INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cde8d24d-7375-4507-88d9-9d6f963d7e58','9753d79a-83e1-458e-91f4-0fcdccd296a5','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>读完这三段关于&ldquo;存在价值&rdquo;的激烈辩论，我被阿德勒心理学中两个颠覆性观点深深震撼：</p>
<p>1. 从&ldquo;行为标准&rdquo;到&ldquo;存在标准&rdquo;的评价。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;青年愤怒质疑的&ldquo;无用之人无价值&rdquo;，正是现代社会用绩效衡量生命的缩影。哲人一针见血：当我们将人视为&ldquo;功能&rdquo;时，卧床老人、婴儿甚至普通人都可能被异化为&ldquo;无效资产&rdquo;。而存在标准的提出，宛如一记警钟&mdash;&mdash;生命的价值先于任何社会功能。病危母亲之例揭示的真相：仅仅她活着这件事本身就可以支撑你和家人心 ，犮挥巨大的作用。</p>
<p>2. 减法评价&rdquo;如何扼杀勇气。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;父母对孩子的&ldquo;扣分式评价&rdquo;，本质上是对人性的物化。如果这样做，那就会更加挫伤孩子的勇气。哲人指出更残酷的真相：**当我们用&ldquo;应该&rdquo;的标尺丈量他人时，实则在否定其存在的正当性**。阿德勒的解法直击核心：从&ldquo;零分起点&rdquo;出发，将每个生命视为自带光芒的独立宇宙&mdash;&mdash;孩子洗碗时不提&ldquo;快去上学&rdquo;，只说&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;的话，孩子也许就可以体会到自已的价值，进而迈出新的―步。</p>
<p>3. 改变从&ldquo;我&rdquo;开始的勇气。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;当青年斥责&ldquo;伪善&rdquo;时，阿德勒的回应：&ldquo;必须有人开始，即使他人不合作。&rdquo;这揭示横向关系的本质：它不是等待被成全的乌托邦，而是个体主动选择的生命姿态。</p>','2025-07-15 06:41:44.984','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('257b61b3-5c4b-4931-af40-e073bab1483c','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>现今社会许多人都不愿承认错误，怕承担责任。一旦发生事情的第一反应就是往外推。时时反省并愿意承担责任的人必成大事。去扩大自己的影响圈，不花太多时间在自己控制不了的事情上。</p>','2025-07-15 14:40:37.98','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3bf562be-26d5-47b0-a271-804ae36ad460','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>对何时何地执行一项新习惯做出确切计划的人比较可能真的去执行，所以就是以具体的行动计划来呃学代职，可以的话呢就是加上确定时间和地点。</p>','2025-07-15 15:05:52.825','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b5168de3-4728-4b15-b961-c863ee7a7745','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>执行意向运用了就是&ldquo;时间&rdquo;与&ldquo;地点&rdquo;。将此策略填下：我会于&ldquo;时间&rdquo;，在&ldquo;地点&rdquo;进行&ldquo;行为&rdquo;。当你的梦想太模糊，就很容易整天将小例外合理化，而不去处理成功所需的确切任务。</p>','2025-07-15 15:12:29.263','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca59051b-e80f-4049-bec2-9600541423d2','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人要时时刻刻都在反省自己，才能不断的进步。</span></p>','2025-07-15 15:51:45.292','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15a40286-5d7d-46c9-a0e9-2134be252148','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>沒錯，我就在一個商業團體裡，大家都是企業老闆，但非常少聽到公司的問題是出在自己的身上。</p>','2025-07-16 00:09:29.367','2025-07-16 00:09:44.265',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 00:09:44.264',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e256c9f5-d518-4180-a663-84842414686b','9753d79a-83e1-458e-91f4-0fcdccd296a5','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>用存在标准去看待他人就是对其存在本身感到喜悦和感谢。只要存在着，就有价值。</p>','2025-07-16 01:24:08.471','2025-07-16 01:24:08.471',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 01:24:08.47',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15102f84-1b91-4047-95e6-0da998f87428','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>对何时何地执行一项新习惯做出确切计划的人，比较可能真的去执行。</p>
<p>具体化表明要做的事情：</p>
<p><strong>&ldquo;我会于(时间)，在(地点)进行(行为)&rdquo;</strong></p>','2025-07-16 01:34:17.475','2025-07-16 01:34:17.475',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 01:34:17.474',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1711ab07-0477-4cdc-9c44-7c3f7444c099','9753d79a-83e1-458e-91f4-0fcdccd296a5','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>请不要用 &ldquo;行为&rdquo;标准而是用&ldquo;存在&rdquo;标准去看待他人；不要用他人 &ldquo;做了什么&rdquo; 去判断，而应对其存在本身表示喜悦和感谢。</p>
<p>对于自己，不要用&ldquo;行为&rdquo; 标准去考虑，而要首先从&ldquo;存在&rdquo;标准上去接纳。</p>
<p>不将自己的孩子跟任何人相比，就把他看作他自己，对他的存在心怀喜悦与感激，不要按照理想形象去扣分，而是从零起点出发。如果是这样的话，那就能够对&ldquo;存在&rdquo;本身表示感谢了。</p>
<p>如果你与某人建立起了纵向关系，那你就会不自觉地从&ldquo;纵向&rdquo;去把握所有的人际关系。</p>','2025-07-16 13:51:31.91','2025-07-16 13:51:31.91',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 13:51:31.909',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3ea6f408-1a26-4323-a8fd-d170ffcb0544','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>习惯堆叠=做完(目前的习惯)之后，我会执行(新的习惯)</p>
<p>把想要的行为跟每天已经在做的事情绑在一起。</p>','2025-07-16 01:45:17.676','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a83e4e2f-c2c6-483c-a85c-22be3a205729','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>人比人气死人所以没有什么好比较的，而是不断提升自己和学习別人的優点让自己強大。</p>','2025-07-16 12:43:47.082','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6fcd653-7ea7-4a36-92dd-b62438bdbe54','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>明确地把几个习惯接连性地堆叠起来。</p>','2025-07-17 15:20:42.741','2025-07-17 15:20:42.741',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:20:42.74',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('09d6a2d2-8b11-4b38-8e21-58b3b34ee6e7','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>自制力是一种短期策略，不适用于长期。</p>
<p>有高度自制力的人不常待在充满诱惑的环境里。</p>
<p>回避诱惑比抗拒诱惑简单。</p>
<p>要产除坏习惯，就是减少接触会激发此恶习的提示。</p>','2025-07-17 01:51:44.859','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2d00c23-ea61-40be-ae88-53a093535543','c214aac3-aaf2-43d2-8cd1-0bd7c0609fbe','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>立即满足，有利方式。如爱买万字的人，把每一期要买的钱放进罐子里，一年后打开自己领奖！发现每一天奖金都在增加，喜悦感！</p>','2025-07-17 13:19:51.817','2025-08-08 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-08-08 00:00:00.01','2025-08-08 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4868ed9b-cf8b-4b47-8424-0ddf924346be','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>其实这里蜕变读书会不就是这样吗</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我会在今天，看几页书，什么书</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>哈哈哈哈</p>','2025-07-16 05:20:31.706','2025-07-16 05:20:31.706',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 05:20:31.705',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f574a201-6d4a-4fdd-a960-d6398ad430b1','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>想要做和设定好怎么做相差很大。想要做是无意识的，是随机缘而坐的。计划好的就是已经设定好几时几点怎样做的，系统化的。后者的成功率较高。</p>','2025-07-16 08:36:38.356','2025-07-16 08:36:38.356',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 08:36:38.355',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7cd46abf-7a35-478a-ab90-77eb71214214','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>成为环境的构筑者。<br>习惯的改变取决于身处的空间，以及眼前的提示。视觉是人类感觉中最强的。因此，视觉提示是人类催化剂！</p>','2025-07-16 09:35:52.873','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b06b7094-9682-4b67-bbfe-2fec06db154f','771cbcd5-b328-4c5b-8cc2-a3f072cb1991','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>以下是对&ldquo;他者贡献&rdquo;核心思想的简短感悟要点：</p>
<p>1. **贡献的本质是价值共生**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **破除牺牲迷思**：他者贡献 &ne; 自我牺牲（阿德勒批判&ldquo;过度适应社会人&rdquo;的自我消耗）。 &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **拒绝伪善指控**：我们只有感觉到自已的存在或行为对共体有益的时候为他人付出实质是**实现自我价值感的路径**&mdash;&mdash;通过&ldquo;我对他人有用&rdquo;确认存在意义。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>### 2. **工作即贡献的终极实践** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **超越金钱维度**：劳动的本质是参与共同体、创造归属感（如富豪持续忙碌工作着/做慈善活动）也为了能够体会自我价值，确认&ldquo;可以在这里&rdquo;的归属感。 &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **凡劳动皆神圣**：清洁工维持环境整洁 &rarr; 贡献社会价值 &rarr; 获得&ldquo;我属于这里&rdquo;的归属认证。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>3. **共同体感觉的三角支柱** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; 自我接纳&nbsp; &nbsp; 接纳&ldquo;不可交换的我&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;他者信赖&nbsp; &nbsp;<span style="font-size: 14px;">无条件视人为伙伴</span></p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;他者贡献&nbsp; <span style="font-size: 14px;">在协作中实现价值&nbsp;</span></p>
<p>三者闭环**：唯当贡献时，自我接纳才落地，信赖才转化为归属感。<span style="font-size: 14px;">&nbsp;&nbsp;</span></p>
<p>4. **利他与利己的辩证统一** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;&gt; 健康贡献的本质： &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;&gt; **&ldquo;为他人&rdquo;是手段，&ldquo;成为我&rdquo;是目的**。 &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- 如同呼吸：呼出（贡献）与吸入（价值感）本是一体两面，无牺牲亦无伪善。</p>
<p>以下是对三则对话的核心短评：</p>
<p>---</p>
<p>### 1. **他者贡献 &ne; 自我牺牲或伪善** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **关键破题**：当视他人为&ldquo;伙伴&rdquo;而非&ldquo;敌人&rdquo;时，贡献自然脱离伪善感（如洗碗案例：怨念源于孤立感，愉悦来自&ldquo;我对家人有用&rdquo;的价值认同）。 &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **本质转化**：贡献行为的善恶属性不取决于动机利己/利他，而取决于**关系视角的转换**（纵向索取&rarr;横向协作）。</p>
<p>---</p>
<p>### 2. **共同体感觉的三角闭环** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;```mermaid<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;graph LR<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;A[自我接纳] --&gt; B[他者信赖]<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;B --&gt; C[他者贡献]<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;C --&gt; A<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;``` &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **动态共生**：三者非线性递进，而是相互滋养： &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;- 唯当接纳真实自我（A），方敢无惧背叛而信赖（B）； &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;- 唯当视人为伙伴（B），贡献（C）才非牺牲； &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;- 唯当贡献中体会价值（C），才真正接纳自我（A）。</p>
<p>---</p>
<p>### 3. **年轻人超前性的革命隐喻** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **时间暴论**：阿德勒心理学实践需&ldquo;年龄半数时间&rdquo;，但早觉醒者实质**压缩认知代差**（20岁觉醒者30岁即超越60岁未觉者）。 &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- **纵向关系瓦解**：哲人直言青年&ldquo;比我超前&rdquo;，示范性废除长者权威&mdash;&mdash;**思想的新旧不在年龄，在觉醒时刻**。 &nbsp;</p>','2025-07-16 04:30:20.965','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c4a72da-bc94-43a8-9769-7b3e969ea073','9753d79a-83e1-458e-91f4-0fcdccd296a5','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler believes that we realize our value by contributing to others - not through recognition but through sincere action and care.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This begins when we treat others as equals, accept them unconditionally.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>We don''t wait for others to change or cooperate. We take personal responsibility and act with courage, even if others are not doing the same yet.</p>','2025-07-16 09:53:03.821','2025-07-16 09:53:03.821',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 09:53:03.82',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be342e05-02a5-437b-acf2-67c3625d383d','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>清晰的指令</p>
<p>我会于&lt;时间&gt;， 在&lt;地点&gt;，进行&lt;行为&gt;。</p>
<p>确切自己要什么，如何达成目标，包括时间地点都非常明确。</p>','2025-07-16 11:08:44.62','2025-07-16 11:08:44.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 11:08:44.619',NULL,NULL);
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<p><em>我给自己的计划：每天运动：游泳，跑5公里，伸展操，瑜伽，健身中心锻炼。饭后散步30-60分钟。</em></p>','2025-07-16 12:13:29.972','2025-07-16 12:13:29.972',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 12:13:29.971',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1. &nbsp;**警惕&ldquo;以偏概全&rdquo;的人生谎言：** 我们常因只凭事物―部分就來判断整体的生活方式（如个别人的批评、自身的某个缺点）就武断地定义整个世界（&ldquo;大家都讨厌我&rdquo;、&ldquo;我一切都不行&rdquo;）。这种缺乏&ldquo;人生和谐&rdquo;的生活方式，本质是逃避直面整体现实的勇气。犹太教关于&ldquo;10人分布&rdquo;的比喻极具启发性&mdash;&mdash;选择关注谁，决定了我们眼中的世界。</p>
<p>2. &nbsp;**工作狂的本质是逃避：** &ldquo;工作忙&rdquo;常被用作忽视家庭、社交、兴趣等人生其他面向的借口。这是一种不敢正视人生的课题的生活方式。哲人犀利地指出，这并非无奈，而是缺乏平衡人生的勇气，是一种用单一领域（工作成就/行为标准）来掩盖对其他责任（如家庭关系、自我全面发展）的逃避，是另一种形式的&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;。</p>
<p>3. &nbsp;**&ldquo;存在标准&rdquo;是幸福的根基：** 将自我价值完全绑定在&ldquo;能做什么&rdquo;（行为标准，如赚钱、职位）上是危险的。当失去生产能力（如退休、生病）时，只能用&ldquo;行为标准&rdquo;來接受自己的人总会受到非常严重的打击，价值感便会崩塌。真正的勇气在于实践&ldquo;存在标准&rdquo;&mdash;&mdash;无条件接纳&ldquo;我存在于此&rdquo;本身的价值。这需要深刻的自省与接纳自我的勇气。</p>
<p>4. &nbsp;**课题分离与整体视角：** 人际关系中的困扰（如被个别人讨厌、口吃者的痛苦）往往源于混淆课题（过度关注他人评价/自身缺陷）和只看事物的一部分便來判断其整体。（忽略接纳者、中立者）。解决问题的关键不在于改变那&ldquo;1个人&rdquo;或消除缺陷，而在于培养自我接纳、他者信赖的勇气，并看到更广阔的人生图景。</p>','2025-07-16 08:02:29.434','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第四夜 要有被讨厌的勇气</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">只要存在着，就有价值</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">请不要用行为标准，而是用存在标准去看待他人，不要用他能做的什么去判断，而应对其存在本身表示喜悦和感谢.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一个例子，当一个车祸的妈妈陷入昏迷状态生命危险，这个时候你根本不会考虑目亲《做了什么》之类的问题，你会感到的只是要母亲活下来就无比高兴. 只要今天母亲还活着，就谢天谢地，仅仅存在就有她的价值了. </span></p>','2025-07-16 14:38:40.273','2025-07-16 14:38:41.835',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 14:38:41.833',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('415f5463-3a88-4e0a-b10c-414ade1f64a2','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>清晰的执行意向提升完成机率。越明确明显的指示，重复性越高，习惯的依赖也越高。</p>','2025-07-16 15:01:10.658','2025-07-16 15:01:10.658',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:01:10.657',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ba83333-a14b-4da6-bd3a-4afe59ea4a7b','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>建立习惯</p>
<p>要有具体的行动计划</p>
<p>比如： 我会与（时间），在（地点）进行（行为）。</p>','2025-07-16 15:05:49.83','2025-07-16 15:05:49.83',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:05:49.829',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 开始一个新习惯最好的方法（Page 089-092）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">执行意向有效促使我们坚持目标。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对何时何地执行一项新习惯做出确切计划的人，比较可能真的去执行。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们把这些事交给机遇，期待自己会记得要做，我是在对的时候刚好收到激励。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">许多人认为自己缺乏激励，其实他们缺的是清晰。有些人花了一辈子等待改善自我的正确时机。一旦设定执行意向，就不用等灵感来敲门。当行动的时刻到来，不需要做决定，只要预定计划执行即可。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">执行意向有一个益处。确切知道自己想要什么、如何达成目标，可以帮助自己拒绝干扰自己前进、令自己分心、让自己脱离轨道的事物。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当梦想太模糊，就很容易整天将小例外合理化，而不去处理成功所需的确切任务。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">给你的习惯一个存在世上的时间与空间，目标是要执行的时间与地点明显到只要重复的次数多，就算说不出原因，你也会在对的时间强烈想要去做对的事。</span></p>','2025-07-16 15:09:58.94','2025-07-16 15:10:01.353',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:10:01.344',NULL,NULL);
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<p>以执行意向（具体的行动计划）扫除模糊的概念。写下：</p>
<p><strong>&ldquo; 我会于 (时间)，在 (地点) 进行 (行为)&rdquo;</strong></p>','2025-07-16 15:11:17.124','2025-07-16 15:11:17.124',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:11:17.123',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">善于反省，才能不断成长</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">孔子说过，一个君子一定要能够约束自己，要求自己, 严于律己，只有小人才会经常怪罪别人，指责别人，很会原谅自己，这些智慧都是在告诫后人要善于反省自己.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有时当我们想对别人亲近的时候，却发现别人不想亲近我们，那我们也要反思一下，我们是不是对别人的仁爱不够. 但我们想要管理别人时，对方却不符管时，我们也要反省一下是不是自己智慧不够处理方式不够好，但我们对别人以礼相待，对方却不搭理我们，我们也要反思一下是不是自己的恭敬程度不够或者不够诚心.</span></p>','2025-07-16 15:24:07.366','2025-07-16 15:24:08.609',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:24:08.608',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f65913d-8fad-4de0-8f49-e080755ea397','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 32&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>16&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">善于反省，才能不断成长（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 142-146<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">对方不服管，要反思一下，是不是自己的智慧不够，处理方式不够好。对方不搭理我们，反思一下，是不是自己的恭敬程度不够，不够诚心。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''__Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9'',serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">仁义够了，一言一行都合乎天理，一切就都顺了。相反，仁义不够，又不经常正己，只会责怪别人，那做什么都做不成，也得不到。</span></p>','2025-07-16 15:59:07.629','2025-07-16 15:59:07.629',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:59:07.628',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 开始一个新习惯最好的方法</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">研究人员所谓的执行意向一份你要在何时何处行动的意先计划就是你打算如何执行某一特定习惯.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">执行意向运用了这两者，就是时间与地点. 执行意向大致是 【当X情境发生时, 我就会执行Y回应】</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对何时何地执行一项新习惯做出确切计划的人，比较可能真的去执行. 像是我要多运动，我要更有生产力或我该去投票，以具体的行动计划取而代之. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我会於【时间】, 在【地点】进行【行为】.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">例子 : </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">静心 : 我会於早上7:00，在厨房静心1分钟读书.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读书 : 我会以晚间6:00, 在卧室读西班牙文20分钟.</span></p>','2025-07-16 15:25:24.822','2025-07-16 15:25:26.001',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:25:26',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0efeb5fc-66d7-47ed-85fd-9d613a1665ea','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>遇到困难，要向内找原因，看看自己能够改变些什么，不要动不动就抱怨</p>','2025-07-16 15:25:59.331','2025-07-16 15:25:59.331',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:25:59.33',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83d10900-686a-4a8d-8722-5b2bf2087aec','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">善于反省，才能不断成长（</span>Page 142-146<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>光有经验不等于成长，真正让人进步的是反省。不懂反省的人，哪怕经历再多，也可能不断重复犯错。<br>反省能帮助我们从失败中学习，避免重蹈覆辙，也能让我们更了解自己，变得更成熟稳重。</p>
<p>不懂反省的人，即使活了一百年，也可能只是重复一年活了一百次。</p>','2025-07-16 15:42:48.199','2025-07-16 15:42:48.199',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:42:48.198',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a51f1e9-75c3-4ed2-b59a-244c2ac54e4f','9753d79a-83e1-458e-91f4-0fcdccd296a5','bab89ee0-c6a9-43ae-b08d-61e5e50652da','<p>每个人都有存在的价值</p>
<p>只要存在。就有价值</p>','2025-07-16 15:47:19.388','2025-07-16 15:47:19.388',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:47:19.387',NULL,NULL);
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<li>就是你【打算如何执行某一特定习惯】，记得要写下特定的【时间】与【地点】。</li>
<li>研究显示：执行意向能有效促使我们坚持目标。</li>
<li>对何时何地执行一项新习惯做出确切计划的人，比较可能真的去执行。</li>
<li>如何运用此策略在于习惯的方法就是写下：我会于【时间】在【地点】进行【行为】。
<ul>
<li>运动：我会于傍晚5:00，在健身房运动1小时。</li>
<li>静心：我会于早上7:00，在厨房静心1分钟。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2025-07-16 15:56:38.579','2025-07-16 15:56:38.579',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:56:38.578',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoListParagraph">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <span lang="ZH-CN">开始一个新习惯最好的方法（</span>Page 089-092<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯不该只靠灵感，而要靠明确计划。很多人一辈子都在「等时机变好再开始」，但真正有行动力的人，会直接设定「何时、何地、做什么」。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我会于【时间】，在【地点】进行【行为】。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">💡 例如：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✔️ 我会于晚上10点，在书房读《原子习惯》20分钟。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">目标是让习惯变得「显而易见、可重复」你不需要等心情好才去做；当时间到了，你自然而然就会开始行动。这就是「时间与地点自动触发行为」的力量。</span></p>','2025-07-16 15:28:58.045','2025-07-16 15:57:48.952',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 15:57:48.95',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1126a0d6-2711-419e-8fc0-d2516e57fbad','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 32 ：7月16 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">善于反省，才能不断成长（Page 142-146）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正有力量的人不是抱怨世界的人，而是不断向内修正、扩大影响、自求多福的人。</span></p>','2025-07-16 16:00:15.372','2025-07-16 16:00:15.372',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 16:00:15.371',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('17ad596f-c517-49d8-8342-eeb0f41f0510','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 16&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>16&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>1 &ndash;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">开始一个新习惯最好的方法（</span>Page 089-092<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p>建立习惯</p>
<p>要有具体的行动计划</p>
<p>比如： 我会与（时间），在（地点）进行（行为）。</p>','2025-07-16 15:59:47.689','2025-07-16 16:00:16.592',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 16:00:16.583',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0563675-b19d-4aad-84a2-7393bdd4d439','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','49b59e51-9917-4586-b095-d9e1a4d44452','<p>我们可以问一问自己，是否对别人一视同仁、以礼相待；然后再问问自己，其他人在生活和工作中对自己是不是也彬彬有礼，充满关爱。最后再问问自己，现在的我，是一个合格的正人君子吗？</p>
<p><br>这是带有很强逻辑性的提问，它的特点在于，如果你的第一个答案是肯定的，那么第二题和第三题的答案也势必是肯定的；如果第一题你的答案就是否定的，那么剩余两题的答案也自然是否定的，绝不可能出现第一题&ldquo;是&rdquo;，第二题&ldquo;不是&rdquo;的情况。</p>
<p>古代作品着重&ldquo;君子&rdquo;的标杆。呼吁人们成为君子。对于立场，不需过于偏激两端，好比海纳百川有容乃大。马来西亚是个多元种族的国家，尊重各种族的文化，信仰和生活方式的不同，容纳得下这些差别，社会自然和谐。</p>','2025-06-15 09:34:14.488','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5348c39-194d-4846-a763-ff1a941dc099','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>好喜欢这句话：&ldquo;要具备批判型思维，要先学会自省&rdquo;。确实在指着别人时，还有四根手指是指回自己的。</p>','2025-07-12 13:08:30.699','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5b69b8d-e0a9-4eee-b2c7-cf352748c867','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>建立新的习惯时，可以把它堆叠在原有的执行行为上，小小的增加，也是协助添加新的习惯！</p>
<p>每天早上，我大约6.20起身准备早餐，七点洗澡，再吃早餐，8点上班！</p>
<p>这两天，我把读书放在6.45左右，然后再洗澡和接下来的行为，希望有助于提高自己的有效的习惯！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-16 14:08:13.705','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab5d3764-ff63-49d2-8189-65a68097136a','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>在设定要完成的目标习惯，也同时开始构想下一个会培养的新习惯， 把习惯 堆叠， 提升自己要完成想拥有的新习惯的坚决心。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-14 14:35:30.664','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbb380c9-6600-4792-8c1e-e358325d07ec','70ca23ab-4214-45b5-8c26-92276d18ce91','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>首先与他人之间，只有一方面也可以，建立起横向关系来。从这里开始。<br><br>人人过你与某人建立起了纵向关系，那你就会不自觉地去纵向化所有人际关系。<br>如果能与某人建立起横向关系，也就是建立起真正意义上的平等关系的话，那就是生活方式的重大改变。<br>以此为开始，所以人际关系都会朝着横向发展。<br><br>重要的是意识上的平等和坚持自己应有的主张。<br>认为没有拒绝的余地，其实是被动的属于纵向关系。<br><br><br>交友需要一定的勇气，是事实。<br>保持既不靠得太近但又伸手可及的距离。<br><br><br></p>','2025-07-14 13:22:23.551','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('92893c38-e986-419f-8c88-f37fd4da8a4a','70ca23ab-4214-45b5-8c26-92276d18ce91','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【縱向關係】：</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">XXX </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的話必須順從，</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">YYY </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">可以不理。</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">ZZZ </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的約定就算毀約也沒關係。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">priority </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">該怎么設？時間和精力的安排優先順序，如何擺脫縱向？橫向的同時，可否安排優先？）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（橫向好像不等於平等</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">......</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">只是沒有上下優劣，但我還是可以依照我的圈子人際環安排優先順序）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（我不是不尊敬對方，只是以我現在的資源與能力，我需要優先安排到重要的地方）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不與自己的原則相衝突，可以圓融，但關乎原則一定要堅持。認識自己的原則</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「依照上司的指令辦事」，是一種回避責任的行爲，因爲上司出錘了，可以賴到上司的身上，而逃過了自己本身能力</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">勇氣的不足的事實。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（這就跟東方社會的「不給面子」杠上了啊</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">[</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不論是華人社會，還是作者的日本社會</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">]</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">，不給上司面子指出上司的錯誤，上司</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> kimoci </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不爽，以後就處處讓你碰釘子）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（還是這種思想本身就是儒家文化的【糟粕】？）</span></p>','2025-07-15 08:00:05.087','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af7e0306-74db-4f54-b782-6e7844e395a1','70ca23ab-4214-45b5-8c26-92276d18ce91','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>读完这段关于&ldquo;横向关系&rdquo;的激烈交锋：</p>
<p>1. 纵向关系的自我奴役本质.&nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;青年在职场中&ldquo;被动服从&rarr;逃避责任&rdquo;的困境，揭露了纵向关系最隐蔽的枷锁. 哲人尖锐指出&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;&mdash;&mdash;所谓&ldquo;不得不服从&rdquo;，本质是恐惧冲突的自我欺骗。</p>
<p>2. 平等的革命性从&ldquo;最小单元&rdquo;开始.&nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;哲人提出破局关键：**不必改变所有关系，只需在一段关系中建立横向联结（如书房里的对话），就能打破认知惯性**。这犹如在钢筋水泥的社会结构中凿开一道裂缝&mdash;&mdash;当你在某个关系中体验过&ldquo;意识平等&rdquo;（如对上司坚持主张），便再难忍受其他关系中的自我矮化。</p>
<p>3. 勇气是&ldquo;存在&rdquo;的肌肉记忆.&nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;青年对友谊的恐惧极具启示：建立横向关系需要不断练习&ldquo;被讨厌的勇气。就像健身时撕裂的肌肉纤维，每一次表达真实主张（哪怕对象只是咖啡师），都在重塑&ldquo;存在自信&rdquo;的心理肌理。</p>','2025-07-15 09:53:05.496','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97925b40-4c01-4500-b49e-34433846dac2','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>习惯堆叠的核心，是将你「想培养的新行为」，与每天早已固定在做的事情绑定在一起。一旦掌握这个基本架构，就可以逐步将多个小习惯串联起来，形成更大规模的行为堆叠。这样的安排，能够善用「一个行为带动下一个行为」的惯性，让改变自然发生。</p>','2025-07-15 14:35:10.183','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4cf8d8f-d027-4eb0-b562-cb61190f023b','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>不同阶段的世界需要不同的思维，作为一个思考者，要具备批判型思维，要先学会自省。君子的存心在于&ldquo;仁&rdquo;和&lsquo;礼&ldquo;。人应该有个相对宽松一点的立场，看事物淡然一点。一个人的内心世界能容纳多少，最终就能得到多少。</p>','2025-07-16 05:51:01.893','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2324eb37-b318-44f5-8fe0-7fd50f22aa24','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>我们需要不断审视自己在为人处世时的立场：是否偏离了初心？是否仍以诚待人、以敬待事？一个人若能时常回顾自己的言行动机，就能在日常中不断调整，走得更正、行得更稳。</p>','2025-07-16 10:53:15.946','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1581d5ac-3b64-41ce-8632-d1b475b930f1','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>有礼者敬人，他人也回敬礼貌。</p>
