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<p>应该配合性格打造习惯。选择最适合自己的习惯，而非最受欢迎的习惯。</p>','2025-08-12 14:35:47.06','2025-08-13 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e2aa203d-7b24-4a36-9953-206db3093f23','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>因一个坏习惯而导致的&ldquo;惩罚&rdquo;越是及时，其作用就会越大。狠狠地为自己立下一些超级刻薄的惩罚，可以当机立断杜绝恶习缠身。</p>','2025-08-11 13:26:31.773','2025-08-11 13:26:31.773',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 13:26:31.772',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c585f48c-0e76-48b0-b433-f0a6fcc09421','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>當結尾令人滿足，我們比較有可能重複那個經驗；同埋，當結尾令人痛苦，我們就比較有可能避免那個經驗。痛苦愈立即，行為發生的可能性愈低。</p>','2025-08-11 13:49:50.583','2025-08-11 13:49:50.583',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 13:49:50.582',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('92f0eacd-371c-4fa8-912d-e0c1f94d6e31','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 42 ：8月11 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则4 &ndash; 让奖赏令人满意</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 问责伙伴作用大（Page 234-236）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要改掉坏习惯，就让它的代价立即、真实、且令人不舒服。</span></p>','2025-08-11 14:36:28.399','2025-08-11 14:36:28.399',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 14:36:28.398',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5ac9a9b-9cef-4c4b-a290-dc16ae5fa3fc','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>奖赏的反面是惩罚。当惩戒越痛苦、后果越令人不满，人们越会避免那个经验。</p>','2025-08-11 14:57:27.869','2025-08-11 14:57:27.869',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 14:57:27.868',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6ce4a02-09b3-4f6e-bcba-f595676cf630','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>若想要避免恶习、根除不健康的行为，那么，为该行为加上立即的代价，是降低发生率的绝佳做法。</p>','2025-08-11 15:17:43.709','2025-08-11 15:17:43.709',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 15:17:43.708',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3ec43ab-48d0-4153-ba3c-da9810d65ff1','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我也想要有个问责夥伴，可以天天盯着我。</p>
<p>怪不得有些人天天在脸书打卡减肥计划，知道有人看著，会是个强大的动力。</p>','2025-08-11 08:55:58.268','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1b8eebf4-627d-47c6-be09-acc37decdd3b','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>如何在感到无聊时保专注</p>
<p>成功最大的威胁不是失败，是无聊。因为不再带来愉悦感。</p>
<p>变动奖赏可以减低无聊。</p>
<p>反复做一模一样的事，却无止境地感受到趣味，就是成就卓越的不二法门。你必须爱上无聊。</p>','2025-08-12 01:34:47.105','2025-08-16 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('748e0def-826d-4885-8c19-52a197223320','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>当习惯变得自动化，回馈就变得不敏感。此时，错误就比较容易趁虚而入，不会去思考做得最好。</p>
<p>习惯的好处是可以不经思考行事，坏处是让你以待定方式做事，不再注意小失误。时间过去，表现反而会退步。</p>
<p>习惯+刻意=精通</p>','2025-08-13 08:51:36.166','2025-08-17 00:00:00.066',NULL,'f','2025-08-17 00:00:00.061','2025-08-17 00:00:00.061',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ec7c735-df1f-4211-96b7-722eb95358e2','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 42&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>11&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>4 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让奖赏令人满意</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -18.0pt; line-height: 15.75pt; margin: 0cm 0cm 0cm 21.3pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">8.</span><span style="font-size: 7.0pt; font-family: ''Times New Roman'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">问责伙伴作用大（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 234-236<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">当结尾令人满意，人会愿意重复那个经验。当结尾令人痛苦，就越有可能会避免那个经验</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;"><br></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;"><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; float: none; word-spacing: 0px;">想要避免恶习，就为该行为加上立即的代价。克服坏习惯的最好方法是加快与该行为相关的惩罚到来的速度</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">。</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; background: white;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">第一阶段：重拾严格的行动、第二阶段：仔细追踪、第三阶段：维持并加以改善。最后，写下每一个可以帮助达标的日常习惯。接着，列出失败的惩罚。知道有人在看着，会是个强大的动力。</span></p>','2025-08-11 15:39:53.299','2025-08-11 15:39:53.299',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 15:39:53.297',NULL,NULL);
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<p>惩罚让自己记得那个不舒服，就不会再犯。</p>','2025-08-11 15:45:49.315','2025-08-11 15:45:49.315',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 15:45:49.315',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1bb82993-bfaa-45a1-a4fe-d7d011cf8d09','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 42 : 8月11 日&nbsp;《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则4 &ndash; 让奖赏令人满意</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 问责伙伴作用大</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">痛苦愈立即，行为发生的可能性越低，若想要避免恶习，根除不健康的行为，为该行为加上立即的代里，是降低发生率的绝佳做法.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">克服困境最好的方法，就是加快与该行为相关的惩罚到来的速度，行为与后果之间不能有太大的时间差. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一般来说，后果越切身有型，具体立即越有可能对个人行为产生习惯，后果越遥远无形抽象，延迟对个人行为产生影响的可能性越低！</span></p>','2025-08-11 15:47:55.23','2025-08-11 15:48:06.203',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 15:48:06.202',NULL,NULL);
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<li>让后果立即令人不满。</li>
<li>当结尾令人痛苦，我们就比较有可能避免重复那个经验。</li>
<li>痛苦是效能卓越的老师。</li>
<li>当失败令人痛苦，就会被修正；反之，当失败比较不令人痛苦，往往会被无视。</li>
<li>但我们为坏习惯付出【立即的代价】，或加快与该行为相关的惩罚到来的速度，是降低发生率的最佳做法。</li>
<li>若想靠惩罚来改变行为，惩罚的力量必须能与该行为的力量匹敌。</li>
<li>只有在惩罚足够令人痛苦，并且被确实执行的情况下，行为才会改变。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-11 15:54:34.404','2025-08-11 15:54:34.404',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 15:54:34.403',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cdf1714f-6274-4e18-bcc9-b053c101921f','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>习惯契约是用来为想培养的习惯增添社会代价，让一个人违背契约变成一件痛苦的事。</p>
<p>请身边的伙伴当&ldquo;问责伙伴&rdquo;，让对方给违背承诺的自己付出立即代价。这样的代价一旦是自己最不想要的，逃避承诺的概率就会减少。</p>
<p>决定和孩子和钢琴老师定一份，让她们来监督我练琴。</p>','2025-08-10 00:34:39.623','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
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<p>习惯契约可以被用来为任何行为添加社会代价，它让违背承若变成一件公开且令人痛苦的事。</p>','2025-08-11 06:00:03.57','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c0b3883-e86f-483d-8d7e-c096a2661471','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 43 ：8月12 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则4 &ndash; 让奖赏令人满意</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯契约让违背承诺变成公开且令人痛苦的事（Page 236-243）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要让坏习惯令人不满，最好的选择就是让它们在当下令人痛苦，而习惯契约正是为此而生的简单方法。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们比较不可能重复会令人不满或痛苦的坏习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">问责伙伴能为不作为创造立即的代价。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯契约可以被用来为任何行为添加社会代价，它让违背承诺变成一件公开且令人痛苦的事。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">知道有人在看着，会是个强大的动力。</span></p>','2025-08-11 13:18:16.176','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('862607e2-81aa-47d7-8c71-92ddb978e864','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们在乎别人怎么看自己，</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">也不想被视为不守承诺的人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">找一个</span><span class="s2">问责伙伴</span><span class="s1">，</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">让「不作为」立刻有代价。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">习惯契约，就是把承诺公开，</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">让违约变得尴尬又难堪&mdash;&mdash;</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">这会大大提高你坚持的几率。</span></p>','2025-08-11 13:22:04.334','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014','2025-08-12 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b3deec39-135c-4a2d-bea1-5dbf4da7548a','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>習慣契約可以被用來為任何行為添加社會代價，它讓違背承諾變成一件公開而且令人痛苦的事。知道有人在看着，會是一個強大的動力。</p>','2025-08-12 07:22:45.77','2025-08-12 07:22:45.77',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 07:22:45.769',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d1a6ea51-2222-4fc6-9b55-957c2b2c0b0d','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">选对赛场，才能发挥优势</span><span class="s2">。找一个对你强项有利的赛场，如果没有，就自己创造。当无法靠&ldquo;更好&rdquo;取胜，就用&ldquo;不同&rdquo;胜出。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">基因不会取代努力，但会让努力的方向更清楚&mdash;它告诉我们要努力</span><span class="s1">做什么。</span></p>','2025-08-12 14:00:05.019','2025-08-14 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('df8f1c3f-0d0d-4237-b0a5-937b25e9670b','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>在契约立下的情况下，有人能做出监督的角色，人往往较能履行承诺。</p>','2025-08-12 13:29:21.451','2025-08-12 13:29:21.451',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 13:29:21.45',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('07d5a9cc-1a2d-4f1c-9b2b-edc903507b6b','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>习惯契约就像给自己的 promise，要让 promise 成效，就要有人从旁监督， 让毁约成为有代价的事</p>','2025-08-12 14:12:56.384','2025-08-12 14:12:56.384',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 14:12:56.383',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce168193-49fa-4a1a-a893-6dfc5f3c4a64','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 43&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>12&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>4 &ndash;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让奖赏令人满意</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯契约让违背承诺变成公开且令人痛苦的事（</span>Page 236-243<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">行为改变第四法则的反转，就是让后果令人不满。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我们比较不可能重复会令人不满或痛苦的坏习惯。</span></p>','2025-08-12 15:26:51.316','2025-08-12 15:26:51.316',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 15:26:51.315',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1fae097-d884-46cf-9923-649e808abd3b','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>习惯契约是让自己添加的社会代价，它可以让自己违背的承诺公开并且令人痛苦。</p>','2025-08-12 15:03:03.137','2025-08-12 15:03:03.137',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 15:03:03.132',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90474751-98b0-4ac2-a861-da4992bb9515','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 43&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>12&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>4 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让奖赏令人满意</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">习惯契约让违背承诺变成公开且令人痛苦的事（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 236-243<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; background: white;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">习惯契约签名意味着认真，它让违背承诺变成一件公开且令人痛苦的事。因为有这立即的代价，你会比较不可能拖延或放弃。</span></p>','2025-08-12 15:16:16.357','2025-08-12 15:16:16.357',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 15:16:16.356',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('25199676-d77f-40fe-8264-543f41b6af7b','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>问责伙伴负责监督习惯契约里的执行程度，提高习惯有效性。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-12 15:31:27.821','2025-08-12 15:31:27.821',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 15:31:27.82',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯契约让违背承诺变成公开且令人痛苦的事（Page 236-243）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第四法则反转版｜让后果令人不满</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 1. 问责伙伴-有人监督，就会为「不作为」创造立即的代价。人类天性在乎别人的看法，不想被评价变差。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 2. 习惯契约-和别人立约，违反承诺就要付出代价（罚款、公开认错、做不想做的事）,把违约变成公开且令人痛苦的事，行为改变的成功率会大幅提升。</span></p>','2025-08-12 15:50:27.397','2025-08-12 15:50:27.397',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 15:50:27.395',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0bc7be81-b614-4876-b443-0bb4ae9f14ec','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 43 : 8月12 日 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则4 &ndash; 让奖赏令人满意</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯契约让违背承诺变成公开且令人痛苦的事</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">《让后果令人不满》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们比较不可能重复会令人不满或者痛苦的坏习惯. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯契约可以被用来为任何行为添加社会代价，他让违背承诺变成一件公开却令人痛苦的事. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">知道有人在看，这会是个强大的动力. </span></p>','2025-08-12 15:51:36.281','2025-08-12 15:51:36.281',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 15:51:36.28',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b65f0ba0-43cd-4435-885c-aff5aed9281a','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>当私下的承诺不足以让你坚持时，把承诺公开化;并为违约设下痛苦的代价，习惯就更难放弃。</p>','2025-08-12 16:00:54.065','2025-08-12 16:00:54.065',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 16:00:54.063',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2d60d794-258f-4fae-9ba7-379d53a1f6bf','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>个人性格会影响我们对新习惯的适应及接受度，我们应该选择最适合自己的而不是麻木追求大众认为是普便应该有的习惯。</p>','2025-08-12 21:37:29.13','2025-08-12 21:37:29.13',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 21:37:29.129',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('877aba99-ee0b-486f-bc8c-661af7de6122','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>补 - 12/08/2025</p>
<p>适当的监督机制，会加强执行的动力！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>13/08/2025</p>
<p>基因和性格，决定了我们比较适合的领域，也影响我们的习惯，更加容易造就新的习惯！</p>','2025-08-12 23:25:21.04','2025-08-12 23:25:21.04',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 23:25:21.039',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3accdbf0-277d-42ed-9755-715522807fd9','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>最近幾年做了可行的分析，而決定夥伴生我在職場上的跑道。做自己喜歡做的事情，眼睛張開一整天充滿希望。</p>','2025-08-12 23:28:10.457','2025-08-12 23:28:10.457',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 23:28:10.455',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('80d09ad6-e7dd-4e32-af47-bc7c587d808a','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>让成功机率最大化的秘诀就是选对战场，这道理适用于运动与商业，也可用于习惯的改变。当习惯符合我们天生的倾向与能力，执行起来就比较容易，坚持下去也比较令人满足。</p>
<p>我们应该配合性格打造习惯，选择最适合我们的习惯，而不是最受欢迎的习惯。</p>
<p>这不但是指身体的特征，心理特质也是一样适用 。若想要变成 A＋ 的人，憬慎专攻领域至关重要。基因决定的不是我们的命运，而是我们在哪个领域会有机会。</p>','2025-07-27 06:14:35.178','2025-08-13 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('589f2111-35d3-4924-953b-f804724f9820','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>基因，是一个人的&ldquo;底色&rdquo;。习惯的养成需要配合自己的性格，选择最适合自己的习惯，习惯才会持续为我们服务。基因不会消除努力的必要，只是会让努力的方向变清楚。</p>
<p>一名高敏感的朋友，她从小就被赋予机会做选择。在青春期，大家都会选择的运动项目都常常是打球，她选择武术、游泳、骑脚车和射击。她知道速度快而且竞争性的球类会让她超负荷，无法发挥，甚至会放弃运动。找对了，才能培养出终极目标，运动。</p>','2025-08-11 01:33:21.492','2025-08-13 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('94e5d93e-0a88-4d43-bac4-ed098a4b5b41','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">顺应天性，事半功倍</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">基因很难改变，</span><span class="s2">它们在有利环境中会成为优势，</span><span class="s2">在不利环境中可能是阻力。</span><span class="s2">当习惯符合你的天赋与天性，</span><span class="s2">执行会更轻松、更持久。</span><span class="s2">选择</span><span class="s1">最适合自己的习惯</span><span class="s2">，</span><span class="s2">而不是最受欢迎的习惯。</span></p>','2025-08-12 06:57:26.895','2025-08-13 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eae78331-e5ab-44e8-a378-fce9beba8e31','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我必须接受一个简单的事实，毎个人能力不同，別勉强自己，也别勉强他人。</p>
<p>不要养成别人叫你养成的习惯，选择自己合适的，不是受欢迎的。</p>','2025-08-12 08:35:03.729','2025-08-13 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9176767a-4860-4025-96a0-cef46aeb0eb6','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 44 ：8月13 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 基因如何影响习惯的养成（Page 246-251）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">让成功机率最大化的秘诀就是选对战场。当习惯符合你天生的倾向与能力，执行起来就比较容易，坚持下去也比较令人满足。环境一变，决定成功的特质也变了。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">个人能力在很大程度上取决于所处的环境。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">若想要成就真正的伟大，变成A+的人jing慎选专攻的领域至关重要。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">基因决定的不是你的命运，而是你在哪个领域会有机会。基因能预先决定倾向，但不能预先决定命运。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">应该配合性格打造习惯</span></p>','2025-08-12 14:29:32.204','2025-08-13 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029','2025-08-13 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5a11bab9-2bae-422a-9b2a-e7004a16bf55','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>基因决定的不是你的命运，而是你在哪个领域会有机会。基因能预先决定倾向，但不能预先决定命运。</p>
<p>应该配合性格打造习惯。选择最适合自己的习惯，而非最受欢迎的习惯。</p>','2025-08-13 13:12:07.362','2025-08-13 13:12:07.362',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 13:12:07.361',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 基因如何影响习惯的养成（Page 246-251）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">性格与习惯的连结</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-外向性高的人更容易投入社交性习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-友善性高的人倾向建立感谢与连结的习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-神经质高的人需特别留意情绪管理习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-严谨性低的人需借助环境设计来维持好习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">建立属于自己的习惯</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-配合性格与兴趣去选择习惯，而非盲目模仿他人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-每个习惯都有让你感到愉快的版本，找到它才能长期坚持。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-习惯应该带来喜悦与满足，才能可持续发展。</span></p>','2025-08-13 13:21:34.458','2025-08-13 13:21:34.458',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 13:21:34.457',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoListParagraph">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">基因如何影响习惯的养成（</span>Page 246-251<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">培养习惯现找到自己喜欢的，容易做到的。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">比如渴望有马甲线，那么就会自动的去执行。</span></p>','2025-08-13 14:54:58.57','2025-08-13 14:55:09.962',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 14:55:09.961',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed3824f4-413c-4205-946b-532f63f335f4','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>每个人都有天赋，知道了自己的天赋并加以锻炼，发现自己的天职，做自己喜欢的事情而且还可以帮组他人，是最快乐和幸福不过的。培养习惯也一样，了解自己的天生性格，选择适合自己的习惯加以培养，便可以轻而易举地把好习惯陪养起来。</p>','2025-08-13 14:33:19.322','2025-08-13 14:34:00.654',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 14:34:00.653',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('917ca81f-a33b-479e-a6e5-3f4b22d0c5d5','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>选择到错误的习惯，人生就充满竞争和搏斗。</p>
<p>选择对的习惯，习惯就能轻而易举的培养起来。越容易执行的习惯，越容易执行。 如何找到？不断地去试错。最终，那个容易执行、容易完成、容易获得奖赏、自然发生、带来乐趣的习惯，就如愿以偿的留下。</p>','2025-08-11 02:51:21.539','2025-08-14 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f88351d2-96ad-47e2-afda-9f9b4998abb4','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>先学会选择与自己性格及能力最匹佩的习惯，保持长期的煅练到熟能生巧，才更能适应新的改变。&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-12 21:45:31.016','2025-08-14 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bbef5daa-92a9-4507-a69c-b020c4442da3','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>做自己喜欢的，又快乐的事是多么重要。</p>
<p>了解自己的强项和弱点，才能发挥自己的特长。</p>
<p>选对戰塲，走在合适的赛道。做自己喜欢的，又很努力的去做，活出自己精彩的样子。</p>','2025-08-13 09:16:04.802','2025-08-14 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('23649a95-a733-4148-b3a7-e5c7efd48023','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>投資這件事情讓我樂此不疲什麼樣的現金科技？我都會花幾十個小時研究例如</p>
<p>量子力學</p>
<p>超智能電腦系統</p>
<p>核能發電原理</p>
<p>宇宙運轉的概念</p>
<p>全球儲能科技發展</p>
<p>機器人動力力和腦力的發展。</p>
<p>研究這些項目從中尋找未來會增值一百倍的投資機會是沒有人在做的事情。但對我來講就好像照三餐一樣，隨時都在我的腦裡運轉。</p>
<p>就讓我成為1,000,000之一的精英。任何會讓我降低排行的工作都沒有機會可以佔據我的時間。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-14 09:06:48.349','2025-08-14 09:06:48.349',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 09:06:48.348',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fcebe65e-5d47-4583-b43f-595fd0004691','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>运用金发女郎原则，先丛在自身能力范围能接受的难度去接触新习惯，再不断的精益求精改善，直到成功。</p>','2025-08-15 15:04:05.917','2025-08-15 15:05:12.168',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:05:12.167',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed2091af-cd2a-4fd9-b0c0-986598251cce','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>当习惯成了自动化，回馈就变成不敏感，掉入无意识的重复之中。虽然经验一直都在累积，但是未必有在改善，更多的是强化目前的习惯而且。想要继续精通技巧，需要刻意练习。</p>
<p>习惯 + 刻意练习 = 精通</p>
<p>就算将需要改善的地方做微小的调整。如果旧习惯是A， 那么让旧习惯 + 微小调整刻意练习 = A+</p>
<p>如何做到？先要有对自己的习惯有觉察。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-14 01:51:46.964','2025-08-17 00:00:00.066',NULL,'f','2025-08-17 00:00:00.061','2025-08-17 00:00:00.061',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e4b9c948-693c-477e-afb9-59c41323cda1','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>洛杉矶湖人通过复查和计算球员的表现来反省球队的表现。这还包括和其他球队的比较。任何事情要有进步都需要先了解自己目前的位置，到底哪里应该调整、哪里需要改变策略。</p>
<p>持续的努力是所有想要保持的习惯能有持续的进步空间。不进则退，是现实。每个习惯的背后都有很多方面的影响。所以复查、自省是必须的动作。改善不只是专注在建立好习惯，还要建立能微调整的习惯。</p>','2025-08-14 08:58:11.7','2025-08-17 23:57:57.588',NULL,'f','2025-08-17 16:00:00','2025-08-17 23:57:57.586',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c07e9d4-bdb9-40d2-b379-fa228250f80c','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>習慣必須讓人覺得愉快、享受，這是行為改變第四法則背後的核心概念。</p>','2025-08-13 15:20:21.482','2025-08-13 15:20:50.904',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 15:20:50.903',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('22887e4d-65cc-463f-8b94-78c67000fded','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>2/8 习惯从起点开始，对的起点就能往对的方向发展。别小看起点的小动作。</p>
<p>3/8 2分钟容易开始，有了2分钟就有更多2分钟。行动和好习惯就是这样养成。</p>
<p>4/8 开会时间把手机收起来，这样可以避免学生在上课时间玩手机。</p>
<p>5/8 我一次支付36次的健身时段，付了钱不去健身就浪费钱。去了多次以后，现在每周2次到健身中心锻炼已经变成我的好习惯！</p>
<p>6/8 为何同样一个人在新加坡不会乱丢垃圾，来到马来西亚却变成另外一个人？因为新加坡的执法力度强，怕被罚，所以大家就不敢乱丢垃圾。</p>
<p>7/8 眼前利益让人做不对的事，延后惩罚大家都不怕！</p>
<p>8/8 有记录才会认真，读书没考试，谁要去温习功课？</p>
<p>9/8 我认同不要错过2次的概念。所谓学好3年，学坏3天，一旦不注意，很快好习惯就不再继续。</p>
<p>10/8小时候，我们做得好的时候，老师给我们小星星，我们开心，被鼓励了，所以就继续保持良好行为。</p>
<p>11/8 惩罚要及时，否则大家不怕！</p>
<p>12/8 问责伙伴只会有效如果他认真采取行动！</p>
<p>13/8 基因让我们不一样，猴子不会游泳，大象不会爬树，别勉强自己。</p>','2025-08-13 01:52:36.267','2025-08-13 14:55:48.904',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 14:55:48.901',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03efd97d-9f3a-418b-9702-31bf2bb51d32','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>就是说只要是好习惯，适合自己的性格的好习惯，培养适合自己的好习惯就可以了。不要选最受欢迎的习惯。</p>','2025-08-13 15:09:50.331','2025-08-13 15:09:50.331',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 15:09:50.33',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5bb5161-6e5d-435d-8747-7f40c555ae86','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>选择喜欢的适合自己的习惯而不是受欢迎的习惯。认清自己的优劣，不勉强自己。</p>','2025-08-13 15:14:42.463','2025-08-13 15:14:42.463',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 15:14:42.462',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1e9dca30-6c31-4da5-9cd8-d2ba3caa4834','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 44 : 8月13 日 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 基因如何影响习惯的养成</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">让成功的机率最大化的神秘就是选对战场. 这个道理适用于运动与商业也适用于习惯的改变. 当习惯符合你天生的倾向，以能力执行起来就比较容易坚持下去，也比较令人满足，你会想要踏入对自己有利的赛场.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想要运用这项策略，必须接受一个简单的事实，每个人天生拥有的能力不同，有些人不喜欢讨论这件事，表面上你的基因是固定的，谈论无法掌控的并不有趣.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">配合性格打造习惯. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">选择最适合你的习惯，而不是最受欢迎的习惯. </span></p>','2025-08-13 15:41:50.39','2025-08-13 15:41:52.394',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 15:41:52.392',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f68d045f-dc39-44c5-8350-f2cf42c7c707','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>基因决定习惯的容易和困难度，</p>
<p>如果比较难达成也无需气馁。</p>
<p>并不是做不到，只是要时间，要方法。</p>','2025-08-13 15:45:21.009','2025-08-13 15:45:21.009',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 15:45:21.008',NULL,NULL);
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<li>让成功几率最大化的秘诀就是选对战场。当习惯符合你天生的形象与能力，执行和坚持下去也比较容易。</li>
<li>基因决定的不是你的命运，而是你在哪个领域会有机会。</li>
<li>关键在于把你的努力引导至即让你振奋又符合你天生技能的领域，让你的企图心与能力一致。</li>
<li>每个行为的表面之下，都是来自遗传的基因。</li>
<li>五大人格特质：
<ul>
<li>1. 经验开放性<br>2. 严谨性</li>
<li>3. 外向性</li>
<li>4. 友善性</li>
<li>5. 神经质</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>习惯并非全然取决于性格，但无庸置疑的是，基因把我们推往某一个方向。</li>
<li>你不必为这些差异保持歉意或罪恶感，但你确实需要跟他们合作。重点是你应该【配合性格打造习惯】。</li>
<li>选择最适合你的习惯，而不是最受欢迎的习惯。</li>
<li>若要长久维持好习惯，它必须让人愉快和享受。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-13 15:53:02.134','2025-08-13 15:53:02.134',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 15:53:02.132',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1bf93e60-3756-4067-a4c1-be30b9d42cf1','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>基因决定的不是你的命运，而是在你哪个领域会有机会。要知道哪一个领域对你有机会，那就先了解自己的性格。每个行为都会影响你的一切。性格特性可以分为五种，一。经验开放性，</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>二。严谨性，</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>三。外向型，</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>四。友善行，</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>五。神经质。</p>','2025-08-13 15:55:00.332','2025-08-13 15:55:00.332',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 15:55:00.331',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27ff3dde-6175-43cb-a086-6dd35f1eff88','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 44&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>13&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -18.0pt; line-height: 15.75pt; margin: 0cm 0cm 0cm 14.2pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">8.</span><span style="font-size: 7.0pt; font-family: ''Times New Roman'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">基因如何影响习惯的养成（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 246-251<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：<br><br></span></p>
<p>基因决定的不是命运，而是在哪个领域会有机会。基因能预先决定倾向，但不能预先决定命运。</p>
<p>配合性格打造习惯。选择最适合自己的习惯，而非最受欢迎的习惯。 答案的第一步，就是了解自己的性格。</p>','2025-08-13 15:59:05.841','2025-08-13 16:01:29.328',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 16:01:29.327',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fd02418-2ece-4b94-8a2f-f8b11cdb292e','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>什么事情对别人来说是劳苦，对我来说却是乐趣？</p>
<p>什么事情让我忘记时间？</p>
<p>什么事情让我比一般人得到更多的报赏？</p>
<p>什么事情对我来说是自然而然的？</p>
<p>回答以上问题后，我们可以看到自己可在哪一个领域取得突破。还有我们无法靠更好来赢，可以憑籍不同胜出！找出自己的不同点！</p>
<p>喜欢马铃薯与鸡蛋同时放进滚水里，马铃薯变软但是鸡蛋变硬。表示在不同人在同样的赛场里可以获得不同的结果。</p>','2025-07-21 12:34:07.914','2025-08-14 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033','2025-08-14 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb97bb52-2b09-4570-9156-2deeb2126fc8','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>选对战场比努力更重要</p>','2025-08-14 02:07:06.71','2025-08-14 02:07:06.71',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 02:07:06.709',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f5f6b00-0de4-4a1f-a616-303735276a19','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>在开发、探索不同项目时，可以问自己几个问题，我们可以以缩小最能满足自己的习惯与领域的范围：</p>
<p>什么事情对别人来说是劳苦，对我来说却是乐趣？</p>
<p>什么事情让我忘记时间？</p>
<p>什么事情让我比一般人得到更多报赏？</p>
<p>什么事情对我来说是自然而然的？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>当你无法靠着&ldquo;更好&rdquo;来赢，可以凭着&ldquo;不同&rdquo;胜出。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-14 10:07:42.117','2025-08-14 10:08:57.492',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 10:08:57.49',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f1d0d0a-5666-45f9-af0c-f774ec9cae75','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>找到對自己有利的賽場：做自己喜愛的事情，可以讓自己極度專注的事，做同樣的事情比其他人可以得到更多報償的事；做的事情是很自在的，做你感覺真實無偽就走在正確的方向上。</p>','2025-08-14 10:42:53.948','2025-08-14 10:42:53.948',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 10:42:53.947',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('757cfbcd-5e39-4399-8ab9-aae029e7e91c','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>想要了解自己在哪個領域有利，就要先了解自己的性格。</p>
<p>性格特質分解為五種行為：</p>
<p>1 經驗開放性</p>
<p>2 嚴謹性</p>
<p>3 外向性</p>
<p>4 友善性</p>
<p>5 神經質</p>
<p>我們應該配合性格打造習慣，選擇適合自己的習慣，而不是受歡迎的習慣。</p>
<p>要維持長久習慣，這習慣就要讓自己是覺得愉快，享受的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-14 11:46:13.35','2025-08-14 11:46:13.35',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 11:46:13.348',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('92135d0b-c023-422f-8a8f-a5387f8b0783','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>不断试误，开发；善用。</p>
<p>做自己喜欢、效果让自己满足的习惯。选择对自己喜欢的好习惯有利的环境和条件，让好习惯轻而易举。</p>
<p>选对属于自己的人生道路很重要。</p>','2025-08-14 14:15:55.9','2025-08-14 14:15:55.9',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 14:15:55.899',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3ae8e08-35f4-4fd1-aa96-834fd10bc56f','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>符合你天生的能力时，习惯比较容易执行，这个时候就要选择适合自己的习惯，选择对自身强有力的赛场，如果找不到就自己创造一个。基因不会消除努力的必要而是让努力的方向变清楚及告诉我们要努力去做什么。</p>','2025-08-14 14:33:32.235','2025-08-14 14:33:32.235',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 14:33:32.234',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0ed343a-d3cd-4443-b8c6-5b51e25d210b','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 45 ：8月14 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何找到对自己有利的赛场（Page 252-259）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">选到正确的习惯，进步就很简单；选到错误的习惯，人生就充满挣扎、搏斗。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">正确的习惯-让行动轻而易举。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当你感觉真实无伪，就走在正确的方向。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">基因不会消除努力的必要，而是让努力的方向变清楚。基因告诉我们要努力去做什么。一旦明白自己的强项，我们就知道把时间与精力投注于何处，知道寻找那些机会、避开何种挑战。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">与其跟别人比较，不如把焦点放在你是否发挥了自身潜能还比较有生产力。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">若不付出努力，基因也无法让你成功。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">让成功机率最大化的秘诀，就是选对战场。</span></p>','2025-08-14 14:55:20.974','2025-08-14 14:55:23.594',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 14:55:23.593',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f97e5147-f6df-4c13-9f81-dc3fd12e5b10','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>专注于对的赛场，付出的努力可以比他人减少，也可以更快和有效的看到效果！</p>
