需要。当话题非要重要、敏感或者涉及隐私的时候，使用同理心倾听。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯五是很多人以为自己执行得很好，其实是最差的习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴从自己的立场走出来，要走进对方的头脑。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">❌🔴邻导，⬆️权力⬇️同理心 </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Always listening &amp; understanding</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2"><br></span><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-27 07:29:54.6','2024-10-30 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-10-30 00:00:00.009','2024-10-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c1f36d3-3ef2-46b3-bd82-1ab4ba1436cb','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>同理心最难的地方，在于放下自己的想法和执着。以旁观者的身份去聆听而已，尝试明白对方，而且必须压抑自己判断的冲动。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们都是人，听到一些东西，很容易就下判断--你是对的，你是错的。如果做不到这点，就根本无法同理。如果那时双方都情绪高涨，其中一方又借着&ldquo;分享感受&rdquo;，要对方同理，但是却是数落对方，这样的情况下，真的很难同理。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>另外，在筋疲力尽的情况下也做不到同理对方。因为你的大脑都累了，只是想快快解决问题，怎么还有兴趣听对方有的没的搭话？说了老半天都说不到重点，什么时候可以完哦。这也是为什么以前人生十多个孩子，要么放任管，要么藤条打，都不在乎孩子的心理感受，和聆听他们。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>做不到同理别人，有时也不必太难过，因为所需要的先决条件真的很多。</p>','2024-10-30 07:49:40.086','2024-10-30 07:50:00.208',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-30 07:50:00.207',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d5f360b5-5b73-4155-81be-80023aa70238','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>同理心倾听有时间和场合需要，若只是随意的谈话或日常闲聊，就不需要使用。</p>
<p>习惯五：知彼解己是所有习惯中最难养成的。</p>','2024-10-30 09:09:46.613','2024-10-30 09:09:46.613',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-30 09:09:46.612',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9eab9641-3412-40d5-89b1-a05a42e3eca7','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 45&nbsp; 10月30日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第八章 271页 &ndash; 273页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">习惯五，同理心，不是每个时候都适合用。但在绝大部分都适合，例如建议，讨论，维持关系。</p>
<p dir="ltr">养成习惯五是困难的，很多时候会因为自己固定的思维方式，而断了习惯五。我们需要时刻保持 aware 自己，才能从中纠正。</p>','2024-10-30 12:35:12.375','2024-10-30 12:35:12.375',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-30 12:35:12.374',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6c53023a-018e-4c77-a394-23a2338a7fc5','657aebfc-a90d-4c9d-beb6-5626e552ed14','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>同理心其实需要可以练习。<br>另外，知彼解己，其实需要看人事物而定夺使用，也需要投资时间。<br>理解，聆听，同理，置身处想，习惯五的需要。</p>
<p>我们培养这个习惯的时候，需要放下自己所要表达的，所在意的。<br>先放下，空杯自己，聆听别人，再了解，才可以了解事情的全貌</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-30 13:31:23.697','2024-10-30 13:31:23.697',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-30 13:31:23.696',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9fb36ce0-af56-40d4-b65f-cc25fb8fd53b','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「才沒有什麼事實，一切都只是看法」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-28 05:25:40.694','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3307732-a753-4b6d-9f80-b4172967a0d9','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>要开始七个习惯，请考虑下列步骤：</strong></span></p>
<p>◆ <strong>学会安静、沉思和在沉默中生活。</strong>仔细考虑使命宣言和独特的人类天赋。你还必须从小事开始，这样你就不会许诺过多而力有不及。</p>
<p><br><strong>◆ 不断磨刀，</strong>每天花时间在四个方面让自己休整更新：身体、精神、智力和社会／情感。作为自我更新过程的一部分，每天一早，向自己提出下列问题，然后回想自己的使命宣言：你赞成什么，你在生活中的目标是什么。<br>--&gt; 今天我想做些什么事？<br>--&gt; 今天我将怎样关怀我所爱的人？<br>--&gt; 今天我将怎样应付挑战？</p>
<p>◆ <strong>在关键的人际关系情感账户中存款，向与你关系密切的人追加存款</strong>。家庭中的成功与和谐要高于其他一切。</p>
<p><br>◆ 花更多的时间于第二象限（重要而不紧急）的事务。判断什么是真正重要的事并为之努力。对于位于第二象限之外的事务要敢于拒绝，必要时要授权他人，让自己拥有更多的时间和精力。</p>
<p><br>◆ <strong>确定自己的使命宣言是完整无缺的</strong>。努力开发家庭的使命宣言。</p>
<p><br>◆ <strong>负起责任为自己的家庭做出各种判断</strong>。然后，按自己的优先顺序安排计划并付诸实践。</p>','2024-10-21 12:53:19.093','2024-10-31 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2024-10-31 00:00:00.021','2024-10-31 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9185bae6-54ed-420d-99cd-62c879f2d38f','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 46&nbsp; 10月31日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第八章274页 &ndash; 276页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴涉及情绪的问题，都不要发邮件或短信，一定要F2F沟通。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴选择了倾听、反馈、然后试着理解。虽然他不同意我的说法，但是他试着理解。对方的认可是很重要的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴激动说出的话就当作给对方一个免费出口。把负能量从窗户飞出去。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣习惯一用自己的自我意识、良知、想象力和独立意志想清楚自己的动机。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣习惯二设想我做不同的事情。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣习惯三实现⬆️这一切。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4️⃣习惯四双赢思维为基础。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">5️⃣习惯五用知彼解己达到终点。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情感上安全感。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">6️⃣习惯六统合综效。尊重与接受差异。</span><span class="s2"><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-27 07:31:02.409','2024-10-31 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2024-10-31 00:00:00.021','2024-10-31 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3f18e198-f3f5-48e4-8049-07e7ed0f4f21','e163ca95-8b0c-4f97-a34a-05ebd4c9e75a','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>人需有慈悲的同理心去与人沟通</p>','2024-12-11 15:53:11.165','2024-12-11 15:53:11.165',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-11 15:53:11.164',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cc7f3d3c-98d0-42e7-99cb-36ba647aeb86','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>"你要培养你的孩子，还是一个四分卫"？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>同样，我也要问问自己，我要培养我的女儿，还是一个杰出人士？我的女儿成绩好不好，数学优不优秀，语文思维能力强不强，这些有比她们是我女儿重要吗？有比她们的快乐重要吗？不是说我作为她们的爸爸不需要督促、给她们压力--因为人是要通过压力成长的。但是我切莫把我的期望投射在她们身上。也不要以我自己的标准要求她们，因为每个人都不同。她们不是我，我也不是她们。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>想起多年前我写的一篇文章，与大家分享：<a href="https://booxmalaysia.com/%e5%bc%ba%e9%80%bc%e5%ad%a9%e5%ad%90%e5%ad%a6%e4%b9%a0%ef%bc%8c%e5%bc%8a%e5%a4%a7%e4%ba%8e%e5%88%a9%ef%bc%9f/">强逼孩子学习，弊大于利？</a></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-31 04:57:47.267','2024-10-31 04:57:47.267',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 04:57:47.265',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ddb182a-6636-4018-92af-697db35efa41','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>真正想要用习惯5，首先需要实现个人领域成功，获得情感上的安全感。也就是习惯1，2，3 基础要打稳。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>而练习习惯四和五收获的结果是习惯6的统合综效。</p>','2024-10-31 08:32:04.841','2024-10-31 08:32:04.841',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 08:32:04.84',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('56b5a364-e457-4e20-82c0-9a72a9136648','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>綜合縱效，與所見略同的人溝通，益處不大，要有分歧才有收穫。一加一，大於或者等於三。</p>
<p>而縱和縱效的精髓就是判斷和尊重差異，取長補短。</p>
<p>溝通層次裡【互相提防】【互相尊重】【縱合縱效】</p>','2024-09-28 13:12:27.49','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('72496bab-5302-4d0d-a3c5-997a2f97b192','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>统合综效的是判断和尊重差异</p>','2024-11-01 09:35:37.991','2024-11-01 09:35:37.991',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 09:35:37.99',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e50c9e75-4ddb-476b-ab45-c59abe45bd12','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>說話是一門.艺术，它''和身邊的一切人事物建立關係，是息息相關。</p>
<p>最好的方法是养成「 时時关注自我」 的习惯，从檢視自己的內心開始，然後檢視自己的言談，看看自己有沒有表里如一，尤其是那些「 我就是我的想法」 的信念。</p>','2024-10-31 01:36:25.525','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c570d849-5c10-47db-991c-e5e601c5f5a1','c1046d31-0c36-40f1-b40d-b3ad9069300a','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>自我觉察很重要。灵性对话是自我觉察的利器。</p>','2024-12-12 15:41:24.584','2024-12-12 15:42:38.254',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-12 15:42:38.253',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4e28e20c-0f99-4d0a-a34a-382aabba2479','c9b08465-55c5-4b4d-9b5d-16689d0b8156','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>要常练习自我同理，才能好好说话</p>','2024-12-13 15:52:22.327','2024-12-13 15:52:22.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-13 15:52:22.327',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74cfcda3-7b5a-45e6-9225-6561baeda747','7788709d-521b-4a35-8e0b-46de60c857a2','4cfe29dd-714c-41a2-bc6d-306205099ae9','<p>訓練更好的洞察力，可以更好的看到事情背後的本質，高效的找到解決方案。</p>
<p>五個積木</p>
<p>核心存量，因果關係，增強迴路，調節迴路，滯後效應</p>','2024-12-13 15:53:01.452','2024-12-13 15:53:01.452',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-13 15:53:01.451',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('923a6446-0ece-40c5-8e91-f2d8f3683949','5266840e-5b5c-44ae-9f83-dd6a31615e4a','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>要明白事情的真相,要刨根问底.不要道听胡说.</p>','2024-12-13 13:41:42.717','2024-12-15 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-12-15 00:00:00.014','2024-12-15 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('baf56f81-cbf5-4cb8-928e-85087c9cc514','090384b3-c089-4ed0-aecf-abf0ed2c92a8','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>复利需要长时间的持续投入，才能达到质变</p>','2024-12-18 15:09:57.339','2024-12-18 15:09:57.339',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-18 15:09:57.338',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fcb72f30-7c95-4a2d-b7eb-170df5dbcd05','73d404e3-c3a6-4105-8463-cfb9bcce8d62','a79358bf-a0d8-49f2-be81-0ba66e697353','<p>把握时代- 选对战略 - 设计好结构 - 管理</p>','2024-12-21 15:56:09.072','2024-12-21 15:56:09.072',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-21 15:56:09.071',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('301efa68-d946-4074-be72-9cb86c7b48d2','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>要实现良性循环，就必须学习，坚持，实践-再学习，再坚持，再实践。</p>','2024-11-08 12:21:21.896','2024-11-08 12:21:21.896',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 12:21:21.895',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('25a77434-8c6a-45f3-94c8-7eb9e4db7a4d','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>理解對方才是同理心傾聽的目標。同理心需要真誠,需要好的意圖而不是使用技巧。</p>
<p>當人們處與激動的時候說出那些話就給他們一個免費出口。</p>','2024-10-31 11:01:40.912','2024-10-31 11:01:43.263',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 11:01:43.261',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c316fc65-db8a-4854-a3fd-f328c0eeb605','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 46&nbsp; 10月31日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第八章274页 &ndash; 276页</p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">很多时候我们把自己的寄望放在别人身上，希望借此达到自己曾经未完成的愿望，却往往忘记了为对方着想，对方是否也想这样。</p>
<p dir="ltr">如有任何涉及情绪的谈话，面对面的沟通很重要。</p>
<p dir="ltr">同理心最终的目的，不是解决问题，而是理解对方。</p>
<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">同样的，再重复，如果要使用习惯五，就必须实现个人领域成功，即习惯一，二，三。</p>','2024-10-31 11:09:27.419','2024-10-31 11:09:27.419',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 11:09:27.418',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5b2a144-2e52-480d-8ca5-605d8407f5bb','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 46&nbsp; 10月31日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第八章274页 &ndash; 276页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">解决冲动不是同理心倾听的目标，而是理解对方。<br>习惯是双赢思维是高效关系的基础。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">练习习惯四和五收获的结果是习惯六统合综效。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">如果同理心倾听够真诚，就不需要用任何技巧沟通。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">想要使用习惯五，先要实现个人领域成功。<br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-31 11:49:37.948','2024-10-31 11:49:39.225',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 11:49:39.224',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1aa4e7a4-3cb6-4352-8e47-22e683e6a7ff','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>用心去倾听，站在对方的思想來反馈，然后才反应。</p>
<p>知彼解自的高效习惯是要面对面谈，不好用文字或几个emoji来解决。</p>
<p>一个人在激动时说出来的话，应该要打开一扇窗让它飞出去，不好把窗关起来，让怒气乱窜。</p>','2024-10-31 12:06:17.169','2024-10-31 12:06:17.169',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 12:06:17.168',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91062920-cf41-4081-9cce-7da12b368a65','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>沟通的重要性。，可以更好地实现目标</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 09:39:03.734','2024-11-01 09:39:03.734',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 09:39:03.733',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb4017cb-c97b-4e40-93c0-934b1c8dbeea','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>沟通是一门必修的学问，可以令我们活在和谐的环境中。</p>','2024-11-01 12:23:25.089','2024-11-01 12:23:25.089',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 12:23:25.088',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83849b8c-1329-4ef9-ab87-fb425dd8bc66','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 50&nbsp; 11月4日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第九章 299页 &ndash; 301页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">相信第三种选择</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">就要抛开自我意识，承认你需要所有人共同的智慧参与,才能找到最佳方案。智慧可分为九个不同类型。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.空间智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2.言语智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3.逻辑-数学智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4.动觉智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">5.音乐智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">6.人际智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">7.自知-自省智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">8.自我观察智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">9.存在智能</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴找到第三种选择的方法是谈话聊天。即使有头脑风暴，谈论事情，让彼此迸发出灵感。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-31 08:35:01.357','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bca34257-87c4-4010-8b5b-f0462417eca8','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>采用同理心去倾听，试着理解对方。</p>
<p>让负能量从窗户飞出去，不要把它接进来。</p>','2024-10-31 14:08:47.813','2024-10-31 14:08:47.813',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 14:08:47.811',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('afa20cc9-9399-400a-89a7-05c4fd35a76d','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>言语的力量会影响我们的人生，甚至是世界。</p>
<p>在非暴力沟通的技巧中，最基本的也最重要的就是&ldquo;内在觉知&rdquo;。</p>
<p>先和自己建立连洁，再与你身边的人建立连结，最后才与你手头上要处理的事物建立连结。</p>','2024-10-31 14:01:25.609','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01dd9ed9-6192-4372-a722-78debab66c42','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>套用制式句型是帮助看清楚自己的意图。</p>
<p>沟通四大要素：观察、感受、需要和请求。</p>','2024-11-08 12:28:40.327','2024-11-08 12:28:40.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 12:28:40.326',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('63f18588-8881-4571-a608-b65802bf19c2','c11702ed-8cbf-45f7-b1ef-05fb9c4a3c68','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>世界多样化。</p>
<p>我们要保持清醒，不要绝对化自己的想法。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-12-06 14:13:42.106','2024-12-06 14:14:08.473',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-06 14:14:08.472',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eab02533-fad7-4743-b8cf-ad2575e548bb','0eabcae0-052c-4eb7-8f9f-dae46fa0e8b5','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>锻炼洞察力，理解表象背后的系统，从本质上解决问题。</p>','2024-12-11 02:00:26.599','2024-12-11 02:00:26.599',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-11 02:00:26.595',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1b3a898-7f64-4e03-a7ad-6abd7091ebe8','e163ca95-8b0c-4f97-a34a-05ebd4c9e75a','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>只有愛才能驱走仇恨。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>只要願意用慈悲的話語与對方建立連接，語言就能發揮「化干戈為玉帛」的力量，化解可能的衝突。</p>','2024-12-11 02:19:00.271','2024-12-11 02:20:21.616',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-11 02:20:21.615',NULL,NULL);
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<li>与人对话，特别是意见不合时候，面对面谈话比传信息或邮件好，避免造成更多误会</li>
<li>同理心倾听的目标并非是解决冲突，而是理解对方</li>
<li>同理心倾听是站在对方脑袋去倾听，反馈，然后试着理解</li>
<li>让负能量从窗户飞出去吧，不要把它接进来</li>
</ul>','2024-10-31 14:13:06.189','2024-10-31 14:13:06.189',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 14:13:06.188',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3ba5eb10-00b1-45b3-97c6-621e43cd0720','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 46 &nbsp;10月31日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第八章274页 &ndash; 276页<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>处理重要的，涉及情绪问题，一定要面对面谈或者电话沟通，不要发邮件或短信。</p>
<p>让负能量从窗户飞出去，不要把它接近来。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>态度 习惯4<br>方式 习惯5<br>结果 习惯6</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-10-31 14:33:34.037','2024-10-31 14:33:34.037',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 14:33:34.036',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d0c0fe1-3ef1-4ec5-8dbf-91c9dc7b2eaa','7ca02b23-4523-4353-ac0b-4aef3faeaf59','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>培养新观点的习惯也许不是很轻易的事情，也有过挣扎，但是在思考以及下定决心改变的那一步，我培养了因为想理解他人想法 而站在了对方的角度 多一些聆听 多一些宽容。</p>
<p>文字很冰冷，表情和语气却带有温度，所以在涉及情绪的问题 都应该面谈 避免误会的雪球越滚越大</p>
<p>有时候同理心并不能解决问题，尤其当对方可能处于不理智的状态，这是我们可以适当调整自己的心态，让对方发泄，让自己选择忽略。先让对方把心中负面的情绪排走，再选择交谈。</p>
<p>同理心 并不是伪装理解别人 而是真诚的想要去明白他人的想法，需要将各种习惯融会贯通，培养真诚的倾听意识。</p>','2024-10-31 14:34:46.87','2024-10-31 14:34:46.87',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-31 14:34:46.868',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77f8e237-e909-4337-829b-f51e6cc05f68','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day 1&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>11<span lang="ZH-CN">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY">1</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日&nbsp;《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">前言 ： 为什么我们要写这本书？（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page019-025</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">"言语是灵魂的写照，一个人怎样说话，就是怎样的人。&ldquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">这是一种新的语言：充分表达同理心（empathy）和慈悲（compassion）的语言。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">刻意练习的重要性：提升非暴力沟通技巧的不二法门。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">如何：</span></p>
<ol>
<li class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">写日记：记录自己和他人的沟通时的用语</span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">寻找练习搭档：共修</span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">组织团队：一起学习，共修</span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</li>
</ol>','2024-10-31 14:11:09.312','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1383303c-0758-4705-ad25-57483f98e430','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 1 ：11月 1日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">前言 ： 为什么我们要写这本书？（Page019-025）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">非暴力沟通就是刻意的练习。作者建议</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1）写日记：记下在自我和他人建立连接时，会带给自己的助力或阻力的指定措辞或语句。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2）还有寻找一位朋友来做我们的同立新的伙伴，帮助我应付困难的对话。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3） 通过读书会互相交流。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当然，把说话当作一种灵修，必须做到行动和学问，然后跟自己内心自我连结，反映真正的面貌。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">记住重点&rdquo;一个人怎样说话，就是怎样的人。&rdquo;</span></p>','2024-10-27 08:53:28.895','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-30 01:38:59.015','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('975c8056-0a07-42ca-bd92-8f17b07bd7b7','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>要掌握非暴力沟通技巧，可以</p>
<p>1.撰写日志:记下和他人建立连接时，所带来的阻力。</p>
<p>2.词或语句:记下得到的经验</p>
<p>3.寻找搭档:应对困难的对话</p>
<p>4.组织团队:读书会，每周交流</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-31 02:10:24.841','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eae8855a-62ac-45f8-9057-63d9249b4664','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>确实从一个人的谈吐可以看出个人修养，有些人和他/她谈话如浴春风。我想提升自身修为非常重要，因为在认真练习非暴力沟通技巧时，同理心和慈悲是不可缺的，而这些是通过个人的觉知和修养方可形成的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-31 07:34:52.362','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('78e972f9-45ff-40a9-b500-11b145988b15','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>认同&ldquo;穷不是家庭最可悲的事，而是有着不会好好说话的家人。&rdquo;。不好的语言是把无形剑，可以刺伤人的内心，久久无法愈合。值得继续深入阅读学习对话。</p>','2024-10-31 13:00:16.09','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5f37602b-e863-45fb-aa11-2dd0bcd34896','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>非暴力沟通就是一种充分表达同理心和慈悲的语言。</p>
<p>刻意练习，是提升非暴力沟通技巧的不二法门。</p>
<p>我们说出的每一句话，都会对这个世界造成影响。</p>','2024-10-31 13:50:44.973','2024-11-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028','2024-11-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0596c67e-6b39-4e66-b24f-f85cc7d776b3','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>聆听他人说话，可以帮助我们理解他人的思想，信念和感受。</p>
<p>我们也该练习以正确和有力量的语言回应对方，让别人也理解自己。</p>
<p>让互动变的更加愉快。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>做个能明确表达个人需要<br>也能关爱满足他人需要的人。</p>','2024-11-01 00:40:49.801','2024-11-01 00:41:08.307',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 00:41:08.306',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a4f9721-81ed-4b11-b428-a2bfb97ff5d5','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>作者分享從未有過思考方式，</p>
<p>去理解不說謊和正語的真諦。</p>
<p>花了幾年的時間領悟與實踐</p>
<p>發現要發自內心的改變自己的思考模式</p>
<p>才能說出適切得體的話語。</p>
<p>把說話當作靈修，為自己的話語注入深厚意念時，<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">必須做到的行動與學問，並把那些話將內心的自我連結，反映出內心真正面貌。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">當能落實這件事時 能幫自己創造出一個更理想的生活環境，並留給後代子孫一個更美好的未來。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">因為好好說話的話語可以提升生活品質的力量。</span></p>','2024-11-01 00:43:45.205','2024-11-01 00:43:45.205',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 00:43:45.205',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2c97760-edaf-4f85-ac7f-a2f561949b61','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>非暴力沟通需要刻意练习，要时而记得把话说好是一种灵修上的提升。</p>','2024-11-01 09:43:25.599','2024-11-01 09:43:25.599',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 09:43:25.599',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6795c9af-236d-4a26-9cdb-00edd4edde5c','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">沟通是一种改变自我和提升自我觉察的工具。口语沟通是形塑人类发展的根本。言语可以带来爱与希望，也可以引燃战火。言语是带着强大改变的力量。一个人的话语反映他的想法，想法反映他的信念，信念主宰一个人的世界。而一个人的想法，信念和感受又强烈形塑我们的言语，反映出自己内心的世界。这仿佛是一个循环。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">非暴力沟通是让自己看见自己说话的最原始的动机和背后蕴藏的意图。先学会自我觉察，和自己对话，才是好的沟通的开始。自我觉察让自己改变了思考模式，进而逃脱恶性的沟通模式。这也是让自己学习八正道里&ldquo;正语&rdquo;的具体方法。非暴力沟通是一种新的语言，一种充分表达同理心和慈悲的语言。这样带着意识的说话方式也让自己更好的自我连结，反映出自己内心真正的面貌。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">学好和应用非暴力沟通是需要大量的练习，可以通过给自己做记录，找搭档练习，组织团体练习和交流。给自己创造环境很重要，这才有更好的学习的机会。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">今天，联络了自己的非暴力沟通的老师，并且给自己立下每周参加老师的线上非暴力沟通练习课的意愿。</span></p>','2024-11-01 00:55:43.519','2024-11-01 01:51:01.646',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 01:51:01.645',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('56697a3e-5d16-4620-ae4b-5fb8f1819682','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>沟通不只影响你和我，也会代表自己传播出去给陌生人</p>','2024-11-01 13:29:36.459','2024-11-01 13:29:36.459',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 13:29:36.458',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ba1e94d0-3f1f-4aae-a55f-fac02e9a6729','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>在這世界上什麼是絕對的事實？</p>
<p>生和死，太陽系的活動，地心引力，其他的大部分都是看法而已。</p>
<p>在電話上用訊息溝通，寫下來寄出去的訊息常常都會馬上返回刪除。怎麼樣可以控制自己的衝動呢？希望可以在這個樹上得到答案。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>期待和大家沉浸在這個非暴力的學習團體一小段時光。</p>','2024-11-01 15:37:19.894','2024-11-01 15:37:20.833',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 15:37:20.832',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3ade07d7-fb64-412a-9e32-1c697654fdf3','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>非暴力沟通是可以通过刻意练习，一同探索非暴力沟通的美好；但愿能从中受惠。</p>','2024-11-01 15:59:58.606','2024-11-01 16:00:02.655',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 16:00:02.65',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8d2fbb0e-d53f-4608-b993-069217a630ac','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>当我听到．．时</p>
<p>我感到．．</p>
<p>因为我需要．．</p>
<p>你愿意&hellip; 吗？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-07 22:13:34.358','2024-11-07 22:13:34.358',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 22:13:34.357',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f6b052d-6715-412b-9d9e-71fe01811d5b','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>【意图】是非暴力沟通的基础。【语法】只是帮助我们&ldquo;想起意图&rdquo; 的一种策略。</p>
<p>而运用非暴力沟通的意图是&ldquo;建立连结&rdquo;，先和自己连结，再和他人建立连结。从连结中创造双赢的局面。</p>
<p>先了解自己的感受和需求，才能看见和他人沟通中自己的反应的原因。我到底哪里不满足了？对方到底为何如此反应？在这个自我探索的过程中，让自己对自己在沟通中的意图清晰，那么在沟通中，自己才能达到和自己一致性。那么自己才能真的为自己负责。</p>
<p>做父母尽量不犯&ldquo;有一种冷是妈妈觉得你冷&rdquo;，让孩子和自己的感知和感受失去连结。</p>','2024-11-01 01:47:59.806','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a54fb331-688e-413e-881a-83ec10aa64d7','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>这本书的诞生是基于一种愿望，即帮助人们更好地理解非暴力沟通的核心理念和方法。作者认为，语言不仅是表达思想的工具，更是一种能够促进和谐、理解和共鸣的力量。非暴力沟通的对话方式让人们能够在沟通中更好地觉察到彼此的感受和需求，从而减少冲突与误解。</p>','2024-11-01 02:16:37.026','2024-11-01 02:16:37.026',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 02:16:37.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4783ffbc-962a-44b0-82aa-706f4c3fefac','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>大家好，我是刘祐辰。很开心来得及参与这本书的读书会，谢谢Rina的最后通碟！😅</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>＂沟通＂是人生一门很重要的学问，正确的沟通方式让许多人成了成功人士而开心，错误的沟通方式让许多人成了＂失败的man＂而伤心。</p>
<p>希望从作者的开示，可以得益良多。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 07:14:23.075','2024-11-01 07:14:23.075',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 07:14:23.073',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('836f37c6-1ef3-40e5-8dd9-80e84daa3f5b','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>身体是感知体。身体让我们不断接收到所感知的讯息，不断更新自己的感受，那就是自己的情绪。这感受也包括了潜意识层面。集中注意力，注意到自己的内心的状态。感受就像似通往内心的一扇窗，提醒自己是否是感受&ldquo;满足&rdquo;还是&ldquo;不满足&rdquo;的状态里。一个人的感受是非常主观的，这是和成长过程和环境有关。同一件事，不同人的感受会带来不同观点。</p>
<p>所以，非暴力沟通的模式需要自己把自己的感受和他人说话和做事分开来看。那么，自己才能看清事实的真实的一面。而不是让自己的感受给自己看见的事实裹上一层外衣，而造成自己看不见事情的真实的样子。</p>','2024-11-01 02:37:06.398','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;<br><br>习惯一积极主动：用自己的自我意识、良知、想像力和独立意志想清楚自己的动机；</p>
<p>习惯二以始为终：设想想做的不同的事情；</p>
<p>习惯三要事第一：实现这一切；</p>
<p>习惯四双赢思维：富足心态，高效关系的基础；</p>
<p>习惯五知彼解己：倾听了解对方；</p>
<p>习惯六统合综效：敞开胸怀，接纳一切奇怪的想法，尊重差异，取长补短。</p>','2024-11-01 08:08:51.151','2024-11-01 08:08:51.151',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 08:08:51.149',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f85b561-ae64-42ad-b1e9-0cb03a629669','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>非暴力溝通的根本原意圖就是「建立連結」，先和自己建立連結，然后才試着與他人輕連結，</p>
<p>希望藉着詞遺字和對話的對象，說出有意義又能引發共鳴的說話。</p>','2024-11-01 07:29:04.624','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5087701-309a-4010-89c0-7671670b4123','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>非暴力沟通的四个基本步骤：</p>
<p>1）观察 - 客观陈述状况</p>
<p>2）感受 - 说出你的感受</p>
<p>3） 需要 - 表达你的需要</p>
<p>4）请求 - 提出具体的请求</p>
<p>观察，是需要能够理解什么是&ldquo;主观意识&rdquo;，什么是&rdquo;客观论述&ldquo;。每个人都有属于自己的信念和主观判断。如果带着这样的语言渗入沟通里，自己的主观就会阻断自己看清事实真相，也让彼此偏离正题，变成进入一场争论赛。</p>
