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<p>▪️真正有效的沟通：让对方&ldquo;被看见、被理解</p>
<p>▫️多共情，少指责。</p>
<p>▫️ 多聆听，少争辩。</p>
<p>▪️ 理解人心，才能赢得人心。</p>
<p>▪️ 沟通的关键：</p>
<p>▫️不是说得多，而是让对方愿意听。</p>','2025-07-09 14:51:43.752','2025-07-09 14:51:47.917',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 14:51:47.917',NULL,NULL);
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<p>▪️改变&ldquo;身份&rdquo;&rarr; 改变&ldquo;信念&rdquo;&rarr; 自然改变&ldquo;行为&rdquo;。</p>
<p>▪️当习惯是我是谁的一部分，就不会轻易放弃。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-09 14:59:53.034','2025-07-09 14:59:53.034',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 14:59:53.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变习惯最有效的方法，是改变身份认同 con&rsquo;t（Page 051-053）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">越以身份认同中的某个特定面向自豪，越有动力去维持与之相关的习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正的行为改变是身份认同的转变。。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">目标不是读一本书， 而是成为读书的人</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不是跑一趟马拉松，而是成为跑步的人</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">目标不是学会一种乐器，而是成为研究音乐人</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">行为往往反身份认同</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">思想或行为与你的身份认同牵扯愈深，愈难改变。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想要进步，必须舍弃；想要成为最好的自己，就要持续编辑，修订自己的信念，升级并拓展你的身份认同。</span></p>','2025-07-09 15:04:06.2','2025-07-09 15:04:16.275',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:04:16.274',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a72286f-f569-41e5-9d99-a8b34c6727f7','24c49b7a-6967-4ee7-a0ea-b2041806fb01','bab89ee0-c6a9-43ae-b08d-61e5e50652da','<p>如果努力想得到别人的认可，就是杀死了自己的自由。不想被任何人讨厌是不可能的，不管怎么做也会有跟我们不同频的人。自由的人是不会因为别人的讨厌而动摇，毫不在意别人的评价，不怕被讨厌，不追求他人认可的。一旦拥有了这些，人际关系也会慢慢轻松好起来。</p>','2025-07-09 15:24:44.931','2025-07-09 15:24:44.931',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:24:44.93',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e1e24fb-f0ab-4701-ae66-c9a87c1dc5ba','24c49b7a-6967-4ee7-a0ea-b2041806fb01','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy teaches that if we constantly seek recognition from others, it often means we are afraid of being disliked or criticized.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This fear leads to a kind of self-deception&mdash;where we pretend to be someone we&rsquo;re not, both to ourselves and to those around us.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Over time, we end up living to satisfy others&rsquo; expectations instead of living a life true to ourselves. As a result, we gradually lose our inner freedom and sense of peace.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>So, don&rsquo;t be afraid of being disliked. We should live freely and have the courage to be ourselves.</p>','2025-07-09 15:32:19.644','2025-07-09 15:32:19.644',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:32:19.643',NULL,NULL);
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<p>洞悉对方内心想法，才能有效沟通（Page 111-114）</p>
<p>相由心生，言为心声。</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>','2025-07-09 15:32:21.272','2025-07-09 15:32:21.272',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:32:21.271',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">改变习惯最有效的方法，是改变身份认同</span>&nbsp;con&rsquo;t<span lang="ZH-CN">（</span>Page 051-053<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">认清身份很重要，这是养成习惯的关键。</span></p>','2025-07-09 15:32:25.315','2025-07-09 15:32:25.315',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:32:25.314',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('02bb28f2-9ade-4e27-b0b0-2bbb3c5da0fb','da46f84c-7bae-460f-b57d-6ed1a83152cc','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p>Day 25 ：7月9 日 《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</p>
<p>洞悉对方内心想法，才能有效沟通（Page 111-114）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：<br><br>&ldquo;不知言，无以知人也。&rdquo;有什么样的思想，就会有什么样的言语。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-09 15:34:51.348','2025-07-09 15:34:51.348',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:34:51.347',NULL,NULL);
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<p>要改变你是什么样的人，最实际的方法就是改变你做的事</p>','2025-07-10 14:28:06.442','2025-07-10 14:28:06.442',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 14:28:06.441',NULL,NULL);
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<li>内在动机的终极形态，就是让习惯成为身份认同的一部分。</li>
<li>觉得自己是【想要这样的人】是一回事，觉得自己【就是这样的人】又是另一回事。</li>
<li>越以身份认同中的某个特定面向自豪，越有动力去维持与之相关的习惯。</li>
<li>真正的行为改变是身份认同的转变！
<ul>
<li>目标不是读一本书，而是【成为】读书的人。</li>
<li>目标不是跑一趟马拉松，而是【成为】跑步的人。</li>
<li>目标不是学会一种乐器，而是【成为】演奏音乐的人。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2025-07-09 15:51:17.543','2025-07-09 15:51:17.543',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:51:17.542',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变习惯最有效的方法，是改变身份认同.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">内在动机的终极型态, 就是让习惯成为身份认同的一部分. 觉得自己是&ldquo;想要这样的人&rdquo;是一回事，觉得自己&ldquo;就是这样的人&ldquo;又是另外一回事.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">愈以身分认同中的某个特定面向自豪，愈有动力去维持与相关的习惯. 假如以白发自豪，就会发展出各种照料与保头发的习惯. 假如你是以硕大的二头肌为傲，就永远不会略过上半身的训练，假如你以自己手织的围巾自豪，就更有可能每周花几个小时编制织. 一旦有所自豪，你就会为了维持习惯竭尽全力. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*目标不是读一本书，而是成为读书的人.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*目标不是跑一趟马拉松，而是成为跑步的人.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">*目标不是学会一个乐器，而是成为演奏音乐人. </span></p>','2025-07-09 15:34:52','2025-07-09 15:34:54.99',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:34:54.989',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1283e614-ea28-4b52-8dda-0153dbbd57eb','da46f84c-7bae-460f-b57d-6ed1a83152cc','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 25&nbsp;：7月9 日&nbsp;《人生的底气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">洞悉对方内心想法，才能有效沟通</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个人的言语都&ldquo;生于其心&rdquo;，因为心里有这些想法，才会从语言中表现出来. 这也需要我们及时提醒自己在与人交谈时，尽量保持警觉，弄清对方的真实想法，不至于被他们那些不真实，不客观的言论误导，作出错误的判断，甚至造成巨大的损失. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要想全面洞悉别人内心的真实想法，不光要通过&ldquo;知言&rdquo;，还要结合他的举止、行为等.<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>才不会口不对心！ </span></p>','2025-07-09 15:48:04.994','2025-07-09 15:48:06.027',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:48:06.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f1e8540-1b0f-4e6c-a5c3-7956ba2a3d85','77476329-9cc4-477b-9d26-9afe70fa4795','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p class="p1">內在動機的終極型態, 就是讓習慣成為身份認同的一部分， 覺得自己是 &ldquo;想要這樣的人&rdquo; 是一回事，覺得自己 &ldquo;就是這樣的人&rdquo;，却是另外一回事。</p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1">愈以身分認同中的某個特定面向自豪，愈有動力去維持與相關的習慣。 一旦有所自豪，你就會為了維持習慣竭盡全力。</p>
<p class="p1">*目標不是讀一本書，而是成为读书的人。</p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1">身份認同改變可以是自我改善的一大利器，當與你為敵時，身份認同改變就可能是個诅咒。</p>','2025-07-09 15:55:12.202','2025-07-09 15:55:12.202',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:55:12.201',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48b1a486-cc9d-46ab-a10e-0b2dbed72c06','24c49b7a-6967-4ee7-a0ea-b2041806fb01','d4cf19fb-4056-4949-8ccd-8e06049df029','<p>认可的需求，扼杀了自由</p>
<p>那些会叫你去做自己喜欢的事的人，都是不在乎你的人生的人，，发生事情了，就会说这是你的课题</p>
<p>所以父母师长叫我去做这个读那个，是因为他们在乎我，对我有责任不是吗？</p>
<p>为什么跟着别人期望的生活比期望自己期望自己的生活更加方便。因为有需求：认可需求，不想被人讨厌</p>
<p>干涉别人的课题才是以自我为中心的表现。</p>
<p>跟着斜坡滚下来的石头不是自由，自由是可以抵抗倾向性，让滚落的自己停下来，爬回上去。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>被所有人喜欢的人生 vs&nbsp; 有人讨厌的人生</p>
<p>选择后者，因为那是不在意别人的评价, 不害怕被讨厌，不追求别人的认可</p>
<p>这并不是要故意做事情让人讨厌，是不要害怕被人讨厌。</p>
<p>以自我为中心=我已经那么努力了，你为什么还不喜欢我们</p>','2025-07-09 15:48:21.183','2025-07-09 15:55:55.58',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:55:55.578',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第三夜 让干涉你生活的人见鬼去</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">对认可的追求，扼杀了自由</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在意别人的视线，看着别人的脸色生活，为了满足别人的期待而活着. 这或许的确能够成为一种人生路标，但这切实是极不自由的生活方式. 这背后的信念就是不想被任何人讨厌.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自由就是被人讨厌！</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">获得幸福的勇气，也包括被讨厌的勇气，一旦拥有了这种勇气，你的人际关系也会一下子变得轻松起来. </span></p>','2025-07-09 15:58:52.748','2025-07-09 15:58:52.748',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 15:58:52.747',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9df811a-5919-4437-99e6-9ad8b1f59187','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>建立了习惯，搞定生活中的基本事物，你的心智就能自由的聚焦于新的挑战，掌握下一组问题。现在把习惯建立好，你就得以在未来做更多想做的事。</p>','2025-07-09 16:35:47.399','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('93ca0a71-3706-467c-b1fc-b4dff0ed67b3','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>建立习惯4步骤：</p>
<p>提示，渴望，回应，奖赏</p>
<p>这4步骤分为2个阶段：</p>
<p>1）问题阶段（提示，渴望）</p>
<p>2）解决方案阶段 （回应，奖赏）</p>','2025-07-09 20:39:18.949','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1cfafcda-641b-489e-bb24-53aa37526cdd','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>习惯就是身份认同具体化。&nbsp;</p>
<p>建立习惯的过程，就是成为自己单位过程。</p>
<p>我以为自己的性格大部分是天生的，原来是自己决定的。</p>','2025-07-09 23:42:27.416','2025-07-09 23:42:27.416',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-09 23:42:27.415',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cf3e5d6b-db5e-4322-aa6e-3b0d7babec37','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','49b59e51-9917-4586-b095-d9e1a4d44452','<p>孟子提出了交友的三个原则：不挟长、不挟贵、不挟兄弟而友。</p>
<p>解读为，在交朋友时，不倚仗自己年龄大而倚老卖老，让对方尊敬自己；不倚仗自己富贵而颐指气使，让对方屈服于自己；不倚仗自家兄弟的权势而予以震慑，让对方惧怕自己。</p>
<p>借用孟献子，费惠公和晋平公三个人作为例子，他们能够交到真正的好朋友，正是因为他们结交朋友时从不考虑对方的身份地位，而是只考虑对方的德行。以德行为交友的标尺，然后再用&ldquo;不挟长、不挟贵、不挟兄弟而友&rdquo;来约束自己，自然不愁交不到真正的朋友。</p>
<p>现实生活中，总会遇到一些以权势，利益来决定交友的人，往往这样的友谊不长久。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-06-15 08:22:42.216','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a48d856-da3e-4078-a63e-bf1a7d786c08','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>要改变你是什么人，就要改变你做的事。<br>1.）决定你要成为什么样的人。<br>2.）透过生活的小胜利来向自己证明。<br>一个自律的人会在雨天依然早起运动还是赖在床上？<br>焦点永远放在成为某一个人；而不是达到某个成果。</p>','2025-07-05 14:04:24.472','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a5a71e3-ee7b-4806-8516-2251b03c7e60','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>习惯就是身分认同的具体化。习惯并非影响身分认同的唯一因素，但却是最重要的因素。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">要改变我们是怎样的人，最实际的方法就是改变你做的事。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">新的身份认同需要新的证据，这个过程只有简单2个步骤：</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">1）决定我们想成为什么样的人</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">2）透过生活中的小胜利向自己证明</span></p>','2025-07-06 00:49:02.659','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c2ce58b-7bee-445d-8b9c-52a40883d197','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>孟子交友的三个原则：不挟长、不挟贵、不挟兄弟而友。交友最重要的是看对方的德行。</p>
<p>真正的朋友是非常珍贵的。能够遇到有好德行的朋友也表示自己本身也是不错的。</p>','2025-07-07 02:53:06.058','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a4052e19-4a9b-4478-85ec-3b7ca9e2e4a0','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>交友看德行.不挟长,不挟贵,不挟兄弟而友</p>','2025-07-08 00:04:31.136','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('762126ae-934a-40fc-bb90-1f59301c2b5b','4c5b006d-c22e-4081-8868-f8dc3c8e4689','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>人际关系之卡 - 这个观点进行考虑<br><br>人际关系之卡 - 总是掌握在自己手中。<br><br>很多人认为人际关系被别人决定 - 非常在意 &ldquo;他人如何看我&rdquo;<br>进行课题分离后才发现，其实一切卡都在自己掌握之中。改变他人只是一种想操纵别人的错误想法。<br>我改变了 - 对方可能改变 - 可是目的，也可能不会发生。把改变自己当成操纵他人的手段是一种极其错误的想法。<br><br>人际关系 - 其实首先是对自己的关系。<br>如果被认可欲求绑着，人际关系之卡永远在他人手中。<br>他人决定还是我自己决定？课题分离还有自由，好好理清，需要勇气去面对。<br>最后哲人把父亲带到水边，父亲喝了水，最终与父亲和好。<br><br></p>','2025-07-06 15:40:03.526','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('39aaa054-3301-43a0-a628-f0ea7d867723','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>习惯的效果确会随着时间增强，也就是说习惯可以塑造身份的证据，因为当我们反复的执行这些动作，证据渐渐累积，你的自我形象也是开始改变。</p>
<p>建立习惯的过程，其实就是成为自己的过程。</p>
<p>要改变你是什么样的人，最实际的方法就是改变你做的事。</p>
<p>新的身份需要新的证据，这个过程需要两个步骤：</p>
<ol>
<li>决定你想要成为什么样的人。</li>
<li>透过生活中的小胜利来向自己证明。</li>
</ol>
<p>焦点永远要放在成为某一种人，而非得到某一种成果。</p>
<p>第一要着手的步骤的原因不是什么，也不是如何，而是要成为什么样的人。这样才会让你改变自身的信念。</p>','2025-07-07 14:55:52.031','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8507cb19-fba9-4961-a4bd-292f0a257987','4c5b006d-c22e-4081-8868-f8dc3c8e4689','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>在与人的关系上，决定两个人之间的关系好坏应该自己把握，比如你觉得这个人与你三观不合，不喜欢他，那么你就可以选择不与她交好。如果你觉得这个人可处，你想和她做朋友，那么你就可以付出一些获得更好的关系。</p>
<p>有句话说： 人不需要用力走近任何人， 只需要用力走向自己。</p>','2025-07-07 15:19:42.189','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f25d2a2-2c66-4de2-98ea-68041107e517','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>期待養成好的習慣。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-10 11:51:02.168','2025-07-10 11:51:02.168',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 11:51:02.167',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8f8e01b-4a58-4e59-ae74-36f8a492838a','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>一个善于反省自己的人，不论是个人成长，还是经营事业，都会不断进步。</p>
<p>反省不是把责任推到别人身上，反省是先从自己这里找出问题的根源，再做修正。</p>','2025-07-09 23:17:04.316','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e775ec1c-acfe-4d44-8ffb-8e0391d475ec','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>身份认同来自习惯。身份在字面上的意思就是&rdquo;重复的存在"。每重复一次，就强化与那个行为相关的身份认同。脑神经就重复建设那个新的回路。</p>
<p>身份不是一天建立起来的，而是渐循渐进培养起来的。在过程中的大小经验都在不断地修改这个身份。那些经验都是在累积证据，建立新身份的证据。</p>
<p>所以，要成为怎么样的人，要让自己不断的获得小&ldquo;胜利&rdquo;，累积经验，培养起来。这个身份的认同就成为新习惯的基础，而不是某一次的成果。因为习惯的精髓不是&ldquo;拥有&rdquo;某一个成果而是&ldquo;成为一个身份人&rdquo;。</p>','2025-07-08 03:28:35.615','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5465e6b4-aac0-4abe-9128-24e66d2d36e0','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>最实际的方法就是改变你做的事。</p>
<p>弄清楚想要成为怎么样的人。过后你就可以开始踏出小小的步伐去强化你渴望得到的身份，焦点永远要放在成为某一种人，而非得到某一种成果。</p>
<p>三个层次，成果改变，过程改变以及身份认同的改变。</p>','2025-07-09 11:54:57.691','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0d6dd37-e8fe-45fe-8ed5-e7de6cb2c8b5','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>交友要保持三不原则：</p>
<p>1.不要因为年长而倚老卖来，令人反感</p>
<p>2.不要因为自身的财富，而大压别人</p>
<p>3.不滥用自己的权力去让朋友害怕自己</p>
<p>真心的待人，让对方感受自己的诚意；也不要约束自己，一定要得到回报。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-08 20:07:38.326','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff95d0cc-da6d-45f2-b738-4d71cca33519','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>交友，考虑对方的德行，以德行为交友的标尺。不挟长、不挟贵、不挟兄弟来约束自己。</p>','2025-07-09 07:28:16.787','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1735cd67-803e-44c6-8e8f-1973bbabfecd','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>这些年来，为什么我们会一直在读书会不断的学习？是什么原因让自己变成如此自律？</p>
<p>我是谁？</p>
<p>我想成为谁？</p>
<p>突然想起七习惯的以终为始，当自己知道要成为怎样的样子，我们就一天一点点的打卡，这也成了日常生活的一部分，这个习惯不是目标，这是过程．</p>
<p>想成为最好的自己，我们四年來持续看书，也从中汲取＂头脑＂营养，我们无形中成了读书会的书友。</p>
<p>我可以很＂好练＂自豪的说，我是书友，一个有自律读书人．</p>','2025-07-09 08:25:25.937','2025-07-10 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024','2025-07-10 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d07cb44e-6227-4fff-81d7-6ae051f2baef','4c5b006d-c22e-4081-8868-f8dc3c8e4689','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>很多时候都是自己认为的，只要自己愿意先去改变自己，那么我们所看到的一切都会不一样，所以也不需要改变任何人。</p>','2025-07-10 01:03:10.335','2025-07-10 01:03:33.764',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 01:03:33.763',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d09c9f46-5529-4b62-a1e4-8fbca1b261fd','4c5b006d-c22e-4081-8868-f8dc3c8e4689','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>关系修复之卡掌握在自己，只要改变目的，事情就能解决。自己改变了，发生变化的只是自己。如果被认可欲求所束缚，那么人际关系之卡就会永远掌握在他人手中。</p>','2025-07-10 01:08:11.268','2025-07-10 01:08:11.268',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 01:08:11.267',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45750b87-af0e-4a27-93d8-5885abdbdbbb','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>习惯的精髓是成为，这句让我思考了很多。好习惯正在要把它变成习惯重复去做，一开始都会懒惰，但是我相信自己想要&ldquo;成为&rdquo;什么样的人的时候，自身是有一股力量的。</p>','2025-07-10 01:25:26.116','2025-07-10 01:25:26.116',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 01:25:26.115',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ccc5aa1-1308-4f9a-8cde-947a3015d56b','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>交友交的是德行</p>','2025-07-10 13:02:22.954','2025-07-10 13:02:27.373',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 13:02:27.372',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1270488-2ba5-4d0d-be05-266d10889397','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>小小改变的习惯（具体化），就是对自己的身份认可！</p>','2025-07-10 14:58:46.539','2025-07-10 14:58:46.539',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 14:58:46.538',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1abe9e9a-1305-4729-8c80-85884c653626','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>人一生中，所遇人事颇多。其中一些会有不如意的，但也有的叫人难忘。这难忘的其中多半是亲人和朋友。</p>
<p>他们是生命中不可或缺的部份，值得真惜与拥有。不过这些美好的人事也需要我们真心付出，才可能有所成就。</p>','2025-07-10 15:31:43.242','2025-07-10 15:31:43.242',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:31:43.24',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b5130920-7833-457c-b1b8-ea5321afb22f','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>习惯成自然。习惯一旦在生活中扎根，会变得自动化，无意识。倘若无法意识到无意识，它就会指挥你的生活，然后你会称之为命运。</p>','2025-07-10 01:25:50.201','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c70f5bd-08a2-4252-908c-c5f45d45e1a8','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;為了某些名誉和聲望, 故意做出清高的恣態, 其實名不符實, 徒有虛名, 不是一個正常人該做的, 不值得我們去学习,</p>','2025-07-10 01:28:44.438','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88e58043-e379-416a-aaa8-497ce81dc2a9','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>反求诸己，遇事先思己过。不但能提升自己，还能进化心灵，化解内心的冲突和矛盾，让自己的仁性和人性真正流露，才能变得越来越优秀。</p>','2025-07-10 01:58:07.141','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8efbb6ae-07d0-449d-b852-d00ba16e1c22','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>行为改变的过程始于发觉。必须先意识到自己的习惯，才能改变它。</p>
<p>指差确认透过开口说出自己的行为，把无意识到习惯拉到有意识的层次。</p>','2025-07-10 01:34:47.142','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d9a503f7-a92a-48ca-b20d-f1acae8dfe73','4c5b006d-c22e-4081-8868-f8dc3c8e4689','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Once you decide how to respond, the control over your relationships is in your own hands.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>It&rsquo;s not about what others do to you but how you choose to deal with it.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This is what Adler''s "Philosophy" means - you have the power, not other people.</p>','2025-07-10 06:01:38.018','2025-07-10 06:01:38.018',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 06:01:38.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf8043db-8251-48b1-a099-425cf54a6c95','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<ol>
<li>习惯就是身份认同的具体化。不断重复某一行为，就会增加身份认同感。要改变成为什么样的人，最实际的方法就是改变自己做的事。</li>
<li>焦点永远都要放在成为某一个人，而非得到某一种成果。</li>
<li>改变分为3个层次：成果改变、过程改变，以及身份认同改变。</li>
</ol>','2025-07-10 06:12:09.415','2025-07-10 06:12:09.415',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 06:12:09.414',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0aa24464-1528-4218-b951-d393b047bfcf','4c5b006d-c22e-4081-8868-f8dc3c8e4689','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>读后最大的感悟是：我们与他人的关系，其实关键在于我们自己如何看待和选择。不必把过往的伤害当作一切的根源，而是可以主动决定现在和未来的态度与行为。</p>
<p>哲人指出，如果按照原因论认为&ldquo;因为被打所以与父亲关系不和&rdquo;，就是把主动权交给了过去和别人；但是如果换个角度，&ldquo;因为不想与父亲和好所以搬出被打的记忆&rdquo;，就能把&ldquo;关系修复之卡&rdquo;就会握在自己手中。因为只有改变&ldquo;目的&rdquo;这种观念转变，是一种从&ldquo;被动受害者&rdquo;走向&ldquo;主动选择者&rdquo;的觉醒。我们无法改变他人，但可以决定自己的未来的方向。人际关系之卡，总是掌握在自己手中。</p>','2025-07-10 09:23:14.771','2025-07-10 09:23:14.771',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 09:23:14.77',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9692884e-5bff-4b27-ad73-059bff1fc1c1','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>近朱者赤近墨者黑，环境能让人自以为然的重复一些习惯性的行为，要培养好习惯，与其在负面的环境里挣扎，不如离开让习惯随时被激活的情景。这还必须让这习惯有一个动力、容易进行及有所收获。</p>','2025-07-10 03:10:49.214','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7e853c6-ad4d-4977-bcf4-fb8e13dfcfed','a1194b4a-0b1e-4116-a0d3-389ed949dc7f','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>任何时候都不应自暴自弃</p>
<p>第一个习惯就是积极主动，这是我们最值得学习，欣赏的一个习惯，真正成大事的人，一定不会轻易放弃自己，他们往往都是很高的自尊水平，敢于正shi困难并且努力去克服困难这种自尊自爱自强的人才可以获得成功的果实赢得别人的尊重 关注轩就是你只能够评论发表意见甚至生气但却改变不了任何事情 所以我们要把自己的经历放在影响圈中去努力做那些自己能够改变的事情.</p>
<p>语言代表一个人的思想， 思想则左右着行动， 行动代表着习惯， 习惯就决定了一个人的命运 。真正成大事的人一定不会轻易放弃，自己往往都是很高的自尊水平，敢于正式视困难，并且努力去克服困难，这种自尊，自爱，自强的人，才可以获得成功的果实,</p>
<p>真正能带给你改变的, 能带领你走出黑暗的, 不是别人, 而是你自己的自信光明. 是你自己拯救自己的那种责任感, 动力和能力, 你自己内心当中 有一个向好的精神.&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-09 05:47:30.668','2025-08-04 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-04 00:00:00.026','2025-08-04 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85076a40-6d98-46ad-ad01-8f260216dc72','54e7299f-d5ba-4cae-9c61-5c295043e62e','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>先让自己强大再把事情做好</p>
<p>我们想把一件事情做好, 想要独立于世，就要不断的提升自己的能力，让自己变得强大起来，你变得强大了，才能吸引更多的强者和你并肩战斗，走上更大的舞台，并且在你足够强大后，你会发现别人是没有办法左右你的人生的，这样你才能够成为自己人生的命运的主宰.</p>
<p>能够为生活带来改变的要就是让自己具有把事情做好的能力 把每一件事情做到好做到极致自然就可以独立于事这是一个国家的生存之道也是一个人的生存之道.&nbsp;</p>
<p>孟子给影响圈的建议就是你不要管别人怎样影响你, 你要多关注自己能改变的事情, 更把 经历放在自己的身上, 让自己变得强大.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-10 02:17:14.469','2025-08-05 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-08-05 00:00:00.01','2025-08-05 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab993b9e-762f-4a73-b688-10cabd0542e0','4c5b006d-c22e-4081-8868-f8dc3c8e4689','d4cf19fb-4056-4949-8ccd-8e06049df029','<p>人际关系的王牌，握在我自己的手里</p>
<p>原生家庭：哲人说自己父亲从小殴打他，所以他跟他父亲关系不好（原因论，这个观点让他没有办法，因为已经是事实了）</p>
<p>但是他以决定论来看这件事情：我因为不想要跟父亲关系和好，所以搬出了以前的记忆；其实背后还有一个&ldquo;善&rdquo;,就是人生不顺利就可以归咎于父亲。</p>
<p>但是当他决定修复跟父亲的关系后，父亲拥有什么样的生活方式，怎么看他，对待他，已经跟他毫无关系了，即使对方不想修复关系也无所谓了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>重点：</p>
<p>我改变，不是为了让对方改变，这是一种想要操纵别人的错误想法。</p>
<p>也许很多情况下，对方不得不改变，但是那不是目的。</p>
<p>如果被认可需求所束缚，那么&ldquo;人际关系之卡&rdquo;就永远掌握在他人手中。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>可是课题分离是</p>','2025-07-10 09:56:36.715','2025-07-10 09:56:36.715',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 09:56:36.714',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c916261-41fb-45e3-9d35-e3d3c7bd8b44','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>提示、渴望、回应、奖赏却一不可。</p>
<p>一个无尽的回馈迴路，不断的活躣运作。</p>
<p>我渴了累了。</p>
<p>我想要放松一下。</p>
<p>我打开冰箱，拿了老虎水。</p>
<p>一口气唱光了。</p>
<p>痛快淋漓和放松就连结在一起了&hellip;</p>
<p>哦，原来是这样啊。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-10 14:10:39.821','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6b519088-4152-4b3c-b08e-25559cc9ffca','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>有意思。</p>
<p>我有点认同也期待以这个心态去经营自己。</p>
<p>但 the biggest question is 想成为怎样的人？要具象化的去回答也不容易</p>','2025-07-10 12:15:34.417','2025-07-10 12:15:34.417',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 12:15:34.416',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8565c762-3f37-430a-ac83-eaa47bcda211','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>人只要在某种状态下获得益处，就会对相关促发行动的提示做出反应。提示越大（收获越大），人就会反复的对这些提示有更强烈的反应。</p>','2025-07-10 23:46:03.195','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f991f3ec-92bb-461c-adb5-abbe43fccd7f','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>交友的三不原则<br>-不挾长<br>（不倚老卖老）<br>-不挟贵<br>（不依仗富贵）<br>-不挟兄弟<br>（不依仗兄弟的权势）</p>
<p>友也者，友其德也。。<br>交友，最看重的是对方的品德。</p>','2025-07-10 12:43:49.865','2025-07-10 12:43:49.865',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 12:43:49.864',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('40500ff9-6761-44bf-8d16-7e2e05caab89','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>习惯，是身份认同的具体体现。</p>
<p>你是谁，往往源自你日复一日所做的选择与行为。每一个小小的行动，都是一张选票，投给你想成为的那种人。</p>
<p>与其执着于某个特定成果，不如将焦点放在&ldquo;成为谁&rdquo;的过程上。真正重要的不是结果，而是透过习惯，一点一滴塑造出理想中的自己。</p>
<p>你会渐渐活成你的习惯，也活成你最深处对自己的信念。</p>','2025-07-10 13:08:25.706','2025-07-10 13:08:25.706',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 13:08:25.705',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3f377574-cc33-4184-a9f2-2c105715dda6','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>以德行为交友的标尺，然后再用</p>
<p>&bull;不挟长、不挟资、不挟见弟而友&rdquo;来约束自己，自然不愁交<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">不到真正的朋友。</span></p>
<p>但是在现实生活中，很多人都做不到这一点。他们在交友时总惦记着对方的权势和财富，总想要从对方身上获得一定的回报。这样一来，就很容易在对方面前低人一等，甚至变成对方的眼班，这就不是真正意义上的友情了。正确的做法应该是，即使对方位高权重，我们也要不卑不亢，因为我们要交的是朋友，而不是对方的权势。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-10 13:32:57.951','2025-07-10 13:33:25.412',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 13:33:25.411',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9e949f58-2685-41d7-aa58-7f4262115282','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>在日本，我们是不可能丢垃圾，因为这里太干净！要找垃圾桶都非常非常的难，这告诉我们环境可以塑造我们新好习惯。所谓情境联结成了提示。</p>','2025-07-10 12:33:58.115','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0b2ea8c1-b0c6-4f3f-ba5f-eb8ee2bea3d9','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>交友的&ldquo;三不原则&rdquo;交朋友，需要与心换心，需要的是真情实意，如果还有功利心很难交到长久，最后也只有点头之交。交朋友要以德为友 交友的三步则 1）不挟长 2）不挟资 3）不挟见。</p>','2025-07-10 14:14:59.472','2025-07-10 14:14:59.472',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 14:14:59.471',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f82abfc9-790a-4fb5-9e9c-c83ede0103d4','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>行为改变是法则:提示, 渴望, 回应, 奖赏。</p>','2025-07-10 15:24:49.388','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9bfc15d7-6486-4857-8947-1f0af766800f','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">交友三大原则</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不挟长、不挟贵、不挟兄弟而友。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不以自己年龄大而倚老卖老，让对方尊敬自己。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不仗着自己富贵而对对方指指点点，让对方屈服于自己。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不仗着自家兄弟的权势而让对方惧怕自己。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">交友应该看中对方的品德</span></p>','2025-07-10 14:18:07.694','2025-07-10 14:40:20.653',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 14:40:20.652',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8970b948-c565-423f-a917-4059dca251d1','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp; <span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">交友的&ldquo;三不原则</span>&rdquo;<span lang="ZH-CN">（</span>Page 115-118）</p>
<p>**交友三不原则：**不挟长、不挟贵、不挟兄弟。<br>即：不倚仗年龄、地位或家庭背景去压人、使人屈服或惧怕。<br>真正的友情，应以德行为基础，彼此尊重、平等相待。</p>
<p>历史人物如孟献子、费惠公、晋平公，能结交真朋友，正因他们重品德、不重权势。</p>