<p>前提是，需要对自己进行分析，理解自己，找出符合自己的性格的能力的行为！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-14 15:01:15.825','2025-08-14 15:01:15.825',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:01:15.824',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8beef506-d02e-4478-b7de-739c148efc37','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>自我探索，找到自己的热情，要在自己擅长的事情/方向上努力。基因就像顺流一样，事半功倍</p>','2025-08-14 15:08:13.021','2025-08-14 15:08:13.021',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:08:13.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('068918da-6bb8-41b9-89e6-460d5f8b7cc1','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 45 ：8月14 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何找到对自己有利的赛场（Page 252-259）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">差异化胜出-若无法在单一领域成为最佳，可透过结合多项技能，创造少人能复制的专属找到有利环境能翻转劣势。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">心流状态- 心流是高度专注且充满满足感的心理状态，时间感消失。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">-若缺乏内在满足感，几乎不可能进入心流。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-14 15:15:04.871','2025-08-14 15:15:04.871',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:15:04.87',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47badd1b-a809-4365-aecd-fc6a89b2aa5a','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>选择在自己能力范围之上的40%之内的行为，才会有动力持续和慢慢提高！</p>
<p>昨天运动时，教练直接太给力，我都想要放弃了，一直看手表，只想要快点下课！😅😅</p>','2025-08-14 15:10:18.331','2025-08-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-15 00:00:00.022','2025-08-15 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b696214a-506f-41ee-b8c9-80a2cb5fa001','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>当自己无法靠着&ldquo;更好&rdquo;来赢，那就凭籍&ldquo;不同&rdquo;胜出。</p>
<p>总之，要选择符合自己性格与能力的行为。如果找不到，就自己创造一个。</p>
<p>维持动力达到欲望最高的关键，就是执行难度恰到好处的任务。</p>
<p>成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊。人类渴望新鲜的习惯，做得好和最不好都一样期待改变。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-15 15:11:52.834','2025-08-15 15:34:35.495',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:34:35.494',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3121a55a-bd0f-4a18-8cbd-c09c94c45160','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>面对无聊，接受它，解决它，放下它。它是失败的帮凶，威胁成功。</p>','2025-08-16 15:59:43.714','2025-08-16 16:00:06.418',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 16:00:06.416',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e558d64-a964-4728-851a-b6b1e3e66d99','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>不要轻视微小的改变，久而久之影响力就变强了。</p>','2025-08-18 21:14:41.766','2025-08-19 23:17:46.648',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 16:00:00','2025-08-19 23:17:46.647',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa5e804a-dbec-4faf-81fd-34a3c44d22b2','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 45 : 8月14 日 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何找到对自己有利的赛场</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在开发探索不同选项时，可以问自己几个问题，以持续缩小最能满足自己的习惯与领域的范围. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">什么事情对别人来说是劳苦，对我来说却是乐趣？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">自己是不是做某件事的料？不是看自己爱不爱，而是看你能不能比多数人更不费力地处理那项任务带来的痛苦.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">什么事情让我忘记时间？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">心流是一种当你极度专注于手边的工作，以致除此之外的世界都渐渐消失时会进入的心理状态. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">什么事情让我比一般人得到更多報偿. 我们随时都在跟身边的人比较，当比较的结果，对我们有利，行为才比较有可能让人觉得满足.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">什么事情对我来说是自然而然的？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一下下就好，不要管别人是怎样教你的，不要管这个社会告诉你什么，也不要管其他人对你有什么期待，扪心自问：【什么事情让我觉得自然而然？我在什么时候感觉自己活著？我在什么时候感觉自己是真实的？】没有内在批判，也不要取悦任何人，没有事诸纠葛，也不要自我评判，只有投入与享受的感觉，当你感觉真实无伪，就走在正确的方向上.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当你无法靠着【更好】来赢，可以憑藉【不同】勝出.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">基因不会消除努力的必要，而是让努力的方向变清楚，基因告诉我们要努力去做【什么】.</span></p>','2025-08-14 15:21:52.507','2025-08-14 15:21:52.507',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:21:52.506',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('92e9ebcc-b81a-478f-a08a-e5002532f0a9','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>成长最快的方式，不是让自己样样精通;</p>
<p>而是找到那个能放大自己优势的赛场。</p>
<p>在有利的环境中，会更快进入状态；</p>
<p>更容易收获成就感，也更能坚持长久。</p>','2025-08-14 15:26:58.499','2025-08-14 15:26:58.499',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:26:58.497',NULL,NULL);
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<li>可以尝试花一些时间去开发不同的领域。</li>
<li>在开发或探索不同选项时，可以问自己以下这几个问题：
<ul>
<li>什么事情对别人来说是劳苦对我来说既是乐趣？</li>
<li>什么事情让我忘记时间？</li>
<li>什么情让我比一般人得到更多报偿？</li>
<li>什么事情对我来说是自然而然的？</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>符合你天生的能力时，习惯比较容易执行。请选择最适合自己的习惯。</li>
<li>选择对自身强项有利的赛场，如果找不到就自己创造一个。</li>
<li>基因不会消除努力的必要，而是让努力的方向变清楚。基因告诉我们要努力去做【什么】。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-14 15:55:08.34','2025-08-14 15:55:08.34',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:55:08.338',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1752173-2a3f-4598-91d7-a9c61fa54a96','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 45&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>14&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">如何找到对自己有利的赛场（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 252-259<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">找到对自己技巧正确的赛场。开发与善用权衡，</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">80% <span lang="ZH-CN">投注带来最佳结果的策略上，</span>20% <span lang="ZH-CN">继续开发。当无法靠&ldquo;更好&rdquo;来赢，可以凭借&ldquo;不同&rdquo; 胜出。在范围很小的类别中成为顶尖。滚水会让马铃薯变软，但会让鸡蛋变硬。找到比较有利的环境，就能翻转原本不利的条件。</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">基因让努力的方向（做什么）变得清楚。但不付出努力，基因也无法让你成功。要确保习惯带来长期的满足感，就要选择符合自己性格与能力的行为。</span></p>','2025-08-14 15:55:20.918','2025-08-14 15:55:48.171',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 15:55:48.169',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('645181cf-6598-47bb-9845-a57aed7feba3','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>一个人坚持自己的习惯这么多年，一定是对自己有好处，要不然就是好玩。</p>
<p>金发女郎原则，难度要刚刚好，不太难，但又不会太容易。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-14 09:01:43.256','2025-08-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-15 00:00:00.022','2025-08-15 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('51d73a89-4728-4e61-b957-6e2bcbcfc4e0','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 46 ：8月15 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;金发女孩原则：如何在生活与工作中维持动力（Page 260-264）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">维持动力并达到欲望最高点的关键，就是执行难度恰好到好处的任务。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要达到心流状态，执行的任务必须超出你目前的能力的百分之四。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">进步需要一种微妙的平衡。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要维持吸引力继续带来满足感，行为必须保持新鲜，</span></p>','2025-08-14 15:04:55.855','2025-08-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-15 00:00:00.022','2025-08-15 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7fa7d020-d2f0-4569-a92e-a4fc0917747e','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>保持恰到好处的挑战，又有小成就，比较可以保持一个好习惯的动力。</p>','2025-08-15 02:15:10.809','2025-08-15 02:15:10.809',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 02:15:10.808',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('880a284b-3db4-46df-96ea-95fd31a6bffb','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>维持动力并达到欲望最高点的关键就是执行难度恰到好处的任务。进步需要一些微妙的平衡，必须不断寻找将自己推至极限的挑战，同时要保持足够的进展，好让自己保持动力。要维持吸引力并继续带来满足感，行为必须保持新鲜，没了变化，我们就会无聊，而在自我精进的征途上，无聊可能是大魔王。</p>','2025-08-15 15:05:44.341','2025-08-15 15:05:59.601',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:05:59.6',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('400f1f1e-ba34-4b9d-a2e4-cf4fc4f32a90','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>持续习惯不能太简单也不能超出能力极限，可以不断增加难度。</p>','2025-08-15 15:30:54.222','2025-08-15 15:30:54.222',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:30:54.221',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('448cb4d6-2c69-4233-ac57-2ec44419bf0d','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>六年前想要了解比特幣，因為難度太高，所以就放棄了。</p>
<p>四年前再次嘗試，因為有一群人帶著去執行，所以才找到切入點去深入了解。</p>
<p>上個月前想要了解量子力學，花了三4小時，感到非常困惑，遲到15個小時以上才開始又說收穫。</p>
<p>從這些例子裡面我學到，要了解一件沒有根基的項目，至少要投入25個小時。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-15 15:39:38.454','2025-08-15 15:39:38.454',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:39:38.453',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c7072726-dae6-4463-a74c-239278910705','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>维持动力并达到欲望最高点的关键，就是执行【难度恰到好处】的任务。</li>
<li>太容易完成的习惯，瞬间会感到无聊；当遇到难度太高的任务时，你也很快会失去动力。</li>
<li>所以你执行的任务必须稍微超出你目前能力，这些小进步与新的挑战可以让你保持投入，进入【心流状态】。</li>
<li>从事难度恰到好处的挑战，是保持动力的关键。在自我精进的征途上，无聊可能是大魔王。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-15 15:55:58.329','2025-08-15 15:55:58.329',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:55:58.328',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a2bd33b-3465-43b5-a989-8d222188dea2','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>难度恰到好处，维持动力。维持吸引力并继续带来满足感。保持新鲜。避免无聊。</p>','2025-08-15 15:55:08.754','2025-08-15 15:59:15.04',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:59:15.039',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5f0c9f2a-7178-4c0f-84d6-58b4877deb4f','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 46 : 8月15 日 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;金发女孩原则：如何在生活与工作中维持动力</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">为什么有些人可以坚持自己的习惯？不管是练习说笑话, 画漫画或弹吉他.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">大部分的人难以维持推动力，要怎样设计一项不会渐渐消失，而是会一直吸引我们去执行的习惯？ 目前众人最一致的发现是 ：维持动力并达到欲望最高点的关键，就是执行【难度恰到好处】的任务.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">开始一项新习惯时，让行为尽可能&ldquo;容易执行&rdquo;是很重要的，这样一来就算条件不理想，你也能&ldquo;坚持&rdquo;下去. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一旦建立习惯，重要的是持续产生微小的进步. 这些小进步与新的挑战可以让你保持投入，若恰好击中【金发女孩区】，就能进入【心流状态】.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">所谓心流，就是在从事一项活动时全然沉浸其中、【进入状态】的一种体验. 科学家试图量化这样的感觉. 他们发现，要达到新流状态，执行的任务必须超出你目前的能力约莫4/100. 现实生活中通常不可能这样去量化某个行动的难度，但【金发女孩】原则的核心概念不变 : 从事难度恰到好处的挑战 - 也就是在你能力边缘的任务 - 似乎是保持动力的关键. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">进步需要一种微妙的平衡. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你必须不断寻找将自己推至极限的挑战，同时也要持续达成共足够的进展，好让自己保持动力. 要维持吸引力并继续带来满足感. 行为必须保持新鲜. 没了变化，我们就会无聊，而在自我精进的征途上，无聊可能是大魔王！</span></p>','2025-08-15 02:37:50.72','2025-08-15 02:37:52.201',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 02:37:52.2',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9889624c-8118-4faf-b33d-6cbc53bc0cc6','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要维持热情，就做难度刚刚好的事。当挑战在你能力边缘时，动力会达到最高峰---这就是&ldquo;金发女孩原则&rdquo;</span></p>','2025-08-15 03:10:42.104','2025-08-15 03:10:42.104',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 03:10:42.103',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9ee9b602-a2f2-468b-a7d6-13ddd99323c7','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>定期检查和自我反省让自己更清楚过去的错误，调整自己的未来。</p>
<p>车轮也是需要定期做调整，让车子在在路上更稳、更安全。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-15 06:41:34.5','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('80b1ff52-57d1-4cfe-99ae-feb1b78f7fcb','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>把身份去掉，重新定义自己，让身份富有弹性，适应变动的环境。</p>
<p>我是一名不断学习、自律、也勇予接受挑战，且热爱生命的人。</p>','2025-08-15 09:22:25.959','2025-08-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e418b6bc-a9fc-423d-aa61-4e81654c225a','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>人的大脑热爱挑战，但难度必须在最理想的范围内。不能太难又不能太简单</p>','2025-08-15 13:48:25.961','2025-08-15 13:48:25.961',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 13:48:25.96',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3eb0535-c05f-455b-9eb2-89f0dc8b3d64','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 46&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>15&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略&nbsp;</span>&ndash;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">金发女孩原则：如何在生活与工作中维持动力（</span>Page 260-264<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">维持动力并达到欲望最高点的关键，就是执行难度恰到好处的任务。</span></p>','2025-08-15 11:54:54.573','2025-08-15 11:55:25.342',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 11:55:25.341',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2d8f0b38-efdd-45d1-ae00-946ce93a4b42','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>維持動力並達到欲望最高點的關鍵，就是執行「難度恰到好處」的任務。</p>','2025-08-15 10:13:51.066','2025-08-15 10:13:58.386',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 10:13:58.385',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f3512d9-c6c5-4b7d-a36d-dfd0d878340a','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>要持续一个习惯必须要有新鲜感，新鲜感吸引注意力；太容易就会太无聊，也容易放弃。</p>','2025-08-15 12:17:07.801','2025-08-15 12:17:07.801',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 12:17:07.8',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97166d47-04de-4608-9ca0-192cb0ad99a7','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>找到那个刚刚好的挑战，<br>既让自己逼近极限、感受成长，<br>又能稳步前进、享受过程，<br>更在新鲜感中保持热情&mdash;&mdash;<br>这，就是长久动力的公式。</p>','2025-08-15 13:44:29.372','2025-08-15 13:44:29.372',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 13:44:29.371',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b4d529f-508a-404c-a8a7-8d7ae6387c37','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 46 ：8月15 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;金发女孩原则：如何在生活与工作中维持动力（Page 260-264）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每次只加一点点难度（如史提夫&middot;马丁每年只增加1&ndash;2分钟表演时间）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">心流状态-全神贯注、时间感消失、沉浸于挑战与技能匹配的任务</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">建立后需持续增加微小挑战，避免习惯变无聊</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-15 14:38:26.254','2025-08-15 14:38:26.254',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 14:38:26.25',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9363f84a-2b23-4369-8680-c2fd92a1f200','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>当我们习以为常的时候，也是退步的开始。但这种小退步是可以接受的。</p>
<p>如果想要＂精通＂，就是不断的刻意练习和习惯的养成。</p>','2025-08-15 06:11:36.687','2025-08-17 00:00:00.066',NULL,'f','2025-08-17 00:00:00.061','2025-08-17 00:00:00.061',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('02feae64-27d9-4f33-99db-47fbbfcff38e','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>维持动力并达到欲望最高点的关键 ~难度恰到好处。</p>
<p>开始新习惯~容易执行 &gt; 持续微小进步 &gt; 保持投入 &gt;&nbsp; 心流状态。</p>
<p>提供满足感 和 保持新鲜感</p>','2025-08-15 14:53:33.871','2025-08-15 14:53:33.871',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 14:53:33.862',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bedcde00-79e2-422e-ac05-f9c3f1160d35','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>金发女孩原则的核心概念不变：从事难度恰到好处的挑战，也就是在你能力边缘的任务，似乎是保持动力的关键。</p>','2025-08-15 15:01:35.871','2025-08-15 15:01:35.871',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:01:35.87',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2298fade-599a-4c26-98fc-588d2f2e18f4','d0818099-e398-4c50-aab7-6b3131708467','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 46&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>15&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; text-indent: -18.0pt; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white; margin: 0cm 0cm 0cm 21.3pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">8.</span><span style="font-size: 7.0pt; font-family: ''Times New Roman'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">金发女孩原则：如何在生活与工作中维持动力（</span>Page 260-264<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; background: white;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">喜剧演员史提夫。马丁 ：【十年学习，四年精进，四年红透半边天】。设计会一直吸引执行的习惯，关键就是执行【难度恰到好处】的任务。就能拿出真本事、专注力，全然沉浸於眼前的任务。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; background: white;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; background: white;">一旦建立习惯，重要的是持续产生微小的进步，就能进入 【心流状态】。维持吸引力并继续带来满足感，行为必须保持新鲜。在自我精进的征途上，无聊可能是大魔王。</span></p>','2025-08-15 15:44:51.661','2025-08-15 15:44:51.661',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 15:44:51.659',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fcedd8b9-6818-475a-933e-64743a9c3415','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>在日复一日的生活中，重复同样的事情确实会感觉枯燥乏味。我们必须往背后的初衷和利益去考虑，并以专业的角度去执行自己的目标，不让情绪左右我们，而是坚定的做自己的主人。</p>','2025-08-09 10:40:25.125','2025-08-16 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4311fad-a99d-46e1-9bc3-8025e67b493a','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>成功最大的威胁不是失败而是无聊。人是无法持续保持亢奋，面对挑战。所以，才延申出&ldquo;变动奖赏&rdquo;。</p>
<p>当精疲力竭在面对新事物时，只有专业的习惯持有人，才能继续往前冲刺。专业会在这样无聊的时刻坚守行程，而业余习惯持有者会因接受生活干扰而改变。专业，是你的身份认同。</p>','2025-08-11 03:49:19.632','2025-08-16 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('09fa4a25-4bb2-4dfd-be6d-0881088234eb','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>专业人士会知道啥该做，啥不该做。</p>
<p>我一直认为，我很看心情來对待生活，看到这篇，不禁让我觉得是时候该把这个关点改观。</p>
<p>专业人士坚守既定行程，我这个业馀业suka suka 看心情。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-14 09:11:43.683','2025-08-16 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1152e900-764b-419c-a97c-3cd4561b49d3','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>人的本性就是如此，不管任何行为，都会遇到乏味无趣的时候，想要持续下去，就要爱上无聊，设定的奖赏也必须变化多端，才会促使动力持续发展！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-15 14:42:45.638','2025-08-16 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('80922d7e-8ac4-436f-80ac-6cc7e704bd16','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>在我爸身上看到他百年如一日的生活習慣。</p>
<p>不管昨天應酬到多晚，早上天氣如何，他都會在五點的時候起床拿著他的網球拍去運動。每天準時上班，準時下班。規律讓他自由了。</p>
<p>反覆的做一件事情，無不無聊，見仁見智。</p>
<p>如果發現每天重複的做件事情，慢慢地體驗到累積得來的進步，那種滿足感常常會覆蓋無聊。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-16 01:45:13.962','2025-08-16 01:45:13.962',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 01:45:13.961',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9b2f0ff0-af9c-421f-9920-5936481ef967','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>成功最大的威脅不是失敗，而是無聊。所以我們需要愛上無聊。所謂專業人士堅守既定行程，業餘者接受生活的干擾。</p>','2025-08-16 05:45:57.534','2025-08-16 05:45:57.534',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 05:45:57.533',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f04cba4e-aeba-44d8-8c87-b4592075eb25','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>习惯的建立像一道 Bell Curve，同样的事情做到一定的量时，我们便会开始感到无聊</p>','2025-08-16 09:27:08.163','2025-08-16 09:27:08.163',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 09:27:08.162',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e3e3949-7559-4a49-8f67-5d97ba90277a','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>动力慢慢时，每个人都能努力打拼。在工作不令人兴奋时继续努力，这种能力才是造就差异的关键。</p>','2025-08-16 09:49:02.858','2025-08-16 09:49:02.858',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 09:49:02.857',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('630dd1aa-fa52-4605-b6c5-6325ba7068fe','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 47&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>16&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略&nbsp;</span>&ndash;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">如何在感到无聊时保持专注（</span>Page 264-269<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我们之所以对习惯感到无聊是因为它们不再带来愉悦感。</span></p>','2025-08-16 12:10:59.559','2025-08-16 12:10:59.559',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 12:10:59.558',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('360e8260-7694-4e66-8170-d4b5044ff0df','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>成功最大的威胁是无聊。&nbsp;</p>
<p>突破无聊，让习惯坚持不懈，保持专注是我很需要学习的。&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-16 12:41:12.18','2025-08-16 12:43:52.965',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 12:43:52.958',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('72dd224a-25a5-43ba-89ee-b5086b531061','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>习惯的改变是一连串原子习堆叠在一起，每一个都是整体系统的基本单位。每一次的进步或改善，若能坚持下去，最后，你会点抵达一个转逆点。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-16 03:05:26.463','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dfbdc6db-cfe6-4baa-81c8-d45ba1377647','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p2"><span class="s1">Day 47 ：8月16 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">如何在感到无聊时保持专注（Page 264-269）</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">人们对习惯感到厌倦、无聊，是因为它们不再带来愉悦感。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">不管有没有变动奖赏，任何习惯都无法永远保持有趣。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">你必须爱上无聊。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">当一项习惯对你真的很重要，你必须愿意在任何心情之下坚持执行去，想办法把该做的事情做完。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">专业人士坚守既定行程，业余者接受生活的干扰。</span></p>','2025-08-16 12:51:26.188','2025-08-16 12:51:27.47',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 12:51:27.469',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('328a97d6-d953-4c56-8cfc-06635f66fc33','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>要成功行成新习惯，除了持之以恒的绝心，也要学会了解会有无聊感产生的时候， 而要懂的控制并保持专注。</p>','2025-08-16 13:36:15.747','2025-08-16 13:36:43.424',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 13:36:43.423',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('56f3d3cb-12d9-43b4-a5f6-131780c828c7','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 47 ：8月16 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何在感到无聊时保持专注（Page 264-269）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何在无聊时保持专注&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">成功的关键不是激情，而是坚持。不只是「有热情的人」才会成功。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正的专业人士，即使觉得无聊、厌倦，还是会照样执行。无聊比失败更危险成功最大的威胁不是挫败，而是当习惯变成例行公事后，我们会感到乏味，进而放弃。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很多人会因为「追求新鲜感」而半途换方向，失去原本有效的进步策略。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正的高手不是靠激情，而是能在无聊与乏味中，依然保持稳定执行。</span></p>','2025-08-16 14:19:30.414','2025-08-16 14:19:30.414',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 14:19:30.413',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b65dfb22-fe7d-47db-bd65-720efda41dc1','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊。</p>
<p>事业人士坚守既定行程，业余者接受生活的干扰。</p>','2025-08-16 14:25:58.153','2025-08-16 14:27:07.492',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 14:27:07.491',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f629955-b0ab-458b-85b1-8a4d49941138','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是 无聊。当习惯变得可预期，失去新鲜感，我们就容易偏离轨道。我们需要学会和无聊共处，并在其中保持专注。</p>
<p>可以这样提醒自己： 我做这个习惯，不是为了眼前的感觉，而是为了那个更远、更重要的自己。即使现在觉得无聊、没有火花，我依然愿意坚持，因为它让我一点一点靠近我想要的生活。</p>','2025-08-16 14:47:02.706','2025-08-16 14:47:02.706',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 14:47:02.705',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('825408dd-2a3a-4d42-815d-96a8d93ad456','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>进行恰在当下的任务，奖赏与成分成对比，容易形成欲望。</p>','2025-08-16 14:49:55.337','2025-08-16 14:49:55.337',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 14:49:55.336',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89324f88-e02c-4399-9f33-00b88f71f70a','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>专业人士坚守既定行成，业余者接受生活的干扰。</p>
<p>当一项习惯对我们很重要，我们必须愿意在任何的心情下坚持执行。</p>
<p>如何处理&ldquo;无聊&rdquo;很重要！</p>','2025-08-16 14:53:32.747','2025-08-16 14:53:32.747',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 14:53:32.746',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d5d90c9f-3b77-41a2-836c-14cfeaf4d2ce','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>成功最大的威脅不是失敗，而是無聊。</p>
<p>反覆做着一模一樣的事，卻無止境的感受到趣味，就是成就卓越的不二法門。你必須愛上無聊。</p>','2025-08-16 15:15:46.103','2025-08-16 15:15:50.305',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 15:15:50.304',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6b9d0d3b-4dc3-4d41-b978-59c20b956358','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>面对无聊，接受它，解决它，放下它。它是失败的帮凶，威胁成功。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-16 15:24:51.94','2025-08-16 15:33:22.297',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 15:33:22.296',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6bef9b8-457e-46c6-bbe9-0481fc0f4506','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊。</li>
<li>无论我们有多么喜欢某个习惯，到了某个时间，我们都会面对同样的挑战：你必须爱上无聊。</li>
<li>专业人士与业余者的最大分别是：就算在讨厌的时候、痛苦的时候、精疲力尽的时候，还是挺身继续。</li>
<li>当一向习惯对你真的很重要，你必须愿意在任何心情之下坚持执行。就算不会乐在其中，但会想办法把该做的事情做完。</li>
<li>反复做着一模一样的事，却无止境地感受到趣味，就是成就卓越的不二法门。你必须爱上无聊。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-16 15:52:28.364','2025-08-16 15:52:28.364',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 15:52:28.363',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83267584-6d3f-4afd-a7b6-6f66b2926994','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p class="p2"><span class="s1">成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊。</span><span class="s1">不管有没有变动奖赏，</span><span class="s1">你必须爱上无聊。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">当一项习惯对你真的很重要，你必须愿意在任何心情之下坚持执行去，想办法把该做的事情做完。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-16 15:55:56.595','2025-08-16 15:55:56.595',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 15:55:56.594',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('64f21e4a-3923-4d92-8a22-82e060588f45','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 47 : 8月16 日&nbsp; 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何在感到无聊时保持专注</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">【成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊】</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们之所以对习惯感到厌倦，无聊，是因为它们不再带来愉悦感，结果变得可以预期.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">变动奖赏不会创造渴望. 也就是说，你不能拿一个人们不感兴趣的奖赏，以变动的间隔给他们，然后希望这个奖赏可以让他们改变主意. 但对于强化我们原本就有的渴望非常有效，因为变动奖赏能够减低无聊.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不管有没有有变动奖赏，任何习惯都无法永远保持有趣，在自我精进的旅途上，到了某个时间点，每个人都会面对同样的挑战 ： 你必须爱上无聊.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">可以保证，只要开始执一项习惯並试图持之以恒，必定会遇到想要放弃的时候，创业之后，一定会有某些日子你根本懒得现身：呆在健身房时，一定会有某些训练动作你根本不想完成，到了写作的时间一定会有某些时间你根本无心打字. 但是，在讨厌的时候、痛苦的时候 、精疲力尽的时候还是挺身继续，这就是专业人士与以业余者的差别.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">动力满满时，每个人都能努力打拼，在工作不令人兴奋时继续努力，这种能力才是造就差异的关键.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">专业人士坚守既定行程，业馀者接受生活的干扰.</span></p>','2025-08-16 15:57:13.121','2025-08-16 15:57:13.121',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 15:57:13.118',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1504ad2c-0577-4c97-92b8-f77bcf1958f9','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 47&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>16&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">如何在感到无聊时保持专注（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 264-269<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：<br><br>成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊。<br><br></span></p>','2025-08-16 16:00:06.368','2025-08-16 16:00:06.368',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 16:00:06.367',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0cb1704-bde4-440b-bd2a-5bfec4da91eb','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 48&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>17&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略&nbsp;</span>&ndash;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">建立好习惯的坏处（</span>Page 270-273<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯也容易掉入自满的陷阱，解决方案是</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯+刻意练习=精通</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-16 23:19:23.169','2025-08-16 23:22:27.281',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-16 23:22:27.28',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77a7281a-2004-438f-8a29-44c7a0f49008','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>习惯会让我们自我锁定在现有的思维，不愿根据环境的改变而做出更改。必须有自醒的直觉，不断检阅及随大环境的转换而做出调整。&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-16 23:04:05.646','2025-08-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e2063d8b-c036-497b-8b23-f88c19707398','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>让自己保有高弹性，不断转换身份认同，应变新挑战。</p>','2025-08-19 05:55:16.322','2025-08-19 05:55:16.322',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 05:55:16.321',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('96aeb768-5ce6-49c1-80dd-bad213253d9a','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>好习惯养成是好事，但是还是有很多空间可以改善。</p>','2025-07-24 13:25:01.311','2025-08-17 00:00:00.066',NULL,'f','2025-08-17 00:00:00.061','2025-08-17 00:00:00.061',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1440b28d-611c-4bab-a2e7-aa15774eea37','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>完美的習慣加上不斷累積的智慧造就驚人的成果。</p>
<p>這裡作者講到一直持續完美的習慣將會是A到A+一個挑戰。</p>','2025-08-17 01:24:50.392','2025-08-17 01:24:50.392',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 01:24:50.39',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a078d76b-f40a-46b8-bbb6-4934a9938033','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>习惯 + 刻意练习 = 精通</p>','2025-08-17 12:50:42.118','2025-08-17 12:50:42.118',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 12:50:42.109',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8408575-ded6-49d4-ac2b-d9f52883b8e7','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 50&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>19&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略&nbsp;</span>&ndash;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">如何破除妨碍你前进的信念（</span>Page 279-283<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">不要被身份绑架自己</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">放下身份的框架，因为会因身份感到骄傲，阻止成长。</span></p>','2025-08-16 23:30:36.733','2025-08-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b5e4583-0daf-450d-be15-9328a52e488b','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>要成立新习惯，都是丛小步骤开始，不断反省，煅练，改进，就算成立了好习惯，也不满足与现状，而要持续更进及改变。</p>','2025-08-16 23:15:05.258','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb49a307-cde3-44ff-bd31-079f5c266c2f','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 51&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>20&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》结语</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">让成果永续的秘诀（</span>Page 285-287<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">让成果永续的秘诀是，永不停止追求进步或改善</span></p>','2025-08-17 00:14:01.319','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6dc015fd-5873-476a-abf7-2b481fb0e4c6','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>透过阅读《原子习惯》，学习了可以行成新习惯的方式及步奏，但更重要的取决与我们也必须有自律感及愿意踏出做尝试，以实践所学的到的知识。</p>','2025-08-16 23:45:20.04','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('319d6126-ca8d-40f1-981e-4c810bb1bfc7','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>发怒是使人和人之间变得疏远的感情。</p>
