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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9cd630b6-aaed-49f8-9f14-45a6777c5ae1','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>&nbsp;移情聆听:&ldquo;不要只想我要的立场&rdquo;,应设法去理解对方。同理心和理解带来的是温度，有温度的交流才能让人敞开心扉。</p>
<p>&ldquo;统合综效&rdquo; = 1+1 &gt; 2，例如夫妻共同创造,互相包容,学习是升华的过程，共同维持稳定和平衡的关系的。这是亲密关系和家庭生活的基础。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>习惯七： 不断更新。这是彼此都保持好奇和分享欲，在身、心、灵层面上给予关注，保持分享和交流。现在的快节奏的生活，每一天的经历比过去多很多。保持分享才能确保彼此节奏和同频。</p>','2024-03-22 00:24:29.609','2024-03-22 00:24:29.609',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 00:24:29.609',NULL,NULL);
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<p>Synergy 可以leverage 力量,把结果做得更好.1+1 more than 2.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-22 00:49:46.712','2024-03-22 00:49:46.712',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 00:49:46.711',NULL,NULL);
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<p>留时间给自己与家人，不断更新自己，与家人一起成长进步，是多么幸福的事啊。</p>','2024-03-22 00:56:48.359','2024-03-22 00:56:48.359',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 00:56:48.358',NULL,NULL);
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<p>和伴侣互相分享各自所学到的知识，共享学习经历，不断更新，使双向沟通成为可能。</p>','2024-03-22 01:29:41.553','2024-03-22 01:29:41.553',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 01:29:41.552',NULL,NULL);
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<p>給自己留些空間，|培养共同的喜好，大家一起成長，分享大家的学习心得，在心智層面上不斷更新！</p>','2024-03-22 01:42:26.436','2024-03-22 01:42:26.436',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 01:42:26.435',NULL,NULL);
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<p><strong>-c2b 的核心是以消费者为中心，以后的产品是消费者说了算，产品价格拒绝暴利，渠道透明，供应链透明。</strong></p>
<p><strong>-020是从多实体店转型的方式之一。</strong></p>
<p><strong>-1）交易虚拟化 2）交易成本低 3）交易效率提升4）交易安全透明。</strong></p>','2024-04-27 15:08:02.71','2024-04-27 15:08:04.112',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-27 15:08:04.111',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a9b476bb-c75e-4fb3-adc8-abc0b215090d','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','8ee74189-0f4a-45f1-a41e-d97a05b361a8','<p>Day 11 📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</p>
<p>22 Mar 2024</p>
<p>练习移情聆听（Page 045-049）</p>
<p>時間：10.33am</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>很多时候我们只是想到自己想要听的，在沟通的过程中，可能会引发不舒服或者冲突，我们可以静下来听背后的原因，心自然连接，这时候冲突就会减少了。在沟通的过程中，如果有冲突的沟通，可以加入&ldquo;看看还有什么可能性&rdquo;，这可以更多的美好沟通。我们每个人可以拥有不同的兴趣爱好，那么我们在分享的过程中，可以很快乐地一起学习。异中求同。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-22 02:46:23.805','2024-03-22 02:46:23.805',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 02:46:23.804',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('12ac607e-1e3f-4383-b5f6-5d2fdc728c50','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>每个人的经历都不一样，所以做事和反应也都不一样。put oneself into other shoes,才能感受对方的感受。</p>','2024-03-22 03:05:45.989','2024-03-22 03:05:45.989',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 03:05:45.988',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('798f6628-47bc-4a87-916b-0b3cb44bb2fd','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>站在他人立场，听别人的问题，不仅仅是听表意的，还要知道后面他想表达什么。<br>学会利用每个人的各不相同，善用它以发挥最大的极致。<br>留出时间给自己和另一半，这个很重要！！！</p>','2024-03-22 04:44:47.101','2024-03-22 04:44:47.101',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 04:44:47.1',NULL,NULL);
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<p>原來糕效能的人就是社會中扮演老二角色的人， 這些人能善用自己的長處也能發揚別人的長處，容易與人相處合作創造解決問題的第三方案，擁有這種特質的人能協助上級辦大事。家庭互動關係秉持高質量犧牲，為對方無條件犧牲以成就雙贏局面。</p>
<p>Day 12 pg45-49</p>
<p>&nbsp;伴侶及家庭的問題源於個人自私，學會同理接納，彼此互相 滋潤尊重，只有雙方都覺得被準則才能互動愉快。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-22 06:17:48.761','2024-03-22 06:17:48.761',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 06:17:48.76',NULL,NULL);
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<p>两人在意见不合的时候，互相理解需求，往往第三种方案是最好的解决方案。我+你=我们 1+1&gt;2。用这个方式，不断更新，可以增进彼此的感情。</p>','2024-03-22 07:41:56.196','2024-03-22 07:41:58.704',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 07:41:58.703',NULL,NULL);
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<p>习惯六-统合综效 - 1+1 &gt; 2</p>
<p>习惯七 - 不断更新 - 给自己留时间，进步的空间&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-22 08:07:52.475','2024-03-22 08:07:52.475',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 08:07:52.474',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d651fe41-a9fb-406f-9310-57cf68214ee7','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>珍视差异，暴露自己的弱点同时也同理他人，通过统合综效达到异中求同，才能创造更好的方法。</p>','2024-03-22 08:35:29.177','2024-03-22 08:35:29.177',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 08:35:29.176',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('51414bb2-1c22-4f67-8453-a3e62a681bc1','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','9070d9da-6428-4328-8983-4c4a65d0a468','<p>在日常交流中，我发现用心倾听对方的说话内容、语气和情绪是非常重要的。有时候，我们太过专注于自己的表达，而忽视了对方的感受和需要。真正的倾听需要全神贯注，要能够体会到对方的情绪和想法，这样才能建立起更好的沟通和理解。我发现，过度理性的思考往往会让我们无法真正理解对方的内心世界，导致沟通不畅。因此，我认为在沟通中，相互理解对方的需求是至关重要的，这样才能找到最佳的解决方案。</p>','2024-03-22 11:34:36.593','2024-03-22 11:34:36.593',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 11:34:36.592',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d01574e-091c-480b-82a5-23a980b67028','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 61.45pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">在这段关系中，我需要保持冷静情绪来进行高效能的沟通。那些会让关系搞砸的做法如事先预判的做法都需要停止。我相信通过积极主动的做出选择，有朝一日必能改善与加强彼此关系并带来幸福。在婚姻中，极其关注与经常思考的情境是融洽的相处，避开针锋相对及冷战的局面。然而无法控制的具体问题是若一方把外在因素如工作情绪牵扯进入家庭作为常态。作为积极主动的一方必要选择放下一切，倾听伴侣的心声，即便无法分忧至少成为其倾述的对象。</span></p>','2024-03-22 09:29:38.646','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c07d9eb-ad8b-4c1a-bb1f-7f7f6439bd15','2ac58b3d-f990-42a7-b471-4d75e2318609','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>在亲密关系里，往往把人磨掉的都是鸡毛蒜皮的小事。可是，小事累计起来，最后就会引爆关系爆炸。</p>','2024-03-22 03:24:45.54','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('761dcb4d-6a65-430d-a0a4-0845c795af53','788d2085-405f-4cb3-a4a0-414e4a9f486a','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>情感账户，这个形容，把需要经营的关系，具体化起来。亲密关系是需要不断地经营，往里面进账，而不是任意索取，当作理所当然。</p>','2024-03-22 03:34:39.583','2024-04-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-04-03 00:00:00.008','2024-04-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27153ea2-c626-45a8-933f-ac657bd61644','57297da1-b4a4-44a5-bf90-32db287e486c','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>贵人具备：</p>
<p>1）有无条件的爰</p>
<p>1） 有无条件的耐心</p>
<p>3） 能树立榜样而潛移默化。</p>
<p>具备这三条件，除了母亲还能有谁？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我們是看上一代吃苦长大的。</p>
<p>下一代是看我们享福长大的。</p>
<p>我们因成功而自呜德意，欠缺了上一代的谦逊和樸實，无形中给下一代树立了不好的榜样。</p>
<p>教出好孩子就得靠「美德」，而不是靠資源和条件。</p>','2024-09-10 14:04:36.322','2024-09-10 14:04:36.322',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-09-10 14:04:36.322',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c5b2aa4-96c2-47bc-84bf-dda5cdc0e7c2','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','c0dfea61-558e-4ab6-aa83-3a14aeab20c5','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 11&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》 </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">练习移情聆听（</span>Page 045-049<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">懂得「聆聽」絕對是維護一段關係的好方法</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">我們常常會把自己代入他人的角色</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">把自己的想法套用在他人的身上</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">漸漸地會失去做出正確判斷的能力</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">甚至會導致一段感情的破裂</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">所以學會聆聽 是個必須</p>','2024-03-22 12:12:13.436','2024-03-22 12:12:13.436',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 12:12:13.436',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb6e5e9d-1284-484d-967d-fa192eace811','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','71b0e248-f2e5-47a7-8371-aedda7abf686','<p>我们都要学习同理心 - 学习站在他人的角度理解与倾听他人.</p>
<p>身体需要呼吸, 心灵也需要得到他人的理解. 我们只有当内心被人理解时才能真正的摊开心扉与他人连接.</p>','2024-03-22 12:34:13.023','2024-03-22 12:34:13.023',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 12:34:13.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('552d2251-e70c-4110-914f-f836d3af627b','5cb461f1-afa6-42b2-9883-7a14e61f0ac6','7448fec0-0a1b-4d55-b6ab-493cfa3c30e6','<p>平台的精髓在于打造一个完善的，成长潜能强大的"生态圈"</p>','2024-05-04 15:34:42.171','2024-05-04 15:34:42.171',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-04 15:34:42.17',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5643f29-bbc0-4fe5-a79a-648666d99c4f','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','e92fa812-5847-46d0-9a60-632ef6e84ced','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">用心聆听，不光是聆听别人说的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。找出话语背后的内容，对他们表示尊重。不要急于下评判，要耐心收集数据，运用左脑进行逻辑分析。</span></p>','2024-03-22 12:57:17.214','2024-03-22 12:57:17.214',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 12:57:17.213',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1351f12-ec70-42a4-b168-787f4ff2c5a6','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','9fa5e305-35f5-447e-907f-f41a5a7c9533','<p>学会移情思考很重要，就是学会站在别人的角度聆听。我们除了要用心聆听别人的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。正如身体需要呼吸空气，心灵也需要得到别人的理解。我们还要学会寻找第三种解决方案，就是统合综效。通过与另一个人的互动，所提出的第三种方案。我们要学会与别人携手合作，找出更好的第三种解决方案，虽然这要我们暴露弱点，敞开心扉，充分体现同理心。</p>','2024-03-22 13:00:02.406','2024-03-22 13:00:12.931',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 13:00:12.93',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8cf9aaa0-355c-4910-9d5a-a02bc2393b4b','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>每个人都有各自的经历、成长背景、家庭文化、习性等等的影响，如缺双赢思维和统合综效的态度，家庭幸福则实属不易。</p>','2024-03-22 13:00:54.232','2024-03-22 13:00:54.232',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 13:00:54.231',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f60101da-bac5-4a92-8d46-6b9942023c1e','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 11 &nbsp;3月 22日 (星期五）📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">练习移情聆听（Page 045-049）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">练习移情聆听-这是不容易的功课要修。要用心聆听，不光是聆听别人说的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。找出话语背后的内容，对它们表示尊重。请注意，那些东西影响了对方的一生。不要急于下评判，要耐心收集数据，运用左脑进行逻辑分析。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">统合综效-</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1+1=3或10或100或1000，记得：肯定超过思维框架，永远要寻找第三种解脱决方案。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">勇于接受不一样的声音。包着&rdquo;富足&rdquo;是一种心态。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们每一个人并没有所有正确答案，而且你珍视自己的与众不同！双方都会力这段关系带来不同的家庭文化、教育背景、行事风格。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当你聆听这些差异并重视它们的时候，就创造出了全新的第三条道路。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">常常提醒自己😍</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴第1️⃣选择-我的想法</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴第2️⃣选择-你的想法</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴第3️⃣选择-我们的想法。化解衝突然、更好的方法。</span></p>','2024-03-22 13:04:23.411','2024-03-22 13:04:23.411',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 13:04:23.41',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d9677a93-452c-4fd2-86d1-d972d17e6ebc','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>伴侣之间不应该只是1+1=2，而是1+1=3，或更多，越多越好。遇到问题时，我们可以聆听他人、了解他人、体谅他人，然后通过统合综效得到第三种解决方案，也就是得到双赢的方案，这样的沟通方式就能让双方都更加理解彼此，并且从根本解决问题。</p>','2024-03-22 13:11:06.953','2024-03-22 13:11:06.953',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 13:11:06.952',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3308f406-b7b6-4c66-b1e2-47a627da921b','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>移情的聆听就是不要对事情妄下结论，你不是别人也不懂别人的经历，尊重他人的选择，别人有他的理由</p>','2024-03-22 13:33:38.021','2024-03-22 13:33:38.021',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 13:33:38.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89904aff-2ebd-416f-a1b0-008a887a1ede','fae00196-5c78-45dd-baa9-4f6c733a1b58','3b1e2774-4dc4-48a1-b539-f060e2dc9a5a','<p>在低价面前需要迎接的挑战是供应链的管理！找下一个重点，整条价值链中，都是由企业本身自己亲自操刀，才能做到品质和成本的把控</p>','2024-05-06 12:24:43.255','2024-05-06 12:24:43.255',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-06 12:24:43.254',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('92e4aa1c-b06a-440a-a9c5-b1e8773f9211','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','481bbc5a-7b89-4cc8-8872-8531ccea7348','<p>要用心聆听，不光是聆听别人说的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。</p>
<p>找出话语背后的内容，对它们表示尊重。</p>
<p>聆听是需要耐心的去完成的。</p>','2024-03-22 13:38:51.991','2024-03-22 13:38:51.991',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 13:38:51.991',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ebabe93c-922c-4213-86ef-ee7009268be1','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>打造高效沟通文化需要， 积极主动，以终为始，要事第一，双赢思维，知己知彼，统合综效及不断更新</p>','2024-03-22 13:42:48.772','2024-03-24 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8be372ca-cbf1-46cf-b991-86ced8c049ba','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','71b0e248-f2e5-47a7-8371-aedda7abf686','<p>改变永远从自己先开始</p>','2024-03-22 13:50:43.499','2024-03-24 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('232f281c-ebd6-48ed-af10-e9c12e5f655b','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>积极主动是把情绪控制起来，不让他任由事情的发展来摆定。这也可以是主动了解对方，与其被动让对方来了解你</p>','2024-03-22 13:47:51.117','2024-03-25 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8646522-1500-4b10-aaef-1381b1f9fa94','fb07f67b-b703-404c-9258-911a1c2e4373','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>有效的聆听，包括移情聆听，即试着从对方角度看问题。在和情绪高涨的人沟通的时候，更需要移情聆听，感同身受的去听。</p>','2024-03-22 12:03:28.216','2024-04-07 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2024-04-07 00:00:00.018','2024-04-07 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1b4993f-51f2-47a6-9c15-996d3c04e4c3','57297da1-b4a4-44a5-bf90-32db287e486c','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>教孩子最好的办法是以身则。</p>','2024-09-10 14:06:25.647','2024-09-10 14:06:25.647',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-09-10 14:06:25.646',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1e9d8983-da40-4a06-a2b5-f25bddba6211','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','76f645ae-2136-427a-a603-bc2656497f1e','<p>聆听是为了了解对方。而不是为了单单回应对方。</p>
<p>站在对方的立场想。了解他的处境。同理心他。而不是站在高的位置可怜他。</p>','2024-03-22 14:04:53.966','2024-03-22 14:04:53.966',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:04:53.966',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('69159974-addf-46d1-9b15-6b38a37356fd','94c1c259-004f-44cd-8bb0-73bb5bc50019','2ab19f5f-a051-48a7-bc61-d6e23a6d81f4','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">灵性与实践：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">杨老师很有趣的提出了人性对于灵性的需求需要两个条件： 循序渐进 和 自己去实践。 这和一半现在空虚的灵性追求来解决现实问题有很大差别。</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">圣严师父说的 从自我肯定到自我成长，而过程中的自我消融，三个层次很清楚；但是这是有次第的，而不是一步登天。所以灵性必须配合实践。</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">内在需求与关系：</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">当老板/主管觉得下属说的不算数，表面我们只批评他的高傲、看不起下属和权利欲望。但是，更重要我们要看到他自己的内在需求。而很多时候我们对于自己藏得很深的自我内在需求是没有觉察的。因此我们的沟通给人压力，或者没有和自己的真诚在一起，这个沟通是没有效的。</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">所以不管表达上的强势，或者所谓的讨好或者表现得很有礼貌，其实都是在玩一个游戏：操控。我们都不自觉，我们与别人的互动关系里面，充满了操控；有些时候我们会用情绪勒索这个字眼。我们必须察觉在关系中有一个游戏或者重要的因素，叫做 【权利】 或者操控。当然这里面最重要的觉察是：没有所谓的对错，而是我们彼此之间其实存在差异。我们必须先认识到自己内在真正的需求，而真诚的沟通，才会有真正有效的交换。</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">环境中的角色期待：</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">首先我们在各种关系中会有角色</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">每个角色其实都有期待</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">环境/别人对你的期待</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">自己对自己的期待</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">怎样才是好小孩？</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">我们在完成别人（家长/长辈）对我们的期待</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">我发现很多人其实被这些期待绑架</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">甚至压得喘不过气</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">每个角色都有很多规矩，包括我们的工作、交友和伴侣等等</span></li>
<li class="li4">&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">灵性与实践：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">杨老师很有趣的提出了人性对于灵性的需求需要两个条件： 循序渐进 和 自己去实践。 这和一半现在空虚的灵性追求来解决现实问题有很大差别。</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">圣严师父说的 从自我肯定到自我成长，而过程中的自我消融，三个层次很清楚；但是这是有次第的，而不是一步登天。所以灵性必须配合实践。</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">内在需求与关系：</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">当老板/主管觉得下属说的不算数，表面我们只批评他的高傲、看不起下属和权利欲望。但是，更重要我们要看到他自己的内在需求。而很多时候我们对于自己藏得很深的自我内在需求是没有觉察的。因此我们的沟通给人压力，或者没有和自己的真诚在一起，这个沟通是没有效的。</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">所以不管表达上的强势，或者所谓的讨好或者表现得很有礼貌，其实都是在玩一个游戏：操控。我们都不自觉，我们与别人的互动关系里面，充满了操控；有些时候我们会用情绪勒索这个字眼。我们必须察觉在关系中有一个游戏或者重要的因素，叫做 【权利】 或者操控。当然这里面最重要的觉察是：没有所谓的对错，而是我们彼此之间其实存在差异。我们必须先认识到自己内在真正的需求，而真诚的沟通，才会有真正有效的交换。</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p4"><span class="s2">环境中的角色期待：</span></p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">首先我们在各种关系中会有角色</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">每个角色其实都有期待</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">环境/别人对你的期待</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">自己对自己的期待</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">怎样才是好小孩？</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">我们在完成别人（家长/长辈）对我们的期待</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">我发现很多人其实被这些期待绑架</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">甚至压得喘不过气</span></li>
<li class="li4"><span class="s2">每个角色都有很多规矩，包括我们的工作、交友和伴侣等等</span></li>
<li class="li4">&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p3">&nbsp;</p>
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">觉察与辨识：投射 con&lsquo;t（Page 084-087）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">怪不得以前和男朋友分手后，下一个男朋友跟前一任的性格是有相似的。原来是我自己设定好的密码。所以好像吸引力法则。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在人际关系里，接受对方的不一样，不管我喜欢这个人或不喜欢，唯一接受，但是不是要忍！而是要发现自己的投射、清楚投射与真实之间的差距，才可以接纳。每个人出现在我身边都是有缘人。</span></p>','2024-04-30 16:44:43.668','2024-04-30 16:44:45.58',NULL,'f','2024-05-01 16:00:00','2024-05-02 00:00:00',NULL,NULL);
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<p>让人人都各取所需</p>','2024-05-04 15:51:58.949','2024-05-04 15:51:58.949',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-04 15:51:58.949',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-05-05 12:24:37.377','2024-05-05 12:24:37.377',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 12:24:37.376',NULL,NULL);
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<p><strong>-整合供应链，推动供应链扁平化，发展买手体系以及进行联合采购，降低采购环节的成本，如此就有可能做到低价</strong>。</p>
<p>-<strong>开发自有品牌。</strong></p>','2024-05-06 12:29:55.495','2024-05-06 12:29:55.495',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-06 12:29:55.494',NULL,NULL);
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<p>要实现关系中的统合综效，关键是首先实现个人到统合综效，个人的统合综效在前三个习惯的原则中都有体现。这些原则赋予人们足够的安全感，变得开发、坦率、不惧风险。只有将这些原则内化，我们才能有双赢所必需的知足心态。才能真正做到【知比解己】。</p>
<p>尊重差异</p>
<p>重视不同个体的不同心理、情绪与智能、以及个人眼中所见到的不同世界。</p>
<p>自以为是总以为自己最客观，别人都有偏？，其实这才是画地为牢。</p>
<p>虚杯若谷的人，承认自己自己有不足之处，而乐于在与人际交往中涉取丰富的知识见解，重视不同的意见，因而增广见闻。</p>
<p>完全矛盾的两种意见同时成立是否合乎逻辑，问题不在逻辑，在于心理使然。</p>
<p>所见略同就益处不大，要有分歧才有收获。</p>
<p>个体差异的重要性，动物学校：一律性的修满全部课程的学校。</p>
<p>化阻挠成长为动力成长，互赖关系中的最有力途径。</p>
<p>习惯四为目标，以习惯五为技巧，以习惯六为交往方式来应付阻力。营造畅所欲言的环境，得到自由与吸收了新的思想，这些都促成阻力向动力的转化。让家人了解和分担並共同为问题来认真对待，寻找解决途径而付出努力。</p>
<p>自然界的统合综效的最佳典范</p>
<p>生态学很好地解释了自然界的统合综效，世间万物都是密切相关的，这些关系可以将创造力最大化。真正力量也存在于7习惯的相互关系中，而不是单一的习惯中。</p>
<p>参与程度越深，分析和解决问题的投入就越多，释放出来的创造力就越大，越为结果负责。</p>
<p>发挥影响圈，自身的统合综效就完全处于我的影响圈内。尊重自己的善于分析和富有创造力的一面。更尊重它们在我之中的差异催生我的创造力。</p>
<p>即使处于不利境地，也不应该放弃追求统合综效，不要在意别人的无礼行径，避开那些消极力量，发现并利用别人的优势，提高自己的认识，扩大自己的视野。</p>
<p>在相互依赖的环境中勇敢而坦率地表达自己的观点、情感和经历，借此鼓励他人同样坦率相待。</p>
<p>当有人跟你不一样看法时，观点不一样时，我应该说&lsquo;&lsquo;你跟我有不一样的看法，这很好&rsquo;&rsquo;。但我不一定要对他们表示赞同，但可以表示肯定，并尽量给于理解。出现只有两种解决问题的途径或道路时，寻找统合综效的第三种选择。坚持双赢，确实愿意理解对方，就能找到一种让每个人都受益更多的解决方案。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-02 23:39:25.681','2024-11-02 23:39:34.129',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-02 23:39:34.127',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2443eeb3-921a-460c-9c63-b86a45fff125','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','01ea1d11-1b1a-41e8-99c0-7e87552ad519','<p>人往往只是看到表面的东西就急于下判断，我们需要用心聆听别人的故事才能够明白那一份坚持是为了什么。</p>','2024-03-22 14:10:17.025','2024-03-22 14:10:17.025',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:10:17.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6d7b9f13-435a-495c-af42-f737df1334ba','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','3a0fa86c-5a82-45ea-aace-7b8e7654c3c4','<p>学会聆听，用心聆听。</p>
<p>这不光是聆听别人的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。</p>','2024-03-22 14:12:07.143','2024-03-22 14:12:07.143',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:12:07.143',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('abb594d5-bdc1-413c-887d-db837ed339c2','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','8bb5395b-4a7f-4ea4-b0c6-90efaa21de5d','<p>你有学过站在对方的角度聆听👂？</p>
<p>1+ 1》2 统合综效，与人携手合作，</p>
<p>找出更好的第三种解决方案！</p>','2024-03-22 14:12:19.221','2024-03-22 14:12:19.221',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:12:19.22',NULL,NULL);
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<p>2.你要暴露弱点，敞开心扉，充分展现同理心。将脆弱的一面与同理心结合起来，再为关系投入精力时，就能从消极防御、地域主义变成积极创新、开放富足。</p>
<p>3.这样的曝露，你会因此珍视自己的与众不同！双方都会为这段关系带来差异并重视它们的时候，就创造出了全新的第三条道路。</p>
<p>还是觉得太玄了，那个境界还是没办法意会。</p>','2024-03-22 14:18:05.136','2024-03-22 14:18:05.136',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:18:05.135',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2b4d72d-3f7b-4f90-b1cd-592d82078d35','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','3bf587cc-973a-43cd-bcac-64b112cd922c','<p>要用心聆听，不光是聆听别人说的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。<br>1+1=3，或更多。 超越过思维框架，寻找第三种解决方案<br>每一个人并没有所有正确答案，而且你珍视自己的与众不同<br>身体需要呼吸, 心灵也需要得到他人的理解. 我们只有当内心被人理解时才能真正的摊开心扉去影响他人。</p>','2024-03-22 14:27:49.852','2024-03-22 14:27:49.852',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:27:49.851',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('783077d2-ac1a-4e42-93c5-1190198e6be2','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','51d2b0ec-c275-4372-b27e-2aefff3833d3','<p>每个来自不同家庭背景，生活习惯的不同。尤其组织一个家庭，双方要很多的磨合，沟通和互相理解。用心聆听彼此的需求，尊重彼此的想法来达到共识。</p>','2024-03-22 14:30:33.186','2024-03-22 14:30:33.186',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:30:33.185',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a0f002f-f929-4d09-a437-a2393ca4813d','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','0a08fea5-5f22-4ee8-a6b0-7c46e27899cf','<p>解决问题的方案可能有很多，我们需要结合考虑各种因素，<br>例如：时间、精力、成本，去选择最合适的方案。<br>&ldquo;<strong>不断更新</strong>&rdquo;反映了你对伴侣，其他家人和自己，心智、社交、情感、精神健康的关注。</p>','2024-03-22 14:33:25.545','2024-03-22 14:33:25.545',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:33:25.544',NULL,NULL);
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<p>聆听，就是沟通的一种。</p>
<p>沟通是双向的，不是单向的。</p>
<p>这本书的意义虽然缺乏意义，但还是没办法，继续要看下去，这就是一种沟通方式</p>','2024-03-22 14:36:32.901','2024-03-22 14:36:32.901',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:36:32.9',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9cf417a2-9e01-47a4-9346-644672e9d3fa','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','26458796-5d5f-468a-ac5f-69a3a6e55885','<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">Day-11 p45-49</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">【练习移情聆听】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">沒有多少人接受过正式的培训，学习过移情思考，学过站在对方的角度聆听。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">伴侣和家庭里几乎所有的问题都源自于自私。</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&rdquo;&mdash;&mdash;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">这里的自私意指我们缺乏同理心和聆听的意愿。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">&nbsp;</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">我们</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">要用心聆听，不光是聆听別人说的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。找出话语背后的內容，对它们表示尊重。那些东西影响了对方的一生。</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">［寻找第三种解决方案］</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">统合综效意味着</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">1+1=3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">或</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">10</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">或</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">100</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">或</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">1000</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">。它是亲密关系和家庭生活的基礎。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">实行统合综效，意味着你要暴露弱点，敝开心扉，充分展现同理心。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">換个角度看，统合综效彰显了一个人的</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">富足心态</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&rdquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">拥有富足的心态，我们才能通过双贏思维、知彼解己和统合综效的思维模式，找到</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">第三种解决方案</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&rdquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">。</span></p>','2024-03-22 14:38:43.421','2024-03-22 14:38:43.421',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:38:43.42',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30bdd729-6e90-4ad9-9c87-55a54668bb36','b0443c7e-d99f-4b82-8b68-45d77c231c92','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>尊重对方差异，与他人合不来是正常的，尤其相处久了缺点会被放大到一发不可收拾的境地，互相包容才能减少矛盾</p>','2024-03-22 14:03:16.943','2024-03-29 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c35816ab-b804-4100-8ccd-310d8b315ce4','b4dd5493-7883-41ba-a1af-e243fcd89c1c','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>在了解他人之前，且勿妄下定论。了解他人以后，你会为了错误的诠释而买单</p>','2024-03-22 14:44:58.401','2024-04-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2024-04-05 00:00:00.017','2024-04-05 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8163c7aa-f112-4ab0-80ca-fdbf7877e54e','79cc022d-ebe4-4c47-a9bb-504ad1d1ec86','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>这里再次强调了聆听的重要性，整个过程也是从简洁地问题，不批判，不随意点评，的去与他人沟通</p>','2024-03-22 14:51:23.904','2024-04-06 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-04-06 00:00:00.029','2024-04-06 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed4422e8-3181-4d31-a3fa-e7f30e367ec3','fb07f67b-b703-404c-9258-911a1c2e4373','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>感同身受的去聆听，适当的反馈，让别人觉得你了解她了，沟通的当下矛盾就会减少</p>','2024-03-22 14:56:35.843','2024-04-07 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2024-04-07 00:00:00.018','2024-04-07 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('257e88ba-6e1c-4b03-9c7d-c7de7fc06e3c','8099ee36-6488-40af-889c-67328462aa86','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>1+1&gt;3 如何去发觉对方的长处，找到对方的闪光点，然后运用更加以放大，双方的关系会更紧密</p>','2024-03-22 15:07:30.927','2024-04-08 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-04-08 00:00:00.02','2024-04-08 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dcddf63c-2b0f-4d25-a015-18d283cc0f0b','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','22fd98b7-ee5c-4320-84ca-4235d5088261','<p>每当与至亲沟通的时候，说实话相信很多人的第一本能都是站在自己的角度，确实会很少站在对方的角度聆听，因为很多时候我们总是认为至亲应该理解自己应该接纳自己，所以理所当然接纳自己的所有情绪与想法，如果不接受就是代表着对方不爱自己或不在乎自己，但是对方确实如此吗？还是有时我们明明知道对方不是这样的，但为了合理化自己的想法，而让自己被迫拥有这样的想法呢？</p>','2024-03-22 14:43:11.85','2024-03-22 14:43:11.85',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 14:43:11.849',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('58b1344b-9196-44ee-bf29-884d26aa917f','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','3206e8eb-d93a-41b1-a66f-b1c117a68838','<p>同理，即是要把自己想象成是对方，然后去体验对方的感受，这不是一件简单的事情，我们得先放下自己的假设。</p>','2024-03-22 15:09:31.183','2024-03-22 15:09:31.183',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:09:31.183',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ed1f836-27e8-4a09-97bc-056a3be79d45','94c1c259-004f-44cd-8bb0-73bb5bc50019','e6d1c881-f99f-4343-9565-634878262b80','<p>在不同的环境都拥有不同的氛围及规矩，同样的我们也拥有不同的角色，要能很好的的生存，就要在别人对我们的角色期待及自己的期待中找到一个平衡点。</p>','2024-04-27 15:27:23.248','2024-04-27 15:27:23.248',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-27 15:27:23.247',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f4363009-f2d4-47ca-97c8-95cd0a248c74','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','dbfdcd68-e817-4bb7-b068-d5613aeb0452','<p>要点1 ：从对方角度设想，以对方明白的角度沟通。</p>