<p>自己主观的判断或评判是带着自己的心中的那一把尺，自己的信念，观点去评估和判断他人。这意味着：我是对的，你是错的。或者，我的比较好，你的不好。动机是比较，分别。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 02:15:26.318','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cd7c301a-7306-4d59-9478-b90e0dbd7e8a','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 47&nbsp; 11月1日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第九章 283页 &ndash; 288页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对关键事物&mdash;团结</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对重大事务&mdash;求变</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对所有事物&mdash;宽大</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">同和忠孝可以创造奇迹，也能激发人类最大潜能。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">统和中效的精髓就是判断和尊重差异，取长补短。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">统合综效能a让每一个人都真正实现自我，自尊自强，有机会完成从依赖到独立，再到相互依赖的成熟过程。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">敞开胸怀，博采丛议</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">见了一切奇怪的想法，同时也贡献自己的地。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">课堂上的统合综效</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通三层次</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">花时间建立情感账户，彼此了解，了解他人的兴趣、希望、目标、顾虑、背景、信念、想法。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">从图9-1 沟通的层次，意识到底层次的沟通源自低信任度，其特点是人与人之间互相提防，步步为营，经常借助法律说话，为情况恶化作打算，其结果只能是赢/输或者输/赢毫无效率，产出与产能不平衡，最后只能是让人们更有理由进行自我的防卸和保护。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">统合综效大于二，原至高兴温度的统合中效能带来比原来更好的解决方案，每一个参与者都能认识到这一点，并全心享受这种创造性的事业。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-01 10:23:46.261','2024-11-01 10:23:48.049',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 10:23:48.047',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16dea3c6-cdf7-4609-bf38-cd62266b23f6','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">言词是灵魂的写照：&ldquo;一个人怎么说话，就是怎样的人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学习一种新的语言，一种能充分表达同理心empathy和慈悲compassion的语言。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">把说话当作一种灵修，是我们为自己的话注入深厚意念时，必须做到的行动和学问，如此那些话语才能将我们与内心的自我连结，反映出心中真正的面膜。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果我们能落实这些事，就能帮自己创造出一个更理想的生活环境，并留给后代子孙一个更美好的未来，因为我们的话语有提升生活品质的力量。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">发自内心的改变自己的思考模式拍，才能说出适切得体的话语。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">掌握非暴力沟通的技巧：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。撰写日记：记下在与自我和他人建立连结时，会为你带来助力或阻力的特定措辞或语句；或者记下在对话练习时，得到的经验或体悟。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2。寻找搭档：找一位朋友，请他当我的同理心伙伴、帮助我应对困难的对话。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3。组织团队：组成一个非暴力沟通的对话练习读书会，没周互相交流。</span></p>','2024-11-01 15:07:19.125','2024-11-01 15:07:19.125',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 15:07:19.123',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fb43ca58-3daf-4b3c-bdc8-6385002648d6','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>統合綜效就係整體大部份之和，是人類所有活動中最高級的一種，是對所有其他習慣的真實考驗和習中體驗。綜合綜效的精髓就是判斷和尊重差異取長補短。</p>','2024-11-01 11:31:55.425','2024-11-01 11:32:10.029',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 11:32:10.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4065b92-2ec0-404a-87e7-56576c9249e2','32cd378e-060c-4116-b64f-754152da9802','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>今天开始要学一种新语言， 需要有意识地去观察到情绪和心理状态，甚至思维模式及不断练习。。。。。让它形成一种说话习惯。</p>
<p>期待</p>','2024-11-01 11:49:50.157','2024-11-01 11:49:50.157',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 11:49:50.156',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf9f8357-46a2-4bdd-ab54-87f3d69618b5','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>英文Synengise 更能了解统合综效的意思。</p>
<p>书中有提及不要陈述，把重点放在聆听，这样就不会掉入自我辨护的陷阱，反而会放开的提出意见。</p>
<p>但是我相信这一切的前提是大家都俱備有一样的frequency。</p>','2024-11-01 12:55:06.326','2024-11-01 12:55:06.326',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 12:55:06.325',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c3f9830-05d2-477b-bcca-62b0e567d797','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>统合综效，主要是合着不同人的力量，共同创造1+1大于2的效果。</p>
<p>前面5个习惯都为习惯6做基础。敞开胸怀，接受意见，进行讨论，会有合作发挥更大效果的空间</p>','2024-11-01 13:49:55.325','2024-11-01 13:49:55.325',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 13:49:55.323',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ed6dd21-f52b-4e66-bbcc-4d415e7c5f9f','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>综合综效<br>创造性合作的原则<br>如果对方和我意见不同，必定尚有我还没体会的奥妙，值得加以了解。重视不同心理，情绪与智能，以个人视角看不同世界。</p>','2024-11-01 13:51:37.433','2024-11-01 13:51:37.433',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 13:51:37.432',NULL,NULL);
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<li>敞开胸怀接纳所有意见/想法，同时，也说出自己想法</li>
<li>当敞开心扉去谈论一件事，接受不同意见，并整合出另一个方法来</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 15:20:17.806','2024-11-01 15:20:17.806',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 15:20:17.805',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1bfd5897-836c-4870-b1ec-4b0c918d8c48','1e7de108-4daa-4624-85b2-c21e6c4ea107','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>与人合作最重要的是，重视不同个体的不同心理，情绪与智能，以及个人眼中所见到的不同世界。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>自以为是的人总以为自己最客观，别人都有所偏担。</p>
<p>一个家庭会有一种氛围，通过这种氛围。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">我们可以看出家庭成员交往的积极或者消极程度。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 15:41:05.319','2024-11-01 15:41:05.319',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-01 15:41:05.318',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6b162b65-eeb2-496b-9e27-6409d30637b7','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>「练习与自己建立连结」，去探索内心的自我需要。需要再消化，去理解如何看清自己的需要。有试过一些情景是当孩子问我问题而事后对我当时做出的回应有所质疑，觉得下次应该这样回应。</p>','2024-11-01 13:54:23.071','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea87e8fa-2b60-4478-939b-5ca5047f2a76','02cd305b-65dc-47ab-a840-38ac9778297a','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 47&nbsp; 11月1日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第九章 283页 &ndash; 288页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">统合综效的精髓就是判断和尊重差异，取长补短。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">❌少一些防御意识、针锋相对和自私自利，自我封闭，占有欲望。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅多一些坦诚相待、相互信赖和慷慨大方，仁慈爱心。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">运用统合综效的方法完成的使命宣言。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴沟通三层次</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">信任度vs沟通层次</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣互相提防</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">（赢/输或输/赢模式）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣互相尊重（妥协）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣统合综效（双赢）</span><span class="s2"><br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-27 07:34:33.725','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d213e12a-759b-41e3-aebe-a61227749e91','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>觉得要做到表里如一的言谈，有点不实际， 也许我还没深入了解其真正的意思，所以目前觉得不太能接受。</p>','2024-11-01 08:52:42.141','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e0fc43e2-5b38-43ce-97be-b1e27598e643','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day2：11月 2日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第一章： 【不说谎】 和【正语】（Page027-034）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">说话的艺术。言语就是一把刀，一言既出，驷马难追，所以要先想清楚后才表达自己。所以作者提醒我们如果无论关心自己，了解自我的感受和需要，那说出口的话就无法如实反映自己的本意，那么人与人之间的关系就扭曲了。期待什么是实践&rdquo;正语&rdquo;和&rdquo;不说谎&rdquo;的方法，那么就可以把说话当作是一个灵修，持续的精进修为，把修练修好，人与人的关系就更好了。</span></p>','2024-10-31 08:31:42.64','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('39d84b2a-5748-41ee-b9b3-955821b6726d','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>言语的力量强大，影响人生。</p>
<p>&ldquo;我的话语反映了我的想法，我的想法反映了我的信念，而我的信念，尤其是那些未经审视的信念，主宰了我的世界。&rdquo;</p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">口语沟通影响人的举止和与人互动的方式，并决定了他人看待和对待自己的方式。言语是形塑个人和人类发展的根本。&ldquo;正语&rdquo;的力量太强大了。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">从自我觉察开始（observation），先关心自己，了解自己的感受（feeling）和需求（need），才能做到一致性的沟通。沟通的动机和意图是先了解彼此真正的感受和需求。</span></p>','2024-11-01 01:11:49.977','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2e5a6b86-afba-4f45-a382-e65ccd140cd3','02cd305b-65dc-47ab-a840-38ac9778297a','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>意见分歧时，寻找第三条可行之道。</p>
<p>要实现人际关系中的统合综效，关键是首先实现个人的统合综效，个人的统合综效在前三个习惯的原则中都有体现，这些原则赋予人们足够的安全感，让人们变得开放、坦率，不惧风险。只有将这些原则内化，我们才能有双赢所必须的知足心态，才能真正做到&ldquo;知彼解己&rdquo;。</p>
<p>与人合作最重要的是，重视不同个体的不同心理、情绪与智能，以及个人眼中所见到的不同世界。</p>','2024-11-01 08:14:50.608','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4d898649-67d0-4b69-9bff-6fda21d808b4','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>一直都在学习「不违心」的表达自己的想法。</p>
<p>很多时候，以为自己不伤害他人（不是真实想法）的表达，是为了他人好，孰不知这种说法是容易让人误解</p>','2024-11-01 12:11:12.334','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88f56f81-d04b-4f84-b019-603cb2bb965c','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>先关心自己内心的想法，了解自我的感受和需要，而说出的话如实反映我们的本意。身边也不乏喜欢"说反话"的人，总没办法好好的说出内心真实的想法。</p>','2024-11-01 13:42:14.667','2024-11-02 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('320cfcff-d8a3-47ff-b398-33e6497883a6','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>我们的表达方式,语气,内容不只会影响他人看待自己，也会影响身边人的情绪。而且聽到我的表達的人之后也可能去傳達&amp;影响他的的朋友,其他人！</p>','2024-11-02 01:43:08.816','2024-11-02 01:43:36.111',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 01:43:36.11',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7fa8fa50-a5ec-424c-a6aa-b63b53456442','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>瑜伽經有五戒：</p>
<p>不傷害，不說謊，不偷盜，不縱慾，不貪婪</p>
<p>佛教有八正道：</p>
<p>智慧，德行，心法</p>
<p>（正見，正思維，正語，正業 ，正命，正精進，正念，正定）</p>
<p>非暴力溝通實踐瑜伽和佛教的修習。</p>
<p>教導我們「不說謊」，「不傷害」，「要自省」与「內在覺知」。</p>','2024-11-02 05:28:10.048','2024-11-02 05:28:10.048',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 05:28:10.047',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('37eccff4-0edf-4ac6-8284-524e430ac0b1','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>瑜伽经（patanjali）的五个持戒是不伤害，不说谎，不偷盗，不纵欲，不贪婪。佛教的八个正道包挂:智慧:正见，正思维。德行:正语，正业，正命。心法:正精进，正念，正定。</p>
<p>言语的力量很大，要言之有物，开口前要注意措辞。把说话当做是一种灵修，运用这灵修与他人建立良好的连接。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-01 02:01:45.657','2024-11-02 02:48:17.611',NULL,'f','2024-11-02 00:00:00.015','2024-11-02 02:48:17.61',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('71a047df-3def-4ebc-8c01-db46a525cd8a','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>&ldquo;不说谎&rdquo;和&ldquo;正语&rdquo;不只是针对外在的事实，更重要的是心里面的&ldquo;感受&rdquo;。学习交心，对身边的人事物多一点的信任，表里一致，我们的世界会因此而越来越温馨和美好。心要正，说话和行为就会正，身边留下的也将会是正能量的朋友。</p>','2024-11-02 08:16:37.659','2024-11-02 08:16:57.965',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 08:16:57.964',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b1bd8a7-a244-4245-a2e1-77071ce4d5ee','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>現在正值美國選舉的最後一週，也就是言語暴力到達巔峰的一週。雙方人馬無所不用其極地將對方用最暴力的方式批評，更誇張的是，用無中生有的指正去數落對方，不就是為了贏得選民的一票。</p>','2024-11-02 08:17:39.88','2024-11-02 08:17:42.193',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 08:17:42.192',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8626633-852f-4b6e-84a3-cdb81bca1406','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>透过非爆力沟通，实践瑜伽和佛教的修习。</p>
<p>我的话语反映了我的想法，我的想法反映了我的信念，而我的信念，主宰了我的世界。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不论我的想法有无经过审视，它们都会形塑我的举止和我与她人互动的方式，并决定了他人看待和对待我的方式，举列来说，假如自己认为自己是一个毫无价值的人，就会表现出自己是那样的举动。</p>
<p>其他人也会这样的对自己，自证成功。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们可以把话当作是一种灵修，持续精进修为，并运用这份修习与他人建立良好的连接。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-02 11:03:18.566','2024-11-02 11:03:18.566',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 11:03:18.565',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('624765c8-a085-4ca3-86c0-670ec8db7aa1','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>目前的社会充满着体霸凌、言语霸凌、网络精神霸凌、美丽的妄语，而导致太多人精神分裂的例子是越来越多，那么要改善这个局面<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">修行(为) ，修心(境) ，修灵(魂) 实在是所有人的主要功课。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>非常认同佛教的八个正道包挂:</p>
<p>智慧:正见，正思维。</p>
<p>德行:正语，正业，正命。</p>
<p>心法:正精进，正念，正定。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>个人觉得我此时此刻的境界学习如何提高通过沟通可以达到给人信心，给人欢喜，给人希望，会比较适合和舒服！</p>
<p>此外要先内观自己，爱自己，因为这无形中形成了我们与外界的沟通与相处方式，也导致了别人将如何看待我们。</p>
<p>先做到不口出恶言，不伤害别人为初心。</p>
<p>当然初衷是要做到正念，正语，正精进。</p>
<p>至于要做到＂不打妄语＂随说简单，这对整个社会要承担的后果和压力还是相当大的考验！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-02 11:52:11.738','2024-11-02 12:19:44.796',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 12:19:44.795',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('68d61a32-6788-493c-87b0-7070e2ab2f2f','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>我必须刻意节制自己的言论，不要让伤人的话脱口而出。我所说的话会呈现我的思维和对世界的信念。</p>
<p>所以要时时关注自我，检视自己的内心，然后再检视自己的言谈。</p>
<p>说话方式应该要先和自己建立（表里如一，关心自己，了解自我的感受和需要），再和身边的人连结，最后才和事物连结。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-02 12:36:44.473','2024-11-02 12:36:48.735',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 12:36:48.734',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('840d320a-4d56-4ffd-833d-8d786e1fdc8d','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>02/11/2024<br>&nbsp;瑜伽经五戒：不谎言（证实）与佛经八正道：不伤人。<br>&nbsp;组织领导或是国家领导的每一句语言都非常有影响力。<br>必须有智慧与人沟通。<br>方能修身，齐家，治国平天下。<br>&nbsp;沟通的力量可以影响身边的人，夫妻，孩子，家属，同事伙伴，下属，客户。<br>所谓<br>善言：贵人满天下<br>恶语：人人远离之</p>','2024-11-02 12:05:31.118','2024-11-02 12:05:31.118',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 12:05:31.117',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('981aed5a-47cb-42b2-9035-a221bd2b74fb','02cd305b-65dc-47ab-a840-38ac9778297a','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>當雙方有問題時有各自的解決方法倒致雙方都不满，可以尋找第三種選擇。尋找第三種選擇需要從非此即彼的思想中走出來，實現重要的模式轉換，前後結果天差地別。</p>','2024-11-02 13:02:37.139','2024-11-02 13:02:37.139',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 13:02:37.138',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('64064a65-4278-409c-a4c5-86fd40cf8696','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>非暴力溝通最基本的技巧是內在覺知 Inner Awareness，它提供了思考與練習說話的具體方法，讓言語發揮更大正面能量。</p>
<p>內心覺知視察內省自己的初心。理解『我不是我的想法』是重要觀念的基礎。</p>
<p>養成時刻關注自我的習慣 有助於檢視自己內心做起 然後檢視自己的言談 對照自己是否表裡如一！</p>
<p>當把說話當成靈修並持續修為 我們可以運用這份修習與他人建立良好連結。</p>','2024-11-02 13:31:15.639','2024-11-02 13:31:15.639',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 13:31:15.638',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01ccb4b4-a5c6-4c36-8e35-c5aa87b3077a','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>非暴力沟通：说实话</p>
<p>先与自己建立连接，才能与他人建立连接</p>
<p>关照自我需要，是好好说话的第一步</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-02 23:20:42.917','2024-11-02 23:20:42.917',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 23:20:42.916',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca2b6ed6-f828-465b-9987-0181295dd049','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>意图才是非暴力沟通的基础，语法只是帮助我们想起意图的策略。</p>
<p>关照自我需要，是好好说话的第一步</p>
<p>练习探索自我，自问自己下次可以采取什么不一样的行动，来强化自己喜欢的部分，改变自己不喜欢的部分。</p>
<p>要依照需要选择新的可能性，吸取经验，跳脱过往的习惯模式。</p>','2024-11-02 09:25:12.537','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5ebe6bf4-9086-41f0-ae22-c92c48813eb2','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>非暴力沟通最重要的三个口号就是：</p>
<p>说实话。说实话。说实话。</p>
<p>运用非暴力沟通的根本意图就是&ldquo;建立连结&rdquo;：先与自己建立连结，然后才试着与他人建立连结。</p>
<p>观照自我需要，是好好说话的第一步。</p>
<p>&ldquo;探索自我&rdquo;是修习瑜伽和佛教冥想的核心。所以，自问和说话就成了一种灵修。</p>','2024-11-03 05:37:51.738','2024-11-03 05:37:51.738',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 05:37:51.736',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">第一章： 【不说谎】 和【正语】（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page027-034</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">正语：增进说话者的修为。<br>如何修炼正语？非暴力沟通的技巧中，&ldquo;内在觉知&rdquo;为基本要素。</span></p>
<ol>
<li class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">养成&ldquo;时时关注自我&rdquo;</span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">先与自己建立连结，再与他人产生连结，最后才与手头上的事件建立连结</span></li>
</ol>','2024-11-02 14:20:02.645','2024-11-02 14:20:02.645',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 14:20:02.643',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第九章 289页 &ndash; 293页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">寻找第三条道路</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">充足的情感账户、双赢模式、先理解别人的原则，就是实现创造性统合综效的理想环境。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">消极协作减效</span><span class="s2"><br>寻找第三条高路需要从非此即彼的思维中走出来，实现重要的模式转换，全后，结果天差地别。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在相互依赖的环境中，人们在解决问题和下决定的时候，往往将太多的时间和精力耗费在玩弄权术、唇枪舌剑、彼此提防、争权夺势和放马后炮等消极无意的事情上。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">缺乏安全感的人认为所有的人和事都应该依照他们的办公室。他们总会想利用克隆技术，以自己的思想改造别人。人际关系最可贵的地方就是人接触到不同的模式。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">相同不是统一，一致也不等于团结，统一和团结意味着互补，而不是相同。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">统合综效的精髓就是尊重差异。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">尊重差异</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">与人合作最重要的事，重视不同个体的不同心理、情绪与智能，以及个人眼中所看见到的不同世界。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-02 14:40:41.316','2024-11-02 14:40:44.828',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 14:40:44.827',NULL,NULL);
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<p>寻找第三种选择，他不是一種妥協，而是集合雙方的顧慮和理解後而尋找的第三中可能。</p>
<p>要做到雙贏，利用左右腦。</p>','2024-11-02 14:46:38.366','2024-11-02 14:46:38.366',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 14:46:38.365',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8dd17f1-72de-4a75-966e-df7d5213e67c','02cd305b-65dc-47ab-a840-38ac9778297a','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 48&nbsp; 11月2日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第九章 289页 &ndash; 293页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">低信任度，低沟通层次，输赢模式。</p>
<p dir="ltr">中信任度，中沟通层次，妥协模式，1+1=1.5。</p>
<p dir="ltr">高信任度，高沟通层次，统合综效，1+1&gt;2。</p>
<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">总有第三种更两全其美的方法，在于双方需要了解对方的需求。</p>
<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">而且，我们需要学习尊重差异。不是每个人都一样，相同不是统一，一致也不是等于团结。每个人有个别的长处，短处，学习接纳很重要。</p>','2024-11-02 15:06:37.465','2024-11-02 15:06:37.465',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:06:37.465',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5449df74-9f13-442d-b2f4-142551b23873','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<p>在遇到委屈的事情时，因为放大了&rdquo; 我&rdquo;替自己打抱不平而说反话，结果与人的关系也因此变差。伤害了对方，也伤害了自己！ &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>不说谎和说正语，提醒了我时刻要觉察自己内心深处的需要和感受，注意说的每一句话才可以如实反映自己的本意。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-02 15:11:56.244','2024-11-02 15:13:33.73',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:13:33.729',NULL,NULL);
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<p>练习与自己建立连结。<br>和自己搭上线<br>才有可能与他人搭上线。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>练习看清自己的需要<br>才能看清他人的需求<br>才回应他人<br><br></p>','2024-11-02 14:51:30.015','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a15a93a8-e3a3-4205-bf32-77e3256d30b1','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day3：11月3 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第二章： 什么是非暴力沟通？（Page035-040）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一开始作者：就重要说实话x3次</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第一步，跟自己沟通。跟自己建立连结，然后才尝试跟他人建立连接。跟自己和解，才能跟他人的建立关系更好。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;下一次我可以採取什么不重一样的行动，让我的需求要得到更大的满足。还有关照好自己的&rdquo;需要&rdquo;，跳脱过去的习惯模式。当自己的需要搭上线，自己的意图越清晰，说话成了一种灵修。</span></p>','2024-11-03 06:40:44.474','2024-11-03 06:40:44.474',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 06:40:44.472',NULL,NULL);
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<p>重要的事情要重复3次</p>
<p>＂说实话，说实话，说实话＂</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1。跟自己沟通，跟自己建立连接，自己可以接纳自己了，他人才有可能接纳自己的看法。</p>
<p>2。跟他人沟通，跟他人建立连接，他人接纳了，再进一步的沟通。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>练习跟自己和解（3次），才能有机会跟他人和解，建立良好关系！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 07:16:21.027','2024-11-03 07:16:21.027',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 07:16:21.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p dir="ltr">😇第十章 326页 &ndash; 329页<strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人生的四个层面休戚相关：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">身体坚强，有助于心智发展，精神提升有益与人际关系的圆满。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">越是积极主动（习惯一）就越能在生活中有效地实施自我领导（习惯二）和管理（习惯三）；越是有效管理自己的生活（习惯三），就能从事越多的第二类事物的更新活动（习惯七）；越能先理解别人（习惯五）就业能找到同和综效的双赢解决方案（习惯四和六）；越是在培养独立性的习惯方面加以改进（习惯一、二、三），就越能在相互依赖的环境下提高效能（习惯四、五、六）；而自我更新测试，强化所有这些习惯的过程（习惯七）。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">身体层面的自我更新等同意强化个人愿景。他帮助我们增强积极性、自我意识和独立意志，让我们制造自己是自由的，不需要被动地承受他的行为后果。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">精神层面的更新等同于强化自我领导（习惯二）。他帮助我们更好地按照想象和良知行事，深入理解个人思维和价值观，确定核心的正确原则，明确自己在生活中的独立使命，改变思维和行为模式，以及坚持正确原则，并利用个人的资源优势。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">精神层面的更新，让个人生活变得更加丰富。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">智力层面的更新，等同于强化自我管理（习惯三）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">他帮助你在做计划的时候，确定属于第二类事物的重要活动，优先安排能够有效利用时间和经历的目标与活动，围绕这些组织并开展活动。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">稳定的经济基础并非来自工作，而是来自个人的才能（思考、学习、创造、调整）真正的经济独立不是家财万贯，而是拥有创造财富的能力。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每天的个人领域的成功</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第二类事务会集中必有经历将所有习惯整合到生活中，让你以原则作为生活的中心。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每天的公众领域的成功</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">是你更新社会情感层面所需要的内在安全感的来源。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">它赐予你力量，让你能够在相互依赖的环境中专注于自己的影响前，及以知足的心态对待他人，真诚尊重彼此的差异，为他们的成功感到高兴。它是实现真正的理解和同和重要的双赢解决方案，并是在相互依赖的环境中时间习惯是、五、六的基础。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">螺旋式上升</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">自我提升和完善是一种原则，也是一个过程，一个在成长和转变之间螺旋式上升的过程，一个不断完善自我的过程（见图10-2）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-08 12:40:07.337','2024-11-08 12:40:07.337',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 12:40:07.335',NULL,NULL);
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<p>Impact- 感到有motivation&nbsp;</p>
<p>Growth: 我要多多学习这技能</p>','2024-12-11 14:14:40.515','2024-12-11 14:14:40.515',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-11 14:14:40.514',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a91a5d67-6dc7-4315-ae8c-b9baab1745e2','02cd305b-65dc-47ab-a840-38ac9778297a','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 48 &nbsp;11月2日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》&nbsp;<br>😇第九章 289页 &ndash; 293页</p>
<p>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>沟通的层次 (信任度vs合作层次)<br>1) 低层次 : 赢输或输赢 - 互相提防<br>2) 中层次 : 妥协 - 互相尊重<br>3) 高层次 : 双赢 - 统合综效</p>
<p><br>统合综效 意味着1+1等于8或16，甚至1600。<br>有商有量直到找出双方都满意的解决方案(第三种选择)。不是妥协，不是交易，而是变革。<br>第三种选择需要从非此即彼的思想中过出来，实现重要的模式转换。问题不在于逻辑，而是心理使然。</p>
<p><br>实现个人的统合综效，赋予足够的安全感。变得开放，坦率，不惧风险，知足心态才能真正做到"知彼解己"。&nbsp;</p>
<p><br>统合综效的精髓就是尊重差异。虚怀若谷的人承认自己有不足之外，而乐于在与人交往中汲取丰富的知识见解，重视不同的意见。三人行必有我师焉。</p>
<p><br>左脑主司管理，右脑主司领导。左石脑需要统合综效。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！<br>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-02 15:16:21.624','2024-11-02 15:16:45.744',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:16:45.743',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b9a2dfd-7908-43ca-a0b7-57bb1ca7561f','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>要时时关注自己。从检视自己内心开始，然后见识自己的言谈。 先与你自己建立连接，再与你身边的人建立连接，最后才与你手上要处理的事物建立连接。</p>
<p>先了自我的感受和需要，说出我我们本意一样的话。</p>','2024-11-02 15:23:20.533','2024-11-02 15:23:20.533',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:23:20.532',NULL,NULL);
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<li>运用同理心倾听，了解对方内心需要和感受，俩人坦诚沟通后，并一起做出一个俩人都满意的决定，而不是只有一方赢的决定</li>
<li>尊重差异，允许有不同的想法</li>
</ul>','2024-11-02 15:35:19.844','2024-11-02 15:35:19.844',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:35:19.841',NULL,NULL);
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<p>决定了别人和这个世界怎么对待我。</p>','2024-11-02 15:48:54.823','2024-11-02 15:48:54.823',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:48:54.822',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fdc96133-d425-4144-b285-202773825031','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>回归初心，提醒关注自我想法。检视自己的言谈，看看自己做到表里如一。集体化我的信念。</p>
<p>表达自我的方式，会影响我们的想法，也会影响其他人，事，物建立关系的方式。</p>','2024-11-02 15:56:50.229','2024-11-02 15:56:50.229',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:56:50.228',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83ad06b4-8bba-488d-8e2d-626b2393edd1','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>能夠節制自己的言論，避免脫口而出傷人的話；是一種智慧。每一句話出口前，都應清楚自己在說什麼；這樣才能保持溫和、尊重，讓溝通更有建設性。</p>','2024-11-02 15:58:42.545','2024-11-02 15:58:42.545',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:58:42.544',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('39d8b1b9-bdf7-4f7d-a8bc-35c3c890c171','72571130-58bb-4b4e-92a1-3eb448be6d7c','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p>倘若我們無法先關心自己，了解自我的感受和需要，我們說出口的話就無法如實反映我們的本意。</p>','2024-11-02 15:59:12.524','2024-11-02 15:59:12.524',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 15:59:12.523',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f00c6eb-9e06-4bd8-98d4-f645509fa4f2','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>這個章節裡提到一個我一直再犯的盲點。</p>
<p>需要設法消減阻力，因為一味地增加推力，就放佛施力與彈簧上，總有一天會反彈。</p>','2024-09-28 13:29:39.758','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b30ddeb7-44a7-493e-9f64-a175cf13652b','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「運用非暴力溝通的根本意圖就是「建立連結」：先與自己建立連結，然後才試著與他人建立連結。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-28 05:28:40.491','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ef3446ae-158a-4d17-a782-692b5a78db01','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>化阻力为动力<br>动力是积极，合理，自觉，符合经济效应的力量。<br><br>自然界是综合综效的最佳典范<br><br></p>','2024-11-02 13:23:54.055','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dd5c4636-30e2-4a49-9256-e8d54389bf06','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>以习惯四双赢思维为目标，以习惯五知彼解己为技巧，以习惯六统合综效为交往方式来应对阻力，就能营造出一个让所有人都能畅所欲言的环境，人们在得到自由的同时也吸收了新的思想，促成阻力向动力的转化。</p>
<p>参与的程度越深，人们对分析和解决问题的投入就越多，释放出来的创造力就越大，越需要对最后的结果负责任。</p>','2024-11-01 08:18:29.144','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d937f424-79af-4ba0-896e-6588c44ecf54','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>探索自我是修习瑜伽和佛教冥想的核心。</p>
<p>非暴力沟通的核心不只要养成相关技能和实践他们，还要依照需要选择新的可能，从中获取经验，和自己的需要搭上线，说话就成了一种灵修。</p>','2024-11-02 02:46:58.581','2024-11-03 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032','2024-11-03 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c38b09bd-2a8c-4bb9-9702-3032f1de771d','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>什么是非爆力沟通就是说实话，说实话，说实话。</p>
<p>首先需要与自己建立连接，内心深处的修行。</p>
<p>如果我们无法与自己的需要搭上线，就不可能与他人搭上线。</p>
<p>探索自我是一个瑜伽和佛法的核心，去探究日常的交流和行动。</p>
<p>探索自我是找到自己的需要。</p>
<p>诚实的表达自己的需要。</p>
<p>我需要什么？？</p>
<p>我需要思维独立，经济独立，行为独立</p>
<p>所以我阅读是让自己的思维独立铺路。</p>
<p>我学习经营小红书是为自己的经济独立铺路</p>
<p>行为上的独立离不开思维独立和经济独立。</p>
<p>此书很棒，还是回到原点，找到自己的需要。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 00:52:39.8','2024-11-03 00:52:39.8',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 00:52:39.799',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8202fbca-1e9f-451e-9f8a-e6c77c0b2061','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>溝通最重要的重點在於『溝通的意圖』而不是語法或措辭。</p>
<p>運用非暴力溝通的根本意圖就是『先與自己建立連結 後再與他人建立連結』。</p>
<p>意圖清晰後 對象清楚後 接下來就是採取合適措辭 善於用詞遣字 與對象聊得有意義、且能引發共鳴的話語。</p>
<p>好好說話的第一步就是關照自己的需要。</p>
<p>練習與自己連結能直視內心深處什麼需要被滿足 而沒被滿足的下一步行動又是什麼。</p>','2024-11-03 01:30:15.392','2024-11-03 01:30:15.392',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 01:30:15.391',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('57bd362a-e618-4b3f-ae15-3386c9c95187','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 49 &nbsp;10月3日 (星期日）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第九章 294页 &ndash; 298页<br>&nbsp;</p>
<p>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>&nbsp;统合综效是对付阻挠成长与改变的最有力途径。力场分析描述鼓励向上的动力和阻挠上进的阻力，如何等互动或平衡的状态。习惯六为交往方式来应对阻力。</p>
<p><br>七个习惯的真正力量也是存在于它们的相互关系中，而不是单个的习惯中。</p>
<p><br>有人不同意你的观点，你不一定要对他们表示赞同，但是可以表示肯定。可以坚持双赢模式，愿意努力给予理解和寻找统合综效的第三种选择。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-03 07:19:36.902','2024-11-03 07:19:36.902',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 07:19:36.901',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ca36b45-0cca-4f5d-8eeb-364bf327213a','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p><strong>Intention 【</strong>意图】才是非暴力沟通的基础。<strong>syntax【</strong>语法】只是帮助我们想起意图。</p>