<p>不去执着于无法改变的事情，而是正视眼前可以改变的事情。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 02:29:52.877','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7203b6b2-8942-4478-bac1-6758eaa62629','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>我对下一篇更好奇了，下一篇再继续写</p>','2025-09-14 00:09:00.64','2025-09-14 00:09:00.64',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-14 00:09:00.638',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2961de7-1fd4-4d23-be33-40685af79d74','c329df0f-8302-4bd2-9f37-35cfe91d428e',NULL,'<p>good&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-16 12:44:52.75','2025-09-16 12:44:52.75',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-16 12:44:52.749','cd0b9f4a-6bbb-43cb-b337-edf74dc14da4','e0b03255-a2fd-479b-bead-d8f34d2bfbeb');
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('135c94ff-4cd5-4130-b789-0e2eeae6daea','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 48 ：8月17 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 建立好习惯的坏处（Page 270-273）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">精通的秘诀</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">自动化 + 刻意练习 才能真正成长：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 自动化 &rarr; 打好基础动作。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 刻意练习 &rarr; 聚焦在新的挑战与细节。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;&bull; 精通是一个 不断循环的过程</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯帮你起步，刻意练习帮你突破；反省让你不至停滞。</span></p>','2025-08-17 03:39:35.906','2025-08-17 03:39:35.906',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 03:39:35.905',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('87fdc1f1-185c-4519-ae4b-652fa6779068','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>自动化是必须的，但是不要止步于A，而是一直追求A+，才会时刻反省自己的行为，继续挑战，如何精通，精进，和不断提高该行为！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-17 05:55:17.118','2025-08-17 05:55:17.118',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 05:55:17.117',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8488d918-275b-4c3c-ba23-de1c21149025','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>当你可以不假思索地把事情做得&ldquo;够好&rdquo;，就不会去思考要怎么样才能做得&ldquo;更好&rdquo;，错误就很容易趁虚而入。</p>
<p>精通是一个过程，就是不断重复该技能，把习惯变成自动化，然后以这个新习惯为基础，再往下一个新习惯前进，新的挑战，意思说每个习惯都是为更高层次的表现解锁，这是个无止境的循环。</p>','2025-08-17 06:04:58.194','2025-08-17 06:04:58.194',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 06:04:58.193',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5830f4a6-4109-41bb-ba91-b26d6b93b623','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>🌿 习惯的力量，在于让我们自动化行动，不必费心思考。</p>
<p>🍂 习惯的盲点，在于容易忽略细微的错误。</p>
<p>✨ 想要成长到精通，就要在习惯的基础上，加入一份刻意练习。</p>','2025-08-17 07:03:42.861','2025-08-17 07:03:42.861',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 07:03:42.86',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fda14c99-cbfe-416b-b472-336e3db01a8b','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>精通的过程需要进步的层层堆叠，每个习惯都建立在前一个习惯之上，直到达成更高层次的表现，并将更高阶的技能内化。</p>','2025-08-17 11:45:13.743','2025-08-17 11:45:13.743',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 11:45:13.742',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c33bc59e-fd92-42e5-9dfb-723c934a605d','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 48 ：8月17 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 建立好习惯的坏处（Page 270-273）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯为精通创造基础。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯成为追求任何卓越表现的骨干。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你不能盲目重复做一样的事，却期待自己变得突出。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯+刻意练习=精通</span></p>','2025-08-17 15:00:10.908','2025-08-17 15:00:13.325',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 15:00:13.324',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('948cbe87-537a-4b17-b63c-0f4e759b0376','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>追求精通，习惯是必要的，但只有习惯並不够，需要自动化习惯与刻意练习组合。</p>','2025-08-17 12:43:20.474','2025-08-17 12:43:23.669',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 12:43:23.668',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('166c3cac-93e6-4ea6-a2d3-2365a4ab9167','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<div class="flex flex-row justify-between gap-2">
<div class="flex flex-row gap-2 mb-2">
<div class="font-semibold flex flex-row items-center gap-2">&nbsp;</div>
</div>
</div>
<div class="text-xs sm:text-sm ml-[38px]">
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">自动化和刻意练习 可以变得 精通</span></p>
</div>','2025-08-17 13:55:12.728','2025-08-17 13:55:12.728',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 13:55:12.727',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('19e7d984-fb43-4f79-9ac4-916e2a6e1a2e','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>当习惯变得自动化，对回馈就变得比较不敏感，错误就比较容易趁虚而入</p>','2025-08-17 13:56:46.853','2025-08-17 13:56:46.853',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 13:56:46.852',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('12b7e6dd-71ed-4a3a-b362-a3d76f15d9c0','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>习惯加刻意练习等于精通</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>精通，不可以自满。需要反省和复查系统。</p>','2025-08-17 13:59:20.7','2025-08-17 13:59:20.7',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 13:59:20.699',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('95068dd8-8f70-4d64-a6c4-8cb96a37a22a','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>一直重复同一个习惯，到自动化的时候，需要&ldquo;+1&rdquo;一个新的挑战来提升，这样不断地一点一点堆叠，才可以通过习惯一直无止尽地进步。</p>','2025-08-17 15:07:05.23','2025-08-17 15:07:05.23',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 15:07:05.225',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('baf888ca-c880-4e2a-9a13-a8bbec615e28','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>想要让潜能最大化，追求经营级的表现，就要用更细腻的做法，你不能盲目重复一样的事，却期待自己变得特殊，追求精通习惯是必要的，但只有习惯并不够，你需要的是自动化习惯，刻意练习的组合。锁定在成功的一个微小元素，不断的重复技能，直到将它内化，然后把这个新的习惯作为一个基础，往个人的发展，向下一个边界前进。</p>','2025-08-17 15:09:45.925','2025-08-17 15:09:45.925',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 15:09:45.924',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('86bed309-efad-433d-b0e5-ac847f70359b','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>行为的前后都尽可能做记录，以便在反思/反省的动作时，回顾过去和当下，看看可改进的，也检查是否有符合自身身份的认可！</p>','2025-08-17 13:11:09.554','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5a5d7b17-6168-4d26-a830-1428db393bc1','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 50 ：8月19 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何破除妨碍你前进的信念（Page 279-283）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">好习惯帮我们节省力气，刻意练习让我们持续进步，身份认同需要灵活转换。保持反省与觉察，才能让习惯成为成长的助力，而不是枷锁。</span></p>','2025-08-19 14:58:46.49','2025-08-19 14:59:00.103',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 14:59:00.102',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cccd7888-93dd-42a4-a35c-1c2d31c57043','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>尊重是实事求是，努力地使对方成长和发展自己，不试图操控，无条件认可，给予鼓励</p>','2025-09-03 15:19:02.777','2025-09-03 15:19:02.777',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 15:19:02.776',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5c4e6e8-4f2a-4494-a547-c18474892f55','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>记忆肌肉化使原本要耗费精力去思考的动作变成自动化，保留下来的体力或精力可以用于发展下个技能。</p>','2025-08-17 15:13:40.665','2025-08-17 15:13:40.665',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 15:13:40.664',NULL,NULL);
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<li>当你把一个事情执行到滚瓜烂熟时，就可以把注意力放在更高阶的细节上。习惯是这样成为追求任何卓越表现的骨干。</li>
<li>但是，当习惯变得自动化时，你对回归就变得比较不敏感，落入无意识的重复之中。这时，错误就比较容易趁虚而入虚而入。</li>
<li>习惯的好处在于让你可以不经思考行事，坏处则在于让你习于以特定方式做事情，不再注意到微小的失误。</li>
<li>你以为你一直在进步，其实你只是一直在强化目前的习惯，而不是改善。</li>
<li>但是我们可以把这个习惯潜能最大化，追求精英级的表现。好习惯潜意识化后，把省下来的心力花在真正重要的事情上。</li>
<li>习惯+刻意练习=精通</li>
<li>精通是一个把该技能不断重复，直到将其内化。然后以新习惯为基础，往个人发展的下一个境界前进。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-17 15:32:15.55','2025-08-17 15:32:15.55',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 15:32:15.549',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">8.&nbsp;&nbsp;建立好习惯的坏处</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯的好处在於让你可以不经思考行事，坏处则在於让你习惯以特定方式做事情，不再注意到微小的失误. 经验一直在累计，你就以为自己一直在进步，其实你只是一直在强化目前的习惯，而不是在改. 事实上，让某些研究显示，一旦精通某项技巧，随着时间过去，表现反而会有些微【退步】.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯+刻意练习 = 精通</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">纵使习惯的力量最强大，你必须找到一个可以对自身表现长久保持觉察的方法，这样才能持续精进与改善. 就在你开始觉得自己已经精通一项技能.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">事情变得自动化让你应付自如的那个瞬间更须小心，不要踏入自满的陷阱.</span></p>','2025-08-17 15:57:20.535','2025-08-17 15:57:22.295',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 15:57:22.294',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a96f124d-1389-47f5-ae85-59db03e06f34','4b6a4280-3ed7-496b-9c9e-5b7daf84333e','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 48&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>17&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; text-indent: -18.0pt; line-height: 15.75pt; margin: 0cm 0cm 0cm 21.3pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">8.</span><span style="font-size: 7.0pt; font-family: ''Times New Roman'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">建立好习惯的坏处（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 270-273<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：<br><br></span>当习惯变得自动化时，错误就比较容易趁虚而入。就不会&middot;去&middot;思考怎样<br><br>把这个习惯潜能最大化，追求精英级的表现。习惯+刻意练习=精通</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"><br><br></span></p>','2025-08-17 15:59:59.857','2025-08-17 15:59:59.857',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-17 15:59:59.856',NULL,NULL);
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<p>反省也带来正确的观察方式，提供一个理想的时间，让我们重新检视行为改变最重要的一个面向：身分认同。</p>','2025-07-28 15:32:36.397','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d3e18d4c-6510-41f4-8781-53287f7a91a0','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>反省与复查让所有的习惯都有长期的改善，因为这会让你意识到错误，并帮助你改善。</p>','2025-08-15 02:45:28.594','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6b540e1d-195b-4913-a8d2-ba3b056bfe39','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>在建立习惯过程中，要不断反省及复查进度，需要时做出调整，才能精益求精，做出好成绩。</p>','2025-08-16 22:55:11.435','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('73bcaeb6-3dc5-4711-9dc4-7bb7b21ae0ca','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>不要让身份的任何单一面相决定你是谁。让你的身份保持渺小，越是简单信念定义自己。越是抓紧一个身份认同不放，越难让自己超越这个身份成长。</p>','2025-08-17 15:14:21.289','2025-08-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b7b632c-9e79-4882-b04c-69ad6c9797fb','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>缺乏自我察觉是毒药，反省与复查是解药。</p>','2025-08-19 15:35:52.695','2025-08-19 15:35:52.695',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 15:35:52.694',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a55fa0ba-89ea-4e2e-a5b4-f843bcbdbcf3','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>我很喜欢以下的这个念头。就是一连续的过程，没有终点线，没有永远的解决之道，每当想要有所进步改善的时候，都可以运用连环的四法则，直到遇到下一个瓶颈，让提示显而易见，让习惯有吸引力，让行动轻而易举，让奖赏令人满足，一轮又一轮坚持，让你找到1%的进步，下下一个方向。</p>','2025-08-17 15:21:00.749','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0439dfb3-62d5-4172-ad34-e53b6ed83bde','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>我百分之百同意學校是一個荒謬的制度。簡直就是一個極權國家。賞罰他們說了算。這種制度能夠交出能夠獨立思考的學生嗎？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 07:20:48.114','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cba0d867-4a1b-4fdf-82f3-3d0e5b4d6bf4','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>教育的目標就是自立。</p>
<p>一個能夠自力的人能夠和社會和諧共處，知道自己是有能力的，並且人人都是他的夥伴。</p>','2025-09-02 02:55:13.42','2025-09-02 02:56:38.441',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 02:56:38.44',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a09c919-8dfd-4a11-b9a6-0a306aa9c13e','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 49&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>18&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略&nbsp;</span>&ndash;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">如何复查习惯并做出调整（</span>Page 273-279<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">复盘很重要</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">单🈶习惯不足矣让一个人变得优秀，而需要刻意练习+复盘。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">反思自己哪里需要进步，哪里进步了</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">可以每天问自己</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">今天我做了什么让自己进步的</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">今天我做了什么让自己退步了。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">每年12月也給自己看回一整年自己做乐写什么，反思自己的进步与退步</span></p>','2025-08-16 23:27:26.73','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c9fbc705-22ea-4f2c-9aec-5b1273e6f933','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>反省与复查确保你把时间花在对的事情上，并在需要的时候调整方向。</p>
<p>几道问题都是提醒每年的自己要重新检视自己想要的身份认同，思索习惯如何帮助我成为自己想要成为的那种人。它们让我知道何时该让习惯升级，接受新的挑战，何时又该降低努力的强度，专注于基本的东西。</p>','2025-08-17 07:34:09.975','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('00e67e93-2bc8-4bc8-a753-debb6968fa68','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>改善不止关乎学习习惯，还关乎微调的习惯，反省与复查，确保你把时间花在对的事情上，并在需要的时候调整方向。</p>
<p>反省也会带来正确的观察方式。日常习惯因为复利效应而强大。反省与复查提供了一个理想的时间，让我们重新检视行为改变最重要的一个面向身份认同。</p>','2025-08-17 15:12:25.355','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4e25f610-dba2-4384-a70a-9b14dce0430f','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每個禮拜我都要檢視我的習慣列表，然後到年底再做一個總誠實報告。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><br>1）少去一次特殊場所</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2）少去一次七點之後的晚宴</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3）少喝一次酒</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4）少責罵我的女兒</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">5）有一次美好的性愛</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">6）一個禮拜五天有運動</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">7)下午少吃一次甜食</span></p>','2025-08-17 15:35:34.14','2025-08-18 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006','2025-08-18 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6cfd1d40-6a58-4c13-9c48-37f6b6edf79f','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>习惯的改变不是单一的百分之一的进步，而是常年累月的微小改善的累积而带来的成果。小改变是经过层层叠加，效果就会被看见。</p>
<p>改变到成功不再是一个终点目标或越过的终点线，而是一种能力去建立微调整，持续达到想要的结果的一个系统。而且永不停止追求进步、改善。这才是让成果永续的秘诀。</p>
<p>通过以下四个法则提醒自己：</p>
<ul>
<li>让提示显而易见</li>
<li>让习惯有吸引力</li>
<li>让行动轻而易举</li>
<li>让奖赏令人满足</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-18 09:35:38.077','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a430d004-ee88-42d0-9cc2-2065818b7b20','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>来自行为改变的启示</p>
<p>1.觉察早于欲望</p>
<p>只有注意到一个机会之后，渴望才会发生。</p>
<p>2.快乐就是无欲无求</p>
<p>快乐就是不想要改变自身状态时，所进入的状态。</p>
<p>3.我们追求的是愉悦的概念</p>
<p>快乐是无法被求得，它是随之而来的。</p>
<p>欲望是求得的，而愉悦紧接着行动发生。</p>
<p>4.平静就是不把观察结果变成问题</p>
<p>没有欲望，不渴求改变，就只是观察者。</p>
<p>5.够大的为何可以克服所有的如何</p>
<p>知道自己为何而活，就能忍受任何活法。强大的渴望驱动强大的行为。</p>
<p>6.聪明不如好奇</p>
<p>拥有动机和好奇比聪明有用，因为会带来行动。光是聪明，不会产生成果。</p>
<p>7.情绪驱动行为</p>
<p>感觉先出现，接着才是行为。</p>
<p>8.只在情绪之后才可能有理性与逻辑</p>
<p>大脑的首要模式是感觉，次要模式是思考。</p>','2025-08-18 03:22:56.038','2025-08-21 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('42c1935f-f925-4604-be8c-48e83ec57d79','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>身份认同的概念越深，我们越是捍卫它。这样也会让自己在面对需要改变的时候变得脆弱。所以，不要让身份的任何单一面向决定自己到底是谁。</p>
<p>身份认同应该是可以有弹性，适应变动的环境。不是单一的一种身份如：运动员、管理高层、母亲。而是更广阔的身份定位，例如：</p>
<ul>
<li>&rdquo;我是运动员&ldquo;，变成&ldquo;我是那种心理强悍而且热爱体能挑战的人&rdquo;。</li>
<li>"我是管理高层&ldquo;，变成&rdquo;我是热爱组织团队和价值创造的人&ldquo;</li>
<li>&rdquo;我是母亲&ldquo;，变成&rdquo;我是孩子的拉拉队、孩子的心灵导师、孩子的临时避风港。&ldquo;</li>
</ul>
<p>习惯带来好处，也会让自己锁在过去定下的思考模式中。接受变化是常态，保持觉察、反省与复查，才能让习惯与是并进的个人武器。</p>','2025-08-18 00:10:15.566','2025-08-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0254fc4d-3cc5-4738-8800-13610f81517b','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>改变习惯很难不在于本身，而是少了系统。</p>
<p>让习惯变得很容易被看见。</p>
<p>让习惯变得很有吸引力。</p>
<p>让习惯变得轻而易举。</p>
<p>让奖赏令人满足。</p>
<p>微小改变，非凡成果。</p>','2025-08-18 06:15:42.71','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fbb6e289-3521-4d7a-85d3-589f759febb3','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>🌱 反省与复查，能让习惯持续优化。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">它们帮我们看见错误、找到改善的可能。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">若缺少反省，我们往往会找借口、合理化，甚至欺骗自己。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">✨ 没有复查，就失去了判断&mdash;&mdash;今天是否比昨天更好。</span></p>','2025-08-18 13:27:31.281','2025-08-18 13:27:31.281',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 13:27:31.28',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5a02181-4115-442f-8beb-66aebb1e63a1','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>反省与复查&gt;意识错误&gt;调整方向&gt;长期改善</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-18 13:34:46.792','2025-08-18 13:34:46.792',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 13:34:46.791',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4dfd1285-b533-4390-abb6-3a74967bb211','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 49&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>18&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">如何复查习惯并做出调整（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 273-279<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：<br><br></span>反省与复查让习惯有长期的改善，意识到错误，帮助思索可能可以改善的途径。少了反省，会找借口。试图合理化，欺骗自己，就没有一个过程帮助决定表现是比昨天更好或更坏。<br><br>记录每周做得重要决定、做决定的原因，以及期待 产出的结果。在月底或年终复查，看看哪里做对、哪里出错。确保把时间花在对的事情上。</p>','2025-08-18 15:33:27.118','2025-08-18 15:33:27.118',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 15:33:27.116',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bc56ff67-ece0-45bf-86ba-f5524a8469f8','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>曾經創立雪花站做了15年的生意，原本已經沒興趣，但是因為受到認同讓我手在這個框框裡。這個緊箍咒費了我九牛二虎之力才把它給解破。</p>','2025-08-18 13:01:03.651','2025-08-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b14a06f6-c858-4e73-ae42-fd22339f6eb2','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>對任何事業而言，維持努力都是最重要的。成功之道就是學會用正確的方法做事，然後每一次都用同樣的方法做。思索自己的身份認同，看看應該如何努力成為自己想要成為的那種人。</p>','2025-08-18 13:42:47.667','2025-08-18 13:42:58.506',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 13:42:58.505',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ccb36480-4d82-4fde-907d-cbb80a2671e0','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>反省与复查是一个让自己对自身表现长久保持觉察的过程。</p>','2025-08-18 14:11:08.53','2025-08-18 14:11:08.53',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 14:11:08.529',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2403b631-a26f-4f02-a99c-fb18b7d5454a','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>知错能改善莫大焉，知错是反省。</p>
<p>最近没妥善做时间安排，犯了几个愚蠢错误。我想起是因为没依照7习惯的时间管理方法。不必过于自责，认错及纠正就是！</p>','2025-08-18 14:17:45.756','2025-08-18 14:17:45.756',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 14:17:45.755',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9646db0a-6e2c-4285-a9ab-f55033e71861','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>经常反省和调整，诚实问自己：&nbsp;</p>
<p>1 驱动我的生活与工作核心价值观为何</p>
<p>2. 我现在如何诚实生活与工作。</p>
<p>3. 未来如何设定更高的标准。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-18 14:32:05.387','2025-08-18 14:32:05.387',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 14:32:05.386',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6e2b358-3435-4893-a086-85138df7cc81','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>想办法找到可以达成目标的关键数据。</p>
<p>周期性检查：1. 什么做得好 2. 什么做的不好 3.需要改进什么（新的方法）</p>','2025-08-18 14:35:47.334','2025-08-18 14:35:47.334',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 14:35:47.333',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('034dfb7c-b8a7-417a-8570-8d3173d333d8','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>要找方法复盘自己的错在哪里，找方法改进，得到数据后，再用数据改进</p>','2025-08-18 14:45:25.931','2025-08-18 14:45:25.931',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 14:45:25.93',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('68352bde-703c-4935-be9a-bef67eac59c8','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<ol>
<li>对任何事业而言，维持努力都是最重要的。成功之道就是学会用正确的方法做事，然后每一次都用同样的方法做。</li>
<li>反省与复查让所有的习惯都能有长期的改善，因为这会让你意识到错误，并帮助你思索可能可以改善的途径。</li>
</ol>','2025-08-18 15:18:42.741','2025-08-18 15:18:42.741',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 15:18:42.74',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5ee1d597-50f1-4ee2-9eb8-98b4765a9cda','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>身份认可固然重要，尤其是你要培养习惯，和达到某目的！</p>
<p>但无论如何，我们需有伸缩性，应对改变时，适当的调整，才能持续进步！</p>','2025-08-18 15:11:25.042','2025-08-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cc6268f8-4657-48b4-9ff7-fea55811a259','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>复习很重要，&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-19 15:55:30.046','2025-08-19 15:55:30.046',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 15:55:30.045',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6194e89-07da-4f14-a58e-0380e8a6b3d3','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>专注运用习惯改变四法则，</p>
<p>就能在每天的小行动中不断优化系统，</p>
<p>让自己自然更接近想要的结果。</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">好习惯是时间的朋友，坏习惯是时间的敌人。</span></p>
<p>每一个小习惯，都是在帮自己积累未来。</p>
<p>当真正掌握了四法则，</p>
<p>就拥有了设计生活、塑造自我的一把钥匙。</p>','2025-08-21 15:57:34.072','2025-08-21 15:57:34.072',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 15:57:34.071',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e5b9f283-f133-4dba-b8dd-579347a10419','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 53 ：8月22 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯总结篇今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">建立一套每天进步1%的系统</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">腾出时间建立新习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">做出可以造就巨大成果的微小改变。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">设计让你更容易成功的环境。</span></p>','2025-08-21 15:59:48.909','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('66414003-2b29-40cd-9a1f-fe7ac8b1b3ea','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 49 ：8月18 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何复查习惯并做出调整（Page 273-279）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">运动员：写训练笔记，记录饮食、睡眠、身体状态，每周复查。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">喜剧演员：在小型舞台测试笑话，记录观众反应，不断调整。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯让你稳定前进，反省让你走在对的方向。</span></p>','2025-08-18 15:33:44.285','2025-08-18 15:33:44.285',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 15:33:44.284',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0774dafe-3d83-4f50-97d2-6ae5ff2756c5','53f8584b-1742-4178-9d51-66d9e8f4f54e','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 49 : 8月18 日&nbsp; 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何复查习惯并做出调整</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改善不只关乎学习学习，还关乎微调习惯.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">反省与複查确保你把时间花在对的事情上，并在需要的时候调整方向. 你不会想要持续执行一项已经失去效用的习惯.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">【年度审查】，反思过去的一年. 透过回答以下三个问题来反思自己的进步或缺乏进步.&nbsp;<br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.) 今年什么事情很顺利?</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2.) 今年什么事情不顺利？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3.) 我从中学到了什么？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在每年诚实报告中，会问自己三个问题 : </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.) 启动我的生活与工作的核心价值观为何？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2.) 我现在如何诚实的生活与工作？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3.) 未来如何设定更高的标准？</span></p>','2025-08-18 15:58:38.294','2025-08-18 16:02:11.255',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 16:02:11.254',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('07396a23-f6a7-4b0e-98e6-9124d3e3304c','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>若放不下自己身份，我们就会被固定身份给捆绑，失去创新的机会</p>','2025-08-18 21:11:18.807','2025-08-18 21:11:18.807',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-18 21:11:18.806',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('344f87a3-50b0-4d82-a1c2-7622596eda1b','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>愈是抓紧一个身份认同不放愈难让自己超越成长。</p>
<p>解决方法是不要让身份的任何单一面向决定你是谁，要让自己的身份渺小。</p>
<p>习惯带来无数好处，但坏处是会把我们锁进先前的思考与行为模式中。万物，生命一直在改变，所以必须定期检视旧有的习惯与信念是否对自己还有用。</p>','2025-08-15 02:52:59.909','2025-08-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026','2025-08-19 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('604de2f6-4279-4f69-8965-6735409486b4','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>跟锻炼肌肉一样，在我们弱小的时候锻炼，可以从肌肉不足到健壮；但若我们要增加力量和耐力的时候，锻炼的次数和重量就必须在有计划的基础上不断增加和调整。唯一不变的就是不断提升的习惯。</p>
<p>缺乏自我察觉是毒药，反省与复查是解药。</p>
<p>习惯+刻意练习=精通</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-19 11:53:36.617','2025-08-19 11:54:22.546',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 11:54:22.545',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5de74f0e-c280-4981-b776-bc9ac094d354','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>抓紧身份认同容易让自己转牛角尖，变得固执。</p>
<p>不停的反省和复查可以变得时刻觉醒。</p>','2025-08-19 12:57:28.991','2025-08-19 12:57:28.991',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 12:57:28.99',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eb43e360-1080-4c4e-83f6-942b0dd00ac4','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>越是抓住一个身份认同不放，就越难让自己超越这个身份成长。要减轻身份丧失造成的影响，关键就是重新定义自己。例如：&ldquo;我是执行长&rdquo;，变成&ldquo;我是那种创造与建立东西的人&rdquo;。</p>','2025-08-19 13:12:46.736','2025-08-19 13:12:46.736',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 13:12:46.734',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5e20e8e-2dc8-45b4-9025-5e1970d6f817','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>身份认可固然重要，但培养习惯，和达到某目的尤为重要。</p>','2025-08-19 13:20:28.647','2025-08-19 13:20:28.647',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 13:20:28.642',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2abeed74-8864-45ba-99bf-7b3650d3cd66','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>执着于身份，会让我们停在原地。你远比某个角色更丰富，别让它框住了你。</p>','2025-08-19 13:32:42.279','2025-08-19 13:32:42.279',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 13:32:42.278',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('71b68804-501f-46c0-b103-7dfb86e8c312','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>积少成多，不断调整方向！</p>','2025-08-20 14:20:43.963','2025-08-20 14:20:43.963',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 14:20:43.961',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fc3afd87-52ed-477a-b484-68a11f82f3c3','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>在讀這本書的這個旅程中，我已經養成以前非常難成行的習慣。這對我的人生有無窮的復利。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-19 13:22:23.072','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb56b40c-3ec0-485d-a62e-8db65de4f949','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>手握行为改变四法则，你就拥有一组工具与策略。</p>
<p>当你很难记住某个习惯，就需要&ldquo;让提示显而易见&rdquo;</p>
<p>当你会缺乏起头的动力，就需要&ldquo;让习惯有吸引力&rdquo;</p>
<p>当你觉得某个习惯太过困难，就需要&ldquo;让行动轻而易举&rdquo;</p>
<p>当你不想坚持下去，你就需要&ldquo;让奖赏令人满足&rdquo;。</p>','2025-08-19 13:38:17.216','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('26e4174e-cc28-4210-b16b-c3b61dfe7e1f','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>原子习惯的魔力在于：点滴累积，持续改善。微小改变，终将酝酿出非凡成果。</p>','2025-08-19 13:38:55.951','2025-08-20 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018','2025-08-20 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1e41cbd0-7082-478c-bd14-c3ddc9179c5d','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>阿德勒思想并非无视法律或规则，而是通过民主程序制定出来。班级的主权不属于教师而是属于学生们。</p>
<p>阿德勒禁止赏罚，不可批评，也不可表扬。</p>
<p>孩子做了不好的事情，可能是他不知道这是不好的事情，不知道生命的价值和他人的痛苦。</p>','2025-08-30 06:55:17.889','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cedac3df-c2e9-4386-9c04-6acd547934e9','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>自立需要自己来完成，别人强逼自己就可以。</p>','2025-09-17 14:21:27.747','2025-09-17 14:21:27.747',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 14:21:27.746',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15fb2a23-c2bb-41df-8a64-049d9670af6b','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 50 ：8月19 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何破除妨碍你前进的信念（Page 279-283）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要让身份的任何单一面向决定你是谁。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要减轻身份丧失造成的影响，关键就是重新定义。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">缺乏自我觉察是毒药去，反省与复查则是解药。反省与复查是一个让你对自身表现长久保持觉察的过程。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">愈是紧抓一个身份认同不放，愈难让自己超越这个身份成长。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯的好处在于我们可以不经思考行事，坏处则在于让我们却不再注意到微小的失误。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯+刻意练习=精通</span></p>','2025-08-19 14:00:03.026','2025-08-19 14:00:04.683',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 14:00:04.682',NULL,NULL);
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<p>缺乏自我察覺是毒藥，反省而複查則是解藥</p>','2025-08-19 15:21:41.193','2025-08-19 15:21:48.414',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 15:21:48.413',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('804f46a0-c927-483d-b3f8-ccacb1c2078a','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<ol>
<li>越是紧抓一个身份认同不放，越难让自己超越这个身份成长。</li>
<li>缺乏自我觉察是毒药，反省与复查则是解药。</li>
</ol>','2025-08-19 15:41:28.174','2025-08-19 15:41:28.174',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 15:41:28.173',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b64d5dd-3145-4ddb-a03e-938814699f76','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>这本书看得我津津有味，让我看到自己也因为有了新身份，把好的习惯也建立了起来，而不是靠意志力。这本书用了简单又容易明白的架构，让我们可以把建立习惯变得简单，&ldquo;提示、渴望、回应、奖赏&rdquo;四个法则。在这四个步骤里，建立四个法则&nbsp;&ldquo;让提示显而易见&rdquo; ，&ldquo;让习惯有吸引力&rdquo;，&ldquo;让行动轻而易举&rdquo;，&ldquo;让奖赏令人满足&rdquo;。小习惯不只是累积，还有复利效应。这就是原子习惯的力量：微小改变，非凡成果。</p>','2025-08-19 14:16:24.791','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c71487d7-ac7e-42ad-ae55-ea84f1e95d16','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>不要养成坏习惯就是不要让身份的任何一面向决定自己是谁。</p>