<p>要点2： 从不同文化成长背景、个人的不同，找出第三个解决方案。总要有个双赢才是关系上的漂亮！&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-22 15:23:47.276','2024-03-22 15:23:47.276',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:23:47.276',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e62fd606-cecb-4397-87a4-18db8c20500f','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>当某些人的一些执着让你很不解有点厌恶时，练习移情聆听很重要，尝试换位思考，了解对方对这份执着背后的原因，不要急于下评判。</p>','2024-03-22 15:24:48.889','2024-03-22 15:24:48.889',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:24:48.888',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b07970bb-e060-4412-8182-03102fac8795','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','7448fec0-0a1b-4d55-b6ab-493cfa3c30e6','<p>一旦我们在某个问题上培养出了"统合综效"的能力。就可以将它运用到今后遇到的所有问题上，无论具体是什么问题。</p>','2024-03-22 15:24:49.744','2024-03-22 15:24:49.744',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:24:49.743',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('96199a56-f2fe-4654-8938-a46692f1d54b','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','0a821e9b-67d5-416e-a19f-085f25838fc9','<p>关系上的不和谐很多都是因为自己自私，无法去和对方链接、站在对方的角度想，所以在谈话里有很多&ldquo;我&rdquo;、在互动里会有很多&ldquo;我&rdquo;。</p>','2024-03-22 15:25:14.339','2024-03-22 15:25:14.339',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:25:14.338',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a990ffbd-ca50-4339-bd98-d16e960996af','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要用心聆听，不光是聆听被人说的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。找出话语背后的内容，对它们表示尊重。请注意，那些东西影响了对方的一生、不要急于下评判，要耐心收集数据，运用左脑进行逻辑分析。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯六&rdquo;统合综效&rdquo;意味着，通过与另一个人的互动，提出第三种方案，胜过任何一个人光靠自己提出的方案。妥协意味着1+1=少于2。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">但这意味着你要暴露弱点，敞开心扉，充分展现同理心。当你将自己脆弱的一面与同理心结合起来，再为双方的关系投入精力时，就能从消极防御、地域主义变成积极创新、开放富足。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">给自己和重要的人留出时间，一起在心智层面上&rdquo;不断更新&rdquo;。</span></p>','2024-03-22 15:27:02.611','2024-03-22 15:27:06.572',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:27:06.571',NULL,NULL);
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<p><span style="color: #236fa1;">我真的不是个很好的聆听者，有时心不在焉，一心两用，没有同理心；需练习移情聆听。</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #236fa1;">我的观点以前真的没有第三种解决方案的，因为不是对，就是错，现在有丈夫与孩子，与家公婆，很多事都能妥协了。</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #236fa1;">现在也慢慢的给自已留出时间，自我欣赏，自我认同，做自已喜欢的事，之前很迷茫，你做妈妈了应该这样，应该那样，时常都很内耗的。</span></p>','2024-03-22 15:40:33.538','2024-03-22 15:40:33.538',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:40:33.537',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0625dcff-ff9b-4129-b693-00d1db1bd327','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>3月22、Day 11&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">练习移情聆听（</span>Page 045-049<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">有多少人学会站在他人的角度聆听？</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">化解矛盾纠纷的关键在于好好聆听对方。这个篇章特别强调：要用心聆听，不光是聆听别人说的话，还要聆听那些话背后的感受。找出话语背后的内容，为什么对它们而言是如此重要 。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">一对夫妻不管双方如何为家庭奉献 ，也一定要给自己留出个人时间。我实在太认同这句话的重要性及必要性。这绝对不是自私而是为彼此创造更多的幸福感。</p>','2024-03-22 15:41:23.272','2024-03-22 15:41:23.272',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:41:23.271',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a40a348c-2b2d-47d0-b3fe-519981fdbaea','df945166-b8c7-4ef8-842e-17085aefdda3','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>内容很好，例子对我这个单身汉不友善，让我花了一些心思去强行脑补。书本简单，易读。在读完这本书后，之前买了一本原作看来现在有动力将他读完了。</p>','2024-03-22 15:39:33.792','2024-04-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-04-13 00:00:00.019','2024-04-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f6f43244-ae6b-424a-925c-ac91c401a06c','5cb461f1-afa6-42b2-9883-7a14e61f0ac6','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>平台模式，人人为我，我为人人。可以找几个可以互惠互利的的特定群体， 满足群体的需求，并巧妙的从中盈利。</p>','2024-05-04 15:44:13.869','2024-05-04 15:44:13.869',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-04 15:44:13.868',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('554184d0-8181-48ed-9e2e-0b4b9625c258','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','96a3177a-243e-43aa-9067-4f8d102016fa','<p>给自己留出时间 metime</p>
<p>让五官休息，再重新开机</p>
<p>不带有太多的以前经验</p>
<p>清空后聆听和不再以为</p>
<p>确保无漏才是良好沟通</p>','2024-03-22 15:59:25.312','2024-03-22 15:59:25.312',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 15:59:25.311',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1d76e86-6cd1-4e16-bbee-3f7cc4262b57','b14a302f-ff04-45c3-894a-d6a3d16ed5cc','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>用心聆听别人说的话，还要聆听那些背后的感受。不要急于下评判，要耐心收集数据应用左脑进行逻辑分析。</p>
<p>統合綜效学会与别人攜手合作，找出更好的第三种解决方案。</p>
<p>给自己留出时间做自己喜欢的事情， 如参加课程、通过听讲座会分享学习经历。这是在心智层面上的不断更新，与亲朋好友共度时光。</p>','2024-03-22 15:59:37.274','2024-03-22 16:00:01.433',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-22 16:00:01.432',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b917ccf8-6e11-4565-b994-dc5bf48e5b66','94c1c259-004f-44cd-8bb0-73bb5bc50019','138265fe-95ad-4ebc-b601-e7cbf4fd9f27','<p>角色期待，很多时候人都期待自己的期待被满足，但是若期待不被满足就会失衡。或者达不到某人的期待就会坠入自责内疚或者罪恶感，这是一把锋利的刀。主管期待部属听话，满足了安全感。父母期待孩子听话，满足了价值感。妻子期待先生听话，满足了归属感。其实都是满足自己的内在需求。</p>','2024-04-27 15:29:55.51','2024-04-27 15:29:55.51',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-27 15:29:55.509',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c43342d5-2982-4d9c-9596-82a2bdaf8948','85eb84a6-4216-42a8-8815-062280c26244','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>每个人都希望生活中种种人事物都按照自己希望的方向去发展，所以都会去控制情况按照自己想要的方向去，只要控制得当，就可以让需求和期待平衡。只要控制适度，那都不是坏事。</p>','2024-04-30 22:11:27.751','2024-05-03 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-05-03 00:00:00.008','2024-05-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f35078f3-d3a9-41fc-a870-404018b7cf84','5cb461f1-afa6-42b2-9883-7a14e61f0ac6','9ad474ed-c3a5-481d-83bd-0e50c36395be','<p>平台模式的平台大概的意思就是一個由多體共建，資源共享且能夠實現共贏，開放的一種商業生態系統。</p>
<p>近這10年間這地球跳出太多太多的平台如全球最大的出租車公司uber，全球最大的房屋租借airbnb，我最喜歡用的booking.com。不難發現這些平台沒有擁有一輛出租車，沒有一件房產也沒有任何一間酒店卻成為全球最大，而平台的工作就是整合擁有汽車擁有房產擁有酒店的owner和客戶，然後從中盈利的模式。</p>','2024-05-03 05:21:03.839','2024-05-04 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2024-05-04 00:00:00.017','2024-05-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27651c00-5957-414a-964f-cb44dec0e59a','0b19c312-8bb6-4c3a-96f2-3b51a708361a','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>我们习惯了从小就以外在评价系统作为标准被人评判也用以自我自我评判，常觉得自己不够好的人，其实是展现了一种症状-imposter syndrome;会对自己失去信心，自我打击，觉得自己很渺小，没价值，这样极其危险！</p>','2024-05-04 15:45:31.384','2024-05-04 15:45:31.384',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-04 15:45:31.383',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f1b2670-db0d-400f-a2fe-e65bbca5d726','0b19c312-8bb6-4c3a-96f2-3b51a708361a','138265fe-95ad-4ebc-b601-e7cbf4fd9f27','<p>一旦打击自己的时候，外在评价系统更巨大，自我内在的世界缩小，然后与外界环境的距离就愈远，就会变成循环。心里从小住着的法官，请允许自己去驾奴他，或者请他离开。让自己不再处于自我批判的系统里。创造以及看见自己美好的那面。</p>','2024-05-04 15:46:42.24','2024-05-04 15:46:42.24',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-04 15:46:42.239',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('67b60919-588c-41ef-8403-9437b18c9b4a','0b19c312-8bb6-4c3a-96f2-3b51a708361a','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>比上不足比下有余，人总是比不完...</p>
<p>人别活在外界评价系统，让他人贬低自己、打击自己、给自己压力、认为自己不够好.....</p>
<p>人面对外在环境时，让自己掌管自己；平衡自己。让自己有更多的空间，看看自己自在是什么？值得思考！</p>','2024-05-04 15:49:29.238','2024-05-04 15:49:29.238',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-04 15:49:29.237',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>了解到我们如何常常受到外界评价系统的影响，这些外部评价往往内化为我们内心的&ldquo;法官&rdquo;，不仅影响了我们对自身价值的看法，还可能导致我们在人际关系中出现问题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>认识到要逐渐减少对外部评价的依赖，加强自我意识和自主性。这需要我们清晰地认识到，真正的自我价值不应由他人的看法定义，而是通过自身的努力和自我认识来实现。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们要用好奇心去探索自我，开放心态接受自我多样性，从而更健康地处理自我评断与自我打击的问题。</p>','2024-05-04 15:50:02.36','2024-05-04 15:50:02.36',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-04 15:50:02.359',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee68b529-1f86-4b03-a0fd-79284768d46d','8fd34a48-72d7-4555-bcea-2d7cfcb866ea','15796862-86d2-4057-a055-0f7b1bf6f462','<p>区域集中模式，最佳典范就是7eleven.</p>
<p>他们最成功的就是提高小规模便利店的生产效率，提供合理有效的采购和物流制度。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">还有就是成功的供应链管理。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">他们同时可以做到提供便利，还能保证物价廉美。还坚持做到了极致。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">在马来西亚也一样。很多小型杂货店。或者是本土的连锁supermarket都撑不住了。7-11还是一枝独秀，他成功不是没有道理的。</span></p>','2024-05-04 15:46:05.823','2024-05-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9358da95-03ef-48f2-b51c-07473dac73e4','16c20a6d-09a9-438c-a536-f0c0028c4c15','724f2776-0f89-4693-96ac-067e7121c40c','<p>连锁模式是一种商业经营模式，通过在不同地域开设相同的店铺或服务点，并采用统一的管理和运营方式，以实现品牌的扩张和规模化经营。这种模式适用于零售、餐饮、服务等行业，能够提高整体运营效率和管理水平，降低成本，促进业务健康发展。</p>','2024-05-06 12:40:23.703','2024-05-07 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-05-07 00:00:00.022','2024-05-07 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7357e19e-d4d9-4a2b-afcd-700d1c9a70b1','a18bcf95-91c2-48d1-a23a-f684c02107aa','77c4137c-93ad-42c0-8165-382807fec821','<p>被《学怎么活》吸睛。是的，是时候检讨自己活着的态度。希望从书中获得启发。</p>','2024-08-18 08:05:40.248','2024-08-18 08:05:40.248',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-08-18 08:05:40.247',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8aeab5a4-eb5b-4b60-804b-4845f47eab2f','a18bcf95-91c2-48d1-a23a-f684c02107aa','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>人活着，只要确保现在很幸福，然后继续重复这样做。以自在丶臣服丶感恩地<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">接受自己的全部，所发生的一切，并不断超越自己！</span></p>','2024-08-18 08:08:27.643','2024-08-18 08:08:27.643',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-08-18 08:08:27.642',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a91859bd-4aec-4521-bba8-4ad59bd04e9f','68f48d35-0eaa-4eaa-8d01-bd68c83c837d','b3ab7f77-68a3-4270-b3a3-05b9c158dccd','<p>只有认识到循环才能打破困境。</p>','2024-05-05 12:25:36.785','2024-05-08 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-05-08 00:00:00.014','2024-05-08 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8374a3ab-b6e1-4217-85eb-bc744c2dbbd3','e1398cf6-400b-4b24-9bb6-f97ef3295a16','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>经商，获得信任非常重要。因此线上该考虑的是如何做到这点。</p>
<p>线下则在资讯与价格略输一筹于线上，所以它得设法解决该问题。</p>','2024-08-31 14:04:34.346','2024-08-31 14:04:34.346',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-08-31 14:04:34.345',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70eb503f-5023-4606-854c-713b0c09fb65','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>很期待认识用七个习惯的其中一个，开始二十一天的持续实践磨练。</p>','2024-03-17 08:40:50.181','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7205c2ee-f7b1-4e98-b564-ab5e7421bf01','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','ed3ffa0b-ef52-4bb7-963c-af5eab78e245','<p>婚姻的4C产品：承诺，品格，沟通和陪伴</p>
<p>婚姻需要不停地注入好的东西，只取不入，往往留下的就是空。。。</p>
<p>裂痕往往是要破碎时才发现，而贴补已是无补。。。</p>','2024-03-17 14:08:15.863','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c7e49ba1-407f-4854-9d8c-d649bf7be2b2','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>喜欢史帝芬柯维的这句：&ldquo;只知不做等于不知，只学不做等于没学&rdquo;。从七个习惯挑一个开始实践。</p>
<p>婚姻关系的四个C ：</p>
<ul>
<li>Commitment (承诺)&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;【习惯一、习惯二和习惯三】</li>
<li>Character (品格)&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;【习惯一、习惯二和习惯三】</li>
<li>Communication (沟通)&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;【习惯四、习惯五、习惯六】</li>
<li>Companiionship (陪伴)&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 【习惯七】</li>
</ul>
<p>&ldquo;品格&rdquo; 和&ldquo;承诺&rdquo; 带来全新的思维方式。承诺就是先从给予开始，将爱带入关系中，才能从中取得。</p>','2024-03-18 01:36:03.838','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('597d7829-2f6b-45bb-b6b0-1557bbd942fd','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 61.45pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">当热恋结束并步入婚姻的殿堂后，憧憬的美好生活开始慢慢走调。伴侣双方须要经历生活上的各种细节，环绕在身边的柴米油盐零碎事项多如牛毛，忙得喘不过气，忙得迷失自我。此时审视当初对彼此的承诺多半会落空，牢骚开始冒头，埋怨开始累积，心中的计时炸弹开始点燃，情绪的失控与爆发是迟早问题而已。如果承诺变成空壳，将为婚姻关系的破裂埋下伏笔。然而彼此都忽略了关系融洽的婚姻生活须要彼此长期注入亲密关系的养分如奉献、赞美、支持、理解等，而非一昧索取、埋怨、甩锅等而导致拉跨婚姻关系。</span></p>','2024-03-20 03:15:49.774','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e39f0bd1-b7b7-4a66-ab9b-fdde0b591e6f','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯一、习惯二和习惯三打造&ldquo;承诺commitment&rdquo;&ldquo;品格character&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯四、习惯五和习惯六打造敞开心扉的&ldquo;沟通communication&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯七打造无私的&ldquo;陪伴ccompanionship&rdquo;。</span></p>','2024-03-20 04:06:14.706','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('02b5c46d-903e-4e57-83af-ae18379d476f','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>婚姻/伴侣关系的四个C：承诺、品格、沟通、陪伴。</p>
<p>这关系就像美丽的盒子，就如慈济证严法师常说的：&ldquo;爱的存款&rdquo;。</p>
<p>双方都必须学习爱的艺术，养成给予、奉献、赞美、相互支持的习惯，让盒子永远是满的。如果你取出的东西比放进去的多，盒子就会变得空荡荡的。</p>','2024-03-20 08:47:09.514','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c65ca1fd-ef2a-45df-b33f-1303ae7ffc86','94c1c259-004f-44cd-8bb0-73bb5bc50019','d229dec0-d979-4066-a73e-450bd67bf882','<p>感受到我们每个人在社会中都扮演着多重角色，而每个角色背后都伴随着一系列的期待。这些期待来自于家庭、工作、朋友等不同的社会角色和环境，它们形塑了我们的行为和反应。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>读后，我开始反思自己的多重角色如何影响了我的行为和决策。我认识到，很多时候，我们为了满足外界的期待，可能会忽视了自己的内在需求。这种不断的期待与实际的差距，有时会让人感到压力和焦虑。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-04-27 15:36:13.647','2024-04-27 15:36:13.647',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-27 15:36:13.646',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('441cbbb7-8390-4622-a346-55f33783790a','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','8ee74189-0f4a-45f1-a41e-d97a05b361a8','<p>Day 12 📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</p>
<p>第二部分 打造高效能沟通文化（Page 052-055）</p>
<p>22Mar2024, 10.50am</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>John 保证了我们只要好好地实践任何书中提到的其中一个习惯，我们会越来越幸福。当我也有所期待。</p>
<p>内容介绍了婚姻的四个C框架，为承诺（Commitment), 品格（Character), 沟通（Communication) 以及陪伴（Companionship) 。当中有提到我们一般上人的迷思是以为去到一个地方生活就会有我们所期待的东西，或者跟其他人组建家庭时也是。事实上是什么都没有，而是由我们去创造。若什么都没有创造，那当然结果一定是让我们大失所望了。一起创造美丽的人生。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-22 03:01:50.245','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01beb393-1f9b-4bfd-ba47-4457b8568a89','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','71b0e248-f2e5-47a7-8371-aedda7abf686','<p>婚姻里的四个C: Commitment承诺, Character品格, communication沟通, Companionship陪伴(无私的).<br>伴侣双方都要学习爱的艺术, 养成给予,奉献,赞美,相互支持的习惯, 让彼此的盒子永远是满的.&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-22 12:51:25.479','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('56746805-55a1-4825-a765-3e424e956608','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>这里有讲到4C，就是承诺，品格，沟通和陪伴。伴侣不是为了来满足你，而是需要用到承诺来巩固，来达成一个双向的沟通。</p>','2024-03-22 13:37:56.504','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('909a561a-58c9-4faa-b372-7e6e9e09b2a1','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>结婚是两个不同背景、性格人给予对方的承诺，不试着希望对方为自己改变，自己也不应失去自我。唯有双方学习爱的艺术、学习接纳，同时给予奉献、赞美与支持，填满最初的空盒子。</p>','2024-03-22 14:08:21.873','2024-03-23 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('acec9e10-c338-480a-a136-7a0c73b8f3fb','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','e96fbd10-e6c3-4991-a72d-f1f7e5d01ae1','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">婚姻中的四个</span>C<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">：承诺，品格，沟通和陪伴。</span></p>','2024-03-23 00:45:59.908','2024-03-23 00:45:59.908',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 00:45:59.907',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65d9c5b8-47cc-4c04-af40-1ebf2a35f793','ee18122c-3f4e-4cc3-b51e-090065933b43','41de270f-cb91-4cb2-9ab5-71f3aa94d1ad','<p>改变不容易，但可以通过练习和观点改变（角色）并进行个习惯的训练，必然会成为领导者。</p>
<p>改变自己，才能影响他人。</p>','2024-08-18 08:20:37.29','2024-08-18 08:20:37.29',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-08-18 08:20:37.289',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">【检验七个习惯】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">婚姻关系</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">4-C</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">框：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">承诺（</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">Commitment</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">品格（</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">Character</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">沟通（</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">Communication</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">陪伴（</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">Companionship</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">婚姻关系从</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">空盒子</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">&rdquo;</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">开始，逐渐盛满。</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;"><br></span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">如果你取出的东西比放进去的多，盒子就会变得空荡荡。</span></p>','2024-03-23 00:54:32.812','2024-03-23 00:54:32.812',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 00:54:32.811',NULL,NULL);
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<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">如果你持续放进的东西比拿出的多，盒子就会变得豐滿。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">家庭,夫妻好的(存放/累聚下耒)记忆多, 就可以幸福美满。</span></p>','2024-03-23 01:25:35.268','2024-03-23 01:25:35.268',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 01:25:35.267',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e62dbe89-908a-441e-bf9a-af30cfcefc78','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>將承諾、&nbsp; 品格、 沟通、 陪伴納入維持美滿婚姻的基礎。承諾只是個空盒，關係里要把愛儲存里面，當需要時才能获取，雙方都必須学习愛的芝木，养成給予奉献與讚美，相互支持的习慣。讓盒子里的愛是滿的，如果取出的比放進的多，這會讓盒子变得空蕩蕩的。</p>','2024-03-23 01:34:00.6','2024-03-23 01:34:00.6',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 01:34:00.599',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ece2bee-1f90-41cc-8be8-b252ef0f57cd','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','c0dfea61-558e-4ab6-aa83-3a14aeab20c5','<p>Day 12 &nbsp;📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》<br>第二部分 打造高效能沟通文化（Page 052-055）<br>🎯读后感悟 ：<br>「學會愛別人以前 要先學會愛自己」<br>但其實除了「自己」以外<br>也必須先學會「愛的藝術」<br>即懂得給予、奉獻、讚美和相互支持</p>','2024-03-23 02:18:55.936','2024-03-23 02:18:55.936',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 02:18:55.935',NULL,NULL);
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<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>1. 角色期待的影響力： 環境中的角色期待對我們的行為和互動產生深遠的影響。無論是家庭、工作還是社會，每個角色都帶有一定的期待和規範。這些期待不僅來自於外部，也會內化成為自己對自己的期待。例如，父母對子女的期待、主管對部屬的期待，都會影響到我們的行為和表現。</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>2. 需求與期待的關聯： 角色期待往往牽動著我們的內在需求。父母希望子女成績優秀可能是為了滿足自己的價值感，主管希望部屬聽話可能是為了獲得安全感。因此，我們在滿足角色期待的同時，也在追求自己的內在需求。</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>','2024-04-27 15:38:48.616','2024-04-27 15:38:48.616',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-27 15:38:48.615',NULL,NULL);
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<p>身体活着有点顺流的活，但是要让灵魂活着，</p>
<p>我觉得是一门很大的学问。</p>','2024-08-18 08:21:21.156','2024-08-18 08:21:21.156',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-08-18 08:21:21.156',NULL,NULL);
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<p>习惯1-3: commitment 承诺，character 品格</p>
<p>习惯4-6: communication 沟通</p>
<p>&nbsp;习惯7: companionship 陪伴</p>
<p>婚姻如一个空盒子，需要双方努力不断给予,有心输入爱、陪伴、亲密、鼓励等。让这位家庭树健康成长。</p>','2024-03-22 00:05:43.907','2024-03-23 02:43:25.993',NULL,'f','2024-03-23 00:00:00.023','2024-03-23 02:43:25.992',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">承诺 Commitment </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">品格 Character </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通 Communication </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">陪伴 Companionship</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯一、二和三打造&rdquo;承诺&rdquo;与&rdquo;品格&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯四、五和六打造敞开心扉的&rdquo;沟通&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯七打造无私的&rdquo;陪伴&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">大多数人在迈入浪漫关系时都有的错误观念。他们认为婚姻或浪漫伴侣的关系是个美丽的盒子，里面装满了自己渴望的一切：陪伴、亲密、友谊、孩子。他们认为、自己从此会过上幸福的生活。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">但事实上，双方之间的承诺最初只是空盒子，你必须先往里面放东西，然后才能从中取出东西。双方都必须学习爱的艺术，养成给予、奉献、赞美、相互支持的习惯，让盒子永远是满的。如果你取出的东西比放进去的多，盒子就会变得空荡荡的。</span></p>','2024-03-23 03:44:08.86','2024-03-23 03:44:08.86',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 03:44:08.859',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbaf5c87-a0b4-48f7-8d15-fc4a3bfb9d88','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>纳入婚姻的4C:</p>
<p>Commitment (承诺)</p>
<p>Character (品格)</p>
<p>Communication (沟通)</p>
<p>Companionship (陪伴)</p>
<p>习惯一、习惯二和习惯三打造"承诺"和"品格"。</p>
<p>习惯四、习惯五和习惯六打造敞开心扉的"沟通"。</p>
<p>习惯七打造无私的"陪伴"。</p>','2024-03-23 07:05:27.508','2024-03-23 07:05:27.508',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 07:05:27.507',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6811495-5677-4fee-a10c-9d25472184ec','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','c8975ff9-0a95-454a-bf3d-2162bf88cbf2','<p>两个人之间的承诺一开始只是空盒子，我们必须先放东西进去，才能从中取出东西。&nbsp;</p>
<p>伴侣双方都必须学习爱的艺术，养成给予、奉献、赞美、相互支持的习惯，让盒子永远是满的。</p>','2024-03-23 04:36:27.205','2024-03-23 04:36:27.205',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 04:36:27.204',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca749c93-ff77-4ad2-9409-164ff9fc6028','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>欣赏另一半的差异化，互补本身的不足，以统合综效以达到美满家庭生活。我们不能以自己的标准要求对方，我们要求也不一定合理,做原来的自己才会正真开心，不断相互理解对方。</p>','2024-03-23 04:19:43.3','2024-03-25 01:30:26.259',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013','2024-03-25 01:30:26.259',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('838a3033-9c85-4c59-afd3-7ec9e83932f2','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','481bbc5a-7b89-4cc8-8872-8531ccea7348','<p>婚姻4C 的框架：</p>
<p>-承诺 Commitment</p>
<p>-品格 Character</p>
<p>-沟通 Communication</p>
<p>-陪伴 Companionship&nbsp;</p>
<p>爱存在于人的心中，是人将爱带进了彼此的关系中。</p>','2024-03-23 05:50:42.425','2024-03-23 05:50:42.425',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 05:50:42.424',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('72bc0571-91f9-47f1-a652-471e6eb45dab','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>习惯一二三打造&ldquo;承诺&rdquo;和&ldquo;品格&rdquo;</p>
<p>习惯四五六打造敞开心扉的&ldquo;沟通&rdquo;</p>
<p>习惯七打造无私的&ldquo;陪伴&rdquo;</p>','2024-03-23 06:19:36.025','2024-03-23 06:19:36.025',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 06:19:36.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('723d7a3d-ca86-47ae-be9c-276be8764cee','0b19c312-8bb6-4c3a-96f2-3b51a708361a','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>人如果没有感觉，日子会比较好过。有时候自己就是太在意外在评价，所以就让自己变得越来越自卑，越来越没有信心。希望自己可以越来越不去在意别人对自己的一些不必要的评价和意见。</p>','2024-04-30 22:22:16.706','2024-05-04 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2024-05-04 00:00:00.017','2024-05-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('883a30f0-5867-4f26-ae86-38e3b0c17f16','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>幸福美满是需要经营，需要不断存款（爱，奉献，赞美和互相扶持） 而不是一直掏空（索取）。</p>','2024-03-23 07:03:58.719','2024-03-23 07:03:58.719',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 07:03:58.718',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a8e3134-c44d-43b9-9c17-49e3e9f437a9','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>爱，是主动式的。一段感情，必须要时常往情感账户存款，才会越走越长久，更加有幸福感。</p>
<p>婚姻4C</p>
<p>Commitment 承诺, Character 品格：习惯一、二、三。</p>
<p>Communication 沟通：习惯四、五、六。</p>
<p>Companion 陪伴：习惯七。</p>','2024-03-23 07:50:30.341','2024-03-23 07:51:25.177',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 07:51:25.176',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90ccfea5-0b75-47c0-8624-0d8f2740a035','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>要把七个习惯纳入婚姻关系的四个C</p>
<p>承诺 Commitment</p>
<p>品格Character</p>
<p>沟通Communication</p>
<p>陪伴 Companionship</p>','2024-03-23 09:30:35.905','2024-03-23 09:30:35.905',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 09:30:35.904',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cd97d8a2-86ef-406f-bdcb-bff22872d6e9','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','3a0fa86c-5a82-45ea-aace-7b8e7654c3c4','<p>婚姻或伴侣关系的四个C</p>
<p>Commitment承诺</p>
<p>Character品格</p>
<p>Communication沟通</p>
<p>Companionship陪伴</p>','2024-03-23 15:35:41.375','2024-03-23 15:35:41.375',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:35:41.375',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('41ccea2c-5b1d-4942-87bb-fb2e139c1d89','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>我们有很多选择回应的方式，当然要选择最适合又我温和的方式。只要愿意一些让家人不舒服的行为是可以马上改变，家庭生活也会有变化！</p>','2024-03-23 06:32:03.723','2024-03-26 00:37:51.953',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:37:51.952',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6fe34bff-90a5-413a-99fa-413090f04226','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>关注圈</p>
<p>如何让我与太太能建立更多美好回忆，带动太太一起运动，建立健康的身体，好让以后年迈时可回忆！</p>
<p>减少外在的过多的晚上聚会，多陪伴家人一起晚餐。把一些晚餐改成午餐聚会。</p>
<p>关注圈</p>
<p>有时后，周末要陪伴老板应酬客户。</p>','2024-03-23 06:53:04.797','2024-03-27 15:13:43.272',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 15:13:43.272',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1df4ced0-e4e1-4a06-bb4a-a7eeac99194d','e2c67c04-78bd-4fac-9c8c-c7331d5a76d4','138265fe-95ad-4ebc-b601-e7cbf4fd9f27','<p>人与人都会照着密码、投射、控制、神精质、自以为是让自己进入安全区域。一旦以上的不复存在，内在的负面情绪已无处安放，就会拥有受害者的心态以得到存活，时刻保持觉知。</p>','2024-05-07 14:15:06.461','2024-05-07 14:15:06.461',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-07 14:15:06.46',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('abcaa1cb-4e92-4b07-bb16-381a73505132','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','9fa5e305-35f5-447e-907f-f41a5a7c9533','<p>作者向读者发出挑战，从7个习惯中选一个，持续实践21天，将让自己和家人的生活变得更幸福。另外，我们也要把4个C纳入婚姻的框架：commitment,character, communication, companionship.大多数的人认为婚姻是个美丽的盒子，里面装满了自己渴望的一切，其实那只是空盒子。我们必须先往里面放东西，然后才能从中取出东西，养成给予，奉献，赞美，相互支持的习惯，让盒子永远是满的。反之，索取得多，注入的少，盒子变得空荡荡。</p>','2024-03-23 09:33:48.277','2024-03-23 09:33:56.162',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 09:33:56.161',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e96e7add-f8ef-422d-a5ec-ae8acc89c995','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','41de270f-cb91-4cb2-9ab5-71f3aa94d1ad','<p>维持一段良好的伴侣关系，就如空盒子需要时不时往里放东西 ~ 爱，奉献，赞美，包容，扶持等等，才能从中取出，再放东西。你想要什么就要放什么，有舍就有得。</p>','2024-03-23 09:50:08.216','2024-03-23 09:50:08.216',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 09:50:08.215',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('368053ec-cf7b-41a0-a927-e56b89e7377e','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>4C:</p>
<p>Commitment (承诺）</p>
<p>Character （品格）</p>
<p>Communication （沟通）</p>
<p>Companionship （陪伴）</p>
<p>习惯1-3 - 打造承诺&amp;品格</p>
<p>习惯4-6 - 打造敞开心扉的沟通</p>
<p>习惯7 - 打造无私的陪伴</p>
<p>许下承诺会带来全新的思维方式，因为这是我们打算与自己的伴侣共度一生的时候，因此彼此的沟通与包容在这段关系非常重要</p>','2024-03-23 09:50:51.166','2024-03-23 09:50:51.166',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 09:50:51.165',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('acd6c9e3-6e1b-44f6-803d-0a218589dad5','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','8395724b-02ac-4925-bdb8-716d4709835a','<p>人将爱带进了彼此关系中。伴侣双方都必须学习爱的艺术，养成给于，奉献，赞美互相支持的习惯，让合子永远满， 而不至于取出比放进多，拿合子就会空了!</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-23 09:59:52.61','2024-03-23 09:59:52.61',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 09:59:52.609',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97a716ce-d182-45fa-a807-7b25d4eaebcf','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>将其中一件习惯拿出来实践21天，就保证会有一定的收获。<br>承诺/品格/沟通/陪伴。这是夫妻婚姻中的核心。</p>','2024-03-23 11:08:42.86','2024-03-23 11:08:42.86',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 11:08:42.859',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c77c9e49-2f51-470d-8c5e-b8adf28d74f6','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','8bb5395b-4a7f-4ea4-b0c6-90efaa21de5d','<p>高效能关系的七个习惯之前，</p>
<p>纳入婚姻的&ldquo;四个C&rdquo;框架：</p>
<p>&bull; 承诺（Commitment）</p>
<ul>
<li>品格（Character）</li>
<li>沟通（Communication）<br>陪伴（Companionship）</li>
</ul>
<p>习惯一、习惯二和习惯三打造&ldquo;承诺&rdquo;&ldquo;品格&rdquo;。</p>
<p>习惯四、习惯五和习惯六打造敞开心扉的&ldquo;沟通，</p>
<p>习惯七打造无私的&ldquo;陪伴&rdquo;。</p>','2024-03-23 12:50:56.461','2024-03-23 12:50:56.461',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 12:50:56.46',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('874754bc-51ce-41c1-a17e-5ecbc42acc48','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','a79358bf-a0d8-49f2-be81-0ba66e697353','<p>关系的&ldquo;盒子&rdquo;： 必须先往里面放东西，才可以取。</p>','2024-03-23 13:00:04.272','2024-03-23 13:00:04.272',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 13:00:04.271',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('42310e7c-5eff-46f8-a160-4c83efb38878','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','dbfdcd68-e817-4bb7-b068-d5613aeb0452','<p>不止承若，我们还要投入在关系里面。</p>
<p>品格- 不断提升自己的品格，让关系更美好。&nbsp;</p>
<p>沟通- 输出内心想法、多倾听。</p>
<p>陪伴 - 互相支持。</p>
<p>让赞美、肯定、倾听、给与注入在生活中，培养成习惯。</p>','2024-03-23 13:27:50.136','2024-03-23 13:27:50.136',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 13:27:50.135',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9cdb1936-9d42-4fd5-b58d-c8b669716acf','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','0a08fea5-5f22-4ee8-a6b0-7c46e27899cf','<p><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>婚姻/伴侣关系的四个C</strong></span><br><br><strong>承诺 (Conmitment)</strong></p>
<p><strong>品格 (Character)</strong></p>
<p><strong>沟通 (Communication)</strong></p>
<p><strong>陪伴 (Companionship)</strong><br><br>大多数人迈向浪漫关系是都有一种错误的观念，一种错误的思维方式。他们认为，婚姻或浪漫的伴侣关系是个美丽的盒子，<br>里面装满了自己渴望的一切：陪伴，亲密，友谊，孩子。他们会认为自己从此就会过上幸福的生活。<br>伴侣双方都必须学习爱的艺术，养成给于，奉献，赞美，相互自持的习惯。才能过上幸福的日子。<br>往往只有一方面的付出，这样的关系很快就能攒够更多的失望。</p>','2024-03-23 13:31:25.41','2024-03-23 13:31:25.41',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 13:31:25.409',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52a5564f-ae8b-4946-8347-96c4d1a91300','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','3bf587cc-973a-43cd-bcac-64b112cd922c','<p>七个习惯纳入&ldquo;四个C&rdquo;框架：</p>
<p>习惯1-3: 承诺（Commitment）品格（Character）</p>