<p>审视自己对他人是否以礼相待、是否彬彬有礼，充满关爱。</p>
<p>一个人越对人宽容，心就越宽，宽松一点的立场，利已也利他人。</p>','2025-07-16 09:16:41.694','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fb93ca9-bc59-47b2-a65e-ae75fb97791c','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>善於反省，才会不断成长<br>少抱怨，多行动，多做<br>才能不断进步。<br>这社会的状态，就是太多人只会讲，埋怨，逃避责任，缺少行动&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;作为一个思考者要具备批判型思维，但在那之前要学会自省&rdquo;<br>作者了解人性真透彻。如思考者，没学会自省，他们就堕入了对错批判，心胸缺少了&ldquo;宽容&rdquo;。</p>
<p>世界是没有完全的黑白对错，只有在不同的时代，选择最合适，缺少了宽容，他人生少了容量与幸福。</p>','2025-07-17 07:43:07.258','2025-07-17 07:59:16.42',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 07:59:16.419',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c1fddd4-5836-4dce-a276-dbf326476ab6','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>建立新习惯最好的方法之一就是先找出自己目前的每日习惯，然后把新的行为堆叠上去，这就是叫作&ldquo;习惯堆叠&rdquo;。</p>
<p>做完（目前的习惯）之后，我就会执行（新的习惯）。</p>
<p>关键在于把想要的行为跟每天已经在做的事情绑在一起。</p>','2025-07-17 10:11:10.548','2025-07-17 10:11:46.39',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 10:11:46.389',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b55c506a-5265-43a8-ad69-cb2636a55759','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>所任何事事情，与任何人相处，想要成功，首先要先和自己和解，先把自己研究明白，看见自己的初心，之后才能理解别人的想法。</p>','2025-07-17 10:30:21.718','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f25023a-f8f6-4e3d-8601-7179dfecd47c','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>不同阶段的世界，都有不同的思维，作为一位思考着，要有着批判思维，但在这之前，都需要学会自省。<br>我们对于世界的看法和态度要宽松，越宽是，接纳的世界越大。<br><br></p>','2025-07-17 10:19:00.134','2025-07-17 10:22:21.318',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 10:22:21.317',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('46a8e101-1d2a-4e09-ad93-c69d060fc59a','aa45a6a3-6bc5-4e7e-9e62-8b88af1ce8db','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>文本粉碎了&ldquo;人生如登山&rdquo;的目标执念，揭示生命本质是流动的刹那。规划人生的妄念源于对不确定性的恐惧，而真正的自由源于拥抱&ldquo;当下即全部&rdquo;的觉醒&mdash;&mdash;这恰是被多数人视为&ldquo;愚蠢&rdquo;的真理</p>
<p>这段对话如一面镜子，映照出我们对待时间的两种姿态&mdash;&mdash;是不断追赶未来的「未完成者」，还是专注此刻的「现实舞者」？或许真正的自由，在于放下对终点的执念，在每一个「此刻」的舞步中，让意义自然生长。</p>','2025-07-17 11:25:59.183','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a681e174-cf46-497e-966d-f9a8a6a57a44','f4422a34-9a6c-470d-871a-832783aaf4ea','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>眼前的诱惑有时候非常难抗拒，立即享受奖赏而获得的美好是人性的本能。受训练抵抗诱惑的能力和长远计划会带来的更丰满结果！</p>','2025-07-17 12:32:32.517','2025-08-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-08-07 00:00:00.032','2025-08-07 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aaca9d83-05e7-473e-b4c1-0547998d6351','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>人应该有个相对宽松一点的立场，要酒脱一点，看事物淡然一点。一个人的内心世界能容纳多少，他最终就能得到多少。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">的确，越宽容别人，就越有利于自己。难以容人之人，不仅很难得到快乐，而且很难拥有幸福。</span></p>','2025-07-17 12:12:32.205','2025-07-17 12:12:32.205',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 12:12:32.204',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9e57a63f-344f-464d-b1af-57cbbbc1da28','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 33 ：7月17 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">时刻审视自己的&ldquo;立场&ldquo;（Page 147-150）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不管做人或做事都有自己的立场。不管你是什么身份的人都要有理和有仁。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个人的内心世界能容纳多少，最终就能得到多少。越能宽容别人，就越能利于自己，自己也快乐，也能拥有幸福。</span></p>','2025-07-17 13:16:44.359','2025-07-17 13:16:44.359',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 13:16:44.358',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b20219e1-9c60-4591-9d6c-5d8fc56ae70f','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>习惯改变取决于你身边的空间，以及眼前的提示。例如：购物时不是因为想要，而是因为这些产品被呈现的方式。</p>
<p>人类含有所有最强的感觉就是视觉。</p>
<p>&ldquo;所见&rdquo;肖有不同，就可能造成&ldquo;所为&rdquo;的巨大变动。</p>','2025-07-17 10:29:31.744','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de0a3c04-4c00-46f8-826e-b532b197943b','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>人应该要有自己的立场。希望别人尊重自己，自己首先要先对别人恭敬。做事应该要洒脱干净利落。</p>','2025-07-17 13:45:04.365','2025-07-17 13:45:04.365',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 13:45:04.364',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1aaa334d-0e02-43af-aa37-03de4beab623','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>习惯堆叠</p>
<p>把新的习惯跟每天固定习惯之后绑在一起。</p>','2025-07-17 13:54:05.301','2025-07-17 13:54:05.301',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 13:54:05.3',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5921ffb9-e28d-41f4-aa4e-6ecafa113047','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>习惯堆叠原来就是把目前的习惯完成后再加于执行新的习惯。把想要的行为跟那天已经在做的事情绑在一起。</p>
<p>我会跟着开始跟着书中所说的开始习惯堆叠。</p>','2025-07-17 14:07:14.415','2025-07-17 14:07:14.415',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 14:07:14.414',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cad272d6-28c8-4ec0-bc08-81a7e693e64e','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>爱人者人恒爱之，敬人者人恒敬之。这句话无论古今中外都是掷地有声的真理。不管于家庭、公司、社会它都一样重要。</p>','2025-07-17 14:17:30.552','2025-07-17 14:17:30.552',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 14:17:30.551',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('572f7d0a-c3d4-4873-8d82-e592911ac370','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 17 ：7月17 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">彻底修正习惯的【习惯堆叠】（Page 093-097）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯堆叠 &mdash;&mdash; 把新习惯插入现有生活中</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人们会在特定时间、地点重复某些行为，如每天早上刷牙、喝咖啡、坐下来看手机。把新习惯与这些「既有习惯」串联起来，会使它变得更自然、容易执行。</span></p>','2025-07-17 14:21:34.182','2025-07-17 14:21:34.182',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 14:21:34.181',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我期待第五夜的谈话。</p>','2025-07-17 14:21:41.479','2025-07-17 14:21:41.479',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 14:21:41.479',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">彻底修正习惯的【习惯堆叠】（Page 093-097）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">把想要的行为跟每天在做的事情绑在一起。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯堆叠藉由把新行为堆叠到旧行为上，提升了你坚持了某项习惯的可能性。重复这个过程，把许多习惯串联在一起，让每个行为成为下一个行为的提示。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯堆叠让你得创造一组引导未来行为的简单规则。</span></p>','2025-07-17 14:24:55.158','2025-07-17 14:24:56.422',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 14:24:56.421',NULL,NULL);
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<p>以他者为星，以此刻为舞， &nbsp;<br>每一步皆是自由与光芒的重生。」**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>1. **自我赋权**&mdash;&mdash;意义非天赐，而在你亲手刻下的每个选择中； &nbsp;<br>2. **他者引路**&mdash;&mdash;贡献他人如北极星，使自由不堕虚无； &nbsp;<br>3. **刹那永恒**&mdash;&mdash;当鞋底踏碎雪夜月光，已然在"当下"触及生命全部意义。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>正如青年推门踏入新雪：**世界从未简单，直到你决定简单活。**</p>','2025-07-17 14:44:15.159','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d13c1e26-4c29-47e7-a02f-53214eb949c8','70ca23ab-4214-45b5-8c26-92276d18ce91','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler believes that the only right way to build relationships is through horizontal relationships. We are equal in worth, and our connections should be based on mutual respect and not control or hierarchy.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This requires a major shift in lifestyle: to live with courage, take responsibility for our actions, and express our ideas honestly, without fear of rejection.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In such relationships, we have the freedom to say no, propose better ways, and live true to ourselves - without needing approval or looking back.</p>','2025-07-17 14:59:27.172','2025-07-17 14:59:27.172',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 14:59:27.171',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0ff570a-bb4c-46d6-a74e-4975c1d77a11','68bb32c1-7fa9-4d1d-8559-f391f1f5ac80','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>-在面对困难的事情要培养习惯，就得转念。把必不得已的&ldquo;必须&rdquo;转念为&ldquo;可以&rdquo;，让潜意识为人该行动是在自身选择下进行而非被迫。</p>
<p>-要破除坏习惯，就得让那结果变得毫无吸引力，相反的，如要建立好喜欢，就得确认行动后的奖赏所带来的愉悦，让自我感觉良好。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-17 13:24:49.195','2025-07-29 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-07-29 00:00:00.023','2025-07-29 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c9b68d49-bc73-4ba4-a407-c5447a07400f','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有礼者敬人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你面对的人，无论什么身份、地位，你都能一如既往地以礼相待，那么人们回敬于你的自然也是礼貌有加的态度，这就是有礼、有仁。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">通过逆向思维进行审视。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。问一问自己，是否对别人一视同仁、以礼相待。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2。然后问问自己，其他人在生活和工作中对自己是不是也彬彬有礼，充满关爱。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3。最后再问问自己，现在的我，是一个合格的正人君子吗？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这一套问题的特点是，如果第一个答案是肯定的，那么第二题和第三题的答案也势必是肯定的。</span></p>','2025-07-17 15:13:01.022','2025-07-17 15:13:01.022',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:13:01.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('044849a2-4356-474d-9107-a903fa5b90fe','70ca23ab-4214-45b5-8c26-92276d18ce91','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>如果是公司组织，职责差异自然也会存在。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>并不是说将任何人都变成朋友或者像对待朋友一样去对待每一个人，不是这样的。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>重要的是意识上的平等以及坚持自己应有的主张。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>可以无所顾忌地说着自己的想法。不要瞻前顾后，可以从这里开始。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>无论是爱还是交友，都与年龄没有关系；交友课题需要一定的勇气，这也是事实。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>关于你和我的关系，我们可以逐渐缩短距离，保持既不靠得太近但又伸手可及的距离。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>自我意识总是牵绊着自己、严重束缚着自己的言行。我的自我意识根本不允许自己无拘无束地行动。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>共同体感觉具体来说就是，把对自己的执著（self interest）转换成对他人的关心（social interest），建立起共同体感觉。这需要从以下三点做起：&ldquo;自我接纳&rdquo;&ldquo;他者信赖&rdquo;和&ldquo;他者贡献&rdquo;。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>重要的不是被给予了什么，而是如何去利用被给予的东西。</p>
<p>.</p>
<p>在相信他人的时候不附加任何条件。即使没有足以构成信用的客观依据也依然相信，不考虑抵押之类的事情，无条件地相信。这就是信赖。</p>','2025-07-17 15:13:53.027','2025-07-17 15:13:53.027',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:13:53.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1) 以礼相待、一视同仁。</p>
<p>2) 应有宽松的立场，洒脱地看淡事物。</p>
<p>3) 越是宽容，越有利于自己，更容易得到快乐、拥有幸福。</p>','2025-07-17 15:24:53.311','2025-07-17 15:24:53.311',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:24:53.31',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da2a3dcf-7aa2-4b8d-bced-0e434ae83482','38a991e3-ebf2-4502-a508-a433ca231da9','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>这三位&ldquo;作绎者&rdquo;（作者和译者）的简短特点如下：</p>
<p>1. &nbsp;**岸见一郎 (Kishimi Ichiro)**<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; * &nbsp; **身份：** 哲学家、阿德勒心理学专家、心理辅导师。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; * &nbsp; **核心特点：** **阿德勒心理学权威**，兼具深厚的**西方古代哲学（尤其是柏拉图）** 背景。长期在**精神科医院进行临床心理辅导**，是日本阿德勒心理学会认定的顾问。负责本书的**核心理念与原案**。</p>
<p>2. &nbsp;**古贺史健 (Koga Fumitake)**<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; * &nbsp; **身份：** 自由作家、采访专家。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; * &nbsp; **核心特点：** **对话创作（问答体裁）的专家**，以**现场感强、节奏明快**的采访稿闻名。作品（如《16岁的教科书》）是**畅销书作家**。被阿德勒心理学震撼后，长期向岸见一郎请教。在本书中负责以**古典&ldquo;对话篇&rdquo;形式**呈现内容。</p>
<p>3. &nbsp;**渠海霞 (Qu Haixia)**<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; * &nbsp; **身份：** 日语翻译、高校日语教师。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; * &nbsp; **核心特点：** **日语语言文学硕士**，**高校日语专业教师**。拥有**丰富的翻译出版经验**，译著涉及**商业管理、沟通技巧、经济学、生活纪实**等多个领域（如资生堂、日产、森友治家日记等）。是本书的**中文版译者**。</p>','2025-07-17 15:19:38.793','2025-07-28 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9b32826-f96c-4e88-94b5-2e37f7db7682','70ca23ab-4214-45b5-8c26-92276d18ce91','80a23083-b135-4275-bdef-8541775f6c3c','<p>无论在那里都可以有平等的关系</p>','2025-07-17 15:37:08.808','2025-07-17 15:37:08.808',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:37:08.807',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('031c48af-410a-4a0a-99a0-ad4eae0edfc8','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>越宽容别人，就越有利于自己</p>','2025-07-17 15:37:45.118','2025-07-17 15:37:58.901',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:37:58.9',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('72edf90a-bafd-43d9-9dad-0b02a946460c','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>習慣堆疊</p>
<p>早上先刷完牙換好衣服，接著做一點伸展運動，更兩個女兒和老婆打招呼，給他們一個吻，喝一杯水，把兩本書各五頁讀完，然後才用手機。</p>','2025-07-17 15:53:42.583','2025-07-17 15:53:42.583',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:53:42.582',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4e5bbc10-251b-4986-b233-ec3760a18398','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很多人之所以说读书无用，就是因为他们在阅读时只停留在文字表面，并没有去真正思考作者为什么要这样写。原来在阅读时，思考的时间应该远远超过阅读的时间。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">《如何阅读一本书》的作者说读书的目的是提高自身的理解能力。我们生存的目的就是更好地去理解世界。人一生的经历有限、无法遇到很多人，通过阅读可以快速地去了解到世上的各种各样的人物。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">所以读书是要启发我们去思考更多。</span></p>','2025-07-17 15:30:45.944','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3830fd72-6d8b-427a-b31b-6a1a0811392e','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 33 ：7月17 日&nbsp;《人生的底气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">时刻审视自己的&ldquo;立场&ldquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人必须要有自己的立场，做事情也是一样，作为一个思考者要具备批判型思维，但在那之前要先学会自身不同的立场，会使思维受到不同力量的塑造，而思维又塑造着我们的信念系统.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人应该有个相应宽松一点的立场，要洒脱一点，看事物淡然一点. 一个人的内心世界能容纳多少，他最终就能得到多少. 的确, 越宽容别人,就越有利于自己. 难以容人之人，不仅很难得到快乐，而且很难拥有幸福.</span></p>','2025-07-17 15:33:14.314','2025-07-17 15:33:15.596',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:33:15.595',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">时刻审视自己的&ldquo;立场&ldquo;（</span>Page 147-150<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>我们借鉴孟子的话，以逆向思维来反思自己：</p>
<p>1. 我是否能对人一视同仁、以礼相待？</p>
<p><br>2. 他人是否也在生活和工作中对我彬彬有礼、充满关爱？</p>
<p><br>3. 我现在，真的是一个合格的&ldquo;正人君子&rdquo;吗？</p>
<p>这种提问方式具有强逻辑性：<br>✅ 若第一个问题答案是&ldquo;是&rdquo;，后两个大概率也是&ldquo;是&rdquo;；<br>❌ 若第一个答案是&ldquo;否&rdquo;，后续答案多半也无法成立。</p>
<p>古人重&ldquo;君子&rdquo;之道：</p>
<p>做人不必偏激，不走极端；</p>
<p>拥有清晰的立场，但也要宽容与洒脱；</p>
<p>内心越宽广，越容易获得幸福；</p>
<p>容人者容己，难容人者难得快乐。</p>
<p>反思提醒：<br>立场不只是一种态度，更是一种修养；一个真正有底气的人，是能够&ldquo;立得住&rdquo;，也&ldquo;容得下&rdquo;的人。</p>','2025-07-17 15:33:58.447','2025-07-17 15:33:58.447',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:33:58.446',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">彻底修正习惯的【习惯堆叠】</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">建立新习惯时，可以让行为的连结性为你所用. 建立新习惯最好的方法之一，就是先找出自己目前的每日习惯，然后把新的行为堆叠上去，这就叫作习惯堆叠.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯堆叠的方式如下，做完目前的习惯之后，我会执行新的习惯.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">举例静心 : 每天早上把咖啡倒入杯中之后，我会静心一分钟.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">关键在于把想要的行为跟每天已经在做的事情绑在一起，掌握基本架构之后就能开始把小习惯绑在一起，创造更大规模的堆叠，这让你得以利用《一个行为导致下一个行为》的惯性.</span></p>','2025-07-17 15:49:12.615','2025-07-17 15:49:13.831',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:49:13.83',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c9164c0-96bd-421b-948e-53be5c8a5eca','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 17&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>17&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>1 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让提示显而易见</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">彻底修正习惯的【习惯堆叠】（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 093-097<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">习惯堆叠，把新行为插入目前的列行事物中，得以创造一组引导未来行为的简单规则。那接下来该做什么，就像永远都有计划书。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-17 15:53:01.4','2025-07-17 15:53:01.4',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:53:01.399',NULL,NULL);
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<li>狄德罗效应 (Diderot Effect)
<ul>
<li>是指人们在获得一件新物品后，会不断配置与其相适应的物品，以达到心理上的平衡，从而引发一系列不必要的消费行为的现象。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>这种心理效应可以运用在建立新习惯时，让旧的习惯去连接新的习惯，这叫做【习惯堆叠】。</li>
<li>习惯堆叠的公式：做完【目前的习惯】之后，我会执行【新的习惯】。</li>
<li>这个方法关键在于把想要的行为跟每天已经在做的事情绑在一起，创造出更大规模的习惯堆叠。</li>
</ul>','2025-07-17 15:55:29.967','2025-07-17 16:00:43.394',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 16:00:43.392',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">通常这些人都对自己有足够的了解，知道自己最想要的是什么。了解了自己，再推己及人，再推及万事万物，最终达到通达。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">做任何事，或与任何人相处，想要做成功，首先要与自己和解，先把自己研究明白了，看清自己的初心，之后才能理解别人的想法和做法，把事情做好。</span></p>','2025-07-17 15:47:34.442','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eee79724-7889-4788-9cc7-b1bf74c5c275','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 33&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>17&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">时刻审视自己的&ldquo;立场&ldquo;（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 147-150<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：<br><br>&nbsp;一个人的内心世界能容纳多少，最终就能得到多少。越宽容别人，就越有利于自己.。难以容人之人，不仅很难得到快乐，而且很难拥有幸福。<br><br></span></p>','2025-07-17 15:58:25.914','2025-07-17 15:58:25.914',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:58:25.913',NULL,NULL);
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<p>那位歐洲的哲學家，可能就是看不夠書，才有這麼消極的想法。😆</p>','2025-07-17 23:40:53.86','2025-07-17 23:40:53.86',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 23:40:53.859',NULL,NULL);
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<p>选择那个时间里，自己不是混乱而是安稳的。选择当自己是放松的，有足够的时间完成多加插的新动作。对自己的作息观察越细微，自己就更可能选对时机安插新的习惯。</p>
<p>例如：睡前安插去做好那些可以设置时间执行的家务活。晚上可以放松睡觉。隔天早上可以轻松完成家务活。例如：洗衣、煲粥。</p>','2025-07-13 14:10:09.281','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1b51492-4c74-46d7-9998-465451110b9b','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>对自己的执着换成对他人的关心。<br>自我意识过剩？<br>害怕他人眼光。<br><br>不是肯定自我，而是接纳自我。<br><br>把对自己的执着 换成 对他人的关心<br>from self interest to social interest<br><br>建立共同体感觉<br>- 自我接纳<br>- 他者信赖<br>- 他者贡献<br><br>重要的不是被给予了什么，而是如何去利用被给予的东西。<br><br>如何去利用被给予的东西，来改变对我的看法和利用方法。<br>不是自我肯定而是自我接纳。<br><br>自我肯定是明明做不到还是暗示自己说 &ldquo;我能行&rdquo;或者&ldquo;我很强&rdquo;，，容易导致优越情结的暗示，自己骗自己。<br><br>自我接纳就是诚实接纳做不到的自己，朝着能够做到的方向去努力，不骗自己。<br><br>对拿了60分的自己说：运气不好，真正可以拿到100分。<br>诚实接受60分的自己，在60分的自己基础上思考 &ldquo;如何才能接近100分&rdquo; 这就是自我接纳。<br><br>人都处于想要进步的状态， 那么就需要积极的承认，积极的接受，人根本没有满分这回事。<br><br>肯定性的达观<br><br>要分清楚什么是 能够改变的 和 不能改变的<br><br>我们无法改变被给予什么，但是，如何去利用被给予的东西，我们却可以用自己的力量去改变。<br>这就是不去关注 无法改变的， 而是去关注 可以改变的<br>这就是自我接纳。<br><br><br>接受不能改变的，接受现实的自己，然后关于可以改变的，拿出改变的勇气，这就是自我接纳。<br><br><strong>尼布尔的祈祷文</strong><br><strong>&ldquo;上帝，请赐予我平静，去接受我无法改变的；给予我勇气，去改变我能改变的；赐我智慧，分辨这两者的区别&rdquo;<br><br></strong>我们并不缺乏能力，只是缺乏勇气。</p>','2025-07-14 13:38:47.749','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
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<p>正因为越厌恶自己，所以才只关注自已，正因为对自已沒有信心，所以才会自我意识过剩。自我意识总是牵絆着自已，严重束缚着自己的言行。自我意识根本不允许自已无㧦无朿地行动。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>自我接纳的破局钥匙。</p>
<p>斩断&ldquo;我本该完美&rdquo;的自我欺骗，以尼布尔祈祷文为盾：&nbsp; 平静接受（去接受我无法政变的），勇气接受(去改变我能攺变的）.</p>
<p>&mdash;&mdash;当停止对抗缺陷，力量才真正流向成长。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>**终极转向**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>从&ldquo;我表现如何&rdquo;的焦虑，到&ldquo;我如何贡献&rdquo;的行动，存在本身已成价值。</p>','2025-07-15 11:29:22.949','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54dfbd24-ee0b-4343-a5ef-7f16643206e1','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>真正成功的习惯堆叠，取决于你是否找到了那个对的「起点」&mdash;&mdash;一个足够稳定、频率合适的提示。每个新习惯都需要一个依靠，它最好是你每天都在做的事，这样你才不必依靠意志力来记得它。</p>
<p>试着问问自己：在一天的哪个时段，我最容易做到这件事？在哪个情境中，我比较不容易被打扰？此外，也别忘了对齐频率：若想建立每天进行的新习惯，就别堆叠在每周只发生一次的行为上。习惯的成长，需要节奏的支持。</p>','2025-07-15 14:47:52.938','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6a4cc56-6439-4f18-8658-af3f799927fd','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">瞭解我自己</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> --&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">一人對一人的人際關係</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> --&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">群體人際關係</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> --&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">社會、國家、宇宙的關係</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">如果我不靠近人，不是因爲討厭別人，而是因爲討厭自己呢？</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">討厭看見自己的</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> reflection</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">，勾起不好的回憶。爲了保護自尊</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">對於毫不修飾的自己沒有自信</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不自信，是因爲討厭自己身上某些特質。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">討厭自己，因爲焦點在自己身上。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">過度將焦點放在自己身上</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">自我意識過剩</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">若跟別人互動的過程，對別人的需求毫不關心，專注點在自己呈現的現象別人喜不喜歡，是爲自我意識過剩。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有些人回抗拒靠近「比自己強」的人，因爲自己的「弱」無所遁形，保持距離是最自尊的保護。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">肯面對强者的人，有面對自己「弱」的勇氣</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">在人際關係中，并非「單純的自己」不見了，而是無法展現出來。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">發展社會意識需要：「接納自我」、「信任他人」、「貢獻他人」</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">接納自我：不需要積極，不是自我肯定，並不需要暗示自己「我可以」，這些都是欺騙自己，是優越情節。自我接納，是在無能爲力的情況下，接納「辦不到的自己」，專注在如何讓自己裏目標越來越近。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">欺騙自己是沒用的，當認知與現實失聯了，意識會本能的抗拒，就會失去行動力。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">願我擁有平靜的心，去接納那些無法改變的事；願我擁有足夠的勇氣，去改變那些可以改變的事；也願我擁有足夠的智慧，去分辨兩者之間的不同。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">薩提亞</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> 22 </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">條：「我們無法改變過去，但能夠改變過去對現在的影響」</span></p>','2025-07-15 17:35:14.939','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9bff7167-902e-40c1-924a-c9aec555ea9d','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>阅读的真正价值，不在于读得多快，而在于思考得多深。读书的时间，固然重要；但静下心来思索作者想传达的真正意思，才能触及文字背后的灵魂，领会其中的真谛。</p>','2025-07-16 15:39:07.556','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85a61f9a-7fad-425b-a603-fce4aa6a0ae7','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>当每个行为加入执行意向（时间，地点，行为），让提示更加显而易见，那么该习惯也将更容易完成和形成！</p>','2025-07-16 22:50:21.748','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f95ad1a8-c5e9-47a5-99b8-9096178a8d2d','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>成功创造习惯堆叠的秘诀，就是找到触发行为的正确提示。</p>
<p>记得行为改变的第一法则就是&ldquo;让提示显而易见&rdquo;，行动是：执行意向与习惯堆叠的策略。</p>','2025-07-17 10:17:35.215','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c372c219-15eb-42ae-8d4b-38cdd737f7a0','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>读书对我们每一个人的收获都是不一样的，每一个人看见的角度，每一个人的领悟都截然不同。同时，在不同阶段看，也会看出不同的感觉，不以为然，重要的是，我们当下看见的，学到了什么，明白了什么。</p>','2025-07-17 10:26:20.06','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fb2cfea3-a521-4fc5-83ec-f71de6fb6f8c','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>要把自己的执着转换成对他人的关心，建立起共同体感觉需要</p>
<p>（1）自我接纳 - 关键不是被给予了什么，而是如何去利用被给予的东西。不是自我肯定（明明做不到，卻暗示自己说自己行的优越情結的想法，是对自己撒谎的生活方式）而是自我接纳（做不到就诚实地接受这个做不到的自己，然后尽自己的能力朝着能够做到的方向去努力，处于想要进步的状态，拿出改变的勇气，去关注自己可以改变的不对自己撒谎）。</p>
<p>（2）他者信赖（3）他者贡献。</p>','2025-07-18 00:40:23.523','2025-07-18 00:40:23.523',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 00:40:23.519',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9beb38eb-960b-486d-a47f-25bfa068cc78','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>习惯堆叠的公式是：做完［目前的习惯］之后，我会执行［新的习惯］</p>','2025-07-18 00:53:40.168','2025-07-18 00:53:40.168',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 00:53:40.167',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c282bd9-830f-4de0-b22f-ca4b7aefd861','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>养成良好习惯：</p>
<p>让提示明显 》 执行意向 - 明确时间地点行动 》习惯堆叠 - 完成一个习惯后又加上另一个习惯</p>','2025-07-18 00:59:06.407','2025-07-18 00:59:06.407',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 00:59:06.406',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd98c95d-00b5-4f37-8f50-7ea1fcf619a4','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>要养成良好习惯，你就要让＂环境＂成为好帮手。</p>