<p>现实生活中的提醒：<br>以权利和利益为纽带的友谊往往短暂，惟有真心和品德，才使友情持久。</p>','2025-07-10 15:37:01.492','2025-07-10 15:37:01.492',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:37:01.484',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('566166e7-ec98-47b4-9766-3e119eb2cbfa','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 10&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>10&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">改变身份认同的两个步骤（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 054-061<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">身份认同来自习惯。每个信念，包括对自己想法，都有经验形塑而成。因为频率的关系，习惯往往是最重要的因素。</span></p>','2025-07-10 15:57:16.655','2025-07-10 15:57:16.655',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:57:16.654',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('64248f96-a6b3-4480-90e5-fe89ff3fde6e','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>当今世代，利益当头，如果因为自己注重品德、礼貌、而找不到可以深交的人，不要心急，可能是在不对的场遇不到对的人而已。小弟认为，今天的年轻人/孩子，比较不懂得长幼有序，以礼待人。</p>','2025-07-10 14:43:28.745','2025-07-10 14:44:04.274',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 14:44:04.273',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9019bf61-7f70-4997-8ae5-e1cfb9261375','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 26 ：7月10 日 《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</p>
<p>交友的&ldquo;三不原则&rdquo;（Page 115-118）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>交友说的是真心实意，不以对方的身份地位为重。</p>','2025-07-10 14:49:37.641','2025-07-10 14:49:37.641',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 14:49:37.64',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aacf267d-d450-4ba0-9e89-7ba6fc08a7dd','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 10 ：7月10 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变身份认同的两个步骤（Page 054-061）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">身份认同来自自己的习惯。每个信念都有经验形朔而成。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯就是身份认同的具体化。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">建立习惯的过程就是成为自己的过程</span></p>','2025-07-10 14:53:08.163','2025-07-10 14:53:09.275',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 14:53:09.274',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a69ef1c-9ab9-42b7-94c7-1d404014bc0b','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>习惯就是行为。每一个行为就是一个投票给自己想成为的那个样子。</p>
<p>习惯=行为=活法</p>
<p>成功坚持与重复的每一个小行为=小胜利。</p>
<p>习惯改变人生，帮组自己活出想要的人生。</p>','2025-07-10 14:53:48.088','2025-07-10 14:53:48.088',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 14:53:48.087',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d9217327-d9e7-4195-988b-b4e540dfd593','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>不挟长、不挟贵、不挟兄弟而友。即使对方位高权重，我们也要不卑不亢，因为我们要交的是朋友，而不是对方的权势。</p>','2025-07-10 15:01:26.003','2025-07-10 15:01:26.003',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:01:26.001',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('740af914-2223-4998-a50e-7e36981271ab','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>要改变什么样的人， 就要改变做的事。</p>
<p>1.决定成为什么人</p>
<p>2/透过生活中的小胜利来证明自己。</p>
<p>焦点放在成为什么人，而非得到某一个成果。</p>','2025-07-10 15:01:31.989','2025-07-10 15:02:43.029',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:02:43.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a844cb92-5459-4c26-99a7-2dab8850ec3e','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>要改变自己是怎样的人，就要改变所做的事。</p>','2025-07-10 15:31:50.911','2025-07-10 15:31:50.911',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:31:50.91',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a95fde2-9944-494c-8f65-353effb96119','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 26 ：7月10 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">交友的&ldquo;三不原则&rdquo;（Page 115-118）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">交友贵在品德平等、相互尊重；真正的友情不靠权势维系，而靠内在的人品与礼仪。</span></p>','2025-07-10 15:40:58.158','2025-07-10 15:40:58.158',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:40:58.157',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('463db6c7-35f0-48d8-8e7c-d5aa8b298c71','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 10 ：7月10 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变身份认同的两个步骤（Page 054-061）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯的真正力量，是它让你慢慢成为你渴望成为的那个人。</span></p>','2025-07-10 15:57:55.426','2025-07-10 15:57:55.426',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:57:55.425',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5390889-2d95-49ee-aa29-52f5a870e54a','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>习惯反而带来更多的自由</p>','2025-07-11 10:50:27.941','2025-07-11 10:50:27.941',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 10:50:27.94',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fde08315-5221-4c28-bc35-891f17f87bbc','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">与一个负能量的人相处，只会将你拉入消极的情绪中，让你也同样怨天尤人、放弃进步，甚至为了自己的私欲去恶意诋毁、伤害别人，</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我自己很讨厌那些一直在抱怨而不检讨自己的人，这会大大影响我和身边人的心情。应该要勇敢说出来让这些人知道，可以的话就远离他们吧。</span></p>','2025-07-10 14:47:18.132','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6d1a1317-1f8a-4e2c-827c-8105d5f6b4c1','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 10 ：7月10 日&nbsp;《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变身份认同的两个步骤</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">身份认同来自习惯，人不是生下来就拥有预设信念，每个信念，包括对自身的看法，都由经验形塑而成. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">例如 ： 每天把床铺整理好，你就把一个有条理的人这个身份认同具体化了，每天写作你就把一个有创意的人这个身份认同，具体化了，每天锻炼你就把一个运动的人的身份认同具体化了. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要改变你是什么样的人，最实际的方法就是改变你做的事.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每次写了一页，你就是一个作家，每次练一小提琴，你就是个音乐家，每次去健身你就是个运动家，每次激励员工你就是个领袖.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">新的身份证同需要新的证据没有做出改变，什么都不会改变. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这个过程只有简单的两个步骤 :</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.) 决定你想要成为什么样的人.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2.)透过生活中的小胜利来向自己证明.</span></p>','2025-07-10 15:33:55.942','2025-07-10 15:33:58.117',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:33:58.116',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1e9970b7-ac6c-4f67-a49c-07d4f35e3023','1617fe60-1c44-4042-aa21-02de8dac4021','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>身份認同來自你的習慣。建立習慣的過程，其實就是成為自己的過程。</p>
<p>身份認同只需要簡單兩個步驟: 第一決定你想要成為什麼人的人，第二，透過生活中的小胜利來向自己證明。</p>
<p>習慣之所以重要是因為他們能夠讓你變成你想要成為的那種人。透過習慣這種管道，你可以開發你對自己最深的信念。你真的會變成你的習慣。</p>','2025-07-10 15:35:15.015','2025-07-10 15:35:52.684',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:35:52.684',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a9188674-169f-40ad-906d-308bc2255651','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 26 : 7月10 日 《人生的底气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第四章 : 交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">交友的&ldquo;三不原则&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在家靠父母, 出外靠朋友，除了亲人朋友，同样是人生路上不可或缺的存在. 交朋友需要以心换心，需要真情实意.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">交朋友，我们最应该看重的是对方的品德. 交朋友的三个原则 : </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.) 不挟长</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2.)不挟贵</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3.) 不挟兄弟而友</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">意思是～不倚仗自己的年龄大，要让对方尊重自己. 不倚仗自己富贵，要让对方委屈自己. 不倚仗自兄弟的权势，让对方惧怕自己. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">还有一种人，他们在交友时也能做到从不约束自身，别人请吃饭，做了一桌好菜，就算不好吃，不喜欢吃，我们也要吃的津津有味，这不是虚假，而是礼貌，更是为人处事之道.</span></p>','2025-07-10 15:50:10.417','2025-07-10 15:50:11.709',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:50:11.708',NULL,NULL);
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<ol>
<li>不盲从<br>▪️ 不为了讨好他人而违背自己的原则。<br>▪️ 保持独立思考，守住底线。</li>
<li>不强求<br>▪️ 不是每段关系都必须长久。<br>▪️ 顺其自然、彼此成就。</li>
<li>不轻信<br>▪️ 待人以善，但不失谨慎。<br>▪️ 慢慢观察，时间是最好的试金石。</li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-10 15:58:13.835','2025-07-10 15:58:13.835',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 15:58:13.834',NULL,NULL);
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<p>▫️行为和身份要一致，习惯才会持续。</p>
<p>▫️身份认同改变 = 真正的自我改变。</p>','2025-07-10 16:00:27.455','2025-07-10 16:00:27.455',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 16:00:27.454',NULL,NULL);
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<li>说的更准确一点，习惯就是身份认同的【具体化】：
<ul>
<li>每天把床铺整理好，你就是一个【有条理的人】。</li>
<li>每天锻炼，你就是一个【运动的人】。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>你越是重复某一种行为，就会去越强化与那个行为相关的身份认同。</li>
<li>你之所以会认同你现在的身份，唯一的原因就是你有【证据】。例如：你冒着大雪去健身房，你就有证据可以证明自己是个投入健身的人。</li>
<li>当你反复执行这些动作，证据渐渐累计，你的自我形象也开始转变。</li>
<li>当你拥有越多证据支持某个信念，你就越会深信不疑。</li>
<li>你采取的每个行动都像一张选票投给你想成为的那个人，随着票数累计，新身份的证据也聚沙成塔。</li>
<li>要改变你【是什么样的人】，最实际的方法就是改变【你做的事】。</li>
<li>新的身份证同只需要两个步骤：
<ul>
<li>1: 决定你想要成为什么样的人。</li>
<li>2: 透过生活的小胜利来向自己证明。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>首先决定你想要成为什么样的人，可以先从你要什么样的成果开始。从成果逆推回去，看看自己想要成为什么样的人才能得到这样的结果。</li>
<li>记得：【焦点永远都要放在成为某一种人，而非得到某一种成果】。</li>
<li>习惯的精髓并非【拥有】，而是【成为】。</li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-10 15:59:15.655','2025-07-10 16:05:23.294',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 16:05:23.292',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fab17627-d3cc-47c9-ad37-572a8d77d05d','4c5b006d-c22e-4081-8868-f8dc3c8e4689','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 18 7月10日 (星期四)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第三夜 让干涉你生活的人见鬼去</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人际关系&ldquo;王牌&rdquo;，握在你自己手里</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人际关系之卡总是掌握在自己手中. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">很多人认为人际关系只由他人掌握着，正因为如此，才非常在意那个人怎么看我？选择满足他人希望的生活方式. 但是如果能够理解课题分离，就会发现，其实一切的卡都掌握在&ldquo;自己手中&rdquo;，这会是全新的发现.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我改变了，发生变化的只是&ldquo;我&rdquo;. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">作为结果，对方会怎么让我不知道，也无法左右，这也是课题分离，随着我的变化，不是通过我的变化，对方也会发生变化.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">提到人际关系，往往会想起@两个人的关系&ldquo;或者&ldquo;与以很多人的关系&rdquo;，但事实上首先是自己，如果被认可，欲求所束缚，那么人际关系之卡就会永远掌握在他人手中.</span></p>','2025-07-10 15:58:45.779','2025-07-10 16:00:25.308',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 16:00:25.306',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db896fdf-e2cd-49ad-8063-aa07f14952dd','30227eba-0840-418c-a2e5-8b7a1707b0ce','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 26&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>10&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">交友的&ldquo;三不原则&rdquo;（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 115-118<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">礼貌是为人处世之道。<br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">交朋友的三个原则 :</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.) 不挟长&nbsp; &nbsp; </span><span class="s1">2.)不挟贵&nbsp; &nbsp; </span><span class="s1">3.) 不挟兄弟而友</span></p>','2025-07-10 15:59:27.8','2025-07-10 16:01:00.564',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 16:01:00.563',NULL,NULL);
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<p>当搞定生活基本事务，心智就能自由聚焦新挑战</p>
<p>习惯不会限制自由，反而创造自由</p>','2025-07-09 23:55:11.141','2025-07-10 21:58:37.166',NULL,'f','2025-07-10 16:00:00','2025-07-10 21:58:37.163',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('db461b5c-3554-4dcf-8c99-79ec5551a9a3','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>純朋友互相送禮，增進感情。</p>
<p>主從關係，商業關係，君臣關係，送禮之後關係就再也不單純了。</p>','2025-07-10 22:31:10.843','2025-07-10 22:31:10.843',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-10 22:31:10.842',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f47b13ad-b719-494c-90e5-8581f99d21f4','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>人类的大脑是一部预测机器，不断侦查周围环境，分析遇上的资讯。当我们反复经历一件事，大脑就会开始留意重点，梳理细节，标记相关提示，把那份资讯记录起来，以供未来使用。</p>','2025-07-10 21:44:06.786','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f651d46-c749-45b0-a11e-c307de2b70e1','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>反转让提示隐而不见，没见到了就没有被刺激的欲望，不会想起，回避诱惑彼此抗拒诱惑简单。</p>','2025-07-10 23:49:01.977','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e39b8e5b-0ae4-4c5d-bd11-92845897f4a3','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','49b59e51-9917-4586-b095-d9e1a4d44452','<p>万章问曰：&ldquo;敢问交际何心也？&rdquo;孟子曰：&ldquo;恭也。&rdquo;<br>&mdash;&mdash;《孟子&middot;万章下》</p>
<p>万章曾向老师孟子求教说：&ldquo;敢问交际何心也？&rdquo;意思是说，一个人去交往和应酬的时候，应该保持什么样的内心？孟子只告诉万章两个字：&ldquo;恭也。&rdquo;就是说，与人交往时，保持恭敬之心是非常重要的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>借用刺猬抱团取暖的故事，提出交朋友的理论： 无论是结交新朋友，还是与老朋友相处，我们如果能做到互敬互爱，同时保持适度的距离，就像两只相互取暖的刺猬那样，就能让关系随着时间的沉淀而变得愈加深厚。人与人之间就算关系再好，也会有个界线，还有需要避开的地雷。</p>','2025-06-15 08:28:44.714','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('13da55f6-fdc7-42a2-84ac-dd9a87790a38','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>习惯成自然。</p>
<p>不断的练习，不断的进步，不断的完善。</p>
<p>建立好习惯，得到更多自由。</p>','2025-07-10 09:28:56.983','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af010a85-a7d7-4724-b795-043aac8710ea','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>尝试，失败，学习，做不一样的尝试，透过练习，无用的行为渐渐消逝，有用的被强化，习惯就形成。</p>
<p>习惯不会限制自由，而是创造自由。没掌握习惯的人往往拥有最少的自由。</p>
<p>如:少了良好学习习惯，会感觉追不上别人。</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; 少了良好的健康习惯，会永远缺乏活力。</p>','2025-07-07 01:53:19.303','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('94cc084b-c2bc-4763-a5ed-dc8bcaedfcf5','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>习惯是重复次数多到足以自动化的行为。<br>习惯不会限制自由相反的创造了自由，如良好的财务习惯，创造了财务自由。</p>','2025-07-07 02:30:14.933','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7073d960-8cd0-449b-9fcd-0c1e93dcd34d','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>桑代克的猫实验发现猫逃脱所用的时间越来越短，猫并没有重复之前所犯下的错误，而且开始寻找解决方案。这个实验告诉我们：</p>
<p>1）习惯是重复足够多到足以变成自动化的行为。</p>
<p>2）被奖赏的行为被脑袋纳入成为策略。</p>
<p>3）一个新行为的养成就是在：尝试，失败，学习，做不一样的尝试。那些无用的行为渐渐消失，让有效的行为被强化，习惯就形成了。</p>
<p>4）脑里其他杂讯的活动被屏蔽在外，大脑跳过试错的过程，创造出一个新的心理捷径：如果这样，就会那样。 这个习惯，这个解决问题的程序就被自动化。</p>
<p>5）倘若还没有养成习惯，那么人就不断地试错，无法感到自由。所以，习惯不会限制自由，而是创造了自由。</p>','2025-07-08 05:54:08.753','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0484ff5f-508b-4861-b42e-96ae15888701','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>友情-互敬互爱,保持边界感,保持适度的距离.</p>','2025-07-09 12:41:26.904','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('38ec9d8c-ff36-4135-b112-60e1b198a4d5','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>交友时我们要保持着&ldquo;恭敬之心&rdquo;<br>除此之外，朋友间，也需要保持一定的距离，亲而有间，疏而有秘，和而不同，美美与共，这才是交往的最好境界。</p>','2025-07-09 13:37:55.761','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c40862f-75ff-4c24-a653-20a36d732a44','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>所谓的习惯，就是重复次数多到足以自动化的行为，习惯形成合的过程开始于试误。</p>
<p>大脑会记录奖赏之前的行为，所以我们就会尝试，失败，学习，做不一样的尝试。透过这个练习，无用的行为渐渐消逝，有用的行为则强化，习惯就是这样形成。</p>
<p>只要情况允许，意识喜欢把任务分配给无意识去不加索的做，这就是一个习惯形成时所发生的事。</p>','2025-07-09 14:45:58.09','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a448c6bd-8a64-4912-83e9-4414425a8c33','37a16139-0b9a-4c99-be8e-d49fc76d690d','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p><br>有三点深刻触动：<br>1. 「不可分割」的个体觉醒。<br>阿德勒将"individual"解释为"不可分割"的完整生命体&mdash;&mdash;人不是心灵与肉体割裂的机器，而是用整体的存在。当哲人说"勃然大怒是''整体的我''的选择"时，原来我们从未被感情绑架，每个愤怒瞬间都是潜意识里默许的主动行为。<br>2. 课题分离&ne;情感切割。<br>青年担忧的"引导人走向孤立的个人主义"被哲人巧妙化解。课题分离不是用刀斩断关系，而是像解开缠结的毛线&mdash;&mdash;唯有厘清"自己的线头和他人的线."，才能用独立的丝线编织真正的联结。课题分离不是为了疏远他人，而是为了解开錯綜复杂.的人际关系之线。<br>3. 从"缠绕"到"联系"的升华。<br>最震撼的是对人际关系本质的比喻：混乱的"缠绕"是相互撕扯的消耗，清澈的"联系"则是独立个体间的共鸣。</p>
<p>读完这三页关于&ldquo;共同体感觉social interest&rdquo;的阐述，有三点直击心灵：</p>
<p>1. **从&ldquo;二人世界&rdquo;到&ldquo;宇宙共同体&rdquo;的跃迁**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>阿德勒将共同体从家庭、社会扩展到**&ldquo;宇宙时空的无限联结&rdquo;**令人震撼&mdash;&mdash;当哲人说&ldquo;连百年后的读者、窗外的树都是共同体成员&rdquo;时，我突然理解了他照顾病父时的心境.&nbsp;</p>
<p>2. **&ldquo;社会的最小单位是&lsquo;我和你&rsquo;&rdquo;的启示**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>这个定义彻底解构了人际焦虑&mdash;&mdash;不必担忧&ldquo;全社会如何看我&rdquo;，只需面对眼前真实的个体。</p>
<p>3. **幸福藏在&ldquo;贡献感&rdquo;的悖论里**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>最触动的是阿德勒的洞见：**当人停止追求&ldquo;被认可&rdquo;转而寻求&ldquo;有贡献&rdquo;，反而获得归属感**。这解释了哲人照顾父亲时不求和解却收获&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;的奇迹&mdash;&mdash;放下对回报的执念时，真正的联结才悄然发生。</p>','2025-07-10 10:38:17.387','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('439d05bd-ebb3-40c6-ae78-9b18ffdc63d0','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">与朋友来往时保持恭敬之心，那就会有更多朋友了。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在面对别人送礼时，只要不过分贵重，真心接受即可。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">虽然说和很好的朋友是亲密无间的，但适当的保持适度的距离，互相取暖才是最好的方式，</span></p>','2025-07-10 14:27:18.768','2025-07-11 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028','2025-07-11 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7caff3ef-9716-43a5-9b09-c63cd961075b','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>习惯可以让你腾出自由与创意所需的心里空间。</p>
<p>我发现自己真的把生活上的一些事情变成了习惯，一遇到问题就已经知道如何解决了。也许这就是自动化行为。</p>
<p>我相信习惯会创造自由，也许我还没真正做到创造自由，但是我觉得创造自由是在不知不觉中产生的。</p>','2025-07-11 01:07:49.572','2025-07-11 01:07:49.572',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 01:07:49.571',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b358ca05-3858-432f-8b31-407ae4f147bb','37a16139-0b9a-4c99-be8e-d49fc76d690d','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>课题分离不是为了疏远他人，而是为了解开错综复杂的人际关系之线。</p>
<p>人际关系的终点在于共同体感觉，把他人看作伙伴并能夠从中感到自己有位置的状态，这包括了家庭、学校、单位、地域社会、国家、人类、宇宙整体在内的一切、和时间轴。</p>
<p>一切烦恼或幸福皆源于人际关系，共同体感觉是幸福的人际关系的最重要的指标，起点是把自己的执着变成对他人的关心。</p>','2025-07-11 01:47:08.564','2025-07-11 01:47:08.564',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 01:47:08.562',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e0c10278-b741-4be4-aaa5-e39202a3c862','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>恰到好处。恭敬、礼仪。以身作则。保持健康的距离。给予足够的关心。智慧也。无有利益、比较、分别。</p>','2025-07-11 02:06:27.103','2025-07-11 02:06:27.103',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 02:06:27.102',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eaf66e68-944d-4be6-aa09-e383574aa10c','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>习惯给我们自由，减少烦恼。我们不需要浪费时间和精神思考每天都必须做的选择。计划和规律的好处。因此可以专注更有价值的事情。</p>','2025-07-11 02:21:04.735','2025-07-11 02:21:04.735',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 02:21:04.734',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c9d8dec-bd2d-4fc4-bcd5-785b079935d1','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>历史-可以参考很多成功与失败的例子.懂人性,し懂大自然现象,人生少走很多冤枉路</p>','2025-07-09 12:45:47.181','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('048521fd-a991-4d2f-b689-7c0aa9ac5d6c','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>习惯一旦自动化，我们就不会留意自己做的事。这样也错失了提升，改变的机会。唯有先意识到自己的习惯，才有可能改变它们。<br>通过&ldquo;习惯计分卡&rdquo; 或 &ldquo;指差确认&rdquo;的方法， 能将无意识的习惯变成有意识。</p>','2025-07-11 07:43:17.61','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54a52161-0da8-405e-905b-5010693d5d43','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>批评 vs 表扬</p>
<p>对教育孩子我个人比较喜欢表扬，是一个鼓励的方式。 认为批评可以纠正错误，表扬可以激励进步。然而，阿德勒心理学却提出了不同的观点。也用鼓励和支持来代替批评和表扬。鼓励是关注对方的努力和进步，而不是结果。</p>','2025-07-11 04:43:57.586','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88a12aa2-3d5c-4721-97b8-653ab51ff414','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 27 ：7月11 日 《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</p>
<p>以恭敬之心与人交往（Page 119-122）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>与人相处，需要保持适当的距离，以恭敬心对待别人。</p>','2025-07-11 15:31:25.763','2025-07-11 15:31:25.763',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:31:25.762',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9e10dfc1-b842-4bca-be33-f3a31411621d','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>建立习惯过程</p>
<p>提示&gt;渴望(动力)&gt;回应(能力内愿意付出)&gt;奖赏(满足渴望)</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 05:51:59.25','2025-07-12 05:51:59.25',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 05:51:59.249',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('969b0250-dad2-49fa-a0ce-c7a94e0ea747','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>提示引起渴望</p>
<p>渴望激发回应</p>
<p>回应提供奖赏</p>
<p>奖赏满足渴望</p>
<p>这绕了一圈，可是真正自己想要开始一个好习惯，确实需要习惯迴路。</p>
<p>看似简单，要养成习惯也需要勇气。</p>','2025-07-12 05:58:32.695','2025-07-12 05:58:32.695',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 05:58:32.694',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99f61011-124a-458e-8fc5-f6268f958c4c','0f4efa2a-9f0d-4b03-94ac-33a0a4b59f4d','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 20 7月12日 (星期六)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第四夜 要有被讨厌的勇气</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;拼命寻求认可&rdquo;反而是以自我为中心？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">一位在意他人怎么看的方式，生活正是只关心&ldquo;我&rdquo;的自我中心似的生活方式. 只在关心我这个意义上来讲是以自我为中心，正因为不想被他人认为自己不好，所以才会在意他人的视线，这不是对他人的关心，而是对自己的执着.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">凡事执着于我的人都是以自我为中心的，所以必须把对自己的执着换成，对他人的关心. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">别人并不是为了满足你的期待而活，当期待落空的时候，他们往往会大失所望，并感觉到了极大的羞辱，而且还会非常愤怒. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">你并不是世界的中心. 也是一样，你是共同体的一部分，而不是中心. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">面对人际关系课题不是考虑这个人会给我什么，而是要必须思考一下我能给这个人什么，这就是对共同体的参与和融入. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">归属感不是生来就有的东西，要靠自己的手续获得. </span></p>','2025-07-12 15:32:19.038','2025-07-12 15:32:19.038',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:32:19.037',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c6ade9ee-97ee-47b9-bc08-2c08d8423f10','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>所有習慣都依序經歷這四個階段：提示 渴望 回應 獎賞。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 14:02:11.626','2025-07-12 14:02:18.94',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:02:18.939',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f2e21b7-455b-4687-b4b3-03ffcae08a80','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>提示 - 渴望 - 回应 - 奖励，是一个习惯循环。</p>
<p>回应和奖励是解决问题的阶段，也更为重要。</p>','2025-07-12 15:40:21.06','2025-07-12 15:40:21.06',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:40:21.059',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa818e4f-291f-4b51-975a-8e38f7e09848','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>在新习惯未成形前，先要掌握现有的习惯。</p>
<p>70%的潜意识需要被唤醒。</p>
<p>倘若无法意识到无意识，它就会变成你的命运。</p>','2025-07-11 09:19:36.273','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('93a2310d-4bc9-4fe3-a87f-2997e98c14f4','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>我们可以运用习惯记分卡，这个简单的练习，来增加对自身行为的察觉。</p>
<p>行为改变的过程始终始于觉察。指差确认与习惯记分卡这类策略的重点，在于认出自己的习惯及触发这些习惯的提示。这样我们才可以对自己有益的方式做出回应。</p>','2025-07-11 15:09:26.232','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a1dab4d-6cd2-4e36-9881-a4aa5d79defc','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>遇到问题不怨天尤人，不断调整自己，提升自己的认知能力，净化心灵，化解内心冲突和矛盾，让自己的仁性和人性真正流露，才能变得越来越优秀和强大。</p>','2025-07-12 05:29:56.102','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0b55d98-83b2-4f29-9445-cd71457d343f','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>善于反省，才能不断成长。</p>
<p>孔子说:君子求诸己，小人求诸人。</p>
<p>遇到问题，先反省自己，不要怪责别人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 03:06:54.734','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('12d2ce7a-805f-43aa-8643-89cf0bfc79fe','75caee7a-c51a-4499-a681-a2c392529fa4','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>让坏习惯无吸引力, 明确清楚知道坏习惯所带来伤害后果，远离提示信息出现。</p>','2025-07-12 07:49:41.286','2025-07-28 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9bca05a-5d53-4514-b19e-b51e32dc2263','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>交往和应酬-保持恭敬之心非常重要。</p>
<p>待人处事-认真，不出差错，对人恭敬而合乎礼的规定。</p>
<p>对于亲朋戚友-亲而有间，疏而有密，和而不同，美美与共。</p>','2025-07-11 09:46:55.021','2025-07-11 09:46:55.021',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 09:46:55.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a93b9a4-b285-4154-95d2-8fda1f17ccd9','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>有规划的生活总好过乱七八糟的生活好。想过一天是一天，机会来了接也接不住。只有养成好的习惯，每一天才是充实的。</p>','2025-07-11 10:04:41.325','2025-07-11 10:04:41.325',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 10:04:41.324',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('06324a6b-61b5-4c24-8819-f8f5c4a0956f','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>总之，无论是结交新朋友，还是与老朋友相处，我们如果能做到互敬互爱，同时保持适度的距离，就像两只相互取暖的刺猬那样，就能让关系随着时间的沉淀而变得愈加深厚。</p>','2025-07-11 10:40:22.799','2025-07-11 10:40:22.799',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 10:40:22.798',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1641a431-adee-4cc6-b406-4a6db9f005e7','37a16139-0b9a-4c99-be8e-d49fc76d690d','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s Individual Psychology emphasizes that we are not made up of separate fragments such as personality, emotions, or past experiences.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Instead, each person is a complete and unified individual.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>All behaviours, thoughts, and emotions have a purpose, even if it doesn&rsquo;t make sense at first.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This perspective is closely connected to interpersonal challenges. Rather than blaming others or our past, we</p>
<p>should focus on the present purpose behind our actions.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler believed that the ultimate goal of human relationships is to develop &ldquo;social interest&rdquo; - a deep sense of connection, contribution, and cooperation with others.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>It&rsquo;s about treating each other with mutual respect and growing together as part of a community.</p>','2025-07-11 11:13:24.349','2025-07-11 11:13:24.349',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 11:13:24.348',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('73e0db94-d037-492c-bf27-d1798efb0129','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>习惯就是重复次数多到足以自动化的行为</p>
<p>增加行为记忆</p>','2025-07-11 13:00:02.177','2025-07-11 13:00:02.177',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 13:00:02.176',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('67b13084-77ce-4366-b692-fa367a6307fc','37a16139-0b9a-4c99-be8e-d49fc76d690d','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>这章开头讲青年关于觉得阿德勒心理学的课题分离是引导人孤立，我想不是，看完前面的部分，我是觉得他是在说当遇到困扰你的事情的时候可以采取课题分离的办法，识别出是谁的问题，这样能避免不必要的内耗，因为是别人的问题，我们无法干涉他人做出选择和决定。但对于除了困扰之外的事情，在与人相处时，抱着真诚的态度与他人交往，相信还是好人多的话，人不会走向孤立的</p>','2025-07-11 15:18:32.966','2025-07-11 15:18:32.966',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:18:32.965',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cfc33d51-bfe8-445a-8f6d-e62ab45e12d8','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>每个人都有个自的习惯、想法和态度，而尊重能让彼🆚联接、体量与和睦共处。</p>
<p>所以再好的亲情、友情都不能要求对方成为自己或自己期望的模样，否则将会是非不断。我想这是恭敬的意义吧！</p>','2025-07-11 15:34:06.726','2025-07-11 15:34:06.726',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:34:06.725',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbc980d3-0001-4f80-a84f-ceacc4aa89ee','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>与人交往时，需要保持恭敬之心以及适当的距离和界限，反而可以更加厚友谊的长久。</p>','2025-07-11 15:35:20.357','2025-07-11 15:35:20.357',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:35:20.356',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('933a776a-27b3-4c48-827f-c2d1f8e680fc','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>尝试、犯错、更改、有成就感 之后才能成为 - 习惯</p>