<p>习惯4-6: 沟通（Communication）陪伴（Companionship）<br><br>习惯七打造无私的&ldquo;陪伴&rdquo;。<br><br></p>','2024-03-23 13:37:21.702','2024-03-23 13:37:21.702',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 13:37:21.701',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('98e97cd4-4b25-4ed5-8f9c-7a87d96eb893','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','05f5d501-df25-49f3-aa1f-7cfbf23ae03b','<p>让我们用四C来维系美好的婚姻吧。我觉得这也可以用在维系美好的家庭。</p>','2024-03-23 13:42:58.736','2024-03-23 13:42:58.736',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 13:42:58.736',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36492921-e03b-49ed-bdb7-95cf1fd0a871','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>通过作者的故事，让我觉得原生家庭对一个人的成长真的存在着很大的影响，会对自己的行为举止还有思考方式都造成影响，从而影响自己的生活。神经质的需求真的很可怕。</p>','2024-04-30 22:32:08.876','2024-05-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a3c74db-5ac2-4528-9e6d-681b0ad073ff','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','231fd760-abc8-4338-8180-cbe1d8796d39','<p>第十二天：</p>
<p>伴侣之间的沟通是相互影响的。</p>
<p>怎么说呢，如果你把伴侣当成自己，你就要学会了解自己，如果你把伴侣当成朋友，你就要学会了解朋友。</p>
<p>现在的沟通方式就是关注自己，了解他人。</p>
<p>关注自己和了解他人看起来很简单，但是确实我们最难做到的事情。</p>','2024-03-23 15:43:41.557','2024-03-23 15:43:41.557',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:43:41.556',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2961d04c-0740-4661-a352-86741d492921','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>在维持两性关系时，若有摩擦，真的需要其中能积极主动先暂停指责，做协调或妥协，关系才能更长久！</p>','2024-03-23 12:11:25.039','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b3e44b1-f009-48a4-8afe-47b92d16ac8b','6fb83da7-c822-434b-8d1e-d61c39a2db27','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 61.45pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">在伴侣关系中，习惯一表达了个人是自己生活的驾驶员，换句话说就是自己主宰自己的生活形态。习惯二则依顺序而言，就该决定前往的方向，创建亲密家庭的使命宣言。</span></p>','2024-03-23 09:39:22.913','2024-03-28 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('79399cb1-50cb-46d0-b01a-22e530523a63','ee9ee74a-ce2b-4c66-8488-5bde5b48eb91','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>善用资源，共享资源让企业和员工互惠互利。</p>','2024-04-29 09:58:25.043','2024-05-09 23:24:06.477',NULL,'f','2024-05-09 16:00:00','2024-05-09 23:24:06.476',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('088f6452-e3a8-4a7b-89ee-a05aff65a578','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 12 &nbsp;3月 23日 (星期六）📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第二部分 打造高效能沟通文化（Page 052-055）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🎯读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">婚姻／伴侣关系的四个C</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅承诺（Commitment）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅品格（Character）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅沟通（Communication）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">✅陪伴（Companionship）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯一、习惯二和习惯三打造&ldquo;承诺&rdquo;&ldquo;品格&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯四、习惯五和习惯六打造敞开心扉的&ldquo;沟通&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯七打造无私的&rdquo;陪伴&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人与人之间相处就是要爱，人们必须将浪漫注入亲密关系。伴侣双方都必须学习爱的艺术，养成给予、奉献、赞美、相互支持的习惯，让彼此的心永远是满的。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情感帐户很重要。要不断deposit . </span></p>','2024-03-23 13:58:37.407','2024-03-23 13:58:37.407',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 13:58:37.406',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f593ce8-8e1a-41f4-9636-3b7d74aeb123','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','7448fec0-0a1b-4d55-b6ab-493cfa3c30e6','<p>大多数人迈入浪漫关系时都有一种错误的观念，一种错误的思维方式。他们认为，婚姻或浪漫的伴侣关系是个美丽的盒子，里面装满了自己渴望的一切。他们认为，自己从此会过上幸福的生活。但事实上，双方之间的承诺最初只是个空盒子，我们必须先往里面放东西，然后才能从中取出东西。</p>','2024-03-23 14:22:46.392','2024-03-23 14:22:46.392',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 14:22:46.391',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ffab827-990e-4ac8-89dc-52330ae8f8e7','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','01ea1d11-1b1a-41e8-99c0-7e87552ad519','<p>事实上双方之间的承诺最初只是个空盒子，双方得先往里面放东西才能从中取出东西。</p>','2024-03-23 14:35:15.716','2024-03-23 14:35:15.716',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 14:35:15.716',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9366947e-c0f6-41f1-9387-7af1a6bbafb6','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>&nbsp;幸福婚姻秘诀是双方互相支持，持续经营美满生活，注入奉献、赞美、给于。 这是伴侣双方都必须学习的艺术，无条件为伴侣牺牲。</p>','2024-03-23 14:36:43.045','2024-03-23 14:36:43.045',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 14:36:43.045',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed7b3042-784c-48a0-b78f-dc8963c43f89','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>其实这四个C，就已经概括了一切。而第一个C就是让后面的C出现的最重要因素。只有commited，才可能有延伸下去的character, communication和companionship.&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-23 14:49:25.298','2024-03-23 14:49:25.298',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 14:49:25.297',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0fed757-324f-4caf-897b-c90d810536fc','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>家需要给予、奉献、赞美、相互支持等养份，才能开出幸福果实。</p>','2024-03-23 14:52:25.948','2024-03-23 14:52:25.948',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 14:52:25.947',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c51cb1bf-dcd6-46fd-9cfd-392b81871116','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','138265fe-95ad-4ebc-b601-e7cbf4fd9f27','<p>纳入婚姻的四个C 框架包括承诺（commitment）,品格（character）, 沟通（communication）, 陪伴（companionship）。</p>
<p>习惯一，二和三打造&ldquo;承诺&rdquo; &ldquo;品格&rdquo;。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">习惯四，五和六打造敞开心扉的&ldquo;沟通&rdquo;。</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">习惯七 是陪伴。婚前人们对婚姻装满了自己的渴望，认为会过上幸福的生活。其实需要注入很多新元素例如給予，奉献，赞美，相互支持等等。</span></p>','2024-03-23 15:02:05.821','2024-03-23 15:02:05.821',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:02:05.82',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da20030b-22ef-4974-a550-57a59d24ebee','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','0a821e9b-67d5-416e-a19f-085f25838fc9','<p>伴侣关系里的四个C：</p>
<ul>
<li>commitment</li>
<li>character</li>
<li>communication</li>
<li>Companionship</li>
</ul>','2024-03-23 15:02:44.209','2024-03-23 15:02:44.209',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:02:44.208',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9af11ea2-1c7e-436f-899a-2990e798d05c','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 12 📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</p>
<p>第二部分 打造高效能沟通文化（Page 052-055）</p>
<p>24 Mar 24</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>承诺的盒子开始时是空的，通过高效能的七个习惯去注入爱的艺术，填满盒子。</p>','2024-03-23 15:04:28.209','2024-03-23 15:04:28.209',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:04:28.208',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0595218-c3c9-4dd3-9de1-82502c33b8e7','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','41f959d3-c932-4657-84ab-137317e3a989','<div>Most people who are in the early stage of love have the wrong concept about marriage. They thought marriage or romantic feelings with another partner were like a "Beautiful Box" which could fulfil all their desires.</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>But in fact the "Box" is empty and needs hard work from both parties to fill it with love.</div>','2024-03-23 15:11:57.77','2024-03-23 15:11:57.77',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:11:57.77',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dae8ba26-4cd8-44bf-9a04-123ee2f36513','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','a7efe7b4-ad68-4550-8a69-fec2d37569ed','<p>1.彼此许下承诺是一种全新的思维方式，有别于童年时代和单身生活期间的思考方式。<br>2.人们以为婚姻或浪漫的伴侣关系是个美丽的盒子，里面装满了自己渴望的一切：陪伴、亲密、友谊、孩子，这是一种错误的观念、一种错误的思维方式。</p>
<p>3.事实上，双方之间的承诺只是个空盒子，必须先往里面放东西，然后才能从中取出东西。</p>
<p>4.爱存在于人的心中，是人将爱带进了彼此的关系中，将浪漫注入亲密关系。</p>
<p>5.伴侣双方都必须学习爱的艺术，养成给予、奉献、赞美、相互支持的习惯，让盒子永远是满的。</p>','2024-03-23 15:12:31.354','2024-03-23 15:12:31.354',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:12:31.353',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76b539ab-feee-463a-a2d0-832a15cef364','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','3206e8eb-d93a-41b1-a66f-b1c117a68838','<p>Commitment+Communication+ character+companionship</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-23 15:21:27.057','2024-03-23 15:21:27.057',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:21:27.056',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de8434e2-0560-4a7f-b75e-fb28c14bb2b3','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>婚姻是个空盒子，要幸福就要里面放东西。不是一开始就满满的</p>','2024-03-23 15:24:10.621','2024-03-23 15:24:10.621',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:24:10.62',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9eaa9384-9cb4-4a62-a456-a15d372c5859','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>婚姻关系需要双方的 承诺、品格、沟通、陪伴 加上浪漫注入亲密关系、学习爱的艺术、养成给予、奉献、赞美、互相支持的习惯；从此会过上幸福的生活 ！</p>','2024-03-23 15:25:42.978','2024-03-23 15:25:46.03',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:25:46.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('767b73fc-0b41-4d3d-afc0-686bd38e33b1','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>在独立自主的三个习惯中 打造承诺与品格</p>
<p>在相互依赖的三个习惯中 打造沟通</p>
<p>最后不断更新，就是感情中不变的陪伴</p>','2024-03-23 15:29:46.84','2024-03-23 15:29:46.84',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:29:46.839',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('18a0a059-4eb8-433f-96db-52cec806b980','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','22fd98b7-ee5c-4320-84ca-4235d5088261','<p>伴侣双方都必须学习爱的艺术，养成给予、奉献、赞美、相互支持的习惯。</p>','2024-03-23 15:39:14.199','2024-03-23 15:39:14.199',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:39:14.199',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d9018a99-fea2-4161-9111-3cf76a019b75','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','51d2b0ec-c275-4372-b27e-2aefff3833d3','<div class="flex flex-row justify-between gap-2">
<div class="flex flex-row gap-2 mb-2">&nbsp;</div>
</div>
<div class="text-xs sm:text-sm">
<p>这四个C :承诺（commitment）,品格（character）, 沟通（communication）, 陪伴（companionship）对于建立幸福家庭太重要了！</p>
</div>','2024-03-23 15:43:48.688','2024-03-23 15:43:48.688',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:43:48.687',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47f10d4b-9740-4d0e-ab99-15c9f9a2cfe7','55bb1f2c-dabe-4922-9b9c-75f0a244fab5','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>自己在環境中扮演什麼角色？</p>
<p>這些角色看見自己了嗎？</p>
<p>記得大兒子出世後7個月 內人就飛到沙地阿拉伯當護士。本來打算幹兩年 結果一年後回來。</p>
<p>回來後才發現她患了憂鬱症。</p>
<p>這件事情讓我很早就做了很不容易的功課。</p>
<p>當時家裏沒人患上憂鬱症 也不知道如何下手。 在父母陪伴下 我們去了很多間廟宇求神拜佛。</p>
<p>當時的社會角色就是丈夫和父母的兒子。唯有聽從安排 這裏看看 那裏跑跑 目的只有一個 ： 讓內人快點好起來。</p>
<p>當時外在環境都讓我們跑跑廟宇、看看心理醫生、吃吃藥、複診時不同醫生問重覆的問題，但病情根本沒好轉。</p>
<p>幾個月後 我跪在地上 望著老天問道 ： 老天啊老天 您給我的功課太不容易啊 請教我怎樣做！</p>
<p>過程裏就一心一意要怎麼做就好了。</p>
<p>後來接觸知見心理學 陪伴內人上課兩年 才慢慢痊癒 並找到問題根源 自己也意外收穫 陪伴過程中發覺自己、發現自己的內心需求。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-04-27 15:42:18.856','2024-04-29 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-04-29 00:00:00.016','2024-04-29 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>所以, 如何让别人愿意接受自己是个挑战, 除了衣冠楚楚, 更要谈吐有纹有路, 说话有条理。</p>','2024-04-30 15:16:05.497','2024-05-01 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e8dfb081-f5af-4bc4-8b1d-fc44e9964ceb','aa24c61c-97f9-4bab-afb2-e89635068a60','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>人際互動裏是一場遊戲。</p>
<p>真心誠意的互動裏 迫與需求與期待之間取得平衡。因此遊戲出現。遊戲間滿足了需求 彌補了匱乏 並完成了角色期待 這時人才開始真心誠意相處。</p>
<p>另外，人也在過去的&ldquo;心像&rdquo;中成長的。期間在腦海裡塑造了密碼，過程中隱藏射內在需求&nbsp; 不必通過直接表達 卻間接反映在環境裏，並投射在別人身上。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-04-29 01:28:02.616','2024-05-01 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d48b78cb-0175-4656-95eb-8563c54a1dd7','aa24c61c-97f9-4bab-afb2-e89635068a60','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>满足自己的需求，匮乏感才不至于太重。完成角色期待，才能与人相处。穿插在这两面里，把戏玩多了，就让人失去自我觉察力，&ldquo;我&rdquo;到底是谁？到底是什么动力让这把戏继续玩下去？</p>
<p>过去的经验、甚至是碎片的经验都可能是自己促成自己的喜好的密码。那，不一定是真实的，只是自己一厢情愿的投射。他，应该是这样啦！</p>
<p>投射最可怕的是以偏概全、让人失去好奇心，还形成人与人之间的沟通基础。基础，不对，沟通就不容易。</p>','2024-04-29 02:05:55.396','2024-05-01 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB;">【觉察与辨识】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">在人际互动中，觉察与辨识自己的「互动模式」与人我的「心理界限」，才能逐渐体察自己最踏实的心理动力&mdash;&mdash;真心诚意。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB;">［人际互动的游戏］</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">需求与期待，是生存的兩大要件。为求平衡需求与期待，人不得不玩起人际互动游戏。但是，把戏玩久了，有时候反而让我们失去省察自己的空间，耽溺其中而不自知。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB;">投射</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">投射是每个人的成长过程中所积累的「心像」或密码，隠射著我们的內在需求。我们通常並不直接表达，而是间接地反映在环境中。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">把自己的密码，投射到对方身上去，然后，你就开始藉著这个密码，开始与对方互动，这就是投射。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">过去的经验使你对于某一类型、某些行为举止、某种理念的人的判读是负向的，你讨厌这样的人，或者是害怕这样的人，所以有些人你看著顺眼，有些人看著就是不顺眼，甚至不必和他有任何过节，只是透过密码的判读，便将自己內在需求投射到別人身上，而产生种种印象。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB;">投射容易导致以偏概全的现象。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB;">投射再加上附加的渲染，常常会使我们做出偏差的判读。</span></p>','2024-04-30 05:08:15.241','2024-05-01 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p>它也成功说服供应商，打破行业的传统规则，这就是创新者所应该具备的心态。</p>
<p>强大的供应链是内部的营销和商业模式，对外将产品做到极致却是态度和质量，这二者结合就是难以超越的高度。</p>','2024-05-05 12:59:08.59','2024-05-05 12:59:08.59',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 12:59:08.589',NULL,NULL);
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<p>个人消费，私人制定已经是大趋势。</p>','2024-04-21 00:54:33.744','2024-05-01 02:57:09.123',NULL,'f','2024-05-01 00:00:00.022','2024-05-01 02:57:09.122',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca0682a9-142b-4afe-a048-e9d10729eeb3','85eb84a6-4216-42a8-8815-062280c26244','9ad474ed-c3a5-481d-83bd-0e50c36395be','<p>提到&ldquo;控制&rdquo;，尤其在第一段，我馬上聯想到我的經歷。我的另一半跟我說過我很容易煩躁，當人事物並不如我想像地發生，但近期稍微進步了。進步的過程一定離不開學佛的過程，而在這過程中不難發現&ldquo;覺察&rdquo;真的太重要了。<br>首先，我們先理解為何會出現&ldquo;控制&rdquo;？一切都是為了滿足需求，滿足一些我們未能完成的事而把這&ldquo;控制&rdquo;轉移在別人身上，瞎操心而&ldquo;控制&rdquo;，但宇宙的真理是學會放手方能得到更多。之前的投射和今天的控制都是我們生命中很重要的覺察。最後沿用我很喜歡的一句話-我們很幸運因為接觸佛教而懂得覺察，因為好多好多人可能到離開的那一刻都不知道自己來到這世界是為了什麼，只因沒有&ldquo;覺察力&rdquo;</p>','2024-05-03 05:38:24.901','2024-05-03 05:38:24.901',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-03 05:38:24.9',NULL,NULL);
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<p><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">陪伴往往是我与丈夫被忽略的，因为时常会说忙，累，等一下，下一次吧。</span></p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">现在回想我与丈夫的盒子里好像只有结婚证书与孩子的报身纸，然后没有了🤭需要慢慢再放一些东西进去。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-23 15:55:17.126','2024-03-23 15:55:17.126',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:55:17.125',NULL,NULL);
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<p><span style="color: rgb(77, 77, 77); font-family: ''Microsoft JhengHei'', sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">项目沟通要 : Clear, Concise, Correct, Complete</span></p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(77, 77, 77); font-family: ''Microsoft JhengHei'', sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">向上沟通要 : Clarity, Communication, Competence, Consistency</span></p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(77, 77, 77); font-family: ''Microsoft JhengHei'', sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">市场营销要 : Customer, Cost, Conveniece, Communication</span></p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(77, 77, 77); font-family: ''Microsoft JhengHei'', sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">伴侣沟通要 : Commitment, Character, Communication, Companionship</span></p>','2024-03-23 15:58:54.512','2024-03-23 15:58:54.512',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:58:54.511',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48d61f07-33e7-484b-abd0-4fb18fd8bd16','94c1c259-004f-44cd-8bb0-73bb5bc50019','3b1e2774-4dc4-48a1-b539-f060e2dc9a5a','<p>期待常常牵动着我们的需求，也因为如此，常常在表面上完成了角色期待，事实上，同时也是为了自己内在需求的满足</p>','2024-04-27 15:54:01.514','2024-04-27 15:54:02.615',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-27 15:54:02.615',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e99a6784-409d-488f-82ad-73f22b53e296','4f859b76-6d9f-44d0-b53a-83d182a50515','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>持續的關係裏 人們的溝通與互動 究竟想要完成什麼？</p>
<p>因為出現不平衡時 人們需要溝通與互動 以找出問題根源。</p>
<p>探索自己與人互動模式, 模式中察覺自己的風格、特質、價值觀，並完成了自己。這過程就是尋找那個根源。</p>
<p>一旦確定根源後 往後與人互動和溝通時 即便出現問題 也可迅速根源上找真相 深入明白自己的處境和狀態 並做出改變、調整，問題自然迎刃而解。過程或許促進自我實現和創新。</p>','2024-04-27 15:51:33.145','2024-04-27 15:51:33.145',NULL,'f','2024-04-29 16:00:00','2024-04-30 00:00:00',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('890636e3-6135-402f-aa62-a7f46b1e9bc3','0b19c312-8bb6-4c3a-96f2-3b51a708361a','9ad474ed-c3a5-481d-83bd-0e50c36395be','<p>跟外面的人比不是我要的，跟自己比我對我的要求，但如何界定自己的要求因為這要求通常也是從社會訂下的規則去定下來的，這或許就是&ldquo;格局&rdquo;。<br>作者提及的人如果沒有感覺比較好過是最近我發現自己狀態的例子，所以正在稍為調整自己的&ldquo;狼性&rdquo;，而這個覺察但靠我自己並無法覺察，必須和比我厲害很多的人在一塊才能發現。寫到這裡確實有趣，因為又和&ldquo;人這一生就是在捉一個平衡&rdquo;有關。</p>','2024-05-03 05:57:13.751','2024-05-04 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2024-05-04 00:00:00.017','2024-05-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('912492f0-cd6b-4bf7-823c-a22ee730c1bd','e2c67c04-78bd-4fac-9c8c-c7331d5a76d4','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">通常人在人际关系中并不会认错，都会认为自己的受害者，这其实是在保护自己的生存位置，而且是要求别人来为自己的生存位置负责任。然而，这样做会导致我们丧失让自己去接触自己内在需求的机会，心中的渴望依然还在，得不到半点滋润，内心的不安全感就会延伸出许多让自己和别人烦恼不断的人际关系，而且是在每一回合的循环这种关系。</span></p>','2024-05-05 13:24:41.864','2024-05-07 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-05-07 00:00:00.022','2024-05-07 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1a2596f0-f832-482b-a776-fd72ce40eca9','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>Pg 98 - 104</p>
<p>【自在沟通】</p>
<p>神经质的需求</p>
<p>成长过程，有些需求特别匮乏，常会在往后人际互动上面，或缺与习性会形成强迫症性的思考与行为。</p>
<p>缺爱、缺安全感、缺归属感，更难的是价缺值感。当这些需求面临挑战，内在的不安造成表面行为焦虑、紧张，?也让感谢紧张。</p>
<p>被看到 、被重视 、被爱的需求 ，自己需要看到和认识自己。</p>
<p>神经质的需求与表现。</p>','2024-05-05 13:11:49.491','2024-05-05 13:11:49.491',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 13:11:49.49',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cfe7b8ea-bace-4722-a8e0-36cd92a7dbf4','8fd34a48-72d7-4555-bcea-2d7cfcb866ea','3a42aa28-3889-4912-98ad-aaffef98795a','<p>强大的供应链是内部营销和商业模式，把产品质量和态度做到极致，二者结合就是别人无法超越的高度</p>','2024-05-05 13:20:43.177','2024-05-05 13:20:45.303',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 13:20:45.303',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9dbf39d7-4d06-4839-a965-1464266e6a1f','c064c26a-b279-4865-b8d0-921184527206','224ada56-b4c4-4cee-9baf-0badc4b884c6','<p>数据赋能、坪效革命、短路经济，从系统思维的角度，解构系统、优化组合，并获得新的增长动力</p>','2024-10-04 13:42:19.834','2024-10-07 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-10-07 00:00:00.023','2024-10-07 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('72bf85eb-1096-4675-b142-cdc7b875d048','68f48d35-0eaa-4eaa-8d01-bd68c83c837d','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>每个人都可以从自己与外界的互动形态里找到自己的人际关系里所用的模式。从这模式中又能看见一个人的特质和风格。只要这个模式是平衡的，那是不会带来太大困扰或伤害的。</p>
<p>那证明内在并没有什么是卡着的，反之就能从这模式中去发掘真正的原因。学会回看这个模式是破局而出的前置条件。</p>','2024-05-08 15:45:38.523','2024-05-08 15:45:38.523',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-08 15:45:38.522',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('53043cd9-5105-4a29-9e50-7dcd799fd1d3','5c1cfeba-8848-43c9-ba62-54e3b8788362','3b1e2774-4dc4-48a1-b539-f060e2dc9a5a','<p>确实现如今很多企业都有销售众包。可以提供想要创业但又没有太多资金的人一平台。除了可以增加社会贡献，又可以让对方感觉这是自己的事业，增加积极性，没有高低分。也因为人人都可做，所以省去中间商的成本，给到更多的利润空间</p>','2024-05-09 14:22:00.018','2024-05-09 14:22:00.018',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-09 14:22:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7bc922b-c4af-41a5-87e2-8df1dad63680','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>3月23、Day 12&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">第二部分 打造高效能沟通文化（</span>Page 052-055<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">四个家庭高效能关系习惯：承诺、品格、沟通、陪伴。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">每一个习惯都有彼此的连贯性。看似简单的关键工具，可是对于建立一个美满家庭而言却是紧密相关的习惯。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-23 15:50:08.753','2024-03-23 15:50:08.753',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:50:08.752',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5db764c5-5c86-4b27-b923-5b22c78c86e4','66906dae-363c-48d8-b338-d788ecbf411e','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>今天讲述有一个心理学家玛丽.皮费作品里的爱的故事 *&ldquo;暴风雨中的避风港&rdquo;* &nbsp; 一对夫妻患难见真情，冒着生命危险去拯救对方。<br>改变从自己开始至关重要。</p>','2024-03-23 15:51:31.604','2024-03-23 15:51:31.604',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-23 15:51:31.604',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f1590196-16ac-418c-a508-8a7f4d6debb9','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 61.45pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">夫妻互相拯救的故事刻画出婚姻承诺能在面对危机时发挥出来，让在逆境中依然能点燃希望坚持下去。优质的婚姻生活并不是结合零缺点的两人，而是让各有缺陷的两人互相护持，包容对方。人人都有其优缺点，若一昧放大缺点而忽视其优点，婚姻的道路就会走得很坎坷；相反的，若表扬其优点而包容其缺点，婚姻之路就会越走越宽。而高效能沟通能产生正面的沟通文化。</span></p>','2024-03-20 06:54:55.555','2024-03-24 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c62ea24-2a7a-416b-b488-56837f1523bd','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','e96fbd10-e6c3-4991-a72d-f1f7e5d01ae1','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">有效的沟通往往开始于以终为始，当你知道你的最终目标，你就不会摇摆不定。而有效的沟通就会造就信任和双赢。</span></p>','2024-03-23 00:46:51.446','2024-03-24 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f7699f8-2aeb-4e1e-9dff-f25d613bdfed','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','e07bac56-1aef-4097-818b-b564daf1eb54','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">婚姻关系里的7个习惯应用思维：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">积极主动：保持镇定，主动道歉</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以终为始（先定目标后行动）：</span><span class="s1">双方的目标明确</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要事第一：腾出时间留给对方</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">双赢思维：尊重对方的需求</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">知彼解己（先理解别人，再争取别人的理解）：相互聆听</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">统合综效：重视对方的长处</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不断更新：实践，学习，享受乐趣</span></p>','2024-03-23 02:22:27.687','2024-03-24 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8fd0ee4c-c625-4bb9-984b-21c8dd200b66','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>24/3/24 &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br>Day 13 &nbsp;📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</p>
<p>信守承诺，彰显品格（Page 056-061）</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>习惯一：选择、责任与主动性<br>习惯二：愿景、目标、承诺与意义<br>习惯三：专注、分清轻重缓急、自律与正直<br>习惯四：勇气、关怀与互惠互利习惯五：相互理解、移情与信任习惯六：创造力、合作、多元化与谦逊<br>习惯七：更新、持续改进与平衡</p>','2024-03-23 02:23:43.02','2024-03-24 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('947eb557-7f38-462d-a005-0be98c22c7c9','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','8395724b-02ac-4925-bdb8-716d4709835a','<p>无论是顺境逆境，都需要信守承诺，彰显品格，而品格是由习惯一，二，三所塑造的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-23 10:06:17.668','2024-03-24 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('79508d1b-c210-422f-bee8-cf273b6daf1d','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>各个成员都在位子上做各自该做的事</p>
<p>眼睛多往好处与善良看</p>
<p>不要一味质疑彼此的存在</p>','2024-03-23 15:36:32.678','2024-03-24 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014','2024-03-24 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a9ead29-a28f-400e-a6c8-b1789ae66c4b','1dceddaf-bfd7-4284-bda9-0489b5a9f929','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>众筹模式 ，融资的方式，来自认识或不认识的人。</p>
<ol>
<li>公益众筹</li>
<li>回报众筹</li>
<li>股权众筹</li>
</ol>','2024-05-08 15:46:34.747','2024-05-08 15:46:34.747',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-08 15:46:34.746',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f2e38629-0acd-4f79-8350-343c38d62970','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','26458796-5d5f-468a-ac5f-69a3a6e55885','<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">Day-</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">13</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;"> p</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">56-61</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">【</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB;">信守承诺，彰显品格</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">美满的婚姻意味着，无论是在顺境还是逆境，都需要信守承诺，也需要彰显品格。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">营造美满的婚姻，沒有即刻见效的</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">创可贴</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&rdquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">，而是你需要以全新的方式看待自己和伴侣，並且做出新的承诺。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">伴侣双方需要建构良善且有效的沟通文化。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">我们可以通过七个习惯，建构优质的婚姻关系。</span></p>','2024-03-24 00:56:02.456','2024-03-24 00:56:02.456',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 00:56:02.455',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a216750-4c0e-4369-a4ca-7eeed65d6d98','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','21ceaf5e-b3bc-4932-9668-8bba1ac69420','<p>美满的婚姻，需要信守承诺，彰显品格。夫妻之间互相尊重，通过七个习惯先让自己做出改变，美满的婚姻生活必能达成。</p>','2024-03-24 01:12:34.122','2024-03-24 01:12:34.122',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 01:12:34.121',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2752dafe-e5a0-48ac-b232-911e8ca5171f','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','b4b15dc1-1ce2-4a8f-92da-fdcadf99c95d','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">能够作为夫妻就是两个不同家庭的人一起组织一个家庭，就算平时有口角或意见不合，但只要遇上困难都会愿意为对方而付出甚至自己的生命的人。 </span></p>','2024-03-24 01:31:30.809','2024-03-24 01:31:30.809',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 01:31:30.809',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34ce9b45-2c46-4c40-af25-a254131e9fa6','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>婚姻需要信守承诺和彰显品格。平时需要努力建立深厚的关系"资产"，让彼此在艰难时刻才有雄厚的资本可以吸取安然渡过。</p>
<p>没有持续相互承诺&amp;尊敬的爱情,婚姻就如建在沙層上的大厦,隨时倒塌。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 01:44:33.056','2024-03-24 01:44:33.056',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 01:44:33.055',NULL,NULL);
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<p>信守承诺，彰显品格（Page 056-061）</p>
<p>24Mar2024, 09.45am</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>从妻子掉入瀑布的故事中，两个灵魂的互相扶持，给予希望，是很重要。john提到沟通文化中，以终为始、要事第一这两点沟通文化比较弱，其他的都正在练习中。个人比较随性，那么呢接下来为了更好的人际关系，更改是必须的。调整好思维和行为方式。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 02:00:18.898','2024-03-24 02:00:18.898',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 02:00:18.897',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db9a88c5-4019-49f3-8c0d-bb2481dc57d7','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','a79358bf-a0d8-49f2-be81-0ba66e697353','<p>两个各不完美的人，只要愿意做出改变就可以挽救感情。改变从我开始。</p>','2024-03-24 03:48:45.346','2024-03-24 03:48:45.346',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 03:48:45.345',NULL,NULL);
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<p>先讓自己成為一個擁有正確人格的人。</p>','2024-03-24 03:51:25.046','2024-03-24 03:51:25.046',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 03:51:25.046',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f4ad5ea2-11f5-4880-920a-bfae1df929c8','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','0a08fea5-5f22-4ee8-a6b0-7c46e27899cf','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 13&nbsp;&nbsp;📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">信守承诺，彰显品格（</span>Page 056-061<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：<br><br></span>伴侣双方的习惯加起来，就形成了沟通文化。以下是高效能沟通的七个习惯：<br><br>习惯一：<strong>积极主动</strong> = 保持镇定，主动道歉。<br>习惯二：<strong>以终为始</strong> = 目标明确 （先定目标后行动）<br>习惯三：<strong>要事第一</strong> = 腾出时间留给对方<br>习惯四：<strong>双赢思维</strong> = 尊重对方需求<br>习惯五：<strong>知彼解己</strong> = 相互聆听 （先理解别人，再争取别人的理解）<br>习惯六：<strong>统合综效</strong> = 重视对方的长处<br>习惯七：<strong>不断更新</strong> = 实践，学习，享受乐趣</p>','2024-03-24 04:06:58.149','2024-03-24 04:06:58.149',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 04:06:58.148',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30b0b874-2481-4b5e-a21c-bb94a32c7436','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">美满的婚姻意味着，无论是在顺境还是逆境，都需要信守承诺，也需要彰显品格。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">暴风雨中的避风港 Shelter From the Storm</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">丈夫在家庭成员遇到危机时，不顾一切就冲去挽救他的妻子。他的妻子在丈夫希望渐渐消失以及他打算放弃时，劝说丈夫坚持下去。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">两个各有缺陷的人如何走到一起。尽管对很多小事乃至某些大事持有不同意见，他们还是会去拯救对方。这本书适合那些本身并不完美，但愿意为乐挽救婚姻步入激流的人阅读。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不同的沟通文化差异</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">消极被动：乱发脾气，责怪别人</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">VS </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">积极主动：保持镇定，主动道歉</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不定目标就行动：毫无计划，缺乏目标</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">VS</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以终为始（先定目标后行动）：目标明确</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不重要的事先做：忙得没时间关注对方</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">VS</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要事第一：腾出时间留给对方</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">非赢即输：持续竞争对抗，与对方做比较</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">VS</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">双赢思维：尊重对方的需求</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">先寻求别人的理解：假装聆听，打断对方</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">VS</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">知彼解己（先理解别人，再争取别人的理解）：相互聆听</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">贬低对方的长处：只关注对方的短处</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">VS</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">统合综效：重视对方的长处</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">过着不平衡的生活：倦怠，停止学习</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">VS</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不断更新：实践，学习，享受乐趣</span></p>','2024-03-24 04:36:24.47','2024-03-24 04:36:24.47',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 04:36:24.469',NULL,NULL);