<p>这一章提醒 ：说实话，说实话，说实话。运用非暴力沟通的根本意图就是【建立连结】- 先和自己在与他人。透过这样的连结达到双方满意的局面。</p>
<p>第一步，要练习看到内心深处，练习看自身的需求。反复确认自己某个举动满足了当下哪些需求及没有满足什么地方。下次我可以采取什么不一样的行动。</p>
<p>为了让自己自己的需求打上线，非暴力沟通的核心也要我们选择新的的可能性、从中获得经验，跳脱过往的习惯模式。</p>
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 08:54:32.332','2024-11-03 08:54:32.332',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 08:54:32.331',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e958610-18d0-43ea-9cff-e71bfec65270','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p>一位有智慧的领导者所言：&ldquo;工作再大的成功都难以弥补家庭的失败。</p>
<p>你在家的功课是你所做的最伟大的工作。家庭的重要性值得我们相较过去给予更多时间和关注。人们愿意花上百个小时思考工作策略的细节，但是却不愿意花几个小时计划一下怎么加强与家人的联系。</p>','2024-11-03 09:55:17.406','2024-11-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a7989e1-7464-4d42-9954-9cfc0077760c','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>统合宗效的方法不是妥协，因为妥协可能还是有期望不能被满足。要达到的是双赢。通过不断的了解和沟通，双方都得到满足。</p>
<p>把阻力变成动力，就看我们带着什么心理和信念解决阻力。向自然界学习，森林是我最长拿来当例子的。看哪植物和动物，生长和生存在一个生态系。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 10:09:29.001','2024-11-03 10:09:29.001',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 10:09:29',NULL,NULL);
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<p>学习非暴力沟通的四个基本步骤：</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">第一观察 - 客观陈述状况</span></p>
<p>要客观地形容事实状况，不要加入&ldquo;伪事实&rdquo;,不要加以评判。</p>','2024-11-04 07:25:25.103','2024-11-04 07:25:25.103',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 07:25:25.102',NULL,NULL);
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<p>不用追求开悟，只要懂得不再执着某些信念就好 。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>说话方式过于主观感受不会产生美好的连结。</p>','2024-11-04 01:11:33.922','2024-11-04 01:12:10.884',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 01:12:10.883',NULL,NULL);
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<p><strong>渐强音</strong>&rdquo;是一个音乐术语，意思是在演奏时要用力道达到更好的效果和音量。</p>
<p>它的反义词是&ldquo;<strong>渐弱音&rdquo;</strong>，意思是降低音量，渐渐撤退。一成不变，就会变得被动，生命渐渐沉寂。</p>','2024-11-03 09:57:30.593','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be167a37-f328-4b14-bee9-2bc1de393adc','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p>Finished on 13/11/2024</p>','2024-11-03 10:06:19.558','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('defcdb9e-321e-4572-911b-7b4472cfab0f','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p>习惯一：积极主动 - 不是在适当时候做决定的运气，而是他在适当时候的积极回应。<br>习惯二：以终为始 - 挑战是一样的：怎么用手上的资源让尽可能多的人受益。<br>习惯三：要事第一 - 雇佣最好的员工，开发几个重量级的软件；其余的事情都是次要的.<br>习惯四：双赢思维 - 把互补的各方结合成一个整体<br>习惯五：知彼解己 - 带着问题前进，尝试着掌握能解决, 最棘手问题的学问和方法。向朋友请教<br>习惯六：统合综效 - 1+1绝对大于2&nbsp;<br>习惯七：不断更新 - 定期抽出一整周阅读和反思，扫清一些障碍。。时时为你充电，达到真正的独立与成功的互赖。</p>','2024-11-03 10:10:12.07','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a9efa538-e7d8-46dd-a3d8-85591f54cada','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p dir="ltr">Day 49&nbsp; 10月3日 (星期日）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第九章 294页 &ndash; 298页</p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">自然界是统合综效的最佳典范</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不要在意别人的无礼行径，避开那些消极力量，发现并利用别人的优势，提高自己的认识，扩展自己的视野。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在相互依赖的环境中勇敢而坦率地表达自己的观点、情感和精力，借此鼓励他人同样地坦诚相待。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">尊重人与人之间的差异，但有人不同意你的观点的时候，你应该说：你跟我有不同的看法，这很好。你不一定要对他表示赞同，但是可以表示肯定，并尽量给予理解。如果你坚持双赢模式，确实愿意努力理解对方，你就能找到一种让每一个人都受益更多的解决方案。</span></p>
<p><strong><br><br><br></strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-03 10:03:36.983','2024-11-03 10:03:47.411',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 10:03:47.41',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ddfec9f-9c06-44e3-be3f-a31fea358bb5','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 52&nbsp; 11月6日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十章 315页 &ndash; 320页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🥰习惯7 不断更新</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人生最值得的投资就是磨炼自己，因为生活与服务人群都得靠自己。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">更新自己的四大层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣身体2️⃣精神3️⃣智力4️⃣社会/情感。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅💪🏻身体层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">➡️耐力/有氧运动</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">➡️韧性-伸展运动</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">➡️力量-持久的肌肉运动</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅🥰精神层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Arther Gordon 个人精神重建，</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣仔细聆听，</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣设法回头</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣检讨动机</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4️⃣把忧愁理进沙子里</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴专注Q2</span><span class="s2"><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-03 13:30:17.343','2024-11-06 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85312dec-706b-4d8b-9e60-ef256bf54a94','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>非暴力沟通的根本意图是建立连结，先与自己连结，再与他人连结。</p>
<p>看清自己的需要，依照需要选择新的可能性，从中获取经验，跳脱过往习惯的模式。</p>','2024-11-03 12:20:45.492','2024-11-03 12:20:45.492',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 12:20:45.491',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5f115aa4-cee6-418c-9826-fb79dce31b5f','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>非暴力溝通的根本意圖就是「建立連結」，先与自己建立連結，然後才試著与他人建立連結。透過這樣的連結，我们可以創造出雙方都滿意的局面。</p>
<p>練習与自己建立連結，是一種內心深處的修習，探索自我，自問，去探究在日常中的交流和行動。在這過程中，也自然就會學到能滿足个人和他人需要的技能。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 13:09:44.825','2024-11-03 13:09:44.825',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 13:09:44.824',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a9589bf2-9828-4d01-9d79-6ca769afd3e7','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>学习了解自我内心深处的需求，知道自己的真正感觉，练习在沟通的时候给予对方最真的回应，表里一致，让我们与他人的关系越来越真实，表达越来越清晰。</p>','2024-11-03 13:18:43.034','2024-11-03 13:18:43.034',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 13:18:43.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6072e68b-3d69-460a-9790-41019ea9465f','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p><strong> 意图 intention 是基础，</strong></p>
<p><strong>语法是策略。</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>学习去听， 听出话中的需要， 再和自己需要连接，意图才较清晰。从而才能说出起共鸣的话语。</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 13:18:43.047','2024-11-03 13:18:43.047',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 13:18:43.046',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e7fd84f-c6da-40dd-ac3b-4ded019f3953','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>当我们把注意力集中在自己的感受上时，就不会对眼前的情况胡思乱想，&mdash;&mdash;胡思乱想是引发我们痛苦的源头。<br>要将自己出所产生的感受，与其他人说的话，和做的事分开来看待。</p>
<p>因为其他人的言行或许会刺激我的感受，但我的感受是由我产生，他反映的也只是我独有的看事眼光。例如，同样看一场电影，但有的人会哭，有的人却不会哭。</p>
<p>先客观陈述状况，再说出自己自身感受的表达方式，能让发言者回归初心，说出内心真正的想法。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 10:12:31.441','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('32ae52df-6391-4ede-a867-d8a0578567ee','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>養成自己感受的习惯，在感受的那個當下去察覺自己的狀態，當注意都集中在自己的感受時，就不會胡思亂想引發痛苦的源頭。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 12:44:43.585','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('704b34d9-9617-4c36-b425-0505b6d0c61f','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>非暴力沟通的根本【意图】是建立连结：先与自己建立连结然后才试着与他人建立连结</li>
<li>在与人沟通时，回应对方的需要，而不是要自己的感受去回应</li>
<li>要是回应的是自身感受，可以自我探索，问问自己是想满足什么样的需要</li>
</ul>','2024-11-03 13:40:34.955','2024-11-03 13:40:34.955',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 13:40:34.954',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cf8595e4-7bc9-4d0b-9b89-916f9628a479','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>评判式叙述带来的结果是纷争，不满。</p>
<p>客观式叙述带来的结果是减少争论，灵性对话，抛开自我评判和信念。</p>','2024-11-04 01:43:34.02','2024-11-04 01:43:34.02',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 01:43:34.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cd98c0d6-c1c0-49c6-8650-fceac8bf09ef','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 49&nbsp; 10月3日 (星期日）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第九章 294页 &ndash; 298页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">以习惯四为目标，习惯五为技巧，习惯六为交往模式，应对阻力，增加动力，营造一个可以畅所欲言的环境。</p>
<p dir="ltr">尊重差异。当意见不一时，不一定要认可，但可以表示肯定，和给予理解。也许会有更好的第三种方案。</p>','2024-11-03 14:00:37.923','2024-11-03 14:00:37.923',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 14:00:37.922',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db6c93a1-9b77-43ef-b2c4-dc494c912ab4','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>非暴力沟通基础是意图。</p>
<p>根本意图就是建立连结：先跟自己连结，然后才试与别人连结。</p>
<p>关照自我需要，是好好说话的开始。</p>','2024-11-03 14:06:58.255','2024-11-03 14:06:58.255',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 14:06:58.254',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be59ac08-4279-4fcc-9a04-cf84b8985db3','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>统合综效，需要利用双赢思维，知彼解己为基础。</p>
<p>问题发生时，有争吵时，不妨提议给我退一步，先听对方的意见，然后在一起以解决问题的出发点，聆听对方，告诉对方我们的想法，以达到相互理解的目的。</p>','2024-11-03 14:54:51.366','2024-11-03 14:54:51.366',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 14:54:51.366',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9bd8179c-acce-4ac4-bd1b-458cf4b28fac','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>什么是非暴力沟通？<br>开始还没看这本书的内容，还以为暴力沟通是以粗口及发脾气的恶语相对。<br>现在知道了，原来是诚实正语，没有谎言，慈悲对话，了解自己到底需要什么，想要对方如何满足你自己的需要，并且影响对方更加了解你的真正需要。<br>我们自小就被大人没有真正说出这个不能，那个不能的真话，而编了假故事给孩子们，压抑着孩子，导致孩子长大后都不敢说出自己真正需要什么了。<br>所以我们要学习了解自己真正的清晰意图，先让自己搭上线，才能让对方搭上线。此时，说话就成了一种灵修</p>','2024-11-03 15:00:55.791','2024-11-03 15:00:55.791',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 15:00:55.789',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('106754eb-e0e8-47d0-a30f-fa0901ccd82b','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day3：11月3 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>第二章： 什么是非暴力沟通？（Page035-040）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>运用非暴力沟通的根本意图：建立连结。</p>
<p>先与自己建立连结，再试着与他人建立连结。善用用词遣字，引发有共鸣的对话。</p>
<p>学习看见自己的需要，探索自我，说话变成一种<strong>灵修</strong>。</p>','2024-11-03 15:02:39.97','2024-11-03 15:02:39.97',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 15:02:39.969',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fb723276-b5f6-465a-9fc6-039074b66332','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>非暴力溝通要求『客觀』說出觀察到的狀況事實 或者說正確的認知。</p>
<p>當我們帶著主觀判斷的話語與他人對話時 大家的認知度不同 容易擦花走火 偏離正題而演變成不必要的辯駁事實的爭論 沒完沒了。</p>
<p>不用追求開悟 只要懂得不再執著某些信念既好。</p>
<p>偽事實一般是夾雜觀點和信念。</p>
<p>靈性對話是拋開自我評判和信念 然後猶如一台攝影機般客觀地敘述自己所觀察到的畫面。</p>','2024-11-04 00:24:38.238','2024-11-04 00:24:38.238',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 00:24:38.237',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c582f0bb-b4bc-45d6-92a3-1b9c0454b50a','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>非暴力沟通的基本概念有四种</p>
<p>第一种：-观察，客观的陈述状况。</p>
<p>看了此偏，我过去说的话都在批判OMg</p>
<p>客观就是诚实的讲述出一间房间如何叫乱？</p>
<p>因为每个人对乱，对准时的概念不一样。</p>
<p>所以要讲之前最好先找出证据乱的证据🤣🤣🤣</p>','2024-11-04 05:24:47.902','2024-11-04 05:24:47.902',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 05:24:47.901',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('214f74c8-c0cc-4da2-affa-8f996abe4e4c','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>此文讲述的是相信第三种方法的存在</p>
<p>而这个方法是通过沟通，通过两个人或以上一起执行事物时所产生的方法。</p>
<p>第三种方法关键是抛开自我意识，承认需要共同的智慧参与，才能找到最佳方案。</p>','2024-11-04 06:42:14.844','2024-11-04 06:42:14.844',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 06:42:14.843',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9f1f314-4f33-432c-9e0b-340ca25ffa49','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>观察- 客观陈述状况</p>
<p>我们的观点和信念都属于伪事实。评判式叙述容易引起纷争。</p>','2024-11-04 08:22:11.268','2024-11-04 08:22:11.268',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 08:22:11.267',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('398d2b56-de96-40c8-9230-6b3d5e79f59a','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>客观的陈述事实的状况，不要带有主观意识的评论，因为这样容易让彼此的话题偏离正题，引起不必要的辩驳。</p>','2024-11-04 12:37:17.218','2024-11-04 12:37:17.218',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 12:37:17.217',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('67285aa7-7d46-4c00-a7f0-1b23953d498c','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">最重要的口号就是：说实话。说实话。说实话。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">意图Intention才是非暴力沟通的基础，语法只是帮助我们我们想起意图的一种策略。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">运用非暴力沟通的根本意图就是建立连结：先与自己建立连结，然后才试着与他人建立连结。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">绝大部分人从小的时候都没练习与自己建立连结，甚至会时不时被灌输否定自身需要的观念。当小孩要做一样事情，父母就以自己的立场来告知孩子他们不需要。这些小小的生活经验，让我们逐渐长成了一个看不见自己正真需要的大人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 15:32:00.876','2024-11-03 15:32:00.876',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 15:32:00.875',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7e88ebd-0f0b-4c1d-b803-ca9e3e6d6d96','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>非暴力沟通的两个基础 ：1.语法 2.意图</p>
<p>要先与自己建立好链接</p>
<p>看清自己的需要， 跳脱原有的习惯，</p>
<p>去反复确认自己的习惯举动满足了什么和没有满足什么，</p>
<p>下一次就会有不一样的行动</p>','2024-11-03 15:48:14.926','2024-11-03 15:49:56.478',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 15:49:56.477',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('26a8e80b-4700-4be6-aad9-bad96575de5a','564e4e2d-7ce5-436b-8701-d989e207ecdf','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>非暴力沟通就是与自己建立连接，然后再尝试与他人建立连接。</p>','2024-11-03 16:00:01.43','2024-11-03 16:00:01.43',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 16:00:01.427',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ee9e654-f1a1-4df6-a0b4-94c1ab9bc37f','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 50 &nbsp;11月4日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第九章 299页 &ndash; 301页</p>
<p>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>有了正确的态度和技能，就能发现统合综效的答案去应对复杂问题。首先要相信第三种选择的在在，才能找到它。<br>抛开自我意识，承认需要所有人共同的智慧参与，才能找到最佳方案。</p>
<p>必须学会要跟彼此再聊天谈论事情,让彼此迸发出灵感。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-03 23:37:35.993','2024-11-03 23:37:35.993',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 23:37:35.992',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6394574a-cc89-4601-a255-cfd417d9ce29','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>相信第三種選擇，首先是必須相信它是存在的。我們一定要相信通過一起工作，會找到一種比腦海裡更好的解決方法。</p>
<p>而這首先，就是拋開自我意識，承認需要所有人共同的智慧參與，才能找到最佳方案。</p>','2024-09-28 13:39:07.303','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2973153-dad3-41b6-ab0d-29ccab824383','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>不用追求开悟，只要懂得不在執著某些信念就好。</p>
<p>让自己成为一台摄像机客户观地叙述所观察的画面。</p>
<p>评判不是錯误的事，但后果自负。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-10-28 00:36:01.204','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89de14bf-a76a-420d-9842-3722897870a1','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 50&nbsp; 11月4日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第九章 299页 &ndash; 301页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">相信第三种选择</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">就要抛开自我意识，承认你需要所有人共同的智慧参与,才能找到最佳方案。智慧可分为九个不同类型。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.空间智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2.言语智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3.逻辑-数学智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4.动觉智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">5.音乐智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">6.人际智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">7.自知-自省智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">8.自我观察智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">9.存在智能</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴找到第三种选择的方法是谈话聊天。即使有头脑风暴，谈论事情，让彼此迸发出灵感。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-10-31 08:33:17.668','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('62c85d0f-b32b-4bca-a83c-0cbc5538779b','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>如果说话都是从客观点出发，那肯定是让人信服而不会做太多狡辩的，往往是很多时候，我们都惯性的用主观意识来说话，尤其太过主观的言论，真的让人不忿。</p>
<p>客观的评述而不带批评的说话，需要时时提醒自己，好好认真学习。</p>','2024-11-02 08:11:33.911','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('948421de-dae1-40d1-ab89-32fdeaebf35a','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>学习非暴力沟通的四个基本步骤：</p>
<p>1️⃣观察 - 客观陈述状况</p>
<p>不要一开口就加以评判，要客观地形容事实状况，不要加入&ldquo;伪事实&rdquo;。我们要学习抛开自我评判和信念，要客观地叙述自己观察到的画面。</p>','2024-11-02 09:28:20.264','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbdaf11a-4a29-4907-879c-251d675812ce','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<ol>
<li>观察：客观陈述事实，只说眼见到的，不批判，不评论</li>
</ol>','2024-11-02 23:24:14.165','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9d1698c-0000-46fb-ae9a-e4a424ac52c6','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>学习非暴力沟通有四个基本步骤供参考：</p>
<p>1.观察&mdash;&mdash;客观陈述状况</p>
<p>我们最容易犯的错误是常常会陈述&ldquo;伪事实&rdquo;。所以要不断自我觉察。</p>','2024-11-03 05:54:54.019','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5bc02194-08ea-4763-99fb-4f2a2bd2d4db','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>让我对【客观】有了新的了解 - 称述观看到的状况，就是作者所言的【灵性对话】。</p>
<p>带有主观的判断的对话，很容易让彼此的对话偏离正题，可能变成辩驳事实的争论。</p>
<ul>
<li>房间很热 （伪事实） vs 以温度计呈现的温度 （事实）</li>
<li>毛巾、衣服乱乱放 （主观的措辞） vs 毛巾、衣服散落一地 （客观的论述）</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 09:14:48.271','2024-11-04 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013','2024-11-04 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76cffa1b-3da5-4fe7-9046-56d10e73e23f','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>1）觀察 - 客觀陳述狀況。</p>
<p>不要依照個人的道德觀去判斷某個人或某件事的對或錯。為了減少无谓的紛爭，我们要學習拋開自我的評判和執著，以客觀，靈性來對話。</p>','2024-11-04 03:36:01.202','2024-11-04 03:36:01.202',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 03:36:01.201',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9ca99214-82a1-411a-b0b4-a291722b04ed','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>通過各人的特長用互賴關系發揮統合綜效，應用在團隊中解決方法。</p>
<p>用第三種選擇的關鍵步驟就是要拋開自我意識承認你需要所有人共同的自衛參與才能找到最佳方案。每個人的才智都有不同的展現方式，每個人都能作出貢獻。</p>','2024-11-04 09:17:49.548','2024-11-04 09:17:49.548',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 09:17:49.547',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08446783-7e23-4593-b7b3-62c2f6ef00e7','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>要和别人的强点合作，而不是叫他改善他的弱点。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>公司是如此，家庭也是。如果整天只看见配偶的不足，他又忘记收拾家庭，她又情绪发作，这样的家庭恐怕将会是一个吵吵闹闹的家。相反的，应该要多看她对家庭的细心呵护，和他的天才睿智，这样才是一个和谐的家。我们都应该互补，不是吗？</p>','2024-11-04 09:50:19.759','2024-11-04 09:55:54.508',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 09:55:54.507',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8de5b5c8-7611-42dc-9666-ba76dc0345a0','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>覺得用遲到這件事情來解釋客觀與主觀的意見不太適合。</p>
<p>遲到的定義是以一個規定的時間來界定。</p>
<p>遲到這件事不是偽事實。所以也沒有所謂的主管或客觀。</p>','2024-11-04 10:22:14.278','2024-11-04 10:22:14.278',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 10:22:14.277',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05940048-554b-4ebd-9f18-6df38c201cf6','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 50&nbsp; 11月4日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第九章 299页 &ndash; 301页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不要在意别人的无礼行径，避开那些消极力量，发现并利用别人的优势，提高自己的认识，扩展自己的视野。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在相互依赖的环境中勇敢而坦率地表达自己的观点、情感和精力，借此鼓励他人同样地坦诚相待。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">尊重人与人之间的差异，但有人不同意你的观点的时候，你应该说：你跟我有不同的看法，这很好。你不一定要对他表示赞同，但是可以表示肯定，并尽量给予理解。如果你坚持双赢模式，确实愿意努力理解对方，你就能找到一种让每一个人都受益更多的解决方案。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要找到第三种选择，首先要相信它的存在。要相信通过在一起工作，我们会找到一个比脑海里更好的解决方法。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想要找到第三种选择的一个关键步骤就是抛开自我意识，承认你需要所有人共同的智慧参与，才能找到最佳解决方案。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每一个人都可能拥有一种或多种的智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1-空间智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2-言语智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3-罗辑</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4-动觉智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">5-音乐智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">6-人际智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">7-自知</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">8-自然观察智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">9-存在智能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">找到第三种选择的关键是谈话。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-04 10:50:16.864','2024-11-04 10:50:17.892',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 10:50:17.89',NULL,NULL);
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<p>要达到第三选择，就必须自己抛开自我的意识，並认为共同可创造出一些价值，然后多交谈，以此知道彼此想法，这样，第三选择才可水到渠成。</p>','2024-11-04 12:20:22.759','2024-11-04 12:20:22.759',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 12:20:22.758',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('945e5bf3-9e5e-460e-8356-3402414214cd','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>非暴力沟通有4个基本步骤：<br>1. 观察：客观陈述状况：正确的认知，就是自己的主观和信念属于伪事实，带有对错的批判性，负面评论性，却不是对方的认同，而产生了争论结果。<br><br></p>','2024-11-04 13:21:10.132','2024-11-04 13:21:10.132',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 13:21:10.132',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('96e12067-854b-4e91-8fd1-b51e5e0d9359','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>非暴力沟通的第一个基本概念就是观察，不是主观而是客观陈述状况。我们要学习抛开自我的评判和信念。这评判， 是指个人的道德观去判断去判断某个人或某件事的对或错。目的并不是在谴责其他人的动机。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 13:43:35.03','2024-11-04 13:43:35.03',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 13:43:35.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f7fc08f9-7b35-45b5-b2c0-965fd210c30c','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p><span class="s1">相信第三选择的力量，而每个人都拥有不同的智能，这九个是关键智能.<br>1.空间智能<br></span><span class="s1">2.言语智能<br></span><span class="s1">3.罗辑<br></span><span class="s1">4.动觉智能<br></span><span class="s1">5.音乐智能<br></span><span class="s1">6.人际智能<br></span><span class="s1">7.自知<br></span><span class="s1">8.自然观察智能<br></span><span class="s1">9.存在智能<br>而另一种方法就是谈话，学会跟彼此聊天。</span></p>','2024-11-04 13:47:43.511','2024-11-04 13:47:43.511',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 13:47:43.51',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('489093f2-f960-4ea7-9aa5-a04460661d16','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>非暴力沟通的基本概念</p>
<p>1) 先沉淀下来的观察，然后客观陈述状况，而不是主观的给予结论或批判。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 15:00:54.179','2024-11-04 15:00:54.179',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 15:00:54.178',NULL,NULL);
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<p>社会/情感层面：在于他人日常交往中完成。</p>
<p>自我提升和完善的过程必须包括 身体、精神、智力、社会/情感 四个层面。</p>','2024-11-04 09:28:24.979','2024-11-07 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0330a227-eef0-4ad3-9c36-136738921f9f','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>人生的 身体、精神、智力、社会/情感 四个层面休戚相关：身体健康有助于心智发展，精神提升有益于人际关系的完满。</p>
<p>平衡才能产生最佳的整体效果。</p>
<p>&ldquo;每日个人领域的成功&rdquo;（每天至少用一个小时实现身体、精神和智力层面的更新）是培养七个习惯的关键。更新社会/情感层面，有助于相互依赖的环境中专注自己的影响圈，即以知足的心态对待他人，真诚尊重彼此的差异，为他们的成功而感到高兴。</p>
<p>学习、坚持、实践，并沿着螺旋式上升的路线不断提高实践的层次，实现修身励志的良性循环。</p>','2024-11-04 09:35:45.126','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f895259-8f5a-4b42-aaa5-710e647797cd','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day4：11月4 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">非暴力沟通的基本概念 &ndash; 1. 观察 &ndash; 客观陈述状况（Page040-044）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">非暴力沟通的基本概念</span></p>
<ol class="ol1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">观察-客观陈述状况</span></li>
</ol>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学习抛开自我的评判和信念，让自己像一台摄影机般客观地述自己所观察到的画面。其实没有对错，而是本身也不是什么错，而是想知道用哪一种说法方式，对方可以了解批判评判式的叙述会带来什么结果或客观式的叙述会带来什么样的结果。自己有选择权。</span></p>','2024-11-04 14:24:19.616','2024-11-04 14:24:19.616',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 14:24:19.615',NULL,NULL);
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<li>评价自己的需要，不会好像谴责他人</li>
<li>评价他人的事情，或会让人感觉不好受，因为任何的评价都来自于自己的道德观点，不代表当事人</li>
<li>要好像投影机这样，把眼前看到的东西说出来，不可以加一些自己观点</li>
</ul>','2024-11-04 14:48:39.977','2024-11-04 14:48:39.977',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 14:48:39.976',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6999d1bf-3841-4db5-9a9a-aef243cfeef9','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学习非暴力沟通有四个基本步骤。这些步骤并不是什么公式，它们只是帮助活用非暴力沟通的跳板。太过执着于这四个步骤，可能会让你与现实脱节，无法清楚又准确地与他人沟通。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。观察-客观陈述状况</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">伪事实的例子</span></p>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">这个房间很冷/热</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">你的房间很乱</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">他迟到了</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">你开车太快了</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">这是一部很好看的电影</span></li>
</ul>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">客观的论述</span></p>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">你房间的温度高达32度</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">你的房间衣服散落在地上，桌子上还有装着食物的碗碟，床铺又没有整理</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">他早上11点钟才到</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">你开车160km/h已经超出了最高车速了</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">这部电影有几位得奖演员演出，故事情节揭开了社会部位人知的秘密，票房也突破了200万记录</span></li>
</ul>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">利用事实来沟通会避免不必要的矛盾。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们必须学习抛开自我的批判和信念。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这里所说的批判，是指依照个人的道德观点去批判某个人或某件事的对或错。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 14:49:47.426','2024-11-04 14:49:47.426',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 14:49:47.425',NULL,NULL);
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<p>不同可以带来更多探讨的可能性。</p>
<p>尊重彼此，吵架，商量，讨论，寻找第三选择。</p>','2024-11-04 14:56:48.033','2024-11-04 14:57:05.009',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 14:57:05.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7546aed6-60bf-4000-94c0-13c92c71d281','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day4：11月4 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>非暴力沟通的基本概念 &ndash; 1. 观察 &ndash; 客观陈述状况（Page040-044）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>非暴力沟通四步骤：</p>
<p>1. 观察：客观地陈述状况，摒弃评判。</p>','2024-11-04 15:12:25.871','2024-11-04 15:12:25.871',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 15:12:25.87',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab01d76d-c40c-4b1c-8a44-96e3921fa9f1','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>我们不要被一个问题定义，而是寻求第三选择。一个问题的解答，往往有很多的可能性。在寻找答案的同时，要学习尊重差异，这样才有办法1+1＞3</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 15:40:37.544','2024-11-04 15:40:37.544',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 15:40:37.541',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('73b46e64-ea90-4275-88b8-256ce9dd4c18','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>感受时一种情绪，与身体的知觉息息相关。</p>
<p>感受是从潜意识深处发出的信息。在观察自身的感受时，集中注意力在自己的感受时，就不会对眼前的情况胡思乱想，引发痛苦。</p>
<p>在非暴力沟通模式中，要将自己的感受与其他人说的话和做的事分开来看待。其他人的言行可能激发我的感受，但我的感受是自己产生的。而我的感受也只是反映我独有看事的眼光。</p>
<p>说出自身的感受，能让发言者回到初心。</p>
<p>每个人都是独一无二的个体，也会有独一无二的反应。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 15:01:19.746','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('930e72bd-4fb3-4eb6-9829-2122b2ad2b1d','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>客观的事实，就是表面的迹象陈述，</p>