<p>习惯不是枷锁，是自由的开始和实现</p>','2025-07-11 15:35:58.986','2025-07-11 15:35:58.986',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:35:58.986',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff1cce50-e61c-4d06-89d9-bebc15681791','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>提示，渴望，回应和奖赏。</p>
<p>这4个阶段习惯迴路。</p>','2025-07-05 08:04:30.263','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6e62f22-1ac6-474d-a3da-a5be906cee67','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;所信者目也，而目犹不可信；所恃者心也，而心犹不足恃。弟子记之，知人固不易也！&rdquo;孔子叹息着说：&ldquo;人们相信的是自己的眼睛，而眼睛看到的并不可信；我所依靠的是心，但心也不完全可靠。你们记住，要了解一个人不容易。&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-11 10:53:21.822','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1bf2e24f-c059-4c2b-b116-24a5e3b422a0','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 11 ：7月11 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 四个简单的步骤，让你建立更好的习惯（Page 062-066）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯可以让你腾出自由思考，以创意所需的心理空间。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯重复次数多到足以行动化的行为。每当你在生活中遇到一个新的状况，大脑就必须做个决定；我该如何回应？第一次遇到某个问题，你不确定该如何解决，跟代课一样，你只能各种做法，看哪种有用。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯不过是环境中反复出现的问题的可靠解决之道。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当习惯被创造出来，中活动的程度更随之降低。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯是透过经验获得的心理捷径。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯不会限制自由，而是创造了自由。能掌握习惯的人往往拥有最少的自由。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想要同处自由思考，以创意所需的心理空间，唯一的方法就是简化生活中的基本事物</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当你建立的习惯，搞定生活中的基本失误，你的心智就能自由地聚焦于新的挑战掌握下一组问题。现在把习惯建立好你在未来做更多想做的事。</span></p>','2025-07-11 11:37:09.837','2025-07-11 11:37:11.023',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 11:37:11.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('df9d82f2-69e3-4657-9907-f9b462b47350','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>人与人之间的靠近，是一门温柔的艺术。</p>
<p>无论是新朋友的悄悄靠近，还是老朋友的长久陪伴，若能彼此尊重、真心相待，又懂得保留一点空间，就像两只懂得取暖的刺猬，靠得刚刚好，不扎人也不疏离。</p>
<p>这样的关系，会在岁月的打磨下，越发深厚、温润而长久。</p>','2025-07-11 12:53:44.679','2025-07-11 12:53:44.679',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 12:53:44.678',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cc442cf6-46a9-4cdd-aa23-813652924dd3','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>要养成好习惯前，需要经历不同的尝试，让大脑不断做调整与分析，当习以为常且培养了好习惯，会令我们更自由及有更大空间去接受新挑战。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-11 13:19:11.32','2025-07-11 13:19:11.32',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 13:19:11.319',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f1b982a-bace-4640-9fde-33618e1c1f0d','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>遇到问题先从自己身上找原因, 遇到问题少报怨, 不論是個人成長, 或是经营事业, 都會不断進步.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-11 13:28:46.817','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54287572-4197-4fc7-8570-3a433406ff2b','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>今天学到与人相处要抱有恭敬之心。每个人都有值得我们学习的地方，待人真诚、谦卑。同时也应有边界感，以大家舒服的方式相处。</p>','2025-07-11 14:01:46.331','2025-07-11 14:01:46.331',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 14:01:46.33',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cec5595c-f560-4c57-af46-89ea8366f002','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>习惯是经历不断地尝试，不断改善当中的错误，吸纳对的和可喜的结果，然后便是自动化和强化的习惯！</p>
<p>好的习惯实现了自由，也有更多的空间接受不一样的挑战，因为减少了处理繁琐事物</p>','2025-07-11 14:01:51.204','2025-07-11 14:01:51.204',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 14:01:51.202',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f1ed663-5c3c-462b-bced-77c1173a5172','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>把需要和想要奖赏的捆绑起来。喜欢netflix &nbsp;例子。 当跑步机跑到了一定的速度后netflix 电影才开始播放&hellip;从需要到想要！</p>','2025-07-11 14:23:21.673','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('93640856-1a6c-4f1a-afd8-7d8f686349a5','d522e32b-0274-406f-a168-7f93922a42b9','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>把诱惑捆绑起来让自己更有动力完成目标，同时也能获得奖励。期待奖励会比获得奖励产生更多多巴胺！</p>','2025-07-11 14:58:32.553','2025-07-25 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007','2025-07-25 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('25dd78d2-01a9-44e5-bacd-c79078e9415f','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>习惯创造了自由。在日常的活动中减少了选择、忧虑，而腾出更多的心灵与精神的自由空间。</p>','2025-07-11 14:51:27.327','2025-07-11 14:51:27.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 14:51:27.325',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fc0653e-cd30-4a64-a45c-7a1b4f142375','fafe6f91-d06a-4d2a-952f-4d18766306b5','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>脚踏实地才能走得更远</p>
<p>德薄而位尊，意思是如果一个人的德行不到位，无法配得上自己过高的地位，那就变得非常危险。位高而德薄，力小而任重，此万祸之源也。</p>
<p>德不配位，就名不副实，名副副实，就不要硬来，否则会出大问题。 德不配位银色的道理是人在什么状况下就应该做适当 处境的事，应该按部就班，脚踏实地地开展自己的事业，让自己的德行与地位名副其实.</p>
<p>君子务本，本立而道生。一定要脚踏实地，将一件事情做好，让他成为自己的本源，那才能够获得真正的成功.&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-11 03:10:07.738','2025-08-06 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-08-06 00:00:00.033','2025-08-06 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p>敬而无失，恭而有礼</p>
<p>保持边界感，让彼此舒服。</p>','2025-07-11 15:25:07.399','2025-07-11 15:25:07.399',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:25:07.398',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('044259e5-4d08-4bca-8186-77229af33d37','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 11 : 7月11 日&nbsp; 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;四个简单的步骤，让你建立更好的习惯.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯可以让你腾出自由思考与创意所需的心理空间. 所谓习惯就是重复次数多到足以自动化的行为习惯. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯不会限制自由，而是创造了自由想要腾出自由思考与创意所需的心理空间,唯一的方法就是简化生活中的基本事物. </span></p>','2025-07-11 15:19:09.816','2025-07-11 15:19:11.26',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:19:11.258',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b62c702-da79-4c05-a20a-56007edec31c','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>习惯，是一种自动化的智慧。</p>
<p>当一个行为被重复得足够多，它就不再消耗你的心力，成为生活中默默运转的背景程序。</p>
<p>建立好习惯，是在为心智腾出空间，好去面对更大的挑战。</p>','2025-07-11 15:20:11.737','2025-07-11 15:20:11.737',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:20:11.736',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eba70e28-d2bc-46a9-b78c-83fefea0f102','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>如果能做到互敬互爱，同时保持适度的距离，就像两只刺猬那样，就能让关系随着时间的沉淀而变得愈加深厚</p>','2025-07-11 15:27:04.397','2025-07-11 15:27:04.397',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:27:04.396',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('798dd6d3-9c5d-49aa-a39b-f3a6d6b05d96','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 27 ：7月11 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态 以恭敬之心与人交往.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在与人交往时，保持恭敬之心是非常重要的. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当朋友或者长辈送礼物给我们的时候, 我们也要用很恭敬的心去接受，也就是说如果长辈送礼物给我嘛， 我们不要多想，直接收下就可以了，这一点同样适合用于现代社会的人际交往.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们在交朋友的时候需要保持一定的距离，才是最好的交友之道. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">总之，无论是结交新朋友还是以老朋友相处，我们如果能做到互敬互爱，同时保持适度的距离，就像两只互相取暖的刺猬，那样就能让关系随着时间的沉淀而变得越加深厚. </span></p>','2025-07-11 15:31:08.263','2025-07-11 15:31:09.228',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:31:09.227',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d55c59c6-e654-4a8e-945d-bf86164457b8','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">以恭敬之心与人交往（</span>Page 119-122<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>&ldquo;恭&rdquo;即是交友的基本态度：对人尊重、对己有度。</p>
<p>真正长久的关系，建立在相互敬重而非亲密无间的&ldquo;控制感&rdquo;上。</p>
<p>🦔 刺猬取暖理论：人际关系的智慧</p>
<p>两只刺猬在寒冬中想靠近取暖，但若距离太近会互相刺伤。</p>
<p>最好的方式是：保持温度，也保持边界。</p>
<p>* 对朋友真诚以待，但不越界干涉。<br>* 对关系热情投入，但保留空间与尊严。</p>
<p>✨ 保持分寸：亲密而不逾矩。</p>
<p>✨ 尊重选择：朋友有自己的节奏与界线。</p>
<p>✨ 用心倾听：恭敬不只是礼貌，更是对他人存在的珍视。</p>
<p>🚧 人际雷区提醒：</p>
<p>1. 越界控制：干涉对方太多，会令人窒息。</p>
<p>2. 过度依赖：让对方承担自己情绪的全部重量。</p>
<p>3. 言语轻率：不敬之语，即使无意，也会伤感情。</p>
<p>🙏 默想与自省：</p>
<p>我与人交往时，有没有做到&ldquo;恭&rdquo;？</p>
<p>有没有因为&ldquo;太近&rdquo;而让关系受损？</p>
<p>有哪些关系，需要我放下控制、回归尊重？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-11 15:23:00.307','2025-07-11 15:23:00.307',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:23:00.306',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 四个简单的步骤，让你建立更好的习惯（Page 062-066）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">纪律带来自由。习惯不是限制你，而是帮你创造更大的选择权与心理空间。</span></p>','2025-07-11 15:34:55.601','2025-07-11 15:34:55.601',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:34:55.6',NULL,NULL);
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<li>所谓习惯就是重复次数多到足以自动化的行为。</li>
<li>当习惯被创造出来后，脑中活动的程度便随之降低，然后把任务分配给潜意识去做。</li>
<li>当习惯形成后，便可以减轻大脑的注意力而释出心智容量，好让你把注意力分配给其他任务。</li>
<li>会有人以为养成习惯后会牺牲了自由，但事实正好相反：当你建立了多个好习惯、搞定生活中的基本事物后，你的心就能自由地聚焦于新的挑战。持续去掌握下一组问题，在未来做更多想做的事。</li>
</ul>','2025-07-11 15:58:03.365','2025-07-11 15:58:03.365',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:58:03.364',NULL,NULL);
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<p>恭敬心</p>
<p>亲而有间，疏而有密，和而不同，美美与共，这才是交往的最高境界</p>
<p>界限清晰，保持距离，是最好的交友之道</p>
<p>互敬互爱，同时保持距离，</p>','2025-07-11 15:56:25.237','2025-07-11 16:03:02.722',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 16:03:02.721',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b45f224-1243-42a2-8af2-4cd14b31e7f3','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 27 ：7月11 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以恭敬之心与人交往（Page 119-122）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">朋友之间，最好的状态是：互相尊重、彼此关爱，又不过分亲密，像刺猬取暖&mdash;&mdash;温暖而不过分靠近，关系才会长久而深厚。</span></p>','2025-07-11 15:38:50.789','2025-07-11 15:38:50.789',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:38:50.788',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('41022b1b-7ed3-4dd9-b2fc-c66fc6cbd1a5','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>▪️人际相处的温度与分寸</p>
<p>▫️每个人都有值得尊重和学习的地方，带着善意去交流，才能赢得善意回馈。</p>
<p>▫️ 人与人之间，态度决定温度，只有温暖的态度，才能建立长久而可靠的人际关系。</p>
<p>▫️ 懂得保持适当的距离，有分寸、有边界，才能相处得长久、舒服、自在。</p>','2025-07-11 15:44:16.644','2025-07-11 15:44:16.644',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:44:16.643',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('13b2639b-09cf-4d84-8c21-39cc12d9d862','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 27&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>11&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">以恭敬之心与人交往（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 119-122<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">与人交往，一定要有恭敬之心，面对别人的馈赠，只要合乎行为规范，开心接受就好。做到互敬互爱，同时保持适度的距离，就像两只相互取暖的刺猬那样，就能让关系随着时间的沉淀变得愈加深厚。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>','2025-07-11 15:48:01.371','2025-07-11 15:48:01.371',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:48:01.369',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8e4e478d-6ed4-43d6-b112-022f667bee60','abdb55fa-6561-4d2b-b608-8f938e9ea743','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>以恭敬之心与人交往。一个人去交往和应酬的时候应该保持什么内心。人交往时一定要有恭敬之心，面对别人的馈赠，只要是合乎行为规范就开心，接受就好，这也是一种礼貌。总之，无论是新朋友还是老朋友相处时，我们要做到附近互爱，同时保持适度的距离，就像取暖的刺猬，那样就能让关系随着时间的沉淀而变得愈加深厚。</p>','2025-07-11 15:49:00.63','2025-07-11 15:49:00.63',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:49:00.629',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e63e3cc4-3aed-420d-8e62-927fd6ebb0cf','37a16139-0b9a-4c99-be8e-d49fc76d690d','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 19 7月11日 (星期五)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第四夜 要有被讨厌的勇气</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">个体心理学和整体论</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">个体心理学也可以是不可分割的意思.</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">把人看作不可分割的存在和作为整体的我，来考虑的方式叫做整体论，个人的定义导向，我是我，你是你的孤立境地，也就是我不干涉你，你也别干涉我，彼此都任性的活着.</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">想要缔结良好的人际关系，需要保持一定的距离.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人际关系并不止于课题分离. 相反，分离课题是人际关系的出发点.</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">把它能看作伙伴，并能够从中感到自己有位置的状态就叫共同感觉，共同感觉是幸福人际关系的重要指标.</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">只要是我和你有两个存在的，就社会会产生共同体，首先可以以&ldquo;我和你为生共同体.<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </span>把对自己的执着，变成对他人的关心.</span></p>','2025-07-11 15:53:26.255','2025-07-11 15:55:00.998',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:55:00.997',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9b80656-42ac-4e9c-8ef9-9c76e35d3102','7cfd0e8b-8451-460d-8e75-5fc0de2e026d','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 11&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>11&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; text-indent: -18.0pt; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white; margin: 0cm 0cm 0cm 21.3pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">1.</span><span style="font-size: 7.0pt; font-family: ''Times New Roman'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">四个简单的步骤，让你建立更好的习惯（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 062-066<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">习惯不会限制自由，而是创造了自由。</span></p>','2025-07-11 15:55:28.626','2025-07-11 15:55:28.626',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-11 15:55:28.625',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;2.）渴望 - 所有习惯背后的动力。行动的理由。</p>
<p>B。）解决方案阶段：<br>&nbsp;3.）回应 - 确实执行的习惯。取决于自身的能力。</p>
<p>&nbsp;4.）奖赏 - 每个习惯的终极目标 - 满足渴望。<br>这四个步骤是一个习惯洄路，直到建立了自动化习惯。</p>','2025-07-07 08:00:29.493','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7acdf1f3-2035-44bd-a23a-32ecc16f7961','0f4efa2a-9f0d-4b03-94ac-33a0a4b59f4d','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>自我为中心 - 不能进行可以分离，一昧拘泥于认可欲求的人也是极其自我中心的人</p>
<p>认可欲求看上去在看着别人，其实实际上是渴求他人看自己，以自己为中心。</p>
<p>非常在意他人评价的人也是自我为中心，因为在意别人口中的自己而应和别人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>一昧在意他人怎么看我是只关心我知道的自我中心方式。</p>
<p>凡是执著于我的人都是自我中心。</p>
<p>把对自己的执著换成对他人的关心。</p>
<p>你不是世界的中心，只是世界地图的中心。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我并不是世界的中心。</p>
<p>我们每个人都只是共同体的一部分，而不是中心。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>积极参与共同体 - 直面人生课题。</p>
<p>不回避工作，交友爱之类的人生课题。</p>
<p>而是积极参与投入当中。</p>
<p>如果自己认为自己是中心，当然不会参与在人生课题当中。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>主动面对人际关系课题时，不是考虑，这个人会给我什么。</p>
<p>而是思考 &ldquo;我能给这个人什么&rdquo;</p>
<p>给出什么价值给他人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>归属感不是生来就有的东西，要靠自己的手去获得。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-08 04:58:31.83','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48472757-a153-41d9-8015-b2770fb123bb','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>建立习惯的过程的四个步骤形成一个习惯养成的迴路：提示，渴望，回应，奖赏</p>
<p>【提示】：是奖赏的一点资讯。人是通过本身的情绪、思想和感觉，将提示转换成渴望。</p>
<p>【渴望】：是习惯背后的动力。每个渴望都连接着改变内在状态的欲望。</p>
<p>【回应】：在执行一个习惯所呈现出的想法和行为。这个反应是根据所受到的刺激度和行为带来的阻力而有不同。</p>
<p>【奖赏】：奖赏是每个习惯的终极目标。奖赏从远古的食物、水、性，到现代的财富、荣耀、权势地位、奖赏、认同等， 奖赏本身更深层的动机是为了生存和繁衍的机会。</p>
<p>大脑是奖赏的侦探器。奖赏教育我们哪个行为要被记住。通过这四个步骤（提示，渴望，回应，奖赏）不断的重复发生、学习和调整，一个新习惯的神经迴路就形成了。一个被重复越多次，遇到越多调整的迴路，即将会是越容易形成自动化的程序。</p>','2025-07-08 08:22:03.572','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1fa8055a-023e-498a-a010-0ae279d8f5ad','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>建立习惯的过程可以分为4个简单的步骤：提示、渴望、回应、奖赏。</p>
<p>&ldquo;提示&rdquo;开启了你的大脑的一个行为，它是预示奖赏的一点资讯。</p>
<p>&ldquo;渴望&rdquo;是所有习惯背后的动力。将提示转变为渴望的观察者的思想、感觉和情绪。</p>
<p>&ldquo;回应&rdquo;是你确实执行的习惯，可能会以想法或行为方式呈现。</p>
<p>回应会带来&ldquo;奖赏&rdquo;，奖赏是每个习惯的终极目标。所以奖赏是第一个目的就是满足渴望。</p>
<p>这四个步骤可分为两个阶段：问题阶段里有提示和渴望与解决方案阶段有回应和奖赏。</p>
<p>例如：</p>
<p>提示：你起床。</p>
<p>渴望：你想要感觉警醒。</p>
<p>回应：你喝了一杯咖啡。</p>
<p>奖赏：你满足了感觉警醒的渴望。喝咖啡与起床就链接在一起了。</p>','2025-07-09 15:02:36.765','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cae0e17d-47bf-4b07-8457-ae6192d36138','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">其实读这本书是有点痛苦的，因为太多古文是看似懂又好像不懂。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读了古书，就是历史的经验，是吸取古人付出心酸血泪的数千年经验可以供自己运用，不需再去碰太多钉子。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读古人诗和书，进而感受他们伟大的人格魅力和无尽的智慧。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">尚友</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">了解古人所处的那些时代，通过时代的特点，感受古人的心。语言本身能说明白的道理其实连一半都不到，在读任何书的时候，最好可以带入作者在经历这些感受当时的背景和感受。如果我是他，我会怎么做？</span></p>','2025-07-10 14:40:09.678','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fc7f3c44-2c57-48a8-9fa4-b5e6b4d3a740','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>走近历史，更清楚地看未来。在思考未来的时候，对未来目标的设定，取决于如何理解自己，理解他人，理解社会，理解世界，要清楚自己目前在哪里，作为参考。历史的经验，领略古人的智慧，了解古人所处的时代，地点，感受古人的心。</p>','2025-07-10 15:24:36.866','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('014e6e49-f676-473c-ba5c-2255f66bab2a','0f4efa2a-9f0d-4b03-94ac-33a0a4b59f4d','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>人际关系的目标不是以自我为中心点，我不是世界的中心。我只是世界地图的中心。</p>
<p>我的认知不管什么环境，时间，地点，只要我不去索取利益，达到目的。而是我能给予什么帮助，方式，分享，这应该是共同体的参与和融入。</p>','2025-07-12 05:36:44.079','2025-07-12 05:36:44.079',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 05:36:44.078',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('566ce974-9551-4f1c-914f-6087ae694c83','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>微细的改变和动作促使了一个习惯。</p>','2025-07-12 09:16:23.451','2025-07-12 09:16:23.451',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 09:16:23.45',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('efd1efd8-6892-4f92-9590-d07893d2aaf7','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>习惯的四个步骤： 提示，渴望，回应，奖赏。</p>','2025-07-12 14:40:45.536','2025-07-12 14:40:45.536',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:40:45.535',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7714e1db-426f-488f-a3e1-2d8e7529c967','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>1.提示 2.渴望 3.回应 4.奖励</p>
<p>这就是习惯的形成。回应和奖励非常重要。</p>','2025-07-12 14:42:41.988','2025-07-12 14:42:41.988',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:42:41.987',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('57e184b6-9aac-45eb-b8b8-9f05f34c776c','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>让大脑自动执行的行为循环。</p>','2025-07-12 15:59:22.55','2025-07-12 15:59:22.55',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:59:22.55',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('28342e38-e6a4-409a-9078-5a134cc69407','0f4efa2a-9f0d-4b03-94ac-33a0a4b59f4d','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>以下是针对书摘内容的简短读后感：</p>
<p>颠覆认知的「自我中心」。</p>
<p>拼命寻求认可的本质竟是另一种自我中心！当我们焦虑于他人眼光时，看似在看着他人，但实际上眼里却只有自已&mdash;&mdash;这种对自我形象的过度执著，反而将他人降格为评价工具。青年从暴君联想到讨好者的反差极具启发性：暴君用权力绑架他人，讨好者用期待绑架自己，二者皆困于「自我」的牢笼。&nbsp;</p>
<p>「课题分离」的破局之光。</p>
<p>哲人提出的「课题分离」堪称解药：把他人评价权归还他人，把自我成长权留给自己。当镜头不再聚焦于「别人眼中的我」，人生电影才能真正展开辽阔叙事。</p>
<p>以下是对续篇书摘的简短读后感悟：</p>
<p>「地球仪思维」的醒觉。</p>
<p>哲人以地图投影的精妙隐喻，刺破人类认知的天然局限&mdash;&mdash;我们总无意识地将自我置于世界中心，犹如各国地图皆以本土为轴心。地球真正的共同体没有永恒中心，每个坐标皆可成为圆心，又终须回归「整体的一部分」，同时也是共同体的一员。这种认知升维，瞬间解构了青年「主观世界必以我为核心」的执念。</p>
<p>归属感是动词而非名词。</p>
<p>最颠覆性的启示在于：归属感并非被动获得的「位置」，而是积极主动创造的「关系」。当哲人指出「付出先于归属」，彻底扭转了世俗逻辑&mdash;&mdash;不是「因为有位置才付出」，而是「因付出才能夠找到自己的位置」。这解释了为何讨好者永远寻不到归属：归属感不是生求就有的东西，要靠自己的手去获得。</p>','2025-07-11 05:46:21.066','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d5f8f668-52b8-41ab-b140-d90ff222f13a','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>我非常崇尚一种生活、学习、处世的观点&mdash;&mdash;与古人交友。</p>
<p>为什么要和古人交朋友？是为了走近历史。又为什么要走近历史呢？是为了让你更清楚地看到未来。在你思考未来的时候，最重要的事情就是对未来目标的设定，这取决于你如何理解自已、理解他人、理解社会、理解世界。思考这些问题，就要清楚自己目前在哪里，作为参照物，只有历史能告诉你现在在哪里，从这个角度而言，历史才是那门最重要的&ldquo;未来学&rdquo;。学习历史，如果不研究历史上各个年代的人物，那么历史也是无从学起的。</p>','2025-07-11 10:51:33.017','2025-07-12 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004','2025-07-12 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34aa3ddb-ef6c-47e2-a0a1-d4ee61ccf722','0f4efa2a-9f0d-4b03-94ac-33a0a4b59f4d','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>对自己的执着可被理解为以自我为中心，是一个残暴蛮横、不顾别人的感受、只考虑自己、破坏集团和谐、喜欢单独行动、不尊重别人、自私任性、毫不反省自己。也包括了不能进行课题分离、眼里只有自己，失去了对他人的关心，一味拘泥于认可欲求的人。执着（以自我为中心）的人，必须把对自己的执着换成对他人的关心。</p>
<p>想要活得自由，也必须是有人认为自己不好。</p>
<p>人的基本欲求是拥有归属感，自己能夠感觉到在共同体中有自己的位置并能体会到可以在这里。</p>
<p>要了解自己并不是世界的中心，只是世界地图的的中心，自己只是共同体的一部分，而不是中心。人要积极主动的去面对人际关系的课题，必须要思考一下自己能够给别人什么，这就是对共同体的参与和融入。只有付出了才能夠找到自己的位置，这就是共同体感觉的关键概念。</p>','2025-07-12 00:51:04.603','2025-07-12 00:51:06.486',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 00:51:06.484',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('466430fb-eed2-4d3d-bef4-873003c478a7','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p><em>想要知道未來並不用花太多時間去跟過去五千年的偉人做朋友。那是在浪費時間。</em></p>
<p><em>我們應該該想想我們到底屬於哪一個群體可以解決什麼問題，然後趕快動作吧。利用AI去找出最好的幾個選擇，動作吧。</em></p>','2025-07-12 01:27:05.087','2025-07-12 01:27:05.087',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 01:27:05.086',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('271843a1-fae7-44b9-bb98-43c15ee3067d','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>这些专家学者就是能够分析得那么透彻：提示、渴望、回应和奖励。</p>
<p>习惯的形成，缺一不行。</p>','2025-07-12 01:31:27.688','2025-07-12 01:31:27.688',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 01:31:27.687',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fdef3f73-5085-4994-8711-c71b6aacbf76','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>有學到！</p>
<p>題示 -&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>內在提示：孤獨、壓力、無聊、睾酮水平波動, 性愛畫面閃現等。</li>
<li>外在提示：看到性感圖片、特定地點、使用手機時滑到特定內容.</li>
</ul>
<p>渴望</p>
<p>性的釋放與快感，被需要或連結的感覺，&nbsp;紓解壓力或焦慮，&nbsp;短暫逃避現實或情緒</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>回應 - 壞習慣</p>
<p>獎勵</p>
<ul>
<li style="list-style-type: none;">
<ul>
<li>身體上的高潮（多巴胺釋放）</li>
<li>壓力與焦慮的暫時緩解</li>
<li>情緒麻痺或放鬆感</li>
<li>對孤獨或情緒低潮的短暫逃避</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 01:45:05.099','2025-07-12 01:45:05.099',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 01:45:05.097',NULL,NULL);
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<p>建立新习惯最好的方法，就是先找出自己目前的每日习惯，然后把新的行为堆叠上去，这就叫做习惯堆叠。</p>
<p>举例</p>
<p>做完目前的习惯之后，我会执行新的习惯。</p>
<p>如:每天早餐后，我会阅读10分钟。</p>
<p>每天晚上睡觉前，我会祷告5分钟</p>
<p>习堆叠得以创造一组引导未来行为的简单规则。</p>','2025-07-12 02:57:49.526','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7677a6b8-6da2-4b35-8219-7e38bacd2a18','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>提示，渴望，回應，獎勵</p>
<p>提示往獎勵的方向去</p>
<p>獎勵後又回到提示去下一個獎勵</p>
<p>幾輪下去，就是習慣</p>','2025-07-12 06:40:28.379','2025-07-12 06:40:28.379',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 06:40:28.378',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e67faaf3-39a5-4467-90d9-c37ffd01c73a','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>行成习惯需要经历四个阶段：</p>
<ol>
<li>想达要需要的，会行成提示让自己去寻找相 关的讯息</li>
<li>想改变会变成一种渴忘，刺激我们去追求希望得到的</li>
<li>
<pre id="tw-target-text" class="tw-data-text tw-text-large tw-ta" data-placeholder="Translation" aria-label="Translated text: 执行" data-ved="2ahUKEwjfreiP1baOAxXrTWwGHZGvKnQQ3ewLegQICRAV">当确定了想要执行的，我们会给与回应，投入努力去行成新的习惯<br>4. 行成的新习惯，就可是对我们的好回报</pre>
<br>
<pre id="tw-target-text" class="tw-data-text tw-text-large tw-ta" data-placeholder="Translation" aria-label="Translated text: 执行" data-ved="2ahUKEwjfreiP1baOAxXrTWwGHZGvKnQQ3ewLegQICRAV"></pre>
</li>
</ol>','2025-07-12 06:18:37.465','2025-07-12 06:19:05.352',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 06:19:05.351',NULL,NULL);
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<p>所以要解決難題只能一步一腳印的讓自己變聰明</p>
<p>現代的我們如果和古人交友</p>
<p>就是和踏實的智能人交朋友</p>','2025-07-12 06:38:18.093','2025-07-12 06:38:18.093',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 06:38:18.092',NULL,NULL);
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<p>心理学家安德斯，在刻意练习的书中总结：世界上根本没有天份这种事情,所有的才华都是通过后天不断的刻意练习做到的。</p>
<p>关于努力与天赋之间的相互转化，孟子的话带有十分明显的哲学色彩，他用浅显易懂的两分法，从人的外表美丽与丑陋的角度给了我们这样的启示：人的美与丑，进而到善与恶，在一定的条件下可以互相转化的。</p>
<p>努力与天赋的关系简直再合适不过了。努力才是我们的天赋，通过努力，获得如同天赋一般的能力。而拒绝努力，盲目的仰仗自己所谓的天赋，也会付出痛苦的代价。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 05:56:38.96','2025-08-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-08-07 00:00:00.032','2025-08-07 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0e03836c-c51c-4f39-874d-8c755ea80914','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>习惯的形成&rarr;提示 + 渴望 + 回应 + 奖赏</p>
<p>提示和渴望(问题阶段)</p>
<p>回应和奖赏(解决方案阶段)</p>','2025-07-12 09:11:23.553','2025-07-12 09:11:23.553',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 09:11:23.552',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c10bc71f-ffdd-4b66-a3c1-8c4085cca540','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>如何与古人交朋友：</p>
<ol>
<li>将自己设身处地放在他们所处的年代想问题。</li>
<li>采用反向思维，如果遇到了某些事，我是孟子，我该怎么处理。</li>
</ol>','2025-07-12 09:40:43.083','2025-07-12 09:40:43.083',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 09:40:43.082',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c33e509-7e75-47ea-be7a-6fc0482aad96','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>学习洞察差异，做出适当的调整，不能因为把习惯太自动化，减少了对危机出现前不能察觉的错误。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 06:56:30.945','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb9f0fa7-682a-4b24-a6f8-c2be2c336c1c','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>当出现错误时，不要只会报怨，而需要学习反思己过，做出改正及调整自己，让自己成长及提升去令一个新的层次。</p>','2025-07-12 07:49:23.063','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('870ed22a-69c2-402c-8c1d-0943cd95dacd','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>仁德，一言一行合乎天理，一切都顺了。自求多福：努力做好自己，做好自己该做的事，配合天命，就会获得更多的福报。遇到困难、烦恼要向内找原因，看看自己能够改变什么，不抱怨。</p>','2025-07-12 06:13:19.023','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85cf00b0-d656-4f1e-be5d-6bc5036f2cbe','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>执行意向，定下何时何地执行一项新的习惯，比较有可能开始。当时刻到来时，只要照计划执行即可。只要重复的次数变多，就能培养习惯了。</p>','2025-07-12 08:26:36.29','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4e8198f4-2969-4dce-a504-67bf130e4d66','d1c42f15-7697-48f3-af02-70fb1aec01ba','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>模仿成功的人的行为有机会获得成功。但是时间长短才能证明一切。期待！</p>','2025-07-12 06:52:21.827','2025-07-27 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9445c9c0-98d6-427f-be9f-2e014d740729','0f4efa2a-9f0d-4b03-94ac-33a0a4b59f4d','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>In this chapter, Adler continues to emphasize that if we constantly seek recognition or approval and fear being disliked or criticized. In fact, we are being self-centered.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Instead of focusing on our true purpose or asking ourselves, &ldquo;Why am I doing this?&rdquo; or is there genuinely concerned for others?&rdquo;, we always shift our attention to how others see us, making that our priority.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy reminds us that the world does not revolve around you - you are just one part of it.</p>
<p>Let go of self-centered thoughts, and choose to live with courage and a free mind.</p>','2025-07-12 10:08:57.784','2025-07-12 10:08:57.784',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 10:08:57.783',NULL,NULL);
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<p>如何与古人交友<br>-将自己设身处地，放在他们的年代想问题<br>-采用反向思维，如果今天我们遇到了某些事，我是孟子的话我该如何处理？</p>
<p>这养成了一个习惯，我们在生活中为人处事，就有了一定的标准！尊重自己的心，像古代圣贤一般对待他人，思考问题处理事情。有了这种想问题处理事情的方式方法，我们就可以成为那种令人敬佩的人 &nbsp;<br>保持开阔的胸怀和纯净的心灵，拥有高尚的道德与情操。</p>