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<h2>改变从自己开始！</h2>','2024-03-24 06:15:15.424','2024-03-24 06:15:15.424',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 06:15:15.423',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f85f0490-318f-41c7-a874-75cd24d52153','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','8bb5395b-4a7f-4ea4-b0c6-90efaa21de5d','<p><br>信守承诺、彰显品格🫡无论顺境还是逆境。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 07:04:15.415','2024-03-24 07:04:15.415',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 07:04:15.414',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c149687-57a7-4f01-9f0b-8be049484f74','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','51d2b0ec-c275-4372-b27e-2aefff3833d3','<p>沟通方式有很多种，鉴于双方认同最高效的方式，并且带来是正面的感受，才能建立彼此间的沟通文化。</p>','2024-03-24 07:34:23.256','2024-03-24 07:34:23.256',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 07:34:23.256',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e0267864-6c88-49ca-8843-f1185141bdb4','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>夫妻本是同林鸟，遇到灾难时是否会各自飞呢？这就要看各自是否愿意去挽救这段婚姻。</p>
<p>伴侣双方的习惯加起来就形成了沟通文化。要正面还是负面的的沟通文化有赖与两方面的包容和忍让。</p>','2024-03-24 08:11:24.51','2024-03-24 08:11:24.51',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 08:11:24.509',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('18872246-d7e7-428a-8ab2-ab2da3e594b1','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','9070d9da-6428-4328-8983-4c4a65d0a468','<p>故事让我重新思考了在婚姻里的角色和我的付出够不够。我觉得婚姻就像一场终身的旅程，需要两个人一起努力来维系。我相信，通过培养良好的习惯和信守承诺，能够建立起更好的沟通方式，让关系更加牢固。不管是顺境还是逆境，学习坚守承诺，展现出积极的品格。努力在日常生活中加强夫妻之间的纽带，以度过生活中的各种挑战。</p>','2024-03-24 08:16:55.306','2024-03-24 08:16:55.306',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 08:16:55.306',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a73a3711-ea11-4a2b-a01d-689b6b6bd866','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>勉强没有幸福，承诺是会随时间改变的。良好的沟通是重要的</p>','2024-03-24 08:24:25.225','2024-03-24 08:24:25.225',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 08:24:25.224',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9edc815-7432-4632-9862-eb8f04638ee6','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','7448fec0-0a1b-4d55-b6ab-493cfa3c30e6','<p>美满的婚姻意味着，无论是在顺境还是逆境，都需要信守承诺，也需要彰显品格</p>','2024-03-24 09:32:13.136','2024-03-24 09:32:13.136',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 09:32:13.135',NULL,NULL);
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<p>家也不例外，它们需要：一.主动积极，二.以终为始，三要事第一，四.双赢思维，五.知彼解己，六.统合综效，七.不断更新等因素来维持和圆满。</p>','2024-03-24 09:34:06.004','2024-03-24 09:34:06.004',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 09:34:06.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08f4eaab-da17-4b5f-8be6-6cd541c0f1de','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 13 &nbsp;3月 24日 (星期日）📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">信守承诺，彰显品格（Page 056-061）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 伴侣双方的习惯加起来，就形成了沟通文化。将心比心，你希望怎么样的伴侣，自己先去改变。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<table class="t1" style="width: 39.4416%;" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0">
<tbody>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 56.1773%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">第一种沟通文化</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 43.7718%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">第二种沟通文化</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 56.1773%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">消极被动：乱发脾气，责怪别人</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 43.7718%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">积极主动：保持镇定，主动道歉</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 56.1773%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">不定目标就行动：毫无计划，缺乏目标</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 43.7718%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">以终为始（先定目标后行动）：</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">目标明确</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 56.1773%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">不重要的事先做：忙得没时间关</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">注对方</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 43.7718%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">要事第一：腾出时间留给对方</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 56.1773%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">非赢即输：持续竞争对抗，与对方做比较</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 43.7718%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">双赢思维：尊重对方的需求</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<table class="t1" style="width: 47.5504%;" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0">
<tbody>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 46.7407%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">第一种沟通文化</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 53.3833%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">第二种沟通文化</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 46.7407%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">先寻求别人的理解：假装聆听，打断对方</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 53.3833%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">知彼解已（先理解别人，再争取别人的理解）：相互聆听</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 46.7407%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">贬低对方的长处：只关注对方的短处</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 53.3833%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">统合综效：重视对方的长处</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="td1" style="width: 46.7407%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">过着不平衡的生活：倦怠，停止学习</span></p>
</td>
<td class="td1" style="width: 53.3833%;" valign="top">
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">不断更新：实践，学习，享受乐趣</span></p>
</td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>','2024-03-24 09:29:03.095','2024-03-24 09:35:03.775',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 09:35:03.774',NULL,NULL);
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<p>低成本，灵活性，资源多。</p>','2024-05-08 23:02:43.35','2024-05-08 23:02:43.35',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-08 23:02:43.35',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('55ee8c86-e62e-498d-a1a6-1f5779eab4d5','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','ed3ffa0b-ef52-4bb7-963c-af5eab78e245','<p>如果你想让生活略有改变，请调整你的行为方式。如果你想做出极大的突破，请调整你的思维模式！</p>
<p>共勉之。</p>','2024-03-24 09:43:37.445','2024-03-24 09:43:37.445',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 09:43:37.445',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c28b347d-ba46-482c-ad23-e17c47b33a55','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>无论顺境或逆境，夫妻都应该坚守承诺，站在彼此的身边，为彼此加油。</p>','2024-03-24 09:55:06.854','2024-03-24 09:55:06.854',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 09:55:06.853',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4189f73f-2bf3-4efd-bd14-454b82c418ff','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','3bf587cc-973a-43cd-bcac-64b112cd922c','<p>伴侣双方的习惯加起来，就形成了沟通文化. 第二种沟通文化可以带来是正面的感受，包容和忍让。<br>坚守承诺，彰显品格，无论顺境还是逆境。</p>','2024-03-24 10:59:24.631','2024-03-24 10:59:24.631',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 10:59:24.631',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('63f7281c-6523-4c6e-ad91-e099ca34afad','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','95959ea7-8fcc-4004-8564-5a6ec84f4fee','<p>高效能沟通文化：</p>
<ul>
<li>积极主动：保持镇定，错了主动道歉。</li>
<li>以终为始：先定目标后行动。</li>
<li>要事第一：腾出时间留给对方。</li>
<li>双赢思维：尊重需求。</li>
<li>知彼解己：相互聆听和理解。</li>
<li>统合綜效：重视对方的长处。</li>
<li>不断更新：学习，实践，享受乐趣。</li>
</ul>','2024-03-24 14:43:56.032','2024-03-24 14:43:56.032',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:43:56.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9be16f60-6741-4e3a-9cdd-983cef475cde','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','231fd760-abc8-4338-8180-cbe1d8796d39','<p>第十三天：</p>
<p>沟通是双向的，而不是像书里说的那么死板，更多的时候是看感性和理性之间的矛盾关系。</p>
<p>理性探讨道理，感性探讨人格。</p>
<p>理性的我们，感性的我们，在面对问题都有不一样的反应</p>','2024-03-24 14:44:20.968','2024-03-24 14:44:20.968',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:44:20.967',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a3e59c6-f853-4a51-b2aa-0f06e040b9ac','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','b3ab7f77-68a3-4270-b3a3-05b9c158dccd','<p>相爱的两个人即便经常发生摩擦，但在生命面前爱能抵万难</p>','2024-03-24 14:44:23.215','2024-03-24 14:44:23.215',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:44:23.214',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b606e759-7884-4a94-8211-795b5fa36564','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','ed3ffa0b-ef52-4bb7-963c-af5eab78e245','<p>积极主动能带来的结果：</p>
<p>相互尊重</p>
<p>相互欣赏</p>
<p>充满耐心</p>
<p>持久的关系</p>
<p>建立信任</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 09:39:07.528','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ab789ac-f2bf-49d3-a6ff-a1f364dee7c6','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','ed3ffa0b-ef52-4bb7-963c-af5eab78e245','<p>关注自己能够影响的事物，而且我们都有选择的自由。要学习暂停，思考和选择。。。</p>','2024-03-24 09:37:13.205','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('13199830-d22a-46f0-a9c3-ca8160455659','6fb83da7-c822-434b-8d1e-d61c39a2db27','ed3ffa0b-ef52-4bb7-963c-af5eab78e245','<p>为未来设想一个蓝图，指定好飞行计划，我们都是驾驶员，不是乘客。我们可以一起前往我们要前往的方向。。。</p>','2024-03-24 09:35:21.527','2024-03-28 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1d1c7bc-96b1-4402-ab19-8b9d325428c7','b0443c7e-d99f-4b82-8b68-45d77c231c92','ed3ffa0b-ef52-4bb7-963c-af5eab78e245','<p>在生活和婚姻中寻找什么最重要，去应对不可调和的差异，维系好关系。。。。</p>','2024-03-24 09:32:17.282','2024-03-29 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('735e94e1-2d55-40d0-8ee2-b52dc4311eb2','f8b26573-00bf-4de8-ad25-5b7fd2ba3734','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>Why is it so hard for different races in the country to get along? What can be done to improve it?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Probably, there isn''t much we can do. It''s a sad assessment, but I think it''s true.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>The main reason is that one party has been insistent on "what''s theirs" and demands full respect for their "sensitivities" and concessions from others, without even reciprocating.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>It''s a sad state of affairs, but really, there isn''t much we can do. Now I begin to see why people are just walking away. The thought that you are a second-class citizen in your own country is hard to swallow, though you shouldn''t really be surprised.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>On the bright side, Malaysians are generally nice people regardless of race and religion. Therefore, in daily working relationships, we can still achieve synergy and uplift one another. It''s just that on the macro, national level, relationships break down due to uneven power structures and the insistence on the supremacy of one single race and religion.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This also teaches us that "walking away" is actually another productive solution. If you feel that you are no longer adding value to others, or others are subtracting value from you, then just walk away. You will do just fine, and you will be happier. There''s no use in sticking in a broken, abusive relationship and being taken for granted, and whining every day.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2>Chinese Translation:</h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>为什么在这个国家，不同种族之间相处如此困难？我们能做些什么来改善这种情况呢？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>可能，真的没有太多办法。这是一个令人悲伤的评估，但我认为这是事实。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>主要原因是，一方一直坚持&ldquo;他们的东西&rdquo;，并要求完全尊重他们的&ldquo;敏感性&rdquo;，以及从他人那里获得让步，而自己却不做任何回报。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这是一个令人悲伤的局面，但真的没有太多我们能做的。现在我开始明白为什么人们选择离开，那种在自己国家被视为二等公民的感觉是难以忍受的，尽管你其实不应该感到惊讶。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不过，从积极的一面来看，马来西亚人无论种族和宗教，通常都是友好的人，因此在日常的工作关系中，我们仍然可以实现协同效应，互相支持。只是在宏观的、国家层面上，当关系因不平等的权力结构和单一种族与宗教的至高无上性而破裂时，情况就变得复杂了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这也教会我们，&ldquo;离开&rdquo;实际上是另一种有效的解决方案。如果你觉得自己不再为他人增加价值，或者他人正在从你身上减去价值，那么就离开吧。你会过得很好，也会更快乐。没有必要坚持在一个破碎、虐待的关系中，被他人视为理所当然，每天抱怨。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-03 00:23:08.167','2024-11-03 00:23:08.167',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-03 00:23:08.165',NULL,NULL);
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<p>免费商业模式有三种。</p>
<p>第一是用户暂时免费。但在后继续消费。</p>
<p>第二种是用户免费。</p>
<p>第三种是付费。虽然是免费但后续更赚第三者的钱。</p>
<p>因为企业的运作就是要利润呀。</p>','2024-04-27 22:43:08.877','2024-04-27 22:43:08.877',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-27 22:43:08.876',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('73b87476-40e4-4fad-80a2-26ab1d6e5d5e','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','76f645ae-2136-427a-a603-bc2656497f1e','<p>一个表把七个习惯的沟通文化列得很清楚。太有帮助了。</p>
<p>原则不会过时，说话前，先问问自己想要那一种沟通文化。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>补：23/3</p>
<p>4C commitment, character, communication, companionship.</p>
<p>4C 融入七个习惯，婚姻一开始的盒子，需要先注入东西，和情感账户一样。放进去的要多。</p>','2024-03-24 11:21:47.068','2024-03-24 11:25:37.966',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 11:25:37.965',NULL,NULL);
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<p>如今我會更加重視對方的長處 ，彼此了解而不是只假裝聆聽，打斷對方。勇於認錯并道歉。</p>','2024-03-24 11:34:39.262','2024-03-24 11:34:39.262',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 11:34:39.261',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76d26c39-7b59-4175-a80a-ecbb24270a56','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','c0dfea61-558e-4ab6-aa83-3a14aeab20c5','<table>
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<p class="MsoNormal">Day 13&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》 </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">信守承诺，彰显品格（</span>Page 056-061<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">改變從自身做起</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">很多時候 會覺得另外一伴 為什麼這樣</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">為什麼不可以好一些些</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">但其實懂得換位思考&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">站在對方的角度多想一下下</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">其實從自己做起 一點都不難</p>
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</tr>
</tbody>
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<p>學習從不用「我」也不用「你」，而是用我們。必須意識到對方的長處，每個人都有自己的價值和長處。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 11:39:34.152','2024-04-08 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-04-08 00:00:00.02','2024-04-08 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不斷更新裡面，不單只是需要做什麼，更需要知道什麼應該停止去做。</p>','2024-03-24 11:50:59.037','2024-04-10 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2024-04-10 00:00:00.02','2024-04-10 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a6eb5ab-2439-4316-9af8-18b5c0e2776f','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>我是我自己人生的&ldquo;驾驶员&rdquo;。我只要带着意识的去决定如何做出反应，我是为自己负责任的，我是充分运用&ldquo;自我意识&rdquo;和&ldquo;良知&rdquo;在为自己办事。积极主动，就是带着&ldquo;自我意识&rdquo; 和&ldquo;良知&rdquo;去经营关系。</p>
<p>那么，结果才会是&ldquo;相互欣赏&rdquo;、&ldquo;相互尊敬&rdquo;、充满耐心和信任的建立好关系。</p>','2024-03-24 11:24:58.5','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77722c4d-9f4c-4227-9f04-accee1189e13','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>想要怎样的家风，从自身做起。</p>
<p>与伴侣之间通过七个习惯提升沟通质量。</p>','2024-03-24 12:04:48.49','2024-03-24 12:04:48.49',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 12:04:48.489',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如何好好活著？簡單易懂的方法，就是學習培養七習慣，將其貫徹進入自己的生命。</p>','2024-03-24 12:11:17.076','2024-04-12 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-04-12 00:00:00.032','2024-04-12 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
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<li>成全别人才能成就自己。</li>
<li>&rdquo;为学日益&rdquo;学习求知是一个日积月累，不断增加的过程，但为道则不一样，它是一个相反的过程，需要去掉和减损人为的东西。</li>
<li>人的知识越多，经验越丰富，对事物的认识就越容易受到局限和误导。</li>
</ul>','2024-08-31 14:09:11.688','2024-08-31 14:09:11.688',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-08-31 14:09:11.688',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c13d358-f56e-4c09-840b-727a04dfcf44','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>认清自己在关系中的关注圈和影响圈。比较，每个人可以关注点不一样。积极主动要如何发挥在&ldquo;影响圈&rdquo;？ 答案：三个步骤：1）暂停， 2）思考，3）选择，让自己带着意识去回应。</p>
<p>最近面对孩子青春期的开始，挑战来了。经过朋友的提醒，我和孩子各自做了&ldquo;五种爱的语言&rdquo;测试。我才意识到我们彼此间有一个非常大的差别，这点是我想要改变的才能在我关注或重视的圈子里发挥我的影响圈。理解了，就带着意识去选择自己的&ldquo;反应&rdquo;。</p>','2024-03-24 11:36:02.492','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 11:50:52.809','2024-03-28 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('37c42a93-d6c4-4f3e-b190-03eb99475618','fc0756f2-ec6d-478c-b5ca-0f46ce417570','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>不管是管理親密關係還是團隊，對於統合綜效這個習慣來說，都更著重在慶祝差異，把各自的長處結合起來，互相彌補。</p>','2024-03-24 11:46:37.247','2024-04-09 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2024-04-09 00:00:00.01','2024-04-09 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('58179334-063e-4d10-8f7d-bb874486182c','9cd27e1d-22eb-403d-9319-7e9121401397','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>不會忘記要不斷過更新自己<br>為自己投入時間，精力和金錢培養自身技能</p>','2024-03-24 12:07:36.446','2024-04-11 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-04-11 00:00:00.008','2024-04-11 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b4753814-e780-4e8b-89fe-afc74ed9c5b5','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>显而易见，相信大多数人都会选择第二种沟通文化，但是否能真正地去实践又是另一回事。唯有不断地练习、不断的反省。打造高效能沟通的文化。</p>','2024-03-24 12:59:29.416','2024-03-24 12:59:29.416',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 12:59:29.415',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('06c5a17f-937c-46de-a27f-9742237721a5','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>夫妻之间的爱很伟大，可胜过任何事情。就算经历风吹雨打，有争执，但我们还是会愿意冒险自己的生命去拯救对方。而美满的爱情，是需要高效的沟通的。</p>','2024-03-24 13:27:51.997','2024-03-24 13:27:51.997',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 13:27:51.996',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7fd0dc6-53c6-4030-acd2-7d7e6891df2d','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>珍贵的婚姻是可以义无反顾地舍身去帮助对方渡过危难。<br>但我觉得这是人性。也许那个人不是自己的亲人，但基于你对生命对人的爱护，你也应该随时伸出援手。</p>','2024-03-24 13:40:24.999','2024-03-24 13:40:24.999',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 13:40:24.998',NULL,NULL);
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<p>2.确定这一切都值得后，如果不做出任何改变，你就不可能愿意为对方步入冰冷的激流。改变必须从我们自己开始！</p>
<p>注：我读完故事，我再想丈夫为什么可以丢下2个孩子，跳下水，如果2位父母都离世了，孩子岂不是成了孤儿，那不是不负责任了。后来我想作者可能是要表达1+1&gt;2的道理。当初那位丈夫不走入冰冷的河里，与妻子作伴，妻子可能一刻都坚持不了，而当丈夫要放弃时，因为妻子在旁相伴鼓励，才可以超越极限的撑下去。如果只剩一人，可能几秒也撑不下去了。这就是婚姻可贵之处。</p>','2024-03-24 14:10:56.621','2024-03-24 14:10:56.621',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:10:56.62',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('581adc95-50bb-4db4-9c13-46b542fc3f38','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','c8975ff9-0a95-454a-bf3d-2162bf88cbf2','<p>一个故事教会了我，两个人在一起需要相互/彼此关心及鼓励。&nbsp;</p>
<p>高效能沟通的图表清晰的写出了两种不同的沟通方式。我很多时候用着第一种方法，却希望另一半用第二种方法跟我沟通。今天开始要做出改变。</p>','2024-03-24 14:26:44.719','2024-03-24 14:26:44.719',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:26:44.718',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b122e084-c20b-448c-a337-749946605e0e','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','05f5d501-df25-49f3-aa1f-7cfbf23ae03b','<p>今天，要细品柯维的一句话 &ldquo;如果你想让生活略有改变，请调整你的行为方式。如果你想做出极为重大的突破，请调整你的思维模式&rdquo; 共勉之😊</p>','2024-03-24 14:28:22.855','2024-03-24 14:29:12.91',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:29:12.91',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('914c7cf2-c340-4eed-8c81-bf37faeb3910','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>3月24、Day 13&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">信守承诺，彰显品格（</span>Page 056-061<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：改变从你开始！！</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">要能够快速打造高效能沟通模式 ，就不要寄望这个改变是别人先开始。而是自己拿起主动权自己先开始。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">再次重点摘要：1.积极主动 2.以终为始 3.要事第一 4. 双赢思维 5.知彼解己 6.统合综效 7.不断更新</p>','2024-03-24 14:34:54.218','2024-03-24 14:34:54.218',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:34:54.217',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e0de0240-b348-45b4-a2cd-5142488ae240','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','138265fe-95ad-4ebc-b601-e7cbf4fd9f27','<p>沟通文化在夫妻间婚姻中扮演非常重要的角色。练习和掌握七个习惯，这是可行的。改变都从自己开始。</p>','2024-03-24 14:39:48.909','2024-03-24 14:39:48.909',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:39:48.908',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d1b442b-4533-4d83-bd75-7a9f397ba8ea','37c68d39-2100-4d9b-ae84-d5f4fcb1fefe','0db9794b-e918-4a5c-ac80-d0903eaa4963','<p>体验式营销模式使灵动性受到关注。它的威力在于使客户以个性化的方式参与其中，通过体验对品牌产生情感寄托，从而成为品牌的忠诚客户。产品是有形的，服务是无形的，而创造出来的体验是令人难忘的，这就是体验式营销模式嘅力量。</p>','2024-04-27 23:53:02.629','2024-04-29 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-04-29 00:00:00.016','2024-04-29 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>要维系一段好的关系，是需要双方的共同承诺，各自必须先往空盒子投入东西，才可以从盒子中取出东西，然后共同创造新东西让盒子保持常满的状态。</p>','2024-03-24 14:41:40.708','2024-03-24 14:41:40.708',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:41:40.707',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de980793-b0be-4412-845a-b1bb26450b4b','b0443c7e-d99f-4b82-8b68-45d77c231c92','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>婚姻的蓝图：彼此弄明白&ldquo;最重要的是什么？&rdquo;，从差异中共同去创造第三条道路。婚姻，是人生的创造之作。</p>','2024-03-24 13:18:01.649','2024-03-29 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e90578f-188d-4769-b675-85cd29326918','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果在成长的过程中，某一个部分的需求特别匮乏，就常会在往后的人际互动上面，像一个无底洞，不停的玩游戏来填补那个洞，可是怎么补都没有充实的样子，这就是「神经质的需求」。「神经质的需求」希望借着控制和操弄来完成心理的满足，但由于关键在自己身上，而且外在</span><span class="s1">环境不受自己控制，于是挫折的几率就更大了。</span></p>','2024-05-05 13:18:30.379','2024-05-05 13:18:30.379',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 13:18:30.378',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa681538-e0e7-443c-bfdc-66679a73f9b2','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','e6d1c881-f99f-4343-9565-634878262b80','<p>认同史蒂芬柯维提倡的七个习惯。这个原则让我们可以在与伴侣，家人及事业上克服许多障碍。</p>','2024-03-24 14:52:55.032','2024-03-24 14:52:55.032',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:52:55.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91f03f11-d1a7-4573-91a9-4cf60bd43b57','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','3a0fa86c-5a82-45ea-aace-7b8e7654c3c4','<p>伴侣双方的习惯加起来，就形成了&ldquo;沟通文化&rdquo;。</p>
<p>参考本书里的第一种和第二种沟通文化，思考一下两种沟通文化会给自己带来什么样的感受。</p>','2024-03-24 15:06:33.344','2024-03-24 15:06:33.344',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 15:06:33.343',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70c6b659-e0c7-451f-a58b-61be3c633ecb','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','0a821e9b-67d5-416e-a19f-085f25838fc9','<p>伴侣间需要多沟通，而且需要建立和培养良好的（第二种）的沟通文化，即以7习惯为基础的沟通习惯和文化。</p>','2024-03-24 15:19:39.846','2024-03-24 15:19:39.846',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 15:19:39.845',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('738be54f-a9cb-45d9-9cd5-1b286507368b','b0443c7e-d99f-4b82-8b68-45d77c231c92','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>要让两个成长在不同文化，价值观及背景的人能更长久的在一起，一定要设定一个双方都重视的东西，成就更高的价值观。这能让两人团结起来，共同一致解决问题，而不是为对方制造更多的难题。</p>','2024-03-24 15:02:10.15','2024-03-29 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e4af551a-60e6-43b4-8259-3b59aa4640e8','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>人生角色期待中因为有规则和规范，所以才有尺度决定对与错。借由判断的结果产生感觉与情绪，因此情商不是独自存在。</p>
<p>如果符合评价系统，就被奠定为好的，反之亦然。若已经达到大众符合角色期待，那在去做不符合角色就如找到属于自己的一个空间。</p>
<p>这造就了人们更乐于张扬符合角色期待的事情，而隐藏不符合角色的事情。</p>','2024-04-27 07:56:37.331','2024-04-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c470b513-88c8-484c-822e-8217fcd3275a','47a57312-1206-4aa0-a066-14dc37388fcf','724f2776-0f89-4693-96ac-067e7121c40c','<p>免费商业模式的威力在于其对人性的深刻洞察并激起他们的情感共鸣。通过给消费者提供实惠和优惠，公司能够赢得他们的喜爱，促进消费，建立起强大的品牌忠诚度。</p>','2024-04-27 13:22:29.576','2024-04-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('abd3b1f3-1547-4b8d-b6cf-6fb1034f0780','47a57312-1206-4aa0-a066-14dc37388fcf','3a42aa28-3889-4912-98ad-aaffef98795a','<p>免费模式都是先以消费者关注点免费，再在不太在意的地方收费。</p>
<p>免费模式分成三大类</p>
<p>1.，暂时免费</p>
<p>2. 第三方付费</p>
<p>3. 暂时免费，后续用户和第三方付费</p>','2024-04-27 13:42:59.539','2024-04-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
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<p><strong>看戏最讨厌有广告，可是偏偏就是这些广告，让我们有机会免费看，这真是一条千古不变的真理呀！</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-04-27 14:08:14.555','2024-04-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e1b5c09-0ab1-4666-913e-30dc15eab2f2','47a57312-1206-4aa0-a066-14dc37388fcf','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>天下没有白吃的晚餐，先免费，商家一定等到你付费。</p>
<p>&ldquo;免费+ 广告&rdquo; 模式。广告商付费</p>
<p>免费咖啡机，付费买咖啡。</p>
<p>大部分消费者对免费都不抗拒！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-04-20 12:20:39.545','2024-04-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4294a183-46ef-4b7c-bfbb-56b57630b097','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>一生当中最忙的时候就是在二十五到四十之间，真的好认同这个数据，感觉自己的烦恼还有负担越来越多的时候就是过了二十五岁之后，所以一直都很怀念自己在大学时候无忧无虑的生活。但过去就是过去了，最好现在的自己才是最正确的事。</p>','2024-04-24 22:51:31.553','2024-04-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5ca3c3b2-21d1-46f6-9a02-0f7caa54d56a','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','26458796-5d5f-468a-ac5f-69a3a6e55885','<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">Day-14 p.66~70 - 28 Apr., 2024</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">［角色期待中充满评断］</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">角色期待</span></strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">导致<strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">规则与规范</strong>，产生</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">「心中的<strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">标尺</strong>」，用以<strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">评断</strong>自己或他人言行举止的对与錯，因而产生我们的<strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">感觉与情绪</strong>。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">我们得学会透过现象，觉察到深层次的內在需求&mdash;&mdash;渴求。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">当角色期待的负荷太重，或者角色之间有冲突时，我们才会停下來反思自己的「內在需求」。因此，冲突或混乱期是重要且是改变的<strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">关键</strong>时段。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">我们需要停下來，</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&ldquo;<span lang="ZH-CN">看看这些角色对自己生命的意义是什么</span>?<span lang="ZH-CN">特別是由自己的角度來看，其意义何在？而不是始终站在环境中的评价系统來看自己。</span>&rdquo;</span></p>','2024-04-25 01:04:23.543','2024-04-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd47bfdb-cfae-44ff-a5d8-4c08b9078481','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 14 ：4月28日 星期日《自在沟通》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通与互动： 角色期待中充满评断（Page 066-070）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">活着意义是什么？自己的角色又是什么？去迎合他人的要求？去讨好他人吗？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">稻盛和夫的活法是来时比走时更好。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">曾有想过，活着的意义是因什么？由其当面对一大堆的挑战连续发生，让自己喘不过气来时，曾想放弃？总觉得世界不公平！这就是因为使命和目标不夠有意义。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当有&rdquo;志向&rdquo;，因为不仅给自己，还有给身边的人带来梦想、希望、勇气和活力。所以要有&rdquo;志向&rdquo;而不要有&rdquo;野心&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;野心&rdquo;是为了自己、</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;志向&rdquo;是为了他人，</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人生的一切都是大功课，</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">都必须从头学起。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只有从自己的起心动念开始调整，才能逐步改善工作和生活中遇到的难题，从而拥有成功的事业和幸福的人生。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">人生只有一件事，就是&ldquo;活好&rdquo;；</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 除了&ldquo;活好&rdquo;，人生再没别的事。</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>','2024-04-26 14:25:42.511','2024-04-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027','2024-04-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3646baf6-41f4-44ba-b48b-a34ec2be2ab8','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','3206e8eb-d93a-41b1-a66f-b1c117a68838','<p>患难见真情，当发生事故时，就可以真正考验彼此的感情😁</p>','2024-03-24 14:55:26.899','2024-03-24 14:55:26.899',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:55:26.898',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c40e0b6-261d-45a9-83b9-7947715d3490','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','481bbc5a-7b89-4cc8-8872-8531ccea7348','<p>我们必须一致认同做出改变是有价值的。彼此都需要改变沟通的文化。，那么就会有不一样的结果。</p>','2024-03-24 14:57:29.756','2024-03-24 14:57:29.756',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:57:29.756',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('960115d9-be7e-4cd1-9f2c-fc1e649cc93c','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>患难见真情，才看到一对夫妻之间的爱有多深！</p>