<p>我很喜欢书中小便斗的小贴纸，这个小点子就省下清洁费用。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-18 06:50:41.489','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0e81b526-3e62-468c-8876-1595d4087b73','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>内心純良, 具有側隐之心的人, 心怀慈悲, 能夠善待周遭的人和物. 但我們心中也有惡念, 如果把惡念放大了就會變坏, 如果能夠壓制惡念激發善念, 就惻隱之心喚醒那顆善良的心, 就會变的仁慈友善.</p>','2025-07-18 01:24:51.603','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29c32139-1720-4763-9516-689420d1c95e','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>不从文字找意思，应该把文字连接思考来探索它真正的意思。</p>','2025-07-18 07:30:27.061','2025-07-18 07:30:27.061',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 07:30:27.059',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c1cc333-b2bf-469a-b774-d818243ec919','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>我们与物品的关系</p>
<p>不要认为环境中充满物品，要认为环境中充满关系</p>
<p>不同的人对同一地点会有不同的回忆，因此有不同的习惯</p>','2025-07-18 02:37:20.125','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('531b5b83-6dfc-4413-aaee-e03cf504c72f','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>比較思維, 並不是要找出一個結果. 而是比較中看到对方的長处, 而去弥補本身的不足. 這才比較的真意義.</p>','2025-07-18 01:16:10.509','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('afa2efdb-be9b-430b-b584-7a0baf875dbf','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>知耻才能让自己进步，在能在自己的短处里做改进。<br>没有一样东西是完美，也没有知识是我们全然明白的，不断学习，跟进新知识，才能让我们走在前端</p>','2025-07-18 13:35:37.492','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('35bb6c1b-a9ad-4cf3-82f3-0dc95f6e83b1','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>當提示非常明顯且馬上可以執行，習慣堆疊就可能發揮最大效用。</p>','2025-07-18 09:41:31.06','2025-07-18 09:41:39.428',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 09:41:39.427',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6eeb3df2-c732-4201-8450-2ec72ebd9aeb','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 18 ：7月18 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">彻底修正习惯的【习惯堆叠】con&rsquo;t（Page 098-102）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">成功创造习惯堆叠的秘诀，就是找到触发行为的正确提示。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">别要求自己在可能会被其他事情干扰的情况下执行新的习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">行为改变的第一条法则，是让提示显而易见。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">最常见的两种提示是时间与地点。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">可以运用执行意向这个车位，将心习惯与切的时间和地点配对。执行意向的公式是：我会于【时间】，在【地点】进行【行为】。</span></p>','2025-07-18 10:36:52.461','2025-07-18 10:36:53.779',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 10:36:53.778',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5cd50bf1-b62d-4e5c-b158-1c761ce8ab5f','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>看书如果只停留在文字层面是不足的。学习，学了就要去做。读了书，也要去思考，反省。在生活中我们能做到什么，经历，反省，再去做。</p>
<p>了解作者为什么要怎么说，我们在生活中又做到了什么？</p>
<p>读书不是高大上，而是要落地，要做到，要生活化。</p>','2025-07-18 11:33:24.055','2025-07-18 11:33:24.055',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 11:33:24.054',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('81d8cb0c-1142-445c-a78d-a7a2a46fbe33','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>读书的目的是提高自身的理解能力，告诉我们在读书的时候要善于理解书中的文字，当理解的文字足够多，就能提高我们对事物的理解力。</p>','2025-07-18 13:41:47.378','2025-07-18 13:41:47.378',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 13:41:47.377',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c84f4296-a7b0-4578-a31e-f5bebf6ff306','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>我们在他人的眼中也不过是人生过客，真正会仔细审视自己的人只有自己，这就是著名的焦点效应。</p>
<p>千万不要把我们在别人的眼中想得太重要，这样的话很容易被别人所牵绊，对自己也是一种不好的心理负担。</p>','2025-07-18 13:46:59.112','2025-07-18 13:46:59.112',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 13:46:59.111',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77bd185a-8e1b-43b4-8220-d6ad27000150','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>领会读书的外延和内涵 读书只有不停留在文字表面，甚至不拘泥以往的解释，才能够获得真正的含义。有很多人之所以说读书无用，就是因为他们在阅读时只停留在文字表面并没有真正去思考作者为什么要这样写 歧视我们在阅读的时候就要用思考，不是执着于阅读时间。</p>','2025-07-18 13:56:58.802','2025-07-18 13:56:58.802',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 13:56:58.801',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa8b427b-7b8c-4903-a58e-8f3e68794c8a','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>运用执行意向这个策略，将新习惯与确切的时间和地点配对。</p>','2025-07-18 14:03:23.082','2025-07-18 14:03:23.082',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 14:03:23.081',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('84b7637e-cbae-442a-8fe4-639f86b82d02','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>每个人无论知识、经验与智慧都不有足之处。因此参考与学习他人长处非常重要，而书本便是其中不可或缺的渠道。</p>','2025-07-18 14:38:38.407','2025-07-18 14:38:38.407',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 14:38:38.406',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('19a2d54a-1e08-452b-844e-b89b33e80e17','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>好一个勇气的开始，学会接纳自己也需要勇气的。</p>
<p>自我接纳对我还是做得到，以前我会执着做不到的一定想办法去做，但是不知道什么时候开始，我接纳了自己的不完美，不是我能力范围的我不强求，我只会把自己要做的做得更好。</p>','2025-07-18 14:42:12.173','2025-07-18 14:42:14.379',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 14:42:14.378',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dd9f4a87-1526-4e76-b2b9-a20e95891aef','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>原来习惯堆叠就像菜谱，我们要准备什么食材，再来什么调味料，顺序下锅，时间拿捏，火候控制。</p>
<p>我要把习惯的公式化都写下来。</p>','2025-07-18 14:55:48.03','2025-07-18 14:55:48.03',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 14:55:48.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5bd3ed25-0fb7-421f-baac-01855a621516','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>改变的第一法则：让提示显而易见。</p>
<p><br>习惯堆叠的公式是：做完 "目前的习惯" 之后，我会执行 "新的习惯"。</p>','2025-07-18 15:04:41.249','2025-07-18 15:04:41.249',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:04:41.248',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa6a72ab-3415-4e77-be58-0d95246a1b41','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">领会读书的外延和内涵（</span>Page 151-154<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读书到底有什么用？你有没有过这样的经验：读完一本书，却觉得没太大收获？或许问题不是书不够好，而是我们没有真正走进文字背后那扇门。</span></p>
<p>1. 读书不是代替思考，而是激发思考<br>阅读是提升理解力的过程，不能只停留在表面文字，&ldquo;文不尽其言，言不尽其意&rdquo; 而是要深入思考作者真正要表达的内涵。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">2. 作者的背景很关键<br>每个人的写作都受其成长、时代、处境的影响，理解背景能帮助我们更贴近作者的真实用意。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">3. 思考比阅读本身更重要<br>真正的读书时间，思考应远大于阅读，才能穿透文字看到思想。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">4. 读书解决不了人生问题，却能提供思维工具<br>书只是媒介，要靠我们自己用心体会、实践，才能让书的价值落地。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">5. 交流让阅读更深入<br>跟适合的人交流、参加读书会，有助于突破盲点、激发更深理解。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&ldquo;读书不是获得答案，而是唤醒思考&rdquo;。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-18 15:22:39.676','2025-07-18 15:22:39.676',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:22:39.675',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b861902e-2aeb-4f3c-9e4b-e8665dfa55ec','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>在我们身边其实有不少好书，它们是打开思想之门的钥匙，</p>
<p>而想要走进这扇门还需要我们自己去不断探索。</p>','2025-07-18 15:26:24.777','2025-07-18 15:26:24.777',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:26:24.776',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4955ec9-00b4-431c-964a-fb97c555635e','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>有前辈这样分享过，读书是脑部运动，因为买不必须调出回事会出内容的画面，是主动的，每个人的画面都不一样；而看电影就是脑部停止运转，完全随着导演的意识收下影片里的画面。</p>','2025-07-18 15:28:12.568','2025-07-18 15:28:12.568',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:28:12.566',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8d860927-5919-4e3e-84a0-db91eebe2597','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 34 ：7月18 日 《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</p>
<p>领会读书的外延和内涵（Page 151-154）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>书，是打开思想大门的钥匙，而我们作为读者，还是得自己进去门后的世界去感受。</p>','2025-07-18 15:29:52.734','2025-07-18 15:29:52.734',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:29:52.733',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3e03c6f1-7621-4d0b-97e6-884c48d00bf4','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','d4cf19fb-4056-4949-8ccd-8e06049df029','<p>是的做过多的自我意识，反而会被束缚，但是有不能没有意识，因为觉察，是改变的开始不是吗？那要怎么取得平衡，已经习惯过多自我意识的人，要怎么改善呢？</p>','2025-07-18 15:31:23.523','2025-07-18 15:31:23.523',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:31:23.522',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('949ba2e1-9266-4164-8aee-2b7843cbc158','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>我们在阅读的时候，思考时间应该远远大于阅读时间</p>','2025-07-18 15:32:02.069','2025-07-18 15:32:02.069',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:32:02.067',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">领会读书的外延和内涵</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读书是绝对不可能毁掉一个人的, 书是人类进步的阶梯，想一下，一个没有书籍的世界、该是多么的可怕. 所以当感到困惑时可以选择从书中找答案.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读书的目的是提高自身的理解能力，告诉我们在读书的时候要善于理解书中的文字，当理解的文字足够多，就能够提倡我们对事物的理解力.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们生存的目的就是更好地去理解世界！</span></p>','2025-07-18 15:33:25.754','2025-07-18 15:33:28.822',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:33:28.821',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">领会读书的外延和内涵（Page 151-154）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">读书不会毁掉一个人，只有不去思考的人才会在知识面前迷失。书是钥匙，思考才是打开人生意义之门的真正力量。</span></p>','2025-07-18 15:34:43.617','2025-07-18 15:34:43.617',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:34:43.616',NULL,NULL);
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<li>成功创造习惯堆叠的秘诀就是找到触发行为的正确提示：
<ul>
<li>习惯堆叠需要在适合的时间与地点来执行。</li>
<li>要懂得去思考如何在不受其他干扰的情况下执行新的习惯。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>为习惯堆叠找处正确提示的方法之一就是：
<ul>
<li>列出目前一系列在日常生活中的习惯清单。</li>
<li>然后在这张清单中开始寻找可以把新习惯插进你的生活方式的最佳位置。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>但是记得要把提示非常明确的写下来（提供何时行动，如何行动的指示）</li>
<li>行为改变的第一法则是：【让提示显而易见】。</li>
</ul>','2025-07-18 15:55:32.425','2025-07-18 15:55:32.425',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:55:32.424',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 34&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>18&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">领会读书的外延和内涵（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 151-154<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">阅读时，思考时间应该远远大于阅读时间。以意逆志，是为得之。要用自己的思考去领会作者想要表达的意思，才能得到文章中的真谛。书是打开思想之门的钥匙，需要我们自己不断探索。</span></p>','2025-07-18 15:59:12.542','2025-07-18 15:59:12.542',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:59:12.541',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">彻底修正习惯的【习惯堆叠】con&rsquo;t（Page 098-102）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想要改变行为，第一步是&mdash;&mdash;让提示显而易见。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">找到适合的时间、地点，明确提示，让习惯&ldquo;嵌入&rdquo;日常，才能持续累积。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-18 15:44:20.115','2025-07-18 15:44:20.115',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:44:20.114',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">彻底修正习惯的【习惯堆叠】con&rsquo;t</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变改变的第一条法则，是【让提示显显而易见】. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">最常见的两种提示是时间与地点. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">可以应用执行意向这个策略，将新习惯与确切论的时间和地点配对.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">执行意向的公式是，我会於【时间】, 在【地点】进行【行为】</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯堆叠的公式是 : 做完【目前的习惯】之后，我会执行【新的习惯】.</span></p>','2025-07-18 15:44:43.584','2025-07-18 15:44:43.584',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:44:43.583',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 18&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>18&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>1 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让提示显而易见</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">彻底修正习惯的【习惯堆叠】</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">con<span lang="ZH-CN">&rsquo;</span>t<span lang="ZH-CN">（</span>Page 098-102<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">创造习惯堆叠的秘诀，就是找到触发行为的正确提示。在恰当的时间与地点，思考在什么时段最容易成功。创造一张两栏清单，把新习惯安插进生活方式中的最佳位置。让提示显而易见。</span></p>','2025-07-18 15:44:52.787','2025-07-18 15:44:52.787',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:44:52.786',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff3006ab-a2b7-4113-bafd-39faa872cddc','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>找到触发行为的正确提示。 让提示显而易见是重点(尤其是时间地点)。&nbsp;</p>
<p>习惯堆叠的公式:做完(目前习惯)之后，我会执行(新习惯)</p>','2025-07-18 15:51:08.161','2025-07-18 15:51:08.161',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:51:08.16',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3381ab36-b5ee-4d08-9650-b0dbf2da3693','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>在什么时间，什么地点，做什么行动。</p>
<p>正确的方向，明确的行动目标，让提示显而易见，有效地搭配每天的规律习惯，让行动更符合逻辑和方便易行。</p>','2025-07-18 15:54:45.394','2025-07-18 15:54:58.538',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:54:58.537',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7324bbd5-e9d1-47e0-b7bb-486a612a1298','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','bab89ee0-c6a9-43ae-b08d-61e5e50652da','<p>不在意别人的看法，这一生我们只为自己而活</p>
<p>接纳自己</p>','2025-07-18 15:57:59.804','2025-07-18 15:57:59.804',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:57:59.803',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e9d3e3e-e5c6-49e1-a374-580aad4528b2','8402f9fe-50d5-4611-b1da-94a1c86da340','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【斷念</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">達觀】：（日語）打消念頭，不再指望</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">see what things truly are, understand how the world works, then "forsake" the old, unrealistic ways/expectations, against "false self-motivation"</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">信用（</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">credit</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">）是有條件的，需要有「擔保」的</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">信任（</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">trust</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">）是不附加任何條件的，即使沒有足夠佐證，也有可能蒙受損失</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">to trust, is without reason. to trust, is knowing that i have the ability to be responsible whatever come next</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">換句話説，自尊</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">自我價值</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">内外在資源有限的人，很難信任別人</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">把錢財看得很重的人，很難信任他人。就是因爲無法信任他人，才會把安全感寄托在錢財</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> </span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">business need credits, but relationship need trust</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">credit is for those you are not ready to connect with, but have shared interest involved</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">Trust is for those you care for, that do not need guarantee</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">如果能在被辜負後，還能無條件繼續信任對方，沒人能夠長期昧著良心繼續辜負一個人。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「無條件信任」是維持【人際關係】的重要【手段】。若不想跟這個人維持關係了，也可以撤回「無條件信任」。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">會不會辜負我，是對方的課題；我的議題是選擇要不要繼續無條件信任。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（換句話説，跟「自己」的關係，要維持的好，就要「無條件信任」自己（自信？）</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">,</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不一定是【能力】，而是相信自己變得更好的</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> potential</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">當決定「不再信任一個人」的【目的】出現後，一定會找到許多對方辜負自己的證據（儘管這種證據有些時候是主觀解讀），因爲「不信任」的【目的】已經出現。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">害怕信任他人，就會懷疑；有了懷疑就會找證據佐證自己的懷疑。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">害怕信任，就無法建立橫向的深厚關係。</span></p>','2025-07-16 17:53:26.764','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99df462f-907d-4a00-aba6-21f17e838230','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>When we become overly self-conscious or care too much about how we appear to others, we may become indecisive and lose confidence without realizing it. This mental state severely limits our freedom and actions.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy teaches us to let go of this excessive focus on the self, to live as our true selves, and to find purpose through connection with the community and contribution to others.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In order to overcome the tendency to cling to ourselves and hold ourselves back -&nbsp; preventing ourselves from moving freely - we need to accept ourselves rather than affirm ourselves.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This means acknowledging both our strengths and weaknesses and choosing to live as we are in the present moment.</p>','2025-07-18 15:58:38.271','2025-07-18 15:59:38.626',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:59:38.625',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('61ec6868-20c5-43d2-a83e-870cd9aaac2b','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>视觉效应是建立习惯的重要因素之一。人往往会因为经常看见一样事物，顺其自然的毫无疑虑的对其做出选择。</p>','2025-07-07 05:03:25.318','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('729c1d7f-1fd0-44f1-9c50-09f74e4fe9d0','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>1）人类的91% 感觉受器是献给视觉。2）人都喜欢自认有掌控感。3）行为是人类与环境的函数。</p>
<p>基于以上三点，我们就可以通过改变环境，应用视觉效果，让自己的行为改变，带来习惯的改变。这就如书上提到的例子，只是悄悄改变医院里餐厅的饮料的摆放，就减低了汽水销量，增加了瓶装水的销量。</p>
<p>习惯的改变取决于你身处的空间和带给视觉的【提示】。环境是一只隐形手，悄悄形塑一个人的行为。</p>','2025-07-14 04:50:48.905','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4cd397f9-7d18-4550-bc77-b6677a21d9cb','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>做任何事，想要成功，首先与自己和解，看清自己的初心，之后才能理解别人的想法和做法。这就是善于推己及人的道理。</p>','2025-07-14 02:09:15.611','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e3978c60-fbc9-4a7d-b41d-0c36e95aeede','9b5e0a6b-4a47-4716-bf46-0b7128e48b53','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>每个人都应该设定目标然后立志一直走下去完成任务为止，而且路径不受旁门左道影响个人意志。</p>','2025-07-23 10:24:32.711','2025-07-29 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-07-29 00:00:00.023','2025-07-29 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be7c39f4-ae62-45a9-849b-f7aaf777d965','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 26 7月18日 (星期五)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第五夜 认真的人生&ldquo;活在当下&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">过多的自我意识，反而会束缚自己</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;对自己的执着&rdquo;， 这个问题. 要停止对&ldquo;我&rdquo;的执着，换成&ldquo;对他人的关心&rdquo;，关心他人很重要. 我们无论怎样都会在意自己，只看到自己.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">还是共同体感觉，具体来说就是，把自己的执着转换成对他人的关心，建立起共同体感觉. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">这需要从3点做起 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">1.)自我接纳</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">2.)他者信赖</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">3.)他者贡献</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们并不缺乏能力，只是缺乏勇气，一切都是&ldquo;勇气&rdquo;的问题.</span></p>','2025-07-18 15:58:37.205','2025-07-18 15:58:44.483',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 15:58:44.482',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f01e60f-2588-4320-ae45-67fac9d398e8','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>视觉是我们感觉能力中最强的，我们会轻易的被在身处环境中最易见的原素而影想我们的决定。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-18 21:27:36.979','2025-07-18 21:27:36.979',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 21:27:36.978',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f376705b-e377-47f5-b1b3-c1a0a6790500','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>了解环境对改变习惯的重要性，学习在经常身处的环境中加入能提示我们要达成的新习惯，能行成一种推动力让我们做改变。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-18 21:39:53.006','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45bb3db1-4316-48d8-a964-cb073cb0edff','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>了解在新环境中更容易培养新的习 惯，学习利用环境中步下能相连的物品，更能促进新习惯的行成。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-18 21:54:46.796','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9058a28c-3d3c-4c1b-b3b7-ac77f90f10c7','8402f9fe-50d5-4611-b1da-94a1c86da340','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>信用和信赖不一样<br>credit, 信用是有条件的。<br>阿德勒心理学的认为的人际关系基础不应该是信用，而是信赖。</p>
<p>信赖指的是 在相信他人的时候不附加任何条件，无条件相信。</p>
<p>信赖的反面是怀疑。</p>
<p>人际关系的基础建立怀疑上，怀疑他人朋友家人或恋人。</p>
<p>对方会感到怀疑的目光，凭直觉认为这人不信任我，这样是难以建立积极关系的。</p>
<p>无条件的信赖，才可以构筑更深厚的关系。</p>
<p>你只需考虑怎么做。</p>
<p>无条件信赖不是道德感的信任。无条件的信赖是搞好人际关系的和构建横向关系的一种手段。</p>
<p>如果带上怀疑的目光，那么对方所有的行为或眼神等都看上去是不好的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>克服对背叛的恐惧感的勇气从自我接纳来。</p>
<p>背叛是他人的决定，我不能决定。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 11:02:59.076','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2cc0776-6bf5-4576-8a3b-ed57ff8b90d8','8402f9fe-50d5-4611-b1da-94a1c86da340','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>信用与信赖.的核心区别：<br>- 信用（Credit）：有条件交换（如抵押贷款），本质是风险评估的理性计算。 &nbsp;<br>- 信赖（Trust）：无条件交付（如无抵押信任），本质是构建关系的勇气。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>关键启示：<br>1. **课题分离是前提** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;决定是否背叛是他人课题，能否信赖是自己的课题。执着于&ldquo;可能被伤害&rdquo;的恐惧，实质是以怀疑为牢笼，自我隔绝深度联结的可能。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>2. **信赖是手段，非道德绑架**&nbsp; 无条件的信赖是搞好人际关系和构建橫向关系的一种&ldquo;手段&rdquo;、<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;阿德勒不鼓吹&ldquo;圣人式牺牲&rdquo;，而将信赖视为**获取深度关系的工具**： &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- 怀疑滋生隔阂 &rarr; 关系停滞于浅层； &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;- 信赖创造纽带 &rarr; 关系走向深厚。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>3. **克服对背叛勇气源于自我接纳** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;认清&ldquo;我能掌控什么&rdquo;（付出信赖）与&ldquo;我无法掌控什么&rdquo;（他人背叛），方能从&ldquo;怕受伤&rdquo;转向&ldquo;敢去信&rdquo;。真正的达观，看透风险 継而也就不难迈出迈向他者信赖的步伐了。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>4. **痛苦是关系的代价** &nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;哲人不否认背叛之痛，但点醒本质：**规避痛苦等于规避人际关系的喜悦**。浅关系无背叛亦无狂喜无法建立起深厚的关系，深关系伴风险却得丰盈&mdash;&mdash;这是生命的辩证法则。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-16 01:39:58.983','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('58a58670-c1db-4761-8484-8e5e2320daab','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>人们选择某样产品，往往不是那样产品是什么，而是因为产品在哪里</p>
<p>习惯改变取决于你身处的空间，以及眼前的提示</p>
<p>改变行为是需要外在的因素</p>','2025-07-18 00:57:13.878','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('823e3f80-dad4-4fc7-abb1-7bfdb6bcc4e4','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>习惯的改变，往往取决于你所处的空间，以及你所接收到的提示。环境就像一只无形的手，悄悄地形塑我们的行为。尽管每个人的性格都独一无二，在特定的环境下，一些行为却会反复发生。</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">在人类所有感官中，视觉最具影响力。我们的大脑有一半以上的资源用于处理视觉信息。正因为如此，视觉提示往往是最强大的行为催化剂。眼前所见的微小变化，往往能带来行为上的巨大转变。</span></p>','2025-07-18 13:01:24.636','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9b5c6e4-e55e-41b5-9c40-89f0e37b847c','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>周遭的环境也是会影响我们的执行意向！</p>','2025-07-18 14:43:40.428','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a4b8c440-a9db-4415-8426-ce8a4136aa59','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>一个想要成功需要具备两个重要的能力：</p>
<p>1）先要和自己和解，先把自己研究明白，看清自己的初心，才能理解他人。</p>
<p>2）很强对他人的感知力和同理心，能够换位思考，推己及人。这不但利己利他，自己不受害的同时也不叫别人受害。</p>','2025-07-19 00:02:13.63','2025-07-19 00:02:13.63',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 00:02:13.629',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1aefa499-6985-40d2-918c-78757006b329','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>推己及人就是有同理心，能夠換位思考，對他人有感知力。</p>','2025-07-19 00:24:57.716','2025-07-19 00:24:57.716',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 00:24:57.715',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34ab8501-e89e-4b04-8197-e27d0787e64e','d07ac4c7-d15d-443c-8af8-ad5bb6c24ebb','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>人类是群居动物，我们想要融入群体，赢得同僚的尊敬与肯定。我们会模仿3个群体的习惯：</p>
<p>1）亲近的人</p>
<p>2）多数的人</p>
<p>3)&nbsp; &nbsp;有力的人</p>
<p>而父亲永远是我的模仿对像，父亲文温有礼，虽然受教育程度不高，在人事交际随合，也总是让我们明白到家合万事兴，对人包容忍耐也从不抱怨。</p>
<p>而我因为爱读书，参加了读书会，感觉自己就是读书人。因为自己的朋友都没有阅读的习惯，读书会也成了一个让我有机会接触到爱读书人的平台。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-19 01:52:51.745','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4dfa0490-cbaa-4395-bfb4-96bf6603a5b3','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>近朱者赤近墨者黑 环境会影响习惯</p>','2025-07-19 04:12:09.525','2025-07-19 04:12:09.525',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 04:12:09.524',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a026999-7a64-4241-8105-6efcc4f7b3ba','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>要有同理心,善待生命.</p>