<p>没有带形容词的描述能被看见的事情。</p>
<p>所以第一个基本概念 ： 观察</p>','2024-11-04 15:46:45.835','2024-11-04 15:46:45.835',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 15:46:45.834',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2e0cd1dc-6d35-4155-9b84-fa56028a6f06','11b55504-125b-42cb-a6eb-53c8f5a96166','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 50&nbsp; 11月4日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第九章 299页 &ndash; 301页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">不一样的人，有着不一样的想法，才能擦出不同的火花。</p>
<p dir="ltr">我们需要抛开自我意识，才能认识不同智慧，找到最佳方案。</p>
<p dir="ltr">寻找第三种方案的另一种方法，是交谈。通过不断的沟通，谈话，头脑风暴。</p>','2024-11-04 15:51:43.908','2024-11-04 15:51:43.908',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 15:51:43.907',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('442f0018-93ec-427d-8c4a-358e4971874f','1c91794c-a20c-4908-ac5a-689401bc4185','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>非暴力沟通有四个基本步骤</p>
<p>1. 观察客观陈述状况&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 15:54:21.425','2024-11-04 15:54:21.425',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 15:54:21.424',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b97fca6-4088-4fa8-a138-ef0a4a47252b','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>感受就像来自潜意识的火光，提醒我们目前需要处在满足或未满足的状态。</p>
<p>要将自己所产生的感受，与其他人说的话和做的事分开来看待。</p>
<p>1，客观陈述状况：听到你对我说那些话的时候，</p>
<p>2. 再说出自身感受：我感到很难过</p>
<p>能让发言者回归初心，说出内心真正的想法</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 23:34:09.279','2024-11-04 23:34:09.279',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-04 23:34:09.278',NULL,NULL);
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<p><strong>==》</strong>需要极强的精神和情感独立性 --》 创造性协作的方式与别人成功合作需要极强的独立性、内在安全感和自控能力。</p>
<p>==》 否则，我们所谓的相互依赖其实就是反依赖，借强调自己的独立性或共同依赖性来利用对方的弱点，满足自己的需求，或者为自己的弱点辩解。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>7. 七个习惯只有寥寥数字，但却是一种新的语言，这种新语言成为了一种密码，以一种简洁的方式表述了丰富的内容 --》 广泛理解并遵守这些特殊密码所体现的原则和概念而发生转变。</strong></p>
<p>==》 可以这样对别人说：</p>
<p>&ldquo;这算存款还是提款？&rdquo;</p>
<p>&ldquo;这是消极被动还是积极主动？&rdquo;</p>
<p>&ldquo;这是统合综效还是折中？&rdquo;</p>
<p>&ldquo;这是利人利己（双赢）、损人利己（赢/输）还是舍己为人（输/赢）？&rdquo;</p>
<p>&ldquo;这算要事第一还是琐务第一？&rdquo;&ldquo;这算以终为始还是以手段为始？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>8. 正直是比忠诚更高层次的价值观。</strong></p>
<p>==》正直是忠诚的最高形式，正直意味着以原则（而不是人、组织甚至家庭）为中心。</p>
<p>==》 如果认为忠诚于某个人或者某个团体比正当合理的行为更重要，那我们就丧失了正直。--&gt; 也许会在短期内受到欢迎或赢得忠诚，但在一段时间之后，正直的缺失甚至会对这些关系造成破坏。</p>
<p>==》通过诋毁别人而暂时团结到的人们知道，在不同的压力和处境之下，你也会说他们的坏话。--&gt; 试图反其道而行之，想要先获得忠诚，你就会发现自己损害或放弃了正直。</p>
<p>==》让别人信任你，而不是喜欢你。信任和尊重终将产生爱。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>9. 实践七个习惯都是一场长期的斗争。</strong></p>','2024-10-21 13:44:50.918','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e54dd5f8-4030-4c74-b737-473a5d5b8367','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要将自己所產生的感受，与其他人说的话和做的事分开來看待。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><br></span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">在非暴力沟通中，表达的感受不该牽扯到别人。</span></p>','2024-10-29 05:41:25.809','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0dc8988f-920d-4f97-ad37-cf56ef26bee0','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>不要把自己的情绪建立在另一个人的弱点上，与他的强项合作试着弥补他的弱势，与他互补。<br>学会欣赏他人的世界观，并且把它当成完善自己的动力而不是冲突。</p>','2024-11-04 13:59:39.461','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('26faf1c4-683f-4f47-b7bf-9b4a1232c35c','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>感受是一种情绪。理智的沟通是把自己情绪所产生出来的感受与他人说的话或做的事分开来看待。</p>','2024-11-04 15:56:05.415','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30be5e3c-8b61-446f-9360-514a23f68348','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>2️⃣ 感受 - 说出你的感受</p>
<p>先客观陈述状况，再说出自身感受；</p>
<p>你所表达的感受不该牵扯到其他人</p>','2024-11-04 15:58:43.891','2024-11-05 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031','2024-11-05 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8552c98-e8af-47a1-b140-4f00b488b6ff','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>感受是一种情绪，会不断的变动和产生。</p>
<p>它会告诉我们当下我们的需要是否得到满足。</p>
<p>觉得不是感受，是一种看法的表达。</p>
<p>每个人对某件事的感受都不同，因为我们是独一无二的。</p>','2024-11-05 00:36:32.167','2024-11-05 00:36:32.167',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 00:36:32.166',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70955853-51a8-4d1b-a460-e144e97e1f72','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>一个人的感受是非常主观的，这是和成长过程和环境有关。同一件事，不同人的感受会带来不同观点。</p>
<p>非暴力沟通的模式需要把自己的感受和他人说话和做事分开来看,不让自己的感受给自己看见的事实裹上一层外衣，而造成自己看不见事情的真实的样子。这样自己才能看清事实的真实的一面。</p>','2024-11-05 04:30:21.383','2024-11-05 04:30:21.383',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 04:30:21.381',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e18dded-d496-46d5-ac7e-2f22db1134ce','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>先客观陈述状况，再说出自己的感受</li>
<li>在表达感受时候，不可以牵涉到其他人</li>
<li>例句
<ol>
<li>你不在家的时候，我感到又寂寞又害怕。</li>
<li>听到你对我说那些话的时候，我感到很难过。 &nbsp;</li>
</ol>
</li>
</ul>','2024-11-05 14:40:55.826','2024-11-05 14:40:55.826',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 14:40:55.825',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f29ee6d6-5c8c-4d48-8d9e-21f1c1fa497d','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>非暴力沟通的第三个基本是表达需要， 同时要分清楚什么是策略和需要。</p>
<p>人类需要九大类：情感，创造，自由，认同，参与，保护，娱乐，生存， 和理解。察觉这些需要的存在，也是练习非暴力沟通的起点。</p>','2024-11-06 14:58:35.283','2024-11-06 15:30:12.255',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:30:12.254',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d82925a-cc5e-4785-b34b-107ce76c242f','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>在非暴力沟通模式中，要关注自己的感受，客观陈述状况，再说出自己感受。其实这些都是需要觉知，对自己做很多的连接去关注自己的内心感受，是一种灵修的修炼，我想我接下来需要较长的时间才能把话说出口，因为要时刻关注，专注和区分感受和想法，是时候该和自己做连接和不再随意信口开河了。</p>','2024-11-05 07:54:22.221','2024-11-05 07:54:22.221',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 07:54:22.22',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3c63e3b-d534-4e23-a311-551aa7cb1fa4','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>注意自己的感受，察觉自己的状态。要将自己所产生的感受，与其他人说的话和做的事分开来看待。</p>','2024-11-05 07:59:36.714','2024-11-05 07:59:36.714',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 07:59:36.713',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90442640-1896-43d3-81a1-4827cbb194fb','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>注意當下自己的感受 來提醒自己的需要有沒有被滿足。這是一種集中注意力的行為，也為靈修獨到之處。</p>
<p>非暴力溝通的模式中 要將自己所產生的感受 與他人說的話和做的事，一一分開來看待。</p>
<p>客觀闡述狀況 再說出自身感受的表達方式 能讓敘述者回歸初心 說出內心真正想法。</p>','2024-11-05 09:18:25.408','2024-11-05 09:20:43.156',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 09:20:43.155',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5f5b99e0-18c7-45ef-85ec-1d0dcd748d67','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>Dealing with my partner to achieve synergy is a headache for me. But recently I have an idea how to best do it. It''s different from what I had in mind in the past, but I think it''s the best in order to achieve sustaining development for my company. Let me just think it through.</p>
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<p>与我的合作伙伴达成协同效应对我来说一直是个难题。但最近我有了一个想法，如何最好地实现这一点。这与我过去的想法不同，但我认为这是为了我的公司实现可持续发展最好的方法。让我再仔细思考一下。</p>
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5852850-aacf-4c71-97ee-1ac7ecb9cab5','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>感受 - 是一種情緒， 与身體的知覺息息相關。快樂，滿足，自在，与自我和他人產生連接。</p>
<p>要將自己所產生的感受，与他人說的話和做的事分開來看待。其他人的言行或許會激發我們的感受，但我們的的感受是由自身產生，獨一无二的個體。</p>','2024-11-05 12:17:42.921','2024-11-05 12:17:42.921',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 12:17:42.92',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a31736c2-6888-4c35-b866-24aa9664882c','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>要将自己所产生的感受，与其他人说的话和做的事情分开来看待。其他人的言行可能会激发我的感受，但我的感受是由我产生。如果依据自己的感受来处理事情，很容易导致偏离了正题。</p>','2024-11-05 12:21:21.582','2024-11-05 12:21:21.582',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 12:21:21.58',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88f404d4-5266-43fc-ad3f-f239a0793013','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>补：4/11 - 观察--客观陈述状况</p>
<p>实事求是，与他人沟通的时候，不带主观和判断，只说实况，就可以避免误会、争吵。</p>
<p>5/11 -感受--说出你的感受</p>
<p>与他人沟通时，学会观察自己的情绪和感觉，与他人坦诚自己的感受，而不要瞎猜或先入为主他人对自己的念头，是最好的沟通方式。</p>','2024-11-05 12:43:43.229','2024-11-05 12:43:45.352',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 12:43:45.351',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf5f917c-9621-4c53-9552-ce2047aaa533','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>统合踪效的习惯不管是对自己，对团队，对公司，还是要兑变得统合踪效，先决条件就是不能自我，需要交谈沟通，退一步是因为要达到以终为始的目标，不是自我矮化。</p>','2024-11-05 12:48:46.854','2024-11-05 12:48:46.854',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 12:48:46.853',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6e7e05d-0ef8-4803-a6e6-d307a1f0d5c6','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>2）感受<br>感受差异原因在于人<br>不是消息本身。</p>
<p><br>消息激发很多人的感受<br>每个人都是独一无二的。</p>
<p><br>许多人会用［我觉得］表达心中的信念，我觉得是分析，不是表达感受。</p>
<p><br>不如说［我感到］，回归初心<br>说出内心真正的想法<br>不牵扯他人。</p>','2024-11-05 13:33:06.747','2024-11-05 13:33:06.747',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 13:33:06.746',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50ea2e19-c208-42d1-bc3b-4daff8e56bc3','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>&nbsp;纯粹讲真实情况，个人感受，才能让人对我们的理解和避免纷争。</p>','2024-11-05 13:36:46.683','2024-11-05 13:36:46.683',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 13:36:46.682',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1777e12d-3859-4003-8d99-896796838dfa','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>无法清楚区分策略和需要，会给我们带来很多麻烦。要维持良好的关系，一定要把策略和需要分清楚。</p>','2024-11-05 08:04:05.984','2024-11-06 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d73965d0-90b8-4df1-9301-4b309ef75024','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 51 &nbsp;11月5日 (星期二）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第九章 302页 &ndash; 305页<br>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>不要把你的情绪建立在另一个人的弱点上，与他的强项合作。弥补弱势，与他人互补。</p>
<p><br>变得统合成效的五步计划 :<br>1) 定义问题或机会<br>2) 他们的方式 (试着理解别人的想法)<br>3) 我的方式 (试着通过分享获得理解)<br>4) 头脑风暴 (创造新的机遇和想法)<br>5) 快速通道( 找到最佳解决方案)</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-05 13:52:09.133','2024-11-05 13:52:09.133',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 13:52:09.132',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e6bb95c-6127-4c34-9509-d31b163115fb','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day5：11月 5日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2. 感受&ndash;说出你的感受（Page044-047）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2. 感受&ndash;说出你的感受</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果能注意到自己的感受习惯，就能在产生感受的那个当下，立刻察觉到自己的状态，这就是领袖的独到之处，把自己的注意力记住在自己的感受时，就不会对眼前的情况胡思乱想，这是让我们引发痛苦的源头。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">注意：要将自己所产生的感受和其他人所说的话做的事分开来看待。</span></p>','2024-11-05 13:54:01.931','2024-11-05 13:54:05.619',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 13:54:05.618',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1465b77d-d9e6-4dec-810d-3cb4fe73faa6','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>感受是一种情绪，很多时候的沟通，我们都无法说出感受，都是以批判的语言来表达。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>原来沟通是要说出自己真正的感受。</p>
<p>同一步戏，有些人看了会哭，有些人看了没有哭，所以不是这套戏有感受，是人有感受。</p>
<p>我感觉被抛弃，<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">不要牵扯到他人进入此话题。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-05 14:06:58.807','2024-11-05 14:06:58.807',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 14:06:58.806',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c7ae9a23-f3d6-4c4e-b4a0-02a217e87260','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>原来说出感受与想法两者竟有这么大的区别！学习集中注意力，专注于自己的内心感受。「胡思乱想是引发我们痛苦的源头。」</p>','2024-11-05 14:13:41.633','2024-11-05 14:13:41.633',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 14:13:41.632',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27d31391-0d90-4536-93f2-3356448b7714','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>变得统合综效</p>
<p>1.定义问题或机会</p>
<p>2. 他们的方式</p>
<p>3。我的方式</p>
<p>4。头脑风爆</p>
<p>5快速通道</p>','2024-11-05 14:15:55.61','2024-11-05 14:15:55.61',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 14:15:55.608',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b3bb3776-038a-4b43-9203-71b1cedcc82d','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>关注自己的感受，跟自己的心连接，</p>
<p>觉察自己的状态，让自己打开心房，</p>
<p>同时要将自己所产生的感受，</p>
<p>与其他人说的话和做的事情分开来看待。</p>','2024-11-05 14:18:30.236','2024-11-05 14:18:30.236',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 14:18:30.236',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c2a3a34-1907-4712-ad72-b5ae89947a22','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>团队里，不同的想法代表有心的机遇。</p>
<p>可以尝试</p>
<p>定义问题和机会，在听别人的想法，再建议自己的想法，再一起创造不同的想法，然后找出最佳解决方案。</p>','2024-11-05 14:28:51.278','2024-11-05 14:28:51.278',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 14:28:51.277',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4cec8a7a-912c-425d-aaec-3e902935e632','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 51&nbsp; 11月5日 (星期二）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第九章 302页 &ndash; 305页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">每一个都有弱点，别把自己的情绪建立在别人的弱点上，学会与强项合作，有个互补关系。互补关系可以在公司，家庭，顾客等等。</p>
<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">五个简单步骤达到统合综效：</p>
<ol>
<li dir="ltr">定义问题/机会</li>
<li dir="ltr">别人的方式/看法</li>
<li dir="ltr">我的方式/看法</li>
<li dir="ltr">头脑风暴</li>
<li dir="ltr">快速通道</li>
</ol>','2024-11-05 14:54:05.094','2024-11-05 14:54:05.094',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 14:54:05.093',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2cf51264-36d3-42cb-a7fd-8a384d19e324','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>感受是自己产生的，和别人没有关系。所以表达感受需注意，就只表达当下的自己感觉，不牵扯其他人的对错</p>','2024-11-05 15:11:58.4','2024-11-05 15:11:58.4',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 15:11:58.399',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59120b04-8cc3-4c3e-b27a-a387b9b66530','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day5：11月 5日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>2. 感受&ndash;说出你的感受（Page044-047）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>2. 说出感受：当下需要获得满足/未被满足。</p>
<p>先客观陈述状况再说出自身感受的表达方式：发言者回归到初心，说出内心真正的想法。</p>
<p>例子：听到你对我说的那些话的时候，我感到很难过。</p>
<p>我觉得寂寞又害怕。</p>','2024-11-05 15:14:26.431','2024-11-05 15:14:26.431',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 15:14:26.43',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c14520c-af94-4988-b8b2-64d44d5c530d','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>自己的看法 和 自己的感受</p>
<p>必须要先分清楚界限</p>
<p>才可以好好的说出自己的感受</p>','2024-11-05 15:14:41.964','2024-11-05 15:14:41.964',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 15:14:41.963',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e98de44-6cee-4ca9-a7af-fc336ad6dc11','d33422f5-853b-4fd2-813a-8e2380c6015c','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>不要把你的情绪建立在另一个人的弱点上，与他的强项合作，试着弥补他的弱势，与他互补</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-05 15:37:20.219','2024-11-05 15:37:20.219',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 15:37:20.218',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('43eb8236-d25f-463a-8ee3-29b8e8f9f5a4','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>感受必须说出来，坦诚表达内心的真实想法。表达感受应专注于自己，而不涉及他人。&rdquo;</p>','2024-11-05 15:49:26.378','2024-11-05 15:49:28.628',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 15:49:28.627',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8df2184-8407-46cc-80fe-9b1b3606051d','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p>要将自己所产生的感受，与其他人说的话和做的事分开来看待。</p>','2024-11-05 15:58:14.117','2024-11-05 15:58:14.117',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 15:58:14.117',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c90682a-1774-4539-ab21-7705c968eb92','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 52&nbsp; 11月6日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第十章 315页 &ndash; 320页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">自我提升四个层面：</p>
<ol>
<li dir="ltr">身体层面</li>
<li dir="ltr">精神层面</li>
<li dir="ltr">智力层面</li>
<li dir="ltr">社会/情感层面</li>
</ol>','2024-11-06 15:36:51.34','2024-11-06 15:36:51.34',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:36:51.339',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('37b483f9-7598-4604-8de5-8dc85fb90f9d','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>感受是我们面对所发生事情后所表现出来的情绪，感受和事情是分开的。事情可以导致不同的人，不同的感受。先客观陈述状况，才说出自身的感受。而这感受，是不应该牵扯到其他人的。</p>
<p>要诚实的面对自己的感受，了解自己当下想要被满足的是什么。当我们选择压抑自己的情绪是，我们很多时候就会表现出抗拒或者对抗的行为，其实反应出来的不是自己所想的，只是不敢说出自己的感受。</p>','2024-11-05 15:40:40.705','2024-11-05 15:42:44.728',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 15:42:44.726',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3821813a-c0e7-4018-8926-34c8acf82a21','31e293a1-8bd0-4214-9a5d-6d36e06af7a4','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>表达自己的感受但是要注意界限</p>','2024-11-05 15:56:29.809','2024-11-05 15:56:29.809',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 15:56:29.808',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f9fc1f4-be60-48e0-9d31-dcf103ef087a','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>学会察觉并满足自己的需求，才可以成为一个完整的人。</p>
<p>人类的的需求有九大类：</p>
<p>1.情感 2.创造 3.自由 4.认同 5.产于 6.保护 7.娱乐 8.生存 9.理解</p>
<p>一种需求，可以用不同的策略（方法）来满足，相互理解沟通对象的需求，人就会变的更能体谅、少一点执着，有助于维持更好的人际关系。</p>','2024-11-05 23:23:55.341','2024-11-05 23:24:19.56',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-05 23:24:19.559',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a49cb58-ab8c-46bf-940f-a8803f56ca75','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>Pg 315 - 320</p>
<p>习惯7，不断更新</p>
<p>～平衡的自我提升原则</p>
<p>人生最值得投资的就是磨练自己</p>
<p>生活与服务他人，都得靠自己，最珍贵的东西</p>
<p>拥有财富并不重要，重要的是有创造财富的努力，真正可靠</p>
<p>自我提升与完善的四个层面：身体层面，精神层面，智力层面，社会／情感层面</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-05 21:38:07.371','2024-11-06 14:37:59.083',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 14:37:59.082',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3a2f0e8-c018-4830-8d2a-ca5dfbd2e58f','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p><strong>哪个习惯作者认为最难以付诸实践</strong></p>
<p>习惯五。。当筋疲力尽的时候，当深信自己正确的时候 ==&gt; 真不想听别人说话，甚至会假装聆听。从根本上说，犯的就是他自己所说的那种错误&mdash;&mdash;聆听的目的是做出回答，而不是去理解对方。</p>
<ul>
<li>你知道得越多，就会意识到自己不知道的更多</li>
<li>我们所有个人、家庭或组织也是一样，关键是&ldquo;以终为始&rdquo;，共同致力于经常性的反馈和线路调整。</li>
</ul>','2024-10-24 12:32:08.095','2024-11-06 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3de526fa-b4af-4933-ba0b-ac33348e0301','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>人生最值得的投资就是磨练自己，工作本身并不能带来经济上的安全感，具备良好的思考、学习、创造与适应能力，才能立于不败之地。拥有财富，并不代表经济独立，拥有创造财富的能力才真正可靠。</p>
<p>从 身体、精神、智力、社会/情感 层面锻炼自己。</p>
<p>身体层面：有效呵护我们的身体&mdash;&mdash;健康饮食、充足休息以及定期锻炼。</p>
<p>精神层面：人的本质、核心和对价值体系的坚持（与习惯二密切相关）。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 09:24:37.516','2024-11-06 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('96062657-0787-4e3d-ab91-f1396cfa4d0a','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>3️⃣ 需要 - 表达你的需要</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>要把需要和策略清楚区分</p>
<p>只要清楚的把需要摆在讨论的第一位，就往往能找到双方都满意的策略来满足共同的需要</p>','2024-11-04 16:09:03.568','2024-11-06 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c71f949-8f18-43dc-bafb-340d86a670d4','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>当我们的需要无法得到满足，身而为人的基本资格就会遭到否定，一旦发生，我们就无法成为完整正的人。</p>
<p>学会发现我们的需要并设法满足它们，是一项基本的生活技能</p>
<p>情感、创造、自由、认同、参与、保护、娱乐、生存、理解（Mandee''s max neef)&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>需要还是策略（满足需要的策略）</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-04 23:41:56.671','2024-11-06 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2e36c5ad-b1de-4029-855e-dfef480ebeeb','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>情感、創造、自由、認同、 參與、保護、 娛樂、 生存和理解這九個需要是非暴力溝通的起點， 練习這些''需要出現時，察覺他們的在在。</p>','2024-11-05 01:36:19.655','2024-11-06 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008','2024-11-06 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('95b2435f-aa4b-413d-aed2-aec2c6fef05b','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>每个生命个体都有需要。what I need vs what I want.</p>
<p>学会发现和满足我们的需要是一项基本生活技能。</p>
<p>也要学会区分需要和策略。</p>
<p>爱是一种需要，从某个人身上得到爱是一种策略。而不会只有一种策略来满足需要。分得清需要和策略可以跳脱原本的束缚。所以，客观的表达出观察到的请看我，就能把讨论重点带到需要上，避免情绪勒索。</p>','2024-11-06 00:06:19.408','2024-11-06 00:06:19.408',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 00:06:19.407',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('25b53bcf-87e2-4e2d-9cfa-8f070f4ec8ea','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当我们长大成人后，也许就会把表达需要收起来，因为大家都把表达需要和弱者画上等号。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">婴儿为什么总是那么迷人？除了可爱之外，他们总是很清楚自己的需要，且总是会诚实表达出来。比如饿了，尿片湿了，或者想要得到关注。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当我们需要无法得到满足，那么身而为人的基本资格就会遭到否定；一旦这种情况发生，我们就无法成为一个完整的人，获得完整的幸福，或拥有完整的健康。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学会发现我们的需要并设法满足它们，是一项基本的生活技能，而这项技能也是落实灵性对话的一部分。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">智利经济学家Manfred Max-Neef 把人类需要分为九大类，分别是：情感、创造、自由、认同、参与、保护、娱乐、生存和理解。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">绝大多数人都无法清楚区分策略和需要。我们会当读特定大学，特定工作当成一种需要，但实际上这些都是满足我们需要的策略。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">举例，很多夫妻在讨论去哪里度假而发生争执。因为一个想起海边，一个想去山上。乍看之下，他们两人似乎不可能达成共识，但从非暴力行为沟通的角度来看，这场争论的重点都放在策略上。其实他们可能都有相同的需要，那就是好好休息和玩乐，他们只是选择了不同的策略来满足需要。一旦他们把需要放在讨论的第一位，最后往往能找到一个双方都满意的策略。</span></p>','2024-11-06 00:49:44.439','2024-11-06 00:49:44.439',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 00:49:44.437',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e8cf1135-905f-49f1-bde6-2457c902d12d','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>爱是一种需要，可以以不同的&ldquo;策略&rdquo;使需要的到满足。表达出自己的感受与需要，好过只说出要求。&ldquo;我要你做&hellip;&hellip;&rdquo;。</p>','2024-11-06 01:21:56.413','2024-11-06 01:21:56.413',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 01:21:56.412',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7673c97b-2971-42d9-9f8d-9a723704273a','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>3. 需要 - 表达需要</p>
<p>&nbsp;人类9大需要 ：情感 创造 自由 认同 参与 保护 娱乐 生存 理解。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>清楚和表达自己的需要，而不纠结于策略。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 01:28:32.928','2024-11-06 01:28:32.928',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 01:28:32.927',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f7441b58-c23b-40c2-80a4-db10387252cd','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>把需要放在第一位，就那找到一个双方都满意的策略。</p>
<p>爱不是一种感受，而是一种需要。可以让我们跳脱原本的束缚，去找可以满足需要的策略。</p>','2024-11-06 01:32:04.986','2024-11-06 01:32:04.986',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 01:32:04.985',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6e6e4caf-6493-469e-8bdb-234119389418','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p><span lang="EN-MY" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">Day6</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">：</span><span lang="EN-MY" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">6</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span><span lang="EN-MY" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">3.&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">需要</span><span lang="EN-MY" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">&ndash;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">表达你的要（</span><span lang="EN-MY" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">Page048-052</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">非暴力溝通基礎3 @ 表達自己的需要</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">嬰兒時期的需要是單純的 毫無雜念 不會因自己的需要認為自己就是父母的累贅或討厭自己的需求。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">成年人卻特別多想法，理想化自己的需要或者放棄滿足需要。一旦需要被完整滿足 那麼成年人可成為完整的人、應該獲得完整的幸福、健康等。這是一項生活技能。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">人類的需要有9大類。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">情感、創造、自由、認同、參與、保護、娛樂、生存與理解。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">滿足這些需要有時需要策略。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">清楚區分『策略』和『需要』讓我們事半功倍。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">比如把愛視為一種需要，可以嘗試用不同策略而滿足愛的需要。</p>','2024-11-06 09:30:57.939','2024-11-06 09:30:57.939',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 09:30:57.938',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('61d097d9-d40b-483e-a30e-db29b24fe698','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>要把需要和策略给分开来。</p>
<p>到底什么才是最后最后最初的需要？</p>','2024-11-06 15:38:21.174','2024-11-06 15:38:21.174',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:38:21.173',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('61a10be0-e30f-4e97-8661-d380753889c8','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p><br>4. 请求&nbsp;<br>提出的请求必须涉及当下， 具体和可行。<br>并由心理准备会被拒绝。<br>分别请求 request vs 要求 demand&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-07 11:14:50.368','2024-11-07 11:14:50.368',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 11:14:50.367',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('897601a5-93e4-41a0-a096-b16f0b601542','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>人需要定时从自己的环境中抽离，这样才能够看得更远，爬得更高。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我已经很多年没有出国旅行了，因为工作和家庭忙碌的缘故。很想念九年前在尼泊尔爬山的经历。没有外界的干扰，连手机信号也匮乏。我想，明年是时候重回尼泊尔了。</p>','2024-11-06 09:36:12.91','2024-11-06 09:36:12.91',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 09:36:12.909',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6b0fc73-3793-4a8f-8a75-6f1a87014999','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>两个人之间只要有一样的需要，策略不会只有一种，去寻找一个可以满足彼此的策略。</p>','2024-11-06 12:48:03.906','2024-11-06 12:48:03.906',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 12:48:03.903',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88a11032-57aa-4101-a60e-73b30ffd660e','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>更新的四個層面：生理 情感 心智 心靈&nbsp;</p>
<p>不斷更新的四個層面：構成每個方面都需要不斷更新以保持平衡，如果某個方面被忽視了就會對其他方三方面產生負面影響，同樣的如果各個方面都得到培養，所以四個方面都會蓬勃發展。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 12:59:32.826','2024-11-06 12:59:32.826',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 12:59:32.825',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('04c5176b-c6b0-45d9-8952-9b8d0903b750','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>需要分开策略和需要的分别</p>','2024-11-06 15:53:07.506','2024-11-06 15:53:07.506',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:53:07.505',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6abc7b26-98c8-44a6-a062-5648931aa339','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>智力层面<br>智力层面的更新主要靠教育，不断学习，琢磨心智，开阔视野。有时需要通过课堂教学系统学习计划。<br><br>写作也是琢磨心智的一个方式，通过不断记录自己的想法，经历，深刻见解和学习心得，我们的思路会通过写作越来越清晰，准确，贯通。</p>','2024-11-07 08:50:02.783','2024-11-07 08:50:02.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 08:50:02.782',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b272b1d-18f7-4349-a53a-b9ce20bc86e7','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>智力需要自己透过不断的学习来提升。</p>