<p>高效能沟通文化 如 ： 保持镇定、主动道歉、目标明确、腾出时间留给对方、尊重对方的需求、互相聆听、重视对方的长处、实践、学习、享受乐趣。</p>','2024-03-24 14:57:46.199','2024-03-24 14:57:46.199',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 14:57:46.197',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('911a0ac9-3117-47b0-994a-a62c13e49ea0','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>外在环境要求 Vs 内心要求.</p>
<p>要时常反看为什么做?</p>
<p>对自己的生命的意义是什么？</p>','2024-04-28 00:15:05.884','2024-04-28 00:15:09.388',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 00:15:09.387',NULL,NULL);
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<p>它可以帮助企业解决部分的资源的匮乏。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-05-09 00:24:05.033','2024-05-09 00:24:05.033',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-09 00:24:05.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p>去哪都一樣</p>','2024-05-06 13:08:31.965','2024-05-06 13:08:31.965',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-06 13:08:31.965',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd7e2bf5-f60a-4367-9807-8b3afd06777d','16c20a6d-09a9-438c-a536-f0c0028c4c15','15796862-86d2-4057-a055-0f7b1bf6f462','<p>连锁模式有两种，一个是直营，一个是加盟。</p>
<p>他们有什么特点呢？就是有统一的名称，信息核算，库存，企业文化，连锁经营容易获得消费者的信任，在商品品质管理上有绝对的优势。</p>
<p>最根本重要的就是他们要</p>
<p>第一，产品精良。</p>
<p>第二，服务到位。</p>
<p>第三，给消费者很好的体验。</p>
<p>连锁复制分为内部复制，包括门店和团队</p>
<p>外部复制，这包括知识，规律和模式。</p>
<p>原来这个也可以应用到社会组织或者是机构当中。</p>
<p>另外一个要注意的就是要了解顾客到底要什么？他们的所思所想，所好所恶，所欣喜所恐惧等等。这么一来连锁加互联网思维才有用武之地。</p>','2024-05-04 16:16:02.692','2024-05-07 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-05-07 00:00:00.022','2024-05-07 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">低价优质模式：好货也便宜（Page 075-077）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">小企业也可以发展有两点：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一，整合供应链，推动供应链扁平化，发展买手体系以及进行联合采购，降低采购环节的成本，如此就有可能做到价低。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">二，开发自有品牌。自有品牌不仅可以成为吸引消费者进店消费的&ldquo;爆款&rdquo;商品，甚至还有巨大的利润空间。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">比如名创优品就有一款经久不衰的爆款产品&mdash;10元一支的眼线笔，自间世以来已在全球售卖超过1亿支，虽然它的价格只是大牌的1/10，但还是有利润。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">即使要面对全球经济与消费趋势的转变，只有通过不断借鉴，不断尝试，不断调整自己的方向，琢磨如何才能提供优质低价的产品或服务，或许才能找到未来的出路。有对的初衷，以终为始。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我相信《蜕变读书会》也是如此，有规划性推扩读书会，让更多人的生命有蜕变。</span></p>','2024-05-06 13:08:11.099','2024-05-06 13:20:54.699',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-06 13:20:54.698',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc72102b-71ed-42eb-8573-21cb6cb2a000','57297da1-b4a4-44a5-bf90-32db287e486c','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>5.3 【贵人】正解</p>
<p>母亲是第一位大的贵人。立大志向而自知不足，为自贵。</p>
<p>5.4 谁能教出好孩子？</p>
<p>子不教，父之过。跑车和好孩子真的就不可以并存吗？</p>','2024-09-10 14:11:01.568','2024-09-10 14:11:01.568',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-09-10 14:11:01.567',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36e70e3e-8eb8-4bed-84c7-ebb122b0129d','a7e7eb14-4b51-4049-ae44-8b8d55b6ded7','138265fe-95ad-4ebc-b601-e7cbf4fd9f27','<p>以前时常想为什么自己的界线感那么弱，原来是因为自己无法辨识出自己对自己的内在需求，又追求内外平衡，就会导致失衡，关系里面纠缠就会变得模糊不清。</p>','2024-05-09 14:32:09.48','2024-05-09 14:32:09.48',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-09 14:32:09.479',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bfb34896-1395-4998-9db7-7d6f129ec84f','ee9ee74a-ce2b-4c66-8488-5bde5b48eb91','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>共享经济 ： 阿里巴巴把中小企业和消费连接一起。</p>
<p>共享员工分摊用人企业的用工成本，好像是个不错的模式。</p>
<p>可不太理解当中如何运作。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-05-10 10:21:31.454','2024-05-10 10:21:31.454',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-10 10:21:31.453',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('95a93ef9-cafe-46ea-a497-1fa1e0b3c048','9f922b2d-2226-4d5b-90ff-aa148d354259','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>最容易接受電商的那批用戶基本已經都上網了，剩下百分之八十至九十的人，由於習慣、地域、年齡等原因，讓他們上網買東西，可能就是一場持久戰。</p>','2024-08-18 09:49:30.268','2024-08-19 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-08-19 00:00:00.008','2024-08-19 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8938abbe-bcde-48fe-a0a8-e98870f03b00','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 13 📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</p>
<p>信守承诺，彰显品格（Page 056-061）</p>
<p>24 Mar 24</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>确定是否值得，然后走进冰冷的激流中，做出改变！</p>','2024-03-24 15:30:56.505','2024-03-24 15:30:56.505',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 15:30:56.504',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03185abc-2c0d-4c83-99f9-e791d87619a6','f09c0172-777e-464d-9ced-abd9f368d7f3','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>感人的故事，我问自己：我做得到吗？</p>
<p>夫妻本是同林鸟，能够结为夫妻就是一种缘分。只是不懂是善缘还是恶缘。哈哈！</p>','2024-03-24 15:35:00.03','2024-03-24 15:35:00.03',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 15:35:00.029',NULL,NULL);
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<div id="tw-target-rmn-container" class="tw-target-rmn tw-ta-container F0azHf tw-nfl">
<pre id="tw-target-rmn" class="tw-data-placeholder tw-text-small tw-ta" dir="ltr" data-placeholder=""></pre>
</div>','2024-03-24 15:36:16.757','2024-03-24 15:36:16.757',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 15:36:16.756',NULL,NULL);
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<p>支持面的压力越大，摩擦力越大</p>
<p>人与人之间需要摩擦力，才会刹车，可以停下来沟通，通了才可以动。</p>','2024-03-24 15:40:42.466','2024-03-24 15:40:42.466',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 15:40:42.465',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eed00c0b-d0f4-482e-86a6-861b96484b6e','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>3月27、Day 16&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">实践习惯一： 积极主动（</span>Page 075-079<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：时时刻刻&ldquo;关注影响圈&rdquo;是我学习到的最好方法。</span></p>
<p>这不只对他人的影响，也对自己的影响有很大的帮助 &nbsp;。我发现这样的生活，更多的主导权是掌握在自己手里。</p>
<p>不仅仅如此，我发现我更关注自己的内在需要。以至于我觉得这才是真正的爱自己。真好。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 15:57:48.561','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p>人的关注力越短，东西越麻烦的话就会让顾客跑掉</p>','2024-05-03 07:53:48.596','2024-05-03 07:55:11.536',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-03 07:55:11.535',NULL,NULL);
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<li>夫妻之间的摩擦与处理方式;</li>
<li>太座好像都是对的</li>
<li>坦白的说出问题与考量, 一起面对问题, 寻找解决方案;</li>
<li>选择：参考No.2</li>
</ol>','2024-03-25 13:57:40.875','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c710c0f6-7b28-43a1-88ce-d550faf1161c','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','41de270f-cb91-4cb2-9ab5-71f3aa94d1ad','<p>做个积极主动的人，不管发生什么事，控制自己的思想，态度和行动。两个人共处，是要让对方幸福，而不是改变对方。</p>','2024-03-25 14:04:23.136','2024-03-25 14:04:23.136',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:04:23.135',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('670e2a22-3a20-489d-9462-296bf5608465','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','747734ae-d6dd-4cef-8973-1837cda48e10','<p><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">Part 2 PG 69-74</span></p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">暂停，思考，反思。以前我时常会觉得如果忍耐，妥协是不是懦弱的表现呢？现在读了书，不再那么想了。暂停能让我不伤害对方，看控制好自已的嘴与脾气。</span></p>','2024-03-24 16:32:18.051','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('892e9863-850a-4210-a705-da679c0f2bf6','6fb83da7-c822-434b-8d1e-d61c39a2db27','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>3月28、Day 17&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯二： 以终为始 </span>&ndash; <span lang="ZH-CN">将目标与愿景带进关系（</span>Page 081-084<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：要在这段关系履行承诺，就必须在关系制定&ldquo;飞行目标&rdquo;（婚姻目标）：什么是这个关系里头最重要的东西？</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">未有各自找到自己在这段关系要的蓝图或目标 ， 那么才能够掌握彼此婚姻是否还在轨道上而不偏离 &nbsp;。才有可能一起走向目的地。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 16:22:12.427','2024-03-28 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('723a093e-e190-4283-b441-599905840cc8','6fb83da7-c822-434b-8d1e-d61c39a2db27','576d96d0-dcd8-47c0-8ecc-c9881174d6fa','<p>把婚姻搞到好像企业一样!</p>
<p>但是我認同, 夫妻俩有共同的願景与目标, 相互扶持, 夫妻同心, 其利断金!</p>
<p>&ldquo;婚姻重点在牢记目的地, 要不断的回歸正轨&rdquo;</p>','2024-03-25 14:06:42.615','2024-03-28 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('defaca34-2343-483a-bdde-bf7109aa7a5a','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>神经质的需求接着控制和操弄来完成满足，但由于关键在于自己，但是外在环境的人事物并不能轻易控制，于是挫折的几率很大。一般上可以说是没完没了的需求，身边的人经常难以忍受。</p>','2024-05-05 13:41:58.919','2024-05-05 13:41:58.919',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 13:41:58.918',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9325411b-141a-4e2c-ab8f-bc97d80f363b','47a57312-1206-4aa0-a066-14dc37388fcf','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">三种免费模式</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。用户暂时免费，旨在后续消费</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2。用户免费，第三者付费</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3。用户免费，不但后续赚用户的钱，更赚第三者的钱</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">免费模式基于客户心理，基于人性的弱点：让消费者占便宜，消费者会变得更爱你。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">例子：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。海底捞在等待时的免费零食，饮料，美甲服务等。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2。去旅游景点如澳门的饼家免费试吃，吃到你不好意思，一定会买一些。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3。Google Map, Gmail, Google Search, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram 这些都是免费使用然后向第三方卖广告。</span></p>','2024-04-28 00:40:25.573','2024-04-28 00:40:25.573',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 00:40:25.572',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('211e7b61-0535-4cfe-9fe2-f3851c844271','dab76111-c69a-430d-8a08-b739d8d7c6b4','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>从单一销售渠道发展成多渠道</p>
<p>让观众可以选择，也随时看得到，买得到</p>','2024-05-03 08:33:53.399','2024-05-03 08:33:53.399',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-03 08:33:53.398',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e1fd507-9cc7-4dd1-85b7-00648e05fb6c','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>尝试改变对方是很多人的毛病，因为这是很难实现的目标。不如改变自己。这就是习惯一。</p>','2024-03-24 22:15:46.862','2024-03-24 22:15:46.862',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 22:15:46.861',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e380eb3-1a1f-4e84-90b2-95690539c00a','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>亲密关系是为了使你的配偶或伴侣感到幸福，⽽不是让他们变得更好 - 这句话让我脑袋转不过来，但是又似乎是对的。我们成为彼此的配偶，是为了什么？</p>','2024-03-24 22:34:47.98','2024-03-24 22:34:47.98',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 22:34:47.979',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f12bdcbb-12c0-4108-9b7c-4c190ebbe575','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','e96fbd10-e6c3-4991-a72d-f1f7e5d01ae1','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">消极被动的人会根据当下的情况立即做出反应，积极主动的人则会认真思考，根据自己重视的东西而做出决定。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">爱是爱伴侣原来的样子，不要试图去改变那个你爱的那个人。</span></p>','2024-03-24 22:39:29.679','2024-03-24 22:39:29.679',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 22:39:29.678',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c93009f6-e085-41f1-bf9a-e7e6e7978739','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>转换思维-paradigm shift.看一件事有很多的角度.用积极,同理心来对待人.思维方式决定人生.</p>
<p>不要强制把伴侣变成自己.欣赏对方的不同之处,与对方并肩前行</p>','2024-03-24 22:48:35.752','2024-03-24 22:48:35.752',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-24 22:48:35.751',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b596f5c1-e3ef-4a72-8768-3fea053a68f5','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 61.45pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不要试图把你的配偶变得更好，而请试着使对方感到幸福</span> &ndash; <span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">是一句很中肯的观点。经常不轻易掉入的盲区是时常以自我为中心，而认为配偶应该跟从自己的一套，殊不知已经悄悄点燃婚姻亲密关系的战火，以此为借鉴。</span></p>','2024-03-20 08:33:56','2024-03-25 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54a1725c-c31b-44dd-bba3-439770d04435','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 61.45pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不要试图把你的配偶变得更好，而请试着使对方感到幸福</span> &ndash; <span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">是一句很中肯的观点。经常不轻易掉入的盲区是时常以自我为中心，而认为配偶应该跟从自己的一套，殊不知已经悄悄点燃婚姻亲密关系的战火，以此为借鉴。</span></p>','2024-03-20 08:33:56.001','2024-03-25 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d280ab5c-f099-45c4-9d8f-cd53583d301a','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','4d583710-fe59-48c3-8811-949e117ca6d3','<h2>如果我们要积极的互动的关系，就需要学会积极主动，就要学会积极主动的统合综效，一起结合起来。</h2>','2024-03-24 06:22:36.321','2024-03-25 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e88f2380-c699-4bcc-b7e8-434aad329e6a','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','ed3ffa0b-ef52-4bb7-963c-af5eab78e245','<p>&ldquo;不要试图让他变好，不要试图改变他。请做他的指路明灯，不要妄下批判。坚持30天&rdquo;</p>
<p>需要不停的修炼^^</p>','2024-03-24 09:41:21.289','2024-03-25 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4985dec8-f168-4349-980d-1c23d13f44de','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>习惯一，积极主动 【对自己的思想、态度和行为负责】</p>
<p>消极被动是任由情绪控制自己的反应，是应激反应，成为&ldquo;受害者&rdquo;，失去对人生掌控力。</p>
<p>而积极主动是主动选择回应方式，是经过思考和选择。那是一种自我控制能力（思想、态度和行为），不掉入&ldquo;受害者&rdquo;情绪里。这是一种自我身份认同的能力。自我认同背后是自我负责。</p>
<p>亲密关系是一面镜子，它的魅力是从他人身上获得接纳和认同。但是，如果一个人仅仅想从他人身上获得接纳和认同，而自己没办法给自己自我接纳和认同，那么他就陷入想去改变对方、物化对方、等待对方认同自己。这样，会让自己陷入消极被动的那一边。</p>
<p>&ldquo;七个习惯&rdquo;是让人看见&ldquo;理解&rdquo;而不是&ldquo;批评&rdquo;，而且让关系&ldquo;不断更新&rdquo;。</p>','2024-03-24 08:06:47.213','2024-03-25 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9475fa59-323b-438b-8600-63b9b1d044dc','8fd34a48-72d7-4555-bcea-2d7cfcb866ea','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">7-Eleven的供应链管理，由区域总部在不同地区搭建多个物流中心，由供应商将商品送至物流中心，再由此辐射该地区内的多个门店。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">食品根据温度管理进行配送。冷冻(-20c)，微冷型(5c)，恒温型(20c)。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">从70辆货车浓缩到9辆。</span></p>','2024-05-04 23:50:36.027','2024-05-04 23:50:36.027',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-04 23:50:36.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea0f7f13-1ad9-4041-9745-3a17a66340ef','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>3月25、Day 14&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯一： 积极主动 </span>&ndash; <span lang="ZH-CN">将选择与责任带进关系（</span>Page 063-069<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">这个篇章最震撼我的一句话：亲密关系是为了使你的配偶或伴侣感到幸福，而不是让他们变得更好。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">一直以来 我以为婚姻关系让彼此不断成长，不断彼此超越自我，就会在彼此心里出现幸福感。原来这两者之间不是并行轨道。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">我觉得为伴侣制造幸福感的前提，是不对伴侣付出以后还对对方有所期待和要求。要不然当得不到期待回应的满足，反而会让彼此带来更多的抱怨。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">特别喜欢这篇章提出的观点：从消极被动变成积极主动，必须先寻求理解对方，而不是先得到对方的理解。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-24 15:35:32.408','2024-03-25 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013','2024-03-25 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('755cbb25-3ca2-41c3-a966-dc16bd6d1104','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>积极主动 【对自己的思想、态度和行为负责】</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>积极主动是主动是经过思考和选择,正面積極对親密的家人,朋友,等的回应方式。那是一种自我控制能力（思想、态度和行为），不掉入&ldquo;受害者&rdquo;角色。</p>','2024-03-25 00:24:32.886','2024-03-25 00:24:32.886',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 00:24:32.886',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c5fece9-e430-4118-a086-af08f583b19e','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','76f645ae-2136-427a-a603-bc2656497f1e','<p>我们选择做汽水还是清水？</p>
<p>分别就在发生一个事件后，立刻本能反应还是按下暂停键再做出反应。我们都有这个反应的空间。选择积极主动！</p>
<p>别想着把对方变成我的想象中的那样。创建使命宣言，以终为始，一起思考什么才是最重要的。</p>','2024-03-25 01:00:54.956','2024-03-25 01:00:54.956',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 01:00:54.956',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4b7180b5-ffa6-4014-a547-e402c20f0069','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','26458796-5d5f-468a-ac5f-69a3a6e55885','<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">Day-</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">14</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;"> p</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">63-69</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">【将选择与责任帶进关系】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">消极与极积的差別在于：遭遇某种情境时，能否有意识地在刺激和反应之间停伫片刻，然后做出明智的选择。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">消极者採取自动反应，积极者则三思而后行。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">营造美满的婚姻关系，不在于将自己的期待强加于对方身上，而是</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">将他视为上帝所期待的样子</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&rdquo;&mdash;&mdash;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">如实地看待对方。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">相似不等于一致，着异不等于绝然的区隔。婚姻是一种理想的互补。</span></p>','2024-03-25 01:36:52.179','2024-03-25 01:36:52.179',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 01:36:52.178',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70fd0840-2816-46e8-96c2-c84561ea2417','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>婚姻把两个不同背景，生活习惯的人，因相爱而在一起。不要企图去改变对方变成自己喜爱的样子。反之，要去喜爱和欣赏对方的不同，让他感到幸福，做他的指引灯，做出积极主动的改变，一段本来破裂的婚姻，如双方都肯付出努力，会挽回，也会更幸福。</p>','2024-03-25 02:51:50.955','2024-03-25 02:51:50.955',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 02:51:50.954',NULL,NULL);
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<p>這一段文字就像一面鏡子，讓我反省，省思過往的人事得失， 切記無論別人做了什麼事，自己要持有的原則。我不該大發雷霆，要學會按下&ldquo;斬停鍵&rdquo;</p>
<p>冷靜思考自己的行為後果， 然後根據自身價值觀做出選擇。</p>
<p>夫妻關係方面， 婚姻是一種理想的互補。兩個迥異的人因為相愛走在一起，不要老想著改變對方變成自己的複製品， 不如欣賞對方的優點，努力使對方更幸福。</p>','2024-03-25 03:09:11.267','2024-03-25 03:09:11.267',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 03:09:11.266',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4cbda42-1250-45af-b477-56996b855dd4','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>要把積极主动帶進關係里，不針對對方的行為做出反應，學习控制自己的思想、态度和行為，不要去想要改變對方，把自已當成受害，企圖改變對方成為自已想要的樣子。我們要重視夫妻是兩個迴然不同的個体，要重視個体的差異，不光是容忍，需要讚美，發揮各自的天份。</p>','2024-03-25 03:25:16.303','2024-03-25 03:25:16.303',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 03:25:16.302',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('04d1fbaf-4f52-4b4d-a06f-295a6e958c24','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>积极主动的人根据自己重视的东西，选择要作什么回应。</p>
<p>积极的人不会针对别人的反应做出反应，我能控制自己的思想，态度和行为，</p>
<p>我不会因为别人对我做的事而焦躁不安，我不是受害者。</p>','2024-03-25 03:58:04.919','2024-03-25 03:58:04.919',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 03:58:04.918',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9a65c5b-30a2-424d-855d-274f6e8a8ca6','85eb84a6-4216-42a8-8815-062280c26244','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>父母爱小孩,为了孩子将来,就想为法控制小孩.这也为了安心.</p>
<p>不管控制或被控制,只要心感甘情愿,也知道为什么,就不会有问题.</p>
<p>人要当习去看自己的投射和控制,发自内心,允许自己,放开自己.</p>','2024-05-03 10:13:19.384','2024-05-03 10:13:19.384',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-03 10:13:19.383',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('988fd9f7-ceaa-4fd6-9826-d8a0d2aac7c4','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>婚姻关系不是要让伴侣变得更好，而是感到更幸福。</p>
<p>我目前身在欧洲出差。出差前，我预定了一束玫瑰花，安排在我出差第二天送到太太的办公室，相信她当时应该有感受到一份温暖。</p>
<p>除了物质上的，陪伴与聆听伴侣更加珍贵。</p>','2024-03-25 08:14:09.105','2024-03-25 08:14:09.105',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 08:14:09.104',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6cf75ca1-f8de-48ce-a2d2-24c95cf328f3','6fb83da7-c822-434b-8d1e-d61c39a2db27','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>婚姻是两个人之间的事，必须两个人一起共同为未来绘制一个蓝图，那才会有方向。</p>
<p>我们无法掌控外界的情况，但完全可以掌控在自己家里想做的事。</p>','2024-03-25 04:45:03.23','2024-03-28 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e3522ae1-e3ed-466b-9507-adfb3603f144','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>&ldquo;不要试图把你的配偶变得更好，而请试着使对方感到幸福。&rdquo;</p>
<p>把&ldquo;配偶&rdquo; 换成 &ldquo;工作伙伴&rdquo; 也是同样道理。</p>','2024-03-25 12:05:39.465','2024-03-25 12:05:39.465',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 12:05:39.464',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e59bf7e1-fe8b-4fd5-a2a6-5e3009436c3a','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','b4b15dc1-1ce2-4a8f-92da-fdcadf99c95d','<p>别尝试去改变伴侣成为你想要的人，与其改变不如欣赏对方的不同，并肩前行和努力使对方开心和幸福。亲密关系是为了让伴侣感到幸福而不是让她变得更好。</p>','2024-03-25 08:49:54.668','2024-03-25 08:50:31.765',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 08:50:31.764',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e5b9b5f6-3998-436c-8be2-4ab504740950','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','e92fa812-5847-46d0-9a60-632ef6e84ced','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要让婚姻变幸福，就一起打造家庭使命宣言，以终为始地创造幸福。</span></p>','2024-03-25 08:53:32.19','2024-03-25 08:53:32.19',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 08:53:32.189',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b08a40d0-54b5-4546-8dbc-7a2e6315716f','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个消极被动和积极主动的人同时在路上碰上一个鲁莽的车辆随意刹车。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">消极被动的任由情绪控制自己的反应。他根据当下情况立刻做出反应，会不顾后果地采取行动。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">积极主动的抛开糟糕的感觉，恢复镇定，继续往前开。他会停下来，认真思考，根据自己重视的东西（也许是配偶或孩子）选择要做出什么样的回应。他不会针对别人的行为做出反应，他能控制自己的思想、态度和行为。他不会因为别人对他做的事而焦躁不安，他不是受害者。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们可以对伴侣有期待，但将自己的想法和期望强加给伴侣，就是巨大的错误。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;爱一个人，就意味着将她视为上帝所期待的样子&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要试图把你的配偶变得更好，而请试着使对方感到幸福。与其试图将对方变成自己的复制品，不如欣赏对方的不同之处，与对方并肩前行，努力使对方感到幸福。</span></p>','2024-03-25 09:49:19.688','2024-03-25 09:49:19.688',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 09:49:19.687',NULL,NULL);
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<p>Though we have a tendency to make, to mold our spouses into a person much more like us. Yet such a despicable act is to belittle the unique gift brought forth in a marriage.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Thus, to appreciate the differences as a gift that we must cherish dearly.</p>','2024-03-25 10:09:22.567','2024-03-25 10:09:22.567',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 10:09:22.566',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f932b208-75cd-4173-b1f9-1e34408e4161','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>不要试图让另一半变得更好，要试图让另一半感觉到幸福</p>','2024-03-25 10:41:17.583','2024-03-25 10:41:17.583',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 10:41:17.582',NULL,NULL);
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<p>亲密关系是为了使伴侣感到幸福而不是变得更好。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 10:43:41.069','2024-03-25 10:43:41.069',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 10:43:41.068',NULL,NULL);
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<p>习惯一： 积极主动 &ndash; 将选择与责任带进关系（Page 063-069）</p>
<p>25Mar2024, 1824</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>以汽水和清水瓶作为例子，很容易理解。与其被动消极让情绪带着走，不如积极主动把心静下来，继续往前走。不需要将想法和期待强加给伴侣，把她摆在第一位，试着理解双方的差异，让爱人变成脑海中她该有的样子。她是个个体。婚姻是互补，并肩前行，努力使对方幸福。婚姻可以让指路明灯给疗愈。期待接下来的练习。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 10:47:36.521','2024-03-25 10:47:36.521',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 10:47:36.52',NULL,NULL);
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<p>A meaningful, stable &amp; healthy relationship doesn''t require 2 perfect people it requires 2 people that appreciate one another.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 10:18:25.884','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>消极的人没有"暂停键"，会当即大发雷霆。简单来说，如果我们认为问题不是出在自己身上，这个想法本身就是问题。</p>
<p>亲密关系是为了使我们的伴侣感到幸福，而不是让他变得更好。</p>','2024-03-25 11:58:17.327','2024-03-25 11:58:17.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 11:58:17.326',NULL,NULL);
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<div class="text-justify max-h-[300px] overflow-auto">
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯一： 积极主动 </span>&ndash; <span lang="ZH-CN">将选择与责任带进关系（</span>Page 063-069<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">「迥異的興趣，獨特的天賦，古怪的個性......</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">請真正將愛人視若珍寶」</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">看到這裡的時候 我真自歎不如</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">曾經就是因為對方的那個特點讓我如癡如醉</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">但現在偶爾的不合卻又是跟那個特點有關</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">人啊 真矛盾啊！</p>
</div>','2024-03-25 12:18:38.043','2024-03-25 12:18:38.043',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 12:18:38.042',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('42349671-fbc1-46e4-867a-0bdb6b747e5b','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>积极主动的人不会因他人的行为做出反应。这里我会用 pulse&nbsp; bottom 。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>婚姻不是把配偶变成你要的那个人， 而是让他变得更幸福。创建使命宣言， 打造家庭传统。</p>','2024-03-25 12:33:06.54','2024-03-25 12:33:06.54',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 12:33:06.539',NULL,NULL);
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<p>维持一段关系，自己需要先负责。我们常常有私心，让对方变好说到底也是为了自己。好好想一想，使对方感到幸福，自己也会幸福。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 12:58:54.484','2024-03-25 12:58:54.484',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 12:58:54.484',NULL,NULL);
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<p>爱一个人就要尊重他为一个独立独特个体，包容她，欣赏她，让她幸福而不是企图去改变她，让她变成你的复制品。</p>','2024-03-25 13:01:19.185','2024-03-25 13:01:19.185',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 13:01:19.184',NULL,NULL);
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<p>不针对别人的行为做出反应。能控制思想、态度和行为。运用自控力，不会因为别人做的事焦躁不安，我不是受害者。</p>
<p>相似不等于一致。不同的角色、观点和能力可以是理想的互补，制造日常小惊喜和幸福感。</p>','2024-03-25 13:20:17.778','2024-03-25 13:20:17.778',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 13:20:17.777',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我已经被驯化了！</p>
<p>只要太座感到幸福就好</p>','2024-03-25 13:27:38.51','2024-03-25 13:27:38.51',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 13:27:38.509',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59a3af5f-bb0e-4cab-9f1b-4ff316288071','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','3a0fa86c-5a82-45ea-aace-7b8e7654c3c4','<p>终于开始学习&ldquo;习惯一~积极主动-将选择与责任带进关系&rdquo;</p>
<p>当遇到问题时，积极主动的人会停下来思考，根据自己重视的东西，选择回应的方式。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>亲密关系是为了使伴侣感到幸福而不是变得更好。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 13:33:04.991','2024-03-25 13:33:04.991',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 13:33:04.991',NULL,NULL);
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<p>记得在有必要的时候，需要更新宣言。牢记双方想要的结果，注重目的、如何实现的目标和你达成目标的手段。这需要彼此的大量沟通、信任和坦诚相待。</p>','2024-03-25 13:36:12.85','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f862e5b6-f47b-46ac-b0af-72c310b44591','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','dbfdcd68-e817-4bb7-b068-d5613aeb0452','<p>首先要积极主动，理清伴侣间的关系，认清这个关系的重要性，再来是一起创造使命宣言，落实目标宗旨。</p>','2024-03-25 13:48:24.524','2024-03-25 13:48:24.524',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 13:48:24.524',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9987a7eb-c849-47ad-8cf2-a777bee0d0e7','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 14 &nbsp;3月 25日 (星期一）📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯一： 积极主动 &ndash; 将选择与责任带进关系（Page 063-069）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">记得自己能够掌控 自己的情绪</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">积极主动的人会说：我不会针对别人的行为做出反应，我能控制自己的思想、态度和行为。我不会因为别人对我做的事而焦躁不安，我不是受害者。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我不能要求别人改变，不要试图让他变好，不要试图改变他，</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只能引领对方，做他的指路明灯。最重要妄下评判。而且要坚持30天，会看到改变。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">建立好关系真的要下功夫。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 13:49:56.895','2024-03-25 13:49:56.895',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 13:49:56.894',NULL,NULL);
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<p>积极主动的人则会停下来，认真思考，根据自己重视的东西选择要做出什么回应。</p>','2024-03-25 13:54:55.53','2024-03-25 13:54:55.53',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 13:54:55.53',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9625186d-a6bf-4421-b217-ff170c7da056','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','9fa5e305-35f5-447e-907f-f41a5a7c9533','<p>消极被动和积极主动有什么区别？就像我之前不理解什么是正能量一样，每天都内耗自己的能量。现在仔细想想，自己以前确实是消极被动型，不顾后果做出反应，从不认真思考，成了自我实现的预言。希望通过7个习惯，让自己转型。让我看到理解，而不是评判。期许自己不断更新，让自己重新开始。</p>','2024-03-25 14:07:11.748','2024-03-25 14:07:19.76',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:07:19.759',NULL,NULL);
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<p><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">消极与积极会有不同的人生。我承认我是消极的，时常自已想结果，自已自以为事；常常都在折磨自已。</span></p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">现在我要学着把我身边的人都视为上帝所期望的样子，而不是我所期望，包容大家，统合综效。</span></p>','2024-03-25 14:14:24.773','2024-03-25 14:14:24.773',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:14:24.771',NULL,NULL);