<p>人之初,性本善.</p>','2025-07-23 12:14:06.012','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('153bbbe4-e700-46dd-8ee8-c67c6a95e2d0','aa45a6a3-6bc5-4e7e-9e62-8b88af1ce8db','bab89ee0-c6a9-43ae-b08d-61e5e50652da','<p>活在当下，珍惜当下，过好此刻！</p>','2025-07-24 15:01:39.635','2025-07-24 15:01:39.635',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-24 15:01:39.635',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cd4c1ae7-d4da-476d-9e65-8af9b7e3040a','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>惩罚有效降低不好的习惯</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-11 14:24:14.525','2025-08-11 14:24:14.525',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 14:24:14.525',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('73da0eeb-c0a7-41dd-a716-ac00cdc27f88','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>选择喜欢的, 适合自己的习惯而不是受欢迎的习惯。</p>','2025-08-13 15:34:14.994','2025-08-13 15:34:14.994',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 15:34:14.993',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29e877f6-1c91-4603-8180-ec6df38ae0b0','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>先了解自己，选对环境，可以让方向和努力更清晰。</p>','2025-08-14 14:18:04.538','2025-08-14 14:18:04.538',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 14:18:04.537',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b3ac0518-ee2c-419e-921d-08b489df4839','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>熟能生巧还是熟就保持？作者建议精益求精。</p>','2025-08-17 13:36:24.312','2025-08-17 13:36:24.312',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 13:36:24.311',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b38f359-3316-4c2a-a708-7b94727edd7e','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>提示、渴望 = 问题显示</p>
<p>回应、奖赏 = 解决方案</p>','2025-08-21 15:55:56.082','2025-08-21 15:55:56.082',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 15:55:56.081',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('415157c1-ba49-4cbd-ac9f-96515a3a70d7','8402f9fe-50d5-4611-b1da-94a1c86da340','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>（2）他者信赖 - 就是把对自己的执着变成对他人的关心。人际关系的基础应该是信赖，无条件的相信（信用是有附加条件的）。如果遇到别人的背判，那是别人的课题，我们只需要考虑的是自己应该怎么做。如果不敢去信赖别人，最终就会与任何人都建立不了深厚的关系的。</p>','2025-07-19 02:21:34.309','2025-07-19 02:21:34.309',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 02:21:34.308',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7dcd778a-a485-46da-9f81-84c27c57fb81','49f95d9b-5fd1-485a-9951-83eaec57f76e','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>曾经自己站在舞池里的样子，整个舞厅会场都开着灯，那一闪一亮的灯光打向自己，摆好姿势等待音乐是紧张即有点担心， 生怕自己忘了舞步。在想：我不怕， 我应该要当好好去享受当下。只要跳着舞的&ldquo;此时此刻&rdquo;充实就已经足够。<br><br></p>','2025-07-19 07:28:36.03','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65aa5cf5-9bbd-4fb3-9ff3-d31f08cef9de','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 35 ：7月19 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">做事要善于推己及人（Page 155-158）</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">想理解别人，先了解自己</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很多父母不明白：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;为什么青春期的孩子不愿跟我沟通？&rdquo;其实是因为他们忘了自己当年的样子。小时候我们也叛逆、也渴望自由，只是忘了。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">所以，想把事情做好、关系处好，先研究好自己，与自己和解、认清初心，才有能力理解别人、处理万事。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-19 06:37:39.076','2025-07-19 06:37:40.582',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 06:37:40.581',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34f43ff4-7f7a-4ab9-9918-a6cc818c1432','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 19 ：7月19 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 激励被高估了，环境往往更重要（Page 103-106）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">习惯改变的秘密：不是靠意志力，而是靠环境设计！</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在麻省总医院的实验中，医师桑代克发现 只要重新安排环境，就能悄悄改变上千人行为，无需说教、无需激励。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">想减少滑手机？把手机放远，改放一本书在手边</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">与其努力记得做，不如让它变得无法忽视！</span></p>','2025-07-19 06:20:55.626','2025-07-19 06:20:55.626',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 06:20:55.625',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('87f68535-f34c-4dce-8a4c-9bdb07245833','75caee7a-c51a-4499-a681-a2c392529fa4','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>行为改变第二法则的反转，让习惯毫无吸引力。与正面感觉连接，习惯就有了吸引力，我们可以善用这个洞见，而不要用来损害自己。</p>','2025-07-19 05:53:59.173','2025-07-28 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e683af16-12cd-43ed-831d-590c1fd43b39','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>一个人具有知耻之心，才能守护好自己的道德底线，做个自尊、善良、坚持道义的人。知耻之心，可以激发上进心，产生提升自己，奋发图强的动力。</p>','2025-07-19 04:27:56.563','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e0d578e0-1856-41d2-8d99-c6984cb2d0b7','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>最新的環境中比較容易改變習慣。盡量避免把一個習慣的環境跟另一個習慣的環境混在一起。一個凡事各安其位、各司其職的穩定環境，就是可以輕鬆養成習慣的環境。</p>','2025-07-21 14:41:52.714','2025-07-21 14:41:59.333',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 14:41:59.332',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1f18fff-f1da-4c9e-b1dd-dec9b6871836','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>有了仁，就会心正。善性就会发挥出来。人性就会走向善良。</p>
<p>越是内心纯良，具有恻隐之心的人，越是心怀悲悯，能够善待周围的人。</p>
<p>人性本善，但也是有恶念。人一旦被黑化，就会做出各种各样的坏事。</p>','2025-07-19 02:27:20.846','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3cc17735-ecbd-4e09-bed8-ea6116449dbf','aa45a6a3-6bc5-4e7e-9e62-8b88af1ce8db','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>我觉得嫑把人生看成一条线， 而要理解人生只是点的连续。也就是说我们应该追求现实生活/活动。 过好此时此刻。</p>','2025-07-19 06:47:44.939','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fd829e28-0d13-499e-be78-261540b99419','68bb32c1-7fa9-4d1d-8559-f391f1f5ac80','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>重新思考我们的习惯，把重点放在益处，而非坏处。这是一个快速而轻松的方式，使我们重新设定大脑，让习惯变得比较有吸引力。</p>
<p>把&ldquo;必须&rdquo;两个字改成&ldquo;可以&rdquo;。</p>
<p>若想要更进一步，我们可以创造一个动机仪式。只要练习把习惯与你很享受的某件事物联想起来，往后每当需要一点动机，就可以把这个提示拿出来。</p>','2025-07-19 06:05:58.962','2025-07-29 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-07-29 00:00:00.023','2025-07-29 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我曾讲过一本书叫《为什么我的青春期孩子不和我说话），里面说很多家长不理解，为什么处于背春期的孩子不愿意眼他们好好沟通，其实有一个很重要的原因，就是那些家长似乎忘记了自己在青春期时的表现。我就经常看到我身边的一些朋友，在教育自己孩子时义正词严，好像自己是个道德楷模一样。我就提醒他们说，咱们小时候比他们还渴望自由，干的事情比他们还糟糕，你怎么忘了呢？</p>
<p>做任何事，或与任何人相处，想要做成功，首先要与自己和解，先把自己研究明白了，看清自己的初心，之后才能理解别人的想法和做法，把事情做好。</p>','2025-07-19 08:04:40.002','2025-07-19 08:04:40.002',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 08:04:40.001',NULL,NULL);
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<p>另外，把流程简化、环境整理好，这也有助引导正面行为。</p>','2025-07-20 03:52:42.956','2025-08-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-01 00:00:00.027','2025-08-01 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('909ae557-2465-49b0-b337-4cd382b844b2','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>听自己的内心.从内而外.了解自己,允许别人做别人.</p>','2025-07-19 08:25:35.349','2025-07-19 08:30:56.862',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 08:30:56.862',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6b437b35-aca0-42be-b067-e1021b98b379','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>有选择的比较对事情来说都是好的。<br>比较的过程远比结果更重要，因为在过程里我们可以看见更多的事情或更多的问题，也可以看见事情的面相。</p>','2025-07-19 08:18:44.39','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eb408f1e-47af-4139-bad3-4f373e1cc138','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 35&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>19&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">做事要善于推己及人（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 155-158<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">明白做事的原因。不了解自己做事的初心和目标，做事就会很盲目，出错也在所难免。成大事，在于的是是否具备很强的对他人的感知力和同理心，或是能换位思考，推己及人。自己得利时，也让别人得利；自己不受害时，也不叫别人受害。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">具备能力的人，都会先对自己有足够的了解，知道自己最想要的是什么。了解了自己，再推己及人，再推及万事万物，最终达到通达。</span></p>','2025-07-19 09:15:29.339','2025-07-19 09:15:29.339',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 09:15:29.337',NULL,NULL);
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<p>知耻才能后勇</p>','2025-07-19 08:34:01.901','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('272fed0c-7970-4524-b5eb-a430f662a4b1','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>是的！恻隐之心，人皆有之。可是现代人只是心动没有行动，因为害怕被骗或者添加麻烦而放弃了助人为乐。</p>','2025-07-19 09:08:20.666','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4b913b16-d6b3-4c43-af99-cf88ee6e3c9f','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>当我们有着恻隐之心及善念，我们做的事情就会是善的，一位领导者，心里要时时保持着善念，这样才能让有才之人跟随你，也才能让你的环境变善变好。</p>','2025-07-19 08:28:53.869','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2670316b-acb6-44fb-b807-a0c311127bac','90f19501-99f4-44a7-9ee0-0420a434e7d7','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>遇到问题时，都让自己的身心收剑到内在，你才能体验到真正的安宁，这才是我们在困难时应该做的事。</p>','2025-07-19 08:35:59.098','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0cd532c7-a071-4fcd-8914-c0100d923be3','1d3ad698-edd2-48e4-8cb1-4ab4fe9dad18','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>后记～<br>过去的已经不可能重来，未来的还没有到来，我们能够把握的也只有当下。<br>最后：<br>接纳自己，活在当下。不用伪装，直面内心，不刻意的讨好别人，按内心真实的想法，坚持做自己喜欢的事情，努力活着😊</p>','2025-07-19 08:10:51.92','2025-07-27 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a4ccbda-e6e4-4cd2-907e-c7875bd3cce2','38a991e3-ebf2-4502-a508-a433ca231da9','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>被讨厌的勇气</p>
<p>～勇敢做自己</p>
<p>～认识自己</p>
<p>～学会放下</p>
<p>～人际关系</p>
<p>～内心的力量</p>
<p>～不做比较</p>
<p>～感恩心态</p>
<p>我们应该拥有被讨厌的勇气，去面对生活中的挑战和困难。不要过于在意他人的看法，而是要勇敢地展现真实的自己。&nbsp;</p>
<p>**感恩朋友的推荐加入读书会。 也让我重新开始阅读。 也让我重新认识自己😁 🙏</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-19 08:19:41.774','2025-07-28 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fcd0b898-14eb-4e4b-bd7b-905925278471','72169f92-e570-4731-95e5-cf2b0b73e17d','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>在所有可能採取的行动中，花费最少努力产出最大价值的那个才会被实践，我们的动机就是做容易的事。</p>
<p>让习惯简单到就算没有意愿也会执行至关重要。但并非要我们只做容易做的事，而是尽可能让做那些长期下来会有回报的事这个行动变得不费力。</p>','2025-07-19 10:15:32.537','2025-07-31 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-07-31 00:00:00.015','2025-07-31 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1f1b6111-7217-4e5c-ab85-0c953e8bcfe4','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>比较如果是向外而求的，就会带来更多的负面情绪。若是比较后，自己向内求进步，就会提升自己🙏</p>','2025-07-19 10:54:01.391','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b013ce57-e4b4-423a-9bb3-4dca187d078b','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>比较是双刃剑. 如果要比较,要理性的比较.更重要的是从中寻道理,为什么比较优秀,完善自己.好t比齐国国相</p>','2025-07-19 12:26:56.176','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3d12328f-9288-4c6f-a93e-434185a396a3','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>大多习惯不是来自目的和动机，他说来自显而易见的环境。所以想要培养某个习惯，可以从环境（视觉）开始。比如想戒掉零食，家里不买零食。想把自己锻炼个好身材，可以买点简单用的运动小器材或者健康的食材。</p>','2025-07-19 11:11:45.087','2025-07-19 11:11:45.087',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 11:11:45.086',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6900c461-9c17-4f9b-af8a-2ec2983e78cf','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>只按需求而设立的习惯，不如&ldquo;显而易见&rdquo;刻意布置的场景，可以让人们在不同的角落得到视觉上的暗示，而更容易地采取行动。</p>','2025-07-19 11:55:47.303','2025-07-19 11:55:47.303',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 11:55:47.302',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a8e6a7c6-0692-4212-bb62-e62aa9f1557b','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>清楚自己的本分和能力，有了明确的方向，在遇到同频的人的时候，便很容易产生共鸣，有着言语难以形容的默契，一拍即合。</p>','2025-07-19 12:00:21.282','2025-07-19 12:00:21.282',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 12:00:21.281',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('064ca1fd-9d40-41a0-b97b-ec8465eda3f8','8402f9fe-50d5-4611-b1da-94a1c86da340','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>信任&rdquo;就是有条件地相信对方。不是相信&ldquo;那个人&rdquo;​，而是相信那个人所具备的&ldquo;条件&rdquo;​。</p>
<p>信赖就是在相信他人的时候不附加任何条件。关注的是人性化的价值，而不是物质性的价值。</p>','2025-07-19 13:51:19.043','2025-07-19 13:51:19.043',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 13:51:19.041',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5eef660-b9bd-4a7c-9ad8-d12fed09516e','8402f9fe-50d5-4611-b1da-94a1c86da340','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>相信分成信任與信賴，在相信他人不附加任何條件。這就是信賴。</p>
<p>信賴如果被背叛，我會選擇剪短關係，當然我也會受傷，但是我不會因為這樣而不再信賴他人，也許這就是書中所提到的自我接納。</p>','2025-07-19 14:11:54.795','2025-07-19 14:11:54.795',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:11:54.794',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3081d693-082b-412d-beeb-4c84d4f3fb7f','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>&nbsp;己所欲，施于人<br>己所不欲勿施于人。</p>
<p>这一种被对方放在心里的概念</p>','2025-07-19 14:13:06.45','2025-07-19 14:13:06.45',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:13:06.449',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4be66f26-ebf6-47fd-9cb3-212efd571d98','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>人一辈子所面对的问题多半与人际关系有关。因此懂得将心比心待人处事，一般上会少了许多不必要的麻烦，同时人缘好，又事事多顺心。</p>','2025-07-19 14:18:18.555','2025-07-19 14:18:18.555',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:18:18.554',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('24e0e1e7-054c-47ee-9bc4-e53f17057af6','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>做任何事 或与任何人相处 想要做成功 首先要与自己和解 先把自己研究明白了 看清自己的初心 之后才能理解别人的想法和做法 把事情做好。</p>
<p>~</p>
<p>member.impactlifestudygroup.com</p>','2025-07-19 14:18:08.291','2025-07-19 14:18:26.037',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:18:26.037',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0c7b21c-887b-44b4-a158-65e273c089e0','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 35&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>19&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日&nbsp;</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">做事要善于推己及人（</span>Page 155-158<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：<br>明白自己的初心，与自己和解，推己及人，才能将人生过好。</span></p>','2025-07-19 14:22:59.408','2025-07-19 14:22:59.408',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:22:59.407',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f599ba8-d89a-4a05-9070-2d16a3945eb0','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>非常认同人性本善。佛陀说我们都是佛，只是被五毒所蒙蔽。心镜擦拭干净就可以明心见性。</p>','2025-07-19 11:08:34.533','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('28b98f50-74d9-4bed-94af-77f7ade79a38','90f19501-99f4-44a7-9ee0-0420a434e7d7','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>内在美好过虛有其表，问心无愧别人的议论指摘根本不重要。</p>','2025-07-19 10:09:43.146','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e36f7f5b-a92e-4663-b093-4697f72a2443','90f19501-99f4-44a7-9ee0-0420a434e7d7','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>君子仰不愧于心可以很好的诠释做人做事，只要尽责就好。结果如何不需要太在意。</p>','2025-07-19 11:16:53.907','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e045eb62-0586-4810-9cd0-e628d08862a5','32aa94a9-e031-4629-915a-527f33b79fa1','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>原来出尔反尔的真正本意是自己做出来的事终将返回到自己身上。前因后果啊～</p>','2025-07-19 11:52:35.668','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('22b63161-01fa-49ee-86bf-10bb02d7de4f','164b9539-889a-473e-b52e-21d6af1752ec','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>每次重复一个行为，我们就活化了跟那个习惯有关的神经廻路，代表光是重复执行就是养成新习惯的关键步骤之一。</p>
<p>执行一项习惯的时间长短，不如执行习惯的次数多寡重要。</p>','2025-07-19 10:04:17.908','2025-07-30 00:00:00.04',NULL,'f','2025-07-30 00:00:00.039','2025-07-30 00:00:00.039',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3fa9b1a8-1c4c-49a0-bc46-f863ae6a5ff4','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>每种生物都有各自感知与理解世界的方式。</p>
<p>人类感知受感觉神经系统引导，同时有/无意识中其他感受刺激的方法。 视觉是感知能力最强的。&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们可以成为环境的建构者</p>','2025-07-19 15:15:49.92','2025-07-19 15:18:55.637',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:18:55.636',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f6ff7c6e-2b9a-41e7-8d72-0e16598260be','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p>在《人生的底气》第五章&ldquo;反思的深度&rdquo;中，作者提到：做事要善于推己及人，关键在于了解自己的初心与目标。如果一个人对自己为何做这件事都不了解，就容易陷入盲目、甚至出错。</p>
<p>真正能成大事的人，往往具备敏锐的感知力与同理心，懂得换位思考。在做事时，既为自己争取利益，也顾及他人的感受与权益&mdash;&mdash;自己不受害，也不叫别人受害；自己得利，也愿别人得利。</p>
<p>要做到这一点，前提是对自己有深刻的认识。只有先看清自己最想要的是什么，理解自己的价值与动机，才能进一步理解他人，并处理好人与事的关系。与其一味急着&ldquo;做好事&rdquo;，不如先与自己和解，研究明白自己，才能真正把事做好、把人处好。</p>','2025-07-19 14:53:58.668','2025-07-19 14:53:58.668',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:53:58.667',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c99b138c-9652-4334-8a69-33fd0fa90b47','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>一个人能不能做成大事，是不是具有商业思维，能不能赚到钱，根本不在于这个人有多高的学历或多强的管理能力，而在于他是否具备很强的对他人的感知力和同理心，或者是否能够换位思考，推己及人。自己得利时，也让别人得利；自己不受害时，也不叫别人受害。</p>','2025-07-19 14:55:48.229','2025-07-19 14:55:48.229',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:55:48.228',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9efbc1d-b60a-4b7c-9083-d6f463fca145','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>行為是人與環境的函數，你不必淪為環境的受害者，而是可以成為環境的構築者。</p>','2025-07-19 15:09:42.304','2025-07-19 15:09:42.304',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:09:42.303',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a2747f0-a12c-4005-8aa1-2a8a1e40e3f3','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 19 ：7月19 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 激励被高估了，环境往往更重要（Page 103-106）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯改变取决于你身处的空间，以及眼前的提示。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">环境是一只隐形的手，形朔人的行为。</span></p>','2025-07-19 15:17:11.726','2025-07-19 15:17:13.269',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:17:13.268',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a56f786-3ea2-4eff-8bcb-bb6849ac8c36','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>做任何事，或与任何人相处，想要做成功，首先要与自己和解，先把自己研究明白了，看清自己的初心，之后才能理解别人的想法和做法，把事情做好</p>','2025-07-19 15:18:17.44','2025-07-19 15:18:17.44',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:18:17.439',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fb6fa636-a977-4165-9dbb-5c85c5237fc1','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>做任何事或与任何人相处想要做成功首先要与自己和解，先把自己研究明白了，看清自己的初心之后才能理解别人的想法和做法把事情做好。</p>
<p>了解了自己，再推己及人，在推及万事万物，最终达到通达</p>','2025-07-19 15:18:51.923','2025-07-19 15:18:51.923',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:18:51.923',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('391ec7c0-8016-4590-9bd4-0434903731a7','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 19 ：7月19 日 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 激励被高估了，环境往往更重要</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人们选择某种产品，往往不是因为那样产品是什么，而是因为产品在哪里.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">影响改变取决于你身处的空间以及眼前的提示.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有时顾客购买产品不是因为想要，而是因为这些产品被呈现的方式.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人类所有感觉能力中最强的一项是视觉，因此所见稍有不同，就可能造成所为的巨大变动，可以相见，让生活与工作环境充满可以提高生产力的提示，并消除会降低生产力的有多么重要. </span></p>','2025-07-19 15:25:32.154','2025-07-19 15:25:32.154',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:25:32.153',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db4abfe1-13d6-4d10-a065-7e011682c3a2','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>每个习惯是被提示启动的。创造明显的视觉提示，把注意力引到想要的培养的习惯。让提示成为环境的一部分，习惯就成为生活的一部分。</p>
<p>例如：想多喝水，养成随身带着水瓶的习惯，就算是在家里，都要装好水瓶，随时可以饮用。</p>
<p>例如：想多看书，家里有多个放书的角落。出门的用的包有足够空间放两本书。</p>','2025-07-19 14:33:15.343','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('81cd34b1-4ff7-4d80-897c-63dcadb47ff9','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>在新的环境比较容易改变习惯。如果无法去到全新空间。可以自己隔开不同的空间： 一个空间，一个用途。尽量避免把一个习惯的情境跟另一个情境混在一起。</p>','2025-07-21 14:44:17.703','2025-07-21 14:46:17.519',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 14:46:17.518',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3dc030fd-92df-45bc-ace5-766295be5bb1','d07ac4c7-d15d-443c-8af8-ad5bb6c24ebb','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>天才不是生出来的，而是教育与训练出来的。</p>
<p>我们最早的习惯非来自选择，而是模仿。</p>
<p>模仿的群体有三种</p>
<p>1.亲近的人</p>
<p>2.多数的人</p>
<p>3.有力的人</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-22 02:07:11.845','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fde18d1-192d-4773-976c-9a99bbb941d8','8fcdd6ab-8e39-4357-bd50-891a5397abcc','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>不应该以自己标准去批判别人对或不对，应该怎么做，而是思考:我能做些什么，我能帮她做些什么，这才是我们应该达到的境界。</p>
<p>这样我们会更包容，更能够理解和接受他人。</p>','2025-07-22 01:42:56.208','2025-07-27 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('55a1448d-96f3-43e0-829a-c082a24d1b69','ac95af19-194c-452a-bbcc-0df5e30ee958','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>与其试着克服生活中的阻力，不如将其减少。减少与习惯相关的阻力，最有效的方法就是环境设计。</p>
<p>核心概念就是创造出一个让正确的事情尽可能轻而易举的环境。</p>','2025-07-20 09:26:46.1','2025-08-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-01 00:00:00.027','2025-08-01 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c0377c7-3702-4fe2-949c-4f66efe83729','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 35 ：7月19 日 《人生的底气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">做事要善于推己及人</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">做任何事与任何人相处，想要做成功，首先要以自己和解，先把自己研究明白了，看清自己的初心之后才能理解别人的想法和做法，把事情做好，没有别的只是善于推己及人罢了.</span></p>','2025-07-19 15:33:25.244','2025-07-19 15:33:28.288',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:33:28.287',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5480b581-1fdd-4677-a7e2-66136835c516','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>这点我相信，环境对习惯的影响是很重要的。我也经常告诉同学，懂得设计办公环境很重要</p>','2025-07-19 15:38:47.338','2025-07-19 15:38:47.338',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:38:47.337',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0cbec4c-8879-4a59-8965-2bd89f8d0bbe','8402f9fe-50d5-4611-b1da-94a1c86da340','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 27 7月19日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第五夜 认真的人生&ldquo;活在当下&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">信用和信赖有何区别？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在相信他人的时候不附加任何条件，无条件的相信，这就是信赖.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">信赖的反义词是怀疑. 假设你把人际关系的基础建立在怀疑之上，怀疑他人，怀疑朋友，甚至怀疑家人或恋人. 生活中处处充满怀疑，你认为这样还能建立起什么积极的关系吗？只有我们选择了无条件的信赖，才可以构筑更加深厚的关系. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学的观点很简单，你现在认为无条件的信赖别人只会遭到背叛，但是决定背部背叛的不是你，那是他人的课题. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">你只需要考虑我该怎么做，如果对方讲信用，我也给信任，这只不过是一种基于抵押或条件的信用关系.</span></p>','2025-07-19 15:42:18.205','2025-07-19 15:42:19.811',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 15:42:19.81',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('538b3cae-a45d-47be-a5a1-e13cc12b0972','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>我们总以为自己缺乏&ldquo;动力&rdquo;，其实真正缺的是&ldquo;环境设计。</p>
<p>想改变自己，先从改变周围的空间和物品摆放开始。</p>','2025-07-19 16:00:03.903','2025-07-19 16:00:03.903',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 16:00:03.902',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f316cde-1c22-4d30-8f7d-32cf34a5adf4','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>当激发某个习惯的提示被隐藏起来，或不显眼的地方，就很容易被忽视。</p>
<p>想要让习惯成为生活的一部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。</p>','2025-07-14 02:14:03.23','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fc003750-aedc-4553-be3d-b73cbb3a2357','771cbcd5-b328-4c5b-8cc2-a3f072cb1991','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<div>工作的本质是对他人的贡献。这是什么意思啊？谁工作光为傻傻做贡献啊😅&nbsp;可书中哲人却说：你只有把别人当作伙伴，然后无条件地信赖，无怨无悔地付出，找到自我价值，最后才能得到&ldquo;我可以在这里&rdquo;的归属感，才能感受到自己的价值。&nbsp;</div>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-14 05:35:40.657','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e4afb836-8508-4937-898d-84a8aa5a7b75','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>在社会飯桌聚会的时候通常是无所不聊，所以都需要略懂得世界、财经、政治、经济等等知识。不然你就一句话都插不上，感觉十分丢脸。朋友也认为你坐着发呆也没意思，可能也不会再约你聚餐了。</p>','2025-07-14 09:59:00.353','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a87b1ba-cf48-40dd-ab01-fb261d706612','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>具有知恥之心, 做錯事會慚愧, 辜負別人的期待會内疚, 行走不当會难过, 才能守護自己的道德底線.</p>','2025-07-16 01:27:39.864','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('66f16334-a1ed-4656-87ab-ccc97ccb380e','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>创造明显的视觉提示可以把你的注意力引至想要的习惯。<br>想要让习惯成为生活的一部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。</p>','2025-07-17 14:05:01.178','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('892b3186-fba7-48a5-bea6-e092f85349ab','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>在新环境中比较容易改变习惯。也要尽量避免把一个习惯的情况跟另一个习惯的情景混在一起。</p>','2025-07-19 16:28:27.332','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48052856-2a37-44af-a5bf-ae0eb784a8b8','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>一个人，一个企业，最怕的不是犯错，而是不敢面对自己的错误，选择逃避。</p>
<p>当问题暴露出来了，那是最好的时机探讨，找出解决问题的方案，然后解决它。面对问题就像攀登一样。远远看到山，几乎是不可能。可是当自己一步一步走着，慢慢地眼前的风景就变了，自己就在山里，自己就走出了山。只有行动起来，问题就不再是问题。</p>','2025-07-19 23:41:25.501','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2d3c3789-06d4-4a6b-a324-301cfe22cf08','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>房间里的大象</p>','2025-07-21 15:02:55.197','2025-07-21 15:03:05.016',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:03:05.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05c54cee-635c-4305-9809-b8c4e6d2ad34','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>比较固然是好，有比较才有进步</p>