<p>所以我们要定期检视旧有的习惯与信念是否依然对自己有用。</p>
<p>缺乏自我察觉是毒药，反省与复查则是解药。</p>','2025-08-19 15:42:19.186','2025-08-19 15:42:19.186',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 15:42:19.185',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ced84918-3a51-4ee6-9aff-16764d90a6e8','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>缺乏自我觉察是毒药， 反省与复查是解药</p>','2025-08-19 15:58:55.579','2025-08-19 15:58:55.579',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 15:58:55.578',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa060691-2759-466b-ae4b-8252ba562d23','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 50&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>19&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》进阶策略</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">如何从【</span>A<span lang="ZH-CN">】到 【</span>A+<span lang="ZH-CN">】</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">如何破除妨碍你前进的信念（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 279-283<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：<br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">越是抓住一个身份认同不放，就越难让自己超越这个身份成长。解决方法 &mdash;&mdash; 不要让身份的任何单一面向决定你是谁。</span><span class="s1">要减轻身份丧失造成的影响，关键就是重新定义自己。<br><br>强大处下，柔弱处上。缺乏自我觉察是毒药，反省与复查则是解药。</span></p>','2025-08-19 15:54:00.236','2025-08-19 15:54:00.236',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 15:54:00.234',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed68def2-b5d8-4b2e-a915-0d1f8312695b','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>但我们的好习惯为我们创出新的身份认同时，这个身份认同会创造出某种【骄傲】，使我们否认自己的弱点，阻止我们真正的成长这就是养成好习惯的一大坏处。</li>
<li>当一个概念对我们来说越神圣，我们越会捍卫它，不接受批评。</li>
<li>解决方法就是：【不要让身份的任何单一面向决定你是谁。】</li>
<li>越是让单一信念定义自己，越无法适应生命的挑战。</li>
<li>把一个身份抓得太紧，你会变得脆弱易碎。失去那一样东西，你就失去自己了。</li>
<li>要减轻身份丧失造成的影响，关键就是重新定义自己：
<ul>
<li>&ldquo;我是运动员&rdquo;变成&ldquo;我是那种心理强悍且热爱体能挑战的人。&rdquo;</li>
<li>&ldquo;我是杰出的军人&rdquo;变成&ldquo;我是那种智力可靠且擅长团队合作的人。&rdquo;</li>
<li>&ldquo;我是执行长&rdquo;变成&ldquo;我是那种创造与建立东西的人。&rdquo;</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>越是紧抓一个身份认同不放，越南让自己超越这个身份成长。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-19 15:59:32.97','2025-08-19 16:08:35.16',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 16:08:35.159',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6a64543c-026c-4bfc-a2d3-2a8cad10667b','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>小习惯会累计成效。要有点耐性，因为这不是特效药。</p>','2025-08-20 15:45:24.459','2025-08-20 15:45:24.459',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 15:45:24.454',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('860f7ad9-0033-4920-bb9a-046b7e14dacb','a9415089-d8fc-44d6-a640-7d8c5b7cc27e','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>自立是精神问题</p>','2025-09-17 14:53:31.473','2025-09-17 14:53:31.473',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 14:53:31.472',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('308694ce-c946-42f5-b80a-db602e6afe6c','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>幸福，不在朋友的数量，而在于是否拥有能无条件信赖、带来安全感的挚友。</p>','2025-09-23 15:53:05.082','2025-09-23 15:53:05.082',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-23 15:53:05.081',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bab66d58-8b8f-47b0-815f-1a12339e0a15','3b57611a-b028-46be-9989-15371fa617a4','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>预想获得别人的信赖，首先必须先信赖别人</p>','2025-09-22 03:51:42.067','2025-09-23 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-09-23 00:00:00.032','2025-09-23 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5d50b81-f57d-4916-bed8-1276a04bd93d','640f1918-aea3-490d-8a42-39e2a7c8a48d','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>弗洛姆说爱某个人并非单单出于激烈感情，这是一种决心，决断，约定。命运靠自己创造出来。</p>
<p>我们应该牵起身边人的手，尽情尽力地去跳舞，命运由此开始。</p>','2025-09-22 12:34:53.089','2025-10-02 00:00:00.049',NULL,'f','2025-10-02 00:00:00.015','2025-10-02 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('294b47d5-46e0-409c-a8ca-d1e2a9719365','19474e2a-cab3-41c8-8d43-9ff0bd045b86','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 50 ：8月19 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》进阶策略 &ndash; 如何从【A】到 【A+】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何破除妨碍你前进的信念</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">身份认同会创造出某种【骄傲】，促使你否认自己的弱点，阻止你真正成长，这就是养成习惯的一大坏处.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要让身份的任何单一面向决定你是谁. 面临身份认同危机，把一个身份抓得太紧，你就会变得脆弱，失去那一样东西，你就失去自己了. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要减轻身份丧失造成的影响，关键就是重新定义自己. 才能在指定角色改变时，仍保住你身份认同的重要面向.&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p2">例如 ：</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*【我是运动员】变成【我是那种心理强悍却热爱体能挑战的人】.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*【我是杰出的军人】变成【我是那种智力可靠却擅长团队合作的人】.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*【我是执行长】变成【我是那种创造与建立东西的人】</span></p>','2025-08-19 15:58:47.17','2025-08-19 16:00:50.348',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-19 16:00:50.347',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('136db582-c6e4-494b-bcb5-f2a1e8d0ba9a','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>一開始小進步或小改善，可能看似毫無意義，因為很容易被系統的重量沖掉。然而，當小改變持續情情疊加，人生的天平就會開始傾斜。每一次的進步或改善都像在天平正面的那一段放上一粒沙子，慢慢讓事情傾到向你有利的那一方。若能堅持下去最後你會抵達一個轉捩點。突然間堅持好習慣變得輕而易舉。系統的重量不再對我不利，而是為我所用。</p>
<p>改變的四個法則：當好艱難記住某個習慣，就需要讓提示顯而易見，當會缺乏起頭的動力，就需要讓習慣有吸引力；當覺得這個習慣太過困難，就需要用行動輕而易舉，當不想堅持下去，需要讓獎賞令人滿足。這是一個連續的過程，沒有終點線，沒有永遠的解決之道。每當你想要所有進步或改善，都可以輪番運用行為改變四法則，到遭遇下一個瓶頸。</p>','2025-08-20 00:52:34.697','2025-08-20 01:22:32.585',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 01:22:32.584',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16bf4d47-8fb9-4a78-8005-fdaf366d4cf3','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>永不停止追求进步与改善 ~ 成果永续</p>
<p>复利~积沙成塔</p>','2025-08-20 09:49:42.439','2025-08-20 09:49:42.439',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 09:49:42.438',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af70f4af-dc89-4b40-9d4a-512815619f5e','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>天平秤拿来形容累计习惯真的太贴切了，一粒沙足以改变很大。主要坚持下去，方法正确，必有收获。</p>','2025-08-20 10:43:41.217','2025-08-20 10:44:18.617',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 10:44:18.616',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c6a70b07-7e13-4c28-b9ac-11b5d8381e2a','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>Sikit-sikit jadi bukit, 习惯是经过日积月累的行动而积累和堆叠的。</p>','2025-08-20 12:40:57.732','2025-08-20 12:40:57.732',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 12:40:57.731',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83745d20-46a7-4c4c-ba68-c8f8b1519ef7','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>四个法则：</p>
<ul>
<li>让提示显而易见</li>
<li>让习惯有吸引力</li>
<li>让行动轻而易举</li>
<li>让奖赏令人满足</li>
</ul>','2025-08-20 13:37:25.082','2025-08-20 13:37:25.082',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 13:37:25.081',NULL,NULL);
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<p>当情绪里带着快乐与喜悦，行动也会变得轻盈而持续。喜悦感，就像燃料，让我们在前行的路上不只靠意志，而是带着心的热情与动力。</p>','2025-08-19 23:03:10.378','2025-08-21 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dfe69db6-f5ef-4a14-981d-af114dbcc4dd','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>习惯需要培养，也需要坚持。习惯如果可以带来成果，就会继续维持，反之，会很快放弃。</p>
<p>有时，明知是坏习惯，但却很难改掉，像抽烟，喝酒，沉迷手机。决心，毅力，环境都有极大的推动和影响。</p>','2025-08-21 00:53:04.385','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3656ff5e-e722-4fbe-86d4-f93fad5e4a19','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>读完《原子习惯》，我觉得整个人安心了下来。原来成长真的可以从很小的一步开始。</p>
<p>习惯的力量，就像种下一颗小小的种子，在每天一点点的浇水里，慢慢发芽、长大。</p>
<p>这本书让我明白，改变不是靠一时的爆发，而是靠一点一滴的累积。</p>
<p>当我允许自己放慢脚步，不急着一夜成功，反而更有力量坚持下去。</p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s2">小小的改变，终将带来非凡的成果。</span></strong></p>','2025-08-19 23:05:45.639','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca251aec-f6a4-4e5c-b0f6-a4d09342a227','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>教育的入口就是尊重，要对孩子心怀尊重，教的一方要尊重 被教的一方。没有尊重的地方无法产生良好的人际关系，没有良好的关系就不能顺畅交流。</p>
<p>尊重就是实事求是地看待一个人并认识到其独特个性的能力，努力地使对方能成长和发展自己，也是鼓励的根源。</p>
<p>只有尊重和爱是无伦多么有权势的人无法强迫的事情。</p>','2025-08-30 00:32:57.815','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">让成果永续的秘诀（Page 285-287）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📖 原子习惯的简化总结</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1 小改变会累积成大不同</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每一次微小进步，就像在天平上多放一粒沙。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">成功不是终点线，而是持续优化系统的过程。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">永不停止，才有非凡成果</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 不停止锻炼 &rarr; 打造强健体魄</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 不停止学习 &rarr; 累积深厚学养</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 不停止储蓄 &rarr; 积累可观财富</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 不停止关怀 &rarr; 建立真挚关系</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">原子习惯的力量：微小改变，非凡成果。</span></p>','2025-08-20 15:18:56.991','2025-08-20 15:18:59.209',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 15:18:59.207',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">结语 - 让成果永续的秘诀</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">【不是因为你不想改变，而是因为你的系统不适合改变】</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有时很难记住某个习惯， 就需要【让提示显示而易见】.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有时会缺乏起头的动力，就需要【让习惯有吸引力】.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有时会觉得某个习惯太过困难，就需要【让行动轻而易举】.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有时不想坚持下去，就需要【让奖赏令人满足】.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">原子习惯的力量 : 微小改变，非凡成果.</span></p>','2025-08-20 15:26:14.573','2025-08-20 15:26:15.797',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 15:26:15.796',NULL,NULL);
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<p>若不停止打拼， 就有非凡的事业</p>
<p>若不停止训练，就有非凡的体魄</p>
<p>若不停止学习，就有非凡的学养</p>
<p>若不停止储蓄，就有非凡的财富</p>
<p>若不停止关怀，就有非凡的友谊。</p>','2025-08-20 15:37:14.716','2025-08-20 15:37:31.143',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 15:37:31.142',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('842ffc52-ed27-4686-8146-9877e27aa56c','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>提示，渴望， 回应，奖赏</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-21 15:42:48.158','2025-08-21 15:43:15.707',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 15:43:15.706',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ecab7a77-7612-446d-8add-c1d5b21f4a22','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 52&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>8<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>21&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》附录</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">来自行为改变四法则的一些启示（</span>Page 289-295<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：<br><br></span></p>
<p>平静就是不把观察的结果变成问题。观察而没渴望。</p>
<p>够大的&ldquo;为何&rdquo;可以克服所有的&ldquo;如何&rdquo; ： 知道自己为何而活，就能忍受任何活法。</p>
<p>聪明不如好奇：当一个人有了好奇心，就有了动机，才会行动。</p>
<p>情绪启动行为：每个决定都是由情绪决定的。</p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN"><br></span></p>','2025-08-21 15:59:47.192','2025-08-21 16:00:40.552',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 16:00:40.545',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d2fba2d-d951-406b-9be1-227a1e1fb2c1','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>所谓尊重，就是能如实地看见一个人，承认他独特的个性，而不是想着去改造或操控他。真正的尊重，是不带条件地接纳眼前这个真实的人。</p>','2025-09-03 15:38:14.467','2025-09-03 15:38:14.467',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 15:38:14.466',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b575c57b-0285-4252-8f61-ff10729d0899','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>教室是个民主国家，这里的规则必须通过民主程序制定出来，主动去遵守，一律平等。</p>
<p>孩子犯错了，也许他是不知道，就该告诉他，教导他，但有些却是明知故犯的。对于这类人，是否该给与适当的惩罚呢？</p>','2025-08-30 02:22:41.366','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d69c0eaa-b27f-428b-b2a1-51757b63a5fe','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>哲学是爱知识，哲学家是爱知者。<br>哲学是一种生存态度。<br>知道自己无知，无知之知。</p>','2025-08-30 01:57:03.527','2025-09-01 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-09-01 00:00:00.009','2025-09-01 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a9646564-75c0-4b99-8aca-9c2c64a242c0','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p><br>教的一方，要尊重被教的一方。<br>有尊重，才能顺畅交流。<br>尊重就是实事求是地看待一个人，并<br>从认识到其他独特个性的能力。<br>尊重就是努力地使对方能成长和发展自己，不要企图去改变或者操纵他人。</p>','2025-08-30 02:01:26.4','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a8831cf3-6c14-4149-bb13-5eb634f31063','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>共同体的感觉就是我们需要用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受。</p>
<p>共鸣是接近他人时的技术与态度。只要是技术，就可以掌握，去关心他人兴趣。</p>','2025-08-30 00:59:02.437','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2d69234c-4f3c-4c27-9722-1259ed0d62c6','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>5个人的问题行为价段：</p>
<p>1）称赞的要求- 目的是获得表扬，在共同体取得特权地位，变成如果没人表扬就不做好事，如果没人惩罚就干坏事。我们应该关注他们的日常行为和兴趣，并产生共鸣。</p>
<p>2）引起关注 -得不到表扬也没关系，反正要与众不同。比起自己的存在被无视，被批评要好的多。</p>','2025-08-31 00:46:30.14','2025-09-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ea2c98c-b512-4b4b-8c05-413dd5f4d9ec','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 51 ：8月20 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》结语</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">让成果永续的秘诀（Page 285-287）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个小行为被重复足够多次之后所能产生的影响。比如重复给一枚硬币，的确可以致富。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯改变的圣杯并非单一 一次百分之一的进步，而是上千次的累积。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当小改变持续层层叠加，人生的天枰就会开始倾斜。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">成功不是一个拿来达成的目标，或是一条拿来越过的终点线。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">恶习一再fuming复萌，并非因为你不想改变，而是因为你的系统不合适改变。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变四法则-</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。很难记住某个习惯，就需要让提示显而易见。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2。缺乏起头的动力，就需要让习惯有吸引力。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3。习惯太过困难，就需要让行动轻而易举。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4。不想坚持下去，就需要让奖赏令人满足。</span></p>','2025-08-20 15:35:58.441','2025-08-20 15:36:00.223',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 15:36:00.219',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34e30da7-ca06-4402-8ab8-58706ca969cb','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>很难让记住某个习惯&rarr;让提示显而易见</p>
<p>缺乏动力&rarr;让习惯有吸引力</p>
<p>某个习惯太困难&rarr;让行动轻而易举</p>
<p>不想坚持&rarr;让奖赏令人满足</p>','2025-08-20 15:40:13.567','2025-08-20 15:40:13.567',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 15:40:13.566',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05092777-4657-4ef4-a433-6d629a9a6b46','dd787574-841f-43fc-b507-573447639d41','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>一开始小进步或小改变可能看似毫无意义，但当小改变持续层层叠加，人生的天平就会开始倾斜，慢慢让事情导向对你有利的一方。</li>
<li>能坚持下去，最后，你会抵达一个转捩点。</li>
<li>忽然间，坚持好习惯变得轻而易举，系统的重量不再对你不利，而是为你所用。</li>
<li>行为改变四法则：
<ul>
<li>你很难记住某个习惯：【让提示显而易见】</li>
<li>你会缺乏起头的动力：【让习惯有吸引力】</li>
<li>某个习惯太过困难：【让行动轻而易举】</li>
<li>你不想坚持下去：【让奖赏令人满足】</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>这就是原子习惯的力量：【微小改变，非凡成果。】</li>
</ul>','2025-08-20 15:56:43.027','2025-08-20 15:56:43.027',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-20 15:56:43.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('969b02be-28b2-4db3-a213-5ed85cc907f9','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>有得必有失就是人生的一部分，我们往往想要改变，但是还是停留想的阶段。我们必须要有欲望，通过观察眼前周边所看到的一些事情，让我产生欲望而有所行动起来。当然最终结果可能会获得回报，这个是非常值得喜悦和可以满足的我们的期望。好好沉淀自己&hellip;与内心自己的沟通，我们到底一生中在追求什么？为什么我们要追求这些？</p>','2025-07-30 01:16:26.05','2025-08-21 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('51cc348c-e352-4163-bd35-4587739b23a8','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>行动总是受情绪所驱动，越是稳定的情绪，行动就更为理性。要持续行动，就必须有欲望去启动，并需要有愉悦感来维持。</p>','2025-08-17 12:01:07.247','2025-08-21 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5fe48909-3c87-4475-b431-f6417c818ce0','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>作者提出改变⼈類⾏為的四階段模型：提⽰、渴望、回應、獎賞。前两个阶段是对应问题，后两个阶段是对应解决方案。</p>
<ul>
<li>觉察早于欲望 ： 提示+意义=渴望，所以，找到提示，才能开启完成渴望。</li>
<li>快乐就是无欲无求：满足现状，就不会再有其他念想。</li>
<li>我们追求的是愉悦的概念，是内心的自我形象。</li>
<li>平静就是不把观察的结果变成问题。观察是没有渴望。有渴望，才想改变。</li>
<li>够大的&ldquo;为何&rdquo;可以克服所有的&ldquo;如何&rdquo; ： 知道自己为何而活，就能忍受任何活法。</li>
<li>聪明不如好奇：当一个人有了好奇心，就有了动机，才会行动。</li>
<li>情绪启动行为：人的决定都是由情绪而定的。</li>
<li>只有在情绪过了之后，才会有理性与逻辑。</li>
<li>回应往往是追随情绪。</li>
<li>痛苦驱动进步 ： 想要改变现状才会觉得痛苦。</li>
<li>行动透露你多想得到某样事物 ： 未采取行动不是真的想要</li>
<li>奖赏就在牺牲的另一端</li>
<li>自我控制很难，因为无法获得满足：抗诱惑无法获满足渴望。</li>
<li>期望决定满足感</li>
<li>期望越高，失败的痛苦越大。</li>
<li>行动前后都会产生感觉 ：提示带来渴望，回应带来奖赏。</li>
<li>欲望负责启动，愉悦感负责维持。</li>
<li>希望随着经验下降，然后被接受取代。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-18 12:22:07.01','2025-08-21 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0dd3fe9a-515e-4315-a9ac-9af67863e0b3','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>模型的小启示，在每个地方都能看见惯例：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>提示</p>
<ol>
<li>察觉早于欲望</li>
<li>快乐就是无欲无求</li>
<li>我们追求的是愉悦的&ldquo;概念&rdquo;</li>
<li>平静就是不把观察结果变成问题</li>
</ol>
<p>渴望</p>
<ol>
<li>够大的&ldquo;为何&rdquo;可以克服所有的&ldquo;如何&rdquo;</li>
<li>聪明不如好奇</li>
<li>情绪驱动行为</li>
</ol>
<p>回应</p>
<ol>
<li>只有在情绪之后才可能有理性与逻辑</li>
<li>回应往往跟随情绪</li>
</ol>
<p>奖赏</p>
<ol>
<li>痛苦驱动进步</li>
<li>行动透露你多想得到某种事物</li>
<li>自我控制很难，因为无法令人满足</li>
<li>期望决定满足感</li>
</ol>','2025-08-19 14:05:13.976','2025-08-21 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7690aaa8-6650-4dff-b76a-db547a6f0eea','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>提示</p>
<p>渴望</p>
<p>回应</p>
<p>奖赏。</p>
<p>人类行为也是很有趣的。</p>
<p>原來快乐就是无欲无求。</p>
<p>快乐无法被求得，它是随之而來的。</p>
<p>平静者就是平静。</p>
<p>为何克服如何。</p>
<p>聪明不如好奇？</p>
<p>有了情绪，行为才出来。</p>
<p>情绪之后才有理性和逻辑。</p>
<p>期待愈高。失望更大。</p>','2025-08-20 04:33:12.326','2025-08-21 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f1d16f04-9fbb-462c-bc4f-8269e1e536b8','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>快樂就是一個慾望，並滿足於新的慾望形成之間的空檔。</p>
<p>受苦就是渴望狀態改變與達成改變之前的空檔。</p>
<p>窮不是擁有的少，而是想要的多。</p>
<p>新的策略總是感覺的比舊策略性引人，因為他們可以帶來無窮的希望。</p>
<p>亞里斯多德：年輕人容易上當，因為很容易保持希。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-20 04:41:51.368','2025-08-21 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021','2025-08-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7e635e1-99fa-48ab-8c92-e720ef8ed99c','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<ul>
<li>觉察早于欲望 ： 提示+意义=渴望，所以，找到提示，才能开启完成渴望。</li>
<li>快乐就是无欲无求：满足现状，就不会再有其他念想。</li>
<li>我们追求的是愉悦的概念，是内心的自我形象。</li>
<li>平静就是不把观察的结果变成问题。观察是没有渴望。有渴望，才想改变。</li>
<li>够大的&ldquo;为何&rdquo;可以克服所有的&ldquo;如何&rdquo; ： 知道自己为何而活，就能忍受任何活法。</li>
<li>聪明不如好奇：当一个人有了好奇心，就有了动机，才会行动。</li>
<li>情绪启动行为：人的决定都是由情绪而定的。</li>
<li>只有在情绪过了之后，才会有理性与逻辑。</li>
<li>回应往往是追随情绪。</li>
<li>痛苦驱动进步 ： 想要改变现状才会觉得痛苦。</li>
<li>行动透露你多想得到某样事物 ： 未采取行动不是真的想要</li>
<li>奖赏就在牺牲的另一端</li>
<li>自我控制很难，因为无法获得满足：抗诱惑无法获满足渴望。</li>
<li>期望决定满足感</li>
<li>期望越高，失败的痛苦越大。</li>
<li>行动前后都会产生感觉 ：提示带来渴望，回应带来奖赏。</li>
<li>欲望负责启动，愉悦感负责维持。</li>
<li>希望随着经验下降，然后被接受取代。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-21 13:38:37.546','2025-08-21 13:38:37.546',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 13:38:37.544',NULL,NULL);
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<p>回应-奖赏（感觉）</p>
<p>若没有感觉，人生是乏味的。</p>','2025-08-21 13:53:28.294','2025-08-21 13:53:28.294',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 13:53:28.293',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('574b1404-e7f7-41f2-a004-2ea055602af1','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>行为影响感觉，感觉也同时影响行为！</p>
<p>情绪在我们改变行为的观点上，占据了太多！</p>','2025-08-21 13:55:06.821','2025-08-21 13:55:06.821',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 13:55:06.82',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ca1acc4-893d-4149-9a87-6560717fa76c','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>改变习惯=改变行为，改变行为来自察觉后结合人类行为有架构的解决方案</p>','2025-08-21 14:09:15.39','2025-08-21 14:09:15.39',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 14:09:15.389',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c329b10c-b60b-4c71-9383-2c2c46c611ee','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>欲改变命运就得先改变心态，心态会改变行为，有了行动，才有结果。不同心态会带来不同结果。</p>','2025-08-20 22:35:45.076','2025-08-21 14:13:04.212',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 14:13:04.21',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a55f5efd-b676-40f2-8fd6-a223710ea825','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>行为改变四法则：1. 让提示显而易见 2. 让习惯有吸引力 3. 让行动轻而举 4. 让奖赏令人满足</p>
<p>我们大脑被感觉驱使。渴望的感觉；奖赏的感觉。</p>','2025-08-21 14:19:49.224','2025-08-21 14:19:49.224',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 14:19:49.223',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('84e307df-1e82-4a3c-97af-78900ed6de3b','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>微改变可以带来巨大的影响。如何有系统有架构的透过人类行为来建立新习惯，真的可以改写人生</p>','2025-08-21 14:11:00.016','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dba21525-6b70-4b63-843c-95629b8e0f90','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>行为改变四法则：</p>
<ol>
<li>让提示显而易见</li>
<li>让习惯有吸引力</li>
<li>让行动轻而举&nbsp;</li>
<li>让奖赏令人满足</li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-21 14:32:31.706','2025-08-21 14:33:22.65',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 14:33:22.649',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('064d9553-9c61-4aa8-ad4d-8ba10a4d4820','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>平静就是不把观察结果变成问题。渴望就是想要修正。观察而没有渴望，就是明白自己不需要修正任何事。</p>','2025-08-21 14:56:37.231','2025-08-21 14:56:37.231',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 14:56:37.229',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('32e0cb52-e8ee-46b2-b327-7a9eaf25e80b','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>提示和渴望，是问题的显示的阶段</p>
<p>回应和奖赏，是解决方案的阶段</p>','2025-08-21 14:56:45.643','2025-08-21 14:56:45.643',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 14:56:45.642',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54222c16-177a-4a56-902e-6f3ecbcde1ef','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>行为改变四大法则：</p>
<ol>
<li>提示</li>
<li>渴望</li>
<li>回应</li>
<li>奖赏</li>
</ol>','2025-08-21 15:03:47.271','2025-08-21 15:03:49.003',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 15:03:49.002',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d556129b-d91e-4cdf-8d46-802b72bb4c13','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 52 ：8月21 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》附录</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">来自行为改变四法则的一些启示（Page 289-295）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯的本质不是行为本身，而是「解决需求」。要养成好习惯或改掉坏习惯，就要重新设计提示、渴望、回应和奖赏的链路。</span></p>','2025-08-21 15:15:16.38','2025-08-21 15:15:16.38',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 15:15:16.375',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0a174e6-4562-4a4f-b0c9-41774f6fa22e','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>知道自己為何而活，就能忍受任何活法。</p>
<p>強大的渴望驅動強大的行為，無論阻力多大。</p>','2025-08-21 15:57:18.764','2025-08-21 15:57:26.437',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 15:57:26.436',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('add395b8-8334-47c6-988e-73ebbd58cee3','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>强大的渴望驱动强大的行为，无论阻力有多大。</li>
<li>拥有动机与好奇心比聪明有用，因为会带来行动。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-21 15:56:10.89','2025-08-21 15:57:51.975',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 15:57:51.974',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e372b2b7-f0d8-4a58-bae3-960e9e52b9d7','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>原子习惯让我从新明白好习惯改怎么培养。我会再重新阅读这本书，然后开始记录自己想养养成的习惯。</p>','2025-08-21 15:05:42.853','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('33d21ff9-1020-4420-867b-97207cf71d94','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>习惯会改变命运，不可轻视。</p>
<p>学坏三天，学好三年，好习惯不容易养成。这本书教导我们如何培养好习惯，很科学化的方法。</p>
<p>不要小看微小的改变，滴水可穿石。非凡成果来自小小的改变。</p>
<p>作者因为运动受伤而努力，结果创造惊人成就。他个人就是很棒的身教。</p>
<p>感谢Rina的安排，也谢谢同学们的参与。我们一起成长。</p>','2025-08-21 14:21:03.513','2025-08-22 13:10:49.742',NULL,'f','2025-08-21 16:00:00','2025-08-22 13:10:49.741',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed12eb7a-78be-429f-ad92-6e6ab7d20629','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 52 ：8月21 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》附录</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">来自行为改变四法则的一些启示（Page 289-295）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">快乐就是无欲无求：觉察一个提示，卻没有产生改变自身状态的欲望，那你就是满足于当下的处境。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">快乐并非关乎获得愉悦感，而是关乎欲望的不存在。当你没有强烈的渴望想要获得不同的感觉，快乐就会到来。快乐无法被求得，它是随之而来的。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">平静就是不把观察觉果变成问题</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">够大的【为何】可以克服所有的【如何】</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">知道自己为何而活，就能忍受任何活法。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">若有足够强大的动机和欲望，会驱动强大的行为。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">聪明不如好奇：拥有动机与好奇心比聪明又用，因为会带来行动。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">刺激行为的是欲望，不是智力。做任何事的要诀就是培养对那件事的欲望。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情绪驱动行为</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只有在情绪之后才可能有理性与逻辑</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">回应往往追随情绪</span></p>','2025-08-21 15:53:50.639','2025-08-21 15:53:52.43',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 15:53:52.429',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a560969f-412d-41e3-b182-b9cc99d2525f','3512fd40-9955-40b1-bd52-2df3ccbdb829','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 52 : 8月21 日&nbsp;《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">附录 来自行为改变四法则的一些启示</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*觉察早於欲望.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*快乐就是无欲无求.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*我们追求的是愉悦的【概念】.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*平静就是不把观察结果变成问题.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*够大的【为何】可以克服所有的【如何】.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*聪明不如好奇.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*情绪驱动行为.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*只有在情绪之后才可能有理性与逻辑.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*回应往往追随情绪.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*痛苦驱动进步.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*行动透露你多想得到某样事物.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*奖赏就在牺牲的另一端.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*自我控制很难，因为无法令人满足.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*期望决定满足感.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*期望越高，失败的痛苦越大.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*行为前后都会产生感觉.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*欲望负责啓动，愉悦感负责维持.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*希望随着经验下降，然而被接受取代.</span></p>','2025-08-21 15:58:30.806','2025-08-21 16:03:25.66',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-21 16:03:25.659',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('51bdf464-3675-4d40-9331-3f242d8247b4','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>一切从微小习惯改变开始，只要坚持不懈，美好人生将会出现在眼前。书里讲解习惯四阶段，从提示、渴望、回应、奖赏逐步性的培养新习惯。为何我们要改掉旧习惯？因为我们要成为更好的自己，改变生活，享受更美好的人生！ 说来容易，但做起来一般上的人都半途而废，无法获取任何结果。</p>
<p>所以，我们需要接触有系统的阶段来帮助我们更快更有效率的养成好习惯。原子习惯有系统性的分享阶段性的来改变我们的习惯。复力效应，每天进步1%，持续一年获取37倍成长！</p>
<p>大家想要目标可以一样，唯一不一样的要达成目标的系统！每一位运动员都想获取奥林匹克冠军，但是大家训练的系统可大不一样，这是非常关键的因素。</p>','2025-08-15 00:43:49.865','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52aa898f-9d10-42c2-80df-34aadd72f4d7','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>快樂就是一個慾望，並滿足於新的慾望形成之間的空檔。</p>
<p>受苦就是渴望狀態改變與達成改變之前的空檔。</p>
<p>窮不是擁有的少，而是想要的多。</p>
<p>新的策略總是感覺的比舊策略性引人，因為他們可以帶來無窮的希望。</p>
<p>亞里斯多德：年輕人容易上當，因為很容易保持希。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-20 04:43:35.406','2025-08-22 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023','2025-08-22 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1bd3020d-f88d-4dc8-9b79-d4ef4276ffbd','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>这本书让我明白了好坏习惯的来源，如何培养和自我管理好坏习惯的能力。感恩读书会这个平台，感谢作者的付出，感恩同学的陪伴，原来我很幸福。</p>','2025-08-22 08:47:27.725','2025-08-22 08:47:27.725',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 08:47:27.724',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7929d5de-0f0d-4b7c-84c9-3ea7c3eb9689','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>通过本书才了解为培养好习惯那么挑战。</p>
<p>系统是建立习惯的根本，是一系列结构化过程经过时间积累形成的。它不是一蹴而就的结果，是不断完善的过程。</p>','2025-08-22 10:04:15.789','2025-08-22 10:04:18.561',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 10:04:18.56',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0113982-e87f-49ff-bac8-0925c884554f','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>整本书对我来说，最impact 的就是身份认同，这个完全是我很需要学习的</p>','2025-08-22 13:44:29.698','2025-08-22 13:44:29.698',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 13:44:29.697',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e8ba6b86-88ba-4d14-ba19-32b3ce4121c6','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>好喜欢这本书。<br>将人的本性看透，提出一系列培养好习惯及遏制坏习惯的实用方法， 而不是靠意志力。<br>&ldquo;提示、渴望、回应、奖赏&rdquo;四个法则。<br>不要小看做决定的那一瞬间，它将引领你培养习惯或放弃。决定搭计程车，接下来到练舞室练习就自然的&rdquo;发生&ldquo;了。<br><br></p>','2025-08-22 13:48:53.409','2025-08-22 13:48:53.409',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 13:48:53.408',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('38523713-f27a-4959-9da9-eecfdb7c1775','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>感恩读到了一本好书, 这书让我了解到，原来习惯没有想象中难，原来成长可以从很小的一步开始，不需要靠意志力死撑。</p>','2025-08-22 13:51:48.785','2025-08-22 13:51:48.785',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 13:51:48.784',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('00a2e1fc-64fe-4714-9a1c-5fe7cc721591','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>身份认同是关键，专注于要成为什么样的人，让我们有了不一样的认知和生活标准，因而想要采取行动做出改变。</p>
<p>建立好习惯的四大法则：一）让提示显而易见 二）让习惯有吸引力 三）让行动轻而易举 四）让奖赏令人满足。明白渴望的感觉和奖赏的感觉如何影响着大脑运作，帮助自己有效启动和维持好的习惯。</p>