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<p>还有一种免费模式，不是先享受免费付费，用户永远免费地享用产品和服务，但是会有第三方来为此买单</p>','2024-04-28 01:31:04.396','2024-04-28 01:31:04.396',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 01:31:04.396',NULL,NULL);
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<p>不要要求另一半改變，成為你想要的人，這自私的行為會傷害彼此。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 14:17:12.476','2024-03-25 14:17:12.476',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:17:12.476',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯一： 积极主动&nbsp;</span>&ndash;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">将选择与责任带进关系（</span>Page 063-069<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：<br><br></span><strong>积极主动 ： 正面的；促进发展的；努力进取的。</strong><br>积极心态就是面对工作、问题、困难、挫折、挑战和责任，从正面去想，从积极的一面去想，从可能成功的一面去想，积极采取行动，努力去做。<br>（能控制自己的思想，态度和行为）<br><br><strong>消极 ： 否定的；反面的；阻碍发展的。</strong><br>心态指的是个体因受自身或外在因素影响，而不满意于自身条件或能力，进而造成信心的缺失，（压抑不住情绪，无法释放，失去信心）<br><br></p>','2024-03-25 14:20:54.25','2024-03-25 14:20:54.25',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:20:54.249',NULL,NULL);
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<p>在情感中积极，无怨无悔。</p>','2024-03-25 14:35:12.279','2024-03-25 14:35:17.168',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:35:17.167',NULL,NULL);
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<p>相似不等于一致，同质也不等于统一。</p>
<p>婚姻是一种理想的互补，使对方感到幸福☺️</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 14:37:16.06','2024-03-25 14:37:16.06',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:37:16.059',NULL,NULL);
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<p>习惯一： 积极主动 &ndash; 将选择与责任带进关系（Page 063-069）</p>
<p>25 Mar 24</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>不要试图改变对方，欣赏对方的不同之处，与对方并肩前行。</p>','2024-03-25 14:42:23.18','2024-03-25 14:42:23.18',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:42:23.18',NULL,NULL);
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<p>消极被动的人觉得自己事受害者，认为事情是他人造成的，而试图想改变他人。</p>','2024-03-25 14:46:47.037','2024-03-25 14:46:47.037',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:46:47.037',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da158581-3fbc-48f5-8505-83a04a3f2e95','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','b3ab7f77-68a3-4270-b3a3-05b9c158dccd','<p>清楚对自己而言最重要的东西是什么，可能是伴侣/孩子。不被他人的言行影响，有自己的态度和思考。</p>
<p>不以改变伴侣作为目标，而是让对方感到幸福。</p>','2024-03-25 14:53:28.984','2024-03-25 14:53:28.984',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:53:28.983',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('72b336b3-b6b1-445c-b4be-075e39f33a12','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','71b0e248-f2e5-47a7-8371-aedda7abf686','<p>如果想要让生活有所改变, 请先调整自己的行为方式.<br>如果想要作出极为重大的突破, 请调整自己的思维模式.</p>','2024-03-25 15:24:45.399','2024-03-25 15:24:45.399',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:24:45.398',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我努力冲刺事业, 赚钱给她花!</p>','2024-03-25 14:23:17.347','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p>要带父母亲去渡假!</p>
<p>祖父母最希望儿孫们的陪伴。</p>','2024-03-25 14:30:12.149','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p>2.积极主动的人会停下来，认真思考，根据自己重视的东西选择要做出什么样的回应。并不会因为别人对我做的事而焦躁不安，我不是受害者。</p>
<p>3.受害者情结，会失去自控力，无法掌控自己的人生或命运，会将自己的遭遇归咎于外部力量--他人、环境、星象等。</p>
<p>4.不要试图改变对方，接受对方，努力使对方感到幸福。确实挑战，但这么做很管用。</p>
<p>5.与其试图将对方变成自己的复制品，不如欣赏对方的不同之处，与对方并肩前行，努力使对方感到幸福。</p>
<p>注：外语的思维真的简洁，所以虽然文章字少，但消化字里行间，真的很费力。到头来，还是不太能领悟其义。.</p>','2024-03-25 14:50:57.118','2024-03-25 14:50:57.118',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 14:50:57.117',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('906dea2f-d171-40b4-91d2-94056241e39f','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>爱就要接受对方的个性与习惯并理解和同情，但我们却时常有意、无意的想让对方变成自己，而这种心态正是将两人的关系疏离以及不断提高磨擦率。</p>','2024-03-25 15:02:28.594','2024-03-25 15:02:28.594',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:02:28.593',NULL,NULL);
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<p>是要顺着路和规则走</p>
<p>不是突然间踩刹车，让前后左右的车子撞在一起无辜受连</p>
<p>感情的事情也是，以终为始，看见自己要什么样的婚姻或是家庭</p>','2024-03-25 15:03:16.981','2024-03-25 15:03:16.981',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:03:16.981',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99176f5a-5468-403d-8a4d-df741ba1b1ba','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>习惯一：积极主动，不会被情绪影响。反而应该是成为对方的指路明灯，无私奉献，心地善良，理解对方，不评判他人，然后&ldquo;不断更新&rdquo; ，虽然非常挑战，也只有这样的习惯才是至关重要，幸福和谐。</p>','2024-03-25 15:13:45.1','2024-03-25 15:13:45.1',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:13:45.099',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('37d2eb6b-3a1c-4ec1-a295-ebab8f8ef024','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','481bbc5a-7b89-4cc8-8872-8531ccea7348','<p>不要试图去改变一个人，那是一件非常艰难的事情！</p>
<p>我们需要去欣赏别人的美和优点。</p>','2024-03-25 15:14:02.117','2024-03-25 15:14:02.117',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:14:02.116',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5aaaef76-3e47-4667-a0af-68d76f4338e6','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','fe8a2ed2-313a-4403-b928-671df8c969b5','<p>不要试图改变伴侣，而是让伴侣感到幸福</p>','2024-03-25 15:42:31.972','2024-03-25 15:42:31.972',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:42:31.971',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">长尾模式：积少成多的小额收入（Page 057-059）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&rdquo;创意的种子从西方吹来</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">故事还得从26年前说起。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1993年，环游世界的英国背包客Dominic Johnson-Hill来到北京，顺利得到了一份不错的工作，并随后定居北京、娶妻生子。2006年，他偶然看到一位外国游客身着&ldquo;我登上了长城&rdquo;图案的文化衫。这件布料廉价、毫无设计感且滥大街的T恤让他印象很深，他下决心试着把文化衫做得更好看、更有创意。此后，他结束了游历世界的计划，辞去了北京CBD舒适的工作，开始自己创业&mdash;&mdash;就卖文化衫！令人难以置信的是，短短3年时间，这家小店的营业额已突破</span><span class="s2">400万</span><span class="s1">。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">慢慢地，越来越多人记住了他的中文名字：</span><span class="s2">江森海</span><span class="s1">，而这间名为&ldquo;</span><span class="s2">创可贴8</span><span class="s1">(Plastered 8)&rdquo;的小店，也随南锣鼓巷一起大放异彩。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">－件T shirt 可以卖168元。😅真的不要小看小品牌。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Notes :</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">传统经济追求的是规模生产和销售，品种越少，成本越低；</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">而&ldquo;长尾&rdquo;模式追求的是范围经济，就是品种越多，成本越低。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">规模经济通向单一品种大规模生产，范围经济通向小批量多品种。长尾理论实际讲的就是如何从单纯依靠规模经济，逐步转向依靠范围经济。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">从大规模生产销售转向</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">小众化营销。也就是说，长尾模式给企业提供了&ldquo;做大做强&rdquo;之外新的选择，走小众路线也可以生存。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">长尾模式：积少成多的小额收入</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>','2024-05-01 00:46:45.837','2024-05-01 00:46:48.751',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-01 00:46:48.75',NULL,NULL);
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<p>因為少了安全感, 导致在某一方面出現神精质的需求, 反应, 动作。</p>
<p>這對我本身有很大幫助, 也希望我在能力范圍内可以幫助他人覺察自己不安全感的來源, 以及減少所造成一些令人反感的行為。</p>','2024-05-01 10:26:26.191','2024-05-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
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<p>很值得注意的，在外在评价系统长期的影响下，就好像常驻在我们心中的一位法官，十分尽责地管理我们的思维，评断我们的种种。不得不慎呀！</p>','2024-05-03 10:55:28.09','2024-05-04 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2024-05-04 00:00:00.017','2024-05-04 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('272a3558-5eff-4452-abff-350449c3c030','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','26458796-5d5f-468a-ac5f-69a3a6e55885','<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">Day-21 p.98~104 - 5 May, 2024</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">＜神经质的需求＞</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">如果在成长过程中，某一个部分的需求特別匮乏，就常会在往后的人际互动上形成一个需索无度的无底洞。周而复始，形成我们的习性，甚至形成強迫性的思考行为。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">人，或多或少在某些部分上的需求有匮乏，导致在人我之间出现种种耐人寻味的互动。除非他已经形成一个很明显的行为模式，才比较容易看得见。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">有的人藉由控制的过程中來满足自己的不安全感，而形成了许多強迫性的行为，这种情形源自于这个人自己本身的<strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">神经质需求</strong>。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">神经质的需求希望藉著控制或操弄來完成心理的满足，但是由于关键在自己身上，而且外在环境中人、事的变动，並不是自己真的可以完全控制的，于是挫折的机率很大。但是控制常会伴隨著很多的关怀与爱，在挫折之余，伤心、抱怨跟著而來，认为自己的付出不被重视，这种自己是受害者的心态与反应，很容易引起对方的自责，于是对方再一次的接受控制，直到下一次的失衡，这个游戏就可以这样周而复始的玩下去。</span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">&rdquo;</span></p>','2024-05-03 02:17:38.725','2024-05-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1ec7609-09e1-4358-98a9-131f83b9fc37','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','0a821e9b-67d5-416e-a19f-085f25838fc9','<p>主动的将选择与责任带进关系里经营。</p>','2024-03-25 15:14:11.353','2024-03-25 15:14:11.353',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:14:11.352',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ee372e8-ffff-4c6a-a226-a93f61902d39','f600ffd1-2491-496e-9839-4556087949ae','51d2b0ec-c275-4372-b27e-2aefff3833d3','<p>我们无法改变别人，也无需试图去改变别人。唯有自己积极主动，来掌握自己的幸福。</p>','2024-03-25 15:32:36.559','2024-03-25 15:32:36.559',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:32:36.558',NULL,NULL);
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<p>改变不是最终目的，只是因为你自己不愿意去面对现实而已。真正的改变必须从自身出发</p>','2024-03-25 15:56:56.307','2024-03-25 15:56:56.307',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 15:56:56.306',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a406f24-3ff6-4ca2-b9d3-a89bea4343df','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>很多人选择责骂别人，因为他们认为对方有错。这是典型受害者行为。如果学会静下来，思考才有反应，很多争吵是可以避免的。</p>','2024-03-25 22:23:05.943','2024-03-25 22:23:05.943',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 22:23:05.942',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我们可以成为自己人生的驾驶员。可以控制自己的想法，也可以控制自己说出的话</p>','2024-03-25 22:59:57.783','2024-03-25 22:59:57.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 22:59:57.782',NULL,NULL);
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<li class="li1"><span class="s1">消极被动的人没有暂停键，就会大发雷霆。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">主动积极的人则会按下暂停键，思考行为的后果，让自己冷静下来，然后根据自身价值做出选择。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">如果你认为问题不是出在自己身上，这个想法本身就是问题。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">我们可以对自己的行为负责。所谓负责，就是能够做出回应的另一个说法。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">如果回到家的第一件事就是对家人做出批判的行为，这显然会伤害彼此的关系，而且还会引起愤怒的反应。可以选择在进屋前，按下暂停键，对自己说想要看到和家人的美好生活，自然的我们所说的东西就会不一样了。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">一段美满、健康、稳固的关系并不需要两个完美无缺的人，只需要两个人互相欣赏，加上一个人愿意做出必要的调整，以便双方能携手共度余生。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">每个人都受到遗传基因、童年经历或当下环境的影响，但我们不是由这些因素造就的。我们无法控制外来的因素，但我可以控制自己对这些东西的反应。</span></li>
</ul>','2024-03-25 23:41:59.783','2024-03-25 23:41:59.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-25 23:41:59.782',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('024a10b3-51bd-42d3-b068-452dc77d50ec','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>3月26、Day 15&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">你有选择回应方式的自由（</span>Page 069-074<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：积极主动的一个关键工具就是要让自己主导&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;。在一切不好的情况发生之前，先学会为后果负责反思。意即自我觉察自己回应的方式 ，是否选择的后果带来不好结果或破坏。如果是 ，那么即刻马上改变回应方式。这包括外在直接反应 ，说话方式，甚至细腻到内在的情绪和思维方式。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">我们为自己的人生角色为&ldquo;驾驶员&rdquo;。</p>','2024-03-24 15:49:39.727','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f861a92-4cf1-42b7-b302-9cc6b2d03cdb','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','8395724b-02ac-4925-bdb8-716d4709835a','<p>习惯一，积极主动，找回选择回应方式的自由，控制自己的回应，成为自己人生的驾车员。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-25 11:01:24.557','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
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<p>还真是这样！</p>
<h3>主动的人&ldquo;会思考行为后果&rdquo;，如果一个人总认为问题不在自己身上，这本身就是个问题。</h3>
<h3><span style="color: rgb(251, 238, 184);">我是可以轻松地控制自己。</span></h3>','2024-03-25 11:41:43.15','2024-03-26 00:03:41.057',NULL,'f','2024-03-25 16:00:00','2024-03-26 00:03:41.056',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a7c8d1dc-8e75-4cc7-aa0d-8eeb7aba5e89','6fb83da7-c822-434b-8d1e-d61c39a2db27','b3ab7f77-68a3-4270-b3a3-05b9c158dccd','<p>了解伴侣双方在一起的目的是必要的。多花点时间，专注的把注意力放在伴侣身上，沟通彼此的想法，才能真正的变成一家人。生活的琐碎，经常会让人们偏离原本的目的，婚姻的蓝图 可以让亲密关系重新回到正轨。</p>','2024-03-25 15:15:59.401','2024-03-28 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029','2024-03-28 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('849bb888-dc8a-48b3-b222-5d43a98ab772','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>很可惜也很心疼我们还常常看到家暴、霸凌的新闻。很多事情，包括情绪我们都不能控制，但对于刺激我们能选择回应的方式，提前想想作了负面的动作或说了消极的话语会带来什么结果。</p>','2024-03-25 13:42:53.554','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('14a918ef-717d-4495-ac3e-787ad69d64cf','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','576d96d0-dcd8-47c0-8ecc-c9881174d6fa','<p>哈哈!</p>
<p>我一直都是以正面的思维去处理家事。没有大吼大叫, 只因坚信&ldquo;家和万事兴&rdquo;.</p>
<p>大吼大叫、批评只会让情况更糟, 干事无補。</p>
<p>记住, 我有选择权!</p>','2024-03-25 13:47:59.632','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e342075e-0c01-4b23-b91f-c3db7553133b','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','b3ab7f77-68a3-4270-b3a3-05b9c158dccd','<p>我们都要需要学习为生活按下<span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);"><strong>暂停键</strong></span>。我们没有办法决定自己的出生，甚至很难去改变生长环境。情景会影响我们成为怎么样的人。但是情绪和态度是可以选择的，通过不断地学习，正向的沟通/生活模式也能成为一种习惯。</p>','2024-03-25 15:06:50.937','2024-03-26 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016','2024-03-26 00:00:00.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c2168e7b-b402-4ca5-b683-cbe8f979ba37','aa24c61c-97f9-4bab-afb2-e89635068a60','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>其实做自己是最难的，读这本书也是想自我醒觉</p>','2024-05-01 00:50:07.589','2024-05-01 00:50:07.589',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-01 00:50:07.588',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f907a13-38fd-44fe-b82f-46d2b884ccdb','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','7448fec0-0a1b-4d55-b6ab-493cfa3c30e6','<p>我们拥有选择的能力和自由，能创造出自己每天的心态。</p>
<p>我们应该关注影响圈，如何让我们过能更丰盛美满</p>','2024-03-27 01:46:07.556','2024-03-27 01:46:07.556',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 01:46:07.556',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('726c7ad6-fed5-4968-b037-b0ca3cb1f0a3','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>我的人生我做主.自己控制自己的EQ.给自己pause button.多关注自己的情绪.先管理情绪和心态,后做事.我可以😊🙏.</p>','2024-03-26 00:11:48.204','2024-03-26 00:11:48.204',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 00:11:48.203',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('789a54b4-24da-4e1e-94ef-98306b6ca250','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','21ceaf5e-b3bc-4932-9668-8bba1ac69420','<p>我可以成为自己人生的驾驶员，控制自己的想法，控制自己所要说出的话。主动积极的人，在做任何回应之前，都会先按暂停，让自己冷静的思考，而不是毫无控制无法控制情绪。</p>','2024-03-26 00:41:27.358','2024-03-26 00:41:27.358',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 00:41:27.357',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d949d88-26cd-4448-bcb0-23b873c35adb','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','dbfdcd68-e817-4bb7-b068-d5613aeb0452','<p>积极主动，我们可以控制我们的想法，我们的回应方式。有时候我会冲着丈夫抱怨，可是学习沟通方式后，我会想一想换一换温和的方式说，这样可以避免难堪不愉快的对话气氛。挺好的。对孩子还需要多加努力，好好说话。&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-26 01:09:06.838','2024-03-26 01:09:06.838',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 01:09:06.837',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d18021b5-9e65-4c89-9c18-a6423ec00b62','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>七個習慣的基礎就是積极主動，而不是消极被動，積极主動帶來的結果是想互尊重，相互欣賞，充滿耐心和持久的關係，積板主動能建立信任。</p>
<p>不能控制情緒，當选擇暴力和憤怒時，會在關係中造成很大的杀伤力。我們可通過''實践习慣一的选擇、責任和主動性，成為自己人生的駕駛員，可以控制自己的想法和所說的話。</p>','2024-03-26 01:38:32.385','2024-03-26 01:38:32.385',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 01:38:32.384',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59643013-6a1c-4869-9857-5bf0938e605d','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>消极被动的人没有暂停键，遇到不称心的事，会立刻大发雷霆。积极主动的就会按下暂停键，先思考，冷静，然后根据当时的情况做出选择。</p>
<p>我们应该应用我们的天赋，我们的意识力，良知，独立意志做出最好的回应。</p>
<p>积极主动带来的后果是互相尊重，互相欣赏，建立信任。</p>','2024-03-26 01:45:53.924','2024-03-26 01:45:53.924',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 01:45:53.923',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9d08eac-c346-4a0c-85e6-f75c3b79ce74','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>七个高效能沟通习惯是从家庭开始改变，善解，包容，知足，感恩。自己做到了，对外就贵人处处在，好事自然来。<br>26-3-2024</p>','2024-03-26 01:56:06.712','2024-03-26 01:56:06.712',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 01:56:06.712',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('37a9efda-0c74-4524-b902-ed965f7c8475','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">积极主动的人停止争论，深吸一口气，反思当下的处境。他们不会根据愤怒的本能行事，而会控制自己的怒火。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">看到这个，我想要改变自己现有的思维模式，很多时候看到同事慢吞吞的样子工作，我很生气的，问题不在于他人，而是自己。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s2">试着做点别的來分散自己的注意力，看一下书，吸一口气，听一首歌。</span></p>','2024-03-26 02:00:41.534','2024-03-26 02:00:41.534',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 02:00:41.533',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed659187-6f1c-4292-a69b-fe8c19c83eb3','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','76f645ae-2136-427a-a603-bc2656497f1e','<p>消极被动没有&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;，积极主动会按下&ldquo;暂停键&ldquo;。<br>我们人类拥有选择应对措施的自由。有自我意识，有想象力，有良知，也有独立意志。七个习惯的基础就是积极主动。<br>是的，一段关系不需要两个完美无缺的人，只需要两个互相欣赏，和愿意做出调整的人，终点是共度余生。<br>通过实践习惯一积极主动，成为自己人生的驾驶员。控制自己的想法和自己说出的话/</p>','2024-03-26 02:06:17.942','2024-03-26 02:06:17.942',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 02:06:17.941',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('abe43e85-f625-417c-b94e-591fc60080ce','fb07f67b-b703-404c-9258-911a1c2e4373','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>移情聆听，试着从对方的角度看问题。反思听到、观察到、体会到对方的感受。</p>
<p>以清晰直接的反馈让对方了解自己的意思，而不是进行人身攻击，因为这是沟通时最避讳的方式。</p>','2024-03-26 06:10:51.578','2024-04-07 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2024-04-07 00:00:00.018','2024-04-07 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ad83bfcb-8c6f-4540-b12e-ba4f5bcee220','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','e92fa812-5847-46d0-9a60-632ef6e84ced','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果把你说了些尖酸刻薄的话，让我生气了：</span></p>
<ol class="ol1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">我会按下暂停键；</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">这个时候想想我的影响圈可以做的事情；可能走开去做别的事情，分散我的注意力。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">我还会想想为何伴侣脾气会这么大，是在工作上受了气，还是压力大吗？我可能会倒一杯水，或咖啡来给他来调解一下情绪。</span></li>
</ol>','2024-03-27 01:58:02.602','2024-03-27 01:58:02.602',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 01:58:02.602',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ef5fc2b-01af-4061-812a-1004966ecef9','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','e6d1c881-f99f-4343-9565-634878262b80','<p>暂停 - 思考 - 选择</p>
<p>不管发生任何事，在回应之前，我们有权利按暂停键，重新的细考，再选择最佳的回应方式。</p>','2024-03-27 15:38:44.861','2024-03-27 15:38:44.861',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 15:38:44.86',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9459c0d-c0f3-46e8-b5e8-abd19dfed6f3','0e067bd3-c77e-4b53-84e3-bcdebca91b40','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>紧急和要事真的差别巨大。开始要学习辨别而好好的学习应用它们。</p>','2024-10-17 11:13:04.277','2024-10-17 11:13:04.277',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-17 11:13:04.276',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ade7e50-38ad-4823-b5e5-1b7433bcc13f','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','26458796-5d5f-468a-ac5f-69a3a6e55885','<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">Day-</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">15</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;"> p</span></strong><strong style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: ''Garamond'',''serif''; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB;">69-74</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">【你有选择回应方式的自由】</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">自由的一个解释是：面对不符合期待的事故时，你能否按下暫停键、转移注意力以消减自己的怒气，然后，做出明智的选择。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond;">积极主动，是更美好的自己和关系的一种选择。</span></p>','2024-03-26 02:08:19.137','2024-03-26 02:08:19.137',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 02:08:19.136',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('472f395c-780f-4645-a755-8f4bb1662962','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>我们是有自己的选择的。选择成为积极主动的人会冷静思考才做出反应，深受大家喜爱；选择成为消极被动的人总是觉得自己就是这个样子，改不了自己，最后可能造成两人关系疏远。</p>','2024-03-26 02:40:09.686','2024-03-26 02:40:09.686',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 02:40:09.685',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f31791c3-f3fd-442b-a9ba-b8a24cb0fc2e','096b0130-c5a1-4eeb-88d2-64e1104e9f3e','15796862-86d2-4057-a055-0f7b1bf6f462','<p>长尾模式，积少成多的小额收入。</p>
<p>是的，由于网络时代牵涉到的范围实在太阔了。世界每一个角落都可以达到。</p>
<p>通过搜索引擎以前卖不出的产品会找到知音人。</p>
<p>长尾模式追求的是范围经济，也就是品种越多，成本就越低。就转向成小众化营销。现在不要以为大就好，小的也妙。在小众上寻找突破，说不定隐藏着更多的机会和潜力。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-05-01 01:17:08.672','2024-05-01 01:17:08.672',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-01 01:17:08.671',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29770c52-bb3b-4663-975f-b99c24e8f096','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>一段感情是否能持久有賴於雙方互相欣賞 即是兩人都是不完美的人 ，其中一人願意做出必要的調整，與人相處常會碰到對方的地雷，這個每次讓伴侶踩地雷的人須學會按下暫停鍵，不要什麼都看不順眼。當遇到落差 先不要以憤怒解決問題， 憤怒往往會讓你失去溝通機會，也沒有人會為你的憤怒買單。&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-26 03:57:03.492','2024-03-26 03:57:03.492',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 03:57:03.491',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9785aaa9-4f1f-4a2a-bde7-bf9b28af178b','7907185e-e027-46c6-a624-3616687c4184','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>想要维持婚姻关系稳固，就必须把伴侣摆在其他所有的事物之前，甚至包括在孩子之前，伴侣关系才是第一位。</p>','2024-03-26 04:35:47.869','2024-04-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-04-01 00:00:00.028','2024-04-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('62a99ed2-401b-49b4-aa9b-a5ad0da5629b','788d2085-405f-4cb3-a4a0-414e4a9f486a','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>存款能建立并修复信任，取款则有损信任。与伴侣沟通，了解对方对她来说什么说是沟通，也告诉对方来说什么是存款。</p>','2024-03-26 04:50:19.635','2024-04-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-04-03 00:00:00.008','2024-04-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e932d397-376e-4f8f-8a4e-f41e63c18e25','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>消极被动的人思想没有&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;，积极主动的人会按下&ldquo;暂停键&ldquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人类拥有选择应对措施的自由。</p>
<p>一段关系,夫妻没有人是完美无缺的，只要两个人愿意做出调整,不要硬碰,一切都有轉机。</p>
<p>积极主动，成为自己人生的驾驶员。学习控制自己的想法和自己说出的话。</p>','2024-03-26 04:40:40.158','2024-03-26 04:40:40.158',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 04:40:40.157',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7ce11209-0ccc-43d9-84f0-ec60b30f413c','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','8ee74189-0f4a-45f1-a41e-d97a05b361a8','<p>Day 15 📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</p>
<p>你有选择回应方式的自由（Page 069-074）26Mar2024, 1236</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：从几个小故事中，&ldquo;暂停&rdquo;很重要。过往会马上回应，都是跟情绪有关。透过多年的练习，现在都会关注自己的起心动念，先停一停，看一看，在做出回应。当中其中一个小故事是John下班后的小故事。回到家，现在车上按下暂停键，心里默念&ldquo;我关心和深爱的一切都在这栋房子里，这就是我每天上班的理由。&rdquo;我想我可以在这方面积极主动锻炼这习惯，为了加强更好的人际关系。</p>
<p>我们常会面对不如意的人事物，但我们可以控制自己的回应方式，结果会与之前有所不同。若我们原本是那个大呼大叫的人，也可以透过积极主动和选择你的反应方式来改正我们的人际关系。控制自己的想法，结果也会跟着不一样。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-26 04:55:57.436','2024-03-26 04:55:57.436',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 04:55:57.435',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99996d92-a9f1-42a0-bd96-3630c979731f','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>积极主动是对自己行为负责。</p>','2024-03-26 12:20:23.853','2024-03-26 12:20:23.853',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 12:20:23.852',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e246b3d7-37bd-497a-81f2-090fc5977793','684b5cce-c4be-461b-a537-1a0fb50d6854','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>撰写一份伴侣使命宣言，这份使命宣言就像是和伴侣之间需要遵守的章程，能协助做出人生决策，为双方所造未来。</p>','2024-03-26 03:37:32.071','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('19e1c223-af2e-431c-a235-7f51fddf0583','2ac58b3d-f990-42a7-b471-4d75e2318609','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>要事第一，每天一开始最重要的就是规划自己最重要的活动，其中包括留给自己的时间，以及留给伴侣的时间。</p>','2024-03-26 04:40:13.129','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85165813-96d2-467e-b4c9-6436f76ff1d8','b4dd5493-7883-41ba-a1af-e243fcd89c1c','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>伴侣之间分享感受和相互聆听很重要，这需要时间，也需要技巧，需要不断学习，许下承诺，边做边学，在许下承诺。在任何关系中，相互沟通是非常重要的。</p>','2024-03-26 05:35:41.864','2024-04-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2024-04-05 00:00:00.017','2024-04-05 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('add7dd26-901e-4bfe-a72c-f47e0d505cf9','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>角色期待中充满评断 ： 人生的lifecycle 生老病死，这个定律，每个人，每天每分每秒都随着这波潮流去。当中更结合了周围环境因素而造就了每个人的独特的人生经历，但是大家的方向是一致的：生老病死。大家都配合这股人生的定律、环境的定律、人与人的江湖是非定律而忙得不亦乐乎。</p>
<p>但是，我们是人，人是有灵性的，我们可想过自己内心深处要的是什么吗 ？看来只有夸过了安全感及归宿感，踏入了价值感时，才会开始定下來，然后开始&rdquo;胡思乱想&rdquo;内心深处的要的是什么。</p>','2024-04-28 05:23:00.968','2024-04-28 05:23:00.968',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 05:23:00.967',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ceaaa323-59f3-4bf5-8769-988688478c91','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','9070d9da-6428-4328-8983-4c4a65d0a468','<p>一段感情能否长久，取决于彼此间的欣赏和包容。我相信，不需要找到完美的人，只要找到愿意一起成长、互相包容的人，就能走向幸福。在感情中，会遇到很多挑战，但重要的是学会处理冲突，不要让小事影响大局。我坚信，通过理解、尊重和感恩，我们可以共同创造出美好的未来。</p>','2024-03-26 07:19:18.869','2024-03-26 07:19:18.869',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 07:19:18.868',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bee2ffc9-aef6-48b0-b638-dd8fca9d3969','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','b4b15dc1-1ce2-4a8f-92da-fdcadf99c95d','<p>不管在家庭或者事业上都必须创建使命宣言，这样就会变得强大又团结，能够不惧激流，奋勇向前。我们都能控制自己的的回应，我们每个人都会因原生家庭或成长环境的影响 可能会传承了一些不好的习惯但只要相信好好的通过实践习惯一，就可以成为自己人生的驾驶员。我们可以控制自己的想法也可以控制自己说出的话，要成为积极主动的人学会按下暂停键 思考行为的后果。</p>','2024-03-26 07:33:11.154','2024-03-26 07:33:11.154',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 07:33:11.153',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1f7739a-8268-4fed-8418-282742eaa934','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','e92fa812-5847-46d0-9a60-632ef6e84ced','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">积极主动是：根据自己重视的东西做出选择，因为后果要自负。</span></p>','2024-03-26 08:15:16.876','2024-03-26 08:15:16.876',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 08:15:16.875',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82083fd7-c5df-4ad2-8573-67f25e7d8d1c','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','a7efe7b4-ad68-4550-8a69-fec2d37569ed','<p>1.消极被动的人没有&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;，会当即大发雷霆。积极主动的人则会按下&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;，思考行为的后果，他们会让自己冷静下来，然后根据自身价值观做出选择。</p>
<p>2.如果你认为问题不是出在自己身上，这个想法本身就是问题。<br>3.积极主动的人会停止争论，他们不会根据愤怒的本能行事，而会控制自己的怒火。可做点别的来分散自己的注意力，比如想想其他事，可以学习反思，观察自己选择的后果，也可以根据自身价值观做出选择。我们可以对自己的行为负责。</p>
<p>4.所谓的&ldquo;负责&rdquo;，就是&ldquo;能够做出回应&rdquo;的另一种说法。</p>
<p>5.你可以成为自己人生的驾驶员，可以控制自己的想法，可以控制自己说出的话。</p>','2024-03-26 09:17:05.931','2024-03-26 09:17:05.931',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 09:17:05.93',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9664167-e43f-4917-87ce-dbe9da2203ba','aa24c61c-97f9-4bab-afb2-e89635068a60','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人际关系互动中常见的游戏，借着这游戏来看看自己，但是游戏玩久了，反而让我心们失去省察自己的空间。</p>
<p>投射是在每个人成长过程中，走过的经验，留下一些所谓的心像。</p>
<p>对某个人第一次见面就有好感或者负面的印象，这都是以前经历的投射所留下的密码，投射到对方身上，开始和对方互动，就对这个人有好感或者看不顺眼的感觉。</p>','2024-05-01 02:02:20.781','2024-05-01 02:02:20.781',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-01 02:02:20.78',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('766cc395-830b-49b2-8081-066d1f2a87be','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>时刻要积极主动地活在当下，才可以及时按下&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;。意识到自己的感觉和情绪，但不作出反应；用习惯二，以终为始、习惯三，要是第一，选择正面的回应，自由自在，皆大欢喜。</p>','2024-03-26 09:30:44.435','2024-03-26 09:30:44.435',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 09:30:44.434',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5eeb9f8f-1a5b-48aa-ae10-df229251def6','85eb84a6-4216-42a8-8815-062280c26244','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p>Day 19 ：5月3日《自在沟通》<br>觉察与辨识：控制（Page 088-094）<br>🎯今日读后感悟：<br>控制某某人都会感觉不舒服感。除非是心甘情愿被控制。控制因为了如期完成自己所期待的，也求安心。</p>','2024-05-03 11:16:42.357','2024-05-03 11:16:42.357',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-03 11:16:42.356',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('baf42121-a7e3-4d59-aae2-7c5fd0a3d06a','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>我们绝对可以控制和选择我们的回应方式，积极主动点，按下&rdquo;暂停&rdquo;键，思考行为的后果。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果你认为问题不是出在自己身上，这个想法本身就是问题</p>','2024-03-26 12:21:50.551','2024-03-26 12:21:50.551',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 12:21:50.55',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dac96c97-bc01-4f61-a2cd-005d995760b1','8fd34a48-72d7-4555-bcea-2d7cfcb866ea','3abe422e-2060-4939-bb24-3eead52647a2','<p>密集开店的核心就是<strong>便利。</strong>方便消费者购买日常生活用品，也节省了供应商送货上门时间成本。</p>','2024-05-05 13:53:17.383','2024-05-05 13:53:17.383',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 13:53:17.382',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('11a618fa-74fd-48a3-b3b8-916a3bfdfada','684b5cce-c4be-461b-a537-1a0fb50d6854','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>3月30、Day 19&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">实践习惯二： 撰写关系使命宣言（</span>Page 089-093<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：这个篇章很强调：夫妻能够一起完成《撰写伴侣使命宣言》，是一段夫妻关系最重要也是最有影响的一个活动。因为通过这个撰写，更让彼此确定未来家庭目标，同时也设立彼此要塑造的价值观。</span></p>','2024-03-26 09:36:34.432','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('edf5843e-0d8e-49cb-979a-cd3bae91dc42','8099ee36-6488-40af-889c-67328462aa86','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>高效能沟通习惯7 - 统合综效的2大法则：</p>