<p>与古人交友，走进历史，借助他们的智慧，让我们清楚看到未来！</p>','2025-07-12 12:03:23.504','2025-07-12 12:03:23.504',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 12:03:23.503',NULL,NULL);
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<p>欲望驱使了我们要改变的行为，因为改变，我们有不一样的思想，感觉和情绪，自然的，如果影响很大，我们便行动，但是不大，或许会选择无视，但如果行动了，不会有不一样的结果！</p>','2025-07-12 13:03:55.168','2025-07-12 13:03:55.168',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 13:03:55.167',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c783443d-dfba-46a5-8cd0-07ba6bb54c64','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 12 ：7月12 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯形成的四步骤（Page 066-072）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯的四个关键阶段（习惯回路）：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 1. 提示（Cue）：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你注意到某些讯号或线索（例如：时间、地点、情绪、环境）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">👉 是触发习惯的起点</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 2. 渴望（Craving）：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你产生对某个状态的内在渴求（例如：放松、满足、被认同）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">👉 不是渴望行为本身，而是它带来的感觉</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 3. 回应（Response）：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你采取实际行动（或思考），执行该习惯</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">👉 执行与否，取决于你的动力与能力</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 4. 奖赏（Reward）：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">获得你想要的结果，满足渴望，并让大脑学会这个行为值得重复</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">👉 每次奖赏都会强化习惯，建立回馈机制</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">每个习惯的背后，都是为了解决问题。只要这个问题经常出现、解法有效，大脑就会选择「重复」。</span></p>','2025-07-12 13:42:53.785','2025-07-12 13:42:53.785',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 13:42:53.784',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学会与古人交友（Page 123-126）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">学习孟子，不只是读书，更是一种修心练习，让我们学会像圣贤一样思考与处世，成为令人敬佩的人。</span></p>','2025-07-12 14:08:00.06','2025-07-12 14:08:00.06',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:08:00.059',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f27de5e-7a1a-442f-92cb-71fbac9a50c3','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>阅读了解古人的智慧，要以当时的环境条件来看待每个经历。如此增广自己的视野，也可以凭着古老经历来推测未来。</p>','2025-07-12 14:32:37.612','2025-07-12 14:32:37.612',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:32:37.611',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8dedb384-868b-407f-a01d-bca560e8164a','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>遵从内心，待人处事以古圣贤之风为榜样。以这样的方式思考问题、处理事务，你将成为一个令人敬重的人，既能保持开阔的胸襟，也能守住纯净的心灵，展现高尚的品格与真挚的情感。</p>','2025-07-12 15:14:40.868','2025-07-12 15:14:40.868',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:14:40.867',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e60edf7c-7a3a-4770-9f7f-c20b41a33277','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>透过读书沉淀自我，养心养德，强化内在底气。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 16:00:53.675','2025-07-12 16:00:53.675',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 16:00:53.674',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ce4b10e-5f06-4215-aa40-487ef89e1299','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>习惯的终极目标，就是用最少的能量与努力解决生活中的问题。</p>','2025-07-12 09:24:13.973','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0af6563-e3f1-482e-ae9f-2a8107fa12e9','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>道不同不相为谋。自觉谁是小人并远离他，后亲近闲人让自己的能量提升 🙏</p>','2025-07-06 06:23:46.371','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e46719c6-c35c-483c-8981-071e309de3a8','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>执行意向能有效促使我们坚持目标。对何时何地执行一项新习惯做出确切计画的人，比较可能真的去执行。</p>
<p>用以下简单的句子做习惯的策略：</p>
<p>我会于（时间），在（地点）进行（行为）.</p>','2025-07-12 12:48:40.564','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb421392-8aad-4cf2-83ed-d783ceffb95c','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 12 <span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>12 <span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">习惯形成的四步骤（</span>Page 066-072<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">建立习惯的过程可以分为四个简单的步骤;提示、渴望、回应、奖赏。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">每一份渴望都连结着改变内在状态的欲望。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">两个目的的追求奖赏：一，奖赏满足我们：二，奖赏教育我们。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 14:33:36.267','2025-07-12 14:33:37.73',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:33:37.729',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('835da643-aae7-44a3-aa2f-ef7c76b6a944','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">学会与古人交友（</span>Page 123-126<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p><strong>学会与古人交友： 读书是最安静却深刻的交往</strong></p>
<p>交友，并不局限于眼前的人际往来。通过阅读与思考，我们可以穿越时空，与古圣先贤心灵相会。这种&ldquo;与古为友&rdquo;的方式，不仅能丰富知识，更能带来智慧的启发与心灵的滋养。</p>
<p>在现实生活中，我们的朋友往往有限，而古人却是永不离弃的良师益友。他们不会批评你，也不会伤害你，只会以沉静之姿，用智慧默默引导你走向更宽广的心境。<br>👉 孟子教我们恭敬待人、重义轻利；<br>👉 庄子引导我们放下执念、顺应自然；<br>👉 苏轼让我们看见豁达乐观的生命姿态。</p>
<p>读一本好书，仿佛与一位智者对话；与古人为友，不只增长见识，更是一种人格的陶冶、心性的养护。在世事纷扰、人情冷暖之中，唯有这样的&ldquo;淡交&rdquo;能令我们保持清明的眼界、独立的判断与内在的安定。</p>
<p>&nbsp;学会与古人交友，就是为自己储备一份随时可以依靠的力量与底气。</p>','2025-07-12 14:38:44.645','2025-07-12 14:38:44.645',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:38:44.644',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<ol>
<li>提示</li>
<li>渴望</li>
<li>回应</li>
<li>奖赏</li>
</ol>','2025-07-12 14:41:13.779','2025-07-12 14:41:13.779',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:41:13.778',NULL,NULL);
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<p>归属感不是生来就有的，要靠自己去获得。</p>','2025-07-12 15:53:59.524','2025-07-12 15:53:59.524',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:53:59.523',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77a7573a-a2be-45d1-bd34-5e279a9723b4','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>没当你想要改变一个行为只要自问：
<ul>
<li>我要怎么让提示显而易见？</li>
<li>我要怎么让习惯有吸引力？</li>
<li>我要怎么让行动轻而易举？</li>
<li>我要怎么让奖赏令人满足？</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2025-07-12 14:48:25.003','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ecfdfbe6-ee76-4ac7-b9f4-3939ce2f22a4','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>成功创造习惯堆叠的秘诀就是找到触发行为的正确提示。要思考在什么时段最容易成功，别要求自己在可能会被其他事情干扰的情况下执行新的习惯。</p>
<p>行为改变的第一条法则，是让提示显而易见。最常见的2种提示是时间和地点。</p>','2025-07-12 15:32:00.891','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('66859331-d115-4b4a-a955-c12b0b144418','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>建立习惯的过程可以被分为四个简单的步骤：提示、渴望、回应、奖赏。
<ul>
<li>提示
<ul>
<li>促进你的大脑开启一个行为，它是预示对奖赏的一点资讯。</li>
<li>例如：金钱与名声、权势与地位、赞赏与认同、爱情与友谊、个人满足感。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>渴望
<ul>
<li>习惯背后的动力。</li>
<li>你渴望的不是习惯本身，而是习惯带来的状态改变。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>回应
<ul>
<li>回应是你确实执行的习惯，可能会以想法或行为的方式呈现。</li>
<li>回应会不会发生取决于你受到多少刺激，以及与行为连接的阻力多大。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>奖赏
<ul>
<li>奖赏的目的就是满足渴望。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>这四个阶段缺其一，行为就不会形成习惯。
<ul>
<li>没有提示，习惯根本不会开始。</li>
<li>没有渴望，就没有足够的动机去行动。</li>
<li>行为过于困难，就没办法执行。</li>
<li>奖赏若未能满足欲望，未来就没有理由再做一次。</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>问题阶段（提示，渴望）：等你发现有事情需要改变时。</li>
<li>解决方案阶段（回应，奖赏）：那是当你采取行动并达到你想要的改变时。</li>
</ul>','2025-07-12 14:45:41.139','2025-07-12 14:45:41.139',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:45:41.138',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0a533da-3130-4729-942c-249f0370e3fd','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>建立新习惯时，可以让行为的连接性为你所用。先找出自己目前的每月习惯，然后把新的行为堆叠上去，这就叫作习惯堆叠。</p>
<p>习惯堆叠公式：</p>
<p>做完（目前的习惯）之后，我会执行（新的习惯）.</p>','2025-07-12 15:21:55.822','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('afd39cde-0add-4085-ba1e-745b80f95439','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>人都会有不足之处，因此向他人学习极为重要。而这学习除了与不同种族、国籍、文化之外，也需向古圣贤看齐，以便我们具有更好的智慧与能力。</p>','2025-07-12 14:58:40.02','2025-07-12 14:58:40.02',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 14:58:40.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f6295e5d-d3a7-48fc-9ab4-06442a9ec25c','0f4efa2a-9f0d-4b03-94ac-33a0a4b59f4d','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>如何走出可怕的自我模式？</p>
<p>-</p>
<p>认识到我不是世界的中心，只是我自己的中心</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>我们工作、交友、恋爱，都是为了更好地寻找归属感</p>
<p>我们是自己人生的主角，但我们也是整体的一部分</p>
<p>我总是习惯性先考虑我自己的感受</p>
<p>总把自己作为主体，去思考对方给了我什么？</p>
<p>在我们自己的字典里，我们是中心</p>
<p>但在人类的字典里，我们只是一部分</p>
<p>更多时候，我们需要思考我能给对方什么？</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>我想我不应该在一味强迫对方满足我的期待</p>
<p>而是先去付出，找到自己的位置，然后获得让我安心的归属感</p>
<p>更多地去考虑别人的感受，也不必非要通过对方的认可证明自己</p>
<p>其实价值不需要通过谁来证明，它就在那，谁也改变不了</p>
<p>-</p>
<p>学会走进更宽阔的世界寻找自己的位置</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>阿德勒心理学说&ldquo;一切的烦恼都来源于人际关系。&rdquo;</p>
<p>工作、交友、爱，这是我们人生的三大课题</p>
<p>很多时候我们都在&ldquo;我和你&rdquo;的关系中痛苦不已</p>
<p>忘记自己是这个世界共同体的一部分</p>
<p>我们除了爱情、还有友情、亲情、社会价值&hellip;&hellip;</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>好像你是杯子的一个水滴，如果在杯子里丢进石头</p>
<p>它必然会掀起极大的风波，然而你跳出杯子的时候</p>
<p>你会发现杯子里的风暴，在外面也就是小风暴</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>--</p>
<p>我们能做的就是积极面对自己的人生课题</p>
<p>不要强迫自己或对方活在谁的期待里</p>
<p>也不要活在害怕关系破裂的恐惧里</p>
<p>相信迈出第一步，我们就会有新的成长</p>','2025-07-12 15:02:16.395','2025-07-12 15:02:16.395',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:02:16.393',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e0abc626-f160-4cec-8589-b7b68d864ee0','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>了解古人的智慧，将自己设身处地地放在他们所处的年代想问题，采用反向思维，像古人一样思考问题，处理事情</p>','2025-07-12 15:13:35.714','2025-07-12 15:13:35.714',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:13:35.713',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b9d30e2-ffe1-4540-847b-cf12b6a3a2e0','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>提示</p>
<p>习惯形成的四部zhou</p>
<p>渴望</p>
<p>回应</p>
<p>奖赏</p>
<p>满足渴望</p>','2025-07-12 15:11:44.232','2025-07-12 15:15:34.79',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:15:34.789',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5aafc2df-15b6-4bdc-8a4d-6a53368ab431','31d2f1e8-6ce2-42f5-8b27-75e321fcf853','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 12 ：7月12 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯形成的四步骤</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯不过是环境中反复出现的问题的可靠解决之道.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯不会限制自由，而是创造了自由.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">事实上，没能掌握习惯的人，往往拥有最少的自由.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想要腾出自由思考与创意所需的心理空间，唯一的方法就是简化生活中的基本事物. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">反过来说，当你建立了习惯，搞定生活中的基本事务，你的心智就能自由的聚焦於新的挑战，掌握下一组问题</span></p>','2025-07-12 15:48:02.437','2025-07-12 15:48:08.626',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:48:08.625',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee6e8a27-f16a-4f98-b86b-81b9a215f198','0f4efa2a-9f0d-4b03-94ac-33a0a4b59f4d','d4cf19fb-4056-4949-8ccd-8e06049df029','<p>个体心理学和整体论</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Individual 是不可分割的意思</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>心灵和身体，理性和感性，意识无意识都是一体的</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>联系</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人际关系的终极目标是共同体感觉,幸福的人际关系</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>社会是我和你的存在</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>把对自己的执着（self interest) 变成对他人的关心</p>','2025-07-12 15:56:15.201','2025-07-12 15:56:15.201',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 15:56:15.2',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a4d29ea7-2b52-43c5-8aa8-812ebb774b47','95cd3cd4-dd7f-448e-a0bc-baf8f45a5b78','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「介入」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">- </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我比你高、看得比你廣、懂得比你多，我是對的，你是錯的，所以我有權干預</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: Aptos; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Aptos; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">介入：我比你有能力</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: Aptos; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Aptos; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">援助：有什麽我可以幫忙的嗎？</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: Aptos; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Aptos; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">介入：靠獎勵與懲罰來讓對方行動</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: Aptos; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Aptos; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">援助：提供推動力讓對方有自信自己完成面對課題</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">develop a way that allow the counterpart to have ability to deal with it themselve</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">猶豫不決，不是因爲沒有能力，只是缺乏「面對課題的勇氣」</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">知道想要什麽，但在面對可能的挫敗造成的自尊衝擊（因爲自尊</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">自我價值感本來就低）。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">活著本來就需要勇氣，勇氣是維持一個人每天醒來面對生活的資源。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">現在的自尊</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">自我價值剛好維持這個層次的生活。想要提升更高的生活層次，就需要增值，就意味著需要承認現在的不足（自卑），而這對自尊是一種衝擊。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">低自尊的人勇氣就剛剛好維持現在的生活，要提升生活，就需要的更多的勇氣（面對生活的資源），去面對自己的不足（自卑），面對挫敗對自我價值的衝擊。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">稱贊</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「我沒有這個能力，除非有人</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> recognize </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我」、「我需要位階比我高的來認可我有能力」</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">課題分離（分清哪些後果誰負責）</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">--&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">接納彼此的差異（我們在水平平臺，有人先，有人后，但彼此走著屬於自己的道路，沒有好壞之分）</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">--&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">建立平等橫向關係（擴大共同體，你我皆爲人類，無上下優略關係）</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">--&gt; </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">鼓勵（表達欣賞、表達感恩、表達「有你真好」；不予【評價】）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: Aptos; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Aptos; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">聽到「謝謝」，會感覺自己對他人【有貢獻】。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: Aptos; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Aptos; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有貢獻</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有價值。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: Aptos; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Aptos; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有價值，就站得「穩」，行動也就「穩」。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: Aptos; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Aptos; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4.<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「穩」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> = </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">勇氣</span></p>','2025-07-12 18:02:27.874','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6cba10a8-57b1-49a1-8b42-abc150158c9c','9753d79a-83e1-458e-91f4-0fcdccd296a5','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>有用或没用的概念，鼓励的概念。<br>不能用行为去来判断一个人的价值。请不要用行为标准而是用存在标准去看待他人。<br>不要用他人做了什么，而是对其存在本身表示喜悦和感谢。<br>存在标准上的感谢。<br><br>我们平时看待他人往往会任意虚构一个对自己来说理想的形象。再像做减法一样去评价。<br><br>评价，来自于比较。<br>把他看作自己，对他自己的存在心存感恩。<br>不要按照理想去扣分，而是从零开始出发，这样就是对存在本身表示感谢了。<br><br>必须得有人开始。即使其他人不合作，那也跟你没关系。我的意见就是这样：应该由你来开始，不必去考虑他人是否合作。<br><br></p>','2025-07-12 15:04:03.787','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d9c65572-6d9d-45e3-8330-4210aa60df29','2d8def24-44f0-4cef-96b0-0f2c65af06a2','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>有时候你以为的&ldquo;丢脸&rdquo;，别人根本没注意；<br>你以为必须回应，其实沉默也可以是选择。<br>过多的自我意识，是一种看不见的束缚。<br>而接纳自己，是悄悄松开的第一步。<br>书里说，走出自我意识过剩，靠的不是自我肯定，而是自我接纳。</p>','2025-07-12 22:23:24.999','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('511e7092-4910-4856-a2d5-23b7b5d85406','f77330a3-5ec2-48f2-8b71-40628aa97618','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 28 ：7月12 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学会与古人交友</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">非常崇尚的一种生活学习和处事的观点，与古人交友. 是为了走进历史，为了更清楚看到未来.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">最重要的事情就是对未来目标的设定，这取决于你如何理解自己，理解他人理解社会理解世界思考这些问题，就要清楚自己目前在哪里作为参考物.</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">该如何与古人交朋友的要点 : </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一，是将自己设身处地放在他们所处的年代想问题，比如说，如果万章这么问我，我该如何回答？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">二, 是采用反向思考，如果今天我遇到了某些事，我是孟子的话，我该怎么处理？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你看这样一来不论是在工作还是学习生活当中，我们的为人处事都有了一定的标准，进而形成思维和逻辑上的习惯. </span></p>','2025-07-12 15:58:43.035','2025-07-12 16:02:32.76',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-12 16:02:32.758',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1a770acb-66af-45b2-b2d8-4226a387c3e5','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>这里提到的呢很多的一些行为习惯了，都是在生活中扎根，多半是的变得自动化，无意识的。所以如果习惯一直是不需要动脑筋的，那就不能期待有所改善了。</p>','2025-07-12 16:41:14.289','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ccaa1882-bb52-4562-8d15-71c558c29fd4','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>人们选择某种产品，往往不是因为那样产品是什么，而是因为产品在哪里。习惯改变取决于你身处的空间，以及眼前的提示。</p>
<p>视觉是人类所有感觉能力中最强的一项。所见肖有不同，就可能造成所为的巨大变动。</p>','2025-07-12 16:07:18.125','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90038ec5-ed25-4674-beab-0891352b6c20','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>创造明显的视觉提示，可以把我们的注意力引至我们想要的习惯。想要让习惯成为生活的一部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。</p>
<p>环境设计的力量强大，不只因为它影响我们与时间互动的方式，大部分人都活在别人为他们创造的世界里。</p>','2025-07-12 23:35:44.264','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c8298d6-da64-4055-9c7f-2168c0a80980','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>行为改变四个法则</p>
<p>建立好习惯</p>
<p>-让提示显而易见</p>
<p>-让习惯有吸引力</p>
<p>-让行动轻而易举</p>
<p>-让奖赏令人满足</p>
<p>若要破除坏习惯就可以反转这些法则。</p>','2025-07-08 08:51:02.023','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('23042315-47da-4161-92c7-89393b694f48','ed2c1e6f-004f-4f20-ba34-cd12c05ae90b','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>共同体，每个人都是宇宙或人类的共同体。<br>我们都属于多个共同体。<br>闷在自己房间里就好比停留在被子里躲在一个小小避难所一样，能够暂时避雨但是暴风雨却不会停止。<br><br>活在害怕关系破裂的恐惧中，那是为他人活的的一种不自由的生活方式。<br><br></p>','2025-07-09 13:12:24.508','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('865fae91-6d43-4109-8ac4-1db15f36fc2d','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>行为改变4法则是一组能帮助我们建立更好习惯的简单规则：</p>
<p>1）让提示显而易见</p>
<p>2）让习惯有吸引力</p>
<p>3）让行动轻而易举</p>
<p>4）让奖赏令人满足</p>','2025-07-09 22:55:45.576','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f723534-7567-41ad-b387-7127316299fd','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>如何建立好习惯的四法则：</p>
<p>让提示显然而见。</p>
<p>让习惯有吸引力。</p>
<p>让行动轻而易举。</p>
<p>让奖赏令人满足。</p>
<p>要破除坏习惯，就反过来：</p>
<p>让提示隐而不见。</p>
<p>让习惯毫无吸引力。</p>
<p>让行动困难无比。</p>
<p>让后果令人不满。</p>','2025-07-09 15:27:36.756','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8536cae-9433-4e2a-943c-7771db2ac4a3','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>和負能量的人相处, 只會把我們拉入消极的情緒中, 我們也像他一样恕天尤人, 放棄進步, 甚至為了私欲而惡意低毀伤害別人, 只有远离对我們產生負能量影响的人, 才有機會获得优秀的人.</p>','2025-07-10 01:25:11.626','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3b585bd-a834-4991-bd39-db4c9e566c95','ed2c1e6f-004f-4f20-ba34-cd12c05ae90b','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">活在這個分工明確的現代社會，生活中的每一項需求都與其他人環環相候。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">個體需要的東西，不會直接到作爲消費者的手中，而是從原材料的采集開始，建立了漫長的生產過程，才能作爲產品落到消費者手中。過程中是以金錢作爲信用代幣進行兌換。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">錢作爲信用代幣在這個「系統」中進行價值兌換，【金錢】在這個系統中不斷流動，以確保每個人的「付出」借有所回饋。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">作爲這個消費鏈的一份子，我們的需求確保了我們參與了這個系統。我們的需求沒法靠獨自完成，整個生產鏈上的成員都參與彼此的人生，成爲彼此的共同體，無法獨木成林。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們習慣依照不同的身份，身處不同的共同體中，舉例：【學生】的身份就會對應的把自己放在【學校】的共同體。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">然而「身份」不代表「安身」，若在這個共同體中感到不平衡</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">(offer and recive)</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">，就會覺得這個共同體沒有歸屬感</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">很多時候，在大的共同體感到挫敗，就會退縮到較小的共同體，因爲感覺比較可控</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">但其實更有成長性的做法，是將自己投身到更大的共同體，感知世界有多大，就會發現小共同體裏的困難只不過是【滄海一粟】</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">在小的【學校】的共同體，【老師】顯得權威，【學生】處於低位。但在【世界】這個更大的共同體，【老師】和【學生】都同爲對等的【人】</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">拒絕讓自己陷入小型共同體的權利鬥爭。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">對於共同體大小的認知，決定他選擇有多廣闊，小的共同體只有有限的選擇，大的共同體則有更寬廣的選擇（自由）。</span></p>','2025-07-10 16:25:02.105','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0632e4d-54b6-42f3-9a57-b8ac1aed23be','ed2c1e6f-004f-4f20-ba34-cd12c05ae90b','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>1. 你不是宇宙中心。<br>。 世界像地球仪，没有绝对中心。别总想着&ldquo;别人该为我做什么&rdquo;。</p>
<p>2. 归属感要靠自己挣。<br>。不是等人给你位置，而是主动付出（工作/交友/爱）才能找到归属。</p>
<p>3. 杯子外有大海&nbsp;&nbsp;<br>- 眼前困扰（如职场矛盾/校园霸凌）只是&ldquo;杯中风暴&rdquo; &nbsp;<br>- 跳出来看：你同时属于家庭/社会/人类等**更大共同体** &nbsp;<br>- 退学/辞职不可怕，只是离开小杯子，大海永远在 &nbsp;</p>
<p>4. 拒绝的勇气。<br>。当小共同体的规则压迫你（如老板无理/老师专制）： &nbsp;<br>- 用**社会常识**对抗**小圈子规则** &nbsp;<br>- **敢拒绝**不合理要求 &nbsp;<br>- 怕关系破裂而忍受 = 为别人活 &nbsp;</p>
<p>5. 隐形连接无处不在。<br>。 就算独居靠遗产生活： &nbsp;<br>- 买面包 = 连接农民/工人/物流 &nbsp;<br>- 没人真正孤立，你永远在人类网中 &nbsp;</p>','2025-07-11 07:09:20.18','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9df1fe15-b112-42ea-be83-e19788f7fdf3','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>让提示很容易看见</p>
<p>让习惯有吸引力</p>
<p>让行动轻而易舉</p>
<p>让奖赏令人满足。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-11 09:12:00.208','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0b782f5f-f5c2-4bd8-b7bd-e7f11faf9e4c','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>要行成新的习惯，需要重复多次执行直到习以为常。当养成了习惯常规，会协助我们减少不必要多花费的时间与能量。&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 06:29:21.115','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fd421f03-b977-4561-a887-2390f543eae8','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>远离负能量的人，因为他们不但不能协助我们，也会消耗我们的精力，让我们也不能正面的去面对问题及设想能解决的方法。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 07:25:05.547','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a815f34-14b4-48ab-894d-2e1ba3f73d0e','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>修断舍离.断掉跟负能量的人相处.舍掉心态差的人.</p>
<p>近朱者赤近墨者黑,切记.</p>
<p>不要把负能量的人接进自己的群组.</p>','2025-07-12 09:11:29.245','2025-07-13 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019','2025-07-13 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c40441ad-2217-40ee-93fe-923494781dee','164b9539-889a-473e-b52e-21d6af1752ec','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>习惯的形成以频率而非时间， 进行次数越多才会影响新习惯。让行动轻而易举。</p>','2025-07-12 23:57:41.381','2025-07-30 00:00:00.04',NULL,'f','2025-07-30 00:00:00.039','2025-07-30 00:00:00.039',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('364864de-ce8b-4db5-826d-e3557af19074','8402f9fe-50d5-4611-b1da-94a1c86da340','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>信用和信赖是有本质区别。人际关系中我们需要的是信赖别人，而不是与别人建立基于信用之间的关系，也就是交易的关系。而信用更像是一种交换关系，比如&ldquo;你对我好，我才对你好&rdquo;，带有条件性。</p>','2025-07-13 00:15:24.042','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f22c42d-836a-4b3f-ab14-5bbd34581cdf','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>如果自己在这世界上还有烦恼的话，那一定是你的思维方法错了。</p>
<p>如果自已认为这世界上不公平，那么自己一定是有思维的问题。</p>
<p>如果自己看别人不顺眼，那么自己是不是也看自己不顺眼。</p>
<p>遇到困难，烦恼要向内找原因，看看自己可以做些什么改变，不要动不动就抱怨。</p>
<p>把问题看透了，把生活的问题想明白了，生活就好过一点了。</p>','2025-07-13 03:39:32.058','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a27679c-a5d1-4a9b-a264-05129c809448','ed2c1e6f-004f-4f20-ba34-cd12c05ae90b','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>人际关系昰起点，终点是共同体感觉，把他人看成朋友，并在其中能夠感受到有自己的位置。任何人都还属于别的、地球与宇宙这个共同体。人绝不会离开共同体独自的生活。人既要拥有共同体的感觉，同时又要选择自由。</p>','2025-07-13 01:19:42.069','2025-07-13 01:19:42.069',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 01:19:42.068',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa4f6646-edfc-4e89-b9f8-4794a0b2e1e1','b9d22e27-3201-4783-b735-769f4515d31a','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>第一选择会直接影响接下来的习惯和成果！需要好好思考一下第一选择可能会带来连接效果。</p>','2025-07-13 03:21:55.281','2025-08-02 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-08-02 00:00:00.011','2025-08-02 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1e740c3f-513d-4888-91d5-27098f6ca320','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>我很惊讶我们每一天的动作都在 &ldquo;提示、渴望、行动、奖赏&rdquo; 里打转。好像是一个规律。这也有点像华与华的超级符号理念。也解释了我一周内许多微妙的动作哈哈哈</p>','2025-07-13 02:44:09.713','2025-07-13 02:44:09.713',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 02:44:09.712',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('194c3451-50c0-4997-aa40-ca85c858df80','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>习惯就是多巴胺驱动的回馈回路。极度容易养成习惯的行为如吸毒，打电动，都与较高浓度的多巴胺有关。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-19 02:06:05.282','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('00425c63-eda5-4713-9191-dcf0f48c9a86','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>远离负能量的人，也将会被对方影响下掉入消极情绪之中。</p>
<p>切记，自己也不要当个负能量的人，影响他人</p>
<p>别只讲別人负能量，也要注意自己的言行举止。</p>','2025-07-13 02:49:36.854','2025-07-13 02:50:18.133',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 02:50:18.13',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90a7fb16-978e-4606-aaa2-7ef929453def','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>行为改变的四法则，是帮助我们建立良好习惯的一套简单而有效的指南：</p>
<p>一，让提示变得显而易见；</p>
<p>二，让习惯本身充满吸引力；</p>
<p>三，让行动变得轻松容易；</p>
<p>四，让奖赏令人感到满足与愉悦。</p>','2025-07-13 03:45:18.737','2025-07-13 03:45:18.737',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 03:45:18.736',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b799983b-5338-4218-bb52-a3a16967f6f2','54e7299f-d5ba-4cae-9c61-5c295043e62e','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>只有让自己强大，把要做的事做好，好好的提升自己。</p>','2025-08-05 13:38:39.931','2025-08-05 13:38:39.931',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-05 13:38:39.93',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0b545715-df7e-4754-a0ac-bcb7493df08f','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>对人，对事要有反思的能力。保持反省的习惯，才能活得通透，而不是愚昧追求某种意义上认同。</p>','2025-07-13 03:30:00.492','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('94d846f3-808c-4317-bd7c-04eb215f1bc9','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>习惯可能不只跟单一提示联想在一起，而是与周围绕着该行为的整个情境连接。定义行为的并非环境中的物品，而是我们与物品的关系。</p>