<p>启动与维持一个好习惯的动力来自于欲望（情绪牵动想要）与愉悦感两者之间的不断交替重复，促使我们通过日复一日的积累最终活出自己想过的人生。</p>','2025-08-22 13:55:26.205','2025-08-22 13:56:00.534',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 13:56:00.533',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3b44de7e-7272-4059-808b-b9e3a9978877','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>感謝這本書，顛覆了人們所講的要改變是很難的事。只要改變細微方向正確持之以恆就能得到很大的改變！</p>','2025-08-22 14:35:31.109','2025-08-22 14:35:33.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 14:35:33.326',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3400e464-ada3-4ef6-b4d4-808a058ca948','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>积沙成塔，滴水穿石。&nbsp;</p>
<p>坚持每天微小的改变， 可以成就不一样的人生。</p>','2025-08-22 15:03:23.591','2025-08-22 15:03:23.591',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 15:03:23.59',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff5035b7-3b29-48dd-8d09-f7b752ce9664','ea426b5e-acec-451d-8e00-e7cc3ed5753a','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 53 ：8月22 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯总结篇今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">行为模式的四个步骤</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 1. 提示：触发习惯的线索。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 2. 渴望：产生想要或期待的感觉。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 3. 回应：实际的行为或动作。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 4. 奖赏：完成行为后获得的满足或快感。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯的形成与维持 = 提示 &rarr; 渴望 &rarr; 回应 &rarr; 奖赏。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 你要的不是「行为本身」，而是它背后的感觉。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 习惯可能会退化或失效，所以需要定期检视、修正。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 成功的核心：不是靠激情，而是靠正确设计系统 + 持续调整</span></p>','2025-08-22 15:47:19.719','2025-08-22 15:47:19.719',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 15:47:19.718',NULL,NULL);
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<li>因为作者的分享，让我发觉培养新的好习惯不是想象中的那么难。</li>
<li>只需要根据作者所提倡的四个法则：让提示显而易见，让习惯有吸引力，让行动轻而易举，让奖赏令人满足，就可以大幅度提高培养好习惯的几率。</li>
<li>所谓的自律者，他们只是更擅长建构自己的生活围绕在好习惯的环境当中，不让自己处于充满诱惑的情景。</li>
<li>配养好习惯是靠好的系统，而不是靠意志力。</li>
<li>培养一个好的习惯，只要你愿意坚持多年，起初看似微不足道的改变将像以复利计算一样的滚利，滚出非比寻常的结果。</li>
</ul>','2025-08-22 15:51:18.977','2025-08-22 15:51:18.977',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 15:51:18.976',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯总结篇今日读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">《原子习惯》让我体会到：微小的习惯累积，都能带来巨大的改变. 专注于每天进步1%，还比追求快速的成功更重要. 改变不是靠意志力，而是靠建立系统，让好习惯自然而然地发生，坏习惯逐渐淡化. 最终，习惯塑造了我们的人生. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这本书让我看见，改变的关键不在于做出惊天动地的决定，而是在每一个微小的当下，做出那个更好的选择. 最终，我们养成的习惯，会决定我们成为什么样的人. </span></p>','2025-08-22 15:58:24.38','2025-08-22 15:58:24.38',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-22 15:58:24.379',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人如何幸福的知识 - 了解自己，了解他人，人格知识。<br>人格知识不能从书本上获得，而是与他人交往的人际关系实践中学习。<br>心理咨询师 帮人自立，共同思考自立所需要的人格知识。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学的目标&nbsp;<br>行为上<br>1. 自立<br>2. 与社会和谐共处<br>支持这种行为的心理意识是<br>1. 我有能力的意识<br>2. 人人都是我的伙伴 的意识<br>不只是心理咨询，教育者也应该做到的这几点于学生。</p>
<p>没有自立，教育，心理咨询或工作指导会立即变成强迫行为。</p>
<p>教育者，咨询师和指导者的态度，是强制性干涉？还是帮助其自立？<br>教育者需要时刻保持警觉帮助他人自立。</p>','2025-08-29 15:40:43.217','2025-09-02 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-02 00:00:00.019','2025-09-02 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
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<div dir="auto">
<p>🔍 核心问题：阿德勒是科学、宗教还是哲学？</p>
<p>&middot; 青年吐槽：太理想化！像传教士推销"<strong>真理</strong>"</p>
<p>&middot; 哲人回答：不是科学（无法证伪），也不是宗教（不讲故事）</p>
<p>&middot; 真正定位：一种哲学态度&mdash;&mdash;<strong>永远思考，永不停止找答案</strong></p>
<p>🔸被一句话点醒：你的烦恼，都来自管了别人的课题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;🔸 <strong>人际</strong>上：学会&ldquo;<strong>课题分离&rdquo;&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p>别再去猜别人怎么看你啦！判断一件事是谁的课题，就看后果最终由谁承担。 停止干涉别人，也拒绝被别人干涉，能把能量100%聚焦在自己身上，真的超爽！&nbsp;</p>
<p>🔸 对<strong>自己</strong>：当个&ldquo;<strong>攀登者</strong>&rdquo;&nbsp;</p>
<p>人生没有通关那天，<strong>成长是无限游戏</strong>。享受一直在路上的过程，反而没那么焦虑了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;它不是一本答案之书，而是一张让你自己思考的地图🧭。</p>
</div>
</div>','2025-08-31 05:07:01.702','2025-09-01 01:16:20.287',NULL,'f','2025-09-01 00:00:00.009','2025-09-01 01:16:20.286',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('26241241-3fc9-4f9a-9105-7e838398fc3b','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>尊重从对他人的兴趣感到关心开始。从他人眼里去感受这份兴趣。这我有感受，我对学生也是这样的，而他们的反馈是很好的。</p>','2025-08-31 22:25:24.13','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08f6b96e-305b-4327-b429-d5829c68b445','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>勇气会传染，尊重也会</p>
<p>孩子不是天使是人，就因为这样才必须给予最大的尊重要平等一待，对他们的兴趣似乎产生共鸣。通过身体力行来展示，希望也教会孩子们尊重。</p>
<p>阿德勒说，諾弱会传染，勇气也会传染。 当然尊重也会传染。</p>
<p>阿德勒的概念共同体感觉。 用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受，并且还需要共鸣的技术。 共鸣的第一步就是关心他人的兴趣。</p>
<p>无法改变的真正理由。</p>
<p>在判定自己言行以及他人言行时，思考背后所蕴藏的目的。</p>
<p>人并不是受过去的原因驱动，而是按照现在的目的活着，决定我们生活方式的并不是过去的经历， 而是我们自己赋予经历的意义。决定自己 人生是活在此时此处的自己。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>人随时可以决定自己，我们并不是受过去精神创伤摆布的脆弱存在。</p>
<p>当我们想要肯定现在的自己时，而畏惧肯定不幸的过去，活在假想之中。</p>','2025-08-31 05:15:32.598','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
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<p>現在每天照顧一個七歲跟一個八個月的小孩。希望用阿德勒的幸福思想，讓我可以找到最適合教育小孩的方式。</p>
<p>最近我從Sadhguru那裡學到愛的真諦。原來愛就是心靈上的一個甜蜜點。從導讀的那幾篇文章裡好像跟阿德勒的觀點不謀合同。</p>
<p>我同意自己的無知， 虛心的一直學下去！</p>','2025-09-01 14:34:20.044','2025-09-01 14:34:20.044',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 14:34:20.043',NULL,NULL);
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<p>教育的目标是&lsquo;&rsquo;自立&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>人都是追求自由，追求脱离无力而不自由状态之后的自立。而且优越性追求。<br>教育是帮助而不干涉。<br>人格知识是认为我，认识你， 人应该如何在共体中生活，如何与他人相处， 在共体中找到自己的位置。<br>知识不只是学问，也包括如何幸福生活。<br>行为方面的目标：<br>&nbsp;1自立<br>&nbsp;2 &nbsp;与社会和谐共处。<br>心理方面的目标也有2点：<br>1&lsquo;&rsquo;我有能力&lsquo;&rsquo;的意识<br>2&lsquo;&rsquo;人人都是我的伙伴&lsquo;&rsquo;的意识。</p>','2025-08-31 05:11:26.173','2025-09-02 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-02 00:00:00.019','2025-09-02 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('038d41af-50ef-46d1-a2bb-efd76a81be0a','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>尊重的第一步就是關心他的興趣。</p>
<p>共同體感覺-用眼睛去看耳朵去聽用他人的心去感受。&nbsp;</p>
<p>產生共鳴的方式就是要去接近他人的技術和態度。</p>','2025-09-02 06:39:06.418','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>更甚者我還燒我媽的車子和自殘。現在想起來還蠻極端的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 07:34:20.846','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cc6cd5a7-b0f6-4a88-b972-09f2ca09cd70','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>In the first chapter, the Young Man and the Philosopher debate whether Adler&rsquo;s philosophy resembles a religion, since it provides people with guidance on how to live.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>However, Adlerian psychology is not a religion, as it does not depend on worship, dogma, or supernatural beliefs.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Instead, it offers a practical way of thinking and living; much like religion gives direction. But it is grounded in psychology and philosophy, not in faith.</p>','2025-09-01 13:24:51.959','2025-09-01 13:24:51.959',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 13:24:51.95',NULL,NULL);
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<p>爱和自立是阿得勒所着重的。</p>','2025-09-24 08:54:27.893','2025-10-05 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-10-05 00:00:00.027','2025-10-05 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d351b42c-b49b-44fa-abce-5aa0df3086ee','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>教育的目标是&ldquo;自立&rdquo;, 帮助人自立，只是帮助而不干涉。</p>
<p>人都追求自由，追求脱离无力而不自由的状态之后的&ldquo;自立&rdquo;，这是人的根本性的追求。</p>
<p>阿德勒提出的人格知识是： 认为我，认识你， 了解人的本性，理解人的理想状态， 人如何在共体中生活的知识（包括如何幸福生活），如何与他人相处， 在共体中找到自己的位置。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学提出两个人的目标：</p>
<p>（1） 在行为方面： i） 自立，&nbsp; ii） 与社会和谐共处。</p>
<p>（2）在心理方面的目标 ：i） &ldquo;我有能力&rdquo;的意识， ii） &ldquo;人人都是我的伙伴&rdquo; 的意识。</p>','2025-09-02 08:17:11.203','2025-09-02 08:24:54.051',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 08:24:54.05',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('118a2fb5-b9a5-4b4c-856f-e16c11ee6996','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>教育的目的是&ldquo;自立&rdquo;，教育孩子长大后自力更生。小时候被宠坏和疼爱，长大后被青睐和期待。踏入幼儿园开始就已经是脱离父母的保护，踏入小学开始学习社交和自立。在学校遭受好坏的经历都是学习在眼光中和生活的一种，而我们也需要在此生活中学会用不同的角度去看待事情。哲人：&ldquo;你并不是为了满足他人的期待而活，别人也不是为了你的期待而活。不必畏惧他人的视线，不必在意他人的评价，也不需要寻求他人的认可。&rdquo;，我们活着都是为了自己，并不是为了别人，我们也没有必要去在意别人过多的评价。因为真正的朋友和亲人，会接纳你的全部，而不是伪装的面具。</p>','2025-09-02 08:33:06.768','2025-09-02 08:34:03.517',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 08:34:03.516',NULL,NULL);
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<p>教育不是为了&ldquo;培养听话的人&rdquo;，也不是单纯传授知识。真正的教育目标，是帮助孩子建立自立：能够独立思考、对自己的选择负责、不依赖他人的认可来决定价值。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 15:35:43.033','2025-09-02 15:35:43.033',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 15:35:43.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a8d7077-7893-424f-ab36-46420f684e9f','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>常常聊天的時候大家會討論，或許後悔的事情。</p>
<p>我常常無法回答，因為我對生活的現況滿意極了。這就造成我去假設過去的一切都是為了成就今天美好的因子。</p>
<p>過去根本不存在這句話蠻有意思的。</p>','2025-09-02 06:52:29.478','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8eca6950-21c4-44ba-9a7d-95b144842ce4','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>展现尊重是构建关系的基础方法。这是需要通过大人的展示来引导孩子学习尊重。但是，这是双向的。我们尊重孩子，同时也这么要求孩子尊重他人。</p>
<p>尊重是不俯视、不仰视、不讨好、平等以待，对他们感兴趣的事物产生共鸣。</p>
<p>在家里做错事情的人需要道歉，这表示父母若犯错也要道歉。我并不能因为我是母亲，我犯错了也可以不道歉。我们应该是平等的关系。</p>','2025-09-02 13:30:45.472','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c7aa735-3508-4a07-b51b-61c40c70db1a','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>我的現在在決定著過去。這句話還蠻有意思的。我從來沒有聽過這樣子的說法。</p>
<p>每六個月我都會重新寫我的生命線。隨著現在的我不停的學習和體驗生命，我小時候的回憶對我現在來講的意義也會隨著改變。</p>
<p>我的過去只不過是現在的我巧妙變出來的故事而已。</p>
<p>現在明白了，我只需要去專注以後該怎麼走就好了。我剩下40年的生命，該專注在未來的生活品質和幸福感！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 07:04:13.498','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2afa9ca9-1d67-43a2-bf55-d88f13fbe5ff','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>教室是一个民主国家</p>
<p>把班级看作是一个民主的国家。对于学生也是要有尊重。班级的主导权不属于教师，而是属于学生们。民主国家的主权在国民那里，这就是国民主权或者是主权力在民。</p>
<p>既不可以批评也不可以表扬</p>
<p>问的时候，我们都要从某人不知道这一点开始思考，由于不知道造成的错误加以苛责，你不觉得很不合理吗？要用理性的语言去教导。</p>','2025-08-31 06:13:06.392','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a36cf5b-eb21-45ff-bfce-019875ebc224','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>Hmmm&hellip; 很久没有经历这样的思辨过程了。好玩。对宗教与哲学的区别有一点概念了。</p>','2025-08-31 22:23:55.833','2025-08-31 22:23:55.833',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-31 22:23:55.832',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b048265e-cd59-456f-9990-4f6b6b35e1c2','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>可恶的他人，可怜的自己</p>
<p><br>哲学和宗教的最大区别是是否有故事，宗教是通过故事来解释世界，哲学通过没有主人公的抽象慨念来解释世界。<br>宗教像停止攀登而中途跳下来，哲学却永不止步。<br>哲学包括热爱知识的意思，爱知学是哲学家哲学家是爱知者。哲学不是传授，是共同求知和思考，攀登，朝着竹竿的无边尽头。当永远不知。</p>','2025-08-31 05:05:57.037','2025-09-01 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-09-01 00:00:00.009','2025-09-01 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aca7b6b1-94aa-4335-9513-5e375092a783','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>阿德勒心理学是一种哲学。</p>
<p>哲学、科学和宗教的共同点都是在为人类找答案：</p>
<p>1）我们从哪里来？2）我们在哪里？3）我们应该如何活着。</p>
<p>只是宗教和哲学会深入的范畴包括人类的&ldquo;真、善、美&ldquo;。而科学是知识。宗教通过故事解释这个世界，而哲学通过没有主人公的概念来解释世界。</p>
<p>哲学是热爱知识，不断求知的&rdquo;生存态度&ldquo;。所以，哲学是没有所谓的&rdquo;知者&ldquo;，也不是传授知识，而是大家共同探讨、共同攀登的一门学问，一个课题。这是一直前进的路。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-01 13:36:50.714','2025-09-01 13:36:50.714',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 13:36:50.712',NULL,NULL);
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<p>问题行为的第3个阶段，目的发展为权力斗争。不服从任何人，反复挑衅，发生挑战，企图通过挑战胜利来炫耀自己的力量，并以获得特权地位。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>会通过不顺从来发生权力斗争。 不论怎么样，被严加训折依然拒绝学习知识或技能，坚决无视大人们的话，只是想通过坚决不顺从来证明自己的力量。</p>
<p>问题行为的第4个阶段就是复仇阶段。下定决心挑起了权力斗争却并未成功既没有获取胜利，也没有获得特别的位置，没有得到对方的回应，像这样战败的人就会策划复仇。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>向没有认可这个无可取代的我的人复仇，向不爱我的人复仇，进行爱的复仇。</p>
<p>大部分的行为仅仅处于第三个阶段的权力斗争。在防止问题行为进一步恶化， 这方面教育者的作用非常大。</p>','2025-08-31 07:05:07.822','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('360c6035-ef7c-4d9c-907e-78d104f3606d','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 1 <span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>9月1日 (星期一）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学是一种宗教吗？（Page 001-007）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">哲学不是&ldquo;讲故事&rdquo;，而是一种&ldquo;不断追问、永不止步的态度&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">哲学不是知识，是一种生存态度：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;不是传授，是共同思考。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">阿德勒心理学是一种哲学，不是宗教。哲学不是给予答案，而是教我们如何不停地思考&mdash;&mdash;对自己、对他人、对世界 。</span></p>','2025-09-01 15:30:31.967','2025-09-01 15:30:31.967',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 15:30:31.966',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e284f640-6ee4-4f48-bb08-ee0fb4ee501a','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>第3阶段，目的发展权力争斗。</p>
<p>第4阶段，复仇阶段。</p>
<p>第5阶段，证明无能。</p>
<p>大部分问题处于第3阶段的权力斗争，在防止问题进一步恶化，教育者的作用非常大。</p>','2025-08-31 07:05:17.479','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f03a7f76-981e-4c31-91fb-829f0f692839','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>问题行为根源于一个目的，归属感，确保自己在共同体中特别地位。批评在教育上没有任何效果，被诉责是他们希望的事情。</p>
<p>通过语言进行的交流达成一致意见需要花费相当多的时间和精力。暴力是成本低，廉价的交流手段，是人类不成熟的行为。</p>','2025-08-31 23:19:28.648','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91b280c5-07a2-4394-b314-ce6c3111fdf6','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>从那里来，往那里去是宗教，哲学或科学需要考虑到问题。</p>
<p>哲学 philosophy 源自希腊语 philosophia 包含 &rdquo;热爱知识&ldquo;，哲学是爱着知识的学问，哲学家说爱着知识的人。<br>康德 ：&rdquo;我们无法学习哲学，我们只能学习如何从事哲学。&rdquo;<br>哲学与其是一门学问，倒不如说是一种 生活态度。</p>
<p>自认为了解了，就不想继续探索，停止了。如果是永远不停止思考自己，思考他人，思考世界。而是永远 &ldquo;不知&rdquo;。<br>知道自己的无知，才能配得上是知者。<br>知之为知之 不知为不知 是知也， 我觉得这才是智慧。</p>
<p>一直追问，一直思考，一直前进才是哲学的生活态度。</p>
<p><br>作者这里把宗教当成是明了一切的，哲学是永远处于不知道一切的这类区别。还是会对某些宗教比如基督教有不一样的认识。<br>我信仰基督，但是我觉得这个信仰并不完全让我满足于我所知道的。<br>无所不能无所不知的神是我这个渺小的人类需要去一直去明白一直去了解的。<br>我觉得宗教和信心需要区分开来，我对基督的看法接近于信心，形式化的宗教仪式解决不了人类的内心深处渴望，唯有信心才能相信基督来的真理。<br>阿德勒心理学我觉得是一个哲学，我对哲学和信仰的区分是信仰可以解释世界的来龙去脉并且不断以一个目的为前进。<br>哲学是没错不断进步的，一直更新的知识，但是只局限于在当下有限世界有形世界的思维，并不能解释灵界或死亡后的世界。</p>','2025-08-29 15:40:22.888','2025-09-01 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-09-01 00:00:00.009','2025-09-01 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('67519706-1398-4f2b-9c13-3ef2f518785d','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p><span style="font-size: 17px;">把阿德勒思想实践在原来价值观的教育理念，就如大航海时代进入异教徒国家的天主教传教士们。</span><br><span style="font-size: 17px;">～改变是极度艰难的事。</span> <br><br><span style="font-size: 17px;">宗教、哲学和科学的出发点都一样：我们从哪里来; 我们在哪里; 我们应该如何活着。</span> <br><br><span style="font-size: 17px;">哲学和宗教的差别在于是否有故事。</span> <br><br><span style="font-size: 17px;">哲学是爱知学，哲学是一种生存态度。</span> <br><br><span style="font-size: 17px;">因不知，所以不停地思考自己、思考他人、思考世界。</span><!--/data/user/0/com.samsung.android.app.notes/files/clipdata/clipdata_bodytext_250901_213710_229.sdocx--></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 17px;">～我思故我在。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-01 13:40:45.854','2025-09-01 13:40:45.854',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 13:40:45.852',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d525c8b6-da0b-4c59-8579-a506f9efdfd3','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p style="language: en-MY; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; text-align: left; direction: ltr; unicode-bidi: embed; mso-line-break-override: none; word-break: normal; punctuation-wrap: hanging;"><span style="font-size: 18.0pt; font-family: 等线; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 等线; mso-bidi-font-family: +mn-cs; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; color: black; mso-color-index: 1; mso-font-kerning: 12.0pt; language: zh-CN; mso-style-textfill-type: solid; mso-style-textfill-fill-themecolor: text1; mso-style-textfill-fill-color: black; mso-style-textfill-fill-alpha: 100.0%;">依据哲人说是宗教是有故事性的。而阿德勒思想是心理学。若说是科学， 也有灰色地带，因为有些概念是不科学的。哲学是热爱知识，拒绝故事性的。若有人明白了一切，觉悟了，就算是步入了宗教。而哲人选择&rsquo;不知道&lsquo;，不停止的思考自己，他人和思考世界。所以说阿德勒心理学，还不算是宗教。</span></p>','2025-09-01 15:09:55.19','2025-09-01 15:10:21.715',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 15:10:21.714',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bfe04736-0bd1-4c5e-a210-ae24fb889f17','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>宗教：</p>
<p>&nbsp;- 有故事的，用故事来解释世界</p>
<p>哲学：</p>
<p>&nbsp;- 拒绝故事，通过没有主人公的抽象概念来解释世界</p>
<p>&nbsp;- 不是学问，是一种生存态度：永不停止地思考自己、思考他人、思考世界，因此将永远处于&ldquo;不知&rdquo;的状态</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-01 15:38:39.784','2025-09-01 15:38:47.01',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 15:38:47.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b12a76e3-c839-46a4-81d6-29639f79c49d','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>行为的第三阶段，目的发展为权力争斗。</p>
<p>意思是不服从，发起挑战，以胜利来炫耀自己的力量。也通过不顺从来证明自己的力量。</p>
<p>第四个阶段是复仇。向不爱我的人，进行爱的复仇。自残和自闭是来控诉&lsquo;我变成这样都是你的错&lsquo;</p>
<p>到这阶段，只能依靠其他教师或者学校以外的人或者没有厉害关系的第三方来解决。</p>
<p>第五个阶段是证明无能。</p>
<p>他们的愿望是&ldquo;不要对我有任何期待&rdquo;或者&ldquo;不要管我，请放弃我&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-01 02:01:48.558','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2fcef354-6747-4840-bbb0-f6e5306bda5a','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>批评会在教育上失去其有效性，也不能发挥其抑制力。</p>
<p>学生打架，争吵，要关注他们的是以后怎么做。</p>
<p>暴力始终是成本低，廉价的交流手段，而且是非常不成熟的行为。</p>','2025-09-02 02:24:43.039','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6acdcb9e-cf00-4109-adaf-c56b3bb59cbc','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>勇气会传染 ， 尊重也会<br>尊重是一切人际关系的第一步<br><br>不想改变就是因为害怕死亡。<br>为了肯定现在，而去肯定过去的不幸。</p>','2025-09-01 15:38:17.58','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d479adc5-ad92-4bfa-aaa5-52536bc2ef77','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>知道自己是无知，是知也。</p>
<p>哲学是不停的学习、前进的热爱知𣲵者。</p>
<p>思考着如何让自己成为一个无知，但热爱学习的哲学爱好者。</p>','2025-09-01 06:36:39.026','2025-09-01 06:36:41.422',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 06:36:41.421',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ed3a916-0531-4b27-b212-5894ccb79c1a','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 1 &nbsp; 9月1日 (星期一）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学是一种宗教吗？（Page 001-007）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学既不是心理学，也不是科学，更不是宗教，而是一种哲学，哲学是永不止步的，哲学有着&rdquo;热爱知识&rdquo;的意思，我们只能学习如何从事哲学，而无法学习哲学。它是一种生存态度，它通过没有主人公的抽象概念来解释世界，而不像宗教，是有&rdquo;故事&rdquo;的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">哲人也还不知道答案，他知道自己的无知，而就因为有&rdquo;无知之知&rdquo;，他才会一直追问，一直前进。</span></p>','2025-09-01 06:54:43.222','2025-09-01 06:54:43.222',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 06:54:43.221',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f803388-fb53-4937-a5a9-c6475348dfb4','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>有位老师告诉过我。宗教不问为什么，信就跟着做，不照做就不是信徒，而且宗教主要是处理死亡之后的课；而哲学是没有答案，就像作者所说。</p>','2025-09-01 08:17:04.845','2025-09-01 08:17:04.845',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 08:17:04.844',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ba7be6dd-6513-4d6e-bbdc-c4eb24a6d743','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>可恶的他人， 可怜的自己 ~ 单看标题，似乎看到自己在面对人际关系时的心里状态 &gt; &gt; &gt;提醒自己不要成为自认为的受害者。</p>
<p>哲学总能给予思考/生命的启发。与其说喜欢哲学，其实是在寻找内心渴望的生命答案/内在成长的需要。&nbsp;</p>
<p>''你的烦恼，都来自管别人的课题'' ~</p>
<p>深层思考，人要过好自己的一生都已经很好了，好好专注在自己，了解自己，过好自己每一天每一时刻就很好了， 但人生总给自己很多的但是。。。 但是别人会批判，。。。 孩子是我的责任。。。&nbsp; 无限的自以为。&nbsp; 但自己过不好，为何还对别人指指点点呢!</p>
<p>人生没有通关，成长是无限游戏 ~~ 多么好的诠释，就让自己快乐的开心的伤心的生气的享受这人生带来的惊喜吧！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-01 10:02:51.202','2025-09-01 10:02:51.202',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 10:02:51.201',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce6d61b6-43c4-4e6f-bd5a-5e2b223599f5','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>时刻保持无知/不知道的状态去和他人沟通讨论其實是一种谦虚的表现。謙虛能让我們提升自我打破现有思维框架，讓你看到多個維度的可能性。</p>
<p>如果抱着什么都懂或者已经懂了去和他人溝通是危險的，新的知识就不会进来因為人會變的主觀去思考。</p>
<p>時刻抱著分享心態才能與大家共同成長，並非以教導/傳授。心態上的不同會影響結果的走向。</p>','2025-09-01 10:29:47.925','2025-09-01 10:29:47.925',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 10:29:47.924',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6523df28-049e-4216-bc33-1cc269bae260','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p><span data-tt="{&quot;paragraphStyle&quot;:{&quot;alignment&quot;:4,&quot;writingDirection&quot;:1}}">哲学知识是永无止尽的，我们不能去定论说自己已经学完哲学。哲人说: &ldquo;与其说哲学是一门学问，不如说是一种生存&ldquo;态度&rdquo;，因为我们每时刻都在让自己生存下来，尤其是在和不同性格的人一起生活与交流。我们都在尝试以最和平的方式不让自己与对方发生争执，所以我们都会透过各个不同角度来了解对方，并且是每天会发生不同变化的。而宗教是以&ldquo;故事&rdquo;来解释，透过一件事情来告诉我们要如何去做，在不同的变化中固定实行。所以我们每天都在哲学，没有停止自己去学习生存。我们有信仰是因为我们想要学习做好，且与哲学一起在共存。</span></p>','2025-09-01 10:59:14.097','2025-09-01 10:59:14.097',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 10:59:14.096',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e4f3cdb-2d93-4908-9a1b-b81b4daca6b3','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>永不停止地思考自己、思考他人、思考世界。当我们自认为了解的时候，往往就不想再继续探索了。</p>','2025-09-01 11:00:32.39','2025-09-01 11:00:32.39',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 11:00:32.389',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('543ba611-93a0-4932-9e23-03bbdd5b09f4','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>青年人不断追求真理，希望能获取适合自己的生活方式。&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-01 12:07:42.932','2025-09-01 12:07:42.932',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 12:07:42.931',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7238da2c-2c9d-479d-882f-dba42365d114','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">哲学的本质是持续追问，而非给出最终答案，<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">真正所谓的&ldquo;知者&rdquo;是那些承认自己无知，永远在探索的人。</span></p>','2025-09-01 13:07:12.23','2025-09-01 13:07:12.23',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 13:07:12.222',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa39831b-b030-493d-8047-07aa2aedcbed','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 1 9月1日 (星期一)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学是一种宗教吗?</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">哲学和宗教的研究范畴深入到人类的&ldquo;真&rdquo;&ldquo;善&rdquo;&ldquo;美&rdquo;. 这是一个非常重大的要点.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">哲学和宗教的最大区别在于是否有&ldquo;故事&rdquo;.<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>宗教是通过故事来解释世界，可以说是神说明世界的重大故事的主人公，哲学则拒绝故事. 哲学通过没有主人公的抽象概念来解释世界.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">与其说哲学是一门学问，不如说他是一种生存的&ldquo;态度&rdquo;. 而宗教是在神的名义之下，叙述全知全能的神以及受神委托的教义. 这是与哲学有着本质差别的观点. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">当我们自认&ldquo;了解&rdquo;了对象的那一瞬间，就不再想继续探索了. 人永远不停止思考自己，思考他人，思考世界，因此我将永远&ldquo;不知&rdquo;. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">知道自己的无知，也就是清楚&ldquo;自已的知识并不完备&rdquo;. 这一点上我比他们更配称为智者，这就是著名的无知之资源.</span></p>','2025-09-01 15:59:21.893','2025-09-01 15:59:22.979',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-01 15:59:22.978',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c91c9b5-a3d3-4389-a482-234a7a38646b','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>💎 最好 的教育 &ldquo;不是&rdquo; <span style="color: rgb(53, 152, 219);">灌满一桶水</span> 而是 &ldquo;<strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">点燃一把火</span></strong> &rdquo;🔥</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不管孩子学习vs 要 &ldquo;<strong>教育孩子</strong>&rdquo;</p>
<p>&middot; 青年：按阿德勒"谁的课题谁负责"，学习是孩子的事，父母老师插手不就是"多管闲事"？</p>
<p>&middot; 哲人：教育不是"干涉"，是"帮助孩子<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>自立</strong></span>"！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🎯 教育的真正目标：&ldquo;<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>自立</strong></span> &rdquo;不是灌输知识，而是培养能独立生存的人！</p>
<p>✅ <strong>身体</strong>自立：自己能吃穿住行</p>
<p>✅ <strong>知识</strong>自立：会思考判断做决定</p>
<p>✅ <strong>社会</strong>自立：懂规则、会合作、能共情</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>💡 👤教学法则</p>
<p>1️⃣ 从"监工"变"教练"：</p>
<p>&middot; 不说："你必须学！"</p>
<p>&middot; 改说："你需要什么帮助？"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2️⃣ 教"<strong>人格知识</strong>"比教课本更重要：</p>
<p>&middot; 认识自己、法则、与人相处</p>
<p>&middot; 基本幸福生活</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>3️⃣目标：</p>
<p>&middot; <span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>行为</strong></span>目标：&ldquo;自立 &rdquo;+ 与社会和谐共处</p>
<p>&middot; <span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>心理</strong></span>目标："我能行" + "大家都是伙伴"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🚀 立即上手小技巧</p>
<p>&middot; 问 &rarr; 孩子不做作业："需要妈妈帮你规划时间吗？"（帮助而非代劳）</p>
<p>&middot; 教 &rarr; 学生闹矛盾："试试站在对方角度想一想？"（人格知识）</p>
<p>&middot; 回 &rarr; 总说"我不行"："上次那个事你就做得很好！"（培养有能力感）</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>「<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>课题分离</strong></span>」+「<strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">真正的尊重</span></strong>」</p>
<p>1、 <strong>对自己</strong>：成为人生的「攀登者」</p>
<p>&middot; 核心心态：人生是无限游戏。</p>
<p>2、 <strong>对他人</strong>：划清界限的「课题分离」🚧</p>
<p>&middot; 核心句话：你的烦恼，都来自管了别人的课题。</p>
<p>3、<strong> 与外界</strong>：建立连接的「真正尊重」❤️</p>
<p>&middot; 核心发现：为什么越想为别人好，关系却越差？&mdash;&mdash;因为缺乏真正的尊重。</p>
<p>&middot; 真正<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>尊重</strong></span>是：</p>
<p>1. 「<strong>看见真实</strong>」：不戴滤镜，实事求是地看待一个人</p>
<p>2. 「<strong>欣赏独特</strong>」：承认他和我不一样，而且这很好</p>
<p>3.「<strong>赋能成长</strong>」：目标不是把他变成我期待的样子，而是帮他成为更好的自己</p>','2025-08-31 18:28:19.117','2025-09-01 23:53:52.471',NULL,'f','2025-09-01 16:00:00','2025-09-01 23:53:52.469',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e656046c-6107-444f-a881-dea01c0bc013','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>人格知识给从行为和心理方面招手。个人觉得这个是非常需要培养孩子好，让他更能够有力量面对社会的挑战行为方面的，别让孩子学会于能够与社会和谐共处。方面要让孩子有自我肯定的能力勇于面对挑战，而且是人人都是可配合的伙伴。&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 00:01:37.995','2025-09-02 00:01:37.995',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 00:01:37.993',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9406b5d-0bd9-4fff-a76c-9b07afc6d550','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>从他人的角度思考，减少主观性的看待，或许更有效的理解。 大环境的改变，我们无法阻挡我们能够调整自己的心态，如何去看待环境和世界的转变，调整步伐面对。&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 00:03:34.713','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36c4e9e4-d9db-4a81-9ebe-852bbad73d6a','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>教育不是&ldquo;干涉&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;帮助&rdquo;其自立</p>','2025-09-02 14:31:46.929','2025-09-02 14:31:46.929',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 14:31:46.928',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f707597c-eeb2-40b6-a162-b583a724a05a','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>好坏行为都能被传染，我们当然要被好行为所传染比如尊重他人的行为，相互尊重的家庭、社会和国家才能建立信任和平相处。</p>','2025-09-02 00:04:06.566','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0d67930-e5b7-4a51-8bff-cad21f911795','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>我不认同完全否认过去存在。过去的经历和成长才成为现在的我，但是我们不能常把过去不满当成现在的失败借口。当下自己表现无关过去的事情。</p>','2025-09-02 00:04:38.283','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0016b00b-0fa2-4ba5-851b-b086ad8cdafc','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>工作关系只是价值交换而已，不是获取幸福场合。</p>','2025-09-11 02:47:41.251','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3b66aea0-f05b-4579-9491-bdc1b1283af1','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>如果不懂得爱自己信赖自己，就不可能爱别人和信赖别人。</p>
<p>以自我为中心的人，不是因为喜欢自己，而相反的是不满意自己，无法接纳不完美的自己，才关注自己</p>
<p>因为青年还没能做到喜欢他自己所以才无法信赖他的学生，和他们建立交友关系，只局限在工作关系的话是不可能获得幸福的</p>
<p>因为人无法完全理解对方，所以只能选择信赖</p>','2025-09-22 13:35:22.085','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9b79fe70-23ba-405e-b90f-c2997e89302b','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>发怒和训斥同义</p>
<p>交易者就是心理咨询师。 心理咨询师就是在教育暴力是一种暴露人不成熟的交流方式。发怒，是使人和人之间变得疏远的感情。</p>
<p>不去执着于无法改变的事情。 而是正是眼前的可以改变的事情。请赐予我平静去接受。 我无法改变的。给予我勇气，去改变 我能改变的，赐我智慧。</p>','2025-09-02 08:57:12.532','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1f76c651-1e92-42c1-9618-2b100faf34a6','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>In my view, the true goal of education is to nurture self-reliance.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>The right path of education should focus on guiding, supporting, and encouraging individuals rather than controlling them.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>At the same time, education should help people learn how to coexist harmoniously with society through social interest, building healthy and balanced interpersonal relationships.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This point is strongly emphasized in Adler&rsquo;s philosophy, especially in "The Courage to Be Disliked."</p>','2025-09-02 11:16:51.381','2025-09-02 11:16:51.381',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 11:16:51.379',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0161f163-995b-4be4-8c37-0c74a963f9ee','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>教育的意义让我们自立自强。</p>
<p>教育不是干涉，而是帮助其自立。</p>
<p>心理咨询师是教育者，教育者就是心理咨询师。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 13:10:32.049','2025-09-02 13:10:32.049',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 13:10:32.048',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">教育的目标是&ldquo;自立&rdquo;（Page 008-012）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正的教育，不是培养一个&ldquo;乖&rdquo;孩子、一个&ldquo;听话&rdquo;的学生，而是帮助他们成为</span><span class="s2">能够独立生活，并善于与人共处的成年人</span><span class="s1">。</span></p>','2025-09-02 13:15:38.295','2025-09-02 13:15:38.295',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 13:15:38.294',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d463d5b-6a8d-4afb-9a85-5cfb11f9d82d','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>关心一个人的兴趣，用对方的眼光去看他觉得有趣的事。而不是站在自己的角度去看对方觉得有趣的事。</p>
<p>这段提醒了我。孩子每周和邻居小孩玩几天的大富翁游戏。每次都玩得很热闹。当他们缺人，就拉我去一起玩，我常常都提不起劲玩。到底什么好玩的呢？我真还没看懂。</p>