<p>社会和情感层面需要互相理解和鼓励。</p>','2024-11-07 11:15:18.693','2024-11-07 11:15:18.693',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 11:15:18.692',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ef411de8-0587-4a01-ba3f-b428d871505a','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 55&nbsp; 11月9日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十章 330页 &ndash; 333页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每天都要获得个人领域的成功</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣Focus Q2 -读书daily </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣把时间平衡回在身体、社会/情感、智力和精神。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3️⃣公众领域的成功和強大的人际关系，都要享受每天保持围绕一个重心的练习，以及获得自己每天个人领域的成功。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">控制新技而不是被控制</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">➡️工作需要明智决策和优良判断。我们快乐来源自我们人际关系的质量。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">➡️分配时间在新技。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">➡️专注人与人之间联系与沟通。</span><span class="s2"><br><br></span><span class="s1">🌹</span><span class="s2">让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-06 02:11:43.801','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('81824da1-0a88-4352-94f8-7fffde02b35f','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>人的四个层面（身体、精神、智力和社会/情感）相互依存，需要不断滋养。</p>
<p>如果你体力透支（身体）就很难表达爱（社会/情感）；如果你感到动力满满，与自己相处融洽（精神），你就会有更好的判断（智力），也会发现尊重他人变得更容易（社会/情感）。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;做事不过度&rdquo;，如果不控制新技术在家里的使用，它就会以有害的方式控制你的家。</p>','2024-11-07 07:39:47.343','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b55a0689-1220-4178-8678-cd7f390054de','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 56&nbsp; 11月10日 (星期日）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十一章 349页 &ndash; 354页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">由内而外造就自己。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">➡️由内而外的努力让我们能夠建立充满信任和坦诚的关系。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">➡️抽时间从事第二限事务，重新审视自己的计划，改变行为模式和调整生活，就会双赢关系，彼此深入理解和精彩的统合综效。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴Q2- relationship building </span><span class="s2"><br><br></span><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-06 02:14:23.115','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dce2c9ac-3c2d-4f1f-a18d-373625aad03c','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 57&nbsp; 11月11日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十一章 355页 &ndash; 358页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正的变革是由内向外实现的，从根本上改变那些决定了我们的人格和世界观的思想构造和行为模式才行。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要停止探索，目的就是回到起点，重新认识，要以正确的原则为生活中心，跳出不良习惯的&rdquo;温床&rdquo;，要播种、除草、培植的过程就能感受成长的喜悦来达到美满生活。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">生命的意义是因为学会了爱、奉献和不断的尝试。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我要&rdquo;以终为始&rdquo;，以教育为出发点。在个人与企业的使命宣言不再是墻上的文字。要活出来。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">过去&rdquo;失败&rdquo;把使命做好，经过失败，要与失败有健康的关系，我深信内心的强大，才能活出来。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2"><br></span><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-06 03:17:18.948','2024-11-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3959ec69-a938-412b-8b2a-587bd0b1ab80','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>提出需要并不是等于弱者。提出需要只是人展现生命所产生的反应。生命需要被尊重，所以提出的需要也要被尊重。</p>
<p>经济学家曼弗雷德提出九大人类的需要：情感、创造、自由、认同、参与、保护、娱乐、生存和理解。需要和策略不同。我们需要的是满足需要，而满足需求的策略可以有很多方式。</p>
<p>理解需要是把责任拿回到自己的手里。例如：书上提出的例子， 我需要整齐美感。对方是否愿意去满足我的需求，另当别论。但是我具体提出所见到的，把自己的感受具象化，提出需求，是让对方理解自己的需求和感受。我的感受是来自我的需求，并不是来自对方的作为而让我产生那些感受。那么，对方不会觉得我在指责。我也必须接纳对方可以不理会我的需求。但是，满足自己的策略可以有很多方法。</p>
<p>我需要整洁美感，因为的需要是这样的一种认同感。但是，孩子需要有自己的空间和时间去管理自己的事，孩子的需要是自由。那么，孩子可以关起门来，但是在公共空间和自己一起保持整洁美感。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 04:46:36.848','2024-11-06 04:46:36.848',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 04:46:36.847',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9b7113b0-efce-4ab4-b9a2-a75e79ec218f','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「學會發現我們的需要並設法滿足它們，是一項基本的生活技能，而這項技能也是落實靈性對話的一部分」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 05:39:21.316','2024-11-06 05:39:21.316',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 05:39:21.315',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8bf95cf8-c348-4635-b885-921226566317','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>如果下次听到有人抱怨的时候，不要附合他的话，而是对他的话给于同理心。</p>
<p>我会试着说：</p>
<p>我听到了XXX所着的做，令你感到不开心。</p>
<p>又或者说：</p>
<p>听起來，XXX没有满足你的需求。</p>','2024-11-06 08:51:17.051','2024-11-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8d9de8e6-96e4-48da-93d0-0477b9eb8cde','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>所有的人類都有需要，因為生命在展現它自身樣貌時，必然會產生某些需要。</p>
<p>學會發現我们的需要並設法滿足它們，是一項基本的生活技能，而這項技能也是落實靈性對話的一部分。</p>','2024-11-06 08:52:37.672','2024-11-06 08:52:37.672',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 08:52:37.671',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac128e57-c38a-4e7b-be5f-183f90e8af26','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>自我提升和完善自己~<br>我们都需要不断更新自己~人生最值得投资的就是磨练自己~<br>4个层面是我们需要注重的<br>1.身体：锻炼，营养，压力调节<br>2.社会/情感：服务，同理心，综合综效，内在安全感<br>3.精神层面：实现价值，忠诚，学习，冥想<br>4.智力： 阅读，想象，规划，写作。</p>','2024-11-06 09:06:36.25','2024-11-06 09:06:36.25',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 09:06:36.249',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d098bbb2-526c-4c8c-8c3c-4e4a2482617a','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 52&nbsp; 11月6日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十章 315页 &ndash; 320页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">统合综效</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">定义问题或机会</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">他们的方法（首先试着别人的想法）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我的方法（试着通过分享获得被别人理解）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">头脑风暴（创造新的机遇和想法）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">快速通道（找到最佳解决方案）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-06 11:31:40.629','2024-11-06 11:31:40.629',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 11:31:40.628',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec7ec235-9ffa-48d2-a18c-5ca79dee349a','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人类的九大需要 ：</p>
<p>情感、创造、自由、认同、参与、保护、娱乐、生存、理解。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>［学会发现我们的需要并设法满足它们，是一项基本的生活技能，而这项技能也是落实灵性对话的一部分］</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>［同时看懂别人的需要并设法引导他们满足自己］</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 12:54:44.84','2024-11-06 12:54:44.84',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 12:54:44.839',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48667550-44b3-442f-9adf-66f53ed005fa','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>我喜欢作者用磨刀作为不断更新的例子。很多时候我们不懂自己的盲区，而常常在砍树可是没有磨好刀。</p>
<p>身体成面，必须面条运动，因为健康是一切。少了健康所有财富都变成不重要了。</p>
<p>精神成面，我们的心灵必须要有所寄托。禅修是一项非常好的精神运动。心力就是一切，把心按好了了，做事情就顺顺利利。</p>','2024-11-06 13:34:16.388','2024-11-06 13:34:16.388',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 13:34:16.387',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f7435f3f-31ee-454f-b4cd-f55e78f08873','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day6：11月 6日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3. 需要&ndash;表达你的需要（Page048-052）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3. 需要&ndash;表达你的需要</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">满足他人需求的多样性：每个人的需求都是多方面的，包括情感、创意、归属、娱乐、安全、健康等。因此，沟通时要理解对方的多重需求，而不仅仅是片面的理解。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">避免强加自己的想法：为了有效的沟通，不应简单地满足自己对他人的理解，而是要倾听并观察对方真正的需求。这样才能建立真正良好的关系。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">关系中的策略和感受：在关系中，沟通策略很重要。不同的人对待沟通的方式不同，所以选择适合的方式可以帮助增进关系。例如，表达关心和尊重对方的需求是维系关系的基础。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">文化差异和需求理解：各文化背景下，需求和沟通方式可能不同。理解这些差异可以帮助更好地与他人沟通，避免误解和冲突。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">接纳和尊重：接纳他人并不容易，因为每个人都有自我和内心的需求，但接纳和尊重是沟通成功的关键。这需要理解、同理心和包容。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">通过这些点，可以更深入地理解有效沟通的核心：理解对方的真实需求，尊重彼此的差异，建立有意义的关系。</span></p>','2024-11-06 13:55:05.303','2024-11-06 13:55:05.303',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 13:55:05.301',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1fb145d-6b17-4a05-9409-1ac773f70af7','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>需要，这一章要我们勇敢的表达需要。</p>
<p>很多时候我们没有满足到自己的需要，遭到了否定，明白了过去自己真正需要的没有被满足到。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>比如夫妻去旅行，一个要去大自然山林里，</p>
<p>一个要去海边，</p>
<p>夫妻其实有共同的需要，就是去放松自己。</p>
<p>如果把需要放在谈论前，也需大家都可以有一致去哪都行，重要是去旅行去休息。</p>','2024-11-06 13:59:30.179','2024-11-06 13:59:41.493',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 13:59:41.492',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b41c2ede-797d-4082-a42d-9295e748bd0d','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>不断更新</p>
<p>自我提升的四个层面磨练自己</p>
<p>身体 锻炼 ，营养，压力，调解</p>
<p>智力 阅读，想象，规划，写作</p>
<p>精神 实现价值， 忠诚，学习，冥想</p>
<p>社会/情感 服务，同理心，综合综效，内在安全感。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 14:03:41.191','2024-11-06 14:03:41.191',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 14:03:41.19',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a032efc6-daf9-4bc7-83b4-bec49580a199','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>每个人的需要层次都不同，但满足需要才能使人完整。</p>
<p>每个人满足需要的策略不同。所以为达到良好沟通，该把重点放在需要而不是策略上。</p>','2024-11-06 14:08:56.404','2024-11-06 14:08:56.404',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 14:08:56.403',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('816cae55-01b9-4ae3-ae05-50a72ac23180','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>别忘了从四个层面提升自己</p>','2024-11-06 15:54:25.892','2024-11-06 15:54:25.892',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:54:25.891',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8144c367-a31a-430a-82aa-0315d53e34f9','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>在社会/情感层面，我要多加一点-- 尽量多看别人的好，不要看别人的不好。但是如果事实证明他们真的不好，那就接受吧。重要的是，要常常以同情角度去理解别人。</p>','2024-11-07 09:51:06.729','2024-11-07 09:51:06.729',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 09:51:06.728',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6364845f-8f7b-4bd7-9125-b322b9ecc0c3','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>提出具体的需求</p>
<p>只涉及到当下</p>
<p>要懂得区分&ldquo;请求&rdquo;与&ldquo;要求&rdquo;</p>','2024-11-07 13:57:38.462','2024-11-07 13:57:38.462',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 13:57:38.461',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('86fbc348-b135-430b-9960-8115e21559f9','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>懂得说出个人感受和需要等固然重要，但具体请求以让自我的满足也一样不可缺，只是需要保持开放与尊重的心态。</p>','2024-11-07 14:04:56.039','2024-11-07 14:04:56.039',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 14:04:56.038',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3127bdb0-7641-4486-a0d1-689ab9a7b3dd','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 61&nbsp; 11月15日 (星期五） 📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇389页 &ndash; 392页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🔴resourcefulness 足够智多谋及釆取主动 initiative 原则重要。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴以上帝的旨意为中心，所有事情都会有合适的位置。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴个人或者企业想要保持成功，唯一的方法就是以原则为中心地生活。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴坚持做EBA存款,遵守着人际关系中，再小的事情也很重要。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴领导力就是清晰地指出别人的价值和潜力，使对方受到鼓舞而有所意识。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Keep practicing the 7Habit principal 💪🏻</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>','2024-11-06 14:21:41.974','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
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<p>需要：表达自己的需要</p>
<p>感受是一种情绪。情绪会被真实或暴力的语言影响。</p>
<p>今天与一位师兄喝下午茶，聊起明年的计划，我说想让公司的同事，有机会成为自己公司旗下的小老板，我一厢情愿的已经为他排好了一切如何合作等等。但是智慧的庄师兄一言提醒了我，这是我的感受和我自己的需要，可能不是同事们真正的感受和需要，最好可以与他们真心沟通他们的真正想法。这样他们才会歡喜做。效果更加不一样。<br>这样才能够共知，共识，共行，最后成果才能共享。<br><br></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 14:29:38.173','2024-11-06 14:29:38.173',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 14:29:38.172',NULL,NULL);
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<li>需要和策略是两回事，例如夫妻要<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">好好放松自己</span>（需要），一个选择去海边，一个选择去山上，要做什么是策略，而需要是做这件事能够满足内心需要</li>
<li>同一个需要，每个人满足的方式不同</li>
<li>在意见不合时候，需讨论的是需要，彼此了解了，就能找到双方满意的策略</li>
</ul>','2024-11-06 14:41:38.506','2024-11-06 14:41:38.506',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 14:41:38.505',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们需要有强健的身体，这样才可以有力量去工作，去为社会服务，如果身体时常生病，那怎么还有能耐做事 ？所以时常保持一定时间的段练身体是必须的。</p>
<p>除了身体，在精神情绪也应该有所照顾，打坐，冥想，宗教信仰等等都有所幫助。</p>','2024-11-06 14:46:11.013','2024-11-06 14:46:11.013',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 14:46:11.012',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人类需要分9大类：<br>情感，创造，自由，认同，参与，保护，娱乐，生存和理解。<br>练习察觉它们。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>区分策略和需要<br>［策略］可以多样化<br>从［需要］放在第一位角度讨论<br>双方才可能达成共识<br>双方才都找到满意的策略</p>','2024-11-06 14:55:41.75','2024-11-06 15:03:36.515',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:03:36.514',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c017de2-8199-4efc-b45b-9c5e7dc3f70f','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 52 &nbsp;11月6日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第十章 315页 &ndash; 320页<br>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 :&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>习惯七是保护并优化你自己。以睿智而均衡的方式从四个层面不断更新 :</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1。 "身体"- 健康饮食，充足休息以及定期锻炼; 提升耐力, 韧性和力量。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2。 "精神" - 本质，核心和对价值体系的坚持。将内心的矛省和冲突平息下来，就会感到一片祥和。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>3。 "智力"<br>4。"社会/情感"</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-06 15:25:30.305','2024-11-06 15:26:03.396',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:26:03.395',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9dddd827-4d0c-45d6-a3a2-b03d23d6b8bf','282e54d1-9a60-40d4-b842-16947563a04b','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<p>从4个层面提升自己：</p>
<ol>
<li>身体：锻炼 ，营养，压力，调解</li>
<li>智力：阅读，想象，规划，写作</li>
<li>精神：实现价值， 忠诚，学习，冥想</li>
<li><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu); font-size: 14px;">社会/情感: 服务，同理心，综合综效，内在安全感</span></li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 15:29:43.258','2024-11-06 15:29:43.258',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:29:43.257',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('091b27fd-8530-42eb-8639-e8853b2241fb','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>提出具体的请求，具体的请求应该是针对当下的需要提出，应该涉及到当下，而并非未来。另外需要伴有理性的思维，允许对方拒绝我们的请求。</p>','2024-11-07 10:53:37.909','2024-11-07 10:55:00.182',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 10:55:00.181',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ccc03fb5-92d6-491b-bbb6-a22eb456322d','c11702ed-8cbf-45f7-b1ef-05fb9c4a3c68','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>给每个模型找个反例</p>
<p>为己利他</p>
<p>囚徒困境 (Prisoner''s dilemma)</p>
<p>每个理论都有前提： 价格决定成本, 而不是成本决定价格</p>','2024-12-06 15:14:08.781','2024-12-06 15:14:08.781',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-06 15:14:08.78',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b8762eca-7161-4ea2-b2b3-b0881ad5f8e4','c11702ed-8cbf-45f7-b1ef-05fb9c4a3c68','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>价格决定成本。</p>','2024-12-06 15:30:34.613','2024-12-06 15:30:34.613',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-06 15:30:34.612',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('804acc87-e331-47a8-8de6-c5ccefb00c49','1b78922a-c39b-4f37-8988-abf7c5eb81d2','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>我说的话、我的表述，是事实，是观点，是立场，还是信仰？</p>','2024-12-06 15:12:37.01','2024-12-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7991c8c-c5f5-4dde-bb74-49e5ffd2dbed','1b78922a-c39b-4f37-8988-abf7c5eb81d2','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「當一個人持有的不是觀點而是立場時，當一個人「屁股決定腦袋」時，你應該做的事情，是對他說「It''s good for you」（這對你有益）」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:13:03.444','2024-12-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e15e946-08d2-4ff7-bb00-882794d06eac','037d098e-f473-476e-80f2-b105e9fbcff9','6949d955-832d-47f1-870b-95a01be61ff8','<p>流量，改变存量。存量，改变世界。</p>','2024-12-06 17:25:30.262','2024-12-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-12-12 00:00:00.023','2024-12-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('09ff108c-1073-41ed-baeb-1fda1c7b2337','037d098e-f473-476e-80f2-b105e9fbcff9','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>因果链链接变数，是锻炼变数的基本功，而这个变数的因果会是增加还是减弱，必须常常练习。</p>','2024-12-12 14:23:20.646','2024-12-12 14:23:20.646',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-12 14:23:20.645',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9185464a-8320-4133-abdb-39e62f078715','dce28fb7-de86-4930-9356-ba6b110e0c97','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day6</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY">6</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">3.&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">需要</span><span lang="EN-MY">&ndash;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">表达你的需要（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page048-052</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">3. 需要：发现需要和满足需要，是基本生活技能。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我们要分清楚，什么是需要，什么是策略。<br>例子：去哪里旅行的讨论<br>去哪里：策略<br>为什么去：需要</span></p>','2024-11-06 15:56:48.749','2024-11-06 15:56:48.749',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-06 15:56:48.748',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十章 321页 &ndash; 325页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴智力层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">养成定期阅读的习惯是拓展思维的最佳方式，这是第二象限事务Q2。不读书的人跟文盲没有什么两样。建议是每天&rdquo;磨刀&rdquo;一小时，身体力行。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴社会/情感层面</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">增进在安全感的方式-坚守原则，肯定自我；与人为善，相信人生不止输赢两种抉择，乐于奉献，服务人群，燃烧自己，照亮别人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴把工作当作一种奉献，再平凡的职业也显得不平凡。把企业当学校。不断磨炼灵魂，</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每个人都是社会的一面小镜子，反映出身边人的想法、判断和模式，每个人都从镜中获知自己在周围人眼中的形象。所以自己是社会的大镜子的一部分。我们可以互相肯定对方。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2"><br></span><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-03 13:31:40.888','2024-11-07 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3ab47f2-2e00-4801-858a-b0fb08c966c4','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>不要有你提出了請求，別人就應該接受的想法，對溝通的結果抱持開放的態度，並且充許對方拒絕你的請求。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-05 14:34:35.392','2024-11-07 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b96c8d4d-943a-4893-9e41-22db3f3a0e6e','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>指令式的要求并非请求，父母包括我自己还有家中长辈不免要求孩子做这个做那个，而没有提出具体明确的请求，并且能接受拒绝。</p>','2024-11-06 01:40:23.636','2024-11-07 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52a73e7e-786f-4bf1-90a1-e350a6efedb2','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>提出请求必须符合：</p>
<p>1） 是针对当下的需要而提出 （不翻旧账、不涉及未来 - 因为有未知数）</p>
<p>2）具体而且可行的</p>
<p>请求和要求的不同：当你被拒绝你会试图去逼使他接受就是要求。请求是当对方拒绝你，你还能欣然接纳对方。</p>','2024-11-06 04:50:01.525','2024-11-07 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e230b337-fafd-4b25-bf0b-1a94a011835b','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>智力成面，必须不断学习，书中自有黄金屋。我觉得最好增加知识就是读书。</p>
<p>社会情感，我们与社会的贡献。我们从社会拿了很多的资源，必须回馈社会。与社会建立情感帐号。</p>
<p>改变他人，我们不懂自己那里一句话或一个动作，或许就是影响他人的一生。积极努力生活，让自己成为别人的光。</p>','2024-11-06 13:45:00.553','2024-11-07 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012','2024-11-07 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a70a8951-8c2e-4bfa-bd75-f949aa79e163','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>提出請求時 務必針對當下的需要提出 還要是具體可行被滿足的請求。也是一種馬上執行的特定行動。</p>
<p>但千萬別把請求Request 當成要求Demand.</p>
<p>當提出了請求後 靈性的對話允許他人接收或是拒絕自己的請求。</p>','2024-11-07 00:02:34.432','2024-11-07 00:02:34.432',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 00:02:34.431',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a52b8cf-562b-4241-aaab-6c948ac10816','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>请求必须符合以下的条件：<br>- 只涉及当下的需求<br>- 具体的<br>- 可以采取行动的<br>- &nbsp;需求和要求是不同的。试图迫使他人接受请求就变成要求。</p>','2024-11-07 00:27:16.32','2024-11-07 00:27:16.32',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 00:27:16.319',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1b52f875-b285-456b-930f-342498514e2b','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>不要有「你提出了請求,別人就應該接受」的想法,這並不符合靈性對話的精神。这是「偽請求」,因为你想要用盡一切本領說服對方接受。為了讓自己能提出真正的請求,我們必須對溝通的結果抱持開放的態度,並允許對方拒絕你的請求。</p>','2024-11-07 01:24:47.241','2024-11-07 01:24:47.241',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 01:24:47.24',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6bbbab9b-dec5-48f4-9a4f-20744a30643a','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>请求要针对当下的需要，要具体，可行的，不可涉及未来。</p>
<p>要区分请求和要求。当逼对方接受你的请求时，那就是要求。必须对沟通的结果保持开放的态度，允许对方拒绝你的请求。</p>','2024-11-07 01:51:50.71','2024-11-07 01:51:50.71',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 01:51:50.709',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85547d2b-237c-46e6-9cb9-1752bb09688d','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>跟我女兒的關係，如果要和朋友一樣，就不要偽請求。</p>
<p>最近希望她跟我一起去台灣找我媽。先不要把我跟我媽的需求跟他解釋的清楚。然後請求他去成全我媽的需求。</p>','2024-11-07 03:48:26.571','2024-11-07 04:30:35.293',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 04:30:35.292',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cbdc7e60-4b9f-4402-863e-3ec60d0b4f0d','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>請求，是針對當下的需要提出，且要具體。</p>
<p>為了讓自己能提出真正的請求，我们必須對溝通的結果抱持開放的態度，並允許對方拒絕你的請求。「請求」和「要求」是有所區分的。</p>','2024-11-07 06:37:41.31','2024-11-07 06:37:41.31',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 06:37:41.309',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f180bfc8-2269-4a9b-b777-601cc0d9d5a2','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>策略是满足需要的方法，或者说是工具或手段。</p>
<p>文章中的看电影不是需要，而是策略。</p>
<p>满足彼此的相互陪伴是需要。</p>
<p>表達自己的需要並不会成为他人的负担。</p>','2024-11-07 07:29:28.777','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b990b597-2c4c-4a95-a39d-74140536b8b0','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>『七个习惯浇灌出来的最高级、最美好和最甘甜的果实就是齐心协力，就是把自己、爱人、朋友和同事合而为一。』</p>','2024-11-07 07:56:32.4','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb5cfa6f-a1ed-421d-aa3b-8b8fc1c11ef5','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>𠄘认自己的需要並不会让自己成为一个难搞的人。</p>
<p>原来怨气的产生是一直否定自己的需要。</p>
<p>满足自己的需要也是对神聖的生命表達敬意。</p>','2024-11-07 06:51:38.555','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ad43ca70-8d11-4651-b238-13206ca4fb29','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>当提出真正的请求，必须要对结果保持开放的态度，因为有可能会被拒绝。同时，请求也必须是可行的，有具体期限的。</p>
<p>实在地说出观察到的实况，表达当下的感受，并告知自己对事情的需求，再提出请求，这种沟通方式，会得到比较好的回应，高效的沟通。</p>','2024-11-07 11:27:01.954','2024-11-07 11:28:43.437',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 11:28:43.436',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab2493ec-0d6f-46fc-ae30-009906c6cde3','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">是请求，不是要求！</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">请不要有&rdquo;你提出请求，别人就应该接受&rdquo;的想法，这并不符合灵性对话的精神。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">初学者的辅助句子</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;当我听到_____时；我感到_____，因为我需要_____；你愿意______吗？&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">例子：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">看到你没有整理床铺，衣服又散落在房间地板上时，我感到有些挫折，因为我需要整齐和美感。你愿意花十分钟和我一起整理床铺，然后把地上的衣服都捡起来吗？</span></p>','2024-11-07 12:19:13.019','2024-11-07 12:19:13.019',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 12:19:13.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d78bdf2-98f2-46df-855b-95ffbd81f521','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>在这continual improvement 的习惯下，四个主要層面，前面三个都是个人本身，另外一个是个人与周围环境人物的关系连接，昨天讲了两个个人，今天讲的是个人是关于时间管理，意思是时间应该放在有营养成分效益，不要放在无谓的肥皂據上。</p>
<p>至于与周围互动关连的侧是踪合习惯四（双赢思维），五（知彼解己）以及六（统合踪效）的方向前题加以continual improvement。</p>
<p>最后持之以恒，可能可以改变对方。</p>','2024-11-07 12:41:02.503','2024-11-07 12:41:02.503',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 12:41:02.501',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0bcfa46-8ffd-4fd6-b5a7-a7afb0f0afb7','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>请求带来被需要的感受，有空间给对方选择，给了对选择权。</p>
<p>要求带来被指使的感受，剥夺了对方选择权，服从或拒绝都不爽。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>比如：</p>
<p>＂你很讨人厌！必须修正行为＂</p>
<p>＂你可以不要那么讨厌吗？＂</p>','2024-11-07 13:53:07.169','2024-11-07 13:56:52.729',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 13:56:52.728',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c6082ae-9fc0-4c69-ac47-31c0c0489811','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>4）提出具体的请求<br>请求和要求的区别<br>真真的［请求］request<br>是要具体的，可行的，保持开放态度的，充许他人拒绝的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不是［要求］demand<br>&nbsp;比如：<br>你可以证明你爱我吗（要求）<br>你现在可以抱抱我吗（请求）</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>你明天会洗车吗? ( 要求）<br>你现在愿意答应我，明天下午洗车吗？（请求）</p>','2024-11-07 13:46:13.967','2024-11-07 14:15:52.693',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 14:15:52.692',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d15ad97-8715-43e5-b690-1ea171c2dc74','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>七习惯要的就是由内而外，只有把自己做好。自我观察我们的每一个习惯，他是如何影响我们的生活。在面对问题，有没有主动积极。在人生旅途和工作，有没有以终为始。</p>','2024-11-07 14:18:11.419','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7cb0751e-d9ea-45cb-b2e6-78d6929ffb86','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 53&nbsp; 11月7日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十章 321页 &ndash; 325页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自我提升和完善的四个层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">习惯七就是个人产能</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">从四个层面更新你的天性，磨练自己那就是：身体、精神、智力、社会/情感（见图10-1）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">对自己投资，对我们又没处世合作贡献的唯一工具进行投资，是我们在一生中做出的最有效的投资。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">定期从四个层面&ldquo;磨刀&rdquo;的重要性。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">身体层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">呵护身体-健康饮食，充足休息以及定期锻炼。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">精神层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">精神层面的更新，为你指引人生方向，以习惯二密切相关。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">精神层面是人的本质、核心和对价值体系的坚持，是生活中非常私人而又至关重要的领域。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">智力层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">智力层面的更新主要靠交易，坚持不断学习知识，磨砺新知，开阔视野。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不读书的人跟文盲没有什么两样。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">社会/情感层面</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">身体、精神和智力层面与习惯、二、三密切相关，围绕这个人厌倦，自我领导和自我管理的原则。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">社会/情感层面的重点测试习惯是、五、六、围绕这人际领导、移情交流和创造性合作的原则。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一人为善，相信人生不止输赢两种抉择，还有双方都是赢家的第三种可能性；乐于奉献，服务人群；燃烧自己，照亮别人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">改变他人</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">知足形态让我们意识到，反映他人的正面形象并不会貶低我们自己，反而会使我们更强大，因为他增加了，我们以其他自己主动自由效交往的机会。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">平衡更新</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自我提升和完善的过程必须包括天性中的所有四个层面：身体、精神、自律、社会/情感。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">平衡发展并更新所有以上的层面，任何层面遭到忽视都会产生消极力量，对效能和成长产生阻碍。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-07 14:07:26.84','2024-11-07 14:07:29.427',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 14:07:29.425',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9dc77402-92dc-4a1d-9df0-60300b9e7a00','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day7：11月7 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4. 请求&ndash;提出具体的请求（Page052-054）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">记得记得！&rdquo;你提出了请求，别人就应该接受&rdquo;的想法是做的。所以要拿捏得好在&rdquo;请求&rdquo;request 和&rdquo;要求&rdquo;（demand)一线之差。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">非暴力沟通是要清楚具体的表达，而且可以衡量的。</span></p>','2024-11-07 14:16:59.378','2024-11-07 14:16:59.378',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 14:16:59.377',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dfc24d6a-4e8b-4f53-bb4f-10effbaddb55','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>智力可以经过习惯三要事第一，过滤我们所吸收的内容。持续学习也尤为重要，丰富自己的知识储备，文化人士，让自己的精神富足起来。</p>