<p>但是在比较的过程中，我如何看待&ldquo;比较&rdquo;这件事也很重要</p>
<p>探究其中原因，反思，再弥补自身不足，这样做才是比较的真正意义所在</p>','2025-07-19 22:34:32.707','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7af95096-ccf0-4279-9ca8-302bb4b9e591','771cbcd5-b328-4c5b-8cc2-a3f072cb1991','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">真實的「我」無法替換</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> --&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">給人無條件信任</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">夥伴</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">理想的我很好，很棒，很完美，但取代不了</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> here and now </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的我</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有夥伴</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">可安身</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有歸屬</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">把別人當成敵人</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">沒法信任</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">無法安身</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">沒有歸屬</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">關心他人</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> - </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【奉獻他人】；對夥伴采取一些行爲或產生「影響」</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">爲了感覺「自己能夠做些什麽」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我有「價值」。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">一，必須行動；二，必須「有他人」</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">奉獻</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> vs </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">犧牲，奉獻</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">感受自我價值</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> vs </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">犧牲</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">出賣自己的價值，會有「你欠我」的感覺</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">無所事事，就會感覺自己</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> no value</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【工作】是一種【奉獻】，若上班的過程，感受到自己的付出對他人有價值，公司就會讓人有歸屬感。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（但必須要平衡，若我的付出大於我獲得的正向回饋，「施與受」的不平衡會讓人失去對共同體的信任，沒法持續奉獻。）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">非常有錢的人，還是會投身某些事業，讓自己感受自己有社會價值</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【我是自立的】</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> - I make my own choice, not because of XXX i have to XXX</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">--&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【我是有能力的】，我能爲自己決定，爲自己創造，爲自己負責</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【我能與社會和諧生活】</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> - evethough I make my own choices, I still can live peacefully among others </span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">--&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【人人都是我的夥伴】，</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">I trust them, because I trust myself, no matter what happened, i can handle the conciquances of trusting otehrs</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">大隱隱于朝</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> - </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">隱：清閑瀟灑的生活，在人群裏也能自在的做自己。</span></p>','2025-07-17 18:08:19.736','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e089bf77-6c74-4f54-9bd8-4163193b20ae','771cbcd5-b328-4c5b-8cc2-a3f072cb1991','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>共同体感觉</p>
<p>自我接纳，他者信赖，他者贡献。</p>
<p>人在觉得自己对他人有用的时候，才会感到自己的价值。</p>
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<p>他者贡献并不是舍弃自己而为他人效劳，它反而是为了能够体会到自己的价值而采取的一种手段。</p>
<p>工作劳动其实可体会到，我对他人有用，进而获得自己的存在价值。</p>
<p>工作中获得的钱财是重大因素，而透过工作中得到的价值感和社会参与度是比较重要的。</p>
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<p>我们应该思考的不是他人为了我做了什么，而是我为他人做了什么。并且加以积极的实践。</p>
<p>正因为自我接纳，才能不惧背叛做到他者信任，对他人的无条件信赖才能视他人为伙伴，才能做到他者贡献，正因为体会到我对他人有用，进而接受真实的自己，做到自我接纳。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>个体心理学的实践需要相当于自身岁数一半的时间。</p>
<p>27岁开始学的话，40岁才能学会。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-18 08:29:23.176','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人们在大部分时间遇到的都是和自己能力差不多的人，偶尔比自己强大的，可能还是自己的老板。天天跟自己差不多的人在一起，其实就是相当于把自己困在了原地。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们要秉持着&rdquo;一事不知，以为深耻&rdquo;，意思是说，自己有一件事不知道、不了解的，就深深地感到羞耻。知道自己有不足的地方，就应该积极修正自己、提升自己，而不是说有不足就算了。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">具有耻辱之心，对人真的至关重要，它可以激发我们的上进心，让我们提升自己、发奋图强的动力。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们的道德观念也与知耻有关。一个人具有知耻之心，做错了事会惭愧，辜负了别人的期望会内疚，行为不当会难过，也因此，才能守护好自己的道德底线，做个自尊、善良、坚持道义的人，不去做糟糕的，甚至反道德的事情。</span></p>','2025-07-19 00:40:46.942','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ba05dc6d-add6-4d38-8910-ab2b8a12aaf6','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>让习惯变得有吸引力，越容易成为习惯。</p>','2025-07-23 13:46:48.566','2025-07-23 13:46:48.566',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 13:46:48.565',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1776212e-b556-4f3c-bb10-7b85fc247ddd','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>&ldquo;事情总是相比较而存在、相制约而发展的。&rdquo;</p>
<p>比较是不可避免的，但是比较的重点应该是放在需要从根本原因着手。缺乏理性的比较就可能带来负面影响。</p>','2025-07-20 01:07:50.52','2025-07-23 08:04:09.443',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 08:04:09.442',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ad6fa846-fcb0-42ce-8cf6-ebdacbd4006e','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>知恥和好學加在一起能夠讓一個人的潛力無限的發展。</p>
<p>原來生活中有這麼多小細節可以去改變你每天的習慣。</p>
<p>這些小細節真的讓你可以每天進步1%.</p>','2025-07-20 02:06:20.002','2025-07-20 02:13:24.379',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 02:13:24.378',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5ed44d0-7621-47bc-9535-2b969d09f72c','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>原來生活中有這麼多小細節可以去改變你每天的習慣。</p>
<p>這些小細節真的讓你可以每天進步1%.</p>','2025-07-20 02:15:42.678','2025-07-20 02:15:42.678',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 02:15:42.677',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b66c8e41-ce47-4596-b5c5-dcd95c2dc5a7','32aa94a9-e031-4629-915a-527f33b79fa1','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>予人玫瑰，手有余香。<br>你给人什么，就就会得到什么。很多时候我们不愿意给，因为我们害怕失去，害怕给予人以后得不到回报。但很多时候，有些给予，会以不同方式转换给我们。<br>在我们能力范围，在自己甘愿下，这帮忙绝对能接受的。不期待付出后的回报，但我们都该保持给予帮人的心态。</p>','2025-07-20 02:36:08.588','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('774ee963-dfe0-47b0-a353-f17d7da47195','75caee7a-c51a-4499-a681-a2c392529fa4','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>让习惯毫无吸引力</p>
<p>擦觉一个提示，依照过往经验将其归类，然后决定适合的回应。生命感觉起来是反应式的，其实是预测式的</p>','2025-07-28 14:14:00.675','2025-07-28 14:22:10.002',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-28 14:22:10.001',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4db32f9e-e109-4a17-9d1d-4270d28f27ca','9b5e0a6b-4a47-4716-bf46-0b7128e48b53','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>要有浩然之氣，自己內心的意向和志氣一定要一制。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-29 11:44:09.341','2025-07-29 11:44:09.341',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-29 11:44:09.34',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('31f43c9d-c9a9-4d6f-a2a8-0b695d7f2c2f','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>知道丢脸是好事，那么自己才会有后勇的表现的机会。</p>
<p>我们读书会四年，大脑多多少少都装了一些知识，就像作者说的那样，至少大咖讲话时我也会明白。</p>
<p>很多上班族都会吐槽抱怨公司，自己每天都不愿意学习，这样的人到处都是，我很幸运能够遇见与大家一起成长的同学们。</p>','2025-07-20 04:06:02.051','2025-07-20 04:06:03.689',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 04:06:03.688',NULL,NULL);
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<p>古语中还有一句话，叫&ldquo;一事不知，以为深耻&rdquo;，意思是说，自己有一件事不知道、不了解的，就深深地感到羞耻，这与孟子的&ldquo;不耻不若人，何若人有&rdquo;简直是交相呼应。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>知道自己有不足的地方，就应该积极修正自己、提升自己，而不是说有不足就算了，就这样吧，反正我也有比别人强的地方，这是永远不会有进步的。</p>','2025-07-20 11:22:51.77','2025-07-20 11:22:51.77',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 11:22:51.769',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2486c8f2-c1b4-4245-a5d8-e4472e87d1ae','771cbcd5-b328-4c5b-8cc2-a3f072cb1991','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>想要获得归属感，就必须把他人看成伙伴，就能在所属的共同体中找到自己的位置，从而也建立了信赖关系。要做到视他人为伙伴，就须要自我接纳，真诚的接受不能交换的这个我，接受真实的自我，同时对他人寄予无条件的信赖（他者信赖）。还须要对作为伙伴的他人给予影响、作出贡献（他者贡献），对他人有用，为他人效劳、工作（为了能够体会到我的价值）。工作的本质就是对他人的贡献。</p>
<p>如果他人是伙伴，所有的贡献就不是伪善了。奉献精神就是我能为他人做什么，并积极地加以实践。</p>','2025-07-20 04:25:41.139','2025-07-20 04:25:41.139',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 04:25:41.138',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3be3aca9-e1ae-48f9-b716-f68f5fa70335','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>基因决定的不是你的命运，而是你在哪个领域会有机会。李宗伟喜欢篮球，但是他个子矮小。根本无法跟国内或nba 高大球员进行比赛！还好他选择了羽球，才有傲人的表现！</p>','2025-07-20 08:30:15.779','2025-08-13 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eccd2663-053e-4a31-8bd6-5b98fb67757f','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>這本書讀到這裡，讓我對我的壞習慣有全新的認識。</p>
<p>用意志力來戰勝壞習慣是無法長久的。訣竅在於讓壞習慣的提示「隱而不現」。</p>','2025-07-22 01:44:17.56','2025-07-22 01:44:17.56',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 01:44:17.559',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5ada0fb4-83f6-4c98-8c22-7bf030da3ca1','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>知道自己有不足的地方，就应该积极修正自己、提升自己，而不是说有不足就算了。透过耻辱之心，它可以激发我们的上进心，让我们产生提升自己、奋发图强的动力。</p>','2025-07-20 06:36:09.898','2025-07-20 06:36:09.898',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 06:36:09.897',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b0278e9-79f2-40c3-81c1-36e382b73057','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>想要让习惯成为生活的一大部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。</p>','2025-07-20 07:02:29.605','2025-07-20 07:02:29.605',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 07:02:29.604',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7c4c373-e202-48d9-8536-01499d226d7b','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p><strong>知不足，才有进步的起点；知羞耻，才有成长的动力。</strong></p>
<p>真正的上进，来自内心对&ldquo;我还可以更好&rdquo;的自觉。当一个人具备了耻感，他才会主动修正、愿意改变，并朝着更理想的自己迈进。耻而后勇，是自我成长的开端，也是人格成熟的关键。</p>','2025-07-20 07:13:56.515','2025-07-20 07:13:56.515',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 07:13:56.514',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50fe227a-418d-4d2b-8f97-750508f57447','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>创造明显的视觉提示，能把你的注意力吸引到想培养的习惯上。想让习惯真正成为生活的一部分，就让这些提示融入你的环境。通过环境设计，我们重新夺回掌控权，成为自己生活的创造者。别只做生活的旁观者，更要做它的设计师。</p>','2025-07-20 10:15:23.667','2025-07-20 10:15:23.667',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 10:15:23.666',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52da5f20-b574-497e-bd44-c2b637bcd24d','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>回避问题没用，要与大家共同探讨如何解决问题，就更容易达成共识，把问题彻底解决掉</p>','2025-07-21 11:12:17.586','2025-07-21 11:12:17.586',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 11:12:17.585',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a334f290-2e43-42be-9205-5b844cef614e','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>解决问题最好的方法，甚至是唯一的方法，就是当事人/负责人直接面对问题，聆听，勇于行动。边做边解决。</p>','2025-07-21 12:20:50.193','2025-07-21 12:20:50.193',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 12:20:50.192',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a8c78832-c750-4f4f-9351-00b8e63262ab','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>提示引起渴望，所以减少接触会激发此恶习的提示。让提示隐而不见，而非显而易见。移除了一个提示，整个习惯往往就会逐渐消失。与其在每次想要做正确的事情鼓起意志力，不如把能量用来优化所处的环境。</p>','2025-07-20 05:29:02.011','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('22a7938f-ba4b-41a7-8db6-e387df67c731','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>所谓的&ldquo;自律者&rdquo;只是擅长构建生活，不必让自己处在充满诱惑的情境里，不需要努力克制自己发挥自制力。</p>','2025-07-20 04:19:51.883','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ce3cb81-ea77-41ba-bb06-fb3bd1dd60b0','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>人生最大的精彩，往往诞生于不确定之中。当生活被设定得太过固定，我们也就失去了突破的可能。不要把自己困在固有的思维框架里，想做的事，就勇敢去做。真正的成长，是活在当下，保持开放，与世界连接，学会与不确定性共舞。因为，不确定性，才孕育着无限的可能。</p>','2025-07-21 09:00:39.093','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3816f575-a501-41ee-b5fd-f3881dd6392a','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>我蛮认同的</p>
<p>虽然我不再依赖香烟</p>
<p>但在一些情况还是香点上一根。</p>
<p>我还是觉得烟有吸引力，但它对我不再重要，我也可以控制我的动作</p>
<p>但习惯确实已经刻在记忆了</p>','2025-07-22 14:02:37.775','2025-07-22 14:02:37.775',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 14:02:37.771',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cde2ae4f-d560-40b3-96c5-b691e9080f08','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>我家小孩每次都10.30pm 后才能睡导致第二天起床无力，会影响上学学习。我太太与小孩之间定下契约需要9.30pm 前睡不然将会法钱。</p>','2025-07-20 07:23:31.814','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('717e06da-18e0-400d-84a0-3c50a0110e63','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>想要让习惯成为生活的一大部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。以前觉得主要的原因是毅力，现在明白了是各方面的，尤其环境是源头。</p>','2025-07-20 12:02:04.416','2025-07-20 12:02:04.416',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 12:02:04.415',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97884df4-8a4f-4973-a4df-3cd65ce23168','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>具有耻辱之心可以成为上进心的推动力。不被耻辱之心打败，要为之感到激发，激发自己走向更美好的自己。</p>','2025-07-20 12:11:26.636','2025-07-20 12:11:26.636',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 12:11:26.635',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('21526a47-80ef-4c09-8c10-12cc3a41e7f8','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>知道自己的不足，<br>不断的修自己，<br>谦卑的修 。。<br>知识，行动，做到<br>才会让自己不断的精进<br>知耻，才能让自己变得更好。</p>','2025-07-20 12:40:15.575','2025-07-20 12:40:15.575',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 12:40:15.573',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a303b59b-edea-467f-be4b-e9597bb233de','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 20 ：7月20 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何打造成功养成好习惯的环境（Page 107-109）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每个习惯都是被提示启动的，而我们比较容易注意到突出的提示。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">创造明显的视觉提示，可以把你的注意力引致你所想要的习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想要让习惯成为生活的一大部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">环境设计让你取回掌控权，成为生活的建构者。</span></p>','2025-07-20 12:50:39.44','2025-07-20 12:51:31.968',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 12:51:31.967',NULL,NULL);
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<p>这也提醒我们，不要把自己禁锢在一个固定的思维当中，想做一件事时就去做，不要有太多的担忧。曾经有个作者跟我说，担忧就是在错误的地方寻求答案和保护，就好像你觉得自己没有房子，有个房子就能解决一半问题一样，那是错误的方向。真正正确的方向是让自己活在当下，积极与周围的世界保持连接，学会与不确定性共舞。不确定性并不意味着不好，不确定性蕴含着无限可能性。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>面对这些不确定性，抱怨和逃避都没用，你唯一能做的就是直面不确定性，做好自己能做的事，以确定性应对不确定性，这一点是可以掌握在我们手中的，并且取决于我们自己的实际</p>','2025-07-20 11:26:46.921','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
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<p>工作的本质是对他人的贡献</p>
<p>他者贡献并不是舍弃&ldquo;我&rdquo;而为他人效劳 它反而是为了能够体会到&ldquo;我&rdquo;的价值而采取的一种手段</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>我们应该思考的不是他人为我做了什么 而是我能为他人做什么 并积极地加以实践 只要拥有了这种贡献精神 眼前的现实就会带有截然不同的色彩</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>的确 世界上并非全是好人 人际关系中也会遭遇到诸多不愉快的事情 但是 在这里 绝对不可以搞错这样一个事实：任何情况下都只是攻击我的&ldquo;那个人&rdquo;有问题 而绝不是&ldquo;大家&rdquo;的错</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>具有神经质生活方式的人常常使用&ldquo;大家&rdquo;&ldquo;总是&rdquo;&ldquo;一切&rdquo;等 词语</p>
<p>&ldquo;大家都讨厌自己&rdquo;&ldquo;总是只有自己受损失&rdquo;&ldquo;一切都不对&rdquo;</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学认为这种生活方式是缺乏&ldquo;人生和谐&rdquo;的生活方式 是一种只凭事物的一部分就来判断整体的生活方式</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>人际关系不顺利既不是因为口吃也不是因为脸红恐惧症 真正的问题在于无法做到自我接纳、他者信赖和他者贡献 却将焦点聚集到微不足道的一个方面并企图以此来评价整个世界 这就是缺乏人生和谐的错误的生活方式</p>','2025-07-20 13:33:52.285','2025-07-20 13:33:52.285',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 13:33:52.284',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74b3874c-92fd-4db0-9ea3-1b89c333cf57','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>想要让提示更有效，就要把它设置在环境明显的地方</p>','2025-07-20 14:17:37.799','2025-07-20 14:17:37.799',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:17:37.798',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f64f12b3-6ada-4121-8f2e-86a25ce6c86d','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>比较的结果其实并不重要，重要的是其中的过程</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>自认为没有别人优秀的话，那就更不能自我封闭、止步不前，而应在比较中看到对方究竟是哪些方面比你优秀，从而弥补自身的不足，这样做才是比较的真正意义所在）（个人懂得理性地比较后，他就能减少自身的负面情绪。</p>
<p>从事物本身出发，追寻事物的根本，从中吸取更多的知识，不断完善自身，使自己更加强大，&rdquo;</p>','2025-07-20 11:28:38.13','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fcdd2c6c-880e-4866-b767-6f4e9c9f4e14','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>了解自己的强项和弱点，才能发挥自己的特长。</p>','2025-08-14 15:48:02.708','2025-08-14 15:48:02.708',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:48:02.692',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fb6c0f07-8ac7-4d2e-b8f4-7d6b4a033a33','d522e32b-0274-406f-a168-7f93922a42b9','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>捆绑诱惑是把想要和必须要做的事情连结。</p>','2025-07-23 14:17:46.166','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6e1d3f3-9958-4d9f-b7ac-1e7b0dc3292e','32aa94a9-e031-4629-915a-527f33b79fa1','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>你做岀来的事，终将返回到你身上</p>','2025-07-22 02:11:40.609','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fbe8d395-ccff-4849-9b09-27c16be7e59e','75caee7a-c51a-4499-a681-a2c392529fa4','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>习惯会让你变成你像要成为的人</p>','2025-07-28 14:23:41.172','2025-07-28 14:23:41.172',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-28 14:23:41.171',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9b511f39-3d15-49e6-9dbb-4ddc41078d52','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>专注在擅长的，找到心流。</p>','2025-08-14 15:55:00.104','2025-08-14 15:55:00.104',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:55:00.103',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7ac82b7-caa8-41b2-a688-64230b841739','771cbcd5-b328-4c5b-8cc2-a3f072cb1991','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy emphasizes that the true meaning of work does not lie in self-fulfillment, but in contributing to others.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>No matter what kind of job we do, its real value is found in how it benefits others and supports the community.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Contribution is not about abandoning yourself to serve others; rather, it is through helping others that you naturally experience your own value and sense of belonging.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When we think about how we can be useful to others, we develop a spirit of dedication and cooperation - working alongside others with mutual respect and trust.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler also believed that in horizontal relationships, everyone is equal regardless of age. More importantly, we all have the power to change and grow, no matter how old we are.</p>','2025-07-20 13:40:12.058','2025-07-20 13:40:12.058',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 13:40:12.057',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b7ca57c0-45a6-4694-b13b-e8f98fc32e96','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>創造明顯的視覺提示可以把你的注意力引致你想要的習慣。想要讓習慣成為生活的一大部份，就讓提示成為環境的一大部份。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-20 13:52:26.546','2025-07-20 13:52:33.57',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 13:52:33.569',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fd96e2b7-f617-4df9-95e3-0eb044c4306c','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>创造明显的视觉提示，可以把注意力引致想要的习惯。环境也是一大部分。</p>','2025-07-20 14:07:06.723','2025-07-20 14:07:06.723',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:07:06.722',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('84d40d59-d748-464a-b24b-55d82e6a8a66','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>佛家有说：知自己是愚痴人者，实际上他是智者。没记错的话，儒也这么说：觉得自己傻者，实际上是聪明人。</p>
<p>人唯有知道自己的不足，才会不断学习与反省，同时注重资讯和善知识。</p>','2025-07-20 14:16:19.783','2025-07-20 14:16:19.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:16:19.782',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a75aa754-681f-4666-a4dd-e3c22aea1b89','771cbcd5-b328-4c5b-8cc2-a3f072cb1991','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>我们应该思考的不是他人为我做了什么，而是我能为他人做什么，这句话非常有价值，但是却记不要为了他人而完全牺牲自己。这是我送个自己的一句话。</p>','2025-07-20 14:22:57.396','2025-07-20 14:22:57.396',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:22:57.396',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9367962-81d3-48ad-a8c7-9591a69b54db','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>想要让习惯成为生活的一大部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。非常认可创造明显的视觉提示。回想自己平时的习惯，确实因为明显视觉而养成了一种习惯。</p>','2025-07-20 14:32:26.534','2025-07-20 14:32:26.534',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:32:26.533',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e7decb3-68ae-4bc7-9d37-d0eead545a14','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>一直以来我们都知道知错能改，善莫大焉。而知道自己的不足就加以增进，有羞耻心并不丢脸。重要的是进修自己更多的知识点，如果总是找借口或理由而不思进取就只能原地踏步，无法进步。</p>','2025-07-20 14:33:26.86','2025-07-20 14:33:26.86',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:33:26.859',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c31e99f7-18a9-4f51-a748-310ca81b1cc3','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>&ldquo;知耻&rdquo;才能让自己变得更好。现在年轻人喜欢通过网络了解各类信息 对看书没什么兴趣。有些人可能觉得自己是个普通人，也没有静静心去看书学习。孟子说过一句话：不耻不若人，何若人有．不以赶不上别人人为耻，又怎么能赶得上别人呢？所以说，&ldquo;－事不知 以为生耻&rdquo;一件事情不知道就深深感到羞耻：知道丢脸就是好事，支持才能后勇 就会想办法提升自己，让自己读书丰富大脑的知识 这样我们才能守护好自己的道德底线，做个自尊善良坚持道义的人。</p>','2025-07-20 14:38:24.7','2025-07-20 14:38:24.7',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:38:24.699',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1cf707ab-cd62-46c1-9361-8b6390e614d7','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">💡 真正的通达，从</span><span class="s2">认识自己</span><span class="s1">开始。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 36 ：7月20 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;知耻&ldquo;才能让自己变得更好（Page 159-162）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">知耻是重要的修养。如果不懂，再高的学历，再聪明都是不受到尊重。</span></p>','2025-07-20 14:51:09.32','2025-07-20 14:51:12.955',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:51:12.954',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed7ad494-2a5f-40f4-b27f-0ccb92164cb0','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 36 ：7月20 日 《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</p>
<p>&ldquo;知耻&ldquo;才能让自己变得更好（Page 159-162）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>人，要有羞耻之心，知耻而后勇。</p>','2025-07-20 14:54:06.933','2025-07-20 14:54:06.933',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 14:54:06.931',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed1974dc-e414-4464-a867-7f6a2f9ed9eb','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 20 ：7月20 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何打造成功养成好习惯的环境（Page 107-109）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">让好习惯显而易见，你的生活就会自然向好。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">别只是活在别人设计的世界里，设计你自己的行为场景。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-20 15:03:35.751','2025-07-20 15:03:35.751',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:03:35.75',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('603ee6a3-4b90-4e7b-971f-a21c734072de','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>让提示成为环境一大部分，让习惯显而易见。</p>','2025-07-20 15:24:00.465','2025-07-20 15:24:00.465',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:24:00.464',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a4f21a5f-6451-4482-8453-c2d47f672ed7','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 36 ：7月20 日 《人生的底气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;知耻&ldquo;才能让自己变得更好</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">知道自己有不足的地方，就应该积极修正自己，提升自己，而不是说有不足就算了，就这样吧了！反正我有的比别人更强的地方，这是永远不会有进步的.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">具有耻辱之心，对于人真的至关重要，它可以激发我们的上进心，让我们产生提升自己、奋发图强的动力.</span></p>','2025-07-20 15:28:01.955','2025-07-20 15:28:01.955',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:28:01.953',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3f140167-6226-4b97-9a6a-001d92969330','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 20&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>20&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>1 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让提示显而易见</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">如何打造成功养成好习惯的环境（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 107-109<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>让提示成为环境的一大部分。建设明显提示视觉，养成一种习惯。</p>','2025-07-20 15:05:50.652','2025-07-20 15:05:50.652',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:05:50.651',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05b6af3d-4ec6-4f16-bbeb-44cae73c49f9','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 36&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>20&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&ldquo;知耻&ldquo;才能让自己变得更好（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 159-162<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p><br><br>&ldquo;一事不知，以为深耻&rdquo;，知道自己有不足的地方，就应该积极修正自己、提升自己。耻而后勇，是自我成长的开端，也是人格成熟的关键。</p>','2025-07-20 15:09:22.78','2025-07-20 15:09:22.78',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:09:22.779',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29b0d0be-c571-4a7c-8091-8c1c2b48e7f9','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>想要让好习惯成为生命中的一部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。</p>','2025-07-20 15:32:06.011','2025-07-20 15:32:42.696',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:32:42.695',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4847903c-a4cf-49c0-98a4-6c38324e0847','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>有知耻之心，做错事会惭愧，辜负了别人的期望会内疚，行为不当会难过，才能保护好自己的道德底线</p>','2025-07-20 15:33:12.526','2025-07-20 15:33:12.526',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:33:12.525',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('264f9c5c-274b-456f-945e-28d337136d64','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>环境摆设成为触发习惯的机制</p>