<p>1. 必须真心重视对方。</p>
<p>2. 必须意识到对方的长处，因为每个人让都有价值，都有自己的长处。</p>','2024-03-26 10:13:59.052','2024-04-08 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-04-08 00:00:00.02','2024-04-08 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d402ff4-59e9-4d34-8ce1-8a4e1d27e22e','fc0756f2-ec6d-478c-b5ca-0f46ce417570','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一段关系中若是只能注意到对方的短处，那这段关系是非常难持续下去的，因为每个人都希望感觉被需要、受重视。</span></p>','2024-03-26 10:11:14.868','2024-04-09 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2024-04-09 00:00:00.01','2024-04-09 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c64f30ed-4659-4532-997b-7a96df48c4bd','fe038a66-c675-4b8e-a1ff-1011c6ad8f2a','e29cd9ce-0513-46cd-8541-113f3ab52087','<p>将习惯7&ldquo;不断更新&rdquo;付诸时间，更新自己的身体、头脑、心灵和精神，就能做出更好的选择，让自己和身边的其他人过得更幸福。</p>','2024-03-26 10:18:29.011','2024-04-10 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2024-04-10 00:00:00.02','2024-04-10 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('28b21b2e-f8b2-4683-84cc-f63d9ec1ca8c','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>告诉自己，在见到面之前，选择怎样的心态，一切都会不同。</p>','2024-03-26 10:24:30.087','2024-03-26 10:24:30.087',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 10:24:30.086',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da7f12ef-9f3a-4773-a640-f03767186e98','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','01ea1d11-1b1a-41e8-99c0-7e87552ad519','<p>我们都有控制自己情绪的选择, 按下暂停键，说话之前想一想说这话的意义何在，以什么样的方式去说，千万不要被自己的脾气左右，因为往往人在这时候说出来的话最伤人。</p>','2024-03-26 10:32:23.241','2024-03-26 10:32:23.241',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 10:32:23.24',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8356f718-83c1-40e3-b934-93435a1b41db','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','e96fbd10-e6c3-4991-a72d-f1f7e5d01ae1','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">成为自己人生的驾驶员，控制自己的想法，控制自己说到话。常常下意识的让当下的情绪影响自己与别人，要学习控制自己的情绪与想法！</span></p>','2024-03-26 10:35:43.199','2024-03-26 10:35:43.199',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 10:35:43.198',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c1fbc68-1adb-4575-8c8f-4525ef516ce4','096b0130-c5a1-4eeb-88d2-64e1104e9f3e','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果还没有能力做到头部，可以利用长尾模式在市场上分一杯羹。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只要成本足够低，几乎能想到的所有市场需求，只要有卖就会有买。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">依靠Google或Shopee Lazada上的搜索引擎发掘这个市场。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">长尾模式追求的是范围经济，就是品种越多，成本越低。比如说customize tshirt, gift printing，利用已经批量生产，再加上自订印刷来扩张品种。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">但感觉上要做长尾模式，就要研究出一套可以把成本控制到最低的方式。</span></p>','2024-05-01 02:07:32.076','2024-05-01 02:07:32.076',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-01 02:07:32.075',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab5d67e1-4ed5-41e3-bcd9-4c463efdb8a5','2ac58b3d-f990-42a7-b471-4d75e2318609','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>4月2、Day 22&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span>实践习惯三：规划留给亲密关系的时间（Page 105-109）</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：我们一直以为，只要是夫妻两人同在一个屋檐下 ，一起吃饭一起看戏一起睡觉就算是&ldquo;为我们流出时间&rdquo;。其实这些统统都不是有品质的一对一时间。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">要创造真正的一对一的时光，不仅仅要刻意而且还要有意识性的安排。并且更关键的是夫妻彼此之间都具备一定的共识度，这个举动对创建优质的婚姻关系是必然选项的一环。</p>','2024-03-26 11:25:48.756','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01','2024-04-02 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c59bda3-7ad4-4ab0-846f-0fa383076025','788d2085-405f-4cb3-a4a0-414e4a9f486a','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>4月3、Day 23&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯四：双赢思维-在关系中建立信任. &mdash;正的聆听（Page 110-115）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：真正的优质亲密关系，需要常常投入存款的情感账户：-仁慈和善、坦诚、诚心道歉、忠于不在现场的人、信守承诺、始终信任对方、宽恕、严格遵循价值观。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">破坏性的取款情感账户则是：尖酸刻薄、撒谎、道歉不真诚、背后说对方坏话、不信守承诺、打破信任、怀恨在心、说一套做一套。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-26 11:40:40.778','2024-04-03 03:50:22.942',NULL,'f','2024-04-03 00:00:00.008','2024-04-03 03:50:22.941',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7d480d5-a296-4e54-b4cc-c78f69f901fc','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','3a0fa86c-5a82-45ea-aace-7b8e7654c3c4','<p>很多人都认为自己没法控制自己的本性，包括脾气，负面，不足之处等等，把一切都归于父母或基因，可以完全不付责任的推掉一切。</p>
<p>虽然我们不能选择父母亲和遗传基因，但是我们可以控制自己对任何事情的反应和回应方式。</p>','2024-03-26 12:06:16.282','2024-03-26 12:06:16.282',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 12:06:16.281',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2cdc0d82-d85a-468e-aa60-a08c36e2e8e4','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','c0dfea61-558e-4ab6-aa83-3a14aeab20c5','<p>Day 15&nbsp;&nbsp;📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">你有选择回应方式的自由（</span>Page 069-074<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我們有辦法成為自己的主人</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">就從「積極主動」開始</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">很多時候 自己散發出來的負面情緒</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">也會直接地影響周遭的人</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">繼而讓大家都籠罩在這負面情緒中</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">但如果由自己開始散發出正面的情緒</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">那周遭的人也會感受到這正面情緒</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">所以何樂而不為</p>','2024-03-26 12:11:59.559','2024-03-26 12:11:59.559',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 12:11:59.558',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('587aa253-0821-48bc-b22f-a710b13b5bed','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>强者不找借口，弱者有100种理由</p>','2024-03-26 15:39:43.15','2024-03-26 15:39:43.15',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:39:43.149',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b1066b4-c24b-48fa-b3a7-c5b500c1db91','7907185e-e027-46c6-a624-3616687c4184','b3369cfe-0030-41e8-9b16-eadc0741f944','<p>4月1、Day 21&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯三： 要事第一 </span>&ndash; <span lang="ZH-CN">共度一对一时间（</span>Page 100-104<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：【大部分人在紧急事件上花的时间太多，在重要事件上花的时间却不够】。这简直是比真理，还要真理的一句话。</span></p>
<p>为了生活，特别是麻木不仁的忙碌几乎抹杀我们心中本来就知道的重要关系。可以说，我们投入的努力奋斗也都是为了这个重要关系。可是，我们留给重要关系的时间往往太少太少。这叫多少人留下了遗憾。包括我自己。</p>
<p>这个篇章还提到一个重点：一段破裂的关系除了没有把对方摆在第一位，其次就是把对方视为理所当然。</p>
<p>对于夫妻而言，如要保持婚姻关系的稳定，就得把伴侣摆在所有东西前面，包括孩子。真希望每一个夫妻在步入婚姻前就学会这个技能。</p>','2024-03-26 10:43:13.46','2024-04-01 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-04-01 00:00:00.028','2024-04-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca44f023-aacf-450f-a189-4b170a835e0a','9f972a2a-9f0a-4bd4-af0a-02df933e5054','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>模式的改变，必然利益得失也会不同，致于能否成功则看公司领导者的眼光与判断。</p>','2024-10-01 13:41:42.461','2024-10-01 13:41:42.461',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-01 13:41:42.461',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('02544881-2574-4d00-a868-9f61da81b07e','f29fca5e-5917-4182-ae2d-9387aac095da','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>有效管理自己的目标，不要被别的东西轻易打扰</p>','2024-10-13 15:24:00.605','2024-10-13 15:24:00.605',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-13 15:24:00.604',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bec55bb1-5d50-4212-8c55-86e86f7272a2','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','9fa5e305-35f5-447e-907f-f41a5a7c9533','<p>消极被动的人没有暂停键，会当即大发雷霆。积极主动的人则会按下暂停键，思考行为的后果。我喜欢这句话：如果你认为问题不是出在自己身上，这个想法本身就是问题。我们拥有选择应对措施的自由，可以重塑自我做出改变，学习暂停。7个习惯的基础就是积极主动，那是相互尊重，相互欣赏，充满耐心，建立信任。。</p>','2024-03-26 12:49:39.575','2024-03-26 12:49:49.521',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 12:49:49.52',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e453a3ac-764d-4f9e-b358-6b1be8113d69','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','0a08fea5-5f22-4ee8-a6b0-7c46e27899cf','<p>Day 15&nbsp;&nbsp;📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">你有选择回应方式的自由（</span>Page 069-074<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：<br><br></span><strong>&ldquo;心态&rdquo;</strong>是由自己控制的&mdash;&mdash;我们每个人在思考问题和做出反应时，心中都会有一种强烈的冲动。<br>但是要知道，自己是能够控制这种冲动的。心态是选择的结果，是苦是甜，全在于你自己。<br>调整负面、消极或焦虑情绪，建立乐观、坚定、自信的心态。将关注的重点放在目标以及如何实现目标上。</p>','2024-03-26 13:09:12.288','2024-03-26 13:09:12.288',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:09:12.287',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cfb669aa-30a2-48b8-81d2-15a7b50c61c8','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','e6d1c881-f99f-4343-9565-634878262b80','<p>实践&ldquo;积极主动&rdquo;选择自己回应的方式，学习管理负面情绪。必定能制造一个相互尊重，相互欣赏，充满耐心和持久的关系。</p>','2024-03-26 13:18:53.911','2024-03-26 13:18:53.911',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:18:53.911',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c06476cc-c189-442c-9ca4-ecda2b84dfe1','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>我有选择回应的权力。</p>
<p>发脾气时，情绪低落时，想骂人或被人骂的时候，首先按下&ldquo;暂停键&ldquo;，思考自己当下的处境。我们绝对拥有多种回应的方式。</p>','2024-03-26 13:29:27.79','2024-03-26 13:29:27.79',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:29:27.789',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac325423-aa0a-46cb-86e2-dd65a204c96e','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>任何问题的出现，我们都可以选择自己的回应方式。总是觉得自己没有问题的人，自己才是最大的问题。</p>','2024-03-26 13:34:49.446','2024-03-26 13:34:49.446',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:34:49.446',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9439a3d6-1bc4-4918-8b46-bfb8c48c7f4b','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>此时此刻，生命对我提出了什么要求？</p>
<p>我们不能控制他人或环境，但我们可以控制自己的回应，成为自己人生的驾驶员。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-26 13:35:12.216','2024-03-26 13:35:12.216',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:35:12.215',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('131adaba-f5d5-420c-a823-836378b40c25','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','05f5d501-df25-49f3-aa1f-7cfbf23ae03b','<p>&ldquo;你有选择回应方式的自由&rdquo;&nbsp;</p>
<p>这句话，一直在我脑海里，间接性引领着我处事待人。现在的我，与其不断沉浸在自我内耗的状态，反之我会选择往后退一步，重整自己在出发。慢慢的，会发现当初令我感到害怕，不快的一切，现在都变得微不足道了。</p>','2024-03-26 13:40:53.452','2024-03-26 13:40:53.452',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:40:53.451',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99ba2a59-5594-4498-afdb-7121fccf1e2e','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','138265fe-95ad-4ebc-b601-e7cbf4fd9f27','<p>七个习惯的基础就是积极主动，而不是消极被动。积极主动带来的结果是相互尊重，相互欣赏，充满耐心和持久的关系。积极主动能建立信任。我们都有能力或负责任的选择回应方式。</p>','2024-03-26 13:42:47.626','2024-03-26 13:42:47.626',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:42:47.625',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01e34d7f-4476-4bf9-9a8c-e032df4056e4','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','83e85070-582e-402b-b7a0-d1d2caaca6ca','<p>我们每个人应该都有选择按暂停键的自由。会不会用纯粹看自己的情绪管理到了什么境界。作者也说明了，所谓的&ldquo;负责&rdquo;，就是&ldquo;能够做出回应&rdquo;的另一种说法。</p>
<p>请问我们能够控制伴侣的情绪，脾气或感受吗？答案当然是不能，我们只能选择自己的回应方式。</p>','2024-03-26 13:50:21.612','2024-03-26 13:50:21.612',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:50:21.611',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c01c97c3-8071-4a9c-b96c-803f3345613b','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','41de270f-cb91-4cb2-9ab5-71f3aa94d1ad','<p>积极主动，可以把负面的情况改进变成积极，把情况正面的处理好。</p>
<p>积极主动，自己成为自己人生的驾驶员。</p>','2024-03-26 13:53:01.23','2024-03-26 13:53:01.23',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 13:53:01.229',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99f99515-ba4f-4ea8-a0a5-15f661cdc762','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>百年修得同船渡，千年修得共枕眠。成为夫妻可不是件容易的事，能让彼此和睦相处，家庭美满，的切需要积极主动的态度来完成。</p>','2024-03-26 14:01:23.469','2024-03-26 14:01:23.469',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 14:01:23.469',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f840b508-8073-47a3-a71a-373189bbf8c4','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','4cfe29dd-714c-41a2-bc6d-306205099ae9','<p>身為人，我們原本就賦予主動權，因為我們有完善的大腦系統思考。但在被外來刺激的影響，被情緒主導，我們竟然會放棄主動權變得被動。</p>
<p>婚姻必須至少有一方積極主動，才有可能維持家庭和諧。</p>','2024-03-26 13:53:53.074','2024-03-26 14:04:56.559',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 14:04:56.559',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7763e2ad-1648-4ffd-8fac-bdbd8af17bc2','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','8bb5395b-4a7f-4ea4-b0c6-90efaa21de5d','<p><br>人跟动物之间最大区别就是，我们拥有自主权，选择回应方式的自由。主动积极，专注在影响圈，别认为自己是受害者的心态。</p>','2024-03-26 14:15:52.237','2024-03-26 14:15:52.237',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 14:15:52.236',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8dffe94e-602f-454a-b2c8-551078c4aaa6','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','95959ea7-8fcc-4004-8564-5a6ec84f4fee','<p>积极主动（不冲动），反思和观察选择的后果，根据价值观选择回应方式。带来的结果是相互尊重和建立信任。</p>','2024-03-26 14:26:40.039','2024-03-26 14:26:40.039',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 14:26:40.039',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c07c0ec-e793-4346-8b31-8b5984538fb2','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','3206e8eb-d93a-41b1-a66f-b1c117a68838','<p>只要我们愿意，采取主动积极的步伐，婚姻必定能长久。</p>','2024-03-26 14:26:48.557','2024-03-26 14:27:01.025',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 14:27:01.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f4f42c6-1877-4cb8-b00e-a986948938d2','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','e07bac56-1aef-4097-818b-b564daf1eb54','<p>成为自己的驾驶员， 驾驭自己的反应选择， 控制自己的想法和说出的话， 师姑积极主动的举止。</p>','2024-03-26 14:30:00.885','2024-03-26 14:30:00.885',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 14:30:00.885',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('94f06d4b-f26b-4639-89a4-2f9e3edccabf','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','51d2b0ec-c275-4372-b27e-2aefff3833d3','<p>为自己做的回应方式负责。意味认同自己的习性，而无视后果会带来的后座力，对身边的人只是造成伤害。</p>','2024-03-26 15:01:45.197','2024-03-26 15:01:45.197',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:01:45.197',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8075cfe3-b359-4a5c-976c-a94b4a7bab84','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','0a821e9b-67d5-416e-a19f-085f25838fc9','<p>在关系里，控制自己的回应+选择回应的方式（主动积极），我们需要学习正念。</p>','2024-03-26 15:40:38.847','2024-03-26 15:40:38.847',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:40:38.846',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f93b8206-853a-4e5b-86ea-56697d7b7834','6fb83da7-c822-434b-8d1e-d61c39a2db27','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>出发要有个方向，关系也应该有个目标</p>','2024-03-28 15:41:38.715','2024-03-28 15:41:38.715',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-28 15:41:38.714',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3244c140-eb6f-48d4-b046-f7b3cd8596be','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>暂停、学习反思、观察自己、选择后果、自身价值观，对自己的行为负责！</p>
<p>情绪、暴力、愤怒、大吼大叫、脾气暴躁，双方的感情造成很大的破坏。</p>','2024-03-26 15:04:18.654','2024-03-26 15:04:18.654',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:04:18.653',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c9047a93-344c-43ff-b18a-0465e0774038','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','3bf587cc-973a-43cd-bcac-64b112cd922c','<p>七个习惯的基础就是积极主动，而不是消极被动. 积极主动带来的结果是相互尊重，相互欣赏，充满耐心, 持久的关系, 建立信任。塑造美满，健康和稳定的关系。</p>','2024-03-26 15:04:20.913','2024-03-26 15:04:20.913',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:04:20.912',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd6a1da2-f9b4-4c88-a34b-cefa6255478f','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>&nbsp;Day 15 📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</p>
<p>你有选择回应方式的自由（Page 069-074）</p>
<p>26 Mar 2024</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>习惯一：积极主动。我们可以选择自己要回应的方式，这就是我们的能力。</p>','2024-03-26 15:04:23.962','2024-03-26 15:04:23.962',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:04:23.961',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('35b52ece-f79c-4db7-b998-5ca11552e281','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>我们拥有按&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;的能力。</p>
<p>积极主动的回应方式可以让关系变得融洽。</p>','2024-03-26 15:05:36.114','2024-03-26 15:05:36.114',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:05:36.113',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a7d1627-e166-4997-bdcf-8f0c46a94f8d','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 15 &nbsp;3月 26日 (星期二）📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你有选择回应方式的自由（Page 069-074）</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我是可以控制自己的回应，因为我有选择权。我们有想象力、有良知、也有独立意志，我可以重塑自我，可以自愿做出改变，可以学习&rdquo;暂停&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">最重要学习反思，观察自己选择的后果，为自己的行为负责。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>','2024-03-26 15:12:42.385','2024-03-26 15:12:42.385',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:12:42.384',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9ba584cf-5d65-424a-aed0-06118d16b591','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','231fd760-abc8-4338-8180-cbe1d8796d39','<p>第十五天：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>停下脚步不是停止，而是让自己沉淀下来，之后慢慢一步一步走向自己向往的生活吧，这样的方式才能看到自己想要的东西和停下自己的想法。</p>','2024-03-26 15:18:01.415','2024-03-26 15:18:01.415',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:18:01.414',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52b47f29-7728-4602-9b73-8a5bdf21c776','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','71b0e248-f2e5-47a7-8371-aedda7abf686','<p>一段美满,健康,稳固的关系, 只需要两个人互相欣赏, 加上一人愿意作出必要的调整, 以便双方能携手共度余生.<br>我们是可以成为自己人生的驾驶员-- 我可以控制自己的想法及说出的话.</p>','2024-03-26 15:21:58.131','2024-03-26 15:21:58.131',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:21:58.13',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3b33dfed-660a-4be0-9164-3eac1d52f0ac','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','c8975ff9-0a95-454a-bf3d-2162bf88cbf2','<p>积极主动的思维方式指出，一段美满，健康，稳固的关系并不需要两个完美无缺的人，只需要两个互相欣赏，加上一个人愿意做出必要的调整，以便双方能携手共度余生。</p>
<p>我们可以自己控制自己的的想法，也可以控制自己说出的话。</p>','2024-03-26 15:25:43.885','2024-03-26 15:25:43.885',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:25:43.884',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d378b9b-e41f-40ff-8a91-3d9d4a06a783','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>一切从我开始想</p>
<p>都是一种选择</p>
<p>先按暂停键，先主动沟通，先退一步</p>','2024-03-26 15:37:03.887','2024-03-26 15:37:03.887',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:37:03.886',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ddc6690d-dfe1-4a9f-9ffb-226330ecfd75','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','96a3177a-243e-43aa-9067-4f8d102016fa','<p>给心灵排毒，情绪也需好好断舍离</p>
<p>按下暂停键，生活在一呼一吸之间</p>','2024-03-26 15:42:51.094','2024-03-26 15:42:51.094',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:42:51.093',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6a1ea68a-14ca-4d38-bb85-3def9cbdcc29','f2bfd204-3975-4b90-927b-16d0b8e4e72e','22fd98b7-ee5c-4320-84ca-4235d5088261','<p>控制自己的反应不是压抑自己，而是让自己在做出反应之前知道自己的理性和感性的矛盾点。有选择才算真正的控制，没有选择的余地才算是失去控制。</p>','2024-03-26 15:49:44.039','2024-03-26 15:49:44.039',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 15:49:44.038',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3d0bf31d-3818-449e-ba29-c1f8a841c6e8','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>积极主动是根据自己的价值观，自己重视的事物来选择如何做出回应。</p>
<p>消极被动是根据外界环境或外人，根据自己当时的心情感受来做出回应。</p>
<p>我们有选择的能力和自由。</p>
<p>按暂停，思考然后做出最佳的回应。</p>','2024-03-27 01:34:03.482','2024-03-27 01:34:03.482',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 01:34:03.481',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('868c4e53-6d96-47d3-9971-a4292b70b103','8fd34a48-72d7-4555-bcea-2d7cfcb866ea','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>供应链是内部的营销和商业模式</p>
<p>这样就成了供应商，除了自己的店面，别一间店也会来拿货。</p>','2024-05-05 13:55:01.323','2024-05-05 13:55:01.323',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 13:55:01.322',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70b7d702-101c-45d8-b176-c9de75b99e02','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','8ee74189-0f4a-45f1-a41e-d97a05b361a8','<p>Day 16 📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</p>
<p>实践习惯一： 积极主动（Page 075-079）27Mar2024, 0937</p>
<p>🎯读后感悟 ：</p>
<p>习惯一：积极主动。</p>
<p>先厘清想要保持的积极主动做法及停止消极被动做法，暂停，思考，选择。掌控自己能掌控的，尤其是自己，不是别人。掌控自己的回应，掌控自己的心态。这习惯需要多以练习，在其他的人际关系也可以用相同的习惯。</p>
<p>刚好昨天发生了些事，有点怒气，现在反省，认为做的不够好，还需要加把劲。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-27 01:48:48.272','2024-03-27 01:48:48.272',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 01:48:48.271',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">积极主动，顾及自己、情境与他人的需求，根据自己的价值观，选择回应的方式。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">抉择时，分清什么是自己能够施以影响的事物，而不是自己无法影响的事物，意即所谓的由內而外。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.0pt; font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Garamond; mso-hansi-font-family: Garamond; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN;">暫停．思考．选择&mdash;&mdash;积极主动选择三步骤。</span></p>','2024-03-27 01:48:49.841','2024-03-27 01:48:49.841',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 01:48:49.84',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我問我自己....</p>
<p>能夠釐清自己冰山下真正的情緒是很棒的。</p>','2024-05-10 10:29:54.027','2024-05-10 10:29:56.196',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-10 10:29:56.195',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5c33043-d1c3-4744-a3df-0ee666ba8a7e','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>每天给自己时间修积极主动.知道end in mind 是什么.做在影响圈里.</p>
<p>暂停,思考,选择-人生3步🎯</p>','2024-03-26 22:01:37.257','2024-03-26 22:01:37.257',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-26 22:01:37.256',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('20ad8c75-c4d3-49f9-bcc9-31a66cc5172f','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','9f863640-842a-4628-8fab-42097ab0c4dd','<p>关注自己能影响的事，不关注那些你改变不了的事，因为你改变不了</p>','2024-03-22 13:54:44.535','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p><strong><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">生活中的影响圈</span></strong></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">要求丈夫陪我会我妈的家乡，每次都回他妈的家乡，他一直说下次。结婚时会过去一次然后9年，没有回过。</span></li>
<li><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">家婆要回她家乡拜年，除了我丈夫而已，可以载她回。家婆什么都对。</span></li>
<li><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">跟着回去还是不跟丈夫回，如果不跟回，就会与丈夫关系变恶化。</span></li>
</ol>
<p><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);"><strong>如何做出积极主动的选择</strong></span></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">暂停键，妥协。</span></li>
<li><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">安排看看哪年，给我一个机会回。</span></li>
<li>&nbsp;<span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);">等，不吵不闹。</span></li>
</ol>','2024-03-24 16:58:37.087','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05df78d5-6307-4d9e-9a24-6fe08b4ab3da','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','8395724b-02ac-4925-bdb8-716d4709835a','<p>当积极主动时，要关注的只是自己能够影响的事，无法影响的事物，就不要去担心。这就是由内而外。</p>
<p>把生活想像成俩个圈子:</p>
<p>1。关注圈 ~ 你关注而已，无法有直接影响的。</p>
<p>2。影响全4 ~ 关注并能有直接影响的。</p>
<p>应对在影响圈遇到的挑战，请选择那种会应方式能为你带来最好的结果。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-26 10:39:56.716','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('78987765-f62e-4164-9373-4b0753eb9689','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 16 &nbsp;3月 27日 (星期三）📚《 高效能沟通的7个习惯 》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">实践习惯一： 积极主动（Page 075-079）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">实践习惯一： 积极主动</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">注影响圈：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">采取积极主动的思维方式时，问自己提出以下问题：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">在这段关系中，我想继续保持哪些积极主动的做法？</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">我想停止哪些消极被动的做法？</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">我是否相信，如果我主动而非被动地做出选择，就能为自己和他人带来幸福？</span></li>
</ul>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">假设我的伴侣说了某些尖酸刻薄的话，惹我生气了。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">请按照上述三个步骤，应对你在&ldquo;影响圈&rdquo;遇到的挑战。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">暂停：下次发生这种事的时候，我会做些什么来按下</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">思考：我的&ldquo;影响圈&rdquo;有哪些积极主动的回应方式？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">选择：哪种回应方式能力我带来最好的结果？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">暂停➡️ 思考➡️ 选择</span></p>','2024-03-26 15:55:55.857','2024-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">消极被动的定义：我们根据外界环境或外人、根据自己此时此刻的感受，来选择如何做出回应。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">关注圈：你在生活中关注但无法直接影响的事物</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">影响圈：你在生活中能够直接影响的事物（尤其是你自己），以及能够施加影响的事物（例如信任）。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在我的家庭生活里，我看到我姐时常因为我妈老人病引起的行为而发脾气，我觉得很无奈。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我无法阻止我姐发脾气</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我可以主动去帮忙我姐或我妈。</span></p>','2024-03-27 00:08:08.638','2024-03-27 00:08:08.638',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 00:08:08.636',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('493e84b9-c269-4207-82cb-2688fafd5b69','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','21ceaf5e-b3bc-4932-9668-8bba1ac69420','<p>我们可以选择回应方式，关注影响圈，关注自己可以影响的事物。 要学习如何暂停，思考才做出回应。</p>','2024-03-27 00:58:15.64','2024-03-27 00:58:15.64',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 00:58:15.639',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a0c2e9a-aa0f-4693-bc43-928794ccec4c','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','3206e8eb-d93a-41b1-a66f-b1c117a68838','<p>暂停 --&gt; 思考 --&gt; 选择 --&gt; 关注影响圈，</p>','2024-03-27 11:12:42.612','2024-03-27 11:12:42.612',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 11:12:42.612',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bfc100a7-517e-4106-9b2c-743bfe0d55b6','b0443c7e-d99f-4b82-8b68-45d77c231c92','0a821e9b-67d5-416e-a19f-085f25838fc9','<p>在绘制关系蓝图时，要邀请伴侣一起参与。</p>','2024-03-29 15:43:26.377','2024-03-29 15:43:26.377',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-29 15:43:26.376',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c6e6b0e-8c56-4c53-9b9d-1050b85ec528','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','e96fbd10-e6c3-4991-a72d-f1f7e5d01ae1','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">积极主动就是根据自己的价值观来选择回应; 消极被动根据外界环境来选择回应。</span></p>','2024-03-27 02:05:29.846','2024-03-27 02:05:29.846',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 02:05:29.845',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb4cb23b-a794-4ffe-b849-89b32ef6eb53','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','9ad474ed-c3a5-481d-83bd-0e50c36395be','<p>完成角色期待是與生俱來的，但通常我們都不會想&ldquo;為什麼&rdquo;？直到角色期待太重了或角色衝突的時候，也就是內在需求面對挑戰或威脅的時候，我們才會停下來想想。這個角色期待如何定義？大部份的人都是跟著環境中的評價系統去看自己，卻始終不曾想想這些角色的意義是什麼，所以多一些從自己的角度去發現意義與價值。</p>
<p>說到這邊就不得不提&ldquo;覺察力&rdquo;真的很重要，因為有覺察能力才能及時調整。</p>','2024-04-28 11:13:26.631','2024-04-28 11:13:26.631',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 11:13:26.63',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5343b5fe-c669-4bc8-bd72-c26627e1a64f','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>積極主動的定義，是根据自己的價值观，和自己重視的事物，很坦誠的由內而發。讓對方明白自己的需求，也坦然接受對方的想法和需求，達成共識的方法想處。這就是所謂的由內而外的處世方針，讓關係能相處的更融洽。</p>','2024-03-27 01:38:33.727','2024-03-27 02:24:47.96',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 02:24:47.96',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b0c4502-9482-481e-9b27-1a43ffb41986','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','b4b15dc1-1ce2-4a8f-92da-fdcadf99c95d','<p>积极主动的定义就是根据自己的价值观和重视的事物来选择作出回应。多关注自己的影响圈，别去担心自己无法影响的事物 这样会少走很多冤枉路。</p>','2024-03-27 03:00:29.549','2024-03-27 03:00:29.549',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 03:00:29.548',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3bbdcde7-388e-472c-9e5c-526c99fb207c','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','41de270f-cb91-4cb2-9ab5-71f3aa94d1ad','<p>积极主动~</p>
<p>step 1 暂停，停一停</p>
<p>step 2 思考，什么是对的选择和结果</p>
<p>step 3 选择，最佳回应</p>
<p>日常生活，不断的重复练习，遇到情境时，运用积极主动来回应问题，和睦相处。</p>','2024-03-27 03:50:31.863','2024-03-27 03:50:31.863',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 03:50:31.862',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4972f9bc-0357-47e8-9951-9c8d39da17f7','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>这一章作者提及生活中的影响圈。</p>
<p>关注圈 ： 你在生活中关注但无法直接影响的事物。</p>