<p>社会/情感 - 我们和周围人的人际关系，同理心，创造性也对我们也社会链接很重要。先了解，聆听对方。拟定第三解决方法。</p>
<p>改变他人 - 让他人知道自己的重要性，自己的优点，会让他们更加的积极主动。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-07 14:20:17.142','2024-11-07 14:20:17.142',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 14:20:17.14',NULL,NULL);
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<li>请求：针对当下需要提出，且要具体、可行的行动
<ul>
<li>你可以花5分钟整理床铺吗？</li>
<li>你可以告诉我，大概什么时候能整理床铺吗？</li>
<li>你现在可以抱抱我吗？</li>
<li>你可以坐在沙发上，静静听我说5分钟的话吗？&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>提出的请求是双方都能明确知道有无得到满足</li>
<li>请求只涉及当下，不会涉及未来
<ul>
<li>你现在愿意答应我，明天下午去洗车吗？</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>对结果保持开放的心，允许对方拒绝自己</li>
</ul>','2024-11-07 14:24:07.962','2024-11-07 14:24:07.962',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 14:24:07.961',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0695547b-baa8-41e5-9eb3-66ed1535428b','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>螺旋式上升<br>自我提升和完善是一种原则，也是一个过程，一个在成长和转变之间螺旋式的上升过程，一个不断完善自我的过程。</p>
<p>要实现这个良性循环，就必须学习，坚持，实践，一直像螺旋方式不断在每个层次提升。</p>','2024-11-07 14:31:46.847','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f51cac0d-9d30-404b-970c-e7e0d8a5dea0','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>不断更新就像四个轮胎，必须平衡。所以我们的身体，精神，智能，和社会情感都要平均。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-07 14:12:16.798','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('176a7c7d-ef71-4162-a6f7-54794114d662','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>请求：针对当下需要提出，且要具体、可行的行动。</p>
<p>提出的请求是双方都能明确知道有无得到满足；</p>
<p>请求只涉及当下，不会涉及未来；</p>
<p>对结果保持开放的心，允许对方拒绝自己。</p>','2024-11-07 14:33:17.23','2024-11-07 14:35:02.073',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 14:35:02.072',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83131a06-ab3f-486c-aa15-7963b7929682','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>Pg321 - 325</p>
<p>智力层面</p>
<p>社会／情感层面</p>
<p>歌德：以一个人的现有表现期许之，他不会有所长进。以他的潜能和应有成就期许之，他定能不负所望。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-07 15:08:53.566','2024-11-07 15:08:55.584',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:08:55.583',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('17da6b1f-c8c4-4fc8-869a-2a08ac6b9bb5','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>感謝這個讀書會讓我可以閱書的習慣。</p>
<p>給予他人正面的評價，肯定和讚賞。</p>
<p>幫助人們独立和實現自我，並建立起美滿、豐盛和卓有成效的人際關係。</p>','2024-11-07 15:14:09.821','2024-11-07 15:14:09.821',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:14:09.819',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2379f550-5d0a-44e1-b5ba-ffc5b2347850','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day7：11月7 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>4. 请求&ndash;提出具体的请求（Page052-054）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>提出要求：针对当下的需要，具体，可行。</p>
<p>不要有&ldquo;提出要求，对方就该接受&rdquo;的想法。</p>','2024-11-07 15:26:54.216','2024-11-07 15:27:07.434',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:27:07.433',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('823bada5-d98b-4567-9b3f-c37d79b519a7','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>再复习一下，</p>
<p>先观察，接下来说出感受，表达需要后，加上具体的请求。听者会比较愿意配合。请求是当下，不是未来性。</p>','2024-11-07 15:32:38.248','2024-11-07 15:51:39.095',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:51:39.093',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f09cfcab-f736-4d3a-9fac-d302a9e6c983','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>Pg 325 - 329</p>
<p>平衡更新</p>
<p>更新中的统合综效</p>
<p>螺旋式上升</p>
<p>为了不断进步，我们必须学习、坚持、实践&hellip;&hellip;&hellip;&hellip;再学习、再坚持、再实践</p>','2024-11-07 15:11:50.545','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1e2e58d-be72-4cae-a7fd-3abe53d9e419','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>用习惯1、2和3，每天花1小时在身体、精神和智力上</li>
<li>社会/情感：以习惯四与对方谈，再用习惯五，站在对方立场去倾听，也让对方了解自己的立场，再用习惯六，达成双方都满意的方案</li>
<li>我们都是彼此的镜子，能够互相影响，因此，我们的一句话/一个行为对一个人是很有影响力</li>
<li>身体、智力、精神和社会/精神都需要平衡发展</li>
</ul>','2024-11-07 15:39:03.843','2024-11-07 15:39:03.843',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:39:03.839',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2458d0ec-7bbc-417c-92de-2215d428295f','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>请求：提出具体的请求</p>
<p>感受：我发觉在谈判时，必须冷静思考自己真正的满足需要理清，才具体的发言请求对方符合自己当下的需求。而非常避忌带有迫使要求对方的语气。</p>
<p>更要假想要是对方拒绝了，我自己可以做些什么。就是说还要留后路，不会变成僵局。</p>','2024-11-07 15:39:51.408','2024-11-07 15:39:51.408',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:39:51.407',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('642d0d96-d9b6-4319-9567-072e81a55539','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>请求当下，先看现在观察，再提出要求，</p>','2024-11-07 15:47:39.563','2024-11-07 15:47:39.563',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:47:39.562',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('356ef98a-2f58-48ad-910d-19db9ecd1eae','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>养成定期阅读优秀文学作品的习惯是拓展思维的最佳方式。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>磨厉心智的铃一种方式是写作。</p>','2024-11-07 15:54:52.494','2024-11-07 15:54:52.494',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:54:52.493',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e12897d8-bf37-475e-b36d-1272dda16230','1d0d6279-1e67-4bfe-8b29-69a6f635c3d0','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 53&nbsp; 11月7日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第十章 321页 &ndash; 325页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">人们的自我定义，足以影响自己甚至别人。</p>
<p dir="ltr">如果被认为聪明，平庸的人在接受不同的待遇，也会变得聪明。</p>
<p dir="ltr">如果被认为平庸，聪明的人也会逐渐变得平庸。</p>
<p dir="ltr">环境的影响，真的很大。</p>
<p dir="ltr">以一个人的现有表现期许，不会有所长进。</p>
<p dir="ltr">以一个人的潜能和应有成就期许，定能不负所望。</p>','2024-11-07 15:54:56.164','2024-11-07 15:54:56.164',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:54:56.163',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5368a52-f0ee-4c4a-8ce9-087784a288ef','d6eaf5a7-d4ad-4694-8638-f4312c35187f','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>4️⃣ 提出具体的请求</p>
<p>说出你想要被满足的需求</p>
<p>这不应该涉及未来的，而且必须是现在就可行的</p>','2024-11-07 15:58:24.602','2024-11-07 15:58:44.007',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-07 15:58:44.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab5e23df-5389-4aa5-a332-f606e0d3a692','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>套用基本句型来练习非暴力沟通是初学者很重要的功课</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;当我听到 __ 时，我感到__， 因为我需要 __， 你愿意__吗？</p>','2024-11-07 16:36:49.193','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('486a0a1e-b980-49a5-9ac4-c03efed6ef3c','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>观察：评估、评判、解释、诊断</p>
<p>感受：想法、信念、看法、印象</p>
<p>需要（具共通性）：策略、具体作为（具多样性）</p>
<p>请求（聚焦于行动）：要求（威逼、利诱）和模糊的诉求</p>','2024-11-07 22:17:44.283','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c7ef86d-a2ba-4318-97f1-17ac69415269','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>这些基本句型的格式和四大要素的区分很清晰易懂，期待可以早点做到和自我与他人的连结。</p>','2024-11-07 14:21:39.017','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('772c8e7d-6690-4633-8f54-1b2401d14a17','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>平衡自己，提升自己。但是，最終最重要的，還是要回到【良知】，幫助自己判斷是否背離了正確的原則，引導我們向這些原則靠攏。</p>','2024-09-28 13:57:02.847','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be559791-c371-44d6-b76a-a1fa3e2e4fd6','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>当时我听到．．时，</p>
<p>我感到．．．．，</p>
<p>因为我需要．．，</p>
<p>你愿意．．．吗？</p>
<p>多练习这个格式。</p>','2024-10-29 07:22:09.767','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9cb8a939-d3db-4a50-99c6-ddd88731efab','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>當我听到父親在家昏倒了的消息，好像有中風的跡象，我感到非常害怕和緊張，我需要有人幫忙我去家里了瞭解下狀況，你願意幫這個忙嗎？</p>','2024-11-06 10:02:03.138','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8df5dc37-dd92-482f-b155-2018a87e2c49','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 54&nbsp; 11月8日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十章 326页 &ndash; 329页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&hearts;️人生的四个层面-身体健康助于心智发展，精神提升有益于人际关系的完美。平衡才能产生最佳的整体效果。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴&rdquo;每天的个人领域的成功&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每天要一个小时实现身体、精神和智力层面的更新是培养七个习惯的关键，完全在个人的影响圈范围内。专注第二象限事务，以原则作为生活的中心。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴&rdquo;每天的公众领域的成功&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">更新社会/情感层面所需要的内在安全感的来源。相互依赖的环境中专注于自己的影响圈，以知足心态对待他人，尊重差异化。达到统合综效的双赢解决方案。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔥自我意识⬆️，学习，坚持、实践...继续学习，坚持、实践...</span><span class="s2"><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-06 02:09:59.182','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c250a943-dd18-4434-bb06-98d40c8bc04d','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>非暴力沟通的基本句型练习能帮助自己看见自己在沟通里的意图，和自己的感受和需求产生连结。</p>
<p>重点是清楚的区别以下几点：</p>
<p>1）【客观式叙述】和【评判式叙述】</p>
<p>2） 【感受】和【伪装成感受】</p>
<p>3）【需要】和【策略】</p>
<p>4）【请求】和【要求】</p>
<p>让后去留意沟通的四大要素：观察、感受、需要和请求。</p>
<p>非暴力沟通的核心原则：把注意力放在你与自我和他人之间的连结，从而运用这份连结去满足自己和他人的需要。先建立连结，才能谈满足需求。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 05:14:12.464','2024-11-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033','2024-11-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">客观式叙述 VS 评判式叙述 (分析眼前局面，依照个人的道德观去评论对错）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">感受 VS 伪装成感受 （我觉得。。。）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">需要 VS 策略 （满足需要的方法，通常涉及特定任务、时间和地点。会受到文化、习惯和环境的影响。）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">请求 VS 要求 （使用没有选择余地的措辞，把它包装成一种应得的惩罚或奖赏，表达方式模糊、抽象又脱离当下。）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通的四大要素：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">观察、感受、需要和请求</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">清楚自己想要和对方建立什么样的连结远比把心思放在得体的措辞重要，因为那些话语会变成了你完成这项意图的策略。</span></p>','2024-11-08 00:03:51.727','2024-11-08 00:03:51.727',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 00:03:51.725',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d14d07c-791d-4269-a4a4-d8d34300f9b5','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「把注意力放在你與自我和他人之間的連結，從而運用這份連結去滿足你自己和他人的需要。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 02:58:05.049','2024-11-08 02:58:05.049',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 02:58:05.048',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c991b98-8c91-4282-bb71-7891d612f553','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>但我看到我爸走路越來越不方便，我發覺原來他老了。</p>
<p>我感到不捨，因為他曾經體力很好，精神也不錯。</p>
<p>因此我想跟我女兒講說我需要他和我一起回台灣去讓我父母多看看他的孫女，我想問，他願意嗎？</p>','2024-11-08 03:29:50.207','2024-11-08 03:29:50.207',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 03:29:50.206',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('513ed58a-e705-4990-ad43-b14b971e3fed','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;練习非暴力溝通的要點，是要發自內接受自己的思維，先和自己的內心搭線，才有辦法改变思唯，因為沒有自我覺察，說話就會以自我為中心。</p>','2024-11-08 00:38:05.386','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4eb8acc5-0ae1-40fb-bab2-4ab7a6ddf9e8','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>编者就各个习惯提出&ldquo;21条高效能行动指南&rdquo;，帮助大家更好地掌握与落实这些习惯。</p>','2024-11-08 04:54:24.357','2024-11-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
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<p>基本句型，接下来要好好练习👆</p>
<p>非暴力沟通的核心原则是：</p>
<p>把注意力放在你与自我和他人之间的连结，从而应用这份连结去满足你自己和他人的需要。</p>','2024-11-08 05:20:41.475','2024-11-08 05:21:13.286',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 05:21:13.285',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f28981d3-5e77-47fc-92f4-dc8f7d3b037d','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>这章节很实用，一定要实践起来，到时候再和大家分享练习心得。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 05:26:15.162','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('975674a5-39f3-485d-8d45-c085e432ad69','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day7：11月7 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4. 请求&ndash;提出具体的请求（Page052-054）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">记得记得！&rdquo;你提出了请求，别人就应该接受&rdquo;的想法是做的。所以要拿捏得好在&rdquo;请求&rdquo;request 和&rdquo;要求&rdquo;（demand)一线之差。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">非暴力沟通是要清楚具体的表达，而且可以衡量的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day8：11月8 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">套用制式句型，练习非暴力沟通（Page055-058）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">非暴力沟通的核心原则是：把注意力放在你与自我和他人之间的连结，从而运用这份连结去满足你自己和他人的需要。人们经常认为，只要能清楚分析眼前的局面，就能得到我们想要的东西；但非暴力沟通认为，唯有在我们能与自身需要搭上线的条件下，才能与他人的需要搭上线，并相互配合、满足每一个人的需要。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">利用非暴力沟过的基本句型逐字练习</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">「当我听到&mdash; 时，我感到__，因为我需要.__</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">；你愿意__|吗？J</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">需要花比较长的时间去学习非暴力沟通，甚至，他们可能永远都无法与自己的「需要」真正地搭上线。在反覆练习这个基本句型的过程中，我们可以不断强化区分某些基本概念的能力，这些能力对掌握非暴力沟通非常重要，因为你一定要懂得区分：「客观式叙述」和「评判式叙述」、「感受」和「伪装成感受」的看法、「需要」和「策略」，以及「请求」和「要求」的区别。这些重要的区分全都嵌入了这个基本句型的结构，所以使用这个句型可以提升你对它们的认识。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要把这些重要的区分彻底内化到意识中，练习这个基本句型是不二法门。</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1">真的好深</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 05:30:39.105','2024-11-08 05:30:39.105',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 05:30:39.104',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a0895087-89e1-4d24-8608-3f02bceb8e5e','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>当我听到......我感到......因为我需要......你愿意......吗？</p>
<p>先要与自我的需要多少上线，才能与他人的需要相互连接。</p>','2024-11-08 11:56:00.571','2024-11-08 11:56:00.571',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 11:56:00.57',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5dbfa3ce-7885-430e-99b3-f9cd31fc3c99','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>沟通舞台的四大必爱天王：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>观察、感受、需要、请求。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>0</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 12:58:44.253','2024-11-08 12:58:44.253',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 12:58:44.252',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('60fba56c-ea35-4ecb-90a3-ec6fdf4032ee','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我心里也时常时不时会愤怒，作者一天有67这么多，原来我也不是一个人这样子的。</p>
<p>明天去习冥想，看看自己是否有像书里那样写的一样＂坐在墊上意识到自己有多么愤怒＂</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 08:46:59.237','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5858cfe5-6329-445e-8740-4215418c3064','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>非暴力溝通的4大要素為觀察、感受、需要與請求。</p>
<p>作者設計了一個包含4大要素的基本句型格式讓我們輕易練習。</p>
<p>『當我聽到 xxxx時，我感到xxxx ，因為我需要xxxx；你願意xxxxx嗎？』</p>
<p>非暴力溝通核心原則為 ：把注意力放在自己與自我和他人之間的連結，從而運用這份連結滿足自己和他人的需要。</p>
<p>一定要學會區分</p>
<p>1️⃣客觀式敘述 vs 評判式敘述</p>
<p>2️⃣感受 vs 偽裝感受/想法/信念/看法/印象</p>
<p>3️⃣需要 vs 策略/方法</p>
<p>4️⃣請求 vs 要求/模糊訴求</p>','2024-11-08 13:32:52.063','2024-11-08 13:32:52.063',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 13:32:52.062',NULL,NULL);
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<p>感受 VS 想法</p>
<p>需要 VS 策略</p>
<p>请求 VS 要求</p>
<p>我本身今天的练习：</p>
<p>我今天的工作效率非常好，一切都很顺利，时间与掌控得刚刚好。</p>
<p>练习列子：</p>
<ol>
<li>回到公司，向同事叙述（观察）刚刚与客户的会议议题需要满足客户的需求（感受），希望同事可以在预定的日期呈交全部的文件的重要性（需求），一一列单，以便可以一次就早日顺利获得批准，（请求）那我们的款额就可以顺利收取了。</li>
</ol>','2024-11-08 14:16:15.431','2024-11-08 14:16:15.431',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 14:16:15.429',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('37fd33cc-5058-4e7e-acfc-03c1ed6e8527','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>有了孩子之后，陡然发现我的时间减少很多了。要学习？不是不可以，但是怎样才能挤出时间？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我想，其一的关键就是&ldquo;放手&rdquo;。其实放手才是最难的功课。我们努力学习，是因为我们热衷学习，还是只是害怕被淘汰？但是时间有限，鱼和熊掌不能兼得。总要有一些东西是要舍去。你要花时间学习，但是就没有时间陪孩子了。这些东西搞不好就会成为家庭纷争的泉源。</p>','2024-11-08 09:42:08.781','2024-11-08 09:42:08.781',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 09:42:08.78',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de79d284-c743-4fdf-be9b-14ffaf74f8ae','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>观察 vs 评估 解释 诊断</p>
<p>感受 vs 想法 信念 印象</p>
<p>需要 vs 策略</p>
<p>请求 Vs 要求</p>
<p>需要要有自觉和习惯性的去实践。。。</p>
<p>当我听到。。。时， 我感到。。。。，因为我需要。。。。， 你愿意吗？</p>','2024-11-08 09:50:59.2','2024-11-08 09:50:59.2',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 09:50:59.199',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('843016bf-8d23-475a-beb4-0274cf1d34bd','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>在非暴力溝通中學到的語法都是为了幫助你看清自己的意圖。要懂得區分：「客觀式敘述」、「評判式敘述」、「感受」和「偽裝感受」的看法、「需要」和「策略」，以及「請求」和「要求」的區別。</p>
<p>非暴力溝通的核心原則是把注意力放在你与自我和他人之間的連結，從而運用這份連接去滿足你自己和他人的需要。</p>','2024-11-08 11:32:20.213','2024-11-08 11:32:20.213',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 11:32:20.212',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('424274db-63d2-4499-942f-af87005a9666','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 54&nbsp; 11月8日 (星期五）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第十章 326页 &ndash; 329页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">自我提升是一种原则，也是一个过程，一个螺旋式成长的过程。</p>
<p dir="ltr">良知，是一个很重要的人类天赋。</p>
<p dir="ltr">良知帮助我们走正确的道路，不背离原则。</p>
<p dir="ltr">良知会鞭策我们随着自由，安全，智慧和力量的道路前行。</p>
<p dir="ltr">唯有不断学习，坚持，实践，才能不断进步。</p>','2024-11-08 14:16:19.606','2024-11-08 14:16:19.606',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 14:16:19.605',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('23109180-e304-44db-af92-ef5b12f132a0','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>同理心是以对方作为对话的中心，关心他们的感受和需要。</p>
<p>了解&ldquo;需要&rdquo;是全人类的共同语言。</p>','2024-11-08 14:43:16.055','2024-11-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('515c48de-268e-4a43-ace0-7bc975506daf','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>4.开始提出请求：</p>
<p>（1）诉诸于&ldquo;行动&rdquo;的请求</p>
<p>（2）聚焦于&ldquo;过程&rdquo;的请求</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 14:47:35.2','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('adcffaae-b7ae-4d6a-89ae-4a25e8334ada','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>套用制式句型，练习看清自己如何与对方建立连结。</p>
<p>运用初学者的辅助轮：</p>
<p>&ldquo;当我听到/看到&hellip;时，我感到&hellip;，因为我需要&hellip;；你愿意&hellip;吗？&rdquo;</p>
<p>✅观察 ❌评估、评判、解释、诊断</p>
<p>✅感受 ❌想法、信念、看法、印象</p>
<p>✅需要 ❌策略</p>
<p>✅请求 ❌要求</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 14:43:25.84','2024-11-08 14:43:27.285',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 14:43:27.284',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a0dae417-ed6d-4383-a870-28f3aec008bd','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>观察 - 感受 - 需要 - 请求</p>
<p>当我_/时， 我感到_， 因为我需要_，你愿意_吗？</p>','2024-11-08 14:55:07.374','2024-11-08 14:55:07.374',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 14:55:07.373',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab400cf1-ce8d-46d9-9c02-2a8505addf6c','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>通过格式化的训练，可以让我们快速熟悉</p>','2024-11-08 14:55:47.326','2024-11-08 14:55:47.326',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 14:55:47.325',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a382cdd-c9b3-451e-b383-9b7885d38d81','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>
<p>当我听到......我感到......因为我需要......你愿意......吗？</p>
</li>
<li>要清楚区分是：客观 VS 评价式叙述、感受 VS 伪装成感受的看法、需要 VS 策略、请求 VS 要求</li>
<li>当知道自己是想与对方建立怎么样连结，说出来的话就会是想完成这个意图的策略</li>
</ul>','2024-11-08 15:09:57.421','2024-11-08 15:09:57.421',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 15:09:57.42',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8db07203-1d62-477b-9141-014790446e93','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>学习，实践，坚持，持续这个循环。</p>
<p>积累的时间久了，就像雪球般，越滾越大。</p>
<p>最后自己学到的，可利用的事情也越来越多</p>','2024-11-08 15:23:20.416','2024-11-08 15:23:20.416',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 15:23:20.415',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('86257487-a175-49cc-93fb-7bb93f32f6d2','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>非暴力沟通的四大要素</p>
<ol>
<li>觀察 x 评估、评判、解释、诊断。</li>
<li>感受 x 想法、信念、看法、印象。</li>
<li>需要 x 策略、具体作为。</li>
<li>请求 x 要求和模糊的诉求。</li>
</ol>','2024-11-08 15:23:21.237','2024-11-08 15:23:21.237',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 15:23:21.236',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4dcccd68-6d5a-46e1-8284-3b43aa7364b0','4a79349f-5980-4040-8974-050a6cfff9f0','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>良知指引我们走在正确的道路上，继续精进向上</li>
<li>没有捷径，只有再学习、再坚持、再实践</li>
</ul>','2024-11-08 15:26:19.577','2024-11-08 15:26:19.577',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 15:26:19.576',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('80d7ec47-4a75-4ecd-93b4-7e75d2ceaf20','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day8：11月8 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>套用制式句型，练习非暴力沟通（Page055-058）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>非暴力沟通：认清意图。</p>
<p>套用基本句型练习：当我听到（&nbsp; ）时，我感到（&nbsp; ）,因为我需要（&nbsp; ），你愿意（&nbsp; ）吗？</p>
<p>我们需要区分：客观陈述vs评判陈述| 感受vs 伪装感受|需要vs策略 |请求vs要求。</p>','2024-11-08 15:33:10.118','2024-11-08 15:33:10.118',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 15:33:10.117',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ffd8797d-1e31-40fc-ae71-9e3e21dfbcfb','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>当我听到。。。时， 我感到。。。， 因为我需要。。。你愿意。。。吗？这辅助轮需反复练习。</p>
<p>核心原则，把注意力放在你与自我和他人之间的连结。从而运用这份连结满足自己和他人的需要。</p>','2024-11-08 15:45:46.54','2024-11-08 15:49:00.437',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 15:49:00.436',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a42f89ae-4447-487d-acfe-21012b0454e5','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>练习新语言，句型基本格式：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>＜说事实＞当我听到。。。。时<br>＜说感受＞我感到。。。。。。<br>＜说需要＞因为我需要。。。。<br>＜说请求＞你愿意。。。。。。吗？</p>','2024-11-08 15:52:37.563','2024-11-08 15:52:37.563',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 15:52:37.562',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a4f58a93-8a91-4d86-b1ae-77fbcfd9909b','9250ea63-4272-4b90-8dec-b7f8f23cd604','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>沟通的四大要素：</p>
<p>观察、感受、需要、请求。</p>
<p>非暴力沟通最basic的原则是，清楚自己的需要才去沟通别人的需要。</p>','2024-11-08 15:55:05.865','2024-11-08 15:55:05.865',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 15:55:05.864',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1db849f9-6acb-4e6a-a94a-ebadb2ea196a','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>尝试对话练习，观察、感受、需要、请求。当别人用magic word 的同时，多多观察。</p>','2024-11-08 14:38:20.566','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c47c5819-b606-45eb-a976-3d23e706037a','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>2.以自我表达为重</p>
<p>在自我表达之后，一定要紧接着向对方提出一个明确、可行的请求。</p>
<p>3.将重点放在给予同理心</p>
<p>&ldquo;当我听到他说___时，我猜想他是感到___和需要___。&rdquo;</p>
<p>不是要证明你的猜测是否正确，而是要实践你与他人建立连结的意图。</p>','2024-11-08 14:41:02.288','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c4b9d2a-0a00-493e-baa3-c52f3639d8a0','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>虽然辅助轮句型很重要，但发自内心的改变自己的思维才是关键。</p>
<p>先关注自己的感受和需求，好好的自我同理，才能和其他人建立连结。</p>
<p>内心能说出自己的内心实况，疗癒就开始了。</p>','2024-10-30 06:32:19.481','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b7923a2-a62f-4912-9e7d-474c586ea50e','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>不要停止探索，每一次的探索都会让我们回到起点，重新认识。</p>','2024-11-09 11:46:43.232','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9edd0d90-ce1b-42dc-81ba-9f89a0a531fa','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>Pg330 -333</p>
<p>休息一下，整合新的能量与力量。</p>
<p>个人领域的成功，最为核心。</p>
<p>享受每天的保持围绕一个重心的练习，以及获得自己每天个人领域的成功。</p>
<p>每个人都有四部分组织：身体、社会／情感、智力和精神，能让四个部分相互依存，需要不断滋养。</p>
<p>对不断更新投入时间和精力，会成倍回馈我。</p>
<p>控制新技术，电话对我的影响，而不是被控制。制度合约。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 21:36:52.192','2024-11-08 21:37:01.247',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-08 21:37:01.245',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4b0fc25e-5582-4ed1-9a55-4cb112af2741','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>不斷地更新，就是要在重要的事上，培植自己。這個需要積極主動，因為它不會主動出現，而是我們要對它主動出擊，這樣這件【事】（原則）才會成為要事。</p>
<p>不斷更新，會讓自己陷入盲點，以為就是要不斷地去實踐。</p>','2024-09-28 14:31:09.177','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6902c9cf-d3d7-4495-b63a-0fb2878624a6','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>练习每天定时把自己的感受和需求写下来</p>
<p>对三个人提出请求，关注他人对我们说的谢谢和请</p>','2024-11-07 16:41:55.199','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('187be3c3-683a-4d90-8b71-a92263a1d4f9','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p><strong>怎样把七个习惯教给年幼的孩子？</strong></p>
<p>遵循艾伯特&middot;施韦策（Albert Schweitzer）教育孩子的三项基本规则：</p>
<p>一是以身作则，</p>
<p>二是以身作则，</p>
<p>三还是以身作则。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">但作者不会做到这种程度。他会</span></p>
<p>一是以身作则，</p>
<p>二是建立充满关怀和欣赏的关系，</p>
<p>三是用孩子的语言教给他们这些习惯中蕴含的简单理念&mdash;&mdash;帮助他们掌握七个习惯的基本含义和词汇，告诉他们怎样利用原则来分析自己的经历，让他们识别生活中出现的特定原则和习惯。</p>','2024-10-24 12:52:52.814','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d10bb0fd-2c65-46e5-87c1-cffe84d46d41','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>对话练习：</p>
<p>观察</p>
<p>《先生总是机不离手，时常夜睡，完全不照顧自己的健康。》</p>
<p>&rarr;我看到先生一吃完晚饭，从傍晚七点到十一点都在滑手机，整整五个小时多都是坐在沙发滑手机。</p>
<p>不知道这个练习那里需要改善的。</p>
<p>读到这篇，发现这本书需要很多的练习。</p>','2024-10-29 07:59:20.708','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fe029376-398f-4cc8-95ab-4e5e35d4ff3f','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>看完这段就开始计划如何把这几个练习成为生活的微习惯。自己上来非暴力沟通课有一段时间，</p>
<p>书也看了。 但是没有练习，这是无法真正的掌握。只要把练习纳入生活中，让它成为生活的微习惯，就能学得比较快。</p>','2024-11-07 00:44:03.496','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a7fc65f-f130-426d-9641-8cffa32c7fdd','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>在這個練可中，我真正感受到自己在溝通這部份，真的好有問題 ，有些乱無頭緒，不能很好的去表達自己真正的感受和需要，所以時常會感到懊惱，而不知所措。</p>','2024-11-08 00:22:58.087','2024-11-09 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022','2024-11-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6128969a-2c70-4991-af44-bc1b4f51585e','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">写出三个在过去一周曾对其他人萌生过哪些批评。将那些批判式叙述，逐一转化成客观式叙述。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">试一下客观式叙述与人沟通，每天三次、持续一周。写下互动过程，并与同理心伙伴讨论它们。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在接下来的一周，在早上十二点、下午三点和晚上六点时，停下手上的工作，好好去留意当下感受和需要，并把它写下来。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对三个人提出请求，写下这些请求，并按照非暴力沟通的原则修润它们，然后对这三个人提出要求，看看会发生什么事。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">特别留意别人对我说的每一个情，或谢谢，因为这些话背后其实都隐藏着请求之意。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-09 01:07:23.613','2024-11-09 01:07:23.613',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 01:07:23.612',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fb1fd20d-70b9-40b8-ac74-d52efee1556a','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>感受其實有分非常多種。越能夠了解感受越能夠清楚地了解自己需求沒有被達到的根本原因。</p>','2024-11-09 01:10:04.445','2024-11-09 01:10:04.445',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 01:10:04.444',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b48f833d-5d19-420a-8535-3e269221fb19','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>练习每天定时觀察,把自己的感受和需求写下来&amp;<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">对三个人提出请求，过后关注他人对我们说的背後所隱藏的请求之意i.e.</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">「請滿足我的需要」或「謝謝你滿</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">足我的需要」。</span></p>','2024-11-09 01:34:18.772','2024-11-09 01:35:01.376',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 01:35:01.375',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('18c340d1-945e-4423-8434-7b76e441844f','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>对话练习需要</p>