<p>要成为习惯，就要越容易被看见，降低执行难度</p>','2025-07-20 15:40:03.356','2025-07-20 15:40:03.356',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:40:03.355',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('11aca556-2b77-46a3-b6bb-dab1117aadbb','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">&ldquo;知耻&ldquo;才能让自己变得更好（</span>Page 159-162<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>知耻之心，是人成熟和守住道德底线的根本。一旦做错了事，有羞耻感的人会感到惭愧，辜负别人期待时会内疚，行为不当也会感到不安。正因为知耻，人才能不断修正、提升自己，成为有自尊、有担当、有底气的人。</p>
<p>康有为曾说：&ldquo;人之有所不为，皆赖有耻心。&rdquo;而那些巧言令色、耍手段搞阴谋的人，正是缺乏这种羞耻感。就像孟子批评的那样：&ldquo;为机变之巧者，无所用耻焉。&rdquo;&mdash;&mdash;意指那些擅长权谋算计的人，根本不懂什么叫羞耻。这样的人即使再聪明、再能干，也终究难以赢得他人的信任和重用。</p>
<p>读后感悟</p>
<p>我觉得&ldquo;知耻&rdquo;其实是内在修养的表现。一个人若没有羞耻感，再聪明也只是机巧而已，不值得信赖。反而愿意承认不足、勇敢改正的人，才会让人敬佩，也更能不断成长。</p>','2025-07-20 15:42:00.62','2025-07-20 15:42:00.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:42:00.619',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('676dac32-ba43-44ed-ad59-332046bb023d','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 20 ：7月20 日《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何打造成功养成好习惯的环境</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要重新设计环境，并让触发你想要的习惯的提示更为明显，可以尝试下列几个方法 : </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*想要每天晚上记得吃药，就把药瓶直接放在浴室洗手台的水龙头旁.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*当要更常练习吉他，就把吉他立在客厅正中央. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*想要记得寄送更多感谢函, 就在桌上摆放一组文具. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*想要多喝水，就每天早上把几个瓶子装满水，分别放在家里几个常待的地方.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想要让习惯成为生活的一大部分，就让提示称为环境的一大部分.</span></p>','2025-07-20 15:40:19.136','2025-07-20 15:40:50.948',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:40:50.946',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('71061809-1490-4b88-a0ca-0d16443cec16','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>具有耻辱之心，运用正当就是激发向上学习之心，懂得惭愧、内疚、难过，守护好道德底线。</p>
<p>反之，脑海里就会一直想要报复。</p>','2025-07-20 15:46:23.12','2025-07-20 15:46:23.12',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:46:23.119',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('19551fee-10ba-44bb-b2b5-d2e10d64c740','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>1） &ldquo;一个空间，一个用途&rdquo;。例如：沙发是看电视，聚会的地方。书桌是看书的地方。工作和社交用的手机和看书、听书的手机是分开的。那么，看书比较不容易被干扰。</p>
<p>2）习惯不是依靠单一提示所启动，而是和围绕着该行为的整个情境连结。一个习惯，与特定的情境连结。例如：逛书店会买书，顺便逛逛文具部。睡前把手机放在床边的桌子，就会让自己刷手机。</p>
<p>3）新环境比较容易改变习惯，不用花力气去对抗旧习惯。例如：去熟悉的超市会顺道逛超市隔壁的零食店。新的超市，会尝试买不同的食物。</p>
<p>4）避免把一个习惯和它的情境和另一个习惯和它的情境混合在一起。那么，那个比较轻松的习惯是比较容易长久发生。例如：沙发是看电视的地方，沙发也是看书的地方。那么，看书的机会几乎较少。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-19 14:47:51.098','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3690d9cc-80b6-4cee-80e8-54c8ace7df7a','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">想要让习惯成为生活的一大部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。</span></p>','2025-07-20 15:55:07.266','2025-07-20 15:55:07.266',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:55:07.265',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f72f92a5-566b-40ad-8258-558f0905399d','771cbcd5-b328-4c5b-8cc2-a3f072cb1991','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 28 7月20日 (星期日)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第五夜 认真的人生&ldquo;活在当下&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">工作的本质是对他人的贡献</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">当共同体感觉并不是仅凭自我接纳和他者信赖就可以获得的. 这里还需要第三个关键词 &ldquo;他者页献&rdquo;😅</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">对作为伙伴的他人给影响， 做出贡献这就是他者贡献.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">他的贡献并不是舍弃&ldquo;我&rdquo;而为他的效劳，他反而是为了能够体会到&ldquo;我&rdquo;的价值而采取的一种手段.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们通过劳动来实现他者贡献参与共同体体会，我对他的有用，进而获得自己的存在价值.</span></p>','2025-07-20 15:57:04.906','2025-07-20 15:57:06.113',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 15:57:06.112',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af82e758-7a93-448c-a695-b30ee6169955','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>每个习惯都是被提示启动的，所以我们要创造一个容易触发这个行为的生活与工作环境。当习惯提示被隐藏起来或不显眼时，就很容易被忽视。</li>
<li>创造明显的视觉提示，例如：想要更常练吉他，去把吉他立在客厅正中央；想要多喝水，就在每天早上把几个瓶子装满水，分别放在家里几个你常待的地方。</li>
<li>想要让习惯成为生活的一部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。</li>
<li>在周遭设置各种触发习惯的提示，让好习惯的提示就在你眼前，做出更好的决定就变得轻松自然。</li>
<li>环境设计让你取回掌控权，成为生活的建构者。</li>
</ul>','2025-07-20 15:59:28.553','2025-07-20 16:15:10.306',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 16:15:10.305',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4967a810-2ede-47f1-8aff-2d8e3f78cef3','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>不同环境有不同功能，若同时做不同事情难建立固定习惯</p>','2025-07-20 23:07:34.359','2025-07-20 23:07:34.359',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 23:07:34.358',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5bbfa520-f347-4d23-9b18-eaa6384e1058','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>一个人不要怕犯错，最可怕是犯错了也选择逃避。</p>
<p>知道犯错了，就大家共同探讨，达成共识，把问题解决掉。</p>','2025-07-17 01:59:08.701','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('328b4cf2-01f2-4294-b053-2fb8cb5d57ce','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;害怕面對錯误, 而选擇逃避 是不能解决问题的, 最后可能會后患無窮.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-17 01:37:50.165','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a93a4ed1-04da-4504-ba98-2ecd767db566','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>该面对的问题还是得面对，不会因为你忽视它就会消失。<br>我们往往都会视问题而不见，而选择逃避方式来应对它，但它其实就是我们的生活考题，是需要我们正视的面对，当问题绝决后，也就是我们学到的时候。</p>','2025-07-19 07:57:27.244','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('149cc48c-acc4-47aa-87b4-3ffe82a4e17e','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>敢于面对问题.找出问题,解决它.果断.做领导更要敢承担后果.</p>
<p>不要报喜而不报忧.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-19 08:48:53.943','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dde070f0-a0d5-4571-9d59-4600c30046f2','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>逃避永远解决不了问题。而且问题本身是中性的，只有转念，去面对它才可以把事情做好。</p>','2025-07-19 10:29:00.355','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d7ffc8d-fa6f-40ee-9e55-d756e0850b24','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>犯错不是问题。來自电影《江湖》的名言：</p>
<p>说了你又不听，听又不懂，懂又不做，做又做错，错又不认，认又不改，改又不服，不服又不说！</p>
<p>公司的高层总不喜欢不同意见的同事一起开会，免得发生矛盾。</p>
<p>这样事，到处都有，不见怪。</p>','2025-07-20 04:14:42.484','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6039371e-9ab8-4359-b4cc-644a8aabfc46','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>最怕的不是犯错，而是不敢面对自己的错误，面对错误时也是选择逃避。</p>','2025-07-20 06:43:41.448','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('843d2151-0d1a-496f-95ab-7f072162b33c','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>随着时间推移，我们的习惯不只是依赖单一的提示，而是和整个行为发生的情境绑在一起。那个情境本身，成了习惯的信号。在全新的环境里培养习惯，会更简单，因为不用和旧的提示&ldquo;抢地盘&rdquo;。</p>
<p>所以，尽量避免让不同习惯的情境混在一起，保持每个习惯都有独特的&ldquo;舞台&rdquo;，让它们更容易生长和持续。</p>','2025-07-20 10:22:47.382','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2d5e1339-2698-4808-8f54-69b502d88567','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>个人也好，一个企业也好，最怕的不是犯错，而是不敢面对自己的错误，面对错误时也是选择逃避，&ldquo;顾左右而言他&rdquo;，这是很可怕的。而且还有一种可能，一些人就像案例中的李在镕一样，根本不知道这件事。如果你能珍惜开会时问题暴露出来的机会，和大家共同探讨，就会更容易形成共识，把问题彻底解决掉。</p>','2025-07-20 11:23:52.569','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e611047b-4b38-4a8d-9ad6-3e88e4b08e3d','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>一个人或一家企业，最可怕的不是犯错，而是不敢面对错误、选择逃避问题。</p>
<p>问题不可怕，逃避才真正致命。</p>
<p>只有直面问题、勇于承担，才能突破困境，持续成长。</p>','2025-07-20 13:39:04.402','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d3fa3126-39bf-4928-8ebc-c4458e389ad1','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 21 ：7月21 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情境是触发习惯的提示（Page 109-114）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个空间，一个用途。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">尽量避免一个习惯的情境跟另一个习惯的情境混在一起。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">享受让行为变得稳定且可预测，就需要稳定且可预测的环境。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个凡事各安其位、各司其职的稳定环境，就是可以轻松养成习惯的环境。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">随着时间过去，情境的小改变可能造成行为的变化。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每个习惯都是被提示触发。我们比较容易注意到突发的提示。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">让环境里可以触发好习惯的提示显而易见。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">最新的环境养成新的习惯比较简单，因为不用对抗旧提示。</span></p>','2025-07-20 13:06:52.248','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d79faf77-97c5-418d-aade-ffd8669ea00a','1af260b0-2130-4041-8506-3fb5c1911789','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>只凭事物的一部分来判断整体的生活方式就是缺乏人生和谐的生活方式。</p>
<p>因为工作忙，所以无暇顾及家庭的词语，只不过是以工作为借口来逃避其他责任，是一种不敢正视人生课题的生活方式。其实公司的工作只不过是一小部分而已。</p>','2025-07-21 01:04:30.524','2025-07-21 01:04:30.524',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 01:04:30.523',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5183e786-eb68-4513-bac0-d4a73730f8ec','32aa94a9-e031-4629-915a-527f33b79fa1','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>予人玫瑰，手有余香。</p>
<p>帮助别人并不指望对方报答，只是想起时仍然会觉得温暖。</p>
<p>想让别人对你好，就应该善待对方。</p>
<p>孟子说:爱人者人恒爱之，敬人者人恒敬之&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-21 02:35:42.734','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59933cd7-a4d4-462b-9620-5faafa163436','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>坐在书桌上就专心学习。</p>
<p>坐在小客厅的电脑前就放松下来看塲好电影解说。</p>
<p>早上起来站在电脑前超慢跑。</p>
<p>楼上小房是我硏发香气的空间。</p>
<p>－躺在床上就是好好休息睡觉的地方。</p>
<p>一个各安其位、各司其职的安静环境，就是养成良好习惯的好环境。</p>','2025-07-21 03:52:59.781','2025-07-21 03:52:59.781',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 03:52:59.78',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0fc7ddc-724d-4296-a06a-724c26ee6c18','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>通常我都是第一個把大象抓出來。因為我根本不管人家怎麼看我。</p>','2025-07-21 06:32:11.026','2025-07-21 06:32:11.026',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 06:32:11.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb3737f4-1509-4c56-b922-d649a52ccba3','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>一隻手機可以讓我拿來做幾百億的生意。</p>
<p>慢慢地到哪裡我都可以工作。然後慢慢地我就無時無刻都在想工作的事情。</p>
<p>手機實在太恐怖了。</p>','2025-07-21 06:35:26.229','2025-07-21 06:35:26.229',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 06:35:26.228',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e8eecfa0-b699-48c7-a0b8-acd3928a0b8f','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>最害怕的不是问题的发生，最怕的是面对问题避而不见。有问题不马上解决，最后变的无可救药。</p>','2025-07-21 08:30:59.041','2025-07-21 08:32:13.864',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 08:32:13.863',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('010fffde-1062-4836-9e00-e323dafc0301','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>建立好习惯的第二法则是让习惯具有吸引力。一个机会越有吸引力就越有可能成为习惯。</p>','2025-07-21 08:45:30.029','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a6a771c2-4c61-402a-9d7e-67e2a058b7e3','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>凡事都有两面，正与负，好与坏</p>
<p>那一面被放大，都取决于我自己</p>
<p>放大善的一面，人就会变得仁慈友善。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-21 00:19:11.245','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cecb77fb-6a6d-4554-a7be-d24acf3686a2','d522e32b-0274-406f-a168-7f93922a42b9','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>诱惑捆绑的运作方式，就是把想要做的事情跟必须做的事情绑在一起。如:把爱看的netfix(想要做的事）跟骑自行车（必须做的事）绑在一起。</p>','2025-07-21 02:06:10.946','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fd342145-7fbc-4096-bb11-c7870804b26e','90f19501-99f4-44a7-9ee0-0420a434e7d7','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>善良的内心，胜过外在的虚名。</p>
<p>做任何事都遵从本心本性，带给自己内心平衡，不会被外界的环境，欲望或虚名所困扰。</p>
<p>只要问心无愧，别人的议论又算什么呢？</p>','2025-07-21 02:25:19.032','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e9c549f-7d22-4d80-8a2d-1828ee74f041','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>学会活在当下，不要害怕不确定性反而应该去期待，人生得以精彩。以不变应万变，相信自己有能力去承担责任，然后从错误中学习，立即改正。知错能改，善莫大焉。</p>','2025-07-21 14:16:03.357','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76811247-a21d-4fdc-a020-878e99871bb0','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>金发女孩区，这个名词让我不带理解？只知道进入了心流状态，沉淀其中非常棒的体验，不会累也很享受的过程。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-21 12:51:06.044','2025-08-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-15 00:00:00.022','2025-08-15 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c6198c8-c537-4a58-8fa6-816fb4f9bc62','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>逃避，永远无法解决问题。<br>我们在生活中，能不能接受问题？</p>
<p>如不敢面对它，不让大家一起讨论，去解决它，只会让小问题越来越严重。到滚到爆开在阳光下时，就是组织走入紧急病房的时刻了。</p>
<p>坦然的面对，谦卑的接受，正面的修正，才是组织的正道</p>','2025-07-21 12:42:05.25','2025-07-21 12:42:05.25',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 12:42:05.249',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f6678f7-d429-4c4a-ab75-4ae50523afce','1af260b0-2130-4041-8506-3fb5c1911789','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>任何情况下都只是攻击我的&ldquo;那个人&rdquo;有问题，而绝不是&ldquo;大家&rdquo;的错。<br><br>阿德勒心理学认为这种灾难性想法是缺乏&ldquo;人生和谐&rdquo;的生活方式，只凭事物的一部分来判断整体的 生活方式。<br>10个人，1个讨厌我，2个能够成为与我互相接纳一切的好朋友，剩下7个两者都不是。<br>那我应该选择关注那一部分？缺乏人生和谐的人会只关注讨厌自己的那个人来判断 这个世界。</p>
<p>人际关系不顺利不是外在口吃身材矮或什么不利因素，而是无法自我接纳，他者信赖和他者贡献，自身将焦点focus在一个微不足道的小方面并且企图这样子来看整个世界都这样看自己。<br><br><br>工作狂 只是因为以工作为借口来逃避其他责任。<br>青年工作狂父亲只能以 行为标准来认可自己在家中或人生的价值。<br>可是当不能工作时候，用行为标准来接受自己的人终会受到非常严重的打击。<br><br>、</p>
<p>按照行为标准或是存在标准来接受自己，正是获得幸福的勇气的问题。</p>','2025-07-21 12:47:41.721','2025-07-21 12:47:56.036',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 12:47:56.035',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0792b083-da89-4b3c-8ce2-2c774e07878f','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>这几页很好👍.</p>
<p>1.不确定是常态.凡事发生都是最好的字排.学会与不确定生活</p>
<p>2.确定了,就少了动力,少了突破,少了精彩人生.</p>
<p>3.错,就敢承认,承担后果.改进自己,从中当习.反思,反省自己,总结,再做.</p>
<p>4.做在影响圈里.</p>
<p>5.想做就做.做正确的事.人生大不了三万多天,体验人生.精彩人生</p>
<p>4.</p>
<p>3.</p>','2025-07-19 09:46:07.61','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('43ee53dd-58e0-4bd1-852b-6cc9898aad54','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>我很喜欢多巴胺峰值的这个提示，让我看到种种的提示，告诉我们多巴胺如何掌控我们的情绪，让我们去改变我们的这一个习惯，变得更有吸引力。</p>','2025-07-24 15:05:33.608','2025-07-24 15:05:33.608',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-24 15:05:33.606',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('63778a42-b202-4280-885f-8c3175046524','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>人性本善，千万不要遗失这个可贵的天性</p>','2025-07-24 15:32:42.71','2025-07-24 15:32:42.71',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-24 15:32:42.709',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5dec6456-d48f-4c3d-b8d9-02ae4c7e52d3','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>情境一变，习惯也跟着不同</p>
<p>自律者擅长建构生活，让自己不需要意志力和自制力。他们不常让自己处于充满诱惑的情境</p>
<p>最有自制力的人通常是最少用到自制力的人</p>','2025-07-22 06:37:45.62','2025-07-22 06:40:12.506',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 06:40:12.492',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('155d5778-ec0b-4738-99e3-e18a7ac054f7','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>Just Nice is the key</p>','2025-08-15 13:26:10.163','2025-08-15 13:26:10.163',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 13:26:10.16',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fbe4a31d-e388-4fa4-80b5-17740977597f','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>了解渴望的本质，了解人类对各种事物或食品的超常刺激反应，为想培养的好习惯添加类似的刺激元素，有着不可抵挡的诱惑。</p>','2025-07-23 14:52:46.068','2025-07-23 14:52:46.068',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 14:52:46.067',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('94dd102e-b45e-424e-bb6c-8179a0ceb787','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 24 ：7月24 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则2 &ndash; 让习惯有吸引力</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">多巴胺驱动的回馈迴路</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有趣的是，接收奖项时大脑里被启动的奖项系统，跟预期奖赏时被启动的系统是同一个. 期待某个经验的感觉往往比获得那个经验更好，这便是原因之一.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">科学家 : 这便是[想要]与[喜欢]的差異.</span></p>','2025-07-24 15:34:37.062','2025-07-24 15:34:37.062',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-24 15:34:37.061',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b68da1a-f498-40cf-a2e3-728b53b99369','2bf88dc4-f8f3-47e1-85e8-364f1658b689','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>仁义之心，无往不利</p>','2025-07-28 14:50:42.822','2025-07-28 14:52:21.392',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-28 14:52:21.391',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('177a1078-e924-421a-acb1-4d1ae68de8cf','9b5e0a6b-4a47-4716-bf46-0b7128e48b53','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>我们自己的浩然之气可以从培养自己的正知正见中开始获得。当我们自己仰不愧于天时就是在正道上了 🙏</p>','2025-07-21 12:43:17.457','2025-07-29 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-07-29 00:00:00.023','2025-07-29 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('00b1d758-e529-407b-89cf-826a9caefcaf','7a065da6-8513-449c-befb-8f7cbc628137','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>承诺机制是用当下做的选择来控制未来的行为，透过让坏习惯在当下变得困难，增加了我们未来做正确之事的可能性。</p>
<p>破除恶习最好的方法，就是让恶习的执行变得不切实际。</p>
<p>一次性的选择起初需要费点心力，但价值会随着时间不断增高。</p>','2025-07-22 14:07:42.248','2025-08-04 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-04 00:00:00.026','2025-08-04 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6310b094-6eee-4a7e-a360-15a66fa6c5e8','1af260b0-2130-4041-8506-3fb5c1911789','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>工作狂则是只关注人生特定的侧面。</p>
<p>也许他们会辩解说：&ldquo;因为工作忙，所以无暇顾及家庭。&rdquo;但是，这其实是人生的谎言。只不过是以工作为借口来逃避其他责任。本来家务、育儿、交友或兴趣应该全都给予关心。</p>
<p>在某种意义上来说，这是一种不敢正视人生课题的生活方式。&ldquo;工作&rdquo;并不仅仅是指在公司上班。家庭里的工作、育儿、对地域社会的贡献、兴趣等，这一切都是&ldquo;工作&rdquo;，公司等只不过是一小部分而已</p>','2025-07-21 13:03:19.207','2025-07-21 13:03:19.207',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 13:03:19.205',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('58555ca2-88b0-41ba-9904-1be99b155434','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>每个习惯都是被提示触发的，将它在恰当的情景中显而易见</p>','2025-07-21 13:28:44.535','2025-07-21 13:28:44.535',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 13:28:44.534',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fd848a48-3331-4e46-845e-20effbff3790','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 21 ：7月21 日《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情境是触发习惯的提示</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯可能不只跟单一提示联想在一起，而是以周围绕着该行为的整个情景连结.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">定义行为的并非环境中的物品，而是我们与物品的关系. 这是个很有用的想法，能帮助我们思考环境对行为的影响，要认为环境中充满关係.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在新环境中比较容易改变习惯，这可以帮助你逃脱那些不易觉察，却会把你推回现有习惯的提示，去一个新的地方，不同的咖啡厅，公园的长椅，房间里鲜少用到的角落，然后在那里创造一项新的例行公事.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">尽量避免把一个习惯的情景跟另外一个习惯的情节混在一起，当情景混合习惯也会开始混合在一起，到头来胜利的通常是比较轻松的.</span></p>','2025-07-21 13:37:37.775','2025-07-21 13:37:37.775',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 13:37:37.774',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e8f63107-01f2-4b38-8a96-865e29e8c1bd','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>无论公司、家庭、社团、交际等，一旦有问最好尽快处理，否则问题会成为难以收捨的局面。</p>','2025-07-21 13:46:06.403','2025-07-21 13:46:06.403',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 13:46:06.402',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('043315f6-3297-4869-9f1a-236232f00210','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 37 ：7月21 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">逃避永远无法解决问题</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;房间里的大象&rdquo;意思是说房间里有一头大象，可是所有人都假装看不见这种现象，在很多企业中都会出现，就是大家都知道，明明某些环节有问题，可谁都不说，不提也不去解决，仍有问题发展之道造成不可挽回的损失.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个人也好，一个企业也好，哪怕的不是犯错，而是不敢面对自己的错误，面对错误时也是选择逃避顾左右而言他，这是很可怕的. 而且还有一种可能一些人就像根本不知道这件事情，如果你能珍惜开会时问题暴露出来的机会和大家共同探讨聚会，更容易形成共识，把问题彻底解决掉.</span></p>','2025-07-21 13:57:00.324','2025-07-21 13:57:02.011',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 13:57:02.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('57f93dd5-8fe8-4495-8670-76c4ea08867b','1af260b0-2130-4041-8506-3fb5c1911789','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>I find the question &ldquo;Why is being a workaholic a life-lie?&rdquo; quite meaningful, because it used to describe me. I used to feel uneasy, insecure, and care too much about how I appeared to others. I was also afraid of being criticized if I didn&rsquo;t work hard enough.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>According to Adler&rsquo;s philosophy, working hard doesn&rsquo;t always mean you love your work - it can also be a way to escape from the difficulties in your life.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler also emphasizes that &ldquo;work&rdquo; doesn&rsquo;t only refer to a job or career. It includes all aspects of life.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>What we truly need is to face life with love, build healthy connections with others, contribute to society, and develop a sense of belonging.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Now, I&rsquo;m learning to slow down, accept myself, and face the real issues in my life instead of hiding behind constant busyness.</p>','2025-07-21 14:00:22.961','2025-07-21 14:00:22.961',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 14:00:22.96',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b8593fa1-c1ab-4359-be53-26a223152773','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>的确很多时候我们会对一些事情避而不谈，不能实质性地解决问题。要直面问题或面对他人的批评不是件容易的事，心里肯定不那么好受。但如果我们跨越了，就能明白其实不是什么大事。只要是对事不对人，大家都会理解，一切面对问题解决困难。</p>','2025-07-21 14:06:45.844','2025-07-21 14:06:45.844',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 14:06:45.843',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ede850ea-f120-491e-abc7-3e00ce254768','1af260b0-2130-4041-8506-3fb5c1911789','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 29 7月21日 (星期一)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第五夜 认真的人生&ldquo;活在当下&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;工作狂&rdquo;是人生谎言</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">任何情况下都只有攻击我的&ldquo;那个人&rdquo;有问题，而绝不是&ldquo;大家&rdquo;的错.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学认为缺乏&ldquo;人生和谐&rdquo;的生活方式，是一种只凭事物的一部分来判断整体的生活方式.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">假如有10个人，其中势必会有一个人无论遇到什么事都会批判你，他讨厌你，你也不喜欢他. 而且，10个人中也会有两2个人能够成为与你互相接纳一切的好朋友，剩下的7人则两者都不是.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">这种时候是关注讨厌的你的那个人呢? 还是聚焦于非常喜欢你的那2个人？抑或是关注其他作为大多数的7个人？ 缺乏人生和谐的人就会只关注讨厌自己的那个人来判断&ldquo;世界&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">将焦点聚集到微不足道的一个方面并企图以此来评价整个世界. 这就是缺乏人生和谐的错误生活方式.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;工作狂&rdquo;的人. 这些人也缺乏人生和谐. 也许他们会解释说 : &ldquo;因为工作忙，所以无暇顾及家庭.&rdquo;. 但是，这其实是人生的谎言，只不过是以工作为借口来逃避其他责任. 本来家务，育儿、交友或兴趣应该全都给予关心，阿德勒不认可任何一方突出的生活方式. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在某种意义上来说，这是一种不敢正视人生课题的生活方式. &ldquo;工作&rdquo;并不仅仅是指在工作上班，家庭里的工作，育儿、对地域社会的贡献、兴趣等，这一切都是&ldquo;工作&rdquo;，公司只不过是一小部分而已. 只考虑公司工作，那是一种缺乏人生和谐的生活方式. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">只能靠&ldquo;行为标准&rdquo;来认可自己的价值. 认为自己工作了这些时间、挣了足以养活家人的钱、也得到了社会的认可，所以自己就是家里最有价值的人.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">但是，任何人都有自己不再是生产者的时候.<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>这个时候，只能用&ldquo;行为标准&rdquo;来接受自己的人总会感到非常严重的打击.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">按照&ldquo;行为标准&rdquo;来接受自己还是按照&ldquo;存在标准&rdquo;来接受自己，这正是一个有关&ldquo;获得幸福的勇气&rdquo;的问题. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-21 14:31:56.272','2025-07-21 14:31:57.208',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 14:31:57.206',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">逃避永远无法解决问题（Page 163-166）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">最可怕的不是犯错，而是不敢面对错误</span><span class="s1">。不敢面对问题，只会逃避、遮掩，甚至连自己哪里出错都不知道&mdash;&mdash;这才是最危险的。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">勇敢面对，比掩饰更有力量。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-21 14:48:02.386','2025-07-21 14:48:02.386',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 14:48:02.385',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('379e88f6-665f-49a0-97c2-eca3f458087a','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 37 ：7月21 日 《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</p>