<p>学会&ldquo;用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受。&rdquo;</p>','2025-09-02 12:08:07.516','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a9b3d90-2543-47c6-b4e6-fc64be33e182','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>记得在引导对方的时候不要有责备的语言。<br>从他&ldquo;不知道&rdquo;这一点开始引导对方。<br>引导看见到底抱着什么样的目的做出一些行为。</p>
<p>导出&ldquo;背后的隐藏的目的&rdquo; 或 &ldquo;深层的心理动机&rdquo;。</p>','2025-09-02 15:20:25.106','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('94748e97-73c3-4986-8070-6dc6a76de029','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>有&lsquo;&rsquo;罚&lsquo;&rsquo;便无&lsquo;&rsquo;罪&lsquo;&rsquo;吗？</p>
<p>问题行为的5个阶段的确是很有意思的分析。 首先是寻求称赞， 接着是引起关注，如果都无法实现，则挑起权力斗争，然后又发展为恶劣的报复，最终的阶段就是证明自己无能，这一切都根源于一个目的-归属感，也就是确保自己在共同体中的特别地位。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>被指责也是他们希望的事情，问题行为甚至也已经包括了被你批评，因为自己做了被训斥特的特别事情之类的英雄成就感。通过训斥，他们也能够证明自己是特别的存在。 所以通过批评的手段教育也不是最好的方式。</p>
<p>以&lsquo;&rsquo;暴力&lsquo;&rsquo;为名的交流</p>
<p>传达只是交流的路口。 最终的目标是要达成协议。当发生冲突。 我们心理咨询师使用的三菱柱就像是可恶的 他人和可怜的自己， 最后一面写着以后怎么做？&nbsp; 应该做的是关注他们的目的， 以他们一起思考以后怎么做。</p>','2025-09-02 08:38:10.321','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0fd9b4e7-a332-4cf4-a966-8c282044a82f','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>阿德勒心理学中的&ldquo;课题分离&rdquo;以"自己的课题&rdquo;和&ldquo;他人的课题&rdquo;来划分。</p>
<p>能进行&ldquo;课题分离&rdquo;会减少很多人际关系中的烦恼。至于是谁的课题？选择带来的结果最终由谁承担，就是谁的课题。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学中，心理咨询不被认为是治疗，而是&ldquo;再教育&rdquo;的机会。</p>
<p>教育的目标是&ldquo;自立&rdquo;。人都有&ldquo;优越性追求&rdquo;。教育是帮助其自立。</p>
<p>&ldquo;人格知识&rdquo;无法从书本获得，只能从与他人交往的人际关系实践中学习。</p>
<p>行为方面的目标：自立、与社会和谐共处。</p>
<p>心理方面的目标：&ldquo;我有能力&rdquo;的意识、&ldquo;人人都是我的伙伴&rdquo;的意识。</p>','2025-09-02 13:45:17.885','2025-09-02 13:45:17.885',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 13:45:17.884',NULL,NULL);
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<p>這三角（老師，家長，和學生）習題里的課題分離其實也不算干預對方的課題，每個角色都有他需要完成的功課。大家只能在過程中享受所有的發生，但不能決定每個結果都能如大家所願如大家期待。老師教的好學生不一定學得好。家長苦口婆心，學生未必全力以赴。一切回到各自的選擇及承擔每個選擇後帶來的成果。</p>
<p>我們只需對自己負責，不必活在別人的期待裡。也不需要讓別人活在我們的期待裡。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>教育：教育的目的是引導學生自立的學習</p>
<p>尋求心理諮詢， 並非尋求治療</p>
<p>而是尋求再教育讓自己更明白事情的本質。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 14:09:38.006','2025-09-02 14:09:38.006',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 14:09:38.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6222a37-11ba-4d07-bc01-0b16d65fda51','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>人格知识</p>
<p>哲人认为应该如何在共同体生活，如何与他人相处，如何在共同体找到自己的位置。</p>
<p>教育的关键就建立在人格知识</p>
<p>行为目标， 和心理目标</p>
<p>行为目标有： 自立和与社会相处</p>
<p>心力目标： 我有能力的意识人人都是我的伙伴。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 14:10:02.72','2025-09-02 14:10:02.72',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 14:10:02.719',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6c199fee-f4bc-4ae8-8822-6556ecb284a9','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>务实、实用很重要，否则哲学就成了纸上谈兵。接下去的篇章，相信此书会给我们惊喜。</p>','2025-09-02 14:13:33.853','2025-09-02 14:13:33.853',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 14:13:33.852',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1151e418-890d-449a-b7e5-f24d2fb22677','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p>教育不是干涉孩子的课题，而是通过传授必要的知识来帮助他获得自立的能力.&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 14:30:44.36','2025-09-02 14:30:44.36',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 14:30:44.359',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0da7212c-0566-45d1-8249-cfea80167494','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>教育是为了帮助一个人自立，教育部需要干涉，帮助与成全就可以了。人要学习如何在共同体中生活，如何与他人共处，找出自己的位置，从而实现自己的理想生活，并且带个他人价值。</p>','2025-09-02 14:42:41.456','2025-09-02 14:44:33.107',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 14:44:33.105',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cc59a046-8d78-4fcd-9ce5-282be191fad8','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>教育的目标是帮助其自立， 不是干涉&nbsp; ~ 给自己的提醒</p>
<p>课题分离 ~每个人为自己的期待负责。&nbsp; &nbsp;如何在共体中找到自己的位置~接纳很重要， 无条件接纳让彼此共处更舒服。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 14:45:45.518','2025-09-02 14:47:14.136',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 14:47:14.135',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5bcb1c68-422c-4ac6-ae43-e35a2f2d290f','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>总结理解：永不止尽的去探索，去问，去学习。<br>没有答案，也不需追寻答案，永远以不知无知的心态去学习。<br>这是一种谦卑的态度。<br>只有不满才有前进的空间。</p>','2025-09-02 15:08:18.659','2025-09-02 15:08:22.158',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 15:08:22.157',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f2c5e3e-184c-4212-b803-4923976ea957','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>站在他人立场去思考，向像同样的灵魂，同样的年纪，生活在一样的家庭，交着同样的朋友，拥有和他一样的兴趣，去感受</p>
<p>也许我们也会做出同样的选择。</p>','2025-09-02 15:15:30.669','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('009aba6c-3d1c-4cc9-bb98-ca2653d4d52a','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>我们可以选择自己的人生<br>让你的现在决定着过去<br>而不是让过去决定现在的你。</p>
<p>过去， 根本不存在<br>别耽溺于认为不幸的自己8</p>
<p>要相信*人有无限的潜能*等着你去发挥。<br>前往&ldquo;*接下来， 我可以怎么做*？&rdquo;</p>','2025-09-02 15:17:56.619','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3effdc15-fdaf-492a-adc0-f7be20904a17','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>不可以批评</p>
<p>规则必须透过民主程序制定出来，把班级看作一个民主国家</p>
<p>靠着力量来控制，不合理。</p>
<p>班级的主权不属于教师而是属于学生们。</p>
<p>赏罚，表扬和批评</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不可以批评也不可以表扬</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>孩子做了不好，危险或对他人危险的事情，接近犯罪，有可能孩子自己不知道这是不好的事情</p>
<p>孩子们不是残忍，而是不知道生命的价值和他人的痛苦</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不知道大人就有责任教，教的时候不需要责备性语言，记得这原则。那人不是在做坏事，而是不知道自己在做坏事。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>真不知道，那么大人做的不是斥责，而是教导。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不感情用事，也不大声大骂，而是理性的言语去教导。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>很多孩子虽然知道是错的可是还是去做，不合理。是不是还有某些更加深层的心理动机。</p>
<p>现代阿德勒心理学认为：人的问题行为背后的心理可以分为五个阶段来考虑。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 14:59:44.704','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5f59e98a-1618-47a3-8fc3-bdc34b8569e1','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>人的问题行为背后的心理动机， 有五个阶段：<br>1. &nbsp; &nbsp;称赞的要求<br>&nbsp;&ndash; 目的是要获得表扬， 要在&ldquo;共同体中取得特权地位&rdquo;</p>
<p>他不知道并不是在做&ldquo;好事&rdquo;， 而是在做&ldquo;能获得表扬的事&rdquo;。<br>若没获得表扬的话，会失去积极性。<br>要通过&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;的方式， 让他明白即使不特别， 也有价值。</p>
<p>2. &nbsp; &nbsp;引起关注<br>&nbsp;&ndash; 行为原理来自要&ldquo;与众不同&rdquo;来确保自己的位置。</p>
<p>3. &nbsp; &nbsp;权力争斗&nbsp;<br>&ndash; 以反抗来显示不服从， 企图炫耀自己的力量。</p>
<p>4. &nbsp; &nbsp;复仇<br>&nbsp;&ndash; 爱的欲望无法实现，转而寻求&ldquo;憎恨&rdquo;来进行爱的复仇。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 反复做对方讨厌的事 ， 要在憎恨的感情里获得关注。</p>
<p>5. &nbsp; &nbsp;证明自己无能<br>&nbsp;&ndash; 让对方产生&ldquo;不再对我有任何期待&rdquo;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp; 对人生绝望，厌恶自己，认为自己一无是处。</p>','2025-09-02 15:22:31.495','2025-09-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('227dece5-4446-48d6-af95-d2023045b1e5','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>面对孩子的问题行为，阿德勒说要放弃法官的立场。我们没有赋于裁判特权，维护法律。教育者就是心理咨询师，心理咨询就是再教育。</p>
<p>发怒是使人和人之间变得疏远的感情。不去执着于无法改变的事情，而是正视可以改变的事情。再想想&ldquo;以后怎么做？&rdquo;</p>','2025-09-02 15:23:00.38','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03dd5de4-e19c-4f35-921d-860bea92adf4','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>尊重</p>
<ol>
<li>就是实事求是看待一个人并认识独特个性的能力。</li>
<li>就是要努力地使对方能成长和和发展自己。</li>
</ol>','2025-09-03 15:38:48.077','2025-09-03 15:38:48.077',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 15:38:48.076',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('39c32119-5fac-4206-94dc-24cf047e66dd','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>教育的目的是为了帮忙培养其自立</p>
<p>心理咨询师或者老师都是教育者，他们需要传授知识，尤其是人格知识，因为我们处在这地球上和其他共同体生存，就得要有这些人格知识，才能在其中找到自己的位置</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>青年现在要听的是更具体化、实践化和现实性的话，因为实践过后已经发现了阿德勒的弱点...</p>','2025-09-02 15:26:29.806','2025-09-02 15:40:20.253',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 15:40:20.252',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3d06e17a-2f0e-438c-aa16-39f99efe0740','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>1）教育的入口是尊重➡️&ldquo;教的一方&rdquo;要尊重&ldquo;被教的一方&rdquo;</p>
<p>2）尊重：</p>
<ul>
<li>实事求是地看待一个人并认识到其独特个性的能力</li>
<li>要努力地使对方能成长和发展自己</li>
</ul>
<p>3）不要试图改变眼前的人或强加价值观在他人身上，不附加任何条件地去认可&ldquo;真实的那个人&rdquo;，努力去发现那个人本身的价值，这才是最好的尊重。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 15:40:57.737','2025-09-03 15:40:57.737',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 15:40:57.736',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cca889a8-af8d-4c39-bbe6-0ce744ac439b','fdfe2e4d-ad2f-4900-a0f1-45b20fa4ac0c','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 2 9月2日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教育的目标是&ldquo;自立&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">每一个人来到这世界上都有自己的灵魂选择，都有自己的课题. 我们需不要活在别人的眼皮底下，要有被讨厌的勇气. 这样才不会满足他人的期待，而活着，别人也不会因为满足我们的期待而活着.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不论是家庭教育，还是学校的</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教育都很重要. 教育的目标简而言之就是&ldquo;自立&rdquo;. 教育不是&ldquo;干涉&rdquo;，而是帮助其&ldquo;自立&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">无论接受于教育者，咨询师及指导师教导概念是必须要有具体化，实践式和现实性化的，不要只关注于抽象化，理论式和理想化的. </span></p>','2025-09-02 15:59:12.917','2025-09-02 16:02:51.664',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-02 16:02:51.662',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6582979-1420-4262-a2c0-e72bc20f5aff','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>教育者踏出的第一步就是學會尊重。</p>
<p>我在台灣跟澳洲兩邊都有受過教育。現在我終於知道這兩邊教育上根本上的不同。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 06:31:04.39','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('93a7dff5-379f-4c97-96b9-af6ed7bcbe16','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>所谓尊重就是，&lsquo;&rsquo;实事求是地看待一个人&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>当教育，指导，帮助都以&lsquo;&rsquo;自立&lsquo;&rsquo;为目标的时候。 尊重是教育的入口唯此无他。</p>
<p>教的一方要尊重被教的一方，没有尊重的地方无法产生良好的人际关系，没有良好的关系就不能顺畅交流。无论亲子关系，还是公司的人际关系都一样。 首先，父母要尊重孩子，上司要尊重部下。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>尊重人是尊重所有的他人。这也是一种道德观念。</p>
<p>尊重就是实事求是的看待一个人并认识到其独特个性的能力。尊重就是要努力地使对方能成长和发展自己。尊重也是鼓励的根源。</p>
<p>尊重首先必须从&lsquo;&rsquo;你&lsquo;&rsquo;开始。不附加任何条件，也不管结果如何都要踏出最初一步的是&lsquo;&rsquo;你&lsquo;&rsquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-31 05:12:45.355','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('433609d5-eda6-4ce9-8faa-33a0e7b9541e','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>透过尊重式的教育，发现对方独特个性之处，使对方成长并发展自己，从而，达到自立</p>','2025-08-31 22:24:55.967','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89f3b04a-9f34-411e-802b-c219b43a5dcc','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>从尊重开始.</p>
<p>一切人際關係的基礎, 都是以尊重為首, 無論是好人坏人, 大人小孩, 上司下属&nbsp; 被教的一方 , 雲尊重被教的一方, 因為沒有尊重是無法産生好的人际关係, 沒有好的人际关係, 就不能顺畅的交流.</p>','2025-09-01 02:13:28.776','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd9ad08b-5331-4910-9df1-4a80b81a5a6e','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>问题行为五个阶段是：寻求称赞， 接着引起关注，</p>
<p>如果无法实现则挑起权力争斗，恶劣复仇，&nbsp;</p>
<p>最终是证明自己无能。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>目的是要确保自己在共同体里的&ldquo;存在感&rdquo;，&ldquo;归属感&ldquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>通过被批评， 被斥责正如他所愿。</p>
<p>借此证明自己是特别的存在。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们应该&ldquo;关注对方的目的&ldquo;</p>
<p>与他们思考接下来该怎么做？</p>
<p>最终目标是达成协议。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>唯有在传达内容被理解并达成协议，交流才有意义。</p>','2025-09-02 15:25:07.564','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4c6d1e3-5856-4213-9263-152ae6c54d6a','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>很多青少年时期是这样的状态来让大人的关注。</p>
<p>而父母时常也上了他们的当。</p>
<p>我不同意自闭症在阿德勒心理学也是复仇。</p>
<p>如果是身体结构的缺陷，这是不成立的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 09:30:17.615','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('10d9170c-27a8-4a61-9778-c9101d4bee71','610e404c-2c52-437b-b7df-dcc61980587e','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>我们都有同理心，发现脆弱的人性，我们都给予一些协助，这是道德上的做法。但是不能够长期聚落可怜的方式，让对方过于劳累、精力透支和过于劳累，这样是不平衡的做法。爱是两个人结合的一个结晶，需要牺牲自我为中心的理念。</p>','2025-09-14 06:33:18.421','2025-09-28 00:00:00.064',NULL,'f','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032','2025-09-28 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eb1a46ff-e748-43db-80c1-3f5db79cd0f0','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>人类因为自身脆弱，所以才会组成共同体并在协作关系中生存。因为人类很脆弱，不可以单独生存，所以同伴之间的竞争力违背自然规律。人常常渴望与他人之间建立的&ldquo;联系&rdquo;，所以人的心中都存在着共同体感觉。</p>','2025-09-15 03:20:41.475','2025-09-15 03:20:41.475',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 03:20:41.474',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ffb827f5-d4ed-40e9-8f45-d060b20ef7a4','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>我个人觉得尊重是一个最基本的要求，有了这个基础，接下来的事情才能够进一步的沟通、协调和发展。&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 00:02:20.737','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d3b46573-fc11-4a3e-9813-00ac9d9431af','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>教育的入口是尊重。尊重是看见真正的对方，就算事实求是地看待一个人并认识到他独特个性的能力。尊重就算努力使对方成长，发展他本身的价值。而不是将自己认为&ldquo;最好的&rdquo;、&rdquo;最对的&ldquo;价值，硬硬塞给他。或者企图纠正或操控他。有了尊重，有了父母的接纳，孩子会找回自立的勇气。</p>
<p>70后的父母因为成长大环境的关系，比较多焦虑，希望孩子少走弯路。如果我一味认为我才是对的，那么，孩子就必须活在我设立的规条里。孩子就在小的时候都避开了危机。那么，等到他到了中年，他就必须重新整顿自己，让自己长出自性。我越操控，他会拥有越困难的中年。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-02 11:55:34.45','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e930075-d3e5-4483-9998-1fcaef8c0f65','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','c76246a5-005d-4e76-ba51-09c96d3c706f','<p>教育的目标是帮助&ldquo;自立&ldquo;， 不是&rdquo;干涉&ldquo;</p>
<p>追求自立， 是追求脱离无力感的不自由状态。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人应该从与他人交往的人际关系实践中</p>
<p>学习&ldquo;共同体生活&ldquo; 和 &rdquo;人格知识&ldquo;。</p>
<p>明确自己的责任所在， 只促其&ldquo;自立的帮助&ldquo;</p>
<p>，不干涉。</p>','2025-09-02 15:10:36.756','2025-09-03 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('81217f65-8588-4303-a843-59fa73f27cb7','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p><strong>先投出尊重之球的人，才是<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">真正强者</span></strong>.</p>
<p>💬 经典</p>
<p>青年："学习是孩子的课题，教育不就是多管闲事？"</p>
<p>哲人："🚫<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">教育不是干涉</span>，是帮助<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">自立</span>！"</p>
<p>青年："为什么要<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">尊重问题儿童</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">青年："如果尊重没用怎么办？"</span></p>
<p>哲人："⚾尊重像投球&mdash;&mdash;你先投出，才可能弹回"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🎯 阿德勒幸福三法则&nbsp;</p>
<p>1️⃣ 课题分离术</p>
<p>➤ 口诀：后果谁承担，就是谁的课</p>
<p>➤ 效果：不管闲事+不被人管=能量+100%</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2️⃣ 深度尊重法</p>
<p>➤ 三步走：摘滤镜&rarr;发现美&rarr;助成长</p>
<p>➤ 心法：不做雕刻家，做园丁</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>3️⃣ <strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">自立教育观</span></strong></p>
<p>➤ 目标：培养生活+思考+社交全自立</p>
<p>➤ 关键：教"人格知识"胜过教课本</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>💎 哲人</p>
<p>"世界上无法强迫的两件事：尊重和爱"</p>
<p>"教育的入口唯此无他&mdash;&mdash;尊重"</p>
<p>"实事求是地看待一个人，是尊重的起点"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🔥 青年觉醒时刻 "原来尊重不是道德绑架，而是勇气练习"</p>
<p>"先投出尊重之球的人，才是真正强者&rdquo;</p>','2025-09-01 20:39:28.184','2025-09-03 11:06:29.649',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 00:00:00.034','2025-09-03 11:06:29.647',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97e6313d-4e13-4b3f-9780-7c2451ce273e','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>无条件的尊重他人是第一步？！ 好难的感觉，或者说一开始还比较容易，但你知道对方更多事后，还得要无条件尊重感觉更艰难</p>','2025-09-03 15:43:44.023','2025-09-03 15:43:44.023',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 15:43:44.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2194d6bb-fa31-4d17-9ff5-1a5d0b43b505','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>勇氣和尊重都會影响周遭的人, 也是踏入良好人际关係, 步入共鳴的啓步.</p>','2025-09-03 00:46:09.967','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29257ba6-fb16-448d-93b9-acd8d96fc976','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>目的：获得称赞和表扬、引起关注</p>','2025-09-08 15:57:41.828','2025-09-08 15:57:41.828',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 15:57:41.827',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('851ba9db-7a64-44b5-92d9-e608359ed54d','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 6 9月6日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">你的&ldquo;现在&rdquo;决定了过去</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">活在当下，不埋怨过去，不担心未来!</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在我们人生的剧本里，如果没有逼害, 就没有了受害者 = 就不会有可恶的他人，可怜的自已. </span></p>','2025-09-06 15:59:20.37','2025-09-06 16:03:20.292',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 16:03:20.29',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4d7a24f7-e9de-45ae-b254-bcebc7afe2bf','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>阿德勒心理学大前提，人类在孩童时代毫无例外地抱着自卑感生活。孩子身体的发育赶不上心理的成长。</p>
<p>文明就是用来填补人类生物性弱点的产物，人类史就是一部克服劣等性的历史。人类很脆弱，所以才会组成共同体并在协助关系中生存。</p>','2025-09-15 15:25:25.668','2025-09-15 15:35:27.281',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-15 15:35:27.28',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e25b66cb-ccdc-40fb-ac7c-c8dfbe91b86b','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p><span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);">教育不靠专业距离</span>，<span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);"><strong>要靠真心友谊</strong></span>；<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">师生成朋友</span>，<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">改变就发生</span></strong>。</p>','2025-09-17 21:13:44.563','2025-09-17 21:22:12.437',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-17 21:22:12.436',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('279026e9-4a07-49dd-9ee0-bcb2c4371af7','92992b3a-24a7-4967-9589-ba25655aac47','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>心理咨询师就是教育者，教育者就是心理咨询师。</p>
<p>面对学生，应该以作为朋友般来看待，不要因工作来面对学生。</p>','2025-09-15 02:11:32.919','2025-09-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016','2025-09-18 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cafa3bc6-24bf-4cdb-88c4-d11dfa37bb94','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>▪️烦恼来自人际关系，快乐也来自人际关系。</p>
<p>▪️真正的幸福：不是孤立的成就，而是与他人连接、协作、分享成果。</p>
<p>▪️领导者的任务：营造团队共荣，让员工体会到快乐不仅是完成KPI，而是一起努力、共同达成目标。</p>
<p>▪️信任有条件，信赖无条件。</p>
<p>▫️真正能带来勇气与成长的，是信赖，而不是带期待的信任。</p>','2025-09-20 15:36:54.305','2025-09-20 15:36:54.305',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 15:36:54.304',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f426de8-ec07-42a6-9695-84560e2b48b2','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<ol>
<li>尊重就是实事求是地看待一个人并认识的其独特个性的能力。</li>
<li>&ldquo;教的一方&rdquo;要尊重&ldquo;被教的一方&rdquo;。</li>
</ol>','2025-09-03 09:10:10.025','2025-09-03 09:10:10.025',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 09:10:10.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90dd2bd0-f9db-4836-bc8b-422646ebbef2','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>尊重是打开人际的开始，学会接纳和聆听对方。尊重也不只是晚辈对后辈，后辈也需要学会尊重晚辈。他们的想法一律只在长辈拥有的权力，并不会因为经验多而聆听。在交谈中可以只是聆听他人，聆听他的想法和用心去感受他所说的话。这也是开阔人际和人缘的方法，因为没有人想要别人的指指点点和唠叨，一个聆听和接纳也是一种爱和尊重。</p>','2025-09-03 12:57:15.038','2025-09-03 12:57:15.038',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 12:57:15.036',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90c722a3-f821-4bbf-b647-6b30befa4c98','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>尊重～<span class="js_darkmode__95">不俯视、不仰视、不讨好、平等以待</span></p>
<p><span class="js_darkmode__95">怯懦会传染;勇气也会传染&rdquo;～当然，&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;也会传染。</span></p>
<p><span class="js_darkmode__95">身体力行来实践正念的循环</span></p>','2025-09-03 12:59:04.055','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b2a3d2d-f004-4657-902e-70f1e95dec8e','0923ea0b-66d5-4285-a1ba-17ba7bdd0eec','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>尊重人，並实事求是看待这人，也认识其独特个性能力。</p>
<p>或者说无条件的接受接纳这人。</p>
<p>尊重对方也让对方成长和发展自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 12:11:56.39','2025-09-03 12:12:45.72',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 12:12:45.719',NULL,NULL);
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<p>共鸣是接近他人时的技术和态度。</p>
<p>过去並不是无法回去，而是根本不存在。</p>
<p>那就要此时此刻吧。</p>','2025-09-03 12:23:53.548','2025-09-05 00:00:00.056',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
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<p>根本不存在真正意义上的&ldquo;过去&rdquo;。</p>
<p>''可以选择自己的人生''这一观点。并非是过去决定&ldquo;现在&rdquo;，而是你的<span class="js_darkmode__146">&ldquo;</span><span class="js_darkmode__147">现在</span><span class="js_darkmode__148">&rdquo;</span><span class="js_darkmode__149">决定着过去～你如何看待当时的自己。</span></p>','2025-09-03 13:07:07.852','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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<p>假如有人能认可真实的自己，那个人应该也会因此获得巨大的勇气</p>
<p>用他人的眼睛去看</p>
<p>用他人的耳朵去听</p>
<p>用他人的心去感受</p>','2025-09-03 11:13:32.318','2025-09-03 12:54:41.812',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 12:54:41.811',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 13:12:39.93','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
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<p>有了尊重才会有好的人际关系，尊重会让双方更容易接受对方给予的建议和意见。</p>
<p>尊重即是让独一无二的自己发现自己的优势并让它成长让教育的本质浮出水面。</p>
<p>尊重不能控制结果，但缺少尊重教育肯定不会自立起来。或许结果的呈现只是因为被迫臣服于当下教育者的权利。</p>
<p>我以为的尊重也可以是对宇宙万物所有事物的表现。并非只针对身边的人事物。举例江本胜博士《水的实验》里有提到对不同植物说好说话和坏话会让植物产生不一样的结果。对待事物也是一样，把猴子放进池塘是不会发挥其最大价值。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 15:12:43.787','2025-09-03 15:12:43.787',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 15:12:43.786',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">关心&ldquo;他人兴趣&rdquo;（Page 018-023）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">共同体感觉的实践</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">哲人： 阿德勒喜欢说：&ldquo;我们要用他人的眼睛去看，他人的耳朵去听，他人的心去感受。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">什么是共同体感觉？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">它不是&ldquo;我要被大家接受&rdquo;，而是：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我愿意理解你，尝试走进你的世界。很多时候我们不自觉地用自己的标准、经验与价值观去看待他人，结果容易出现误解与评判。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒哲学的切入点。不是&ldquo;能不能&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;你愿不愿意&rdquo;。不是&ldquo;要不要改变别人&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;你愿不愿意转换视角、扩展同理&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当你愿意练习「用他人的眼睛去看」，你会发现世界更宽，人际更柔，关系更深。这正是「幸福的勇气」，我们愿意踏出那一步，看见彼此。</span></p>','2025-09-03 13:33:56.5','2025-09-03 13:34:12.346',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 13:34:12.344',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&ldquo;教的一方&rdquo;要尊重&ldquo;被教的一方&rdquo;。没有尊重的地方无法产生良好的人际关系，没有良好的关系就不能顺畅交流。</p>
<p>&ldquo;尊重人&rdquo;是指尊重所有的他人。</p>
<p>尊重就是实事求是地看待一个人并认识到其独特个性的能力。尊重也是努力地使对方能成长和发展自己。</p>
<p>最好的尊重是不附加任何条件去认可&ldquo;真实的那个人&rdquo;。</p>
<p>尊重也是鼓励之根源。尊重含有&ldquo;看&rdquo;的意思。</p>
<p>有了尊重，每个学生都会接纳自我并找回自立的勇气。</p>
<p>无法强迫的事情只有两样： &ldquo;尊重&rdquo;和&ldquo;爱&rdquo;。</p>
<p>一切人际关系的基础都是尊重。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 14:02:42.433','2025-09-03 14:02:42.433',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 14:02:42.43',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>It also means supporting others in their growth while continuing our own self-development.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>True respect is the foundation of encouragement, where genuine strength and growth arise from feeling valued.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>And to be respected by others, we must first take the step to show respect ourselves.</p>','2025-09-03 14:09:17.106','2025-09-03 14:09:17.106',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 14:09:17.097',NULL,NULL);
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<p>一切人际关系的基础都是尊重</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 14:18:28.65','2025-09-03 14:18:28.65',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 14:18:28.649',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('23638ac6-7d4d-48c3-8564-ded30e9d83e9','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>工作关系是信任关系，交友关系是信赖关系</p>','2025-09-20 15:46:45.315','2025-09-20 15:46:45.315',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-20 15:46:45.314',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">所谓尊重就是&ldquo;事实求是地看待一个人&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;就像一把钥匙，它能解锁人与人之間的距离，轻轻的推開彼此的心門. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一切人际关系的基础都是&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;，没有人会去认真倾听一个无法令自己尊重的人.<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>当我们也希望对方好好的聆听我们说话时，请也先主动&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;他们. </span></p>','2025-09-03 15:49:15.367','2025-09-03 15:49:16.664',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 15:49:16.663',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">关心&ldquo;他人兴趣&rdquo;（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 018-023</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">尊重从关心他人兴趣开始，不强迫他人跟随自己的思维发展。不执着自己并且多关心别人。从他人视角他人的心和他人的人生经历去了解他人兴趣是达到共鸣共情的表现。这容易让彼此的人际关系达到提升。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">如果你拥有和他人一样的心灵去面对一样的课题，当时的你是否也会做出像他一样不被大众认同的那个决定？如果答案是yes,那么现在的你还会想去控制他人跟随自己的想法吗？</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">這裡提到的是對方視角，想像自己成為對方去完成對方喜歡的事物。比如打遊戲。當你能夠說出打遊戲的感覺，就能讓對方覺得你重視他尊重他。同樣的對方也會尊重你並且打開心房接受你給的建議。我們的再教育就有機會拿到成果。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">##尊重就是要努力地使对方能成长和发展自己##</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 22:25:55.515','2025-09-03 22:25:55.515',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-03 22:25:55.514',NULL,NULL);
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<p>🌟3步学会真正尊重 🌟</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>💬 文章精华&nbsp;</p>
<p>青年："强迫我尊重别人，这不矛盾吗？"</p>
<p>哲人："尊重像投球🏀&mdash;&mdash;你先投出，才可能弹回"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>青年："怎么关心别人的低级兴趣？"</p>
<p>哲人："用他的眼睛看👀，用他的耳朵听👂，用他的心感受❤️"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>---</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🎯 尊重实践三步法</p>
<p>&nbsp;1️⃣ 第一步：关心"他人兴趣"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&middot; 孩子打游戏 &rarr; 试着问："这个好玩在哪？"</p>
<p>&middot; 同 事追星 &rarr; 好奇问："TA哪里吸引你？"&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;口诀：先理解，不评判</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2️⃣ 第二步：练习"共鸣技术"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&middot; 自问："如果我有他的成长经历/生活环境，我会怎么做？"</p>
<p>&middot; 效果：从"这人真怪"变成"原来如此" 技术要点：想象拥有同样心灵与人生</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>3️⃣ 第三步：共同投入</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&middot; 不是"陪你玩"，而是"一起玩"</p>
<p>&middot; 案例：和孩子打一局游戏</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;关键：真诚参与&nbsp; ▸&nbsp; 教教妈妈这个游戏怎么玩？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>💎 本章节重点</p>
<p>"尊重之球必须先投出"</p>
<p>"共鸣是技术，不是天赋"</p>
<p>"用他人的眼睛看世界"</p>
<p>有什么新发现?</p>','2025-09-02 11:19:15.445','2025-09-03 23:25:20.987',NULL,'f','2025-09-03 16:00:00','2025-09-03 23:25:20.986',NULL,NULL);
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<p>关心他人兴趣</p>
<p><br>尊重绝对不能强逼，尊重之球，只会弹回到主动将其投出的那个人，就像对墙壁投球一样。 如果你投出去的话，有可能弹回来。 但是若仅仅对着墙壁大喊&lsquo;&rsquo; 把球给我&lsquo;&rsquo;却无济于事。</p>
<p>用他人的眼睛去看用他人的耳朵去听用他人的心去感受，这就是共同体感觉- Social interest, 他的意思就是对社会的关心。 进一步的讲法就是对形成社会的&lsquo;&rsquo;他人&lsquo;&rsquo;的关心。<br>共同体感觉，就是不要执着于自我，而要对他人的关心<br>尊重也是被平等对待，也关心他人的兴趣，所有人际关系中都必须的尊重的具体的第一步，无论是对孩子或者在公司里的人际关系，都需要对他人的兴趣给予关心。<br>尊重就是努力的，使对方能成长和发展自己，不做任何否定，不做任何的强迫，并接受，尊重那个人真实的样子，守护并关心对方的尊严。</p>','2025-08-31 05:14:23.843','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;"孩子不是天使！尊重他们只会被''蹬鼻子上脸''！社会要的是成绩数字！"</p>
<p>哲人：</p>
<p>1. <span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>尊重会传染</strong></span>：你先尊重，学生才学会尊重（像火把传染光明）</p>
<p>2. 目的论：不是过去决定现在，而是"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>现在的你</strong></span>"如何解释过去</p>
<p>3. <span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>改变=死亡</strong></span>：不改变是因为害怕否定"过去的自己</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>先点亮自己的火把，才能照亮他人；先尊重自己，才能教会尊重</strong></span></p>','2025-09-04 11:24:39.185','2025-09-05 00:15:20.909',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 00:00:00.018','2025-09-05 00:15:20.908',NULL,NULL);
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<p>小孩子知错了还做错，其实他们是想要得到关注，并不是很想要犯错。这时长辈需要挪出时间与孩子好好地沟通，了解他目前的想法和内心的看法。我们这时也不批评，也不能表扬。</p>','2025-09-07 08:55:57.55','2025-09-07 08:55:57.55',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 08:55:57.548',NULL,NULL);
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<p>所有人际关系中尊重的第一步。对他人的兴趣关心，用他人的眼睛看，用他人的耳朵听，用他人的心感受。<br><br>首先从他人的理解开始。<br><br>人不是住在客观世界里的，而是主观的世界里的。<br>不是世界如何，而是如何看待世界。<br><br>无法脱离主观，无法成为他人，我们可以想象他人眼中看到的事物，和他人耳中听到的声音。<br><br><br>同理 - 假如我和这个人一样的心灵和一样的人生情况，我会如何？</p>
<p><br>不是问学生为何不学习因为这样已经缺乏尊重， 换成 先去了解对方，先自己思考如果自己和这个学生一样的心理和人生情况，我面对我的老师时或我的功课练习，我会怎么做？<br><br>共鸣 同理他人，共鸣是接近他人时的技术和态度。<br>只要是技术，任何人也可以掌握。<br><br>要去关心他人兴趣，不仅仅只是远距离观望。<br>亲自投入，没有投入或理解就会高高在上把距离拉远。<br><br><br></p>','2025-08-30 16:22:25.569','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>各种关系中我们都需要对&ldquo;他人兴趣，给予关心&rdquo;</p>
<p>我们需要用他人的眼睛去看，他人的耳朵去听，他人的心去感受。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们也尝试去投入孩子们的兴趣投入的去享受，这会让到孩子们真正体会到自己作为一个人被认可，被尊重，被平等对待&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>尊重就是要努力的使对方能成长和使他发展自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>总结：要打从内心的去尊重他人</p>
<p>要做到这一点先去除&ldquo;我&rdquo;执</p>','2025-09-02 15:12:50.778','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>用他人的眼睛去看、用他人的耳朵去听、用他人的心去感受&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 13:00:52.915','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>父母总觉着为孩子着想，但刧缺乏尊重，孩子不想和你说话，也否定了孩子们认为理所当然的兴趣。</p>
<p>用他人的眼去看、用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 12:19:01.411','2025-09-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016','2025-09-04 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>这是所有人际关系中都必需的尊重的具体第一步。</p>