<p>观察&rarr;感受&rarr;需要&rarr;请求</p>
<p>在进行这些步骤时，要注意所用的词语。要恰当，适合对方，以免把事情搞得越沟通越糟糕。</p>','2024-11-09 01:40:41.71','2024-11-09 01:40:41.71',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 01:40:41.709',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c17b25bf-bc8b-4444-a485-d79f0c9d8da1','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>对话练习，复习，复习： 观察， 感受，需要，请求。</p>','2024-11-09 13:10:58.494','2024-11-09 13:10:58.494',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 13:10:58.493',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3447e057-0ef3-4468-bbb8-26cbb72d465b','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>昨天試著跟一個基金會的文書處理員合作舉辦一場研討會，過程中有非常多的延遲和溝通上的隔閡。心裡覺得他的處理能力怎麼會這麼差。在這個瞬間，我發覺自己的同理心不夠，所以當見面的時候以關心的方式去跟他討論，結果關係變得就很融洽。從這裡呼應到這個章節所寫的，必須先聚焦在自我同理！</p>','2024-11-09 23:07:51.388','2024-11-09 23:07:52.595',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 23:07:52.594',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45d6c0e3-ed8e-414a-b302-dd9028226b48','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我从未想过要说谢谢，当进行＂请对方告诉我，他们听到了些什么＂的舉动。</p>
<p>我现在学到了，下來要多练习。</p>','2024-11-04 09:25:29.978','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c05fa7b-387c-4956-b1f2-851709267650','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>在最忙，自己觉得最不应该休息的时候，其实就是我们应该停下来，休息一下了。</p>
<p>片刻的休息会让我们更新我们的思维和心情，利于我们考虑和做决定。</p>
<p>另外，每天都要获得个人领域的成功。</p>
<p>保持好一个健康的身体，与家人和睦的关系，做规划，提升自己的知识，精神，有助于我们面对大大小小困难时有比较中立和坦然的态度。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>控制技术对我们的影响</p>
<p>电子设备，很容易把我们的注意力扯走。</p>
<p>要适当的规划使用，让自己有时间静下来思考。</p>','2024-11-09 03:04:42.726','2024-11-09 03:04:42.726',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 03:04:42.725',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('192a1e00-6e0d-486b-a4a6-00cead19e5bb','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>家里一片大玻璃裂了面对工程商的怠慢，我昨天是带有批判的语气指责他不负责任，不想做好歹也介绍个人给我；今早我重发了一个短信如下：</p>
<p>&ldquo;对于你对我家玻璃裂了的问题不断拖延和不理会，我感到很无助和失望，我的顾虑是我家人的安全，请你给我一个结决方案、或是及时安排过来帮我处理一下&rdquo;。</p>
<p>最后我还是加了一句，如果你不在乎客服满意度，还请相信因果。</p>','2024-11-09 08:30:12.085','2024-11-09 08:30:12.085',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 08:30:12.084',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dac415f9-2f89-4fb7-a087-f69fd902208f','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>把＂内心＇当作一个行影不离无时无克跟随自己的＂朋友＂去沟通，反复联系的沟通。那么<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">所有自己观察到的、感受到的、需要的、请求的，只有＂内心＂的这位朋友先知道。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">＂己所不欲，勿施于人＂！</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">那么这些自己想得到的种种，其实也是别人的需要和请求，不如让别人得到了，再回报到自己的身上，那时候快乐指数肯定飙高几倍，自己的＂内心＂朋友就不再匮乏咯</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-09 03:10:24.719','2024-11-09 03:20:35.657',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 03:20:35.656',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5d25c7f-9945-48dd-b4c3-a0ae17fff9ec','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>對話練習，觀察，感受，需要，请求。</p>
<p>試著用客觀式敘述的方式与他人互動，好好去留意當下的感受，需要与請求。</p>
<p>從同理心的角度看事情，給予彼此所需的幫助。</p>','2024-11-09 04:52:37.659','2024-11-09 04:52:37.659',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 04:52:37.658',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4650745a-9e38-4b78-8a42-3f7ee7e3aa7d','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>原来说每一句话是需要经过大脑，要好自己的感受连接。。。而且要一直练习到成为习惯。</p>','2024-11-09 06:24:59.225','2024-11-09 06:24:59.225',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 06:24:59.224',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea20b683-1cc0-49cb-a422-cfacdc315eab','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>把話說好 需要系統性的訓練和練習。</p>
<p>客觀觀察➡️感受➡️需要➡️請求。</p>
<p>我主要練習對象是內人。</p>
<p>時常批判她不專心聽人講話 時常沒把話說清楚。結果她不服氣 認為自己沒錯 還大聲罵我沒耐心 結果大家就自然吵起來。</p>
<p>比如：</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🙎：等下我帶孩子去IOI Mall逛逛 女兒要吃yogurt ice cream.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🧔：嗯, 知道了。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🙎站在那裡有重複講她要帶孩子逛逛。(觀察真實情況)&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🧔：我知道。您還需要我做什麼？</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🙎:&nbsp; </span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">我想問問您 您要陪我們去嗎？</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🧔:&nbsp; 不了。工作剛活到 我需要休息。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🧔：現</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">在妳明白我為甚麼時常告訴妳要學會溝通嗎？要清楚表達您想在我身上得到什麼東西？</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">從太太溝通上的毛病 印證了作者在本書一直強調的就是滿足自己的需要 才能與他人連結。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">太太以為我清楚她的需要 就簡單敘述她要帶孩子們逛逛。她要連結我一起陪同她但沒有清楚表達。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">知道她溝通的缺點 所以我繼續問她要請求我為她做些什麼.....</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-09 09:48:16.177','2024-11-09 09:48:16.177',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 09:48:16.175',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e3a22275-6634-4759-ad91-d575ea181ffe','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>休息是为了走更长远的路。</p>
<p>做事不过度。</p>
<p>六个小时砍树，四个小时拿来磨刀。</p>','2024-11-09 11:15:57.089','2024-11-09 11:15:57.089',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 11:15:57.088',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1313cb44-0edb-463d-9447-b7df5d41d372','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>由观察～感受～需要～请求</p>
<p>每次没耐心的我直接由感受跳去要求，原来不按部就班就会形成不必要的争吵。我该好好的反省一下自己。</p>','2024-11-09 11:23:44.396','2024-11-09 11:23:44.396',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 11:23:44.395',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a7e1b15e-f8bd-44be-8a8f-f0a9679833a6','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>沟通方式二：以自我表达为重</p>
<p>和对方说出自己的状态，说出自己的观察（不带批评）、感受和需求。</p>
<p>沟通方式三： 将重点放在给予同理心</p>
<p>同理自己和同理他人是发生在同一个过程里， 是在心中接连发生。静静的去同理他人，如果说出来，也不要试图去证明自己的&ldquo;正确&rdquo;。这样做是让对方感到被&ldquo;批判&rdquo;，那么就无法达到沟通的意图， 连结。</p>','2024-11-09 02:42:19.31','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af71e2d8-8796-41a9-ba50-02881de571bc','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>书中说的&ldquo;运动回来，头脑就有许多新点子&rdquo;，这点我心有戚戚焉，也深有同感。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>当我坐在电脑面前，在苦思无灵感时，我会做的事情就是去走走。要么去健身房健身，要么去公园走一下。然后，好点子就自然而然浮现在脑海里。问题往往就解决了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果只是走开一下就会思潮如涌，那如果走开久一点的话，会怎样？不知道，但是我就是在一次回乡度假时才想到kindlemalaysia.com这个点子。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>但那是以前。现在有孩子了，空闲时间都是花在照顾孩子身上。经过多年的实践，可以证明。。。照顾孩子不是度假，也不会让你大脑休息。所以，不要奢望通过照顾孩子得到灵感！</p>','2024-11-09 13:33:03.896','2024-11-09 13:33:03.896',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 13:33:03.895',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9850e883-2010-468b-8dd4-cf577d863c96','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day9：11月 9日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对话练习（Page059-064）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">活到这个年龄，要用文字能夠明显表达感受的词汇是不容易。现在更有意注意自己的话术。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;观察&rdquo;自己有没有洞理心，还有自己的9am,12 pm ,3 pm , 6 pm 的&rdquo;感受&rdquo;，还有自己的&rdquo;需要&rdquo;，然后对3个人提出请求，按照非暴力沟通方法去优化它们再对他们提出请求。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要有意注意说&rdquo;请&rdquo;或&rdquo;谢谢&rdquo;</span></p>','2024-11-09 15:37:36.296','2024-11-09 15:37:36.296',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 15:37:36.295',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d61a66fe-28f2-449e-a5eb-610c04ed440a','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>每個人都要獲得個人領域的成功，讓自己不斷更新。在現實中有很多人在其他領域上取得具大的成功，但因長期缺乏照顧自身健康而導致早早失去生命。所以身體、社會/情感、智力、精神，這四部分互相依存，需要不斷滋養。</p>','2024-11-09 13:40:50.182','2024-11-09 13:41:09.222',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 13:41:09.221',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed20a283-8180-4518-8779-d37c5a6bcfd8','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 55&nbsp; 11月9日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第十章 330页 &ndash; 333页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">我们都需要休息，停一停，想一想，才能让我们更好的走向前面。</p>
<p dir="ltr">如果我们没有停一停，我们容易感到困乏，焦虑。</p>
<p dir="ltr">停一停能让我们焕然一新。</p>
<p dir="ltr">不断更新是第二象活动，所以不会自动出现。我们需要主动去做。</p>
<p dir="ltr">我们要懂得照顾自己先，才会有能力照顾别人。</p>','2024-11-09 13:52:49.006','2024-11-09 13:52:49.006',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 13:52:49.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91ce865a-4fa9-4091-b548-b387cf8638b4','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>对话练习：</p>
<p>观察-觉察自己萌生过哪些评判。</p>
<p>感受-把对话时的感受写下来。</p>
<p>需要-区分需要和策略。</p>
<p>请求-对三个人提出请求，看会发生什么事。</p>','2024-11-09 14:21:45.815','2024-11-09 14:21:45.815',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 14:21:45.814',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6509ac94-939c-4f0a-b465-179370f05b4e','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>好的沟通除了四要素、动机外，遣词用字也颇为重要。所以讲话也是应修的一门学问。</p>','2024-11-09 14:28:54.047','2024-11-09 14:28:54.047',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 14:28:54.045',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4697d30c-d9f2-44a2-8306-586b93c6d0e7','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>好的用语可以加快好的沟通</p>','2024-11-09 14:37:00.855','2024-11-09 14:37:00.855',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 14:37:00.854',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c67d8c15-c05d-4c96-bd0b-710bd72946a0','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<p>今天的这篇内容需要练习，只有花时间反复练习，并把它写下来，这样才知道自己的内在需要和对外时沟通是否有暴力。&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-09 15:05:21.51','2024-11-09 15:05:21.51',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 15:05:21.509',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1767ba52-59ff-44f6-807a-c71b1671286c','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 55&nbsp; 11月9日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十章 330页 &ndash; 333页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">每天都要获得个人领域的成功。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">每天都需要滋养和更新身体的四部分组成：身体社会/情感，智力和精神。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">他部分的快乐源自我们的人际关系的质量。<br></span><span class="s1">🌹</span><span class="s2">让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-09 15:10:41.99','2024-11-09 15:10:44.184',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 15:10:44.183',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6c876e4c-b9f8-41f3-81f8-3b5b24d7b0cc','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>4种非暴力沟通<br>沟通方式1.<br>聚焦在自我同理上self empathy<br>:必须先充分了解自己的感受与需要。</p>','2024-11-09 15:11:17.575','2024-11-09 15:11:17.575',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 15:11:17.574',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5cb5953f-8cdf-4a5d-8180-bcfa1c8cc1a0','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day9：11月 9日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>对话练习（Page059-064）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>练习：持续练习。</p>','2024-11-09 15:25:55.166','2024-11-09 15:25:55.166',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 15:25:55.165',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8e79f5ea-2b65-4713-be20-4cf34b90e48b','38e500fc-ab2d-431b-801a-e602f25b48a3','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>要有空档的时间，这不是懒散，而是身体也需要时间恢复精力</li>
<li>每天必须花时间在个人领域上，只有当满足了自己的需要，也才能做其他的事</li>
</ul>','2024-11-09 15:37:25.785','2024-11-09 15:37:25.785',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 15:37:25.784',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0195a054-ed05-44e2-abde-32ad8b387c3c','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>每天坚持练习，与同理心伙伴一起探讨，从同理心的角度看待问题，彼此施展同理心的能力，互相学习，不断拓展自己在同理心方面的深度与广度。</p>','2024-11-09 15:49:42.949','2024-11-09 15:49:42.949',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 15:49:42.948',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b88a1ba8-bff9-4f01-8ddd-cf563f5a1c98','cdd2f109-a463-4771-9940-51b35d536e39','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>学习［非］可以通过以下的练<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">习。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">观察，感受，需要，请求</span></p>','2024-11-09 15:50:35.873','2024-11-09 15:50:35.873',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-09 15:50:35.872',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2526101-7b0a-4852-8bd4-59fedd716d92','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>第一，對事情和在談話中，不要 &ldquo;刨根究底&rdquo;，而是要盡力體諒對方。</p>
<p>第二，在事情和話題過於尖銳或痛苦時，要及時打住。</p>','2024-09-28 14:35:08.991','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3c17823-9ef0-4f86-a692-32d11327b542','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>能看清自我并我连接，才能更好的与他人连接。</p>','2024-11-10 13:35:27.244','2024-11-10 13:35:27.244',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 13:35:27.244',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b7f751cf-7016-4226-b224-1541cbf8f69a','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p>生活的速度已经提到光速，我们全天候24小时工作。过去强调事半功倍，现在很多人却在尝试以更快速度一次就完成所有事情。<br>但是有一样没有变，今后也不会变&mdash;&mdash;那就是你要依靠的普遍、永恒的原则。它们绝不会改变，可以在随时随地加以运用。</p>
<p>活在一个变化的时代，我们需要不变的原则。如果我们坚持原则，无论生活还是工作都会获得成功。</p>
<p>&ldquo;七个习惯&rdquo;让你回归真实的自我。提醒你真实的本性，提醒你是在掌管自己的生活，为自己的选择负责任。除了你，没有人能让你想、做或面对不是出于自己意愿选择的事情。</p>','2024-11-03 09:30:30.768','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('24ec3c0c-868f-481c-a8d7-f7ac3887b046','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>爱人间相处，一&ldquo;不要刨根问底&rdquo;、二&ldquo;话题过于尖锐或痛苦时，及时打住&rdquo;。</p>
<p>爱情保鲜的秘诀就是交谈，特别是讨论彼此的感受。</p>
<p>如果能明智地利用刺激与回应之间的距离和人类的四种独特天赋，我们就能获得由内而外的力量。</p>','2024-11-07 07:43:46.078','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('69b1f218-5999-4fff-837d-ba6151d56ec4','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>练习非暴力沟通的首要任务，就是要发自内心的改变自己的思维，这样才有办法有效地应用这套特别的语言。</p>
<p>1.聚焦在自我同理上：从自己开始很重要。只要你能说出内心的实况，就能让自己的某个部分得到治愈。</p>','2024-11-08 14:34:36.172','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc6988ac-c7ba-48c2-9967-89ee2e67b90f','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>上帝行事由内而外，尘世行事由外而内。</p>
<p>尘世让世人摆脱贫穷，耶稣则让世人摆脱内心的贫穷，然后由他们自己摆脱贫穷。</p>
<p>尘世通过改变环境来造就人，耶稣则通过改变人来造就环境，</p>
<p>尘世塑造人的行为，而耶稣改变人的本质。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-09 11:40:53.533','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6520fa7-39eb-467b-a8e4-55f5256ac0e2','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>非暴力沟通的方法是让&ldquo;正语&rdquo;、&ldquo;不说谎&rdquo;这观念的方法落实在生活里。</p>
<p>沟通的方式的四个重点：</p>
<p>1）聚焦在自我同理上， 2） 以自我表达为重， 3）将重点放在给予同理心， 4）开始提出请求</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1）聚焦在自我同理上：</p>
<p>重点是发自内心的改变自己的思维。因为，当自己带着觉察，就会先和自己对话（和自己内心搭上线），看见自己的意图和思维方式，看见自己内心的变化，然后，再和他人对话。这样的说话不再是以自己为中心，只看见自己的感受和需求，而是在同理自己。这反而会对和自己对话的另一方产生好奇心。所以，先同理了自己，才能对他人产生连结。</p>','2024-11-09 02:13:47.399','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cf6aae76-606a-4437-87e0-f641061418f9','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>練習非暴力溝通的首要之務，就是要發自內心的改變自己的思維，這樣才有辦法有效地運用這套特別的語言</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-09 06:29:40.841','2024-11-10 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004','2024-11-10 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1853ae76-4469-4335-99c8-b30a137568b7','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>先照顾自己的感受，观察一下自己有什么需求，是帮助我们更好地与他人沟通，而不是自私。</p>
<p>改变思维是非暴力沟通的关键。不断练习与自我联系，培养出可以同理或是带有好奇心的客观态度，看到事情的真相，理解他人的需求。</p>','2024-11-10 00:17:25.99','2024-11-10 00:17:25.99',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 00:17:25.989',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3d06d2ad-621f-4fc6-9f3e-1d91d6e9d848','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>练习非暴力的首要之务是发自内心改变自己的思维才能有效运用那特别的语言，使说话成为一个灵修。</p>
<p>说到感受需要时，要以对方为中心t。</p>
<p>同理心是要不断练习，才能感受到反应和觉醒那股改变是你与最深层的自我搭上线的证明。</p>','2024-11-10 01:08:25.363','2024-11-10 01:08:25.363',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 01:08:25.362',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dec29d54-8e5c-4a6f-94c9-9567714368f9','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>先和自己对话（和自己内心搭上线）了解自己的意图和思维方式, 再和他人对话产生好奇心。先同理了自己，才能对他人产生连结。</p>','2024-11-10 01:40:31.97','2024-11-10 01:40:31.97',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 01:40:31.969',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ac7e427-cd1f-4444-801a-3b9365a06f48','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>在事情和谈话中不要刨根究底，不要因情绪上说出不该说的话</p>
<p>努力面对问题改变</p>','2024-11-10 08:00:15.455','2024-11-10 08:00:15.455',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 08:00:15.454',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('68ce8c1b-2ff3-4c64-9e67-e0e356ede043','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>首要任务是发自内心的改变自己的思维，才能运用这语言。自我同理，意识自己内心当下的状态，可以转换自己说话的方式，用说话疗愈自己，孩子和世界。请确认在叙述对方说或做的事情，是以客观的角度如实陈述。不带任何个人的评判色彩。</p>','2024-11-10 09:24:26.978','2024-11-10 09:24:26.978',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 09:24:26.977',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('537e6211-9df4-4a50-94de-06c745fd0d6d','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>"在刺激和回应间有一段距离"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>回想我和我太太的吵架，就是在当我完全忘记了刺激和回应间有一段距离。如果觉得情绪上来了，最好先离开--让自己有一段时间和空间的距离去想想怎么回应吧。</p>','2024-11-10 10:37:05.373','2024-11-10 10:37:05.373',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 10:37:05.372',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c973019-ff43-47ac-b3a1-e6f37119b001','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>先要和自己连接，和自己和解，自我同理，才能够和他人和平连接。</p>','2024-11-10 13:51:45.836','2024-11-10 13:51:45.836',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 13:51:45.835',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('471e07cd-6165-42c5-bcfe-a2fc7bebaee5','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>我喜欢作者用飞机起飞及到达目的地作为例子，我们人生也向飞机过程需要不断的挑战和整合。重要的是我们必须懂飞机要飞往的方向和目的地。这里有21种行动，由内而外。有用就有用，必须去实践它。</p>','2024-11-10 10:11:43.941','2024-11-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c67c2ff-5d3c-4fbd-9001-710fda9c6c86','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>参加读书会，让我终于多年以来完成一本书。</p>
<p>之后会在看多一遍，做里面的练习</p>','2024-11-16 15:50:45.875','2024-11-16 15:50:45.875',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 15:50:45.874',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c9e564f-04e3-443f-ac7c-d33b33d2c00e','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>练习可以是<br>~对需求打分1到10<br>~"你可以用你的需要，让我把分数往上加"<br>～同理自己<br>～此刻和之前可以连贯一起再一次同理自己<br>～心中默默同理对方<br>～推测对方想满足什么样的需求</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>表达请求<br>~是开放的<br>~是可以被拒绝的<br>~可能产生各种结果</p>','2024-11-16 15:55:08.744','2024-11-16 15:55:08.744',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 15:55:08.743',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7a42fe9-35e1-4c4b-b77f-ef90ec5af00e','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>沟通时，不要害怕以我作为出发点，</p>
<p>要说到自己的内心情况，</p>
<p>对对方产生了好奇心，就是自我同理开始上线了</p>','2024-11-10 11:49:22.705','2024-11-10 11:49:22.705',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 11:49:22.704',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3360ca09-3c8d-4e7c-afcd-6880133d34ea','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>非暴力溝通首要任務即為發自內心的改變自己的思維 以達至有效運用話語。</p>
<p>缺乏自我同理自我關注 不可能與他人建立良好連結 甚至禍從口出 讓他人皆不好受。</p>
<p>能客觀敘述對方說或做的事情時 不要帶上任何個人批評色彩，並嘗試善用各種不同詞彙表達內心感受與需要。</p>
<p>當用到能以真實表達內心感受與需要的詞彙時 自己能強烈感應到。</p>
<p>這種能說出內心的實況 能療癒自己某個部分。</p>','2024-11-10 12:05:23.755','2024-11-10 12:05:23.755',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 12:05:23.754',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77051460-98cc-4a41-b31e-acdf4b1e14b7','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>我们应该把好的行为模式传下去，不好的加以改善。往往，我们会不知觉的把上輩的行为当作自然习惯，而忽略了它是好还是不好。</p>','2024-11-10 12:26:22.74','2024-11-10 12:26:22.74',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 12:26:22.739',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('890d8638-0574-43b9-b7e8-c404989efc19','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>練習非暴力溝通的首要之務就是必須先和自己的內心搭上線，才有辦法改變自己的思維。</p>
<p>先練習自我同理，再与他人客觀連结。</p>','2024-11-10 12:28:13.069','2024-11-10 12:28:13.069',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 12:28:13.068',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('378897c3-d7d5-4310-8eb4-720d20aa49d4','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>先搞定自己的内心，了解自己的意图和思维方式, 再和他人对话产生好奇心。</p>
<p>同理了自己，才能对他人产生连结和提升良好沟通效率。</p>','2024-11-10 12:39:02.641','2024-11-10 12:40:55.592',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 12:40:55.591',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我們發現，看似瑣碎的小事，往往也源自刻骨銘心的情感經歷，如果只是看表面而沒有發掘心情的敏感問題，無異於在實踐對方心中的圣土。</p>','2024-11-10 12:45:20.513','2024-11-10 12:45:33.393',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 12:45:33.392',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('960b0251-7aef-48e5-bf03-81b5424f6b42','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day10：11月10 日 《非暴力溝通的對話練習》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第三章 ： 四種非暴力溝通（Page065-070）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日讀後感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">跟自己先沟通好。self empathy。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只有跟自我搭上线，就会注意到对方产生好奇心。慢慢地会做更多情感帐户。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">自我同理的重要性：沟通应从自己开始，了解自己的感受和需求，避免不良结果的发生。如果连自己都不了解，沟通可能造成负面影响。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">自我同理的练习方法：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">寻找一个安静的空间，回想引起反应的对话。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">把对方说的话转化为「客观式叙述」，避免评判。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">用不同词汇表达自己的感受和需求，直到感受到真实的情绪反应（如泪水或喜悦）。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">觉醒与好奇心的产生：当真正达到自我同理的状态时，会对对方产生好奇心，理解他们的经历。这种好奇心应该自然而然地出现，避免在尚未准备好时强行探索他人状态。</span></p>','2024-11-10 13:04:56.555','2024-11-10 13:04:56.555',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 13:04:56.553',NULL,NULL);
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<p>-自我同理</p>
<p>-与内心的自我搭上线</p>','2024-11-10 13:33:59.333','2024-11-10 13:33:59.333',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 13:33:59.332',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4dd9f5cb-44e3-4de3-ae1e-19c392b2f53d','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>这个是一个典型的工作时间表。在还没学会时间管理，不懂得把工作分配在不同的事项。导致花很多无谓的时间在第三和第四项目，还有很糟糕的在处理每天灭火行动。事项二的变得越来越渺小，这是很不健康。学会了这一套时间管理方法，让我可以很有效的整理时间。</p>','2024-11-10 11:46:20.637','2024-11-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52383343-4508-4f44-af5c-72fae5a33f45','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>从孩子们形容父亲，可以了解到作者是把七个习惯用的融会贯通的一个人物。言行一致，内外合一的一位大师。他的分享和教学点亮了很多的人，也帮助过很多人在面对苦难的时候突破。</p>
<p>我自己突然也产生一种想法，那就是如果我的孩子们会如何形容我这位父亲？这绝对以一个以终为始的想法。我会好好的，用心的当一名好父亲。</p>','2024-11-10 12:03:22.379','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9045aeb1-6a52-4701-a4c6-164b357d1fbc','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>这次是我第二次读这本书，距离我学习是已经是3年前的事情了。重新读这本书的时候让我思考到底什么地方做对还是不对的。也给我检讨什么地方是可以加强。我也可以站在不同的角度和理解作者要表达的。</p>
<p>到最后，就是要告诉自己&ldquo;有用就有用，没用就没用&rdquo;</p>
<p>感谢大家一起学习🙏</p>','2024-11-10 12:11:23.071','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1627d180-c0ad-4ce9-85a1-cf831f964b26','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 56&nbsp; 11月10日 (星期日）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十一章 349页 &ndash; 354页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">七习惯灌溉出来的最高级、最美好和最甘甜的果实就是齐心协力，就是把自己、爱人、朋友和同事合而为一。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">上帝行事由内而外，尘世行事有外而内；尘世让世人摆脱贫穷，耶稣则先让世人摆脱内心的贫穷，然后由他们自己摆脱贫穷；尘世通过改变环境来造就人，耶稣则通过改变人来造就环境；尘世朔造人的行为，而耶稣改变人的本质。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">代际传承</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">让孩子们找到自己的位置，时时感到被关怀。</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-10 14:25:52.463','2024-11-10 14:25:53.549',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 14:25:53.548',NULL,NULL);
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<li>练习非暴力沟通，必须先从自我开始，先自我觉察了，关注了自己当下内心状态，才有办法与他人连结</li>
<li>自我同理：意识自己内心状态，能让自己明白为何会这么回应对方</li>
<li>写下整个对话，再用客观式叙述，把对方跟我说的话精简成一句简单的话，并检视那句话让我起什么样的情绪</li>
</ul>','2024-11-10 14:28:07.617','2024-11-10 14:28:07.617',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 14:28:07.616',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6a7296cd-1ed7-4d8b-9de4-b98ef1db9075','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>自我同理而了解自己，之后才会和自己搭上线。最后，和别人的连线才会成功。</p>','2024-11-10 14:36:23.275','2024-11-10 14:36:23.275',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 14:36:23.274',NULL,NULL);
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<p>7个习惯浇灌出来的最高级、最美好和最甘甜的果实就是齐心协力，就是把自己、爱人、朋友和同事合而为一。</p>
<p>由内而外</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-10 14:49:18.018','2024-11-10 14:49:20.082',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 14:49:20.081',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1️⃣聚焦在自我同理上</p>
<p>从自我开始，关注自己的感受和需要，对对方产生好奇心，可以帮助训练我们不带成见的眼光去看待对方</p>','2024-11-10 15:03:44.375','2024-11-10 15:03:44.375',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:03:44.374',NULL,NULL);
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<p>第三章 ： 四种非暴力沟通（Page065-070）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>学习非暴力沟通，必须从心理改变思维，才能有效地运用这套语言。</p>
<p>1. 聚焦在自我同理上：练习客观叙述</p>','2024-11-10 15:06:02.119','2024-11-10 15:06:02.119',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:06:02.118',NULL,NULL);
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<li>宗教是由内而外，生活中挑战是由外而内加强我们</li>
<li>维系一段关系是需要多交流</li>
<li>交流当儿不带批评，也不追根究底</li>
</ul>','2024-11-10 15:29:59.585','2024-11-10 15:29:59.585',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:29:59.584',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3c26834-c5c8-46f7-bcda-4a1349ebbb23','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通方式1:聚焦在自我同理上</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在一个安静的地方，回想今天某个人对我说的某些话，且这些话有引起你的反应。把这些话写下来，让它沉淀下来，然后用客观说叙述，把对方跟我说的话精简成一个简单的句子，开始监视这句话激发了我什么样的感受。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">例子</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我记得xxx说（客观陈述状况）时，我感到（说出我产生的感受），因为我重视（需要）。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只要我能说出内心的实况，就能让自己的某个部分得到治疗。</span></p>','2024-11-10 15:51:09.115','2024-11-10 15:51:09.115',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:51:09.114',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8ed8fa1-f774-4ea0-8eeb-f2cc8bcd5dfa','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>练习非暴力沟通的首要之务，发自内心的改变自己的思维。如果尚不能有内在转变，就放缓步调，关注自己内心当下的状态。</p>
<p>第一沟通方式：聚焦在自我同理上</p>
<ul>
<li>这不是自私的行为</li>
<li>注意身体对什么词汇有强烈的反应</li>
<li>学习说出内心的实况</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-10 15:51:24.616','2024-11-10 15:51:29.861',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:51:29.86',NULL,NULL);
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<p>在练习自我同理时，找一个安静的空间，用不同的词汇来表达内心的感受和需求。随着这种练习深入，将会逐渐感受到来自身体的反应&mdash;&mdash;那是内心深处的共鸣，是被理解和接纳的力量。这种能量表明，你已与内在自我产生共情，并激活了内心的生命力。</p>
<p>只要坦然说出真实的感受，便开始了自我疗愈的过程。持续专注于自我同理的练习，让这份理解温柔地滋养自己。</p>','2024-11-10 15:51:31.794','2024-11-10 15:51:31.794',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:51:31.793',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5ea5aa2-3e44-49ea-894b-6db9fd496d1a','1e5ec389-c06f-4d81-853a-f152815f1eab','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 56&nbsp; 11月10日 (星期日）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第十一章 349页 &ndash; 354页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">无论是什么关系，彼此都有着难言之隐，是自己内心最深处。</p>