<p>逃避永远无法解决问题（Page 163-166）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>学会珍惜面对争执与冲突，因为这表示大家看到了问题的存在，而要去解决面对。纵使过程会令人不快或不舒服，但是逃避会更快让问题恶化。</p>','2025-07-21 15:04:51.004','2025-07-21 15:04:51.004',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:04:51.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6670c9ba-5138-489e-b0fb-1ad0df44a413','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p>在《人生的底气》第五章中，&ldquo;逃避永远无法解决问题&rdquo;这一节提醒我们：无论是个人还是集体，最可怕的不是犯错，而是逃避错误，假装问题不存在。</p>
<p>作者以&ldquo;房间里的大象&rdquo;为例，形容明明大家都知道的问题，却无人敢提、无人正视。这种现象常见于企业、家庭或团体中。逃避只是暂时的遮掩，问题终究会扩大，甚至造成无法挽回的损失。</p>
<p>相比之下，敢于在会议或讨论中把问题说出来、集思广益，反而是转危为安的契机。因为问题一旦被看见、被讨论，就有被解决的可能。一个真正有底气的人，懂得直面问题、不顾左右而言他，而是诚实面对、积极修正。</p>','2025-07-21 15:07:57.21','2025-07-21 15:07:57.21',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:07:57.209',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ad47465-7b52-4743-b9f7-8cd907041ddb','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>让每个习惯都有自己的&ldquo;家&rdquo;，区分不同区域空间。</p>','2025-07-21 15:12:30.554','2025-07-21 15:12:30.554',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:12:30.551',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('37e93e74-8ce7-49f2-8933-f15f1ea79d8d','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">道理大家都懂，但谁有那个勇气在会议里提出问题和或者心里知道自己根本没有解决方案。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有时大家的争执会让这件事情更容易达成真正的认同，否则一直掩盖这件事，很可能会后患无穷。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">珍惜开会时问题曝露出来的机会，和大家共同探讨，就会更容易形成共识，把问题彻底解决掉。</span></p>','2025-07-21 15:13:47.724','2025-07-21 15:13:47.724',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:13:47.723',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('525a8264-8754-4782-8a11-276ee892a6cd','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>在新的环境养成新的习惯比较简单，因为不用对抗旧提示。</p>
<p><br>尽量避免把一个习惯的情景跟另一个习惯的混合在一起。当情景混合，习惯也开始混合，到头来获胜的永远是最轻松的一方。</p>','2025-07-21 15:47:38.023','2025-07-21 15:47:38.023',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:47:38.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d9af9f4-b18c-489b-8c6a-49fcd0f63062','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>情境的力量~在新的环境比较容易改变习惯。</p>
<p>一个空间，一个用途。如:床&gt;睡觉&nbsp; 书桌&gt;工作。</p>
<p>避免把一个习惯的情境与另一个习惯的情境混在一起。</p>
<p>想让行为变得稳定可预测，就需要稳定可预测的环境</p>','2025-07-21 15:49:45.332','2025-07-21 15:49:45.332',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:49:45.331',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('994f905b-a2ce-47b6-b22b-34e0c7c34779','777806a2-8a21-416d-8d5b-d8b8ff20ffcc','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">大多數孩子都想要表現得「特別好」，就是「聼父母的話」，獲得父母的認同</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（心理學支持</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">孩子是</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> by defult </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">就是會追求父母認同的，依附理論、自我發展理論、本心理學都說，孩子在成長早期就具有一種「天生的向重要他人（通常是父母）尋求接納、認可與共鳴」的傾向。尋求父母認同其實是尋求「如何愛、如何表達、如何受傷與如何修復」的風格）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">by defult </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">追求「特別好」，但在挫敗後，就會轉爲「特別坏」，重點是「特別」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">(</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">簡便的最求卓越</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">特別</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">)</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">透過「犯罪」來獲得【被責備】，被責備也是【被關注】的一種，雖然不舒服，但還是滿足了【被關注】的需求。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">一旦這樣的「生活風格」一旦形成，出來社會就會格格不入，因爲要【被責備】就意味著【犯罪】，就是破壞社會資源，會被社會唾棄，不會產生社會興趣和共同體感。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">孩子</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> perceive </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的「特別好」，</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">sometimes </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">根本不是家長真正想要的。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">可能跟家庭兄弟多有關，這麽多兄弟姐妹中，只有「特別」才會被父母注意花時間關注。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">獨生子女（或過度被寵愛的孩子）卻因過度被觀衆，導致出社會後沒被關注而感到挫敗，很容易退縮回家庭。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">exp</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">：家長真正擔心孩子有沒有能力長大成才自己照顧自己，但表達出來很可能是「你要最好」，孩子就會以爲成績是一切。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">冰山在這裏很重要</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不需要「特別好」，怕「平凡」也可以「有價值」。「平凡」不等於「無能」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">.</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「甘於平凡」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不刻意展現自己的優越性【大隱於市】【大器免成】</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">誤解了「特別好」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">=</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「有價值</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">值得關注」。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">認爲「平凡」就會失去關注，失去資源。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「甘於平凡」需要【勇氣】，大部分人都是在追求「特別好」的過程中挫敗了才會意識到自己的「平凡」的。面對平凡</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">面對挫敗感</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">自卑感，需要勇氣</span></p>','2025-07-21 17:06:44.741','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('79323a25-3bb0-496e-b447-70e3d175df80','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 37&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>21&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">逃避永远无法解决问题（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 163-166<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''__Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">一直掩盖，很可能祸患无穷。珍惜开会时问题暴露出来的机会，大家一起探讨，会更容易形成共识，把问题彻底解决掉。</span></p>','2025-07-21 15:50:20.694','2025-07-21 15:50:20.694',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:50:20.693',NULL,NULL);
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<p>要面对，需要勇气</p>','2025-07-21 15:50:41.212','2025-07-21 15:50:41.212',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:50:41.211',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5d78309-f414-4da6-8c4a-678ec88aeeca','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>面对不确定的事，做好自己能做的事，并且取决于我们自己的行动。</p>
<p>既然选择了远方，便只顾风雨兼程，莫怕山高水远，只管向前，无问西东。</p>','2025-07-17 02:07:58.604','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9cef6f88-f323-4e8a-baea-a742e1c310f5','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 21&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>21&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>1 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让提示显而易见</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">情境是触发习惯的提示（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 109-114<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：<br><br></span>避免把一个习惯的情境与另一个习惯的情境混在一起。把空间分割成活动区块，每个习惯都应该有个自己的家。</p>','2025-07-21 15:57:57.151','2025-07-21 15:57:57.151',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:57:57.15',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f9fef13-91fa-40cb-a550-edeb5d8a8435','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>习惯靠场景提醒，不靠记性。要坚持一件事，就给它安排一个固定的时间和地点。</p>','2025-07-21 15:58:22.84','2025-07-21 15:58:22.84',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:58:22.839',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7baf5aec-51c2-4dc4-881c-52dcefeba2bf','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>解读阿德勒心理学中关于幸福、贡献感和勇气的核心观点：</p>
<p>1. &nbsp;**幸福 = 贡献感：** 幸福源于主观感受到&ldquo;我对他人/共同体有用&rdquo;。<br>2. &nbsp;**贡献感可以是&ldquo;无形&rdquo;的：** 贡献的价值不由他人评价决定，而是自己内心的感受。<br>3. &nbsp;**摆脱&ldquo;认可欲求&rdquo;：** 如果依赖他人认可来获得贡献感，就会失去自由，活在别人的期待里。<br>4. &nbsp;**需要&ldquo;被讨厌的勇气&rdquo;：** 为了追求自由和基于自我价值的贡献感，需要不害怕被别人讨厌的勇气。<br>5. &nbsp;**存在即价值：** 一个人的存在本身，对某些人（如家人、朋友）或某个群体（如社区）就是一种贡献。</p>','2025-07-16 15:15:18.123','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('56194196-77ce-40b4-9847-1ba0d5b46874','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>逃避永远无法解决问题。很多人都有过类似的经历，感觉工作力不从心，自我怀疑就产生辞职的想法，换了工作还是同样的问题发生，所以不如你换什么工作，最后都会遇到各种各样的问题，如果不想办法把问题解决掉，你什么样工作都是治标不治本。不管一个人或是企业最怕的不是犯错，而是不敢面对自己的错误面对错误时也选择逃避，还有一种可能就是根本不知道有这件事的发生 这样更可悲。如果能够尽早知道事情的严重性，就能够想办法解决，大家一起共同探讨，就更容易形成共识把问题彻底的解决掉。</p>','2025-07-21 15:55:13.454','2025-07-21 15:58:50.208',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 15:58:50.207',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3e08244a-d14d-455a-94a2-668967ae3ad2','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>习惯可能不止跟单一提示联想在一起，而是与围绕这该行为的整个情境连接。</li>
<li>定义行为的并非环境中的物品，而是我们与物品的关系。不要认为环境中充满物品，认为环境中充满关系。例如：对某个人来说，沙发是阅读的地方；对另一个人来说，沙发是下班后看电视的地方。</li>
<li>环境力量也透露出，在新环境中比较容易改变习惯。</li>
<li>这个时候你可以去新的一个地方来创造一些新的习惯，因为把新习惯跟新的情境连接在一起比较容易。</li>
<li>在家里时你可以移到比较大的空间，然后把信习惯跟其他空间连接在一起。如果当前住在比较小的环境，那就去重新定义或重新整理当前的环境，隔出不同的空间来连接新的习惯。</li>
<li>如果可以，尽量避免把一个习惯的情景跟另一个习惯的情景混在一起。因为最后获胜的通常都是比较轻松的那一方。</li>
<li>若能够坚守这项策略，行为就会变得稳定且可预测。</li>
</ul>','2025-07-21 15:59:16.496','2025-07-21 16:25:21.459',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 16:25:21.457',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9cfb48d7-2992-4ecf-b5c5-434176b79a16','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>我们都是生活在不确定性的生活里，但也应为不确定性，所以我们会有所不安。<br>但却因为不确定性，我们才得以成长，因为不确定性能让我们不断的去寻求方法而不松懈。<br>而思维也是一样，我们不要固有的保持同样的思维，而是当我们敞开想法时，我们会看见的世界是不一样的。</p>','2025-07-19 08:03:22.179','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea3842f7-f943-42ca-a996-ffa9206f6973','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>要产出一项坏习惯，最实用的方法之一就是减少接触会激发此恶习的提示。</p>
<p>隐而不限，而非显而易见。作为移除一个恶习让其往往慢慢逐渐的消失。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>让好习惯的提示显而易见，让坏习惯的提示隐而不现。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-21 12:14:55.738','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('efe38f59-4e94-4238-8fb8-a9d2625007fa','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>不确定性都只有在事情发生之后才能知道结果。做事的人不会害怕不确定性，不做事的人会在不确定性的时候面对各种被挑毛病。不确定性带来的是更多的生机和转变，人生的精彩和辉煌就是从不确定性演变而来。</p>
<p>不想面对不确定性的背后是担忧、害怕。当不确定性发生，这表示事情还没有遇到够圆满的解决方案。于是，把自己困在担忧和害怕是无法让自己思维流动起来，然后看见其他的解决方案的可能性。担忧只是让自己在错误的地方寻找保护和答案。面对不确定性，就要带着好奇心问自己：到底哪些是确定的？哪些是不确定的？只有动手去做了，才能意识到的更多的可能性。告诉自己，这是个机会去找到更好的解决方案。</p>','2025-07-20 00:07:15.354','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a40ef650-fe78-4ebb-aae5-cb04c6e7333b','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「貢獻他人」是一種【主觀感受】，不需要去確認是否真的有貢獻</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">I can''t decide whether I&rsquo;m useful to others or not, I can''t decide he/her satisfaction, all I can do, is do my best (consider the undeniable limitation at the moment)</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「貢獻」有沒有用處，不是我來判斷的，是他人的感覺，也是他人的課題</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">所以貢獻并非爲了獲得他人的認同。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">若因沒有獲得他人的認可而感覺自己沒有貢獻，或產生「我的貢獻微不足道」的想法，那是一種自卑感</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「要別人認同才有貢獻感」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">=</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「要別人認同才有價值」，照著別人的期待走勢不自由的，比起貢獻感，更可能是【犧牲感】。要別人認同，就沒做到自我接納</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不幸福，是因爲沒有【貢獻感】這種主觀感受</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">要做到【貢獻他人】，需要轉移中心，從「我能不能獲得別人的認同」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> --&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「關心他人需求」。才能夠找到自己【怎麽樣對別人有用】。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「關心」，不是「控制」</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有認同需求</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">期待付出有回應</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">期待他人滿足自己</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不獨立</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">沒正向回應就不付出，或付出後對方的回應沒達到期待</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">沒有貢獻感</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">Qs:</span> <span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">if </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我付出後，我反思自己哪裏可以再進步，算獨立嗎？如果是爲了自我提升，別人的</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> feedback </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">只作爲「參考」，而非「</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">reward</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">」呢？</span></p>','2025-07-20 15:47:09.063','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1a5dbf92-9f0e-4346-b8e6-358ba9c03e5f','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>铲除坏习惯，最实际的方法之一，就是让触发它的提示从环境中消失&mdash;&mdash;减少那些会激发恶习的接触点。这个简单的改变，往往能带来出人意料的效果：移除一个提示，整个习惯也可能随之淡化甚至消失。</p>
<p>许多人以为改变靠的是「自制力」，但自制力其实只是短期策略。你或许可以一次、两次抵抗诱惑，但很难每次都用意志力战胜本能。与其一再逼迫自己「要坚持」，不如把能量放在调整环境。</p>
<p>这正是自制力的秘密：<strong>让好习惯的提示清晰可见，让坏习惯的提示隐而不现。</strong></p>','2025-07-20 23:51:29.018','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('106ab3f6-6990-4d4d-bce8-dc5f33efd881','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>不确定性才是生活的常态。要学会与不确定性共舞，学会保持不确定性。犯错后及时复盘，认真反思和总结，不让自己再犯同样的错误。让自己活在当下，积极与周围的世界保持连接。直面不确定性，做好自己能做的事，以确定性应对不确定性。</p>','2025-07-21 07:51:37.896','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8976a27c-f571-4142-932b-61c29fb12ba2','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>&ldquo;自己如何获得幸福？&rdquo; 值得我深深思考的人生议题。<br><br><br>对人而言，最大的不幸就是不喜欢自己。<br>解答 - 我对共同体有益，对社会有价值，对他人有价值 - 这种想法就能让人体会到自己的价值。<br><br>他者贡献也可以是看不见的贡献。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>做任何事 - 只要能够产生 我对他人有价值的主观感觉 即 贡献感 也可以</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>幸福即贡献感 - 幸福的定义</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所有的人都能获得幸福， 不等于 所有的人都幸福。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如何获得贡献感？认可欲求的问题</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人们想要喜欢自己，想要感觉自己有价值，为此想要得到贡献感，获得贡献感的常见手段就是寻求他人认可。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果能够真正拥有贡献感，那么就不再需要他人的认可，也不需要特意去寻求他人的认可，也可以透过日常生活中的大小事来体会到 我对他人有用。</p>
<p>受认可欲求束缚的人没有共同体感觉，还不能做到自我接纳，他者信赖和他者贡献。因为这样的人还是会围绕在自己，渴求他人认可自己，期待他人需要自己，其中心思想还是在于自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>只要有了共同体感觉，也就是为他人而着想，我能为他人做什么而生活化。</p>
<p>认可欲求就会消失，不再需要他人认可。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>幸福就是主观的贡献感。</p>','2025-07-21 12:57:33.126','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4562115d-8838-4a9e-9c43-205c4c437deb','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>就算我们多有自制力，遇到环境的影响，它便不堪一击，要解除恶习惯，先调整好周遭环境！</p>','2025-07-21 13:58:56.251','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8d00d10-e309-4724-8692-45fa83cf790a','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>提示引起想望。 一旦注意某件事，就开始想要。</p>
<p>要铲除坏习惯，就减少会激发此恶习的提示。</p>
<p>让好习惯的提示显而易见 ; 坏习惯的提示隐而不现</p>','2025-07-21 15:55:18.783','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e3b15c8f-49e9-4d87-b3dd-42bf5e99aa59','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>人生最大的不幸就是不喜欢自己。要让人体会到自己的价值，必须要对共同体有益（他者贡献）。幸福的定义是幸福即贡献感，感受到自己对他人有用。</p>
<p>通过认可欲求获得的贡献感没有自由，但是我们人类是在选择自由的同时也追求幸福。幸福得以自由为前提。受认可欲求束缚的人不具有共同体感觉，还不能做到自我接纳、他者信赖和他者贡献。只要有了共体感觉，认可欲求就会消失的。</p>','2025-07-22 01:08:38.883','2025-07-22 01:08:38.883',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 01:08:38.882',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03299539-d58e-4fb4-bb38-1615e4ba9226','32aa94a9-e031-4629-915a-527f33b79fa1','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>所謂善有善报, 种瓜得瓜, 种豆得豆, 要先爱别人, 才能获得別人的愛, 善待他人, 才能获得人生更多的美好！</p>','2025-07-22 01:13:32.04','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a81d1ecc-e782-4e39-ab76-180954e40197','90f19501-99f4-44a7-9ee0-0420a434e7d7','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>我之前曾经讲过一本书，叫作《正念的奇迹》。这本书原本是一行禅师用越南文写给朋友的一封长信，它里面虽然并没有详尽的佛理，却能让我们在阅读后懂得什么是正念，以及如何通过正念让自己的内心获得安宁。如果我们能对一些事情保持正念的态度，专注当下所做的事，那么一切复杂就会变得简单，不会因为我们没达到目标、没有满足别人的期望而焦虑。</p>','2025-07-22 02:09:36.375','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b649d0b8-8bd9-4790-9a25-8aa06cd28f16','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每个人都有机会遇到不同的事物（不确定性）而犯错，但有一件事是确定的，那就是知错能改的态度。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">所有的不确定性都只有在事情发生之后才能知道结果，不做事的人是不会面临不确定性的，或者说，不做事的人只有在事情发生后才会站在上帝视角来挑毛病，认为你知道了还去做，就是不仁；不知道就是缺乏知识。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">但有一些人就会利用圣人都会犯错这个逻辑来合理化自己的行为并且没有要改过的意思。犯错不是关键，关键是要在犯错后及时复盘，认真反思和总结，不让自己再犯同样的错误，这才是重点。</span></p>','2025-07-22 03:11:17.896','2025-07-22 03:11:17.896',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 03:11:17.895',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca78341a-8ba2-4838-b116-eec6c899d988','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','d4cf19fb-4056-4949-8ccd-8e06049df029','<p>一切烦恼即是人际关系的烦恼</p>
<p>自己如何能够获得幸福</p>
<p>对人而言最大的不幸，就是不喜欢自己</p>
<p>只要&ldquo;对共同体有益&rdquo;，或&ldquo;我对他人有用&rdquo;这种想法,就足以让人体会到自己的价值</p>
<p>这里所说的，对他人贡献也可以是看不见的贡献</p>
<p>判断你的贡献是否起作用的，不是我们自己，那是他人的课题，是我们自己无法干涉的问题。</p>
<p>是否真正做出贡献从原理上根本无穷理解，也就是说进行他者贡献时候的我们，即使做出看不见的贡献，只要能够产生&ldquo;我对他人有用&rdquo;的 主观感觉 🌅即是奉献感也可以。</p>
<p>幸福既是贡献感</p>','2025-07-22 03:37:59.711','2025-07-22 03:37:59.711',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 03:37:59.71',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76c8360f-3dcc-4344-b11e-ecee703220eb','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>确定性会把自己禁锢在一个固定思维里面，一种很安全的空间。</p>
<p>但是就没有办法面对不一样的事物来进步。</p>','2025-07-22 03:44:38.39','2025-07-22 03:44:38.39',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 03:44:38.389',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0b2466b9-b8d5-47ba-9ff2-0e0c615df44a','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>减少会刺激恶习惯的提示，换个环境，让那些会想起恶习惯的元素隐而不见，</p>','2025-07-22 03:53:59.874','2025-07-22 03:53:59.874',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 03:53:59.873',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d988132a-d0ea-410c-85ee-ce1af862a292','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>多年前，我很怕不磪定性，很怕未来，很怕未知的世界。</p>
<p>这个文章提醒我，不要困在一个固定思维，想做就去做。</p>
<p>从错误中找寻答案，积极和周围世界连接，与不磪定性保持联系，不磪定有着无限可能。。</p>
<p>直面不确定，做好自己能做的事，以确定性应对不确定性。</p>
<p>选择了远方，只管向前，无问西东。</p>','2025-07-22 07:16:56.856','2025-07-22 07:16:57.561',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 07:16:57.56',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3c3a864-f1ae-4713-9c5e-7f9b572ea30e','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler''s philosophy says,&nbsp; &nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp; "As human beings choose freedom, and they are also pursuing happiness.&rdquo;&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;"True happiness is found in a sense of contribution."</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>I used to think that not comparing and living a life suits me is happiness. But now I realize that happiness is not just about living comfortably.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This helped me to understand that happiness is not complicated, and It&rsquo;s a choice and a way of living. It is about caring for others and contributing, which brings deeper inner fulfilment.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>From this moment on, so let&rsquo;s us live with courage and with a heart that gives and contributes.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>"Happiness begins right here, right now."</p>','2025-07-22 08:18:33.95','2025-07-22 08:18:33.95',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 08:18:33.949',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a8ad8cd-cd44-426f-ae2d-24a010f2749e','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>自制力是短暂的，而且很吃力，也很用力。</p>
<p>把好习惯的环境改造，把坏习惯的环境隐而不见。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-22 09:19:01.49','2025-07-22 09:40:44.027',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 09:40:44.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e836f22e-d43b-464e-b4cf-eae3dc947991','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>从这一刻起，就能变得幸福</p>
<p>幸福来源于一种共同体认同感，觉得自己有用的一种认同感，不论是觉得通过自己能过为自己带来快乐，比如能为自己买想吃的水果，小蛋糕；能通过自己的努力为家人做些什么；在地铁上帮助一个人等等这些都是能让自己感受到幸福感的事情，即是自己产生了贡献！</p>
<p>需要注意的是这种贡献感不应是为了获得他人的认可，如果目的是为了得到他人的认可才去做某些事的话，无疑会陷入按照他人的愿望过自己的人生的境地，只有当自己主观上感到自己对共同体是有贡献时才是真正感受到幸福</p>','2025-07-22 13:06:42.209','2025-07-22 13:06:42.209',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 13:06:42.208',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4e16f2f-e346-4101-86ca-d9f1a2a0ee04','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>比较是一柄双刃剑。缺乏理性。只看结果的比较只会助长自身戾气，让人产生负面的情绪。</p>
<p>合理的比较却可以使人进步，让人主动吸取他人的优点。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-19 02:13:58.161','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-22 02:13:24.819','2025-07-27 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c98b5cfa-9b9d-41c5-9f73-cf735743e4e0','2bf88dc4-f8f3-47e1-85e8-364f1658b689','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>但我个人认为也不必对行仁义大肆批评，毕竟行仁义也是在做仁义之事，是值得鼓励的。从目标出发，只要不是单纯地为了洁名钓誉，而是发自内心地做一些对其他人、对这个社会有益的事情，进而使自己的目标实现得更有意义、更妥帖，长此以往，也会慢慢地拥有一颗仁义之心。</p>','2025-07-22 02:14:56.12','2025-07-28 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2fbd3a73-e2ba-4efb-a556-8000eac15aa7','aa45a6a3-6bc5-4e7e-9e62-8b88af1ce8db','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">人生就算有「大目標」，但在征服那個目標之前，也會有【好長一段時間】在【半路上】。若征服失敗，那是否就説明這【好長一段時間】都是假的呢？</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">人生并非「一條綫」，而是一串叫做【現在】的「一刹那」的「點」連串起來的。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">每經歷一個「點」，都是一個【現在】，而只有【當下】才是我們真正能活著的，過去和未來都不行。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們只能負責好【當下】的一切，就算是未雨綢繆也【當下】在做準備，後設反思也只能是建立在過往的決定之上。過去我們改變不了，未來我們控制不了。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">enjoy, appreciate what i''m doing now at the moment</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">踏出門的第一步，就已經開始【旅行】了，每一個瞬間都是在【旅行】，不是只有到了【景點】才算是【旅行】。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">【景點】是別人認識的「點」，比較好拿出來給大家看獲得「認可」。若以「點」當作旅行的「標志」，只不過是在尋求別人的認可，而不是真正的【旅行】（活著）。</span></p>
<p><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Wingdings; mso-fareast-font-family: Wingdings; mso-bidi-font-family: Wingdings; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&Oslash;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我在台灣環島的時候，一開始也是會設定幾個【景點】作爲「指標」前行。過程中，其實更多的時間是花在路上的探索的，所以有時候會比預計時間晚到「指標」，在基隆還下雨，當天的計畫是必須做出調整的。前行的過程中，一路上找路、應對臨時狀況，甚至突然發現很漂亮，一開始不在計畫内的漂亮景色停下來欣賞、記錄，這些經歷並不必【景點】的經歷遜色，而且是我真正覺得在這一路上有所收穫的過程。雖然有時間限制，但我很享受整個【一路上】的過程。或許別人比較容易認得「指標」，但對我來説，這一整路都是寶藏。</span></p>','2025-07-22 10:13:32.038','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
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<li>最有自制力的，通常是最少用到自制力的人。自制力的秘密就是，让好习惯的提示显而易见，让坏习惯的提示隐而不现。</li>
<li>要铲除一项坏习惯，最实用的方法之一就是减少接触会激发此恶习的提示。</li>