<p>在新环境中比较容易改变习惯。尽量避免把一个习惯的情境跟另一个习惯的情境混在一起。</p>','2025-07-13 03:11:47.128','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('12b54079-97ee-4778-b641-9f150ff08fae','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>反省,反思.</p>
<p>从自己身上找答案. 先调好心态再做事.</p>
<p>Example-射箭.看自己那里做得不到位,不断调整自己.提高自己的认知和格局.</p>','2025-07-13 00:48:20.354','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd5a0b2e-eef6-4ef5-ab8e-cf7c3ad9101b','72169f92-e570-4731-95e5-cf2b0b73e17d','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>人天生都要省力和懒惰，都希望以最小努力获得最高回报，要简单轻松执行新习惯。</p>','2025-07-13 00:55:02.371','2025-07-31 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-07-31 00:00:00.015','2025-07-31 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3dcbab80-e057-4ff8-81e1-1d28cf3d5d0c','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>在坚持自己立场的同时，也要换位思考一下。在要求对方的同时，自己为对方做了些什么？</p>','2025-07-13 01:38:01.727','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('245438e5-f807-4560-9cc2-73f76f9d04b6','1ddf660c-1b7a-4e66-b893-c331c1d719f2','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>无论是奖赏或是体验，只要得到满足感，习惯</p>
<p>就可以继续走下去&middot;</p>','2025-08-06 15:16:21.683','2025-08-06 15:16:21.683',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-06 15:16:21.682',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e94f2df7-2371-4e57-8304-29b3d4852f67','70ca23ab-4214-45b5-8c26-92276d18ce91','d5449197-1ce9-41fd-a785-ae0cc31d3521','<p>生活方式的重大转变就是通过建立起横向关系，也是真正意义上的平等关系。重点是意识上的平等和坚持自己应有的主张。</p>','2025-07-17 03:56:56.726','2025-07-17 03:56:56.726',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 03:56:56.725',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4d84a72e-4ec6-4a01-bac5-790113ff5ccd','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>是的，读书后再用自己的思考去领会作者要表达的意思，才是真正的读书意义。</p>','2025-07-13 01:48:03.239','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36556aec-8870-4f82-85b5-66beaf316945','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>习惯改变取决于你身处的空间，及眼前的提示。</p>
<p>顾客购买东西，不是因为想买，而是这些产品被呈现的方式。如，商店比</p>
<p>较贵的商品都摆放在容易伸手取得的位置。</p>
<p>人类感觉能力最强的是视觉。</p>','2025-07-13 03:44:38.396','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf53cb6c-f5de-4466-bb88-83ed4fa3fd2a','75caee7a-c51a-4499-a681-a2c392529fa4','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>-所有的渴望背后都有一个需要，确认需要就有满足渴望的理由。</p>
<p>-感觉与情绪被满足是促成习惯的重要因素。</p>','2025-07-16 14:04:43.037','2025-07-28 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014','2025-07-28 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9ff43081-5afc-4700-956e-42ea1289ec3a','ac95af19-194c-452a-bbcc-0df5e30ee958','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>好环境简化好习惯发生，减少阻力养成好习惯就简单了。我把要阅读书放在书桌上，每天一定见它。一见就读！</p>','2025-07-13 01:27:24.15','2025-08-01 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-08-01 00:00:00.027','2025-08-01 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fce862de-c1cb-47e1-b6aa-1c7ec9f09977','db9a194a-3498-43f8-9bfe-e8eb879b087e','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>善用科技，让好习惯无法避免。让坏习惯很难。</p>','2025-08-05 13:47:54.913','2025-08-05 13:47:54.913',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-05 13:47:54.912',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a1e1a36-e265-451f-9649-f3de1f870f14','1ddf660c-1b7a-4e66-b893-c331c1d719f2','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>带来奖赏的行为会被重复。带来惩罚的行为会被避免！知而不行，无法见效！</p>','2025-07-16 22:49:45.832','2025-08-06 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-08-06 00:00:00.033','2025-08-06 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('068c0201-3b82-40b1-9415-f8a5713683a5','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>馬斯克是我的英雄，過去將近九年，每天看他推文，能夠了解他他對全人類的愛心。</p>
<p>可惜報帳雜誌媒體最喜歡捏造不符事實的新聞，讓大部分的人對，他基本上都有負面的觀感。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-13 04:57:47.919','2025-07-13 04:57:47.919',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 04:57:47.918',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4dcfcb1-b36c-4cef-aadd-a63c4161174b','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">负能量是会传染的。和一个总是抱怨、贬低、怨天尤人的人长期相处，你也可能被拉进同样的情绪泥沼，不自觉地失去上进心，甚至动摇自己的价值观。成长的路上，不需要所有人同行，远离持续带来负面影响的人，只有这样才有机会获得成长，成为更优秀的人。</span></p>','2025-07-13 05:01:03.005','2025-07-13 05:01:03.005',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 05:01:03.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('40771401-0f12-4fb5-9fbc-ff13ff8bd920','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>我的問題在於我的壞習慣非常的有吸引力。然後也找不到令人不滿的後果。</p>
<p>然後我也不知道怎麼樣找一個好的有心力的習慣去取代。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-13 05:28:24.995','2025-07-13 05:28:24.995',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 05:28:24.994',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a899208a-d452-4f98-80a0-06b4e4f5113d','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>如何建立好习惯?</p>
<p>提示：让提示显然而见。</p>
<p>渴望：让习惯有吸引力。</p>
<p>回应：让行动轻而易举。</p>
<p>奖赏：让奖赏令人满足。</p>
<p>反过来做，则能破除坏习惯。</p>','2025-07-13 05:55:28.459','2025-07-13 05:55:28.459',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 05:55:28.458',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ec8d57a-3817-4804-8a31-9f6172fac47a','ed2c1e6f-004f-4f20-ba34-cd12c05ae90b','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>"活在害怕关系破裂的恐惧之中，那是为他人而活的一种不自由的生活方式&rdquo;。</p>
<p>很多时候我们都是活在他人的眼光里，这篇文章让我突然觉醒，原来我们是可以选择很多的共同体去选择我们的自由。</p>','2025-07-13 06:27:01.797','2025-07-13 06:27:04.036',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 06:27:04.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f2213d36-fb4c-40f9-bee5-d133e82af2f5','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<ol>
<li>我要怎樣讓提示顯而易見？</li>
<li>我要怎樣讓習慣有吸引力？</li>
<li>我要怎樣讓行動輕而易舉？</li>
<li>我要怎樣讓獎賞令人滿足？</li>
</ol>
<p>是時候重新思考自己要養成什麼樣的習慣，跟著原子習慣的腳步，我相信我會慢慢擁有好習慣。</p>','2025-07-13 06:41:35.305','2025-07-13 06:41:35.305',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 06:41:35.304',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('feddda0f-a6ce-4ba7-8684-52a91f09a626','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>做在影响圈里.做深,做强自己.反省,自省.</p>
<p>从身己身上找问题.</p>','2025-07-13 08:54:26.924','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fe087d45-fd47-4b8a-9cd9-99ac051c819b','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 13 ：7月13 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">适用於任何领域的行为改变四法则（Page 072-075）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何建立好习惯的四个法则</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则一（提示）-让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则二（渴望）-让习惯有吸引力</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则三（回应）-让习惯轻而易举</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则四（奖赏）-让奖赏令人满足</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何破除坏习惯</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则一的反转（提示）-让提示瘾而不现</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则二的反转（渴望）-让习惯毫无吸引力</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则三的反转（回应）-浪行动困难无比</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则四的反转（奖赏）-让后果令人不满</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯就是重复次数多到足以自动化的行为</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯的终极目标，就是用最少的能量努力解决生活中的问题</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">所有习惯都能被分解为包括提示、渴望、回应、奖赏等事步骤的回馈迴路。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">行为改变四法则是一组能帮助我们建立更好习惯的简单规则：一，让提示显而易见；二，让习惯有引力；三让行动轻而易举；四，让奖赏令人满足</span></p>','2025-07-13 07:11:12.619','2025-07-13 07:11:12.619',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 07:11:12.618',NULL,NULL);
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<p>继续阅读。</p>','2025-07-13 07:05:53.116','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a75c455b-7fa7-4016-9a66-8ae1da9e4294','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>人必须有自己的立场和原則.</p>
<p>修宽松一点的立场,洒脱一点,像蔡澜😃。</p>
<p>体验生活,看人事物淡然一点,胸怀大一点.</p>
<p>能宽容别人,就有利于自己！</p>','2025-07-13 09:03:06.744','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1.⬆️理解力</p>
<p>2.⬆️茅斯顿开</p>
<p>3=⬆️思考能力</p>
<p>4.⬆️反思能力</p>','2025-07-16 23:02:34.837','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
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<p>而是，被控制或植入了一些感观错觉</p>','2025-07-19 14:27:52.62','2025-07-19 14:27:52.62',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:27:52.619',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This closely connects to unconditional trust, trusting others without doubt or conditions.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Instead of fearing betrayal, focus on doing what&rsquo;s right.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Without the courage to trust and take the first step, real relationships can&rsquo;t grow.</p>','2025-07-19 14:39:17.766','2025-07-19 14:39:17.766',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-19 14:39:17.765',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('92b589b4-de9f-454f-af9c-bb67910d08dd','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>好习惯就是要经过多次重复次数以致自动化。所有习惯被分解为：提示，渴望，回应和奖赏。</p>','2025-07-13 11:55:11.815','2025-07-13 11:55:11.815',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 11:55:11.814',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e233463d-a330-4b33-831e-e9d270bd8c62','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>习惯是无数次重复简单的动作指导自动模式化。</p>
<p>习惯的终极目标是用最少的能量完成事情、省时。</p>
<p>要完成一件事，就从培养习惯开始。</p>','2025-07-13 12:39:27.57','2025-07-13 12:39:27.57',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 12:39:27.569',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6e9a9444-4d8a-4b92-83c0-6342e9419539','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>如果依照作者建议的4步骤，很多好的习惯可以因此而建立，坏习惯因此而改变，</p>','2025-07-13 13:06:52.233','2025-07-13 13:06:52.233',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 13:06:52.232',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('10beb295-2fed-4b61-895e-6ff2298a97df','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>習慣是有生活中的種種系統形朔而成。習慣的終結目標就是用最少的能量與努力解決生活中的問題。行為改變四個法則是一組幫助我們建立更好習慣的簡單規則：一；讓提示顯而易見；二，讓習慣有吸引力；三，让行動輕而易舉；四让獎賞令人滿足。</p>','2025-07-13 13:19:31.789','2025-07-13 13:19:38.741',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 13:19:38.74',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('352fe807-4153-4928-89bb-c33b4a336a85','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>我们不可能去改变另一个人，除非对方愿意改变，除非你能说服对方。所以，遇到任何人与人之间的问题，先自己反省，哪些是自己能做的。弄清楚了，再沟通。自己的改变不一定是退让，更可能是一次的自我成长。</p>','2025-07-13 12:16:14.068','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70cc0d9d-7d7b-43fa-9bac-d59f2d488f52','ed2c1e6f-004f-4f20-ba34-cd12c05ae90b','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy acknowledges that we all belong to one another and to the universe as a whole.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>We should not confine ourselves to self-centered interests, as this often leads to fear - fear of losing relationships - and ultimately results in an unfree life lived for others.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Instead, we should cultivate social interest to help us overcome these issues.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler says we should step out of our narrow paths and seek a broader stage to pursue the life that truly suits us.</p>','2025-07-13 13:38:34.929','2025-07-13 13:38:37.523',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 13:38:37.522',NULL,NULL);
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<p>（二）将&ldquo;坏的行为&rdquo;说出来。通过&ldquo;指差确认程序&ldquo;，让自己说出自己即将做的行为和后果，这样自己就能对自己的行为保持觉察。那么那个行为就从无意识变成被自己意识到了。</p>
<p>任何的习惯的发生都有它存在的意义。所以，通过（一），把它找出来。通过（二）让自己不断地看见它是如何发生。</p>
<p>有了觉察，才能有改变。</p>','2025-07-13 13:01:49.077','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
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<p>习惯堆叠是先找出自己目前的习惯，让习惯成了新习惯的提示，让新习惯堆叠上去。</p>
<p>例如：当我等待大门缓缓关上的时间，我会点开今天开车想听的一本书。吃完早餐，就开始看一小段书，写笔记。</p>','2025-07-13 13:53:23.965','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
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<p>再想不通的时刻，找个对的人交流，或许更快让自己茅塞顿开。读书会也是不错的方法让自己更好的理解书中的内容。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-13 12:35:51.969','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d6a5c8df-ac8d-4de2-95cd-940ac85c251e','5d555992-e8bd-47b0-8ce1-1b0476a40cfa','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>努力才是我们的天赋</p>','2025-08-05 14:00:32.117','2025-08-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,'f','2025-08-07 00:00:00.032','2025-08-07 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5970729-3a99-4865-8466-77037b038e11','3d0e6804-c5d6-4d95-b488-711ba2b2a16f','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>后果越直接、越具体、越立即，越能影响我们的行为.</p>','2025-08-11 13:21:09.198','2025-08-11 13:21:09.198',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-11 13:21:09.197',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27161893-2552-4648-9f52-553bc4058bca','657e1e1e-d87e-4f64-92d7-36986a719973','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>让&ldquo;做不到&rdquo;成为一件有代价的事&hellip;&hellip;</p>','2025-08-12 11:14:25.573','2025-08-12 11:14:25.573',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-12 11:14:25.572',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7788d75-a5a9-4630-9b79-676a7447cee5','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>不需要每个习惯都养成，<br><br>选择适合自己的就好</p>','2025-08-13 13:29:13.546','2025-08-13 13:29:13.546',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 13:29:13.545',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('764e6f86-8d19-4b3c-b80d-e891fa6baeb7','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>先了解自己，选对环境，可以让方向和努力更清晰。</p>','2025-08-14 10:04:02.36','2025-08-14 10:04:02.36',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 10:04:02.359',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b192ac6-623d-4871-adc9-a7af6a046004','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>改变四法则</p>
<p>&gt; 让提示显而易见</p>
<p>&gt; 让习惯有吸引力</p>
<p>&gt; 让行动轻而易举</p>
<p>&gt; 让奖赏令人满足</p>','2025-07-13 13:46:35.264','2025-07-13 13:46:35.264',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 13:46:35.263',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('981e5e51-8886-47d6-abd7-cbfbe7c0f3ec','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 29 7月13 日 &nbsp;《人生的底气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">负能量者不可结交</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">孔子叹息着说 : 人们相信的是自己的眼睛，而眼睛看到的并不可信，我所依靠的是心，但心也不完全可靠，你们记住, 要了解一个人不容易.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们要远离那些对你产生负面影响的人，只有这样才有机会获得成长，成为更优秀的人. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有一些人自己没有高尚的品行，更过分的是还摆弄情操, 你说是好人，他偏不相信，反而一定要对这个人加以诋毁或许是自己内心修炼不够或者占得太多外界的习气，心态非常怪异，身上满满的负能量，内心完全是阴暗面，这类人伪装戴着面具, 却暗地与人处处为难，设置障碍，心生妒忌，不能见得人家好，他们从不反思原因和排查问题. 负能量者不可结交.</span></p>','2025-07-13 13:51:53.548','2025-07-13 13:51:55.438',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 13:51:55.436',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('473d8fce-8486-479e-8d35-8113ecdc84d2','ed2c1e6f-004f-4f20-ba34-cd12c05ae90b','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>无论是你还是我，我们都不是世界的中心，必须用自己的脚主动迈出一步去面对人际关系课题；而不是考虑&ldquo;这个人会给我什么&rdquo;，而是要必须思考一下&ldquo;我能给这个人什么&rdquo;。这就是对共同体的参与和融入。<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>归属感不是生来就有的东西，要靠自己的手去获得。</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>人际关系的起点是&ldquo;课题分离&rdquo;，终点是&ldquo;共同体感觉&rdquo;。</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>人表扬他人的目的就在于&ldquo;操纵比自己能力低的对方&rdquo;，其中既没有感谢也没有尊敬。</p>
<p>希望被别人表扬或者反过来想要去表扬别人，这是一种把一切人际关系都理解为&ldquo;纵向关系&rdquo;的证明。</p>','2025-07-13 13:57:34.913','2025-07-13 13:57:34.913',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 13:57:34.912',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('222ee14a-7914-4742-a7cc-6c860ced4af0','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 13 ：7月13 日&nbsp; 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">适用於任何领域的行为改变四法则</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯就是重复次数多到足以自动化的行为.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯的最终目标，就是用最少的能量与努力解决生活中的问题.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">【行为改变四法则】 : </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则1 : 提示 - 让提示显而易见.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则 2 : 渴望 - 让习惯有吸引力. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则3 : 回应 - 让心动轻而易举.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则4 : 奖赏 - 让奖赏令人满足.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每当你想要改变一个行为，只要自问 : </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.) 我要怎样让提示显而易见?</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2.)我要怎样让习惯有吸引力?</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">3.)我要怎样让行动轻而欲举？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">4.) 我要怎样让欣赏令人满足？</span></p>','2025-07-13 14:11:18.7','2025-07-13 14:11:26.369',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 14:11:26.368',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d6ace70-4e8d-415e-9115-22cbd968ff7c','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>远离那些对自己产生负面影响的人</p>
<p>只有这样才能获得成长</p>
<p>成为更优秀的人</p>','2025-07-13 14:11:56.983','2025-07-13 14:12:08.392',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 14:12:08.391',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd682462-034f-48ab-bae1-72b58a9a3f81','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 29 ：7月13 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">负能量者不可结交（Page 127-129）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">见到负能量的人,离开就对。每个人有自己的功课要做，负能量的人有自己完成他须要做的功课。自己为自己的人生负责任。</span></p>','2025-07-13 14:14:46.28','2025-07-13 14:14:46.28',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 14:14:46.279',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36c855ac-2c9f-4376-8a0c-92742a239a5a','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>近朱者赤，近墨者黑。因此交友，与人往来，少接触消极与沒道德底线者为妙。反之，则有利于个人成长。</p>','2025-07-13 14:22:53.951','2025-07-13 14:24:22.313',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 14:24:22.312',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c898a7ac-3715-4469-9a3f-2ed2ba3de6b5','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<ol>
<li>做人做事都应该把握好一个度，不钻牛角尖，找到相应的平衡。</li>
<li>在判断一些人的时候，除了从一个人的事业或成就去判断，还要从他的人品、胸怀、气度去判断。</li>
</ol>','2025-07-14 03:56:35.779','2025-07-14 03:56:35.779',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 03:56:35.778',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77d26442-5719-4a8d-bf58-dcd368c0f93b','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>多巴胺的高峰期在渴望的过程中比获得的时刻显得更高，这是因为人对于事物有所期待。</p>','2025-07-13 13:49:30.958','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e77fbf56-e214-4f80-a270-4589e35bcd0e','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>负能量者不可结交 一个人与负能量的人相处 只会将你拉入消极的情绪中 让你也同他一样怨天尤人、放弃进步、甚至为了自己的私欲恶意诋毁伤害别人。孔子是因为清闲云小的人，正因为如此，他才能维护心中的道义这其实也是警示大家远离那些对你产生负面影响的人，只有这样才有机会获得成长，成为更优秀的人。</p>','2025-07-13 14:48:30.526','2025-07-13 14:48:30.526',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 14:48:30.525',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b7c656e-284e-459b-8fa3-c8a1d3cddf70','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>真的需要远离负能量的人，因为常听到的会是负面的想法，久而久之自己也可能陷入负面的状态。远离这些常在人后道人长短、说人是非的人，常与正能量的人学习，学习成长然后自己也能正面地音响他人。</p>','2025-07-13 14:51:33.213','2025-07-13 14:51:33.213',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 14:51:33.212',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('001d8545-e966-45d7-b4b8-b02ec23a1ee7','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">负能量者不可结交（</span>Page 127-129<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>书中引用孔子的话说：认识一个人不容易，眼睛看到的未必是真实的，内心判断也会有偏差。很多时候，我们以为的&ldquo;好人&rdquo;，其实可能只是戴着面具在伪装。</p>
<p>作者特别提到一种人&mdash;&mdash;负能量者：<br>他们自己没有好品格，却爱批评别人；<br>见不得别人好，心生嫉妒，甚至为了私欲去悪意诋毁, 伤害他人；不反思、不成长，只会抱怨、拉人下水。</p>
<p>这样的朋友，不仅拖累我们的情绪，也阻碍我们的成长。</p>
<p>因此，我的反思是：<br>✅ 交朋友要慎重，不看表象。<br>✅ 宁可独处，也不要被负能量影响自己的人生节奏。<br>✅ 要主动亲近那些心态正向、有德有品的人。</p>
<p>愿我们都能在生活中交对朋友，走对方向。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-13 14:52:15.743','2025-07-13 14:52:15.743',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 14:52:15.742',NULL,NULL);
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<li>提示 ：显而易见</li>
<li>渴望：习惯有吸引力</li>
<li>回应：行动轻而易举</li>
<li>奖赏：令人满足</li>
</ol>','2025-07-13 15:02:30.244','2025-07-13 15:02:30.244',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 15:02:30.243',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9b7a378b-1805-4a5e-b912-19f3cc78a315','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 13 ：7月13 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">适用於任何领域的行为改变四法则（Page 072-075）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想养成好习惯，就让它变得「显眼、有趣、容易、满足」</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想戒掉坏习惯，就让它变得「隐藏、无趣、困难、无感」</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这就是 行为改变的四法则（The 4 Laws of Behavior Change）。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">《原子习惯》习惯回路总结：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 1. 习惯是重复多次后自动化的行为。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 2. 目的是：用最少能量，解决日常问题。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 3. 习惯的运作包含四个步骤：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">　👉 提示 &rarr; 渴望 &rarr; 回应 &rarr; 奖赏</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 4. 行为改变四法则（建立好习惯的关键）：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">　✅ 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">　✅ 让习惯有吸引力</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">　✅ 让行动轻而易举</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">　✅ 让奖赏令人满足</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">习惯= 自动化的解决方案，透过明确提示与简化流程，让行为自然发生。</span></p>','2025-07-13 15:04:26.66','2025-07-13 15:04:26.66',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 15:04:26.659',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f14046f4-521e-4aee-883b-1ec260d4f499','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>四法则（好的习惯）：</p>
<p>提示：显而易见</p>
<p>渴望：有吸引力</p>
<p>回应：简单容易</p>
<p>奖赏：令人满足</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>坏习惯却是反面！</p>','2025-07-13 15:10:47.038','2025-07-13 15:10:47.038',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 15:10:47.037',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('41355bfe-3b98-4ab4-a36b-392c39647c8e','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 29&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>13&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">负能量者不可结交（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 127-129<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">孔子的进退都依照规范和义礼，认为能否得到都是上天的安排。亲贤远小才能维护心中的道义。远离负面影响的人，才有机会获得成长，成为更优秀的人。</span></p>','2025-07-13 15:27:03.485','2025-07-13 15:27:03.485',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 15:27:03.484',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5a3bd4b-a1e8-40e4-a638-a957efb18536','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>君子的存心，应该是于仁于礼 作为主题。</p>','2025-07-17 15:48:35.191','2025-07-17 15:48:35.191',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:48:35.19',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c9048fb-7c89-443c-a482-870321299bf3','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>读书的目的是提高自身的理解能力，提高对事物的理解能力。我们生存的目的就是更好的去理解世界。在阅读的时候，思考时间应该远大于阅读时间。</p>','2025-07-17 06:37:05.243','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5b95040-c9fd-4ec3-9d36-0d47b3266771','8fcdd6ab-8e39-4357-bd50-891a5397abcc','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>如果我们天天全心全意去做每件事，认认真真去体验所带来的感受，那么我们容易获得发自内心的快乐与满足。<br>所以做事不在于好坏，是在于境界。</p>','2025-07-20 02:43:05.075','2025-07-27 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027','2025-07-27 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c66f94ac-d221-4429-88b8-adac7c39e5c1','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>远离那些对你产生负面影响的人，只有这样才有机会获得成长，成为更优秀的人</p>','2025-07-13 15:30:49.067','2025-07-13 15:30:49.067',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 15:30:49.066',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea01467e-2123-44e2-9d57-e4130b133bc7','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 13&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>13&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》基本原理 &ndash; 为何细微改变会带来巨大差异？</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">适用於任何领域的行为改变四法则（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 072-075<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1" style="margin: 0cm; background: white;"><span class="s1"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 11.0pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">行为改变四法则&mdash;&mdash;创造好习惯、破除坏习惯：</span></span></p>
<p class="p1" style="margin: 0cm; background: white; --tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span class="s1"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 11.0pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">法则一、让提示显而易见</span></span></span></p>
<p class="p1" style="margin: 0cm; background: white; --tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span class="s1"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 11.0pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">法则二、让习惯有吸引力</span></span></span></p>
<p class="p1" style="margin: 0cm; background: white; --tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.88); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="--tw-border-spacing-x: 0; --tw-border-spacing-y: 0; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgba(59,130,246,.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; box-sizing: border-box; -webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased;"><span class="s1"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 11.0pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">法则三、让行动轻而易举</span></span></span></p>
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<p>负能量者不可结交（Page 127-129）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>除了远离负能量的人，也有注意自己的负能量的滋生。</p>','2025-07-13 15:48:33.699','2025-07-13 15:48:33.699',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 15:48:33.698',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34b82c94-cdc6-47d6-a2cf-609d6d0460e2','eccba027-33e3-4c52-a028-bc991b14a1d9','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>行为改变四法则：</p>
<ol>
<li>让提示显而易见</li>
<li>让习惯有吸引力</li>
<li>让行动轻而易举</li>
<li>让奖赏令人满足。</li>
</ol>