<p>我们需要用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受。</p>
<p>阿德勒建议：想一想，假如我拥有和此人一样的心灵和人生，情况会怎样？</p>
<p>我们还需要有&ldquo;共鸣&rdquo;，就是接近他人时的技术和态度。必须亲身投入他人的兴趣，否则任何的批评都是不尊重也不可能有共鸣。</p>','2025-09-04 06:17:36.882','2025-09-04 06:17:36.882',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 06:17:36.881',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-04 01:23:02.591','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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<p>（2） 通过一些手段&ldquo; 特别的我&rdquo; 来获得关注, 確保自己的位置.</p>','2025-09-07 09:27:58.359','2025-09-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('67af43a9-aa1c-4280-b867-49ae3439b0b2','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>爱是两个人一同去建立幸福生活的勇气</p>','2025-09-26 15:22:28.061','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6950ffb-dac6-44dc-abf1-151a1086e1c8','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 4 9月4日 (星期四)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">关心&ldquo;他人兴趣&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;将心比心&rdquo;，尤其是面对孩子时，我们应该抱有蹲低的角度和他们同样的视角去看他们的世界. 只是去关心孩子们的兴趣，不论看来是多么低谷的游戏，我们都尝试一下偶尔和他们一起玩玩，自己也投入其中愉快的享受. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">这样他们才会被感受到&ldquo;认可&rdquo;和&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;. 让他们感觉到我们也是在关心&ldquo;他的兴趣&rdquo;瞬间拉近了距离.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我们都不是住在别人身体里的灵魂，所以我们无法用我们的眼光去定义每一个人的想法和看法. 所以我们需要用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受，这样才能体会到&ldquo;共同感觉&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-04 13:49:56.388','2025-09-04 13:51:08.326',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 13:51:08.324',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This chapter reminds us that a fulfilling life is not found in personal gain alone but in caring for others and contributing to the well-being of society.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>True happiness is built on connection, not in competing against others, but in walking side by side with them. When we treat people as equals, grow together, and share life&rsquo;s journey with the same heart, our life becomes meaningful and joyful.</p>','2025-09-04 14:02:20.024','2025-09-04 14:02:20.024',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 14:02:20.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1a1cb441-6bf8-40a3-a89b-213612367308','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受</p>','2025-09-04 14:11:11.867','2025-09-04 14:11:11.867',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 14:11:11.866',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9d15f94-66b7-41eb-89fb-007c769dcaad','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>变身为他人，用他的眼看，用他的耳去听，用他的心去感受，这样会更容易做到共同体感觉，让他感觉到被认可、被尊重、被平等对待。</p>','2025-09-04 14:22:15.838','2025-09-04 14:22:15.838',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 14:22:15.837',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f09fdd1-eebc-4f1c-98c5-692d4420f98d','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 5 9月5日 (星期五)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">勇气会传染，尊重也会</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">决定我们生活方式的并不是过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经历的.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">《活在当下才是威力之点！》</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">成为灯塔，发光发亮，影响更多的生命被这光芒照亮. </span></p>','2025-09-05 15:59:23.552','2025-09-05 16:02:56.289',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 16:02:56.288',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85f9097d-5cbf-4730-a4ed-704f7ad5acd2','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>把外竟看成自己遭遇的罪魁祸首，不但不能真正解决问题，还导致痛苦与不安，这是我们一般上的盲点。</p>','2025-09-07 09:42:04.802','2025-09-07 09:42:04.802',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 09:42:04.801',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('46243c72-f99c-42c6-bf4f-2af762a2de28','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>人类处于未成年的状态是自己的责任。</p>
<p>教育者要有奉献精神。</p>','2025-09-11 14:58:47.308','2025-09-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd6309b0-cb09-4388-90c1-08a8fbcb2da1','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">真正的尊重源于对他人兴趣的真诚关心，并通过共鸣技术实现理解与接纳。这不是抽象的道德说教，而是可实践的心理技术，适用于所有人际关系，亲子，职场，亲密关系等。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">如果想要进一步提升沟通质量、建立更深层次的人际关系，可以从&ldquo;关心他人兴趣&rdquo;和&ldquo;练习共鸣&rdquo;开始。</span></p>','2025-09-04 14:50:25.401','2025-09-04 14:50:25.401',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 14:50:25.4',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('996602a6-0e15-4497-9416-8b68878db705','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>要做到人际关系中最重要的尊重，就得先理解他人，用对方的角度去感受世界，关心对方的兴趣，想象当我和对方拥有同样的心灵与人生的话，才能产生共鸣的态度</p>
<p>共鸣是一种技术，是一种让我们接近他人的技术和态度，所以是可以学习并掌握的</p>','2025-09-04 14:31:52.158','2025-09-04 14:51:22.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 14:51:22.619',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a101e548-0afc-4b38-a153-89322c876986','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 4 <span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>9月4日 (星期四）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">关心&ldquo;他人兴趣&rdquo;（Page 018-023）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">放下自己的主观视角</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">哲人指出，阿德勒所说的&ldquo;共同体感觉&rdquo;并不是只用自己的立场去看待他人，而是要&rdquo;用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当我们批评孩子的兴趣&ldquo;粗俗&rdquo;&ldquo;丑恶&rdquo;，其实只是站在自己的角度评断。但孩子自己并不这么认为，我们应当尝试去理解他们所看见的世界、他们感兴趣的内容为何吸引他们。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这是理解与尊重的起点，也是建立关系的第一步。</span></p>','2025-09-04 14:53:23.95','2025-09-04 14:53:23.95',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 14:53:23.949',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9c7ef4b-7050-4b96-a8a7-52ce5195a207','d1767d58-fbf1-4425-9f3f-0b33d21186df','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>要关心孩子们的兴趣。哪怕在你看来是很无聊甚至有点&lsquo;低俗&rsquo;的游戏，也先试着去了解一下他们为什么喜欢。这时候，孩子才会真正觉得自己被当成一个独立的人来对待，被认可、被尊重，而不是只是个&lsquo;小孩&rsquo;。这种发自内心的尊重，是所有人际关系的第一步。</p>','2025-09-04 14:58:28.575','2025-09-04 14:58:28.575',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 14:58:28.574',NULL,NULL);
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<li>要学会尊重他人，第一步就必须先&ldquo;<strong>关心他人兴趣</strong>&rdquo;</li>
<li>用他人的眼睛去看，用他人的耳朵去听，用他人的心去感受➡️不是&ldquo;陪你玩&rdquo;而是自己也投入其中愉快的享受我们原本自认无聊的事。</li>
<li>人类无法脱离主观，可是我们可以想象自己假如拥有和他人一样的心灵和人生，情况会如何呢？（这就是共鸣）</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-04 15:44:52.147','2025-09-04 15:44:52.147',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 15:44:52.146',NULL,NULL);
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<ul>
<li>尊重的最高境界不是客套，也不是基于身份的尊重，而是事实求是。</li>
<li>真正的尊重，就是看见对方的真实存在：而是承认：你是你，我是我，我们是平等的独立个体。</li>
<li>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-04 16:00:59.157','2025-09-04 16:00:59.157',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-04 16:00:59.156',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7691fc3b-4bf8-4500-91e5-976fcfadd32a','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>角度的问题。</p>
<p>从角度，你可以选择你要的人生</p>','2025-09-06 00:57:06.806','2025-09-06 00:57:06.806',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 00:57:06.805',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65448a22-869b-432c-aa64-5b1f3d51dcc6','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>024-030（05/09/25）</p>
<ul>
<li>勇气和懦弱会被传染，尊重也会</li>
<li>我们随时都具有决定自我，改变自我，但往往我们却什么都改不了，因为我们内心是想维持现状，认为变化意味着&ldquo;死亡&rdquo;</li>
<li>为了肯定&ldquo;现在&rdquo;而肯定不幸的&ldquo;过去&rdquo;</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>031-036（06/09/25）</p>
<ul>
<li>人人都是&ldquo;我&rdquo;这个故事的编𥴠者，为了证明&ldquo;现在的我&rdquo;的正统性，其过去往往都会被随意改写，也就是说不符合现在&ldquo;目的&rdquo;的事件会被抹掉</li>
<li>但我们其实不太需要去在意过去中&ldquo;可恶的他人&rdquo;或&ldquo;可怜的自己&rdquo;，只需要在意&ldquo;以后怎么做&rdquo;这一点就可以了</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-06 14:43:43.394','2025-09-06 15:11:01.974',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 15:11:01.97',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('574f3024-24b6-4a99-9359-5f1a92f58bab','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>问题行为的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;</p>
<p>第四阶段：复仇&rarr;在憎恶的感情中关注我。他们的目标不是&ldquo;坏事&rdquo;，而是反复做&ldquo;对方讨厌的事&rdquo;。他们通过伤害自己或者贬低自己的价值来控诉&ldquo;我变成这这样都是你的错&rdquo;。他们通过&ldquo;被憎恶&rdquo;这一点与大家建立联系。</p>
<p>第五阶段：证明无能&rarr;他们往往主动放弃一切，不去从事任何课题也不对事物做任何思考。他们总是厌世地拒绝一切课题和周围人的期待。</p>
<p><strong>&ldquo;在防止问题行为进一步恶化这方面，教育者的作用非常大&rdquo;。</strong></p>','2025-09-09 05:55:00.759','2025-09-09 05:55:00.759',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-09 05:55:00.749',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b2bec50-2d9e-4ae4-b375-a6620e594c30','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>问题行为的目的-五个阶段</p>
<p>3️⃣权力斗争</p>
<p>4️⃣复仇</p>
<p>5️⃣证明无能</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>大部分问题仅处于权力斗争；要防止问题行为进一步恶化，教育者就扮演了很治愈的角色</p>','2025-09-07 16:00:28.726','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0161c389-70a2-4bcd-aba5-192dcf47ac68','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>情绪不能换来尊重，唯有冷静沟通才是真正的力量。</p>','2025-09-11 15:59:24.69','2025-09-11 15:59:24.69',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-11 15:59:24.687',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3bd06e9-803c-4a08-add5-9fc3c9d75c26','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>除了爱是双向奔赴，尊重也是。身为一个大人的我们都知道一句话叫&nbsp;<strong>&ldquo;你如何对待别人，别人就会如何对待你&rdquo;。</strong>青年思想开始变成熟以及懂得思考，他们知道自己该做什么不该做什么，他们也容易理解道理。但小孩子在思考上相对会比较弱。所以我们需要以榜样来教育孩子，而不是单方面强迫孩子做。所谓<strong>&ldquo;近朱者赤，近墨者黑&rdquo;</strong>，现今的网络时代也告知了我们未知 - 不知道10后的孩子都看些什么。因为我们控制不了，所以我们只能以身作则。当然很多时候我们看到比较坏的年轻人，身为教育者我们不能因为原生家庭而定论某个人。我们改变他人之前先改变自己，不要因为过去怎样怎样而现在怎样怎样。我们活着是因为现在不是过去。改变自己的第一步是相信自己，不要害怕别人的不认可。</p>','2025-09-05 02:56:49.065','2025-09-05 02:56:49.065',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 02:56:49.064',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1b31083-bb1a-44a9-a0b3-293d7f03f618','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>孩子不是天使，是人。所以必须给予最大的尊重。不俯视、不仰视、不讨好，平等以待，对他们感兴趣的事物产生共鸣。</p>
<p>教育者通过身体力行展示尊重，教会孩子们尊重。</p>
<p>教育者尊重孩子并教他们什么是尊重。这不只是教育，也是一切人际关系的第一步。</p>
<p>阿德勒说&ldquo;怯懦会传染，勇气也会传染&rdquo;。所以尊重也会传染。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学的基本主张： 在判定自己及他人言行时，思考其背后隐藏的目的。</p>
<p>决定我们生活方式的并不是过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经历的意义。</p>
<p>决定自己人生的是活在&ldquo;此时此处&rdquo;的你自己。</p>
<p>我们随时都可以决定自我，可以选择新的自己。但我们却很难改变自己。</p>
<p>人们不想改变，无论多么痛苦也想&ldquo;维持现状&rdquo;。还要为&ldquo;维持现状&rdquo;这一选择寻找一些合适的借口。</p>
<p>为了肯定&ldquo;现在&rdquo;而去肯定不幸的&ldquo;过去&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&ldquo;现在的自己&rdquo;赋予过去什么样的意义。</p>','2025-09-05 12:53:18.56','2025-09-05 12:53:18.56',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 12:53:18.558',NULL,NULL);
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<p>活在当下，不要为了肯定目前的自己而找理由合理化过去的失误。最具挑战的，是放下过去，主动重新定义当下自己可以如何往前走。</p>','2025-09-05 13:42:03.26','2025-09-05 13:42:03.26',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 13:42:03.259',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">勇气会传染，尊重也会（Page 024-030）</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;我们并不是被过去决定，而是用&lsquo;现在&rsquo;的眼光，重新编辑了我们的过去。&rdquo;哲人</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正重要的不是&ldquo;过去发生了什么&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;你选择以什么眼光回头看&rdquo;。我们不能控制过去，但我们可以选择如何诠释它。也正因如此，我们才有&ldquo;选择新的人生&rdquo;的自由。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正该面对的，是第三面&mdash;&mdash;&ldquo;可以改变的自己&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">我们不是被过去困住，而是选择用&ldquo;悲剧&rdquo;解释过去，逃避现在的责任。阿德勒相信：人生不是被决定的，而是可以选择的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-05 13:52:36.253','2025-09-05 13:52:36.253',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 13:52:36.251',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Our actions and attitudes influence the people around us. By showing courage and respect, we create a positive environment where others feel empowered to do the same.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In this way, we cultivate a cycle of mutual respect and stronger relationships.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In Adler&rsquo;s philosophy, &ldquo;unchangeable&rdquo; is often just an excuse to avoid responsibility.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>The real reason is usually fear - fear of rejection, fear of failure, or fear of leaving the comfort zone.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Sometimes, we justify staying the same to protect our current self, or we choose the illusion that change is impossible.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This chapter reminds me that &ldquo;cannot change&rdquo; is not a fact but a choice. True freedom begins with the courage and responsibility to change.</p>','2025-09-05 14:26:19.771','2025-09-05 14:26:19.771',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 14:26:19.77',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91af9798-39fc-407c-ac56-7f91da36b209','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 7 9月7日 (星期日)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">教室是一个民主国家</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在课室里，班级的主权不属于教师而是属于学生们. 原则是 ~ 班级规则必须根据学生们的协商制定.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">很多人会做出认知以外的事情，此时要想到一种可能性，那就是&ldquo;他并不知道这是不好的事情&rdquo;，尤其是小时候.&nbsp;</span></p>','2025-09-07 15:58:42.421','2025-09-07 16:01:22.877',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 16:01:22.876',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e7b334d-c88e-4b30-a100-32817a91759b','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>權在學生手上</p>','2025-09-07 14:23:48.022','2025-09-07 14:23:48.022',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 14:23:48.021',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('142cb2f3-e486-44cb-af95-bcf4461a7e14','2aa5295f-dbdd-4106-9bbe-2b38cb385530','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>对待别人的态度，暴露你对自己的感觉；人心难懂，但可信。</p>','2025-09-21 19:06:57.984','2025-09-24 00:00:00.075',NULL,'f','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033','2025-09-24 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('df8945cc-cd8b-4918-890f-1aca04ef34ba','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 5 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">5</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期五</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">勇气会传染，尊重也会（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 024-030</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：分享者的所有做法其实就是教会学生怎样去尊重他人。当尊重发挥其作用，教育就会尾随，成功也是。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">当越来越多人把事做对，就会有更多人跟着做。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">一个人做叫习惯，当一群人一起做就成了文化。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">反之当坏习惯不被制止，就会有更多人被影响。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">传染也是一体两面。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-05 14:37:38.336','2025-09-05 14:37:38.336',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 14:37:38.334',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29bd5973-187b-4810-8ef2-6fcce1663a1f','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">我们常常陷入责怪他人或自怜的情绪中，但这并不能解决问题。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">真</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">正的改变来自于追问：&ldquo;以后怎么做？&rdquo;并采取行动。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">阿德勒心理学鼓励人直面现实，主动选择叙事方式，承担起改变的责任。</span></p>','2025-09-06 15:33:30.516','2025-09-06 15:33:30.516',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 15:33:30.514',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('79b82f0c-8c1f-4f17-aec1-7965ea622a11','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>用你的行动去给孩子示范什么叫尊重。让他们亲身感受到，人与人之间的关系是可以建立在尊重上的。阿德勒说过：怯懦会传染，勇气也会传染。同样的，尊重也会传染。</p>','2025-09-05 14:54:00.877','2025-09-05 14:54:00.877',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 14:54:00.876',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('004af729-4b2e-45e8-a2fe-09f5cee69395','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>决定我们生活方式的并不是过去的经历，而是我们自己赋予经历的意义。</p>','2025-09-05 15:09:51.547','2025-09-05 15:09:51.547',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 15:09:51.546',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('329dc325-5cff-4a49-af6d-041a0ffcc10f','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">改变意味着否定过去的自己，因此人更愿意维持现状，即使痛苦。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">人为了肯定现在的自己，会重新解释过去, 要么将过去美化为&ldquo;必经之路&rdquo;，要么将过去视为&ldquo;不幸的根源&rdquo;，以逃避改变的责任。</span></p>','2025-09-05 15:14:08.398','2025-09-05 15:14:08.398',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 15:14:08.397',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5cf20b4e-e827-4320-8022-1a70b8df54df','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>4.9.25 站在对方的角度理解对方，能获得更好的沟通与成事。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>5.9.25 行为是一种身教。因此好的表现会感染他人，尊重当然也不例外。所以这是非常重要的教育行为。</p>','2025-09-05 14:53:00.485','2025-09-05 15:18:02.312',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 15:18:02.311',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af03c49e-736f-47fe-a675-b1328a66495f','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>为现在的成功肯定过去的痛苦，这乃是目的论的思考模式</p>','2025-09-05 15:30:05.735','2025-09-05 15:30:05.735',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 15:30:05.73',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89f1cd26-1510-473d-991c-d08376f8fe82','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>教育工作者的主要目的和所有人际关系中最重要的是要教会如何尊重</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>哲人说阿德勒的目的论其实根本没有什么过去，因为过去根本不存在。我们会为了肯定现在，而赋予过去经历某些意义；例如感谢学校老师的辛苦栽培</p>
<p>其实人是不愿意改变的，因为变化意味着把以往的一些经历和过去的自己送进坟墓</p>','2025-09-05 15:33:47.096','2025-09-05 15:33:47.096',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 15:33:47.094',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b48329a-d489-4b35-a717-4ab0bf539401','f6c2144e-51ac-47be-9713-0699d68c49f8','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<div>每一份尊重，都是点燃勇气的火种。</div>
<div>尊重能让紧绷的关系转化为信任，并带动良性循环。</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>管理的真正核心，不是管控，而是营造被尊重的氛围。</div>
<div>当员工真切感受到尊重时，他们会<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);"> 更勇敢地承担责任、</span> 更主动地发挥潜能 、更积极地与团队共创成果。</div>','2025-09-05 15:53:32.048','2025-09-05 15:53:32.048',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 15:53:32.046',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人并不是受过去的原因驱动，而是按照现在的目的活着。</p>','2025-09-05 15:54:44.723','2025-09-05 15:55:02.468',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-05 15:55:02.467',NULL,NULL);
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<p>了解当下、眼前的自己己经足夠了。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学：</p>
<p>科学，並具有建设性，对人尊重的的，理解人性的心理学。</p>','2025-09-05 14:53:52.414','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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<p>"过去是真实存在的！你的理论是<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">强者的傲慢</span>！"</p>
<p>哲人：</p>
<p>1. 过去是活的故事：我们对记忆的选择性叙述服务于"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">现在的目的</span>"</p>
<p>2. 三棱柱选择：人总在说"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">可恶的他人</span>"或"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">可怜的自己</span>"，但应该谈"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>以后怎么做</strong></span>"</p>
<p>3. 向前看：阿德勒心理学是使用心理学，关注<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">如何过得更好</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>关键：</p>
<p>&middot; 历史总被胜利者改写</p>
<p>&middot; 被狗咬伤的记忆：可选择记住"危险"或"被救助"</p>
<p>&middot; 心理咨询不是安慰，而是引导行动</p>
<p>&middot; 对个人：<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>停止抱怨，开始行动</strong></span></p>
<p>&middot; 对助人者：引导对方思考"怎么办"而非"为什么"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong><em><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">不要问过去为什么，要问以后怎么做；不要做过去的囚徒，要做未来的建筑师</span></em></strong>。</p>','2025-09-04 14:27:42.12','2025-09-05 22:33:21.387',NULL,'f','2025-09-05 16:00:00','2025-09-05 22:33:21.384',NULL,NULL);
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<p>大多数的人都是控诉可恶的他人和倾诉可怜的自己。而我们应该谈论的是以后怎么做。这样并非冷漠而是这些事情不值得谈论，所以才置若惘闻。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学具有建设性和科学性基于对人的一种理解人性的心理学。</p>','2025-08-30 06:34:40.313','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5599e2c2-de61-47a6-9f2d-ea138d2d26c4','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>你的&lsquo;&rsquo;现在&lsquo;&rsquo;决定了过去</p>
<p>关于记忆，人会从过去发生的庞大事件系统中，只选择符合现在目的的事情并赋予其意义，继而当作是自己的记忆，反过来说，就是不符合现在目的的事件就会被抹掉。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学之所以称为使用心理学就在于可以选择自己的人生。 这一观点。并非是过去决定。 现在，而是你的现在决定着过去。</p>
<p>可恶的他人，可怜的自己</p>
<p>无论你怎么谴责可恶的他人，倾诉可怜的自己，也无论能够得到别人多么充分的理解。 即使可以获得一时的安慰，也解决不了问题的本质。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学中并无魔法</p>
<p>要谈论的是以后怎么做，了解眼前的你就已经足够了。 而且原则上来说，我们也无法了解过去的你。过去根本不存在， 只不过是由现在的你巧妙偏敍出来的故事而已。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学中并无魔法，而是具有建设性和科学性并基于对人尊重一种心理人性的心理学</p>','2025-08-31 05:24:04.555','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人会从过去的的时间中选符合现在的目的而赋予意义，而当作记忆。不符合现在目的的事件会被抹除掉。<br>阿德勒的使用心理学，就在于可以选择自己人生的观点，并非过去决定现在，而是你的 现在 决定着过去。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><br>相信人的潜能才否定沉溺于过去悲剧的做法。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>可恶的他人， 可怜的自己。获得一时的安慰却不能解决本质的问题。</p>
<p>以后怎么做</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这些事情不值得谈论，所以才不管。</p>
<p>可恶的他人和可怜的自己， 那么接下来该怎么做？</p>
<p>倾诉了过后呢？有心理咨询了之后呢？要解决什么问题呢？</p>
<p>过去的我只是现在的我所编制的，仅仅存在于我主观上的认知而已。</p>
<p>选择以后怎么做，并且思考相关内容</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学 - 具有建设性和科学性并基于对人的尊重的一种理解人性的心理学。</p>','2025-09-01 15:49:17.426','2025-09-06 00:00:00.038',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02','2025-09-06 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我不认同暴力属于成本低和廉价的交流手段，而暴力会付出更大的代价和成本！EQ 差的人才会用这种手段来解决问题是一项不明智的手法。</p>','2025-09-06 04:15:45.319','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-06 01:51:59.024','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 6 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">6</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期六</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">你的&ldquo;现在&rdquo;决定了过去（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 031-036</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">受害人都喜欢和信任的人诉苦埋冤自己的遭遇，发泄完之后其实对事情的发展并没有帮助。遭遇已经成为历史，即使有更多人的认同或谴责也不会对个人提升有任何意义。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">三菱柱的第三面&ldquo;以后怎么样&rdquo; 恰巧是对自我提升有实质意义。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">发生-反应-結果</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">三菱駐的第三面就好像上面的''反應'' 那樣。如果我們繼續埋怨訴苦而不檢討自己如何進步，下一次的創傷還是會帶來一樣的結果。受害者繼續找其他人埋怨訴苦</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
</div>
</td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>','2025-09-06 04:41:50.457','2025-09-06 04:41:50.457',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 04:41:50.456',NULL,NULL);
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<p>小时候也是无知无畏搞小动物。</p>
<p>如果未来有小孩做这样的＂坏＂事，我就会想起今天读到这篇：大人要做的事，就用理性的态度来教导，而不是大声说话或者训话。</p>','2025-09-06 04:51:04.483','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c21ab4d0-d8d5-4fb2-b4d8-2df3e808ef90','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>我们应该谈论的是&ldquo;以后怎么做?&rdquo;。即使一直在谴责&ldquo;可恶的他人&rdquo;或者倾诉&ldquo;可怜的自己&rdquo;，也无法能够得到别人多么充分的理解，即使可以获得一时的安慰，也解决不了本质问题。</p>','2025-09-06 09:29:48.355','2025-09-06 09:29:48.355',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 09:29:48.354',NULL,NULL);
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<p>哲人点拨：</p>
<ol>
<li><strong>行为有目的</strong>：问题行为是为了"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>求关注</strong></span>""<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>找位置</strong></span>"
<p>&middot; <strong>好孩子</strong>可能只是在"<em>表演</em>"求<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>表扬</strong></span></p>
<p>&middot; <strong>调皮孩子</strong>可能只是在"<em>表演</em>"求<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>关注</strong></span></p>
</li>
<li><strong style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">五阶段上升</strong><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">：从"</span><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>求表扬</strong></span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">"到"</span><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>引起关注</strong></span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">"，心理需求越来越强</span></li>
<li><strong style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">尊重解千结</strong><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">：日常的尊重比偶尔的表扬更重要</span></li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: rgb(45, 194, 107);">每个问题行为背后</span>，都有<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">一颗渴望被看见的心</span>；每次刻意表现下面，都藏着一个<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">寻求归属的灵魂</span>。</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-06 05:08:09.828','2025-09-08 08:41:49.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 08:41:49.015',NULL,NULL);
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<p>仍处于未成年状态，不在于缺乏理智，而是没有他人的教导，就缺乏运用自己理智的决心和勇气，也就是说，仍处于未成年状态是自己的责任。 虽然按照他人的交待活着很轻松，但却会造就自己什么也决定不了的孩子。</p>
<p>幸福的本质是奉献精神。 唯有在奉献精神中找到幸福。我们应该尊重孩子们自己的决断，并帮助他们做出决断。 而且告诉孩子随时可以为其提供帮助。随时都可以守护他们。 即使他们自己做的决断失败告终， 孩子们也会学到自己的人生可以由自己选择的这个道理。</p>','2025-09-06 05:22:20.121','2025-09-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022','2025-09-12 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bbb9936c-c399-4cc1-8d71-9cc1dab8147f','01c2962f-579d-4828-ab7b-8d430a46bb9b','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>努力的动力为了被表扬有错吗？当然从内心深处愿景目标成为的动力更加坚定强大。自己也自己的认同感更为重要！</p>','2025-09-06 07:42:38.417','2025-09-13 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033','2025-09-13 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4da29441-991e-4dc2-b6a7-759880aaa58e','55fdd025-1eca-4363-8536-e0e40391c89d','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人的快乐源于人际关系。</p>
<p>我们在交友的时候，会学着用他人的眼睛去看，去听，去感受。</p>
<p>孩子们最初学习交友，挖掘共同体感觉的场所就是学校。</p>','2025-09-15 02:22:37.608','2025-09-19 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031','2025-09-19 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3d6f856b-e9fb-4d46-a43f-86314e236ebc','78e5b8e1-a009-4817-b51a-6a39c4a61a6a','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>&rdquo;帮助其自立&ldquo;--教育的目标。先从尊重开始，而尊重就是信赖，基于信赖的关系就是交友关系。不必要追求特别，做自己。借此孩子们找回受挫的勇气，步入自立阶段。</p>','2025-09-22 13:04:13.78','2025-09-22 13:04:42.759',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-22 13:04:42.758',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('086be35f-68b0-4423-af5e-69b60008b81c','fe2a0ec9-f7c5-4597-bec0-4d7b768f9a51','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>自卑情结，就是把自己的自卑感当作不解决课题的借口。我们必须正视更新自己隐含的孩童时代的生活方式，不可以被动等待爱自己的人出现。</p>
<p>阿德勒根本不认可命中注定的人。</p>','2025-09-22 12:23:21.352','2025-10-01 00:00:00.114',NULL,'f','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee0cedad-e77f-4c19-997f-939ab21d390c','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>青年： "学生挑衅，怎么能不生气？必须严惩！"</p>
<p>哲人：</p>
<p>1. <strong>五阶段论</strong>：问题行为从<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>求表扬</strong></span>&rarr;<span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);"><strong>求关注</strong></span>&rarr;<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">权力斗</span></strong>&rarr;<span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);"><strong>复仇</strong></span>&rarr;<span style="color: rgb(126, 140, 141);"><strong>证明无能</strong></span>，逐步升级</p>
<p>2. 目的论：所有行为都在说"请看见我""请爱我"，只是方式</p>
<p>关键：</p>
<p>&middot; 坏行为背后是好需求：渴望被爱和接纳</p>
<p>&middot; 最严重的不是造反，而是彻底放弃（证明无能）</p>
<p>&middot; 对老师：保持冷静，看懂行为背后的心理语言</p>
<p>&middot; 对家长：不要被孩子的挑衅带偏节奏</p>
<p>&middot;&nbsp;<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>学会用智慧而非情绪处理冲突</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);"><br><strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">每个问题</span>行为都是扭曲的<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">求救信号</span>，<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">每次权力争斗</span>都是<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">渴望联结</span>的<span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);">失败尝试</span>。</strong></span></p>','2025-09-06 11:23:10.415','2025-09-09 16:11:56.675',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 16:11:56.674',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('25990136-504d-4f49-88ec-9f99a45c178f','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>有记载的，一般都是&ldquo;胜利者的历史&rdquo;，还有另一半，应该是要听老人家口述了。</p>
<p>不管过去是什么遭遇，就是不能成为&ldquo;受害者&rdquo;。以救灾者的身份，谢谢接下来如何是好。</p>','2025-09-06 12:41:04.014','2025-09-06 12:41:04.014',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 12:41:04.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5af2d62-1911-45a6-9d65-ac21956e628c','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 5 <span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>9月5日 (星期五）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第一章 可恶的他人，可怜的自己</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">勇气会传染，尊重也会（Page 024-030）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们并不是被过去决定，而是用&lsquo;现在&rsquo;的眼光，重新编辑了我们的过去。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正重要的不是&ldquo;过去发生了什么&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;你选择以什么眼光回头看&rdquo;。我们不能控制过去，但我们可以选择如何诠释它。也正因如此，我们才有&ldquo;选择新的人生&rdquo;的自由。</span></p>','2025-09-06 13:40:14.509','2025-09-06 13:40:14.509',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 13:40:14.508',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ea465e9-a0ee-42d2-a198-89e3e2f1f155','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>历史是被时代掌权者不断篡改的一个巨大故事。个人也一样。为了证明&ldquo;现在的我&rdquo;的正统性，其过去往往会被随意改写。不符合现在&ldquo;目的&rdquo;的事情会被抹掉。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学之所以被称为&ldquo;使用心理学&rdquo;，就在于&ldquo;可以选择自己的人生&rdquo;这一观点。你的&ldquo;现在&rdquo;决定着过去。</p>