</ol>','2025-07-22 11:52:27.784','2025-07-22 11:52:27.784',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 11:52:27.783',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d3fd12af-183c-44c1-bfb4-edd0963aea86','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>任何事情都有不确定性的结果，谁也不知道能不能做好这件事。如果错了，就承担责任，面对失败，积极改正；如果对了，那就是圆满的结局。</p>','2025-07-22 12:04:23.066','2025-07-22 12:04:23.066',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 12:04:23.065',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a4370ad3-5d72-4794-bbbb-aeb4e3d0d051','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>自制力是短暂的。只有制造好的环境才能走更长远的路。让好的提示显而易见，让坏的不易发现。</p>','2025-07-22 12:10:26.64','2025-07-22 12:10:26.64',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 12:10:26.639',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('75f90dc5-8837-42e2-9452-d36020b89b44','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>了解人都会犯错，要学会勇于认错，同时提出见意做补救方法，而不是只会轻易满足现状而已。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-22 12:39:25.289','2025-07-22 12:39:39.417',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 12:39:39.416',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('958147c4-449e-405e-a9ce-97e1de78fc87','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>自製力的秘密：讓好習慣的提示顯而易見，用壞習慣的提示隱而不現。</p>','2025-07-22 13:15:14.959','2025-07-22 13:15:16.549',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 13:15:16.526',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ae2cb3b7-9b1e-4172-aa2d-93e061fd994b','d07ac4c7-d15d-443c-8af8-ad5bb6c24ebb','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>所处文化决定了那个行为对我们有吸引力。因为我们对能融入於所归属的族群有强烈的渴望。<br>也正因为如此我们往往会模仿亲近的人。与一组人一起进行一个新的习惯会容易的多。</p>','2025-07-22 12:40:20.978','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59b2e055-4cac-4175-a395-39ba0472ff48','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 22 ：7月22 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 自制力的秘密（Page 115-123）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">最有自制力的，通常是最少用到自制力的人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你可以破除一箱习惯，但不太好可能忘掉它。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">自制力是一种短期策略，不适用于长期。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">让好习惯的提示选择易见，让坏习惯的提示隐而不现。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">行为改变第一法则的反转，就是让提示隐而不现。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有高度自制力的人不常呆在充满诱惑的环境里。</span></p>','2025-07-22 14:33:14.198','2025-07-22 14:33:15.423',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 14:33:15.422',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f61ca02f-803f-42c4-8989-c6fd4296d839','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>我的老师说过：&ldquo;接受不完美，继续追求完美。&rdquo;</p>
<p>一贯的作风与方式不能迎来不同的结果，就算没有把握（不确定性），只要抱着有错就承担，并承诺及时改进，就是英雄本色，有机会突破。</p>','2025-07-22 14:39:57.426','2025-07-22 14:40:11.505',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 14:40:11.504',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee09a60b-29f5-495c-8c2e-60078d9ad38a','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>把要戒掉的坏习惯的提示和环境变得不方便，不容易看到。消除并远离诱惑。</p>
<p>让培养好习惯的提示显而易见，方便执行，并且有所奖励。</p>','2025-07-22 14:49:10.721','2025-07-22 14:49:26.046',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 14:49:26.045',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e27c6bdc-27d1-4ce6-9c0f-45e7be311168','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>人人都会面对不确定性，但不能用此制造犯错的理由，要承担责任，积极改正</p>','2025-07-22 14:56:21.322','2025-07-22 14:56:21.322',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 14:56:21.321',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3e3ca060-e7da-4b2f-abc3-ebe2977d9c9d','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>自制力的秘密：让好习惯的提示显而易见，让坏习惯的提示隐而不现。</p>
<p>自制力是一种短期策略。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">回避诱惑比抗拒诱惑简单。</span></p>','2025-07-22 15:09:31.916','2025-07-22 15:09:31.916',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:09:31.915',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2fb6005b-3df1-4ac1-8a99-4badaf5ced48','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 38&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>22&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日&nbsp;</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">以确定性应对不确定性（</span>Page 167-171<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">关键不是犯错，而是发错后及时复盘，认真反思和总结，下次不再犯同样的错误。</span></p>','2025-07-22 15:13:32.633','2025-07-22 15:13:32.633',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:13:32.632',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5cb49175-88bf-43ff-8847-b686bbfceeb5','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>人有谨慎是好的，但过度谨慎会造成自己不敢尝试和创新，也导致自己固步自封，什么事都做不了。所以个人有时得走出舒适圈，以让自己多些经验与成就。</p>','2025-07-22 15:17:28.856','2025-07-22 15:17:28.856',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:17:28.856',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a3c1c6c9-29f0-474b-babd-ac6637ac1020','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','bab89ee0-c6a9-43ae-b08d-61e5e50652da','<p>幸福即是贡献感</p>','2025-07-22 15:18:59.893','2025-07-22 15:18:59.893',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:18:59.892',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f806db59-4698-4c0d-90e7-c6825f1e36e8','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 38 ：7月22 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以确定性应对不确定性（Page 167-171）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不确定性，其实是生活的礼物</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们常说：&ldquo;不确定性才是生活的常态。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">但现实中，大多数人都渴望稳定，害怕变化，想要把人生&ldquo;安排得明明白白&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">做好当下每一步，就是对未来最好的回应。别怕变动，它或许就是你走向更好自己的必经之路。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-22 15:45:45.964','2025-07-22 15:45:45.964',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:45:45.962',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('73c24bed-b1b2-4e5d-b2e0-9ced30350c7f','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 22 ：7月 22日 &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;《原子習慣》法則1 &ndash; 讓提示顯而易見</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">7. 自制力的秘密（Page 115-123）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日讀後感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">行为改变第一法则的反转</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要改掉坏习惯，重点不是靠强大的自制力，而是减少或隐藏诱惑的提示。习惯一旦养成，光靠意志力抗拒诱惑并不长久，因为自制力是有限且短暂的。</span></p>','2025-07-22 15:44:53.753','2025-07-22 15:53:40.563',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:53:40.562',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f81bbdc1-32df-455c-8beb-e3eaa7be1b7b','777806a2-8a21-416d-8d5b-d8b8ff20ffcc','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>无论是希望特别优秀还是希望特别差劲，其目的都一样， 也就是引起他人的关注、脱离&ldquo;普通&rdquo;状态、成为&ldquo;特别的存在&rdquo;。要接受自己不能做成一些事，别自暴自弃。家人，则是在他们遇到困难时，要多支持他们，劝解他们，表明会永远陪着他们。</p>','2025-07-15 14:48:46.741','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e8ea884f-77c4-42ce-9f63-5a85bd8a584f','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>理性的比较，看出中间真正的本质，心里面没有表达出来的意向，明白了真正的原因，举一反三，不但不感到负面，反而可以得取正面的信息与鼓励。</p>','2025-07-23 14:42:49.68','2025-07-23 14:42:49.68',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 14:42:49.679',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa51fb8f-6ede-42ce-bbc7-e9fe9d694eb4','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>能从他人看到其优点，可给自我取长补短；能看到自己的缺陷，就可让个人不断改进和精益求精，并朝着完美前进。</p>','2025-07-23 14:45:47.57','2025-07-23 14:45:47.57',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 14:45:47.57',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6ddcc0d-d7a4-4611-864f-d90a6a00da62','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>越是内心纯良、具有恻隐之心的人，就越是心怀悲悯，能<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">够善待周围的人与物。</span></p>
<p>可是，既然人性中有善良的一面，为什么世界上还会有坏<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">人，会有人做坏事呢？</span></p>','2025-07-22 02:08:37.73','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da2483a7-5839-4d7f-aac6-40affa742502','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>要维持热情，就做难度刚刚好的事。</p>','2025-08-15 13:57:10.799','2025-08-15 13:57:10.799',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 13:57:10.798',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">以确定性应对不确定性（</span>Page 167-171<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
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<p>我们每个人都喜欢确定、可预测的生活，但现实中充满了不确定性。**真正的智慧，是以确定的态度和行动来应对不确定的环境。**不要把自己困在固定思维中，畏惧未知而停滞不前。相反，我们应当勇于迈出第一步，积极与世界连接，保持弹性与好奇心。</p>
<p>**不确定性本身并不可怕，它往往孕育着转机与新的可能。**担忧和害怕只会让我们看不到解决之道，唯有行动，才能带来更多清晰与希望。正如那句名言所说：&ldquo;既然选择了远方，便只顾风雨兼程。&rdquo;做事的人不会被不确定打倒，而是在其中找到人生的出路与精彩。&ldquo;</p>
<p><strong>&ldquo;不确定不是阻碍，而是转机的起点。&rdquo;</strong><br>&mdash;&mdash; 拥抱未知，就是迎向成长。&rdquo;</p>
<p><strong>&ldquo;确定的是行动，不确定的是未来；不行动，连未来都不会来。&rdquo;</strong><br>&mdash;&mdash; 把握当下，才有可能创造改变。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-22 15:27:38.864','2025-07-22 15:28:42.605',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:28:42.604',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50f1dceb-93e5-4aa2-82e6-026ac9769f9b','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 22&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>22&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>1 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让提示显而易见</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -18.0pt; line-height: 15.75pt; margin: 0cm 0cm 0cm 21.3pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">1.</span><span style="font-size: 7.0pt; font-family: ''Times New Roman'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">自制力的秘密（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 115-123<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">让好习惯的提示显而易见，让坏习惯的提示隐而不现让坏习惯的提示隐而不现</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">。</span>行为改变第一法则的反转，就是 &ldquo;<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">让提示隐而不现&rdquo; 最实用的方法就是减少接触会激发此恶习的提示。自制力是一种短期策略，不适用於长期。</span></p>','2025-07-22 15:34:51.157','2025-07-22 15:34:51.157',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:34:51.155',NULL,NULL);
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<p>🔁 在特定的&ldquo;时间+地点&rdquo;中重复执行，</p>
<p>让环境变成自动提醒器，习惯自然养成。</p>','2025-07-22 15:50:12.632','2025-07-22 15:50:12.632',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:50:12.631',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a0d3a20-4400-46ab-a359-140067a5e101','777806a2-8a21-416d-8d5b-d8b8ff20ffcc','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>廉价的优越性追求是一种不良的行为、不健全的态度。这种问题行的目的也是引起他人的关系，让自己成为特别的存在，这也是孩子希望得到父母关注的一种方式，让父母烦恼的复仇心态。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-23 03:49:26.777','2025-07-23 03:49:26.777',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 03:49:26.776',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a84578ae-dbf7-4723-9784-35cc86100c3b','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>一个机会越有吸引力，形成习惯的可能性越来越大。</p>','2025-07-23 14:50:56.323','2025-07-23 14:50:56.323',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 14:50:56.322',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89da70d1-1644-4231-8bda-cca644bfda8c','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>期待某个经验的感觉往往比获得那个经验更好。当预期某一个机会会带来的奖赏，多巴胺浓度就会升高，当它升高，行为的动机也随之提升。<br>欲望是驱动行为的引擎。</p>','2025-07-21 09:04:45.179','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('44fb5746-7612-4a12-8ed9-39cdc22590f7','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学会习惯之前，多巴胺会在体验到奖赏时达到高峰的分泌。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">下一次，只要提示被认出，这个的多巴胺峰值会升高，就会带来采取行动的渴望。一旦学会了习惯，多巴胺不会在体验到奖赏而升高，因为你预期有奖赏。如果没得到奖赏，多巴胺会因为失望而下降。当如果是奖赏迟来，会从下降后升高。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">大脑分配给【想要】奖赏神经回路，远比分配给【喜欢】奖赏要的多。</span></p>','2025-07-22 15:32:32.965','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6e892c7-620f-4023-9a69-ed449a2774cc','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 22 ：7月22 日&nbsp;&nbsp;《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 自制力的秘密</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">所谓自律者，只是擅长建构生活好让自己不需要展现超凡的意志力与自我控制力，反之他们不让自己处于充满诱惑的情境. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">最有自制力的通常是最少用到自制力的人，但你不需要常常动用自制力，就比较容易自我克制.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">恶习是自我催化的, 过程会喂养自身. 坏习惯促进了它试图麻痹的感觉. 觉得难受，於是吃垃圾食物.，又感觉不好. 看电视让你觉得很提不起劲，於是你又因为没有力气做别的事而看更多电视，担心自己的健康状况让你感到焦虑，所以你藉由抽菸来舒缓焦虑，而抽菸让健康状况变得更差，於是你更加焦虑. 这是一个向下的螺旋，一两坏习惯的失控列车. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">研究人员将此现象称为&ldquo;提示引起的欲望&rdquo; ： 一个外在刺激造成了一股想要重复恶习的强迫性渴望. 一旦注意到某件事，你就开始&ldquo;想要&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">比较可靠的做法，是从恶的的根源下手. 要铲除一项坏习惯，最实用的方法之一就是减少接触会激发此恶习的提示.</span></p>','2025-07-22 15:37:18.609','2025-07-22 15:37:21.655',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:37:21.653',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c496a0c8-23f9-4893-a572-8cf68716e7d6','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 38&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>22&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">以确定性应对不确定性（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 167-171<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p style="margin: 0cm; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 11.0pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">直面不确定，做好自己能做的事，以确定性应对不确定性。实际行动，既然选择了远方，便只顾风雨兼程，莫怕它山高水远，只管向前，无问西东。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-22 15:40:41.323','2025-07-22 15:40:41.323',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:40:41.322',NULL,NULL);
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<li>行为改第一法则的反转，就是【让提示隐而不现】。</li>
<li>习惯一旦形成，就很难被遗忘。</li>
<li>有高度自制力的人不常在充满诱惑的环境里。回避诱惑比抗拒诱惑简单得多。</li>
<li>要铲除一项坏习惯，最实用的方法之一就是减少接触会激发此恶习的提示。</li>
<li>自制力是一种短期策略，不适用于长期。</li>
</ul>','2025-07-22 15:43:09.012','2025-07-22 15:45:59.82',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:45:59.819',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以确定性应对不确定性</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们常说不确定性才是生活的常态，但在现实生活中很少有人喜欢不确定性，大家都喜欢确定的可预测的事情发生在自己身上.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">生活一旦确定下来，人生就没有任何突破了，而人生中所有的精彩和辉煌恰恰就来自不确定性.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果错了，就承担责任，面对失败，积极改正，如果对了，那就是圆满的结局.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这也提醒我们不要把自己囚禁在一个固定的思维当中，想做一件事就去做，不要有太多困扰.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正确的方向是让自己活在当下，积极与周围的世界保持连接，学会与不确定性共舞，不确定性蕴含着无性可能性。面对这些不确定性，抱怨和逃避都没用唯一能做的就是直面不确定性做好自己能做的事，以确定性应对不确定性，这一点是可以掌握在我们手中的，并且取决于我们自己的实.</span></p>','2025-07-22 15:51:35.666','2025-07-22 15:51:44.831',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:51:44.829',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3b6af1c-2a4c-4030-a9a5-da8637e9af2e','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>真正的安全感，不是消除所有风险；而是在不确定中保持内心的稳定。</p>','2025-07-22 15:53:28.475','2025-07-22 15:53:28.475',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:53:28.474',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5dd79025-df33-45af-9c59-ef11b507bd9a','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>与确定性应对不确定性。人生不确定性才是生活的常态，现实中很少人喜欢不确定性 。但是如果生活一旦确定下来，人生就没有任何突破，人生中所有的精彩和辉煌恰恰就来自不确定性。庄子曾经说过，人要学会与不确定性共舞。做个聪明人就要学会保持不确定性，而大多数每天担忧怎样把所有事情确定下来，按部就班，一个个慢慢落实，结果一辈子浑浑噩噩，没有什么作为。</p>','2025-07-22 15:56:12.729','2025-07-22 15:56:12.729',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 15:56:12.728',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee1de54a-d032-476f-9e8c-45752971c23f','d522e32b-0274-406f-a168-7f93922a42b9','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>&ldquo;诱惑捆绑&rdquo;的运作方式是将&ldquo;想要做的事&rdquo;和必须做的事绑在一起。例如：</p>
<p>1）想要看Netflix和必须踩自行车&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>2）家庭观众想要放松和电视台需要观众，而推出的TGIT。</p>
<p>3）想要避开下班堵车和必须运动，形成办公楼出现健身中心。</p>
<p>诱惑捆绑的心理理论，普式原则（Premack&rsquo;s Principle）较高可能性的行为会强化较低可能性的行为。当自己意识到自己的那些渴望，将帮助自己去完成那些比较低可能性的行为。</p>
<p>可以通过第五章的习惯堆叠来建立这样的捆绑：一旦做完&ldquo;⽬前的習慣X&rdquo;之後，我會執⾏&ldquo;新的習慣Y&rdquo;。</p>','2025-07-23 03:31:28.698','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa726bbe-b0bd-4b43-9f99-7e0e34ad8cc1','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 30 7月22日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第五夜 认真的人生&ldquo;活在当下&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">从这一刻起，就能变得幸福</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">最大的不幸就是不喜欢自己.</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">那就是这里所说的他的贡献，也可以是看不见的贡献.</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只要能够产生我对他人有用的主观感觉及贡献感也可以.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">幸福即贡献感，这就是幸福的定义.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人们想要喜欢自己，想要感觉自己的价值，为此就想要拥有我对他人有用的贡献感，而获得贡献感的常见手段就是寻求他人认可.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果能够真正拥有贡献感，那就不再需要他人的认可.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人只有能够感觉到我对别人有用的时候才能体会到自己的价值，但是这种贡献也可以通过看不见的形式实现，只有要对别人有用的主观感觉及贡献感就可以，幸福就是贡献感，这也是真理的一面.</span></p>','2025-07-22 15:58:56.844','2025-07-22 16:01:20.087',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 16:01:20.085',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ad28eb20-b096-4d8d-ba28-b175d5ad3123','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>夸大的提示~超强刺激。</p>
<p>现代世界超强刺激， 夸张化的方式让我们过度消费。</p>
<p>若要增加某行为的发生率，就必须使其有吸引力。</p>','2025-07-22 22:54:07.3','2025-07-22 22:54:40.798',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 22:54:40.797',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('64bcbfdd-fcaf-4bf6-be68-f41a34afe61d','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>了解人体多巴胺分泌方式及对渴望的影响力，多善用于影响我们改变及接纳新习惯的可能性。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-22 21:29:17.173','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('339d8938-2297-49ad-8b91-b9f443f868ad','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">比较不是为了知道结果而让自己感到自满或自卑，而是从结果里去分析出底层逻辑。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">比如为什么他比较好，他做对了什么？我要如何做才可以和他一样好？</span></p>','2025-07-22 23:23:44.516','2025-07-22 23:23:44.516',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 23:23:44.513',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a82ed4a2-83dc-4eef-86ac-d7fc3cf8f985','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>让执行行为变得有吸引力，成为习惯便很容易！</p>','2025-07-22 23:22:31.16','2025-07-22 23:32:55.971',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-22 23:32:55.97',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('549ce75b-17e2-4f0d-b54b-6ca0a41d6582','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>让习惯变得难以抗拒，变得更有吸引力，更诱人。</p>','2025-07-19 01:59:26.722','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6fe8f6be-3a87-4314-9166-578973f88182','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','49b59e51-9917-4586-b095-d9e1a4d44452','<p>孟子曾经说的一样，&ldquo;不揣其本而齐其末，方寸之木可使高于岑楼&rdquo;。意思是如果不度量事物的根本，而只比较它的顶端，那一块放在最高处的一寸大小的木块，也会让它看起来高于尖角高楼。</p>
<p><br>孟子的观点放在当今给予一个科学的解释是，通过比较，对复杂而客观的现象进行分类，寻找其共性和差异性，区别出每个事物本质的规律；又通过比较，寻找各类规律之间的联系；再把这些规律进行归纳或演绎，最终求得对事物本质的认识。</p>
<p>比较的结果其实并不重要，重要的是其中的过程。</p>
<p>我觉得通过找到共同和差异， 去探究事物背后的运作和道理，才看透事物的本质。这是理性的思考。</p>','2025-06-15 10:10:38.966','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a0e6b002-0f9a-4fd4-a12b-256a4b707f04','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>用比較思維理解事務的發展規律</p>
<p>哲學觀點認為：事物總是相比較而存在，相制約而發展的。 物質和運動在時間和空間上的相對性是普遍規律 。任何事物如果都是一樣的話，那麼就沒有發展，就沒有差別。而比較思維就是人對事物認識的相對性在思維方式上的反映。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>比較的結果其實並不重要, 重要是其中的過程, 合理的比較能夠使人進步, 讓人主動吸收他人的優點，改正自己的不足。 從中找尋道理，完善自身的品德修養，更是從這件事中領悟到 計策，這就是理性的比較.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-02 09:25:12.713','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2950520-6eae-40fe-826a-60d512b2367a','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>让习惯变成有吸引力，那么我们会有更大的推动力！要如何让习惯更有吸引力呢？期待。</p>','2025-07-11 00:07:34.135','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9387401d-526e-4426-a76c-ad63c0529d3e','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>如果此行为因为提示，行动，再有奖赏，便能刺激身体的多巴胺，和欲望，那么成为习惯就很容易了！</p>','2025-07-22 23:32:06.152','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fe39c6ef-8b63-43eb-a920-d635452636e5','d522e32b-0274-406f-a168-7f93922a42b9','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>学习把诱惑与想达成的习惯捆绑在一起，让我们了解当完成了现有的新习惯行成，能享有我们可望的回报，将会行成好的动力去推动我们改变现有的陋习。</p>','2025-07-22 21:50:03.107','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('073517e6-6ff7-463c-8a0d-d109b05dbc56','90f19501-99f4-44a7-9ee0-0420a434e7d7','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>有句话，活在别人的嘴巴上，人总会不知不觉做给别人看</p>
<p>要时刻提醒自己，这是我要&ldquo;做&rdquo;的吗？</p>
<p>除了跟着自己的心做事，也要考虑当下的情形状况</p>','2025-07-22 23:14:14.21','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('58fef4e9-d739-404b-b58f-889a0d95c421','32aa94a9-e031-4629-915a-527f33b79fa1','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>帮人，虽说不祈求得到回报，但往往帮了人，自个心情变好，身边的人事物也会变得越来越好，这也算是回报吧</p>','2025-07-22 23:20:22.181','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('55dee638-20b1-41dd-8451-d8fd74f50e6c','777806a2-8a21-416d-8d5b-d8b8ff20ffcc','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>** 文本揭示了人类追求&ldquo;特别感&rdquo;的深刻需求。无论目标是&ldquo;卓越非凡&rdquo;还是&ldquo;引人侧目&rdquo;，底层都可能是对存在价值确认的渴望。阿德勒的洞见在于，将这种追求引导回健康的人际贡献，并警惕以破坏性或逃避性方式获取&ldquo;廉价&rdquo;存在感的陷阱。这迫使我们重新审视：何为真正的价值？幸福究竟扎根于何处？</p>
<p>基于《被讨厌的勇气》中青年与哲人的对话，核心感悟可浓缩为以下三点：</p>
<p>### 1. **「平凡」&ne;「无能」的认知革命** &nbsp;<br>哲人并非否定努力，而是戳破「必须特别」的执念&mdash;&mdash;当人将「普通」等同于「失败」，便陷入「优秀」或「差劲」的极端焦虑。**接纳平凡本质是卸下社会比较的枷锁**，而非放弃成长。</p>
<p>### 2. **天才的迷思与平庸的陷阱** &nbsp;<br>青年以拿破仑、爱因斯坦为例反抗「平凡」，恰暴露深层恐惧：**若不能留名青史，人生便无意义？** 哲人暗示：真正的勇气在于**从「与他人比较」转向「自我超越」**&mdash;&mdash;卓越者专注使命本身，而非「是否被铭记」。</p>
<p>### 3. **在「成为自己」的路上动态平凡** &nbsp;<br>「甘于平凡」绝非躺平，而是： &nbsp;<br>✅ **停止用「是否特别」衡量价值**&mdash;&mdash;雨天收伞的路人、深夜煮面的母亲，皆在微小处创造意义； &nbsp;<br>✅ **允许自己如溪流般存在**&mdash;&mdash;不必成为惊涛骇浪，亦可润泽一方土地。</p>','2025-07-17 09:48:48.653','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6d0a2602-9116-4a10-8813-e569c1835f49','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>通过比较，对复杂而客观的现象进行分类，寻找其共性和差异性，区别出每个事物的本质的规律，各规律之间的联系，再把这些规律进行归纳或演绎，最终求得对事物本质的认识。合理的比较可使进步，吸取他人的优点，改正自己的不足。</p>','2025-07-22 07:58:13.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('119814d3-5f39-48c7-83c8-7fc922e093fb','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个机会越有吸引力，形成习惯的可能性越大。</span></p>','2025-07-22 14:32:44.366','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da542c8b-e156-4a75-afd4-b25ff1a7c5c3','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>要增加一个行为发生的几率，就必须让它更有吸引力。第二法则的重点，就是学会让习惯变得难以抗拒。</p>
<p>虽然我们无法让每个习惯都充满刺激，但可以透过理解渴望的本质，让习惯更具诱因。所有习惯背后都有相同的生物机制：多巴胺的峰值反应。掌握这一点，是打造吸引力的关键。</p>','2025-07-22 10:41:26.725','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03c6a73f-1fac-4727-a576-f776e64253fe','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>缺乏理性的比较，只看结果的比较，让人产生各种负面情绪；合理的比较却可以使人进步，让人主动吸取他人的优点，改正自己的不足。</p>','2025-07-22 12:15:26.09','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2d6705a2-c95c-49bf-9b1e-2d08b4f461a3','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>在与别人做比较时，要学会了解别 人的忧点，加于运用来提高自身的本能。</p>','2025-07-22 12:45:00.546','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0b3a1e2-a3dd-4784-bc62-7b8951f8876c','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>比较的意义，不在输赢，而在觉察与成长。当我们把焦点从结果移向原因，比较就不再带来嫉妒或自卑，而是成为一面镜子，让我们看清差距、寻找方向。从比较中汲取经验、完善自我，才能变得更加坚定和强大。</p>','2025-07-22 13:35:34.29','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b1986dc-c93d-4f01-8623-d7b9642f17a5','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>尝试增加新习惯的吸引力，会让想要改变及培养新习惯的人更有动 力的去择行。</p>','2025-07-22 13:38:36.401','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a6222f1-7785-4e5b-92e4-6b4f25070c5d','2082be10-8f3a-4778-9fc8-9b85e720e66a','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>根據芒格-比較，嫉妒，是活出痛苦人生的三個配方之一。</p>','2025-07-23 00:34:59.556','2025-07-23 00:34:59.556',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 00:34:59.555',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8fa01c65-f481-4589-9020-d9a6e93ca266','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>最傻最邪惡的團體就是政府。</p>
<p>他們讓香煙，糖果，素食，毒藥，零嘴氾濫，酒水與每個消費者的生活周邊，讓我們輕易取得，並且讓這些邪惡帝國在我們生活中播放超級刺激的廣告。馬來西亞是東南亞肥胖問題最高的一個國家，都要拜這個無能政府所賜。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-23 00:45:51.768','2025-07-23 00:45:51.768',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 00:45:51.766',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9de23c92-e146-456d-9b67-429d8eb2abe1','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>想要增加某个行为发生的机率，就必须使其有吸引力。虽然不可能把每个习惯都变成超常刺激，我们可以让任何习惯变得更诱人。</p>','2025-07-23 01:08:54.685','2025-07-23 01:08:54.685',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 01:08:54.684',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cef18e8f-697f-435a-8be1-2b3f1413725a','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>我们拥有五万年前祖先的奖赏大脑机制，却需要面对他们不曾面对过的超强的诱惑。过去祖先们面对的诱惑比较单纯简单，目前市场懂得混合感官就外来刺激的觉察，让诱惑变得更不可抗拒。</p>
<p>那么，我们就要理解如何让习惯变成有吸引力。这就是行为改变的第二法则。</p>','2025-07-23 01:57:41.02','2025-07-23 01:57:41.02',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 01:57:41.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('437c22ab-88be-47ed-b601-be8e6d4e8cdf','32aa94a9-e031-4629-915a-527f33b79fa1','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>将心比心你怎么对待別人，別人就怎么对待你。这应该是人生必须要面对的过程和接受的事情。</p>','2025-07-23 03:11:29.898','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f2fe97c3-59c1-41a5-8d75-c6adccda469d','8fcdd6ab-8e39-4357-bd50-891a5397abcc','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>不要用自己的標準去評判对和錯, 而是該思考我該怎么做, 我能做些什么, 假如能這样想问題, 内心就會更包容, 能夠理解和接受他人.</p>','2025-07-23 01:24:17.104','2025-07-27 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76453acd-bd46-4056-9160-8d28afe88c69','2bf88dc4-f8f3-47e1-85e8-364f1658b689','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>心存善良是必修之路，不止修心还可以修人，自己的善心能感动別人而向善良。</p>','2025-07-23 04:12:15.929','2025-07-28 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