<p>学会依照自己的需求而修改。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-13 15:56:41.057','2025-07-13 15:56:41.057',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 15:56:41.056',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('067c1b77-508e-4f2d-818d-730af0390376','7d53967a-8a3f-4652-a5a6-d0eaf36afe9d','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>▪️远离负能量的人，是一种人生清理负能量强的人：<br>▫️ 常抱怨、消极看待一切<br>▫️ 爱比较、喜欢贬低别人<br>▫️ 习惯把情绪丢给别人，让人身心俱疲</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-13 15:59:50.543','2025-07-13 15:59:50.543',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 15:59:50.542',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a14b84f-d107-43de-b5f3-82551bba97f2','ed2c1e6f-004f-4f20-ba34-cd12c05ae90b','d4cf19fb-4056-4949-8ccd-8e06049df029','<p>人际关系的起点是&ldquo;课题分离&rdquo;,终点是&ldquo;共同体感觉&rdquo;</p>
<p>共同体感觉 是指 把他人看成朋友，并在其中能感受到有自己的位置</p>
<p>范围无限大</p>','2025-07-13 15:59:52.472','2025-07-13 16:00:39.98',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 16:00:39.979',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9e84db97-646e-483a-aacb-16f269ca67d7','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>我们低估了大脑和身体可以在不思考的状况下做了多少事。</p>
<p>习惯养成就会在特定模式(无意识，自动化)里，无论好坏。倘若无法意识到无意识，它就会指挥你的生活，然后称之为命运。</p>','2025-07-13 23:23:50.808','2025-07-13 23:23:50.808',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-13 23:23:50.807',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa17e6bc-0c5d-456a-9986-ccd76c287596','db9a194a-3498-43f8-9bfe-e8eb879b087e','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>高科技化的时代方便快捷、自动化让好习惯容易形成，想法也能坏习惯容易养成。需要小心谨慎选用科技产品&hellip;</p>','2025-07-13 23:54:27.506','2025-08-05 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-08-05 00:00:00.01','2025-08-05 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34a985e4-cfe5-4566-9e1d-8258bea6cdee','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>为自己的行为保持意识，保持觉察，是改变习惯最大的挑战之一。</p>
<p>可以通过 指差确认 系统为清单记分卡。</p>
<p>记录并标上好/坏习惯，为习惯归类需参考 长远的益处。&nbsp;</p>
<p>觉察就是改变的开始，制作记分卡时不带批判或评价</p>','2025-07-13 23:33:11.656','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70c1fe8e-8aa4-475d-ae79-cb1dd7f53d98','9753d79a-83e1-458e-91f4-0fcdccd296a5','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">對一個人的「存在」表示感謝，而不是以一個人的「行爲」來衡量一個人的價值。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">單從「行爲」層面來衡量，就會陷入不平衡的狀態，因爲技術不嫺熟，或沒有能力的人，帶來的「麻煩」或許會多過「價值」，就沒法發自内心的「感恩」一個人。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">（我很難理解「你依然還在」的好，因爲很多時候，我剛希望一個人「不在」，可能跟我習慣回避人際關係有關吧）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">減法評價</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> vs </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">加法評價</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">減法評價：一開始就對一個人有著期待（想象出來的理想摸樣），對方未達到期待就會感到【失望】，給與負評。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">加法評價；從零出發認識一個人，并在過程中看見對方原有的樣貌，并未這樣的發現感到喜悅和感謝。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">從自己開始，用加法看人</span></p>','2025-07-13 15:57:48.665','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ef24bae-d5d4-43ae-8908-f3268cfbd369','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>用堆叠的方式来成就新的习惯，让新的习惯变得自然。</p>','2025-07-17 15:54:46.889','2025-07-17 15:54:46.889',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:54:46.888',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa5109b6-aa42-4219-9d5f-9c381d2c98a2','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 33&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>17&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日&nbsp;</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">时刻审视自己的&ldquo;立场&ldquo;（</span>Page 147-150<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">审视回顾自己的立场，从一而终，以&ldquo;礼&rdquo;为基础。</span></p>','2025-07-17 15:59:37.336','2025-07-17 15:59:37.336',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:59:37.335',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ecca24d-bf9e-4e0a-afc0-f0156b7d4587','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','49b59e51-9917-4586-b095-d9e1a4d44452','<p>&ldquo;廉洁、清高等固然是优秀的品质，但同样不宜过于执着。这就像我们常说的那句话&ldquo;水至清则无鱼&rdquo;一样，做人做事都应该把握好一个度，不钻牛角尖，懂得找到相应的平衡，这样待人处事才能免除一些不必要的烦恼，成为真正的圣贤之人。&rdquo;<br><br></p>
<p>本篇针对交友做更深入的探讨： 前一篇提出不交负能量的人。这篇提出不交&ldquo;自作高清&rdquo;的人，还有如何判断这个人是非值得交。&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;从人品、胸怀方面判断一个人往往比事业、名声等更靠谱。一个人可能一辈子没做成什么大事，但他人品好，心胸宽广，对人对事有独立的看法和思考，这样的人更值得结交。&rdquo;</p>','2025-06-15 08:51:18.557','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('988fe4af-4bc2-40da-9d06-9f9b91cc7cb5','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>遠離那些沽名釣譽的人</p>
<p><br>廉潔，清高等固然是優秀的品質，但也不能夠執著， 違反了社會基本的發展規律，不願意與整個社會配合這就是沽名釣譽。<br>水至清則無魚 ，一樣 ，做人做事都應該要把握好一個度，不钻牛角尖，懂得找到相應的平衡，這樣待人處事才免除一些不必要的煩惱，成為真正的聖賢 之人。<br>人活在世上應該用開放的心態看待世界，即使真的想追求 廉潔，高尚的操守和品行，也不應該追求與眾不同，要知道过犹不及的道理，要經常反思自己，弄清楚才算是個真有操守，有品行的人。</p>','2025-06-29 03:40:37.102','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('83df82d5-c06a-414c-8849-41e0991eb264','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>人类大脑是一部超级预测器。大脑会通过过去的经验进行分析、标记。某一些讯号会成为重要的提示，身体会通过这些提示开始行动。那些习惯就形成自动化行动，一种无意思下的行动。</p>
<p>改变习惯的第一步是先认识自己，找出那些自动化行为的提示。那些提示已经是隐藏在生活里的一部分，保持高度的自我觉察才能意识到那些可能的提示。</p>
<p>例如：早上自然醒来了，听到外面下雨声，起床运动的念头会被打消，倒头再睡一会。雨声，就是我赖床的提示。</p>
<p>例如：下班回家，给孩子做好饭想去散步。看见沙发，突然觉得累了，告诉自己：休息吧！沙发，就是我放弃去散步的提示。自己再一次变成沙发马铃薯。</p>','2025-07-09 21:21:32.445','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30e46c77-21a4-4452-9863-d5b31fd51753','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>在判断一个人时，不能只看外表，更不能去追寻那些虚无缥缈的名声，而应该从他的事业，他的工作的事迹或成就判断。除此以外，还要从他的人品，胸怀，气度去判断更靠谱。</p>','2025-07-10 01:44:43.402','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('496916d3-fbf4-4231-86c2-69b5d2db2655','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>课题分离如何带来良好关系？ 横向关系<br><br>批评和表扬的教育法<br><br>做错惩罚，作对称赞<br><br>因为被批评而做和因为想被表扬而做<br><br>阿德勒心理学采取 &ldquo;不可以表扬&rdquo;的立场<br><br>同时反对体罚，不认可批评<br><br>不可以批评也不可以表扬 - 阿德勒心理学的立场。<br><br>表扬这种行为含有 &ldquo;有能力者对没能力者所做的评价&rdquo;<br>这方面的特点。<br><br>做得很好 - 表扬孩子的母亲营造出了一种上下级关系 - 把孩子看得比自己低。<br><br>表扬背后带有一种上下级关系和纵向关系。<br>人表扬他的目的就在于 "操纵把自己能力低的对方"，其中既没有感谢也没有尊敬。<br><br>为了操纵而表扬 - 背后目的都是操纵。<br>阿德勒心理学强烈否定赏罚教育因为背后就是为了操纵孩子。<br><br>想表扬或得到表扬是因为生活在纵向关系里。阿德勒心理学反对一切 纵向关系，提倡把所有人际关系看成 横向关系。<br>某种意义上就是阿德勒心理学的基本原理。<br><br>平等即横向的关系。<br><br>自卑感原本就是从纵向关系中产生的一种意识。<br><br>只要所有人能建立起 虽不同但平等 的横向关系，那根本就不会产生自卑情结。<br>表扬人是因为要操纵， 被表扬的同时也被操纵。<br>如果无法摆脱纵向关系上这个意义就是这样。<br><br><br></p>','2025-07-10 04:25:44.724','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e836c06d-7f45-4227-87f2-c649fb104d5b','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>核心要点。</p>
<p>別用「表扬」和「批评」</p>
<p>**为什么？**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&rarr; 两者都是 **「操控人的工具」**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>-&nbsp; 表扬 = 发糖：「乖，听我的话就奖励你」&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>-&nbsp; 批评 = 挥鞭子：「不听话就惩罚你」&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>**本质问题：**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>你在用 「上下级关系」 对待对方&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>（像老板对员工、训兽师对动物）</p>
<p>健康关系只有一种：平等关系。</p>
<p>**怎么做？**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>1️⃣ **把所有人都当「平级伙伴」**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp; 。不对孩子说「你真棒！」（像上级夸下级）&nbsp; &nbsp;</p>
<p>。不对伴侣说「钱都是我赚的！」（像施舍者）&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>2️⃣ **用「感谢」代替表扬**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;操控式语言：&ldquo;考100分好聪明！&rdquo; x</p>
<p>&nbsp;平等式语言 ：&ldquo;谢谢你努力,妈妈很开心&rdquo; v</p>
<p>&nbsp; 操控式语言：&ldquo;这报告写得好！&rdquo; x</p>
<p>&nbsp;平等式语言 ： &ldquo;你的分析帮了大忙&rdquo; v</p>
<p>**关键区别：**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>表扬/批评 = **评价对方这个人**（制造高低）</li>
<li>- 感谢 = **肯定对方的行为价值**（平等尊重）.</li>
</ul>
<p>为什么这很重要！</p>
<p>-当你说「你真棒」时 &rarr; 对方会变成 **「求表扬的人」**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>- 当你说「谢谢你」时 &rarr; 对方学会 **「自我认可」**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>（不用看你脸色活）&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>**一句话记住：**&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p>🔥 **不夸不骂，只说人话；平等尊重，关系开花** 🔥</p>','2025-07-11 09:22:42.971','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('00e4a8d5-af4e-4df4-a394-42e9fd235c16','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">稱贊和責駡，都是上對下的權威關係，是「有能力者」對「無能力者」的評價，是一種「操縱能力比自己差的對象」的意圖。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">不提倡稱贊和責駡，是爲了解除上下縱向關係。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「橫向關係」</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">- </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">介於彼此皆爲人類，介於更大的共同體，雖然不同，卻是平等。在成長上只有先後之分，無上下之優略。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">在性別關係裏，常會看見男性對女性進行貶低（現在是反過來），原因是因爲害怕自己表現得比對方更好，這是一種自卑行爲。（反觀現在的田園女權</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">(</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">包括</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> DEI)</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">，對男性的各種無理貶低和打壓，甚至到了人格上的詆毀，本質上源自於這種自卑感。他們害怕再次回到他們想象中的男尊女卑，因此極力打壓男性。關係應該是相互平等，彼此尊重，彼此承認對彼此的重要性，而不是壓來壓去，以前你壓我，現在我要反壓回你）</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「鼓勵」和「稱贊」的差別在於，「稱贊」是給予獎勵以便讓對方照著自己的期待行動，而「鼓勵」是在對方做出自己選擇後，提供【肯定】進行【賦能】，讓對方更相信自己有能力繼續去爲自己的選擇負責。</span></p>','2025-07-12 16:56:04.35','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p>看一个人,用时间.在时间里从人品,胸怀,气度,事业,工作上从中了解</p>','2025-07-13 00:38:51.404','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('efc3c660-1184-4fa0-bbe9-a111e02a8c45','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>做人做事把握好度，不钻牛角尖，找到平衡点，处人待事才能免除不必要的麻烦。</p>
<p>人活于世上，以开放的心态看待世界，经常反思自己，要如何应对才能做个有品行的人。</p>','2025-07-13 02:56:59.004','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de049a05-f829-445f-97f3-662e467c7d50','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>别跟那些只会沽名钓誉的人混在一起。他们看重名声胜过真实，把关系当作利用，把舞台当作炫耀。久了，你也会被拉进这场虚假的游戏里。</p>','2025-07-13 07:03:47.275','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b3e567d-96d1-4551-be4f-cf2c7b0f1c74','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>看一个人的成就并不是看他外表多光鲜亮丽，这无法了解他的成就是如何，我们应该明白一个人能给予我们的价值，及值得我们学习的内在是什么。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-13 10:25:50.203','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45a56379-8c62-4dd8-b299-7dda704191dd','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>只要有足够的练习，你就能不知觉的挑出预示某些结果的提示。</p>
<p>倘若无法意识到无意识，它就会指挥你的生活，然后你会称之为命运。</p>','2025-07-13 13:29:24.736','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('458a7cb6-9547-4bcf-99b1-13a7f38eb7e2','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>在有效建立新习惯之前，我们必须先学会看见并理解自己已有的习惯。听起来简单，做起来却不容易。因为习惯一旦在生活中扎了根，往往会转为自动化、不假思索地运作。正因如此，它们容易被忽略，难以改变。</p>
<p>如果一个习惯从来不需要你动脑筋，你就很难对它产生掌控力，更别说改善它了。正如心理学家荣格所说：「若无法意识到无意识，它就会指挥你的生活，而你会称之为命运。」唯有把无意识拉进意识，我们才有机会真正改变命运的轨迹。</p>','2025-07-13 14:26:12.483','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 30 ：7月14 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">远离那些沽名钓誉的人（Page 130-133）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每个人有自己本分做，做好自己应该做的事，像稻盛和夫常强调&rdquo;做为人，何为正确。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不断反省，修自己的品行，提升自己的格局才是要专注的。</span></p>','2025-07-13 14:26:39.587','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d3c0f408-5b14-4484-a8f3-ae9c35fa55d3','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 14 ：7月14 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 行为改变的过程始终觉察（Page 078-081）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何设计提示（Cue），以创造新习惯的开始。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变行为，从改变提示开始。让想做的事，自然发生在对的时间与对的地方。</span></p>','2025-07-13 15:29:22.956','2025-07-14 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006','2025-07-14 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p>自卑感原本就是从纵向关系中产生的一种意识。</p>','2025-07-14 02:05:41.888','2025-07-14 02:05:41.888',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 02:05:41.887',NULL,NULL);
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<p>做任何事，或与人相处，要做到这两点，才能把事情做好，做成功。</p>','2025-07-14 00:26:52.334','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15d1dd21-d7b1-4472-a2fe-76ac8f00c11a','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>倘若无法意识到无意识，就像你选择了不选择的意识。</p>
<p>原来习惯自动化确实很那一时改过来，确实需要帮人指点才会发现。</p>','2025-07-14 05:50:26.133','2025-07-14 05:50:26.133',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 05:50:26.132',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoListParagraph">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <span lang="ZH-CN">行为改变的过程始终觉察（</span>Page 078-081<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 14 ：7月14 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 行为改变的过程始终觉察（Page 078-081）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">足够的练习都好，你就能不假思索地挑出预示某些结果的提示。不是每次都能解析自己学到什么，但学习持续进行，而你在特定状况下注意到相关提示的能力，就是你每个习惯的基础。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-14 09:36:44.228','2025-07-14 09:36:56.386',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 09:36:56.385',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 22 7月14日 (星期一)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第四夜 要有被讨厌的勇气</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">批评不好&hellip;表扬也不行？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">从&ldquo;课题分离&rdquo;到&ldquo;共同体感觉&rdquo;发展的路线首先是分离课题，我们的课题从这里开始属于他们的课题，请我不去干扰别人的课题，也不让别人干扰我的课题，那么如何从课题分离中建立人际关系，最终形成可以在这里被共同体感觉如何才能形成互相协调与合作的关系，在这里就需要提到&ldquo;横向关系&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;衡向关系&rdquo;一般认为两种方法，&ldquo;批评教育法&rdquo;和&ldquo;表扬教育法法&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;批评教育法&rdquo;就像训练动物，要记忆的时候可以挥舞着鞭子让其顺从.另一方面也可以拿一个手找食物，并通过语言的赞美，让其记住所教技术，这就是&ldquo;表扬教育法&rdquo;.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学反对体罚，不认可批评，不可以批评也不可以表扬.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自卑感原本就是从横向关系中产生的一种意思. 只要能够对所有人都建立起&ldquo;虽不同但平等&rdquo;，那就根本不会产生自卑情节.</span></p>','2025-07-14 09:45:50.247','2025-07-14 09:47:28.331',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 09:47:28.33',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1a9e2d52-0590-422e-afe1-7c5a252f1746','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>你怎麼知道那兩個跑去山上餓死自己？搞不好他們兩個在身上自得其樂，自給自足，活得像成仙一樣。</p>
<p>如果他們知道這個宇宙多麼的浩大，生命多麼的渺小，就不會去評論別人想要怎麼活。也不會去說人家是沽名釣譽。</p>
<p>這整篇就是在胡扯人類歷史幾百年來其中的一點點小故事。</p>','2025-07-14 14:47:52.078','2025-07-14 14:48:03.308',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:48:03.307',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('33f9b547-4069-454c-af1a-9df945d802bf','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>当你反复经历一件事， 大脑就会开始留意重点，梳理细节，标记相关提示，把那部分资讯记录起来，以供未来使用。</p>
<p>只要有足够的练习，你就能不加思索的跳出预示某些结果的提示，你的大脑会自动将透过经历习得的知识编码。 我们不是每次都能解释自己学到什么，但学习持续进行，而你在特定状况下注意到相关提示的能力，就是你每次习惯的基础。</p>','2025-07-14 14:49:26.16','2025-07-14 14:49:26.16',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:49:26.159',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('26d9ed08-c9c7-445e-a21e-24cea9a3388a','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>个人觉得尽信书不如无书。但前提是必须思考过，然后去验证看是否有任何出入才下定论说到底书中内容的可行性。而且自己不受用并不代表说所有人都会有一样的结果。</p>','2025-07-14 07:09:17.036','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('663acb41-c86e-456a-8bdd-84fc06265170','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>人容易被眼前的功利心蒙蔽了更加重要做为人的品质。推己及人、将心比心就是其中一些。</p>','2025-07-14 07:24:50.698','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16f506d7-4761-474f-a8c6-0eaaf888555b','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>惭愧心就是知耻心。一个人知道廉耻让它成为自己的品格之一就可以避免恶性循环提升自己。</p>','2025-07-14 07:57:56.326','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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<p>那些&ldquo;工作狂&rdquo;的人，也是缺乏人生和谐 也辩解说过：因为工作忙，所以无暇顾及家庭。但是，这其实是人生的谎言。只不过是以工作为借口来逃避其他责任。认为自己工作了这些时间、挣了足以养活家人的钱、也得到了社会的认可，所以自己就是家里最有价值的人。</p>
<p>所以要获得人生幸福感，不仅努力工作，更应参与家庭中的事务，培养自己的兴趣爱好等，让生活变的丰富多彩起来， 才有意义。</p>','2025-07-14 06:21:36.294','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eba559cf-b4a8-4b08-a289-352a8ca3e317','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 14 ：7月14 日 《原子习惯》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.&nbsp;行为改变的过程始终觉察</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人类的大脑是一部预测机器. 不断侦察问题周围环境，分析遇上的资讯. 当你反复经历一件事. 例如急救就医人员，看见心脏病患者的脸， 或是军事分析师在雷达上看到飞弹 - 大脑就会开始留意重点梳理细节，标记相关提示，把那部分资讯记录起来，以供未来使用.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只要有足够的练习，你就能不加思索的跳出预示某些结果的提示，你的大脑会自动将透过经历习得的知识编码. 我们不是每次都能解释自己学到什么，但学习持续进行，而你在特定状况下注意到相关提示的能力，就是你每次习惯的基础.</span></p>','2025-07-14 10:00:46.25','2025-07-14 10:00:47.533',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 10:00:47.531',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第四章 : 交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">远离那些沽名钓誉的人</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">廉洁、清高等固然是优秀的品质，但同样不宜执着，做人做事都应该把握一个度，不钻牛角尖，懂得找到相应的平衡，这样处事才能免除一些不必要的烦恼，成为真正的圣贤之人. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人活在世上还是应该用开放的心态看待世界，即使是真的想要追求廉洁、高尚的操守和品行. 也不宜刻意追求与众不同，要知道过犹不及的道理.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要经常性的反思自己，弄清怎样才算是一个真正的操守、有品行的人. 虽然孔子说使用饿死自己的方式去求仁. 这在任何时候都不值得提倡的.</span></p>','2025-07-14 10:11:14.644','2025-07-14 10:11:16.433',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 10:11:16.432',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90df7ae9-767d-4fbe-a260-8c9b325c8742','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>心里清净，外在自然廉洁。</p>
<p>廉洁与洁癖一线之差，</p>
<p>但洁癖的结果却是万丈深渊</p>','2025-07-14 12:29:57.458','2025-07-14 12:29:57.458',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 12:29:57.457',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6dd66d8c-5c6b-45f8-9bc9-2b697f02cfef','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>习惯的用处 ： 留意到机会，并且采取行动。</p>','2025-07-14 12:34:45.564','2025-07-14 12:34:45.564',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 12:34:45.563',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c87cfc9f-655f-4af3-a434-3e7ee75f84d8','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>结交朋友除了从工作和事业去判断，更应该以他的人品，胸怀和气度去判断。人活在世上，应该用开放的心态看待世界。</p>','2025-07-14 12:38:24.741','2025-07-14 12:38:24.741',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 12:38:24.74',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ddb22fd3-0816-45b1-9696-bc5fb338bd49','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>逃避无法解决问题反而让问题更加严重，要勇者不惧的面对问题才能解决掉负面影响。</p>','2025-07-14 12:29:21.154','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1084258a-dfaa-4f5f-bd6b-e9da136071b1','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','d1fd6762-d6b7-4c74-9b5d-69c53050f98d','<p>作者这个观点挺有意思的，有别于社会上常见的也比较认可的表扬式教育方式，认为表扬更利于健康快乐的成长。作者的观点我觉得太理想化了吧，人和人之间的认知水平是有差异的，特别是父母和子女由于年龄和经验差异，父母会想要通过表扬或者批评的方式，让好确保孩子走在正确的道路上，追求平等尊重的横向关系可能往往花费更多的时间精力，也并没有在孩子尚未形成完善的价值体系时，给予到更多的帮助。表扬和批评是一种控制也好，说不定双方都在这个过程中得到想要的结果。表扬时收获了开心和认可，父母也很欣慰孩子在健康快乐成长，家庭带来快乐和幸福的地方，同时也是一种羁绊和束缚，而理想化的横向关系是不是也相应的家人之间如同君子之交淡如水了。人的行为、动机、思想、感情、社交是复杂的，也是无时无刻变化的，当下你遇到的事和社交，基于当下你的认知，做出最优行为，享受当下这一刻。</p>','2025-07-14 13:24:25.822','2025-07-14 13:24:25.822',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 13:24:25.82',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('451fdf29-592a-4ae4-ad41-2a3aaca1fbfe','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>成功制造推叠的秘诀就是找到触发行为的正确提示。</p>
<p>堆叠式隐藏着时间及地点。<br>提示（旧习惯）出现的频率须与新习惯发生的频率是一样的。<br>可以通过习惯计分卡找到正确的提示。</p>','2025-07-14 13:17:29.725','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('66fd9256-6707-428b-a1fb-5477ea104308','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>不确定性是每天都要面对和发生，做好不确定性事情让事情确定下来。</p>','2025-07-14 12:56:51.627','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d25cd003-edab-4af9-af21-5f249ed8a398','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>要成功培养新习惯，需要设有确切计划，定下了坚定的时间去进行指定了的行为，也要专心及专注的透入精力去行成习惯。</p>','2025-07-14 14:26:39.71','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('469f6e76-db42-4061-9846-9316638e72a0','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>要开始一个习惯，并不需要察觉提示。不必有意识地投入注意力，你也能留意到机会并采取行动。</p>','2025-07-14 13:56:43.839','2025-07-14 13:56:43.839',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 13:56:43.838',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e52013e9-91a8-495d-a79b-b0b1917e6c85','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>习惯将促进反应，反应促进结果</p>','2025-07-14 13:57:09.453','2025-07-14 13:57:09.453',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 13:57:09.452',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3418edd1-3dc4-4988-ad86-51c84b053ada','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>做任何事或與任何人相處, 想要做到成功, , 首先要與自己和解, 看请自己的初心, 才能理解別人的 想污和做法.</p>','2025-07-14 14:13:44.683','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90531203-8415-4118-8a1a-0911d4a1da70','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 30&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>14&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日&nbsp;</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">远离那些沽名钓誉的人（</span>Page 130-133<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人，活着，应该抱有开放的心态去看待世界，即使要追求人世间最高的道德境界，也不宜过犹不及。</span></p>','2025-07-14 14:04:08.5','2025-07-14 14:04:08.5',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:04:08.499',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bdb097a9-f8f9-4ec0-bf9e-33ea53b4ac08','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>待人处事，过度与不及，都不理想，往往给自己、身边人与社会帶来许多不悦和麻烦。所以个人认同儒家的中庸之道。</p>','2025-07-14 14:17:56.241','2025-07-14 14:17:56.241',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:17:56.24',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45f6430c-a5a8-400c-ba4b-aca818194505','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>从自我察觉开始，学会察觉自身潜意识的思路、反应、回话等等。在改变或培养新习惯之前，必须有意识的打破原有的自动模式。</p>','2025-07-14 14:26:19.103','2025-07-14 14:26:19.103',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:26:19.102',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d814002d-bf03-48c4-bc2f-65cea1708e54','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>远离那些沽名钓誉的人 &nbsp;有些人涉及上根本是名不副实 徒有虚名。所以判断一个人时不能光看外表，更不能去追寻那些虚无飘渺的名声，更应该从他的事业从他的工作事迹或成就来判断这个人。</p>','2025-07-14 14:26:26.967','2025-07-14 14:26:26.967',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:26:26.967',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed99284f-76d8-42a9-ae8c-1aeca08f749e','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>远离那些沽名钓誉的人。</p>
<p>伯夷叔齐求仁得仁？<br>我不知那个时代的背景与根本原因？<br>但在现在今社会用饿死自己的方式去求仁，那就堕入了（恐怖分子）,邪教了</p>','2025-07-14 14:26:54.89','2025-07-14 14:26:54.89',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:26:54.889',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1887ccf-c880-4a2f-a6d9-14ccc28d4073','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>不断審視自己 , 回顧自己為人处世的立場, 應該有個相对寬松一點的立場, 要洒脱一点, 看事物淡然一點, 一個人内心世界能容納多少, 最終就能得到多少</p>','2025-07-14 13:50:47.235','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9821345d-d32d-49d7-a888-4b40fc0b6c5f','c663c44a-8c4b-4c95-8422-f9478c83f5de','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>讀書的目的是提高自自身的理解能力, 當理解的文字足夠的, 就能提高我們对事物的理解, 因為我們生存的目的, 就是更多的理解.</p>','2025-07-14 14:00:40.671','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f9b63e0-74dd-44ac-90d2-ed89b5c0c07f','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>提示引起的想望现像就是一个人在刺激造成了一股想要重复恶习的强迫性渴望。一旦注意到某件事 我们就开始想要。</p>
<p>要铲除一项坏习惯，最实用的方法之一就是减少接触会激发此恶习提示。让好习惯提示显而易见；让坏习惯的提示隐而不现。</p>','2025-07-14 14:03:47.508','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('68794064-164d-4c52-84f3-6f94f6ceb999','d07ac4c7-d15d-443c-8af8-ad5bb6c24ebb','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>所谓：&ldquo;近朱者赤近墨者黑&rdquo;，我们很多的习惯都受身边的人所影响。我们需要融入群体，就会自然的同化。所以，一个人的习惯，大部分取决于他身处的环境所影响。</p>','2025-07-14 14:05:27.366','2025-07-26 00:00:00.021',NULL,'f','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02','2025-07-26 00:00:00.02',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6987244c-b8f2-4daf-9d98-acca0d0cdbf0','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>习惯是不需要觉察，不必有意识地投入注意力，你也会采取行动的！</p>
<p>但是没有觉察自己的习惯，就不会意识该习惯到底是对还是必须调整！</p>
<p>只要有足够的练习，它便会在你的大脑生根！</p>','2025-07-14 14:27:08.707','2025-07-14 14:36:36.132',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:36:36.132',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a7287a69-ae65-42d8-856c-723067d93db8','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>無法解釋，只是因為當事人無法用科技的理念來說來說明.</p>
<p>在未來這些看似神奇的經驗之談都可以用AI解釋了。</p>','2025-07-14 14:51:29.721','2025-07-14 14:51:30.47',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:51:30.469',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d1304a32-447e-4f24-ac76-73d4ed101f44','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p>看人不能只看表面的虚荣</p>','2025-07-14 14:57:27.03','2025-07-14 14:57:27.03',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:57:27.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('69c42015-54a6-46a6-9e19-de78503f20a3','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>Adler&rsquo;s philosophy says that both criticism and praise can be harmful.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Criticism may cause people to feel inferior, while too much praise can make someone depend on others for approval.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>In the end, both are forms of judgment - they make us rely on others to decide our value.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Adler rejects vertical relationships (where one person is above another),</p>
<p>and encourages us to see all relationships as equal and horizontal - even if we&rsquo;re different, we are equal in worth.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Our value should not come from others&rsquo; opinions - especially not from praise or criticism.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Real healthy growth begins when we define our own values and live for ourselves.</p>','2025-07-14 14:58:07.425','2025-07-14 14:58:07.425',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 14:58:07.424',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f30e77ad-2106-4d24-a0a3-9126d27fc5c7','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','80a23083-b135-4275-bdef-8541775f6c3c','<p>批评不好，表扬也不行。自卑感原本就是纵向关系中产生的一种意识</p>','2025-07-14 15:04:39.151','2025-07-14 15:04:39.151',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:04:39.15',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca4fadeb-3fe4-4c2a-998f-714f52ca148f','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>只要有足够的练习，你就能发现预示某些结果的提示。</p>','2025-07-14 15:07:06.48','2025-07-14 15:07:06.48',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:07:06.479',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b379816-8cf0-4524-981c-3264c054cb65','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>习惯没有好坏之分，只有有效的习惯！</p>
<p>时刻觉察自己的行为，才能改变他们！</p>','2025-07-14 14:39:52.785','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('97bc4055-8724-451d-948b-2430fcef9c13','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>行為改變的過程始於察覺。在個人生活中，我們也需要「指差確認」系統。這就是「習慣記分卡」的起源，透過這個簡單的練習，你會更能察覺自己的行為。</p>','2025-07-14 15:12:29.307','2025-07-14 15:12:31.329',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:12:31.328',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dae667c3-ca12-46bf-96ac-05d49b6348ae','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第四章：交友的心态</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">远离那些沽名钓誉的人（</span>Page 130-133<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>有些人表面廉洁清高，实则在意的是名声和他人眼光。做人做事要懂得平衡，追求操守不可走极端，也不必刻意与众不同。</p>