<p>我们说的话归根结底只有两种：谴责&ldquo;可恶的他人&rdquo;，倾诉&ldquo;可怜的自己&rdquo;。这解决不了本质问题。所以应该讨论&ldquo;以后怎么做&rdquo;？</p>','2025-09-06 13:50:55.974','2025-09-06 13:50:55.974',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 13:50:55.973',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6823e89c-406b-41c2-960a-36c3eb1a4211','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>我们可以选择要过什么样的人生，让什么过去继续跟着我们走向未来</p>','2025-09-06 14:12:27.809','2025-09-06 14:12:27.809',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 14:12:27.808',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d08d45d-c600-485b-b38c-e8122d3fca15','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>决定&rdquo;过去&rdquo;的是现在的你；不符合现在&ldquo;目的&rdquo;的事件会被抹掉；</p>
<p>我们之所以会被过去束缚着，是因为自己去把过去着上了不幸的颜色，企图用一些不得志的痛苦来忘却现在的&rdquo;不得志&rdquo;</p>
<p>我们要解决的不是可恶的他人也不是可怜的自己，而是想想以后怎么做；而以后要怎么做由现在的你决定，而不能也不会是过去的你能决定的</p>','2025-09-06 14:31:04.622','2025-09-06 14:31:04.622',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 14:31:04.62',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fef3e106-cf22-4322-a5c4-404815a6aca2','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>以过去的经历来支持自己不改变的理由，对自己往往没什么好处，反而造成固步自封，无法随着时代进步，甚至面对被淘汰的风险。</p>','2025-09-06 15:24:10.329','2025-09-06 15:24:10.329',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 15:24:10.328',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('147a37fe-ce3f-4e7c-9038-f4f725351037','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>过去不是枷锁，今天的不幸不能单纯归因于过去；因为过去的事件并不会直接支配现在。</p>
<p>关键在于当下选择，是用 &ldquo;现在的眼光&rdquo; 在解释过去。同样的经历，可以成为伤口；也可以转化为成长的养分。</p>
<p>现在决定过去的意义，命运不由过去决定； 而由我今天的选择的意义。选择新的视角，过去也能焕发新的价值。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-06 15:27:51.712','2025-09-06 15:27:51.712',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 15:27:51.71',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5523ce99-abc5-46fa-bc29-eabedb0290cc','4b6499bd-a7e3-4575-a850-379a52524245','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Throughout history, the present is often considered the most correct. Once a new ruler comes to power, their sole goal is to prove their legitimacy. There''s no real past.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This is what philosophers say: your present determines your past. Therefore, in Adler&rsquo;s philosophy, you can choose your own life because your present determines your past, not your past.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy emphasizes that no one is truly "hateful."&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When we label others as "hateful," we often cast ourselves in the role of "pitiable" victims.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>If we view others from a different perspective, the outcome of events can often be different.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>There are no "devil" or inherently evil people as per Adler&rsquo;s philosophy.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Everyone chooses their own path and reflects on it in pursuit of belonging and meaning, even if that path may be flawed.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In psychology, this is considered a constructive and scientific understanding of human nature, grounded in respect for all.</p>','2025-09-06 15:59:59.718','2025-09-06 15:59:59.718',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-06 15:59:59.717',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('22e3afb4-ef27-463f-82bd-eccc394b7bb5','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>青年："没有赏罚怎么管理班级？孩子明知故犯就必须惩罚！"</p>
<p>哲人：</p>
<p>1. <strong>教室是民主国</strong>：<strong>学生</strong>是"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>国民</strong></span>"，<strong>老师</strong>是<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>服务者</strong></span>不是<em>独裁者</em></p>
<p>2. <strong>规则共同定</strong>：大家一起定的规则才会真心遵守</p>
<p>3. <strong>无知非故意</strong>：很多错误只是"<strong>不知道</strong>"，需要<strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">教</span></strong>而不是<strong>罚</strong></p>
<p>课文：</p>
<p>&gt; 用放大镜烧蚂蚁的孩子不是残忍，只是不知道生命珍贵</p>
<p>&gt; <em>赏罚是独裁工具，民主国家靠共识而非强制</em></p>
<p><strong>反思</strong>：</p>
<p>&middot; 对老师：从"管理者"转变为"<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>引导者</strong></span>"</p>
<p>&middot; 对学生：从"被动服从"到"<strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">主动共建</span></strong>"</p>
<p>&middot; 对家长：少说"你不应该"，多说"我们可以"</p>
<p>重点：<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">教室</span>不是老师的王国，而是<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">学生</span>的<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">民主国</span>；<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">教育不是赏罚</span>的艺术，而是<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">共识的智慧</span>。</strong></p>','2025-09-06 04:46:17.643','2025-09-06 22:37:47.784',NULL,'f','2025-09-06 16:00:00','2025-09-06 22:37:47.783',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cbeac4f7-94f3-41fd-92f6-81866e771fb5','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>阿德勒理论局部可以批评也不可以表扬。这一套真的引起对立的看法。这当今的现实社会里可能不被认同。很多人都是期待表扬才会努力表现争取胜利，一旦没有被表扬，他们可能失去了前进的动力虽然这些看起来非常肤浅，但是现实残酷就摆在面前。</p>','2025-09-02 00:42:14.002','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d09e2774-505d-439b-9495-4e18a752c8bc','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>对于教導更要民主是不錯, 可是需要引導, 當不知道做错事吋, 不是斥責而教導, 而是以理性的方法去引導.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-06 01:17:58.989','2025-09-07 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034','2025-09-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4650e98c-c5cc-4a5c-b2a4-b2848e1fe134','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>教师是一个民主国家，班级的主权不属于老师而是属于学生们。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-07 05:33:21.76','2025-09-07 05:33:21.76',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 05:33:21.759',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('61b692dd-d1c2-4fba-99fa-8321fb54418e','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>青年： "我是冷静批评，不是感情用事！"</p>
<p>哲人：</p>
<p>1. <strong>发怒</strong>=<strong>暴力</strong>：无论是否装子弹，拿着枪交流就是暴力</p>
<p>2. <strong>教师</strong>&ne;<strong>法官</strong>：你的<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);"><strong>工作是守护孩子</strong></span>，<span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>不是</strong></span>审判对错</p>
<p>3. <span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>尊重要成熟</strong></span>：用暴力的人得不到尊重，只会被看不起</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>反思：</p>
<p>&middot; 冷静的批评也是暴力的一种形式</p>
<p>&middot; 学生能看穿教育者的不成熟</p>
<p>&middot; <strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">真正的权威来自尊重</span></strong>，<span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>不是</strong></span>威慑</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>实体：</p>
<p>&middot; 对老师：放下"权威之枪"，拿起"<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);"><strong>尊重之杯</strong></span>"</p>
<p>&middot; 对家长：少当裁判判对错，多当<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">教练教方法</span></strong></p>
<p>&middot; 对每个人：<span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>发怒只会疏远</strong></span>，<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);"><strong>尊重才能联结</strong></span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>拿着<strong><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">批评的枪</span></strong>，<span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">得不到尊重的心</span>；<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">放下权威的刀</span>，</p>
<p>青年困惑： "我是冷静批评，不是感情用事！"</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>哲人点拨：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1. 发怒=暴力：无论是否装子弹，拿着枪交流就是暴力</p>
<p>2. 教师&ne;法官：你的工作是守护孩子，不是审判对错</p>
<p>3. 尊重要成熟：用暴力的人得不到尊重，只会被看不起</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>关键洞察：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&middot; 冷静的批评也是暴力的一种形式</p>
<p>&middot; 学生能看穿教育者的不成熟</p>
<p>&middot; 真正的权威来自尊重，不是威慑</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>现实意义：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&middot; 对老师：放下"权威之枪"，拿起"尊重之杯"</p>
<p>&middot; 对家长：少当裁判判对错，多当教练教方法</p>
<p>&middot; 对每个人：发怒只会疏远，尊重才能联结</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">拿着批评的枪</span>，<span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);"><strong>得不到尊重的心</strong></span>；<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">放下权威的刀</span>，<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">才能走进孩子的世界</span></strong>。</p>','2025-09-07 06:38:20.294','2025-09-11 10:20:47.545',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 10:20:47.543',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5a202bc5-b401-421f-b601-04878de44eb9','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 7<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; &nbsp; </span>9月7日 (星期七）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">教室是一个民主国家（Page 037-044）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">批评不等于教育，问题行为往往源自&ldquo;不知道&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">哲人认为孩子做错事，并非因为&ldquo;残忍&rdquo;或&ldquo;恶意&rdquo;，而是因为他们不知道行为的后果或他人的感受。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对于&ldquo;不知道&rdquo;的人，不该是斥责，而是理性的教导。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">孩子的问题行为，不是用批评压制，而是用理解揭开动机，再用理性引导。&rdquo;</span></p>','2025-09-07 11:39:02.994','2025-09-07 11:39:04.296',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 11:39:04.294',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01b93dbd-d1c1-4761-8ad3-47920b2d8d02','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>如果教室是一个民主国家，班主任不属于教师而是学生。</p>
<p>但是，我们的教育制度里，一直都是&ldquo;独裁&rdquo;的。</p>','2025-09-07 13:30:48.767','2025-09-07 13:30:48.767',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 13:30:48.766',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ba96fa5-d75f-4aca-ba90-b37d40501a6e','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>明知故犯的行为，其实背后还有更加深层的心理动机。期待明天的内容！</p>','2025-09-07 15:24:15.793','2025-09-07 15:24:15.793',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 15:24:15.788',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16fdddb3-73fd-4bd9-8ef2-5e8cb2dd416e','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','bafca964-b39a-46b3-b68d-c6ad0c6111a9','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 7 9</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">7</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">教室是一个民主国家（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 037-044</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：民主是大部份人的共识，民主下落实的政策，全员才会自觉的一起承担结果一起接受事实的好坏。一旦结果变坏变遭，没做决定的一方会把责任推给做决定的那一方。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-07 14:30:03.585','2025-09-07 14:30:03.585',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 14:30:03.584',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('731a6983-036a-4f2c-a579-c4a71c14b5c6','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>规则通过民主程序制定，适用于全民、一律平等。所以人人主动守护&ldquo;我们的规则&rdquo;。</p>
<p>班级主权属于学生，所以班级规则必须根据学生们的协商制定。班级是一个民主国家，每一位学生都是掌权者。班级秩序混乱，是教师资质不够。</p>
<p>阿德勒禁止赏罚，即不可以批评也不可以表扬。孩子会做某种不好、危险或危害他人的事，是&ldquo;他并不知道这是不好的事情&rdquo;。孩子们也不是残忍，只是&ldquo;不知道&rdquo;生命的价值和他人的痛苦。</p>
<p>大人应该做的只有一件事：教他。</p>
<p>教他的时候不需要责备，用理性的语言去教导。</p>
<p>年长的孩子会明知故犯，因为人的问题行为背后的心理可以分为五个阶段来考虑。</p>','2025-09-07 14:57:56.306','2025-09-07 14:57:56.306',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 14:57:56.305',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('53a83be4-439a-46aa-af33-f8bd0d38e52a','43f4090f-0dfb-4535-ae23-6aa2020363f5','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy does not advocate rewards or punishments; instead, it emphasizes that one should neither criticize nor praise.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Criticism often leads to fear, resistance, or feelings of inferiority, while excessive praise can make a person dependent on others for approval.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>According to Adler, whether in the classroom or in a democratic society, both students and teachers should cultivate autonomy and social interest through mutual respect, cooperation, and equality; rather than relying on hierarchy or obedience.</p>','2025-09-07 15:07:50.924','2025-09-07 15:07:50.924',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 15:07:50.923',NULL,NULL);
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<p>阿德勒禁止赏罚，做错事的人往往是因为无知，他们并不知道这是不好的事情，所以会去犯到，教育者要做的就是教他怎样做是不好的；当然也有可能是有目的性的，要了解他们的深层心理动机，这分为五个阶段</p>','2025-09-07 15:54:29.418','2025-09-07 15:54:29.418',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-07 15:54:29.417',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8e576e5b-1f3d-4143-8a7f-81a259d8d9b4','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>问题行为的目的分为五个阶段；其中包括</p>
<p>1️⃣获得表扬</p>
<p>2️⃣引起关注</p>
<p>问题学生当他们得不到公司的表扬，就会想着要怎样做才能与众不同，引起关注</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-07 15:57:47.097','2025-09-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1）获得赞赏或表扬 - 在共同体里获得特权地位，这会导致有表扬才有动力去做。最好的方法是通过尊重的方式让对方明白，即使他们的行为不特别也有价值。</p>
<p>2）获得关注 - 在共同体中获得关注和明确的&ldquo;位置&rdquo;。即便受到关注是一种批评，这总比被无视来的好。</p>','2025-09-08 07:18:18.327','2025-09-08 08:53:52.714',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 08:53:52.713',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('87360782-b142-4344-86a4-f156cefb12af','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>问题行为的目的是什么</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学关注的背后隐藏的目的也就是孩子们，其实也不仅仅限于孩子抱着什么样的目的，问题行为，这分5个阶段来考虑</p>
<p>问题行为的第一阶段是称赞的要求。</p>
<p>他们的目的始终只是获得表扬。 进一步说就是在共同体中取得特权地位。他们并不是在做好事。 只不过是在做能获得表扬的事。</p>
<p>问题行为的第2个阶段是引起关注。</p>
<p>人就会想得不到表扬也没关系。 反正我要与众不同。想要在班级取的特权地位，或想要在自己所属的共同体中获得明确的位置，这才是他们真正目的所在。</p>
<p>成为特别的我，不是作为好孩子变得特别，而是作为坏孩子来达到这一目的，以此确保自己的位置，比如通过恶作剧来博取关注。或者企图通过扮演无能来引起关注，获得特别的地位。比起自己的存在被无视，被批评要好得多。</p>
<p>处于第2个阶段的孩子，其实活得很简单，也不太难应付。 只需通过尊重的方式告诉他们，其本身就很有价值，并不需要非常特别。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-31 06:24:02.508','2025-09-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da8c3b8f-0952-4bb9-9e94-78c70724df03','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人的问题为背后的心理可以分为五个阶段</p>
<p>第一个阶段</p>
<p>称赞的要求</p>
<p>每一个孩子在父母面前表现的好是为了要获得表扬。他们的目的不是在做好事，而是在做能获得表扬的事。如果不获得表扬就不干好事。</p>
<p>所以无论他们做什么都应该给予尊重和共鸣。</p>
<p>第二阶段是引起关注</p>
<p>得不到表扬，但要与众不同。他们会通过恶作剧来博取关注。或者企图通过扮演无能来引起关注，获得特别的地位。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-08-31 08:37:45.796','2025-09-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cd862ef0-03d0-4e4b-b789-ea935edf737a','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>阿德勒心理学关注孩子背后的隐藏目的。</p>
<p>人的问题行为</p>
<p>&nbsp;- <strong>第一阶段 获得表扬 -</strong></p>
<p>只是要在共同体中取得特权地位。</p>
<p>只要没有表扬 - 不满 气愤</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不是在做好事，而是在做能获得表扬的事。得不到关注或表扬就没有积极性，缺乏自主性</p>
<p>没人表扬就不做好事，没人惩罚就做坏事</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不是表扬而是尊重，不特别也有价值。</p>
<p>不是好事关注，而是日常大小细微就要关注。</p>
<p>透过尊重来让他们明白不特别也有价值。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>第二阶段 - 引起关注</strong></p>
<p>得不到表扬没关系，就是要与众不同</p>
<p>表扬是做了什么才有，鼓励是期待落空后，收拾心情继续努力的语言。</p>
<p>seek attention&nbsp; 渴望关注</p>
<p>第二阶段 行为原理 - 与众不同</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>恶作剧 - 顶嘴 - 博取关注 - 得到老师或朋友的喜爱</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>消极学生 - 企图扮演无能获得关注</p>
<p>比起自己的存在被无视，被批评要好得多。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>第一阶段 获得表扬</strong></p>
<p><strong>第二阶段 - 引起关注</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-03 05:21:06.668','2025-09-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('089a4fd2-85f6-455a-9f4e-abed295f5474','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我想不只是孩子想要得到称赞，想要获得表扬，我们大人也都想要得的＂存在感＂。</p>
<p>我做得好得不到赏赞，那么就做不良行为吧，我也同样可以得到＂关注＂。</p>
<p>我们如果自己了解自己的价值，不需要别人的关注，这样的话才能活得自在、坦然。</p>','2025-09-07 07:30:35.273','2025-09-08 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033','2025-09-08 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ce006d7-42a0-4cba-aa24-6667435631e0','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>行为问题的五个阶段</p>
<p>1&nbsp; 称赞的要求</p>
<p>2 引起关注</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 00:07:39.698','2025-09-08 00:07:39.698',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 00:07:39.695',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1a451a9-8130-4890-a2a6-6c57ccaf193e','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','3e83da82-7101-42d7-a6d6-8d8c3bddb29c','<p>从上一篇文章所提的不赞扬和不批评，简单来说就是不要让对方依赖性满足自己而把责任推掉。例如学校功课是学生的责任，并不是托育老师和家长的责任。生活上就是不要为了博取关注而不择手段，做回自己该做的，自然还是会有人赞扬。但不要因为别人的的一次赞扬而感觉自己飞上天，按着心告诉自己这是本分和责任，不是为了做给大家看才做的。我们要的是心态正确，思绪也正确。</p>','2025-09-08 00:43:15.725','2025-09-08 00:43:15.725',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 00:43:15.724',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab514c3b-9048-40f0-bf8b-44a99a84d49a','095e44d0-5d86-43c9-b676-501dc644e058','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">家庭</span>是第一个&ldquo;<strong><span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">教室</span></strong>&rdquo;，<span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">父母</span>是<span style="color: rgb(186, 55, 42);">孩子最初的&ldquo;<strong>导师&rdquo;</strong></span>。</p>','2025-09-08 08:18:17.855','2025-09-08 08:18:17.855',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 08:18:17.855','42d5c77d-3a3d-4195-bcbb-c8cf69b82ec1',NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f14ed53e-d68b-40d5-90f0-d7be10ce2fc6','6cf3e79f-4257-482c-a6cd-da202e3ea77a','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>（3） 目的發展為&ldquo; 权力鬥爭&rdquo;通過挑戰行為的勝力炫耀自己的力量获得权力地位.</p>
<p>&nbsp;（4）&ldquo; 復仇&rdquo; 會通过自己或者貶損自己的價值, 来控訴我变成這样都是你的錯.</p>
<p>（5）&ldquo; 證明無能&rdquo; 不要在对我有期待的想法, 导致了&ldquo; 証明無能&rdquo; 的產生.</p>
<p>要防止這五個問題行為的惡化, 敎育者的作用是非常大。</p>','2025-09-08 01:12:59.417','2025-09-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02','2025-09-09 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff7fa5d5-5349-429c-8411-2d98286ec034','ffabb3ad-61fe-4aa9-97dd-2bea5e0f3aac','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>纵向关系是争夺胜利或名次的竞争。</p>
<p>横向关系是不与任何人竞争，也不存在胜负，所有人一律平等，并尽力与他人协作，建立起来的共同体才有意义。</p>','2025-09-08 02:50:54.631','2025-09-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019','2025-09-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48c954fe-5af9-46c9-84c1-198536618c3a','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p2"><span class="s2">Day 8 <span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>9月8日 (星期一)</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">📚 《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">问题行为&ldquo;目的&ldquo;是什么（Page 045-048）</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">问题行为的五阶段（前两阶段）</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">第一阶段：称赞的要求</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">行为特征：表现出&ldquo;乖巧&rdquo;&ldquo;积极&rdquo;&ldquo;听话&rdquo;等行为。问题所在：一旦得不到表扬就失去干劲。改为用&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;代替表扬。让对方体会：&ldquo;即使不特别，也值得被爱。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">第二阶段：引起关注</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">做&ldquo;好孩子&rdquo;无法得到关注，就做&ldquo;坏孩子&rdquo;来获得存在感。即使被责骂，也好过被忽视。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">被表扬不等于被尊重，被责骂也可能是一种渴望存在的呼喊。</span></p>','2025-09-08 12:44:00.148','2025-09-08 12:44:00.148',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 12:44:00.146',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3682606c-5bfd-4edd-8819-5498fac4640c','7b587bdc-2c02-4f06-9d28-a504175a50ae','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>从1）寻求称赞&nbsp; - 2）引起关注 - 3）挑起权力争斗 - 4）为恶劣的复仇 - 5）证明自己无能，只是为了寻求归属感。</p>
<p>因此，任何的批判、斥责、惩罚，是无法带来归属感，也因此结果不会是想象中的。或许只有一些比较严重的惩罚会带来行为的制约。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 12:12:16.144','2025-09-10 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015','2025-09-10 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0791cb2e-73c2-4f90-b8b4-058a4c9ae15f','206d6d3d-8d8c-479e-9b95-66c514368292','596e9cfc-0855-4f16-9ed9-8650629543d2','<p>&ldquo;<span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);"><strong>赋能而非索取</strong></span>&rdquo;&ldquo;<strong><span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);">成就他人自立</span></strong>&rdquo;是<span style="color: rgb(22, 145, 121);">教育者</span>的<strong><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);">核心使命与奉献方式</span></strong>。</p>','2025-09-08 10:33:15.133','2025-09-11 21:13:47.228',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 16:00:00','2025-09-11 21:13:47.227',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f82c1983-889f-487a-9eee-e995dd4629bd','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>5种问题行为的目的：</p>
<ol>
<li>被称赞的要求。为了获得表扬、取的特权的地位而做，并不是真正在做&ldquo;好事&rdquo;。通过尊重，让他们去明白即使&ldquo;不特别&rdquo;也可以有价值。</li>
<li>引起关注。得不到表扬，至少也要与众不同。为了获得明确&ldquo;位置&rdquo;/关注，通过恶作剧、扮演无能来获得特别的地位。通过尊重，让他们知道每个人本来都有价值。</li>
</ol>
<p>......</p>','2025-09-08 12:47:04.635','2025-09-08 12:47:04.635',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 12:47:04.634',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《幸福的勇气》第二章 为何要否定&ldquo;赏罚&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">问题行为&ldquo;目的&ldquo;是什么（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 045-048</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">称赞的要求</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">引起关注</p>','2025-09-08 13:13:55.634','2025-09-08 13:13:55.634',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 13:13:55.633',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8dfa7396-1226-4af8-9926-cb5469296a8c','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','9bb24652-f774-47aa-9476-eadfc1a91e4c','<p>问题行为的第一阶段：称赞的要求</p>
<p>目的只为获得表扬，在共同体取得特权地位。若没获得表扬，会不满、气愤。他们的世界观是&ldquo;如果没人表扬就不干好事&rdquo;或者&ldquo;如果没人惩罚就干坏事&rdquo;。</p>
<p>处理方式：关注他们日常生活中细微的言行，关注其兴趣，并产生共鸣。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>问题行为的第二个阶段：引起关注</p>
<p>若得不到表扬，那就要与众不同。通过恶作剧、扮演无能来得到关注、获得特别地位。</p>
<p>处理方式：通过&ldquo;尊重&rdquo;的方式告诉他们，其本身就很有价值。</p>','2025-09-08 13:28:51.783','2025-09-08 13:28:51.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 13:28:51.782',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('41af62c0-bc96-4f5a-ba2e-45a3bc82ae1f','271baf5d-0701-4cdb-915e-73ca2ec1ffe4','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>如果在面对争议中的交流变成指责，只会出现&ldquo;可恶的他&rdquo;和&ldquo;可怜的自己&rdquo;，是无法达到真正的目的&ldquo;达成协议&rdquo;。这样下去只是引发交流的手段通往暴力的方向。因为，用暴力制止是最容易的方法。</p>
<p>包含斥责在内的暴力只是暴露了一个人的不成熟。发怒只会让人与人之间变得疏离。发怒，也意味着一个人感到失去掌控感。那么，又能怎样？</p>
<p>改变那些自己能改变的，不要去执着那些自己无法改变的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 12:43:07.19','2025-09-11 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015','2025-09-11 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01153ee5-301e-4af9-bf6a-f917986bef8c','1f3848f1-ca9e-4d29-a23f-4dd4bb223584','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>信任是有条件相信对方。</p>
<p>信赖是不附加任何条件。</p>
<p>工作关系是信任，交友关系则是信赖。</p>','2025-09-15 02:29:17.849','2025-09-20 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016','2025-09-20 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbb69919-fbb7-4e70-b14b-ca88ba5da577','ef03d5d6-e0c9-4117-bcd3-35238bf7d911','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>爱是由两个人共同完成的课题</p>','2025-09-22 14:05:13.53','2025-09-27 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029','2025-09-27 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fbe32d8a-aaf7-4ab7-ae01-2d41905236ed','fe2a0ec9-f7c5-4597-bec0-4d7b768f9a51','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>梁静茹的一首著名好歌，爱需要勇气。缘分到了，遇到适合的对象一定要努力争取，这才有可能开发结果。我相信一些自卑感和缺乏勇气，导致错过很多心仪对象而遗憾一生。</p>','2025-09-14 06:57:01.7','2025-10-01 00:00:00.114',NULL,'f','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011','2025-10-01 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('894d201f-08c3-448b-8931-b61f398aee2c','22d94086-e8e8-463d-97f0-ee38a723d516','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>想要摆脱被给予的爱支配，只能拥有自己的爱，主动去爱。不等待被人，也不等待命运的安排，而是按照自己的意志去爱某个人。</p>
<p>唯有如此。</p>','2025-09-22 13:47:35.685','2025-09-30 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008','2025-09-30 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bfc8fe39-85f7-43b3-9990-22b2ec9e245c','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>问题行为的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;</p>
<p>目的1 ：获得表扬、称赞</p>
<ul>
<li>这类人的世界观就是&ldquo;如果没人表扬就不干好事&rdquo;或者&ldquo;如果没人惩罚就干坏事&rdquo;</li>
<li>就算他们在做好事也不是&ldquo;真正在做好事&rdquo;，而是在做&ldquo;能获得表扬的事&rdquo;</li>
<li>通过&ldquo;尊重&ldquo;让他们明白即使不&ldquo;特别&rdquo;也有价值</li>
</ul>
<p>目的2 ：引起关注</p>
<ul>
<li>这类人的世界观则是&ldquo;得不到表扬也没关系，反正我要与众不同！要有特别的地位！&rdquo;</li>
<li>积极的孩子会通过恶作剧来引起关注，消极的可能就会通过扮演无能来引起关注，</li>
</ul>','2025-09-08 15:28:09.337','2025-09-08 15:28:09.337',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 15:28:09.336',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab97b7fb-7f44-4b48-a81f-64fbf05e401c','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>In interpersonal relationships, besides mutual respect, trust, and shared actions, we must also pay attention to deeper psychological motivations. According to Adler&rsquo;s philosophy, all problematic behaviours have a purpose. People do not display negative behaviour without reason; such behaviours often serve hidden goals.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>For example:</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1. Requesting praise &mdash; doing things only to gain recognition.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2. Attention-seeking &mdash; trying to prove one&rsquo;s presence in order to gain special treatment or status.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Only by correctly understanding these hidden purposes and responding with respect rather than punishment or criticism can we bring about real and lasting change.</p>','2025-09-08 15:28:12.506','2025-09-08 15:28:12.506',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 15:28:12.505',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5abd36c9-fd4a-4a49-92d0-be504894b7dc','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>看清本身的动机，就能更诚实与智慧的处事待人；了解对方的真实目的和所需，就能更善巧与人相处以及更好的辅导。</p>','2025-09-08 14:30:54.124','2025-09-08 14:30:54.124',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 14:30:54.123',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5687cd18-8bb6-4b9c-823c-8d825d8a6095','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>突然觉得这和原子习惯的cue and reward 有点冲突哈哈哈哈</p>
<p>但后来仔细想，只不过是怎么去思考reward 的这件事</p>','2025-09-08 14:41:28.856','2025-09-08 14:41:28.856',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 14:41:28.855',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce23d0d3-7a7d-4fd5-8259-39f9345844ee','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p><span class="s2">为什么孩子会出现一些所谓的&lsquo;问题行为&rsquo;呢？在阿德勒心理学里，重点不在表面，而是去看背后隐藏的&lsquo;目的&rsquo;。换句话说，孩子&mdash;&mdash;其实不只是孩子，大人也是一样&mdash;&mdash;做出这些行为时，心里到底想达到什么目的，这才是关键。</span></p>','2025-09-08 14:50:54.935','2025-09-08 14:50:54.935',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 14:50:54.931',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce5a500a-7500-469c-abe1-2720397f37ae','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">真正的教育，是去理解背后的目的，并用正确方式回应。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 15:13:04.415','2025-09-08 15:13:04.415',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 15:13:04.414',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e47fa4a5-71b6-422c-8d54-2a6c7c1bc36f','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','7a69a60a-55d0-4e61-aed6-216e8d6036e9','<p class="ds-markdown-paragraph">表扬和批评都可能强化孩子对&ldquo;特别地位&rdquo;的追求，而非内在动机。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">通过日常尊重，关注和共鸣，让孩子感受到自身价值，而非依赖外在评价。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">问题行为应在前两个阶段尽早干预，避免进入更复杂的阶段如权力斗争。</span></p>','2025-09-08 15:20:29.426','2025-09-08 15:20:29.426',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 15:20:29.424',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f94a491-9573-496f-bf76-9ec1f2fb544a','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>称赞的要求 - 目的获得表扬</p>
<p>得不到表扬，想与众不同</p>
<p>通过恶作剧，博取关注</p>
<p>通过表演扮演无能，吸引关注，获特别的地位</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-09-08 15:25:05.248','2025-09-08 15:25:24.26',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 15:25:24.259',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90690a82-3b5b-4a4b-8fc7-6be138b6f89e','3b834fb1-4435-4602-a979-abf6bf1d18a4','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>问题行为的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;</p>
<p>第一阶段：称赞的要求&rarr;他们的世界观就是&ldquo;如果没人表扬就不干好事&rdquo;或者&ldquo;如果没人惩罚就干坏事&rdquo;</p>
<p>第二阶段：引起注意&rarr;处于这个阶段的孩子行为原理不是&ldquo;办坏事&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;与众不同&rdquo;。他们会透过恶作剧来博取关注或者企图扮演无能来引起关注、获得特别的地位。</p>','2025-09-08 15:49:37.605','2025-09-08 15:49:37.605',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-09-08 15:49:37.604',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6385c26d-5a5c-4377-8e3b-1dfda5ec9547','fdb37b0c-7c61-41f8-ad67-6b842ad8f835','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>人生始于&lsquo;&rsquo;不完美&lsquo;&rsquo;</p>
<p>意味的在意他人的评价，就无法过自己的人生，就会陷入被剥夺自由的生活方式。 我们必须保持自由， 并且如果想要追求自由的话，那就不可以寻求认同。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>经历了自己的不完美之后的孩子们原则上来说肯定会感到自卑。&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>人类因为自身脆弱，所以才会组成共同体，并在协作关系中生存。 这是因为人类很脆弱，不可以单独生活。 所有的内心都有共同体。 感觉他与人的认同需求紧密相连。&nbsp; 。</p>
<p>共同体感觉不需要去掌握。 而需要从自己内心挖掘。 正因为如此，他才可以作为感觉共有。</p>','2025-09-08 14:07:38.641','2025-09-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028','2025-09-15 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3ae066b5-4c2f-4245-bd18-0695b307f64d','63a45693-6ec0-4c36-a0a1-1e18982b845c','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>爱她勇气也就是获得幸福的勇气。需要不断的付出耕耘才会开花结果，并不是表面上短期性的付出。</p>','2025-09-15 02:47:31.412','2025-10-03 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016','2025-10-03 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