<p dir="ltr">唯有透过不断的沟通，体谅，达成的互相信任，才能促使更进一步的了解。这种关系，不是一朝一日可以达成，而是需要时间的经营。</p>','2024-11-10 15:52:05.154','2024-11-10 15:52:05.154',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:52:05.153',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2244fd00-e1c7-4fac-835c-2fe213c62d20','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>要进行良好沟通，不是只要掌握技巧就能走天下。非暴力沟通的核心在于自己思维的改变。</p>
<p>思维与动机决定了言语的用词与行为。如果只从自己的角度出发，很容易出言不逊。</p>','2024-11-10 15:52:29.311','2024-11-10 15:52:29.311',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:52:29.31',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cf61fa9e-fae2-42c7-a0f3-58d7e0d8b274','7ad6db2a-2f40-4ef4-8535-4275c24499fd','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>自我同理 - 了解自己的感受</p>','2024-11-10 15:57:45.388','2024-11-10 15:58:10.69',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 15:58:10.69',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eb253d9e-400b-4221-b724-78db9502e216','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>同理心猜測的確是一個很好的方法。</p>
<p>昨天我就認為一個導師在上課的時候，在現場對別人的批判讓我覺得不太恰當。但我應該以同理心去明白他的出發點。</p>','2024-11-10 22:34:15.608','2024-11-10 22:34:15.608',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 22:34:15.608',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9fc4f5ce-2c66-4d1d-959c-ad66ff7fc3bb','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>练习自我表达的目的是通过察觉自我的需要与自己连接，同时也与沟通对象更好地连接。</p>
<p>用同理心和好奇心尝试明白沟通对象的意向，让他感受到被理解，因而敞开心怀交流。</p>','2024-11-10 23:35:37.337','2024-11-10 23:35:39.608',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-10 23:35:39.607',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-09-28 14:38:28.122','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6466cc3e-961f-42ad-98fa-c60e4d11d63a','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','4b2df02e-8504-4e87-925d-9f88a4e2095b','<p>关于外部刺激（我们身上发生的事情）和内部回应（我们该做什么）有一个选择的空间，这个时候做的事情会最终决定我们的成长和幸福。</p>
<p>空间里有四个人类的特质：良知、想象、自我意识和独立意志。==&gt; 良知是统领</p>
<p>很多时候我们的生活无法平静，是因为我们过的生活和良知产生激烈的碰撞，而我们在内心深处也感觉到了。如果想要和良知对话，可以问自己几个简单的问题，然后停下来倾听答案。比如，你可以问自己如下问题：</p>
<p>--&gt; 目前生活中我该做什么事，才能达到最积极的效果？</p>
<p>--&gt; 另外一个要问自己的重大问题是：生活现在需要我做什么？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>每个人都有三种生活&mdash;&mdash;</p>
<p><strong>公众生活 = </strong>通常暴露在别人的注视下。</p>
<p><strong>私人生活 = </strong>独自一人处理事情</p>
<p><strong>自我生活 = </strong>是一个地方，当我们想审视内在动机和最深的愿望就会想去那里。==&gt; 良知在这片土地上会得到有益生长，因为在这里我们的状态非常适合聆听。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 09:45:26.783','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7d8b373-6b6f-4bb4-9de4-c9142aa50e44','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 57&nbsp; 11月11日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十一章 355页 &ndash; 358页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正的变革是由内向外实现的，从根本上改变那些决定了我们的人格和世界观的思想构造和行为模式才行。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要停止探索，目的就是回到起点，重新认识，要以正确的原则为生活中心，跳出不良习惯的&rdquo;温床&rdquo;，要播种、除草、培植的过程就能感受成长的喜悦来达到美满生活。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">生命的意义是因为学会了爱、奉献和不断的尝试。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我要&rdquo;以终为始&rdquo;，以教育为出发点。在个人与企业的使命宣言不再是墻上的文字。要活出来。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">过去&rdquo;失败&rdquo;把使命做好，经过失败，要与失败有健康的关系，我深信内心的强大，才能活出来。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2"><br></span><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-06 03:14:51.633','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e92bbfda-06dd-4e83-986b-b05a290f2b8a','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>學习要怎样和自已連結，以及和他人連結，用連結改變世界''潛在的力量，在靜默同理''他人之前，要先同理自己，再試着去同理他人，只要這样做就能有所改變。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-10 06:17:56.431','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9201ce6b-f569-4408-88e7-a17ca743a7aa','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>给于孩子还是他人一双&ldquo;翅膀&rdquo;，引导他们的价值让他们可以突破自己的舒适圈。摆脱固定的模式，也让他们可以发现自己长处和发挥。</p>','2024-11-10 10:01:13.648','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4fbd7dc-5320-4a9e-bbef-cd21be26e211','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>看了第三章，我要开始练习对话练习。书本上也有提到找一个同理心的伙伴一起练习。请问有谁愿意做我的同理心伙伴吗？</p>','2024-11-10 16:00:00.644','2024-11-11 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013','2024-11-11 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ebf8b106-5c3a-45db-9f86-e365bba05367','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「自我表達之後，一定要緊接著向對方提出一個明確、可行的請求。如果你只說第一句話就沒有下文了，對方很可能會跟你爭論起來，並說出諸如「我才沒有大力甩上門」、「你老是那樣說」或「我做什麼你都不滿意，對吧？」等話語。在沒有提出可行請求的情況下，大家往往都會把你表達的觀察、感受和需要聽成是一種批評。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 08:26:37.927','2024-11-11 08:26:37.927',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 08:26:37.926',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b6265c7-ce81-40aa-9ed8-307f4b5e08a6','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>坏习惯就像温床，容易进去却难出来，要是不简单，但我们都能做到。我们有这种力量，关键是投入，真正的投入。一旦你说出&ldquo;我要这么做&rdquo;，一切都会改变。</p>
<p>无论你能做什么，或者梦想做什么，着手开始吧。<br>大胆是天赋，能量和魔力的代名词。</p>','2024-11-11 22:02:37.122','2024-11-11 22:02:37.122',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 22:02:37.121',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dd9657bb-a5ff-4dc5-bd8c-8455baf7effa','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>这段提出四个对话练习：</p>
<p>1）自我同理的练习 - 给自己时间和空间，让自己沉淀， 与自己身体连结，了解自己的感受和需求</p>
<p>2） 自我表达的练习 - 可以和身边的人练习</p>
<p>3）给予他人同理心练习 - 去猜测对方的感受和需要获得满足的地方，提出问题确认。不带批判。</p>
<p>4）提出要求练习 - 1） 比较直接了当的行动请求， 2）先获得对方的反映，再确认对方的反应。</p>
<p>（1） &amp; （3）侧重在无声的沟通。</p>
<p>（2）、（3）、（4）应用有声的沟通。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 00:44:43.199','2024-11-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('587b00f4-44be-44a5-83c3-c3263f71c46c','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>曾经上过一个课程，有个同学一直不停的说，其他同学都有点不耐烦，但是这个老师却很同理把话听完也听懂了。</p>
<p>当时我虽正在听，但心中卻另有所想，现在看回这篇文章，我们可以选择把对方解读为他正与我分享他所热衷的事物，就不会打断他人说话了。</p>','2024-11-11 06:17:12.468','2024-11-21 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cbf2d866-be7e-4a2a-9342-547ec24bd0bd','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>沟通方式2</p>
<p>以自我表达为重</p>
<p>向对方大声说出自己的状态。</p>
<p>自我表达之后，一定要紧接向对方提出明确，可行的请求，否则恐怕会引起争论。整段话字数不超过一百个字。</p>
<p>例句:当我听到你用超乎我预料的力道关门时，我感到很不开心，因为我重视尊重和平静。你愿意告诉我..........</p>
<p>最后是向对方提出可行的请求。</p>
<p>沟通方式3</p>
<p>将重点放在给予同理心</p>
<p>在心里静默地同理对方，也可把这份同理大声说出来。对方从你的肢体语言感觉活猜测到你的想法。</p>','2024-11-11 01:45:12.859','2024-11-11 01:47:41.042',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 01:47:41.041',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83fe7fd0-ec88-43d8-9fa3-c2e29659362d','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>沟通方式2</p>
<p>以自我表达为重</p>
<p>向对方大声说出自己的状态。</p>
<p>自我表达之后，一定要紧接向对方提出明确，可行的请求，否则恐怕会引起争论。整段话字数不超过一百个字。</p>
<p>例句:当我听到你用超乎我预料的力道关门时，我感到很不开心，因为我重视尊重和平静。你愿意告诉我..........</p>
<p>最后是向对方提出可行的请求。</p>
<p>需要多练习</p>
<p>要想如何与自己建立连接</p>
<p>与眼前个人建立连接，这连接掌握了改变世界的潜在力量</p>','2024-11-11 04:30:52.89','2024-11-11 04:30:52.89',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 04:30:52.889',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('721fb3f1-6c08-4417-b6dc-9ecb99463706','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>自我表达之后，一定要紧接向对方提出明确，可行的请求。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">将重点放在给予同理心,不要渉及批判,(你)对(他)错, 而是与眼前个人建立连接，这连接掌握了改变世界的潜在力量。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 05:21:36.129','2024-11-11 05:22:33.332',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 05:22:33.331',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8fbbfe8-e5d2-4770-b06e-9bbde826cdeb','07d8449e-7016-42b7-aaca-f9495fe455e0','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>1）不同的角度有不同的看法，在法律是绑匪错了，可是在富人的角度是他错，他没有加强保安设施，才会导致损失惨重。</p>
<p>2）一个人心中有三种「对错观」-a)法学家对错观 b) 经济学家对错观 c) 商人的对错观</p>
<p>坏人A诱骗好人B进入C的没有锁门门的工地，B 失足死了。</p>
<p>法学家说是A的错，如果证据确凿。可改不了结果。</p>
<p>经济学家说是C错，比社会总成本低就是谁的错，如把门关上。</p>
<p>商人的对错观说是B的错，谁损失大谁的错，因为B死了，只能怪自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 07:11:45.301','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4b36cf83-238b-4ce4-a02c-f0515ad362fa','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>自我表达是连接自己和他人的一种有效的沟通方式，在自我表达的同时也要懂得同理自己，只有自我同理之后，才能够去同理他人，这样的沟通能力，最主要的，最重视的就是和自己连接，做一个对自己非常诚实不说谎的人，只有启动了这一块，其他的都会接踵而来。</p>','2024-11-11 06:10:47.174','2024-11-11 06:10:47.174',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 06:10:47.166',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f62ba27-5347-4dc6-be4c-51c86d25ab99','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>溝通方式2️⃣ 以自我表達为重</p>
<p>在自我表達之後，一定要紧接着向對方提出一個明確，可行的請求。</p>
<p>溝通方式3️⃣ 将重点放在給予同理心</p>
<p>在同理他人之前，必須先同理自己。在表達方式避免带有批評或秤判的態度。</p>','2024-11-11 06:20:29.207','2024-11-11 06:20:29.207',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 06:20:29.206',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4012fe91-fbbc-4741-aa5a-d5392b52c6e6','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>我們給孩子們有原則的生活根基，並贈予自由他們，去創造有效能有意義而且充滿祥和的人生。</p>','2024-11-11 08:06:04.293','2024-11-11 08:06:21.994',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 08:06:21.993',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01db9b21-dc9b-4654-a546-7d27dcaeeef3','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>愤怒生气是來保护自己不受伤害，多花点时间去同理自己的的需要。</p>
<p>看懂了自己，也就不需要再生气了。</p>
<p>不要再去责备他人，这些都是自己的自尊心造成的，了解自己和他人需要，自我同理，就像作者写的，把一切看作是一艘空船。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 05:58:22.772','2024-11-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('193e5b9f-426c-4c22-ac75-03c96e7fdcf3','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">沟通方式</span><span lang="EN-MY">&nbsp;2&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：以自我表达为重（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page070-074</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">自我表達是指向對方大聲說出自己的狀態。自我表達後 請立刻提出自己的請求 以避免自己的表達、感受和需要被看成一種批判。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">即使通過非暴力溝通語言提出了請求後 過程中還是會發生自己的話難免會被看成批評。此時此刻 自己應該專注如何與自己連結 後再與對方建立連結 而非想著如何把溝通做好。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">另外 溝通中給予自己和對方同理心猜測也很重要。作者發現自己在心中靜默同理對方時 對方也能察覺到自己表達方式和肢體語言上的轉變。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">當然 我們也可以把同理心大聲說出來。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">過程中有沒有說中事實並不重要。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">重點還是透過不說謊實踐與他人建立連結。</span></p>','2024-11-11 13:44:32.537','2024-11-11 13:44:32.537',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 13:44:32.536',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d54bfc17-6a02-4c4b-b818-723462ff7070','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>如果你认为你是可以的，你是对的。如果你认为自己不可以，你也是对的。与其问&ldquo;为什么&rdquo;，不如问&ldquo;我该怎么做&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>在我过去的人生中，我太长太早下定论。&ldquo;不能成功的啦&rdquo;、&ldquo;没有用的&rdquo;、&ldquo;浪费时间，所以不需要做&rdquo;。但是，人生为什么一定要&ldquo;成功&rdquo;，一定要&ldquo;善用时间&rdquo;，一定要做&ldquo;有用的东西&rdquo;？休息、放空岂不是很好吗？如果双手都抓满了沙子，又能怎样可以接收金子呢？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>多做一点看似徒劳无功的事情吧，因为人生只有一次。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 10:29:38.11','2024-11-11 10:32:37.487',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 10:32:37.486',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('809eb45e-a849-403b-af8f-4394932f3ab2','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>表达自我应该带着客观的，而非批判式的。之后提出请求，而不是要求。透过不断的练习，把自己和别人连接。</p>','2024-11-11 10:43:31.199','2024-11-11 10:43:31.199',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 10:43:31.197',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9769e8b2-717a-470b-a3ba-e8922d955a5b','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>一带一带的传承意思是传好的下去，现在的问题，不是永远都解决不了，因为，我们有continual improvement，以前与现在的不同就是，现在我们的能力提升了，所以，可以做出改进。</p>','2024-11-11 12:20:06.791','2024-11-11 12:20:06.791',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 12:20:06.79',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('32d4301f-c74c-4907-bedc-859a60e4fda9','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>成为转型者</p>
<p>我们继承了环境的产物，可以通过改变自己，掌握自己的控制权，慢慢扩大自己的影响圈。不需要让过去的缺点持续下去。</p>','2024-11-11 12:30:17.374','2024-11-11 12:30:17.374',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 12:30:17.373',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2904c0cc-21f4-4d0f-b6aa-8343465d0681','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>沟通方式2</p>
<p>勇于表达说出自己的感受, 接着提出明确，可行的要求。。。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>沟通方式3</p>
<p>同理是要与对方建立连接。避免对立的局面。</p>
<p>先学习自我同理， 学习去猜测对方的状态。</p>','2024-11-11 12:51:02.487','2024-11-11 12:51:02.487',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 12:51:02.486',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34bb321e-0c17-4625-a1ca-5d63139f3767','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>一个人无法改变自己的思想构造，就永远无法改变现实，也永远不可能取得进步。</p>
<p>以正确的原则为中心，跳出不良习惯的温床。</p>','2024-11-11 13:20:01.136','2024-11-11 13:20:01.136',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 13:20:01.135',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5723148b-0515-4044-b9f6-9f08c5d45b2a','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>在自我表达时候，要客观叙述事情，不带批评的用词，表达了情感和需要，紧接着要提出一个明确可行的请求</li>
<li>整段话不超过100个字</li>
<li>非暴力沟通是与自己和对方连结，而不是要做得最好</li>
<li>静默同理是凭直觉去感受/猜测对方当下的感受和需要
<ul>
<li>自问：当我听到她说&hellip;&hellip;时，我猜想她是感到&hellip;&hellip;和需要&hellip;&hellip;。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>静默同理不是证明自己猜对，而是螚与对方建立连结</li>
</ul>','2024-11-11 13:39:14.206','2024-11-11 13:39:14.206',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 13:39:14.201',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ee1fa0f-8f4a-4cab-9fa9-0b436727d5eb','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>沟通方法2:以自我表达为重</p>
<p>-向对方说出自己的状态</p>
<p>-紧接着提出明确、可行的请求</p>
<p>沟通方法3:将重点放在给予同理心</p>
<p>-静默同理对方</p>
<p>-把这份同理大声说出来</p>','2024-11-11 13:52:35.88','2024-11-11 13:52:35.88',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 13:52:35.879',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ad21761-4e6f-41a3-82fc-fd88eec78728','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>每个人都有等待着被满足的需要</p>
<p>给予同理心也意味着我们要好好了解对方的需要</p>
<p>而不仅仅是专注于满足自己的需要</p>','2024-11-11 21:51:47.741','2024-11-11 22:20:59.849',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 22:20:59.848',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91c0557b-f70d-41de-955d-02255b3007a4','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>好好的说话，－个《请》，或谢谢就会认人感到温暖。</p>
<p>原来对抗压力的最大武器，就是拥有选择的权利。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-08 07:34:18.872','2024-11-17 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca4373c1-264d-4d06-8619-9896cb7495ca','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>非暴力沟通方式2 ： 自我表达（客观叙述），紧接对方明确和可行的要求。需大量反复练习，想着如何跟自己连结，和延期对方连结。</p>
<p>非暴力沟通方式3： 给以同理心。当我听到她说。。。时，我猜想她是感到。。。。和需要。。。。。。先同理自身的需要，才臆测对方的过程。激发同理对方的动力。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 13:47:55.643','2024-11-11 13:48:37.359',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 13:48:37.357',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通方式 2 ：以自我表达为重（Page070-074）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通方式 2 ：self -expression 以自我表达为重</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-最重要跟自己连接好。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通方式3 ：empathy 将重点放在给予同理心。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">用心做到同理，自己不断地练习，感受到自我同理所带来的转变，然后才可以对对方产生同理心。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不断练习Empathic guessing 同理心猜测。</span></p>','2024-11-11 13:55:20.408','2024-11-11 13:55:20.408',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 13:55:20.407',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd809254-1654-433b-846d-f29e5d0b1cc4','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>Pg355 - 358</p>
<p>成为转型着</p>
<p>我在工作中转型，在为经营事业和生意转型。而真正生命的转型者。</p>
<p>对于这种行为模式加以改进，不宜再传给下一代。转型的过程中进行的是有利于建立人际关系。</p>
<p>绝不要停止探索，因为其目的是回到起点，重新认识。</p>
<p>偏离航道，不断调整，回到轨迹。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 14:11:40.797','2024-11-11 14:12:00.843',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 14:12:00.842',NULL,NULL);
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<li>转变是从内而外的</li>
<li>改变从自身开始，让自己和后代受益</li>
<li>刚开始的改变是痛苦，但从习惯1-3坚持做，往后就能迎刃而解</li>
</ul>','2024-11-11 14:16:17.402','2024-11-11 14:16:17.402',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 14:16:17.401',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('164e4901-5086-4c0f-b159-a118a7b36511','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>学习自我表达的沟通方式，避免用带有批判性的语句。另外，要做到同理他人之前，必须先自我同理。反复练习这些沟通方式，还需要再消化消化。</p>','2024-11-11 14:21:00.309','2024-11-11 14:21:00.309',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 14:21:00.308',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d6bfb3b-9d84-48f2-97ef-58450c7a113d','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>以自我表达为重：-</p>
<p>不要想着把它做好，而是要想着要怎么与自己建立连接，以及与你眼前的那个人建立连接。</p>
<p>这些连接掌握了改变世界的潜在力量。</p>
<p>将重点放在给予同理心。</p>
<p>要学会用同理心去猜测对方状态</p>
<p>最好的方法就是一直练习它，每当你心中对某些人产生了某种评判时，就先用一天的时间静默地同理自己，再试着去同理其他人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 14:31:39.803','2024-11-11 14:31:39.803',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 14:31:39.802',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4af70a10-54ed-44c2-beb6-f04e428dfc16','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>第二沟通方式：self express&nbsp;</p>
<p>自我表达- 观察-感受-需要-请求（100个字内）</p>
<p>第三沟通方式：empathy&nbsp;</p>
<p>心里静默｜大声说出</p>
<p>当静默同理他人前必须先同理自己，而静默给予对方的同理心就是凭直觉去感受。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 14:34:22.503','2024-11-11 14:34:22.503',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 14:34:22.502',NULL,NULL);
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<li>自我表达：与自己连接，与对方连接</li>
<li>给予同理心：凭直觉去感受或猜测</li>
</ol>','2024-11-11 14:49:34.029','2024-11-11 14:49:34.029',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 14:49:34.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('75498ce8-3959-4326-aa89-71f9d38bc0b6','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>你的行为一直都在被人模仿观看，</p>','2024-11-11 15:56:05.996','2024-11-11 15:56:17.042',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:56:17.042',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9abd577-8a53-4b75-9e1c-3fdf9d8ef1a9','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Self-expression，向对方大声说出自己的状态。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在自我表达之后，一定要紧接着向对方提出一个明确，可行的请求。如果只说了第一句话就没有下文了，对方很大可能会更你争论起来。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">就算用了百分百的非暴力沟通语言提出了请求，对方还是有可能把我们的话听成是一种批判或批评。和瑜伽与冥想一样，它们都需要大量的反复练习。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要想着怎么把它做好，而是要想着要怎样与自己建立连结，以及与我眼前的那个人建立连结。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通方式 3 ：将重点放在给予同理心</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Empathy，凭直觉去感受或猜测，在那当下，对方可能有着怎样的感受或需要。请务必以客观的陈述开启这段对话。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 15:56:18.434','2024-11-11 15:56:18.434',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:56:18.433',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9901ebdc-ee7b-43df-a69d-e46d82d22a93','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>▪️沟通方式</p>
<p>▫️以自我表达为重 ～&nbsp;</p>
<p>要如何与自己建立连结，并与眼前的人建立真正的连接。当掌握了这些连接，它们将释放出改变世界的潜能，激发出内在的力量。</p>','2024-11-11 16:00:07.451','2024-11-11 16:00:07.451',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 16:00:07.45',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b71f86ba-deea-4187-a8bb-73afe4978668','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「把任何人對你說的一切，都轉譯成是用「請」或「謝謝」所表達的句子。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 03:21:50.223','2024-11-17 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('66b19d4b-eb79-43a0-a191-61e20f6c7d24','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>當我們選擇把別人説的話听成「請求」，就有了設法將被此连結起來的機會。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>「謝謝」</p>
<p>好與壞和對與錯都是一體兩面的。當大家對我說謝謝，並不代表我做的好或對，而是他們的需要已經得到滿足。</p>','2024-11-17 05:55:45.399','2024-11-17 06:01:57.591',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 06:01:57.59',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16ec59ad-8f90-4c82-bd57-7b82d0e52bc1','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>鸭鸭指数，面对自己的情绪感受<br>用情趣表达自己的感受</p>','2024-11-18 14:27:08.217','2024-11-18 14:27:08.217',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 14:27:08.216',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2d71799b-c8d6-4036-bad6-577f059b2783','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 57&nbsp; 11月11日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十一章 355页 &ndash; 358页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">成为转型者</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">让孩子自由摆脱上一代传承下来的消极的行为模式，让他们成为我们的朋友兼同事，我们应该对这种行为模式建议改进，而不是自己传给下一代，改进的方式一定是要有利于建立人际关系。父母可以选择善待子女、肯定子女，用自己的方式教育他。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">如果一个人无法改变自己的思想故障，就永远无法改变现实，也永远不可能取得进步。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">真正的改革是由内向外实现的，一定要从根本上改变那些决定了我们的人格和世界观的思想构造和行为模式。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">从每天的个人领域的成功做起，由内而外地努力。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">个人领域的成功</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">习惯一</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">1。按照原则，个人想要的结果停下来回应。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">2。使用积极的言语。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">3。关注影响圈。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">4。成为能够转型的人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">习惯二</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">1。行动之前限定结果。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">2。创造个人使命宣言，并按照它生活。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">习惯三</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">1。关注重要任务。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">2。屏弃不重要的事情。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">3。每周做计划。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">4。做选择的时候真诚面对。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-11 14:51:04.051','2024-11-11 14:51:09.84',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 14:51:09.838',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ba251087-ff40-496e-a22a-840c33c50fd1','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>摆脱上几代人传承下来的消极的行为模式。</p>
<p>改进的方式要利于建立人际关系。</p>
<p>只要我们在生活中坚持正确的原则，在实践和增强实践能力之间找到平衡点，就能够创建有效能，有意义而且充满祥和的人生，为自己也为后世子孙。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>绝不要停止探索，因为其目的是回到起点，重新认识。</p>','2024-11-11 15:06:13.631','2024-11-11 15:06:13.631',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:06:13.63',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c1626c72-aaf8-49f8-a351-0f52848495f3','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>12/11/24<br>同理心就是第三种沟通方式<br>我们自己必须明白及同理自己真正的需要。然后再去同理对方的效果就会发生变化，有了良好的连接，而且是正面的。<br>分享这两天发生的真实案例：<br>有一位非盈利机构的执行长联络了我，希望给于意见如何处理目前的纠纷。<br>我必须明白我自己在这事件中扮演着什么角色，以及同理心去了解她的需要，达到与对方连接，才能可以给于对方怎样的正确建议。我必须站在公平无私，公正，事实，以及公众利益为最终结果的想法给于建议。希望可以达到和谐圆满的结局。</p>','2024-11-11 15:08:58.141','2024-11-11 15:08:58.141',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:08:58.14',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('57b5deba-31ac-4e5f-893c-f5b9835320cc','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>沟通方式：</p>
<p>2️⃣以自我表达为重</p>
<p>自我表达后，要紧接着向对方提出明确，可行的请求。</p>
<p>3️⃣将重点放在给予同理心</p>
<p>可以静静地做，也可以把这份同理大声说出来</p>
<p>学会关爱别人后，就更有机会说出我们真正想说的话。</p>','2024-11-11 15:13:53.756','2024-11-11 15:13:53.756',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:13:53.755',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d209c6f9-8547-4b99-8cf4-6890422a0284','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 56 &nbsp;11月10日 (星期日）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第十一章 349页 &ndash; 354页<br>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Day 57 &nbsp;11月11日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第十一章 355页 &ndash; 358页<br>&nbsp;</p>
<p>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>自外而内的手段只是权宜之计。只有从最基本的思维和行为模式下手，才能根除长期的潜在的问题。</p>
<p><br>有些不良的行为模式是上一代遗传下来时，但我们歌努力改变。我们能赠予子孙的永存遗产只有两种 - 根和翅膀。翅膀意味着赠予他们自由，让他们摆脱上一代消极的行为模式。</p>
<p><br>七个习惯浇灌出来的最高级，最美好和最甜的果实就齐心协力，就是把自己，爱人，朋友和同事合而为一。虽然有时也会犯错，只要我们从每日个人领域的成功做起，由内而外地努力，总会取得成果。努力取得成果的过程能够让我们感受到成长的喜悦。<br>绝不要停止探索，因为其目的，是回到起点，重新认识。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>过程中也可能会偏离计划，不要气馁。要继续遵循计划，做出细微调整，最终会到达自己的目的地。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-11 15:16:17.34','2024-11-11 15:19:05.243',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:19:05.242',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9adcfd98-2dd6-46f4-b64a-240475828bde','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>沟通方式2<br>以［自我表达］为重</p>
<p>表达之后，一定要提出明确，可行的请求。</p>
<p>不要想急着把它做好<br>而是想与自己建立连结&nbsp;<br>以及和眼前人建立连结<br><br></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>沟通方式3<br>将重点放在［给予同理心］<br>会有影响力。</p>
<p>同理过自身的需要<br>才能有同理对方的动力<br>才懂的关爱别人<br>才有机会说出真正想说的话</p>
<p>每当对某人产生评判时<br>练习先用一天时间<br>同理自己<br>再同理他人<br><br></p>','2024-11-11 15:23:58.598','2024-11-11 15:23:58.598',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:23:58.597',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('11e4e816-f8bc-4f14-86bb-24b484a18bf4','408296cf-a4ba-4f18-9ded-8da4df356767','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 57&nbsp; 11月11日 (星期一）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第十一章 355页 &ndash; 358页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">我们的行为会直接影响下一代。</p>
<p dir="ltr">就像我们会被上一代影响一般。</p>
<p dir="ltr">但，我们可以转变，从我们这里开始转变，让身边的人，关系，迈向更好的步伐与方向。</p>','2024-11-11 15:31:28.25','2024-11-11 15:31:28.25',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:31:28.249',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d3ce10ae-dd60-4cc5-9f29-8a925908a6e0','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">沟通方式</span><span lang="EN-MY">&nbsp;2&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：以自我表达为重（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page070-074</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">沟通方式2-以自我表达为重：向对方大声说出自己的状态，接着提出明确和可行的请求。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">沟通方式3-将重点放在给予同理心：心里默默同理对方，或大声说出。</span></p>','2024-11-11 15:32:22.163','2024-11-11 15:32:22.163',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:32:22.162',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d07d8c24-558c-4cd8-b6db-e6052887f19c','87aa8704-f5bf-49f6-9679-8652f3f313a8','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>沟通方式：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>（2）以自我表达为重；</p>
<p>先与自己连接，再与对方连接</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>（3）将重点放在给予同理心；</p>
<p>先同理自己，<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">再同理他人</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 15:38:05.377','2024-11-11 15:49:06.531',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-11 15:49:06.53',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('04fc985e-49cf-4c58-8a9d-44350239a6ef','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>同理是以对方的作为对话的中心，关心他们的感受和需要。双方能感受到彼此之间的连结。</p>
<p>同情是倾听对方的话，然后以自己为中心，去表达你与对方的连结。</p>
<p>这是我非常喜欢的一段讲解【同理心】和【同情心】的差异：<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZBTYViDPlQ">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZBTYViDPlQ</a>&nbsp;</p>
<p>化解冲突并不难。因为人都有共同的感受和需求。只要彼此看见彼此的感受和需求，并且能够彼此同理，了解，冲突可以化解。非暴力沟通就是非常好的化解冲突的沟通方法。</p>','2024-11-09 03:23:49.822','2024-11-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