<p>真正有品行的人，是不断反思自己、内外一致，不靠表现来取悦他人。</p>
<p>孔子虽赞成&ldquo;求仁得仁&rdquo;，但绝不鼓励为了名节而让自己陷入极端，如&ldquo;饿死求仁&rdquo;，并不可取。</p>
<p>读后感悟</p>
<p>我们是否也曾不自觉地为了&ldquo;做一个好人&rdquo;而过度压抑自己，或对别人要求过高？真正的高尚，是内外一致、温和有度，而非用理想绑架自己或他人。</p>','2025-07-14 15:14:01.649','2025-07-14 15:14:01.649',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:14:01.648',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b110295d-d6ed-4225-84c8-5eaa9f102e6d','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>行为改变始于觉察，荣格名言：倘若无法意识到无意识，它就会指挥你的生活，然后你就称为命运。</p>','2025-07-14 15:07:51.092','2025-07-14 15:14:39.762',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:14:39.761',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cd139981-2e9f-46ce-bba4-657ee663af7f','0ace1157-8082-4c46-afe9-906c2e338139','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>今天学到沽名钓誉的意思，远离沽名钓誉的人。与人交往要有所判断，不人云亦云。最重要是培养自身的修养，注重品德。</p>','2025-07-14 15:31:12.236','2025-07-14 15:31:12.236',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:31:12.235',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0f6c3fe-feeb-4431-abb9-4c88201d972c','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','bab89ee0-c6a9-43ae-b08d-61e5e50652da','<p>建立虽不同但平等的横向关系。用鼓励和支持来代替批评和表扬。</p>','2025-07-14 15:34:12.959','2025-07-14 15:34:12.959',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:34:12.958',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2084a4fe-7c92-44f2-94d5-3d4afb7cee32','0ef4e4e7-cf62-46b7-bc3e-9758371f4978','d4cf19fb-4056-4949-8ccd-8e06049df029','<p>这里说到不管用糖还是鞭子，其背后目的都是操纵，但要怎么才能鼓励到幼小的孩子有动力前进呢？</p>
<p>自卑感原本就是从纵向关系中产生的一种意识</p>','2025-07-14 15:34:20.343','2025-07-14 15:34:20.343',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:34:20.342',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0b25419-5ff5-4082-888e-3d7bfc42b265','9dd6aeaa-f174-42b3-bacd-74a30d43f960','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>贡献=幸福</p>
<p>当我们真心付出、给予他人温暖和支持时，内心会不自觉地感到充实和快乐？会！那是一个鼓励，情感的互动。给予让他人看见自己的价值，这种自我认同感是真正长久的幸福来源。</p>','2025-07-14 14:57:03.995','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30b471ec-8d11-4779-81a1-0f2a09fca670','9e01df1c-9a3d-4111-a6ca-f5e08526bb72','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 14&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>14&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>1 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让提示显而易见</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; text-indent: -18.0pt; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white; margin: 0cm 0cm 0cm 21.3pt;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">1.</span><span style="font-size: 7.0pt; font-family: ''Times New Roman'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">行为改变的过程始终觉察（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 078-081<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p>倘若无法意识到无意识，它就会指挥你的生活，然后你就称为命运。</p>','2025-07-14 15:58:56.837','2025-07-14 15:58:56.837',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 15:58:56.836',NULL,NULL);
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<p>靠近真实朴素，你的生活才会越来越踏实、内心越来越有底气。</p>','2025-07-14 16:00:38.491','2025-07-14 16:00:38.491',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 16:00:38.485',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3bd35e18-4db4-46d4-b084-1501a6ad831e','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>在知道自己不知道或不了解某事物，而感到羞耻后，才有推动力让提升自己，融入某圈子。</p>','2025-07-14 22:19:44.979','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1970d2d6-93e0-4a57-a4fd-cf90a55accec','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>作者講現代的年輕人缺乏自我反省的能力。</p>
<p>這句話難道是因為他的生意只能吸引年輕人嗎？</p>','2025-07-14 23:19:38.221','2025-07-14 23:19:38.221',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 23:19:38.22',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('92114852-09f4-4b81-818f-5a953f88a481','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>哇做這件把我早上起床做的一系列的事情全部列出出來！</p>
<p>沒錯，早上起來第一件事情別用手機！</p>','2025-07-14 23:22:47.068','2025-07-14 23:22:47.068',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 23:22:47.067',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8f3bb56-a246-46d2-9c50-6eb85aed9b19','95cd3cd4-dd7f-448e-a0bc-baf8f45a5b78','86ceff30-9853-4d6a-90f7-69177946887c','<p>人只有在可以體會到"我對共同體有用"，的時候才能夠感覺到自己的價值。</p>
<p>似懂非懂，我需要再次閱讀才能夠慢慢理解。</p>','2025-07-14 23:25:22.844','2025-07-14 23:25:22.844',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-14 23:25:22.842',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59709365-651a-497e-bdeb-9843a5945b87','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>你是自己內心衝突的根源</p>
<p><br>哲學家曾說沒有經過反思的人生，是沒有意義的人生，很多時候我們要先認識自己，反省自己，改正自己才能對事情做出準確的判斷，過好自己的人生。 但是大多數人都不善於反省自己，遇到問題也習慣先從外部尋找原因或藉口.<br>當一個人不斷應用認知失調的方式處理問題時，就會發現自己的影響圈 變得越來越小，做什麼事情就越來越不順利。<br>在工作上就像射箭一樣遇到問題不要怨天尤人，而是不斷的調整自己，讓自己變得更好，這樣你做事的狀態就會更好 ，多 從自己身上找問題，並積極尋找解決問題的方法.<br>反求諸己， 遇事先思己過 ，不但能夠讓我們提升自己的認知，還能淨化心靈，化 解 內心的衝突和矛盾 &nbsp;讓自己變得更優秀，更強大。</p>','2025-06-30 06:02:01.778','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4826916e-0678-4bdd-8a6a-8686415d6094','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>利用行为计分卡，给自己的习惯做出评估与取舍，把无意识的行为变成有意识。</p>','2025-07-06 06:10:55.515','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30fe4daf-da40-41d7-81b7-68273b644dc6','95cd3cd4-dd7f-448e-a0bc-baf8f45a5b78','711c634c-9883-49b4-be78-809360392ff4','<p>鼓励～勇气</p>
<p>人怎样才能够获得&ldquo;勇气&rdquo;？有了价值才会拥有勇气？阿德勒的见解是:人只有在能够感觉自己有价值的时候才可以获得勇气。如果能够认为&ldquo;自己有价值&rdquo;的话，人就能够接纳自我并建立起直面人生课题的勇气。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-11 13:44:21.357','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4131926f-a88a-496c-bda2-ee92cc746b01','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>反求诸己确实是提升人格、工作效率的唯一途径。只有不断地完善自己的行为、意识才会有进步的空间。</p>','2025-07-12 12:43:12.615','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be669b28-3a4f-4f3c-8c7d-4aad39932fbf','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>一个君子，一定要能够约束自己，要求自己，严于律己，只有小人才会经常怪罪别人，很会原谅自己，这些智慧都是在告诫后人要善于反省自己。</p>
<p>孟子要求我们多做影响圈的事，但大部分人只做关注圈的事。</p>
<p>人最大的弱点，就是常看到别人的缺点，却对自己的不足视而不见，轻则阻碍自己心智的发展，重则害人害己。</p>','2025-06-26 20:56:35.794','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b8bd4ec2-4e00-49fd-99c3-fc2308213484','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>执行意向能有效促使我们坚持目标。</p>
<p>对何时何地执行一项新习惯做出计划，比较可能真的去实行。</p>','2025-07-12 02:42:03.991','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0e6d3194-94aa-403b-bdfb-56442278c9d2','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>遇到麻烦，先要学会丛内部开始自我反醒，检讨自己及学会反思再尝试找出解决方案，而不是只会埋怨别人，却不明白也许是自身的仁德问题。</p>','2025-07-14 21:04:46.419','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6a4da520-58a4-4156-8b6b-c47a01af2f37','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>做人一定要有自己的立场，再学会不断审视及回顾自己的所为做修改。学习宽容别人，看淡事物，有利与让自己活的更快乐。</p>','2025-07-14 21:13:48.961','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('407f9962-86d4-4abd-b87a-86fd093294e9','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>要逃到目標，一定要把它轉換成smart。</p>','2025-07-17 23:47:17.244','2025-07-17 23:47:17.244',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 23:47:17.243',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2d1f8c7-b4b6-4359-8eac-62e800f92d9f','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>学习陈列出日常习惯的清单，在把要实行的新习惯堆叠，定下指定的时间及地点，让自己更有动力的完成旧的习惯，再开始进行新的习惯。</p>','2025-07-14 20:27:56.588','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01141b6f-245e-475f-b33c-714e97f81d98','95cd3cd4-dd7f-448e-a0bc-baf8f45a5b78','a0bbf727-9c7e-4023-8fe5-e09c3a421b46','<p>有鼓励才有勇气<br><br>人为什么会去干涉别人的课题， 人生课题？<br>背后也是一种纵向关系，正因为吧人际关系看成纵向关系，把对方看得把自己低，所以才会去干涉。 其实背后应该也是一种骄傲，觉得自己比别人厉害吧，才会去干涉他人。<br>这里的干涉是操纵。<br>如果建立起横向关系，那就不再会有干涉。<br><br>面对需要帮助的人，不可以置之不理，我若插手的话需要做出不是干涉的援助。<br>回到课题分离， 孩子学习是孩子自己要解决的问题，老师或父母不可代替，干涉就是对别人的课题加上干涉就是 不如&ldquo;要好好学习&rdquo;或 &ldquo;得上那大学&rdquo; 把自己的期待加在别人的选择上。<br><br>援助的大前提是课题分离和横向关系，在了解学习上孩子的课题的基础上再去考虑能做的事情，具体就是不居高临下的命令学习。<br>而是努力帮助孩子建立 &ldquo;自己能够学习&rdquo;的自信和提高孩子独立应对课题的能力。<br><br>在课题分离的前提下帮助他用自己的力量去解决。<br><br><br>不表扬不批评 - 阿德勒心理学把这种基于横向关系的援助 称为 - <strong>鼓励<br><br></strong>人害怕面对课题不是因为缺乏能力，而是缺乏勇气。<br><br>因为人会因为表扬而形成&ldquo;自己没能力&rdquo;的信念。<br><br>人越得到别人的表扬越会形成自己没能力的信念。<br>表扬会喜悦是因为纵向关系，承认自己 没能力。<br>给予表扬的人是有能力，有能力的人对没能力的人所做出的评价。<br>而且以表扬为目的去做就是在满足他人的期待，选择迎合讨好他人的价值观。<br><br>先课题分离 - 接受双方差异同时建立平等的横向关系。 鼓励就是建立在这种基础上。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>横向关系鼓励法 - 感恩，鼓励。</p>
<p>最重要的是不&ldquo;评价&rdquo;他人。</p>
<p>纵向关系是一直给予评价，横向关系是表达感恩，尊敬或喜悦的话。</p>
<p>谢谢的话语不是评价，而只是单纯感谢。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人在听到感谢之词的时候，就会知道自己能够对别人有所贡献。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人只有在能够感觉自己有价值的时候才可以获得勇气。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人只有在感到对他人有用才能感到有价值。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-10 04:38:01.455','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b52eeaae-b454-466d-8646-0f6b3814f10b','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>没有经过反思的人生，是没有意义的人生。</p>
<p>我有时候也会认知失调，以为自己很棒，但明明知道自己还有很多进步的空间，看到别人升职加薪的时候，总是心里不舒服。</p>
<p>但我也会学狐狸看到葡萄，自己吃不到就说葡萄酸那样，调整自己的心态，心情就会开始变好。</p>
<p>我很喜欢躰箭的比喻，把箭射岀来之前的动作都必须做到位，姿势要正确，呼吸调整，眼睛专注，头脑冷静，再把箭放在弦上，才能射中。</p>
<p>也在此刻提醒自己，工作的上那怕遇到大问题小事情，不断调整自己的心态，不被他人影响，我们只提供帮r助给他人带来价值。</p>
<p>反求诸己，遇事先思己过。</p>','2025-07-13 03:11:14.72','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b4bfb8b-0c54-407f-899b-d496c80c4928','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>面对冲突，要学会反求诸，多从自己的身上找问题，寻找解决问题的方案，同时提升自己的认知。</p>','2025-07-13 03:52:47.987','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d31255e4-7b45-466a-ba44-abe9a50024af','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>&ldquo;没有经过反思的人生，是没有意义的人生&rdquo;。很多时候，我们需要停下脚步，先认识自己，反省自己，调整自己，才能对外在的人事物做出更准确的判断，真正走好自己的人生之路。</p>
<p>反求诸己，遇事先思己过，是一种智慧，也是一种修为。它不仅能提升我们的认知水平，更能净化内心，化解冲突，让我们的人性与仁爱自然流露。当你开始真正理解自己、修炼自己，你的内在就会变得更加清明有力。这时，你将发现，不论做什么，都会吸引到前所未有的机遇与回应，因为你已经成为那个值得被世界温柔以待的人。</p>','2025-07-13 08:18:16.91','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f144ffcf-89d7-4d0b-8104-14c0d58f8a14','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','bfd75d58-68dd-43b9-ad43-f8b1ad77247b','<p>许多失败都可以归咎于缺乏自我察觉。</p>
<p>【指差确认】的系统就是从【习惯计分卡】的起源， 透过这个习惯可以察觉自己的行为。</p>
<p>改变坏习惯可以尝试在生活中执行指差确认，大声说出你打算做的事，以及可能的结果。（把无意识拉到有意识的层次）</p>','2025-07-13 13:45:33.724','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ee6fd3b-bda1-44a6-b647-16925e110201','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>认知失调&rarr;就是当你觉得自己应该很棒，实际却没有那么棒的时候，你的认知就会出现状况。当一个人不断运用认知失调的方式来处理问题时，就会发现自己的影响圈越来越小，做什么事情也越来越不顺利。</p>
<p>与其抱怨外在的因素，不如时时往内在寻找问题，提升自己的认知能力，化解内心的冲突和矛盾。</p>','2025-07-14 04:11:53.571','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05b2f4b4-6935-4106-9ba7-9256bbd9a560','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>行为改变的起点，始终是觉察。唯有先看见，才有可能改变。像&ldquo;指差确认&rdquo;或&ldquo;习惯记分卡&rdquo;这样的策略，关键就在于帮助我们识别自身的习惯模式，以及触发这些习惯的提示。当我们能够有意识地看清这些自动化的反应，就更有可能暂停一下，做出对自己真正有益的回应。</p>','2025-07-14 13:43:48.874','2025-07-15 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024','2025-07-15 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cebfe56a-de9d-4413-8971-faf02888486a','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>人的大脑要记的人事物太多，自然会把生活繁琐的事情抛诸脑后。</p>
<p>我们可以利用环境来创造提示，让它显而易见，自然而然就会成为惯性行为！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-20 02:48:59.079','2025-07-20 02:48:59.079',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-20 02:48:59.078',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16665d2c-7670-4f57-a219-7f1488671b89','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>把每个行为附加执行意向（时间&amp;地点），我们便会履行对自己的诺言而去执行！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 00:16:21.743','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f1fd8e47-b709-4eba-9e0b-a2b63ab188a7','fa30d37a-bf6c-40d3-a2c1-cb83bc9b4ef2','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>创造明显的视觉提示</p>
<p>想要让习惯成为生活的一大部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。持续最久的行为往往拥有多种提示</p>
<p>大部分的人都活在别人为他们创造的世界里</p>','2025-07-18 01:05:31.249','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('922807e8-0cef-41ee-9a55-182ce062b327','95cd3cd4-dd7f-448e-a0bc-baf8f45a5b78','09b83ef2-cc1c-4397-a750-c38fcd65dfb4','<p>读完这三段对话，我对阿德勒心理学中&ldquo;课题分离&rdquo;与&ldquo;鼓励&rdquo;的核心理念有了更深的触动：</p>
<p>1. 干涉与援助的本质差异.&nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;干涉是纵向关系的产物&mdash;&mdash;带着&ldquo;我正确，你需要被纠正&rdquo;因为这是想按照自己的意思去操纵对方。（如命令孩子好好学习）；援助则是横向关系的实践&mdash;&mdash;尊重对方的主体性，只提供支持而不越界（如帮助孩子建立自信与能力）。真正的善意不是&ldquo;替你做&rdquo;，而是帮助他本人䢖立&ldquo;自己能够学习&rdquo;的自信以及提高其独立应对课题的能力。</p>
<p>2. 表扬的隐形陷阱。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;哲人点破了一个颠覆常识的观点：**表扬本质是一种评价霸权**。当你说&ldquo;你真棒&rdquo;时，暗含了&ldquo;我有资格评判你&rdquo;的纵向权力结构。长期被表扬的人，反而会养成&ldquo;我的价值取决于他人认可&rdquo;的依赖，因为人会因为被表扬而形成&ldquo;自己沒有能力&rdquo;的信念。</p>
<p>3. 勇气的根源在&ldquo;横向联结。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;人缺乏直面的课题的勇气，常因害怕在纵向关系中&ldquo;失败&rdquo;后被贬低。而鼓励之所以能激发勇气，是因为它在课题分离后建立平等联结：课题分离的前提下帮助他用自己的力量去解决，就像把马带到水边却不强迫它喝水，尊重本身就孕育着力量。下定决心的是其本人，直面课题的也是其本人。</p>
<p>读完这两段对话，我对阿德勒心理学中&ldquo;价值感&rdquo;与&ldquo;勇气&rdquo;的关联有了更深的领悟：</p>
<p>1. 谢谢&rdquo;比&ldquo;表扬&rdquo;更有力量.&nbsp;<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;当用平等的&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;代替纵向的&ldquo;表扬&rdquo;时，我们传递的不再是居高临下的评价，而是对他人存在价值的真诚看见，一句感谢的本质是承认：具有能够助人找回勇气的力量，</p>
<p>2. 勇气的根源是&ldquo;有用感。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;哲人点破了一个关键逻辑：人需要先感知&ldquo;我对他人有用&rdquo;，人只有在能够咸觉自己有价值的時候才可以荻的勇气。才能建立&ldquo;我有价值&rdquo;的自我认知，继而获得直面生活的勇气。</p>
<p>3. 贡献感破除存在主义孤独。<br>&nbsp; &nbsp;&ldquo;我对共同体有用&rdquo;这一命题，本质是解决现代人精神困境的良方：当个体通过服务他人确认自身价值时，便从&ldquo;自我怀疑&rdquo;的孤岛中解脱出来。人只有在可以体会到&ldquo;我对共同体有用&rdquo;的時候才能够感觉到自己的价值。</p>','2025-07-15 01:18:03.449','2025-07-15 02:09:46.57',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 02:09:46.569',NULL,NULL);
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<p>课题分离的前提下帮助他用自己的力量去解决（把马带到水边，但不能强迫其喝水），下定决心的也是其本人。</p>
<p>阿德勒心理学的既不表扬也不批评把这种基于横向关系的援助称为鼓励。人会因为被表扬而感到喜悦，等于是从属于纵向关系和𠄘认自己没能力。因为表扬是有能力的人对没能力的人所作出的评价，最终也会选择迎合他人价值观的生活方式，迎合他人的标准，妨碍自己的自由。</p>
<p>谢谢（对别人寄予关心、建立横向关系、使用鼓励法）不是一种评价，人在听到感谢之词的时候，就会知道自己能夠对别人（共同体）有所贡献，对别人有用的实际感受，才能真正的感觉得到自己有价值，获得生活的勇气。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 01:54:07.809','2025-07-15 01:54:07.809',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 01:54:07.808',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3b50464-b0b7-417b-bc11-cefaf822a108','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>改变來自自我觉察开始。</p>
<p>没有好或坏习惯，但是这些习惯是不是会投同意票还是反对票。</p>
<p>这些习惯是可以成为想要成为的那种人吗？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 03:29:38.469','2025-07-15 03:29:38.469',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 03:29:38.468',NULL,NULL);
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<p>原来习惯也可以用列表写出来，我还真没做过。必须去试。</p>','2025-07-15 06:03:07.52','2025-07-15 06:03:07.52',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 06:03:07.519',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('852a51d3-7339-4081-984a-c14428e96706','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>习惯其中的重点在清晰的时刻与地点</p>','2025-07-18 01:55:41.04','2025-07-18 01:55:41.04',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 01:55:41.039',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9200355b-5091-4f9e-a0b2-a5f36a179e8a','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>利用習慣記憶卡來鍛鍊對自己的覺察力</p>','2025-07-15 13:56:44.041','2025-07-15 13:56:44.041',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 13:56:44.041',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6b4c0b46-3a8b-4a38-90a3-f40ba4b978af','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>不以为赶不上别人为耻，又怎能赶得上别人呢？</p>
<p>一件事不知道，不了解，就深深感到羞耻。</p>
<p>知道自己不足的地方，就应该积极修正自己，提升自己，而不是说不足就算了。这说永远不会有进步的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 02:58:55.576','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fc60f304-8f9d-4720-b66f-3f5f9bae0917','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>想要习惯成为生活的一大部分，就让提示成为环境的一大部分。让最好的习惯变得最显眼。</p>
<p>尽量避免bs把一个习惯的情境跟另一个习惯的情境混在一起。当情境混合，习惯也开始混合在一起。</p>','2025-07-15 02:36:58.23','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d5969210-5c7a-48ec-9763-c50ff017ad4b','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 21 ：7月21 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情境是触发习惯的提示（Page 109-114）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">哪怕只是家中某个角落、桌上一本翻开的书、椅子旁的一盏灯，</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">那都是你习惯的「提示」。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这就是在帮你的阅读习惯找一个家。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-21 14:28:14.576','2025-07-21 14:28:14.576',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 14:28:14.575',NULL,NULL);
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<p>我之前讲过一本书，叫作《思辨与立场》，其中也提到，如果你在这个世界上还有烦恼的话，那一定是因为你的思维方法错了。这句话听起来虽然绝对，但却不无道理。</p>','2025-07-16 13:20:16.586','2025-07-16 13:20:16.586',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 13:20:16.585',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65f6ab57-ec30-4a71-a315-da684ec49d73','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>人类是视觉动物，看到的会影响你的行为。</p>
<p>眼不见为净。</p>','2025-07-15 09:15:57.515','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b87e317f-e3de-4cbf-aca3-659c7439fead','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>记录卡可以提醒我们，我就有一份packing list,出国或外出过夜前，我必然会查看需要带的东西。这样就不会漏了重要的东西。</p>
<p>我的好习惯是几乎每天都运动，最近晚餐后散步。这对保健有很好的效果。坏习惯是看太多手机！</p>','2025-07-15 09:04:10.45','2025-07-15 09:04:10.45',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 09:04:10.45',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('80fd2e8c-0c70-4587-bba2-fb7fd2f2a97a','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>仁性与人性</p>','2025-07-15 14:05:05.632','2025-07-15 14:05:08.2',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 14:05:08.199',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bc4adfe4-363c-4914-a53b-fcf6f09917f2','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>善于反省，才能不断成长。</p>
<p>孔子说:君子求诸己，小人求诸人。</p>
<p>遇到问题，先反省自己，不要怪责别人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-12 03:06:54.724','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('71f377c2-e0c2-47a8-ac3d-38c6a6ffc8ad','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','c3dec7de-d9d8-4347-b508-15aa7de93f6a','<p>反求诸己固然重要，但也要避免重蹈覆辙🙏</p>','2025-07-12 12:54:45.447','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ef7da179-fdc6-44a2-be75-7f61cd2930a6','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>想让一个新习惯真正落地，仅有愿望是不够的。那些为自己设定具体时间与地点的人，往往更容易实践他们的计划。因为一旦你决定「何时、何地」开始，就为行动扫除了模糊与拖延的空间。</p>','2025-07-15 07:29:02.173','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('66de1017-fa98-4ef8-85e1-e2cf00c7fd34','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>你打算如何执行某一特定习惯</p>
<p>触发提示，给大脑暗示</p>
<p>最常见的两种提示是时间与地点</p>
<p>对何时何地执行一项新习惯做出确切计划的人，比较可能真的去执行</p>
<p>许多人认为自己缺乏激励，其实他们缺的是清晰</p>
<p>我会于时间，在地点，进行行为</p>','2025-07-16 13:25:04.233','2025-07-16 13:31:08.501',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 13:31:08.5',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('21e6c9ee-279f-46ef-ac83-06cdd6d2894a','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>习惯堆叠，让原有的舊习惯堆叠上去。</p>
<p>就像是＂顺便＂，作了第一个习惯，也顺便作下一个，也像绑定一样。</p>
<p>睡觉前，洗漱完后，把按摩油放在床边，也放一双袜子，每晚都可以按摩脚底才睡。</p>','2025-07-15 08:08:11.761','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('14a9aad1-b127-4c78-a1f2-f1ced15fd0dc','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','46b2c2fa-bb27-489e-8d67-4cd112f26959','<p>习惯堆叠~先找出目前的每日习惯，再把新行为堆叠上去，形成骨牌效应。</p>
<p>把想要的跟每天已经在做的事情绑在一起。&nbsp;</p>
<p>起床&gt;打点小孩&gt;阅读&gt;运动&gt;冥想&gt;洗澡&gt;上班。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-16 23:24:18.729','2025-07-16 23:24:59.581',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 23:24:59.58',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('844fcdaa-fc34-41f5-a08d-5d6e6126c0bf','b9d22e27-3201-4783-b735-769f4515d31a','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>决定性瞬间为我们未来的自己提供可得的选项。我们受习惯引导我们去的地方所限，因此，掌握一整天的决定性瞬间非常重要。</p>
<p>习惯是起点，不是终点。</p>
<p>是计程车，不是健身房。</p>','2025-07-21 14:31:08.745','2025-08-02 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-08-02 00:00:00.011','2025-08-02 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c08e2c4-04e8-4f22-b538-0382e9b43db2','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p>把想要的的行为跟每天已经在做的事情把绑在一起。</p>
<p>习惯的堆叠公式如下：</p>
<p>「做完（目前的習慣）之後，我會執行（新的習慣）。</p>','2025-07-17 15:32:22.156','2025-07-17 15:32:22.156',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:32:22.155',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a11b57e9-f267-4f6d-aaac-5d040dea6e16','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>改变的第一法则：让提示更加清晰看到。</p>
<p>常见的提示：时间和地点</p>
<p>习惯堆叠公式：做完原有习惯，我会做新的习惯。</p>','2025-07-15 08:27:40.858','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('272463a3-a1db-4842-be50-0efc700191a0','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>把每日必做的事情，加入新习惯，明确的表面何时，何地做些什么。有意向和意识的去做。</p>','2025-07-18 07:39:17.96','2025-07-18 07:39:17.96',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-18 07:39:17.959',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('221b98d0-0f66-403d-b432-2ecc29fe50a5','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>新的环境的确比较容易养成新的习惯，因为🉐重新适应！</p>
<p>那如果没有新的环境，我们可以针对每个原有的环境，制定不一样的执行行为，这样也比较容易培养新的习惯！</p>','2025-07-20 03:02:00.783','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82dd046a-646d-4ca1-a3d6-8a93cb04b816','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>喜欢这一句：一个凡事各安其位，各司其职的稳定环境，就是可以轻松养成的习惯。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>习惯不是单一提示联想在一起，而是以环绕着该行为的整个情境链接，情境成提示。</p>','2025-07-21 12:09:32.904','2025-07-21 12:09:32.904',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-21 12:09:32.903',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76345add-13c1-4bfa-8906-2e2ba387c881','34c5a44b-c82e-4b73-a391-2956204a7ac8','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>有高度自制力的人不常待在充满的环境里。回避诱惑比抗拒诱惑简单。<br>要剔除一项坏习惯，最实用的方法就是减少接触激发此恶习的提示。<br>~无法把工作好好地做完，就把手机流在另一个房间几个小时。<br>~总觉得自己不够好，就停止追踪会激起嫉妒心理的社区账号。<br><br>让好习惯的提示显而意见，让坏习惯的提示隐而不现。</p>','2025-07-19 08:04:36.101','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('862c5b23-8f86-41d0-9927-9fab1943d26c','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>成功最大的威胁不是失败，而是无聊。</p>','2025-07-21 14:30:56.071','2025-08-16 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029','2025-08-16 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bee52310-d6d0-4658-91ac-df72bb0456e4','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 15&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>15&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《原子习惯》法则</span>1 <span lang="ZH-CN">&ndash;</span>&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">让提示显而易见</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">习惯记分卡帮助你察觉自身习惯（</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 082-088<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">为习惯归类时，考量长远的益处。改变坏习惯，第一步就是</span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">&ldquo;密切注意&rdquo;</span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">它们，执行指差确认，大声说出打算做的事情。以及可能的结果。听见坏习惯被说出来，会让后果显得更加真实，提高实际去做的机率。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">行为改变始於觉察，必须先意识到自己的习惯，才能改变它们。开口说出自己的行为，把无意识的习惯拉到有意识的层次。用</span> <span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">习惯记分卡&ldquo;</span><span lang="ZH-CN"> <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">&nbsp;</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">来增加自身行为的觉察。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 10:22:58.211','2025-07-15 10:23:16.523',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 10:23:16.522',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d175cee-49db-45c6-bdb3-ad0b36453669','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 31&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>15&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">你是自己内心冲突的根源（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 137-141<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">苏格拉底：&ldquo;没有经过反思的人生，是没有意义的人生&ldquo;。先要认识自己，反省自己，改正自己，才能对事情做出准确的判断，过好自己的人生。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">反求诸己，遇事先思己过，提升认知能力，化解内心的冲突和矛盾，才能变得越来越优秀，越有热情。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: DengXian; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>','2025-07-15 10:45:17.896','2025-07-15 10:45:17.896',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 10:45:17.894',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5f8cbd8c-254b-4482-9a0e-38c16b64768c','95cd3cd4-dd7f-448e-a0bc-baf8f45a5b78','b023869a-fe00-4602-b491-bc6461fe4749','<p>In Adler&rsquo;s psychology, we all need help and encouragement from each other.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Only when we feel accepted for who we are and are willing to face our issues and we begin to understand them.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>As we try our best to move forward, this process "supported by encouragement" gives us the "courage" to grow.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Without encouragement, we easily lose confidence and become afraid to take action.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When we feel encouraged, trusted, and appreciated by others, our sense of self-worth begins to grow.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This self-worth gives rise to courage - the courage to believe that we are useful to others and capable of contributing to society.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>With this belief, we are willing to live actively, face difficulties bravely, and build healthier interpersonal relationships.</p>','2025-07-15 11:03:05.384','2025-07-15 11:05:06.563',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 11:05:06.561',NULL,NULL);
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<p>通过拟定具体要执行的回应，让这个&ldquo;具体回应方法&rdquo;培养成为自动反应迴路。不要当事情发生，才来做决定如何回应。在这样的情景里，多数人会回到老习惯。</p>
<p>具体的回应包括：时间、地点和要执行的行为。</p>
<p>一旦那个设计好的&ldquo;具体回应方法&rdquo;被重复的多，自然就成了新的脑迴路。习惯就被培养起来。</p>','2025-07-13 13:35:40.289','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a15f1de-88fd-42ad-9a79-9ac60f78c2b1','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>开始一个新习惯需要清楚时间和地点。</p>
<p>我什么时候、在那里、作啥事。</p>
<p>过去的自己，只想要写文章，但是也只是想想而已。</p>
<p>静心：我会在早上八点，在按摩室里静心三分钟。</p>
<p>读书：我会早上九点半，在办公室里看一遍书。</p>