<p>影响圈 ： 你在生活中能够直接影响的事物。</p>
<p>应用在日常生活，最近我参与了合唱团练习准备5月比赛。合唱团负责人在whatsapp&nbsp; group create&nbsp; a&nbsp; poll徵求全體團員的有關合唱團女眾的服裝，很少人反應，有些長者不知如何在whatsapp&nbsp; 投票。 有3个服裝選項，我及另外一位團員選擇了&lsquo;&rsquo;其他&lsquo;&rsquo;并在群组提出各自的看法并附上服装样本照片， 结果群组其中一名男性Amind既然不動聲色 把我的意見刪除。 到了第二天我提出澄清我不是有意針對任何人，我只針對服裝提出意見。 我思考片刻后私下聯繫真正有實權的負責人。 負責人就向大家宣布委員小組會妥善處理，大家稍安勿燥。後來鋼琴老師直接將她建議的合唱團服裝穿在身上，這回化解了尷尬局面。</p>
<p>因此我學會了分辨我能影響或不能影響的事物，盡量做到避開我不能影響的事物，免得被人誤會為叛徒，潑婦罵街，影響一個團體的和諧氛圍。</p>','2024-03-27 04:01:16.452','2024-03-27 04:01:16.452',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 04:01:16.451',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('12449fd2-f55c-4762-a7e1-868427ba2c6b','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','4d583710-fe59-48c3-8811-949e117ca6d3','<h3>这句话一直在我的记事本里，时刻提醒自己：</h3>
<h2><span style="color: rgb(224, 62, 45);"><strong>我们拥有选择的能力和自由，能创造出自己每天所处的天气</strong></span></h2>
<p><span style="color: rgb(230, 126, 35);"><strong>我们都有能力做出选择，关注自己能够影响的事，一切都是由内至外</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(241, 196, 15);"><strong>要有说服力就要有行动力</strong></span></p>
<h2><span style="color: rgb(191, 237, 210);"><strong>在艰难时刻依然懂得按&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;</strong></span></h2>
<h3><span style="color: rgb(194, 224, 244);"><strong>要相信幸福是可以创造的</strong></span></h3>
<p><span style="color: rgb(35, 111, 161);"><strong>我正在经历着翻天覆地的变化</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: rgb(132, 63, 161);"><strong>因为我相信</strong></span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-26 00:01:53.572','2024-03-27 04:16:54.584',NULL,'f','2024-03-27 00:00:00.006','2024-03-27 04:16:54.583',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('19e25575-f81a-479c-85cb-e73ce2875306','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','dbfdcd68-e817-4bb7-b068-d5613aeb0452','<p>暂停</p>
<p>思考</p>
<p>选择</p>
<p>关注影响圈，思考我们能怎样回应，达到积极主动的效果，让自己和身边人获得幸福。</p>','2024-03-27 05:48:08.423','2024-03-27 05:48:08.423',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 05:48:08.422',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65a1908f-dbc3-4653-9a69-41136f208953','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我们拥有选择的能力和自由，能创造出自己每天所处的天气.</p>
<p>暂停 !</p>
<p>&nbsp;思考!&nbsp;</p>
<p>选择最佳回应 !</p>','2024-03-27 06:20:53.157','2024-03-27 06:20:53.157',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 06:20:53.156',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e75f84b4-167b-44a2-ab27-e2a8298890d2','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>自己能控制的范围就是影响圈</p>
<p>去影响别人</p>','2024-03-27 13:40:02.303','2024-03-27 13:40:02.303',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 13:40:02.302',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('07c7c2af-e7b6-4919-b918-7fa1a8493eed','684b5cce-c4be-461b-a537-1a0fb50d6854','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 61.45pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">通过习惯二以始为终、以终极目标来探讨伴侣间的共同价值观，从而制定使命宣言并成为彼此遵循的章程。</span></p>','2024-03-27 05:19:56.35','2024-03-30 04:43:13.692',NULL,'f','2024-03-29 16:00:00','2024-03-30 04:43:13.691',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c71cff4-68a6-49d7-bccc-5c17dfbb8f02','eabf90fc-c5e1-4363-812b-3bf19e94b178','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 61.45pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">制定使命宣言就是探讨双方关系的内涵，履行双方视为重要的事情、想要的生活、创造共同目标与家庭价值观并拟定彼此在家庭内的角色等来制定一个永不过时的使命宣言。</span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></p>','2024-03-27 05:36:38.014','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47480e37-66f2-4e0e-92e0-592865016037','47a57312-1206-4aa0-a066-14dc37388fcf','9ad474ed-c3a5-481d-83bd-0e50c36395be','<p>免費模式是基於客戶的一個心理，基於人性的弱點，也就是讓客戶感到佔便宜。免費模式一旦祭出自然會多創造流量，而接下來如何佈局後面的利潤就大約分成三個模式-讓客戶暫時免費然後再後續消費，第二種是客戶免費但由第三方來付費，最後一種就是客戶免費，後續消費且第三者也付費。</p>','2024-04-28 11:23:04.725','2024-04-28 11:23:04.725',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 11:23:04.724',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a9dc01d-114f-40bc-b8dc-e6c8818cc30a','b0443c7e-d99f-4b82-8b68-45d77c231c92','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>婚姻经常偏离轨道！重点在于牢纪目的地，不断回归正轨。</p>','2024-03-27 06:53:10.064','2024-03-29 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('476ccb59-2820-4ba0-bf58-bc37d0497835','684b5cce-c4be-461b-a537-1a0fb50d6854','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>撰写关系使命宣言，不只是在生活伴侣关系，在工作场所的伙伴，也是需要和适用的。</p>','2024-03-27 08:42:31.475','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a9e40e7f-69a9-4f52-80b5-35b6ddb66b61','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>在对情境做出回应之前，请充分运用你&ldquo;选择的自由&rdquo;。<br>1.暂停：按&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;。<br>2.思考：什么才是积极主动的选择，这么做会带来个么结果？<br>3.选择：选择最佳回应方式。</p>
<p>#当我们真正意识到什么对自己最重要时，生活就会发生翻天覆地的变化。</p>','2024-03-27 08:23:51.735','2024-03-27 08:23:51.735',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 08:23:51.734',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f26ace73-a8bd-4472-9127-6112fef87933','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','2ab19f5f-a051-48a7-bc61-d6e23a6d81f4','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>神经质的需求这个现象可能有点夸张，但是我都有感受过；而更好的说明我们对于操控的欲望</li>
<li>当在组织中，我们谈到向上管理或者孩子对于家长的互动方式</li>
<li>我们都谈到了满足对方的期待</li>
<li>但是当对方一而再再而三的要求更多的需要被满足，这就是所谓神经质的要求/需求</li>
<li>也有人说这叫做 情绪勒索</li>
<li>那个妈妈的故事很精彩；里面有投射、期待、操控，和关系中的各种关系和操控</li>
<li>但是，要怎样才能让这个妈妈心安呢？</li>
<li>可怜的是那位孩子？</li>
<li>我们的员工也很可怜；哈哈</li>
</ul>','2024-04-29 06:39:12.754','2024-05-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('94d00955-39eb-4ec9-8678-e7e678e1beca','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>时时自觉于自己的起心动念，</p>
<p>影响圈才是我们可以直接影响的事物。</p>
<p>暂停 ，这些日子，放慢反应是我最大的改变。</p>','2024-03-27 10:34:26.419','2024-03-27 10:34:26.419',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 10:34:26.419',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('943935a2-ab3a-4df7-8e16-a3e9c6814b0e','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>有时在按下&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;的时候，并未能够马上就想到最好的回应。这种情况虽然表面上显得脆弱，但为了让自己做出最好的选择，应该要&ldquo;好汉不吃眼前亏&rdquo;。思考了一下，方法应该是从习惯二、三、当然还有家庭使命宣言的指南而来（还是我的功课，要早日落实与家人分享）。</p>','2024-03-27 11:01:13.8','2024-03-27 11:01:13.8',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 11:01:13.799',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e9485ed-1a83-46f7-9ea3-2dd1961604cd','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','76f645ae-2136-427a-a603-bc2656497f1e','<p>再次复习习惯一，积极主动和影响圈以及暂停键。把他应用在沟通真的就这么简单！但是不代表容易。</p>
<p>关注影响圈，把积极主动运用起来，就能把自己的影响扩大。</p>
<p>暂停，思考，选择！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-27 11:03:32.306','2024-03-27 11:03:32.306',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 11:03:32.305',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1bf275f8-9abf-4b27-b145-84ec69d620a7','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','05f5d501-df25-49f3-aa1f-7cfbf23ae03b','<p>这一章，我用来联想我与孩子的关系。</p>
<p>情境： 骂孩子。</p>
<p>无法掌控： 现场环境。</p>
<p>可掌控： 我的情绪，孩子情绪。</p>
<p>适当的回应方式： 控制好自己的情绪，再与小孩对话。</p>','2024-03-27 11:33:21.063','2024-03-27 11:33:21.063',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 11:33:21.062',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fc75ca7a-13f8-4666-979e-954baf2e238a','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','95959ea7-8fcc-4004-8564-5a6ec84f4fee','<p>积极主动的定义：先来个time-out, 再根据价值观和自己重视的事情，选择如何做最佳回应。多关注自己能够影响的事情，而不是浪费精力时间在无法影响的事情。</p>','2024-03-27 12:00:37.251','2024-03-27 12:00:37.251',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 12:00:37.25',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('530463ab-1b16-4861-a567-e94dd108d256','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>实践&nbsp;<br>*习惯一 ：积极主动*<br>当你听到某些尖酸刻薄的话，尝试按照这三个步骤应对：<br>1）暂停：冷静<br>2）思考：应对<br>3）选择：好结果<br>当我们真正意识到什么才是对自己最重要时，生活就会发生翻天覆地的变化。</p>','2024-03-27 12:28:18.771','2024-03-27 12:28:18.771',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 12:28:18.77',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d9dcc96f-6ee3-4489-b99e-80ef0939c46d','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>积极主动的控制自己如何回应</p>','2024-03-27 15:37:03.268','2024-03-27 15:37:03.268',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 15:37:03.267',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e951718c-4279-46be-b03b-fe74a3211704','b0443c7e-d99f-4b82-8b68-45d77c231c92','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>作者提到 &ldquo;开创欣欣向荣的第三条道路&rdquo; 可能可以解开最近在学校一些小冲突：</p>
<p>他建议寻找一个双方都重视的东西，也就是一个更高的价值观。它能将你们两个人团结起来，促使你们超越无法调和的个体差异，尤其是危害性不大的差异。如此一来，你们面对的就是一个收敛性问题，而不是一个发散性问题。你们也就不会分道扬镳，而是会围绕更高的价值观团结一致，如孩子和他们的幸福成长。这也许能让你们将所谓 &ldquo;不可调和的差异&rdquo; 摆在次要位置。</p>
<p>我觉得这是可行的。</p>','2024-03-27 08:38:38.762','2024-03-29 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2e04ea2d-9b37-4053-8678-664d627e831a','684b5cce-c4be-461b-a537-1a0fb50d6854','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果你问我：&ldquo;哪件事能给我的婚姻带来最积极的影响？&rdquo;我会回答说：&ldquo;跟你的伴侣一起撰写伴侣使命宣言。&rdquo;这是你们能进行的最重要、影响最深远的领导力活动。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">&mdash;史蒂芬&bull;柯维</span></p>','2024-03-27 08:59:22.939','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8927eb18-5928-4ef4-ac63-fad2cfc22c15','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','c0dfea61-558e-4ab6-aa83-3a14aeab20c5','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 16&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》 </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">实践习惯一： 积极主动（</span>Page 075-079<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">「暫停鍵」是我覺得自己得到最大啟發的一個方法</span></p>
<p>有時候很難從工作中抽離出來</p>
<p>繼而就會把不好的情緒影響到自己最親近的人</p>
<p>但如果學會「暫停鍵」的話</p>
<p>絕對可以讓這一切停止</p>','2024-03-27 12:32:54.38','2024-03-27 12:32:54.38',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 12:32:54.379',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6c151e8-eaa8-4c72-a175-cb3e1b701a55','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','9070d9da-6428-4328-8983-4c4a65d0a468','<p>时刻留意自己的思想和行为，因为我们能够直接影响的是我们的行动范围。我最近的转变之一就是学会了放慢反应，停下来思考。我要感谢自己，因为这个改变让我更积极主动，更专注于我能够影响的事情，而不是担心我无法控制的事物。这让我能够避免走很多不必要的弯路。</p>','2024-03-27 12:44:19.17','2024-03-27 12:44:19.17',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 12:44:19.169',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30a97006-9cab-4c6e-b2a2-58af7b117782','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','0a08fea5-5f22-4ee8-a6b0-7c46e27899cf','<p>你平时关注的事情是你的&ldquo;<span style="color: rgb(49, 43, 186);">关注圈</span>&rdquo;，比如<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><a class="wiki" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);" href="https://wiki.mbalib.com/wiki/%E7%A4%BE%E4%BC%9A%E6%96%B0%E9%97%BB" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-href="https://wiki.mbalib.com/wiki/%E7%A4%BE%E4%BC%9A%E6%96%B0%E9%97%BB">社会新闻</a></span>、明星八卦、上司的<a class="wiki" href="https://wiki.mbalib.com/wiki/%E8%A1%8C%E4%B8%BA" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-href="https://wiki.mbalib.com/wiki/%E8%A1%8C%E4%B8%BA"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">行为</span></a>，同事的态度等等；<br>你能影响到的事情是你的&ldquo;<span style="color: rgb(49, 43, 186);">影响圈</span>&rdquo;，比如你自己的态度，自己的行为。影响圈之外的那些事情，<br>是我们目前难以影响和掌控的。你可以选择自己的态度，从而改变影响圈和关注圈。</p>','2024-03-27 12:46:42.65','2024-03-27 12:46:42.65',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 12:46:42.649',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7cedf813-4c14-4d52-be64-f81c20bffd8b','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>停下来，想一想，自己是有选择的权利，并且这个事情的反应是否是自己可以决定要反馈什么样的反应呢？是在关注圈，还是影响圈？怎样的决定会有更好的结果？</p>','2024-03-27 13:40:47.102','2024-03-27 13:40:47.102',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 13:40:47.101',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29abf715-36a6-4621-8ed6-3814615e6f16','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>积极主动，就是关注自己能够影响的事物。</p>
<p>暂停 &gt; 思考 &gt; 选择 ---- 积极主动</p>','2024-03-27 13:41:39.181','2024-03-27 13:41:39.181',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 13:41:39.181',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6472c793-74c1-4459-a09c-a45c071c3a4b','b0443c7e-d99f-4b82-8b68-45d77c231c92','41f959d3-c932-4657-84ab-137317e3a989','<p>If we can''t even say out what''s important to us with clarity, then the culture will decide for us through movies, advertisements, and social norms.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Yet sadly the current culture of the current generation towards marriage and family is detrimental.....</p>
<p>So don''t leave it to chance because by default the results will be worst.&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-27 13:08:40.271','2024-03-29 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032','2024-03-29 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6a7f1d6-c4af-4118-895a-cdda7fbe1d40','684b5cce-c4be-461b-a537-1a0fb50d6854','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>婚礼最庄严的时刻因该是宣誓仪式。以后，可以加多一项：宣读彼此撰写的关系使命宣言。</p>
<p>在步入婚姻之前，彼此应该好好的讨论。结婚后，每隔一段时间也应该重新回到这个宣言，到底有什么需要调整？因为在人间，变是常态。婚姻需要牢记目的，不断地回归正轨。</p>','2024-03-25 02:11:16.727','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b81358bf-76df-4fd0-ace7-5541a146a118','684b5cce-c4be-461b-a537-1a0fb50d6854','41f959d3-c932-4657-84ab-137317e3a989','<p>Writing Family Mission Statement is amazing, it allows us to align the principles and bind us together for a higher purpose.&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-27 13:38:23.026','2024-03-31 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033','2024-03-31 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9dc2d0b4-1105-46cc-b6ff-a308f794e98e','47a57312-1206-4aa0-a066-14dc37388fcf','f441c8dd-eec2-41e6-8aa0-81878ee03703','<p><strong>-买方更多的注意力不是放在定价和产品，而要考虑消费者的利益，其中最好用的办法就是浪费哦，消费者觉得免费。</strong></p>
<p><strong>-搜索效果越来越引人注目，流量也越来越大，通过广告来获取大笔收入，这是免费加广告的模式。</strong></p>
<p><strong>-另一种免费模式 - 用户永远免费的享用产品和服务，但是会有第三方来此为此买单。</strong></p>
<p>-<strong>前期免费让消费者产生好感，从而驱动后面的消费。让消费者变得更爱你，这是一条千古不变的真理。</strong></p>','2024-04-28 11:33:09.078','2024-04-28 11:33:10.555',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 11:33:10.554',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8e4f9cc-f7a2-4218-b6c4-d4e0ab5b0ace','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>如果在成长的过程当中，某一个部分的需求特别匮乏，就常会在往后的人际互动上面，像个无底洞一样，不停地玩游戏，来补充那个洞，可是怎么补，都不见这个洞有点充实的样子，有时候这样周而复始的习性，就形成强迫性的思考或行为。</p>','2024-05-03 11:33:23.699','2024-05-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ee499b7-157c-4447-9c8f-4f147f325901','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','bfc4c627-625c-4ef5-a079-d54fb98a00ea','<p>藉由控制的过程中来满足自己的不安全感，而形成了许多强迫性的行为，这种情形源自于神经质需求。</p>','2024-05-05 14:13:25.059','2024-05-05 14:13:25.059',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 14:13:25.058',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4bd4120-2d45-4227-853c-c7595f124028','8fd34a48-72d7-4555-bcea-2d7cfcb866ea','9ad474ed-c3a5-481d-83bd-0e50c36395be','<p>密集開店除了作者所說的7-11，大陸太多這些厲害案例（撇除質量）如近期很紅的密雪而馬來西亞就必定是99 speedmart。如作者所說網絡發達之際也仍有很多大牌戰略性地開啟實體店甚至是密集開店的模式。</p>','2024-05-04 03:58:11.81','2024-05-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c94cffb-566e-4a5f-88ee-f56aef26ef64','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>如果两性关系中，一方不断付出以表诚意，另一方则不断吹毛求疵也无法感受到，那么最终会让双方都感到很挫折，一方无法理解，另一方无法满足。</p>
<p>这是一种神经质的需求，特别没有安全感。为了达到安全感，就会不知觉的做出各种行为来进行控制。即便控制了一个事件，难免往后也有另一事件的产生，就如此般周而复始。</p>','2024-05-04 07:29:26.296','2024-05-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012','2024-05-05 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4790543e-106f-401c-a53f-5a27cf2e777a','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','3a0fa86c-5a82-45ea-aace-7b8e7654c3c4','<p>实践习惯一: 积极主动</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>积极主动的定义为根据自己的价值观，根据自己重视的事物来选择如何做出回应。</p>
<p>在面对事物做出回应前，应充分运用自己&ldquo;选择的自由&rdquo;，~暂停，思考及选择。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-27 13:44:00.565','2024-03-27 13:44:00.565',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 13:44:00.564',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b50b4a0-4afd-442c-8eb0-261e5e7c4961','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','9fa5e305-35f5-447e-907f-f41a5a7c9533','<p>积极主动的定义：根据自己的价值观，自己重视的事物，来选择如何做出回应。</p>
<p>消极被动的定义：根据外界环境或外人，自己此时此刻的感受，来选择做出回应。</p>
<p>我们拥有选择的能力和自由，能创造出自己每天所处的天气。</p>
<p>将生活想象成2个圈子：关注圈和影响圈。积极主动的关注属于影响圈，在做出选择前，先1.暂停2.思考。3选择.</p>
<p>多实践。</p>','2024-03-27 13:46:51.806','2024-03-27 13:47:06.279',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 13:47:06.278',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65070710-3218-4ba9-9c4a-06f9b1ff53ba','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','71b0e248-f2e5-47a7-8371-aedda7abf686','<p>当我积极主动的时候, 就是我关注在我自己能够去影响的事物上.&nbsp;<br><strong>由内而外&nbsp;</strong></p>','2024-03-27 14:01:03.62','2024-03-27 14:01:03.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:01:03.619',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f39490f2-5e74-4e6e-9b4d-385bf113111a','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>积极主动 = 关注在影响圈</p>
<p>暂停 ➡️ 思考 ➡️ 选择最佳回应方式</p>','2024-03-27 14:01:20.477','2024-03-27 14:01:20.477',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:01:20.477',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d984b663-af9f-4335-8adf-c5a3bed81d96','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','a79358bf-a0d8-49f2-be81-0ba66e697353','<p>26/3 ： 我们永远都可以决定回应的方式。</p>
<p>27/3 ： 先暂停一下，别被情绪牵着走，然后思考一下如何可以积极主动的行动。关注在自己可以影响的事物。</p>','2024-03-27 14:03:33.479','2024-03-27 14:03:33.479',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:03:33.478',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('609181ac-040a-4387-92e0-f3d592666335','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>关注自己的影响圈，首先能影响的是自己。三个步骤应对在影响圈遇到的挑战。1. 暂停：如何按下&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;？2. 思考：积极主动的回应方式。3. 选择：哪种回应方式会带来最好的结果。一切由&ldquo;我&rdquo; 做起。</p>','2024-03-27 14:03:48.821','2024-03-27 14:03:48.821',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:03:48.82',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ffdc3670-8e54-4e33-8472-575990c8f822','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','3bf587cc-973a-43cd-bcac-64b112cd922c','<p>习惯一: 积极主动，关注自己能够影响的事物, 由内到外</p>
<p>如何做出积极主动的选择：暂停 &gt; 思考 （影响圈) &gt; 选择 (最佳结果)</p>','2024-03-27 14:06:46.488','2024-03-27 14:06:46.488',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:06:46.487',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d1041f94-c633-45c7-b930-cba0e04a0d95','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>EQ不是单独存在的。EQ往往依附在我们所生活的环境中的评价系统里，符合系统的就是好的，感觉自然就好，我们也会以为已经把自我的部分摆平了。但这是事实吗？</p>
<p>当我们都尽力的去完成并符合了这些外在评价系统的需求后，我们内在系统真正要的又是什么？</p>','2024-04-28 11:54:04.856','2024-04-28 11:54:04.856',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 11:54:04.855',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca1c68d4-70f4-4ed0-876c-6991f15ea7f0','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','a7efe7b4-ad68-4550-8a69-fec2d37569ed','<p>1.积极主动的定义：根据自己的价值观，根据重视的事物，来选择如何做出回应。</p>
<p>2.当积极主动事，就事关注自己能够影响的事物，而不是担心自己无法影响的事物</p>
<p>3.对情景做出回应之前，充分运用你&ldquo;选择的自由&rdquo;</p>
<p>a.暂停：按&ldquo;暂停键&rdquo;</p>
<p>b.思考：怎么做，考量带来什么结果。哪种回应方式能为你带来最好的结果。</p>
<p>c.选择：选择最佳回应方式。</p>','2024-03-27 14:15:01.419','2024-03-27 14:15:01.419',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:15:01.418',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7f501cf-b0da-426d-a632-210762352b6c','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>关注自己的影响圈：</p>
<p>站停键&rarr;思考&rarr;选择回应方式</p>','2024-03-27 14:15:15.085','2024-03-27 14:15:15.085',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:15:15.084',NULL,NULL);
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<p>创造出自己每天所处的天气。</p>
<p>积极主动的关注，属于影响前的活动，</p>
<p>按暂停键，思考🤔选择才反应。</p>','2024-03-27 14:22:55.187','2024-03-27 14:22:55.187',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:22:55.186',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99ed5c82-5d9f-4f41-8b0a-fbb11428dbe3','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','c8975ff9-0a95-454a-bf3d-2162bf88cbf2','<p>当遇到问题时候，我们可以选择如何应对。 先停下来，分析一下我们的选择，会带来什么结果。之后再选择最佳的回应方式。</p>','2024-03-27 14:45:16.434','2024-03-27 14:45:16.434',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:45:16.433',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6c0c0066-e907-40c3-8742-cf6d47356a1b','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','481bbc5a-7b89-4cc8-8872-8531ccea7348','<p>补</p>
<p>Day 15&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》 </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">你有选择回应方式的自由（</span>Page 069-074<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">我们无法控制自己出生的家庭，自己长得身高，但是我们可以控制自己想要的回应。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Day 16&nbsp; 📚<span lang="ZH-CN">《 高效能沟通的</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">个习惯 》 </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">实践习惯一： 积极主动（</span>Page 075-079<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p>我们需要知道自己生活中的影响圈是什么！从自己的影响圈中关注对自己重要的事情。</p>','2024-03-27 14:25:29.513','2024-03-27 14:29:13.875',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:29:13.874',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('057788e5-3d0b-4d07-a32b-422701e7482f','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','83e85070-582e-402b-b7a0-d1d2caaca6ca','<p>生活中的影响圈包括了关注圈和影响圈。我们要无时无刻的思考，什么才是积极主动的选择。这么做会带来什么样的结果然后才选择最佳的回应方式。</p>','2024-03-27 14:45:20.871','2024-03-27 14:45:20.871',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:45:20.87',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97f3bf74-a34d-4485-a261-93fb8665d2a8','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','231fd760-abc8-4338-8180-cbe1d8796d39','<p>第十六天：</p>
<p>不管遇到什么情景，自己都要保持清醒和努力的心态</p>','2024-03-27 14:48:25.672','2024-03-27 14:48:25.672',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:48:25.672',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b46f3b61-649b-4d45-b689-1350af710e88','e62671a9-603c-4091-9839-17fb79649b35','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>有了目标，就有了方向。</p>','2024-07-17 15:33:01.909','2024-07-17 15:33:01.909',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-07-17 15:33:01.909',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0b5950ee-dd62-4a65-a336-fd0016b1ea86','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','e07bac56-1aef-4097-818b-b564daf1eb54','<p>暂停， 思考， 选择。 这是在处理反应是最能够应用的三部曲。 每当被学生或家长语言挑衅时， 都会让自己暂停马上给出反应或解释， 让自己在瞬间做出最快的调整， 最终选择了积极的回应， 而减少内耗。</p>','2024-03-27 14:53:05.022','2024-03-27 14:53:40.978',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:53:40.977',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4d2b9ffb-3cdd-4cf9-8a99-32efd1182eef','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','138265fe-95ad-4ebc-b601-e7cbf4fd9f27','<p>积极主动是根据自己的价值观，自己重视的事物，来选择如何作出回应。消极被动的定义是根据外界外境或者外人，自己此时此刻的感受作出回应。我们拥有选择的能力和自由，去创造最理想的每个当下。</p>','2024-03-27 14:55:47.638','2024-03-27 14:55:47.638',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 14:55:47.637',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab2ef6c8-5e09-45ae-ac95-a9512d588e86','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','01ea1d11-1b1a-41e8-99c0-7e87552ad519','<p>在对情境做出回应之前，请暂停思考并选择最佳回应方式，这才是积极主动的选择。</p>','2024-03-27 15:02:15.397','2024-03-27 15:02:15.397',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 15:02:15.396',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4cefbd7c-a9da-489b-b738-d49e7c4fa704','3b763c8f-ac2e-422f-a00e-ed599fe1385b','3b1e2774-4dc4-48a1-b539-f060e2dc9a5a','<p>人在追求的一生的時候，常會忘了初心。很多人到了老年階段以為人生已經結束了，但是往往這時候才會想去自己年輕時所要的是什麼，這時候的回手，就已經來不及了。</p>
<p>現在很流行一句，想做的事年輕儘成早</p>','2024-04-28 12:07:37.475','2024-04-28 12:07:38.904',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-04-28 12:07:38.903',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('804b228c-e7ed-40ac-806b-7344eee6b308','aa24c61c-97f9-4bab-afb2-e89635068a60','6882a843-138a-4ede-a95e-ce8b69dab3ea','<p>人与人之间的互动，真心诚意一直都存在。只是我们在平衡角色期待和需求的时候，玩起了把戏。有者玩到没了自我觉察导致让生命空转。</p>
<ol>
<li>投射</li>
<li>我们的经验让心里留下一些【心像】，好比我们的内心密码一样，影射着我们内在需求。这密码是有正反两面的。可能将自己内在的需求投射在别人身上，以偏概全。</li>
</ol>','2024-05-01 02:48:15.338','2024-05-01 02:48:15.338',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-01 02:48:15.337',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74db9f1d-1554-46c2-847d-3815e05066c7','dab76111-c69a-430d-8a08-b739d8d7c6b4','3b1e2774-4dc4-48a1-b539-f060e2dc9a5a','<p>距离全渠道模式还有一些距离，也了解到全渠道更适合现今得市场。消费者越来越精明，也在高压环境中都希望可以得到性价比和方便购得的商品。没有多种选择的购物渠道，会被消费者认定为不方便，能在多平台的上架，能达到更多的触及率。例如我买sony音响，真如書中提到的例子一樣。</p>','2024-05-03 12:24:32.927','2024-05-03 12:24:33.635',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-03 12:24:33.634',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47297587-b704-4824-8dc8-1a282049c47c','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','f28e9990-1d0e-4cf5-940c-92778988747f','<p>操控不到， 未完成心理的满足，挫折几率就会很大。 伤心，觉得自己不被重视，自己是受害者，都是属于神经质需求！&nbsp;</p>','2024-05-05 14:24:19.803','2024-05-05 14:24:19.803',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 14:24:19.802',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a385aef-b261-4499-a23f-2c9396ee797f','a572d0ac-409d-4519-b8b7-89009710075d','446acaf6-9b4a-451d-8e08-ca51f1003c48','<p>觉察与辨识 ：神经质的需求。在成长的过程当中，当某一个部分的需要特别匮乏时，就常会在往后的人际互动上面，不停的玩游戏来补充这个洞，但始终都补不完这洞，周而复始就形成强迫性的思考或行为。人大概在某些地方，有那么一部分是这样神经质的。神经质的需求希望借着控制或操弄来完成心理的满足。但是控制常会伴随着很多的关怀与爱，在挫折之余，伤心抱怨跟着而来。</p>','2024-05-05 14:30:55.452','2024-05-05 14:30:55.452',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-05 14:30:55.451',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a389966d-dd58-4dc7-82d2-68cc17e0bfce','af361278-4394-4bdd-be4c-3375152be604','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>说的真贴切~~自以为是：虽然拥有别人的给予，但是一方面把给予视为理所当然，另一方面只拥有一份藏得很深的孤寂和不安。</p>','2024-05-05 00:48:22.67','2024-05-06 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-05-06 00:00:00.033','2024-05-06 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c473268-ec0c-4abf-8c18-0df5b0a53a63','16c20a6d-09a9-438c-a536-f0c0028c4c15','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 23 ：5月 7日 星期二 《商业模式是设计出来的》第三章：参照： 优秀商业模式分析与借鉴</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">连锁模式：不同的地域，相同的管理（Page 078-080）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;无论是连锁思维，还是互联网思维，核心都是必须用心去感受用户的需求。无论做服务还是卖产品，如果不是想消费者所想，他们干吗要给钱呢？很多企业做不起来，主要的原因还是对用户需求了解不太够。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不管做的是线上还是线下的生意，都需要常常走到顾客和潜在顾客中去，了解他们的所思所想、所好所恶、所欣喜和所恐惧&bull;&bull;&hellip;这样，&ldquo;连锁+互联网思维&rdquo;才有用武之地。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">的确，客户体验非要重要。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在保险行业，我会注意客户体验，在客户须要我处理理赔时，一定要陪同理赔过程，给他们心安。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读书会也是如此，在我能处理范围下，以双赢思维上不断把读书会体验优化和注重价值。双方的理解也很重要。慢慢会让大家知道。😂💪🏻</span></p>','2024-05-06 13:10:49.827','2024-05-07 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-05-07 00:00:00.022','2024-05-07 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5b4b77d-2835-4b79-a2da-7b9293f0b516','e2c67c04-78bd-4fac-9c8c-c7331d5a76d4','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>受害者心态 ： 若不符合自己的需求时就会把归咎外在因素如遇人不淑、对方不识好人心、别人该为自己需求的挫败负责等等。</p>
<p>互动模式 ： 基于内心的需求，在和人互动时会产生期待别人能满足自己的需求，要得到感激、肯定等，若无法满足需求，就会衍生自我打击。而具控制欲的人会产生他人，若权高位重如长辈、领导等，其互动对象为了讨好就会而建立一个受他欢迎的应对模式，所谓上有政策，下有对策。</p>','2024-05-07 04:50:33.077','2024-05-07 04:50:33.077',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-07 04:50:33.076',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c832d1d-81e1-4415-b6b6-0079d9759408','16c20a6d-09a9-438c-a536-f0c0028c4c15','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">无论是独创企业还是连锁企业，第一要产品精良，第二要服务到位，第三要给消费者的体验好，做到这些才能产生裂变和复制。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">连锁复制，包括内部复制与外部复制。内部复制指复制门店、复制团队，而外部复制则包括复制知识、规律以及模式等，例如，对他人的经营管理思想的学习，狼性文化、军事管理等。</span></p>','2024-05-07 14:21:32.226','2024-05-07 14:21:32.226',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-05-07 14:21:32.225',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3fbff39d-5ddf-49ed-b7e7-8a034404d6cb','832598a0-05a5-4775-a54c-7fb6975b98f7','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>我们并不是受害者，我们是可以主导自己的人生。</p>','2024-10-01 13:37:06.383','2024-10-01 13:37:06.383',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-01 13:37:06.382',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2f7776f-30e5-4033-bf12-a4802e0b7a58','36dac2e4-b8a0-4e71-abfc-3a344b0c1b53','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>生活各个方面的积极与否丢取决于自己的基本思维方式。</p>','2024-10-05 12:22:30.269','2024-10-05 12:22:30.269',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-10-05 12:22:30.269',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2675e995-8e73-4ffc-a4eb-c4a988366f4d','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','0a821e9b-67d5-416e-a19f-085f25838fc9','<p>在经营关系时常思考：<br>- 我可以怎样在这段关系里保存主动积极？</p>
<p>- 我可以停止哪一些消极的想法？</p>','2024-03-27 15:39:24.709','2024-03-27 15:39:24.709',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 15:39:24.708',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c668412a-7290-4424-880c-d59d50576e97','f2d94a5d-4cc8-4f72-b5d5-7f53b8ab3100','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>积极主动 ：根据自己的价值观，重视的事物来选择做出回应。</p>
<p>积极主动的选择 ： 暂停、思考、选择。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-03-27 15:42:15.134','2024-03-27 15:42:15.134',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-03-27 15:42:15.134',NULL,NULL);