<p>运动：我会在早上七点，在小客厅超慢跑30分钟。</p>
<p>婚姻：我会每个周日，早上六点为家人准备早餐、午餐便当。</p>','2025-07-15 04:02:30.362','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d24396d4-09be-42e9-9ebd-7847d34e1a20','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>一个人唯有不断向内看、反观自身，才能端正品行、稳固心性。当一个人真正做到&ldquo;其身正&rdquo;，自然会有&ldquo;天下归之&rdquo;的力量。影响他人的基础，不在于言语，而在于自身所散发出的品格与德行。</p>','2025-07-15 07:22:33.64','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0930a454-1f14-4aaa-a997-85b4e3ba19cb','632ec5b8-b3e1-4e04-a1ae-361061b12328','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>要培养起好习惯并得到想要的结果，必须想弄清楚方向，然后设定清楚明确的行动计划，要仔细写出执行时间和次数，这样就可以避免内心因为懒惰的挣扎，按时完成任务，必能顺利实现目标。</p>','2025-07-16 13:38:44.121','2025-07-16 13:38:44.121',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 13:38:44.12',NULL,NULL);
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<p>越寬容別人就越有利自己。</p>
<p>難容人之人不僅很難得到快樂，而且很難擁有幸福。</p>','2025-07-17 00:10:40.135','2025-07-17 00:10:40.135',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 00:10:40.133',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d192c9f-bdb3-40b5-82ab-dabc4b3924ab','1af260b0-2130-4041-8506-3fb5c1911789','936da307-54f9-4bdd-8d1b-a0e16f23d864','<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">缺乏「人生協調」的生活方式，只看見事務的一小部分，就因噎廢食，以偏概全，一竹竿打翻一船人。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">假設</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> 10 </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">個人内，有</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> 2 </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">個人不喜歡你，</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">2 </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">個人喜歡你，其餘的人什麽特別感覺，缺乏「人生協調」的人會把</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> 2 </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">個人不喜歡當成所有人不喜歡。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">會攻擊、辜負別人的只有「那個人」，不是「大家」。以單一事件作爲藍本去斷定全世界，是一直「人生謊言」</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">真相是自己爲了「減少資源耗損」而做出的防禦工事，不信任人是爲了自我保護，重心在【自我】，以自我爲中心。「人</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">社會是危險的」是用來</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> support </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">這個防禦工事的理由，不是客觀真相，故爲「謊言」</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">not all people are bullies, most people are just regulars who just minding their own business. judging the world with build experience are incomplete</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">open chances </span>to<span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> discover "other" worlds</span></p>
<p><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">提問：撇開自我中心，</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">what if</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">：</span></p>
<p><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">1. </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">客觀上，我身上的某種特質的確會讓大部分人討厭</span></p>
<p><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">2. </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">集團潛意識中大多數人回本能的討厭某種特質</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">這樣的</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> case </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">怎麽處理？怎麽課題分離？</span></p>
<p><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有些人會</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> PUA </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">其他人，在貶低其他人的時候，會說「大家都覺得」、「人人都這麽說」來</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> mask </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">自己想要貶低他人的意圖。在</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> PUA </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">環境長大的人，很可能會信以爲真。要弄清楚這點是不是事實，就需要擴大「共同體」，在更大的母群裏尋找自己客觀的位置，才能找到與</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> PUA </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">割席的勇氣。</span></p>
<p><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「工作狂」是謊言，他是利用【工作】作爲【合理化】的理由去回避「交友」與「愛人」的任務</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">「我賺錢養你！」是基於【縱向關係】的互動，「我是提供者，所以我有權力主宰你」，這其實是在回避「愛人」的任務，與孩子不是夥伴關係，無法形成共同體。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">這樣的人把自己的價值建立在「賺錢提供」的行爲上，一旦失去了提供者的身份</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">/</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">能力後，自尊就會收到很大的打擊，變得自我價值感低落。</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">以「賺錢提供」的行爲建立的價值是在「行爲的層級」上的，即一旦拿掉「行爲」，就會感到自己失去價值，變得無法自我接納。</span></p>
<p><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><!-- [if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">&middot;<span style="font: 7.0pt ''Times New Roman'';">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">存在階層</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> - </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我的存在本身就是有價值（讓他人感到他們很重要）</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">内在階層</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> - </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">創造力、能力、才智、學習力、整合能力、技能、記憶力</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">......</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">外在階層</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"> - </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Aptos; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Aptos; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">工作、行爲、力氣、長相、技巧、金錢、學歷</span><span style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">......</span></p>','2025-07-18 14:28:00.004','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f99bdf18-f16d-4f88-b9b5-2add6908f92f','01e348e6-53d9-4693-9dd6-1acb8c8f451e','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>当习惯符合你天生的倾向与能力，执行起来就比较容易，坚持下去也比较令人满足</p>','2025-08-13 14:58:16.036','2025-08-13 14:58:28.233',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-13 14:58:28.232',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52370412-2ec8-469f-a798-16fadee5df9f','676b9c03-23e6-46bd-aa4a-aeeab3578820','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>做出适合自己的选择<br>比硬干更易达标</p>','2025-08-14 13:35:16.19','2025-08-14 13:35:16.19',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-14 13:35:16.189',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('779bd1a7-515c-4fc5-a002-c7bb9a7718c7','584782f0-945f-4e7b-84c5-79e571483c20','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>无聊是突破的威胁也是机遇。坚持下去！</p>','2025-08-15 23:01:29.038','2025-08-15 23:01:29.038',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-08-15 23:01:29.036',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3711437d-8154-484e-b06a-70612026ab14','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">你是自己内心冲突的根源（</span>Page 137-141<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p>苏格拉底说过：&ldquo;没有经过反思的人生，是没有意义的人生。&rdquo;<br>这句话提醒我们：人生的转变，不是从改变别人开始，而是从认识自己、反省自己开始。</p>
<p>当我们遇到问题时，最有力的方式不是责怪环境或他人，而是反求诸己，先从自己找原因。这样不但能提升认知能力，也能化解内心的冲突与矛盾。</p>
<p>许多人在面对困境时，会陷入认知失调，总想用合理化的方式逃避现实，结果只会让自己的影响圈越来越小，做事越来越不顺。在职场中就像射箭，箭没射中靶心，不是抱怨风大或箭歪，而是不断调整自己的站位与手法。</p>
<p>只有勇于反省、持续修正，才能让自己越来越成熟，做事更有状态。反思，不是否定自己，而是更新自己；不是自责，而是成长的开始。</p>
<p><strong>&ldquo;反求诸己，方能破局；内省之路，是强者之路。&rdquo;</strong></p>','2025-07-15 12:00:45.259','2025-07-15 12:02:25.442',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 12:02:25.441',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c49b8e1d-3399-46d2-b390-99987bff917b','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>君子求诸己。。<br>我们活在这环境，太多埋怨，怪别人，太多对错。不会反思自己，从自己找问题，求进步。</p>
<p>堕入了，只会批评，不会做。<br>心态调整，君子求诸己，你才会有很多贵人。</p>','2025-07-15 13:01:00.202','2025-07-15 13:01:00.202',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 13:01:00.201',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01b940e1-d453-4223-889e-1535523f9326','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>认知失调往往造成自己失败的主要原因。认知做事，闭嘴，不断的反省，改正自己的过失。</p>','2025-07-15 13:28:25.497','2025-07-15 13:28:25.497',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 13:28:25.496',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7186464-7c4d-4cb9-918f-b99a37947f27','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 31 ：7月15 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你是自己内心冲突的根源（Page 137-141）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变自己心态，面对工作和生活的困难，反而能带来真正的成长和转机。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正的成长不是改变别人，而是改变自己。你是自己问题的根源，也能成为解决一切的起点。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 13:32:11.212','2025-07-15 13:32:11.212',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 13:32:11.211',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8970118-6db5-44b2-862c-bdbe0f82a2cc','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>让自己从无意识变成有意识，开口说出自己的恶习，去正视它。</p>','2025-07-15 13:46:31.644','2025-07-15 13:46:31.644',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 13:46:31.644',NULL,NULL);
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<p>不是不害怕，才叫勇敢，而是你在紧张、焦虑、心里打鼓的时候，依然决定再试一次，哪怕脚下发软、心里发慌，也愿意往前多迈一步。</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>我们常常以为只有无所畏惧的人才配谈勇敢，可其实，大多数真正的勇敢，恰恰是发生在最害怕的时候。</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>那是一种明知不可控、明知可能失败，仍然选择不退缩的坚持。你可以边害怕、边流泪、边出错，也可以边修复、边学习、边成长。</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>情绪从不会在你准备好的那天突然消失，但你可以在害怕中继续走，边走边学，边学边练，直到有一天，你发现自己已经站在原来不敢靠近的地方了。</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>所以，不要等到&ldquo;完全不怕&rdquo;才开始行动，因为那一天可能永远不会到。你只需要告诉自己：&ldquo;虽然我还不够自信，但我不打算就此放弃。&rdquo;</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>每一次带着恐惧迈出的脚步，都是在为未来的自己打地基。真正的勇敢，不是无坚不摧，而是在慌乱里依旧愿意前行。</p>
<p><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></p>
<p>你可以一边害怕，一边勇敢，然后，一点点变得坚定、笃定、有力量。那些你以为迈不过去的坎，也会在某天回头看时，成为你最值得骄傲的高地。</p>','2025-07-15 14:10:45.293','2025-07-15 14:10:45.293',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 14:10:45.291',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯记分卡帮助你察觉自身习惯（Page 082-088）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">不要把注意力只放在别人或环境的改变上，而是练习回到自己、从内在觉察开始，你会发现，许多困境正在悄悄松动。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 14:20:16.977','2025-07-15 14:20:16.977',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 14:20:16.976',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b0e71e2-7c38-4c17-93bd-415b1ff3a072','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>习惯堆叠。把几个想要养成的习惯与第一个习惯连绑起来，为自己铺垫改变生活的一系列习惯。</p>','2025-07-17 15:04:28.883','2025-07-17 15:04:28.883',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:04:28.882',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8981458a-0e24-426d-8de9-233b46c4c745','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 31 ：7月15 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你是自己内心冲突的根源</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个行为是自动化，我们也不会有意识地想到它. 当一件事情做了上千次，我们就会开始忽略一些东西，预设下一次的状况会跟上一次一模一样，我们太习惯一直以来所做的不会停下来，至于这样做到底对不对？许多失败都可以归咎于缺乏自我检查。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对自己实际的作为保持意识, 保持觉察，是改变习惯最大的挑战之一. 这解释了为何恶习的后果可以展开偷袭. 在个人生活中，我们也需要&ldquo;指差确认&rdquo;系统. 这就是习惯记分卡的起源. 透过这个简单的练习，你会更能觉察自己的行为.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你可以应用&ldquo;习惯积分卡&rdquo;这个简单的练习，来增加对自身行为的觉察.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">行为改变的过程结始终於觉察，必须先意识到自己的习惯，才能改变他们.</span></p>','2025-07-15 14:25:40.113','2025-07-15 14:25:41.81',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 14:25:41.808',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fa2b0551-042c-417f-a259-8a3e647b079b','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 31 ：7月15 日 《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</p>
<p>你是自己内心冲突的根源（Page 137-141）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>反思，自省，认识自己。</p>','2025-07-15 14:25:46.587','2025-07-15 14:25:46.587',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 14:25:46.586',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5498d777-a319-4953-be01-f20d9c47b8a9','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>近朱者赤近墨者黑。我们必须做到出淤泥而不染。</p>
<p>人性本善，秉持一颗恻隐之心。</p>','2025-07-24 14:53:33.595','2025-07-24 14:53:33.595',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-24 14:53:33.594',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ca3677f-c5b0-4a99-87b0-4c471c75788e','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>行為改變的過程，始終始於覺察。必須先意識到自己的習慣，才能改變他們「指差確認」透過開口講出自己的行為把無意識的習慣拉到有意識的層次</p>','2025-07-15 14:50:13.751','2025-07-15 14:50:13.751',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 14:50:13.747',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('323d3657-f3c8-4674-9afd-b80144f260b1','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>.习惯记分卡，就是一张简单提醒且鼓励自己的卡</p>','2025-07-15 15:59:37.243','2025-07-15 15:59:37.243',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:59:37.242',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('44380a34-ed18-4d82-8f6c-d5d9c79b0404','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>面对问题的时候，应该由内而外的找问题的源头。</p>','2025-07-16 08:02:30.098','2025-07-16 08:02:30.098',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 08:02:30.097',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('764aa5ac-42d4-4d01-9e43-2b45933d99b0','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 32&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>7<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>16&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">日&nbsp;</span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">善于反省，才能不断成长（</span>Page 142-146<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：<br></span>其身正而天下归之。</p>','2025-07-16 14:24:04.96','2025-07-16 14:24:04.96',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-16 14:24:04.959',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a25a52d-b97c-4b84-aec0-3f6650d5d042','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>1）行為改變啲第一條法則，是讓提示顯然易見2）最常見的兩種提示是時間及地點</p>
<p>3）可以運用執行意向這個策略，將新習慣與確切的時間和地點配對。</p>
<p>4）執行意向的公式是我會於「時間」，在「地點」進行「行為」</p>
<p>5）習慣堆疊的公式是：做完「目前的習慣」之後，我會執行「新的習慣」</p>','2025-07-17 02:05:40.752','2025-07-17 02:05:44.258',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 02:05:44.257',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a6ab98d3-72e9-4648-bada-d5bc9c4e6197','11f5af90-d51d-455f-a8cd-8023745cc2ab','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>既然选擇遠方, 就不要害怕山高水遠 只要一心向前, 不要畏首畏尾, 才能達達到目標.</p>','2025-07-17 01:40:53.442','2025-07-22 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026','2025-07-22 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('262b59d9-16c8-4c06-9832-80aa3612a93c','df51fdfa-7224-49db-bd9e-040ec7abd137','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>学会洒脱，越宽容别人，越对自己有利</p>','2025-07-17 15:18:01.943','2025-07-17 15:18:01.943',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-17 15:18:01.942',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d089804-0ef1-4f3e-b7f3-901c2da93b72','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','e82c399f-31e2-4808-afd9-9cfa1e2fe798','<p>具备很强的对他人的感知力和同理心，能够换位思考，推己及人。先对自己有足够的了解，知道自己最想要的是什么，了解自己，再推己及人，再推及万事万物。要和自己和解，先把自己研究明白，看清自己的初心，之后才能理解别人的想法和做法。</p>','2025-07-17 06:44:13.893','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9fcfc22-fbb4-49ec-b511-b5d0c8a6da63','9726ab04-89d2-4bd8-ae39-a2400e7f7fdd','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>环境中充满关系，与物品的关系。<br>在新的环境养成新的习惯比较简单，因为不用对抗旧提示。<br>尽量避免把一个习惯的情景跟另一个习惯的混合在一起。当情景混合，习惯也混合，获胜永远是容易的一方。</p>','2025-07-18 14:32:49.22','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52f8e52b-a9fe-4fc5-b9a3-5a9f2655584f','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>行为改变的第二法则：让习惯有吸引力。一个机会越有吸引力，形成习惯的可能性越大。就好像我从中国旅游后，爱上了中国舞蹈，而促使自己在今年报名参加了舞蹈班，也坚持在忙碌的生活中坚持每个星期去上课。</p>','2025-07-15 14:30:08.421','2025-07-23 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008','2025-07-23 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da922808-fa66-41bb-8cb5-6556e4afa5c3','370791fe-0c86-47df-a491-f1e12db17858','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>想要更迷人，那就要花点心思和时间在保养和自我提升。</p>','2025-07-23 09:58:29.438','2025-07-23 09:58:29.438',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-23 09:58:29.437',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2cdf09b6-fd9b-4004-9150-64aa97a94f6e','ac8bc381-5172-46e5-b29f-89b66f7c1b1d','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>藉由测量一种叫多巴胺的神经传导物质，科学家渴望发生的确切时刻。大脑不只在体验渝悦时分泌多巴胺，预期愉悦也会。</p>
<p>大脑分配给想要奖赏的神经廻路，远比分配给喜欢奖赏的要多。</p>','2025-07-15 14:39:25.974','2025-07-24 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027','2025-07-24 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a025d694-33f0-4d98-924e-1c256ea6a462','d256e822-da48-4ac2-8ca1-d859a5a35517','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>人性善恶都是各因素条件具备后而现起。因此自小就给予善缘并不断净化颇为重要，否则人易踏上歧途。別人与自己皆不例外。</p>','2025-07-24 15:03:27.677','2025-07-24 15:03:27.677',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-24 15:03:27.676',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ae17a43a-091e-40e3-800c-8337f16c4b8f','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 31 ：7月15 日 &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;《人生的底气》第五章：反思的深度</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你是自己内心冲突的根源</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">没有经过反思的人生，是没有意义的人生. 在很多时候，我们需要先认识自己，反省自己，改正自己，才能对事情做出准确的判断，过好自己的人生. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只可惜大多数人都不太善于反省自己遇到问题也习惯于从外部寻找原因或借口.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当一个人不断应用认知失调的方式来处理问题时，会发现自己的影响力变得越来越小，做什么事情都越来越不顺利. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">但我们遇到事情的时候，不但能让我们提升自己的认知能力，还能进化心灵，化解内心的冲突和矛盾，让自己的仁性和人性真正情流露，这样你才能变得越来越优秀，越来越强大. 这时不论你再做什么，都会有前所末有的激情.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 14:52:17.431','2025-07-15 14:52:19.604',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 14:52:19.603',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('573215f6-2e2a-4183-bda2-c498282d6317','5144a9ba-d17a-4101-9646-2166aad170dd','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>习惯堆叠，遵循整个循环的行为。把想要的行为跟每一天已经在做的事情绑在一起。一个行为导致下一个行为的惯性。</p>','2025-07-15 15:10:56.416','2025-07-17 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01','2025-07-17 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16340912-beda-4027-85c6-8a01f5ca2a6e','95cd3cd4-dd7f-448e-a0bc-baf8f45a5b78','1989477e-063d-4e47-8a7c-0aaaeff60c19','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 23 7月15日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">第四夜 要有被讨厌的勇气</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">有鼓励才有勇气</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在课题分离里说过&ldquo;干涉&rdquo;这个词也就是一种对他人课题干涉的行为.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人为什么会去干涉别人呢？其背后气上也是一种纵向关系，正因为把关系看成纵向关系，把对方看得比自己低，所以才会去干涉. 希望通过干涉行为把对方导向自己希望的方向，这是坚信自己正确哦，对方错误.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">这里的干涉就是操纵. 命令孩子&ldquo;好好学习&rdquo;的父母就是一个典型例子，也许本人是出于善意，但结果错却妄加干涉，因为这是想按照自己的意识去操纵对方.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学把这种基于横向关系的援助称为&ldquo;鼓励&rdquo;. </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">最重要的是不评价他人，如果能够建立起&ldquo;横向关系&rdquo;， 那自然就会说出一些更加真诚的表示，感谢尊敬或者喜悦.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">*人在听到感谢支持的时候就会知道自己能够对别人有所贡献.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">*人只有在能够感觉自己有价值的时候才可可以获得勇</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">*人也只有在可以体会到我对共同体有用的时候才能够感觉到自己的价值，这就是阿德勒心理学的答案.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">主观上就能够认为我能够对他能做的贡献，只有这样，我们才能够真正体会到自己的价值.</span></p>','2025-07-15 15:14:17.876','2025-07-15 15:14:18.957',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:14:18.956',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ac3d879-e2a6-40b4-a216-bd59e9bd20a8','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>看到标题时，就想到&ldquo;内耗、焦虑&rdquo;，其实都是自己想出来的，这个情况原来叫认知失调。这让我联想到一句话&ldquo;要爱别人时，先爱自己&rdquo;。反求诸己，遇事先思己过，不但能让我们提升自己的认知能力，还能净化心灵，化解内心的冲突和矛盾，让自己的仁性和人性真正流露，这样你才能变得越来越优秀、越来越强大。这时不论你再做什么，都会有前所未有的激情</p>','2025-07-15 15:31:10.324','2025-07-15 15:31:10.324',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:31:10.323',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a0aae412-67ee-4788-9b8d-10f731de6886','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>指差确认 Point and Call，是把无意识的习惯拉到有意识的层次。</p>','2025-07-15 15:33:09.446','2025-07-15 15:33:09.446',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:33:09.445',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed6ee077-eb14-4ea0-8a87-6006be6c882d','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>事办不好，反省检讨，有助改善并迈向成功；做得好检讨反省，能让我们精益求精。</p>
<p>因此检讨反省是人生不可缺的态度。</p>','2025-07-15 15:33:18.41','2025-07-15 15:33:18.41',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:33:18.409',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2d974c3-3461-41ef-b8bc-ac0c01199208','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>你是自己内心冲突的根源。希腊哲学家说没有经过反思的人生，没有意义的人生很多时候，我们需要先认识自己，反省自己，改正自己，才能对事情做出准确的判断，过好自己的人生。</p>','2025-07-15 15:33:56.412','2025-07-15 15:33:56.412',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:33:56.411',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99a0be4e-1d12-4c32-9b63-95015bf4bf3c','d9b65202-9bf7-412b-a800-3de3696786f6','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">认知失调</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">就是当自己觉得自己很棒，实际上却没有那么棒的时候，自己的认知就会出现失调。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当一个人不断用认知失调的方式来处理问题时，就会发现自己的影响圈变得越来越小，做什么事也不顺利。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果不检讨自己，什么事都怪外部的话，自己会变得越来越糟糕。</span></p>','2025-07-15 15:38:44.294','2025-07-15 15:38:44.294',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:38:44.293',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('690222ee-bbf3-45d7-bafb-590cb32dd4c9','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','7036f605-7fbc-4bb1-b004-223e8c275c86','<p><em>透过习惯计分卡或指差确认的方法，</em> 能将无意识的习惯变成有意识。</p>','2025-07-15 15:41:30.457','2025-07-15 15:41:30.457',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:41:30.456',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47375336-d324-45b1-a999-55aa12547b7d','bdfd22d6-62f4-4d20-98d5-973f92b0f444','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>找到触发行为的正确提示，要让提示显而易见，清楚的计划，确切的时间和地点进行的行为。</p>','2025-07-15 15:17:56.704','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,'f','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017','2025-07-18 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88cd034b-7671-4260-b06d-d160a8272bd1','626edf09-c838-4d80-98c9-eee91b5d7918','8f6e8467-5454-401a-b5e6-b15671a89e8f','<p>习惯改变取决于你身处的空间以及眼前的提示。产品被呈现的方式也可能因为越明显而容易被取得。</p>','2025-07-15 15:30:51.053','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('900cd395-8e87-49a7-a692-adae287bdb2a','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 15 ：7月15 日&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 《原子习惯》法则1 &ndash; 让提示显而易见</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯记分卡帮助你察觉自身习惯（Page 082-088）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">取得失败都可以以歸咎于缺乏自我觉察。对自己实际的作为保持意识、保持觉察，是改变习惯最大的挑战之一。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">没有好习惯后会习惯，只有有效的习惯。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这个习惯能帮助我成为我想要成为的那种人吗？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对于我渴望的身份认同，这个习惯投的是同一票或反对票呢？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变恶习的第一步，就是密切注意它们</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">只要有足够的练习，你的大脑就会不假思索挑出预示某些结果的提示。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯一旦自动化，我们就不会再注意自己所做的事。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">行为改变的过程始终始于觉察。必须先意识到自己的习惯才能改变它们。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">指差确认透过开口舌出自己的行为，把无意识的习惯拉到有意识的层次。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">可以运用习惯记分卡的练习，来增加对自身行为的觉察。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 15:41:18.974','2025-07-15 15:41:20.177',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:41:20.176',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8dccf6f3-a989-4b84-940e-6f24522a5e84','093a79af-1832-434a-9a55-c26bec259e65','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>习惯积分卡可以帮助觉察自身习惯。考量到长远的益处。需分别好或坏的习惯。</p>','2025-07-15 15:44:32.193','2025-07-15 15:44:56.159',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:44:56.158',NULL,NULL);
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<p>反求诸己，遇事先思己过。</p>
<p>提高自己对自己的认知能力，和自己的灵性</p>','2025-07-15 15:52:02.37','2025-07-15 15:52:02.37',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 15:52:02.369',NULL,NULL);
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<p>并为每个行为做一个简单标注：这是「好习惯」、「坏习惯」，还是「中性行为」。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🔍 这样做的目的不是批评自己，而是为了看清楚自己的&ldquo;自动行为模式&rdquo;&mdash;&mdash;</p>
<p>很多事情我们每天都在做，却从未意识到它正在悄悄影响我们。</p>','2025-07-15 16:01:01.731','2025-07-15 16:01:01.731',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-15 16:01:01.73',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('46d30a14-c6e0-46ac-9193-b96964f77092','b4c2b03e-00c9-420f-a79d-82b9cc655ce7','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>就算别人有问题，那也是他的问题，不是我们的问题，我们只需要解决好自己的问题就可以了。</p>','2025-07-15 15:43:55.569','2025-07-16 00:00:00.006',NULL,'f','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005','2025-07-16 00:00:00.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05cca091-bc33-4bf9-92bc-b63662d55a56','5c8e4801-ccd7-49af-b2c9-16cfc670c030','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>在做人处事中，先要清楚的了解自己，明白自己的初心，在与人相处时也用同理心对待，才能把事情办好。</p>','2025-07-15 21:02:56.628','2025-07-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024','2025-07-19 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29526399-deaa-42c7-9567-f2b23bb4881a','6b8432cf-8b5c-4d61-9ded-70c4650b046e','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>想要学习更多及成长的更快，应有知耻之心。不惧怕承认自己的不足，坦然的去面对，重新学习然后再出发，可让我们更强大。&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 21:09:31.975','2025-07-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033','2025-07-20 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ebea64d4-ccb3-4a3e-ae8e-9c7ceb985d53','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>在会议中要勇于表达意见，不只选择报喜不报忧。再尝试让大家达成共识，方能有效的解决问题。</p>','2025-07-15 21:14:33.418','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a015b77-aba7-4b8d-bed9-d03289d01443','519df953-6efe-460a-9dca-7ea18d5921f0','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>逃避不但不能解决问题，还让问题不断重覆发生及严重化。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-07-15 22:13:04.229','2025-07-21 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021','2025-07-21 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
